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I will look into this—thank you
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 05:27 AM
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Not really before marriage, because the circumstances of our dating were such that we weren’t together all the time. But then after we married, I wasn’t immediately put off by the idea that we have to be in the same room, talking, the whole time I’m not sleeping or working, or else I’m not tending to my marriage. I just swallowed the whole “happy wife, happy life” thing. It became unbearable over time and as she started becoming mean to me. It feels weird to write this, but it was part joke and …
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 05:26 AM
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Makes perfect sense. I have my own problems, from childhood, with avoiding conflict and trying to make other people happy (so they won’t hurt me). So it’s hard for me to hold in my mind the truth of what you say.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 05:21 AM
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That makes sense. I’m told that in this state the paperwork for a divorce is almost the same as that for a legal separation, but just doing the addition filing later will have a cost. It’s a tough thing about her religion—I don’t share that particular one, but I’m vulnerable when she uses God against me. But you’re right.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 05:20 AM
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I feel bad for you. I saw too how things got worse over time. When I think of how she was in the beginning, it’s as if she was an entirely different person. She chalks her anger up to perimenopausal rage-inducing hormones, excusing herself for her behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 12:07 AM
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That would be a useful way to move forward. As luck would have it, though, in our state a legal separation invokes a property division that works the same way as a divorce: property split even, with me undoubtedly paying indefinite spousal support (alimony).
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 12:05 AM
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No apologies! That’s a great idea! I’ve tried to manage a therapeutic in-home separation, but she called it off. I’ve proposed just living somewhere else for a month to get my head straight, but she got really angry. She basically doesn’t like it for me to be out of her sight. I think that unfortunately, while some kind of temporary separation might do some good for our future together, she makes it all-or-nothing, which just leaves me with no choice but legal separation or divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 12:03 AM
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Good question; thanks. They’re adults now.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 12:00 AM
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Thanks for this tip. We’re not in NC; here, divorce is no-fault (and courts don’t care what the circumstances are; they just want to see the property divided equally). No time period for separation required, and also it’s possible to file slightly different forms and have the outcome be a legal separation and division of assets, which leaves the marriage legally intact, and the legal separation can be voided and return everything legally to what it is before.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 12:00 AM
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No; she’s Roman Catholic
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 09:33 AM
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The house is co-owned, and full of mostly my stuff, so it’s hard to just abandon all that, unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 08:49 AM
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Thanks for this. Forgot to mention that we co-own a house, filled with stuff that’s mostly mine. Just physically getting away with the stuff that’s important to me is hard to plan.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 08:36 AM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 03:02 AM
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This looks really useful—thanks very much.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 02:48 AM
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It’s tough for sure. Warm winter weather would be nice. I think your problem is opposite from mine—too many memories spread around vs too few friends and family—but the effect is the same. Wishing you good luck—
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 12:53 AM
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Thanks for writing. Having a purpose is something I struggle with a lot, now that I’m older and the kids are gone. I’ll continue to work on finding it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 05:33 AM
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That’s very useful—thanks for writing
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 05:31 AM
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That would be a big leap, but I’ll think about it. Thanks for the suggestion
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 06:08 AM
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Well I have one out of two already, at least! Thanks—
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 06:07 AM
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I can see how that would keep a person in one place; makes sense
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 06:06 AM
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Back to the big city! I hope it goes great for you—
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 06:06 AM
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Thanks; everything feels terrible now, so I’ll try to keep what you say in mind.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 06:05 AM
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Basic politeness does go far to make friends out of neighbors. Thanks—
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 06:05 AM
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Europe would be fun—a dream.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 06:04 AM
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You’re right about divorce vs legal separation, and I hadn’t thought about overseas options. Thanks for the suggestions.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:38 PM
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That’s a great and obvious (to me, now) point. I think I’ve always let a feeling of obligation to family make me feel tied to them—needing them as well. Thanks for your comment.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 06:27 AM
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