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How do you feel about your wife? It might be an unpopular opinion, but if you don't want the divorce I would make that known to her. You don't need to be emotional about it, and definitely don't make any promises about how you'll change or anything like that. Just make your objection known. And then you respect her decision and you focus on moving forward. She made the decision to end it, so now she must make the decision to repair it if it will happen. My wife threatened divorce many times thro…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/26 10:13 PM
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It's never happened to me and I've never seen it happen. If you go to a dance class with your girlfriend, you go knowing that you will be dancing with other partners.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 12:39 PM
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The women typically stand in a circle and each man will rotate around the circle and dance with each women several times by the end of the lesson, so there's no need to bring a partner.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 12:17 PM
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I think a lot of men do because we're usually not naturals at it and we feel we get judged for it. In fact, I resolved to learn because one time I danced and got ridiculed for it. When you start to learn partner dance, you will be bad. And as the lead, the dance mostly hangs on your performance. But when you get good, as a good lead you'll be sought after for dances and you get to enjoy a little status in your new social circle.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 08:13 AM
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Another piece of advice. Take dance lessons (salsa, bachata, kizomba). You'll meet lots of women and make new friends, be part of a new scene, and have lots of fun while picking up a new skill.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 05:54 PM
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Contact your old friends. Every man has disappeared when a woman came into the picture, and every man has had friends that have done the same. They will forgive you. Just be ready to get your balls broken a little.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 05:53 PM
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I'd do it all over again just for the kids. If I get a second chance and we're allowed to act differently, I'd be way stricter about keeping third parties out of our business on both sides.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 03:55 PM
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Big ups on your weight loss and all the hard work. But truly, paradoxically she will feel the worst burn when you no longer care if she feels it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 02:00 PM
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I honestly can't think of a bigger concession of frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/24 05:21 AM
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One time a few months after my wife left the house, I got into a bad place and drank some whiskey and looked back over old texts. She was telling me for at least 6 months that she was going to divorce me. Not just that she was going to divorce me, but the logistics of how she was smoothing the transition of separation. I simply refused to acknowledge it. Wild, looking back. But when you're in it the denial is strong because you really don't want to believe it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 08:19 PM
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I don't have any advice about addiction, but there's no right way to feel about your divorce. Sit alone for a while and feel and think what you need to. Let the emotions play out, they can lose their power that way. And then you can take practical steps once you've had time to process all that. Many people say cut off communication besides the absolute essentials at this point. I did that. But I say get to a point that you can calmly articulate your thoughts on the matter (which may include that…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 09:20 AM
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For those worried about having less time with their kids: It may better to be 100% dad 50% of the time, rather than 50% dad 100% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 09:49 PM
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You're gaslighting me!
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 09:14 PM
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Some good advice here. One thing I would say is that I disagree that a social life will just happen. I realised once I left university that after that point you really have to put in the work to build a social circle. Be outside the house as much as you can.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 07:53 PM
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I think this points to something that a lot of men experience. These are my thoughts on it, and I admit beforehand that this is nothing original. And I'm speaking in generalities here: Your wife married you because she believed you were THE man. She believed this because your compelling personality and lifestyle drew her into something that she wanted to be a part of. You, being the faithful and loving husband that you were, devoted yourself to your wife. And when you had kids, you devoted yours…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 10:15 PM
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Unironically DMX. He was all about just grinding and chasing the next success. I don't really recommend a man to live his entire life like that, but in this chapter of your life its an attitude that will help you. I miss you every day, big dog.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:14 PM
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I'm happy for you but I would just say exercise caution about a seemingly perfect new woman who's into all the things you are.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 09:06 PM
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Any evidence for that, scriptural or otherwise?
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/23 04:06 PM
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Bro, you could spend the rest of your life looking for and holding onto these little breadcrumbs of hope. You told her you want to fix it, and I admire your courage to put yourself into that level of vulnerability. But she hasn't taken the chance, so you must move on. If she wanted it, she'd let you know.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 08:29 PM
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While this definitely puts a different angle on the story, I still don't see grounds for divorce. The prospect of unwittingly raising another man's child is a deep and visceral fear for any man, rooted in biology. While his reaction may have been unfavourable, consideration should be given for the mental turmoil he must have been going through. He owes her a big apology for sure, and he should make amends. But breaking vows and destroying a family? No.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/23 10:51 AM
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For whatever reason you've already decided you're through with the man, this is just your post hoc justification. You won't find validation for busting up a family here.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 09:13 PM
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The eternal male dilemma. We all know the trouble we invite into our lives by bringing a woman into it, and yet a few months without one and you start to miss it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 09:07 PM
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Would you step in a bear trap again? (The answers will SHOCK you)
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 08:45 AM
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Your situation sounds almost exactly like mine did. Those trips away from the home and divorce threats are trial runs. My guess would be she's already decided on it; based on my own experience. And besides, once covert recordings and grape accusations come into play, what is left to save?
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 06:49 AM
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Feels before reals. Quality post, brother. Bleak, but true.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 07:45 PM
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Yes, sadly I agree. It's wholly unnatural for a father to not be in regular daily contact with his kids. I have mine 40% of the time. I asked for 50% and it caused a furore. I suspect because of bennies. Once the financial settlement is in place I will sue for 50%. It's surprising how much development you miss. Next time you see them they have new vocabulary, new interests. You're forced to build a life that involves them at a much lower level of involvement than you ever wanted. You switch in b…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 09:47 PM
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I second dance classes. I think it's good for men to learn, plus you'll get opportunity to meet loads of new people. I used dancing to get out of a mid twenties rut. I met the ex dancing, got married, we both stopped dancing and now I'm in a rut again. Should've just kept dancing!
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 09:44 PM
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I definitely have some mother related mental stuff. She really disliked my ex wife and would become involved in the marriage a lot, arguing with my wife and casting judgements around. But she helped out a lot, both financially and with her time. Looking back, it's fucked up to say but I think she used this as leverage to exert undue influence. And because I've always had this thing in my head where I need my mother's approval, I didn't stamp it out as severely as I should have. And now I'm divor…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 06:42 AM
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My x wife definitely used to behave towards me in a way she wouldn't anybody else. I always thought everybody else, when strangers, got the best of her. One time we'd had a big fight and went on a make up date to see a film. After the flick we sat in the foyer and she admitted as much, but told me it was only because she'd never felt as secure with anybody before, so basically she felt safe to let rip on me but nobody else. At the time, I felt flattered. Looking back, not so much.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 06:06 PM
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Bro, honestly you sound just like me. I could've written this comment. Its especially frustrating for us as Christians, as we are men with all the attendant desires and needs, but we know it won't bear fruit to seek comfort in a woman's arms without commitment. And yet, commitment got us here!
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 05:54 PM
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Hey, brother. Fellow Christian. Here's a piece of advice I learned that can help to keep you sane; add 'right now' to whatever a woman says. We men think in terms of loyalty and duty, but women identify so strongly with their feeling in the moment, it rules them. I'm happily married, right now. I couldn't imagine myself with anybody else, right now. I love you, right now.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 05:30 PM
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fiancée There's still time
/r/askMRP17/08/23 05:03 AM
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I've been celibate for over a year now. I feel weird about being with somebody that's not my kids' mother.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 08:16 PM
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Legally speaking, I've only been divorced about a week. But I've been separated over a year, which is still probably not what you'd consider long. I made a post about this recently but I'm already finding that I catch myself wondering if it would be nice to have a woman around again. But I always remind myself about the attendant trouble. It's a tough one. As men we seem to yearn and even fight for freedom, but once we've had it for a while we will find something else to chain ourselves to.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 10:36 PM
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It's a bit tricky because on one hand, it's definitely good to talk about it. But on the other, you can definitely keep yourself in a rut and run the risk of boring people. (Saying this because I've done it). Hopefully, you've got at least one person you can sound off to as much as you like and they'll always listen. But journalling can be a good tool for this. One, you don't risk boring anybody, and two you can look back over your own thoughts and analyse for repeating thoughts, new thoughts, p…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 05:09 PM
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If you don't know what you need, the best answer you could give is just 'would you just listen to me?'. And then you have somebody you can just talk stream of consciousness to. And I would bet that if you talk long enough, some things are gonna become clear to you that maybe weren't clear before, and you may figure out what it is you need. Most of the time, thinking isn't a solitary activity. We usually do it by talking.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/23 12:34 PM
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If you have to ask artistic internet strangers, I think you have your answer.
/r/askMRP22/07/23 07:42 PM
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Tbh, yeah. My ex and I were going at it right up until she dropped the bomb, and it was good sex. I personally think having sex with one person many times is much better than many people for one time only. You learn a lot about each other that way and I always thought it got better over time. Until she split, of course.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 03:49 PM
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My marriage was in trouble anyway, but I made a decision to take a lower paying job than I would be much happier doing and coincidentally she dropped the bomb shortly afterwards. I'm now making more, anyway, as it happens.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 07:52 PM
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Messaged you, brother
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 10:51 PM
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Women are largely protected from karma because there's always a man willing to absolve her of accountability for her actions. Smh tbh.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 07:36 PM
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You have to always remember that you can never take their words seriously. They're inherently ephemeral. They done lie, as such, but they tell the truth AT THE TIME; its just that they're so emotionally driven that what is true can change from moment to moment.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 03:15 PM
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I often wonder about my future prospects for relationships. I certainly would never remarry. But that in itself puts me in a moral quandary because of religious convictions. At the same time, going from 30 to the grave completely celibate sounds rough. I don't think I have much to offer a woman. Time is tight as a daddy to two little ones and they're always going to be my priority. I don't want to date a woman with kids, but then I'd have to ask a woman to be OK with me having kids and not givin…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 02:38 PM
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Mine was silver, its collecting tarnish on a shelf in a storage closet. An apt metaphor for my soul (low key jokes).
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 10:56 PM
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Its a very destabilising experience. We all inhabit our own story, and when you find out that parts of your story don't add up, you have to throw out several page and re write. But is very difficult to rewrite because you've based your identity on your story. So essential you have to rebuild yourself. I've had this happen too. Why was I blind to this? Was I wilfully blind because I wanted my marriage to work? Why did I want my marriage to work so badly I turned a blind eye to this? What caused t…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 10:47 PM
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I think any meaningful life requires your devotion to a mission or higher ideal. If you're a father, you have one ready made, because it gonna be your kids. But in addition to your kids it could be devotion to your spiritual path, building a business, serving others in some way etc. It could be anything really so long as it made getting out of bed and dealing with the suffering of life mean something. He who has a why can bear any how.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 12:01 AM
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My ex used to berate me mercilessly and say everything but divorce. Then I'd ask if she was implying she wanted a divorce and she'd go 'WELL IF THATS WHAT YOU WANT. YOU SAID IT, NOT ME'. lol They need to be able to absolve themselves of any accountability. How else could you play eternal victim?
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 11:30 AM
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In my opinion, this is exactly what the mediation is for. I don't know your wife, but I'd avoid any contact that has a potential to become contentious.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 10:16 PM
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This reminds me of my situation. It played out somewhat similarly. After a while of separation, she confronted me that I'd never mentioned reconciliation. Of course, I took the scrap she threw me like a hungry dog. Cue 3 or 4 hours long conversations that revolved around how it was all my fault, and giving me conditions for reconciling that she knew I wouldn't keep. And to give myself some credit, I was honest and stuck to my guns by saying I couldn't keep the conditions. So, after probably clos…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 10:07 PM
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This reminds me of my situation. It played out somewhat similarly. After a while of separation, she confronted me that I'd never mentioned reconciliation. Of course, I took the scrap she threw me like a hungry dog. Cue 3 or 4 hours long conversations that revolved around how it was all my fault, and giving me conditions for reconciling that she knew I wouldn't keep. And to give myself some credit, I was honest and stuck to my guns by saying I couldn't keep the conditions. So, after probably clos…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 10:07 PM
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You don't mention kids, so assuming you don't have any, you're in a much easier position for moving on as far as emotional healing is concerned. Although I understand it may not feel like it. Firstly, no more communication of any kind. Because of the kid free situation, I can't think of any reason to be talking to her. I'm not saying this to be a dick, but I would guess the hostility she is showing is coming from your attempts to communicate and especially your request for friendship. It looks l…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 11:55 PM
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Kierkegaard said a great thing about regrets that I go back to read when I have misgivings about a decision. Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will …
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 05:35 PM
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Don't know if Patrice O'Neil is respected around here, but he used to swing and he would watch his girl 'have relations' with some other guy. He said it helped destroy his ego. Now, I don't advocate for that at all, but I think there's a lesson there. This may be unconventional, but next time you get that feeling, maybe you just sit down and feel it fully. Watch the images play out, feel how it makes your gut sick, and then watch it pass. I think if you do that 10 times, it will start to affect …
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 07:22 PM
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Tears of the Kingdom instead of tears on your pillow 💪
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 07:19 PM
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Mine has taken a dive, honestly. All my time is now strictly scheduled because I either have my kids or I'm working overtime to recover from the financial hit.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 09:19 AM
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I'm in the exact same situation and I've been meaning to make pretty much the same post. Looking back now, at old texts, going over memories etc. I see she was really checked out for 6 months prior to dropping the hammer at the very least. I got thr very classic 'I'm not haaaaaappy'. With time I'm becoming more and more at ease with the fact that I'll never truly know why. And the Lord knows I'll never give her the satisfaction of asking for answers. It's just a cold fact that women do not share…
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 12:19 AM
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I miss my kids all the time when they're not with me. Sometimes I miss having a wife. But whenever I have to interact with her, I realise it isn't her I'm missing.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 10:42 AM
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At first I used to have these recurring dreams about my son being a newborn again and I'd hear him crying in a big house, and I'd search for him desperately but the house would just prove to be an endless maze and I'd never find him. Seems obvious that was anxiety and heartbreak over becoming a part time dad. More recently I had a very vivid dream that my dad told me she was seeing somebody else and it really messed with me. Maybe my subconscious trying to pre-process the inevitable. Anyway, I t…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 10:56 PM
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You have to remember that reputation is everything to women. She's keeping a written record of what an emotionally evolved person she is. Look, I'm friendly with my ex! I'm so modern and evolved. Just disregard it, man. It's all mind games.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 08:18 PM
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I'll say this: when I was dating my ex she told me how much she loved to clean, and every Saturday she'd send me a picture of herself in sweats and a bandana with a hoover or brush or something. Alarming how quickly that changed once we actually got married.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 08:10 PM
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The Patrician response
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 09:15 AM
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If you read the fable of the frog and the scorpion, it can provide some insight into getting involved seriously with a woman. I'm not saying this to be shitty, I genuinely think it can provide clarity and acceptance. AWALT. Some can put restraint on it, but any woman can act the way your ex wife did if the circumstances are right. I say this so you can begin to drop your feelings of emasculation and shame. I haven't been cheated on, to my knowledge, so I can only offer my deepest sympathies on t…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 08:37 PM
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Reticular activation system (RAS) flip
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 05:14 AM
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Excellent advice. Working out is so vital. Go and really hit the weights hard, and notice how your capacity for neurosis is vastly reduced. Do this a few times a week and it's more powerful than any antidepressants you could be prescribed. And the advice on avoiding alcohol, at least for now, is just as important. It will do the very opposite and make it much easier to indulge in and amplify your negative emotion. Lean heavily on the company of your friends. It should go without saying, but male…
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 09:13 PM
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Just to add to this, and it may not be relevant for every man here, but make sure she doesn't leave with the kids' passports.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 09:08 PM
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Extreme pragmatism in order to facilitate greater genetic variety to ensure survival of the genes. Partner with male, procreate, bitch him up to rationalise leaving him, leave him. Rinse and repeat.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 05:49 PM
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Thanks for getting back to me. Very hard to pin point one thing. Life is irreversibly changed. I've taken a financial hit, which doesn't help with mental health in general. I think there is some shame that I feel for not doing right by my kids and holding my family together. If I'm very honest, and I cringe to write this, I think it really messes with me that she's shown no regret and hasn't made reconciliation attempts. But I'm also aware of what a woman's nature is, so I shouldn't be stuck on …
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 09:40 PM
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I'm not speaking against OP or his advice, I mean this truly; I don't know how to let myself grieve. It's coming up to a year now and I haven't felt much strong emotion, even in the beginning. Of course, I have my low periods, but its never really painful. I go between thinking maybe I am just not too broken up about it, to worrying that I'm suppressing my emotion and there's going to be a moment the dam finally breaks. Praying its the former, but I guess I'll see.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 11:18 PM
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Women will literally re-write their personal history to justify a decision. If it makes you feel better, she probably did love you. But the fact is that now it's over. The light switch effect has been activated. And you shouldn't have hugged her, bro. I'd advise against doing that again. Look up and read the Divorce 180.
/r/askMRP17/03/23 11:33 PM
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Maybe a year or so before we split, I'd find my wife fingering her phone and she'd be scrolling Pinterest looking at all these junk psychology articles. 5 Reasons Your Husband is Probably a Murderer! All of a sudden, if I disagreed with her I was gaslighting her. If I stood my ground, I was a narcissist. With the knowledge I have now, I'd recommend any man beginningto hear these words that he start thinking about his exit plan.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 10:54 PM
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My ex had 4 sisters (one died since the separation) and I'd bet the house they were talking shit if it wasn't currently a contested asset. All but one with a divorce to their name, I should mention.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 09:00 PM
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Thanks bro, enjoy your dinner. I actually have to take the kids back to her tonight. Missing them a lot lately when I don't have them.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 06:27 PM
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Gonna smoke cigars in the garage
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 06:11 PM
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One hunner. I wonder how many divorces have been filed for exactly this reason.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 06:54 PM
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Potentially controversial take, but here goes. I think the foreign traditional wife meme is a myth. Women are women everywhere. I think that you could take a burqa-clad beauty from the mountains of Afghanistan, bring her back to the west, and within a year or two she would be exactly the same as the women you are describing. If you're willing to relocate and embed yourself in the local culture, this could possibly work. If not, I think it's just a recipe for disappointment.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 10:10 PM
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Re-read what you wrote but pretend it was written by your best friend or brother. What would you tell him?
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 02:54 PM
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Bro, I'm so, so sorry. The bleak truth is that women do this all the time. They'll bust up a family just to feel something. As hard as it is, you're gonna have to take some time to feel your pain. Let it pass through you. It won't be something you can do all at once, it will come to you when you don't want it, but I promise that with time it will get lesser and lesser. Most of all, accept that she's gone and bury the past. It's the only way you'll eventually get to that happy ending. Just know y…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 09:30 PM
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I would never give her that satisfaction.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 01:48 AM
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I have a similar story. She moved into my house, then starts to pressure me to buy a bigger place. Finally give in, take on a sizeable mortgage, and a year later I'm getting divorced. I'm indignant af, to be honest. To your question though, I think unfortunately yes. Once that attraction light switch is flipped, it's wraps. Nothing you say or do is gonna change it and you will 100% regret any pleading or reasoning you may attempt. I'm so sorry, man. Only thing to do now is be pro active about se…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 10:56 PM
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You have to detach any value on what your ex says or does, unless of course it's directly affecting your child. She's going to change her language, do things subtle and overt that piss you off, but don't take the bait. All you can do is be a great dad to your kid and he'll be smart enough to notice it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 09:42 PM
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It's a very common mistake. Most of us have done it.
/r/askMRP10/01/23 10:09 PM
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As other has said, STFU isn't about artistically going silent. It's about always saying less than necessary and especially avoiding DEER. If you immediately reduce your typical speaking habits drastically you will look artistic. Your STFU should subtly signal a redirection of attention away from her to more important things. If behaviour improves, you may judiciously redirect some of that attention back to her. So work on that first. If you get the accusation again, look up fogging. Stock respon…
/r/askMRP10/01/23 09:49 PM
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I'm so sorry to read about your pain, man. My split is much more recent, and although I didn't seem deeply affected at the time, it's beginning to weigh more heavily on me just lately. Your story reminded me of something all men should keep in mind, though. Whatever she says, mentally add 'right now to it'. I love you, right now. I'm so happy, right now. I don't think I'd ever want anybody else, right now. It's fucking rough, and I don't know if I have any advice. Try to keep in mind that even w…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 11:38 AM
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Are you in the UK? I had my papers come through and I saw that that the ex had stated the marriage had 'broken down irretrievably'. Like you, I disagreed with the statement. I went online to respond to the application and made the mistake of going to the application page. The only reason available to pick was 'the marriage has broken down irretrievably'. Since last April, no fault divorces became a thing over here and it could be that it's just the blanket statement that your ex has to agree to …
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 12:50 AM
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Fuck. Thing is, I know this day is coming sooner or later too. I think it's something you can't actually prepare for, you just have to take the hit when it comes.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 12:44 PM
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Thank you, man. Next year will be better, I know it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 12:24 AM
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Yes, ultimatums come from a place of weakness. Rather than talk, it's better to simply enforce boundaries by your actions. The other thing is, ultimatums corner the one who gives them. If the woman calls you on the ultimatum, you must now follow the course of action that you said you would, or it becomes clear that you don't mean what you say. It's always better to say less.
/r/askMRP29/12/22 09:43 PM
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Jesus didn't marry, of course, and that's probably what set up celibate monasticism as the gold standard for Christianity. Marriage is kind of a second best, because most people aren't called to monasticism. Religion can be a source of conflict in marriage if there are differences, but if you are both devoted to the same religious path I can only see why it would be a reason to bind you together all the more. Good examples of marriage in the Bible: Zachariah and Elizabeth, Joachim and Anna, Isaa…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/22 01:46 AM
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Made a post about this recently, but all of a sudden my dad and step mum are best buds with my STBXW, planning a party for my kid I wasn't invited to and having her round for Christmas. My mother and sister cut her off as soon as she walked out. Very weak, spineless, disappointing shit from my dad.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/22 01:34 AM
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You put your all into building a family, year after year, and she can knock you back to zero on a whim because she doesn't feel haaaaaaappy :'(
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 03:17 PM
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In short, regretfully I don't think so. I think there are unicorns but they're extremely rare. The original idea behind Christian marriage was that it was a second best to celibate monasticism. You would pick a single partner, and 'martyr' yourself through marriage by crucifying your individual will to the service of your partner. In this way, the marital home would become a kind of little monastery, since you would both be obedient to each other in the same way a monk would be obedient to his a…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 12:46 AM
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I'm a Christian, so I find my views very hard to reconcile with my religion, but I would not recommend marriage to any man I loved unless we underwent some kind of radical cultural shift. You have everything to lose, and she has everything to gain. The high probability is that you're going to find yourself in a position of intense resentment and regret. That's a horrible thing to say, but I'll stand by that.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/22 09:34 PM
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Stay strong, brother. Hope you had a great Christmas.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 07:53 PM
12

First Christmas since the separation for me. Feeling very down, lads. On the bright side, I've got the kids. I'll have the first half of the day with them.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 11:56 PM
10

I know it's hard man, but you have to draw that mental line. Seems like you have a good heart. You'll be OK, just stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 11:34 PM
19

Return or give to somebody else. The provision tap runs dry once she walks out.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 11:27 PM
5

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I'm going through a divorce. When I met my wife it seemed like she was down for everything I was. She liked what I liked, she supported my goals. We got married, got the house. When she was pregnant with our second, we had this big fight and she said she wanted a divorce. She backtracked the next day, but this became a common occurrence until finally she didn't backtrack. Did she just change one day? Or am I the mug for picking her? Maybe I overlooked …
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 09:58 PM
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Bukowski, is that you?
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 10:31 PM
2

Can you tell me how you built that deadlift? Asking for a friend.
/r/askMRP20/07/22 07:03 PM
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Really bad idea. Just save this talk for your friends. She wants to feel like you 'just get it'. The worst way to dispel this illusion would be to show her that you've studied it artistically.
/r/askMRP23/06/22 06:03 PM
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If it wasn't said explicitly, it's a covert contract and you only have yourself to blame for that. You're responsible for you own happiness. And then when she got back you rewarded her with verbal intercourse and told her explicitly that she got to you, which also demonstrates that you had nothing better to do than seethe and wait for her to get back. You could've done better, honestly.
/r/askMRP31/05/22 07:43 PM
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Very astute. Looks like your wife has been forced to take the leadership role that you ceded, and now she's pissed off that she had to take the heat. She doesn't want the leader role, or the responsibility and blame that it entails. Also, fighting over coof? Come on.
/r/askMRP27/05/22 10:52 AM
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Well by the point you get the bottled water it's already spent weeks or months in the plastic, probably exposed to heat as well during transportation. So pouring it out wouldn't change anything.
/r/RPChristians19/04/22 05:38 AM
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Like you say, it's a losing battle really. All you can do is limit your exposure as much as possible. Don't buy plastic water bottles, don't use plastic Tupperware, don't use plastic utensils or bowls in the kitchen, buy glass jars instead of cans where possible.
/r/RPChristians16/04/22 08:29 AM
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They're not listed as xenoestrogens but you can safely assume they are in almost all common household products. BPA is a common one, used quite frequently in water bottles and can linings (they transfer into the food product especially wheb exposed to heat or acid). Parabens are another which show up a lot in cosmetics.
/r/RPChristians15/04/22 05:39 PM
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They're called xenoestrogens, a class of endocrine disruptor chemicals that mimic the effect of estrogen. They're pretty ubiquitous in a lot of household products like skin care, cleaning products, shampoos and whatnot. Also in a lot of pesticide residue too. I believe some pesticides are designed specifically to feminize male pests in order to incapacitate their ability to reproduce.
/r/RPChristians14/04/22 10:51 AM
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It sounds like you're having some concerns about your children feeling like they belong to one ethnic group or another. That being the case, are you sure that having children with a woman outside of your ethnic group is the wisest move? I can assure you that if you're already having these thoughts, the tension is likely to increase once the kids arrive. Leaving that aside, Manchester will be a much better place to raise your kids.
/r/askMRP10/04/22 12:58 PM
4

Great post. A lot of good things to do, but here are some things to avoid: liquorice (pregnant women are advised to avoid this, especially if they're confirmed to have a boy) spearmint soy Lavender plastics (never cook with plastic implements, heat up in plastic Tupperware etc) synthetic xenoestrogens in cosmetics and household products (scented candles, febreeze, shampoos etc)
/r/RPChristians04/03/22 11:11 AM
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I've been through something similar, and for me things went back to normal fairly quickly. It sounds like you are dependent on your wife for validation. You're a dad now, to a newborn, so that's the priority. Don't waste these precious weeks and months worrying about your wife. Provided you are taking care of your duties day to day, she will level out again. Focus on bonding with your kid, and make the most of every second because you never get this time back.
/r/askMRP14/11/21 11:25 PM
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You're 17. This is going to be laughable to you in 6-12 months. Make sure you spend that time lifting and preparing for your future.
/r/askMRP06/10/21 10:13 AM
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Prior to initiating have your gym bag ready, or otherwise prepare to leave the house and do something productive. Now initiate. If she's receptive, good for you. If not you say "OK, sweetie pie", peck on the cheek, grab your gym bag and leave. Also good for you, you now have an extra 60 seconds to go and do something to help you progress on your MAP. The point is you were going to work on your MAP anyway.
/r/askMRP26/08/21 07:28 AM
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Your post reveals that you haven't engaged with the sidebar materials or any of the fundamentals. I would suggest before you start to ask questions about specifics you read the sidebar and start watching through Rian Stone's back catalogue. Absorb everything. In the meantime, continue to work out and do not engage in arguments. Say as little as possible and if necessary leave the.house to do something productive (lift, for example).
/r/askMRP24/08/21 12:28 PM
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For a couple of months, as long as you have access to a pull up bar, you can get some good workouts in. However, get to a gym as soon as you can, because bodyweight fitness runs out of avenues for progressive overload quickly unless you plan on learning gymnastics.
/r/askMRP20/08/21 08:32 AM
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You will most likely find that the differences between sects will be trivial for you and your wife. But where they will blow up us once children are involved. You need to be as on the same page as humanly possible when it comes to raising kids. Do you agree on the issues that pertain to how your children will work out their salvation? i.e. veneration of Saints, baptism, Christology etc. I think these would be the important things to line up on with your future wife
/r/RPChristians26/01/21 07:31 AM
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My bad, totally missed that it was a screenshot. Thanks, man.
/r/MuslimRedPill13/05/20 05:56 AM
1

What book is this, please, OP?
/r/MuslimRedPill13/05/20 05:45 AM
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