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Extra-ghostphone/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 05:46 AM
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Is that state law in Illinois? Any marriage over 25 years gets lifetime alimony? Or were there special circumstances ?
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 01:52 PM
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It can be worth it … if it’s the correct person I think … Prenup definitely (include if she stops working for raising kids ) … plus wouldn’t get married that young I did at 24 and never got a chance to live my life. Date for a couple more years. Do things with friends. Travel. Enjoy life and if she is still there, then marry her with a prenup
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 05:47 PM
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What ? That is a terrible deal? Did you have a lawyer ? What county in NJ are you in? I need a NJ Divorce lawyer. I hope I don’t get yours. Sorry man. I wouldn’t sign that deal. That sounds wrong Do you also get the equity in the house for the 14 years ? Then it’s a ln investment that you can get backing guess
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 03:10 PM
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I’m in nj. Long term marriage though so I am looking at open duration (until I retire or drop working if I work past 67.5 years old). Did they stick you to that “0.25% of the difference of salary” guideline or were they more reasonable with tax implications and other stuff to lower your alimony ?
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 03:07 PM
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4 hours just on spouse support ? Wow. What state ? Was there a state calculator ? Or at least a “guideline” to go by? If so. How far off was there ask and what was the final result (how much are you paying for how long? Feel free to send DM if you want. Thanks for info. Busy trying to gauge what other states do (I am in NJ)
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/25 07:36 AM
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So Connecticut is alimony for 50% of the marriage, even over 20 years? Damn. I’m jealous. NJ is that for under 20. It looks like you sr married 24 years. Almost the same for me but I will have to pay until I am 67.5 (17.5 years of alimony) or even longer if I keep working. I am not cruel. I get it. Spouse should definitely get money but so much for so long. It truly is debilitating
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 07:31 PM
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I thought most states got rid of permanent alimony!! What state are you in and how long were you married if I may ask … I am looking at something similar
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 04:55 PM
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Wow. 2 attorneys and it still was only $3500? I assume it was very amicable then and you guys agreed on most things without much of a fight ? It seems like I’m New Jersey divorce is sooo expensive. Lawyers seem to intentionally like the fight to drive up costs according to some friends who divorced Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 06:22 PM
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She declined alimony? Wow? Was it her pride? Would it been a lot of money? You guys have a big pay discrepancy?
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 10:18 PM
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What is QDRO? Why did it cost so much? Especially it sounds like you agreed on splitting everything yourselves? Did you have to pay alimony? Was it easy or more difficult to negotiate
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 03:16 PM
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You went through mediation in New Jersey? You both had attorneys ? Or just the one attorney? Why did you get emancipated from adult kids? They wanted that or you did ? Is it financially better to do that ? I’m in NJ and have adult kids
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 12:54 PM
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What state ? How long ago ?
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 12:50 PM
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Wow. That’s insane. No kids and she did t work? You clearly work a lot of your in the top 5%. What did she do all day by herself ? And the courts didn’t say “get a job”?
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 12:49 PM
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Awesome!! What state ? How long were you married ? How much lower ?
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 05:06 AM
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Yeah tough call. I’m I. Similar boat but less dramatic honestly. I am looking to get out for far less. In your shoes, I would leave. Sooner the better (less alimony). You can still provide a good life for your kids without her. Maybe even better if she can’t make any money yet wasted a lot. .. double whammy. Not even to say anything about the seating which is a definite no go for me Good luck. Keep us updated
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 04:41 AM
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Wish this was New Jersey
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 05:12 AM
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Lawyers run the system. They are making more money when there is a fight. If it was as simple as … split assets 50/50, no alimony no support they wouldn’t make anything
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 09:06 AM
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This is also mine. I’m 50 now. Thinking about for 15-20 years and never pulled the trigger. Now I am not sure it’s worth it at this age. Huge alimony bills will haunt me into retirement
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 05:34 PM
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Holy crap. Wow. What a nasty mean person. Yeah my wife isn’t doing that (I doubt image js at least). She isn’t a terrible person. We have just grow apart and basically have a dead bedroom and I am sick of the rejection. So I want o move on while I still have some good years left. Just have pause. But I do think I have done everything I can
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 02:46 PM
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Thanks. Great response
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 02:43 PM
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Yeah. Seems like so many people are so sure on this sub. I guess it’s the j ternary so easier said than done
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 02:08 PM
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Yeah. I hear that …. So in the end, did that regret go away? Give way to acceptance maybe ? Are you happy now then you think you would have been if you stayed ?
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 06:51 AM
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Oh boy. Rough … well as you said. Your smarter now … maybe just get a companion. Each have your own lives hit spend time together and hopefully some physical intimacy Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 04:42 AM
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You have married and been divorced 4 times ? Seriously ? Why the 3rd? Why the 4th? How old are you ?
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 04:45 AM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 02:41 AM
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She asked for a divorce? Isn’t doing a thing to reverse it. Who ceres if she meets this guy. It’s over dude. Accept it and plan your divorce. She will fuck other guys at some point. Tough pill tk swallow but this is life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 05:25 AM
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How do you tell who the “good ones” are ? Their websites all look good and pretty
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 04:24 PM
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I think this is dead on. Makes you look like the bad guy
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 03:58 PM
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I don’t know California law, but in an equitable distribution state which I believe it is in, she is at least “entitled to 50% of that account. If she doesn’t want it then good for you but she can ask and get half no questions asked
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/23 06:01 AM
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I but I am interested in this. What state are you in.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/23 07:53 AM
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