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Got married while still BP (like most others, I would assume). Marriage is currently great, but as we all know that could change at any time depending on my goals and outlook. If this ends I would never get married again.
/r/askMRP19/06/20 08:26 AM
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Do you have any self respect? Think about that for a minute, in complete quiet. The ultimate tenet of MRP is that you are the prize, yet given your vomit above, you clearly are more worried about your LTR (not wife?)'s movements. Who cares? Ditch her. Discover what you want of life and begin working toward it. Read the sidebar x10. I am 3 times through and I still find myself pondering in quiet hours what the larger meaning is, but that is my own. Good luck.
/r/askMRP03/03/19 12:48 PM
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Important to remember their emotions pass like the weather. Try to reset each day and not let trivial disagreements linger over your mood. You are better than that.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 02:54 AM
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Start lifting, read the sidebar, decide what kind of Man you want to be. There are no shortcuts.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 03:39 AM
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You are right in that I have not been a leader in the bedroom throughout the relationship. In order to change that I really need to re-read SGM and your recent posts about seeking validation. Work in progress but at least my OI and passive aggression is mostly resolved.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/19 03:12 AM
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OYS #5 2019-01-09 Stats: 38years old, 5’7”, 160lbs, 20% Body Fat (DEXA 10/2018) Wife 40yrs, Married 12yrs, 2 kids under 10. Reading: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2, MMSLP x 1, TRM x 2, Sex God Method x 1, MAP x1 Currently Reading: Nothing. Am considering a break while I work out what my mission is. Physical: Bench: 180lbs (5x5) Squat: 200lbs (5x5) Lat: 200lbs (5x5) Still doing SL. Have downloaded the Wendler 531 book. Will read it over Christmas. Got to the gym every day this past week. Alternated lifts…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 11:18 PM
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OYS #4 2018-12-12OYS #3 2018-12-18 Stats: 38years old, 5’7”, 163lbs, 20% Body Fat (DEXA 10/2018) Wife 40yrs, Married 12yrs, 2 kids under 10. Reading: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2, MMSLP x 1, TRM x 2, Sex God Method x 1, MAP x1 Currently Reading: Nothing. Am considering a break while I work out what my mission is. Physical: Bench: 175lbs (5x5) Squat: 180lbs (5x5) Lat: 175lbs (5x5) Still doing SL. Have downloaded the Wendler 531 book. Will read it over Christmas. Got to the gym every day this past week.…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 09:09 AM
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Upvote for Beatles.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 03:05 AM
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Thanks! It’s interesting admitting you have a problem. Alcoholism has always been some abstract thing that happens to others (homeless winos etc). My biggest challenges are Sunday nights when wife works and the kids are in bed. Need to systemise that time so I don’t get tempted to ‘have a few and relax’. A couple leads to a whole bottle of whiskey in recent months. I have some accreditations to do and am struggling to find time during the week. Might do that Sunday nights.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 10:00 PM
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Yes, I did, as of a week ago. The first time I attended I hadn’t quit yet though.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 05:55 PM
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Ha, yes it is. Sodas only for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 08:05 PM
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OYS #3 2018-12-04 Stats: 38years old, 5’7”, 163lbs, 20% Body Fat (DEXA 10/2018) Wife 40yrs, Married 12yrs, 2 kids under 10. Reading: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2, MMSLP x 1, TRM x 2, Sex God Method x 1 Currently Reading: MAP, will finish this week. Physical: Bench: 160lbs (5x5) DL: 176lbs (5x5) Lat: 160lbs (5x5) Lifted today for the first time in nearly 2.5 weeks. Gym was closed for renovations and prior to that I strained my back and had to see the osteoporosis twice in a week. Have run virtually eve…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 08:39 AM
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You are right, it is likely still some anger phase burrowed in, as well as some fear of saying what I want. Reading WISNIFG again after I finish MAP
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 07:03 AM
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OYS #2 2018-11-28 Stats: 38years old, 5’7”, 167lbs, 20% Body Fat (DEXA 10/2018) Wife 40yrs, Married 12yrs, 2 kids under 10. Reading: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2, MMSLP x 1, TRM x 2, Sex God Method x 1 Currently Reading: MAP, will finish this week. Physical: Bench: 190lbs (5x5) DL: 198lbs (5x5) Lat: 190lbs (5x5) Gym has been closed for renovations all of last week. Opens again today so will get back tomorrow and look into changing my routine as per feedback from last week’s OYS. Ran 4kms every day thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 10:28 PM
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Halfway through MAP, next I will finally get around to BPP’s book which I never read and start on Dread steps properly. I am better with OI (though not truly OI) than past, but the quality and effort is far from where I want it. Wife initiated yesterday first night after shark week, come to think of it she is mostly the one who initiates these days. Could be me still in anger/resentment stage or lack of taking what I want for fear of rejection (need to read WISNIFG again, it’s been a couple of y…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/18 01:17 AM
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Sounds interesting and worth reading, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 10:57 PM
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Realistically probably DL1, though scattered parts of later stages (DL5 for example). I think I need to basically start again in all RP doctrine (beginning with MAP) in order to find my Point of origin
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 09:04 PM
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Thanks for the warning. I had looked up how to control dosage early on but found conflicting data
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 09:03 PM
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You are probably right. I am not sure I have the willpower yet to go cold turkey. I am going to an AA meeting today locally.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 09:02 PM
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Thanks for the tip, I will look it up. I would prefer to cut down 'naturally' but am not kidding myself that I may need pharma help, at least initially.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 08:57 PM
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The food tracking has always been part of my fuckarounditis - given I have a slender body type naturally I would kid myself that I can still eat and drink excessively as long as I exercise at all. ​ I take your point and start using the MFP app I have had for years and never used. ​ I was alternating SL with cardio, I will try switching to Wendler as you suggested and see how that takes. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 08:56 PM
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OYS # 1 2018-11-20 Stats: 38years old, 5’7”, 167lbs, 20% Body Fat (DEXA 10/2018) Wife 40yrs, Married 12yrs, 2 kids under 10. Reading: NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG x 2, MMSLP x 1, TRM x 2, Sex God Method x 1, Pook x 0, MAP x 0, WoTSM x 0 Physical: Bench: 190lbs (5x5) DL: 198lbs (5x5) Lat: 190lbs (5x5) Have had fuckarounditis for years. Have consistently attended gym combining cardio with lifts for years but rarely if ever exhaust myself. I need to either get a trainer or seriously look into a program to se…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 08:50 AM
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Forgetting the misfortunes of yesterday and treating each new day as a positive experience. If you meet resistance (especially from spouse), withdraw attention for the day, be awesome and try again tomorrow.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 04:20 AM
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I went. My team lost. I was sad for a night. Life goes on.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 12:21 PM
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This is a great pickup from the OP’s post and something I still struggle with myself in terms of leading post SMV increase. Need to go back and read SGM again, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 09:48 AM
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I have to vouch for tracking cycles. Have been doing so for around 18 months and it was a tremendous help early on in understanding not only the timelines at large but how she in particular is affected by it. Can honestly say now that I rarely even check it but I am aware of her mood swings and emotional rollercoaster as it happens. As someone who still struggles through the journey of self actualisation, not reacting to her moods through awareness has helped immensely.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 12:52 AM
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Married. 2 boys. There are days when I wish my kids would leave me alone to rest/enjoy myself and then, usually micro-seconds later, I realise I am being a lazy, mentally absent father and I jump up to engage with them. Having kids has taught me to be less selfish, a lot more patient and reset my perception of what is important - not just in general but on a day to day basis of where I spend my time.
/r/askMRP27/01/18 12:57 AM
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Your consistency (in both OYS and objectives) is inspiring.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 09:55 AM
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I can relate to this post in many ways (know a bit about my wife's history and what she got up to before me). That Saving The Best post by Rollo really hit me when I first read it. While I am about a year in, and my wife is not totally submissive in the bedroom, I have realised the problem is still in me and not her. As many posters will tell you, I realised after some months that I shouldn't be focusing on blowjobs or anal or crazy pornstar sex but instead worry about what is going to make me b…
/r/askMRP05/09/17 09:43 PM
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I must admit as I got further through I was hoping for that ending. It must have been difficult, but well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 08:34 AM
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For my part, i have been trying not to let the assumption of starfish stop me from initiating, otherwise it's a self fulfilling prophecy to me. If she half heartedly acquiesces and she still doesn't get into it during, then I quit. As noted elsewhere, this can cause drama as you re basically saying you would rather stop after starting than keep going just to get finished. My wife has been very annoyed the few times I have done this and it has led to her being more enthusiastic eventually.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 02:56 AM
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What do you want? I can relate to this question as the scenario is very familiar but a while ago i realised I was overthinking it. In my situation at least, the 'cuddling' as a post coitus reward is what I want, not her and that is enough (apparently).
/r/askMRP07/08/17 12:41 PM
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Mark Baxter Podcast
/r/askMRP01/08/17 01:49 AM
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Same as above; married, two kids. Got vasectomy nine months ago and no problems at all with it. Wife off the pill since and has had a higher libido and less moodiness since, though that could also be a result of small progress on my part.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 03:57 AM
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I needed this. Thanks for the in depth thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 12:12 PM
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Congratulations on your realisation and for having 40 days under your belt. I can relate to the weekday sobriety and weekend benders - I did this from around Year 5 of my marriage to as recently as last year. Only in the last 6-12 months have I been actively struggling with keeping the temptation at bay, especially when I get a hard rejection or a bad shit test in past months. From a social point of view, I am also in a culture where alcohol is central in any an all night-time activity and I oft…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 10:51 PM
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Thanked for the story about your Dad. I have a similar relationship with mine, including the Divorce story, including the two versions as to why it happened. Funny how when you grow up and go through your own problems you begin to see your parents as just people faced with the same shit as you and everyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 10:04 PM
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HEALTH: Lifted 4 days of last 7. Couple of lazy days I couldn’t drag myself out of bed (including one morning after a late night out). Need to get to bed consistently earlier during the week as I have found I need more sleep as I get older (late 30s). No cardio at all in the past week. I have a historically high metabolism and when I have started some regular cardio (running usually), the body fat around the mid section drops dramatically. Muscle tone and mass due to lifting has been great in pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 09:57 PM
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Thanks. I still occasionally slip and only snap out of it after some time wasted but I find I do always realise eventually now.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 02:01 AM
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Let me know what books in particular you need from the sidebar. I have most of those that exist in audiobook format and can pass them on. Some books are not in audio at all (MMSLP, for example).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 10:09 PM
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HEALTH: Lifted 4 times in past week. Days off in between due to soreness from recent load increases. Only 1 day cardio also, so ideally this week will do cardio every other day. Diet has been good also – no fast food or solo drinking in past week. READING Currently re-reading SGM. Next is WISNIFG again. Need to find more time (dedicated time) to read. Am only getting time to this this after kids go to bed and by then I am often too tired to focus enough to comprehend rather than just read. STYLE…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 10:05 PM
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Can relate to the questioning self around wide focus; of late I have considered going monk mode just to remove that time sink from my brain and focus on other areas. For me I try to remember rebuilding myself and achieving my MAP is a medium to long term play and perhaps i need to move the enthusiastic sex down the priority chart.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 09:55 AM
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I have seen CAD mentioned a few times in reverence but can't seem to find his old posts anywhere.. am I looking in the wrong sub? Is CAD an abbreviation? Tks
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 11:00 PM
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Your comment is correct; I still use sex for validation rather than personal satisfaction. Whether I display OI or not, I still often find myself stewing afterward and questioning myself. My weakest area by far. Also correct RE: fear of rejection. I often self sabotage by being 'fragile' as you put it instead of simply escalating hard so that when she doesn't escalate for me I get pissy. I'm fighting the urge to ignore her for a few days but will head out for a drink tonight with a friend and he…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 09:12 PM
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Agreed. Clearly after noob gains I have plateaued and she sees me as she always has. A lot of work to do to change that, beginning with how I deal with last nights rejection.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 09:08 PM
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Update: Initiated tonight; was told my wandering hands are 'creepy'. Stopped there with as much OI as I could. Watched some to and chatted after. She went to sleep and I am dealing with the ultimate ego check. 11 months and I think this is the most honest she has been (without realising it). I have to visualise a MAP form myself asap (as noted earlier) and see where my marriage fits into that in months to come.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 12:14 PM
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Background: Been on the MRP subs for 11months under a different username. Given privacy (and likely, denial) didn’t contribute aside from a cringeworthy victim puke early. New name, time to start contributing after trial and error for nearly a year in. 36, married 11 years, 2 kids under 10. Came to the subs in the most atypical manner possible; have been a lifelong beta, married young, sex life never been great (including honeymoon). Had DB after both children for 1y and 1.5yrs respectively. Bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 05:05 AM
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