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Errantsquire/r/seduction26/01/19 05:55 AM
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Approach more than just this 1 girl start approaching lots of girls
/r/seduction12/04/19 04:34 PM
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Once you have sex with a girl most of the time she's ready to start a relationship. Sex is a possible 9 month commitment to a guy so yeah typically she sees him as relationship material. There are times however when sex is just sex too. It depends on the girl. There's no hard and fast rules but there is what is typical.
/r/seduction13/03/19 11:54 PM
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Expand the party might be the best way. This way you're leading them. Set up an event in which you will introduce them to other people in a social setting and make sure to play up how much fun it will be for everyone involved. Of course this means that you'll need other people to introduce them to as well as an event, but that shouldn't be to hard.
/r/seduction13/03/19 06:49 PM
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She still has value in social circle and as social proof when you're out. I feel like you could have kept her as a friend and ask for her advise with other girls you're interested in. You are "just friends" after all. One of 2 things will happen. She'll either support you in your efforts to meet other girls because she knows you're a good guy, or she'll realize that she might be missing out on an opportunity and get attracted to her. Either way it's a win win for you.
/r/seduction13/03/19 06:47 PM
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If you're rich I'd look into Real Social Dynamics and start doing their programs. It helped me a lot. I went from 2 divorces and lot's of dating failures where it was a chore to actively enjoying the process of meeting new women and interacting. I can have a night of rejections now and end the night feeling better than I did when I started. So far I think I've engaged around 350 women in conversation since starting in January. Recently I started getting sexual experiences as well. Wish you lived…
/r/seduction12/03/19 03:04 PM
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If you see her every day you can slow play this a bit, but it's up to you. Like they said start a conversation and just be a regular dude. Read her reactions and if they are going well you could try to ask for something. Offer value by telling stories or giving information at first. Keep the questions to a minimum. If she starts asking you questions that shows investment and can be a green light to get her number or ask her for an "instant date" and go for a quick coffee. If you approach and it …
/r/seduction12/03/19 01:43 PM
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The difference between disinterst or what I would call non-neediness and shyness can be difficult. Great job though, it would have been difficult to do this. You can push things to far with disinterst though, and so I think it's important to show that you are into girls but you don't need them. I'm guessing other girls probably take interest in you as well and if you treat them better in front of A/Z then they probably get jealous. This is especially true if A/Z believe they are better looking.
/r/seduction12/03/19 01:38 PM
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The best app I've found to practice pushing sexual boundaries is Whisper because you don't have to worry about burning bridges with girls that live 5k miles away. You're going to need to figure out what your "style" is, and get used to that. Always be ready to back down and be aware of how the girl is feeling. When I use Whisper I never ask for pictures, because I find that most girls don't have the verbal game that guys do and so when they feel like they need some validation they will push a ph…
/r/seduction12/03/19 01:31 PM
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Exactly, you're to focused on results. Judge every approach as 100/10 because who else would have the balls to talk to the hot group of girls? No self judgement for any blow outs. Exit yourself and look at the situation as if you were watching a character on TV. You'll see how silly it is and laugh about it. I had a night of blowouts meeting around 20 women and I went home that evening in a better mood than I started.
/r/seduction09/03/19 01:06 AM
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Don't get me wrong it's ok to pay for things, but if it's always you then you're just Mr. Money bags and she's looking around to get emotional support from another guy. Suggestions: Stop doing activities that cost money for a while. Walk in the park, Netflix and chill, outdoor sport, board game etc.... It really depends on your hobbies. I have a girlfriend that's really excited to paint miniatures with me so I play into that whereas a different girl really wanted to play Mario 3 and another girl…
/r/seduction08/03/19 10:07 PM
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You have a lot of women which means you're living in abundance which helps. If I'm feeling needy and I know I've reached my text quota with girls in my circles then I'll go to a chat room and open new girls. The problem is that I'll regularly get hit up while I'm doing that and end up going from zero to three conversations quickly. Have a quest that's more important than any woman in your life is also important. Honestly right now I've been bad about prioritizing my quest ahead of women. The nic…
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:54 PM
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You're in your head. All this stuff your stating is your own mind making judgments and it's getting in the way of you doing. Just one time for yourself try this. You enter the bar you see a girl and you engage right away. Don't worry if she's unattractive you're there to offer value and gain momentum. Exit the interaction and move to the next one, then keep going. This will pull you out of your thinking mind which is projecting into the future and put you in a more reactive mode of presence. You…
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:43 PM
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I guess, but it's good to have them as social proof and I'm sure they're cool to hang out with in a strictly platonic way. Seems like a pretty good situation overall, and as a bonus you have a counsel that you can ask when you date other girls.
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:38 PM
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If you feel like a creep she will feel that in you and you will be a creep in her eyes. Step 1 stop thinking about yourself that way. You're a cool guy that's offering value to her, and if she doesn't want it cool there's other girls. Don't lie to yourself about how you feel, it's ok to be honest. She just wants the emotions of the situation.
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:34 PM
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Day game is low volume and has its own unique set of challenges like underage girls so you have to really watch out for that. I tried it at a mall and talked to like 6 girls in 2 hours. It seems like if you're doing it that you should limit the time and pick a specific skill to work on. Walking stops/multiple girls/style choices etc... The best example I can give is not forcing it and just becoming congruent to gaming wherever you are. Today I was at a fast food chain and I joked a bit with the …
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:29 PM
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Or....... just move on to the next one and get good while being to busy for your new "friend"
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:19 PM
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Hope you find someone I'm also looking in my area. Don't let it hold you back, there are a lot of guys that just don't want to learn this.
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:16 PM
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First prepare yourself to lose her and be ok with that. It's tough but it's best that you won't be devistated when it happens. You have your girl and there are others that will find value in you too if it doesn't work out. It's possible that it's already over. Learn to be social with people in general so that you can have the confidence if you have to start over and start approaching women again. Think about how she looks at you now compared to then. It's likely that she sees you as a provider b…
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:14 PM
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Go out and fail hard. Field is king. Having a wingman there is good for support but they're not going to fix the issue. Typical ways to pass a shit test are Acknowledge and one up the test, "yeah I'm a player just ask all your friends" Laugh it off Keep frame and don't respond
/r/seduction08/03/19 08:57 PM
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I feel like you need more depth. She needs to see you as more than a fuck boy. Go an do a hobby for an evening then cap things off at her place or yours you know? Give her more value. Just providing dick isn't enough, that's plentiful and cheap. Just be careful not to take the easy provider male way out and pay for everything. She needs to feel good emotions about you.
/r/seduction08/03/19 08:52 PM
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Great! Now talk to 10 more girls while you wait for her to get back.
/r/seduction08/03/19 08:48 PM
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Had a night of blow outs and it was a blast! I learned a lot. I'm addicted to game now.
/r/seduction08/03/19 08:46 PM
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Take massive action. Set a goal to talk to 5-10 women a day. DO NOT HESITATE WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE YOU'RE INTERESTED IN. Go in and crash and burn hard laugh about how silly the situation is and move on to the next set. Don't wait for rejection actively seek it out. In fact I dare you to have a woman give you a straight up "Fuck You." So far after 300 approaches in the past 2 months I still have yet to have had a woman cuss me out and I kind of feel like I'm missing out honestly.
/r/seduction06/03/19 05:53 PM
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Focus on her emotions and try to think about what she's feeling throughout the evening. Remember that women reflect your emotions so if you're in a good mood then she will be too. Throughout the evening ask yourself, "how can I have more fun in this situation?" Let go of self judgement and have freedom from outcome while staying open to things. Maybe you kiss this girl. Maybe you don't. Maybe you get another girls phone number later. Maybe you balance a spoon on your nose. Maybe you have a punch…
/r/seduction06/03/19 05:50 PM
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No judgement but you need to figure out if you're ok with the situation because she's already "emotionally" cheating with you. She's asking for you to lead and figure it out. So the choices are A. Do nothing and agonize about it while not seeing other women because you're obsessed B. Go for the relationship with her and see what happens but honestly I wouldn't commit to her and make sure she knew that, because she's likely going to keep both relationships at the same time C. Cut her loose and se…
/r/seduction06/03/19 05:41 PM
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It depends on your value proposition. Closer is better but if that's what you have available then that's it. Start going out and doing cold approach, don't rely on swipe apps as a crutch. 10% of the girls I meet are from apps.
/r/seduction06/03/19 05:27 PM
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You were and still are the provider male for this girl. You give her emotional support that she needs and she doesn't see you in any other light. Start talking to more girls which will in turn mean less time for her. You don't have to be mean just be busy with girls that are more worth your time.
/r/seduction06/03/19 05:23 PM
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Sounds like a solid plan. Keep in mind if you get needy it's over, you'll give away to much power and she'll feel gross about the relationship. This is part of your journey so don't forget that. The relationship was great, and there were a lot of good memories I'm sure. Maybe it'll happen and maybe not, but don't get hung up on it. She's preparing you better for the next girlfriend and teaching you about yourself. I still have a flame for my highschool crush and I'm 37, but I know that whatever …
/r/seduction06/03/19 03:43 PM
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Don't use a crutch to get the courage up to talk to someone. Be yourself and be comfortable talking man to woman about things. Today I had a phone call with a girl at church that was interested in being a "movie buddy." Through texts I made sure to spike emotions and give value. The phone call was nice and dating life came up. I mentioned that I was ok with different relationship levels weather that be friends, to cuddle buddies, to kissing, to "other things." Later the conversation turned to se…
/r/seduction05/03/19 09:39 PM
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Are there other women in your life? I'd kind of hope so after a year. I'm with everyone else, give her a polite congradulations and see if things open up a conversation. I'd make statements and not ask questions because that requires compliance. If she asks you a question that's your hook point to know she has some investment. I'd probably be a little snarky about it even, but do what's your style. "Hey Jenny, that's pretty awesome! I guess you'll be heading off soon then. I just completed X and…
/r/seduction05/03/19 09:32 PM
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No, it's a good question. I saw a post where a guy did the following. He invited her over so they could take one car for the date. Then he "forgot" something inside the house and asked if she wanted to come in. She did and that made it easier for her to go back after the date. Building up her familiarity and trust with your environment is important. On the other hand girls will usually be more comfortable at their own house. Just make sure you're prepared and have all the logistics in place, whi…
/r/seduction05/03/19 09:20 PM
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Really tough one, you'll have to try a lot of different places. See if there are clubs that do things during the week. If you have a college campus you could try that as well, but be careful and play a safe game so that people don't say you're harassing women. I did it at a mall once, it wasn't great, and you have the additional problem of accidentally talking to girls underage. As a rule in the first exchange just ask her age so you can exit the conversation when you find out she's not 18. The …
/r/seduction05/03/19 09:13 PM
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Incels use self defeating talk and constantly blame others for their problems. People do this all over life. I have a hard time believing that someone that's really sold out on the idea of improving themselves to feel their own worth wouldn't be attractive to a lot of women. Women want winners not whiners, so start there because no one cares more about you than you.
/r/seduction05/03/19 09:08 PM
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Find your own personal style and be congruent to that. I really like Jeffy but his style is not one I see myself adopting in any way. I like the way Madison does things as it's closer to who I am but I'm also finding my own way. Love the process. Try things out and enjoy it, don't be results focused. This morning I read a girls profile on POF that lives in New York. It was pretty funny so I gave value by responding in kind to her. I don't expect anything in return especially since I live in Texa…
/r/seduction05/03/19 08:59 PM
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She's having a real hard time now actually. She's stuck in the typical paradigm of no casual dating whatsoever, only date for marraige. It's kind of making her misrible as she isn't meeting a lot of guys. On the other hand I've talked to around 150 IRL girls and 200 online girls since I started in January. All that really builds a lot of reference experience and I just keep getting better while discovering what I like, what I don't like, and even what's unacceptable to me. It took me far to long…
/r/seduction05/03/19 08:40 PM
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Girls have no qualms about using guys for money. I've had to learn this lesson the hard way to many times. Just say no unless you have history.
/r/seduction04/03/19 09:59 PM
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IME I have a friendzone girl that I regularly talk to about my love life and she's always warning me not to do "player things" but I feel like it's mostly an ASD that girls do to low key condemn the activity even though most of them want that (although they may not know they want that).
/r/seduction04/03/19 09:56 PM
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I guess you could have tried to kiss her neck. Eye contact would have helped here as well if you would have stared her down and she gives you the anime eyes that's a green light. Move in and fake a kiss to see how she reacts. If she pulls away back down if not and you get the bambi eyes then you're good. I'm saying all this because that's what RSD says, but I need more work and experience to really get it. Last weekend I had my arm around a girl and we were talking in each others ears. She wasn'…
/r/seduction04/03/19 09:46 PM
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Using you for cuddles and then Chad pounds her in later that night lol. Seriously though If you like hanging out, cuddling without anything else that's fine but let her know you're not exclusive to her. Sounds like you need to get that other girls information.
/r/seduction04/03/19 09:34 PM
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I think this works better when the girl needs the guy to make the move. Like Jenny wants John to ask her out so she sends in her friend Tiffany to let John know he has the green light to ask her out. As the guy it's more attractive for us to have the balls to make the first move. I would send your friend in for recon to feel out the girl you want to ask out, but make sure she's casual about it. She could ask something like, "oh gosh so many cute guys I wish Matt or John would ask me out, who do …
/r/seduction04/03/19 09:27 PM
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It sounds like you're both in a taking mentality instead of being on the same team. You're going to keep hiding things and hurting each other. So either you're ok with the relationship being open or you're not. Each of you is trying to use the other person to be happy and become a whole person, instead of just being whole without needing the other person. It sounds like you're still not having sex which means she has other guys. She uses you for other things, but you do the same. Meet more girls…
/r/seduction04/03/19 09:19 PM
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Talk to your doctor? Depends on the connection for me. If she hit everything I look for I'd consider it. Then again I feel like she's more needy than other girls because of the STD which means she may not really be choosing me at all because she doesn't have the options that she would have if she was clean. I'm just the chump that's going to be a provider male for her and give her sex. If she dumps me now she left me with a very annoying problem just like another poster's cousin mentioned.
/r/seduction04/03/19 09:09 PM
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I had this happen too lol. She showed me her friend and I mentioned that I was intersted. Her friend declined because they were friends. It sounds like you're not in abundance, like this already an exclusive relationship. I suppose if it's not exclusive you could try letting her know that you're in a place where you're trying to figure out dating, and that you aren't exclusive but you want to be. Then follow that up with she's making you seriously consider becoming exclusive with her. The issue …
/r/seduction04/03/19 09:02 PM
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Girls want to be persued but don't get needy. Make sure to lead by telling her where/when/what and not asking what she want's to do. Be open to her changing your initial proposal. Make sure that you are talking with other girls, and have you're own mission so that you don't obsess about her. She's not chasing probably because like most young girls she already lives in abundance, and could be with other guys. Don't get obsessed, don't get needy. Focus on fun, and have freedom from outcomes.
/r/seduction22/02/19 09:09 PM
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Exactly. Come from a frame of being on the "same team" while having freedom from outcome. Going into an interaction where you think to yourself, "I want this girl to be my girlfriend she's the ONLY one for me" is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Having intent is important but also being free enough to let it go if it doesn't work out is also important.
/r/seduction22/02/19 08:59 PM
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Remember that she is going to mirror your mental state. Get in a good mental state by talking to people throughout the day and being positive. This will ensure that you don't give off a "creepy" vibe when you're talking to her. DO NOT plan what you're going to say before because it will come out to mechanically. Live in the moment of the conversation. Have intent when you talk to her by looking in her eyes. When you ask her out to ask for what she would want to do when and where instead tell her…
/r/seduction22/02/19 08:54 PM
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Great, now keep going!
/r/seduction22/02/19 08:37 PM
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Pretty much what everyone else is saying. You have to cold approach women and get used to it. Learn to re-frame interactions that you percieve to be negative. Step outside yourself and see the humor in the situation (last weekend I had 6 guys roasting me for talking to a girl that was with them----hilarious) There are no negative interactions only learning. Push out positivity to people and most of the time you'll get it back. This even goes for my kids. My 9yo said, "I'm sad because no one talk…
/r/seduction22/02/19 07:54 PM
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2 is not nearly enough. When you do RSD training the minimum is 10 a day and even then they say that's not a lot. Re-frame every interaction and say to yourself, "That was a 100/10 approach because who else would have the balls to do what I did." Last weekend I approached 20 girls and got blown out all night, but because I reframed what was happening I learned and it's honestly really funny to me now. At one point I sat at a table with 6 married women and chatted a bit (obviously I found out lat…
/r/seduction21/02/19 04:10 PM
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I second this, RSD has changed my whole perspective on what to do, and the dating landscape.
/r/seduction21/02/19 04:01 PM
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Seems bad, she's not relationship material. She enjoys using guys and so the question is if you're ok with what she'll eventually do to you. I'd say get what you can and then move on. Move on, live in abundance. There are a lot of other girls you can talk to.
/r/seduction21/02/19 03:58 PM
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I'm going to do X EVENT it's going to be pretty shweeeet! You seem like someone that also likes X you should come with! or Listen I probably shouldn't tell you but X is going on and it's going to be awesome! It's at DATE/TIME you can come but don't tell anyone I told you ok? or Man that was a good group, you know what would hit the spot? Some FOOD/DRINK! I know a great place not to far away we should go it'll be fun!
/r/seduction21/02/19 03:35 PM
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I'm an introverted guy and had zero success with this. I've been changing my paradigm to be more assertive and I've found that trading numbers after she is invested works a lot better for me. Even easier is using social media Instagram/Snapchat etc...
/r/seduction21/02/19 03:27 PM
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It sounds really good so far, just make sure that you lead and give a leading vibe off. The initial interactions felt like she was either chasing hard or leading. I'd say it's about 50/50 on leading from your story. Good luck I wish you the best!
/r/seduction21/02/19 01:46 PM
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Online is like 10% of how I meet girls, I'd much rather go out and cold approach. I get more energy from it and it's a much better experience overall. I spent last Saturday getting blown out by 20 girls and would do that every day instead of getting no responses from apps. And yes I have success too it was just an off night.
/r/seduction19/02/19 07:25 PM
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Enjoy it for what it is and make your own decisions about it. Yeah you're overthinking it. Make sure to focus on giving her good emotions without judgement. You're a high quality guy and she's lucky to be with you. If things don't work out you will move on, and honestly during that break I hope you dated other people.
/r/seduction19/02/19 06:37 PM
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I don't have them, and thus I want them. It's supply and demand really, and yeah there's a lot of cool things you can do with them behind closed doors.
/r/seduction19/02/19 06:33 PM
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I like the goal however I warn you to be careful that it doesn't limit you or make you feel bad if you don't live up to your own expectations. Here's how it could be limiting. Maybe the girl is ready for an instant date, or more than that. In those cases it would be best to follow through right then and there. RSD says that a phone number is a consolation prize when you can't make something happen due to logistical or time constraints. Here's how it could cause bad feelings. If you go out one ni…
/r/seduction13/02/19 04:24 PM
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Thanks for the feedback!
/r/seduction11/02/19 11:01 PM
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Women won't give you feedback, and they don't really know what's wrong because they're going off of feelings. Here's some of the typical turn offs though Nice guy that isn't authentic/honest - be the good guy instead and don't take crap Neediness - it sounds like you need things to happen to much, you need to view the relationship as we're on the same team instead of having a take take take mentality. Focusing on giving her good emotions will do a lot and being free of the outcome. Also live in …
/r/seduction11/02/19 10:05 PM
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Seems kind of backward and inauthentic/not organic. I guess it could work and break the ice for sexual questions, but it's better to just be open about your sexuality. It feels like you gave control over to an app instead of leading her yourself. I guess at least you led her to use the app. I could be wrong though Field Test Everything (FTE). Get us an update on how well it worked for you.
/r/seduction11/02/19 09:57 PM
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Sounds like a no, I'd make other plans. Seriously just go out somewhere and cold open.
/r/seduction11/02/19 09:52 PM
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You need to allow yourself to feel like you are worth her. I highly suggest doing the "get your 10" work sheet that RSD Madison just put on YouTube. Most of it is all the deep logical reasons why you are worth her, and only the last 1/4 is describing what you are looking for. I've finally become comfortable with the thought that when a woman flakes me she's the one missing out after doing it.
/r/seduction07/02/19 04:40 PM
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Wow, that's a great story and quite tragic in a lot of ways. From what I'm learning it felt like you didn't feel like you were worth a woman of that caliber. I've been told that you can only be with a woman that you as a man feel like you are worth, and on top of that you won't be able to get aroused if you feel she is out of your league. The way to fix this is to find more worth in yourself first. It sounds like she was really drawn to your authenticity. That's kind of a big deal for women as t…
/r/seduction07/02/19 04:36 PM
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Seems to hard to generalize. From what I'm learning being a "high value" guy is what you should be striving for to gain attraction from a woman. You do this through social proof, leading, giving value without being needy, and being secure in yourself usually with self amusement. For arguements sake I'm guessing your saying "cute" girl as a 6-8 girl and a hot girl as a 9-10. Again according to what I'm learning a woman is a woman and she has the same needs although there are certian things that n…
/r/seduction05/02/19 07:38 PM
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You ask permission to much. I made these same mistakes. If you can go out and cold open approach it's honestly the best thing. If you're like me and you have limits or if you just want to work on your online game then I suggest chatting on Whisper with the goal of flirting and engaging with women to keep them interested. If you want to go out you tell her when you're free and suggest everything, time date, location. That's leading. She doesn't want to lead and she if she has an issue she'll say …
/r/seduction05/02/19 07:25 PM
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Wow, I like the phrasing. You said, "I'm dating girls in the hopes of finding a LTR but I don't have any commitments yet." I've basically been telling every girl this lately but in a much more clunky way. I say, "I talk to a lot of girls, and I'm not opposed to any level of relationship from friends to more intimate relationships. I want to find someone to commit to but it has to be the right person."
/r/seduction05/02/19 07:03 PM
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I liked his story. It's inspiring to see where everyone has come from. Living in abundance is super important. I can't believe how addicted I'm getting to cold approach right now. I'm sitting at work, I had 6 good interactions via text this morning, and on lunch I had to stop myself from trying to open more girls. It's the same as getting addicted to opening packs of Magic Cards, or gambling because I never really know what's going to happen, which is exciting lol.
/r/seduction31/01/19 07:14 PM
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Looks like a THOT post to get incels/betas on your premium Snapchat Pretty unattractive really, I'm sure you'll make some money though
/r/seduction31/01/19 02:53 PM
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Examine yourself, why were you getting angry? It's likely you felt like she was perfect, the "one" for you, you would never find another girl like her, etc....... This is what our society teaches us, and it's everywhere. Disney movies, music, etc.... You need to deprogram yourself from that. It's fine for you to talk to lots of girls. It's ok to have multiple girlfriends as long as you are honest with them. It's much better to choose a girlfriend to commit to when you have a lot of girlfriends. …
/r/seduction31/01/19 02:45 PM
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Sometimes we guys forget just how much of a relationship starts with us. It's tough as a woman if you're trying to initiate because for the most part you want to be led, and when you aren't you lose attraction. The work situation makes this tough to navigate and if he's married I feel like it would be better for you to move on, so you should probably find that out. Most guys are pretty clueless about how to approach and ask out women. It might be better to try something less threatening like cof…
/r/seduction31/01/19 02:26 PM
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Live in abundance and meet other girls. Keep things cordial and friendzone her hard, like you would to a girl that doesn't meet your personal standards. Actively talk about what you're doing, but also ask yourself if it's even worth the effort. I reconnected with a girl I fell hard for last year after ~5 months of text silence which ended after I told her she was a, "bad person." I sent 1 text explaining that I was sorry and that I had figured some things out, but honestly she was one of quite a…
/r/seduction31/01/19 02:02 PM
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Good vibes, I'm addicted to cold approach now.
/r/seduction30/01/19 10:12 PM
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I think she wants you, pretty badly. The number of exclamation points she uses is staggering. She compliments your ability to plan ahead, which was kind of boring logistics stuff. I hope you have a way of making your words a little more emotionally appealing IRL. Minimum she'll cuddle you at the hotel. Make sure not to judge her and make her feel good about the experience. You're leading which is good, just make sure to maintain that leading vibe while leaving room for her to object. I'd use hug…
/r/seduction30/01/19 09:55 PM
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Thanks for your response! Believe it or not I just started learning all this in December. I like that you pointed out choosing her "from abundance" which is another RSD tenant. One of the things they also say is that, "Game never ends, actively game your wife." I don't think this means screw around with other women but, just follow the tenants of making sure she knows your interested but you don't need her, you are attentive to her emotional state and you feed it often, and you choose to lead he…
/r/seduction30/01/19 09:28 PM
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I like the physical but in my experience showing a girl you care so much that you're going to focus everything on her really ends up killing attraction. Seems counter intuitive, but she needs to feel like she's getting value by being with you. You demonstrate value by being fun, and having the ability to be with more women than just her. Just deleting your apps means you're so low value that you can't get another woman so you're giving up and putting all your focus on her. I'm speaking from expe…
/r/seduction30/01/19 04:49 PM
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You need to want her but be ok with losing her. When you get needy you start moving down that road. It happened to me last weekend when the girls I was sitting with at a table looked away for a couple of minutes. I got needy and made a mistake and things went down from there.
/r/seduction30/01/19 04:43 PM
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Nice report. It's basically social circle/social proof in action. You looked not needy which made them want you. It was risky having them at the bar as a pick up artist would first ask what their relationship to you was, and as long as he looks less needy he could have pulled one off. Luckily you were smart enough not to blow yourself out.
/r/seduction30/01/19 02:02 PM
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Ok, thanks for the insight bro. I really have no idea what you're going through as my own anxiety was relatively low by comparison. Hit me up if you need a pick up buddy to vent to.
/r/seduction29/01/19 10:12 PM
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The next time she engages you, I'd be direct but not call her out. Just say I'm available for "X event at X future time" you should come. Nice to bump into you I was just thinking about you. When she declines just say, "no problem I'll just ask Jenny, we've been spending a lot of time together anyways." Basically live in abundance and have options, and don't be afraid to push it a little. You never committed to this girl so don't treat it like it's a commitment.
/r/seduction29/01/19 09:45 PM
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You're to in your head about this. The woman that you were pulling that cared about money and status are gold diggers. You want all the other girls that run on emotions. Girls do not care about money, status, power or any of that, just good emotions so you need to focus on that. A woman reflects the emotions she senses in you, and you said yourself that you felt like the "big man" on campus but felt "diminished" in NYC. You need to be immune to that and think your a pimp at all times even if it …
/r/seduction29/01/19 09:36 PM
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Start texting and see where it goes. Flirt and move things into a man to woman realm to see if she's also there. The issue is you might be moving into a long distance relationship. Make sure to live in abundance and talk to other girls too. Don't comment on every post find something you like and do that. Move on from there.
/r/seduction29/01/19 09:12 PM
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I'm in a similar situation but I'm typically maintaining multiple online relationships due to being restricted on when I can go out. I mostly use it to work on my verbal game with women, but you should also be out talking to girls IRL. First of all, meet more women and live in abundance. Don't lie about it and if she wants to be exclusive you better really think about that. It's simply not realistic because you have no idea what the other person is doing no matter what they are saying. You need …
/r/seduction29/01/19 09:09 PM
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From what I've been learning it would be good to be honest up front. If you are anxious then say so right at the beginning. I found it wierd that she accepted the gifts from a former student and the fact that she's married so maybe there's a chance. In any event I'd prefer things to be in the open personnally, who knows maybe she's in an open marraige. I think it would be good for you to be thinking beyond this one "meet and greet" however. First you need to meet more woman and work on cold appr…
/r/seduction29/01/19 07:59 PM
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How do you feel about the RSD tenant of opening and carrying 90% of the conversation while eventually easing off a bit? Something that I got caught in though was my own neediness during a conversation when there was dead silence, so I suppose it's very fortuitous that you should make this post. At least I know now and can make adjustments for future cold opens. As an introvert myself I also find it funny when people see me and think that I'm this social extrovert because I put the work in. I gue…
/r/seduction29/01/19 07:47 PM
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Start taking massive action, engage people you meet and make it a point to be positive and make their day better. This will get you a better "state" which will help a lot. If you're in college aren't there things social that they do there for the students? Start cold approaching as you see girls during the day. Just be polite and talk to them, then see how far you can carry things. Set a goal to cold approach a certain number per day 5-10. It's like I told my 9yo, you can't expect people to come…
/r/seduction29/01/19 06:56 PM
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The first 2 approaches were you warming up and getting "in state." Be happy that you took action and didn't get put off by the early rejections.
/r/seduction29/01/19 03:49 PM
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Seems like a situation that I would be really nervous about too. I recently made a simple mistake of being to needy so if I was in your shoes I'd try to make sure that she knew where she stood and what I wanted, but if it didn't work that's fine I have other options. I would make sure to lead as much as possible, moving her around the venue etc.... Take her by the hand, initiate physical contact when you want it but give her room to decline. Thanks for the website tip as well :)
/r/seduction29/01/19 03:43 PM
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I was thinking about the balcony set some more today. I think I cared to much about her reaction. I needed a simple sorry, or a joke in response. If she had any attraction at all she lost it when I looked needy because I needed her approval. What a nuance wow. Saying sorry the second time was also a mistake, and it was debatable if I should have come back at all but there weren't a lot of other real options in the room lol. Again this goes back to having a more abundant venue with desirable wome…
/r/seduction29/01/19 01:14 AM
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Seems like a bad place to be in if you're her boss. This is the sort of stuff that's cool in a role play but not in real life as it can lead to a lot of bad buisness. I feel like you need to "live in abundance" and engage more women. Don't focus so much on this one, especially given the circumstances. If you want to do no contact then living in abundance is it because you'll be to busy to give her attention. Also, you're her boss and you're worried when she's getting mad that you aren't texting …
/r/seduction28/01/19 10:02 PM
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Seems like it would be hard to be fake with live bootcamp students around. Eventually a mistake would be made. Healthy skeptisism is warranted with this stuff though. Try it yourself and decide if it's for you or not. Field test everything, or else it means nothing.
/r/seduction28/01/19 09:53 PM
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Text her for a coffee or to meet somewhere and tell her the date and time that works for your schedule. Do not ask, "what would you like to do?" You need to lead.
/r/seduction28/01/19 08:09 PM
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Add her, don't fixate on her though. Start talking to other girls, if she wants to hookup sometime make a decision. Do not judge her for her hookups we all like sex. Make sure to wrap it up.
/r/seduction28/01/19 07:55 PM
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She's alpha, you let her treat you like a beta. She wants you all to herself and doesn't share well. This relationship works for some people, like my brother. You said you aren't into her so man up and don't let her be more alpha than you.
/r/seduction28/01/19 07:52 PM
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It's fine, now go talk to 10 more girls. You have approach anxiety it's the only way to get over it. Find things to talk about like the fact that you're new in the city etc...
/r/seduction28/01/19 07:47 PM
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Nice troll. No offense but it sounds like you're the type of person that is looking for a quick fix and doesn't want to get better. The Snap Chat generation is obsessed with instant gratification and has a low work ethic. I primarily wrote this for myself and I'm open to critique about it. Also I did this as soon as I came home so that the memory loss would be minimal. There are A LOT of nuances that I'm starting to go over. If I didn't write this it's likely I would never get better. Each parag…
/r/seduction26/01/19 03:26 PM
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24 hours................ IS NOT A GHOST WHEN YOU HAVE HISTORY 72 hours and let her go but don't burn bridges just move on to the next one. People have lives, you're right though you're obsessed and you caught feelings. Do the trip, enjoy your time. You're not exclusive so have fun and let whatever happens happen. Come back, see if she'll reconnect, but if not live in abundance and engage with more girls. Over Christmas I had a couple of meaningful online conversations. One girl I connected with …
/r/seduction25/01/19 09:48 PM
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Just like TheXXL said move on. Live in abundance and don't worry to much. NOTHING is exclusive until you both agree to it. If she comes back great, take time keep building then choose her when you have other options. Don't fall in love and focus on phantoms.
/r/seduction25/01/19 09:03 PM
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Is the friend mooching off of your time, money or energy? If she is then you might need to draw some boundries. It's fine for your girlfriend to choose her friends and you can be cordial but that doesn't make them your friends by extension. Just like I can introduce a girl to a co-workers wife but that doesn't mean they'll be friends. Having the 2 girls go to the club is fine. Unfortunately it's really dangerous to be a solo girl in our society and so they need to have a second set of eyes to he…
/r/seduction25/01/19 08:57 PM
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Taking action - instead of planning and stewing Writing field reports after - to internalize small adjustments for the next time Living in abundance - to choose the best women I want and not get stuck in a toxic relationship Self Amusement - to keep my own moral high and enjoy the process Taking a view of "we're on the same team" - moving from a taking mentality to a giving mentality Free Association - so I can talk and talk if I want to No rejections just learning - only 1% better day if the in…
/r/seduction25/01/19 08:39 PM
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After I started taking action while focusing on improving my own mood. I also focused on a "we're on the same team" mindset and things got a lot better.
/r/seduction25/01/19 08:30 PM
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Have you taught anything before? I spent some time doing it and at first I felt like if I had a student fail then that meant I was a failure. I found out really quickly that there are plenty of people that set out to fail themselves. There are others that can rise above it but pick up is a couple levels past what I was teaching. Add to that the people that are going to be interested are the ones with the worst stories, and hardest time picking up women it's a recipe for disaster. My students wer…
/r/seduction25/01/19 08:18 PM
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Married twice, and I wouldn't mind committing again but I've raised standards due to a lot of factors. I wouldn't say I crave lots of variety, but I'm starting to crave the game, the process, and the chase. I even tell girls straight up that I talk to a lot of women, and that I don't have an issue with being committed but it has to be right. I have a lower tolerance for BS now than I did because I live in abundance now, and when I do finally choose to commit again it will be from abundance, and …
/r/seduction25/01/19 05:02 PM
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#4 Slayed me lol I just started in December and this stuff has just started spilling out of me. I've started talking to other guys about it and you're right there are a lot of people that simply aren't ready for it. I don't have the credentials you have but I really think eventually I'll be teaching this stuff. Sorry your last pupil was unreceptive but you know it's one of those things where as your status starts improving you can just raise your prices. Eventually people should be committed eno…
/r/seduction25/01/19 04:53 PM
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Be positive with people throughout the day to get in state during the day. Remember you're on the "Same Team." If you escalate physically and she isn't ready back off say sorry and try again later. Remember to move her around the venue and lead frequently. You can do this by hand holding, arm lock, etc.... Don't ask to much about what she wants to do but leave room for her to object. She wants to be led. Do not measure success on how far you get with her tonight, measure it on the amount of good…
/r/seduction25/01/19 02:56 PM
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I just started with all this stuff recently, and I guess this advice works if you're trying to get into state first before talking to her however if you know you want her I feel like that would be counter productive to getting in state. RSD says you see you go, and if she's the hottest girl in there that you feel like you'd never have a chance with then that's the reason you MUST approach. You need to do it for yourself, to prove that you can. Plan on succes and focus on keeping the "we're on th…
/r/seduction25/01/19 02:35 PM
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I think we as guys automatically go to being "The Nice Guy" which means that we friendzone the girl before we even gave it a chance. I was thinking back about a couple of times in my life when I had a girl come over to show them something. There was probably a chance that I could have pushed some physicality but for one reason or another I put up my own barriers and didn't even make moves. It's ok to try something small like a hug/hand hold etc... and apologize and back off, girls respect that. …
/r/seduction25/01/19 02:23 PM
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Sounds fine if you're happy with things, but keep in mind if you don't work on your skills they'll deteriorate. I was having a hard time figuring out if you are living in abundance or not given the long distance relationship (LDR).
/r/seduction25/01/19 02:08 PM
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Seems like some fine suggestions that could work. Building a large social circle is important.
/r/seduction24/01/19 09:29 PM
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I'm coming out of a 9 year marraige and just now moving into pickup since last Dec. I experienced the drain you're going through over this past year with 12 relationships in 2018. I was looking for a new life partner instead of enjoying the process. That's a lot of pressure to put on a random girl you just meet out. You need to choose your next exlusive relationship from abundance instead of doing 1-3 dates and going exclusive feeling like you don't want to get thrown out to the ocean of single …
/r/seduction24/01/19 09:13 PM
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Go out as much as possible. I like Whisper for chatting with girls more than any other platform, however you are competing with ~50 guys for each post a girl makes so make sure your replies are emotionally compelling. I don't like Snapchat for chatting because of the following reasons It keeps no record and makes it hard to keep up with multiple girls for me The blocking system leaves you clueless I also use swipe apps heavily because of my restrictions on going out. Honestly cold approach picku…
/r/seduction24/01/19 09:00 PM
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You aren't in the right "state." You probably feel like you aren't good enough for her. You need to raise your state to feel like you're worth her. Get more social throughout your day. Do things to that actively make you happy. Even if it feels fake go out of your way to be positive to people around you. This will generate postive energy which they will feed back to you. At a guess she's probably still into you. You made her feel good. She doesn't need to have penetration to feel good. Remember …
/r/seduction24/01/19 08:43 PM
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Live in abundance and talk to more girls. Have fun stop focusing on this kiss. If you try to kiss again stop making a big deal out of it. It's not a disney movie. Move in and fake a kiss and see her reaction if she makes those big doe eyes that she's surprised but intrigued then your clear. If she turns away not yet. Don't do it in public to avoid her getting slut shamed. Bottom line have fun whether you get the kiss or not. My last girlfriend and I kissed on our first outing after going outside…
/r/seduction24/01/19 08:25 PM
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I failed so many of these shit tests in the past that I've just figured out that I have a new rule really. If she's still talking and hasn't told me to F-off it's game on as long as I'm still interested. If she gets overly nasty then that reveals poor character, and I'll move on. Realizing the existence of shit tests really makes things more exciting when you're in the back and forth it's great really lol.
/r/seduction24/01/19 07:12 PM
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Seems pretty damning for her. Up to you what you want to do with it. It's likely that she isn't getting the emotional support that she wants from her husband. Feels like you might lose your job with either decision. If you talk to the husband he probably won't know how to fix it, but there's a .01% chance he'll bless her extramarital activities. On the other hand if he finds out later then really bad stuff could happen. She might just be fantasizing about you in which case the bubble will likely…
/r/seduction24/01/19 07:08 PM
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Force yourself out of your comfort zone. Say to yourself, "Tonight I'm going to meet girls and not buy a single drink." I did this a lot too. You are placing yourself in a provider role which isn't necessarily bad but a girl may feel like you are paying for her company which puts her on the level of a prostitute. Pay the girl in emotions not drinks, that's what she wants from you. Learn to get "in state" and have a good time. I like that you are approaching 6-7 girls and aren't getting stifled. …
/r/seduction23/01/19 03:07 PM
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It feels like you're really worried about her rejecting you. That means you aren't living in abundance with other options. Put something that's engaging with little effort. Don't comment on every picture obviously just if something strikes you. You need to be talking to more than just this one girl. Set a goal to approach 5-10 girls per day either digitally or in real life. To me this is THE SAME as cold approach pick up. Here's the thing that you're doing if this was a bar. You enter the bar, y…
/r/seduction21/01/19 04:06 PM
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Rule #1 don't compliment her looks, if you are going to talk about her looks pick something specific like I like the way you did your hair etc.... Rule #2 give value, comment on her post in a meaningful way especially if there is a message behind it Try this, don't ask any questions for a while. Just make statements or tell a story that you remember when you look at the photo
/r/seduction21/01/19 03:51 PM
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Totally agree! Thanks!
/r/seduction19/01/19 12:35 AM
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Just make sure that you are choosing her from abundance, which it sounds like you are. Guard your heart and have other options if it doesn't pan out. Remember that you're the prize and you're absolutely good enough for her or any of the other girls that you hang around.
/r/seduction18/01/19 09:33 PM
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This could be cute in the situation but I wouldn't try to just shoehorn it into a conversation. I'd prefer to be more direct by saying, "you could bring your boyfriend/husband to X event." A variation one what you said might be, "Oh so you're back on the market huh?" The issue is that any line will fall flat if you aren't in a good state of mind using intent and pushing good emotions. Move away from lines and learn how to free associate instead. You'll be a lot more interesting.
/r/seduction18/01/19 09:28 PM
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Totally agree he needs more options. To much focus. It's easy to do though, and at least he's aware unlike I was for the first 36 years.
/r/seduction18/01/19 09:21 PM
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In December I thought to myself "What woman in her right mind would date a 36 yo guy with 4 kids." I was in a dark place too. I started watching Real Social Dynamics YouTube videos on Christmas Eve. #1 - The world is awesome. Sit down and take it in. Look out and enjoy all the things in nature and all that's around you and understand how insignifcant you are. #2 - Stop the taking mentality with woman. They can smell it a mile away. Always think, "We're on the same team." I'm here to have fun and…
/r/seduction18/01/19 09:15 PM
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I like to look at the situation and comment about something. I don't use canned openers but I have things I say on observation. Getting into flow state helps a lot here, just like OP said TAKE ACTION! Here are some in recent memory that I've used Girl is looking at lotions - "Oh looks like you got a good one huh?" Girl is reading a book - "Not to many people read physical books now, tell me what you're reading!" Girl is walking a different direction "Hey can I steal you for 2 minutes?" Girl has …
/r/seduction18/01/19 08:49 PM
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One up the craziness. If she says, "I managed walking down steps before I met you." Make it more ridiculous by saying, "oh yeah I remember seeing that, you've got levetation don't you?" Or you could say, "hey maybe I need a little help, you know my depth perception isn't good" then smile in a funny way. She probably thinks your insecure now. You could try getting more physical with hugs and if she accepts that escalate. DO NOT TRY TO FIX HER. She says, "I'm really bitchy today." You can say some…
/r/seduction18/01/19 03:55 PM
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I also have a lot of issues breaking away from logic, like all of my life. I started doing "Free Association" meditation taught by Real Social Dynamics and I'm calmer and more able to let go of logic. Heck I can throw down stupid rap rhymes now after freeing myself which is weird/good/interesting? Here's how to do it. Empty your mind out by thinking about some soot that's settling. It's settling, it's settling and there it's settled. Now say the first word that comes to mind. Then say the next o…
/r/seduction18/01/19 03:13 PM
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Just keep in mind it's "fantasy" Rom com. So don't take to much of it to heart. Stick w/ the pick up community for the real shtuff.
/r/seduction18/01/19 03:02 PM
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Guys use a lot of logic when we do things, girls do not run on that. Again it's all emotions. The girl that left due to physical contact might have had other tells that said, "leave me alone." It's a process!!! Remember that because it's now reference experience. You can even use it with other girls. Be ok with laughing at rejection. You could tell a girl, "one time I looked deeply into my dates eyes and reached for her hand, but when we touched she said that she sensed that our aura's were inco…
/r/seduction17/01/19 10:01 PM
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No, still give her common courtesy, don't be an ass. Social pressure will start wearing on her here as well. Think about it from an outsiders perspective. You're nice and she blows you off, who's the bad guy?
/r/seduction17/01/19 09:49 PM
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Move on to other girls for a while. She'll see all the fun that they're having and come around (likely). Focus on your own well being and don't let yourself be controlled by her opinion of you. You are the prize so act like it. You need to accept that you're worth any girls attention, and if she's not into you guess what.... there are more girls that will. Don't obsess about a girl for 7 years like I did when there were other options that will also work. Don't buy into "the one perfect girl" men…
/r/seduction17/01/19 09:07 PM
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Ok I missed that part. After re-reading it I feel that it might also be internalizing interactions in a way where they feel like rejections instead of learning. Thanks for the correction. All my concepts are straight from Real Social Dynamics
/r/seduction17/01/19 09:02 PM
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It might not be there, if not it's a short scene you can probably find it on YouTube
/r/seduction17/01/19 08:58 PM
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I just started learning all this stuff from Real Social Dynamics, and it's changing my life
/r/seduction17/01/19 08:56 PM
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If you want to talk about the topics you mentioned that's fine but you need to make it interesting. Girls run on emotions as their only currency. Those topics are boring if you give straight answers. Here's an example she asks about your hobbies and you say, ​ "Well I'm in between jobs right now but I do some deep sea fishing, woh! You should have seen this giant squid! It was all like krahh krahhhh! So I took out my spear and I was all shikakaaaahhhh." ​ What the hell did I just say? Did that m…
/r/seduction17/01/19 08:50 PM
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Approach more women! Talk to 10 women tomorrow try to approach cold sets (people you don't know at all) Rejection sucks. I remember typically that it would take me 24-48 hours to recover from a rejection from someone I was really interested in. You need to come from a frame where your day is only 1% better if things go well with your interactions. Work on coming from a sharing frame not a taking frame. Think to yourself, "we're on the same team." Measure success by the fact that you are engaging…
/r/seduction17/01/19 08:27 PM
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You seem a little needy. I was this guy too. It feels like you need to focus more on her emotions and her emotional state. Keep in mind that emotions are a womans currency, she doesn't care about you paying for the meal, your status, or anything else just emotions. You sound nervous and girls can smell that from a mile away. ​ If you text her again you need to really spike her emotions with something ridiculous. I highly suggest learning how to do free association to break away from logic which …
/r/seduction17/01/19 04:45 PM
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It was popularized in the movie Hitch. Unlike a lot of what media brain washes us to believe about relationships this is not bad advice. If you're initiating physical contact be it holding hands, a hug, or a kiss you move 90% of the way which allows the girl to turn away or cancel the contact. If she does then you back off and apologize. She will come the other 10% to meet you if she's interested. Girls don't want you to ask for things they want direct assertive leading movements. The problem is…
/r/seduction17/01/19 04:29 PM
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Post, but don't consume seems to be a good way to go. Don't be afraid to show the real you there, if she doesn't like it then that's fine.
/r/seduction17/01/19 03:57 PM
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She won't, and she wants you to lead. Took me to long to figure this out. The nice guy wants a 50/50 relationship where both people have input but she doesn't really want that. Just lead and she'll follow. Leave room for her to object to things use the 90% rule.
/r/seduction17/01/19 02:05 PM
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In my earlier years I had something similar happen on an airplane, didn't talk to the girl the whole time but we rubbed legs a lot. I probably could have joined the mile high club. I was a lot shyer then and married so I didn't take action. It's ok though it's a learning opportunity and you and I will be more prepared next time it happens.
/r/seduction17/01/19 02:01 PM
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Amanda she's like da man duh I'm a fan huh Sometimes I can't unduh-stand huh Fly by night flim flam uh She so tight I put in in her clam son Make me feel good totally random But hey dats Amanda These rhymes make no sense, are borferline offensive but none of that matters. She only cares about the emotions that she feels from it. All I did was get myself into free association mental state and I just said things as they came to mind while letting go of logic. New number 1 single! I'll put it out t…
/r/seduction17/01/19 12:46 PM
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Thanks for being honest. :) It took me so many years to figure this stuff out and I still have a long way to go, but at least I've started to understand how to take charge a little more. It's likely that most of the beta males you're attracted to won't have the capacity to lead. Taking turns simply won't work. Even think about gay relationships, there's usually a dominant partner. It's just the nature of the system. The difficult thing for me has been waking up to all the things I was doing as t…
/r/seduction16/01/19 10:48 PM
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Every guy is different if we're talking about what guys want past looks which you have already covered. Personality traits that are important to me are as follows Honesty that's not afraid to hurt feelings Support for what I'm passionate about Real interest in one of my hobbies (and I have a lot), yes I know when you're faking it and I guess that's appreciated but only mildly A general good happy disposition that isn't completely dependent on me (learn to make yourself happy) Low amount of compl…
/r/seduction16/01/19 09:59 PM
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His day would only be 1% better if this goes well He does like you, but he needs to be able to weather the rejection and recover. Most guys are devistated after a rejection. As an example my typical recovery time was 24 hours. That's just not acceptable if you are trying to be confident. Uses the 90% rule A guy needs to be calibrated to initiate a kiss. If the hug feels awkward for instance then there's no way he should attempt it. No offense but you sound like an Alpha female. That simply means…
/r/seduction16/01/19 09:49 PM
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Lately I've been doing "Free Association" and meditating and it's given me freedom to flow stupid rhymes. I am not a rapper, and never really wanted to be, but once in a while I will take the girls name and free associate it with rhymes. They normally text back, "What is all this garbage?" Which is them needing to validate themself to you. You can respond something simple like, "I was feeling good so I felt like texting all my girls some rhymes" or "I saw your name in my phone & there was a beat…
/r/seduction16/01/19 09:40 PM
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I think this might be better if we laid out a scenario. Nice Guy Approaches Knerwel in a very shy and sheepish way. He makes some attempt at conversation and never looks her directly in the eye. Then he asks if she would like to go out on a date sometime. If she says yes he'll then ask where they should go or what she likes to do. On the date he will likely white knight about how he isn't like other guys that just want sex, and he would only get physical if she was comfortable after asking her. …
/r/seduction16/01/19 09:16 PM
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So true, I was the nice guy and I had 2 alpha girl relationships. Yeah, they preyed on me.
/r/seduction16/01/19 09:01 PM
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Great job, next time just say, "lets trade numbers" or "lets trade insta's". Make sure to keep the frame of being on the same team. You might still be able to trade instagrams and keep her on your radar. Now go talk to 10 more girls every day!
/r/seduction16/01/19 08:55 PM
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Free association also helps you talk and talk with girls if you want to. Of course you can also use silence once she's invested to get her to valadate herself to you which get's more investment in the conversation on her side. I had a pretty bad experience on Saturday and used it to calm down and get myself back into state to push through. Typically I'll use it after opening on something by simply saying, "Would you like to try an experiment with me? I'm only going to do it if you can keep an op…
/r/seduction16/01/19 08:22 PM
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Lately I've been doing a meditation exercise called "Free Association". You empty your mind out and say words as they come to mind. You can't associate off your environment, and you can't associate off of the last word. So if you said bus then you shouldn't say tire for instance. This helps us as guys with being ok with not always being logical. You can do it with girls too, I've even opened with it. A girls brain already works this way, and so as I was doing it last week I found that almost eve…
/r/seduction16/01/19 03:51 PM
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Seems like a great response! I hope things keep moving forward for you 2. Keep in mind that emotions are her currency and so find ways to say boring things with emotion. Disassociate content and emotion.
/r/seduction16/01/19 03:44 PM
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Feels like a shit test, but the situation is an odd one. You know her better than any of us internet people so you'll have to make a decision. I'm honestly at a loss of exactly what to do, but what comes to mind first is maybe some escalation about how you want to have her alone all to yourself. That comes off a bit creepy now that I've written it hmmmm You could joke and try something like, "I asked around and no one liked your class because they were to busy checking out your ass." That really…
/r/seduction15/01/19 08:04 PM
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Only you can really answer that. Sticking with one woman is great! But there are some pitfalls you should be aware of. First she needs to feel like you're leading and like you're worth being followed. Next she needs to feel like you are secure enough in yourself that she isn't the only focus of your life (although girls will say otherwise). Have a mission and purpose. Don't put up with BS call it out because if you don't she'll become resentful. If you go monogomous understand that you are passi…
/r/seduction15/01/19 07:36 PM
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It works but it could have been better, here's a more emotional way to say the same thing ​ Woh! I'm seriously puking my guts out right now. I'm probably on deaths door. Don't worry there's a priest on the way to exercise this demon so I should be good for coffee next Tuesday. Don't worry I don't think it's contageous. ​ To you and me this seems dramatic and over the top. Don't worry she won't take it seriously, but it does say that you're sick in a very emotional connected way. Next I gave her …
/r/seduction15/01/19 07:04 PM
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You need outside help, if you do nothing she may self harm anyways. She's mentally unstable but a lot of women are. It's not uncommon, but she needs real help. Hiding this only makes it worse. My first and second wife were in and out of mental institutions, I'm speaking from experience. The tough decision will be weather you want to stick around to deal with the shit. You may not be able to. She needs support though and you're simply not equipped to handle it. She's manipulating you because she'…
/r/seduction15/01/19 04:42 PM
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You could engage the husband or her more directly. Seems risky but he might be aware that his wife has needs, and be ok with it. You live there, it's making you uncomfortable so I'd talk to the dude at least. It's likely that she's not getting the emotional currency that she wants from him and you're simply available.
/r/seduction15/01/19 04:27 PM
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She sounds kind of like an alpha female honestly. That can work but be prepared. My brother is married to an Alpha Female.... he changed his last name to hers. Just be aware, alpha girls can be fun because they pretty much just get what they want from beta guys and there are a lot, just don't be surprised when she finds a new beta to play with. You can try to become more alpha and hopefully she'll respond well to that. If she's to far gone though she may get turned off. Lol I just realized that …
/r/seduction15/01/19 04:20 PM
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Spike her emotions with an inside joke then tell her where you want to go with her with a date and time.
/r/seduction15/01/19 04:11 PM
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Measuring interest level is so important, even your own. If I as the guy am bored with the girl, guess what there's 100 other girls in the venue to open. Staying in frame and being secure, not seeking approval while understanding that you're on the same team seems like the best way to go. It's easy to get bogged down in one conversation and think you have to put all your time there, but it feels like if she's insulting/shit testing to much then it's time to take your energy elsewhere. On the oth…
/r/seduction15/01/19 04:07 PM
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It sounds like you're living in abundance to me. When you persue a girl it's because you want it, and honestly there's a lot of girls that don't really try because our society has so many incels, cucks, and beta's. I say that because I'm moving out of that beta life myself. I just started last december and for me it's been life changing. I'm just a lot more calm and secure now than you. I don't have the "lay count" that you do but that's not really how I measure success. I've been married twice …
/r/seduction15/01/19 03:56 PM
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You were never "in state" for any of your approaches. You have a lot of hangups and you're overthinking it. Props for actually approaching though. Go to a club and do shorter sets with more frequency. Set a goal to approach 10-12 girls a day. ​ Learn how to get yourself in state. Start engaging everyone with happy positive conversations. Simple things like saying, "good morning" with an overly excited tone. It will feel fake at first but the more you do it the better it will feel and the better …
/r/seduction15/01/19 03:45 PM
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Agreed, he needs to become more abundant
/r/seduction15/01/19 03:31 PM
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Just started Insta, thanks for this guide!
/r/seduction14/01/19 09:53 PM
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Be careful because you're moving into scarcity. You're day should be 1% better if this girl decides to hang out with you and do stuff. Start talking to other girls and practice approaching women. Become abundant and your value will raise. You need to set your self up so you won't be devistated if things don't work out. I'm speaking from experience as I crushed on a girl in my school days for 7 years and she had no interest in me. There's no reason to commit to someone that has no investment in y…
/r/seduction14/01/19 09:51 PM
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Lately I'll hit girls on Whisper to practice technique, I will regularly play a quick game on my phone in between messages to spread out the time between responses. Testing my willpower at other times has been important too. ​ Here's something that I've tested at least 20 times in the last 2 weeks. If you're texting a girl and you do something to spike emotions that she doesn't like, or you make a bad joke while calibrating obviously say sorry. Then imediately say, "I won't get mad if you block …
/r/seduction14/01/19 08:27 PM
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So key
/r/seduction14/01/19 08:19 PM
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Move on, talk to 10 girls today live in abundance
/r/seduction14/01/19 08:11 PM
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Post back a pic of you making out with another girl, or mention that you're busy with girl X Live in abundance not scarcity
/r/seduction14/01/19 08:07 PM
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