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Facers70/r/Divorce_Men14/09/20 04:01 AM
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Facers70/r/Divorce_Men30/08/21 05:18 AM
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Facers70/r/Divorce_Men21/07/20 06:29 PM
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Only work on any and everything through your lawyer. Do not engage or negotiate with her directly. EVER!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 04:15 AM
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You are divorcing. This means you need to be loyal to YOURSELF, not her. Get a lawyer. Listen to the lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 04:11 AM
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Like rsa1x said, writing is on the wall. How often does she travel for work, and is it to the same location or with a co-worker? Because to me this just smells of an outside influence. Even if there is not anyone influencing her - she's leaving dude.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 09:35 PM
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Brother - you just repeated my first marriage. DAMN NEAR EXACT! As you know, it's 100% a lost cause at this point. Get a lawyer ASAP (state you married in). Shop around, use those free consults and get the one you are comfortable with. Try to get copies of all the records from the base counseling as well as reports, complaints filed, etc. If the base won't give them to you, sick your lawyer on them. Document your timeline as best as you can. No more voice calls with her, her family, her friends.…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 03:15 AM
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Lawyer up immediately. Interview with a few lawyers, using free consults. Pick the one you feel most comfortable with. Do this now, regardless of trying to save it or walk away from it. If you see you need to walk away from this marriage: Chances are good you can keep the house given the economy and market today. If she forces a sale, you'll both take a loss. This means you can work it to get her to pay half (or more) of the loss. Keep all texts and emails. Communicate that way as much as possib…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 01:03 PM
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I am going to guess your spouse is fining for more reasons than just the DB?
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 02:48 PM
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Damn I could have written this last year. Or the year before even. Some days now, I could write this. But that last sentence is the kicker - some days. I am living proof brother that a man in a very similar situation, a vet with PTSD and MDD *CAN* get through it and see better days. It really does happen. I'm not in any relationship. Hell I am not even divorced yet (process is going, kinda - irrelevant). But the bottom line is - I could have written this almost word for word. In fact, I did. I'm…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 08:52 PM
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My first marriage ended with her cheating and moving in with the guy. She wanted to be with him so bad that she left me everything, including our 3yr old son. She eventually stopped contacting us both about the time he was six. A few years later she contacted me (knowing I was remarried) asking if I'd leave my wife and try again. My current "wife" and I are in the midst of a divorce. Same damn situation. She was cheating, fell in love. I got very weak and compromised my own principals and was wi…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/21 03:31 AM
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And in most other circumstances I would agree 100%. However in my case, I would lose a little bit of disability, and she would lose my health insurance. That starts to take away some significant benefits that could just lead to her moving out and thus ending all the benefits of staying together. She doesn't know what she "wants". She's been stuck on that nonsense for over a year. So I figure until she really figures it out, let me get some benefits from keeping her in this house. I'm, not foolin…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/21 04:20 PM
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I'm lucky in the regard that we live in Texas and she has a self-sustaining career job. Texas won't order alimony since she's capable of taking care of herself and meet all reasonable needs on her own.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 04:42 AM
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Speak to a lawyer. If not the one you used in the divorce, then find a few that offer free consults and pick one you feel works best for your interests.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/21 04:56 AM
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I don't agree with this post. It's a "one size fits all" assumption with an arbitrary timeline. A divorce date doesn't make a marriage over, or a heart healed.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/21 02:16 AM
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My first exwife was divorced and had a son. Baby daddy was a real ass though, completely uncaring and irresponsible. Funny thing is she called women that had more than two children from more than two baby daddies tramps and sluts and worse. We had a son, and I won full custody when we divorced. She moved in with the guy she cheated on me with... and got pregnant. Three kids, three different fathers. And three divorces. Lost complete contact with her after that. She pretty much abandoned my son t…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/21 03:49 AM
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My wife of 16 yrs and I are going through a divorce neither of us wants, but there are hard lines that neither of us are willing to cross. She did something and won't stop doing it. I would allow her to keep doing it if she would treat me the way she used to, and she can't (because of what she is doing). Bottom line, while we don't want the divorce, I can't live this way anymore. If I continue to live this way, I'll become bitter, more resentful, and I'll just give up on life. And I have no othe…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/21 03:51 PM
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How did/do you feel about being a divorce lawyer? Everyone else has their opinions on em, and I am sure you've heard it all. But how do YOU feel about it?
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/21 03:37 AM
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Thanos reference for divorce? You sir win my internet for the day. +10
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 03:46 AM
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I know it's really true in most cases. I don't know for me if it is a blessing or a curse. I am in the process of divorce #2, and in both situations they didn't want to take anything. The first divorce we really didn't have much, but I won custody of my son (and of course she didn't pay a dime in child support) so there wasn't much to take. This go around I keep the house and all the investment/retirement accounts. She knows she didn't contribute much of anything towards them, so she isn't fight…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/21 03:28 AM
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I never believed that and you shouldn't either. It's a defense mechanism, or a coping mechanism. It's unhealthy too, but it happens. She loved you, at least at one point. Most (not all, I know there are plenty out there that didn't) loved their exes at one time or another. It's not just women. I caught myself doing that with my first ex-wife. It was a bad marriage from the start. We never should have married, and to be nice about it - there wasn't much about her for me to love to begin with. But…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/21 03:54 PM
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Because I have false hope. Because I'm a chickenshit. Because I'm old and a disabled vet and I'm afraid to be alone. And because as of last night, everything I thought that was getting better took a nosedive.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 01:58 AM
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Not me. My wife of 16 years and I separated for six months last year and got back together recently. I'm not sure that was the right decision anymore, but we're still working on things. I have a friend that was married for 18 years, divorced for just over two (she initiated and filed), and they got back together. Now he's getting ready to divorce her. And I know people that were married for less than 10 years and divorced and got back together. None of them are still together. Exes become exes f…
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/21 03:42 PM
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First off, you move out - she WILL document it some way or another and hold it against you in divorce (because a lawyer will talk her into it). You move out = abandoning the marriage. Think twice. My wife and I did a six month trial separation. We needed to. We were at each other's throats for over six months before it. She needed to see if she could make it on her own, and I needed to see if I could be alone. We're back together now, the problem hasn't gone away but we're calmer and we communic…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/21 02:14 AM
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This, this, this. So...much...this!
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/21 05:49 PM
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What state will you be filing for divorce in?
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/21 03:05 AM
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I am about to be 49. I look back at my high school romance. Lasted over four years. When she broke up with me, I remember the thoughts "I will never love like that again" and "I will never trust anyone like that again". Rebound relationship ended after a year and a half. No loss after she left...I didn't trust her enough to hurt me. But it hurt. Got married. Three years later she left. I said those two sentences again. This marriage - over 16 years now. It's hanging on by a borrowed thread. And …
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/21 11:55 PM
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I am not active duty anymore but back in 2002 I divorced my first wife, and at custody I didn't mudsling or slam her at all, I simply told the judge why I would be the better parent. Won custody. And I was overseas, no family to help me. It helped I had a cool unit that worked with me. If you have family (parents, etc) that can take the kids if you deploy or TDY, bonus. Fight for custody. My exwife moved to Canada. She was allowed to have our son for a month in the summer, so I had to fly him ou…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/20 07:06 PM
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I read a lot these days, looking for ways to save my marriage. Through my readings I have read a lot about husbands that leave their very ill wives. During our near six months of fighting, we tried to become roommates. Emotionally distance, separate our bank accounts, she moved into the guest room. Then she got a call about a test that came back abnormal. Another test showed a lot of precancerous cells. Biopsy, then a larger biopsy and they felt they got most of the precancer out. It was a scare…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/20 05:19 AM
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There is no one on this earth with an ounce of sanity and maturity that would involve the children. There is absolutely no good reason short of being physically abusive to all of them (wife and kids and even then, I doubt it would be a good reason), and then she should have taken them and herself out and far away. She is attacking half of each of them by attacking you. It's going to make them mental.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/20 02:08 PM
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Any updates, brother?
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/20 07:36 AM
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I'm with ya brother. It sucks when you are LITERALLY stuck under the same roof with her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/20 05:48 AM
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Or me being a chump and a doormat, which I have been told throughout most of my recent life. Of course we're on day 3 of roommate and she's all sad and moping around.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/20 11:05 PM
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Just started that today with my "wife". Going to do a roommate thing. This is our last ditch effort to save any semblance of marriage. It's also me being a sucker because even with a 50/50 split of assets, all her (in her name only) debt and low income she'd be living like crap and I just felt guilty. She's the one doing shit to make me want to divorce, yet here I am worried about her being in a super low income seedy apartment complex eating ramen everyday
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/20 03:28 PM
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UnitedParentsForChildren.com Would have no problem doing so. Where on the site do I go?
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/20 12:32 AM
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I won custody of my son when he was three. There was NO way I was going to let my psychotic, mean, cruel ex-wife have him. There was no cost too high for that fight. I studied. I learned what to do and what not to do. I wasn't going to trash her or bash her. I wasn't going to engage her when she provoked, prodded, and antagonized. Social media was JUST starting, so I kept my mouth shut online. I went over my financials. I covered my bases with the necessities such as housing, budgets, health ins…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/20 07:09 PM
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Damn brother I am so sorry you AND your kid went through such hell. Wow. I mean I am going through my own version of hell, but shit man - seriously, you ARE the man! You went through all of THAT AND didn't end up in jail yourself? You are a better man than I, my friend. And your poor kid. My heart breaks. BUT - I am so proud of you both and I don't know either of you. I am envious actually, even a little motivated now. If you and your kid can do this - why can't I? Maybe after reading this, I ca…
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/20 05:28 PM
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