Regret After Divorce

Certain-Line-6351 · 2023-06-02T06:47:34+00:00

Of course. But it’s not like she did anything to help or make it better.

Throwawaysi1234 · 2023-06-02T14:25:37+00:00

You'd probably have equal or greater regrets if you stayed.

If I've noticed one thing about myself in my whole process it's that conflicting emotions are a real thing and how you feel can change a lot even from hour to hour.

I feel regret. I could have been a better husband. I'd still say I was a better than average husband. I wonder if reconciliation could have worked.

But if we had stayed together, I wouldn't be able to live with myself. She did a lot of awful things in the last year that in retrospect were insanely cruel even though I couldn't see it at the time.

She used money from a car accident I was in to take a month long overseas trip. What I didn't know was that was doing it to see her affair partner. On our video chats she would joke about how she had a "sugar daddy" over that. After finding out, I realize that not only was she destroying my world, she was taunting me to my face while she did it and making me look like a fool to her friends there.

Just one of many things.

coffeefrog92 · 2023-06-02T17:35:02+00:00

Kierkegaard said a great thing about regrets that I go back to read when I have misgivings about a decision.

Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both. This, gentlemen, is the essence of all philosophy.

Americanjello · 2023-06-03T02:50:41+00:00

Sometimes. But the bigger, longer lasting regret is not ending it sooner.

fewdo · 2023-06-02T08:13:04+00:00

A little bit of regret, yeah. But waking through my apartment feels free on a way that our house never did. Zero bull shit was real, real nice for a while.

jujumber · 2023-06-02T13:35:01+00:00

It would be pretty off if you had absolutely no regrets. Even in bad situations people feel like they could have done things differently.

Jbr74 · 2023-06-02T15:03:38+00:00

The only thing I regret is not getting divorced sooner.

Basic_Advance7627 · 2023-06-02T20:19:04+00:00

She was a serial cheater over our marriage. However, 3 kids and a family destroyed, I regret she never even gave me a chance. I regret a broken family. But she got what she wanted, I’ll never understand it.

ratbastard007 · 2023-06-03T04:03:35+00:00

Not quite divorce, but recently ended an engagement.

It does go away.

2 months ago i regretted my decision. I now realize how little i was really loved.

InWeGoNow · 2023-06-03T10:46:29+00:00

I think everyone wishes it didn't have to end in divorce.

half_brain_bill · 2023-06-02T16:53:28+00:00

My wife divorced me without my involvement. Then moved out with our kids. I’m disabled and it was decided that I couldn’t maintain the house by myself, but that was just another excuse to keep me away from my kids. I listened to the wrong people and ended up moving out of the house and helped sell it. I regret that part, but I don’t regret not getting involved in my divorce.I will not return to her or allow her to return to me. I was living a fool’s paradise for most of our relationship and as soots she had to become self sufficient and actually act like a good woman she abandoned her vows and ran away from her family.

Title	Regret After Divorce
Author	Extra-ghostphone
Upvotes	6
Comments	24
Date	June 2, 2023 5:46 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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