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Yea and leave her with the ambulance chasers, not a pro.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 07:41 PM
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That makes sense.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 07:41 PM
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Maybe just do it with the best of the best in your area then? If shes pulling one in from hours away it would help bleed her dry faster.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 07:40 PM
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Im simply wondering. It seemed like a good idea.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 07:39 PM
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You havent met my wife haha.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 07:39 PM
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I'm my case, looking back to even high school, absolutely nothing. I initially want to say intimacy, but even that goes away quickly. Society paints women as warm, caring and motherly, but they are stone. Just stone.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 06:57 PM
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Funny enough looks might not even matter. I married an isolated and ugly one, but she still found a way to cheat. I figured date uglier, not fat, and things might go better, but no - more of the same. I also used to go by the idea that a woman is only as loyal as her best option, but even though I was her best option she still cheated with a broke loser.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 06:56 PM
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Also get a consultation with every family law attorney in the area, get on their book and she cant hire them. All it costs you is time.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 06:55 PM
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Women are robot sharks. Yes they are emotional so youd think far from being a computer, but they are so emotional they basically circle back to being programmable or at least predictable. If it feels good to her then it is absolutely the right thing. Yes a family will be torn apart, so what? Its what she wants and thats all that matters. Loyalty is just a word to women. Its just a word on a page that means nothing more than its utility. For example when she can call you disloyal. They know what …
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 06:47 PM
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Contacting her ex and having him file for child support modification at the same time 5 states away. Talking to him and learning what Ive learned. Using her cps cases against her. Using her medical records agaisnt her. Watching her family turn against her because shes giving up a secure marriage for a fling. Shes giving up never having to work for struggle because of her limerence. Hiring an attorney levels above her very expensive attorney she hired with my money, but realizing hes an ambulance…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 03:54 AM
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I get that. I guess Im not used to crushing enemies I so recently loved.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 05:22 AM
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Yea please dont get married under the current legal system and potentially go through even a fraction of heartache. Plus many of these modern women have had their minds poisoned.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 05:14 PM
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Yea you are correct. The only thing that has been holding me back is fear, but when they said no judge in MO would appreciate her running off to go live with another man that kind of made my decision for me. Now they have her still living with me so Ill have to deal with a screeching harpy for a few days.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 02:58 PM
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Well as you can imagine this information was not revealed up front. Then anything that was revealed was revealed in a way where she looked favorably or as the innocent victim.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 02:54 PM
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Totally true though. For a long time in history women needed to be reigned in, but in these so called safe modern times they have overtly shown their true nature. As it is said in the hadith they just leave if they dont like a few things about their husbands, but yet the same is not true of us. Because honor, loyalty, duty and vows mean something to us. When we love we love with so much of ourselves. These women think those old times and old ways are gone, but struggle and scarcity are the norm …
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 12:24 PM
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My paralegal looked up the guy my wife is running off with and said oh I thought hed be some kind of hunk not a fat ugly bald dude.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 12:08 AM
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Do what Im doing, get in ridiculous shape and make some damn money. Start a business or four, build an empire. I can already see my empire and it stretches from the sea to the mountains. Literal geographical places Ill own properties and businesses. If youre spiritual toss in some of that and some knowledge building for knowledge sake. Then when you pick up your kids from your private jet, car service is a bentley and you are jacked toss your ex a wad of hundreds and say thanks for the service b…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 06:42 PM
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That FU money for real, get it and dont look back.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 06:35 PM
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Im sorry gents, but the world we live in is not the world we want. Time to understand we are in a beautiful apocalypse. While it might not look like the world of Fallout is is just as brutal. One woman is like having only one income stream.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 01:04 PM
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Exactly. Like she cant even help it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 05:14 PM
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Thats me with the baby. She doesnt understand why Im fighting. She must learn actions have consequences. You cant destroy a family then get all you want.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 01:51 AM
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Yes, but I think its becaise their brains are similar and they see the examples of women before them. I told her Im taking custody so she doesnt end up like you and the women of your family. She was legit confused haha.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 01:50 AM
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All the exes are abusive and all the ladies are innocent victims. Haha. Oh well.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 01:48 AM
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They plot so far ahead while you and I are just worried about doing the best for them.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 01:41 AM
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Say and ask whatever you need here. Man the first week I seriously broke down bawling like a baby 7 or more times per day. I still do.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 01:26 AM
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Fellow veteran here and yea she will. Im in a similar situation, but all the cards are in my favor. She is still in my house that my va loan bought so we could be closer to her family. Turns out it was to be closer to loverboy that she met before me, also a vet! Haha, feels great to be betrayed by a vet. Her sister did the same thing and bragged about it. I was so foolish not to see.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 01:24 AM
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Just breath and we are here for you. Welcome to the brotherhood. You will find wisdom and guidance. Look inward in the mean time.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 01:19 AM
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Yes gaslighting 100%, but I feel like gaslighting is shorter term, like in the moment or during the event Im going to rewrite events. For this problem Im talking years.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 12:24 AM
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Ah modern feminism for the w.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 12:22 AM
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Yea that as well.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 12:19 AM
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Dang that one gets complicated quick. Haha. I dont know if its my lack of understanding, but that doesnt quite seem to fit with what Im wondering. That could imply a lack of capacity which makes sense.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 12:19 AM
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Well theres that as well haha.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 12:17 AM
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I feel the lightswitch effect is part of it, but the process might have a different name.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 12:13 AM
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Thanks for all, I mean that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 11:27 PM
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You have for sure and being genuine Im learning is key. I am genuinely concerned for mine and I believe that does transfer to his as well. Heck as a human I dont want any little girl getting hurt. Now it could turn out her soon to be live in bf is a super great guy, despite being a homewrecker, but the I have no problem stealing your wife thing is concerning. I need to give this a bit of thought.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 08:31 PM
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Very good advice. Also he could take all the info I give and turn on me or send it to her attorney etc. Its a huge risk. Unfortunately he is over 20 hours away from me, say 4 or 5 states. If I friended him online that would also be odd and very much outside of my character. I know being covert is not a favorable way to be, but I need to find a way for him just to know we are getting a divorce. Im honestly surprised it hasnt been leaked to him.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 08:09 PM
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Oh and proven track record is an understatement. She was married 2 times before me and left them both at the 2 year of marriage mark. Guy #1 is described as hard working, best times of her life just not ambitious enough and smoked too much pot. Guy 2 and I are identical as were both veterans and supposedly abusive, mentally and financially. Except I dont see it when I met the guy. Divorcing always at 2 years seems off to me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 06:16 AM
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Ok, thank you. Its so very odd she doesnt want to tell him until her girl is already with them for the visit. Why not just tell him now? Very odd, and her new guy is willing to let these 2 little girls live in his house without ever even dating my wife? So very strange.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 06:10 AM
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Can I do that legally?
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 06:03 AM
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Exactly and I hate to be a debbie downer, but women mostly do tend to monkey branch as Ive come to understand the term. Women dont leave until they have something else setup. It fing sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 04:04 AM
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I dont think anyone here hates women as much as they just understand women. Like our wives blew up our family and it sucks, but its just what they were going to do. I wasnt perfect, but the fight she claims put the nail in the coffin happened after she filed. Then I was supposed to be perfect after I discovered her cheating? Im not some sort of all forgiving god. Things were not bad at all she just wanted to move on. Had I been married to a man he would have said bro im mad about this shit fix i…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 01:31 AM
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Yea divorce was for other people. That'll never happen to me. My girl is different. My girl is super religious, super nerdy, super intelligent, etc. Etc. Ad nauseam. No your girl is no different.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 07:17 PM
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Haha, men age well. Im 36 and get IDed all the damn time. I have a super baby face and dont keep facial hair.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 06:54 PM
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Hell yea awesome advice. I actually have been dressing up more. Spent like $600 or so on new, well fitting clothes. Not sure Im ready for 45 plus except maybe just to learn from haha.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 06:45 PM
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Hell yea! And were here for you! I love to see success stories and it empowers us.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 06:39 PM
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100% because I was down or not where I needed to be so I settled and met lower women cause I was low.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 06:38 PM
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Yea and Id hope most is true. I hope there are some quality women out there.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 06:13 PM
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Yup Im leaning on bjj as well. It gets better, but hearing that doesnt help.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 05:15 PM
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I met mine when I was down and in a moment of weakness. Id be ashamed for any of you guys to see her haha, although shes quite fit.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 05:14 PM
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That last paragraph is key. Ive learned to let go of her and today she picked a fight, stuck living together until its final, and I realized her filing did me a huge favor. It took over a month to get here. Im in St. Joseph btw.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 05:13 PM
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Im truly sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 03:48 PM
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Holy shit dude. Im a shriner, moila, and Im a veteran. Let me tell you a funny story. My last 4 years in I joined the NG and got my dream job as a chaplains assistant. I actually got awards for saving mens lives simply by talking to them during or even after suicide attempts. Guess what? Always, always, over a woman. Now here is the punch line, the guy who is taking my wife from me is also an army veteran. Haha. Isnt that perfection itself? Hes not a loser, but hes no where near my level and Im …
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 03:35 PM
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This has an explanation and maybe it wont help, but maybe it will. When a shark eats you it does no good to be mad at the shark because the shark is simply doing what sharks do. You said it makes no sense because her brain, all womens brains, do no use logic. Instead they run on emotion. Over time the scales tipped against you and you became a villian in her mind. She unknowingly rewrote history and literally forgot most of the good things or good times. Now in her mind this loser is the hero, a…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 03:26 PM
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When I still had feelings for her I told her that once she steps foot out that door there is no coming back and no second chance. As of writing this she still lives here, but one major thing has changed and that is I no longer want her. Shes in limerence with another man and in her head hes a super hero. Hes a bus driver with a meager home, no ambition whos only hobby is watching sports. He gave her a list of rules she must follow, like they are to be in bed together by 830, she has to pay rent …
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 03:13 PM
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If you want her back stop reacting entirely and focus on yourself. Find a purpose and persue that with all your might. If you try to use logic it wont work, women only understand emotions. You need to step into your masculinity. Stop reacting, stop reasoning with her. Also ask if you really want her back after that as well. Just know attraction is complicated and right now shes more attracted to someone else. Dont be needy, drop covert contracts, focus on being the best you. Right now you are th…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 12:09 AM
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I want to write mine a warning letter. Wait, nah guys an asshole for what he did and he has 120lbs of mega bitch karma headed his way.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 09:13 PM
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I hate to agree, but Id bet she is. Monkey branching is what they do, we were just talking about it. Dont hack her phone or get angry instead take extreme ownership of the situation then, today, start becoming the best version of yourself. Turn it around if you want. Shes probably already in limerence with the dude, but who cares. Stop being needy start being stoic and let him make all the mistakes.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 08:53 PM
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Yup and like all exes Im a terrible person. She even said she felt bad for my ex and what she must have gone through haha, projecting much? Its fun being told what a piece of shit you are while she is wearing thousands of dollars worth of stuff you bought her.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 08:48 PM
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I think we are allowed to screw up and then remain stoic while she lays into us about it. Reflect back and take extreme ownership of everything.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:43 PM
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Maybe youve reacted too many times. Is it the grey rock theory in play? You gotta never react and never be afraid to walk away. Silence is fine, dont feel like you must say anything and if she corners you calmly, with your words reflect her emotions back to her. I get that you are angry over the dishes because it makes you feel unappreciated. Being able to walk away and remain unphased drives them nuts.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:41 PM
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Someone posted a badass overview on this sub today Ill see if I can find it, plus when my marriage fell apart I started a program all about this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:24 PM
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Women don't want solutions they want to feel shit.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:22 PM
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Cause you arent offering a solution. You try that with a man and hell go yea so?
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:21 PM
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As cold as women are they also want to be submissive. Now we church it up and call it leading the relationship. A good trick is just say back to her you understand she is upset about the peanut butter incident because maybe it made her feel unheard or whatever. For some reason just stating this kind of stuff back to them works.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:20 PM
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It really is and its fucking sad. Yea we arent perfect and really fuck up, but its not unforgivable shit. Ive had fist fights with guy friends and cut them down verbally then we dont talk for a while and guess what, were still close ass friends.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:08 PM
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Damn good points. Women truly do not love like men and the ideals you night believe to be very well defined mean nothing to a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:00 PM
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So do I. The divorce is much easier when I think of the betrayal and how much it has cost me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 06:48 PM
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You nailed it, I was very confused, until I studied female psychology and it all makes sense. The cool thing is I dont want her anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 06:48 PM
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Not wanting to date someone because they are short is illogical and downright foolish. Unfortunately wome. Dont care about logic only feelings. My income is also in the shitter because of this divorce, slashed by over a 3/4s. I simply couldn't work since she started all this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 06:46 PM
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I also want to wake from my nightmare, but the nightmare is reality. Women dont care about whats right or about logic. Women are slaves to their emotions. She now see you as a villian and has erased all good memories of you from her story.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 06:44 PM
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Kiss any ideals goodbye men, especially you young men who believe in true love or your faith values marriage. Women dont care about faith, philosophy, loyalty, duty or honor. They are slaves to emotion and serve no other masters. The times have changed so change with them. You can date and screw, maybe even have one kind of loyal to you, but she better know you will bang other women. Having one woman is like having one job, you are only setting yourself up for loss. The second she steps out of l…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 06:40 PM
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Absolutely! A woman never just leaves or breaks it off. They always, always, have a lineup.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 06:33 PM
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Im the same way and it sucks, but maybe its for a better life.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 11:23 PM
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Good words of encouragement for me as well. Im 36 stbx is 35 and already not much of a looker. I know Im being petty, but Im just trying to feel good and your story is probably similar to what mine will be. The guy shes leaving me for is very broke and she has nothing marketable herself. When the shine wears off my door to her will be forever closed.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 11:23 PM
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Were separated and she still lives here, but I have my master bedroom. Its amazing. Ive slept with other women and it was nice to have them, but with her it was like sleeping with a cactus. It was never nice. I have a list of reasons why sleeping with her sucked. Only woman I truly hated sharing a bed with. Plus she is a fucking slob.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 11:04 PM
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Wow this is the best most comprehensive advice Ive ever seen!
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 08:46 PM
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What hurts me is seeing how stone faced my stbx is. She hasnt shown any emotion, shes happy go lucky and because shes still in my damn house she goes almost entirely about her routine, except I make her sleep in a windowless room in the basement. I guess having had another man lined up 3 months before the big D really helps in all that for her.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 09:13 PM
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Yea Ill piggy back off the advice of others, at least you have nothing to lose. You can just sit through the BS and let it go to court then hope the best decision is made. Im not going to lie, still very scary.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 06:33 PM
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Divorce is the scariest thing Ive ever been through.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 06:04 AM
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I cant wait to be where you are.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 06:03 AM
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For sure. My ex would never have had to work again. Now the man shes running off with is making her pay rent. Haha.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 05:58 AM
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Wow, that doesnt seem right. If I win can I legally get her to pay me back?
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 07:42 PM
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First an above all she will have another man, her escape plan and most other things already lined up, ready to go. She will pick more fights often to start creating a case or to justify her actions mostly to herself. Sex will dry up, actually the lack of intimacy could be one of the early warning signs, like years out. The most obvious is when she starts guarding her phone, taking it everywhere and making sure you never see it unless its something silly like a game or social media.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 07:06 PM
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Well my relationship might be a little different. Yes theyll point out I drink, have a history with depression and some anger stuff, but shes at a real disadvantage. She was cheating, is taking the baby two states away to live with her cheater bf, has dropped the baby during a siezure, is epileptic so shouldn't be driving anyway yet plans to drive her all over, is unemployed, has anger issues, lost a kid to cps, lost another custody battle and has even more health issues. My attorney says I have…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 11:18 PM
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Yup this is the game we are playing 100%. Thanks for the advice. Ive decided its a fight.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 07:02 PM
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I won't, were fighting he says I have a very strong case.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 07:01 PM
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Haha, this comment is solid gold. Were fighting it 100%. Shell be lucky to get visitation. Now of course I wont be such a bastard, but still.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 06:59 PM
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Yea Im as sure as any man could be about that one. On the chance shes not, my heart doesn't know better.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 06:57 PM
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Yea I kind of got that vibe. My new attorney said hard pass to that one. She was really pushin it to the point of suspicion. The period before having an attorney to after is night and day.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 06:55 PM
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That makes sense. She has to stay through July cause her new man doesnt want her yet. My attorney said we can drag this out as long as possible. Could be a year if thats the case.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 06:27 PM
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Just got with my new attorney and got all settled up as far as retainer. I also went to a therapist over this and she said, no fight like absolute hell. Also so many people here and in my life said under no circumstances let that baby leave the state. If she wants a new life then she may go with 0 baggage, Ill keep our baby.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 06:06 PM
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Its so early I havent been served. She handed me a letter saying to come by their office. Thanks for the info I was not aware.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 12:51 AM
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Would you be able to elaborate on the "she just cant up and leave part"? What about after its signed and settled?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 12:44 AM
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She has a paralegal degree.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 12:40 AM
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Ok. I think getting with her new man motivates her. She said she just wants to leave. We moved here for her and she hates it. I dont care, bjj gym and grocery store almost within walking distance.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 12:39 AM
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No she filed first and Im still trying to get an attorney. I figured if you have money it would be easy, but theyre all busy. So staying in the legal boundaries. I wouldn't go outside of whatever is set anyway for fear of charges. Im in Missouri and she wants to go to Minnesota. Shes moving there cause thats where her guy shes been cheating with lives.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 12:37 AM
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Very good advice. Shes afraid of me she said if I fight for geo lock shed quit. Also because Im a mason she thinks all the judges in town will be against her. I have the resources to fight, she does not. She said she just wants to get away as quickly as possible. Yea a drawn out process could scare her off.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 12:03 AM
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Yea its not right what she did. An old crush appears so she leaves. She said if I geo lock shell give up. She just wants to get away so I think you are correct.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 11:14 PM
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Not sure says shell drive halfway. She is adamant that we dont have to follow the paperwork.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 11:12 PM
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Ok, thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 06:58 AM
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Hahaha, awesome point. I was dating just a little below my league, but she caught me in a low point back then.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 03:47 PM
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Yea no physical stuff from either of us. No cops, reports or anything like that.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 02:28 AM
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Yea Ive never used physical violence on a woman, not even blocked their path. Working on my stoicism. I think that is her magic card and why she is acting cool as a cucumber throughout all this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 02:27 AM
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The attorneys office told me not to do anything with money. I would cut the direct deposits to that account and drain it, but that would apparently be really bad. She can bankroll child support on her lines of credit for quite a while so no looking forward to an arrest there anyway. Plus I suspect someone is funding her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 07:41 PM
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Well fixing her hygiene is a huge part of why she hates me, shes brings it up all the time. You really shouldnt try to change people at all Ive learned. She was gonna let her teeth rot out. Unbelievable all because she idolizes her sister and her sister is pure evil talking her into that. Oh yea and the sister ended up reversing course and working on her teeth. Her sister is truly evil, her husband is whipped and I mean he cant go pee without asking her. She once put a knife to him, took all his…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 07:35 PM
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She had me on the filing first thing. She filed Thursday of last week. I found out yesterday while shopping around for firms and when they said conflict of interest I just about died. So she has a week on me and I am having a hard time even getting that initial consultation. I have one setup for next Wednesday and one for tomorrow. Now the lady I talked to yesterday did say her case had not hit the network yet, but still I am already behind as she intended to blind side me. I cant just stop payi…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 07:26 PM
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The first two.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 05:59 PM
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This is a battle I didnt want, dont deserve and am terrified to engage in. Thanks for the support on this.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 05:56 PM
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Wow, thank you. I had no idea what a TRO is and had to look that up. Thats scary stuff. I also did not know I could file without an attorney. I guess she did whatever it takes to get that particular firm locked in, fill out an intake form or whatever they call it, and now shes their client. The lady I talked to at my selected firm said the filing was not yet on the network. She filed last Thursday, 3/9.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 07:14 AM
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Thank you. It all happened today so I am just venting. I did look back on it and realize its super long, but that was me cutting content haha.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 05:56 AM
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