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| 58 | [FR] My first ever day approach | FRMax1 | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 06:17 PM |
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| 1 | DreadlocksThose are all good but OP probably has to work on delivery as well. | /r/seduction | 06/03/17 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Playing music for girl?An certain action cannot ever be needy by itself, what makes an action needy is the intent behind it. Now learning to play an instrument for its own sake isn't needy but learning to play an instrument just to impress girls is needy. | /r/seduction | 06/03/17 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Don't want to do a favor for this girl [For anyone]The first time she asked you the favour I would have teased her about it. A good rule of thumb is whever you would do the same thing if it was a guy instead of a girl, in your situation I probably would have. | /r/seduction | 06/03/17 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Playing music for girl?He didn't ask what song to play, he asked what to do, and you said learn to play a song. | /r/seduction | 06/03/17 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Just a tip on being more active/aggressive for introverted guysYes you can be extroverted and shy, though it's rarer and probably more difficult to ignore since it's not as easy to be alone for an extrovert. Although sinply enjoying socialisation is not being an extrovert, virtually everyone likes to socialise, it's a universal human trait. It's just that introverts express that trait in a different way than extroverts. | /r/seduction | 06/03/17 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Playing music for girl?Too much effort just to impress a girl from time to time. Have some self respect and stop being needy. | /r/seduction | 06/03/17 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Don't want to do a favor for this girl [For anyone]Having self respect doesn't mean never doing simple favours; you can be a nice person without being a pushover. You're being super vague so it's just your call. | /r/seduction | 06/03/17 06:36 PM |
| 2 | How do i deal with friends that bring me down?Stop being insecure. That's it. | /r/seduction | 05/03/17 11:25 PM |
| 1 | I (21F) want to escalate kino. Is playing footsie juvenile?He may be avoiding attraction since you work at the same place, I know I would be. Don't shit where you eat. | /r/seduction | 05/03/17 11:23 PM |
| 15 | Just a tip on being more active/aggressive for introverted guysIntroversion and shyness are not the same thing, many people are shy because of their introversion. I'm introverted, I enjoy spending time alone and thinking to myself. I don't argue without thinking over my points for a long time. I work most productively alone and in a quiet space, I hate working on group projects. These are all qualities of an introverted person but through practice I learnt not to be shy. I can comfortably carry conversations with strangers, I can deliver lectures to large g… | /r/seduction | 05/03/17 11:16 PM |
| 3 | Last night i realized I suck to be around sometimes because I offer no value, but I honestly don't know how or where to start. Help?I didn't say I became extroverted, I still enjoy being alone more than most people, it's just that when I am around others I've become a lot more socially active. There's nothing stopping people from learning the skills and habits to become that. | /r/seduction | 27/02/17 06:26 AM |
| 8 | What are some of your best seduction tips? What are the slightest signals girls give that shows they are interested? Reply with your experience about it.Can you tell me why you wouldn't look at her when listening if she isn't looking at you? | /r/seduction | 26/02/17 10:46 PM |
| 12 | Last night i realized I suck to be around sometimes because I offer no value, but I honestly don't know how or where to start. Help?I've completely changed myself from a social recluse to closer to that 'bubbly' personality and a few of the things I conciously did is: making it a habit to smile, even if I'm alone I'll smile constantly and it feels awesome, among friends and strangers give compliments and praise whenever it's warranted, extend your empathy to others and they will do the same. | /r/seduction | 26/02/17 09:50 PM |
| 9 | She's attracted to your strengthSeriously man, just going an trimming your nails is such an easy thing to do, and a very reasonable request. | /r/seduction | 26/02/17 08:11 AM |
| 1 | Something that has helped me in an INSANE way.I feel like this is more about having generally good social skills, unless I'm in a bad mood, I generally try to expand my social network since it has great benefits in everyday life, not just female attraction. | /r/seduction | 25/02/17 11:27 PM |
| 1 | I would like to write my thanks to Mark Manson.What would you recommend as a supplement? Honestly asking since I've been using Models like a Bible, it's helped me a lot. You mentioned misogyny but in fairness he does mention therapy as a way to deal with psychological issues. | /r/seduction | 25/02/17 10:57 PM |
| 11 | I would like to write my thanks to Mark Manson.I think I'll post it as a thread at some point. | /r/seduction | 25/02/17 08:31 PM |
| 1 | How do you flirt with a girl without coming off too strong?Thank you for your two cents, I'll take it. | /r/seduction | 25/02/17 07:30 PM |
| 1 | How do you love yourself without building ego?Become okay with being vunerable, with sticking your neck out and risking the possibility of rejection. That's how you love yourself (reaching for the best for yourself) without building an ego (thinking your above doing awkward or silly things). | /r/seduction | 25/02/17 07:29 PM |
| 13 | I would like to write my thanks to Mark Manson.His point is that 'practical advice' like which lines to say are not going to help you make connections with women. It's also that it really doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it and that can't just be written in a book without practice. | /r/seduction | 25/02/17 07:25 PM |
| 8 | I would like to write my thanks to Mark Manson.I made a bullet point summary of each chapter of 'Models' and read it at least once a week so that I know I'm heading down the right path. | /r/seduction | 25/02/17 07:21 PM |
| 3 | How do you flirt with a girl without coming off too strong?I disagree, extremes is what polarises women into either great rapport or into hating you. It's a classic mistake to try to never say anything 'wrong' or controversial, when in fact you should be aiming to be just that. It shows vulnerability and confidence which women find attractive. If you never say or do anything 'out there' then there'll never be attraction. | /r/seduction | 24/02/17 11:22 PM |
| 1 | IS THIS AN INVITATION TO APPROACH?Irrelevant, you should approach anyway. | /r/seduction | 24/02/17 05:47 PM |
| 1 | IS THIS AN INVITATION TO APPROACH?Just fucking stop them and talk, what's the issue? | /r/seduction | 23/02/17 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Having trouble keeping up the conversationTo not let a conversation stall: Don't be aftaid to say something out of the blue "Damn I love waffles". Suddenly you got her talking about her favourite foods. Whenever she tells you a story pick a single word from that story and start talking about whatever comes to you mind. | /r/seduction | 23/02/17 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on buying a girl a drink (or lunch or whatever)Don't. If a girl asks you to buy her a drink after she's being talking to you for a bit it's a test whether you respect yourself and whether you're needy. I would reply "Fuck no. You buy me a drink" then tease her for being a gold digger or something. | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 10:51 PM |
| 2 | What am I doing wrong?Whoa, whoa, whoa that's way too much complimenting, ha. Look, I don't know your style but you should be changing it up a bit anyway. My style: I don't use compliments to make her happy, I use them to show my intent. Then I try to make her happy by being fun. If you're using compliments to make a woman happy you'll only attract needy girls. | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 10:41 PM |
| 2 | What am I doing wrong?Or even more obtusely - "Hi there, I know this is weird but you look pretty/cute/adorable ...(pause for reaction)... what's your name?" Some guys will say this is bad since you are complimenting her straight off the bat, but I think it communicates intent perfectly and as long as you don't compliment again, and preferably tease her about something, you should be golden. Edit: In my mind complimenting about apparel makes you come off as a gay guy that's into fashion. I compliment on looks in gene… | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 09:48 PM |
| 2 | What am I doing wrong?Are you stating your intentions off the bat? If not, try that. | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 07:14 PM |
| 2 | What am I doing wrong?From what you've written down I don't see anything wrong but that's just on the surface level. Maybe your intention was off? Try to be less invested than her at all times, kino is obviously good but it can't seem like you're trying hard because that's needy behaviour. Also it's important to show her that what you're doing is out of the ordinary, start with something like "I know this is weird but...". This shows her that you're socially adjusted. In fact it is good to show a tiny bit of hesitati… | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 06:55 PM |
| 8 | For those of you who are afraid to approach a super pretty girl.Except you're lying to yourself, which might in the end cause you to lose confidence. A good portion of girls you approach will just be unresponsive to you while being clearly available. Your strategy should be to weed these girls out and move on to the responsive ones ASAP. That means being devisive instead of trying to please every girl you see. | /r/seduction | 22/02/17 07:35 AM |
| 2 | How do normal people text?Don't text too much. Save conversation for IRL. | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 06:36 PM |
| 167 | For those of you who are afraid to approach a super pretty girl.If I start to tell myself that a girl is too hot for me to approach I just say to myself - "whether I'm attractive to her is for her to decide, not for me". | /r/seduction | 21/02/17 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Currently in a relationship, need help understanding womenModels by Mark Manson is what I keep coming back to understand female attraction and relationships. | /r/seduction | 20/02/17 05:52 PM |
| 2 | How I do I stop getting put in the back burner?Always, always keep an abundance mentality, never take shit because your scared you won't get another girl like that. The higher your abundance mentality the better your confidence and attractiveness will be. I'm working on that atm. | /r/seduction | 19/02/17 08:41 PM |
| 2 | She's now together with someone absolutely lame. Did I give up too early ?Don't hide your feelings for fear of retaliation. If she looks sexy tell her she looks sexy, but don't overdo it as that will tip the 'value balance' as I like to think of it. Basically if you compliment too much she will feel of higher value than you. But women are attracted to men only of higher perceived value than themselves. There's nothing wrong with directly telling a girl you're talking to her because she looks good and you want to see where it goes. | /r/seduction | 19/02/17 08:36 PM |
| 2 | How I do I stop getting put in the back burner?As well as taking the advice from the other comments I would recommend 'Models' by Mark Manson, great no nonsense book that will really open your eyes about female attraction and relationships. | /r/seduction | 19/02/17 08:28 PM |
| 2 | How I do I stop getting put in the back burner?Seems like you need to work on your overall game. Don't let a girl put you on a waiting list, escalate so that she has to decide and if she says she may want to be with you at a later time, take it as a straight out rejection and move on to the next girl. | /r/seduction | 19/02/17 11:47 AM |
| 2 | She's now together with someone absolutely lame. Did I give up too early ?It's not a red light until it's a green light, it's a green light until it's a red light. And when you get the red light don't panic just carry on as before building more comfort. | /r/seduction | 19/02/17 11:41 AM |
| 2 | She's now together with someone absolutely lame. Did I give up too early ?You never 'openly confess your love interest'. If you're on a date then she knows what you're looking for. You escalate emotionally and physically without having to explain yourself, your intentions should be clear from the start. Women don't tend to play hard to get, if she's putting off seeing you again just take the hint and move on, it demonstrates higher value and she may end up becoming more interested. You don't counteract a girl playing hard to get by persuing her incessantly, you counte… | /r/seduction | 19/02/17 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Hesitated to do Kino (Touch) EscalationI agree, always make your intentions clear, which is easily done with a random girl but with an old friend you need to be forefront as it's way to easy for a misunderstanding to happen. | /r/seduction | 19/02/17 11:28 AM |
| 6 | College- How to text girl to get a response?You come off too needy in some of what you text. Send a text straight after getting her number saying something like 'Hi it's ..., from ... hope you have a great day/night'. Hopefully she respond and then you flirt over a couple messages, wait a day and send 'Hey I'll be at (venue) on (day), come over and join me'. Maybe even say you're with some friends as that takes off pressure off her. Always make your intentions clear though. From the start don't make her think you want to be friends. | /r/seduction | 19/02/17 11:21 AM |
| 1 | What are the best books for transforming how you interact with women?Nice | /r/seduction | 17/02/17 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Living in a foreign countryFrench people in particular find it rude for you to start speaking to them in English, without even trying in French. | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 08:32 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with confused/ paralysed girls during daygame?/s | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Do you think it means anything when random women sit/stand next to you? A signal to approach?It doesn't matter whether she meant it as an invitation or not, you should talk to her anyway. If she's glued to her phone, wave your hand and say "excuse me, do you know what the next stop is?" Or some bullshit like that, then ask for her name and start a more personal conversation, ask her how her day was or where she's going and relate it to yourself. | /r/seduction | 13/02/17 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Must Watch Infield Breakdown | PACKED WITH CRUCIAL ADVICEI think he acts awkward at times so as to make it seem like she isn't just the thousandth woman he has approached. He talks about faining inexperience in a previous video of his. | /r/seduction | 09/02/17 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Am I becoming an asshole?I have the same thoughts sometimes: I start to care so little about rejection that I just start becoming a total dick, which in the end hurts my game. It's kind of like the opposite of scarcity mentality. | /r/seduction | 08/02/17 09:20 PM |
| 11 | College Game; How to avoid the reputation of being "the guy who talks to every girl?"Have the reputation of "the guy who talks to everyone". Aim to be friendly and talking to everyone you come across, that way you'll just be considered confident and friendly rather than a creep aggressively focusing on getting girls. | /r/seduction | 08/02/17 09:06 PM |
| 1 | The more I get rejected/ignored the less I give a shit..."How would someone practice dating skills with someone who isn't or does not want to date them?" Just because she won't have sex with you doesn't mean she won't talk to you, and then practice the techniques that we talk about on this sub. "Well I would honestly, wholeheartedly love to just speak with a woman without repercussions or expectation for any outcome." It happens everyday. The night bar isn't the only place women and men meet. "The issue is that if a guy like me (not good looking) goes… | /r/seduction | 08/02/17 06:56 PM |
| 1 | The more I get rejected/ignored the less I give a shit..."yes she's gonna compare what you look like/bring to the table in comparison to the other guys she currently likes/has access to." But I think you are misunderstanding the dynamics here, young women are not always looking for exclusivity. If there's two guys that both make her enjoy herself there is no contradiction in hanging out with both. Yes she might end up not having sex with you since there's someone more attractive, but that doesn't mean you cannot use that opportunity to practice your d… | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 11:23 PM |
| 1 | The more I get rejected/ignored the less I give a shit...I politely and profoundly disagree with you. You said "you're waiting to be presentable", I had a friend that I thought looked like a total bum: he had bad acne, long unkempt hair, and stank of cigarettes; but guess what he also had a decent looking girlfriend because he was a nice guy, he was kind and relatable. His looks didn't stop him, I realised his least redeeming quality was lack of confidence, and that can only be fixed by going and talking to strangers. "Ton of other men I gotta compete… | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts? What should I say?Of course, and not only do these rules change on the situation but also on your particular style - don't seduce trying to imitate someone else, seduce trying to bring out the best in you. | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 07:57 PM |
| 1 | The more I get rejected/ignored the less I give a shit...I think the key is having self respect. Self respect will guide you whether to keep persuing a woman, it will guide you to improving yourself and it will guide you in not taking others too seriously. | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 07:53 PM |
| 1 | The more I get rejected/ignored the less I give a shit...I would say don't wait until you become the perfect man just to date women, you can start now without investing lots of money or time. | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 07:50 PM |
| 2 | The more I get rejected/ignored the less I give a shit...Also I find it helpful to think that not approaching is the worst thing you can do since at least with rejection you can learn from. | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts? What should I say?I read somewhere that you should never ask but tell. So for example "Give me your number and we'll hang out" instead of "can I have your number?". Or in OP's situation: "I'm going for lunch, come with". Anytime you invite a girl make sure it is to join you somewhere you would have went anyway. It takes the pressure of her. | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Mind blowing quote I heard todayConfidently and while smiling. | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 07:19 PM |
| 6 | What are some ways to get over the stumbling block of asking someone out or getting their number after a convo.That's really good, the part about assuming a positive outcome for every advance must go a long way, not just in seduction but in your entire life. | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 07:16 PM |
| 3 | How psychopaths deal with rejectionTo be fair, a basic understanding of statistics is very important in medicine. But whatever I'm sure he was just making an off-hand comment. | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 07:09 PM |
| 3 | How psychopaths deal with rejectionI thought exactly the same, good to know there's people like us. | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 09:48 PM |
| 25 | How psychopaths deal with rejection1/20 probability of a win, done 20 times still gives around 35.8% probability of not ever winning even once. That's high. | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 09:45 PM |
| 1 | [FR] I am slowly getting it.I wonder if inventing a story like a girl 'eye fucking' you, to tell to the girl you're with will work to increase her desire. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 08:00 PM |
| 8 | [FR] I am slowly getting it.I wonder if inventing a story like a girl 'eye fucking' you, to tell to the girl you're with will work to increase her desire. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 08:00 PM |
| 1 | [FR] My first ever day approachI thought about recording myself but listening back I fucking hate the sound of my voice haha which might make me more self concious. Instead I think I'll just note down a transcript and find ways to improve that way. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 11:41 AM |
| 3 | Let's have a discussion - is developing a reputation on a college campus or any other location as a "pickup guy" really *that* bad?I think if you work to be friendly and talkative to everyone you see; bus driver, professor, old people; then people will see you as a confident, friendly guy; not some pick up artist that aggressively focuses on getting girls. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 07:56 AM |
| 1 | [FR] My first ever day approachIt works well to start a conversation but I realised that you shouldn't just say the line, try to actually sell it for the girl to feel you're genuine. Although this might be obvious to you. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 07:45 AM |
| 1 | [FR] My first ever day approachThanks, I find that public transport is where I most often find good looking girls alone. Otherwise they seem to always be with their friends and I have no idea how to approach a group or pair of girls. | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 11:49 PM |
| 5 | [FR] My first ever day approachI've read quite a bit, but you can only get so good at playing football by just reading about it. I guess it's the same with social skills, now I'm just trying to put it into practice. I will try to post a thread again if I find anything worthwhile to discuss. | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 11:22 PM |
| 10 | [FR] My first ever day approachThanks, the progress just makes me want to develop myself even more. | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 10:47 PM |
| 2 | First date with girl went great but she doesn't text and now it's totally fucking me upI think you're over thinking it. Just move on and let her initiate your next contact, if she wants too. Doing anything else will only makes things worse. | /r/seduction | 04/02/17 09:49 PM |
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