| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 110 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful? | Exotic-Belt-6847 | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 05:31 PM | |
| 54 | I used to be nice… I feel it fading. | Exotic-Belt-6847 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 11:46 AM | |
| 50 | How did you handle the pettiness? | Exotic-Belt-6847 | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/25 10:28 PM | |
| 29 | Pictures of the ex. | Exotic-Belt-6847 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/25 04:06 PM | |
| 26 | Sex drive messed up after separating. | Exotic-Belt-6847 | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 12:11 AM | |
| 11 | KARMA! Is it real? | Exotic-Belt-6847 | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/25 09:05 PM | |
| 4 | Any good books? | Exotic-Belt-6847 | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/25 03:46 PM | |
| 3 | Feeling numb turns into a great relationship? | Exotic-Belt-6847 | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/25 05:11 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Things are good. Better than where they were. Still never tried the viagra but erections have improved. Been dating a great girl for 9 months and feeling safe over time seems to have really helped things. Erections still arent perfect but havent needed the pills to get hard and have sex so still havent tried them. Thanks for checking in! | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/25 02:22 PM |
| 2 | She's upset that I moved on so quickly - and she's the one who leftBat shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/25 07:36 PM |
| 11 | Those of you who had wives who “changed” after marriage or children.Im gonna totally agree with this but add the following: Childhood trauma can add to the stuff you have described and the added negative impact social media has added to the mentality of women these days. The perfect chemical storm. We live in a culture of “ If its broken just get a new one”. I do truly believe that some relationships are so broken that they just cant be fixed…… but I think largely its a common misconception that the grass is greener on the other side coerced by social media and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/25 11:15 AM |
| 2 | Wife left me but kept some posts.There is no easy way to deal with this but the best way is to accept that you have a right to be happy and find peace and to do that you need to become the best version of yourself, one that you are most internally happy with…. this will attract a person that compliments you best and is really what you want in the end. We all want them to realize they fucked up but the second thing you need to accept is that even if she came crawling back, begging, professing true love etc… you would never fully… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/25 12:21 PM |
| 2 | I need a pick me up!Very much like my experience. There is someone out there who will show you genuine affection and care and the rest will melt away when you are with them. Focus on self care for now and try and remember that these people are broken inside. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/25 11:40 AM |
| 1 | New partner not liking my kidI agree with you. Thanks for the comment! | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/25 10:26 PM |
| 4 | Now wife works out and loses weightLOL. Gotta fight the madness somehow. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/25 01:19 PM |
| 15 | Now wife works out and loses weightThey all do the same fucking thing bros. Its built into them genetically. The second the novelty of a good marriage wears off they get comfortable. Then they begin to criticize the husband… then they see their beauty fleeting and decide its time to look beautiful for a complete stranger and have great sex to feel beautiful and powerful again. But guess what….. the ones that do that shit are ugly on the inside and the weight loss is temporary and the make up and anti wrinkle creams are simply a m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/25 12:53 PM |
| 1 | New partner not liking my kidIt was hell. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/25 07:53 PM |
| 3 | New partner not liking my kidShe was always this way inside bros… you just never saw it because of the honeymoon stage. When people start to get comfortable they start letting their true selves be exposed. She was always selfish and always will be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/25 10:38 AM |
| 3 | New partner not liking my kidIm curious from a mans perspective, when you are having girl time with women like this and they mention how they are annoyed and hate this guys kid….do most women get real and tell this bitch that she should leave if she dont like it or do most women validate the shit out of her thus perpetuating this type of behaviour in society? I saw my wifes friends, not just one but multiples of them, encourage her to cheat on me (yolo type shit, you dont need no man, strong independant woman) type shit and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/25 10:35 AM |
| 4 | New partner not liking my kidMy very own wife was jealous of me and our children that we had together. Jealousy and resentment is clearly part of who she is. Innability to compromise and be accepting. Empathy issues. Self centerdness and manipulative traits apparent. This woman exhibits traits we should all be running from. People like her shouldnt be parents or in relationships. Unfortunately its not going to be the relationship you or your son deserve. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/25 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Why do men become the boiled frog so often?yep | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/25 05:32 PM |
| 3 | I used to be nice… I feel it fading.Thank you sir! | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/25 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Why don’t you hear it from them?That sums up my ex, its like I would have written it myself. The absolute inability to take accountability is insane. I watch and watched her fight it with every fibre of her being. Being right was more important than saving her family. Sad really. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/25 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Why don’t you hear it from them?random pussy isnt going to be there for me on my death bed….. I want a lifelong friend and partner along with my kids by my side comforting me and holding my hand on my way out…… everything else in life is just filler to pass the time but entirely meaningless and its core. She fucking robbed me of that. I have no doubt I can find that partner still at 43 but to do it with the woman who mothered my children with is now impossible unless I have more kids late in life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/25 12:42 PM |
| 7 | Why don’t you hear it from them?the grass isnt greener. They are entitled, high expecting morons if you ask me and more often than not, have friends in their corners who are just as idiotic and encourage poor decisions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/25 12:37 PM |
| 6 | I used to be nice… I feel it fading.Thats insanity. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 09:28 PM |
| 2 | I used to be nice… I feel it fading.Ill check it out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 09:15 PM |
| 1 | I used to be nice… I feel it fading.Yes a compliment! | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 07:52 PM |
| 2 | I used to be nice… I feel it fading.3 are words to live by. Thanks for the comment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 06:53 PM |
| 6 | Why do men become the boiled frog so often?Remarkably said and spot on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 06:46 PM |
| 29 | Why do men become the boiled frog so often?I think society has also taught us young to assume that women are kind and sweet and happy. We grow up knowing men can be evil, cruel, violent so we expect that….. but are shocked when we see it from women. I think that distortion of reality allows us to miss so many red flags and chalk it up to things that arent meaningful patterns to be concerned with until its too late. Then you become the dead beat dad for leaving or an asshole for trying to correct bad behaviour. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 06:41 PM |
| 5 | How the hell to meet women after being married so longThat was a boss level response. Damn. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/25 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Anyone walk away from the dogs in a divorce?Mine come with the kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/25 01:29 AM |
| 2 | KARMA! Is it real?Interesting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Feeling numb turns into a great relationship?The bedroom stuff is fire. I am more questioning the deeper personal connection stuff. She was also cheated on by her fiance so she likely has her own walls up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Marriage statistics, a huge fail.I agree with you 110%. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Marriage statistics, a huge fail.Its not solely a “him” problem though…. its a statistic based on a massive survey of couples. I think alot of it has to do with womens expectations, lack of accountability and entitlement paired with (or maybe encouraged by) social media and how easy it is for them to find instant gratification and validation from other women and the common knowledge that they can find a new relationship almost instantly. The new relationships are often not quality but they allow the practice of monkey branching… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Feeling numb turns into a great relationship?No no, I dont feel numb to the idea of romantic interest…..I guess its maybe just a lack of enthusiasm or maybe like a jaded kind of feeling. I feel good when we are together….. im just over analyzing everything now and questioning the fact that if there arent major fireworks happening, does that mean it isnt worth persuing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/25 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Feeling numb turns into a great relationship?Yeah for sure. Its easier to see that once you experience disaster. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/25 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Feeling numb turns into a great relationship?Its an amazing feeling but equally terrifying to think that they dont feel the spark to the same degree….. which ends poorly eventually. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/25 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Pictures of the ex.What caused the divorce? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/25 03:04 AM |
| 0 | Pictures of the ex.hahaahah | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/25 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Pictures of the ex.I dont blame you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/25 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Pictures of the ex.Very childish. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/25 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Pictures of the ex.I agree. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/25 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Pictures of the ex.Jesus….. they are so evil. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/25 01:46 AM |
| 3 | Pictures of the ex.Agreed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/25 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Sleeping with the enemyYeah you are right. Its easy to overlook all the shitty things in the relationship before the betrayal. She doesnt know how to be truly loving and that wouldnt have served me well going into old age and onto my death bed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/25 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Sleeping with the enemyThanks. I felt super violated by that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/25 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Sleeping with the enemyThanks. I felt super violated by that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/25 03:55 PM |
| 1 | First relationship after divorce?I think so for sure! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/25 03:53 PM |
| 2 | Sleeping with the enemyI can handle that but I so desperately need it to not be the AP. The guy who met me, shook my hand, I fed in my home and then proceeded to poach my wife mailing crotchless panties to my house. I can accept anyone decent in my daughter’s lives but just not this guy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/25 11:30 AM |
| 3 | First relationship after divorce?I will tell you this: Dated a girl who was very very into me. She had a child and said she loved me one day. She said things like “ I would be stupid to screw this up”, which I found flattering. We had discussions about blended families and our expectations. She then asked me if we should think about babies…. it wasnt a serious suggestion but more of a “ lets talk about that possibility” kind of thing……. which is still a big deal. Three weeks later she broke up with me. Moral of the story, the l… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 07:14 PM |
| 7 | Keeping your last name.I couldnt care less. If she keeps it attached it just tells me I couldnt have been all that bad. She is the one bound by something that will always remind her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/25 11:49 AM |
| 8 | Has anyone else dealt with a destroyed sex drive even though they are happily with another partner?Im going through the same. Same timelines as you. Experiencing ED, low sex drive…. even to masturbate…. my drive is not like it was. My brain wants to be interested but I just dont feel that strong urge. It is slowly getting better but things are definitely stunted. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 02:15 AM |
| 1 | She gave me the death sentence.Its their lack of introspection and accountability. They think everything is not of their doing which means there is some other dude out there that will make life magical. They are shallow empty assholes who cant look in the mirror. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 08:55 PM |
| 1 | She gave me the death sentence.Absolutely do not do it. You will feel like shit watching yourself grovel at the feet of a woman that says “ you were the best but thats not good enough…. I want someone who will treat me like shit a little”. Find someone who knows how to love as you do. That is what you deserve. Move on as if she never mattered. Good men have become disposable. Let her find out what actually awaits her out there. I doubt her childhood self knew shit about what it takes to make an adult marriage succeed in a fla… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 08:51 PM |
| 4 | You know what fucking hurtMy wife of 12 years sent me a gif that said “ I will love you forever” a month or two before her affairs began. Funny how that works. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 12:08 PM |
| 2 | Separated to divorceThey get real happy and willing to “help” or whatever while things are easy and they are fucking someone else. They eventually get nasty even when its them who caused it all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 07:47 PM |
| 1 | How does one cope with this shitHe is man. Just a fucking loser. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 07:46 PM |
| 4 | Separated to divorceThat tells me she is totally fucking someone else and wants you out of the picture asap. Let her take the debt and take that child support. Dont leave the house until your lawyer councils you appropriately. I let mine buy me out because she refused to leave MY house. She also kept fucking the AP and I could only live like that for so long….. took me 15 months living like that before I was in my new home…… it was pure hell. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 07:13 PM |
| 3 | How does one cope with this shitI also hate that the AP is in the picture….. such a hard truth to get over. Degenerate sack of shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 06:59 PM |
| 1 | How does one cope with this shitI took up Muay Thai and Jiu Jitsu and it felt great. You can check my post history if you want to feel better hahaha | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 06:55 PM |
| 2 | How does one cope with this shitI feel for you man. Thats brutal. At least you have two shitty people out of your life. You will find someone that will treat you right. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Anyone ever remarry their ex…and had success?LOL | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 04:50 PM |
| 6 | LinkedIn request from exughhhhh marrying the AP must have been a real kick to the dick. I feel for you man. She is clearly emotionally fucked up. Not a decent human being. I am going through something similar. I wouldnt read to deeply into it other than to ignore it to maintain your own mental health. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/25 01:09 PM |
| 1 | Did the amount of kids contribute to divorce?I think it really comes down to the both of you and your characters. Kids are difficult and work no doubt, but they are an absolute blessing. In my case, my wife built up resentment, mad that I was always working while she had to be home with the kids, she was always tired, never in the mood and got addicted to being on her phone constantly. Its not so much the kids as it is just her character. When the kids would be excited to see me it would make her jealous…. clearly an emotional disorder at … | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/02/25 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Just Weird in my OpinionYeah or just the high of pulling her from her husband combined with the high of him sneaking around on his wife……… those fucks dont deserve quality time with our families….. they deserve to be beat to a pulp and left in a ditch. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Any good books?Awesome thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Any good books?Awesome thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Any good books?Thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/25 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Any good books?Thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/25 05:28 PM |
| 3 | Just Weird in my Opinionhahaahah. At some point, I can accept it….. but not that fresh….. and in my case, if its with the AP im gonna blow a gasket irregardless of what the timeline is. I will never have respect for the man who poached my wife and disrespected me in my own home. But if she finds someone I can respect and it becomes long term….. I can be ok with it after the man has put his time in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/25 03:06 PM |
| 4 | Just Weird in my OpinionThat would fill me with rage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/25 01:43 PM |
| 6 | Ex-wife friend reaches out to me with this belowIts called accountability. It exists for most crimes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 02:54 PM |
| 16 | Ex-wife friend reaches out to me with this belowTime to fuck the friend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 02:39 PM |
| 20 | Ex-wife friend reaches out to me with this belowWomen literally have facebook chat rooms to shit on the guys they think no one else should date……. but if men do it we are abusive assholes. The double standards are amazing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/25 02:36 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.A true loser for sure. If I didnt have kids I was fully prepared to absolutely ruin his whole life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/25 02:21 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/25 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Thanks for the feedback. I have never tried a cock ring but have been curious about it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/25 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Its a terrible fucking place to be. I never thought I would ever go bald and I am losing my hair………. and now my dick doesnt want to work……. fuck!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/02/25 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Nice, thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.He better if he ever wants to be happy again LOL | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Its very frustrating. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.That is so fucking horrible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.I have heard of that but I have never been like that…… I was always able to get nasty with a stranger hahahaah maybe having kids made me soft lol ( no pun intended) | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 10:37 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Yeah for sure. Thanks for the feedback! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Yeah for sure! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Sex drive messed up after separating.It was not easy. I focused on making sure my kids didnt have to visit their dad in prison. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 04:04 PM |
| 4 | Sex drive messed up after separating.It was the worst violation I have ever felt. He mailed crotchless panties to my house on her birthday…….. he is clearly a piece of shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Thanks for the feedback! It doesnt help when you think you are the only one and something is wrong with you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Yes for sure. My mind went to some very dark places. The man is lucky I thought of my two young girls every step of the way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Yeah….. and the way she did it was extra brutal. I was home sleeping with our kids while it happened in our backyard and I even met the guy and shook his hand and fed him. My post history likely explains alot. I still feel pretty violated by this asshole. Then she continued to fuck him while I stayed home with the kids until I finally secured my home this November. Its a deep cut. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.I think what you said is important and matters alot….. finding a partner who wont shame you. I dont think they intend to shame but they see a limp dick as a reflection of them not turning you on and they take that personally and that indirectly makes us feel shame….. which instantly adds pressure and compounds the problem. Its funny how we are bred that “ you never pressure a woman to have sex” its rammed in our brains, yet in a very similar comparison, women have no problem showing annoyance, i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Yeah for sure……. and “ dick destroyer” gave me a good laugh lol thanks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Due to any trauma or just gone? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.I agree. I never realized how interconnected our minds are with our dicks. I was used to being a typical “man” and have the urge and desire to hit up anything…….. now it seems to need to be meaningful. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.This morning I actually had two! One was as hard as stone, the other not as firm but definitely satisfactory to have sex. I dont get them every single day but I would say I get them often and always around 3-5am ish. The girlfriend pointed out that they are always around the same time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Thanks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Its strange for sure. I dont drink alot of water. Im wondering if hydration may be combining with psychological stuff. Im going to try to hydrate more see if it has a positive impact. This morning I woke up twice with morning erections and one was like granite….. so physically I know my body can do it…… but why not as I am used to with consistency is what I need to figure out. It even happens with masturbating alone which is the very interesting part. I think that points to “ my overall mind and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.What a mind fuck eh. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.They never gave me a physical one but they did an ultrasound of it and everything looked normal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Id have to check but based on the scale the results showed it appeared to me to be at the higher end. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.hahahaahah thanks for the advice! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Thanks for the advice! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 01:43 AM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Good feedback thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Yeah I have talked to her alot about it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.Thanks for the reply. Im shocked at how badly this has fucked me up. It feels like I have some degree of ptsd from the whole thing. I used to be horny enough to masturbate twice a day and I dont feel those desires very often either. I feel terrible because the girl I am with wants to please me and feels like she is doing something wrong or that I dont find her attractive. She does everything right and I am very much attracted to her, but I am so focused on this now that its hard not to think abo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Sex drive messed up after separating.The upstairs and downstairs were two separate units, separate entrances and all that but could still hear them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 12:58 AM |
| 3 | Sex drive messed up after separating.I dated a girl last may and I noticed I was really nervous. Im normally an anxious person so when I noticed I was nervous I started hoping I could perform. Her parents lived upstairs and I could hear them walk around and talk which really threw me off. I found myself focusing on them and her at the same time and started having issues. Once I got the “fear” in me of potentially having difficulties it seemed to be all I could think about. The new girl is amazing and totally understanding, but the … | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 12:44 AM |
| 3 | How many wives admitted they regret the divorce?Very similar story to mine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/25 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Divorce + cancer?Yeah its not normal hahaahah. These people often have some type of childhood trauma also….. not always but there is often a correlation. BPD (borderline personality disorder) is also another one that crosses paths with this stuff that you can take a peek into. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/02/25 11:55 AM |
| 2 | Divorce + cancer?Because you say “alter ego” I feel like this may point to narcissistic behaviours maybe? Would need more of her character but if you suspect as much, there are narc forums you can join also and I found those to be equally supportive. Sorry to hear about the cancer, wishing you a speedy recovery. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/25 04:43 PM |
| 1 | How did you handle the pettiness?I appreciate the honesty, and you arent wrong. But just to be clear her last birthday we were still living together with our children so I wasnt going to not say happy birthday….. this year will be the first birthday of hers with me moved out and I dont plan on addressing it which is why I said I know it will piss her off. She cut my family out of her life suddenly and completely stonewalled them…. even when they came over for my daughters birthday and were civil with her and said hello and aske… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/25 01:50 PM |
| 1 | How did you handle the pettiness?Yeah…. I guess it was for the kids. I know some people still get the other a birthday gift and label it from the kids just so it teaches the kids good values and stuff but after the way I have been treated I think I should just stay away from being kind in all ways possible. I know when her birthday comes around and I say sweet fuck all she will be pissed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/25 08:27 PM |
| 2 | How did you handle the pettiness?Yeah. Its frustrating. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 05:11 PM |
| 2 | How did you handle the pettiness?Im just saying Im not looking for a pat on the back but I expect that if I pay extra for something say an additionnal $100…. then I expect it to be obvious that she wouldnt send me a bill for $20 you know what I mean? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/25 05:02 PM |
| 2 | How did you handle the pettiness?Yeah, seems to be the same at this end…….. just not sure what they expect lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 07:58 PM |
| 2 | How did you handle the pettiness?Agree, but for the record, I dont do the extras with expectations of anything in return…. I just do it because my kids are worth every penny and im not petty…….. but clearly its not recognized or appreciated so it will have to stop. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 07:57 PM |
| 2 | How did you handle the pettiness?so very true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 07:55 AM |
| 2 | How did you handle the pettiness?cake eater for sure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 04:09 AM |
| 2 | How did you handle the pettiness?She got it colored too so thats where the costs were I guess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 04:08 AM |
| 2 | How did you handle the pettiness?Understood. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 04:07 AM |
| 4 | How did you handle the pettiness?Crazy women. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 04:05 AM |
| 3 | How did you handle the pettiness?Makes sense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/01/25 04:04 AM |
| 7 | How did you handle the pettiness?Lol. She even tipped the hairdresser $30 and I told her going forward im only obligated to pay half the price of the cut….. not whatever random tip she decides to tack on…….. lol she said tips are customary and she will continue to ask for half of what she tips LOL. She is very narcissistic and needs to win on all accounts. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/25 10:47 PM |
| 17 | She's upset that I moved on so quickly - and she's the one who leftMine started to act real angry once I left and bought my house. She also didnt like that I had a tinder account even though she was getting plowed by a dirtbag while we were still married. They are completely fucked in the head. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 09:50 PM |
| 5 | She's upset that I moved on so quickly - and she's the one who leftfart cave lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 09:47 PM |
| 4 | She's upset that I moved on so quickly - and she's the one who leftYes it does and it happened to me…… the man let me feed him and shook my hand. Total scumbag. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 09:47 PM |
| 11 | She PlottedNever heard that quote before but its 100% true. They will nuke anything good in their lives because of a feeling. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:23 PM |
| 17 | She PlottedGotta love the old “ now that Im leaving him gonna work out so I look attractive for someone new”. Just goes to show their insecurities. Couldnt be bothered to put effort in for the husband and father of the kids and then suddenly the idea of someone new is enough to put effort in. They all do the same shit. Mid life crisis, try to find themselves, reclaim their beauty, seek validation……. She will regret it later on. Let her go and find someone who values who you are as a person. Your wife will … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:16 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys get along with your ex’s boyfriend/husband? Especially if you have kids, how has that been?yeah. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/25 02:43 PM |
| 20 | Would it help our separation if I got my wife something for Valentine’s Day?Dont get her shit. She doesnt deserve the attention. Let her have exactly what she has asked for… loneliness. Maybe it impacts her and maybe it doesnt, but giving her attention does you no favours. Go out and find someone that values you enough to stick with you and you can make them feel special on valentines day! Until you find that person, spend your money on a pizza and enjoy the peace and quiet. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/25 01:41 PM |
| 5 | How do you guys get along with your ex’s boyfriend/husband? Especially if you have kids, how has that been?Yeah they are fucking nuts. Do you think deep down they know but will just never admit to themselves that they act poorly or do you think they honestly dont realize it? I see signs that my ex is self aware… maybe not in the moment but often after an outburst, but she has too much ego and pride to ever admit it and accept fault…… I think that is part of the way she treats me how she does….. in order to feel good about her bullshit she needs to convince herself that Im shitty. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/25 01:31 PM |
| 6 | How do you guys get along with your ex’s boyfriend/husband? Especially if you have kids, how has that been?Very similar to what I am going through. Was with her for 12 years, two young girls, she cheated and wanted to separate, refused to work on the marriage and continued to see the loser. I moved out and got another house and mostly ignore her now to the best of my ability. She has major Narc traits and potentially some BPD. She has now grown extremely cold and seems pretty sour even though I try to be kind. She was very abusive in a passive aggressive manner….. silent treatments, withholding intim… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/25 12:11 PM |
| 6 | For those who got cheated on, do you blame the AP?I blame them both but in my case I met the asshole in my backyard for a campfire and I talked with him a few hours and then even fed him. He fucked around with my wife in our pool while I slept inside with our 2 kids. This guy is an exceptional piece of shit in my books……. as is she. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/25 02:12 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?Makes sense! | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/25 12:26 AM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?You are so right about the other miserable women and the boiling frog thing…… spot on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/25 04:25 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?LOL | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/25 04:23 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/25 04:46 AM |
| 2 | KARMA! Is it real?Agree and of course I dont wish bad on her at all. She is the mother of my children…..but Im certainly not rooting for the relationship to work out with the AP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 07:55 PM |
| 2 | KARMA! Is it real?LOL | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 05:31 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?Very well said. Agree 100%. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 05:30 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?Thanks! You are right. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 05:30 PM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Very true. It seems the more I ignore her the more cold she grows. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 05:28 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?interesting take! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 05:24 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?Damn! Sorry you experienced all that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 05:22 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?LOL damn! It really turned black? lmfao | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 05:21 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?Yep. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 05:18 PM |
| 2 | KARMA! Is it real?I agree. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 02:14 AM |
| 0 | KARMA! Is it real?I think in death its our most desperate moments and we judge ourselves in those fleeting moments. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 02:12 AM |
| 7 | Almost there… regrets?These women are simply unstable. Im going through it as we speak and seek advice myself but I can tell you this: If you werent worth it before, you wont be worth it in the future and neither of us want to be 70 and she finds some 50 year old that makes her feel sexy and it happens all over again. Point is……. she doesnt understand a valuable mate. She is fucked up in the head and thinks she is deserving of things that are likely un-realistic. Stay the course, find yourself, find happiness in your… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/25 11:34 PM |
| 1 | KARMA! Is it real?Interesting. Or at a minimum, during the final moments transitioning to the next one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/25 10:54 PM |
| 5 | KARMA! Is it real?Sums mine up perfectly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/25 10:53 PM |
| 3 | KARMA! Is it real?Yeah I kind of agree! | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/25 10:53 PM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yeah I just moved into my new home so things are settling down. Thanks! It was certified hell. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/01/25 03:05 PM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Same scenario here. She refused to leave yet carried on the affair. Tough thing to live through. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/24 04:42 PM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Thanks man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/24 12:25 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yeah, they can be evil. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:57 PM |
| 5 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Insane is right. Jesus. Amazing how they get away with it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:57 PM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Poetry at its finest and so very fitting to her likely mindset. What is this from? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:54 PM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Sounds about right. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 05:03 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 05:01 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Its quite possible….. but she will never admit it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 05:00 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Crazy hahahah | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:59 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yeah, who knows what is rolling around in that coconut of hers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:58 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Impulsiveness. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:56 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Man is she ever!!! You nailed it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:56 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?So very very true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:55 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Crazies…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:54 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Sound advice. Thanks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:54 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?You are 100% right. My mother keeps telling me that: “Why are you surprised??? You should expect it by now” | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:52 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Interesting. Crazy that they would want that for someone who was good to them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/24 04:49 AM |
| 4 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?I will! Thanks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 04:59 AM |
| 6 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Im starting to lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 04:58 AM |
| 7 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?yeah exactly. I learned alot about this type of thing in MLC forums. Sometimes the AP even lasts a few years but when it crashes….. its like they wake from this fog and wonder what they ever even saw in the AP and then have massive regret. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 04:58 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?LOL | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 04:54 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?I was willing to forgive her and go to therapy and save our family and actually got us to therapy…… but she didnt want to put the work in….. she couldnt admit fault. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 04:54 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?wow. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 04:50 AM |
| 9 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Jesus they can be nuts. Mine got mad when she dropped the kids off that my new house had Christmas decorations. I could see the jealous rage in her eyes……… she didnt like that I was festive……. I guess she wanted me to be crying in a ball in the corner. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 03:36 AM |
| 4 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Fucking losers lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 03:34 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 03:32 AM |
| 5 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?She was sleeping with the guy while we co-habitated, we would fight and she would tell me to get the fuck out…… then I bought a house and she acted all butt hurt and surprised. LOL insanity | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 03:15 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Thanks. Good luck to you and your situation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 03:12 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Good advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 03:10 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?hahaahahaah thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:59 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yup! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:59 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Being crazy is trendy amongst them I am learning. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:57 AM |
| 4 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?psychos lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:56 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Sound advice. Thank you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:52 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yeah we have two young girls so no contact isnt in the cards. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:51 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yeah she cant admit fault. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:49 AM |
| 4 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Fun eh? lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:46 AM |
| 6 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?My ex started this when she turned 40. She also has childhood trauma. I suspect a personality disorder combined with a midlife or identity crisis. The double whammy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:45 AM |
| 5 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Damn. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:41 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:37 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yeah. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:35 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Its painful when they act like that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:34 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?very true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:28 AM |
| 5 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Im almost certain she has a personality disorder to some degree. She has alot of narc traits. She cant accept responsibility for anything she has ever done and she has lots of trouble saying sorry. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:26 AM |
| 5 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yeah…. she has trouble taking accountability and rarely can say sorry. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:17 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?You arent wrong. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:04 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yeah thats nuts for sure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:03 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Good advice, thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:01 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?From what I hear they often have regrets. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 02:00 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 01:55 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 01:55 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Thanks. I didnt want to see the kids lose the home they grew up in just cause I wanted her to have to move also. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 01:53 AM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Ill check them out! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 01:51 AM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?hahaahah facts. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 01:50 AM |
| 11 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Yeah exactly. The grass is greener where you water it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 06:12 PM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?So very true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 06:11 PM |
| 1 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Ok, I will, thanks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 06:11 PM |
| 2 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Its what it feels like. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 06:08 PM |
| 15 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?No, she bought me out pal. I have kids and dint want to displace them…. I still got half. No reward…. just fairness to my young children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 06:07 PM |
| 8 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Wow, you summed her up. I have suspected BPD/Narc traits for a long time. Thanks for the comment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 06:03 PM |
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