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1

Ah, so if you have no friends, might as well forget about it then.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:50 PM
3

Sex BEFORE dating? Never really understood how that works. How do you even arrange something like that, especially when it comes to OLD?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:11 PM
1

I’ve never been on a date, let alone have sex, so perhaps I’m not the best person to give out an answer. I’m going to anyway. My answer is that there is no true set amount. It’s definitely more than 1 and most likely more than 2. But ultimately, I would say it comes down to how quickly a bond is formed between us and when BOTH OF US feel ready to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 02:09 PM
1

Unfortunately true. It sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:15 PM
1

Depends on how much of an introvert/extrovert. If on the extreme side, I doubt it work. However, if they steer more towards being an ambivert, I’d like to think there are options available.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 06:23 PM
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Hmmm… I’d have to figure out how to use Mister in a phone call, but I’ll give it a shot if I can and see what happens. As for the whole 2/3 age, I think they were trying to apply it more towards severely developmentally disabled autistics, especially since many us can fall behind other children when it comes to things like speech and motor skills. But I agree though, those people are cactuses lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:43 PM
4

I’m still wondering if I ever actually got past puberty. Partly because I’m autistic (some people believe autistic people are really 2/3 of what your age is; just turned 31 today, so that would make me 20-21?) But mostly because I have such a high-pitched voice that people call me ma’am on the phone, even after I just said my name (a clearly masculine name) not even 10 seconds ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:29 PM
4

I’ve never ever gotten one of those “hints,” but I would say it doesn’t count as a rejection. You can’t be subtle. Be direct. Only then if a guy says no does it count as a rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:57 PM
3

I’d rather not have such questionable search history.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:05 PM
8

What if you’re NOT average though? Also, do a lot of fellow guys actually cum in socks? Is that really a thing or was that just a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 02:59 PM
1

Far more people can afford to live on their own? With the way everything is priced today, are you sure about that? Maybe if you have a half-decent job and live in the Deep South.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 12:40 PM
4

Nah, I don’t cold approach at all. Too socially anxious and awkward, and I don’t like to make anyone feel uncomfortable. Not that OLD is any better…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:21 PM
2

Agreed. I just wish there was a way to normalize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:20 PM
2

So where the heck should an uber-introverted, ultra-anxious guy go then?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:03 PM
7

1% is still better than none!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:02 PM
15

And if you have no friends…?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 05:01 PM
5

It’s Reddit, what do you expect?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 04:58 PM
3

You know what would be nice? Women doing the cold approaching instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 04:55 PM
3

Yeah, when it comes to dating and especially sex, many of us autistic people need a lot of these three things: Love (of course), patience and reassurance. Unfortunately, those are hard to come by, hence why many of us are single and may have always been single. And if one of us manages to marry/take to prom/etc. a so-called “8-10,” it turns into a whole story on the news, because that shit almost never happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:51 PM
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Guy might have been autistic, hence not only the awkwardness both in and outside the bedroom but the total avoidance after having sex. He probably knew that it felt cringe to you and as a result, he felt like total shit. And now he’s lost both a partner and a friend. As someone who is autistic, I feel bad for the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:53 PM
5

So did you leave him because he was awkward at sex or because of something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:23 PM
6

No. Go get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:19 PM
4

They’ll find out when you’re about to lose it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:53 AM
8

Beating you by 3 years
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:52 AM
13

Or autistic. Like me. About to turn 31 and KHHV.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:51 AM
3

I wish more people were like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 01:49 AM
12

It’s neither endearing or Weinstein-ish. It’s just weird and gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:28 PM
2

The self-fulfilling prophecy part doesn’t even have to be part of the formula. Just the mental illness alone is a roadblock for them to date. For many, a roadblock that cannot be passed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:42 PM
1

That may be, and yet, not enough is done to help those with mental health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:37 PM
5

Can confirm. Am also autistic, plus had a personal aide in school and have a large history of being bullied.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:34 PM
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I haven’t IRL since the pandemic started, but I have in the past to no avail. Trying OLD but no matches so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:37 PM
1

So very true, unfortunately. I hope your friend does manage to find someone nice, even if he has little to no luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:32 AM
0

THIS. Also, if possible, if we happen to know each other, please provide reasoning as to why.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:28 AM
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I’m about to turn 31 and never have been on a date. I still wouldn’t do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:22 AM
1

Button ups can be a toss-up for me. Some are fine, while others, like suits, again can make me fidgety.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:27 PM
1

So a polo shirt, dress slacks and a pair of laceless Clarks shoes aren’t going to cut it? Because honestly, other than swapping the slacks for shorts or polos for sweaters (when it’s cold), those are the only things I’m comfortable with wearing. I hate wearing jeans and denim in general. Same with hooded sweatshirts. And suits and ties get me very fidgety.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:44 PM
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Didn’t know who that was, so I had to check first. When you say natural, are you talking about her breasts? They didn’t seem out of proportion. Ass-wise? Maybe slightly big but it’s nothing ridiculous or disproportionate. To be fair, I’m not much of an ass person to begin with. If I can talk superficially for a moment, I think the face/head is the most important part, then the torso and then the ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 08:12 PM
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Don’t think caricature may be the right word you’re trying to use, at least by dictionary definitions. Unless you actually meant Kim was trying to exaggerate in a comic/grotesque manner…?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 06:51 PM
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I also hate the big “Kardashian” butt. I never understood why people find it sexy or attractive, I just find it nasty. To a lesser extent, I think there is such a thing as breasts that are too big, especially if they’re not natural. I can understand wanting breast surgery if a woman’s are completely flat. But when it looks out of proportion to the rest of the body, it just doesn’t seem right. I also think there’s such as thing as being overly thin. If you lift up your shirt and you can start see…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 02:24 PM
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THIS. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 01:11 PM
1

I don’t think the affordable housing portion is necessarily sociopathic. If you bought a house at a certain amount but then affordable housing came in and brought the value of your house down a sizable amount, wouldn’t you be pissed too?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 07:41 PM
1

Because plenty of women have options now when it comes to dating/marrying men, their “value” is worth more. Whereas a number of men either have less options or perhaps none at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 04:14 PM
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Yeah, they jack up the prices because all of the executives and top guys at big companies care solely about is profit. They don’t care about the consumers or their own employees so long as their own pockets are filled.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 04:10 PM
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Actually, as a man, I tend to see more shitty men than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 04:06 PM
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It also doesn’t help that many of these companies will pay you the bare minimum but want you to have 5-7+ years experience for an entry-level position. I suppose dating is somewhat similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 03:00 PM
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Exactly. Provide higher wages and more job benefits. And accommodations for those with mental health issues like autism (HIRE THEM!)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 02:57 PM
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True, but moreso women than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 02:55 PM
6

One. Just ONE successful venture alone can make such a positively huge difference in a man’s self-confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 02:51 PM
5

It’s not even the bad social skills. If I’m going to a grocery store, I’m just focusing on getting groceries and getting the hell out. I’m not wasting time going through aisles or “checking out” women (most are 40s and above anyway, my town is not a 20s/30s unless you have kids (moved here for the AWARD-WINNING EDUCATION)). Get the stuff on the list then get to the cashier as fast as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 02:49 PM
1

I’m curious. You say slightly masculinized preferences, can you be more specific?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 08:21 PM
2

Not everyone can go about lifting weights.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 05:51 PM
3

We’ll keep slipping below the replacement rate, but then we just take in more immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 05:47 PM
3

Yeah, I would date a bisexual woman. I have no issues with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:27 AM
2

I think it can come from other people, especially if you yourself are limited in your abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 04:23 AM
1

I personally don’t. But then again, I feel the same for a lot of women on these reality shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 04:20 AM
1

As a guy, I consider myself to be ok looking. Everything else though? Ehhhhhhhh…..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 04:14 AM
2

Therapy doesn’t always work. It can be a scam for some.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:45 PM
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It’s true. Genuine intimacy can do wonders towards a man. But you can’t get that with friends or family (I mean, you could, but I wouldn’t recommend it 🤣).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:36 PM
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It happens, especially in clubs, and more particularly, college-centered clubs. Lots of genital fondling going on. And every now and then, you find one of those couples fucking on the urinal. Not in the stalls, the URINALS.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:37 PM
1

Loneliness isn’t great either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:31 PM
2

Should herpes cards/registries be a thing though?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:28 PM
1

Except if you’re a pathetic guy, you have few options, if any.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:26 PM
3

Of course they’d lust after the Hollywood actors. They’re rich and famous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:28 PM
9

Have to land a date first though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:25 PM
1

For some, yes. But not for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 03:05 PM
5

A weak man also has to keep sacrificing and being a doormat because he has little option, if any.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:57 PM
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90% true. Reliable friendship could possibly be enough, but there still might be that lack of intimacy (and I don’t mean sex) missing that prevents a person from truly being happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:42 PM
1

I’d say that’s way too much, but I think anything more than 2 per year is too far.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 09:07 PM
2

How do you even compare abusive parents to the amount of sex you get?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:02 PM
1

Generic gifts > Work/Effort
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:01 PM
3

I agree except for the sex being a need. A desire, yes. But I think a happy life can be achieved with little to no sex. Especially if you’re asexual or something similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:44 PM
1

Never. You might as well ask if people will stop purchasing large HD televisions and go back to watching in black-and-white on 17” or less and without remotes. If anything, it’s going to increase as time moves on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:41 PM
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Open to it of course, though have yet to find one on OLD. Or at least, one that freely admits it. Though just because she may also have Asperger’s does not make her immediately compatible. We might not mesh despite sharing a mental health condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:11 PM
1

30 women?! How old are you exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:00 PM
3

I wish dating was the only problem, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:29 PM
2

Can’t say that I am, no. And it’s not like I haven’t tried to improve, it just… hasn’t worked out unfortunately. I’d say more, but I don’t want to be temp banned again.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:55 PM
2

Nah, I don’t enjoy any live-action programming. Sports has been waning for a variety of reasons (unnecessary rule changes, politics, etc.) Gaming has been waning too (unfinished games, content locked away in DLC, microtransactions, exploitative multiplayer, etc.) When I come home from working 8-5, it’s essentially eat, take care of some things around the house, watch some storytime animator videos on YouTube and sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:47 PM
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I feel like I’m just digging myself into more of a pit, as I lack interests/hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:43 PM
1

What the hell college was this? Arizona State? Also, the way and amount of hookups you have had sounds very gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:29 PM
9

Guess I’m screwed then? Because as someone with Asperger’s, I feel the complete opposite. I enjoy routine, and new stimulations and changes are often NOT endearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:19 PM
3

It’s not that more people will become gay. It’s that more people will freely admit that they are/not suppress it. Which is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:09 AM
3

I’m 5’7, 167 lbs and making 50k. Can’t tell if that makes me better, worse or right around average. At least in terms of those stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:07 AM
1

MORE dating options? I don’t think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:05 AM
2

Lucky you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:03 AM
1

So I’m one of the less than 5% then. Great…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:01 AM
5

I’d say that depends on the woman in question. Not finding someone that meshes with what they’re looking for? Maybe their standards are too high?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:37 PM
4

It may not be sunshine and rainbows, but they do have options. They have the option to vet individuals that do not fit their criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 05:30 PM
4

It’s not that they’ve won. It’s that they want more.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:37 PM
0

Nope. If I’m having sex with a woman, it’s with a woman who genuinely loves and cares about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:32 PM
1

THIS
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:31 PM
1

I’d say most men rate themselves properly, at least in terms of looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:23 PM
1

It’s too bad that karma doesn’t exist. It really should.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 03:05 PM
3

Yes, I am male.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 03:23 PM
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I never said that everyone is lying. But there might be a few that are, because they might feel embarrassed if they were to be honest. Thus, it would skew the percentage. How much of a skew, I’m not sure. As for the mental health status, while it may be personal, I think you’d nonetheless see a discrepancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:37 PM
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How many of that 60% is telling the honest truth though? Also, the survey separates demographics such as race, age, orientation, etc.? What about mental health status?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:27 PM
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I know that the flair says “question for women,” but I just wanted to throw my personal two cents in as a dateless virgin male. I am not into the idea of hookup culture or one-night stands. I find the whole “pump-and-dump” idea to be pretty gross, actually. And while I am currently open to the idea of FWB (I prefer having a relationship though), that doesn’t mean I’m willing to have sex with every woman that I make friends with. It would still have to be with someone who genuinely cares a great …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:52 PM
0

San Francisco? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:59 PM
0

Yes, fully hard. I have no issues with getting one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:27 PM
1

Oh, I’m already burned out. Too late for that. I have been since college and that was 9 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:10 AM
1

Well when I mentioned steakhouse, I’m talking Outback or Applebee’s. Franchises. Nothing really past $25-30. Only once did I go to an expensive steakhouse and that was for my mother’s retirement; she got a card from her company that gave her a $500 dining limit but it can only be used once and had to be used within 6 months of her retirement. So my parents and I each got $85 steaks and several red and white wines that now just sit in our basement.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:08 AM
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Unfortunately, I don’t really have any ideas as to what would be a “nice time.” There’s really nothing that I really enjoy, I’d rather no waste money and save up (hoping to one day own my home and not live with parents but thanks to the housing market, who knows when or even if it ever happens) and I spend what free time I have either doing what few chores I am able to do around the house or resting for the next day/beginning of the work week. I’m just a very boring person. And at 30, I don’t se…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:01 AM
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Stingy with money. I’m sure the commenter would want a BF who is willing to spend money on food or fun activities, preferably with SO. Which I am unwilling to do; food, because I’m picky; activities, because I either lack the motor skills to do them or they are being done in a manner that’s odd and can be embarrassing in a public setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:55 AM
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Peruvian beef hearts, that’s a new one. I don’t blame anyone for being a foodie. I enjoy the foods that I do eat, it’s just the variety isn’t much. If we were friends, you probably wouldn’t be able to take to many places though. Unless you’re cool with a steakhouse franchise and me getting a full rack of baby back ribs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:17 AM
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Well, if I’m getting erections, it can only be while I’m sleeping. Because I’m certainly not waking up with one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:14 AM
1

You mean about the motor skills? Let’s say you like hiking. Well, not only am I physically slow, but I walk with my feet outwards and on my tiptoes. It’s an odd walk and if we were to hike among others, I’d stick out a sore thumb and not in a good way. How about bowling? You probably bowl like 99% of people do, classic underhand in the middle of the lane, and the ball rolls. But when I try to do the same thing, my wrist always jerks to the left upon release, resulting in an instant gutter ball. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:12 AM
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Well, I can and do get erections. Just not in my sleep. Again, the lack of any sex dreams probably doesn’t help.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:00 AM
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I lack interests and my motor skills don’t really allow me to enjoy a lot of activities, especially not in a “normal” sense. I am also very picky when it comes to food and drink. Not a ton of places you could take me with because the taste of so many things I don’t like will either cause me to immediately spit or vomit out. It’s 50/50. Like going to bars and coffee shops? Sorry, I don’t drink alcohol or coffee; I only drink 2% milk (and only from a couple of specific grocery stores because other…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:56 AM
3

ALL OF THIS
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:31 AM
2

Actually, I’ve never woken up with a boner. Never had sex dreams either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:29 AM
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Sorry, too stingy. Actually, even if I wasn’t stingy, it wouldn’t help.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:26 AM
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You seem like a nice woman and your preferred traits actually seem reasonable. I just wouldn’t be the guy for you though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:23 AM
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Ah, I see. I apologize then. I’m just a very serious person and I don’t have much of a sense of humor. A lot of jokes and sarcasm also fly over my head unless it’s reeeeeeeeeealy unsubtle. Like Talladega Nights unsubtle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:48 PM
1

Nope to number 1. Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:37 PM
3

I’m 30 and autistic. I’d say I’m past “late bloomer.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:36 PM
1

How the hell does that make me a simp? To prefer the desire of a warm, loving embrace of someone who genuinely cares about me makes me a simp?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:35 PM
3

I prefer hugs and cuddles, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:31 PM
3

Agreed on the first part. But even natural big asses I don’t find very appealing either. Overrated from my perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:27 PM
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As a white man, I will never understand the appeal of a huge ass. It’s not sexy at all, especially if it looks disproportionate to the rest of the body.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:21 PM
1

Nah, go the Bumble route and make the women message first.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:20 PM
1

Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:16 PM
3

It’s easy not to give a fuck after one or two rejections. When rejections are constantly happening, it’s an entirely different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:16 PM
1

I need more context than just looks. How is the 9/10 girlfriend as a person? How is each girl is the harem as people? Personally, I’d just feel lucky to have one “average” woman be genuinely interested in me, let alone a whole goddang harem. Pretty sure my autistic mind would melt if a harem of women were interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:14 PM
1

As long as they’re not completely flat (and I mean 100% flat), it’s all good. Though I think there’s such a thing as too much titty. I don’t care about ass size.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:09 PM
2

Sorry, but I’m monogamous. You do your own thing though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:53 PM
2

8 At least I have parents who love me and my current job is… ehhhhhh, ok I suppose. But I’m autistic, my motor skills are not good, I’ve never had any friends and never been on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:52 PM
3

Looks, money, power. If you have all three, you might as well just be god.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:44 PM
1

My issue isn’t looks. I’m average. My issue is… well, just about everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:43 PM
0

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:56 PM
0

But surgery makes it possible to look beautiful, or at the very least, less ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 09:55 PM
0

I’m 30 and I’m not going after any teenagers. My age range is 27-32.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:41 PM
0

Physical preferences is fine, but only for things that people can change/control. Weight can be changed, hair color or style can be changed, clothing style can be changed. Height cannot be changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:35 PM
1

Well, I have a car and I paid it off. And I do have good credit. So I’m good there. My own place though? Yeah, don’t have that. Everything around me is way too expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:26 PM
1

The world is not your oyster in your 30s. If you struggled in your 20s, the same shit is going to keep happening. Nothing really changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:21 PM
-1

Still a gigantic asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:20 PM
0

How about height just not be a dealbreaker?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:17 PM
3

Height shouldn’t be a dealbreaker. It’s not something anyone can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:16 PM
1

Yes. It’s even worse as I’m autistic and have dyspraxia. So I’m triple-screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:15 PM
1

That’s a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:10 PM
4

Fuck demographic goals. Just hire who can meet/exceed the job expectations. If its a cis straight white dude, great. If it’s a half Hispanic/half black trans woman lesbian who practices Buddhism, that’s great too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:45 AM
2

Why can’t an incel have a regular pillow though?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:23 AM
2

So why not just a regular pillow?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:20 AM
2

Why does number one have to be a 4chan user with waifu pillows?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:16 AM
3

Already got the vax in April. Also not working remotely, haven’t at all this entire pandemic, wouldn’t be able to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:05 AM
4

So if being autistic and lacking motor skills wasn’t bad enough, being a straight white man will continue to stack the deck for me as time goes on. Might as well just hold onto my current job then since there’s no hope for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:48 AM
8

I hope that’s honestly not real.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:42 AM
7

Well if it’s the first one, I doubt he’d be a stalker in the first place. If it’s the second, would he still be a ball of rage held together by OnlyFans subscriptions if he had a loving, caring wife by his side?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:40 AM
1

Meh, not really. It’s not even the muscles.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:37 AM
1

He can’t stalk you if you marry him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:35 AM
3

Sounds good to me!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:34 AM
3

Because the hatred for white men has overflowed so much, it’s now spilled to other races. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 08:04 PM
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Well, she’s gotten me 30-day banned (though one appealed to 7 days) from making comments twice. So… yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 07:19 PM
3

Did he enjoy life before OD’ing? Did he enjoy all the sex he had? Die very young, poor but happy or live for 80-100 years but in mediocrity and with no one in life to share it with?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 04:51 PM
3

But if he’s getting women/laid, is he really THAT much of a loser? Or is the loser the guy with “meh” looks, who has a safe, stable job, a decent amount of money and his own place but is unable to make friends or have a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 04:47 PM
8

And yet, still better than being “husband material.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 04:39 PM
0

I’d say 23-25 is the peak, but you fall off a cliff after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 04:37 PM
1

I’m a Roman Catholic and the priests in my church have had sex and been married. It’s when you go higher up like the bishops, that they haven’t had sex (as far as we know anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 02:13 PM
1

The thing is a lot of guys actually like the virgin/lack of experience, especially if they are too, because they are less likely to feel concerned if the sex is awkward (which it might be as both of them have little/no experience). Personally, as a 30m virgin who’s never dated, I could care less about the amount of experience my potential partner has. As long as she genuinely loved me, wasn’t concerned about my inexperience and was free of STD’s, that’s what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 02:06 PM
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Wait, I thought a stork just comes into your bedroom and delivers you a baby? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 01:55 PM
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So does Jerry Lawler, but he never ruled Germany. Though he did try to run for mayor of Memphis…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 01:51 PM
1

I’m a guy and I definitely wouldn’t have sex on the first date. Nor on the second. Beyond that? I’m not sure. Depends on how much of a bond we would develop and if BOTH OF US feel ready. Maybe it’s date 3, maybe it’s after six months, maybe it’s after a year. I don’t really know. As long as how we feel about each other is genuine and not because we’re both just very horny, that’s all that matters. Granted, I’ve never been on a date, so you can take my perspective with a grain of salt. Or many gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 01:47 PM
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As someone who went to a college at the time was 2/3 women, I can confirm this. Did not have sex in college myself (still a virgin), but sex, including orgies, was commonplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 01:01 PM
2

Sounds like? He definitely was crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 12:57 PM
1

As a guy, I never understood how this is thrill, though it’s likely because I’m a pushover and the type of person who tries to avoid conflict if possible. Don’t understand dick pics, flashing or catcalling, even for the sake of getting a reaction. To me, it’s both disgusting and dumb. Lol at the guy falling over the railing. Karma for him? Maybe he’ll think otherwise now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 12:54 PM
1

Unfortunately, autism is such a wide spectrum. The issues and severity of said issues can differ so much from one another. Social skills, motor skills, sensitivities to light, sound, or touch of certain textures, etc. Just because two people are diagnosed with autism does not mean they are compatible nor are they necessarily capable of being able to care for, or even fully understand, one another. All I’m saying is people shouldn’t be dicks to autistic people. Many of them have enough issues, fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:24 PM
1

I don’t know how’d you be able to do that in my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 01:34 PM
1

I’d say personally I am extremely stunted. In emotional maturity? Debatable. Life experiences though? Oh, absolutely. And I don’t mean by media expectations, because I don’t watch a lot of live-action garbage (or anime for that matter).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 01:33 PM
2

Let’s stop socially rejecting the autistic men then.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:56 PM
1

So… Missionary, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, 69?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:52 PM
1

No, never with family. My 3 first roommates freshman year in college tried to see if they could disturb me with 2 girls 1 cup, a week after I saw them have an 8-person orgy behind the couch. Sorry, but after seeing, freaking out and running away from your big cuddle puddle, that shit (figuratively and literally) is not going to faze me. I moved out to a different dorm room the following semester. They were alright guys, but I couldn’t stand the alcohol, weed and sex 4-5 times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:46 PM
2

What lovers? Or friends, actually?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:20 PM
8

Who discusses porn with their friends? I’m not even anti-porn, I just find that odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:13 PM
2

Depends on the age, I think. In college, my first roommates freshman year would have casual sex 4-5 times a week. I moved out to another dorm room the following semester.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 05:07 PM
1

I want a woman to reach out to me and show genuine interest because for me, the superiority ladder does not exist. This does necessarily mean that I would reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 05:02 PM
1

Or they could just be oblivious to your advances, especially if they aren’t direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:59 PM
0

Could have just been choosing assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:54 PM
2

Well as someone who’s never been on a date, yes I would be picky. While I would definitely be flattered by a woman approaching me, I still feel there needs to be some kind of bond, romantic or otherwise, before having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:49 PM
3

Everything in that article just disturbs me. Also, I would have answered A, unless I actually knew the person and we had a genuine bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:45 PM
2

I’m with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:42 PM
1

I would, if I feel no compatibility. That said, I certainly would at least feel very flattered if a woman were to approach me because they were genuinely interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:40 PM
2

So… every woman should just be a lesbian and just accept the “best” sperm donor when they want a kid?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 08:35 PM
5

Not only is it unfair, it’s just disgusting. If you have to manipulate, then you are simply not a good person and I wouldn’t want to associate with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:46 PM
11

How about people, both men and women, stop being manipulative?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:42 PM
2

Damn…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:09 PM
1

I feel like I’d be the same way. Unless that first date is lasting half a day, I don’t know how you develop an attraction with another person so quickly, beyond just their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:08 PM
1

A combination of looks, personality and interests? Mind you, I don’t bother with IRL dating. I do OLD and skip profiles with very little to no info.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 06:41 PM
17

As a man, I agree with all of this. Men can be jealous creatures too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 01:11 PM
1

Mystery is sexy? How so? Because I certainly don’t think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 01:09 PM
0

Mentally ill kids are spoiled brats?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 01:08 PM
2

Except speaking up for yourself usually results in getting treated like shit even further.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 01:06 PM
1

So, basically… fuck commitment?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 01:05 PM
2

Yes, was diagnosed at 6. Was a special needs student for both school and college, plus had a personal aide for several years before voluntarily deciding to no longer have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 12:17 AM
1

I don’t know about that. But I am on the spectrum. It’s more like playing one of those bullet hell shooters.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 08:16 PM
3

How about NO ONE jumps through hoops?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 07:39 PM
1

But of that 30% with 0 n-count (which includes myself), how many are men (me) and how many are women?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 07:34 PM
3

What is “low n” exactly though? 1? 2? 5? 10? I don’t exactly have a preference. Only things that matter is that she genuinely loves me and doesn’t care that I’m a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:58 PM
1

And sports! But a lot of that is starting to suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:22 PM
1

Good for you. Meanwhile, as an autistic individual, 40 hours is too much. I feel exhausted by the end of each day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:21 PM
1

Maybe if we shortened the work week, more people would actually have the time to get stuff done and/or do the things they want to do. Have 30-35 hour work weeks, with the same pay as 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:17 PM
1

I don’t think anyone goes to a cafe with the intent on meeting people, unless it’s already planned out. Besides, I’m ultra-picky, so there wouldn’t be anything for me to get. The same can definitely be said for bars, as I don’t drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:14 PM
1

Yeah, but the problem that I have is I have no reason to go there in the first place. And the main reason for going to those places shouldn’t be to find women, because that’s both creepy and desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:07 PM
1

I honestly have no idea because I can’t imagine such a scenario. I suppose it would also depend on what you mean by unattractive. Do you mean just “average” or are we talking 400 pounds with very poor hygiene and wearing clothes that are way too loose/obviously don’t fit?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:05 PM
1

Autism is the main reason. Bars I especially can’t do because I don’t drink. The taste of any alcoholic beverage makes me spit/vomit the moment it touches my tongue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:01 PM
2

Bit too late for me. Also I’m autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 06:06 AM
2

My score is -2. I’m a 30M autistic centrist.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 06:05 AM
1

What personality and social skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:58 AM
1

What if you don’t have acquaintances or friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:54 AM
2

So what do you expect us men to do then? Especially those who have mental health issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:48 AM
2

What if you don’t go to a cafe? Or a bar? Or a club? Or... really anywhere, honestly?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:44 AM
1

Not everyone can explore all avenues. For some of us, OLD really is the only option.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:43 AM
1

I don’t think negatively of the opposite sex. Still never been in a relationship though. Or had friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:40 AM
15

A lot of men do not have people to turn to. And when I mean no one, I do mean NO ONE.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:35 AM
3

But what if you give but NEVER get?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:34 AM
1

What’s if that’s the best that you can do?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:46 PM
5

But are they still getting dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:44 PM
4

A 30-year old autistic introvert with shitty motor skills cannot be AF. It’s not an attitude problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:29 PM
4

Unfortunately, not everyone can be that “man in the middle.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:28 PM
5

Few, but definitely not most. I sure as hell couldn’t be, even if I wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:26 PM
1

My roommates would drink, smoke weed and have orgies 4-5 times a week. I don’t drink or smoke at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 11:50 PM
1

It is medical. Tried both occupational and physical therapies in the past, but no success.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:14 PM
1

Well for me personally, I have terrible motor skills. So I’m not able to do a lot of things. Things that might seem basic and ordinary to the average person can be like lifting an anvil up a hill while being tied to a boulder. And even when I’m able to, it’s either very difficult, done very slowly, or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:04 PM
1

I’m not MGTOW (right now, anyway), but I also don’t see myself being in a relationship anytime soon. As for what I’ll be doing after 45, I don’t know. Personally, I’m not sure I’ll even make it to 45-50 (naturally I mean, not suicide).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:50 PM
1

I’m not MGTOW, but I currently don’t see myself having a relationship at all in my life. As for what I’ll be doing after 45, I don’t know. Personally, I’m not sure I’ll even make it to 45-50.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:48 PM
3

I have no idea what an “average” social life would be, especially now as a 30-year old never-dated autistic introvert in the Northeast who doesn’t drink/smoke/use drugs at all. Never really got the chance to make friends because I was constantly bullied and ostracized for being a special needs student with a personal aide K-12. And in college, I couldn’t really make friends because I couldn’t mesh with everyone’s party-hard lifestyle. Like I knew people were going to party in college, but heavy …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:46 PM
0

Being good at whatever hobby helps though. If you consistently suck, said hobby will die pretty quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:41 PM
1

30, male, middle class and autistic. I’m Option 4. I’m looking to be loved, I don’t want just sex. Sex for me is an eventuality in a long-enough relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:32 PM
3

I’m ISTJ-T. 30 and male.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 08:52 PM
1

Maybe he’s anxious and needs some support? Or someone to spend time with, if you ghost/dump his ass immediately?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 08:47 PM
5

I don’t know about that. What if the limited swiping choices we get are terrible each time and we miss out on someone potentially great because we weren’t to even enough swipes? Us men just need to chill out on the swiping. I only swipe in particular. I just need to have better luck though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:33 PM
1

I’m not lying. But that’s because I haven’t had any success so far. Don’t really have much of a choice though. I have no network that I could use.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:05 PM
4

Can’t fix autism and terrible motor skills though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:38 PM
4

For some of us men with no luck, we want a woman who genuinely loves and cares about us, not someone who will suck our dicks for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:37 PM
6

Because some men actually want love and affection, not just sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:35 PM
2

Thank you. I hope the same for you as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:49 PM
3

Don’t worry about it, you didn’t seem rude at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:39 PM
3

Thanks. And I’m sorry to hear that your friendships have died off. I hope you find some good luck in your future as well. As for me, my issues go all the way back to school years. I was a special needs student with a personal aide, so I was constantly bullied and ostracized, thus never really getting a chance to make friends. Combine that with undeveloped motor skills and aversion to a lot of food and beverages (for example, when I try alcohol, I will immediately spit or vomit upon tasting it), …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:29 PM
0

Probably not for you then. Definitely not adventurous or charismatic. Loud? Certianly can be at times. Small pudge in the belly but definitely not overweight. Dick is average/slightly above average, but no idea as to what my libido would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:21 PM
4

I wouldn’t know. I haven’t had any luck with either, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:16 PM
1

The reason as to why the rejection and hopefully it be something that can be improved/fixed. If I’m rejected because my clothing style sucks, at least it’s something that can be improved on. But if I’m being rejected because I’m autistic, well... sorry, but there’s really nothing I can do to actually fix that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:13 PM
2

What if you have no peers/friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:08 PM
2

I think that’s the major thing. What exactly about the man is he being rejected for? If it’s something that’s actually in his control, like his weight or his clothing, but chooses not to improve on those, then it is on him if he continuously faces rejection. But what if it’s not something that’s in his control and thus can’t address? His height is one example. But there are other factors as well. For example, what if he’s autistic? There’s not really much the man can do if the reasoning behind h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:06 PM
6

We all may have the privilege of having a journey. But why must some people have bad ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 05:52 PM
1

They’re both awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:45 PM
2

”older people left on their own will have more time to discover themselves” 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:36 PM
0

I’m 30 and I’m still trying to get to Date #1.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:13 PM
1

Yeah, I’d take the ignorant optimist. The “taking pictures of food” thing might get a bit annoying if done too much or if the food isn’t all that special, but I’d rather be with someone that feels more pleasant, warming to be around. Someone who may make my heart race, but can relax this overthinking mind of mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:08 PM
6

Same here. I may be a pessimist as well, but I don’t go about trying to ruin other peoples’ day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:03 PM
27

Why do I want a woman rather than a man? Well, as someone who is autistic and was a special needs student K-12 and in college, women just treated me better. Nothing amazing, mind you, but at least women didn’t treat me like shit. They didn’t call you “retard” because you have a personal aide. They didn’t throw Cheetos at you on the bus. They didn’t try to rip your backpack apart. They didn’t dry hump you against your locker and call it a “joke.” They didn’t figuratively and literally kick your a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 01:15 PM
4

But if you have no network, you’re kinda out of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:28 PM
4

Exactly. And the fact that I’ve yet to get out of the starting gate does not help.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:06 PM
7

So if I go by average, I won’t be married until I’m around 33-35. That’s provided I can land a date right now. Oof...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:19 PM
1

And unfortunately, some people just don’t have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:41 PM
1

So... we need to have World War 3...?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 04:15 PM
6

I guess that means I have three disabilities now. Asperger’s, dyspraxia and this!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 12:49 PM
1

But they’re not in an actual relationship, they would only be doing this for tax purposes; they’d claim bisexuality and “in an open relationship,” even though the actual marriage is a sham.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:57 PM
2

If there’s enough of them (and I imagine there would be), a coup could happen. And yeah, many people join the military mainly for financial reasons. But wouldn’t you be taking some, if not all, of that reasoning away by implementing the bachelor tax? Why serve a government that takes your hard-earned money simply because of your relationship status; why partake in a career that for years, would help solidify that status? Also, a thought just occurred to me: Wouldn’t a number of men simply “marry…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:39 PM
3

If the army is made up of mostly bachelor men, how will the government be able to threaten? Unless you provide some sort of tax exemption or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 04:36 PM
8

If you create a bachelor tax, either a lot of these men are going to move out of the country or violently protest.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:43 PM
11

Hopefully, we’ll have developed sex robots with advanced enough AI, destroying OnlyFans in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:41 PM
2

Forget about getting laid, just landing a date period is difficult for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:32 PM
1

What if I don’t consider myself an alpha nor a beta?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:30 PM
2

Not everyone can pull off the bald look. I certainly wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:21 PM
2

Guess I’m an omega then?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:04 PM
9

As it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 10:14 PM
1

Kissing, hugging, hand-holding virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:17 PM
1

While I understand your analogy, I’d like to point out that there a couple people who started out as racing video game competitors turned actual race car drivers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:16 PM
1

I personally don’t find being a virgin in her mid-20s to be a red flag/turnoff/dealbreaker. Then again, I’m 30 and KHHV.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:06 PM
2

5’8”. Not fat but not skinny either. White. No hobbies. Graduated from college almost a decade ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 11:57 PM
2

Sorry, but my motor skills are absolutely terrible. Just about anything outdoors is a big no-no. I’m a guy, BTW. I don’t use Tinder. I do, however, use OkCupid, Hinge and Bumble.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:09 PM
2

I don’t have any friends at all though. Trying OLD, but I have had no such luck. Likely because I have disclosed that I have Asperger’s in my profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:56 PM
2

Is it unreasonable? I think so. But then again, I can’t even land a date. So what the hell do I know?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 05:42 PM
1

I hate having a beard, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 05:40 PM
3

Asperger’s, general and social anxiety, terrible motor skills, etc. Being independent is very difficult, not to mention the combined crap I have has prevented me from being able to participate in activities normally (if at all) and making friends, let alone have a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 05:39 PM
1

It doesn’t have to be just women, it can be all people in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 05:30 PM
5

At least he had a couple women interested in him. Granted, one of them was a talking deer and the other transformed into a werewolf at night. But hey, 2 is better than nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 05:29 PM
3

What if you can’t/struggle with being independent?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 05:25 PM
1

Exactly. And if you can somehow get through those hurdles, then there’s other factors that prevent you from dating/getting laid, like mental health. Which with that, you may as well be running through a concrete wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 05:13 PM
1

Stop hiring illegal immigrants and outsourcing jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 04:16 PM
-5

Actually go out on a date with them. Also, if you have any single friends, get them to date. Stop going for the 10s/“Chads.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 04:14 PM
5

Except the short bald guy hasn’t found a gal, largely because he’s short and bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 04:08 PM
3

70%?!?! Not even close, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:25 PM
1

Well, personally, I wasn’t even thinking about sex at 15. So while I don’t think I’d be obsessed, I’m sure I’ll be thinking of it more at 50 than at 15.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 03:14 PM
1

Not everyone has friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 02:07 PM
8

There isn’t a labor shortage. There’s a shortage of people willing to take low-paying, benefits-lacking, stress-inducing jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 07:21 PM
2

Can’t make friends if you never really have the opportunity to do so. When people would rather bully and ostracize you because of your autism, instead of trying to make friends with you, it’s not easy to keep your heart from turning ice cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:33 AM
2

It’s a coping mechanism, especially if you don’t got much else going on with your life, like lack of friends or skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 09:05 PM
1

Because I’m not gay. Heck, as a man, I don’t really like being around other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 09:02 PM
13

Sounds to me like “Chad” men are just going to get even more sex, except THEY GET PAID to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 08:45 PM
3

Time to go buy a MAGA hat then! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 08:41 PM
1

Sex for goat sacrifices sounds like a fair trade. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 07:47 PM
5

As someone who is autistic, what the hell is super-autism?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 07:35 PM
1

As a man, I will never understand how any other man can “spin plates.” Then again, I’d just feel lucky to have one woman be interested in me. If more than one at the same time, I think my brain would literally melt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 05:04 PM
1

Fitness classes wouldn’t work either. My motor skills are just terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 05:00 PM
3

I use OLD because I’m autistic. I get too anxious around busy places. I hate clubbing. I don’t drink alcohol so I don’t go to a bar and I don’t drink coffee so I don’t go to a coffee shop. As for those meetups you listed: I don’t use Facebook anymore, there aren’t any meetups in my area, I no longer volunteer (they’re sausage fests if I was looking there anyway) and I’m politically nihilistic. So I don’t really have much in terms of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 02:36 PM
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Illegals pay for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 08:09 PM
0

Well, I don’t know how much my opinion is going to mean to you, but as a boring, autistic 30-year old KHHV who has no history of friends or dating, I just want to say that I’m sorry to hear that. And that I don’t think you’re a BB at all. Screw the people who actually PM you calling that (they are true losers). Ultimately, as long as you both genuinely love each other and make each other happy, that’s all that really matters in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:45 PM
3

If you make more money than him, he’s not waiting on your hand and foot/putting you on a pedestal and the age gap isn’t ridiculously large, then you’re not a BB. As for age, 15 is obviously way too young to figure things out. I was thinking more around 23-24.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:31 PM
5

It’s not “betabuxing” if you date them when you’re both younger though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:22 PM
11

The more men you deprive access to sex, the more of us are just not going to bother with approaching/socializing with women in general and just turn to porn, hobbies, etc. You want to insist on a higher standard of moral/ethical behavior? Fine. But you should also insist of a lower standard when it comes to looks. Go for the guy who actually has a decent job, is hygienic and is emotionally stable, but might not be a “Chad” when it comes to the looks department.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:02 PM
6

So where does a 30-year old awkward, autistic guy with terrible motor skills, no history of friends or relationships but does have a history of being bullied, beaten and ostracized by his fellow peers fall into?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 04:01 PM
1

Actually, I meant that US tech should maybe deny these places (like that’d ever happen). But I suppose you’re right.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 03:13 PM
9

Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 03:11 PM
0

Maybe that needs to change...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 03:07 PM
1

Guess I’m not a “true gentleman” then. I use an electric, nick my sensitive skin too much with straight ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 02:41 PM
1

Then why did The Big Bang Theory last so long? (unfortunately)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:51 PM
1

In the case of number one, if the dad in a sitcom isn’t bumbling, then he’s a father who easily/better known for having a huge temper. Carl Winslow and Judge Banks’ (RIP James Avery) characters had plenty of meltdowns, usually because Urkel/Will/Carlton did something stupid. They had a caring side too, but which part of their characters do most people think of/view old clips of on YouTube? Regardless, both of them were complemented by more rational, harder-to-anger wives. I don’t even want to ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:49 PM
4

What if you’re not even in a “league” to begin with?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:44 PM
0

They were both with mental health issues, were labeled as special needs students and never had an opportunity to make friends, let alone have relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 05:06 AM
5

If they even get an opportunity to begin with...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 05:03 AM
2

”You have yourself to offer and no one can replace that” Except myself is an awkward autistic guy with terrible motor skills. Pretty sure I can be easily replaced.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 04:54 AM
5

Never heard of this podcast. And this quote just sounds gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:56 PM
2

Honestly, I could care less about how extensive someone’s dating experience is. I’m not intimidated by that. I would just like someone decent to be genuinely interested in me. The problem is that no one has ever been interested in me. And I get why. I’m an very introverted, awkward autistic guy with terrible motor skills and a history of being bullied and ostracized by his fellow peers. Why would any woman want to choose me when there’s plenty of others to choose from? What do I bring to the tab…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:54 PM
1

Belldandy from Oh My Goddess
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:42 PM
1

Being boring, definitely. — a 30-year old boring autistic KHHV
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:38 PM
1

What if we just got rid of OnlyFans, cam sites and phone sex companies? Realistic? No. But just imagine if we did...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:37 PM
0

”But there are always those below you also. Just because you’re not the best at something doesn’t mean that you’re not a catch or she’s not into you.” 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:32 PM
1

This feels like if someone wrote an opinion piece for The Onion...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:29 PM
4

Well then, I guess I’m screwed since I’m 30 and never even been on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:27 PM
1

”The guys who take every show are the ones who get the best outcome they can achieve.” That statement is so incredibly wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 07:09 AM
4

Yeah, because if a guy is going to fuck a girl, it’s usually not going to be at her place.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 06:57 AM
3

Well, I have no friends so it’s hard for me to get a roommate. And I’m not moving in with some random person. I’d get in the way anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 06:56 AM
8

I have Asperger’s and I agree about social awkwardness being the biggest impediment to a man’s dating life. It also doesn’t help that I have physical issues, some of which relate to the Asperger’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 06:47 AM
4

Yeesh. If I was in college back then, I bet there would have been attempts to peer pressure me in to doing the same thing. But I have standards. Also, I don’t drink. I wonder if the inverse has ever happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 06:46 AM
2

Ah yes, because blue states like California and Illinois and blue cities like New York, Chicago, Los Angeles, etc. are totally NOT shit holes. Oh, trust me, the red states in the south are bad yes, but let’s not pretend all of the problems in this country are exclusively from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:21 PM
2

Name me an English-speaking (or mostly at least) country that treats autistic people greatly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:15 PM
2

I’m sure it’s great, especially if there is love, trust and care involved. How great though? I don’t know, I’m still a virgin! 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:11 PM
3

What if you once did respect yourself but no one else did? It’s hard to maintain self-respect when other people are not willing to treat you kindly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:53 PM
1

You should but not everyone can.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:46 PM
8

Yeah, the idea of having sex and sharing a bed with a woman who has no emotional connection with me or is only there for reasons such as money doesn’t sit right with me. Also want to remain disease-free as well. With my terrible motor skills, odd walk and high-pitched voice, I have enough physical issues as it is already.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:25 PM
1

Yes. I’m also autistic and have dyspraxia.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:20 PM
8

Same here, purely sleeping around just doesn’t feel right to me. If I’m going to have sex with someone, it would be someone who loves me, cares about me, trusts in me. I want the emotional aspect that comes with having sex not just the physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:05 PM
6

Yeah, I never have and never will ever go through a “wild phase.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:56 PM
2

It absolutely sucks, doesn’t it? And it’s not just the processing of emotions. For some of us, it’s both social and general anxiety. For others, it’s sensory issues. Or it’s motor skills. Or perhaps a combination or all of the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:34 PM
5

And that’s if you’re “normal.” When you have actual mental health issues like Asperger’s, sometimes everything can be overwhelming.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:12 PM
1

What if you’re not capable of doing these hobbies? I’m autistic and have dyspraxia. K-2, I was a special needs student, complete with several accommodations with a personal aide and I would have failed art class if I’d didn’t have her because she literally need to take my hand and guide it while doing so. Same thing with wood shop. Active sports is just a disaster waiting to happen. Heck, I tried playing basketball (rec level, of course) during high school and that turned out badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 04:57 PM
1

Unfortunately for me, I don’t really have any hobbies. Closest I have are gaming and watching sports, but those have been waning and regardless fall into the latter type. Don’t have any hobbies that can help me grow and gain skills. Mainly because I have dyspraxia; my motor skills are very terrible. So I’m not capable of doing them even if I were interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 04:49 PM
1

Not for me, personally. It’s just that I am 30 and still a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 04:46 PM
1

”Until age 30.” Well shit...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:39 PM
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Language classes? I struggled mightily trying to learn French and then Spanish. Volunteering? Used to do plenty of that but felt dissatisfied. Even if I were interested, they tend to be sausage feats around where I live. Music meetups? Nope. Wine tasting? Definite nope. Very food/drink-adverse. The taste of any alcoholic drink (wine, beer, champagne) makes me either immediately spit it out or puke in disgust.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 08:10 PM
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I’m autistic and have dyspraxia. As such, my motor skills are terrible. Sports are a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 03:11 PM
2

I don’t. Typically if I see a catfight going on, it’s (or I assume it’s) between two assholes being petty.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 07:52 PM
41

Broke, unattractive men are considered “bottom of the barrel” in terms of the societal ladder.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:11 PM
3

So, dating apps are rigged. I’m too anxious/awkward to cold approach. And I don’t really enjoy going out and definitely can’t handle the bar/club scene. Now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 01:50 PM
11

Nope. I would think if anything, sexlessness would go up even more.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 01:46 PM
1

Ha! I wish. I have two scales in my house and both say 171.0 and 171.4. I do think the guy at the gym just did something wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 07:48 PM
1

Oh, well then, I guess the gym trainer must have measured me wrong because that what was displayed in front of me. I have a tiny tiny guy but it’s hardly noticeable with clothes on. I do, however, lack muscle, which is certainly an issue. I’m working on it, but the lack of motor skills doesn’t allow me to do much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 07:10 PM
5

Personally, I find ass overrated. Especially BIG asses, I just don’t get it. Sir Mix-A-Lot is a liar, white boys do not need to shout “Baby Got Back.” For me, if I can speak superficially, the face is the most important part since that’s what you’ll always be able to see with your partner, then the torso, and then the ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:58 PM
1

I’m 5’7 1/2”, 171 pounds with a 21 BMI. So... I guess I’m... slightly above average? (despite the height)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:55 PM
1

The latter because that’s exactly what I’m trying to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:03 PM
10

Obesity. Maybe too many tattoos (I’m not a fan of them personally, but I don’t mind one here or there). Facial/tongue piercings.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 04:58 PM
1

Like OUR government is ever going to legalize prostitution. Ha!!! You’d have a better shot at legalizing cocaine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 07:57 PM
1

Well, guess that’s not happening for me. Unknown/unpredictable = Bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 07:56 PM
0

And?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 07:53 PM
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Makes sense. Of course, I also don’t have any friends. Nor have I ever had any.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 06:21 PM
–

That’s just awful. And even if true, I wouldn’t have been able to “settle” at 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:54 PM
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Again, not looking for JUST sex. I want love. Sex would be an eventuality but I’m not looking to pump and dump. And when it comes to sex, I want the emotional aspect to it, not just the physical. And I might be dead by the time I turn 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:46 PM
3

Hard for me to pleasure a woman in bed when I’ve yet to even land a date. How about I get past Step 1 first? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:45 PM
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You know if I was you, had female friends and they were puzzled that I’m “the sort of men they would love to date,” I’d probably have responded: “Oh, so you want to go out on a date with me?” and gauge their reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:36 PM
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I’d rather not have go to Thailand or wherever simply just to get laid, especially when I’m looking for more than just sex. If I was just looking to get laid, I’d have already done that by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:33 PM
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They think that it’s impossible, because for some, it actually IS.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:31 PM
1

My perfect waifu? Hmmm... Physically speaking, I’d prefer someone between 25-30 years old. Has long, black/dark brown hair. Height doesn’t matter. Weight? Just something healthy; not obese, but not so thin where you can start seeing/feeling bone. Doesn’t smoke or do hard drugs. Enjoys gaming, whether casual or hardcore; skill level is irrelevant to me. Someone who exudes positivity when I attempt at something yet will catch me (both figuratively and literally) when I stumble and fall (which is v…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:25 PM
1

I don’t hit the gym but at least I bathe. 1/2 forgiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:52 PM
4

I do get out of the house. It just makes me want to go back inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:51 PM
0

Because when men do get help, many of them are mocked or given the stigma of being “less of a man” for doing so, by toxic people, both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:49 PM
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Eh... Well, for me, my hygiene is fine. My job, while nothing incredible, is at least not minimum wage. But then there’s the social skills. And the motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:43 PM
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Interesting. I just stuck to doing schoolwork and RuneScape.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 09:42 PM
0

I knew it was young, but I didn’t realize it was THAT young. I wasn’t looking at porn until I turned 18!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:43 PM
0

I... actually don’t like soda though...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 11:59 PM
0

Well, unfortunately, I am not one of those billions. If something doesn’t taste good, my body is typically programmed to either spit or vomit it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 08:59 PM
1

Regardless of whether that’s true or not, it still needs to taste good or it’s not going to stay. Same with any other kind of drink. Juices, coffee, chocolate milk, tea, etc. Only things I drink are 2% milk and bottled water (and even then, some brands are nasty).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 06:18 PM
2

So just fuck in the car, problem solved. 😜 (just not my car lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 04:27 PM
6

Games are awesome. Both in video and board form. As for alcohol, I’m super food/drink-adverse. I’ve tried a few beers, wine, champagne. Every time I try it though, I immediately spit or puke it out. Will never understand how anyone enjoys the taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 04:22 PM
1

If you’re not “normal,” people already do so from a very young age.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:23 PM
7

800 a WEEK?! Jesus...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:01 PM
1

Sadly true. Your reputation/social status eclipses everything else about you when you’re in middle/high school — Guy who was at the very bottom of the social ladder
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 02:03 PM
3

Asking a heavily anxious/autistic person to approach people in real life is not a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:29 PM
1

So then where do we have business then? If not on apps and not “cold-approaching,” then where?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:27 PM
6

And my reason is that I have no social life whatsoever. Being a special needs student K-12 killed any chance for one and that spread into my college years and through my 20s. Now I’m 30. So yeah, there ya go.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:00 PM
1

I’d probably just go back to playing more video games. Or are we going to hypothetically take that away too, since there’s social aspects to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:55 PM
1

Delete everything else but keep Twitter. It’s the closest thing I have to any actual friends sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:52 PM
1

What about if the man’s n count is also zero?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 04:23 PM
1

Over 5 is bad? Maybe if she’s super young, sure. But if she’s 30 and her n count is 5, is it really that bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:23 PM
5

As a 30M virgin, I too desire emotional intimacy. If I wanted to have sex that badly, if I was just looking for the physicality, I would have already paid for a prostitute by now. But there’s no emotion behind it, so I refuse to ever do so. If I’m going to have sex, it has to be with someone who genuinely loves me, cares for me, trusts in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:29 PM
7

So allow me to provide my own personal answers to the qualities in question: I would want my GF/wife to be a sweet and kind person. As for submissive, do you mean emotionally or sexually? Because I find that makes a big difference. Dressing up in typical feminine fashion? While I am personally partial to a cute sundress, I would want my GF/wife to be comfortable in whatever she choose to wear. Be it a dress and heels, a shirt/skirt combo or a pair of baggy sweats. Being low maintenance? Well, do…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 08:29 PM
1

But what if you want a family? To have kids? How many adoption agencies are going to accept a single, autistic male who lives alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:44 PM
1

What if you have a reason(s) to be mad at the world and consider yourself a victim?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:35 PM
0

Some problems can’t be solved though. How do you solve terrible motor skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:34 PM
1

Not when you’re autistic and have terrible motor skills. You can’t “fix” those.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:32 PM
1

When you’re autistic, you do not get better because of the struggle. You just get exhausted.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:29 PM
4

How many people have 70-100k to even be able to do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:27 PM
6

People should just pay for their own respective meals. Should be simple as that (or course, it’s not).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:05 PM
2

I’m 30, 5’7 1/2” and white. I would rate myself as a 5/10 at best, at least from initial glances. From initial glances, I’m average. Nothing amazing, but I don’t think there’s anything truly horrifying. I’m balding at the top of my head and hairy af pretty much elsewhere. I also have crooked ears, so I can look kinda dumb if I wear glasses (which I only wear when driving or in rare instances where I have to something look at far away. Outside of those two things, I’d say I don’t really stand out…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:05 PM
3

.... TF?!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:42 PM
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Yeah, that’s the issue with us Aspies/autistic people. Finding those who can look past the autism and still love us for who we are. I’m still trying in the OLD circuit at 30 (because no way I’m cold-apparoaching), and I put down that I’m autistic so as to “weed out” and not disturb any potential dates from my, shall we say, tendencies (penguin walk, high-pitch voice, rocking side to side and not noticing it, the bad motor skills, etc.). Let them know beforehand. But it can feel dejecting when th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:41 PM
2

I take no offense. Awkwardness just destroys. That’s not even taking into account other issues that can be associated with autism, such as motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:31 PM
5

I don’t want ANY woman to be wearing stilettos and be stepping on my testicles. I prefer my sex to be more of the lovey-dovey kind. Is it vanilla? Sure, but I want to have emotional intimacy when it comes to sex, not just physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:17 PM
1

So what about autistic men? Where would we fit in the discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:13 PM
1

Yeah, I’ll never understand the point of paying for OnlyFans, just like paying off a prostitute or a rent-a-girlfriend? I mean, yes, you get your “interaction” or with a prostitute, you get your dick sucked. I get that. But that’s just the physical intimacy. What about the emotional intimacy? Without the emotional intimacy, without the love, without the romance, what’s the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:10 PM
1

Those men have a point...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:57 PM
2

I’m 5’7 1/2”. Personally, I don’t care what her height is. She could be the same as me, shorter than me, taller than me. It doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:56 PM
5

What about the future of the “below-average?” The men with mental health issues? The men who never truly had an opportunity, who were immediately DQ’ed right out of the starting gate?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:32 PM
3

”When men want someone they take the risk” Provided of course they have the confidence to do so. Which also diminishes if said person gets rejected on a continuous basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 07:11 PM
12

Unfortunately true.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 06:59 PM
2

I’m a “good boy” but I don’t love “bad girls.” I’m not looking for “excitement.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 06:56 PM
1

So true, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 01:21 AM
19

When you’re autistic, the juice isn’t worth the squeeze because said juice is so bad that you get sick from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:15 PM
0

Oh, I have bad social skills, absolutely. I just have other problems to go along with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:19 PM
2

Similar boat as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:16 PM
2

As someone with Asperger’s, I’d prefer it if any “hints” were just dropped altogether and they would just be more direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:14 PM
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I’m afraid of aging but that’s because even though I’m 30, I’m already an old fart.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:07 PM
1

And that’s just if you’re “normal.” If you have mental health issues, then you’re really screwed over.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 06:23 PM
1

I think this sub has contributed in making me have even more of a defeatist attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 06:09 PM
1

Who said they have to be angry/sad at JUST women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 06:05 PM
2

I don’t know how anyone can masturbate 7 TIMES a day. Even twice feels like excess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 05:58 PM
3

No, mainly because I don’t care about social media followings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 05:32 PM
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I’m an autistic 30M male who works on-site, has no friends or pets (allergies) and works out from home once a week (treadmill and rowing machine). I enjoy playing video games and watching sports. And while not enjoying either isn’t necessarily a dealbreaker for me, I definitely would appreciate it more if she did enjoy it at some level. Doesn’t matter what her skill level or her knowledge would be, but being able to spend time in the company of someone who enjoys what I like in some capacity see…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 05:20 PM
2

From nearly the very beginning. Autism and all that.
/r/MGTOW230/04/21 07:43 PM
1

Although what happens is his life can certainly affect how he behaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 04:14 AM
1

Bad idea, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 04:09 AM
2

Really? Because I find it to be the opposite, but maybe that’s because I’ve somehow managed to avoid the truly despicable parts of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 04:06 AM
2

Doesn’t have to be just high school. Can be college. Can be at the bar or nightclub.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 04:03 AM
4

THANK YOU.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 09:01 PM
1

Neat future, no. In the future sure, but I’ll be either dead by then or the lonely men like me will have already resorted to sex robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:58 PM
2

No, actual nice guys that stick up for themselves just get the shit beaten out of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:51 PM
1

Yeah, I know. “Nice guys” aren’t typically actual nice guys. But what about guys who are actually nice but simultaneously aren’t able to get into a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:40 PM
4

Can’t a nice guy be boring but is also kind and sincere?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:16 PM
3

Where I’m from, when I was in school and in college, feminine men or those perecived to be were either called “skirtboys” or “panty-putters.” I was perceived as one of them because of my high-sounding voice (which I’m still stuck with even at 30).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:04 PM
4

I’m not much of a partier. I’ll take the “boring” wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 07:58 PM
1

I do live in the Northeast, so... yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:35 PM
0

Even in the suburbs around where I live, you’d still need about 80k to afford a half-decent apartment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:12 PM
1

Well, duh. Unless you’re into the idea of a MMF threesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 12:50 PM
1

Maybe if you live in the Deep South, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 12:48 PM
0

Do not like the idea of being fetishized. Does not have a fair amount of game, mostly due to the fact that I’m autistic. Also would expect me to learn another language, which I would not be capable of doing. Definitely would NEVER go to China.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 12:46 PM
2

What if you can’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:44 AM
7

Who says you couldn’t like a so-called “beta?” Have you ever tried being friends with one?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:43 AM
0

But I don’t want to simply just fuck. I want to be genuinely loved. Why do I have to go to another country to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:41 AM
9

Not going to another country, to a place so unfamiliar and in a language I would never be able to understand, just to simply get my dick wet. Especially when i want the emotional bonding that comes with sex, not just the physical aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:39 AM
5

You have no idea what it feels like to be truly powerless.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:35 AM
2

I shouldn’t have to travel to a third-world country and risk getting STD’s just for some pussy. Also, I want genuine love, not simply just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:30 AM
9

$4,000 a month managing a convenience store?! Where the hell is he working at it? This some kind of luxury convenience store in the Hamptons or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:27 AM
6

But in order to be happy, you need people/things that can make you feel that way. When you don’t have them, then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:23 AM
9

Date a “beta” or someone with a “lower value.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:22 AM
5

But if “bros” don’t want to hang out with you, how can you even have them in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 08:59 PM
3

Sadly true. Ugh...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 08:58 PM
2

Unfortunately for some of us awkward losers, even platonic friends with a girl is the most we can hope for.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 08:52 PM
4

If you’re a shut in who needs to learn social skills, you don’t have bros. — a 30-year old autistic KHHV shut in who does not have bros
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 08:50 PM
1

Hey, me too! But that’s because I have no friends to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:39 PM
2

You can’t fix/offset autism or terrible motor skills though, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 02:32 PM
2

But what if you never had a social circle to begin with? What if you’ve been bullied and ostracized by your fellow peers, preventing you from ever having the chance to be in one?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:16 AM
1

No. To me, the only thing that would truly solve the issue would be is if there was less competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:13 AM
6

Eh. Sort of? But also not really? I have an ok job that pays 50k a year. I have no debts on my student loans and I paid off my 2016 BMW convertible over a year ago. But at the same time, I still live with my parents. While I can mostly take care of myself and my hygiene is perfectly fine (no physical health issues, no cavities or anything like that), I still struggle with certain tasks like cooking and ironing (I have no trouble with doing my own laundry, I can even fold bed sheets if given enou…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:01 AM
1

I’m all for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 09:02 PM
1

Ok, so then we need to rid ourselves of all the books, TV, movies and other forms of entertainment. Burn it all. 🔥🔥🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 09:00 PM
2

What if the girl was in a gang bang BUT she’s bi and let’s say, 3 of the 5 people she was banging with were women with strapons? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:43 PM
8

Unfortunately a lot of people lack the sympathy and patience to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:12 PM
19

I don’t know if I would want sympathy. Personally, I’m a 30-year old Aspie KHHV with no friends or prior relationships. I was a special needs student who had a personal aide and accommodations who was stuck from K-12 with being perceived as a “retard” (despite the fact that I was an honor roll student who actually managed to get to AP level in history (which even that itself was a fight to get to). As such, I was ostracized and a frequent target for bullying, especially when my aide was no longe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:10 PM
1

I wasn’t even good enough for the nerds. special needs student (still academically good enough for AP in history though)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 03:22 PM
1

cough cough 30 and KHHV
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 03:18 PM
1

Can’t really figure it out if you have things that will prevent you from getting laid/married. Like having Asperger’s and crappy undeveloped motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 03:15 PM
1

And when you have mental health issues like autism, any of that trauma is emphasized.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 03:12 PM
1

Being autistic can be a death sentence when it comes to both dating and social life, especially if you get all the “bad/cursed” traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 12:40 PM
3

Remember when some juices contained 20% juice? It’s juice... that’s 20% juice. Well what the hell is the other 80%?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 12:34 PM
2

I’ve never been into goth girls nor have I ever had a goth, emo or punk phase. With that said, I would assume that it is the aesthetic that might draw guys in. As for why not punk girls, I’d say the same thing. Tons of tattoos, alternative hairstyles, multiple piercings (especially in more “uncommon” areas like tongue or nipples) are not looked as attractive by a lot of guys. That includes myself, I don’t find tattoos (especially if they cover much of your body) or piercings (outside of the ear,…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 04:38 PM
4

If we could only do this for people with mental health issues too...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 03:36 PM
4

Nope, absolutely not. Pros: Honesty (perhaps too much?), debt-free. Cons: Asperger’s (which alone has its own reasons) Terrible motor skills Physically slow No history of friendships or relationships No special skills, abilities or interests Balding Still lives with parents
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 03:21 PM
2

As a former special needs student with crappy motor skills, may I request exemption?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 01:36 PM
1

Education. I had no choice, I was a special needs student so I didn’t even get to have a social life, let alone a sex/dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:57 PM
1

Unless we have ANOTHER war with the Middle East, and on a larger scale (totally possible). As for the Mormons... uh... got me? I guess Mormons will inevitably win hundreds of years from now and become the dominant religion of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 07:34 PM
0

There’s one big question to this: Can you impregnate an artificial girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 07:31 PM
2

Joke’s on Instagram, I don’t even have one. Now if my Reddit account starts talking to me, then I’d be concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 07:24 PM
2

Death by robotic snu-snu. I’m sure a lot of people wouldn’t mind going out that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 07:24 PM
4

As a man who was more bullied and ostracized by fellow men, I can concur. Other men tend to be more asshole-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 07:17 PM
1

I absolutely hate the interview process. Actually, as a former special needs student with a personal aide, I actually did need my hand held when it came to classes that required more use of my terrible motor skills, like art and wood shop.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 12:54 PM
1

Such as? Mind you, I am autistic and have poor motor skills, so there are some “adult things” that I struggle with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 05:22 AM
1

I did join every club when I was in school. Academic team, chess club, newspaper club, morning announcements. Didn’t matter. When you’re the “retarded” kid with a personal aide and accommodations, no one wants to be friends with you, not even out of pity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 05:20 AM
4

I’m trying to get a relationship first, sex comes later. No luck unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 05:18 AM
1

I knew classmates that started at 14, but I didn’t until I was 18. I stopped at around 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 11:56 PM
1

I will always be risk adverse. Same with food as version too unfortunately. I always play it safe especially because any risks I’ve taken have never paid off for me. Income is decent. Could be better, could be worse. At least I’m debt-free? Will not hire sex workers. I don’t want just the physicality when it comes to sex, I want the emotional aspect that comes with someone who genuinely loves and cares about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:26 PM
2

It’s honestly a combination of things. Speaking out loud and the pressure are just a couple. IRL, having a hard enough time making contact, inability to initiate/continue a conversation, stimming by rocking from side to side, etc. If somehow in a group conversation whether IRL or online, I tend to stay in the background and just listen, often because I don’t have anything to really to contribute. No need to apologize by the way. I can be a bit of an open book (and also not at the same time if th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:23 PM
2

Essentially, if you’re not even average, you get screwed IRL AND OLD. Sigh...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 04:10 PM
2

It can help with having discussions/debates. But actually meeting people? No, it hasn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 04:07 PM
3

I’ve tried that too but I haven’t had any luck; OkCupid, Hinge and Bumble.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 04:06 PM
1

Exactly. I was a special needs student, complete with a personal aide. If I wasn’t being bullied, beaten up and ostracized, I was being straight up ignored. No one wants to be friends with the “retard” (not actually).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 04:05 PM
1

That’s me. -- 30 and KHHV
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 04:01 PM
2

you are so awkward you literally can’t string a sentence together Yup, that’s me right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:56 PM
7

Well, I’m 30 so I guess I’m screwed then.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:53 PM
1

The day people stop shaming people with autism will certainly be a day to remember. Too bad I won’t be alive to see that, provided that it ever happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:53 PM
1

I don’t know. I never used Tinder. I have however tried OkCupid, Hinge and Bumble. No luck on any of those apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:50 PM
1

Oh, I don’t. But I’m not even looking for sex, at least not right away. I’m looking for a relationship in which sex would eventually occur.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:45 PM
3

Introvert? Sure, maybe. Autistic introvert though? Different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:43 PM
1

Hey, I’ve done the books. I’ve had to do weekly classes in school in lieu of actual schoolwork. But all that practice doesn’t help you with the real thing, especially when a lot of people can be downright cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:42 PM
1

I just don’t like the outdoors in general. It also doesn’t help that I can have trouble walking and my overall motor skills are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:40 PM
4

These opportunities only truly exist for “normies.” If you’re suffering from physical/mental disabilities, they don’t really help.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:37 PM
4

Even if you have an interest/hobby, the people still have to accept you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:36 PM
0

At this point in my life, yes. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:32 PM
1

But if people don’t want to acknowledge your existence, then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:31 PM
1

Because for some of us, we don’t have much time left.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:28 PM
1

cough cough That would be me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:26 PM
1

If you’re autistic like me, this is impossible, no matter how much you try to force yourself to adopt to the norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:25 PM
2

But if you have no friends, then you’re essentially screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:22 PM
1

I never have. But I never had friends...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:19 PM
2

Why would I got to a bar when I don’t even drink alcohol?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:18 PM
2

Any other ideas? Because all of those sound terrible, especially the hiking one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:17 PM
2

12?!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:15 PM
0

Nope. As someone who is autistic, I could never be a player. Nor would I want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 03:13 PM
1

They’re not really talking down when it’s actually true. I am an IRL, polo shirt-wearing version of Buzz Killington from Family Guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 06:58 AM
1

I will never understand the appeal of denims, especially baggy denims. Material doesn’t feel right, not to mention the looseness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 12:57 AM
1

Oh geez, that? No way would I ever wear that. And $59?!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 10:42 PM
1

I am. I am a buzzkill. It sucks, but there’s really nothing I can do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 10:40 PM
1

Oof. I only like to wear polo shirts or sweaters. Hate wearing t-shirts and especially hate wearing sweats nowadays. Not a fan of button-down shirts either. Suits make me squirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 10:39 PM
1

Not that I know of. Would that be better? I’m not really sure. I suppose I’d give it a shot. I have a light beard but I shave it off after a week or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:35 PM
2

I don’t like rolling up my sleeves, it’s incredibly uncomfortable when I do that. I guess I wear boat shoes? Do laceless Clarks count?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:33 PM
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Guess I wouldn’t be for you then, lol: 5’7 5/8” Prefers to shave off beard Does not do drugs Not social (no friends) Only been to 1 musical event (a Billy Joel concert) Sense of style? Polo shirt and khakis? 30
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:18 PM
1

Ah, I get ya. Unfortunately, if I’m intelligent, it’s definitely not in the practical sense. Also, not confident. And my motor skills are terrible, so I’m sure you are better at sports than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:09 PM
1

So... you want an Asian war general himbo with the singing voice of Donny Osmond?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 08:35 PM
1

What’s wrong with polos and khakis? What do you want me to wear then? Doubt it would matter what I wear, my looks and lack of personality will always deter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 08:28 PM
3

I got nothing in all three areas. I’m essentially fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 08:22 PM
1

As someone with Asperger’s, lucky you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 08:18 PM
3

I’m average-looking at best. Can’t say that I’m rich. I make $50k/year and still live with my parents, but I am student debt-free and own a convertible (also fully paid off). Happiness level is a 2. No amount of money or material possessions will take away the fact that I’m an autistic husk. I’d easily trade my money for taking away the (bad) autistic traits and blessing me with good looks any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 08:15 PM
1

I’m 30 and I’ll take being a himbo now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 08:09 PM
1

I don’t know if I deem it worthwhile anymore at this point. When you keep making an effort but no results or even improvement can occur, it just feels awful. And each time you take a break from it, the longer each break seems to get. But at the same time, if I don’t, I don’t really have much in terms of choices, thanks to a combo of autism and terrible motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 08:04 PM
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Don’t know if your early college friends had any mental health issues, but as someone with Asperger’s, personally: If I was your “friend” in college, I would also be very inhibited. Now I’ve forced myself to get out of my comfort zone and try going to clubs/bars and they’ve made me so very uncomfortable. Clubs because of the music and the crowds. Bars because I don’t drink alcohol at all. If you invited me somewhere to eat, well now we got to be careful because my food aversion is just bad. Stea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 07:57 PM
1

I’m assuming you’re on the spectrum like me? We can only hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 04:42 PM
1

More specifically, my autism. No one wants to make friends/date the special needs kid with a personal aide to boot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 04:41 PM
1

Yeah, but if you don’t have those either, you’re kinda screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 12:27 PM
1

Wish there was more of you out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:18 AM
3

Guess I wouldn’t have a shot then. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:16 AM
1

This just feels dejecting. But how we are supposed to get the experience anyway if we never get a chance in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:14 AM
4

I call BS on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:08 AM
1

Wish I could live the self-employed lifestyle but I just done have the mental means to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:01 AM
3

Life is also too short to be completely alone too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 05:59 AM
8

No, what’s brutal is no one wanting you at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 05:57 AM
2

30 years old?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:23 PM
2

Wish there were more of you that were that open-minded. — 30-year old virgin who’s never had a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:22 PM
2

I don’t like traveling lol. The only thing I have ever truly splurged on is my convertible (which I paid off 2 years ago). I’ve also spent a decent amount of money on rare refractor baseball cards, but that’s more of an investment than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:20 PM
1

Even if they’re not making enough money, the fact is that they still are. You can’t say the same thing for men, because there aren’t enough women who use OF for the same purposes as men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:18 PM
1

Well that’s just (one of) the problem. I don’t have any activities or hobbies. I work 8-5 and then I feel mentally exhausted and don’t do anything afterwards. I’m already a low-energy person and I need the weekend to rest just to prepare for the next week.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:17 PM
1

What?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 06:15 PM
1

What if their n count is 0?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 05:42 PM
1

I certainly don’t believe it. — 30-year old autistic male virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 05:38 PM
2

What if he has a low number but ISN’T able to get higher?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 05:31 PM
3

And the guy with 0 just can’t get a relationship, no matter how much they try.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 05:29 PM
2

Much easier said then done, especially when I’m autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 03:06 PM
3

Yes. But I was a “retarded” (not actually) special needs student, complete with having a personal aide, so I never got the opportunity to make friends. Instead, I was ostracized and frequently bullied. College didn’t help much. The combination of being socially crippled combined with being straightedge didn’t exactly allow me to have the “typical college experience.”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:50 PM
6

I save and invest and I feel miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:29 PM
3

And if no one likes eating/drinking/fucking with you, then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:27 PM
2

I would think that doing social media and marketing to simps would be a way easier and less stressful job than my 8-5 job. Also, even though it’s $180 a month on average, how much does a man make for roughly the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:52 PM
1

But even if that will happen, it’s also still the fact that it’s women who can make these huge amounts of money. You don’t really see it happening with the genders reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:34 PM
2

Not just the dating market, but for society in general, more acceptance and accommodations for people who are on the autism spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:22 PM
1

A bunch of obstacles, but it’s all centered around the fact that I have Asperger’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:19 PM
1

Guess I’m screwed because I’m not a decent man. Makes 50k Looks? Eh... average? Balding at the top certainly doesn’t help. Not confident, does not have game (Asperger’s with general and social anxiety, among other things).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:17 PM
4

I can only assume it’s because of the fact that anyone on OnlyFans who has a nice ass/tits/pussy can potentially make a huge amount of money for very little “actual” work. And for us guys, we hate the fact that because we don’t have these things, we don’t have the means to make that big money for little work. I mean how many men can make huge amount of money on those kinds of sites anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:09 PM
1

Thank you for sharing your story. As for the guy you were chasing, you said he had low/no self-esteem, pessimistic, self-deprecating, self-pitying, etc. Now of course you wouldn’t possess the knowledge of what he was like prior to meeting and chasing him, but have you ever wondered what he used to be? Was he a frequent target of bullying? Was he ostracized by his fellow peers? How many friends did he have? Did he even has any? It’s difficult to have self-esteem, be optimistic, etc., when these t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 12:35 AM
1

Sorry, but converting to a new religion is a dealbreaker for me. I’m Catholic but I’m not constantly praying to God and maybe go to church on holidays like Christmas/Easter at most. I don’t expect my SO to convert either. Whatever she believe in is her choice. So if she’s Catholic too, or Jewish, or Buddhist, whatever it is (except Scientology, that’s a red flag), it doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:51 PM
2

I don’t even bother with Tinder. I have tried OkCupid, Hinge and Bumble. No luck so far...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 08:45 PM
1

”Some people are desperate for connection” Listen, if you’ve been ostracized by your fellow peers and been bullied for most of your entire life, of course you’re going to be desperate for connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 12:50 PM
1

Or maybe we just need more women? The more women to exist, the less men will need to compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 05:41 AM
4

Jesus. As a man myself, I’m definitely not more sexually aggressive on dating apps. Or... really at all actually (not asexual BTW, just not looking for sex or a pump and dump from the get go; want to get to know a woman first with the hope that feeling develop between us that evolve into a relationship that would EVENTUALLY lead to sex). But as an Aspie, I’m definitely less apprehensive to approach because I’m not in a public setting surrounded by other people and because I can at least know a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:14 AM
0

What if it can’t be managed or is very difficult for them to do, especially alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 04:53 PM
1

Of course. But I’m saying people with autism/mental health issues are not loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 04:52 PM
1

I’m more of a face person. Tits or ass don’t really matter all that much if you’re not actually going to ever see them. At least with the face, it’s always visible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 03:06 PM
6

By 40, you will have money in your pocket and be free By the time I reach 40, I might already be dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 02:38 PM
2

During K-12, I needed a personal aide to help me with my work (especially anything that requires physical activity like art), help me get to class age safe and on time, among other things. This was due to the fact that I have Asperger’s, along with bad motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 12:38 PM
5

Men love ass? I actually find asses overrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 05:17 AM
3

I would like to think that as you get older, you develop more social skills Nope. If anything, they’ve gotten worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 05:14 AM
5

Same thing happened to me too. But besides being a lanky awkward fuck, I was also autistic and needed a personal aide, which made me a prime target to be attacked by just about anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 05:14 AM
4

Yup. I always fail, therefore I have no confidence and am doomed to continuously fail over and over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 05:07 AM
3

And some others will never have confidence when it comes to just about anything. Never had it and can never learn it. That would be me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 05:06 AM
1

Guess I’m screwed. I have trouble just walking period.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 05:04 AM
6

You hit the nail on the head. Which is kind of why I wish I was an ignorant dumbass.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 05:02 AM
1

That’s ok, I don’t like cookies anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 09:34 PM
2

That’s not the part that’s “everyone else’s fault,” the ostracization is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 09:33 PM
1

Why does she have to be just “hot?” Do looks matter? To a certain point, yes. But if looks are all she has abs nothing else, any initial interest immediately dissipates.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 09:23 PM
2

Some of us aren’t looking for mere sex. Some of us are looking to love and be loved. Sex would just be the metaphorical icing on the cake.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:29 PM
1

Respect should be given. It should also be easily taken though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:26 PM
1

Unfortunately true. Aspies like me will forever be fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:26 PM
0

When you’re ostracized by your fellow peers for being a “retard” because you’re autistic, have a personal aide and need accommodations just to merely survive, then yes it is everyone else’s fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:25 PM
1

So what we need then is more straight women to exist in this world so that it can meet the demands of straight men?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:22 PM
2

Simply find someone who I can closely match with in terms of personality and interests. I’m not looking for 8-10s when it comes to the looks department, I’d rather have a 10 in personality. If she just happens to be a 10 when it comes to looks, that’s just a bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:17 PM
2

More women are looking for commitment? If that was the case, then they’d care more about personality than looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:14 PM
1

Pete Davidson is conventionally attractive?! No, but he does have a shit ton of money, which certainly helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:12 PM
8

Nobody’s demanding anything. We just want an opportunity to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:08 PM
1

Not true at all. I certainly wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:06 PM
1

I wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:01 PM
2

If you were a millionaire, wouldn’t you avoid paying your taxes too? Yes. Because fuck you, it’s my money. If you were a cop who did something illegal wouldn’t you rely on the police union to escape jail time too? Trick question because I would never be a cop and if I did, I wouldn’t do anything illegal. If you were a starving inner city teen, wouldn’t you snatch an old lady’s purse too? Trick question again because if I was a starving inner city person, I’d already be dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 08:01 PM
2

Possibly, yes. I see myself more as a Scrooge.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 07:28 PM
2

It isn’t but maybe it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 05:47 PM
2

I think we just do “The Choosening” from that one episode of Steven Universe. No one picks, no effort needs to be made. Everyone gets a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 05:01 PM
0

I can’t picture myself in those positions so I’m afraid I can’t answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 04:52 PM
1

I’d feel lucky to have just one woman to wrap my arms around with, let alone two or more. If 2+ women were interested in me, I’m pretty sure my brain would fizzle and break in confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 04:18 AM
1

What about instead of ugly-looking guys, ugly-mental status guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 04:16 AM
5

I don’t want just sex though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 04:10 AM
1

If I was put on an island, my best use would be as a sacrifice. Because with anything else, I’d be a liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 06:13 PM
1

Unfortunately, I don’t have that...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 06:07 PM
4

Mandatory vasectomies and tube-tying would be a great solution. Most people shouldn’t have kids anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 04:44 PM
1

I just want to HAVE a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:41 PM
3

Wow, this feels super depressing, since I’m essentially the same as OP, except I’m 30 and also have Asperger’s. Fuck...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:30 PM
1

I wouldn’t move outside the country because I can barely survive here as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:24 PM
2

People flake because people are assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:23 PM
1

I hit my ceiling in elementary school.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:22 PM
1

Better than being all alone when you reach 30 with not a single friend or relationship in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:21 PM
1

I can’t think of a single reason as to why someone would be attracted to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:07 PM
0

I don’t even have those. I’m a super picky eater, thanks to my Asperger’s. Also, I don’t have much of a sense of humor. My laugh is usually more of a nervous, “laughing because everyone else is”, kind of laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 03:03 PM
1

Not sure what would happen. All I know is I wouldn’t get drafted. I’d be 4-F’d immediately, too much of a liability to actually participate in armed combat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 02:20 PM
2

Couldn’t find anything that says they did. They tried in the 1890s, but it didn’t go through. I saw that it exists in Missouri, but it’s only $1/year.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 06:08 PM
1

So maybe instead of polygamous, we have polyamorous?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 06:04 PM
8

If a “bachelor tax” ever comes into existence, I’m moving elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 06:02 PM
4

Neither. Maybe if I was considered attractive enough to multiple women, the idea of being polygamous or even polyamorous would sound cool. But in all honesty, I’d just be happy to have one woman who loves me for who I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 09:46 PM
8

As much as I would like to give up, the problem is I don’t have anything else going on for me. I have no other means to find “success” in life because I was cursed to have Asperger’s but without any of the more positive traits. Instead, I’m stuck in this limbo of being too functional to be classified as mentally deficient and yet not enough to be associated with the average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 05:09 PM
5

If simply playing video games attracted women, shouldn’t I have a harem at this point? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 02:57 PM
3

Not depends, it does just about everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 02:42 PM
1

No, I hate being single. Being all alone sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 05:03 AM
2

I’d prefer they didn’t. I am already attracted to them both inside and out if I had a partner. She wouldn’t need to do anything because she is already beautiful as she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 05:02 AM
1

Well, I know I’m not asexual. I am attracted to and want a relationship with a woman. Too bad I’ll never find a woman that will be interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 05:00 AM
2

It should be neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 04:56 AM
9

/s?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 02:04 AM
9

Never been in a relationship. No close personal friends. No sisters. The best compliment I’ve received from women was “I wish you were my little brother.” Not even good enough to be “friend-zoned”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 02:03 AM
1

I play video games and I used to play the piano. It hasn’t helped.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 01:59 AM
1

I’m fine with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 01:59 AM
3

Neither should be at taxpayer’s expense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 11:41 PM
4

Shouldn’t be either
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 10:08 PM
0

I thought you can’t get a vasectomy without your partner’s approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 09:55 PM
5

Abortion should be legal, as long as it’s not at taxpayers’ expense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 09:54 PM
2

Already being done, pal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 09:17 PM
2

Meanwhile, I can’t even manage one partner in my lifetime.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 09:16 PM
2

Most men might not settle down at 23. But boy I would have loved to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 09:15 PM
4

Its impossible to be unattractive...to every single woman That’s what you think...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 09:13 PM
2

My 3 freshman college roommates had an orgy with 5 other women while I was playing NASCAR on my Xbox. I was wearing a headset. No, I did not join in. I screamed and ran out the dorm, down the hall, all the way to the pizza place in the middle of the campus.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 09:06 PM
2

Unfortunately, it’s not something you can really fix. Not unless you can cut off both my arms and legs and replace them with fully functional cyberlimbs. Then maybe it’d be a start. Of course, that’s just the physical issues...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 09:03 PM
2

No one wants to date an Aspie loser with terrible motor skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 09:00 PM
2

Meanwhile, I have had 0 in my 30 years of existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 08:53 PM
1

Other than the job, I have none of those things. Then again, when you’re an Aspie loser who’s been bullied and ostracized for years, how can you be even close to average?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 08:52 PM
1

What if we just banned makeup?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 07:13 PM
2

I don’t care about style all that much. I wear slacks and hate cargo pants/jeans.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 07:11 PM
1

“Technology will take up the slack” So when do we get sex robots already?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 04:46 PM
1

Not really. Being all alone by yourself isn’t good. Trust me, I know. It sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 04:43 PM
2

It’s a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 04:41 PM
2

What are you if you’re not even good enough to be a beta/orbiter?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 04:34 PM
2

The last one, I’m the last one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 04:33 PM
1

I can’t even make friends in general let alone fuck buddies...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 04:31 PM
1

You really believe China’s numbers? Ha!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 04:28 PM
10

“Just be yourself.” First of all, myself sucks. Second of all, if that actually worked, wouldn’t I have gone on tons of dates throughout my life instead of just 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 04:24 PM
1

I don’t trust dogecoin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 02:13 AM
2

I don’t trust crypto or really anything online for that matter. If it’s not physical, I stay away. Not enough money to invest in gold or silver.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 11:14 PM
2

I’m autistic. People in general aren’t interested in getting to know me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 10:31 PM
1

I’m not good at transcribing. I’m the type of person that needs to ask “What?” multiple times. So this wouldn’t be a good fit for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 10:28 PM
1

Me owning/controlling a business would be bad idea. So I’d stay away. Still can’t do side hustles. There’s nothing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 10:27 PM
3

Yeah, even if this was legit, I don’t have close to $50,000. And even if I did, I’m saving up so I can have my own house.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 10:26 PM
3

Typing might be the only thing that I’m actually somewhat good at.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 10:25 PM
6

The thought of it makes me sick, especially since my abilities and motor skills are severely limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:57 PM
5

Same here, still don’t have the supposed kind of disposable income you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:49 PM
6

If I had a nickel every time I heard that, I’d have... well, not sure, but probably at least a couple bucks. Not being fooled again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:44 PM
3

Jesus...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:42 PM
2

And how can I do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:41 PM
3

Can’t cheat if you never got a chance to play the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:27 PM
7

Nothing. Put it in your savings or IRA.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:27 PM
3

And if you’re not even an average Joe Schmo, then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:26 PM
6

No one wants to be friends with the Aspie “retard” with a personal aide and accommodations, regardless of how “intelligent” he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:03 PM
5

I consider myself slightly above-average at best. I have no friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 09:00 PM
3

I think I have every right to be considered a victim considering I’ve been bullied and ostracized by my fellow peers for nearly 20 years. Why am I the one that needs to make changes? And even then, how am I supposed to do that when I’m fucking crippled here?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 08:39 PM
2

I used to have interests in gaming and sports, but those have waned. Guess I have nothing to offer women then. I’ll just be alone for the rest of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 08:16 PM
2

I have made efforts in the past, but no luck. Not interested in magic the gathering.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 07:35 PM
1

If guys are expected to just be born with a built-in user manual for life, then clearly mine either got lost or destroyed upon being born.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 06:54 PM
1

Why don’t I have a social life? Because no one wants to be friends with the Aspie “retard” who needs a personal aide and accommodations.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 06:53 PM
1

I didn’t necessarily mean romantically/sexually. I meant were you genuinely interested in getting to know them (which you said you did). Some people like me who are alone have had people approach us time and time again only it was either out of complete pity or because we are looked as an easy target to be taken advantage of. This only hurts us more and makes us even more closed off from the rest of the world because we just can’t seem to trust anyone but ourselves (and maybe not even that).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:49 PM
1

Never said you were virgin shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:40 PM
5

Well, I never got to have a social life so I got doubly fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:14 PM
3

Ok, so you felt bad for them and sat with them at lunch. But were you ever actually interested in any one of them or did you merely hang with them out of pity and/or guilt?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:13 PM
3

Which is why we need to ban sex work altogether. And punish both clients and sex workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:09 PM
1

There’s nothing ethical about prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:43 PM
-3

I kinda wouldn’t mind another war, especially if it means bringing back the draft. Of course, I wouldn’t get drafted. I’d be 4-F’d immediately lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:11 PM
2

The one thing Republicans have done right is sending (or at least trying to send) the illegals back.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:09 PM
1

I don’t even get likes, let alone be catfished.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:01 PM
5

Let’s just ban all sex work and porn altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:00 PM
5

Actually, I don’t think Tom Brady should make so much money just because he can throw a football. Sports players make too much money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:00 PM
2

Replace history degree with journalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:12 AM
1

I’d be too clingy to do anything like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:09 AM
2

I don’t know why. I’m just trying to get to Step 1: Find a woman who’s actually interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:07 AM
1

So I need to be more of an asshole in life. Wish I could, but I’m too much of a passive Aspie pushover.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:05 AM
1

Or they could be very anxious people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:03 AM
1

I don’t want “bad girls” or girls who want “bad guys.”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:02 AM
1

Forget about “options,” I’d just like to have some damn experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:01 AM
1

Yes. The way I see it, the taller she is, the more there is to hold for me and the easier it is for her to hold me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:59 AM
0

Both clients and prostitutes should be villainized. Eliminate the sex industry altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:57 AM
1

Single, never married men aren’t happier than unhappily married men because at least those who have gotten married at least experienced happiness at one point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:56 AM
1

It’s not just being a virgin, it’s the inability to attract women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:53 AM
3

No woman wants to date a 30-year old Aspie with shitty motor skills and both general and social anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:52 AM
8

Nope, can’t do it then. You’re always paying your dues. Once you graduate, life pretty much ends there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 04:50 AM
1

Already tried, didn’t work. Also tried physical therapy as I walk on my toes and with my feet pointed way outwards. They said the best/easiest thing to do to possibly correct that would be to get hip surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 01:29 PM
1

Makes me jealous. Guy could be the ugliest SOB in the world, but we might never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 01:17 AM
1

Well, if you’re autistic, “charisma” and “presence” is hard to come by, if at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 01:05 AM
2

Mental health issues, like Asperger’s, are considered a non-issue by women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 01:03 AM
2

Well, on top of the Asperger’s, yet another reason why I’m screwed. My voice is so high-pitched, I sometime get called ma’am on the phone, even after 10 seconds I said my name (which is clearly a boy’s name). It’s like I’m stuck in puberty...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 01:01 AM
1

Well, guess I have no shot because I have some of the traits listed in Category 1 but nothing from Category 2. People with Asperger’s like mine will always get screwed when it come to love and dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 12:59 AM
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