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You’d think! However in a world wherein everyone is low key attention seeking- they no longer take that as a compliment nor does it make them more attracted to you. Some men are in fact more interested (not necessarily attracted) to a woman who gives them the time of day.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 11:01 PM
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Sim, isso é uma merda — e ser honesto consigo mesmo é a melhor postura. Não tenho positividade tóxica pra te oferecer, meu amigo. Só isso: é, você é baixo. Eu tenho 1,7272m. Mas vem cá — a maioria das mulheres aí também não é baixinha? Parece que essa “coisa da altura” é mais sobre percepção e ego do que compatibilidade de verdade, na maioria das vezes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:58 PM
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I like that you said you said, “Emotional intelligence to me is being strong enough to risk forming a bond to reap the potential rewards of a relationship.” I agree that it is an element. To address other comments 1- yes it takes time to know if you’re certain or want to be with someone. However I think the framing matters. If you start an interaction saying you do not want anything serious- and someone asks you to clarify or even directly asks, “ are you saying you do not want anything at this …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:17 PM
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I’m sorry you went through that. I too, have dealt with an abusive person and it was terrible. People never really believe you, because it’s hard to prove manipulation and such. Regardless the behavior is still abusive. I’d say manipulative people are just as insulting as cheaters.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 04:06 PM
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Eu te entendo. Ser rejeitado por algo como a altura — especialmente depois de você se expor — dói mais do que as pessoas imaginam. E quando o feedback é vago ou superficial, dá a sensação de que você nem teve uma chance de verdade. É totalmente compreensível se sentir cansado disso. Uma coisa que você poderia tentar, só pra evitar esse tipo de situação desde o início, é perguntar logo de cara: ‘Oi, tenho altura média — tudo bem pra você?’ Não é se desculpar por quem você é, é só uma forma de pou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:46 PM
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Same!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:34 PM
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Está tudo bem ter preferências sobre a aparência de uma mulher — todos nós temos. Mas só a atração física não sustenta um relacionamento. A pergunta real é: você está emocionalmente disponível? Consegue apoiar sua parceira mental e emocionalmente, e não só com logística? Uma mulher pode atender a todos os seus critérios, mas se você não estiver presente, seguro de si e disposto a construir algo real, nada disso vai adiantar. No fim das contas, a conexão vai muito além de uma lista de exigências.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:18 PM
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Cara, não se trata de “baixar os padrões”, e sim de refletir sobre quais padrões realmente importam. Peso e distância não constroem conexão. Já maturidade emocional, respeito e boa comunicação fazem toda a diferença. Ficar solteiro por um tempo não é sinal de fracasso—é sinal de autoconhecimento. Eu, por exemplo, gosto da minha própria companhia, resolvo conflitos com empatia e não projeto nos outros. Isso não significa aceitar alguém imaturo só para não estar só. Dizem que mulheres solteiras há…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:15 PM
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Yeahhh. I use Reddit opinions for pure curiosity. Not to sway my decisions. For example. If I see a tik tok trend wherein an unsavory opinion has some wild view points- I will come to PPD- and see what generally regular people feel about the topic. Usually they offer rational opinions. I agree that if you need to come on PPD to get people to sway your opinion- just don’t. Having the internet make a decision for you may not be the wisest option 😂🤌🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:44 AM
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Half of what he said was nonsensical. I gave up on that one and passed it off as “English might not be his first language”.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:24 AM
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I’m a simple woman . Most women have simple non negotiable standards- such as a man who is emotionally mature and emotionally available. A man who is confident (insecure people - not just men, are extremely problematic in dating/relationships- they can be argumentative, manipulative, and psychologically abusive). A man who has healthy communication patterns and doesn’t play texting games (willfully ignoring someone, withholding attention or affection). A man who is direct and certain with what h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:17 AM
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Expand on this please. For me personally - I am autistic- and extremely literal. So my definition of emotional maturity has nothing to do with perfection. It means being able to manage your emotions, take responsibility for your actions, and respond to situations with self-awareness and empathy instead of reacting impulsively. It’s about handling conflict, criticism, and stress in a calm, respectful way…even when things don’t go your way. My only strange desire is for a man to truly be direct. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:12 AM
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Unironically- I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:22 AM
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I agree here- date in your caliber. You won’t be let down 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 02:53 PM
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I don’t agree. I’ve been friends with men who were average and below. They caught feelings and things got weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:24 PM
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Yay I found another INFJ. Im INFJ-A though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:40 AM
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I’m a happily single by choice / single forever type of woman — and I don’t get upset when I come across men who aren’t interested in commitment. Just like I don’t get upset when someone says they don’t want kids. I’m pro: do whatever the hell you want with your life. Only you know what’s best for you — because only you know what you’ve been through and how it’s shaped you. I think people who get bitter about it are just projecting. They see people like us — content, single by choice, thriving —…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:39 AM
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Eh. For me, words and actions have to align — period. I’m autistic, so if you tell me “I’m not looking for anything serious,” but then want to cuddle, have sex, and act like we’re in a relationship… that’s a huge disconnect. Your actions and words aren’t matching, and I’m going to notice. Some women fall for words — they crave affirmation and validation. But women like me? We don’t care much for words of affirmation. We value consistency between what you say and what you do. So if you’re just a …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:35 AM
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It’s just difficult to have platonic friendships with the opposite gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:28 AM
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Selling- there’s trauma- it’s degrading for some. Reputation is ruined. Hard to get a job if it’s online. It’s illegal in many places.. CANT buy if there’s no selling. So that’s why I say selling.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 12:23 AM
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That’s just called intellectual intimacy. There are 5 intimacies. Social, intellectual, physical, social, and spiritual.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:12 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:09 PM
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Good conflict resolution (can express and communicate directly) We love each other Has kids, or is ok with them 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:03 PM
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Been there. Said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:02 PM
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Yet.. one made you. So. Is mommy an idiot or ? Is this selective empathy ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:59 PM
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I agree a little. As a divorcee. I find that- men can usually date sooner after being divorced especially if they aren’t the primary parent. Or they don’t see the kids at all. For example- ex husband has been in about 2 or 3 relationships since the split 😂. Me -1 but idk if 3 months counts. Therefore. I think men usually get better benefits. They can get remarried faster. I will say- the happiness of the man depends on how the ex wife fucks him financially or not. Example- my ex husband has it e…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:58 PM
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Men tend to like me when I’m at a healthy weight and passively showing my wealth too.. guess that isn’t a double standard after all…. Wow 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:49 PM
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Im not. Cry. Be vulnerable. Butt play 👀. Embrace feminine aspects of yourself. Just be you. . You’d be surprised to know- most women really don’t care. Because we don’t even know male politics
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:46 PM
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I LOVE THIS 🥰🥰🥰💕💕💕
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:44 PM
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But you’d need to heal if you’d want it to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:41 PM
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orders McDonald’s 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:36 PM
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No, those women gave up dating 😂🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:35 PM
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Trueeeeeeeeee. We get older. Comfortable being single. We no longer care about the male gaze or their opinions of us… annnddd then we just.. meh. 😂. Crash out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:33 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:29 PM
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Never in my life.. would I have thought that I’d agree with something a red pill man said. .. you sure your pill isn’t …..magenta ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:28 PM
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Is that modern dating now ? Smash on the first date to preview the body ? Soo if you don’t like her body would you still smash ? Or have standards and leave ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:23 PM
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Wait are you saying- if a woman tells a man she usually waits- he doesn’t expect it. But if she discusses her fun days he will expect it ? Sooooooo If she puts out on the first date wouldn’t y’all see her as a /whore and not take her seriously ? Pardon my autism. Im confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:20 PM
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Well.. I heard that leaders are meant to serve. You aren’t a leader if you aren’t willing to serve. You’re a Boss. But not a leader. Bosses call the shots. Tell you what to do, tell you when you’re wrong. Leaders- guide you, teach you, provide valid feedback, they do for you, even when you don’t do for them. . . Any woman is willing to be submissive to a man who exhibits he is capable of leading. If he isn’t consistent in his own life, most women will not submit easily to him. As they will perce…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:55 PM
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Eh, my take is this: These kinds of things should really be sorted out during the dating phase, before a relationship is established. When I was actively dating, I made it a point to ask about someone’s “type”—because I understand the difference between mental and physical attraction. If those aren’t aligned, it can definitely lead to intimacy issues down the line—for both partners. For example, the woman may start to notice that he doesn’t compliment her, doesn’t seem to dote on her, or even ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 01:47 PM
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I’ve been looking for this comment !!! I totally agree here. I didn’t want to say it if someone else did 😂😭There are plenty of men who aren’t fully attracted to their partners but would NEVER say it aloud. As they know it’s grounds for a breakup. Some things you just don’t say aloud. . Plus often times, if a woman is self reflective, self aware, and has good self esteem- she may be able to figure that out by how he’s treating her, and move on accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 01:35 PM
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So you’re saying society is shot to shit and we need to give up ? Ok. Excuse me while I go jump in front of that next semi truck.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 04:00 AM
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That’s what the YMCA was originally founded as. . . Then uhhh inclusivity came about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 03:52 AM
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Some people just don’t care about height. . If someone is kind and treats a woman well it won’t matter. However there are some women who legit have to have instant physical attraction - if they don’t because of height- there’s nothing that can be done about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 02:45 PM
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He’s not lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:49 AM
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I mean. I think I see what you’re saying. But it comes down to the man. Some men are hopeful that they can teach said tradcon woman the ropes. They’re usually disappointed to find out she isn’t interested in learning or being consistent. The promiscuous woman typically makes it easier because she knows what she wants. Will please her partner. Unironically most promiscuous women who heal themselves turn out to be very faithful long term. Whereas the tradcons- I’ve noticed - have been more likely …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:48 AM
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Basically OP is saying, on the bases of using someone’s comments- if you could read a persons mind you’d know the truth. A well controlled man isn’t necessarily good or bad as he could feel the same but not say it. You’d be better off with the man who’s outspoken because at least you know upfront he isn’t hiding anything. Essentially would you rather know someone is racist outright- or find out later after a lot of covert abuse and attacks from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:28 AM
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😂 this question is funny. There’s a certain breed of women that feel this way.. a majority of smart women would prefer their partners to deescalate the situation or walk off because the man’s stability isn’t worth another’s unbalanced emotions and ego. Imagine losing your job and going to jail because your lady said you weren’t a man because you didn’t fight. Imagine losing your life. . . I’d rather my guy walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:25 PM
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He’s not lying. There’s a verifiable stockpile Here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:16 PM
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Spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:44 AM
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She ain’t lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:42 AM
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Agree. If he’s attractive or has money , those standards will lower to hell. Not me.. I’ve seen friends do this though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:41 AM
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Nuh uhn, no no finger leave us out of this 😂🫠
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:40 AM
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Is this rage bait?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 02:18 AM
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Nah, where is he? I’d like some cuddles please 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 01:49 PM
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Any single person. This isn’t gender specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:55 PM
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Agreed.. women need to stop comparing and admire their strength and value instead.. but they’d rather be entitled and want a man to bend at their will.. no thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:29 AM
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Agreed. First date or first convo should involve the non negotiable things . Saves time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:54 PM
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Touché.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:48 PM
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When you send insults because you don’t understand satire.. which could also be a low IQ 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 05:53 PM
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Agreed. Why lead someone on. That’s horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:00 PM
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That’s what I deduced after reading the post. Like uhhh it sounds like you appreciate the fact that they are open with their compliments. . Just get a woman who’s comfortable doing it. Wouldn’t say it’s love. It’s just how they show they’re interested. Which.. they sortve have to do that…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 10:11 PM
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Agreed. When I had low self esteem, I dated unattractive men and attractive men. It was hit or miss on the treatment. I will say the abuse you get from an unattractive man is worse. While the embarrassment the attractive one causes you is equally worse. Such polarities. With that being said- it’s exactly why I stopped with the BS “looks don’t matter”. I learned that from my experiences of dating while actively bypassing looks - vs dating with looks considered. My experiences with dating those I …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 09:33 PM
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Rude of you to assume that an unattractive man doesn’t have standards lol 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 09:31 PM
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Yeah, a liar who’s obviously experienced both polarities of living to appease society, and living to appease myself. Ironically my anxiety and stress reduced to nothing after choosing to live for myself. WOW- that must be such a lie and my psychiatrist must be a liar too. I did nothing more than follow his advice consistently and everything improved within a year. It’s been 3 years since, and my life is substantially better. But yeah. I’m a delusional liar 😂😂😂😂😂 so is Dr. Suresh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 06:39 PM
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When you remove your own preconceptions and expectations, you can do the same for others. Living the life you love is liberating—you don’t feel the pressure to please others. Similarly, you won’t need to impose your will on others either. When you take ownership of your life, other people feel empowered to follow suit. Expectations are an illusion—they add useless pressure to everyone. Let’s recover the joy of living. Remember when you were a kid. You probably didn’t have time for expectations—y…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 12:05 AM
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I’m aware it doesn’t lead to respect. It’s just what I personally love about being a woman. Having a child can hold us back depending on how we raise the child. So I agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:10 PM
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Change is needed in our society and I am aware of it. Which is why I choose to show up differently and genuinely validate men, and women.. while women do get it more, this was not something I was aware of as a woman who grew up without it. Genders need not to point the finger at who’s the problem. R/aitah shows that any gender can be the problem. It’s a human problem. Not a gender problem. It isn’t ok that society puts that into you alls head because it’s defeating to hear. It fosters negativity…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:04 PM
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I can procreate first and foremost, and after that child is born, my body is able to provide nutrients to that child without having to purchase food or expensive formulas. The experience of carrying a child inside of you is hard to explain, but it’s awesome, and the birthing process- while it’s painful and traumatic, is unforgettable. Science in action. I get to watch my child grow through each stage- watch his brain develop, his emotions develop.. see when he’s actively in a growth spurt. To ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:20 PM
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What if they’re long but natural ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 04:21 PM
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Another example of why this is a logical argument. I’m a woman- if I live my life for society - I’d still be married to my ex husband - accepting emotional abuse because society says I should be married, own a home, have a degree, be a great mom, be smoking hot, and do whatever my husband says. Which is still subjective because those things depend on what societal norms you subscribe to. Other societies may say; get a degree, do not have kids, travel a lot, own a home. If you’re living for exter…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:47 PM
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Uhhh I didn’t provide any information on what I deem a man to be great. I said- live your life. Which is logical. If you’re a man with goals- you’ll likely work toward those goals. Which is you living your life for you. If you’re living your life for society you’d be out here trying to find a woman, and then become whatever she wants for societal approval of being married. I didn’t say that. I said life your life for you.. according to what makes you happy. You seem a little jaded and that’s ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:42 PM
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I agree. I value men, and have joked around saying I’d rather be a man because it’s easier. I was naturally corrected by my friends about their struggles. I took the time to educate myself on things men experience. I reach out to men, and support them emotionally as much as I can. While women aren’t always needed by men, the way a woman can nurture a man’s emotions is very helpful. It creates balance, and fills the nurturing cup for the woman. It’s an equal exchange.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:20 PM
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You are just as valued as you want to be.. I hope that some day you can see yourself as a person who is needed. Just because you do not fit into a masculine society- doesn’t mean you aren’t someone who’s needed. Your view points are valid. Your honesty is appreciated. A lot of us feel or have felt the ways in which you mentioned. However, some of us, have grown to understand that constantly seeking external validation - will strip you of your happiness. I love being a woman.. even though it isn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:11 PM
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You’re being a great man for yourself!!!!! You don’t do things to receive validation from the external world. Why? Logically it doesn’t make sense to me, because the external world doesn’t live your life for you. So to have the mindset “why should I be great for someone who doesn’t value me” is a little flawed. You aren’t living your life for them. You’re living your life for you. Doing things you want to do, that bring you joy and add to the equation of happiness. Please live your life for you.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:07 PM
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Not true. Just because a few people do not value you- or properly express that they do value you.. doesn’t mean it isn’t true. I value all men. Each of you, contribute in many ways that are needed. Find balance by improving self efficacy, and you’ll get it. I’m not widely valued or appreciated. Some even hate me because I’m a single parent. Does that mean I should feel undervalued ? No. sending you some hugs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:04 PM
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I had 1 LAFS moment- we built a bond before meeting, and this guy- took terrible photos.. so he looked substantially better in person 😳😂. I also never asked his height so I was shocked about that too. So I guess with the bond built before we met contributed to the LAFS.. After him, I haven’t experienced LAFS- I’m not sure if it’s possible- due to me being older and wiser. So even if I did experience it- I would logically crush my heart and be like “it’s lust calm down princess”. Which would imme…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 11:02 PM
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I’m not saying you’re lying, I couldn’t find that statement from the link you provided. Is all 🤗. If someone accuses you of lying- they’re just trying to avoid admitting that there’s truth in your statement and they don’t want to take the L. Other times, people don’t like to hear about personal experiences in debates because it’s usually a unicorn type of scenario. 🤗.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:45 PM
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Yeah- I didn’t either until I was scrolling through this website of insane fraud cases- and a few of them involved men getting out of child support with a bad paternity test. It was either that or they would’ve faced jail time due to the fact that they had so much back pay owed. In a lot of states you can end up in jail if you owe too much
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:43 PM
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Absolutely. I had a friend- have to fight in court to avoid going to jail for back pay on child support for a child that wasn’t his. He wasn’t mean or cruel to the child. Just traumatized by the experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:18 AM
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This is a great wiki read.. however There is nothing In this article mentioning mail in test. Only that, “all tested parties have to be properly identified and their specimens collected by a third-party professional who is not related to any of the tested parties and has no interest in the outcome of the test.” which can still be a mail in test. Edited to add- there is one thing that mentions mail in tests related to the Philippines.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:15 AM
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Good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:08 AM
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I like this solution. But there would need to be controlled tests done on site at the court house to ensure paternity fraud isn’t occurring on the man’s side. I’ve seen cases where men had their friends swab and then mail the sample back which would show that he wasn’t the father to avoid child support - despite it truly being the child. Then using the same results to get pity from other women and people 😂🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:13 PM
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I agree to an extent. Most single moms aren’t wanting the man to step up and parent the child. Most single parents usually are dating for them. Not the child- meaning- I don’t need you to come in and be a parent or support the child. I’m dating for companionship . My child isn’t going to burden you because you won’t be involved with him. While I do understand that there are some parents who be out here looking for a step parent. Most aren’t. For me personally. I don’t even discuss my child with …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:49 PM
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This is where OP is stating these thoughts are flawed. Most single moms aren’t wanting the man to step up and parent the child. Most single parents usually are dating for them. Not the child meaning- I don’t need you to come in and be a parent or support the child. I’m dating for companionship .
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:36 PM
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I wouldn’t say either gender has it worse. Statistically speaking men will have it worse because they are often the ones who shoot their shot. They’re the “hunters”. Women who aren’t attractive or have red flags aren’t directly rejected, they just get ignored or not approached. The other caveat is that everyone internalizes rejection differently. Some see it as soul crushing. Others see it as nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:38 PM
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😭😅🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:57 PM
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😂😂😂😂. No they arent man. That reminds me of the sub r/birdsarentreal
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:55 PM
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Eh- I’m a single mom, and I don’t collect a penny from the system. Nor do I get child support. . I don’t sell myself for money either. I am not sniffing up a man’s ass to pay my bills. So I always twitch a little when they say single moms strain the system and collect welfare. Uhhh excuse me- where is it? And can I have a dollar ? Jk. Often times when I’ve tried to apply for benefits I get rejected so I gave up a long time ago and just accepted my responsibility . I think that often times people…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:36 AM
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Glad I didn’t do any sex work on only fans .. with how you worded it, those women who are in that line of work probably get into some crazy stuff since the guy is paying to do whatever they want 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:37 AM
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Yeah. The golden trap! The ones who wear their mask long enough to trap you 😭🥴. Then you have to run off with the kid for your and their mental health. Some single moms have chosen to bring the child up in a more peaceful environment than one that’s loveless and filled with covert toxic behaviors and arguing. I’ve seen many people said “I wish my parent would’ve just divorced”. Props to those who stay, props to those who leave. Just do what you feel best. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:04 PM
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Gotta be careful with pewresearch studies. They aren’t the BEST always.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:55 PM
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Touché.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:54 AM
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Eh you do agree with it. You started with you don’t know if you agree and then ended with how it relates. If it’s based in jealousy or trying to tear someone down, that is in-fact projections. Projection is when we take feelings that we might not want to acknowledge in ourselves, such as jealousy or anger, and we 'project' them onto someone else,” explains Kelsey M. Latimer, PhD, a clinical psychologist and registered nurse in Stuart, Florida. Props to you for at least acknowledging that you do …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:13 AM
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Very interesting. Would you at least give them a chance ? You know, in case looks are deceiving ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:52 PM
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Eh- not all women stop taking care of their bodies. Those who do take care of themselves are also judged for being high maintenance or superficial. Such double standards and projections. Bodies change with time. I recently watched this YouTube show that wasn’t the typical dating line up- because the line up included older men and women. So 30 and up. The women who were in shape, didn’t get rejected immediately . The women who were TOO fit got rejected since muscle babes are a niche attraction. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:26 PM
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If it's transactional, it's not love. Transactional means expecting something in return, which isnt love. I understand your angle, but I can also see why many people will disagree with you. People are confusing transactional with reciprocation. This is common considering most people can’t even distinguish between lust and love. Ami Koide who’s a licensed family therapist said “Reciprocity relates to people feeling they want to feel they're on the same level of care and being cared for back. Tran…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 08:44 AM
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Wow. Thanks for expanding on that. I do appreciate it. Cool brain you got there 🥰.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 07:51 AM
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I do agree with what you’re saying. I’m not sure if they’re lying, but in fact are downplaying looks. I’ve been guilty of down playing looks for 2 reasons - 1 if someone is attractive- it doesn’t mean they’re datable. If someone isn’t as attractive- it doesn’t mean they aren’t datable. This is where personality does contribute to overall attractiveness. Someone can be a total smoke-show, but they’re an asshole , so they don’t even look as good anymore. So for me, I downplay it due to the fact th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 07:47 AM
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I like Reddit- not for the anon- but because I get a goodddd understanding of different perspectives I would’ve never considered. I’m introverted so it’s nice to see what’s going on in peoples head. Anyone who uses Reddit to be a bully or troll- that’s just sad. It’s a new low in my opinion. Reddit should be used to connect with like minded people while protecting your image since these days- companies do view social media as a means to fire you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 07:29 AM
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As a woman, I do agree. I don’t mind the nice guy trope. However it’s very hard to determine if they’re interested in you. So you have to ask them. Or make a move. If I am in my feminine state, I’d feel weird having to do so. Therefore a guy who takes the lead (being dominant) would get a pass since he’s directly letting me know he’s interested. Albeit, it may be boisterous, but there’s no mental gymnastics involved. You just know cause he’s showing it. The nice guys are appreciated, however wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:34 AM
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Yea I met a guy like that too in Atlanta. Millions by 30. He was butt hurt in the back of my car with his friend (I was doing Uber on the weekend lol ) asking me what he should do. The guy was conventionally attractive, successful- but the kicker was that he wasn’t the typical rich guy abusing his status and power for women. He genuinely wanted a connection. The girl decided to stand him up and hang with her friends instead although he flew from California to visit her. He mentioned she had trau…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:31 AM
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Right!!! That’s the question I was wondering lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:25 AM
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Well that escalated. While reading I was going to say “who hurt you” but you told us at the end. . Feel Better. But do not ignore your feelings and emotions because you encountered another crazy person. You’re right to focus on your health, and money.. but to maintain true balance, one must acknowledge those emotions SOMETIMES. . Even the negative ones. Otherwise there’s a build up and an explosion. Like this one here on Reddit. Just sit with those feelings- but do not turn sour. This isn’t your…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 06:09 AM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 05:49 AM
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I agree here. Well written 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 05:48 AM
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Sounds like something Sylvia Plath would say. “Can somebody please help me understand this quote by Sylvia Plath? I've re-read it a million times and still can't understand. "And I think: I am but one more drop in the great sea of matter, defined, with the ability to realize my existence. Of the millions, I, too, was potentially everything at birth. I, too, was stunted, narrowed, warped by my environment, my outcroppings of heredity. I, too, will find a set of beliefs, of standards to live by, y…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 05:43 AM
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Ohhh I’ve studied it soooo much. I can bore you with data, facts, and personal experiences. It’s like I get it, but I don’t get it, because I’m partially biased. Biased because I’ve healed. Was it easy? ABSOLUTELY NOT did it take 3 years - plus testing- yep. Was it worth it ? HOLY HELL YES now I just sortve walk around looking at people and their behaviors- not get feeling bad, but just… radically accepting them as is. Just seeing the potential in them, but not relying on it 😮‍💨. More of, you ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 07:47 PM
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Thank you! I appreciate your kind words. Also, your user flair is amazing. I too, cannot stand people. No biases on gender. It’s just that people can’t seem to connect with empathy being at the forefront of the interaction. Instead, they’d rather connect with defensive tactics and constant competition. It makes me - not angry but annoyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 06:38 PM
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Thank you. I don’t hate men- I have made enemies on accident by arguing that men and women cannot be equal and that men have value. I’ve been accused of being a pick me- But I’m also not seeking a relationship either. I have too many responsibilities that do not allow me to even have the time to date. At most- I communicate with you guys on Reddit in these discussions. It keeps me aware of some of the experiences you guys have gone through, and how it makes you all feel. I support healthy emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 06:35 PM
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Cause the world is ending. Radical acceptance 😂🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:58 PM
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Agreed. I have seen some bad wigs though 😭🫢😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:57 PM
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https://youtu.be/FSRx7YDcwCA?feature=shared Here is finlands top dating coach. She featured with Alexie- they focused mostly on the culture in Helenski which is more progressive. Anyway- they both have accurate and highly supported channels by others in Finland meaning people aren’t disagreeing with them vs how we might disagree with fresh and fits perspective about representing America. They specifically talk about the hookup culture in this video - proving my point correct, and yours incorrect…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:27 PM
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Very false. Men and women in Finland even married couples split 50/50. On dates women do not expect the man to pay. If they’re super nice they may offer but in general they don’t pay for the other. You REALLY need to look into finlands dating culture. Try Dating beyond borders YouTube or Alexie himself YouTube channel.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:25 PM
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<image> Or this
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:06 PM
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<image> Like this
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:06 PM
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Thanks…. I live in a state where women are in an abundance. There are so many options of beautiful women the men have to get ultra picky with looks.. if you dress down they’ll automatically cancel you. Since they know there’s near perfection lurking around the corner 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:01 PM
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that… I’m not even about to argue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 02:57 PM
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Well said. I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:44 PM
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Agreed, in Finland- even married couples split everything down the middle. Occasionally the man pays a little more. Also- in Finland - on a first date- the women do not expect the man to pay. Sex on the first night isn’t uncommon - and they’re sexually liberal. It’s such a strange country but clearly it’s working for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:43 PM
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Girl, id rather walk into the wall, fall into the bushes I didn’t see, and crash my car - to avoid those labels 🙈😭🥴. I wouldn’t do it for the male gaze. Purely to avoid being mistaken as a SJW. I am not that person. My view of the world would piss those types off.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:29 PM
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I’m not sure about that. Unless men have encountered the ladies who look DRASTICALLY different without makeup on. Then I’d get it. However I’ve noticed the difference in men approaching me when I’m dressed up and when I am dressed in gym wear (leggings- workout jacket - sneakers) and no make up- basically I wake up and look like that photo- except the eyeliner and chapstick. Since men have such high fashion standards for women and want them to look like a doll- I logically went- ok- they like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:27 PM
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I don’t. All double standards only show a polarity - which they are supposed to. It’s when people get ignorant and insult people or degrade them over the very thing they have the capacity to do. So I actually have an issue with double standards as a whole. Reason: Double standards show basic hypocrisy and contradictory statements. .
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:12 PM
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seeeeeeee, now I gotta throw my 6 year old cat eye frames away.. apparently the SJW’s have made it a bad look. NOW WHAT am I supposed to do about having a heart shaped face which just so happens to go well with cat eye shape 😭😭😭😭🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈 Social politics are killing me. I’m too old for this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:09 PM
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I mean, it doesn’t show that you’re a moron. To me, it shows that you have a sense of humor 😂🤗. I just kept refreshing the suggestions until evening suggestion popped up 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:07 PM
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I didn’t say what was a red flag. You’re just changing the subject here. Which is exactly what I wrote at the end of my comment. It just turns into a double standards conversation which I’m not having. Some women will be chonk and want a fit man, if it’s a red flag to you, then it is. I’d obviously give her a side eye as another woman because I’d wonder why she doesn’t workout herself. I’ve said previously - I believe in reciprocation. If you cannot show up for your partner in the way you want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:57 PM
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So a model ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:49 PM
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Never mind . Got it. .
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:48 PM
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What’s an SJW
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:48 PM
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This username 😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:47 PM
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Just use a bidet. Or like most Muslims - they don’t use toilet paper. Just water after tolieting. Like a quick wash up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:46 PM
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I don’t wear wigs- but I’ve been fooled into thinking someone’s wig was their real hair.. do those ( the well done wigs) count ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:45 PM
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What’s problem glasses ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:44 PM
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I mean, I tend to dress down and not wear a lot of make up. Just a fox eye, brush my eyebrows because they get wild and some chapstick to avoid men. Since I am not in a dating season. It prevents them from approaching me, and I don’t have to feel bad for having to turn them away 😭🙈. <image> Just keeping it simple - yet it detracts men wonderfully. Now when I worked in banking I had to dress up everyday and wear a full face of make up and fill in my eyebrows.. I got a lot of attention (didn’t lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:43 PM
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I don’t approve people based on their body counts. I approve people based on their levels of emotional intelligence, whether or not they’re avoidant, if they have good follow through, are kind, and are in control of their ego- not their ego controlling them. Anyway- I still stand firm on people needing to chill out on the double standards. It just makes them look like a donkey butt. Can also be a red flag for long term relationships too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 10:17 AM
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You just said what I said….. thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:58 AM
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For those constantly commenting on a promiscuous woman- I just hope and pray that you all have a body count less than 5. In that case - I’ll respect the hell out of your opinion. You are practicing what you preach. If you’re that guy who’s had more that 5 causal flings and have the audacity to comment on someone being promiscuous- just shut up. Otherwise we’d have to have the double standards conversation which always ends in both parties pointing out observable double standards each gender has.…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 04:04 AM
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TL:DR this well written post is simply to confirm that virgins hold value because men don’t even have to go through these types of mental gymnastics. For those constantly commenting on a promiscuous woman- I just hope and pray that you all have a body count less than 5. In that case - I’ll respect the hell out of your opinion. You are practicing what you preach. If you’re that guy who’s had more that 5 causal flings and have the audacity to comment on someone being promiscuous- just shut up. Oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 04:00 AM
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OP
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 04:23 AM
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This was a pretty obvious rage bait. I’m surprised no one is feeding into it, and are responding amicably.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:02 PM
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Agreed! Gender doesn’t matter with advice usually. It does help with relatability. If a person has high EQ- they’re a good candidate for giving advice. Being self aware comes with high eq though. Great answer 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 01:01 PM
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That’s what I was wondering 😮‍💨🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 10:10 AM
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Ok, more mental gymnastics. I see you’ve made your bed, and are quite comfortable in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 09:55 AM
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I don’t disagree here. I was recently exploring Finnish culture. They’re sexually liberated there, so it isn’t uncommon for women to do that. Here in America - it becomes a conversation about someone being a whore, promiscuous, and too masculine. Egos and judgment. We Americans are great at that apparently lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:34 PM
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Interesting take. Have you ever been accused of flirting while being friendly ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:31 AM
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You aren’t lying. Although I’ve heard these days- most men are denying women that do such. . Would you deny it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:21 AM
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Yasssssss. It better workout. I’ll check back a few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:20 AM
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I know exactly what you mean.. to be specific, I just don’t do it as often unless I’m like REALLY interested. Or cracking jokes with coworkers I’m comfortable with
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 03:12 AM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 03:11 AM
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Absolutely. I do admire it and appreciate it though. It’s just a constant reminder of just how different our perception is, and how our childhood experiences really do impact how we show up as adults trying to mate 😮‍💨.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:28 AM
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It’s great that you didn’t internalize the hit.. emotional abuse is definitely the worst thing ever. To be honest with you- TW: this is a dark comment . But- id rather take a physical hit than emotional abuse any day. I’d feel sorry for the wife too. She’s marrying an abusive person. I do not believe that bullcrap of “oh maybe they were only abusive with you”. Nah. If someone hits you, or emotionally abuses you- they will repeat it again if they’re allowed to, and do not get proper help to addre…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:25 AM
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Ohhh I see. Context is important for sure. I’m trying to normalize women giving men compliments. They’re usually well deserved. Men put in effort too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 12:22 AM
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I’m sorry you experienced DV. It’s traumatic. I’m glad you had the strength to leave. 💕💕. sending some high fives and hugs
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 12:20 AM
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Hey, at least you’re still standing strong. While I’m not fat- even if I were- I wouldn’t take offense to it. Here’s why- That colloquialism came from Dan Cook in the 1970’s - over a basketball game. It was accepted and not offense because during that time a very large percentage of opera performers were fat. Like- a VERY large percentage. So he was politically correct. By no means should anyone take offense to a colloquialism. That’s in the lines of taking offense to comedy. Which isnt wise. I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 12:19 AM
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I hope you find your peace brother! I really do. I’ve experienced an avoidant partner, I’ve also experienced avoidant friends and family. It’s a soul crushing experience. Nothing no one wants to deal with to be honest. Finding yourself after crawling out of that darkness isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. It’s one of those glorious moments when you realize you did all that you could to be right. While they picked and picked until there was no reason left to stay. With the audacity to try to get you …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 12:14 AM
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The first half sounded like a movie fantasy. The opening scene to a horrible rom com.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 11:09 PM
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THAT was so general that my brain almost slipped into the abyss of mental gymnastics. Soooooooooo…. What happened ? Was it rejection ? Miscommunication ? The person not getting it ? Accused you of being a creep ? I’ve experienced these things but it hasn’t stopped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 11:08 PM
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Ahhh so men really do be out here getting the tingly feels when we touch them and think we are in love. JK JK. is your user name space rockets shortened ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 11:06 PM
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Ahhhh yesssss now that I’m older. I’ve stopped on the sexual innuendos. But I do agree 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 11:05 PM
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You’re totally right. Often because the avoidant tends to make their partner anxious - a person with anxious attachment will start to scramble to figure out why the avoidant isn’t progressing in the relationship. So they use sex in hopes to bond with them or get them to stay. Some have even used baby traps. It’s a riot honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 11:04 PM
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Yeah see with a basic compliment I wouldn’t take it as flirting. I give compliments to everyone if it’s genuine so it might not be the best approach. I could be like hey Cunning- you’re so funny! You’d think I’m flirting . That’s emotionally chaotic because then you’d have to deal with rejection after finding out I was just being nice/polite.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 11:02 PM
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Right! Most would be so insulted. . I was flabbergasted at the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:59 PM
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THAT WAS A GOOD READ. I didn’t expect that ending. To your point- she used an insult to indicate she likes you. Which if I think of male psychology - men usually insult each other in competition but it’s friendly fire. So you OBVIOUSLY understood her behavior because she spoke your language. Am I right or shooting in the dark ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:59 PM
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I laughed at this because I agree with your approach. I actually just tell someone “you’re attractive”. Then on our next encounter I tell them again that they’re attractive, and that I’m interested in getting to know them more personally if they’re open to it. There’s always a chance for slight rejection but usually depending on how they respond on the first you’re attractive determine if I should play the shuffles longer before the second drop of the you’re attractive OR just say in the friend …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:55 PM
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Good lord. What was the final straw that caused you to leave ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:50 PM
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I can be naive and other times be coy. so it’s hard to tell. But judging from most people’s responses- none of us can tell- it’s a 50/50 guessing game.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:49 PM
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You sure though ? If it’s the first date I prefer to go Dutch. I obviously communicate that with the man before hand so that there isn’t any awkwardness when it’s time to pay. Second date- if he offers sure. Third date, I’ll offer! I believe in reciprocation though, so I know my dating style isn’t of the average modern woman 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:48 PM
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I agree when I like a man, I will touch him on the arm or shoulder. If I am not Interested I’ll avoid physical contact. However this plagues me sometimes. One of my dominant love languages is physical touch. So even in platonic situations I’m a hugger/ cuddly person. Sucks 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:46 PM
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YESSSS!!! I also heard that you can tell if someone is interested in you or how secure a couple is in photos based on the direction their feet are pointing. If their feet point away from you - or their person- they aren’t interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:44 PM
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I like this. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:42 PM
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As a woman, I’ve experienced the same accusations. It blew my mind and I felt slighted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:41 PM
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Honestly due to my failed attempts at flirting and picking up someone flirting with me- I questioned if I was NeuroSpicy. I know I’m not but I did wonder. Since I am horrible at flirting I usually just directly let the person know that they’re attractive. Then on the next interaction let them know again, that they’re attractive and that I am interested in getting to know them on a more personal level if they’re interested too. It works best. Sure there’s a chance of rejection.. but I suck at fli…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:41 PM
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Yessssssss!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:37 PM
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I see what you’re saying. I’m not sure if I fully agree with flirting being playful friendliness. Since I tend to be playful in attempts to be friendly. It’s just me and I know not everyone is like me.. with this perspective, I see why I’ve been accused of flirting with old coworkers now. I just wanted to create community and not appear to intimidate others since I was a manager- and have horrible RBF(b word) and RSF (sad) . My attempts were perceived wrong and I just gave up lol. I really mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:37 PM
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I agree here! It’s so hard to tell. The point you made just reminded me of a conversation with a guy who I had moved away from. He told me he didn’t think I was interested because I never responded to his flirting attempts. Me- being airheaded - I just assumed he was friendly and like that with everyone- so I completely missed the opportunity with him. It was too late since I had moved away.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:32 PM
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I am aware you didn’t mean everyone. I just wanted to add that information in 🤗 I’m sorry you experienced an avoidant. It’s not easy to heal from. Honestly most professionals amiably tell you to leave an avoidant alone. It isn’t because they don’t want you to take a chance. It’s just that most avoidants usually do not ever change. So you are stuck constantly in the ppp cycle (pushing pulling proving) . It can take a serious shot at your confidence and it isn’t ok. If anyone is ever curious about…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:28 PM
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Bingo! Some start early, and then chill out by their 20’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:38 AM
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I see what you’re saying. If someone judges too quickly off of your past they’d easily assume you are promiscuous or lying. It sucks really.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:37 AM
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A person having avoidant attachment doesn’t mean they’ve had a hoe phase. As avoidants tend to fall back from sex since sex is a bonding activity avoidants avoid bonding . Now a person with an anxious attachment might be more likely to have a phase as they will do anything to keep you. If they’re anxious avoidant- they may be whah you’re talking about . I definitely recommend brushing up on attachment theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:35 AM
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A person having avoidant attachment doesn’t mean they’ve had a hoe phase. As avoidants tend to fall back from sex since sex is a bonding activity avoidants avoid bonding . Now a person with an anxious attachment might be more likely to have a phase as they will do anything to keep you. If they’re anxious avoidant- they may be whah you’re talking about . I definitely recommend brushing up on attachment theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:35 AM
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The sex positives and sex negatives is also cultural. I recently learned while doing research on introverts - that Finland- is a sexually liberated place. It makes sense though. It’s always cold there and they have public saunas where it isnt uncommon to see an entire family naked. Gyms with people naked and cleaners of the opposite sex in the shower rooms. The people don’t bat an eye. They don’t look down on sex on the first date or the amount of partners and generally determine if you’re relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:33 AM
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Reverse psychology
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:18 AM
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Am I a man ? 😳. Maybe I think like one. I do this with people. Present neutral - let them show you who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:15 AM
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Ok let’s get married. See you next week.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:47 AM
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So you’re implying looksmaxxing. I don’t see a problem with it. As women do it too. As far as overweight / out of shape- women are in this boat too. To me, Covid really did a number on everybody. People are generally pessimistic. . You likely aren’t autistic. Could just be around overly controlling people who- instead of trying to understand you- want you to change your approach and how you speak so they don’t have to turn their brains on to relate. People love to put you down if your idioms are…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:45 AM
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I agree. Reddit can expose you to perceptions of others in different areas and demographics, but doesn’t represent the men as a whole. Where I live, most men are in relationships, or when I spot them dating, they’re gentlemen to the women they’re with. It’s really all about culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:41 PM
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My hobbies: Outdoor stuff when the season calls for it: Hiking, rock climbing, or beach bumming Brushing up my French currently (I learned French as a kid, I remember most of it, but I want to refresh my memory, then move on to German. I’ll then be quadLingual) Online video games (currently PubG) Research/ blogging (subjects are human psychology/development , spiritual practices, politics, regenerative farming/hoof maintenance , and engineering) Yoga Cooking 🤗- I love experimenting and trying ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:37 PM
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most men swipe to increase their match potential though. Then they get picky based on who they match with. The analogy i'd use here is: Cast a net into the ocean, pull it up, and throw the unwanted fishes back into the ocean lol. Men arent outwardly picky, and are usually more willing to accept flaws, whereas women can go hardcore on the smallest things. Ive recently learned from this thread- that men are pretty hardcore on a FEW things- like single moms, hefty women, and only fans women. Beyond…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:40 PM
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Right, her response just screams “only we can do that, y’all can’t” again, everyone, including her, are entitled to their opinions and feelings.. realistically neither of us should even be here because it’s a post for men. So the entire conversation is irrational. 🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:54 AM
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Yeah I saw that one. I just posted a comment that summarized the average requirements for the men in this sub. It came to about 21. If I would’ve broken down the EQ- it would’ve expanded to about 41. But I summarized. Here it is [ ] Healthy/physically fit [ ] Mentally healthy [ ] No baggage (kids or divorcee) [ ] Has a career/job [ ] Feminine presenting (understands value of being a woman, isn’t trying to be masculine, dresses appropriately for the occasion) [ ] Is educated [ ] Is polite/ kind […
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:44 PM
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They’re fair. You wanting a rack and something in the back is equivalent to a woman wanting a guy who’s tall with a big package. Your gentleman status is secure until you openly disrespect women minding their business. So..I will Apologize on behalf of me peer. She is entitled to her feelings but the shot was unnecessary 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:24 PM
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The gossip/ character assassination is a really good one. Borrowing that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:18 PM
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You just offended all of the psychos, obese people, single moms, and jobless ones. So they’re downvoting you 😂😂😂🙈🙈🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:00 PM
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RIGHT. I figured that out the hard way.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:03 AM
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I agree with you. If you cannot cry in front of your partner or a friend who claims to care.. you don’t need that person. If they cannot handle your emotions , why are you dragging on dead weight ? For comfort? Security ? There’s no point. I’ve had men cry in front of me.. I’ve always responded with a hug, and extended my emotional availability cup to them to use if they wanted too. Meaning, I’m here for you if you want to talk about this.. I’m reserving space for you in my own world of emotions…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:54 PM
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Top 3 Parental issues (mommy/daddy/trauma bonded abandonment) Project lovers (people who think they can fix a person) Challenges their ego (women and men sometimes chase after someone who isn’t easy or “rejects them”. Gives them the urge to prove to themselves that they can bag you or Change you- sortve like number 2 but not always seen as a project)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:57 PM
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It’s awesome that you have that awareness and try your best to be the best version of you. It is an important quality to have in order to be a good partner. I hope you find what you’re looking for if you don’t have it already 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:47 PM
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I’m a woman, here to, understand your perspective. Of the items you’ve listed - are you all Of those things as well? The issue is that sure, women can have standards.. however, the goal of your standards is to be able to reciprocate the same standards. There are women who want an emotionally intelligent man who is vulnerable- yet when said man does it, the woman doesn’t know how to respond or what to do. Indicating she may not be emotionally intelligent herself. That’s only an example. Women sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:41 PM
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Yeah. Unless the people they’re around are toxic and deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 09:51 PM
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I’m a woman, and was going to say this.. with limitations though. So be open from the start, but make sure she’s worth it to you. .
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 09:50 PM
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This comment made me want to get on a dating website, just to see how many women have filters on their photos. 😂😂😂🥴🥴🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:36 AM
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Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:01 AM
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I don’t want to assume, but for the context of this thread, are you saying autistic people are toxic lol? Or just making a general statement ?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:00 AM
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I live in a beach town, I definitely see a lot of attractive people and have become desensitized. Almost like I just expect to see a bunch of attractive people. Not sure how to explain it. Everyone is attractive, has good status, and is generally not self absorbed. You’ll stand in line at the grocery store and everyone just looks good lol. Not saying people aren’t insecure- but to me, they all look fine. You can’t convince a person that they’re attractive though. I’ve overheard a woman thinking …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:44 PM
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Read your other comments, I’m assuming you wrote this because you’re one of the unicorns who do want a LTR, which I think is great. However most is the term used here and this wasn’t me speaking out of my second hole from my rump. Statistics proved that most women want validation. there’s a reason the hook up culture is still thriving. That alone reinforces the statistic. If hook up culture starts to die, then we’d know there’s a shift of people wanting LTRs. I’m a woman, who eventually wants a …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 09:03 AM
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When reading statistics - the 80% makes up the total amount of people who participated in the study. So about 20% of the initial number weren’t using dating apps. 50% were men, and 30% women. Meaning when they took the survey and were asked if they use them, 20% said no. At that time. In that area. Again, doesn’t make up The whole population. If someone is quoting statistics- they aren’t ever referring to anyone outside of the study or facts found in the statistics. Because well.. common sense s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 08:42 AM
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'Women use dating apps to feel better about themselves more than men do,' said study coauthor Dr Mons Bendixen, from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology in Trondheim. About 24% of women date for validation. Knowing someone personally isn’t an argument. Statistically speaking 80% are seeking LTR- a majority of that are men.. of the 30% of women - 24% want validation, an ego boost, or attention. This was an anon study. Women have a tendency to lie under pressure - but will speak tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 08:31 AM
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It’s relaxing. Something else to focus on. Healthy competition. Stress relief. Anger release. Easy way to forget about something. I mostly play PUBG though. Also. I need to change my flair… I’m a lady 😂🥴 Edited to add: I read this as video games 😂😂😂😂😂 Women play games because most date for attention. Not a LTR. Just a way to get validation about their looks.. some aren’t sure. Some agree because they can’t say no. I’m sorry you’ve been mistreated. It’s not ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:58 AM
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No a movie but if men were honest It’ll help them understand just how much men hold in.. too
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:56 AM
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Typically, if you’re arguing or debating, it’s to present facts to shift an opinion or gain understanding. If you present facts that are valid, and reasonable, the conversation ends amicably and everyone walks away with an expanded perception and understanding which is key to human growth and development. Good practice for emotional intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:55 AM
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yeah, and it’s a mutually beneficial relationship, as you’re speaking to said tree , letting out your feelings, and carbon dioxide, the tree is protecting your secrets, and giving you oxygen.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:39 AM
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honestly that’s what I did. 3 years later, now I feel like.. idk. Things are weird. People are weird.. if you’re genuinely supportive, people think it’s a red flag or fake.. if you’re just disconnected, they think it’s a red flag. It’s all just weird. I love that with my meditation and stoic approach - I now walk throughout life as the observer. Unbothered by people’s weirdness. a part of me is concerned for their mental health though, ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:37 AM
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I like the way your brain did that. Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:33 AM
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the real kicker is what is reported… so those stats are off. Wayyyyyy off.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 05:25 AM
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Except those men aren’t classified as a felon until many many years later after unpaid child support. Others just get away with it Examples of men who can father multiple children with different mothers Ancentus Ogwella Akukujulama- had close to 160 kids or more from different wives claimed to be a polygamist. Point- a man has a lot of power in his balls. He can nut in 50 women in a month, they all get pregnant. A woman, can only reproduce every 9-13 months due to the fact that they carry the ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:03 AM
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Because of emotions. Women can be openly emotional and expressive without being called out for being too sensitive or taking things personal. Men are typically Ostracized when they do the same. Aka held accountable, so they usually choose to share their feelings and disagreeable opinions within a small closed social circle. Granted this has changed in the recent years men are starting to call women out when being irrational, men are calling other men out ETC. I believe things are slowly changing…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:31 PM
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Ironically, I was thinking about that last night. I have a very low tolerance for emotional manipulation. Once I detect it, I put up firm boundaries.. I wasn’t sure if I should “unpack” why emotional manipulation doesn’t sit well with me either.. or if it’s normal and ok for me to feel that way. It doesn’t bother me when someone is emotionally manipulative. It just makes me wonder “why are you acting like this, it’s a maladaptive behavior that’s unnecessary, especially since no one is doing anyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 02:13 PM
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I agree, if you have the ability to self reflect you shouldn’t need to seek advise. I cannot stand that society coins people who have the ability to self reflect and usually do not seek advice as a know it all or arrogant. Firstly, you should obviously be a know it all with your own feelings. You aren’t arrogant for being able to think constructively about a situation. Especially when society will also participate in saying people who get advise aren’t sure of themselves, aren’t secure within th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 01:30 PM
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TLDR; Exclusivity should never ever be assumed. Cheating isn’t a thing in non exclusive dating. Cheating is a thing in exclusive dating. It shouldn’t be assumed By any gender. It should always be a conversation had early on in the dating phase. This will set the grounds for your dating journey together, and help you gauge early on how well you two can communicate wants and needs. It can help you gauge if this person has an actual plan for their future. People are always worried about someone’s 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 01:07 PM
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She isn’t too masculine. . There’s a certain breed of men, who do not see women in a successful role as in their league. They need to feel wanted. A successful woman , with her own everything isn’t something a man as such can control .. some men need to control their partner to a disturbing level… so the excuse she’s too masculine is really him saying “I can’t take power over that woman, I cannot inflict or hold anything over her head, as she can rely on herself. Therefore I am not needed”. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:43 PM
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You’ve made some great points! Those questions are very impactful for someone to examine when reflecting on their own relationship!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:17 AM
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Right. . That’s creeping on the lines of arranged marriages. Except Americans aren’t raised for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:36 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:32 AM
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I appreciate your honesty and directness with admitting that you all wanted the best of both worlds!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:28 AM
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Eh, I see why you do not agree with people staying because it’s comfortable and convenient, however, a majority of people commenting on this post, have shared their reasons for staying, and most of them conclude with it being convenient, comfortable, or for the children. This isn’t a bad thing. I know that 50 people do not make up the world. However, I’m certain more people may do this .. The honeymoon phase to me is really just chemistry.. if you think about it.. I’ve researched a lot about the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:24 AM
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I see, what I am gathering is that the relationships modeled to you, affected your communication skills and lowered your confidence. Having an autism diagnosis heightens your experiences with people.. you may feel more sensitive or aware than those around you. You’ve been ridiculed by others for simply thinking differently, and perceiving the world differently. We can both look at the sky, and describe it differently. We can both have a day at the beach and have a different experience based on p…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:12 AM
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Love is at first a feeling.. you then decide to act on it or not. I’m a woman ..
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 11:00 AM
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That’s insane. . 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 10:59 AM
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That’s fair. I’m sorry you had such a horrible experience in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 10:58 AM
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Zesty how?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 10:54 AM
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You aren’t lying ! To have a relationship is a good thing. People tend to see someone being single as a super bad thing… sometimes we have to be single in the name of self Improvement. I’d rather date someone who took some time away from the dating scene to get to know themselves.. vs someone who’s fresh off the press.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:17 PM
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You’re making some valid points.. very enticing argument on why living apart is a good thing. . I’m actually leaning toward it. Although, my sex drive is very steady when in a relationship (unless there are arguments and fights going unresolved- then I’m just not in the mood) - I definitely do not miss them as much as when I live with them . I did date a guy who was VERY busy- we lived together, however I’d catch him in the morning (5:30-6am) - I’d be doing yoga- sometimes he’d join in. Or we mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:11 PM
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Wow, you communicate so well! Me personally, a lot of my confidence does come from self knowledge, self awareness and self acceptance. None of it comes from my physical features. Although some of my physical features may be desired, and admired- I don’t see them as a confidence booster. More of a jealousy inducer. To know yourself is wealth. You’re less likely to be manipulated, or manipulate someone. You show up authentically and as a safe space for others. That’s one of the best bragging right…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:29 PM
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I see. Now, my next question is, outside of your relationship, are you still able to foster a peace of mind ? Or do you solely rely on your partner for the peace of mind ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:25 PM
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Ah, super good point. The anticipation.. the ability to actually miss them.. sounds very enticing. I wouldn’t want that spark to end to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:23 PM
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I agree with you. It comes down to ego and not wanting to be wrong. People naturally group with themselves with people who think like them, so when they’re met with opposition (someone disagreeing with their thought process) they defend themselves in the form of verbal attacks aimed at a persons character, credentials, credibility, or just downright ridiculous nonsense. Not because the person was wrong, but because they can’t fathom the idea that someone doesn’t agree with their logic.. especial…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:21 PM
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The way to stay optimistic and open minded, is to seek the opinions and experiences of others. You learn the many different perspectives from people who share similar life experiences, but internalize them differently, and come to a completely different consensus of the same topic. It’s very impactful and empowering to hear others share their unique perspectives. Also helps you to show up less judgmental and reminds you that you aren’t the only main character. You should read some of the respons…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:13 PM
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I just got to my 30’s and spent my 20’s fumbling and tumbling through all of the tough lessons. I am very happy to know that you’ve found your person. You too, are keeping the hope alive. 🌻 This also brings me back to some person who said most people find real love in their 30’s. After that chemical brain leap we innately experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:10 PM
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Absolutely! Your spouse or partner should support you, not emotionally coddle you or make you happy. They can aide to happiness but it isn’t their job. We have to remember to foster and nurture our own happiness by continuing to live a separate life outside of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:05 PM
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So if fun and pleasure aren’t the goal, you’re saying the goal of staying is peace of mind. Am I understanding you ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:04 PM
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Your response was well written and your way of presenting your opinion was absolutely amazing. I could chat with you all day 🤩. I agree with you overall. Even your TL:DR section. To piggy back off of the TL:DR- I believe the reason people are urged to find themselves and become rooted and grounded in who they are- is so that they have a better chance at actually experiencing unconditional love. To your point, if 2 people do not change in a negative way, the chance of staying in love will increas…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 07:55 PM
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I see where you’re coming from. No one likes to take accountability these days.. as taking accountability means you also have to process guilt, shame, or both. All are tough to process and can also take a hit at self esteem. Would you say that, based on what you observed in your family dynamic of marriage- that you were able to break the generational and cultural behaviors that were modeled to you- giving you a healthier relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 07:28 PM
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Indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 07:26 PM
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It would be weird for me to tell you that I love your brain. However I love how you explained this, and it is very mentally stimulating. This was well said, and enlightening. I did forget the phenomenon of people confusing lust with love.. paired with unrealistic expectations.. I typically argue this because, to your point, there are people who actually stay in love and have an amazing relationship. Even their adult kids can speak to it. I always get happy to meet people like that. They give me …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:22 PM
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So ones in it for security, and the other is seeing it as a passion project.. that sounds like a nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:19 PM
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Sheesh. The dating scene does suck right now.. mostly because everyone is still trying to accept the truths about love, ltr, and marriage. Everyone has a different agenda. Some seek to destroy your confidence- if they feel you shouldn’t have any (toxic) or you aren’t model-esc perfect. Others do it on accident by being unhealed from a previous relationship- seeking a partner like the one they fumbled- constantly comparing you to them . It’s just tough. However, I do genuinely hope that your conf…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:16 PM
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You’re not lying about the kids happiness being more important than the parents.. I also agree that it’s best to leave if there is constant fighting. . Everyone is miserable at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:11 PM
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That makes sense. . Do you Think this is the reason why ethical non monogamy has become normalized over the years.. the poly relationships spike ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:05 PM
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I understand, however, do you think they’re miserable ? Or is this where ethical non monogamy comes into play within a relationship dynamic? Do they cling to their chins for joy since their relationship isn’t providing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 06:04 PM
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I bet the broken bits of you, are your best bits.. the parts that make you an individual.. the ones that no one can really relate to.. something that makes you strong enough to acknowledge it. You’re just a whole as you are broken. I hope your journey to healing is gentle on you 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:28 AM
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Indeed it is. The reality is, I don’t see it as a red flag. While some do not believe in unconditional love, I do, only because we experience it when we first fall in love with someone. If you fall out of love but continue to love them, you’re then making the choice to commit to them and chose to love them everyday. Until you’re truly just unhappy and need to move on. Your thoughts ? I suppose I should say- unconditional acceptance instead of love for more clarity of those who disagree with love…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 11:05 PM
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Fine.. after some serious thought, I understand that no means no. Thank you for standing your ground sir. I am sorry for disrespecting you. What if the worm said that, would you date the sexy prenup worm who cannot mutate into a butterfly ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 10:39 PM
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If you’re able to show up as a good person for the kids- you aren’t partying too much 😛. I’m glad that you have a healthy social life outside of your job. It’s definitely a tough one !! Thanks for being an amazing human in the line of service 🤩.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 10:37 PM
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Prenup worm? Leave with what you came in with ? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 09:52 PM
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Your honesty and vulnerability is appreciated. You’re taking initiative, and are hopeful. Seems small but that mindset takes you very far on a healing journey. . Having awareness or pattern recognition is also incredibly important. You’re doing better than most neurotypical adults. Trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 09:51 PM
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Absolutely agree! I actually dated someone with Asperger’s. A severe case. They also had childhood trauma and military trauma. They didn’t believe in love- or that they had the capacity to love anyone but had more of an animalistic bonding style with people. Including me. Down to how this person showed affection. . It taught me a lot about autism, it’s very stressful to support them, and it hurts when you have to let them go. . (I moved away- that’s the only reason I broke it off.) This person w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 09:21 PM
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Y’all this post now gives me more reasons to avoid dating 🤣🤣🤣🤣 digs deeper into the single by choice cave
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 09:00 PM
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Bingo. If a person is a sociopath- or narcissistic person looking for a new supply.. they can frankstein a relationship with you simply by pretending to be into the same things… you’ll easily be able to test these things by asking them deeper questions which will determine just how interested they are.. or if they’ve done surface level research. . Even if they aren’t a sociopath or narcissistic- they can lean on the high manipulative side of things. So you’ll need to just take it slow with them …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:59 PM
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Agreed. Usually if they’re attractive, they’ll peek my interest. If they have a handy job- that’s also peek my interest. Which I’d form a crush on them. Mostly because I can immediately gauge that they’re likely to have great follow through with finishing what they started, and decent memory recall. Which is a very attractive trait. You’d be surprised at how many do not posses this trait- no shade or judgment. I never act on my crush though. Mostly because I assume they’re in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:48 PM
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I’m socially slow with men, therefore- if a guy is flirting, by default I assume he’s being friendly. So if he isn’t direct with indicating he likes me- I’ll just walk away like “oh he was nice. Who ever he’s with is lucky to have him”. By default, I assume most men who I find attractive are in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:45 PM
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Yeah I believe the male equivalent is a Dog Bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:22 PM
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Yeah. Cats are super chill I like dogs too, but cats have more independence. You can go on vacation and they’re generally ok. Dogs, they need a sitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:20 PM
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Wellllll here’s some other facts. I’ve had the pleasure of befriending chronically single women who also are seeking love (type 1) I’ve had the pleasure of befriending women who are single, and enjoying it- as they’ve committed most of their life to dating and simply found it easier to be alone without pets, or children. Some did have cats, or small dog breeds chihuahua, terriers etc. (type 2) What I’ve gathered from observing them as an INFJ (great listener) is that the type 1 ladies typically …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:11 PM
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I cackled at your answer but I love it. Comes down to how adaptable a woman is. .
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:00 PM
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Right. Plus you can easily just screen the person to see if they’re going to embarrass you or something crazy. If you find that the person is just rude and disrespectful - sure ghetto shouldn’t be wined and dined. Maybe just sucked and fucked. If they’re from poverty - not by choice obviously. Then again, give them a pretest. People are so quick to judge and dismiss- but honestly , if someone immediately judges and dismisses you, take it as protection. I don’t think someone who’s long term mater…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:32 PM
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Even if the worm is sexy, and rich, and you never have to work again?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:26 PM
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Cows are bad for the atmosphere so I’m down with a goat. . Unless it’s exclusively on a seaweed diet.. sings Doja cat mooooo song
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:25 PM
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Well said.. Or they have a very closed off personality type. . Men who are older but still have vitality or an active lifestyle will also have a higher chance of getting a younger woman. . No one - regardless of age, wants a partner who’s not willing to get out and try something new occasionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:17 PM
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Ah, I see. However, would you say you’re generally happy with life ? Regardless of missing social cues?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:14 PM
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Hi, unsolicited advice … Planning and prepping makes cooking easier. . The next time you’re in the kitchen go in there with the intent. Let’s say you’re making some pan fried chicken, some rice , and a side of vegg. You know that the rice will take the longest. You know the chicken will take the second longest and the vegg will be the quickest depending. Always start with the item that takes the longest. Then move to prepping the second longest item. Step 1- get everything out that you need- sea…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:10 PM
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Nah - don’t take internet comments as value… another thing I read about autism is that it typically runs in the family. As only 10% of people with autisms genes do play a major part in the placement on the spectrum, and the other 90% of people on the spectrum have a lot of genetic mutations that are also found in their families genes too, that mutate and create stronger genetic variants which give you the diagnosis.. so it could be your parents age, or a combination of their age, plus already ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:49 PM
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Wait, that karma sutra book I read said that it’s totally acceptable to make your partner a couch in the form of face sitting. 🤣🤣🤣 I’m joking don’t block me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:47 PM
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Very true. The truth in this statement made me chuckle though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:46 PM
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Uhhh I have no idea if that’s true. Just the part on semen aging and producing more genetic defects.. just as a woman’s eggs can. . .
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:45 PM
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Hi fellow February baby 💕🥰.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:44 PM
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You have a good one! Sometimes it just takes for a person to be supported to flourish. . The woman sees that and naturally wants to continue caring. It’s different when a woman does this and isn’t appreciated or the guy isn’t improving in any way. . It just feels like a parent child relationship once that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:43 PM
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I legit learned this today.. men over 40 have something going with their Semen whereas they’re more likely to produce a child with a ton of autistic genes. So if the mother has some genes too, it increases the chance of them boring an autistic child from age 😳😳😳
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:14 AM
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I dated a guy like this. We’d frequently get confused . He’s a November baby and I’m a February baby. So we were only 3 months apart but born in different years. So it seemed like he 1 year older. However it was just a 3 month difference
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:55 AM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:49 AM
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You’ve made some great points here. No disputes at all ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:40 AM
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This makes a lot of sense. It’s honestly been a silent fear of mine. Or that he starts to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:38 AM
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I get what you’re saying now.. your idea of love is very unique. I do genuinely hope that you find that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:36 AM
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Gotcha. Glad you’re ok. Do people dm you reasons ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:04 PM
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Me personally- no. Did I get the opportunity to be in a domestic violence shelter and watch women in love repeatedly go back- yes. However I do think that’s a bit of a reach. This can be flipped to say if your partner dies will you still be in love and the answer can still be yes. Everyone’s range of feelings is completely different and subjective based on several factors. From a personal direct level- I have emotional maturity- if someone is abusive, I’m leaving. However it doesn’t mean I wasn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:03 PM
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Agreed. Most people are definitely afraid to leave or lose their status. Some have gotten smart and learned from others failures as started an escape savings to leave when they have enough. Other just miserably stay. Honestly, I’m starting to understand why the current dating generation is opting to stay single. We all have too much awareness around the concept and would rather avoid hurting someone or ourselves. It’s like people are self preserving without even trying by default. 4 generations …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:48 PM
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It wasn’t childish at all. I’m not disagreeing with you, and was being funny about you commenting. But yeah. Perfect example of misunderstanding people on the internet. Nothing wrong with it. I don’t add tone to anything, or automatically assume someone is being rude unless otherwise indicated. You ended the statement with what’s new, no one cares- and I responded saying you responded, that’s enough care. 🥰. If I don’t care, I’m not responding. If I care I’ll respond. If I want to be seen or hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:43 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:40 PM
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Definitely right about that! She’s gorgeous 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:29 PM
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It’s awesome that you stood by him. . Sadly you can stand by someone these days and they just disrespect you, and when you stand up for yourself and choose not to take their crap they’ll play victim or swear you’re selfish. I get why you do not believe in unconditional love.. however it is possible. Assuming you’re in love with someone. When you’re in love- it’s the only time love is actually unconditional.. it’s love at an unconditional state. You accept them no matter what. . However once chem…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:22 PM
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Nah, we both have different opinions. Which we will definitely agree to disagree. Here’s why- When you love someone- there are conditions that need to be met.. once they aren’t met, you may stop loving them and move on.. When you’re IN LOVE.. this is love at an unconditional state. Meaning couples who are in love with each other accept and love that person unconditionally.. there could be 6 red flags and that person won’t care due to the fact that they’re in love. That person could gain a ton of…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:00 PM
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Exactly.. these are also the same ones who will swear that love doesn’t exist. . If you have the mindset that you shouldn’t accept people, you probably do not love yourself. . Self love is self acceptance first. The ability to accept yourself makes it wayyyyy easier to accept others without judgment imo
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:57 PM
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I like that you highlighted perception. Someone can perceive something and process it however they want, and then respond and run with it. It’s similar to that one activity when people are asked to fold a piece of paper, make a few cuts.. the instructions are vague. The end result is meant to produce a snow flake, however everyone’s results varied based on how they folded the paper.. whether they perceived folding it as vertical or horizontal. Even interacting on Reddit shows just how someone’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:55 PM
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Damn, that’s valid. I’m a woman, and I in fact, accept people as they are. I have no desire to control anyone- because I recognize that change- comes from within, not someone telling you that you should. Wanting to grow and become better, is a personal choice, not someone telling you that you should. So I personally choose to leave people as they are- unless their behavior is starting to impact my well being/ mental health. I’ll say something, give them time and grace, and if things progressivel…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:48 PM
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Expand on this more.. I’m wanting to understand where you’re coming from. . What I gather is that you’re saying - you’d like to be with a curious person who doesn’t desire to change, but is always seeking knowledge- so they aren’t technically stagnant- just grounded in who they are?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:44 PM
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Absolutely. Your logic here also fits perfectly with the subject of getting someone to change. . It comes from within.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:42 PM
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I audibly laughed at fucktarded 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:41 PM
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calls tyrone 🤣 I couldn’t resist sorry. Since love is philosophical- it’ll always be up for debate. There are people who are in relationships and they love their partner unconditionally. Meaning their partner can lose their job, gain 300 pounds, and become sexless- they’d still love them. I’ve seen some of those people comment in other communities on Reddit. They’re in fact unicorns, but believe in unconditional love. Me personally- if I’m in love with you, my love is unconditional once I’m IN L…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:40 PM
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I agree here. I’m not saying deal with a persons flaws if they’re detrimental to your mental health/ overall well being. I am a person who will be very understanding of someone’s flaws, however if those start to impact our ability to coexist, I’ll definitely speak up about it. . Give them time to accept it, or become aware of it if they didn’t notice it. . . If there’s no change and things are getting worse- I’m out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:35 PM
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🤣🤣 realest thing I’ve read today. That’s exactly what he did.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:32 PM
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Indeed it is. You want to gently encourage them, but not become a tyrant. In general, when you meet someone, they’re likely working toward something or have recently achieved something and are working to maintain it. As a new partner you shouldn’t have to do much .. however if your partner were to become randomly stagnant and depressed, some guidance would be necessary.. it just reinforces a relationships core value of supporting them when needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:32 PM
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I try not to consume too much red pill content. I truly have to take breaks.. similar to Reddit. I have to take break from it too. Self improvement never hurt anyone, so it’s definitely safe advice. . Not sure if meeting lots of women benefits you or gives you a headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:28 PM
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Ha, you should’ve said that to this guy <image> he blocked me before I could further put him back in his place of course 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:26 PM
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I agree. Which is why most people who are good influencers do it because they love it, and do not expect much in return. . I’d rather not misguide people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:25 PM
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Yeah, I totally need to reset my cache. It was a weird suggestion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:23 PM
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I agree.. interesting username by the way. You ok ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:22 PM
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YES! if I could make this the top comment I would. . This is my exact thinking. . He’s implying that the person needs to do all of that for you . Goal setting is for someone to do on their own. Just as happiness and self love is as well. A partner is like your personal cheerleader during the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:21 PM
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Totally agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:19 PM
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Right. It’s just… reinforcing my decision to stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:18 PM
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You’re right. I typically will watch these videos just to see if they’re saying anything of value or substance. . In this case- he made a few good points, but lost me completely at the acceptance thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:16 PM
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Absolutely. However, people love to over complicate dating with all of these rules and requirements.. naturally leading them to be alone. . Or overly focused on what the world will think of their partner. It’s like people are almost adverse to judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:16 PM
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Absolutely. . I recently discussed this with a female friend of mine. I told her, if someone thinks they’re perfect, and their partner decided to be perfectly honest with them, their world would be shattered and they’d feel attacked by the partner. The reality is, when tend to overlook what we don’t like about someone, however- you ever notice when you break up with a person, everything you overlooked comes to the forefront of your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:13 PM
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I agree here. .
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:08 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 well. It was enough for you To comment 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:07 PM
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Yeah you’re right about someone meeting the conditions, which then lead to a potential falling out - if you Stop meeting the conditions.. which is why they say long term unconditional love is a choice.. choosing the same person daily. . Also reminds me of a movie I watched recently when a guys wife told him she wanted to divorce.. she proceeded to string him along by having casual coitus , while seeing other people, leading him to believe they were going to get back together. . Toward the end, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:06 PM
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No idea.. even when our partners say silly things, we still stand by them.. so maybe she chooses to allow him to be great. IDKKKKK. When he said he was married, I was honestly shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:01 PM
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<image> Then tried to Block me, and delete his comment.. proves that the ego was all over this response, and rather than take ownership, tries to do some Childish power play… he’s one of those guys who needs a woman to be his mother, father, life coach, and therapist. 😇
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:00 PM
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<image> dontinsultsomeonewithoutthefacts Then claim that they need to articulate better, when they weren’t even talking to you in the first place 🤣 🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:59 PM
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Exactly !!! Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t make you a guru lol. What works for him, may not work for others. . . He’s probably the type that needs a woman to push him, which is why he would state that.. however, most men see that as nagging, as they know what they need to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:55 PM
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lol, if I’m agreeing with the above commenter- “dumbest saying I’ve heard” this means I’m responding to that specific comment- adding that the guy was passionate. Meaning, not only was the statement dumb, but he was passionate about it too.. So maybe you should learn context before attempting to insult someone. egofailed again
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:52 PM
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I see, and from what I’ve gathered about men is, y’all cannot stand a nagging woman. He’s setting both genders up for failure. . You did spark another thought though… if a man wants a woman to push, he should truly just communicate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:43 PM
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Very good point actually. I didn’t see it from that perspective. Thank you. I did recently watch a video of an older woman who Divorced her husband after she became successful. However she wasn’t desirable in the dating community due to age. The husband remarried and she sat in regret. She had success, but no love. Men who chase this same construct end up the same, and usually trapped in having to constantly chase a woman as he will likely find no one who’s good enough to settle down with. This …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:41 PM
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Exactly! He then proceeded to back this logic up by pulling research data from a study done to determine if coed teams in a work environment were more productive. Like Sir- relationships and jobs are separate categories. Using data where men performed better with women on the team has nothing to do with long term relationships success. It just reinforces that women can add value to certain work environments. Not all though. Sometimes we can be a distraction or cause the males to do more work or …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:29 PM
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Here’s the link avoid dating a woman who accepts you as you are Time stamp 5:30 or -5:29 depending on your. Format
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:25 PM
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You should’ve seen how passionate and confident he was. Let me find the link to drop the video and the time stamp.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:20 PM
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I agree here. If she wants high value, she has to be high value herself. Which makes her delusional as there’s a 0.001% chance she will get it. It’s better to take someone who you are attracted to, and willing to support through any situation. Which is the point you made when you said a woman will see potential.. However, as a man, do you tend to see potential in women? I may need to make another post, but I’m just curious about what type of things men consider as potential in women. Or if it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:19 PM
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My exact thinking. When you’re in a healthy relationship, this likely means you’re being supported by your partner. Some of the roles of being supportive is to motivate them, and hold them accountable when necessary. When he pointed out that it was a red flag , I about had a conniption. He contradicted himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:11 PM
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I agree with people being obsessed to build a kingdom. It makes my insides hurt. To your point, it definitely breeds a toxic mentality and telling someone it’s a red flag to avoid a person who accepts you is foolish. He’s almost implying that you should date someone totally opposite of you, and then shame them when they don’t meet any goals. You want to be with someone who accepts you. Sure unconditional love is a Hollywood term, however, someone who you like, and they accept you as you are- is …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 01:08 PM
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Yeah. No. I was definitely questioning the topic. As in, my entire thought process was actually typed out. Further, I meant to state it, however how you perceive/ understand my words are subjective to your own experiences and understanding of them. example we can both say, “I have trauma” and you perceive it as physical violence, I perceive it as emotional violence, you don’t feel - based on experiences that emotional violence is trauma. . Therefore- we initially agreed, assuming we both underst…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 05:26 PM
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No source- I was questioning the topic- not making statements. Huge difference. Further- I never said it was a problem for men to work harder, so you not seeing the problem with it is ok, as you’re obviously on the side of “this is a normal thing to do”. However if you look in post from this community a lot of men feel as though it’s a double standard for women to live an easier lifestyle than men. I’ve openly disagreed about this as I’ve said society has sortve shaped it to be that way. Meaning…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 04:17 PM
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thank you for finally REPRESENTING the statistics correctly. This is much more accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 03:51 PM
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Ohhhh you just presented a great point. I never actually thought about saving money on not going to school if the woman has the intention to have children and leave her career. . However would that sortve place her in a codependent bracket because she’s waiting around for her person to marry her and then have more children ? This also reinforces the societal pressure of why men typically have to be more solid and stable. Also sheds light on why most men would rather be childless. Could they be c…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:27 PM
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Because parents- are considered roommates at the end of the day especially if you’re an adult. As stated, I’d much rather look at the numbers of who lives alone over who specifically lives with parents. The number would be MUCH higher and give an accurate view of the topic. Which is- does living alone benefit dating. Which we know it does. However people with roommates or staying with parents struggle with privacy. Therefore I’d rather pull vague data about who doesn’t live alone instead of focu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:23 PM
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I agree with you that we seek what we value in a person. I also understand your double standards point about having boobs when the other person doesn’t as well. It makes sense, and thanks for expanding my perspective of your opinion about this situation. I actually value it 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:19 PM
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Ehhh I’m not sure how true those statistics are.. only because if you get specific- and assume parents are technically roommates - the numbers would be more around According to a 2018 Pew Research Center study, nearly 1 in 3 U.S. adults live with at least one adult roommate who isn't their romantic partner or a college student … Not saying this is up to date and I do acknowledge that there are the other half who live alone.. but if you google specifically the rates of people living with parents-…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:48 PM
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Yeah. Some just don’t admit it publicly because they don’t want to seem whorish.. although there’s nothing whorish about considering sex logistics in dating if it were to lead there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:45 PM
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hammer landed on the nails head here
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:43 PM
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Exactly. I actually would say “if you cannot provide the same luxury dinner for yourself, do not expect anyone other than your parents to do that for you” “If you cannot take yourself on that fancy vacation, or pay for you and your partner to go on the fancy vacation, do not expect anyone to do that” Long story short if you cannot do what it is that your requiring for yourself (self love included ) be appreciative when someone actually does want to treat you and recognize it as a luxury or that …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:42 PM
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We aren’t talking about the entire group of women or men here. The OP presents the fact that they both live with parents. Meaning, he isnt in the mindset of expecting the woman to have her own place, which is why he was interested in her. For the sake of this post- answer it from that perspective. Therefore It appears a double standard may be presented or it’s sex logistics which is a privacy issue. If both parties are dating and they want to cuddle or relax together, since they don’t have priva…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:34 PM
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That’s what I was thinking. . It had to be the sex logistics for sure! Kind of messed up especially if they have so much in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 11:52 AM
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Which is annoying. It’s either a fact or it isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 05:26 AM
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Height isn’t that deep. Weight can make it a bit awkward though depending on height during the fornication stuffs. Some care some don’t. . (Not body shaming just saying)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 05:25 AM
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I’m a woman.. I love everyone. I accept everyone, but I am more stoic and I use my emotions accordingly. Meaning, if I’m talking to a stranger, no emotions. Talking on the internet- no emotions. Talking with my partner- depending on the topic- emotions.. talking to my child- Emotions depending on the subject. I do not lead with emotion simply because leading with emotion isn’t productive. However I do have very high levels of empathy - genetically speaking … recently found that out with some dna…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:16 AM
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No, I do not. That’s up for them to decide. What I’m saying is- if they’re tired of emotional anguish- usually self inflicted- they’ll need to dive into the stoic bag part time. Or in my opinion- full time. If they’re tired of being hurt by strangers- they shouldn’t demand that others need to change or do better to avoid hurting them specifically. They need to acknowledge they were bothered and people can do whatever and feel however. It’s our responsibility to enforce and protect our boundaries…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:06 AM
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I do. In the world where narcissists are growing in numbers due to hyper connectivity, hacking, stalking and many other methods- it’s important to understand the psyche of them. They tend to be manipulative to seek control in some way- usually via emotional manipulation. If you’re an emotional person - which women usually are- they will be more likely to suffer from narcissistic abuse. Or other forms of manipulation. They can also- as a result of being overly emotional- become too sensitive and …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:44 PM
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Women can have the tendency to be neurotic, but doesn’t mean they are. The defense: if someone has a tendency, through certain meditative practices or just being a less anxious or anxiety riddled person can reduce the chances of that person actually being neurotic . Adapting to a stoic mindset can reduce that woman’s likeliness of being neurotic. A woman who has good emotional intelligence or control- will likely not be neurotic
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:14 PM
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I think they’re implying that (by the way this is totally irrational of women- but they do project a lot, so it makes sense) (also- someone recently posted about low key being jealous of women who live life on “easy mode” just because they have to work - essentially calling that woman codependent- despite their partner willingly wanting to do it) Anyway- women hate to see another woman, have an easier partner, an easier experience- especially if they had to work hard or do more for their partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:37 PM
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Agreed. This is definitely a hot take from the emotional side of the red pill men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:52 AM
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You’re right about that. I’m still curious though. I’ve heard women claim that they enjoy having coitus, so they made it a profession.. not sure about it but I’d love to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:46 AM
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Not necessarily. Individual perspectives can be found here. You obviously can read through a persons responses before considering they are valuable or valid. It’s about discernment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:44 AM
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Thank you, this has been very insightful. I’ve been working on a project independently to dive into a man’s world from a woman’s perspective so I’ve been spending a lot of time here. Men are very welcoming to explain their experiences and thoughts if given the opportunity which kills the stereotype that you all do not feel or perceive. Again, this is impactful information, and your explanation alone as propelled me to a level of understanding that I cannot really explain. Job well done. I apprec…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:09 AM
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Unless you’re seeking a certain connection or feeling. Each person I’ve had sex with- was a very different experience. The only thing that was the same was the ending lol, and how long it took to arrive there. There’s a woman who recently stated she had more than 100 partners. . . I actually wanted to ask her if it felt the same or if - like me- it was different from each person. I don’t have nearly that count, but after so many - does it become the same ? I have in fact asked men with higher bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:44 AM
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Would this mindset also explain why some men do not- by any means want to hear about a woman’s previous sexual partners / experiences?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:40 AM
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I appreciate this insight. Why aren’t men held to that same standard though ? Recently I’ve noticed more men actually becoming more selective in their approach too, almost appearing as if they’re stating to take accountability for that particular standard. I appreciate it. Well, I appreciate the ones who do that. The fun boys will always be relevant as long as there’s a woman who’s willing enough to enable them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:39 AM
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Work for the male gaze. Role reversal. She has to be charming, text first, invite him on dates, hope that he invites her to his place, and then she has to do the adult flamingo dance of seduction to have coitus with him. It’ll either work or not. So OP is essentially peering into a subtle double standard that a man who works for the woman to get her in bed is a stud and it’s ok, but a woman who does the same is seen as a slut. In other news in the LGBT community where there are women in a mascul…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:37 AM
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I was going to say that- sometimes it’s trauma. One woman I knew specifically would be codependent from enablement, but not from men only. As she was bisexual. Often times when you examine each case of a woman doing this- it’s trauma related- but complex I’ve met a lot of men like this too though- it’s something that they can easily mask though. Like EASILY mask. As a person who have spoken with many different women in a shelter - sometimes it’s drugs, other times it’s complex trauma from family…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 10:19 PM
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Just popping in to comment …. Y’all were yelling for decades that poor people shouldn’t have kids….. this generation doesn’t have access abundance in large numbers.. low birth rates are a positive.. I agree with everything else you said though 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 12:27 AM
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Ahhhh I’ve finally found the masculine version of mental gymnastics… logic puzzles. I LOVE IT. Stealing this. Thanks 😍🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 10:09 PM
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Yeah I saw a show on YouTube where women revealed their body counts. I don’t necessarily judge body counts, but when the girl said she was 24, and have 100 or more bodies- I did quick math and couldn’t believe it. There was also a 30yo male that had 111 bodies. Sooo the degree is pretty severe. However if a 30yo has 20 bodies that’s still seen as high. Anything in the double digits these days regardless of age is low value per society.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/24 03:05 AM
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The bottom of that response tells you why.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 11:28 PM
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I agree. The one who lies and manipulates for status - is another reason women have an unrealistic expectation of what it’s like to date a high value man. That’s why they drop the ball with most high value men. . The one who’s lying about it- he has all the time in the world because he isn’t doing anything except lying. The actual man who has it all- is too busy to text, has lots of responsibilities, and a routine to keep him established. So the woman automatically thinks this person isn’t inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:32 PM
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I agree with you Sloth.. women definitely should pay for their own portion of the date. They definitely should show equal enthusiasm as the man in conversations as well as sharing the responsibility of initiating conversations, or planning dates. . This in my opinion lets you know if that person is a good match long term. After all, the person you want to be with long term- will have to compromise, pay for half, and will take turns planning. . I believe women have the old school 1920’s dating me…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:24 PM
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They were being overly sarcastic. They comprehended. Just decided to respond in a snarky way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:16 PM
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Cringe yes, but he is NOT lying. The truth can be a tough pill to swallow. Specifically for the type of man he is describing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:09 PM
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For some of them, it is the newness. For others, it could be abandonment wounds or trauma. For the majority- it’s a lack of understanding their attachment styles. Anxious avoidant attachment-styles tend to lose their libido- after 6 months to a year. Average is a year though. With that being said, that woman or man can become reformed once they understand and address whatever traumas caused them to be that way anyway- assuming it was trauma related. Me personally, I do not lose my desire to have…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:51 PM
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Agree, as women want the same from men. . This conversation is essentially challenging old age view points and new age view points. . Which should be challenged but the end of the argument is going to be that it’s subjective to the individual at the end of the day. . You and I both want to know that our partner is committed to us. Others may want their partner to be a pure angel. Others want a pure angel to the public and sexy seductress in private. . We are also combining two controversial topi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:30 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:25 PM
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Met a man in Texas who does leatherwork- he did lots of purses too, yet so masculine 😊. He was an older gentleman
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:35 AM
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Probably not, also, you said kids, I can’t relate to raising multiple kids at all- if I had multiple kids, and was a single mom, I’d be chasing him down for sure. Since it’s only 1 boy- I can handle that financially. Extra money always helps, but isn’t necessarily something I rely on. Honestly, you strike me as very level headed so I’m sure your husband is the happiest man alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 10:26 PM
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My gosh, You’re spot on. I couldn’t stand when I’d know 1000% he’s baiting me into an argument, or when he’s starting to lose because I’m making valid points will start to insult me or bring up my upbringing which wasn’t the worlds greatest as a low blow. An absolute riot. Glad I don’t deal with it anymore and I’ve healed and found peace. I’m comfortable raising my child alone and I am not seeking a replacement father for him. I just gained more emotional intelligence, expanded my emotional capa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 10:21 PM
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Too bad society looks down on people who leave. Or blame the one who leaves as the problem because the actual problem plays victim or tries to appear to be so perfect in public 😂. Thanks for your sympathy. I do appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 10:16 PM
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I divorced for the same reason Op did. Aggression during conversations that he’d make into an argument, as a person who did well in debate- I’m not one you’d ideally want to argue with. I’ll be calm and level headed, until the insults are thrown, I’ll throw a few back, regain control and bring it back to the main point…however, who wants to be constantly attacked, and then having to attack, just because someone is making the same mistake over and over, doesn’t want to take ownership and is actin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 08:55 PM
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You know what’s funny - I don’t even ask for child support. His ass doesn’t have to do shit. He has the world’s nicest baby mama /ex wife. When I asked for the divorce, I was calm and quiet literally just wanted him out of my life. Don’t want shit from you. Just the baby. Even asked for him to sign his rights over so I don’t even have to worry about him ever. Not like he’s paying anything. Granted he will send money here and there- inconsistently, and I mostly feel that he does it to feel like l…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:49 PM
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Man you aren’t lying. I even caught my son’s dad doing this. Well I didn’t catch him, my son told me. I was like so you harp about wanting time, just so you can dump him into your girlfriend. Absolutely fucking not. He can just stay with me, and you can continue to live your life. Easier for everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:43 PM
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I agree with this partly. If a single mom is struggling to handle her responsibilities alone- it means her emotional intelligence isn’t as expanded- so she doesn’t have the capacity to parent without seeking support. This also indicates typically that if she barely has the capacity to parent alone- how in the hell will she have the capacity to handle a relationship- which has separate sets of responsibilities…. Most men can see that and know that there will be lack somewhere which is why the mom…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:38 PM
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I’m with ya on that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:30 PM
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In most cases, if a man has full custody the mother has to be a druggie, dead, in jail, or EXTREMELY abusive. If the woman is decent, the man getting full custody will be extremely difficult. I watched the courts give custody to the mom of a friend of mine, he makes more than 100k, owns multiple homes, has a good savings.. she stays with her mother, didn’t have a job at the time. . The judge cowardly said due to his work hours it’s best for them to be with mom. It was insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:30 PM
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Yep. I’m not going to find a man that fits the description of a step parent, so why seek one. However - men automatically assume that I am seeking them to be a step parent. . It’s weird. Some men will even try to insert themselves as that person. I’m not sure if I’d want a man without children to be a stepparent unless he wanted to have some of his own. . I’m not sure I’d want a woman without kids as a stepparent either. There are a few unicorns without children who are - as you stated a prodigy…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:25 PM
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Same. I’m a woman though. People like to over examine why I’m single. I always say I’m not emotionally available to date. I’d rather focus on raising my child and getting my life together which is essentially getting my family together. I’m perfectly content being alone. I’m not looking for a man to raise my child - which is why when I did date- I’d keep my child away from that man, not cause he was a creep, but because it’s not his responsibility. I don’t even discuss my child with the potentia…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:16 PM
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Very interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:09 PM
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Yup, a single dad I dated- had full custody - however his mom and sister would step in often.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:08 PM
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Wait, I ain’t even know they- actually I saw a video of a girl who wanted a guy to order her kids a steak dinner. She had more than 2 kids. . . If I’m out on a date- I don’t expect my date to pay for me, OR pay for a babysitter. Those are my responsibilities. It almost seems like some single moms have their responsibilities crisscrossed- and think they’re to be split with potential suitors. . . I now see why being apart of the single mom demographic makes me look like such a shit person. . Appar…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:07 PM
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BINGOOOOOOO- women always put the drama on the internet- men often feel the same but discuss it amongst their friends. Some don’t discuss it at all and just tell the women they’re dating about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:04 PM
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Same reason I stopped dating a single dad. I didn’t want his daughter attached to me. She was so sweet though. I kept a healthy distance from her though. It sucks. Insta-mom is hilarious. 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 07:03 PM
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Single mom who dated a single dad, they do look for you to step up- some of them are just as whiny as the single moms about someone stepping up and being a good parent. Funniest thing- he was a girl dad I’m a boy mom.. the daughter definitely had some SERIOUS mama wounds. She wanted to attach but I could tell (based on his low EQ, and the fact that he was still holding on to resentment of their failed relationship, and his life) that the poor girl has seen many women come in and out, so she didn…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:55 PM
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Ramen. Pho. slurps
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 07:18 AM
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Nah, I want love Not right now though. Catch me by summer. 😂😮‍💨
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:49 AM
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I’m not sure where I stand - my Opinions have shifted from experience over the years. For example - my first boyfriend was from Honduras- I am an AfricanAmerican female. Afterward, I dated a black guy, who wasn’t conventionally attractive- substantially shorter than me like maybe 5’5 and skinny. He was charming, sweet, good listener. Very caring. Toward the end of HS, he chose the bad boy approach.. I immediately broke up with him. He ended up getting some life changing wake up calls.. I’m sure …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 07:59 AM
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Yeah, once you get use to bullying it doesn’t bother you, but it is annoying when the one doing the bullying doesn’t even compare or fit in your league. It’s one of those- ‘ I know damn well this dusty crusty, insecure POS did not try me’ or I know damnnn welll this kankle Kathy in the worlds most obvious unhappy marriage didn’t open her mouth’. Then I remember to be nice and not stoop to their level. Their attempt to bully is nothing more than validation of them feeling triggered in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:15 AM
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I believe I understand your viewpoint. Although it isn’t a popular one, and many people will disagree- you aren’t necessarily wrong. I’m gathering that you feel it’s silly to lose assets and status over cheating. However, cheating is a action involving morals, so a person who cheats is seen as having poor morals- which is conflicting as I’ve seen some people cheating being some of the best husbands, parents etc. it’s confusing really. However when the person does find out - things just go super …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 08:01 AM
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So are you saying, if someone cheats under the pretense of a dead bedroom, and their partner isn’t wanting to change- that it’s ok, especially if divorce isn’t viable. ? Or are you saying that people should consider ethical non monogamy as an alternative?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:41 AM
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My exact response. I’m ready to see some arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:39 AM
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