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My comment had noting to do with who relies on who. If you’re doing 50/50 neither partner is paying for everything. There are tons of women who have their partner pay for everything and have no issue saying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 11:51 AM
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I don’t really understand your response. He won because he brought children into the world and was able to walk away from them? I also don’t understand why you brought up child support. Child support can be garnished from your wages if it is not paid and you don’t need a lawyer to go to family court. Whether or not she has the means to get on is not provided within the OP. Also where in society are men taught not to value marriage? I don’t get your point about being married because I am not argu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:46 PM
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He won in what way? Many men don’t claim marriage is terrible. Many men choose to get married everyday. Both men and woman take a gamble with marriage. This particular man did not value marriage, he also did not value fatherhood. And he demonstrated that in various ways that this particular woman chose to ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:22 PM
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My man would have an issue with this. But he is also against strip clubs for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:31 PM
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The whole story has red flags all over it. First most people practicing 50/50 understand you can’t split it exactly down the middle if there is an income disparity. The split recognizes the income disparity. Also I’m going to assume this woman is not married to this man given that you referred to his money as his money. Having multiple children with a man who is not marrying you is a poor decision. Choosing to having a second child with a man who won’t even buy diapers for the first child is eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:27 PM
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Guys my boyfriend is now my fiancé! He proposed yesterday on my birthday! I broke down crying the minute I realized it was about to happen, he didn’t even made it onto his knee.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:48 PM
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I don’t think I care for surprises. But I know he feels like an engagement should be planned between the couple, it should be on the man. Happy early birthday girlie. My birthday is Saturday. Officially leaving my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:41 PM
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I am but i kind of ruined the surprise for myself because i looked in his stuff and found the ring. We had talked about getting engaged this year but I didn’t know he even bought a ring yet. So now I’m scared my surprise face won’t be good. My birthday is coming up this weekend and we are going to see my family in my mother’s home country, we are leaving tomorrow. So I’m thinking that’s when he will do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 10:15 PM
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I think my man is gonna propose soon, possibly in the next week. I remember when I met him 4 years ago, I came to PPD and told yall I met a man that is so hot that I’m ok with him pumping and dumping me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:14 PM
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Yall when do you think you will stop having sex? I see post on Reddit about people in their late 60s upset their partners don’t want sex anymore. I can’t imagine being almost 70 and still having sex. I feel at that age there must be so many aches and pains.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 05:31 AM
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My and my bf were fwb for over a year before we decided to be in a relationship and things were much easier back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:02 PM
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I wouldn’t be able to look past that, the relationship would probably be over. That would be too much of a risk towards my health.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:54 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/cEGDlTzw2k Something I realized very early on in dating as an adult is that some people have no business dating. Too many people are looking for a partner and want to normalize unnormal shit instead of seeking therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:04 PM
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She was good for a couple of years. She has schizophrenia. She suffered from addiction to hard drugs essentially his entire life and he was raised by his grandmother. She started living with him a few years ago and he got her sober. He did this out of a feeling of obligation not because they have any sort of deep relationship. This last year she decided to start smoking weed and eating thc gummies and I think that has triggered her recent psychosis episode. She also hasn’t been taking her medica…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:30 PM
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My bf is under a lot of stress at the moment. His mom made a ton of poor decisions which has led to her being in a psych ward for 2 weeks and as of last week she is homeless after deciding to not go to the boarding house the hospital set up for her after she was released. She then decided it would be a smart idea to shut off her card where she gets her social security. To say the last week has been stressful is an understatement and I feel bad thinking about this but I’m not sure this is baggage…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:18 PM
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That’s a strong if. Currently she is not dating someone in private equity and from comments she’s made it sounds like he makes less than her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:54 PM
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I know of at least two women who have good careers who feel this way. My friend group is small so maybe it’s not a majority of women who feel this way. But I was simply commenting on the women that do. Personally I also make similar money to my friend and I can’t imagine walking away from that. I also am afraid of walking away from my career and ending up in an abusive situation like you described. I have an aunt who chose to be a stay at home mothers for pretty much the entirety of her marriage…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:52 PM
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I follow the Christian marriages sub Reddit and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a post about a woman complaining that her man isn’t leading because he’s not supporting her wanting to be a stay at home mom. And people have to comment and tell her theres nothing in the Bible that says women shouldn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:42 PM
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Yes, I live in NJ roughly 30/40 min from Manhattan. On 160k you can definitely own a house but there’s a possibility of being house poor especially going it on 1 income. You for sure would be looking at over 50 percent of your income going just to maintaining the house and paying the mortgage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:36 PM
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I really can’t wrap my mind around why so many women what to be stay at home mothers, especially college educated women with careers. Two incomes are always going to be better than one. I have a childfree friend making 160k and can’t imagine buying and maintaining a house in her own. Yet she expects to be a stay at home mom in the future where her husband will pay all the bills and support her and multiple children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:27 PM
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Convince you of what?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:25 PM
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This is the answer. This whole thread can be shut down now. A large percentage of women need to believe that their lives are under threat. And I would argue that the percentage of women who believe that needs to be a lot closer to 100 than to 50. As a woman who does not believe that, I will not be participating in any uprising. Things would have to get a lot worse to change my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:22 PM
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Yea I see it in a similar way now. I’m in the best relationship I’ve been in my entire adult life. I love this man more than any man I’ve been with. And yet i can walk away from this relationship easier than any other relationship. Because I’ve learned it’s just not worth my time to be fighting for certain things. We are either on the same page or we are not. When I was younger I felt like a relationship was the end all be all and it’s really not. Tbh even if I got married, if kids were not invo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:38 PM
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I was constantly in a relationship. I’ve been single for less than a year my whole adult life. And a good chunk of that was spent fighting for relationships that weren’t worth it. My exes are no longer in my life, those relationships are no longer relevant to my life. So it was largely a waste of my time to have been in those relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:34 PM
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Whenever I see people under 25 talking about relationships problems on Reddit, my immediate thought is “who cares, leave them”. I remember being young and feeling like an ex was my person despite all the drama. But really those relationships were so irrelevant looking back now. If anything I regret not being single more and not dating more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:04 PM
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You mentioned statistically men want children more. Is there a statistic you are referring to? The OP seems more anecdotal. Anecdotally, I still see and know more women who have a strong desire for motherhood than I know men who have a strong desire for fatherhood. There was actually a post on this sub a couple weeks back where men were asked would they choose to be a single father or give their child up for adoption and I was shocked by the amount of responses that said they would give the chil…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 07:10 PM
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I will continue to travel even if I got married but there definitely would be more of a routine/structure with marriage. I currently work remotely. If I’m not in my relationship I can work anywhere in the states and I would have no issue. There’s nothing tying me to my state. Whereas as a wife, well even as a gf, I would not abandon my significant other for a long period of time to travel while working. My bf has an established business in our state so he does not have the work life freedom I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:28 PM
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I’m about to hit the wall in a little under 10 weeks and I’m not sure how I feel. I thought by this point I would have some epiphany about kids. Instead I feel like I want to completely forgo all societal expectations and just travel for a year. I have a great bf and I’m expecting an engagement this year. But I’m now questioning why I want the engagement/marriage. I know a large part of me just feels like it’s time, we have been together long enough. I also feel like if I’m going to do the wife …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:19 PM
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This is very well put. There are both men and women who have a lifestyle or qualities about them that don’t make them compatible for marriage. If they are not interested in marriage then it really doesn’t matter. But there are qualities people should strive to have if marriage in the near future is something that they are interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:07 PM
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It’s because they assume a pretty young girl would have someone who wants to eat with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:50 PM
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I am registered to vote. I have voted in the last 3 elections. I will probably never vote again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:48 PM
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You don’t have to destroy yourself to deserve something. If I work hard in my job I deserve a promotion. I shouldn’t have to sacrifice my mental health to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:48 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/BlackPeopleTwitter/s/1Bo4AsBTXr Stuff like this is what made me realize men really don’t care about your past if they want to be with you. Even when you look at some of these “influencer” women. Some of them keep popping up with new male celebrity. These men have money, they can have whoever they want and yet they choose a woman that has publicly been linked to multiple other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:44 PM
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Thank you for your advice. Yea I don’t know what type of therapist are out there. I also don’t know what type of therapy is available, like another commentor mentioned her therapist combined eastern and western practices. But I don’t know what the difference are. I am considering therapy but I actually wasn’t considering going back to better health. I tried it a second time for a month a few years ago and the therapist they assigned to me only did over text. That time around I quit immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 12:39 AM
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How long did you stay with a therapist before changing? What factors did you look at to determine that you aligned with a therapist vs deciding a therapist wasn’t for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 12:17 AM
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Has anyone here done therapy and did it help you? I did some brief sessions in better help years ago but quit quickly. I didn’t feel like i was in a place to implement “the homework” I was being given. But now I’m thinking about possibly considering it again. I consider myself a very happy individual but this past 6 months possibly even a year I find myself dealing with a lot of anxiety and depression. My doctor has offered to put me on antidepressants but idk if this is a route I want to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 11:51 PM
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If people want to move to find love I think that’s fine. I think how men view women in America isn’t any different from how women are in other countries though. Sleeping with women casually or dating long distance is going to be very different from a full time relationship that has its ups and downs and goes through actual tribulations. My main critique of your OP would be you not recognizing that are lot of passport bros are looking for easy sex from vulnerable women. It has nothing to do with …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:48 PM
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Yea, a couple where both people are financially smart with their money and willing to split expenses get to live life on easy mode. Something to be very cautious of is a partner who expects the other person to pay all the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 05:16 PM
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All the discourse about which gender sucks more is nonsense. This is your friendly reminder that both men and women need one another because both genders are too broke to survive this economy on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:05 PM
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If a guy were to approach me and he is a complete stranger he first has to meet a physical threshold of what I find attractive. Obviously I’m not going out with him on the spot so as we initially communicate via text in the following days, I am now checking to see if he has a lifestyle that aligns with mine. That determine if I continue to move forward with dating. There is no man that I’m immediately going to be 100% interested in pursuing a relationship with simply from physical attraction. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:42 PM
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What is this sub for? Isn’t it just a dating debate sub, why wouldn’t everyone’s opinions be welcomed?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:37 PM
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I believe there was some sort of rehabilitation attempt. They are religious which is why they have 19 children. So whatever therapy or rehabilitation was probably done through a Christian org. Whether or not the people running the rehabilitation were actually licensed professionals I am not sure. Oftentimes Christian therapy is not by licensed individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:15 AM
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To be clear none of the CP stuff happened when he was a child. All of that is after they attempted rehabilitation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 10:18 PM
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So hindsight in 20/20. I guess my intial comment was more so questioning if they were wrong for thinking their child could be rehabilitated, when they had no clue how the future would turn out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 08:44 PM
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So from my understanding they did send him to therapy. Idk how good it actually was because as an adult he had CP on his laptop which landed him in jail. The whole situation is unfortunate. The parents get judgement but I feel like there was no way for them to win in the situation. There daughters were already traumatized and what should have been the next step, try to get your son locked up?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:09 PM
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No child was raped from my understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:46 PM
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Q4A: So idk if you are all familiar with the Duggars but they are a religious family that had like 19 kids. Two of there sons in adulthood have been arrested for some form of CP/Child molestation. It came out that one son, who is now serving jail time for having CP as an adult, would inappropriately touch his sister when they were younger, at the time he was a teenager. Allegedly to try and contain this behavior the parents built their house where all the girls shared one room and all the boys s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:02 PM
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It’s interesting seeing some of the age gap post this morning. I’m in an age gap relationship and apparently I don’t have the power but I actually feel the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:07 PM
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I guess it shouldn’t be surprising that so many men would opt for adoption, I mean men walk out on their children everyday. But for some reason I was actually surprised by these comments. Paternal instinct seems to not really exist for men, if a woman isn’t involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:43 PM
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Did any of your parents kick you out? Like you were a good kid, no issues but they just said “well you’re an adult time to leave” I just saw a video of this 22 year old crying cause she lost her job and rent is due. I legit don’t know what a young person does to pay their bills if they didn’t go to school. I would be running so fast to live with my parents. But then I was like maybe her parents don’t want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:40 PM
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My initial comment was about women who had an issue with all porn content so I don’t know why you would think that in the scenario I was describing the man was open with his partner about only fans and the woman was ok with it. Maybe that is where the confusion lies in this conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:56 PM
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I can’t speak for women either lol. The same way you can’t speak for all men. If the intent was to get off they would just watch something for free or use a free AI chatbot. They are not on a dating app because there is a risk of their significant other finding out. They absolutely would go on one if they could build that connection without the risk. I don’t think the woman providing the service is looking by for connection. I think most of the time she’s not even the one responding. It’s probab…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:12 PM
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I’m rereading it and I misunderstood. I initially read it as “women who partake in casual sex have less mental illness on neuroticism” When It was actually saying “of all the women who partake in casual sex, the ones who actually enjoy it have less mental illness on neuroticism”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 12:24 PM
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I had one guy friend in my 20s. There was never anything romantic from either of us so I do think men and women can be friends. But every guy I dated had an issue with this relationship. I think a lot of people, probably most, are not trusting of their partners having a friendship with the opposite gender. Because of this these relationships become more easily discarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 12:03 PM
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I haven’t accepted any data on this. I’m making a judgement based on my own experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:52 AM
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To have a place to live that you can modify at your own convenience, that you don’t have to worry about being asked to leave. Ultimately when you pay it off it will be the cheaper living option vs renting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:51 AM
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I live in NJ, and likely when I’m ready to buy a single family home it will be between 650k-800k. There’s a lot above that, my friends just bought a house for 850k, but idk how they are financially doing it. Don’t forgot our interest rates arnt great so we are talking about 5k+ mortgages a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:49 AM
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Complete BS. Considerable casual sex especially in women would actually indicate to me some level of mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:44 AM
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I don’t consider only fans a hobby. But I actually do think people can police certain lifestyles their partners may want to engage in. You would never find me in a chippendales environment and you would never find my partner at the strip club. That’s a rule in my relationship established by my male partner. I do think it’s real for the men paying for it. I don’t think they are acting, I very much think they want that to be their reality. An actor and everyone on set knows they are putting on a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:41 AM
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Well financially I think there’s an issue with using money to sustain the lifestyle of another woman, when that money could go to the betterment of your family. Also from my understanding men can communicate with women on only fans so they pay for it not just for content but to then communicate and develop a romantic relationship with that woman. At that point you are at the very least attempting emotional adultery.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:06 AM
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In competition in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:03 AM
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No. Actually I would lose respect for anyone trying to take the livelihood of another individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 11:21 PM
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Idk if it’s just a Reddit thing but on here I see a huge demonization of porn. I can understand being upset if your SO is paying for only fans. But I see people equating looking at pornhub to infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 11:14 PM
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This lady is actually from London so maybe you’ll find her perspective even more interesting, with both of you being European based.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 04:43 PM
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Yes I understand the situation and I wouldn’t change anything in my initial comment. You wouldn’t feel it if you paid 4000 vs 3000. The fact that you would rather put a financial strain on your partner who makes significantly less is concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 01:57 PM
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Personally my man would cover much more of the mortgage, probably all if he made that much. As someone making 150k, I can tell you that half of the mortgage is around two weeks of her pay. From what I understand many couples divide expenses based on the percentage they make to one another. The reality is, that women would never be able to afford 6000 mortgage on her own. Thats a decision they came to, based on the high income because there is an understanding that the higher income can cover tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 01:26 PM
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From my understanding the OP is about people who do walk away and choose not to be committed. And it’s explaining that those people arnt actually afraid to commit it’s that they don’t want to commit to red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 01:13 PM
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There’s this girl I follow on ig: @nushcope, she has a lot of content covering this topic. You might enjoy. She ultimately moved to Senegal, where her husband is from to have a village to help her with mother hood.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:48 PM
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I don’t think it’s about not trusting yourself. I think it’s actually about trusting yourself enough to walk away from red flags before you get too far.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:41 PM
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That didn’t even occur to me. That’s how far removed I am from this lifestyle. No, I wouldn’t date a man who had removed his genitalia.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 08:31 PM
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Yes that is what I meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:26 PM
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It depends on when plans were established and how often we are talking. If I made plans with you 3 days ago and haven’t talked to you since then I would want a confirmation. If I intended to go, then I would probably reach out myself and get that confirmation before I showed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:49 PM
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I wouldn’t date a trans man. I would probably be open to a reverted trans woman but honestly there’s a good chance that someone who has gone down this path has completely different views than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:54 PM
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I definitely view it the second way. But I’m more inclined to believe that most men view it the second way as well. Men arnt really the gender known to be hopeless romantics.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:48 PM
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I have this issue is all my relationships. I’m not a big communicator. I’m a get upset and get quiet type of woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:40 PM
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I can’t speak for myself because I have no clue how I would handle grief but I watched my best friend go through this, losing her fiancé suddenly. It was devastating for her. She went through different phases of being angry at god, being angry at herself, being angry at her fiancé, being sad, feeling isolated in her pain. She just started dating again, literally this month. This October will be 4 years since his passing. She’s in a much better place and in a way optimistic that she will find a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:11 PM
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I’ve definitely seen many women who dress like men, act like men, look like men, and date women. And there’s no doubt in my mind that those women are not attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:37 PM
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So is that what it is, people get comfort from sleeping with strangers?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:50 PM
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Eating food does give a feeling of comfort which is why we have emotional eaters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:54 PM
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I meant after the actual event of having sex with the individual. After youre done having your total orgasms for the session. Does the person sleeping around feel lot of positive feelings about the experience? Does it make them think oh now I gotta go experience that again with another stranger?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 04:48 PM
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I really don’t understand the desire to sleep around for either gender. I feel like after the orgasm, you arnt left with much great feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:44 PM
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If a man is taking out multiple women in a first date, it’s unrealistic to be expecting him to pay $100+ dollars for each date. Which is what restaurants dates are costing especially if alcohol is purchased. Do you think most men who are of dating age have hundreds of dollars of disposable income to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:39 PM
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If a mainly female hobby then I could see that possibly women join these hobbies to just enjoy themselves and maybe bond with other women. Some women are also just shy. I have a friend who joined a Catholic group. She’s Catholic and they do a lot of hiking activities which she loves. They also did a big trip to Italy this past year. The group is about 50/50 male and female. She is secretly hoping to meet her husband there. But she isn’t the type of woman to message first or initiate so one of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:26 PM
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I assume if I would have kids that I would adjust. I’ve also read stories of women who didn’t crave motherhood but once they were in it they felt very fullfilled. I’m sure it is a beautiful thing. But I feel like would have to be in it to really see the benefit if that makes sense. My mom talks about if I have kids I have to give up how much I go to the gym and in my head i immediately think “well my gym has a daycare”. I just can’t imagine giving up parts of myself for a little human.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:54 PM
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How do you account for the birth rate dropping in the 90s to now? I’m born in 96 so I wasn’t thinking about the time before women could work or before they could have a bank account.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:36 PM
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A big reason I’m turned off from kids is the responsibility. I have so much stress and things going on currently. I can’t imagine how to throw a kid into the mix. Was life easier for women in the past or were they less risk averse? My mom actively got pregnant with me while she was a broke college student, illegal and my dad was a fwb. I can’t imagine making the decision to be a mother if I was in that spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:32 PM
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I don’t think what you described has to be the reality but I also am not aware of what jobs you have access to. But a high paying 9-5 does give you time with your family. That being said I do think ideally both parents should work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:02 PM
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No point in enjoying that activity in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:26 PM
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I’ve never had sex with a random stranger or someone I just met. I had a drunken one night stand with a friend once. And my current relationship and my previous one started out as fwb. But I knew all these men would be in my life long term if I wanted them to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:14 PM
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No. There’s no value in giving to relationships that arnt going anywhere long term. Masturbation is a better option.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:08 PM
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What about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:03 PM
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This is going to work with some women and not others. My friend has a lot of anxiety, so she enjoys smaller dates in the beginning where she doesn’t have to maintain a conversation for a long period of time with a guy. Like another commenter she also views constant messaging as love bombing. I on the other hand got offered dinner dates very quickly when I was on dating apps and so that became the minimum I would accept for a first date when I was dating. For my own safety I would never go to a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:02 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:56 PM
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Guys I’m about to hit the wall in a few month. And I’ve decided to give some advice to all you younger people because I’m older and wiser now. In your twenties get a high paying skill. But also have fun. Dont wait for friends to do the things you want to do. Don’t be afraid to go to that restaurant you want to go to, by yourself. Travel. If the relationship is having problems, leave. You have time to find someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:54 PM
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These days a lot of people want to paint the picture that if you didn’t vote for the same party as me then you want me to die. And because of this thought process it’s easy for them to have this idea that political views and the parties people align with should be dealbreakers. People are allowed to pick whatever dealbreaker they want. But at the end of the day, when you have parties that are being paid off by the same lobbyists it really doesn’t matter. People vote based on what they feel to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:03 PM
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Eh I don’t crave motherhood at the moment. But I know I would be a good mom. And my bf adopted his siblings child after they passed so I know he would be a good dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:06 PM
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Maybe they don’t have much sex now, so this wish they had more prior to locking into this relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:26 PM
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I don’t have any desire either. I’m about to turn 30 and I’m waiting for that light switch to go off In my head where I start to crave motherhood. That is supposedly what happened to my mom. I have so many female friends that have such a strong desire for motherhood though. They believe they will find deep fulfillment in it and I just can’t relate. That being said my bf wants a biological child so if we get married I will probably appease him and have at least one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:23 PM
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Very interesting. In my initial comment I didn’t mention men who hadn’t been married because it’s very easy for me to wrap my head around a man not feeling connected to a child that came from a woman he didn’t love. I guess in my logic I wrongly assumed that husbands love their wives when they have children with them and therefore feel connection to those children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:59 PM
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I find it strange when a couple gets a divorce and the husband becomes an absentee father. Were they only present as a father because of the wife? Did they never want fatherhood?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:03 PM
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A lot of people talk poorly about OLD but I feel like that is the go to place to meet your partner. Are people really going into the world to meet people these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:47 PM
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Probably a lot in this day and age. I have two close friends who met their significant other dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:46 PM
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If I recall correctly men and women leave relationships at the same rate pre marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:37 PM
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You were repulsed by someone trying to help you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:11 PM
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I haven’t been single for quite a few years now. But my best friend recently joined hinge and she gets the ick for the most ridiculous things. A guy texts to much she get a the ick lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 05:38 PM
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As a woman unsure about kids the why you wants kids post was a nice read.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:12 AM
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Around minute 2 they show Pearl on her stream and she looks terrible. I don’t remember her looking that bad
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:10 PM
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I don’t have a problem with ICE as an entity. But like woman said I’m not interested in dating law enforcement or military men. I find that a lot of them are losers who went into those fields to feel like they have some sort of power.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:49 AM
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I have an aunt and uncle who are still married today. My uncle financial supports her as he has always done but he was in and out of the house for the last 20 years. He got a job in another state and visits on holidays but is largely gone. He’s always had other women for the entirety of his marriage even when he had to go home to his wife every night. At one point he was living with one of his mistresses when his children with his wife ranged from ages 1-14. After 30 years the wife is still hell…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:46 AM
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I’ve read invisible monsters, fight club and choke. I decided to start survivor.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:15 PM
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I haven’t. I’ve read invisible monsters, fight club and choke. I also started tell all years ago but I lost interest, don’t remember why. If there’s a specific one by him I should try let me know!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:51 PM
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For all the readers out there can you guys suggest me some fictional books? I really like chuck palaniuk and have read a few of his books. If you have any suggestions with similar vibes that would be great. I’m not really interested in any of these soft porn books or anything where the primary plot revolves around romance, I also don’t think I’m interested in reading fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 07:23 PM
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Q4M: Do you pay on the first date/multiple dates? Do you pay for stuff for your partner in general? Do you find that the women you’re dating are looking for you to pay for a lifestyle they can’t afford? Questions were inspired by a post I saw on the main Reddit page about a man who was poor and frustrated with dating because the dating culture seems to only value money. My logic is that if you’re poor and you are also dating other poor people, shouldn’t it not be an issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 02:33 PM
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Heyy, I like to pop in here when things are on my mind. PPD is the most neutral place I’ve been able to find on Reddit. How’s it been going?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:14 PM
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Yea that made no sense to me. At this point I haven’t been keeping up with the news as much. Tbh I’m one of the conspiracy believers that thinks there’s something bigger going on. So I’m skeptical of like everything I hear on this topic. Is that still the belief that he is disassembled and reassembled the gun?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:34 PM
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I gotta watch the clip. I saw a bunch of other clips where he celebrated people losing their jobs. Which obviously diminishes my sympathy for him. That being said I don’t think he said anything bad and I don’t think his job should have been in jeopardy for what he said. I think it was hypocritical, conservatives celebrating him losing his job. As if they arnt the party for freedom of speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 01:29 PM
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I don’t think it’s necessary. But I don’t really get how people actually trust the media these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 01:18 PM
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The whole Charlie Kirk saga is really exposing some differing views that me and my bf have. And I realize how we analyze things very differently. I am inherently skeptical while he seems to believe things at a face value.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 01:00 PM
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Yes roommate do and should share cleaning responsibilities. You were the one claiming that the mental load of the home falls on the woman. I was just pointing out that doesn’t have to be the case. What your response to me is describing is friendship. Friendships exist. It doesn’t negate the benefits of a romantic relationship. I’ve addresses them in my earlier comment. It doesn’t take into account many people don’t want to live with a roommate as they get older. It also doesn’t take into account…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 09:50 PM
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So in regard to your first point. The difference between having a boyfriend you do 50/50 with vs a roommate is that you are working towards shared goals together. Long term successful relationships require partnership. When the burden is shared it allows you to achieve a greater life together. For example, I can get a house a lot faster putting into savings with a partner vs trying to do it on my own. On top of that I do get love and intimacy and someone I can rely on. If my car breaks down my r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 08:29 PM
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SexualizIng of the body occurs whether or not it is a choice. I live in America and I’m pretty sure the OP for the post I linked does as well. The female body and the male body are not viewed the same. You’re doing mental gymnastics to ignore reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:28 PM
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Men’s nipples are not sexualized. Male and female bodies are not the same nor or they looked at the same. If a man’s penis was visible because he isn’t wearing underwear yes he’s dressing like a sex worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:14 PM
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Honestly not sure. Just kind of stating that overall his mind could have been complex and comprised of viewpoints that were a mix of both parties. He could be just be radical lol vs being radically left or right. Personally I don’t particularly like this whole idea being spread that college is indoctrinating people. It’s werid to me. Parents should be encouraging their kids to go to college, statistically it’s your best way out of poverty. I am college educated and actually covered gender identi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:36 PM
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It’s not about control. Many people don’t want their partners dressing like sex workers. It’s more about respect for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:32 PM
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Many people arnt comfortable with their partners dressing like sex workers. Such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:31 PM
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A lot of people are trying to attach him to a political party and it think it’s ok to be like he’s not representative of either party. He seemed to live a liberal life and suppose this parents claimed he was changed/“indoctrinated” in college. But he was also raised by republicans in a conservative state.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:28 PM
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Honestly crazy take to me. Whether or not you wear underwear in public shouldn’t be a reason to throw away your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:25 PM
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I think people need to know when to pick and choose battles especially if your partner is a good to you. Whether or not you respect his wishes for you to wear panties in public shouldn’t really be a battle you’re ready to pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:24 PM
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It’s fine not to wear a bra. But it’s really shouldn’t be a reason to argue with your significant other. Your bf doesn’t feel comfortable with your nipples showing through your shirt in public then put a bra on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:48 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/whatdoIdo/s/vhKFrgbskP The comments are crazy. This is why you really can’t ask for relationship advice on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:39 PM
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Because they understand that many women and men fall on a spectrum in regard to their political views. Most people are not on the extreme end. They also understand that it’s ok to have a difference of opinion. I say that as a pro choice woman dating a man who is pro life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:40 PM
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Because they have never listened to Joe Rogan. Also for some reason people can’t grasp the fact that voting for a party doesn’t mean you agree with all their views.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:33 PM
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I was pissed at him before and came to PPD for advice. This is my second time asking for advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:54 PM
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That would be my reaction as well. He was trying to say “if the roles were reversed I would wear stuff that made you comfortable”. But the roles would never be reversed, because if women look at him I still know he’s mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:53 PM
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I also feel this way. Like if I give into this what is next. I understand your partner guiding you and I understand compromises being made in a relationship. But this feels more like trying to force me to change out of insecurities or possibly lack of trust in me. His whole thing is he doesn’t like men looking at me and I’m giving the impression to them that I’m single. But if you trust me why does that matter. And I’m a pretty girl, men are going to look at me regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:22 PM
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Recently he had made comments about my church dresses being about the knee which I threw in his face last night. Because I think my church dresses are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:20 PM
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That’s how I feel too. I do think there are clothing that’s not appropriate that women wear to the gym. However, I don’t feel like I’m wearing that type of clothing. I was ok dropping the leggings with a seam down the asscrack because I feel like they are intended to look more sexual even if it’s covering all of your legs. But overall I feel my clothes are appropriate which is why I feel so adamant about not changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:19 PM
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He does not. Up until recently when it got hot, he always had a hoodie on in the gym. He’s a retired bodybuilder, still running steroids so he’s in great shape. Wearing the hoodie is something more common this past winter. I don’t know if it’s is way of getting me to cover up more.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 06:17 PM
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Guys I had a discussion/argument with my bf yesterday and I’m wanting insight on if I’m in the wrong. So I have a decent figure. My butt is big for my frame, my waist is small. In a fairly petite person 5’1, 125lb. I go to the gym a lot, 90 percent of the time with my bf. We met in the gym. Fitness overall is a big part of our life and I’m often in gym clothes even running errands. I’ve cut out those legging that have a seam down the asscrack. I know you when you squat they can really emphasizes…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:56 PM
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You fyp is not a reflection of reality. It’s showing you what you want to see. My second point had nothing to do with research. Women are more likely to go to a doctor in general. They are also more likely to encourage their husbands to go which is why married men on average outlive single men. People don’t just get degrees for money. It might surprise you but some people actually value being educated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:01 PM
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The women on dating apps are looking to date. After 27 you also have to take into consideration biological clock. Women who arnt interested in a relationship and are happy single are not on apps. Women are more likely to go to a doctor and deal with any issues they have vs a man. The average man in American only makes 500 dollars more after tax than the average woman in America
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:55 PM
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I just saw someone on threads say student loan forgiveness would encourage people to have babies and you know what, that not a bad idea. 25k forgiven for every baby
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 10:52 PM
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I’m with the friend that thinks she doesn’t want to be rude. It eases the blow if she is still offering friendship. Also it makes things less awkward if you’re seeing her everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 07:35 PM
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If a woman doesn’t value sex in her relationship and she isn’t having sex and the husband is being a “good” guy. She isn’t going to consider her relationship a failure. So there will be no resentment. Resentment will occur with cheating because adultery is villainized. It’s seen as one of the worst, if not the worst, things you can do to your partner. And the victim of this will feel that they could have done better but they are essentially stuck with their husband. In regard to it shutting down…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:58 PM
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Tons of relationships stay together despite infidelity. Imo the main reasons being: The man doesn’t have the balls to leave. His wife is usually providing value in his life that he won’t get else where and he’s usually also concerned about losing money. Many men don’t want to take care of their children fully on their own and are willing to give up custody but doing that also requires them to pay child support which they don’t want to do. The wife is afraid of financial instability without her h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:31 PM
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I knew someone who got a girl pregnant the first time he had sex at 13. She was also 13 and kept the baby. He ultimately didn’t support the child for a long time because he was a child and his parents were mad at the girls parents for even encouraging her to keep the baby. I think at his age I would support financial abortion because he was too young to know right from wrong. But grown adults having sex know there’s consequences to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 03:28 PM
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Being a stay at home wife and mother, while the man provides.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:37 PM
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I’ve never gone to a male gynecologist. I do go to the gyno once a year it’s a pretty uneventful experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:11 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Christianmarriage/s/tqlh6I8TIu Really interesting analysis of the traditional family. A woman staying home while a man works to provide is actually modern and progressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:10 PM
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I hit a new low weight! Officially down 10lb
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:51 PM
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Love on a spectrum is a great show. Highly suggest it. The relationships seem to be lasting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:25 PM
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Basically. I consider my grandmother a traditional woman and she did it all. I used her as an example on another comment: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/9k2pVYqHyw Edit: I said some. But the reality is that at one point it was probably most.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:17 PM
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It would be difficult yet some women did it. My grandmother dropped out of school at 11 to support her family. She met my grandfather at 18 and married shortly after. They had 5 kids. She cooked and cleaned their home (kids helped as they got older). She also worked as a manager of a retail store, she was also a Sunday school teacher. My grandfather was the main provider because he was college educated and had a better paying job but her job was still needed for their family.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:15 PM
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Domestic work. She’s still child rearing, still taking care of the home. If you’re going to link anything to a traditional woman it’s domestic work and her role in the children’s lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:10 PM
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Being poor doesn’t mean you arnt a traditional woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 04:27 PM
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Thats not true, women worked farms, were seamstresses, involved in the crafting industry, etc. Not working was only a privilege for well off women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:43 AM
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I actually don’t think you’re correct. Are you saying men can’t love their biological children in the same way women do? Also traditional woman does not equate to a woman who doesn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:53 PM
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I wouldn’t ask him to skip. We can always celebrate my bday on another day, it isn’t a big deal to me. But I do know that not everyone thinks like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:18 PM
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What is an ultimatum in a relationship, can someone give me an example? For me this is confusing because communication is a necessity for a healthy relationship. If something is a dealbreaker for you that needs to be communicated to your partner. Is the preferred/healthier option to just end the relationship with no explanation?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 01:20 PM
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Why can’t you get a house without their money? In my head my parents money is for any rainy days they hit when they are older. If they leave me inheritance money I can then use it to grow the wealth I have already achieved for myself throughout my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 05:37 PM
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By not being careful I mean that I don’t use condoms. The pull out method has been effective for me. I have been on and off birth control throughout my twenties, going on 4 years off now though with no plans of getting back on.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:48 PM
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My man is not careful about protection, we never used it. The only reason he doesn’t have kids is because of steroid use. I’m not careful about protect either though so can be mad at him. I do think if I knew he had abortions in relationships prior to me I would feel some type of way especially depending on the relationship he had with that woman. It wouldnt necessarily be a dealbreaker but I feel like creating life with someone is something special.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:38 PM
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If your parents gave you money right now, what would you use it for?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:34 PM
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I would give here a 4. I consider her below average. I do think she can find A man interested. But her options are less than the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:23 PM
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There was a time on PPD where if you posted an opinion it had to have effort. I don’t even think the debate tag was an option. It was CMV and you had to back up your claims. We need to go back to that. Too many people abusing the debate tag.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:22 PM
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Where are your stats to back up your claims? You criticize self reports but it seems that your entire argument is backed by opinion. As a grandchild of a woman who has 5 children, I’ve always thought the idea of creating this big family to bring you joy as humorous. What is the guarantee that your children/grandchildren will be present in your elderly age? They could have migrated for work, 3 of my grandmothers children did just that. What is the guarantee your kids will have a relationship with…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:11 PM
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This is bs
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:06 PM
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You think taking care of a sick partner is fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:06 PM
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A father would help with a lot of your points. For example, you say “if a child life is abusive, what good is a father going to do”. Umm a lot of fathers would not want their child to be abused. I actually have a close friend that was sexually assaulted at 9 years old by a close family friend. They went to their father about this issue on the other hand their mother was quick to defend the abuser. Having a father isn’t going to fix everything. But yes, a child having an added adult in their life…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:09 PM
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New low today! Hopefully by Saturday I will be down 10lb
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:03 PM
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I remember reading a story on Reddit. This mother had a daughter who decided to identify as male. She supported her daughter and a year later the daughter decided to be a female again. The mother realized that had her daughter been brought up in the 90s she would have been anorexia. She was going through uncomfortable feelings about her body and instead of the media telling her to be skinny it was now tell her that she must be a man. The concept of sexuality is being on people more than ever and…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:33 PM
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I ignore a lot of DMs so no
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 12:17 AM
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Love this! Just screenshotted it so that I can reference back to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:07 PM
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I want to feel like my life is luxurious and easy and beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 02:31 PM
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I want to romanticize my life. Girls how do I do this? Are there any subs on this?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:56 PM
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I went and googled and educated myself. It’s what a lot of people who responded to me are saying. The department of education was only started in the 70s. Prior to that, certain aspects that they now handle were handled by other departments and the rest was left to the state. Which is what they are trying to return it to. Currently the department of education gets 268 billion and yet teachers are expected to pay for the supplies in their classrooms. The shut down of the department puts the power…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:33 PM
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What is the purpose of shutting down the department of education? What is the alternative to having a department of education?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 12:12 PM
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Things happen, an accident can occur. Also there’s benefits such as social security when a spouse has passed, protection when acquiring assets, sharing health insurance, etc. If your parents were ok with marriage why did it take one person getting sick to commit to it? They were already in a relationship, recognizing in a legal way would have only benefited them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:53 PM
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There are legal measures you can take which may or may not hold up. The one legal measure that will hold up in marriage, as you are seen as next of kin immediately. There’s other benefits as well such as being able to get social security from your deceased spouse. Theres also protections if you use to buy assets together. The idea that marriage is just a piece of paper is a myth. There’s a lot of benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:50 PM
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There’s a lot of benefits to marrying someone. Imagine you spend 20 years with someone they have a health issue that makes them unable to make decisions but you have no say in what treatment occurs because you are just a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 12:18 PM
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I am avoiding difficult conversations. Someone I ghosted had my ig. He ended up asking me what caused me to ghost on multiple occasions and I eventually responded. There were a lot of things he said in our discussions that flagged for me. (He seemed like he had heavily bought into the red pill negatives about women). Ultimately I ended up telling him all these things I thought were negative about him and I didn’t really think that was my place. Like sure I thought his views and personality sucke…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:03 PM
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People can and do do whatever they feel is right. Just because it feels right doesn’t mean it’s smart. There’s a lot of people in unhappy relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:29 PM
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Everyone should be dating people they are attracted to. Not doing so ultimately will just lead to relationships that lack intimacy. And that might be ok for some, asexuals do exist. But it won’t be for most. So what the guy is saying isn’t ridiculous. What’s ridiculous is expecting men to find jobs that don’t exists. Most men will not find a job or have access to a job that he can fully support himself and another woman on completely. Especially a woman who wants brand name items, wants to be ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:07 PM
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What jobs are you hiring for? Because I know what you’re saying is not accurate to a corporate career. It would be accurate to most fields, if not all fields, I can think of that require a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:19 PM
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Filling a 3 month gap with a fast food restaurant is not going to assist in getting you a job in any job that qualifies as a career. Edit: what jobs are you hiring for?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:14 PM
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3 months is a short period of time, im not sure why you think otherwise. Also in the OP the argument for leaving so quickly is because of a wealth disparity. A fast food job isn’t fixing OPs issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:41 PM
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If someone isn’t actively not choosing to work for a long period of time that is something different. But 3 months is a short time to decide your marriage isn’t worth fighting for. Also as someone in a corporate job, if I knew a colleague who lost their job I wouldn’t advise them to immediately run out and find a fast food gig. I would if advise them to spend their time applying, and hone in skills to help get another job opportunity in their field.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:19 PM
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I would be shocked, given that there’s no kids involved in the scenario I would be happy the trash took itself out. 3 months is a short period of time. If you’re not willing to to go through that short of a low period with someone, you shouldn’t get married in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 12:52 PM
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They don’t do much more than that tbh. They make you a meal plan and adjust it week my week and also make a workout plan that rarely gets adjusted. Literally asking for hundreds of dollars for 10 min of work tops a week after making the initial plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:51 PM
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Looking for a bodybuilding coaches. Just got off my first consult call, the cheapest coach for this particular company was 390 a month. The coach i previously worked with was 500 a month. Insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:41 PM
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Nah your responses wouldn’t work. You have to remember this is their first time speaking and she’s going to have multiple men reaching out. The guy has to stand out. Asking what she thinks of Paris isn’t going to make him stand out. A dad joke might be cheese but it will still get a better response that some boring “what do you think about Paris”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 05:25 PM
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I don’t think my actions would change. There would probably be less guilt.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 03:26 PM
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As someone who’s seeing an Ewok for the first time today, I can’t agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:53 PM
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Yes that’s been disneys thing of late. It’s their way of trying to make more money with the logic being that they will obviously bring in a young audience. But they will also bring in an older audience who view it as nostalgia. They will get me for lilo and stitch but I haven’t seen another live action that excited me. They are saying Snow White live action will actually really hurt Disney financially, given that a ton of people plan to boycott the movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:52 PM
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I just googled Ewok and I actually have no clue what this is and I’ve never seen it before in my life. When I initially responded to you I thought an ewok was a Wookiee.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:49 PM
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I don’t know much about Ewok especially at 5 years old when the cartoon movie came out. So for me it was new and fun. It’s a great storyline as well. Even as a little kid you understand the love of family and the fear of being separated from family so I feel it resonates with all ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:45 PM
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Lilo and stitch trailer came out and I’m so excited about it!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:40 PM
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Yea second week into meeting my man I showed up at his job with food. He thought it was the sweetest thing. This is also why I advocate for women fucking their men a lot. You would be surprised at how compliant a man is when he is given affection often.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:15 PM
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Yes it is
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 02:35 PM
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This is your daily reminder that the pay gap is a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:23 PM
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There’s a book called hood feminism and it talks about how fighting for equal pay is just about women in already privileged positions trying to get into more privileged positions. Unequal pay does not exist in the vast majority of fields.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:22 PM
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The only thing I care about on this list is paying for first date
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:17 PM
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It’s a high earning field where the work life balance is often not bad. Back when I was single doctors weren’t an option for me because even though they would make money, I imagined that they would spend a lot of time working. But I’m also in tech so not meshing with an engineer is not something I consider.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:36 AM
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I know on the date if there will be a next date. I only have good dates because if they are boring I entertain myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:00 AM
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I would not buy a house with someone I’m not married to. If you breakup there is very little legal protection. Honestly, I don’t even want to live with my bf pre engagement but I’m might have to give him that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:59 PM
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Why don’t you date engineers. That would be my top field to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:57 PM
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My man would leave me because he would be very upset that I’m not actually pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:56 PM
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I am not single. I was last single around this time 2022. The longest period of time I’ve been completely single was 5 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:06 PM
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Whether or not is the best decision was never the argument. The other individual was arguing that society is encouraging on to be self autonomous. I disagree with that and point out housing is an example of how society is changing in a way to push us to be in relationships. If someone managed to stay in a sub par relationship for the majority of their twenties I would trust more that they were capable of having a successful relationship over someone who made it to their 30s with no relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:56 PM
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Well yes, the person I’m responding to is speaking about modern society. A current economic problem would count as modern. I also mentioned in another comment that most people don’t intend to go through life with their best bud. Most people would not want a roommate in their 30s. So the solution that these people would naturally lean into is a relationship. Romantic relationships are still very much normalized more so than having a roommate past your 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 08:19 PM
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I didn’t change the argument at all. I said it is unrealistic for a person to have a good quality of life without a partner. And I said that society is the cause of that. You assumed that I was talking about emotional bonding. When I said society I meant the economy. I then in another comment gave the example of housing being something that is forcing people to be in relationships. My examples have only served to explain my first point further. The average person doesn’t make enough to be able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 07:43 PM
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What does insurance plans have to do with people splitting cost for housing? The article literally explains that’s why people who are not single are not struggling as much. They are splitting bills with one another. Housing is a necessity. We are literally in a society that has made being in a relationship a necessity for survival. In theory we should only be entering relationship because we want to. Theory doesn’t always apply to the reality of what life is in present day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 07:20 PM
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I’m not sure where you live but in America relationships are absolutely a need for many people to survive, it has nothing to do with needing someone as an emotional crutch. https://www.redfin.com/news/single-people-struggle-to-afford-housing-survey/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:57 PM
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You would be, for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:04 PM
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For some people it does take effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:02 PM
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I disagree with that. It is actually unrealistic for the average person to live a good quality of life as a single individual for many years now. I would argue that society is pushing people to lean on relationships more than ever. And most people are not planning on going through life with their best bud. They instead plan on finding a romantic partner. The inability to acquire one for long periods of time indicates a character flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:59 PM
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I think this way about both genders. For me it’s not necessarily if you’re single. It’s if you have made it to that age and were unable to have long lasting relationships. Any woman or man who was 35 and managed to not have a long lasting romantic relationships would be a red flag for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:39 PM
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Overdose, a couple years before he met me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:17 PM
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Someone explain the trump tariff stuff to me as if I’m 5. What is occurring? How will my life be affected? Is this a good day to buy some stocks?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:57 PM
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I didn’t. Actually it’s also the anniversary of his sisters death. He mentioned her death last night and my response was “omg this is our 3 year anniversary of having sex”.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:56 PM
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I did not. I’m not the best girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:22 PM
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Yesterday was the 3 year anniversary of having sex with my bf for the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 04:58 PM
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Maybe you’re dealing with the wrong women. I know one woman who’s told me that her family didn’t approve of her cousins bf because he didn’t have a house yet. That was so strange to me because I would want to buy a house with my partner not moving into his house. She is of a different culture than me so it maybe a cultural thing. I personally don’t care about car or materialistic things. I still drive the car my dad bought me when I was 17 and I can afford to buy another car for years now. 70k i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:40 PM
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Pregnancy is traumatic on a woman’s body. We are all aware of that. If a woman chooses to have a baby that’s her choice. Why should she be compensated for a choice that she actively made?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:34 PM
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Depending on the age I would think the individual had something wrong with them that they were unable to maintain/attain a long term relationship. I would probably also assume that they would be a difficult partner to be with. For example, if someone (applies to both men and women) spent a majority of their adult life single and living alone they have things about their life they are use to and won’t be willing to budge on. Their ability/willingness to compromise is less than someone who has bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:31 PM
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I seriously cannot wrap my head around Americans supporting the continuation of the war in Ukraine
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 03:45 AM
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The men who genuinely want a virgin wife are not the men pushing to have sex before marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:38 PM
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I have no clue. I don’t make that money. Which was kind of the point of my grandmothers comment. You don’t really know how someone is going to act when there is a power imbalance. You just know how they are currently when there isn’t. I do think how I view the money would be dependent on what it’s spent on as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:28 PM
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What does anything I state have to do with respect? Are you under the impression that people don’t feel protective over the things they have worked hard for?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:46 PM
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I don’t think it is. I think it also applies to women. I make a lot of money, I work hard for my money. I can’t imagine a man sitting at home not working and telling me how the money I make should be spent. I can recognize that if I was the sole provider for a home that I would have very tight purse strings on the household money and possibly be considered financially abusive. That is human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:30 PM
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The (greatest/nicest/best) man is still likely to take advantage if given the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:11 PM
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It means that if put in a position to take advantage a man will. For example, a woman that doesn’t have her own money is less likely to leave if a man cheats and a man would know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:04 PM
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I don’t have kids but I expect I would continue to split the bills the same. I work a salaried position so the same amount of money would be coming in. I only intend to take off the maternity leave that my job provides which would be 4 months. I already work from home and I don’t see that changing in the future. I have no desire to be a stay at home mother. My grandmother who I consider a traditional woman (cooked, cleaned, had 5 kids, married from 18 till the day her husband passed) always said…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:55 PM
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That’s not true. Traditional women have always worked. A woman not working was a privilege of the rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 06:29 PM
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Have you thought of asking bf chatgpt what to bet on?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:08 PM
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Many women are saying her weight loss is concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:07 PM
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Are you talking about any man commenting on dating spaces? I would guess most men on ppd who want a traditional woman don’t want that because they want a woman to rely on them. If you are talking about red pill influencers, their motivation is money.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:59 PM
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I don’t see what being in the manosphere or being a passport bro has anything to do with it. These men saying they want a traditional relationship, I don’t see them saying they want a stay at home wife. So the conclusion you’ve come to that they want a woman who can’t leave seems false.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:53 PM
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I actually don’t think so. I think that most men who say they want a traditional woman, want a woman who makes them feel like they are the leader in the relationship. The unfortunate thing is that a lot of men seem unable to do enough to make their woman feel comfortable enough to relax and let him lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:40 PM
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Not really. My bf enjoys it, but only certain skits.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:20 PM
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It’s not being paid for that. This individual lost their passport and had to get another.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:40 PM
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It isn’t performative when she will ultimately experience life through the lens of a black individual. People who don’t know this woman will view her and treat her how they would treat other black people. Thats the real reason I would have no issue calling her black, because she’s taken significant steps to actually live the perceptive of the identity she claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:39 PM
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If a white individual turned themself black I would recognize them as black. For example, I would have no issue recognizing this woman as a black woman https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martina_Big
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:18 PM
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It’s my own. But just because someone chooses otherwise doesn’t mean we have to abide by their choice. If a white individual asked you to recognize that they are black despite having no black lineage you would not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:07 PM
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I never said anything about clothes. Someone can be wearing a dress and still look and be a man. In the majority of cases sex often does match visual representation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:06 PM
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Yes, visually the person in the post I linked looks like a woman. It’s more confusing imo to put their biological sex when they look nothing like it. What other things is it used for besides identifying someone visually? Edit: I’m not trying to imply anything. I’m literally stating an opinion clearly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:55 PM
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Why would I address a man, who looks like a man, as a woman? I’m a quarter Indian. Most people who dont live in diverse environments immediately assume I’m fully black, I’m half. I don’t demand that people recognize my Indian side. I recognize that I don’t look Indian and it’s silly to make emphasis of that to complete strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:53 PM
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Lily Tino looks like a man and should be address as such until he takes the necessary steps to look like a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:45 PM
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In terms of the context of the video they changed her passport to male. She looks like a woman, sounds like a woman. I would think it’s more confusing for someone who has to look at her passport in the airport to see M for male. Biological gender should definitely be acknowledged in sports. But in this context it seems useless to acknowledge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:44 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Fauxmoi/s/RHbXsEUkIQ I do think if someone looks like a woman and wants to be called a woman we should oblige. This individual has taken the steps to be called a female.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:39 PM
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My man is a natural financial provider. I moved less than 2 months after meeting him and he surprised me at ny apartment with dishes. We were serious for a while and he would still buy groceries for me. He’s paid my rent in the past, pays for things for my business, pays for things with my car. He comes from a background where women often don’t have the best jobs and men are just expect to cover a lot of the cost so for him this is just the norm of being a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:06 PM
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Give her an inaccurate view of men and dating, make her unnecessarily distrust of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:59 PM
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Finding this place at 18 is not great.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:15 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Christianmarriage/s/BnmyPFJyCL Q4All: do you think shorter men struggle to get women to submit?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 02:02 PM
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Being a surrogate vs raising a child as your own are two completely different things. The government does not recognize blood. It recognizes who is on the birth certificate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:02 PM
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She’s using a google pixel and in portrait mode. If you’re looking for a good camera it’s way better than Apple.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:45 PM
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It’s my parents 26 anniversary today and my mom did a tea for her and my dad, so cute: https://imgur.com/a/s8Vnyiw
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:19 PM
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Men this is the type of woman to avoid ^
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:24 PM
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It’s not degrading for someone to figure out if there is chemistry before investing in someone. You arnt proving yourself, both of you are figuring out if there is a possibility of a future. Why should a man invest in a woman or anything at all before knowing if it’s worth it? That’s not how anyone with common sense operates in regards to anything in life. Unless you are upper middle class, which most people are not, it shows a lack of financial intelligence to spend 200 on a first date. A man d…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:47 PM
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I think ENM is more popular nowadays because of people’s fear of missing out. Not because people naturally gravitate to being in a relationship with more than one person. I am fulfilled sexually and emotionally with my one person so I don’t see why I would need another.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:57 PM
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I don’t think so. I think it’s definitely what the initial message/messages are. But as I mentioned in another comment, if a woman have mutuals with someone I feel like she’s automatically going to be more open to getting to know you vs you being a complete stranger in her head.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:17 PM
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Yes the first scenario is what I was thinking of. If you have mutuals with someone, they are more inclined to give you time vs a complete stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:55 PM
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I have a friend whose relationship started in a similar way. Her family and her bfs family were acquaintances that were at the same wedding. They are Indian and it would have been inappropriate to approach her in front of her family. Her now husband, found her ig after the wedding, and started talking to her that way. My first interaction with my bf was also through Instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:54 PM
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Something I don’t see mentioned a lot here, sliding into someone’s DMs might be the best way to go about partnering up. I believe the stats show that most people are now pairing up from meeting online. But people also say that online doesn’t equate to online dating. Meaning that a good chunk of couples must be pairing up via social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:34 PM
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I’ve actually taken personality test where I’ll switch from extrovert to introvert on the results but it’s always between 50-60% in one direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:33 PM
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After 8 weeks on the bench at the consulting firm I work for, I finally have another client. Ngl it’s been great to get paid to lay around and do nothing, this was my first time on the bench in 2 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:31 PM
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Most of them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:54 AM
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Yes she looks soft. Like If I saw her walking down the street I would never think, “that woman has been in multiple gangbangs”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:43 PM
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I expected her to have a more hardened look. I imagine that type of lifestyle just weighing down the body.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:42 PM
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No, she looks soft. I would expect a more hardened look to a woman who lives that lifestyle. Race was not something I thought of.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:41 PM
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Lily Phillips looks nothing like what I would expect a woman of her lifestyle to look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:49 PM
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I did CS and I sat in lecture halls with maybe 90 guys and 10 girls. Got asked out once in 4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:53 AM
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I also hope that I have one girl. If I have a boy I might have to try again. But then if it’s another boy I’m done.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:36 PM
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The country that your ancestors helped create is still here. The pain your ancestors went through isn’t currently occurring to them. I never said a person in third world country deserves less than me. They are free to have the same as me in their country.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:34 PM
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You’re right. I did not word it correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:31 PM
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Actually multiple people understood what I was saying and someone actually commented to you backing up my point about illegals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:27 PM
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Someone who is illegal is an immigrant that just came here. Yes they could be people on visas but becoming an American citizen is not something that happens overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:24 PM
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I should have said illegal immigrant. I assumed that was understood when I said an immigrant that just came here. There is nothing we can do about legal citizens. I am talking about people who are against deportation and believe that people who are not here legally have equal right to be here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:17 PM
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I don’t think they are our business. We can’t support everyone. Legal Americans need to be priority before we give charity to anyone else. I am not a huge fan of getting rid of student debt. But I would much prefer to see our government money go to that before it goes to support people who arnt here legally.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:14 PM
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Illegal immigrants who are here came here of their own accord and chose to stay in a country unlawfully. That’s their choice. No one forced them to do that. Also there are people who have just come to this country illegally and they havent even given anything back at all to the country. Yet people think they have a right to be here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:12 PM
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It looks like understanding that if you are an American especially several generations that you have a right to the country. I didn’t say to implement anything. I just see people of all races who think people here who arnt even here legally have an equal right to the country. That’s a dumb thing for them to have told themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:10 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:08 PM
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Are you talking about immigrants that are not legal citizens like people on visa? There are legal citizens that are also immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:56 PM
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Why does someone living here illegally deserve the same opportunities?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:54 PM
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People who come from generations of people who have built this country absolutely do deserve to be first in line to the opportunities that their ancestors created for them. To say America is the land of immigrants as if generations of people haven’t been living here for years is to try and disregard the hard work that people have put in to make this country. And when I say that I’m talking about all races. Imagine being a decedent of slaves, your ancestors literally suffered and died to help cre…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:53 PM
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She’s not interested, she’s trying to bail. Don’t message her, move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:47 PM
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I don’t understand how some Americans have managed to convince themselves that they deserve the same or less opportunities in this country than an immigrant who just came here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:46 PM
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They could be dealing with things mentally or have witnessed things that they are trying to protect you from.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:43 PM
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Maybe they see how the lives they loved negatively impacted them and they are trying to protect you from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:33 PM
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When I grey I can’t see myself embracing my greys. I don’t understand why other women are doing it. Aging themselves for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:10 PM
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I wouldnt expect an engagement in that situation I would just expect to go down to a courthouse and get married. Which is exactly what my parents did. No ring involved, no official engagement, they just went down to the court house and got married. My mom bought herself a band a few years later and my dad has never worn a ring.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:55 PM
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I don’t think I’ll be doing it but I do think it’s a good idea for people to opt out of social media. Especially young people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:54 PM
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Giving money to someone is a form of physical intimacy. The woman is sharing her need and the man is choosing to help her. That requires closeness. Also the definition of mutually beneficial is “When two people or groups work together to achieve a shared goal”. If a man’s goal is for the woman he is with to be comfortable and her goal is to be comfortable then him giving her money is mutually beneficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 02:07 AM
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Eh it’s easy to criticize when you’ve contributed nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:25 AM
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What tangible thing is sex providing?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:25 PM
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Sex literally produces an emotion. What is the tangible benefit of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:02 PM
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I never said sex didn’t pleasure both parties
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:00 PM
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Many men take joy is providing for their partner financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 10:31 PM
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Yes I understand that, aside from the therapy isnt gender affirming care elective surgeries? I sounds like this is something that he should be against. I also don’t get what thought process is compelling a bishop to plead for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:26 PM
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Does he persecute them? Saying they are two genders I would say is far from persecuting someone. I think it’s a little weird a bishop would advocate for that. I was trying to figure out if it was more to it than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:11 PM
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I don’t get the bishop asking trump to show mercy. What does she want him to do? Especially asking for mercy for lgbt community. Like what’s going on that he needs to show mercy about?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:06 PM
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There are women who think a man is commitment worth because of the facade he puts up. The definition of being mentions the use of manipulation for an individual to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:29 PM
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Raye’s entire album is fantastic. Highly suggest it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:03 PM
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Yea it was weird. His face was weird. The whole things was awkward. I feel second hand embarrassment for him just watching it. These celebrities just live in a reality that we cannot relate to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:01 PM
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As someone who prefers trump and probably any republican candidate over a democrat at this point, I will also say I am disappointed with Elon involvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:00 PM
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Didn’t watch the inauguration and any info I have from it is from Reddit. Whats I’ve seen being discussed, Carrie underwood performance and Elon musk. the Elon musk thing was very weird and cringe. Someone said he’s trying to be a rebellious teenager and I have to agree, embarrassing. Carrie underwoods technical difficulties were unfortunate but she sang beautifully. I guess people on Reddit don’t want to highlight that because videos keep cutting the performance short and not actually showing u…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:55 PM
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Ok? What evidence is there that men are more ok with being cheated on now than in the past? Edit: are you saying it’s 50/50 and women are just a likely to leave now due to infidelity?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:53 PM
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I do believe men are less likely to leave for other reasons. I think that is mainly because men are attacked more for leaving a marriage. They are seen as abandoning their family even if they intend to still be an active father. Women are given the option to pursue their happiness. Men are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:51 PM
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Men are more likely to leave if their wife cheats. “61% of men who cheated are still married, while 34% are separated or divorced. But only 44% of women who have cheated are still married, and 47% are divorced or separated.” I think that makes sense. It’s the same way men here view n count on a woman differently than on a man. A woman having sex is seen as a bigger deal than a man having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:33 PM
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There’s a lot of “pious” men who cheat. My grandfather also cheated on my grandmother their whole marriage and he was a pastor. I would say the two big indicators to if infidelity will occur in your marriage is social status/money. My uncle is grotesque but he’s a head doctor in a hospital and makes enough to support multiple families. From what I know most of his mistresses (if not all) have been financially desperate. But in my opinion it would be silly for a single woman to reject a man becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:26 PM
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Both the average man and the average woman is going to end up struggling financially after a divorce especially if kids are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:19 PM
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I think I fall into the 50/50 category. There are things you listed that I just don’t care to deal with. I like him driving, I like to pick dinner. I like him dealing with the house stuff. Funny enough both me and my bf have businesses and I hate to deal with anything with my business and often have him handle it and he doesn’t enjoy dealing with things in his business but I enjoy it. So we are often making decisions for one another’s business.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:18 PM
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Most people don’t have the patience to wait for an individual for months and months and I say that as a woman. I’m not going to go six months without having sex because a man is vetting me that long.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:13 PM
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And what’s stopping a man from just agreeing in order to get what they want?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:12 PM
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I’ve always understood why people would stay in marriages with infidelity, especially women. It’s hard to be a single mom, hard to split bills and possibly struggle, depending on culture a broken family is looked down upon , etc. And for awhile I was like I get it, if it happened to me and I was married I would consider staying. But it’s hit me, it’s such a waste to give your life to an individual who repeatedly shows you they don’t love and respect you. My aunt stayed with my uncle for 35 years…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:10 PM
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I mean there are men and women who will put up a lie for a while. It’s also easier to do in today’s age when people arnt meeting others through third groups and are predominantly meeting online where the main form of communication is texting. You can be concerned about being used, take precautions and still be used. Also in another comment you mentioned after one month is a better time to have sex. There are people here who will say that’s still early. Unless you’re waiting several months. which…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:56 PM
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Both are being used. No one is being stolen from. It’s the same thing, which is why that’s the example I used to compare it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:33 PM
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I never said anyone was entitled to a relationship. You arnt entitled to a relationship and you can be used for sex. Both can be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:21 PM
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If a man willing chooses to give a woman his money how is that stealing?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:20 PM
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Dinner is a mutually enjoyable act.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:18 PM
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Or it could means that sex isn’t something trivial for some women, which is why the guy had to lie about his intentions to get sex in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:17 PM
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The discussion is not about if it’s right or wrong that someone is being used. It’s just about how it occurs. OP is claiming that being used for sex basically doesn’t happen. If a man enjoys the date why would it matter that the woman lied to him just to get a free meal? Maybe because people go into interactions expecting a certain outcome and it’s disappointing when you were deceived about what that outcome would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:16 PM
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I didn’t say that at all. Being used as nothing to do with regret. I actually said nothing about regret so I don’t know where you’re getting that from.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:12 PM
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I did not use the word consent as if to imply assault, that is literally the actual definition from google. Consent in this regard just means that you may not have agreed had you known the truth. You can recognize that someone used you and you can also recognize you made poor decisions/judgement. Both things can be true at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:40 AM
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When someone is using someone they are aware of their intentions. If you had a genuine interest and then lost interest then no that isn’t using someone. However, there are women who go on dates just for the free meal and are well aware that they have no interest in the guy. Those women are using the men for free meals.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:01 AM
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From Google: “Being used” means someone is taking advantage of you for their own benefit, often without your full understanding or consent. It can also mean someone is manipulating you in some way. If a woman pretends to like a man just to get his money then he is being used for his money. Because he is under the belief the she genuinely likes him but the reality is that she is being manipulative for her benefit. Had she been honest there’s a chance he would not give her any money. The same thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:16 AM
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Two days ago people were crying about how much tik tok was a necessity and how it will increase unemployment by over a million by banning it. Now that trump supports it they don’t want it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:06 PM
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No this is for aesthetic reasons. I am physically healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:01 PM
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I started at close to 143lb, goal is 120lb. I’ve done a similar cut before with a bodybuilding coach. I went from 140lb to 116lb. I was lean but had muscle definition. I’m doing this without a coach this time but I’m following a similar diet because I want a similar look. Hopefully there’s more muscle this time around.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 05:44 PM
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Lost about 3lb this past week. Diet and workout is gonna stay the same. But I’m going to up my steps to 9k a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 05:27 PM
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I mean women can also do this as well. If people work hard for their stuff they are entitled to it and they have a right to take whatever avenues there are to protect their assets. I have two homes. Legally if I were to get married my husband would be entitled to half of them. I bought these homes as a single woman, why should he be entitled to something I worked hard for long before I knew him?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:43 PM
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Maybe. I think I’m somewhat of an overachiever. I have a plan for my life and obviously my partner is a big part of that. Their mess ups can’t fuck up the plan. And I think maybe I don’t trust my partners to not fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 10:04 PM
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There are multiple aspects of my life that are easier because my bf is in my life. But being with someone does add a stress to my life that wouldn’t be there if I was single. The issue is more on my end, I take on the stresses that my partner deals with. I have this issue with everyone I end up in a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 09:49 PM
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Women only nightclubs arnt a thing because the genders enjoy being around one another. Women want to be around men. Men want to be around women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:45 PM
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For me it was sunk cost. I think I convinced myself that even though was unhappy there was no better situation. I would either be alone and unhappy or with someone worse and unhappy. Sometimes you can’t see beyond your own misery and visualize a better future. The reality is that being alone is better than being with someone you’re unhappy with. But I didn’t realize it at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:15 PM
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Looking back at my past relationship, a big reason I stayed in it as long as I did was because I was afraid of being alone. That’s probably one of the biggest reason couples don’t that need to breakup stay together, especially unmarried couples. What a dumb reason to attach yourself to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 10:26 PM
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Children do look like both parents. Many men who never did a paternity test know for a fact it’s their child because the child looks like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:24 PM
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I have never witnessed this in any church I’ve been to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 03:42 AM
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Pregnancy is avoidable when having sex. If it wasn’t then the average American household wouldn’t have less than 2 kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 06:28 PM
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I can understand becoming a single mom out of wedlock once. But how do you make that decision multiple times especially with different men? Don’t they think about the current child they have and how that could impact that child’s quality of living?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 04:33 PM
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I don’t have kids but If I did I would probably beat them if they were acting up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:44 PM
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Yes men who are assertive in the workplace do not face the consequences and judgment that women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:06 PM
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No i didn’t. The very next sentence shows I’m speaking about a professional setting. That being said I’ve just googled femicide rates and its alarming.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:16 PM
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Why are you discussing violence against any individual? The post is about taking initiative. OP brought up how in the workspace he doesn’t see women doing that. I explained why that’s the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:03 PM
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Women often face harsher consequences/judgment for speaking up. In a professional setting a man being assertive is a good thing, a woman being assertive is her being a nag/bitch/difficult/etc. You’ve also brought women not taking initiative in dating but why would they? Gender roles are still normalized in our society. Taking initiative means to be the first one to do something, esp. to solve a problem. Women do take initiative in various areas of life. I would argue that in regard to the home/f…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 09:38 PM
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I got my bf into 90 day fiancé and he watches it like he watches ufc, every 5 minutes he’s screaming at the tv. It’s so funny
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:08 PM
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How would a man know this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:57 PM
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My partner (a man) actually has the same perspective as you, that you’re getting off to someone that’s not your partner and that is a betrayal to the relationship. I understand that perspective from a man looking at it. For me as a woman, I don’t feel like I’m getting off to someone in the video, I’m getting off to the actions in the video. Nevertheless, we have decided that neither of us will look at porn. I think each relationship has to set the rules that work for them. If porn is a deal brea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:54 PM
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As someone in tech I can assure you diversity quotas are not making any impact on men acquiring jobs. The average man is still financially better off than the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:42 PM
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Lmaoo what man wrote this post
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:33 PM
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The average man works 3 hours more than the average woman. So if he uses the money of those 3 hours to date, he has equally opportunity to invest as women. So why arnt men also millionaires by their 30s?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:02 AM
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Women still have bills to pay. Also are you saying that men spend so much on dating that they can’t invest?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:45 PM
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I’m not understanding the math on how you spent that much on dating. Also if that money is distributed amongst multiple women how would any one woman become a millionaire from just letting men court her?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:41 PM
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I don’t think my life would be as good as a man. Everything I’ve accomplished as a woman I would have accomplished as a man. There’s nothing I can think of that I don’t have because I’m a woman. I do think that if I was a man I would want a similar woman to who I currently am and idk how easy that would be to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:38 PM
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I am confused by your responses I was looking for clarity. Women making the same money as men doing the same role seems very relevant to me. That alone shows that the wage gap is a myth. However in this comment you seem to be saying that that is not relevant and it’s just amount men making more money in general: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/zjLl5ujsmV
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:34 PM
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From the comment I responded to you are literally saying the wage gap has to do with the difference in general. And women making the same in the same role is irrelevant so in a bit confused by your response.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:30 PM
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No it isn’t. Different roles make different money that is common sense. No one expects a McDonald employee to make the same as an engineer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 05:25 PM
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From what I recall it exist in two fields tech (the field I’m in) and medical field. The discrepancy in tech is 4% which after tax you’re possibly talking about as low as a 200 dollar difference. That gap exist because in these field women have to advocate for their own salary and women are less likely to do that. I can check my numbers it’s been a little bit of time since I looked at the study. The wage gap btw is the idea that a woman working the same position as a man is paid significantly le…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:01 PM
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If it’s gets mixed into with maternity leave it shouldn’t. Those are two separate topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:23 PM
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The wage gap is a myth pushed by liberals. It doesn’t exist and in the couple of fields where a difference can be seen it is very small.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:03 PM
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It’s literally the same topics as ppd.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 04:24 AM
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Talking shit about women watching a show that covers gender dynamics while you’re on a sub to talk about gender dynamics 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:36 AM
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If there is anything 90 day fiancé has taught me is both men and women will make dumb decisions if the person they are pursuing is very attractive to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 01:38 AM
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It’s ethical and I wouldn’t feel betrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 12:58 AM
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But if all they are improving are the things you listed they are still regular men. So they should have regular standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:45 PM
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I don’t know why you are discussing high value men. According to your OP, women have standards that a regular man can meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:39 PM
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If the minimum requirement of that man is that the woman stays young forever then no. But then your argument should be that men should lower their standards not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:26 PM
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Nothing you mentioned has anything to do with a man being high value. Being physically fit, emotionally strong, emotionally stimulating are basic things that everyone should be working on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:19 PM
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Imagine saying that it’s normal for men to have the standard that women stop aging. But it’s a high standard for a woman to expect the man she’s with to be emotionally stimulating. Sir did you read this after you typed it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:22 PM
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Your request is really weirdly specific. The thing that really stands out as werid to me is sitting in a room and not talking. I would assume a couple that has nothing to say to one another probably doesn’t like each other. I probably fit your description had you not said the talking part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:45 PM
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Women arnt complaining that men make more money or have prestigious jobs. They are complaining that the expectations and rewards of men and women in the same positions are different. A prostitute still has the right to their body. The amount of men a woman has slept with is not relevant when discussing consent to her body. She is still allowed to say that she doesn’t want a particular man to touch her. How is the family court system set up? Only about 10 percent of women receive alimony. Is your…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 05:07 PM
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I actually think women would have a harder dating experience especially if kids were involved, given that a step father is probably more forced to be active in a step child life than a step mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:51 PM
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Yes, that’s the discussion at hand and I’ve stated the reasons I think that is. Someone can be disregarding their vows and also not initiating divorce. Filing paperwork is not step one in marriage vows being abandoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 12:43 PM
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I don’t think it has anything to do with abiding by their vows. I think it’s a mix of what I said and also someone mentioned men being afraid of divorce court (forgot to add that into my initial comment).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:17 AM
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I think that is another reason I forgot. I don’t think it boils down to that alone. Definitely a mix of what I mentioned along with what you mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:15 AM
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Oh no it has nothing to do with men valuing their word and everything to do with what I said. Also someone mentioned that men being afraid of divorce court is also a factor I forgot about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:14 AM
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I mean I guess not. Why would it be problematic. People get out of contracts all the time. Btw I don’t believe honoring vows has anything to do with why men are less likely to file first.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 02:01 AM
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I think that women have a lower threshold of being able to stay in relationships that they are unhappy with. It’s also possible that maybe they are less likely to seek gratification elsewhere and instead focus on leaving the relationship that makes them unhappy. My logic behind that is that relationships between gay men have the highest levels of infidelity. They are the only group (male/male, female/male, female/female) where a majority percentage of relationships experience infidelity. This su…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 12:42 AM
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Most people’s offer transactional love. The only dynamic that probably has a majority percentage of people who don’t offer transactional love is the love that a parent has for a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:30 PM
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Lol my place in society? Someone referring to you using your husband’s name because that’s the norm is an attempt to erase your personhood? I have had no issue explaining my logic but the minute yours is questioned you turn to personal attacks. Sir you know nothing about me and it’s pretty clear that you’re at a loss for how to try and defend this nonsense so have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:28 PM
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What is she taking? There nothing that’s been done against her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:05 PM
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Someone sending a letter that refers to a married couple as a common way to refer to married couples isn’t forcing anything on them. If your wife was this bothered by someone referring to her as your wife you probably should be a bit concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 07:24 PM
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People arnt going to have a blaring sign that show contempt for their partners. It’s the small things like this. When you marry someone you become one. Why would you be this upset that someone is making a reference to you in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 07:04 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/go7nQUDxXt So many people secretly hate their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:50 PM
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Generic baddie pretty much goes hand in hand. Baddie is a certain look, which Megan currently has alongside with many other women on Instagram. Imo I don’t think she stand out anymore. Young Megan fox had a unique sultry look. To be fair I think even that version of Megan had work done but her work has become too extreme and replicates too much of what other women are getting done.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:14 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/trueratecelebrities/s/BQ4v2T4TGH Angelina in her 30s is stunning and by no means a generic beauty. She’s more than 10 years older than Megan so comparing them currently isn’t really fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:43 PM
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Baddies are hot. She wasn’t saying she wasn’t hot. But she’s hot in the same way that a lot of women who have money and have a high following on Instagram are hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:27 PM
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My thoughts are exactly what you stated. She was being set up to be the next Angelina Jolie but she messed it up with all the fake work done.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:25 PM
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The nature of marriages is not to end. A majority percentage of first marriages stay together.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:55 PM
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But I would say all the topics you’ve listed are similar to top free advocacy. They are ideas that haven’t gotten very far. Unlike top free advocacy I wouldn’t say these ideas are being advocated for in mainstream spaces so OPs claim that they are taking criticism and yet standing my their ideas I would say doesn’t really apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 03:25 AM
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What are these deeply unpopular ideas that men advocate for? I disagree with the reasoning behind why movements fail that women take up. I would say the real reason is that not enough women are behind it. For example you brought up a cause “top free advocacy” that i as a woman do not care about. I think where you are likely to see change is on ideas that are supported significantly by both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:58 PM
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Who are you saying can’t substantiate the claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 02:22 PM
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So my point stands that it’s fairly common for long term couples to grow distant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 05:10 AM
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What percentage has to do with multiple marriages? Even if the percentage is 40 percent for the divorce rate, there’s most likely higher than 10 percent of married couples who choose not to divorce simply because they don’t believe in it. Meaning the percentage of marriages that fail are still a majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:01 PM
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I don’t think looks out weigh it. But money probably does. Financial instability is the number one reason for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:23 PM
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I don’t think many people go into marriage expecting to become distant from their partner but I definitely think it’s the norm. 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and theres a percentage that stay together simply because they don’t believe in divorce. With those numbers it means that most marriages ultimately fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:22 PM
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Being married to someone you don’t want to hang out with I would say is the norm for most married couples eventually. That shouldn’t be something hard to imagine. When people start out they have stuff to talk about because they don’t know one another. As the relationship progresses and your life becomes intertwined you have those things to talk about. People who don’t enjoy one another’s company from the very start except for sex don’t end up in long term relationships with one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 02:48 PM
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Depending on how much status and money is apart of the equation I would say it works. It’s pretty easy to read about men cheating on their wives and their wives staying because of the money their husbands make. There’s a lot of couples who end up having nothing to talk about even the ones who didn’t chase money or status. People becoming distant from their partner is fairly the normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 02:04 PM
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The individual I was responding to was claiming that people without partners gain intimacy through watching porn. What you are saying is something completely different. You are having a shared experience with your partner and your intimacy is with your partner. Your response does not explain what the other individual was saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 01:41 AM
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I’ve seen lots of claims about how/why porn is harmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:35 PM
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I never argued that porn should be illegal. How does someone garner intimacy from porn? I don’t gain intimacy from watching a movie. Also release can be attained without viewing porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:04 PM
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What is the benefit of porn? If someone is against porn how does that correlate with being weak or insecure? This post is trying to normalize sex work but doesn’t do anything to tell us why it should be normalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 01:55 PM
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There are literally parents who sell their children for drugs…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:40 PM
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I’m confused by the argument. How does me picking my own partner remove security? What does a 16 year old with clear trauma and issues ending up with a predator have to do with liberty?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:38 PM
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B.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:58 PM
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I think when the women are very young it often is about being predatory. A 35 year old man can find a woman in her late 20s that looks youthful. Going after an 18 year old has nothing to do with looking for youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:06 PM
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What I’ve seen referenced on here is that women prefer men 1-3 years older than them. The large age gaps that are often are referenced on PPD are not common and from my understanding chances of divorce increase the larger the age gap. The people with age gap relationships often criticize men who go after women in their late teens/early twenties. These women don’t have life experience and so it is easier to prey on them. I say that as a woman who was an age gap relationship at 19. My ex was 7 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:53 PM
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No. I gave an example of an unnecessary change I, as a woman, could make.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:48 PM
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My point being that if your interested in a successful relationship, your partners opinion will matter to you. A large part of attraction is physical. Someone can be a good partner and not be attracted to their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:46 PM
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Men get upset by this too. I’m pretty sure if I cut my hair off into a bob my bf would be upset. Kind of weird to make unnecessary changes that would make your partner less attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:31 PM
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My bf loves ufc and every time I watch it with him and see these men rolling around with one another I think to myself “this is a little gay”. So I’m going to say yes, masculinity is kinda gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:09 PM
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The last time I was single, what matter to me in a long term relationship was a partner that was Christian. I had dated a man I deemed an atheist once and I determined that was an absolute no go. I thought any religious man would be ok but when I dated a Muslim man the idea of my children becoming Muslim and not Christian repulsed me. It was important to me that they were ambitious and had a way of paying significant bills. I have no issue going 50/50 or as close to it as possible with a partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:51 PM
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I don’t have countless men vying for my friendship. Probably the only characteristic that would turn me off in a friend is a man that is abusive to people. But I don’t look for certain things to say “yes now this guy can be my friend”. I have one close male friend and the friendship bloomed naturally. We met at work and were assigned on a project together. We got along well, maybe that’s because we were the only two people in the job for a particular town. We chit chatted a lot and it’s bloomed …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:15 PM
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Yes I’m doing it for myself. I have insecurities my skin is not perfect. I prefer to not walk around and wonder if someone is looking at me because of my acne marks. I don’t really understand how this concept is hard for some men to grasp. Do you guys not groom yourselfs?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:58 PM
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I would say my bf has some redpill views. He believes money is a pretty big factor in who women choose to be with. He believes women who are overly showing their skin are looking for attention. He believes that many women who are so upset about abortion laws are upset because they want sleep around and then use abortion as a means of birth control. He came to his views largely on his own. The only redpill content he’s ever watched was probably a little bit of Andrew Tate and he felt like they sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:57 PM
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I don’t care how much a guy makes exactly but I care if about if he would able to pull his weight financially if we were to live together. I don’t care how much a guy spends on a date. Both me and my bf eat out a lot but at local spots, we also don’t drink. Our bill is typically under 100. I think it’s crazy that people are doing dates that are 200+ dollars. When in a relationship I have no issue spending on my guy, and I have no issue going 50/50 on bills. I do like when a guy makes the effort …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:51 PM
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I think if a man wants sex within the first 6-8 weeks of a relationship that’s a realistic expectation. But I don’t see how they can communicate that without it seeming to only be about sex. I can see a man not having that conversation not because he’s trying to con or shame a woman, but because it’s overall a difficult convo to have with someone you don’t really know.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:41 PM
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If they have those conversations early on they will kill all their relationships prospects. If a guy i barely knew was telling me about his sex expectations, I’m going to immediately think he’s only interested in sex and not even bother to meet him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 07:58 PM
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Fildelity is not conditional. Someone is going to either give it or not. A similar amount of men and women will get cheated on. And the men and women who cheat are still in a minority group.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 03:14 PM
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So what is the difference between you and someone born with testicles? Do you suffer from ED? Are you able to have children one day? I think those would be the first questions out of my mouth if I was told this by a guy. I wouldn’t look at him any differently, I would just wonder how it would affect our relationship long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:36 AM
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As a woman whose also into fitness I can get the annoyance. Often times the influencers that are being pushed by the algorithm are naturally skinny women who are just trying to show their ass for attention. I don’t see the same reactions to women who are into bodybuilding. But those women usually don’t but a camera under their ass when they are trying to show what they do on back day.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:33 PM
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Most men do offer this. The majority of men in heterosexual relationships don’t cheat. And cheating statistically is about the same for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 08:57 PM
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If you are going to characterize someone as submissive then obviously you lead the question is your favor. Would you assume a dominant man is into role playing sexual assaulting women? Cause that what the OP is claiming.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:24 PM
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Being a good guy has nothing to do with if you’ve allowed porn to affect your brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:07 PM
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A man can be dominant in bed without participating in the kinks that OP is discussing. Also OP is claiming that good guys have a moral issue with these kinks so they treat women in general different because of their moral views. I would say that is incorrect seeing as though those are fairly common kinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:05 PM
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If a guy is into CNC or not is not an indication of is he’s a good guy. He’s just not into that. If he has a moral dilemma with it that I would say is on him. Most “good guys” have no moral dilemma. Porn has done a pretty good job of normalizing the kinks your discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 06:57 PM
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Impact in what way? On a day to day basis based on how people interact you are able to determine what sexual kinks they have?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 06:51 PM
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I know multiple men who consider themselves a “good guy” simply because they won’t cheat. That’s literally the bare minimum you can offer in a relationship. And most of the time the reason they won’t cheat is because they would struggle to find another woman who wants to sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:31 PM
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I think that a lot of your post is bringing in topics that are irrelevant and that’s where my confusion/issue is. You can say “nice guys” struggle with dating because they do not execute their actions with confidence. And maybe I could agree with that. But “nice guys” have no moral dilemma with CNC, they have no issue with domination. They don’t have a stronger moral framework than “chad” or the “bad guys”. Most of the “nice guys” I’ve met are not respectful, gentle, or considerate of women’s fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:29 PM
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Own them in what way? Most people are not demonstrating their kinks publicly. Also when I say that someone’s personality outside of the bedroom doesn’t determine what kinks they are into that also goes for “Chad” or the “bad guy”. These men are not guaranteed to be into the kinks you’re discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:14 PM
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I disagree with this take completely. The kinks you are describing are common from my knowledge. I don’t equate a nice guy with not having those kinks. I actually think someone’s personality outside of the bedroom has little reflection on what they would be into sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:53 PM
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Femininity is defined by a set of characteristics. So is masculinity. It’s not something vague that is subjective. If a woman demonstrates multiple masculine characteristics such as being assertive, aggressive, stoic, self reliant, dominant, etc. I would consider her masculine. I think it’s normal for a woman to have one or two characteristics that are masculine. But more than that and I would probably consider them a masculine woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:28 PM
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I agree with this take. I don’t personally believe it’s a gender issue. I think it’s just a people issue. A lot of people don’t care about their partner. the way they expect their partner to care about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:59 AM
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Chase
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 12:24 AM
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I expect this would be a deal breaker for most women and that it would lead to either the man agreeing to not move forward with it or divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:06 PM
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But you agree that she has to first be informed before you have sex with the other woman correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:07 PM
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There are couples who encounter this issue and choose to open their relationship. That’s perfectly fine. Seeking outside of the relationship without your partners consent would be an issue. No one is obligated to stay celibate and if someone feels their partner is trying to force celibacy on them they should come to a solution with their partner or terminate the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:05 PM
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I wouldn’t date a man my family wouldn’t approve of. I did it once, fought with my family throughout the whole relationship. When we broke up I regretted fighting with the people that have been by my side consistently over a man. Income, college education, religious background, whether or not he has kids are all things my parents would care about. Physical appearance is not something my family would care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 01:20 PM
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His money doesn’t belong to him? I think I’m pretty well off financially. I dont believe money buys you happiness. But I think it gives you opportunities to achieve happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:18 PM
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The stats are werid. I think the claim is that over 60 percent of young adults now meet online. But as lift mentioned i think online could mean multiple things aside from apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:17 PM
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When I came back recently from my PPD hiatus someone in the mega thread mentioned that’s there’s a woman whose very active on PPD but doesn’t come into the mega thread and he’s happy about that. After hanging out here for a little bit recently, I now realize who he’s talking about. And I’m also happy she doesn’t come in the megathread.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:15 PM
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If he is unhappy with how she’s acting i would advise him to leave. Even if he were to manage to change her, long term it would probably just lead to resentment in her part which would ultimately kill the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 09:13 PM
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Who are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 01:36 PM
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So many generalizations in this post it’s ridiculous. This if often said on this sub, but people do not exist in a monolith. And I say that as a woman who leans more conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:49 PM
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So your intent was the start ANY conversation? Cause the conversations are all pointing out how easy it appears to be a woman dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 11:51 PM
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It didnt. You claiming that those risk exist but then showing a woman who is doesn’t feel like she’s at risk for those things and doesn’t show herself experiencing your claims doesn’t start any conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 02:53 PM
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There are influencers who openly share when they don’t feel sure about dates they went on. Nothing you showed in your OP shows the risks you claim. The woman you posted got into a car with a complete stranger to then go to a spa and where a small bathing suit around him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 01:24 PM
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Not really. If she had unpleasant dates she can reveal that, there’s nothing wrong with sharing her story. But their woman didn’t have that. What larger point still holds? That women get to be treated to nice dates multiples times a week?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 09:20 AM
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If you’re trying to say women don’t have it easy, you picked a pretty bad example to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:15 PM
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This wasn’t the OPs experience and obviously not a worry for her given that she was happy to be picked up from her home for her first date and then taken to an intimate spa where she was in a small bath suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:14 PM
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I think it seems like she enjoyed her dates. All of them were rated 7 or higher which is a pretty good score. If this is most women’s experience dating it seems like they have it pretty good right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:12 PM
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My mom told my dad that she would not be cooking regularly in their relationship. She watched her mom either running after kids, in the kitchen cooking or running out the house to work. That wasn’t the life she wanted for herself. My dad agreed and for pretty much the entirety of my childhood and teenage years my dad would buy food from restaurants that feature cuisine from his home country. He would buy enough for 3/4 days and reup after. It worked for us. There’s no one way to live life succes…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:02 PM
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What bare minimum standards are women accepting?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 12:13 AM
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What standards do women have that you consider low? I would argue women have too high of standards. When I see discourse around expectations for men to pay for $200+ dates, bills for women as if they arnt adults, etc. I find myself wondering if these women are living in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 06:36 PM
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Many woman are not dating with the intention of having children soon or even at all. So why would that have anything to do with how those women are picking men?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 06:34 PM
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Has the way couple interacted with one another sexually changed? Intimacy can dwindle because of kids, emotional needs not being met, busy work schedules, etc. I assume that has always been the case throughout history. Yet people still expected their partners to be faithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 09:27 PM
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Why would I google mobile? Even in the richest areas of America having a six figure salary puts you above average. Edit: If anything all you’re saying is you’re even more exceptional in mobile than you already were in Manhattan.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:13 PM
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The average annual salary in Manhattan is still 80k.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:00 PM
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OP didn’t mention a specific location so why should it be relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 04:45 AM
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What is the redpill logic that explains Arian grande and Ethan slater
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:53 PM
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Congratulations you should be proud of that. It’s impressive. You did something 98 percent of Americans couldn’t do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:51 PM
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Yea he’s either very accomplished and feels like women are getting more praise for the same things he’s done. Or he has accomplished little to nothing and is just a hater.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:44 PM
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Actually it is impressive. If you have managed to keep your weight off while people around you have gotten fatter, you should be proud of that. If you did something 98 percent of other people couldn’t do, you should be proud. Maybe it’s easy to you but it’s not easy the a good majority obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:42 PM
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Men especially young men are sexually abused all the time. But he’s right, people don’t take or seriously what is there really to be done? A woman would immediately recognize her trauma from those incidents because we are taught about female agency in regards to sex. Men are just expected to want it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:34 PM
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Only 18 percent of Americans make six figures. You have done better than the majority of the population if you’re making that amount. Only 38 percent of people over age 25 have a bachelors degree. So being college educated still puts you in minority. The woman you described should be proud of her accomplishments. She’s in a minority of people who accomplished it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:28 PM
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I’m not terribly against it if you’re a woman in your 30s and desperate to be a mom. But it’s definitely a poor decision in your 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 02:12 AM
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I mean most people are getting married with the intent to stay together for the rest of their lives. I consider any relationship whether or not the couple has actually broken up as a failure of they are no longer enjoying the relationship with one another. That’s why I pointed out that there are people still married that fall into the failure category. In that particular case with the macros I think he should leave. I think she should leave. I think they just arnt compatible. Someone might tell …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:15 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/8VVg8qc7zz She was 26 worried about not being able to conceive so she had a baby out of wedlock? Let be real, she thought a baby would get her a ring. Edit: I read stuff like this and it convinces me more to not move in with my man unless we are engaged
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:02 AM
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There’s a post on relationship advice where the couple is fighting because the gf doesn’t want the bf to track his macros when she’s around. That made me write my initial comment. I do disagree though that people who throw in the towel get the short end of the stick. 50 percent of marriages fail and there is a decent portion of marriages that have failed but people just don’t divorce. So the majority of people who have tried to make it work long term ultimately fail. One reason marriages (long t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:58 AM
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When I see early 20s people asking on Reddit if they should leave their partner for some ridiculous thing the answer is always yes. You’re young, the drama isn’t worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:28 AM
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I mean they could pay you then tell you to return the money they over paid you. You’re not entitled to keep money you didn’t work for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:22 AM
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I would say the success of 50 shades of grey shows that a significant amount of women are interested in that or at least like fantasizing about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 12:17 AM
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Yes. I would guess in every long term relationship, people have multiple conversations where someone is like “hey this is an issue for me”. Idk how many people threaten to leave because people don’t feel comfortable giving their partners ultimatums. This is not just a woman issue. One common thing I’ve seen men complain about is not receiving enough sexual intimacy. They voice this concern to their partner and it’s brushed off as not important. A lot of people do not care to make changes that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:07 PM
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I did communicate it. I think in most long term relationships, the issues are communicated to some degree. The partner that is ultimately left often times doesn’t care to fix the issue. Maybe they think it’s not that big of a deal, maybe they got too comfortable, maybe they think their partner is too insecure to actually leave. But often times people do communicate issues and it’s only after they walk away does the other person want to fix things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:42 AM
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I’m hoping for us to live happily ever after, which would be a different outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 09:24 PM
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I’m not doing anything differently except dating a man who genuinely appreciates me vs a man who claims that but his actions show otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 07:09 PM
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What is the alternative?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:32 PM
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Do you get why he doesn’t believe in it for himself either
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:21 PM
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My bf is against watching porn, for both myself and for him. I get his logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:11 PM
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For sure. The past is relevant but I do think most of us live fairly boring lives and don’t have much relevant in our past that would completely throw off a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:01 PM
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Men are free to focus on whatever want. I specified “men on here” because the average man isn’t obsessing over the past of women because he knows most women have pretty normal past.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:00 PM
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The past speaks about what you value. So people should take into consideration things that are important to them. Men on here focus on things that don’t apply to the majority of women. That’s why you guys get the responses you do. Because the past for most people is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:55 PM
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How would I have found that out? If there’s photos or video idk. Depending on the situation I’m not sure if that’s something I could move past. But then again my bf did something similar to onlyfans back in the day and that didn’t bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:50 PM
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Was just thinking this when I had server issues this morning. Reddit is the only social media platform that I consistently experience glitches with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:48 PM
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Well if that’s something he’s into, I’m not into it. So already there’s a sexual incompatibility. Even if it was something his gf was interested in. A man I’m interested in, wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:47 PM
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Is this actually what happened? I was confused on on if it’s an accusation he denying or if he actually had sex with the girl. Also charges were never brought against him right? I feel like the way it’s been presented would lead people to think charges were brought against him and he was acquitted.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:46 PM
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Yes I break up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:44 PM
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How long were they together? For short term relationships, I think people initially are infatuated and when the dust settles maybe they realize they don’t actually have anything in common with the person they are dating. This has happened to me. For long term relationships. I think unmet needs and growing resentment can lead people to falling out of love. This has also happened to me and overall I think it’s fairly common thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:43 PM
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I haven’t lost anymore weight in the last two weeks. I want to switch up what I’m doing in the gym. I’m bored and cardio is tiring
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 01:59 PM
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What do you mean its easier for single moms to pull it off?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:46 PM
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I have one friend who deletes Instagram every few weeks because she gets so jealous seeing couples, and engagements and people starting families. She’s open about it to us on why she will delete the app and it’s something she’s working on. To be fair to her, for the 15+ years I’ve known her she’s always dreamed of being a wife and mother. Her fiancé unfortunately passed away two years ago. I don’t really have that experience. I figure I am who I am, my life is what it is. There’s not much I can …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:44 PM
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That girl doesn’t have that experience. She’s either turning down men because of commitment issues or standards are too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:40 PM
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What do you prefer to spend money on?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:36 PM
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Yes that is what I see that a lot of them have shirty husbands. And they normalize these type of men and toxic relationships to their daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:33 PM
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Also remember every household doesn’t have the same chores. Most of my childhood we bought food to eat. My mom was pretty clear that she wasn’t going to be doing daily cooking. Even now in her retirement she doesn’t do it. My father would buy food from restaurants that would last us 3/4 days. I was also a latch key kid and walked to school since elementary. Ultimately this comes down to communication with your partner. I know a ton of traditional women who worked. My grandmother cooked for her f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 03:04 PM
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People take turns. Also something to remember is everyone isn’t working a traditional 9 to 5. So one partners schedule might allow them to easily drop the baby to day care, pick them up, stay up later, etc. People also lean on their support system. I have no doubt that when/if I have kids my mom will be a massive help in taking care of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 02:20 PM
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The kids of SAHMs in my family especially the girls ended up as low self esteem women with little ambition. And I get it. These SAHMs are more likely to face abuse to some degree that they have to stay in due to financial dependency. They set poor examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 02:04 PM
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I think something important to distinguish is, does your partner do something that they are asking you not to do. He doesn’t want you to have instagram but he has it. You can’t hang out with people of the opposite gender but he does it. That’s all control in my opinion. Even then, If you’re being asking to do something and you don’t want to then you can leave. Too many people waste time with someone trying to force a relationship that has clear incompatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 01:16 PM
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They want to get married, women are not being forced to get married. Women value marriage. They don’t value it only if it’s with the top percent of men. They value it with the majority of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 03:04 PM
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Men will have social power with women who want a decent life. Women on welfare shouldn’t even be a concern for decent men. Men should already see that woman as too low quality to consider. The issue is a majority of men are considering all women as viable candidates for longterm relationships. They are not setting high standards for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 03:00 PM
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No women are marrying all types of men. They eventually settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 02:51 PM
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Women still want to get married. You can maybe argue if you like that women want top percent for casual sex but women do want long term relationships. If that is off the table if they have nothing to offer they will change. I’m just talking about the dating market, that is what the OP is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:41 PM
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Men are half the population. If a good portion of men choose to act a certain way, society will be forced to adjust and appease them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:55 AM
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Oh ok. Your post seemed like you were saying society on a whole needs to hold women to a higher standard but i think overall this is something men have to address and fix.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 08:01 PM
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Ok I understand that. But what I would propose is that men don’t date women at all that don’t meet a higher standard. Women who are not fit, unaccomplished, etc, will ultimately pair up with their male equivalent or not pair up at all. Unaccomplished women landing accomplished men has been normalized because men are willing to date these women. We are just normalizing what’s already occurring.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 07:59 PM
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What other ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 07:13 PM
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But isn’t it on men to hold uphold a standard. Why are men accepting unaccomplished women as partners? Why are they accepting women who are not in a healthy bmi as partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 06:06 PM
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The main question seems to be: does a wife who participated in a lot of casual sex pre marriage have the same bond with her casual partners as she does with her husband. It seems like to me like it would be obvious that the bond is significantly deeper. I even think about how I felt for my bf the first year of our relationship vs now, it my love for him doesn’t even compare. If her casual partners were one night stands I would expect that there was no bond at all. A lot of women don’t have a ton…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 01:56 PM
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Yes. If there was a cultural shift in how sexual women are perceived and how women are taught about sex in general you would see more promiscuous women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 12:08 AM
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Uptown girls
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:30 PM
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I complete agree with your sentiment. Most pro choice people are just pro birth. The life seems to have less value once it breathes fresh air. Maybe I just grew up differently. My mother is religious she was the daughter of a Methodist pastor and something she always told me since I was young was that we know what the Bible teaches, but everyone still has a right to the life they choose for themselves. We don’t have to agree with someone’s lifestyle for them to have a right to it. God gives us t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:29 PM
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Protect them in what way? I can’t make decisions for other people. God gives everyone choice. He doesn’t expect me to control anyone’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:16 PM
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So I do believe that every Christian should be spreading the word of Jesus. But I think that is best done through how you live your life and how you treat others. Screaming at someone that they are committing a sin when they are just trying to survive isn’t going to inspire anyone to give their life to Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:13 PM
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I agree. Maybe that argument can be made for high school girls or late teens. But by your mid 20s every woman would absolutely look better with makeup than without. Women who do the natural thing do a disservice to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 05:46 PM
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As a Christian it’s so weird to me to see other Christians so passionate about abortion and being pro life. One thing you learn as a Christian is that you are only accountable for your sins. Why should I care what some random woman is doing with her body? It’s not like I have to take responsibility for her sins.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 05:43 PM
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My mom didn’t have an issue when I was 26 dating my bf who was 34. She did have an issue when I was 19 dating a 26 year old. Being an adult with life experience dating another adult with life experience is different than being someone straight out of high school dating someone with life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 05:40 PM
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When you start using tampons you never want to go back to pads.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:43 AM
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Sure if those people don’t have the mental capacity to properly consent I might even call it sexual assault depending on the context of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 01:05 AM
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I pointing out that your comment didn’t really correlate with my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 06:44 PM
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I literally stated in one of my comments that out men are not going to have judgment for being promiscuous…which you seem to agree with. Yes if you’re in the closet it’s going to be difficult. But any man heterosexual or homosexual who is comfortable and open about his sexuality does not face shame for having sex. I’m really not sure what you’re going on about. I never said gay men didn’t have their own struggles. That’s not the topic. If you want to have a conversation about the day to day stru…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 06:34 PM
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Yes people believe gay men are promiscuous yet we arnt discussing their n count every week. Men are not shamed for having sex. Gay men being banned has more to do with people linking aids to that community.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 06:23 PM
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We were discussing promiscuity and a commenter claimed it was because men’s libido were higher. I simply said that it had to do with the fact that men are not shamed for sex. Women would be having a lot more sex if they were not shamed for it. I never said gay men didn’t face struggles. You are projecting and going onto topics that are not relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 06:22 PM
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I would have him get a bodybuilding coach. A good coach would cost a little over 300 a month. For the sake of a competition we would also have him run a steroid cycle or two. Money would be allocated towards food for the meal plan, gym membership, and steriods. Depending on his facial structure we would get fillers. The focus would be creating defining facial structure. Filler for his jawline and cheekbone. If his nose had a bump, filler to fix that as well. If his nose has a hook then nose job.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 06:19 PM
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How exactly would a woman fresh out of high school know if she’s being taken advantage of by an older man? He’s going to have years on her in regards to manipulation tactics. Adult women can do whatever they want. At 18 you can make a lot of decisions. It doesn’t mean it’s the correct decisions. Young women and young men as well are going to make a lot of poor decisions because they don’t have the knowledge and experience to properly navigate life. People who have knowledge and experience are fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 06:08 PM
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Homophobia does exist. It doesn’t change what I said. Men who already choose to be out as gay men are not going to face any criticism for being promiscuous. Heterosexual women are going to face criticism for being promiscuous no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 06:02 PM
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Hookup culture in the gay community doesn’t have anything to do with libido. Men face less criticism about being promiscuous compared to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 05:46 PM
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Most people who have an issue with age gap relationships specifically talk about late teens and early 20s. We recognize that alot of young women are preyed on during this time because of their naïveté. The much older men often struggle with women their age because those women have wisdom and experience to spot their red flags. No one cares if a woman In her late 20s is in an age gap relationship. And yes if a woman in the age gap i mentioned was doing extreme bdsm scenes people would probably al…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 05:43 PM
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I think I agree. For a long time I thought living together should be normalized especially in this economy. But as I get older I don’t think it’s something I would be up for if I wasn’t engaged at least. I have a cousin whose been living with a guy for 4 years and she’s waiting for a ring. Both of them are mid/late 30s and I’m starting to think he’s just using her for cheaper rent till he finds the women he actually wants to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 04:52 AM
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Interesting. Some of the stuff i agree with like sharing finances. But planning surprises? Getting gifts? Those are things friends also do for one another
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 04:51 AM
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I always hear that women shouldn’t do wife activities when they are a girlfriend. What actions should women only give to men once they become their wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 04:15 AM
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It wasn’t an attempt at a gotcha. I was asking for clarification. I consider myself American so do my friends. We are born and raised here. We are all first generation American. We still connect with our parents cultures. We also connect with American culture. Is OP talking about women like myself or is he talking about a woman that is several generations of American?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:34 PM
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Sure there are people who have several generations American. That’s why I asked what OP was defining as an American woman. If for example if he is saying someone who is a first generation American then to me I see an issue with his argument because a first generation American is going to have a lot culture and values from their parents country. Whereas a woman whose several generation American is going to be completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 06:09 PM
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It’s not. There’s paperwork that makes it clear whose a legal American and whose not. It doesn’t change the fact that there are Americans that came from other countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 06:06 PM
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Ok? Bringing technology is not what defines whether or not you are American. Everyone’s contribution is what builds a country.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 05:52 PM
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America is made of immigrants. What are you classifying as an American woman? Also are you saying that the entire world outside of America values education more than Americans?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:46 PM
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Vance has repeatedly said that they are leaving it up to the state. I just watched him say it again on the Joe Rogan interview. He also said in that interview that he recognizes that states that have abortion bans are pro birth and as a country we need to do more to make it easier for people to choose life such as providing more financial aid for parents. Trump has been president before and did not do a national ban then either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:33 PM
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A little of both. I can’t imagine what else I would do for a living besides this and it pays wells. I wouldn’t say I’m passionate about it. I would recommend it to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:26 PM
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Your map is pretty irrelevant to what I stated. Several states allowed their citizens to vote on abortion last week in this past election: https://www.kff.org/womens-health-policy/dashboard/ballot-tracker-status-of-abortion-related-state-constitutional-amendment-measures/ It passed in multiple states. Its failed in Florida because they required a 60 percent of voters to be against abortion bans. They didn’t get 60 percent but they still got a majority of 57 percent. Just because a governor makes…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:06 PM
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It’s not. Red states that voted for trump still voted for the state to be pro choice. It was on a number of ballots for states. People who cared about abortion voted democrat. People who cared about the economy voted trump.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:41 PM
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The republicans have not made that clear. Trump and Vance have said consistently they are leaving it in the hands of the state.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 06:47 PM
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The majority of states do not have a limit on a abortion. Close to 30 states it is legal and some, like my state, allows abortion even at 9 months along. 16 states have strict rules usually around 6 week mark. A couple states have said you can’t have an abortion in the second trimester. People can travel out of their state to get an abortion. A couple of states have put in rules against that but no one has been charged with breaking that rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 06:30 PM
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Women who voted republican have no interest in 4B so there will always be available women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 06:22 PM
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The American people didn’t show that they are unsafe for women because they voted in their best interest. People have to prioritize themselves. Imagine being so privilege that you think someone not prioritizing you over themselves means they are against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 06:09 PM
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I think I would struggle to date a full blown liberal. I would say I fall in the center politically and I think most people do, so liberal vs conservative is not the only options out there to date. I have views that are not conservative, I’m pro choice. My man is pro life. We get along just fine. I think I also lean towards gun control. I would not date any man passionate about guns, no matter their political affiliation. I believe people should marry who they want. I probably lean right on most…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 03:39 PM
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I’ve dated a couple of bald guys in my early 20s. That’s never been a deal breaker for me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:45 PM
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So I’m thinking of making a carribbean dish called Pelau. Yea basic a moist chicken rice dish. I am considering baking a sweet potato cake cause of the season. I bake like every other day at this point. My bf owns a restaurant so if we have extra left over we sell it as a dessert special.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:41 PM
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A couple hours is one thing. But if you’re doing silent treatment for days at a time I would consider it emotional abuse. Romantic relationships aside, i had a friend in high school whose mom would stop talking to her for up to a week when she was upset with her. Just completely ignore her in their home. It was extremely difficult for her to deal with and she would often breakdown crying to us when it would happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:39 PM
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Someone on twox yesterday posted the same question asking is they should stop sleeping with their bf. I read a comment that basically said yes, you need to decentralize men in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:26 PM
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I am back at the dentist. I was here on Thursday and PPD told me to just do the wait but I didn’t have patience so I rescheduled. I am now waiting again. Today will be a good day. I will cook and bake and buy stuff cause my womanly instinct forces me to spend my money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:25 PM
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As someone who dealt with a partner who did this, I definitely consider it a manipulation tactic. And depending on the level of it I would consider emotional abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:16 PM
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I think I read that some seats are still up for debate in regards to the house for Arizona
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 05:14 PM
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I think men and women actually cheat at similar rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 11:27 PM
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You should always take expensive gifts. If he traumatizes you later on as least you have material objects that make it worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 06:36 PM
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A majority of white supremacist I’m sure did vote for him. But they are a minority in the whole group that did vote for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:35 PM
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80 percent of women?? Where did she get that stat from
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:29 PM
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Trump is supported by half the country. Liberal states that vote mainly blue turned purple this election. You can’t sum that up to the white supremacist rallied around to vote him in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:27 PM
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I never said she should have to vote for anyone she didn’t want to. I simply said I don’t understand the level of support and it seems other demographics of color don’t provide that level of support so they are not using the same logic as black women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:23 PM
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Well maybe we can sum it up to they make bad choices cause other groups of color were able to ignore the fact that a minority of racist support trump. They were the only demographic that voted that strongly democrat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:21 PM
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I always try to spend a lot of him. Spending money on people I care about Is part of my love language not just for him but family and friends too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:19 PM
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Yea actually I am. When there is a small minority of people who are racist, people you might never meet by the way I would hope you would still vote for the candidate that is talking about making the country overall better for every American. Notice that no other demographic of color had that high show out for the Democratic Party. Yet those racist hate all people of color. Meaning other people of color were able to set aside the fact that there is a minority of racist that support trump.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:18 PM
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The love of my life just has a birthday. I took him out to eat for lunch, and I took him out the night after for dinner. And I got him about 2k in birthday gifts but he’s making me return some unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:14 PM
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Ok and? If the other side has policies that the American people relate to on a whole, wouldn’t that be the side to vote for. Versus the side that is focusing on only supporting a small group of people in the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:12 PM
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As a black-ish woman, I’m so confused on the high level of support that black women give the Democratic Party.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:10 PM
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How old are you and how long have you been training? My bf was 28 when he started and has been consistently in the gym for 12 years at that point. You don’t want to mess up your natural potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 09:53 PM
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What is your currently physique? My bf is on a few things. He finds running a low dose of test year round to be great. When he’s bulking he only runs test and then throws in a few other things when he’s cutting
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 09:17 PM
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On bojack horseman one of the creators created a dating app for asexual people and I thought that was so genius
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 09:02 PM
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Resolving conflict is the same with my friends, family, coworkers, etc. How exactly would you classify it as different? There is no punishment for someone being who they are in normal relationships. If you ended up in a relationship with someone in the first place, you are capable of igniting a spark in them. Unless that person just doesn’t like you and is using you. You don’t have to flirt or act a specific way that isn’t genuine to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 06:35 PM
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Of course he knows how to defend himself. People communicate on a daily basis with other people. If anything because he has years on her in regards to dealing with conflict he is more likely to be capable of deeper manipulation. If he ended up in a relationship with her then however he “flirts”, works for her. By your logic, two people with inexperience can’t have a satisfactory relationship because they don’t know how to flirt. If you’re talking about someone who is a virgin I can give you a po…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:21 PM
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You are talking about things done in dating. The post is claiming that their is imbalance in a RELATIONSHIP if the woman has more experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:40 PM
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Do you realize there’s more to life than sexual experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:07 PM
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You should be laughing with your gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:04 PM
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It’s overlooked because relationships arnt the only way you grow in experience in life. Let’s say theres an 18 year old girl who dated boys in high school who were the same age as her. How does that translate to her having the same life experience as a man in his late 20s who didn’t date as much?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:24 PM
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Idu couples that have independent lives from one another. I love my friends but if I have time to do something and I have the choice of doing it by myself, with my friends or with my man. I’m gonna pick my man every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:10 PM
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My dad doesn’t really give me advice on men. And he’s a very pleasant man. Men I date shouldn’t worry about meeting my father, they should worry about meeting my mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:59 PM
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I was thinking about the post on the main page when I said that. Asking men to pick between a boss base or a traditional woman who wants to take care of the home. As if those two things couldn’t be in the same woman
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:34 PM
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I’m going to be honest and say I don’t understand the amount of people complaining (men and women), about how they can’t find commitment in regards to dating. I’m convinced these people are low quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:58 PM
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The issue with PPD is too many things are look at in black and white. My bf would consider me one of the most feminine women he knows but I would also be considered a “boss babe”. People are multifaceted.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:55 PM
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I would expect that my bf would probably save my life. He is pretty attached to me. My bf isnt quick to say anyone is going to hell. He isn’t someone that believes he is holier than others. He simply believes an unborn child’s life is valuable. He also believes that the life of people living currently are also valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 04:47 AM
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Ok I also mentioned leaving. So you think the guy would be wrong for cheating and the woman would be wrong for paternity fraud. Am I correct in saying that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 04:43 AM
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It’s equivalent. What would you see as the difference? In both situations an individual is dishonest and creating a dynamic with their partner that is non consensual. Cheating can actually result in spreading a life threatening disease to your partner so an argument can be made that it is worse than paternity fraud. But I would say based on OPs logic it is at least equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 04:42 AM
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Interesting. I haven’t been watching him as much recently. I never saw anything that I considered inciting hatred. But I do think he sometimes speaks for groups and is just incorrect. Like he has explained the perspective of black individuals on certain topics and as a black individual I have disagreed with his perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 11:11 PM
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Is he inciting hatred?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 09:39 PM
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I’m not sure how much I’m a fan anymore. I definitely use to be. But he still is handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 09:39 PM
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Nah I’m with a chad who meets all my needs, physical and emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 09:37 PM
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I have found that being In multiple relationships over the course of my 20s has been beneficial. It just seems like so many people (men im sure experience this as well) settle for the wrong person when they stick to the first person that seems to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 06:26 PM
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So I live in a liberal state. I have no worries about abortion being banned in my state and I don’t believe there is going to be any nationwide ban. So for me when I think of abortion I am not thinking of myself losing rights so it’s less emotionally charged for me. I believe that women should have the right to abortion because our society is not pro life after birth. And unless our government is going to help support these children that they are forcing women to have I don’t believe that they s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:37 PM
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Yes. Hassan piker, Jeff wittek types.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:11 PM
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I didn’t watch the video. I don’t necessarily disagree with the cmv but I will note that if a man said the same thing, it wouldn’t be received with support. In our society women are allowed to pursue their own happiness. If a woman is struggling in her relationship the response is “what is her partner doing wrong”. If a man is struggling the response is “what can he do to make his partner more happy so she in turn wants to make him more happy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:08 PM
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It wouldn’t be hard. You could also assume that a specific type of people go to rally’s. Older demographics of color are more likely to vote blue but it wouldn’t be hard to find many homophobes in that category.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:26 PM
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It’s not a needle in haystack to find a democrat that doesn’t support lgbt and I would actually be surprised if most democrats do support the lgbt community. Lgbt is a minority group, they make up less than 8 percent of the American population. Most people arnt thinking twice about groups they arnt apart of. Most people when voting for political parties are thinking how does this impact my life. Which is why the abortion issue is such a hot topic because women on a whole make up 50 percent of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:13 PM
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Would she be in the right to allow you to pay for multiple baby things before the birth before you are able to get a paternity test? Also in many cases husbands are assumed to be the father to any child their wife produces. Would she be right in her actions if you were married?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:06 PM
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We haven’t discussed anything about if your gf is a victim. That’s irrelevant to the topic. It’s ok for you to cheat. So it’s ok for your gf to also cheat and let you raise another man’s child. Yes or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:59 PM
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He should date within his means. You don’t have to be at any specific step in life at any age. If a woman doesn’t understand where you are in your life then maybe she isn’t the woman for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:57 PM
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The political party you vote for doesn’t reflect your values. If you vote blue you support genocide, if you vote red you support women losing rights to their body. I don’t believe that but that’s the generalized nonsense you hear all the time. Political parties cover a wide array of topics and its fine to just vote for whoever you think will improve your quality of life. I am pro choice and my bf is pro life and we get along just fine because we don’t feel the need to argue about topics that don…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:54 PM
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But what does it matter if it relates to sex? If you are setting the terms for how your relationship should go she should be able to set the terms for how her relationship goes. You believe in enthusiastic consent in regards to sex and she believes in enthusiastic consent in regards to fatherhood. If a man has himself to blame, you are saying that what she is doing is fine, correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:46 PM
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Whether it’s an affair child or not is irrelevant because your gf didn’t consent to you sleeping with other women. So consent in a relationship isn’t required. Being honest in a relationship isn’t required. So you must think paternity fraud is ok. Why should she reveal that he isn’t the father. Then he might feel pressured to raise another man’s child. Instead she should pretend it’s his so he’s enthusiastic about fatherhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:27 PM
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Didn’t even see this comment before I made my own. But basically said the same thing. If we are having relationships not based on consent (because your gf consented to a monogamous relationship) and we have established that being deceitful to your partner is ok. Then OP must also agree that there is nothing wrong with paternity fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:25 PM
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If you are unhappy about any aspect of the relationship whether that be sex or anything else you need to communicate that’s. Communication is fundamental to a healthy relationship. If a woman cheated because she wasn’t happy with sex frequency, got pregnant by another man and didn’t communicate that to her husband because she wanted him to be enthusiastic about being a father would there be an issue? If you have communicated your needs and they still are not being met then you should leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 03:21 PM
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Sure I can agree with that. But OPs claim is that single mothers are these amazing women who just want a happy family. That assumption is false.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:53 PM
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Why are you making the assumption that the man is the issue? Some men have kids with trash women and when they can’t take their crazy anymore they have to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:01 PM
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Why is your gf not going? In my relationship my bf wouldn’t go to Vegas without me and it would be an issue if I tried to go without him. Certain places without your partner is asking for trouble in his head. If I was in your gf I would expect you to cancel if the ex fwb was going. If you chose to go there’s a possibility I would randomly start running into my ex fwbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:09 PM
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Oh no I have met guys like that. I listed specific traits in bullet two that are important for me in my partner. And no, I have not met someone that has all three of those traits before my partner. But I have met men that I consider good men that don’t have all three of those traits. Those traits are important to me but I don’t think they are a requirement to be a good man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 04:44 PM
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If I say a guy is a good guy in regards to dating. I mean that he is overall pleasant, has his shit together (career or decent job), and would treat his partner and whatever children they have well. It’s unlikely I would refer to someone as a good guy outside of dating context. For myself I would want a man that in considerate of my feelings, that can communicate well, that I can rely on. I don’t know how many men have all three of those things. They arnt required to be a good man but it’s trait…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 04:31 PM
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Companionship and intimacy are needed if that is what you as an individual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:21 PM
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I think people are allowed to have whatever deal breakers they want. But I also think if they struggle to date after sticking to those deal breakers that’s on them. The second question is so werid. How often do you think that actually occurs?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:14 PM
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It’s not all about looks. You think people don’t value family? If sticking your dick in some random hot girl was a satisfying as you claim, he would have never married Giselle in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:53 PM
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I think it’s fine if that not what a guy wants. I think men who don’t want to pay for a first date shouldn’t. I just think that both men and women are allowed to have whatever standards suits them. Why/how is someone else’s standards affecting you? If anything not continuing with a woman because she’s upset you made her split the bill just weeds out a woman who you wouldn’t want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:49 PM
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If we come to the conclusion that men can’t get for this I think we are also saying women can’t avoid being pumped and dumped. It’s almost like we are saying people have no control over how dating goes for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:44 PM
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A hypocrite in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:40 PM
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Not really. Do you think the wife of a man who pays the bills in the house is an escort? Some men want to provide. Some women want to be provided for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:38 PM
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I doubt most men who complain about this are complaining because they have experience dating in Europe. Also I would then say to the men who do have that experience that they are free to date in Europe. To be clear I don’t think men have to pay for dates. I think a man who is interested in splitting on a first date would probably align better with a woman who his interested in splitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:37 PM
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Life for Chad isn’t as easy as the PPDers claims
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:34 PM
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So my solution for what youre saying would easily be to set up “FaceTime” first dates or meet prior to a traditional dates. I definitely understand that some women are using men but I do think there are ways to vet a woman to try and avoid this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:33 PM
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I doubt that’s the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:32 PM
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Expect a future partner not be an an asshole is a basic requirement for everyone, or at least I would hope so. The two comparisons I wouldn’t say are equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:31 PM
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I wouldn’t consider it a shit test because you don’t like it. If you’re looking for a provider it doesn’t make sense to continue and possibly invest emotions with a man whose naturally inclined to not provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:30 PM
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Why do guys get upset that women want them to pay on dates? If that’s not your thing then don’t do it. But if she chooses to not move forward with dating you, that’s also not something you should be upset about. You guys just arnt compatible and that’s ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:16 PM
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Then shouldn’t he specify women who voted for trump. Sounds like he’s not gonna be dating women who voted for Harris either
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:12 PM
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I don’t understand your comment. What is a verified standard? Are both men and women not allowed to have whatever standards they want?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:11 PM
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What does you dating an American woman have to do with trump winning?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:57 PM
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It’s not a strange jump. Im with a man who wouldn’t let me pay in restaurants for years. He had the common sense to properly vet women and meet them before going on traditional first dates so that it was worth it for him to pay for the date. If I know there are men who meet my standards that I have access to, why would I accept less?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:54 PM
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I prefer a man who leans into more traditional gender roles. I don’t expect my man to pay every time we go out. But if he didn’t want to pay for the first date it would indicate to me that he was probably going to not lean into the provider role. I actually view it similar to the sex thing. If you arnt pulling out the 5 star experience the first time around I can probably expect the overall relationship to be of lower quality/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:20 PM
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No. If his parents live with him it’s one thing. But him living with his parents is an issue at my age. Splitting the bill on first date would be an issue for me. Not sure how they ended up having sex after that. But if you’re not giving the 5 star package the first time we have sex I’m gonna assume you’re probably not capable of it. I will say that braces would not have been a deal breaker for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:59 PM
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In regards to cooking, I don’t consider an act of survival a hobby. I would also bet that most men who live on their own are capable of cooking to some degree. Also based on the list, I’m inclined to believe that women were interviewed and presented with interest and gave feedback on them. I mean exactly what does a hobby in astronomy look like?Where should a man go to do a black smithing hobby? I’m not arguing that hobbies are a bad thing. I just think that men specifically do have hobbies and …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 04:25 PM
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What hobbies do you suggest? I think most people (men and women) do have hobbies a lot of hobbies attract only one gender. Also a lot of hobbies are passed off my others as a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:58 PM
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How do you have fun with someone who doesn’t respect you or have empathy for you? That type of relationship is going to breed resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 04:52 PM
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Yea that’s what I mean. I saw a comment that said most women consider themselves submissive in bed. But I also don’t think most women are participating in BDSM in the bedroom. In your opinion would that term only bed used to categorize a women if she was participating in BDSM?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:47 PM
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What does it mean to be submissive in bed? Would you label a woman as this if you arnt participating in any sort of kink lifestyle with her, just having regular sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:43 PM
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Why hasn’t your happiness level changed at all. My problems in life haven’t completely been solved. But going from being a broke college student who has to stay in toxic spaces because I can’t afford to leave, to getting money to be able to move myself into space I thrive has be a huge help in my happiness level.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:38 PM
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Lots of people make it who come from lower socio economic environments. But you have to have the drive. Not sure where you are from but at least in America most people who come from lower socio economic backgrounds get full financial aid to go to college. If they don’t get aid community college is under 500 a semester. Depending on your state it might be completely free aid or not. If you have to work you work and you do school. Lots of people in college also have jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:36 PM
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I would have an issue if my partner was frugal with me but not with his other partners at least in the way you described. I am in a situation where I know financially my partner most likely has spent more money on some of his exes than me. But he still treats me very well and also spends money on me. His exes just needed him financially in way I do not need him. For example, I know he has given one of his exes money for a used car and a deposits for an apartment. I also know he paid over 10k in …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:06 PM
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I’m not against abortion. I am pro choice. In regards to people using protection. Very rarely do people who are using protection accidentally get pregnant. It’s usually people aware that they are not using the contraception properly or not using it at all and hoping for the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:36 PM
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Well those were dumb men. Did you want a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:33 PM
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Yes that’s obvious. But without team work you still have a high chance of preventing pregnancy by using one of the methods available to your gender. Accidental pregnancies are rarely by people using contraception. It’s by people who arnt using it and hoping for the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:33 PM
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In what way is it a team effort?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:23 PM
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Where they ejaculating inside of you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:23 PM
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Relying on the woman you are with to prevent pregnancy isn’t masculine or redpill.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:41 PM
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I think it’s silly to have an agreement about whether a woman is going to get an abortion if she gets pregnant. It’s not that hard to avoid pregnancy. If you as a man don’t want children, take the precautions to prevent pregnancy. If you as a woman don’t want children, take the precautions to prevent pregnancy. Don’t ask yourself what your partner is doing to prevent pregnancy. Ask yourself what you are doing to prevent it. Take accountability and control of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:39 PM
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Not really. If they are a professor but chose to look into a topic with a biased perspective then their perspective will be biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:21 PM
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People tried to step in. My parents weren’t happy about it. My friends thought i could do better. It didn’t make a difference, I was committed to him. And it took him doing things that were very hurtful for me to ultimately walk away. I am happy that my parents made it difficult to be with him because who knows what other dumb mistakes I would have made if I thought people condoned the relationship. I do consider him my first love and It was a passionate relationship. Some pros that came out of …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:11 PM
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I consider my ex to be attractive but if he hadn’t pursued me we wouldn’t have gotten together. While I can say he’s attractive he isn’t my immediate type. We last a little over 3 years. I do remember thinking I didn’t even want to date this guy and now I’m dealing with this BS from him. I think resentment probably set in faster with him than it would have with someone that leaned more towards my type. I found my current bf instantly attractive. I can’t say if things proceeded differently becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:07 PM
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A man leading isn’t dictating your life. If you arnt willing to take guidance from the person whose literally in the same boat with you. You go down he goes down and vice versa, the relationship has larger issues. Your spouse of all people in the world has to the most to gain and to lose from what happens in your life. They are the least likely to steer you wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:02 PM
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I believe that most if not all age gap relationships with young people in their late teens/early 20s are predatory. And I say that as a woman who was in a 6 year age difference relationship at 19 and who is now in an almost 9 year age difference relationship at 28. I can still understand what’s predatory and not step in cause as you said it’s not my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:02 PM
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Yes. I would say that most Stacy’s have that body type actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:57 PM
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I think what a man prefers has heavily to do with their culture and what they are exposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:56 PM
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I’m crazy different from 19 to now. I’m 28. I’m even different from 24 to now. It’s kinda of crazy to me. At 25 I had 2 realestate properties and had dreams of being some big real estate investor and retired by 35. Now I’m 28 selling my first property, no interest in continuing down this investment path, ready to walk away completely from seeking out “passive” income. People told me I would get to this point and I thought they were all wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 12:39 PM
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I’ve never never made a guy “wait” for sex necessarily. I tend to have sex for the first time with someone after a month of dating. That is usually my timeline. The fastest I’ve had sex with a guy is a week. That only happened once and it was right after my longest celibacy stint. I’ve never gone on a date with a guy I knew I would never sleep with. But I’ve gone on dates with guys I wasn’t sure I was physically attracted to. They were not ugly guys, they had features that were attractive. I jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 12:32 PM
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I expressed it in another comment but I don’t think women who are actually submissive choose to be that way or not. I think there are personality traits that determine if a woman is going to be submissive in a relationship and let a man lead. I also don’t think that letting a man lead means that you don’t give input. I think I’m any healthy relationship both partners still consult with one another on various topics. I also do not think that a woman had to be submissive in a relationship for it t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 12:26 PM
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Men are more willing to sleep around because there is no stigma on men when they do. Society conditions women to not fuck around casually and places negative labels on a woman who does. Which is a major reason why many woman do not sleep around. A woman having casual sex or not having casual sex has nothing to do with how horny she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:20 AM
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Having absolute control over someone’s finances does not determine submission. That’s just someone that’s controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:31 PM
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Most people in life seek advice from others because most people do not have all the answers. Do you never seek advice from anyone ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:30 PM
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My partner guides me all the time. Why would you not want a partner who has wisdom in order to lead you the right way? Yes if you are working you are contributing. Water is wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 06:14 PM
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My comment simply stated was a submissive woman can “get” in a relationship. I never said you need to be submissive to get any of those things. I actually responded at one point and said there is nothing wrong with a women not being submissive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 06:10 PM
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I am honest. I would expect my partner to be honest. But I don’t really ask questions to my partner about their sexual history. I’m aware of how their long term relationships but I couldn’t tell you have many casual flings they have had. I don’t personally believe this is a healthy thing for people to delve into in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:41 PM
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Submission isn’t something you give willy nilly. You either have the personality traits for it or you dont. There is nothing wrong with a woman who wants to be the more masculine figure in the relationship. But don’t confuse a desire to not want to work with being submissive. The two have nothing to do with one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:04 PM
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You’re getting a partnership. You’re getting a larger roof over your head because two incomes equal more than one. You’re getting a man who is looking out for your best interest. Your getting someone you can rely on. If you have kids they are getting a father they can rely on. What exactly are you looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:56 PM
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No it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:40 PM
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He is the man of the house. Does the women in the situation you’re describing have a penis? If not, she’s not a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:39 PM
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I think what you’re describing is what a healthy relationship with a submissive woman and a man that can actually lead is. I couldn’t be a submissive women to my ex because I did not trust his judgement. He was younger than me and still figuring it out. Im sure at some point he will be a man that can lead a woman, If he’s not already. But that’s still a position he needed to grow into when he was with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:38 PM
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In what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:06 PM
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Or you don’t know what submission in a relationship actually means.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:57 PM
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You didn’t address anything I said. You OP is based on points that are false on what it is to be a submissive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:17 PM
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No they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:13 PM
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Being a traditional woman, feminine woman, submissive woman has nothing to do with if you go 50/50 in a relationship. As a child free woman I would never expect my man, that I claim to love, to shoulder the burden of putting a roof over our heads. Femininity revolves heavily around what you can give versus what you can take. Traditional women worked. They worked hard labor on farms, they sold goods in markets. The idea that to be traditional you need to sit down and hold you hand out is somethin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:10 PM
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I have for sure calmed down. My early 20s I wanted to have sex for breakfast, lunch and dinner. And there were days with my ex where I did. Nowadays I have sex with my partner because I desire my partner. But just thinking about sex throughout the day like I use to is not as common. And my current boyfriend is significantly more attractive than my ex in my opinion and by conventional standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:45 PM
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Bunk beds are a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:00 PM
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Being over 35 and not settled down doesn’t mean a guy has no intention to. It just means past relationships have failed or being in a relationship was not the focus of his youth. I also don’t think women expect single dads to abandon their children. They just don’t feel like involving those complications in their life. I’m a firm believer that single parents should predominately focus dating other single parents. It creates less of an imbalance in the relationship because both parties are bringi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:52 AM
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Most people are not high earners and require a second income to live comfortably. A couple who makes 120k together in my state roughy brings in 6k after tax. Let’s say they both make equal amount (60k), that’s 3k each person is bringing in. In my state a 1 bedroom is around 2k. Split apart neither person is in a position to afford a place for their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:17 PM
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When you are intertwined with someone through financials and kids it’s many times out of necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:57 PM
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We also see that he is looking to casually hook up. Traditional men have family values so that’s another indication that he isn’t a traditional man. A traditional man isn’t expecting a traditional woman to hook up with him on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 04:00 PM
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If it’s a dealbreaker for him that’s fine. But he claimed that her not agreeing to his choice was because she was as not a traditional woman. In reality a traditional man would have taken into consideration the woman’s response because a traditional man would want the woman to be comfortable and feel safe. They are concerned about making sure she feels protected. The conversation took the turn that it did because this man isn’t a traditional man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 03:53 PM
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I am under the impression that in a traditional relationship a man communicates his wants but if the woman opposes for reasons that are reasonable, that is something he takes into consideration. It seems like his response was simply because she didn’t blindly agree and not because she was being unreasonable. His response in my opinion didn’t follow a traditional script.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:43 PM
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Your experience seems to be solely based off of dating low quality women. If that is the pool of women available to you then maybe this method will work. It won’t work with a woman who values herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:33 PM
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Would blindlessly agreeing have been a traditional script? Relationships built on respect have always had communication even in traditional ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:19 PM
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Have you guys ever had a view of someone and then saw their partner and it changed your view of that person?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:19 PM
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To be getting laid that often casually, you’re somewhat attractive at least in the environments you go into.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:35 PM
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Was that her exact wording? Many men and women expect that their partner won’t hang out one on one with someone of the opposite sex. I don’t necessarily agree. But her respecting her relationship doesn’t mean she was disrespecting you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 08:55 PM
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It’s an excuse they are using because they fear rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 01:37 PM
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You can work on yourself and still put yourself out there. The issue with a lot of people on here is that they believe it’s one of the other. I’ve seen guys on PPD say that they are focusing on their career so they choose not to date. In the real world people are focusing on their careers and also dating at the same time. You can go to the gym and also date, you can shop for better fitting clothes and also date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 01:29 PM
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I drew a comparison to show why it’s not something on my radar to sympathize with. I also explained that I believe for BOTH genders the struggles they face in the dating world are largely in their control. So that also makes it difficult to me to sympathize. It’s also why I assumed that must be the case for you because unless you are something severely physically wrong with you I don’t see what wouldn’t be in your control to fix.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 09:33 PM
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I don’t care about men or woman’s struggles with dating. That’s a trivial thing in comparison to actual struggles. I also believe that a lot of people who are struggling with dating don’t take proper initiative to fix their issues. You were probably bitching about things that are in your control to fix and your mom and aunt saw that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 08:05 PM
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Man with 30 body count. I like my men to have been around the block
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 07:49 PM
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From what I’ve seen a lot of men go the route of being a “friend” but they are into the girl from the very beginning. Whereas girls are not befriending guys they secretly like.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 03:40 PM
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No. I think this is more dependent on economic bracket. Parents who have their shit together are going to encourage their kids to have their shit together
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 03:03 PM
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Not really. I purposely avoid starting any friendships with men I feel might be interested in me. A lot of men go the route of being a “friend” but they are into the girl from the very beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:40 PM
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Stringing someone along doesn’t happen at one event. It happens over the course of some time. If she was actually afraid for her life she would not engage with this man repeatedly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:35 PM
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What exactly do you have to lose as a woman who makes more than the man she is with?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 07:16 PM
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My current boyfriend approached me at the gym. There was a time where I was approached almost daily in the gym by different men in the gym. My ex boyfriend was a neighbor that knocked on my door one day and invited me over. We had lived next to one another for year but never spoke. My first boyfriend was a guy that took the same train as me that I took to work. After a month of taking the same train and me noticing him looking at me, he approached me and asked me out. I regularly get approached.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:56 PM
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Being a loving partner doesn’t equate to being a partner that accepts any behavior from their significant other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:53 PM
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Affairs are not the majority. Cheating in both men and women in heterosexual relationships is less than 30 percent. Open relationships are already destigmatized. If people don’t want monogamy, they don’t have to choose that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 03:51 PM
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The second option.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 01:40 PM
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It’s not. I’ll give you an example. I bought a home during Covid so low interest rates. My home is also in high crime town. The mortgage is 2k and In winter my heat bills are close to 1k. When I made 80k a year, I brought in 4.5k a month after tax. So realistically a man making that munch would be left with 1.5k after heat and mortgage living in my area. That’s not even accounting for the other bills on the property, phone bills, things for children, car bills, grocery, etc. And the average man …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 08:10 PM
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For careers where women cheat, I’m pretty sure nursing is listed as one of the top careers
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:56 PM
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My parents are also taller than me. My mom is 5’5 and my dad is 5’10. And then there’s me 5’1
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:55 PM
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That’s not true. Our economy makes things extremely expensive. It’s stressful just to pay bills and take care of a family on one income.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:51 PM
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Yes exactly. I feel a lot of women equate femininity with a man taking care of you as if you are a child. But if you actually look at what falls under feminine traits, it’s more about what you give to others instead of what you take.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:50 PM
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I’m 5’1, my man is 6’2. His mom is also 5’1. If we have kids I hope it’s girls cause I just know we are going to produce short kids. He’s gotta already be carrying short genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:39 PM
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Most women are reluctant to submit to a man that they can see in incapable of leading. The issue is that many men want a role that they are incapable of filling. If you are an employee and your manager asked you to do something and you know your gonna get in trouble with another department for doing it, you would be hesitant to follow your managers orders. You might give you manager pushback because you can see he doesn’t know what he’s doing. It’s the same thing with relationships. If a woman h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:32 PM
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I always felt that stay at home wives especially ones with school aged children lacked femininity. How could you claim to be a feminine woman and put some much pressure on your husband to be the sole provider. Do you understand the stress that comes with? A feminine woman would want to help alleviate that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:26 PM
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The burden of proof isn’t for me to provide that. I literally stayed what I googled, you can do the same. If you feel what I said doesn’t explain the OP you are free to provide evidence that disputes what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 03:57 PM
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The article you linked about the steep rise states that women biologically are more vulnerable to stds. I then went to google to see why that was the case and quickly found that: “Women are more susceptible to STDs during sexual intercourse because the vaginal surface is larger and more vulnerable to sexual secretions than the primarily skin-covered penis” Less than 1 minute of research explains the actual factual reason why women are more prone. Edit: OP has now changed the link he was original…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 03:42 PM
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She could have lacked the experience to be able to determine that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:17 PM
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I follow a ton of women In their 30s that are such goals for me, looks-wise and the way they live their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:01 PM
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Life definitely doesn’t end at 22. College was some of my worse years. The level of consistent stressed I experienced in college never occurred after. I also have money to do things I want now which is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:00 PM
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I think it’s perfectly fine to settle if a relationship is what you want. A lot of people are overrating themselves. So what they consider “settling” is actually being with their looksmatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:57 PM
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I was attracted to my man, yes. He still had to approach me, I wasn’t going to do that. And I’m sure all the other guys who are approaching women have a much higher chance than the men doing absolutely nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 02:55 PM
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I never suggested for men to hit on a random women. You can approach a woman and be friendly especially one that you see on a regular basis. There’s a ton of things that can be said to initiate a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 12:38 AM
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Your experience is not what I see in the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 12:36 AM
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You don’t have to approach a ton of women. I mentioned going to the gym at the same time regularly meaning you are interacting and seeing the same people and you are then able to pick up social cues from those around you. When you approach a woman in the gym that you regularly see there you are able to pick up cues previously about if she would be interested in you or even interested in being approached in a friendly manner prior to actually approaching her. My suggestions I wouldn’t even consid…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 12:35 AM
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It hasn’t. You guys seen one or two viral videos and run with it as an excuse not to take initiative in your life. As I’ve stated I was approached constantly in the gym and I see it happen all the time. If you go to the gym you the social media portrayal is very false. If you regularly go to the gym especially at the same time you see the same faces and it becomes natural to interact with these people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 06:15 PM
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You won’t be unless you are hitting on literally every woman in the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 06:05 PM
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You are supposed to talk to women in your environment. My man approached me in the gym. Prior to him approaching me, men almost on a daily basis would approach me in the gym. Workplace romances are largely frowned on when one person is in a position of power in the business and the other is not. Workplace romances with colleagues on the same level is relatively fine. You can also reach out via social media. If I was single I would be more inclined to respond to a guy in my DMs who I know is into…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:11 PM
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Attraction is the first step in the door to a relationship. Attraction does not maintain a relationship, it is the factor that makes someone decide if they want to explore if there is chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 03:11 PM
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Can you provide one of these studies?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:14 AM
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Have studies shown that men understand women better than woman understand woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 02:28 AM
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Or you would be better off listening to a woman who knows how women think than a man who is just assuming how women think.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 10:11 PM
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This occurs only if a woman was never fully interested in the guy in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:14 PM
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Life in general is easier for attractive people. However, you can’t get away with being bad in bed simply because you’re attractive unless you have a partner that doesn’t value sex. Also as a woman who doesn’t like strangers in her personal space, no amount of being attractive will stop me from being repulsed if a guy tried to kiss me on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:03 PM
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Gay male relationships have the highest rate of cheating. Men are willing to stay in failing relationships more than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 04:50 PM
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Yes many men are clear about their about their intentions with women. And yet women hope they will be special. I did give you an example with children. And that is not my lived experience because I’m not a baby mama. However, this can be seen on social media with women having kids with celebrity men and then being upset and complaining that those men are not showing up for the kids. None of the example I’ve given are made up. There are very visible in the current dating scene. You can also go on…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:54 PM
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No the man is being clear that he isn’t interested in a long term relationship. There are many women who don’t have these experiences because they choose to vet properly. A lot of women choose to not vet properly and they don’t take accountability for that. My example wasn’t about children being created, you asked for an example of women not taking accountability in the dating space and I provided one. But if we were to talk about that as well, there are women who have deadbeat baby daddies and …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:46 PM
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I mean there’s a lot of women who are unhappy with how men treat them during dating yet still sleep with them. Then they get upset when that man doesn’t commit. They usually blame him for being an asshole though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:38 PM
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Based on their Reddit page they are 16
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 11:33 PM
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I mean I wouldn’t not feel comfortable asking someone I’ve known for less a month to access personal info about them. I would think that most rational people felt the same way as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:51 PM
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So my logic is that libido can change due to different reasons (medication, age, stress, etc). However, if you value sex with your partner as a form of intimacy you’ll still want to have that form of intimacy even as libido changes. I’m thinking that in dead bedroom situations intimacy could be valued. But sex as that form of intimacy is not by at least one partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:50 PM
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Q4Everyone: does libido matter if sex is valued as a form of intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:26 PM
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Yea but I feel like a normal woman would have seen a man going through your phone 3 weeks in as major red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:19 PM
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I have not. I filed 4 months ago and still haven’t been given a court date. But she will be on the street eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:19 PM
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No sex before marriage seems like it’s going to add to problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:10 PM
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It’s insane what some people are dealing with while dating: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/140e6fl/m28_f24_should_i_let_him_check_my_phone/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1 She must have been extremely inexperienced dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:08 PM
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Exactly. Like you can show anything on only fans. So I would be interested to know if these women who had normal lives pre only fans were all of a sudden doing full on porn or just some risqué photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:16 PM
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By normal, I meant women with regular jobs and lives pre only fans.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:15 PM
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Yea I get that. That’s what I’m wondering, like these women who seemingly had normal live and job pre only fans, are they actually doing full on porn or just some risqué photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:15 PM
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This isn’t true. You just have to look good in whatever clothes you choose to wear.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:42 PM
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There’s normal girls I follow that have only fans and sometimes I’m tempted to pay for it just to see what exactly they are doing on there. I can’t fathom that regular women are turning to porn so easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:41 PM
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That’s true. I would definitely consider a trad woman as a woman doing the majority of the household work. And I would probably say that she is in a nuclear family unit. Whether or not she works is on the individual basis. That being said a woman who is not doing that I would not consider a trad woman. Even if it’s due to the circumstances of her life. But I would also like to note that trad women and feminine women are not synonymous. So a woman who isn’t trad doesn’t mean she’s not feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 05:25 PM
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I come from a culture that leans on family and friends for support. My mother had me in college and I lived with the same grandmother I’m speaking about from age 1-6 in order for my mother to properly establish herself without the stress of taking care of me. I don’t know if my grandmother breastfed nor do I think that is relevant information. I never said anything about my grandmother encouraging me to live the life she did. That doesn’t take away from the fact that she was what I would call a …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 05:11 PM
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I feel like it was just part of the time tbh. But I will say now that even at 80 my grandmother prefers to be the main one doing the household work.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:05 PM
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That’s exactly what we are saying in both comments. Trad wife never meant you didn’t have a job. I have an example of my grandmother who cooked and cleaned and child reared but she still worked. The person I’m responding to stated their grandmothers were trad women but their husbands owned farms and they had to help with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 03:23 PM
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The majority of her working life she was a manger in a retail store. She worked all through her pregnancies and relied on family and friends for baby sitters. One child had a cleft lift and she had to go to another country to get surgies for him. She would travel alone with all the children because my grandfather was working. There’s a story she tells about being in the airport with her first 3 kids while they are all under the age of 5 and being overwhelmed because they were all crying at once.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 03:20 PM
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Couldn’t agree more. I keep seeing this new idea that traditional woman are catered to. Like yourself, I have a grandmother that I would consider a trad wife and she worked full time from 11 years old to 65, while have 5 kids and cooking everyday for her family. Femininity has more to do with what you give to individuals versus what you get from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:26 PM
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A ton of men reap benefits of being contributing members of society. Not sure where your take is coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 01:54 PM
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You do realize the same people saying men should express them emotions arnt the same ones shutting men down when they express their emotions right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 07:13 PM
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Women use the word compromise. Where are you getting your info that they don’t. When they say don’t settle it is in regards to when you are initially picking a partner and not going back on your dealbreakers. Compromises happen frequently in all long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 04:08 AM
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Most men in America don’t make enough money to support a household on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 12:42 PM
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Men should do household work because it’s their house as well and they should also want to maintain it. Also taking care of children is work. The time she isn’t at a paid job is consumed by doing child rearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 10:47 PM
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Why are you assuming she is making you do more than the next guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:07 AM
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Buying a handbag has nothing to do with if anyone is single or not. The same women who value materialistic items pair up with men who also value materialistic items.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:06 AM
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As I stated I’m not sure what social media influencers have to do with the everyday man. Also a quick Google shows that the top influencers are women but that’s besides the point. You are not talking about young men. Your post is not talking about young men. The men leading the finance sector are not young men. You’re using certain men to make your point that no one was talking about in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:51 AM
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When people are talking about men checking out they are talking about the upcoming generation and how they operate. When comparing them to young women of this generation they don’t seem to have teams ambition or drive. And I believe that in previous generations the difference between male and female goals may not have been as great. That being said I’m not sure what social media influencers have to do with the everyday man. Yes men are more common in certain fields, but men are also not expected…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:37 AM
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I actually brought it up as well when we were together. Guess he didn’t take me seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:00 AM
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Something similar did occur in a previously relationship and it was one of the things I threw in his face when I broke up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:37 AM
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If a guy is talking shit about women in any capacity on his profile I’m probably going to swipe left on him. Please present their best version to strangers. So I figure if you’re already showing a very judgmental side on your profile you’re probably worse in person. Any think that would lead me to believe you are fan of redpill content would also lead me to swipe right. Here’s an example of something I saw that was major red flag to me: https://imgur.com/a/bgMrOUp I’m predominantly use hinge. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:21 PM
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How are you looking at it objectively when you arnt even looking at it through a lense of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:31 PM
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Sex is stupid when you remove the thing that makes it enjoyable. In the real world that thing isn’t removed…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:26 PM
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If they are in a relationship Idt it matters. Couples split stuff or woman buys all the time. If you’re like dating the guy then he probably pays for it because he pays for most things in the courting process.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 01:07 PM
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No one is turned on by money. There are women who want a secure life through a man and will date rich men for that reason. However, dating those men does not mean they are turned on by those man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:57 PM
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I think it’s fine. My parents both have close friends of the opposite gender and have no issue with one another hanging out with them. Witnessing this my whole life has normalized for me opposite sex friendships even if you have a significant other. However, I haven’t dated any man that seems ok with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:22 PM
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I think that people who made it past a certain age did live long in the past. The child mortality rate is what makes it seem like people died at younger adult ages but I don’t believe they did if I recall correctly. That being said I do understand and agree that human biology needs to be considered. I personally am in a financial situation where I can have kids right now and do pretty well still if I was a single mom. But motherhood is only a route I want to take under certain circumstances and …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 04:07 PM
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I’m in my mid/late twenties and my perspective has changed in a way I didn’t expect. I would assume that as women got older their desire for children would grow. So when in my early 20s I for sure wanted kids and now I don’t feel the same it makes me question how could I have taken that seriously as a young woman. Society does push women to have kids and a family. So it makes me also question how many people are doing this because they actually want kids or societal pressure. I don’t know the an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:04 PM
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I don’t understand how someone can take this question seriously at a young age or even why they would. I’m 26 and if you asked me 3 years ago if I wanted to be a mother it would be an enthusiastic yes. Now I would say I’m leaning towards a no, maybe I’m at a 30 percent yes. Your perspective changes given your circumstances and growth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 02:05 PM
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Yes. Charismatic, funny, offensive, hardworking, loves kids, smart.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:31 PM
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Maybe he doesn’t want to just have sex, that’s irrelevant. Going to a guys place on a second date is a dumb move unless you are just trying to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:03 PM
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I don’t want to date a man with kids so I would be fine with a man who doesn’t want to date a woman with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:01 PM
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Whatever individual or individuals in a sexual relationship doesn’t want a child should be marking an active effort to prevent pregnancy. If both partners doesn’t want one then both should be using a form of contraception.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 06:01 PM
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Fixed it. Yea it was a typo, his face and he couldn’t grow a beard
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:50 PM
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Yes but what everyone is trying to point out to you is that in real life men who are stuck with babies they didn’t want had the means to prevent pregnancy and chose not to. What’s the point of arguing if some extremely unlikely fictional case. Let’s talk about what is actually occurring in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:32 PM
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Yes both men and women can prevent pregnancy. And whoever doesn’t want to be a parents can and should use measures to prevent pregnancy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:27 PM
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99 percent of men do have a right to choose if they become a father. They can take the means to prevent pregnancy and they do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 01:23 PM
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My coworker got one for his face. He couldn’t grow a beard. Seems like it all went well. That was 5 years ago and his beard is flourishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:10 PM
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I’ve talked to guys who use a PUA line as the initial message and then had a regular convo. The only men who are only saying sexual things are men who only want to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 02:23 PM
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And?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:30 PM
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You still are going to have to text the woman you meet in real life. Most women arnt going to meet a random man for the first time and agree to a date
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 05:44 AM
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I don’t really think that matters it’s completely off topic to the comment thread or even the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:32 PM
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The comment thread is in regards to someone making a comment about claiming that only higher earners are pressured into marriage. High earning women look for men who make more and thus struggle to find men to commit to. There struggles are a separate topic entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 08:55 PM
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It’s fine if you write people off for this. And it’s also fine if people write you off for wanting to meet to quick. I don’t understand why others get upset over other peoples boundaries. There are women who want to meet quick and women who do not. You wouldn’t change how you operate for a stranger so why are you expecting strangers to do that for you? Part of dating is find someone who operates like you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 08:31 PM
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For me I don’t consider texting much of an effort or waste of time especially since I’m doing other things while texting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 08:25 PM
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You can also just text the person. If the guy is unwilling to text via meeting then theres no need to move forward. I’m sure there are other women who prefer to immediately go for coffee without speaking much first and he would be more compatible with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 05:22 PM
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It has nothing to do with being offensive. I don’t know someone and going to coffee is more time consuming than just texting. So if I’m going to commit that time I want to know it’s worth it. There’s also the safety concern of meeting a random stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 04:47 PM
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Marriage is lower in lower income because more people live with their families which makes it harder to date. It’s also harder to date when you can’t afford to for both men and women. Someone else gave a source that stated 50 percent of people with only high school diplomas still get married despite college educated people make 75 percent more. 50 percent is a large amount for you guys to argue that only high earners are being pressured into marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 04:31 PM
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I don’t just go out with random people so if someone’s first message was asking me for coffee I would say no. But I would probably say let’s get to know one another first. I find pick up lines funny so I wouldn’t be bothered if a guy used one. I would comment about it being funny and then I would expect to go into the normal convo I would have had with the guy who brought up coffee. Both situations for me would lead to the same result given that I’m attracted to both men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 01:08 PM
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If you want a man making more than 50k you’re always cancelling out more than half of men between the ages of 20-40. Many women will marry low income men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 01:03 PM
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You do in order to give health insurance to your partner, receive tax benefits, etc. There multiple financial reasons for couples to get married to one another as a mean to survive. It’s also a pretty more financial decision to buy a home with someone you arnt married to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 01:00 PM
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Men of all income classes are married and men of all income classes experience pressure from girlfriends to get married. I’m not sure where you are getting the idea that only men who have something to lose are the ones being pressured to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:30 PM
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I would view him as not being long term or short term relationship material.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:12 PM
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Same thing I was thinking. Why are 12 old boys reading content that are calling men trash at that age. Seems like the bigger issue is parents not monitoring what content their children take in and using the internet as a baby sitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:49 PM
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You can be on your parents health insurance till 26. But anything they do for you after 18 is their choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 02:43 PM
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Marriage is a good idea for both gender because neither is doing well enough financially to live a good life without the other. Average man makes 37k. Most men have nothing to lose in a marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 12:44 PM
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Everything is possible but it’s rare. Which is why we hear about wealthy women who struggle to find men because women mainly date up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 08:13 PM
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I don’t really get your point. People are still dating in their socio economic background. We understand lower, middle and upper class. We understand that a software developer and a mechanic arnt in the same class. The women these two men would be exposed to are different. I’m not sure if you’re arguing that the software developer should try to find a sugar baby in a lower class but I highly doubt they are interested in that. Or maybe you’re arguing that the mechanic should spend money to make t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 08:08 PM
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Ive always planned on doing a courthouse wedding if I got married. My parents did that 24 years ago on a rainy day and are still happily together. My dad went to work 30 min later and my mom went and had lunch with her friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:53 PM
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Socio economic status doesnt just refers to income. Socioeconomic status is the position of an individual or group on the socioeconomic scale, which is determined by a combination of social and economic factors such as income, amount and kind of education, type and prestige of occupation, place of residence, etc. Also as you mentioned Elon musk is a billionaire. Money to that extent gets you a lot of things that are not typically the norm. You had to use this extreme example because you are well…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:51 PM
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Elon musk is a celebrity dating other celebrities. People are hanging out in similar socio economic groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:16 PM
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Just because the women he’s sleeping with are college educated it doesn’t mean they are in a different socio economic status than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:14 PM
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The original commentor never specified anything about a super social woman. People date those that are similar to them that’s a given.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 07:12 PM
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Yes this would. People marry within their socio economic background.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:40 PM
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I’m probably thinking about some porn I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 05:32 PM
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These two men don’t hang out in the same social groups and don’t interact with the same women. Women who are in similar level as the software engineer would not choose the auto mechanic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 05:19 PM
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So you lost your virginity in the past year?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:30 PM
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I don’t think so. They have sexual attraction to their partners they just don’t care much for sex. Both grew up in conservative environments so I think sex has been taught to them as a shameful thing. One claimed that she had religious guilt due to having sex outside of marriage and she believed she would view and enjoy sex more once she was married. Im doubtful of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:37 PM
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I know multiple women who don’t care for sex. They really just do it for the men they are with but they don’t have any urge for it, they don’t masturbate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:33 PM
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Link?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 06:58 PM
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I got a raise at work. Based on my tracked hours I only had a client for 8 months out of the year and just chilled for the other 4 while still getting paid. Tech is a pretty good gig.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 06:55 PM
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There’s no wage gap between the sexes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 01:52 PM
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Whatever floats his boat. As someone mentioned this isn’t a fwb situation. Also in regards to men settling down I think it’s perfectly fine and wise for men to date around and not rush to marriage. There’s value in dating and men don’t have the biological clock that women have. A woman in her late 20s needs to start thinking about marriage if she wants kids. Men can realistically start thinking about that stuff mid 30s and be fine, especially since women are more willing to date older.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:29 PM
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They had lost a child a couple years prior in a car accident so their marriage pretty much collapsed at that point. She was a SAHM who restarted college right before the accident and he had told her after the accident that he would like a divorce after she graduated. Affair happened after that convo but I still think was upsetting to him. I know that he didn’t talk to her for a few years after the divorce unless it had to do with picking up their other child or dropping her off. He actually made…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 09:32 PM
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Nah I hate when a guy tries to kiss me on a first date especially someone from a dating app. You wouldn’t go up to a random stranger and kiss them. Meeting someone for the first time shouldn’t be any different.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 09:20 PM
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My aunt found a man like this. They got together while she was pregnant for another man. I think it’s wild to do something like that. They were married for 15+ years. At some point when the marriage was pretty much over she started some sort of affair with the man who had abandoned her when she was pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 09:14 PM
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Single hood is fun for anyone who values it. If a family is a goal of an individual male or female they are going to want to have long term relationships and hopefully find a lasting one that leads to that. I do believe that the pressure to have a family is push more on women than men in society. Even if a woman doesn’t feel pressure from those around her the biological clock does add it’s own pressure. Which is why I think more women are focused on being in relationships than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 08:46 PM
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No. I’ve been very attracted to my partners but I’ve had maybe one partner that I think falls in the conventionally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 11:33 PM
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That’s also how I see it. I have no intention of committing myself to a man I don’t want to have sex with. For me husband material is a man I want to fuck who also shares similar values and goals. Since women are the ones using the term I would assume they have the most knowledge on what it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 08:28 PM
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I don’t think that. It is what you as an individual value. I think more women are looking for lasting relationships so being considered husband material is not a bad thing. I just think for the women who are looking for casual sex they probably are going to go mainly for conventionally attractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 07:46 PM
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Those women saying those things are right. We need to be self aware an evaluate ourselves and determine what we can get. I’m sure that guy is lovely but of all the men to have casual sex with why should they pick him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 07:35 PM
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How are you meeting these people? I have always felt meh about anyone I met on an app. It’s just not an organic way of meeting and there’s pressure on getting to know one another that you wouldn’t have if you met the person in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:45 PM
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Yea and for just sex with no investment you are gonna have to dumpster dive for that more times than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:06 PM
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Yes and you have to take them on dates or they are gonna reject you for the several other men who have no problem doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 01:05 PM
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Yes you can dumpster dive as I said in my comment. I didn’t say it wouldn’t work I said it wouldn’t work on quality women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:57 PM
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She might not be. But if she’s use to most men offering her dates she’s just gonna go with that option.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:54 PM
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Why should she change how she dated when it’s going to work with a majority of men. A woman that most men consider average/above average is going to get offered dinner dates before sex regularly. So why would she settle for less. The women who would be ok with this are the women who arnt getting that offer. Those women are going to be below average, possibly have issues in their life that men don’t want to deal with long term. So basically you can use this tactic but you would probably be dumpst…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:43 PM
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What is the purpose of this post? Do adult men and women not know that sex can result in pregnancy? Do they not know about contraceptives?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:38 PM
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Women that value themselves. Also women that men value.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:36 PM
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You just noticed this? Women are not conditioned to be pursuers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:25 PM
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This isn’t going to work with quality women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:21 PM
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Marriages don’t fall apart just because one partner is shitty or dysfunctional. Marriages take work and sometimes people don’t realize that and get to comfortable. My initial comment had nothing to do with people who are abusive. And I’m doubtful that’s the reason most marriages dissolve or end up in a place where both partners are not satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 10:23 PM
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80 percent of men are not dropping out of college.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:30 PM
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I enjoy this comment. I guess a good question to think about is whether or not an unhappy marriage is better than a single life. I’m not necessarily asking you, just my musings.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:28 PM
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Anyone can be married is irrelevant. You’re turning the convo into something emotional when it’s not like that. It’s simply analyzing what the actual success rate is. 60 percent of marriages staying together doesn’t mean those are happy marriages by the standards I mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:26 PM
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No. Living like roommates doesn’t have to do with just sex. Being together for years doesn’t mean you no longer spend quality time with one another. I also don’t expect people to be strangers living under the same roof. If your sole purpose for marriage was to have kids and those kids have now grown up sure. But I would expect a couple to operate like a couple at every point in their marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:11 PM
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50 percent of marriages end in divorce and for sure there are couples who stayed together for kids or because of culture. Based on that, we already know marriages where the couples stay together for decades and are happy (by the standard we established) are a minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 08:09 PM
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I didn’t pass judgment on anyone. I mean how many couple do you know that enjoy one another’s company decades later, that didn’t stay for the kids or because of culture, that arnt two strangers living under the same roof.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 06:08 PM
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I also know many couples who have been married for decades. I also know that many of those couples have a lot of disconnect or have become a roommate like situation or straight out hate one another. My question wasn’t about if you know couple together, but how happy are those couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:58 PM
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I don’t think society really considers people family without the piece of paper. If most people were doing it for just kids they could wait till they are ready to try but many couples marry years before that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:51 PM
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Is marriage only for the sake of children?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:09 PM
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So should people only get married if they want to have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:07 PM
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What meaning does someone get out of marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:03 PM
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Is marriage really worth it? How many of you actually know couples who have last decades that are genuinely happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 04:56 PM
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You don’t know that. Everyone is not participating in hook up culture especially people who show habits being long term monogamist.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:47 PM
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Men arnt ending things with woman they like right off the bat. Most likely if it’s that easy for you to end it you weren’t really feeling her in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:24 PM
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Megan fox and Brian Austin green have 12 years between them. Large age gaps have a higher rate of divorce. Not to mention she started dating him at 18 and he was 30. They are a prime example of why young adults should be given the opportunity to date other young adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:13 PM
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She said that she had 2 partners is 10 years. I would assume from the post her body count is very low. You comment seems like projection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:06 PM
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I consider it cheating. I don’t think for a lot of people it’s a deal breaker. I had a friend who slept with a guy in a relationship (she did not know). He forgot to take the tracking off his phone so his girl found out almost immediately. She was hitting up my friend asking her if she slept with the guy. She was well aware her man was there to cheat but she only really cared if he actually did the physical act apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:00 PM
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I’m not sure if you’re joking but this is me. Personality has gotten me very far.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:57 PM
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This post is basically me. I am independent but initially especially meeting guys online I look for men to take on more traditional roles. I don’t really see an issue with it and I haven’t had any complaints. Men are going to go out of their way for women they want to be with. It’s irrelevant if you’re independent or dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:53 PM
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I have a friend who started dating her husband December 2021. They got married July 2022. She said the same thing. I feel like you need a year at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:44 PM
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Q4ALL: how much time passes in a relationship before you know the other person is “the one”?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:38 PM
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https://igotstandardsbro.com/results?minAge=20&maxAge=40&excludeMarried=true&race=0&minHeight=167.64&excludeObese=false&minIncome=40000 Results arnt much better
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 06:15 PM
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https://igotstandardsbro.com/results?minAge=18&maxAge=85&excludeMarried=false&race=0&minHeight=175.26&excludeObese=true&minIncome=40000 This site can’t be accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:41 PM
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It could also be how you meet people. For me I have always met my long term partners in natural environments and established a friendship with them. When initally meeting these men I didn’t have “traditional” dates. We did a date or two but right off the bar I just hung out with them a lot. So in my relationships also had a natural and easy flow. Looking back at my relationship the one that push gender roles heavily was the one that i met on a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 03:33 PM
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It’s not even that serious. Relationships should be fun. When I’m with someone they are my best friend and we just like to do fun things together. You wanna go eat someone book the place and go eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:30 PM
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Not sure where you live. But in rural America people living there are not making more than 90 percent. If you claim is true you are an exception, which you are probably aware of. To be in the 1 percent of America nationally you have to earn 500k. However in states like Connecticut, New Jersey, New York, you have to be earning more than 750k. That’s because certain areas have much higher opportunities to make money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:22 PM
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They could just not post anything and no one would care
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:06 PM
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People who make good money live in HCOL because that’s where the opportunities to make good money are. Most men who make good money don’t want to give up their quality of life just to say they pay all the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:58 PM
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Does that mean any man that has a job with a boss is beta?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:55 PM
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Question 1: If I had never had sex with a guy before I would not bring him to my house or go to his house until I was ready to have sex with him. By that point I would be comfortable enough with him to make a move. Question 2: Aside from one guy I’ve met all my partners in natural setting and don’t have any 3 date rule. I usually talk and hangout with these guys regularly at least for a month before anything sexual happens. Question 3: A man has to show interest in me and that can just be verbal…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:50 PM
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I get that in beginning of relationships. But when you’ve been with someone even a year I think things should really operate like a partnership. When I see stories like that it makes me think that the women must not have a very “comfortable” relationship with their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:40 PM
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I’ve seen multiple post about women upset that their guy didn’t book dinner or take them out. Do they not know how to book a reservation themselves and say to the guy “hey we are going here at this time”?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 12:28 PM
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The nuclear family also called elementary family, in sociology and anthropology, a group of people who are united by ties of partnership and parenthood and consisting of a pair of adults and their socially recognized children. Typically, but not always, the adults in a nuclear family are married. When referring to the nuclear family it is a heterosexual couple. The nuclear family has nothing to do with the man being head of household or the women being home. It has nothing to do with a trad rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 12:12 PM
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That’s why I said you lost me at the kids part
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 07:10 PM
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They probably got competed out. I could be wrong but I’m sure very tall women have some insecurities about it the same way short men may have insecurities about that. Those insecurities are probably hurting them a bit in how they interact with the opposite gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:15 PM
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I just don’t see how children give you that hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:04 PM
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You lost me at the children part. I would hope teenage girls arnt thinking their happiness hinges on having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:15 PM
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I honestly don’t think most men would want to date women much taller than them tbh. The same way women are conditioned to want a man taller men are conditioned to want a woman shorter
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:13 PM
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I’m not a tall woman but I get it. If they want a man their height or taller they have limited options. So it’s probably frustrating to see one of their few options pick someone very short. A short woman if she wants someone her height or taller can pick any man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:04 PM
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What type of other family support did you have aside from your mother. I think it matter a lot how things are framed to children. If a child is growing up watching their mother struggle, possible also an absent mother because she’s working too much and then you see other friends with both parents that might be hard to handle. If your mother isn’t struggling, has a lot of support from other family maybe not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 01:01 PM
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Not really. You should embrace religious values because you believe in them. No one who is currently embracing it is doing so for the sake of marriage. There beliefs aren’t genuine, they arnt forced.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:56 PM
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We already established that most people marrying as virgins come from very religious backgrounds. Them reporting a higher level of happiness just means they value things that are different that someone who doesn’t come from a religious background.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:12 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/11129c9/divorce_rate_after_5_years_hops_from_7_to_18_to/j8cin2b/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 Well written response to this idea about sexual partners and marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:56 PM
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That’s true. It’s possible that the younger people getting pushed into those categories view relationships differently than the people who had been previously surveyed. The number of women who claim to be single in that age group is relatively the same. So it could be that men are redefining what they view as a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:54 PM
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I just left a comment about it on the side piece post. I’m having a hard time understanding the pew survey that claims 63 percent of men under 30 are single. That’s such a big jump from 51 percent in 2020. For the smart people out there is it polling gone wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:45 PM
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I don’t think we have enough info to make the correlation you are trying to make. So the source that everyone is referring to said in august of 2020 that between the ages of 18-30, 51 percent of men said they were in single. That same source is January 2023 is saying that between the ages of 18-30, 63 percent of men are single. In regards to women, in 2020 it said 27 percent women in that age range said they were single and in 2023 34 percent said they were single. In basically 2.5 year we saw a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:42 PM
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I agree. I also feel like those men are possibly listening to a minority of women which is also hurting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:23 PM
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I don’t think it’s for everyone. I don’t think it’s for me. But my best friend and her husband were long distance their entire relationship. Prior to marriage they had probably hung out less than 30 times in person. They dated for like 4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:02 PM
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Yes. The biggest issue I would say young Americans are currently facing financially is housing. Mortgages and rent is too high and will probably take up close to the one persons monthly paycheck. Splitting that cost with a partner leaves a lot more financial wiggle room. Rent was already high pre Covid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:42 PM
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The average man and woman in America are both not making enough to live comfortably on their own. Their best bet is to find a partner with similar or higher income and do it together.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:26 PM
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Why? It’s definitely how I show I care about someone
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:10 PM
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Do you have a source for other countries. From my understanding and experience Americans are either doing better or the same as other countries financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:09 PM
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That doesn’t mean that’s what women call a dad bod. The article was written by a man
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:05 PM
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No it’s not
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 01:03 PM
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Infidelity is not as common as people would like to think. Being attracted to other people is leading people to stray in their relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 03:26 PM
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I states you can Google in your area. A man from nyc said the same thing and I was able to Google and in 5 seconds find many in nyc. I have no clue where you are from that’s why I said you can Google.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:50 AM
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You can Google for your area. A guy on PPD who lives in nyc claimed the same thing. It took my 5 second to prove that wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 12:16 AM
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It’s not that easy to maintain a slim body without exercising especially as you get older and depending on your job that takes a lot of determination and time. Pre-Covid I was up by 6am for work, would get home exhausted by 6pm. Take a nap and go to the gym around 10pm. I was 23 years old and had little responsibility outside of work so I was able to do that. It is actually biologically easier for men to maintain a good figure because testosterone aids in weight management.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:21 PM
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You’re discussing something entirely different now than your original comment which brought up men’s discomfort. If a woman doesnt like men looking at her in the gym then she should also go to a woman’s only gym. The reality is, this isn’t really a discussion. The genders get a long perfectly find in co Ed gyms. Women and men looking for attention are making gym content for views and people are running with some narrative about what is going on in the gym that isn’t reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:14 PM
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Male only gyms exist
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:07 PM
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If a man don’t like how women dress in the gym then they should go to an all male gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:07 PM
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The post literally ask about men who are concerned about unintended pregnancy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:46 PM
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Woman here. I wouldn’t stay. That would be the easiest reason for me to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:42 PM
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Yes. No one is going to want to match with someone who seems too serious or boring
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 12:16 PM
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Be yourself. Any kind of cliche generic dating advice would probably work for me. What are you angry about
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 03:37 AM
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Blue pill rhetoric works in my life. I believe a lot of red pill ideas, mainly the self improvement stuff I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 03:18 AM
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https://www.instagram.com/reel/CoYol4xJKva/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY= I know a ppd man when I hear one
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 03:02 AM
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Women are aware of hormonal and body changes that come with having children. It’s her responsibility to handle that. Most people don’t have 3 years of maternity leave. I expect that when/if I have children I’ll be at home with that child for 4 months then have to go back to work. If a household would be in a dire financial situation if a child was brought into it then maybe that couple shouldn’t have any children at that moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 12:45 PM
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I think he’s like every modern day grifter on social media, he says controversial things to get an audience. He’s not unique or uncommon during these times. And like many other grifters he’s able to convince stupid people to spend their money on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 11:14 PM
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50k
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 04:04 PM
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If I’m comfortable enough with a guy to have sex with him I’m probably comfortable enough to suggest things for us to do. But I’ve never had sex with someone before a month so maybe she’s just not use to you yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:54 PM
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The wage gap is the belief that a man and a woman working in the same position don’t make the same amount. This is pretty much a myth and untrue. It has only been found to be true is a couple of fields. The largest discrepancy was found in tech which was only a 4 percent difference. Something to note is that in tech people have to advocate for their salary. The discrepancy is most likely because women are less likely to give pushback or argue for a higher raise.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:52 PM
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When I think of Kevin samuals I don’t think of young men. I don’t think that was his audience at all. He audience and callers were mainly women. I think he makes some valid points. Something I think he tried to push that I agree with is that both men and women need one another because finances. I think like many influencers her said this is a way that appeared rude for views but quite a bit of his callers were delusional and needed some sense talked into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 01:33 PM
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High earning women struggle to get relationships because their standards are higher not because they don’t have options. Also in every age group women are in more relationships than men. Also quality of life does not revolve around being in a relationship. I would rather be a single women in a big house vs a single man in a small apartment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:41 PM
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https://www.instagram.com/p/CoBSQvXsVrT/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY= Single woman killing it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:30 AM
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However, the Mail said the footage was presented before a Tuesday bond hearing, where Judge Brad Myers said it showed the “evidence was clear” that there was proof of criminality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:49 PM
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What is high value to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:42 PM
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He is dating only Indian women. He came to America in his teens and he has told me that when women find that out they are no longer interested because they are afraid he will have some traditional mindset. However, he has also stated he will only date women he very attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:12 PM
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I have a friend who gets matches but they tend to ghost at some point. He is in his late 20s, makes over 200k, owns a house, around 5’8, supports his parents (they live with him). He was in a relationship for 2 years that ended in early 2021. Personally I think he made a lot of mistakes in the relationship and I often warned him that she would leave. I do think his height and the fact that his parents live with him could be difficult for women to deal with. He is Indian and from my understanding…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 05:48 PM
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People who live with their partner before marriage due so out of convenience. They arnt trying to each have their own couch. Also what you’re suggesting is alot trickier because you would have to find a two bedroom where the landlord was willing to rent the rooms separately. Im a landlord and I have 2-3 bedrooms units that I rent as one unit. I don’t care to deal with multiple tenants in one place as it becomes more likely that I will have a high turnover and have to constantly be looking for te…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 11:36 PM
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I don’t think so. But I could see her just not being attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:42 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/10khglr/i_dont_know_what_my_wifes_boobs_look_like/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Insane. Why do people stay in these situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:36 PM
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No. It could be an attractive women with high standards or an attractive women that’s crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 09:23 PM
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You can live in the same area and not live together. And visit one another’s place. Stats also show that couples who live together prior to marriage have a high chance of divorce when they do get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:59 PM
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That number jumps close to 80 percent after age 30. Also less women are married under the age of 29 now. Times have changed and there’s nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:22 PM
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Interesting. I also work remote and considered Texas at one point. I would assume the dating game isn’t bad in a city, guess I was wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:50 PM
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What are you talking about 50 percent of men between the ages of 18-29 are in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:47 PM
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Only 14 percent of men in America are over 6ft. But a much higher percentage of men are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:45 PM
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Where are you living now?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:44 PM
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I’m not sure what’s up with people on this sub not wanting their gender to take accountability. No one is forcing a man to reproduce. If he doesn’t want a child in this world, he has options to not procreate. Whatever party (male or female) in the relationship is most concerned about pregnancy needs to take the steps to prevent it. Rich men are not dumb. They know they’re women who might want to get pregnant for financial advantage. There are some that seem to have multiple children all over and…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:51 PM
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I recently starting reading “the defining decade-why your twenties matter” and the author suggest that it’s actually better to wait till your engaged to live together. Moving in together makes it harder to leave because you sharing things in the apartment, one partner might not be able to get their own place if you want to break up. So the difficulties of leaving a marriage kind of appear is a more subtle way through living together. Because of that people can end up staying in failing relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:45 PM
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Me moving out wasn’t really about fun as I mentioned. But yes the time I spend alone is a choice. Also depending on your age/gender living with your parents will hurt your dating prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:38 PM
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It depends on the type of family you have. I lived on my own shortly after college and moved back home a year later (a month before Covid). Stayed for 2 years. It was easy/convenient at the time because my bf was my parents next door neighbor. I also got to save a lot of money. But after we broke up I moved out a month later. My parents are pretty traditional so it would have been hard to date while living with them. They wouldn’t have understood online dating, seeing multiple people, would have…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:30 PM
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If you live on your own and you have a busy life it’s easy to isolate yourself without realizing it and feel lonely. I spent a lot of time with family over the holidays and I realized any loneliness I felt this past year was a choice. Sometimes I choose to stay by myself in my apartment but yes family is always an option for me. To be fair though a lot of people do relocate for work and other life events and are not living in close proximity to family.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:24 PM
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If you arnt exclusive then I don’t think people owe you exclusivity. However, I also would consider disrespectful for a man to be having another sexual relationship with another women and to be telling me about it. That would be a clear sign to me that he isn’t looking for something long term with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:20 PM
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Is IVF free? From my understanding it’s very expensive and almost a luxury. Maternity leave is also shit at for a lot of women in the US so I don’t see this becoming a popular option. Society will not change in anyway even if this did become more common. If you don’t want to date a single mother you don’t have to. Men also have the option of becoming single fathers if they want. Look at cristiano ronaldo.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:07 PM
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Someone doesn’t have to propose to you to show honest intentions. Also women use the analogy for test driving when referring to men as well. Many of us, men and women, have no desire to be in long term relationships with people we are sexual incompatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:27 AM
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What do you mean it feels more wholesome? What thoughts correlate with sexuality for you that equates to wholesomeness? How was it before?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 09:35 PM
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Even though it mimics the sound of his voice the delivery sounds robotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:12 PM
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No there isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:26 PM
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There are women who are have no interest in casual sex and are not dating around. Most women are not getting approached in supermarkets, so unless you are making an active effort to date it’s very easy for your life to just be work and go home. WGTOW are not complaining and MGTOW shouldn’t be complaining either from my understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:40 PM
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Those women obviously arnt going their own way so why are they relevant to the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:36 AM
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No I’m from the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:42 PM
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Are those women not obese?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:30 PM
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If you are experiencing the same thing over and over you are the common denominator. Maybe you should look within yourself and find out why you end up in dynamics where you consistently give and don’t receive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:28 PM
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I agree with this. I know young women right now who just don’t care to deal with men and their drama so they choose to opt out and focus on other things that matter to them. However, the fact that they are currently opting out of dating is not part of their identity. They are just carrying on with their live like normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:26 PM
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I would consider what you have acquaintances. For example, I went to a small all girls high school. My graduation class was only 46 girls so we were all pretty close. While I was in high school there were many girls whose homes I visited. I had a ton of friends, I sat in class with different people. But my really close friend group was about 6 people. 2 of the girls out of those 6 are still my very close friends, at this point they are family to me. 1 I still see at events and we text here and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:28 PM
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And are you close with those people now?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 07:08 PM
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Personality also refers to how you interact with other people and how people take to you based on that. There’s a lot of shit people who are very charismatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 02:11 PM
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Oh I missed that. Yea not codependency. Damn…that’s why I’m scared to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 11:13 AM
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I also would like to know what truths you are referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 11:09 AM
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Sad how low some people’s self esteem is that they would even tolerate that type of conversation. Or maybe it’s serious co decency issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 11:08 AM
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I don’t know what you’re saying
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 11:06 AM
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I actually think it would be worse if one of his mistresses got pregnant because then for sure there would be children raised without two parents. Either his mistresses child wouldn’t be around its father or his wife’s children would lose their father. In the particular case I’m aware of, the child that the wife had was never informed of his bio father and she was raised believing her mothers husband was her father. It was by accident in her late teens she found out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 11:04 AM
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It’s becoming clear to me that you have a type. It’s still a no for me. I think a young David Beckham.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:53 AM
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Try coffee it’s an appetite suppressant. Caffeine has also been proven to increase fat burn and aid weight loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:48 AM
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I think it’s a red flag to be fighting that early on with a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:46 AM
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You were doing well till the Adrian Grenier part.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:45 AM
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To look cute and get glamour muscles
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:56 AM
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Why are you anti black pill
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:36 AM
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Did he use the tools on the doorknob? We attempted something else initially by shiver a knife through the side of the door but that didn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:24 AM
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Something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:23 AM
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So we didn’t use a ladder. There’s shorter parts of of the roof and he hauled himself up. I didn’t have the upper body strength to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:23 AM
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I have never put a man in a position to have to protect/defend me. But today i locked myself out of my apartment and I had to call a man to climb on the roof of where I live and go through my window in order to get me back into my place. Men can be very useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 03:57 AM
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Every situation is different. There are a ton of people who think sticking it through for the sake of the kids is worth it and there’s a ton of kids who have now grown up and wish their parents had divorced. In my own family there’s a 30+ year marriage plagued with infidelity (they are still together). 2 of the 3 children produced in the marriage struggle with trust issues and well into adulthood have maintained that they don’t want to be married because of the trauma they faced watching their p…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:06 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:44 PM
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Financial issues , which can be multiple things, is the actual reason you are referring to not husbands not making enough money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:25 PM
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I think in relationships both parties deal with bs. Neither gender is perfect. However, as I have mentioned in my original comment women appear to be less likely to stay in a relationship that is failing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:24 PM
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Most divorces are not ending on year one so it’s likely that most women who do file for divorce stick through a lot of bs before deciding to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:03 PM
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I think you missed the part where lack of compatibility causes other issues in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:02 PM
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You’re right, most people don’t turn against their marriage the first sign of minor abuse. Most marriage that do end, end around the 7/8 year mark. Most people date more than 2 year before getting engaged and are engaged for at least a year. People are willing to commit years of their life before leaving their marriage. I’m not sure how much longer you expect people to stay in failing relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 05:00 PM
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Boredom is not main reason for marriages dissolving.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:58 PM
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Most people are not taking their marriage “lightly” or marriage vows lightly. Most divorces occur in around the 8th year. That is significant commitment seeing as though most couples date for more than 2 years and are engaged for at least a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:41 PM
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I wasn’t saying that women are abusive. You are suggesting that women leaving abusive situations means they arnt willing to work through relationships issues. Cheating is abusive and puts your partner at risk. Yet gay men are more likely to be with a partner that is cheating yet they have the lowest levels of divorce. If they don’t consider it abusive then a deeper analysis should be done on self esteem issues or desire for self preservation. Which is why I mentioned that there seems to be extre…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:30 PM
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Lack of compatibility is a failing relationship. Two people shouldn’t just be together because they are nice. People do outgrow one another and that can lead to many negative emotions/problems such lack of intimacy and feeling of loneliness. You don’t have to look far to see people in roommate like marriages that are miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:23 PM
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You shouldn’t be willing to work through abuse. Gay relationships are the only relationships where the majority of relationships experience infidelity (over a 50 percent) , yet they have the lowest rate of divorce which shows that men are more willing to stay in situations that are failing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:17 PM
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No longer being compatible with your partner is a failing relationship. There doesn’t have to be abuse in a relationship to call it quits. However, divorces are because of issues in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:12 PM
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And gay men are significantly more likely to have more open relationships or cheat on their partner compared to lesbian or straight relationships. There appears to be extremes to lesbian and gay relationships. If we are making assumptions based on a minority group both genders are going to look bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:09 PM
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Not really sure what evidence you have to come to that conclusion
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:43 PM
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How does it show that? Are there stats on how long a relationship is failing before women decide to give it up on the relationship? Most couples date for more than two years before getting engaged and most couples are engaged from a year to a year and a half. So most women would have been with their significant other for several years before filing for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:39 PM
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I think you underestimate the impact people’s culture still has on them. Most people are coming from somewhat conservative backgrounds that would deter them from doing that which is probably why there are only around 2 million content creators on only fans.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:31 PM
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People do grow and change as time passes. You can go to the adultery sub and see people who are cheating on their significant other for the first time after 10 years. Most people are not horrible partners from day 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:21 PM
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How does it show that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:18 PM
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Women divorcing more in heterosexual relationships or homosexual relationships just shows they have less desire to stay in failing relationships than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:09 PM
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Who has 100 close friends they can go to? Most people (men and women) are extremely lucky if they have even 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 02:43 PM
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There’s always going to be better looking people. It’s ridiculous to think you will be the most attractive person your partner has ever seen. But you should have a stronger foundation in your relationship that your partner seeing a more attractive person doesnt cause turmoil to you or your relationship. My original comment can be applied to men as well btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 02:22 PM
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If a woman is stalking what female photos her guy is liking on Instagram she’s extremely insecure. Like who cares if he’s following about bunch of Instagram models he will never meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:39 PM
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Both are bad and it’s even worse if there’s already kids involved in this situation. I knew a couple in my family that were both cheating on one another. The wife got pregnant for the man she was cheating with and her husband ultimately chose to raise the child as his own. They already had 4 kids together and walking away from his marriage would mean significantly less time with his kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 01:26 PM
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I didn’t present any statistics. Do you or do you not agree that lonely men are more likely to enact a violent act than lonely women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:00 PM
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It’s irrelevant the actual numbers. You will probably go through the year hearing about multiple incidences where some lonely man enacted some violence upon a stranger. Whereas you are less likely to hear that of women. Both genders have things that are more common in one than the other. Not sure why people are trying to dispute that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:53 PM
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It’s not about what chance it is of it happening. It’s that we hear enough times in the year about men who appear to be alone being violent in society. I say a year because it’s unlikely you will go through a year without hearing about multiple incidences. There are things that are more common in one gender than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:50 PM
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Men who are pursuing women just for sex are not trying to spend time with them. They are trying to have sex and leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:10 PM
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What do you mean they created them? People develop based on what they are exposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:57 PM
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What man is saying I love you when they are having a one night stand? Also women are less likely to orgasm with partners they don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:56 PM
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Every women isn’t getting approached when they walk around. Unless they resort to dating apps there are women who get no male attention. And getting male attention on a dating app just to be used for sex can have negative impacts on mental health. Yet we don’t see women inflicting violence on strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:17 PM
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Do you have a source or evidence because the person I responded to had not seen anything that would determine if unattractive women had significant options for long term relationships. Their only evidence was that unattractive women were still getting messages on dating apps. Looks are subjective which is why I said it would be difficult to find a study. However, there are people that are unattractive to most of the people they are exposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:03 PM
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Lonely men arnt treated that way. In the real world the only way to know someone is lonely is if they choose to speak on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 01:38 PM
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I am not saying that most men are on using it to hookup. I’m saying that the attention those women receive could very well be that. And if half of men are on dating apps for a hookup it’s a realistic possibility. Maybe you haven’t seen a study on that because it’s hard to do a study on something that is subjective. To add, pretty women don’t have to go into spaces where it’s acceptable to approach a woman (I’m assuming spaces more geared toward hookups) to be approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 01:17 PM
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Everyone knows it’s not all lonely men. But you don’t see lonely women shooting up the place at the same rate lonely men are doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 01:00 PM
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Putting yourself in hook up environments so someone can use you is not what this commentor is talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 12:57 PM
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Women don’t ignore this. Women are well aware of this which is probably why more women are in relationships in their 20s than men in their 20s. Most people also marry someone within 3 years of them and there’s a higher rate of divorce for couples that have larger age gaps. Something that men in their 30s here seem to ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 05:38 PM
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Ehh he’s tall and doesn’t come from a race with small dicks so he should be working with something good. I would love a six pack man too but even if you get one he can lose it so I’m willing to accept him without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 03:00 PM
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Ummm idk. He doesn’t have a 6 pack and I hope his dick is bigger than 6 inches.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 03:39 AM
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Thank you for your support. From you, it means a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:41 AM
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Girlll he’s at least 6’4, full beard, has money. He was trying to talk to me back when I met him for the first time 7 years ago, but I had a man back then that I was in love with 🙄 Then I ran into him again on this trip.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:21 AM
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I didn’t tell him. I won’t be able to make another trip to the Caribbean for at least another 10 weeks so I figured I’ll wait it out a bit. Me and this other guy might stop talking before then and then what no Caribbean dick and no fwb too?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:16 AM
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Y’all I’ve decided I’m going to ride the Caribbean dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 11:26 PM
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Ahhh yes that type of work can be annoying. I had a business analyst position a few years ago where I would have to upload a photo for a mobile developer to show them what an app should look like. I would then have to do a write up explaining everything to them in the photo. Like I would have to say “in the top right corner should be a button that says the word continue” as if they can’t just look at the picture and see a button that says continue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:57 PM
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I like my job. I work remotely and have periods where I have no work at all for weeks and still get paid. Your comment is funny to me because me and my friend were just talking about how we want jobs where we do the same thing every single day and don’t have to learn anything new.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:51 PM
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I don’t drink and I prefer men who don’t drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:06 PM
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I do care about him. But there are personal things in his life that I can’t commit to long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:18 AM
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We arnt exclusive. I am dating other people. Maybe he is as well. When I decide to have sex with someone else even if it’s in America i will stop that type of interaction with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:16 AM
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Yes the only thing is I only want this dick if it’s long term commitment possibly something that leads to marriage. I don’t care to trade one fwb in for another especially one out the country. That’s why it’s still something I’m contemplating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:14 PM
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Implying there’s dick that wants me in the Caribbean.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:02 PM
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Not really. The decisions you make in your life don’t impact relationships with long term friends and family. This decision would impact whether or not this person is in my life and they are currently someone I interact with on a daily basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:57 PM
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I would be choosing to no longer partake in something that ive been doing for close to a year now. That’s dropping something from my life. Dropping something has nothing to do with commitment. For example you can decide to drop a cigarette habit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:44 PM
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