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Hmm, I wonder who raised this bitchy little mama's boy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 08:54 PM
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I FOUND IT https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7FI2LY4dk-s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 08:14 PM
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Sometimes, when stretched too far or too much or too quickly etc (a birth gone wrong, essentially), the muscles themselves can tear and need repairing. This is a rare occurrence, but is very possible. Happened when I was born. Not saying that this sort of surgery should be normalized for people without that kind of damage, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 07:41 PM
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First: AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH NO NO NO NO NO NO NO RUN SIS WTF Now that this is out of the way, the hilarity: I'm actually chuckling to myself at how he's willing to spend weeks and weeks on this elaborate con to try and get her to sign something [forcing her to do the labor, again] instead of just like, practicing his forgery like a criminal with 1/8th of a brain? like holy shit the lengths some guys will go to, the extra time and effort they will waste, just to avoid actually perform…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:57 PM
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I read this and all I can think is "schrodinger's sluts" -- "why are women such whores? also why can neither me nor anyone I know can actually get sex from any of them?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:44 PM
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I wish I could find the video again, there was this one video I saw on youtube where they sorta catfished men who were chronic cat-callers (just having attractive women walk by them and waiting for it to happen) and then brought out their mothers, who then yelled at them. EDIT: I'm starting to think I am misremembering this and that they were actually fooled into catcalling their own mothers. SHIT WHERE IS THIS VIDEO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:23 PM
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SO MUCH THIS. And heaven help you if you point out one of his weird linguistic quirks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 06:21 PM
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Sometimes this stuff ruffles my feathers a little since my ex is still my dearfriend (we basically grew up together), I play video games and DnD ... but unfortunately I'm just realizing that having "nerdy" interests just makes me even more of a target for assbuckets because I (like most people) really want to spend time around people with interests that align with my own. ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:32 PM
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“I’m just being honest. cAn’T i hAvE a pRefErEnCe???” jesus fucking christ are you quoting someone I know?? fuuuuck For me, this always came after him negging me and if I was any kind of upset or called him out on it, it's "I'm just being honest. Are you asking me to LIE? Do you expect me to LIE TO YOU? I can't help what my PREFERENCES are, you can't judge people for what they find attractive!" ... First off, the fuck I can't. [real life example incoming] Second off, if you are talking to post-w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:57 PM
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I HAVE HEARD THAT SAME QUESTION. And have been interrogated about my habits in that way too, because apparently I use "way too much" toilet paper. Um. no. re: bidets, there's no way to get one in the place I'm currently living, so I have shamelessly just gotten a spray bottle with a stream instead of a wide spray (twist the nozzle) and keep it filled with water. I was embarrassed about it at first but I live in a very hot, humid environment and was like, how could anyone possibly complain about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:44 PM
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him: "don't try to blame me for the fact that we don't have much sex anymore, the last 3 times I tried, you rejected me!" me: "I'd want to have sex more often if you wanted to have it at times other than 3 or 4 in the morning when I have to get up at 6:30, or when I'm literally sick in bed" for real, I have digestive/gallbladder/whatever issues and for me throwing up is an unavoidable reality that (on a good week) happens every couple of days, and can get aggravated if I cough too much (asthma);…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:40 PM
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fuck, this one hit me hard, so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 05:32 PM
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I suspect that's the real reason why he wants to "surprise" his family; because depending on his fling, he won't have to actually commit to which day and which time of day he shows up. If no one has any expectations, no one can notice if something seems "off"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 04:25 PM
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Funny enough, (for physical pleasure reasons) I am actually into that kind of sex with the right person in the right situation, and I've noticed that it's actually a great vetting strategy to be enthusiastic about it. If a guy says he wants to do that or tries to drop a hint or pressure you, and you're like OH I THOUGHT YOU'D NEVER ASK, we can do this, and that, and oh it'll be so good! ---- 99.9% of the time they COMPLETELY lose interest, back off the subject, and don't ask for it anymore. Why?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 03:11 PM
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omg, this. I stupidly supported a shit-ass man while he was unemployed for four years because I suffer from severe depression and everyone was always telling me to just cut him a break, he's super depressed, you understand what that's like. Turns out he was cheating on me while I was at work and even spending my money on his whores. And the second he started working again, he started to treat me, once again, like he resented the fucking shit out of me because he works "harder" than me and what t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 03:01 PM
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Please do. You are cordially invited! hehe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:11 PM
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all of these are so true, let's also add: - having to hear about how good that ex looked naked even after being together 10 years - projecting all of the ex's shortcomings onto you, i.e. they struggled emotionally with (thing) so I obviously must struggle with the same thing, meanwhile he cannot be fucked to remember or care what \I** actually struggle with - messaging exes to tell them how much he misses (physical trait) that I do not possess and what a shame it is to be "stuck with" me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 07:10 PM
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I hope it catches on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 07:06 PM
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I call these men "soul diggers"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 07:03 PM
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100% truth, the sorts of shit men have admitted to me when they didn't realize that I was like, really listening is absolutely mindblowing. One of my favorites, "And if you have sex with someone through a layer of latex [a condom] it doesn't really count anyway. Did you even really have sex with them??" uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, yes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 09:45 PM
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I've thought about this, and about the madonna/whore dichotomy. About how the men who want to love us and the men who want to fuck us are never the same damn men, and how once they really start to care about us and appreciate us they can't fuck anymore. Why? Because fucking is what they do to useless, value-less whores, they can't do that with you, because to them having sex with a woman is not only inherently degrading to her, it's also only enjoyable because of the degradation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 09:31 PM
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Random thought - This reminds me of "Fight Like a Girl" by Emilie Autumn, a song about fighting back against the men who hurt you / the patriarchy / etc. There's one line in there where she sings, "Cause if we've got no honor, then we've got no shame!" and damn that stuck with me. If you think we're incapable of being honorable, if we are inherently dishonorable, then what the fuck do I have to be ashamed of? You'll feel the same about me regardless. Other great lines: "There is no such thing as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 09:16 PM
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I am the table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:53 PM
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In my case, I'd rather just be asked what I want. I'm one of those people who will get upset and frustrated if you waste money on something I don't like, double especially if you get upset/offended that I didn't like it. My bf tries to say to me (when buying me something I didnt want) "But it's supposed to be something you'd never spend the money on for yourself! THATS HOW YOU GIVE GIFTS!" Sorry man, if I wouldn't spend the money on it myself, it means I don't want it. If you don't already come …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:52 PM
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Once you are in a relationship: Refusing to change his "relationship status" or post/share anything that implies he isn't still single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:25 PM
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I've been everything from a US size 2 to a 22 in the last decade (and every stop along the way), and back and forth on the yo-yo rollercoaster too. And let me tell you, my resentment at a size 2 or 4 was palpable. I'd be out at the club my friends and I would go to as a group, and some frat bro who would never have given my goth kid "weird" (and size 16) self an iota of attention is fawning all over me and buying me drinks and asking me questions like "God, where did you come from? You actually …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 07:21 PM
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also "Huh. I've never heard of that." - he will then spend an hour convincing you that it's definitely a thing, when in fact you never doubted it, you just stated that this is the first you've heard of it. He'll argue with you as if you said, "That doesn't exist and it never has, you're stupid."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 07:04 PM
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"Call his stomach his tummy" CAN CONFIRM LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 07:03 PM
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to mirror my own personal experience: "OH my GOD, you attention whore! You don't care about the game, you literally only turned your microphone on to let EVERYONE HERE know that a BOY is in the game, because you want everyone to pay attention to you, BOY!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:50 PM
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And they squeal, "I'm ALLOWED to have PrEfErEnCeS!!!!" bruh, your preferences, kinks, and what you find personally comfortable or attractive do not exist in a vacuum, there is sooooo much cultural context that you cannot pretend you're immune to, and then declare that you came to the decision to support the status quo all on your own, individually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:53 PM
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yeah, I had one who did this so he could cheat on me while I was at work, mysteriously he never had any time to take off when I wanted to do something. Or any extra money for the all the "overtime" he was working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:27 PM
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I dont have anything to contribute to this but holy shit, this exactly. This describes my exact experience that I have been unable to really verbalize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:15 PM
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Fuck, I empathize with SO much of this. Thank you for putting it into words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 05:54 PM
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of all the weird kinks to have to tolerate, making out with my laundry but still doing my laundry is one I think I might be able to live with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 05:49 PM
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if only men were as disgusted by rape as they are by periods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 05:47 PM
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It ticks off LVM when I say it but, I'll say it again: there's already a word for men who are not into women's bodies. (see also the other traits that usually come along for the ride: requires women to be so thin and hairless that they resemble pre-pubescent boys, obsessed with anal, etc) Ten bucks says this guy is so deep in the closet he's actually in Narnia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 05:46 PM
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That's why I call him DJ Pillow Princess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 05:40 PM
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I've been wearing my mom's sterling ring (not an engagement ring, just one she loves a lot) for over 10 years, and she's had it since the 70s. Looks fine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:30 AM
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It doesn't matter much to me (what matters to me is effort, enthusiasm, willingness to give and take feedback, etc) but I always shy away from saying that around here because I'm afraid it will be misinterpreted as pickme-ing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:45 PM
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LOL I saw this and I was like "women who have sex with other women, and women who don't??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:29 PM
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agreed, I like less expensive gems like onyx and garnet and I tend to prefer sterling silver. You could literally get me something I'd love for under $200. And honestly Id be sorta pissed if he spent a shitload on a ring just because I feel like there are things I would prefer to be able to spend that money on, but that's just a personal thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:22 PM
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What always gets me is how hard they project their understanding of sexuality onto us. There are a number of us that cannot have orgasms from penetration and a few of us who don't even really care for it that much. Leave it to guys to assume that simulating PiV is the be-all, end-all for us. This is the fucking problem, Kyle. A huge number of us are sick to fucking death of sex that ignores our primary sex organ and roll our eyes SO HARD when you make even our masturbation about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:40 PM
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them not liking it is a huge part of the thrill for some of these guys. Just browse that section of a porn site and read the titles. It's terrifying and disgusting. I've also used it as a bit of a litmus test for guys -- if they indicate they want to do that, I act really interested and enthusiastic and say how much I LOVE THAT --- and they immediately lose interest. Apparently if it isn't some horrible, painful thing that they have convinced you to endure (as opposed to a mutually pleasurable e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:16 PM
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I legitimately want to barf right now. Like, IRL nausea reading this. omg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 03:59 PM
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We'd also cheat a lot more (and just have more casual sex) if having sex with relative strangers was anywhere near as rewarding for us. Most of us can't just use someone else's body to masturbate, we need effort and attention and general "giving a shit" to have orgasms with a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:27 PM
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yeah, I know what you mean!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 06:00 PM
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Yep. Watch those "workaholics" who never seem to have any money... a large proportion of them are literally out there living a double life behind your back. Learned the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:50 PM
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I mean other stuff too, like Know these 5 basic "girl skills" (for example, I have no idea how to blowdry my hair, so like, a link to a good video on that would be included); or how to keep your apartment clean (stuff you never think of cleaning or that needs cleaning, or that you might not know how to clean, links to content on that); how to maintain your own car at the most basic (links to how to pump your own gas, how to check your oil, etc) --- stuff that a lot of people don't even know that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:45 PM
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Personally I missed the Twilight boat. I was too old to be impressed with it and too young for the Twi-moms, plus sparkly vampires make my little goth heart feel an irrational anger. I’m looking forward to more! same, word for word! Right down to my little goth heart <3 sending spoopy high fives from the creep-o-sphere!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:27 PM
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Yes, and there are youtube videos and helpful websites about individual topics too. But what about the people who don't even know what they need to look for? Where to start? What to start learning? That's more what I'm talking about. Like a list of essential functions in several areas of life (general categories) that get more specific and links to known resources about them or articles written by some of us. Like, a list that we (or a group of people) agree are the areas in life that a person h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:27 PM
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So, to use a cringe "millennial-ism" --- Adulting. I feel like we need our handbook or the FDS website or some kind of side project on how to be an independent, functioning adult if for some reason your parents sucked, your childhood was bullshit, or for whatever reason you wound up at this (whichever) stage of your life without having all of those things. Because I think one of the reasons we get trapped in shit relationships and why we are endlessly let down by men, is because there's so littl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:22 PM
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I have tried to explain this to exes and guy friends, and they just don't seem to get it. This is why hookups and casual sex will never be "equal" even though a warm and willing woman can almost always find someone willing to pump n dump her. One even said to me in disbelief, "Well, it wont end like that [no orgasm] if you make them!" --- make them. MAKE THEM. The casual use of that lingo and the comfort in just suggesting it, not only the complete ignorance of how that couldn't possibly fucking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:18 PM
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this is so heartwarming. This is why I love GIVING gifts, why don't more guys get that feeling?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:15 PM
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Oh no, I have to pay bills in order to live in a place! What brave new world is this? P.S. I would really love to read the replies to the original post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:13 PM
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Agreed. I wont speak ill of him to my sister, who I love, because she loved him and is still hurt over his loss. But when she's not around my truth is mine to share.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:12 PM
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God the thing about the supermarket line is so true, or he just disappears without a word while you are walking down an aisle together and then lets you walk the entire building 5 times to find him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:08 PM
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Yeah, I've read it. What stopped him? He died at the beginning of last year. I was sad for my sister, who lost her dad, and sad for my mom who was grieving (but better off for losing a toxic POS), but I wanted to fucking tapdance on that sonofabitch's grave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:59 PM
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this is pretty mainstream these days, and pretty tame for what has become "normal" in non-niche porn :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:52 PM
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Or just randomly CRUSHING my fucking boobs in his hands no matter how many times I say to PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD NOT DO THAT (this, in place of / as random as a little grope or goose)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:47 PM
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solidarity with you on Lipedema. Me "pickme-ing" myself into half my original size several years back is how I found out that I have lipedema. My legs wouldn't change. And I almost died over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:44 PM
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That man definitely helped inform my caution about men as an adult, lemme tell ya
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:35 PM
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[to quote Archer] zey are, how you say? pushing rope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:58 PM
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*ding level up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:27 PM
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So, I'm non-neurotypical and am personally very bad at anticipating most needs or understanding a lot of expectations that are not clearly stated to me. I am upfront with friends and loved ones about this fact, and have developed a tendency to openly state my intentions, needs, and expectations and ask others to please do the same whenever possible. Some great friends of mine really appreciate this about me: they love that they can just directly ask me for whatever it is they need from me and kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:00 PM
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I would pay money for a video of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:22 PM
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appearance-related things I've been gaslit about: - not thin enough - boobs too small - boobs too big - ass too big - thighs too big - not blonde enough - not redheaded enough - not blue or green eyed - not PINK enough (yes, apparently I met his obsession with pale girls but because I have a neutral skintone and not a super rosy pink one, that still wasn't good enough) - not short enough - not tall enough - face and nose not "long" enough (what?) the point is, they will start picking you apart p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:13 PM
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My stepdad would come into my tiny bedroom when it was super cold outside (under, sometimes way under 20F / -6C) and turn the heat off (heat was controlled per room in that house) and then open up both my bedroom windows while I slept. I would wake up shivering and coughing and feeling like absolute shit and he would laugh like a hyena if I complained to my mother about it. He was a narcissistic, abusive douchebag. My mom couldn't get him to stop so she bought me a king sized down comforter for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:41 PM
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I just wish that "mom bod" or whatever equivalent was a thing, and that women were "allowed" to be proud of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:00 PM
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I like how she negged him like she probably gets negged all the time, and how it worked instantly, he tried instantly and desperately to impress her. haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:58 PM
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"I'm not yelling, you'll KNOW when I'm yelling!" (in a raised enough voice to qualify, to me, as yelling) see, any time you raise your voice even a little, you are too emotional, you are yelling at him, but if he yells at you, he lets you know that unless he is intentionally bellowing at the very top of his lungs, he is not yelling at you, and thus he has never yelled at you, but you yell all the time you crazy bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:52 PM
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I love the fact that he never even conceived of the fact that cuddles can come from kids, pets, and even occasionally good platonic friends. That being said, if it is what he thinks, .... lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:46 PM
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A great way to shut this down is to use exactly the same language on them that they did during your situation. (A better way is to get them out of your life but sometimes these things take time). I really enjoy flipping gendered language on them especially. Watch how mad they get when you call them the exact same (gendered) thing they've said to you. "Why are you being so bitchy?" "ReeoOWW, someone's catty this morning" "Are you on your period or something?" etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:45 PM
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That was a fascinating read, thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 07:19 PM
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I actually like this song better with the original vocalist (one of my favorite songs! - but really, I just dig his theatrical voice) but most of my favorite bands have women as the primary singers. Still, she is an absolute badass in this video 100%, absolutely KILLS IT! And looks so fuckin cool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:40 PM
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Just one example in which surrogacy is used a lot: I know in Judaism, the "bloodline" is traditionally matrilineal. That is, you are generally considered Jewish by birth if your mother was Jewish. As such, a lot of Jewish couples who cannot have children, either because of a genetic disorder or because the prospective mother physically cannot have kids, will often turn to other Jewish women for surrogacy. Some women who do this genuinely believe they are providing a service that is charitable / …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:25 PM
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*mic drop ​ seriously though, 100% agree and this was so well-stated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:32 PM
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I have to take BC as medication (PCOS) and I really wish I could go without. I get benefits from it, but I also get all the damn downsides.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:01 PM
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Oh, hey thanks for that! I have only looked into grad programs for my own field so I assumed it was required for most fields.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:52 PM
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yeah, that is only for extreeeeeeeme cases and with someone who knows I'm being ridiculous/silly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:03 PM
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Call it "addiction-phobia" from having AA/NA parents! I do that "I can quit whenever I want" thing, except whenever I want is right now, so ha I win!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:02 PM
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When I heard it, it was in reference to (non-sexual) violent impulses. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:58 PM
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Yeah, my binge drinking in my early 20s was definitely made worse by the fact that I knew I'd never have to pay for it the next day. This is part of why I mostly stopped drinking actually, it frightened me that I could see that slippery slope ahead of me. So instead of slippery slope, I said NOPE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:32 PM
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Having had that surgery, I can also say that it is no fucking joke. You come out with stitches above your skin from hipbone to hipbone, and stitches under your skin from the bottom of your ribs to your pubic mound (to repair your abdominal muscles). I won't give graphic descriptions of how brutal the procedure actually is, but holy shit. It's an insult to act like a procedure like this surgery is an easy solution (or "the easy way out" for that matter).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:29 PM
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"I've been with my gf of 4 years whom I love. But it almost feels like a chore"\ also, he's 17 and they have been together since he was 13 (4 years) --- how the fuck old is his gf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:18 PM
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Why in the actual fuck is nobody who is interested in the stuff that I am (nerdy stuff, queer stuff, goth kid stuff) comfortable with monogamous relationships anymore? LITERALLY NO ONE! And any time I bring this up, some poly people chime in to let me know that I need to stop whining because they are oppressed for not being the norm and that I actually have an advantage because what I want is "acceptable." Really? Because the only people I meet who still do "traditional" relationships are people…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:02 PM
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Speaking of cooking, you reminded me of one that came up a lot when I put a lot of effort into cooking: no guys who will never actually thank you or give you positive feedback without you having to signal, ask, or beg for it. Example: I fucking spent 3 hours making this labor-intensive dish that I love from my childhood for you, that my mom taught me to make and I was all excited to enjoy with you, and you eat it in absolute silence and when I finally say "...so? How do you like it?" the most I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:55 PM
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I like (well-kept, intentional) long hair too. The bun doesn't bother me if there's a good reason like, he's working out or something. But I don't really like it as an all the time/everyday style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:50 PM
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Also, don't trust anyone who does use social media like Facebook every single day but won't like ANYTHING you post, and when you change your status to "in a relationship", no matter how long you are together, he never does. This means he wants to continue to appear single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:41 PM
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oh man, gotta add mine then no one who gives me shit about the way I eat, because what's on my plate has no effect on their life. Especially if they eat gross, weird, or childish things but those things are okay because that's what they like. I'm a picky eater and people have always been absolutely relentless about it to me, even though I have spent the last nearly 2 decades of my life getting myself to the point where usually, other people wouldn't even notice it unless they were the kind of pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:37 PM
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This is me, except I have ~depression~ and ~anxiety~ that have culminated nicely into a bit of the old agorapobia. And I'm as extroverted as they come! I miss humans, but I hate it when they look at me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:32 PM
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So, interestingly, I learned about this pretty recently, but the misunderstanding/miscommunication about America vs the USA is because in the USA we are taught that there are 7 continents (And that North America and South America are separate continents) and we don't generally ever get exposed to anyone referring to both North and South America as simply "America." We don't ever talk about South America without specifying that it's South America, and only occasionally does someone refer to both …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:28 PM
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*while I agree with this, I just wanted to mention that I drink only a few times a year at this point, and even though when I was 10ish years younger I got blackout drunk a lot, I've never been hungover. This isn't a flex, my parents are both alcoholics and I'm pretty sure I've just got the "can survive booze" gene. So I just wanted to put it out there for anyone reading that "no hangovers" doesn't necessarily mean something awful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:51 PM
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can confirm. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:44 PM
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"And the most annoying part is that things just work out." what. the. actual. fuck? ​ PS: "she applied and got a full grant for grad school for studying creative writing" ---- do you know how hard it is to even apply to grad school? How hard and grueling the GRE exam is? and she was accepted for creative writing which means a skill and passion that she spent her entire life developing is what they accepted her for, not even just good grades and good test scores like most programs. Not just becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:26 PM
5

> FWB > "exclusively" pick one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:49 PM
12

🚨 He never apologizes because he doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong. Yet you will say sorry. “I said you were acting like a bitch, I didn’t call you one.” OMG. EVERY FUCKING TIME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:40 AM
4

He buys you nice but very weird random things. oh my god, yes! And then they get to punish you for months for not LOVING the complete waste of money that you never asked for, and will never use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:39 AM
9

Oh, also, invalidating your identity with gatekeeping. You're not a real [thing you self-identify as] because you don't do [thing]. Random examples: you're not a real artist because you don't paint, you just doodle you're not a real punk rocker because you don't wear tartan pants (this one is extra gross) you're not a real kinkster / sexual being / whatever because you don't do [degrading or disgusting sex act that you don't like]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:38 AM
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Bashing or belittling things you care about in order to discourage you out of your own hobbies and interests. (you only exist to be who they want you to be, and spend your time on what they thing you should be doing) Underhanded compliments that are more subtle than outright negging that stoke your insecurities, i.e. "I am normally not into brunettes, but I am really into you" [with the plausible deniability of being able to claim, no, I wasn't saying I am not attracted to your look! I was sayin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:29 AM
1

The underboob rash is yeast, which sounds gross but is a part of everyone's normal skin flora. In hot, wet, dark environments (like, under boobs or other skin folds) it grows out of control and irritates the shit out of your skin. My dermatologist gave me the Zeasorb miconazole powder (which you can get OTC, "Zeasorb AF" which means antifungal but I call it the "as fuck" powder, lol) and a prescription antifungal cream for when it's really stubborn. **This is also why people with extra skin afte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:00 PM
1

I know you didn't ask me, but I've tried the deodorant under the boobs thing and it's an epic fail for me personally. It just clogs my pores there and causes a terrible breakout and skin irritation. So on days when I know I'll be sweating, I use absorbent antifungal powder (like Zeasorb with miconazole; don't use straight cornstarch because that will feed yeasts) and on days when I know it'll be REALLY bad?? My amazing trick is that I put pantiliners inside my bra cups. When they get wet/sweaty,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 06:26 PM
14

forgot "women wont date nice guys like me because THEY ARE FUCKING BITCHES!" and "FRIENDZONE IS REAL!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 04:30 AM
8

SMUG. That's 100% right. I see my cat with its eyes closed just blissed out and doing the "I love you" face and he's like "god, look at that smug son of a bitch." I'll be like "...what is smug about him looking happy?" and he'll say "he just looks so damn self-satisfied, you know? Like, look how good I have it." Is this literally how they perceive any kind of happiness or contentment? Is this why LVM/NVM can't stand when women (or cats) are at fucking peace?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 02:01 AM
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"Not a cat person" okay, I can respect that. "I fucking HATE cats!" = biggest red flag on planet Earth. Literally impossible for me to conceive of you being a decent human being at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:58 AM
12

This is one of the lessons I am in the process of learning -- why would you wait for someone else to pick you, when you can pick yourself RIGHT. NOW?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:45 PM
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"after the exam, I'm done with you." good, get the fuck out now, *rips up homework*, do your own work, and learn your own fucking shit. Also, if he was college-age and this is the first time someone's ever made him feel stupid? can you imagine the ego? we are made to feel stupid constantly growing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:42 PM
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"rarely gets said" lmfao. no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:37 PM
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UGH, I empathize so hard. My kitties are some of the primary things hindering my present exit strategy, and part of me believes he encouraged me to get more / participated in my passion of rescuing the hopeless just to keep me even more immobilized/trapped. [And before anyone who doesn't "get it" comments, they are my family, and they are non-negotiable.]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:31 PM
13

This is where I'm stuck right now, and desperately trying to find my way. <3 Stay strong, my sisters stuck "making the best of it" in a trash situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:31 PM
67

"Body shaming!!!" they yowl, all the while picking apart the size, shape, color, proportion, etc of literally every single part of a woman's body and fetishizing specific ones or combinations, and making fun of/laughing at women who look a certain way, often publicly. When we complain about being chopped to pieces and objectified, "It's just a preference!! You can't control that!! It's not fair to shame people for their PREFERENCES!!" *eyeroll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:43 PM
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90% of cats don't need to be bathed by anybody other than themselves, so if the kitty stank, there may have been something going on below the surface (like a skin infection, or a fungal thing in his paws/nails) -- poor baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:58 PM
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The only thing "low maintenance" about a cat is the fact that if you leave out extra food and water and a spare clean litter box, you can go away for a night or two without needing to come home the way you would with a dog. This shouldn't be done all the time, but I appreciate the freedom to have the option, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:57 PM
1

They make really large (as in, wide) lint rollers and some of them are on long poles so that you can sorta lint roll furniture and drapes in between vacuumings. I find this helps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:55 PM
7

Outdoor and indoor/outdoor cats have half (or less) the lifespan of indoor cats, and even without their impact on the local ecosystems, imo it's cruel to just let them wander around outside. If you don't have enough space inside for a cat, you don't have enough space for a cat at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:54 PM
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I have this "bad habit" of rescuing kitties that will die unless I intervene, so as of this month I am up to 5. I didn't want any more than 3, but here we are. I find that this alone does a lot of vetting for me, especially because I actually give a shit about them, so I take them to the vet, take care of them, etc. I've seen people horrified that I'd "spend so much on a cat" (i.e. pay a vet bill instead of just having them put down or letting them die) and honestly, those kinds of people horrif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:52 PM
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I have EDS, and I am fortunate enough that even though it affects me in a lot of very serious ways, I am not yet unable to work at least a desk job. My greatest fear is becoming that way. What a fucking prince. Lurkers, this is what love looks like. We don't want to be treated like shit, we want people that actually love us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:48 PM
1

A close male friend of mine had a chat about this the other day - just the concept of sexual attraction vs aesthetic or romantic attraction etc (we talk about random shit like this because we both studied psych) and he was trying to explain what being sexually attracted to someone means to him, and without even realizing it he literally said almost that exact thing - "Sexual attraction is like, that person is really attractive looking to me and I want to use them to get off, you know?" and I jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:50 PM
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Do you believe you have a right to sex and service from a woman? Do you believe the only real valuable traits a woman can have are related to her physical attractiveness and ability to be your Mommy McBangMaid? Do you pressure your partner into doing sex acts that degrade her, hurt her physically, and that only turn you on because she doesn't want to do it? Do you think that you are the only one in your relationship capable of having any sexual needs, and a full spectrum of human emotion? Then w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:20 PM
1

"women love cheaters" more like: women who are attracted to men find themselves in a position of loving men, who happen to almost all be fucking cheaters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:25 PM
60

a form of "stealthing" I've experienced: getting tested together for STIs early in the relationship, agreeing to go on BC since we are both clean and he wants to go condom-free, then finding out years later he has been sticking his dick (bare) into gay boys and trans womens' butts behind your back (and then sometimes back into you). It was more than just cheating, it was a violation of consent. It was fucking rapey. Why? Because I agreed to sex under certain specific terms, and you violated thos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:09 PM
20

I watched the whole lecture (some of it I heard yesterday in other lectures I watched inspired by reading this sub) and let me tell you. So many things that I had held in my mind with dissonance (for example: well I like [sex act/specific kink], and I'm "sex-positive" and body-positive, and I think masturbation is generally healthy, therefore I have to be okay with porn, even though I stopped even glancing at it years ago because the level of violence and degradation that has become ABSOLUTELY N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:17 PM
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