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| 20 | Q4M: Do you not enjoy being sexy for it's own sake? | Question For Men | Female_urinary_maze | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/19 05:32 AM |
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| 3 | The “don’t approach women IRL” is a zoomer thing…right?I reckon this is just a classic case of stuff getting misinterpreted online. First women say something normal like "please don't try to cold approach us in the grocery store or at the train station, we go to these places to run errands not find hookups." Then a (very small) demographic of weirdo guys who have their heart set on picking up chicks in the frozen food aisle read what women said and come complaining to us regular dudes like "omg I heard that feminazis want us to never ever talk to a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 04:59 AM |
| 2 | Dating women as bisexual/lesbian woman is far easier than dating as a heterosexual guy.Bi women's issues with heterosexual relationships are symptomatic of a wider problem with straight relationships in particular. There is a default social script for heterosexual relationships with two pre-defined roles. The script absolutely never calls for either party to view the other as an equal and use normal human communication skills. Being in a queer relationship means going off-script automatically. Overcoming the script in a straight relationship is harder. It requires both parties to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 10:36 AM |
| 3 | Dating women as bisexual/lesbian woman is far easier than dating as a heterosexual guy.The pretty young women/established men thing is a common view of attractiveness amongst straight people, but it's not really relevant to queer relationships of any kind. I mean imagine what it would actually be like if gay people were all into the straight norm. Lesbians all looking for the youngest and most conventionally feminine women they can get? Gay men stuck in an arms race of gaining money and learning "game" for eachother? It would be really weird. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 09:59 AM |
| 2 | Dating women as bisexual/lesbian woman is far easier than dating as a heterosexual guy.Well you're onto something, but the differences between straight dating and queer dating are so much bigger than you've seen. We're not just on different playing fields here. We're not even playing the same game. Heterosexual dating comes with an implicit social script. Both parties are assigned roles to perform. Queer dating is completely off script by default. There is no "chase." There is no oppositional dynamic between a gatekeeping person and a pursuing person. There are just two (or more) … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 07:43 AM |
| 1 | Just want different people's views in this issueThe idea of putting the child up for adoption if the mum can't afford it is inhumane and we can do better than that while still abolishing child support. Child support payments are a shitty and unfair alternative to genuine social responsibility and economic justice. We should be creating a world where every child is given what they need to grow up healthy and strong automatically not foisting out collective responsibility onto unlucky individuals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/22 10:35 AM |
| 3 | Do any of the pills apply to polyamorous/nonmonogamous people?No, not really. All the "pill" strategies tend to be built around the social scripts and normative behaviours of people who are monogamous and heterosexual. (or a misunderstanding of said scripts/behaviors) Polyamourous relationships go off script by default. That's why poly people spend so much time talking things out and setting our own expectations in each relationship. We have to. We've strayed far enough away from societaly defined norms and expectations in relationships that the only optio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/22 09:14 AM |
| 1 | If a man is involved in a nerdy/geeky hobby/community, is it a sexual death sentence?More men and boys get diagnosed with ADHD than women and girls, but it's very up in the air weather or not that reflects a real disparity in terms of how many men and women actually have it. Women and girls with ADHD tend to have a lot more inattentive symptoms than hyperactive symptoms. Being less disruptive to school classes and not fitting the stereotypical mold of kids with ADHD bouncing off the walls 24/7 causes our symptoms to be less noticeable when we're young. We're more likely to have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/20 06:18 AM |
| 2 | Validating women, good, bad or ugly?It's generally a good idea to compliment a girl you're into. (Provided there's nothing weird or super thirsty about the compliment) That's an important part of dating. If you didn't do that how would she even know that you're really into her? You can't avoid "validating" her by showing interest if you want her to know you're a real sexual and romantic option. It's also important to express your affectionate tendencies if you want a relationship to last. If you didn't do that your girl would even… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 12:43 PM |
| 1 | If the past is just the past, why are you against girls settling down with older guys with more past partners than them?Simple, I am not against that. It's none of my business and why would I care as long as they're both happy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 12:24 PM |
| 2 | If the past is just the past, why are you against girls settling down with older guys with more past partners than them?Because the ones who feel that way are bigoted against men who have gay sex. They consider gay sex to be a much bigger deal than straight sex. It's prejudice, plain and simple. It doesn't invalidate the principle that we shouldn't consider anyone less valuable for having sex. Some people just haven't internalized that principle enough to confront their own prejudices. It just goes to show how many people out there still need to grow the fuck up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 12:24 PM |
| 2 | Would you ever accept a marriage whereby you got everything that comes with it: The proposal, the engagement, the wedding, the honey moon, the public declaration of love and commitment, etc. - but it’s not a marriage under the law and has no legal ramifications should you “divorce”?I'm not really passionate about marriage in general so not doing the paperwork is no skin off my nose. I'm not sure if I want the whole ceremony and the party and the rings and whatnot either though. I don't really feel a connection to any of those traditions and I really really don't want to deal with party planning and the predatory wedding industry. However if I don't legally marry a permanent nesting partner I will need to figure out the paperwork to let said partner (or partners) be treated… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/20 06:43 AM |
| 3 | In an ideal society, what should men and women's gender roles/social expectations look like? If you could design your own society how would you socialize men and women differently?I'd get rid of the whole mess. Fuck the prudish shaming of female sexuality. Fuck the obsessive fussing about what men and boys can wear without seeming "gay." Fuck the association of gayness with not being as masculine or feminine as your straight counterparts. Fuck the rigid gender binary that is giving nonbinary people so much strife. Fuck all the complex hoops binary trans people have to jump through to be recognized as themselves. Fuck the idea that men have to be stoic invulnerable provide… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/20 07:42 PM |
| 2 | [Q4W] What would your dating life be like if you were born a man?Here's some of my estimations of what it would be like in no particular order. There would certainly be more women in my love life which is a plus, but the quantity of women interested in me probably wouldn't be as high as the quantity of men I currently attract. Women interested in me wouldn't generally be as forward about it as men are either. I'd have to actively ask women out which is alright. I already do that just not very often because I learned early on not to bother unless I already kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/20 07:05 PM |
| 1 | What acts do you count as sex?Really any kind of sexual contact where we play with eachother's genitals makes someone a sexual partner of mine. Handjobs, fingering, oral, PIV, those are all sex acts. Any real kink play counts too, that's very sexual for me. It would be nonsensical for me to reduce the concept of sex to PIV as a bisexual woman. Existing outside of heteronormativity really makes you have to think these things through a bit more than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/20 05:31 PM |
| 1 | What does a man have to do to get a reasonable proportion of women to not impose gender roles and expectations in a relationship?Ouch, that really sucks. I guess the correlation between feminist tendencies and being in favor of men's liberation isn't strong enough to help you much. True egalitarianism is a bit beyond the scope of basic libfem orthodoxy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/20 09:04 AM |
| 0 | What does a man have to do to get a reasonable proportion of women to not impose gender roles and expectations in a relationship?I'm sorry to say that any way to get relationships that are more healthy for you will shrink your dating pool significantly. Having standards always gives you less options, but I think it's worth it. It's quality over quantity. I'd reccomend seeking out women with traits that correlate with wanting an egalitarian relationship such as strong feminist beliefs, not totally conforming to her own gender's norms, and generally being a nonconformist. And I think you'll need to also talk about your expe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/20 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever told a man you care about to get in shape?This has never been necessary. All of the men in my life already know that being fit increases their attractiveness. Doesn't everyone know that fitness makes them hotter? Overweight people (or at least those close to me) especially are so acutely aware that extra fat isn't good for their attractiveness that their attempts to diet often come from a place of desperation and self loathing. The advice friends end up needing from me is usually along the lines of "not eating is not a sustainable lifes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/20 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Men have a greater chance of pulling a woman in person rather than over social media apps making it pointless to even use themIt doesn't matter how many women there are on Instagram and Snap when 99% of them absolutely despise dudes coming onto them on those platforms. The same goes for bothering random women on the bus, in the gym, or on the street. They'll be quietly infuriated. You have no idea of the depths of our anger and exhaustion in regards to dudes who won't leave us alone in places where we want to be left alone. If you don't like your odds on Tinder go somewhere social IRL where women will actually want to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/20 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Who’s responsible for a woman’s orgasm - man or woman?If either of partner refuses to be active in ensuring that she has an orgasm she probably won't have one. This makes them both responsible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/20 09:42 AM |
| 3 | What do women have against men who speak elegantly?A lot of people don't seem to like it when I am verbose either. I think they consider it to be pretentious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/20 09:20 AM |
| 2 | Men have a greater chance of pulling a woman in person rather than over social media apps making it pointless to even use themDo not try to pick up women on Instagram, Snapchat, or any non-dating social network! That puts you at a massive disadvantage because women (in general) do not like randos sliding into their DMs on platforms that they don't go to for dating. That's just not a place where flirting is expected or wanted. Online dating in general may also be less effective for you than in-person interaction (what with it being oversaturated with other men), but trying it on Snapchat or Instagram is an exceptionally… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Do you feel validated through sexual attention?No, not really. I find sexual attention from strangers on social media very unpleasant and deliberately avoid it. I also just generally don't enjoy trying to impress my friends, family, and acquaintances on social media. It's exhausting and brings me very little happiness. Subsequently I only use Reddit and occasionally Fetlife. (but only to PM people I've met because if I post my kinky art on Fet random dudes start bothering me) As for finding new sexual partners I don't do so very often, but w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: Why does a woman who has sex a lot of men 'not matter', yet women are turned off if they find out those men had sex with a lot of other men?This question seems like you're trying to call out all the women here with an argument that only applies to those of them that are prejudiced towards bisexual men. I'm not on any of that bullshit, but I do know the answer to your question. Anyway people who hold that attitude towards men who fuck other men are homophobic and/or biphobic not anybody-who-fucks-men-phobic. People who are bigoted in that way don't necessarily think it's wrong for a woman to have sex with men because it's straight wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Do women ever get any enjoy from sexThe sad state of affairs you described is completely avoidable. Penetration feels terrible if the woman is not warmed up and aroused. If she's actually ready it feels great! A man can usually give a woman orgasms if the two of them communicate so that he knows what feels good for her. Not all women can orgasm from penetration alone, but for most of those who don't all it takes is adding clitoral stimulation. (Which is very easy to do with your fingers before during or after penetrative sex) Thes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 11:49 PM |
| 1 | [Q4W] Do women suffer from the Coolidge effect like Men, and desire sexual variety to the same extent?Different women have different desires. The above commenter can't tell you what it's like to crave sexual novelty as a woman because that's not something she experiences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 05:41 AM |
| 2 | Q4A: If men are so disposable then do romantic relationships even mean anything for us?Having options doesn't destroy your ability to value people you've built relationships with. Do you love your pet less based on how it's relatively easy to adopt another one? No because you have a close bond with that particular animal. Do you undervalue your closest friends because there are so many other people in the world to befriend? No because you have important preexisting relationships with those individuals. The same principle applies to romantic relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Do other womens' opinions of a man you are interested in matter?No, and I'd never be in that situation anyway because my friends are nice people. They don't make demeaning comments about the appearances of people I date. Like who the hell thinks it's okay to say "eww, he's not attractive at all, you can do so much better." That's some highschool shit right there. If my friends were behaving that way I'd sooner get better friends than tailor my love life to their tastes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Q4W, is a larger penis important to physical attraction?Yeah, I can't deny that there's some notable portion of women who are into that, especially among those who use Pornhub. There's more like me too though, I don't think I'm really too rare or special in that regard. Either way good luck mate, may your next relationship be with somebody who enjoys you and your body. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/20 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Are women turned on by men who help with the chores?Okay firstly I think it's obvious that any women who are put off by men doing household chores are generally not the ones who express desire for men to do more household chores. Those are opposing opinions held by women who strongly disagree with eachother. Anyway not everything you partner wants in a relationship is a turn on. If she wants you to do the dishes she's probably not gonna get off on you doing the dishes, it's just something she expects from a partner. If you consistently fail to me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/20 06:03 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if you found out your partner slept with/dated unattractive women in the past?A bit confused, but I can't imagine having strong feelings about it. At least none of his exes look like me. I'd be more uncomfortable with we resembled eachother too closely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/20 11:02 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: What are your BDSM test results? Here are mine100% Rigger 100% Non-monogamist 98% Rope bunny 94% Dominant 94% Degrader 92% Sadist 87% Masochist 78% Master/Mistress 76% Owner 58% Experimentalist The top ten were pretty much what I expected. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/20 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Would you date a single dad if not why not?No, but only because I don't want any kids. That being said I am okay with dating dads as long as they are already raising their kids with one of their other partners. What matters is that the kids are not and never will be my problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/20 10:26 AM |
| 1 | What's your opinion in the Light Switch effect?That sounds like a common misunderstanding. A gradual change in someone else's emotions can seem more sudden to you than it actually is if they suddenly decide to tell you how they've been feeling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/20 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Q4W, is a larger penis important to physical attraction?Damn, that really sucks. I can see why that made you insecure. It only takes one close person saying something like that for it to feel like that's what everybody thinks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/20 10:13 AM |
| 4 | Paper AbortionsI think it's pretty safe to assume that the rates of unprotected sex won't significantly change based on any change in incentives. People will continue to have unprotected sex willy nilly everywhere that lacks good sex ed and easy access to BC despite any and all incentives to the contrary. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/20 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Q4W, is a larger penis important to physical attraction?Nope, not visually either. That's just not my thing. I think the differences you're seeing in women's apparent preferences depending on where you look speaks to some level of diversity. If you were to survey women for their preferences on dick size you would probably get a bell curve. It's also worth noting that I have never in my life actually met a woman who had strong feelings about dick size. Only the very few who answer these questions on the internet seem to care at all. I have encountered… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/20 04:45 AM |
| 3 | Q4W, is a larger penis important to physical attraction?Definitely not for me. Big dicks kinda put me off. I feel like I'm not made to stretch that far. I won't pretend that my perspective on dick size is universal, but nobody has universal appeal. Attracting some women is enough, and having a normal sized cock won't prevent that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/20 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Q4W. Do women have a conscious understanding of what arouses them?Women's awareness of their own preferences varies just like men's. People of any gender are capable of noticing what they like and weather there are any underlying reasons (sometimes there aren't), but not everyone does that mental work. I pay a lot of attention to what my desires and preferences are, but I haven't identified any concerning patterns at this stage in my life. Everything seems to be working smoothly. My being a Domme could plausibly have some kind of roots in my upbringing, but wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/20 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Are all of your relationships with men always geared toward the end goal of marriage and kids?It seems to be mostly women (myself included) over at r/childfree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/20 01:13 PM |
| 1 | Are all of your relationships with men always geared toward the end goal of marriage and kids?No, those are not my priorities. In fact I actively avoid dating people who would want me to make and/or raise children with them. I still get a lot of joy out of relationships. That being said I can see why someone who wants marriage and kids might not want relationships with people who don't share those goals. Ultimately they'd have to leave in order to get where they want to go in life, and leaving will hurt more the more that they build an emotional attachment. As for the post you saw I real… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/20 12:58 PM |
| 3 | Why child support defaulters are considered worse than other loan defaulters.Lack of child support would cause a child to have inadequate resources which is much more important than weather on not you pay off your student your loans. Obviously that means that the government should be covering the child support at this time as well as sending the father the same amount of money everyone else gets so that he can get by too. However they will not do the sensible thing because we live in a society that holds individuals disproportionately responsible for any child (or even a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/20 08:30 AM |
| 2 | [Q4W] When looking for a LTR/marriage material type of guy, is his N-count important?Generally speaking "N-count" on its own doesn't mean much to me. Knowing a person's level of sexual experience just opens up the door to more important questions that show weather they're suitable for me. If the potential partner is a virgin or only has vanilla experience I need to know weather they're sure enough of what their kinks are to know weather or not we're reasonably compatible. If the person is at all experienced I need them to get tested. If their history is so extensive that it show… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/20 05:22 AM |
| 2 | Where were young men/boys supposed to learn the correct way to be attractive?I'm not really sure where or how men should learn how to flirt and generally attract women (especially considering how toxic most communities that purport to teach those skills are under the surface) which is why I do not expect men to automatically know how. As someone who does not intuitively understand social norms and expectations I sympathize with anyone else struggling to learn a social skill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/20 05:04 AM |
| 1 | What are your height preferences/requirements for a potential boyfriend?I don't really get the fascination with tall men. Dudes being tall (or just taller than me) doesn't do anything for me. In theory I have a bit of a preference for men shorter than me, but in practice I very rarely meet any such men because I am only 5,5. My experience with being interested in men shorter than me is generally limited to occasionally spotting an attractive short guy when I'm out in the city. EDIT: I think it's worth mentioning that I have been with people shorter than me, they jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/20 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Have you ever met a guy who's extremely good-looking, yet became unattractive once you got to know him?Yes, that happens a lot. I once watched a guy who had previously seemed attractive wipe a massive booger on his judogi and just leave it there. I've been avoiding him ever since. I also met a dude who I found attractive until he opened his dumb mouth and tried to convince me that the pyramids are magic batteries and my feet will help me release more estrogen if I rub them the right way. He also tried to share "the secrets of the freemasons" with me. It was an experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/20 11:42 PM |
| 4 | "Average" guys in relationships might not be so averageI think that what you're observing is the fact that most people have at least a few attractive attributes. This will usually make them attractive to some portion of the population who value those particular attributes very highly. On a different note I hate to say it, but your mum has some serious issues. Some people undervalue themselves so much that they cling desperately to whoever gave them a smidgen of affection and validation even if that person mostly treats them like shit. If she just wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/20 04:37 AM |
| 1 | If sex is a need, why dont more guys just go to hookers?I think that even the ones who are bitter and hateful towards women still yearn for intimacy, sexual validation, and the feeling of being desired. They can even want to be loved in their own twisted way. Even toxic and entitled people need that kind of connection in their lives, but they have a lot of growing up to do before they can actually be ready for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/20 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Would you date yourself in your early 20s if you were the opposite gender?Absolutely. With or without a gender swap I am totally my own type, and we'd have so much in common! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/20 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Opinion on Dyed HairI find bright colored hair very attractive, especially on women and femmes. Bright hair does also correlate with some personality traits such as having interesting taste in music, being gay or bi, being an artist or craftsperson, and general nonconformity. That being said I don't really take hair styles seriously as an indicator of someone's personality. It's a very minor clue and anyone who tells you otherwise is most likely making shit up. The idea that it's a cry for attention is especially s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/20 09:52 AM |
| 10 | Q4W - Don't you get it?I have a suspicion that a lot of that crap is just dudes trying to rationalize their preference for younger women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/20 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Are you accepting of men artificially enhancing their looks?The fact that you can't rationalize attraction in or out of existence is exactly why I find it so unsurprising when people report that they don't care about implants and plastic surgery. You can ruminate on the fact that it's a surgical enhancement all you want, but if the person looks the part your dumb ape hindbrain can still say "mmm, sexy person. Must mate!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/20 04:49 AM |
| 1 | The Orgasm intensity gapWell there's only so much that can be done to intensify male orgasms. (And that's doubly true if he's not into butt stuff) I can do a lot to intensify a man's orgasm, but it still might never reach the dizzying heights of my own body's orgasmic potential. On the other hand women not coming at all is often a very easy situation to rectify. It's not generally super difficult to make a woman come at least once per session. Sometimes all it takes is a basic understanding of how to stimulate the clit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/20 01:18 PM |
| 10 | Attention whoring drives n count in women, not sexualityAttention is nothing. I could absolutely drown myself in attention just by getting an Instagram, streaming myself playing a video game, or simply existing at a bar or club. Nonetheless I partake in the much more effortful process of choosing compatible sexual partners, finding somewhere to play, and having kinky sex. Why? Because it's fun! Sex feels good, stop overthinking it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/20 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Will men who "spin plates" move to polygamy once it becomes legalized?No I do not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/20 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Will men who "spin plates" move to polygamy once it becomes legalized?I really don't believe in the whole idea of denying a group of people legal rights and protections just to prevent a "slippery slope" of further changes. That's the same kind of argument people have used against gay people's rights and yet gay marriage unsurprisingly did not cause society to descend into a dark age of pedophilia and bestiality. If you want a more specific answer you'll have to specify exactly what kind of "slippery slope" you're worried about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/20 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Will men who "spin plates" move to polygamy once it becomes legalized?If those dudes had the desire and ability to maintain committed poly relationships they would already be doing so. Polyamorous people already face few legal challenges. (Although we are not protected from discrimination and can't get married) I'm pretty sure the whole deal with guys who refer to their sexual partners as "plates" is that they're avoiding long term relationships, commitment, and emotional closeness (usually because they have very negative views of women and want to avoid getting a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/20 03:06 AM |
| 19 | The hope of obtaining a young, beautiful virgin women to marry and be with forever is every bit as unrealistic as the "find your hero and live happily ever after" Disney fairytale sold to girls.Those repressed religious guys can reasonably expect to marry a virgin, but is it realistic to think that they'll be happy in their marriage just because they did it all by the book? Running to the alter with the first pretty church girl who will have you so that you can finally get laid isn't a great process for determining long term compatibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/20 12:22 AM |
| 4 | Is changing your priorities in a time of crisis a sign of hypergamy? Should women get assaulted by mobs for their duplicity in changing their priorities in a time of crisis?I really don't think we need to "discuss the pros and cons" of publicly assaulting women for being pragmatic about how we should handle the caronavirus. Anyone who thinks that's a good idea is too far gone to have a sane conversation with a civilized person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/20 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Do attractive men (Chad, Chadlite for you lingoers) apply passive dread in the same way an attractive female does?Well yes, that definitely happens, but maybe not for the reasons you're thinking of. "Dread" or insecurity in one's relationship doesn't just inherently spring from being with a hot person. It largely results from factors internal to the person who feels it. (in the interests of staying on topic I won't get into active manipulation by a shitty partner here) Preexisting insecurity in oneself and/or abandonment issues causes many people to feel "dread" in every relationship they enter into regardl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/20 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Are you accepting of men artificially enhancing their looks?But do our unconcious reproductive instincts understand or care about plastic surgery? That was not a factor in our ancestral environment. We're not ideal reproductive fitness optimizers, we just have drives that approximately match what was best for our ancestor's reproductive fitness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/20 07:43 AM |
| 1 | The double standard for male and female promiscuity is totally justifiedYou don't have to tell people why you're rejecting them if It'll only make them more upset. I wouldn't say that rejecting women because they have had a lot of sex is actively slut shaming them, it just comes from the same puritanical cultural baggage that is also behind active slut shaming. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/20 02:12 AM |
| 1 | What is the "peer reviewed scientific" approach to amass the largest number of sex partners as a man that isn't morally constrained? Or way to get your girlfriend to have a threesome if she's not really into it?Have you not seen terpers going around saying "this is how women work because [insert lots of armchair evolutionary psychology here]?" Not everything y'all say is pseudoscience, but those posts sure are. It's random guesses being framed as a scientific explanation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/20 09:16 PM |
| 1 | The double standard for male and female promiscuity is totally justifiedIs it natural though? How would you know if it was just cultural? All of the men I know who aren't entrenched in purity culture don't feel that way. As for men who are put off by sexual experience scaring them away is a bonus. I found the way that those men thought about me before I started having sex unpleasant, so I'm pretty stoked about the consequences of my actions. I don't think shaming them would be productive, I'm just glad that they'll voluntarily leave my dating pool now and that we as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/20 08:24 PM |
| 3 | I don't believe that women are attracted to 'hard work' and 'effort' as much as we are made to believe. Instant gratification from those who have already attained success is a lot more attractive, even if they achieved it without any effort at all.I'm not sure if "success" (which I'm assuming means career success) is attractive either, at least not in a panty-dampening way. Money isn't hot, it's just useful. A rich man might be chosen over a man with less money (provided that both of them are attractive) for purely practical reasons especially if the woman making that choice wants more money in order to comfortably raise children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/20 02:40 AM |
| 1 | The double standard for male and female promiscuity is totally justifiedThe congratulatory side of the double standard isn't the most toxic part. It's the shaming that's really awful. Just because something takes effort doesn't mean that people should be shamed when they don't do it. Shaming women for not staying virgins is like shaming someone for not speedrunning a video game. They probably had a perfectly good time without the extra challenge and there's nothing wrong with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/20 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Sex bots for womenRealistically speaking by the time that sexbots are so advanced that they could hold a job all jobs will have already been taken by more specialized robots. It's more efficient for a company to own a shitload of their own 24/7 working robots than to hire somebody's sexbot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/20 01:47 AM |
| 1 | What do you think is the most common reason for why women wear makeup?I suspect that the most common reason for women who wear makeup on a daily basis is a sense of shame or social preassure. Both of my grandmothers are like that. They don't talk about it like it's a way to show off, they talk about it like it's an obligation. It's what has been expected of them for a majority of their lives after puberty. For women who only wear makeup occasionally it's probably more about showing off or expressing oneself. That kind of relationship with makeup seems to be increa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/20 04:40 AM |
| 1 | If women are sexually aroused more so through non-visual stimuli, why is it that women have high visual standards (eg. height)I think that a large proportion of women can't feel attraction until all of the pieces fall into place. They don't get into a person at all until all of the visual and emotional components are present. Some people call that being "demisexual," but the term is not widely used. Half the time if you describe demisexuality to a woman she'll say "isn't that just normal???" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/20 08:54 PM |
| 1 | If women are sexually aroused more so through non-visual stimuli, why is it that women have high visual standards (eg. height)That's basically what I said. (excepting the part about an overwhelming majority of men being unattractive) Visual attraction is a required component of sexual interest. It's not the only component, but it is required. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/20 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Would you have sex with a married man?Well technically yes, but only when they're in an open or poly marriage. I understand that you were probably referring to men who would be cheating on their wives. That's a big no from me. I would not touch those dishonest fuckers with a ten foot pole, and I'd warn their wives too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/20 08:16 AM |
| 1 | To WOMEN, how would you honestly feel if your parter was unable to cum from PIV Sex?Well if he didn't like PIV at all that would be quite a downer. It wouldn't blame myself or anything. I'd just be disappointed that we couldn't mutually enjoy that activity. On the other hand if he liked PIV but just couldn't cum from it that'd be no big deal. I have two hands and a mouth, it's not rocket science. That's part of what I don't get about the whole cultural obsession with weather a man can make a woman cum with just PIV. There are plenty of ways to make sure that she's satisfied whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 08:50 AM |
| 2 | Would you try to break up an age gap couple where the girl is barely legal and the guy is significantly older?I reserve the right to be angry that my sub faces social stigma and suspicion for being with me. The reality is that age gap relationships aren't really socially accepted. Additionally sometimes people do weird shit like calling him my "daddy" which is unpleasant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 04:04 AM |
| 2 | The Telegraph: "Women are being strangled, choked, slapped and spat on during sex - we need to stop pretending this is normal"I "like it rough" in some very specific ways. For instance spanking is awesome, but being choked is a big no for me especially since most dudes don't know what the fuck they're doing. You can't automatically know which "rough" things (if any) somebody is into, and you must absolutely not spring it on them unexpectedly! The long and short of it is that people need to just ask before doing these things. If they can't talk about it first they're not mature enough (or maybe just too plastered) to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Would you try to break up an age gap couple where the girl is barely legal and the guy is significantly older?As a woman who started dating a 40+ man when I was 19 I hope that people will continue to mind their own damn business. I'm a grown woman, I know what I want, and I don't let any motherfucker push me around. People shouldn't make stupid assumptions about the power dynamics of my relationships based on my age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 01:04 AM |
| 1 | How do women feel about men who struggle with mental illness?Considering what subreddit we're in I suppose you mean in the context of dating? That's not a problem for me as long as the guy (or not a guy) doesn't block me out (at least most of the time), isn't stubbornly refusing to seek treatment, and generally works to take care of themselves I've found that it's a really rough to care for someone who is emotionally unavailable and refuses to put in any effort to look after themselves. Beyond that I am definitely open to dating people with depression, an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/20 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Women who feel sexually attracted to beta traitsWell that really depends what you mean by "beta." I see that term used to describe a weird grab bag of traits. Qualities that I see described as "beta" and find sexually attractive include -kindness -making me feel safe -eating pussy -not being a domineering douchenozzle -being an introverted dork -being a sub -being smart and/or artistic -using a fucking condom "Beta" traits that I find unappealing (both sexually and emotionally) include: -wanting kids -not being reasonably assertive -being too… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/20 08:27 PM |
| 2 | If women are sexually aroused more so through non-visual stimuli, why is it that women have high visual standards (eg. height)We are definitely visually aroused. There are a lot of other factors (such as dirty talk, the context of the relationship, being caressed, feeling safe, etc) that contribute to women's arousal, but visual stimuli actually count for a lot. I don't think dating short guys is usually "an experiment," it's just that women's preferences don't all line up with the average. Some of us just like short dudes or are are apathetic about their height. For women who do prefer tall guys they might also prize … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/20 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you marry a man that couldn't provide for you?Of course, my partners aren't supposed to pay my expenses. That's what jobs are for. If I was going to dedicate a lot of my time and labour to raising kids to the detriment of my job I might feel differently, but since that's not for me I'll be pulling my weight with paid labour rather than via childrearing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/20 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Where are your favorite places to troll for NSA\ONS etc sex with men outside of social connections?The closest I get to looking "outside of social connections" is meeting new people at BDSM munches in order to get to know them and suss out weather I want to play with them. Most women in the scene don't play with random strangers from Fetlife because we're not trying to get murdered. It's safer to play within the scene where everyone's telling each other who to avoid. I also need to take it slow and trust my instincts about any new play partners, FWBs, or relationships. Just because I'm horny … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/20 08:14 AM |
| 1 | heres an idea. what if a girl didnt "wait for sex", but demanded STD tests from every guy?This is essentially what I do. Sex isn't on a schedule, it just doesn't happen until I feel safe and one of the things I need to feel safe is STD testing. I don't think that would be a valid replacement for the whole "wait for sex" thing though because waiting doesn't increase sexual safety. It must have a different purpose. I'm not sure because that's not my thing, but I think the waiting game exists to avoid getting pumped and dumped. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/20 09:12 PM |
| 4 | Do you judge your appearance based on how you look with make-up or without it?Well I don't do make-up, but my awareness of my own attractiveness has gone up significantly over time while the quantity of men (and plenty of people who aren't men) I can feel attracted to has stayed pretty consistent. Those two things just don't connect in the same way that you think they do. My attractiveness affects who I can fuck not who I want to fuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/20 01:04 PM |
| 2 | Q4All - what do you mean by “respect”.There are two main kinds of respect. Standard respect is the baseline level of respect that you should have for any other person's autonomy, boundaries, rights, etc. Basically it's acknowledging that they're a person too and therefore giving them a certain level of consideration. Respect for authority is a different level of respect, it means treating someone as if they are superior to yourself and have the right to make decisions for you. Whenever I say anything about my deserving respect I'm u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/20 03:43 AM |
| 1 | When a man says they doesn't care about woman's career, job or education, he should be avoided at all costsWell you're not wrong, but I think that "I care about a woman's career and education" can also be a euphemism for "I live an expensive lifestyle with elitist people, I care about keeping up with the Joneses, and I think that anyone who didn't go to college is beneath me." Not caring about potential partners careers and education is a red flag, but putting too much emphasis on it is a different red flag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/20 09:16 AM |
| 2 | Q4WOMEN: is ‘daddy’ stuff cringey to you?Yeah, I worded that poorly. I meant that I don't think it's "super common" compared to other kinks that women can have. Like it's nothing compared to rough sex, spanking, bondage, non-ddlg D/s play, etc However when it comes to women going around calling their boyfriends "Daddy" in non-play conversations I agree with you it's strangely common. It's not all over the place or anything, but certainly noticeable. It's at least enough to make me wonder what's up with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/20 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Q4WOMEN: is ‘daddy’ stuff cringey to you?Yeah, that's a fair point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/20 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Q4WOMEN: is ‘daddy’ stuff cringey to you?If it's not for sex or play purposes is it even kink? I'm not sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Q4WOMEN: is ‘daddy’ stuff cringey to you?I wouldn't call it "cringe," it's just a hard limit for me personally. The word "Daddy" just has too much baggage for me, and I'm not much of a sub anyway. I do know some ddlg girls though, and there's nothing objectionable about them. Once you actually listen to them describe their own experiences of ddlg play whatever incestuous or pedophilic overtones you thought were there go away. Sometimes an adult likes to call another adult Daddy and that's okay. Anyway where did you hear that ddlg is a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever woke up one day and suddenly lost all physical/sexual attraction to your boyfriend?Nah, I haven't experienced that problem. Are you on any new medications? A lot of meds including (but not limited to) hormonal birth control and antidepressants can seriously fuck up your attraction and libido. If you're getting sick or have some kind of vitamin deficiency that could explain it too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 09:01 PM |
| 1 | If your boyfriend asked you to degrade him, would you lose respect/love/interest in him?Nsh, it would be no big deal. That kind of conversation is a lot easier when it's between people who are both into BDSM stuff. The watersports aspect doesn't sound like my cup of tea (whereas the rest is definitely in my wheelhouse), but I might at least try it. I'd certainly never think less of someone for being into that. That whole conversation would be a bit more hit or miss if your partner seems to be vanilla, but I think it's still worth bringing up. Secrets feel shitty and so does not bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Ladies: Do you feel men are too sexual in dating?It's not even just a dating problem because no dating has to occur before the creeper gets creeping. Dudes like that haven't even started dating a woman or established any kind of rapport and understanding of boundaries before they start spamming her with thirsty shit and unsolicited dick pics. A woman doesn't even have to be seeking a partner on a dating site to attract that kind of unwanted sexual attention. Make a Fetlife profile to find events in your area? You unsurprisingly get creepers. H… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 07:51 AM |
| 6 | When you're dating a guy, how important is it that the guy is "worth showing off" to your friends/social media. I strongly believe this plays a big factor in women choosing the guy they date.Nah, I'm a very private person so I don't share pictures of me and/or my partners. I don't like people being in my business. I also hate trying to cater to people's expectations and pay attention to social pressures. That shit is exhausting. I don't really know how common my mindset is so I can't tell you weather many other women would want to choose a partner that they can "show off." I can only speak for myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 07:31 AM |
| 3 | Q4W how aware/unaware are groups of single women of each other's levels promiscuity?I hear plenty about my friend's love and sex lives (usually from first-hand accounts) although I've never actually ranked them on "levels of promiscuity." I could come up with where each friend sits on that spectrum if I think about it, but no part of my brain naturally thinks to rank my friends based on how much sex they have. It's not part of my value system or something that I find interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Would you forgive infidelity in a marriage?What is the purpose of "revenge cheating?" Would it be for revenge or just because you no longer feel an obligation to stay faithful to your husband? And if you're probably gonna cause a blowup and divorce by "revenge cheating" anyway why even bother staying married? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Why don't women "stage" sex to avoid bad sex encounters before they start?I guess that could work, but I prefer to discuss sex a lot before having it to minimize the possibility of being caught off guard by any big compatibility issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/20 03:16 AM |
| 2 | Why don't women "stage" sex to avoid bad sex encounters before they start?Well you're right that a lot of women need to be more sexually assertive, but I don't think "staging" is needed. I find it a lot simpler to only fuck people who are good listeners and clearly communicate with them about what I want at any given time during a sexual encounter. When I need to take some time to warm up, want to receive oral, feel like having my ass paddled, want them to go faster or slower, prefer to do pegging next, or have any other desire I just say so and (as long as it's somet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/20 05:20 AM |
| 5 | Q4Women: What are some things you've done to get the attention of a guy you're interested in?Well I was planning on asking guys out, but that turned out to be completely unnecessary. Walking into a BDSM munch as a woman is like walking into a herd of puppies while covered in peanut butter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/20 09:06 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: What Exactly is Considered Porn Sex and Why is It Unrealistic For Men In Relationships To Expect It?Or just use your hand to directly stimulate her clit during sex. If your goal is to make sure she's getting enough clit stimulation why overcomplicate things by trying to rely purely on PIV? The whole problem is that not all women are capable of orgasming from PIV and even for those who can it's not usually as strong as an orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation. You can avoid that whole issue by giving direct clit stimulation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/20 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Often times on social media, OLD, or even in person I hear women use the phrase "Man Up". What exactly is the definition of this phrase and why do you use it?"Man up" is a shitty thing that sexist people say to exert preassure on men and boys by insulting their masculinity. It can be used to dismiss men's emotions, to foist unwanted responsibilities upon them, and to exert preassure on them to get them to do things that they're not comfortable with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/20 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Dou you feel like you have an expiration date?In terms of looks no, that's not quite how I feel about it. The phrase "expiration date" has a lot of emotional baggage that isn't at all relevant to how I feel about the process of aging. I've come to accept the fact that I'll look different when I'm older and that the quantity of men (and smaller quantity of women) that I attract will likely diminish. This is something I can live with and not reflective of my worth as a person. On the other hand I already feel like my body is past its expirati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/20 09:31 PM |
| 1 | CMV: The Amber Heard audio is typical of how women treat men's grievancesAre you saying that your post was meant to be about the mainstream reaction to the Amber/Johnny situation not about the abuse itself? If so why did you say "The Amber Heard audio is typical of how women treat men's grievances" instead of "The public's reaction to the Amber Heard audio is typical of our culture's apathy towards male victims of domestic abuse?" Cause what you posted strongly implies that you think Amber's behavior is normal among women which is what I was arguing against. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/20 12:15 AM |
| 1 | CMV: The Amber Heard audio is typical of how women treat men's grievancesJust because they didn't hit you doesn't mean they weren't abusive. Refusing to be accountable for anything and trying to use your sense of masculinity against you is some classic narcissist shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/20 12:04 AM |
| 11 | “Men prefer debt free virgins without tattoos”."Men prefer debt free virgins without tattoos" was actually the title of a blog post by the infamous Christian fundamentalist Lori Alexander. (Also known as "the transformed wife") I'm pretty sure that she was patient zero of that ridiculous statement. She was also 100% serious. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/02/20 11:11 PM |
| 3 | Has your parents ever set you up on a blind date?Of course not! Firstly I wouldn't tolerate that because it's insanely intrusive and my parents are not at all qualified to help anyone make relationship decisions. Secondly my parents wouldn't do that because they're utterly terrified of my having a love life and would never do anything to encourage it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/20 05:56 AM |
| 3 | Why do some people criticize toxic masculinity, but still use "virgin" as an insult?A lot of people just aren't very intelligent and don't think things through. Additionally some others are just fucking toxic and don't even care weather what they're saying makes any sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/20 07:50 AM |
| 1 | Do men REALLY like “good girls”?I strongly suspect that OP's friends aren't just "good girls," they're insecure and self-neglecting. They're endlessly kind and giving without expecting their boyfriends to give back. That makes them vulnerable to every asshole who wants to take endlessly without giving. The problem is not that men don't love "good girls," it's that girls who are too "good" (actually far too too giving) don't vet out potential boyfriends who are insufficiently loving towards them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/20 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Do men REALLY like “good girls”?I strongly suspect that OP's friends aren't just "good girls," they're pushovers. They're endlessly kind and giving without expecting their boyfriends to give back. That makes them vulnerable to every asshole who wants to take endlessly without giving. The problem is not that men don't love "good girls," it's that girls who are too "good" don't vet out potential boyfriends who are insufficiently loving. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/20 09:17 AM |
| 2 | CMV: The Amber Heard audio is typical of how women treat men's grievancesYeah, I think we're in agreement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/20 02:44 AM |
| 3 | CMV: The Amber Heard audio is typical of how women treat men's grievancesYou're absolutely right about the public perception of male abuse victims. It's a fucking travesty and what you said is a good take on it. I wasn't arguing that though. I was specifically responding to this post where OP links a tape of Amber Lynne gaslighting Johnny Depp and calls it "typical of how women treat men's grievances." I think that's a very incorrect description of the problem and shows the OP very obviously projecting an abuser's behavior onto an entire sex of people. He literally u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/20 12:29 AM |
| 98 | CMV: The Amber Heard audio is typical of how women treat men's grievancesThis is completely typical of abusers. That kind of deflecting behavior and refusal to take responsibility for transgressions is very common in abusive relationships and households. My dad is like that, my sister is like that, it's not unusual or specific to women by any stretch. You see a lot of guys on here who have been through that because "manosphere" subcultures like TRP and MGTOW are very attractive to men who have been abused by women. They find solidarity in their shared trauma, but the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/20 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Men do not want to LTR nice, chill, low maintenance girls.I think you just need to learn to communicate your emotions in a reasonable way. You sound like you've been bottling things up and trying to be "chill" all the time for so long that you have no idea how to express anything without blowing up. Trying to be totally "chill" in relationships and letting everything slide turns you into a doormat and leads to unfulfilling relationships for both parties, but blowing up on your guy all the time isn't sustainable or healthy either. You should probably ju… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/20 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Why can’t each gender see that BOTH sides have their own problems and get along?I think that most people can empathize with the opposite sex just fine. In real life I find it easy to have substantial conversations with men about the different issues that effect us. I think the real problem at the heart of the "gender war" is that a vocal minority of people who have had very bad experiences (or no experiences at all) with the opposite sex get together online and create hateful circlejerks about how shitty they think the opposite sex is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/20 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Morally speaking, is it worse to pump and dump a girl who you've willfully tricked into thinking you're interested in a relationship, or to hire a prostitute?Lying to and/or manipulating someone to get laid is absolutely awful behavior. When you mislead a woman to get what you want from her you're undermining her ability to make decisions in her own best interest. I think that's quite violating. On the other hand hiring a sex worker is fine. It's an honest transaction where each person gets what they want out of it. (Provided that the sex worker is working that job willingly. The fact that that's not guaranteed is part of why reforming laws around se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/20 10:21 PM |
| 7 | Something I don't understand about women giving advice about disclosing real n-count numberFDS is full of terrible often contradictory advice and rhetoric based mostly on bitterness. I say not to lie about anything to a potential partner, because if they'd be scared off by truth about me we're not compatible. It's an easy way to weed out anyone who won't actually like me in the long run. This also works for potential friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/20 09:16 AM |
| 3 | Q4Women: How many of your ex boyfriends were absolute pieces of shit?Zero of them have been peices of shit. Paying attention to my parent's relationship made me very aware of red flags long before I started dating. My number one rule is to never date anyone who reminds me of my dad, and it's pretty effective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/20 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: How much do you care about a man's sexual history?Generally no, I don't care. Although an exception would be if he's had so many casual and/or unprotected encounters that it's indicative of risk-seeking behavior. In that case I would need to find out weather he's been off of that bullshit for a sufficiently long period of time. I'm a risk averse person and recklessness is a dealbreaker for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/20 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Is, "I don't mess with women into social media" a realistic standard anymore?It's better to establish exactly what kind of relationship with social media you don't want a potential partner to have and only filter for that. A vast majority of people use some social media for something but they use it to different extents for different purposes. Some people just have a Facebook to talk to older family members or keep up with events that are only posted on Facebook. Some people use Instagram as a business opportunity to market their art/craft/design business. Some people ju… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/20 10:12 PM |
| 1 | You just learned that your boyfriend won the lottery when he was 18 and blew it all on hot girls, paying their credit card debt, traveling on yachts, buying them designer bags and shit. Now he lives a frugal and modest lifestyle with you. How do you feel?Well if this is someone I've been with for a while I'd feel a little weird about that fact that I've never heard about such a big thing in his life before so let's assume that this is a new relationship. Let's also assume that it's been quite a while since his big spending days because otherwise I wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who had been so irresponsible so recently. But other than that I wouldn't be offended or anything. It's good that he's grown into a financially responsible person… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/20 10:40 AM |
| 4 | Do you consider a cohabitating couple with no intent to marry to be in a commited relationship?1: Yeah, cohabitation sounds like a commitment to me. Besides it's really none of my business to judge weather or not other people are committed to their relationships. They'd know better than I would. 2: No, but only because I don't want children. 3:The most I can guess is that it'll be over 50%, at least in New Zealand. People really don't care that much about marriage around here. Our prime minister gave birth out of wedlock and barely anyone gives a shit. 4: Yeah, I'd definitely go for a lon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/20 09:49 AM |
| 3 | What would you do if your partner wanted you to fulfil the dominant role in bed or do a sex act to him that would be considered submissive?Okay let's just ignore the whole escort thing and focus on the meat of the question. When my current partner (who was only topping at the time) told me that he's interested in subbing I was overjoyed and eager to try a lot of what he wanted. This is because I am a Domme. (as well as a sadomasochist) Results will vary a lot depending on your partner. If she's very vanilla or a sub(and not a switch) herself she might not want to try any femdom stuff and almost certainly won't want to try most of w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/20 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Question For Women: If you were suddenly a man, what would you do to have sex with women?Assuming that I still have similar genetics and build here's what I'd do. -get a leather jacket and some pants that fit my ass -grow a beard to compensate for my overly youthful face -continue to be a fit martial artist continue getting regular haircuts at a barbershop -go to BDSM munches and talk to people -get phone numbers or Fetlife names from women at the munch (and some gay men but that's not the point of this thought experiment) -ask women I met at the munches if they want to go out for c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/20 08:50 AM |
| 8 | Question For Women: If you were suddenly a man, what would you do to have sex with women?Pussy is definitely a feature not a bug when it comes to lesbian dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/20 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Why won't submissive women enter LTRs?Yeah if you can't deal with being around a few lefties you should probably stay out of the BDSM community. There are also certainly more poly people and swingers in the BDSM community than in vanilla society, because the community consists entirely of people who are okay with breaking some social conventions around sex and dating. I have never noticed any real pressure not to be monogamous, and there are certainly monogamous people in my local scene, but if being around non-monogamous people mak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/20 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Society’s preoccupation with and hatred for incels: just an excuse to bash male virgins in a socially acceptable way or well-earned contempt for a toxic “community?”When I refer to "incels" I'm talking about the subculture not just dudes who can't get laid. I have no qualms about insulting incel culture, because it's a cesspool of misogyny, general misanthropy, suicide encouragement, and mass shooter worship. You'd be hard pressed to convince me otherwise, because I have lurked incel communities and seen for myself that the kind of shit that gets reposted to r/inceltears is common and approved of there. However I am aware that some people throw the word "in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/20 09:29 AM |
| 1 | Why won't submissive women enter LTRs?Where are you meeting these subs? People looking for different things often look in different places. If you're on an app like Tinder you'll find mostly people looking for hookups. Fetlife isn't a great place to look for partners either for many reasons. In my experience the best place to find kinky people interested in serious relationships is at your local BDSM munch. (That's a clothes-on event where a bunch of kinky people just hang out) Not everyone there will be there looking for long term … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/20 11:40 AM |
| 2 | Women. For the next 30 days you are now a man. Tell us what you think happens.Lol, that's a new one. I am curious as to why you think that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/20 08:44 AM |
| 1 | TRP gives men advice on how to get women to have sex with them (their imperative) so what's some real advice on how I can get guys and make them stay as a women?If you are only looking for long term relationships DO NO HOOK UP. Guys who seek out hook-ups generally only want hook-ups and your chances of changing their priorities are slim to nill. Don't mess around with anyone who doesn't share your priorities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/19 08:59 PM |
| 10 | Women. For the next 30 days you are now a man. Tell us what you think happens.Well (assuming this is a case of my sex changing) I wouldn't having a fucking menstrual disorder so that would be pretty great. All problems would be worth it just to be completely free of my condition for thirty days. I wouldn't have even half as many orgasms which would be super frustrating, but at least I'd get a once in a lifetime chance to feel what it's like in a different body. I'd have a great time at judo. It'd be nice to feel what it's like to have less of a disadvantage. I can work wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/19 03:27 AM |
| 9 | Q4W: Is your first impression about a guy who doesn't use social media (Facebook, Instagram, etc.) that he is a creep or that he has issues?My first impression would be that he and I might have a lot in common. (although I do have reddit, obviously) I really don't understand how it's socially expected for everyone to be interested in broadcasting their whole life online and looking at countless boring pictures of their friends, family, and acquaintances. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/19 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Let's say you've got a 16 year old male son. Would you rather he was a virgin gaming loser or a drug-using troublemaking stud?The gamer, obviously. Sixteen is a perfectly fine age to be a virgin. I wouldn't worry until he at least reached college. Meenwhile reckless "drug-using troublemaker" teenagers aren't generally great at using protection. It's better to not get laid at all than to have a bunch of unsafe sex until you catch a bad STD or knock someone up. And depending on the drugs and "trouble" there are a lot of other risks too. (F20) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/19 11:41 AM |
| 12 | Are you submissive to your man?Absolutely not. I think that the whole concept of wifely submission is destructive to women's mental health and ability to have fulfilling relationships. Everyone needs a spine, and a pair of people will be better at making decisions that work for both of them when the decisions come from collaboration between both of them. I grew up with a spineless mother and tyrannical father who made awful stupid decisions for the family. It was a hellish marriage and a shitty way to grow up. That nasty dyna… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/19 02:28 AM |
| 1 | Q4women: How do you feel about abrupt borderline inappropriate starting messages from online dating apps?Honestly I don't understand the problem. That seems like normal stuff to want to know about a person before you date them. Better to get it out of the way quickly than drag out a conversation only to find out that the two of you have nothing in common, live too far apart, or have different intentions in regards to dating. If you don't want to divulge any personal details to strangers online dating probably isn't for you. (that's not an insult, online dating isn't for me either) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/19 07:21 AM |
| 7 | Women, do you like it when your man mate guards you against other guys?Absolutely not. Policing my social life or picking fights with random dudes instead of letting me reject them is an absolute deal breaker. Nobody who actually trusts me and respects my ability to handle stuff myself would do that. The only reason that he'd need to "guard" me from other dudes "getting too close" would be if he expects to be cheated on. I reckon that whenever a dude feels the need to "guard" his "mate" from cheating on him either he doesn't have enough trust to be ready for a rela… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/19 07:53 AM |
| 11 | Why do women constantly complain about “unrealistic” beauty standards?This is basically what I was going to point out. The beauty industry creates insecurities to profit off of by inundating vulnerable young people with unrealistic expectations. Any affect that may have on a women's dating/sex prospects is incidental, because low self esteem is crappy weather you're getting enough dick or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/19 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Regarding "The Female Social Matrix"Your results from participating in the "FSM" will vary based on how you participate. Befriending like-minded women is good for you. It's great to have a support network of people who you genuinely like to be around. Letting yourself be dragged into dominance contests, worrying overmuch about social expectations, or wasting time on social connections with anyone you don't actually like is bad for your mental health. The internet will probably not help you to make friends. I would recommend that y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/19 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Why do women hate n-counts?I'm not sure that there's no way to be that ate up about a woman's "n-count" without it being a sexist thing, or at least a purity culture thing. I think that even if a dude isn't a huge dick about it judging women based on "n-counts" comes from having internalized some sex-negative bullshit. That being said if a dude rejected me on those grounds I wouldn't be really pissed. I might be annoyed, but it'd be for the best. It's good when people with incompatible values remove themselves from my dat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/19 05:39 AM |
| 16 | Women are oversaturating themselvesWhy would I want a committed relationships with a guy who only gets into committed relationships for the purposes of having sex? If anything that makes "oversaturation" a good thing, because it removes guys who aren't interested in committed relationships from the committed dating market. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/19 11:53 PM |
| 2 | What input should men have in regards to the birth of their offspring?I feel for the potential father, but the potential mother has to get the final say on weather to terminate a pregnancy simply because it is unethical to force someone to endure the risk, struggles, and pain of pregnancy and childbirth against their will. Offering to take the kid after it is born doesn't help with that at all, and surrogacy is absolutely not an option for a preexisting pregnancy. You simply can't move a fetus that has already implanted into one woman's uterus into a surrogate, th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/19 10:49 AM |
| 0 | Ladies, what's your take on polygamy? If you found a guy you where in love with but he wanted to be polygamous would you accept?Well that depends on what exactly he's suggesting. I'm not into one-sided poly. If a guy thinks that he should get to have multiple partners but I shouldn't that's a red flag the size of Australia. Otherwise I'm definitely down for polyamory. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/19 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Why men want to keep women away from male hobbies and interestsThat is very much the opposite of my experiences in a male-dominated hobby. I've been doing judo for about eight years now. At first I was one of very few women and girls in my judo club, especially when I got to the adult class. Nobody was at all displeased to see me join, everyone remained rough and uncouth, and I did not receive any "orbiters." Since then many other young women/girls have joined our club to the point where we make up nearly half of the class, and yet the social cohesion and r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/19 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Woman makes more money - she carries the bulk of the financials...would you have a problem with it? Both sides speakIt's alright as long as they love and respect one another, otherwise it would be a power imbalance that Tameka could use against Keith while they're married, and would make Tameka vulnerable to losing a lot of money that she earned in case of divorce. (both issues that also exist in relationships where the man is the big money maker) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/19 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Becoming "red pilled" is essentially just realizing that women are people.Fair point, nobody is trapped in that mindset against their will. Perhaps it's more accurate to say that TRP culture is a place where men trap themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/19 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Becoming "red pilled" is essentially just realizing that women are people.Doesn't the culture of TRP trap men in the "women are awful" stage by gathering a bunch of angry men together to validate and reinforce each-other's disgust towards all of womankind? They even have a complex mythos about the manipulative machinations of women. It's exactly the opposite of what a guy who recently found out that women aren't perfect needs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/19 12:01 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you consider a "waste of time" a long term, committed, monogamous, non-cohabitating, kidsfree, relationship with a guy with no prospect of marriage?Nah, that sounds pretty good to me. The monogamy part isn't ideal, but I certainly wouldn't call that relationship a waste of time. This is mostly because I don't want children and am apathetic about marriage. For anyone who wants children and marriage such a relationships may well be a waste of time. Neither answer is wrong, it just depends on your priorities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/19 11:14 AM |
| 6 | Are guys more attracted to above average but still ‘normal’ looking girls over mega hotties?I think that the whole construct of "megahot" according to Victoria's Secret and stereotypical porn doesn't fully line up with who is most attractive in the first place. Beauty standards have varied wildly throughout history, but attraction probably hasn't changed much. Average women always have been and always will be very attractive to very many people. Additionally attraction varies from person to person, so even if "megahot" women got the plurality of all attention (the most attention paid t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/19 11:59 AM |
| 2 | So I’ll just go ahead and ask: Is the Red Pill real?Generally no. Most of that stuff is so absolutely contrary to all of my life experience that it sounds like it comes from an alternate earth that only superficially resembles our own. The only things TRP types say that make sense are the most basic of observations. Simply being nice is not sufficient to make you attractive, it's good to have hobbies, young women receive many sexual advances, a lot of older women care how much money a potential partner makes because they need financial support to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/19 10:58 AM |
| 2 | Why is she ignoring my texts?This might not have anything to do with you, and I strongly doubt that it had anything to do with the incident on the bus. Don't always assume that getting ghosted or rejected is your fault. She probably just had a guilt fit over the fact that she was beginning to cheat on her husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/19 09:16 AM |
| 3 | Honestly, I'm horrified by what MGTOW says about women, anyone else?You're quite right, MGTOW is ones of those communities that sounds find in theory, but in practice is just a hateful circlejerk. Bitter guys who have either had very traumatic experiences with women or who have no experience with them at all make up the majority of that community, so posts by guys who have a perfectly healthy disinterest towards seeking out relationships with women don't get traction. It's basically the same as female separatist communities. Hurt people go there to have their ra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/19 05:08 AM |
| 1 | What is toxic femininity?When someone says "toxic masculinity" they're usually referring to how being required to fit a masculine gender role can be toxic to men themselves and sometimes make them toxic towards others. If "toxic femininity" is the female equivalent it must describe the ways in which being required to fit a feminine gender role is toxic to women and sometimes makes them toxic towards others. The term "toxic femininity" is not used much, because the idea of feminine gender role enforcement being toxic was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/19 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, have you ever had threesomes with your boyfriend? If not would you ever consider it?I personally love the idea of threesomes, and would jump at the chance for one with people I already know and trust. That being said it is very important to note that my experiences are not universal, even among bi women. You can't assume that just because you're dating a bi woman she'll want threesomes, and even after getting into a relationship with said woman you can't assume that every other bi woman you meet is a potential third. Contrary to stereotypes we're not a bunch of magical threesom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: How important is it that your boyfriend has a friend group that can easily assimilate and hang out with your friend group?I've never even thought about that. Maybe that's just because I'm not a super social person and have individual friends more than friend groups. I don't want to hang out in a big group on a regular basis. To me the only way that his friends are relevant is in the sense that who he chooses to spend time with is indicative of his personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/19 11:14 AM |
| 9 | When red pillers think you wouldn't be able to pick them out from other men...It just means hatred of or sexism towards women. The term was originally coined in the seventeenth century, although it has certainly evolved since then. The male equivalent is called misandry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/19 08:20 AM |
| 1 | Question to the women who say they'd never date a RP manBecause TRP doctrine encourages behavior that I would not appreciate from a partner. I have no patience for backhanded compliments, emotional unavailability, attempts to "finesse" sex, or having a domineering "alpha" attitude. (weather said attitude is affected or not) Those are just the first few reasons that come to mind, basically TRP encourages men to be terrible potential partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/19 03:21 PM |
| 8 | This is a ClassicThis is a very real problem, though I would like to specify that the issue is men not being afforded enough opportunities for choice, not women having too many. Men should have the right to a "financial abortion," and equal footing when it comes to fighting for child custody. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/19 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Q4A: For those women who 'don't care about height', why is this point never mentioned in their dating profiles?Writing dating profiles is a self centered process where someone is usually focused on communicating who they are and what they do or do not want. This naturally leads them to not mention things they're apathetic about. People rarely give much thought to anything they don't care about. Why would that change when a woman is writing a dating profile? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/19 10:36 AM |
| 2 | Would you trade all the struggles of your sex with the struggles of the opposite sex?Wow, that's basically what I was going to say. Social differences between how the sexes are treated just pale in comparison, don't they? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/19 05:47 AM |
| 3 | Sexual Catch-UpWell, that depends. Do you actually want hookups, or do you just feel like you're supposed to have some to "catch up?" You're the only one who can really answer that question. All I can do is encourage you to figure out what you actually want right now instead of letting your decisions be dictated by fear of missing out or of failing to "catch up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/19 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Gender Switching is just another form of woman coming from Adam's RibI suppose I should have been clearer about what "social justice brownie points" mean on a practical level. The practical purpose of social justice pandering is to get left wing publications to give the upcoming movie good press so that more people buy tickets. It is notable that this does not always work, but a lot of studios seem to see gender/race/sexuality swapping as the best of both worlds in terms of using a reliable property and getting positive press attention for seeming to do something… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/19 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What is a Fuckboy to you?Sometimes the word "fuckboy" refers simply to a man who has lots of casual sex or who is overtly sexual in his manner of dress and social media presence. Other times it specifically refers to a man who is manipulative and disingenuous towards women for the purposes of having sex . Because of this dual meaning I don't use the word at all, because I think it's pretty fucked up to conflate all men who have casual sex or are overtly sexual with manipulative pieces of shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/19 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Is being friends with someone before dating them a good way to develop a healthy relationship?That depends entirely on weather you're also okay with the fact that a lot of friendships with people you might want to date won't lead to dating. A friendship with someone you're considering dating will either evolve into dating or stay a friendship, so it's only a good idea if you're going to be okay with either possibility. If you're going to be crushed whenever those friendships don't evolve into romance don't put yourself in that position. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/19 02:22 AM |
| 2 | pornography and its effectsI think that that really depends on how the person is consuming the pornography in question. Porn is good for finding out what gets your engine running, and for a good wank. On the other hand porn is most often not good as a source of body expectations (especially for men about their dicks), sexual education, or for learning how to please a woman. I believe that the best way to handle the situation is to better educate young people about not only how to have sex safely, but also how to communica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/19 11:15 AM |
| 1 | How many purple pill/blue pill women here would want an open relationship/open marriage? What percent of women in today's new world wants it if it was completely destigmatized? All assuming your relationship is rock solid and you both love each other forever genuinely.You had me about to post a passionate "YES" right up until you said it's not polyamory. I'm more of a poly person. Hookups are fine I guess (with a lot of safety precautions), but I think I'd rather have a few really close ongoing relationships. Either way everyone involved has to be 100% okay with it. I'm not horrified by the idea of monogamy, but I'm just enamored with the freedom to romantically love more than one person and to be happy for a partner when they do the same. It just feels good,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/19 09:05 AM |
| 1 | When do women make themselves a priority while in a relationship?This hasn't been a problem for me personally, but from my friendships with other young people I have noticed that it's an extremely normal issue in youth among both sexes. People tend to take an interest in dating at the same time in their life where they are trying to discover who they are as individuals, and that's a particularly vulnerable life stage. They are inexperienced, insecure, sexually desperate, and looking for something or someone to hold onto. That's a perfect storm of factors that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/19 05:00 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: Would you date a sexually inexperienced guy? What do you think of big disparities in sexual experience?I wouldn't say that I'm super experienced, but maybe you'd say that I am since I have definitely dated a girl (I say a girl because we were not adults yet), and certainly do partake in BDSM. My two cents are that it's alright if a dude (or not a dude) isn't experienced in kink or even in vanilla sex as long as he knows that he has some of the kinks that I have, and he is interested in learning to play with those kinks. Basically it's not very important weather you've done it yet as long as you w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/19 07:46 AM |
| 1 | Gender Switching is just another form of woman coming from Adam's RibI dunno about that. I think gender (or race or sexuality) swapped characters are so prevalent, because companies can get social justice brownie points for funding them without having to take a chance on any new stories/characters. They can just bank on the safe bet of making a movie that they've mostly already sold before. It's like when the live-action remake of Beauty and the Beast had a vaguely gay scene in order to draw more attention to the dry rehash of a film. LGBT people want better than… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/19 07:23 AM |
| 6 | Would you fuck, ltr or marry a former pornstar?Yeah, I see no problem with that. Usually I'd give a bit of thought to weather he might be a big risk-taker, but you specifically said that he has my preferred personality. I wouldn't say it was "just a job," because I'm sure that it was a rather unique job. I also wouldn't say that I "don't care about his past," because if he'd murdered somebody I would care. Porn on the other hand just doesn't bother me. I don't find porn morally offensive, so why should I care? The only possible problem here … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/19 07:08 AM |
| 1 | The struggles of sexually internalized misogynyI think that weather or not your desires come from misogyny is questionable since sexually sadistic and dominant women such as myself also exist (although I am also masochistic), but either way it's important for people like us to understand that no matter where they come from our desires are a part of who we are that we can express them in a positive way with a consenting masochist. No matter why you're like this you can be the best version of what you are. It can help a lot to start research… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/19 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Do you lose respect for a woman if she is a "forever girlfriend"?Them not being married would not change my opinion of them at all, and I would not assume any particular reasons why they didn't marry. That perspective is certainly not universal and I don't know how common it is in general, but I think most people think this way where I live. Here in New Zealand couples who don't get married before having kids seem to be becoming the norm. Even our prime minister is in such a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/19 08:35 AM |
| 1 | How do women feel about men who had a vasectomy? And have no desire to reverse it.Well, it depends on weather the woman in question is looking for someone to make kid with. Since I'm a childfree woman when I found out that a partner of mine is considering getting a vasectomy I was over the fucking moon. I'm really looking forward to lots of low stress sex! Women who want to make kids would feel very differently, but if you're against having kids enough to consider getting a vasectomy you really shouldn't date women who want kids anyway. Edit: I just read your comments mention… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/19 07:56 AM |
| 1 | As a guy reading women's Reddit, the amount of posts pertaining to sexual harassment/assault surprises me. Do women actually get harassed this often?I live in a small city and don't get out much, so I don't face much in person harassment. That being said I still have a few stories from when I was younger. In elementary school a boy slapped me on the ass, I don't really know weather that assault was sexual in nature. When I was a bit older (middle school aged?) a kid in his mid teens chased me down and started feeling me up. That was definitely a sexual thing. I also once had some dick online try to convince me (I was about sixteen at the tim… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/19 07:30 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: purely philosophically, wouldn’t it be more honest for a man initially approaching a woman for the very first time to comment or remark on her appearance, looks, or how attractive he finds her?You're quite right, we can't trust people to tell us weather they intended to mislead us. We do often have to make educated guesses when it comes to weather someone has been dishonest or just stupid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/19 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: purely philosophically, wouldn’t it be more honest for a man initially approaching a woman for the very first time to comment or remark on her appearance, looks, or how attractive he finds her?I suppose that depends on weather she was really too thick to realize that she was on a date. (which is admittedly unlikely) I think that honesty can only work as an aspirational value if it only requires us to disclose information that we know is relevant. A silence can be misleading without being dishonest, because if a person can be dishonest without choosing to do so the concept of honesty as a moral obligation breaks down. It's like how a person can't be considered dishonest for saying some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/19 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Q2Women: would you agree with legalizing and culturally normalizing prostitution?Basically yes. Technically what I support is called decriminalization. That's just getting rid of all laws against it without imposing any regulation system specific to sex work. As far as I know that's easier on sex workers because they don't have to deal with any expensive licensing system or other barriers like that. I actually live in a country which has decriminalized sex work, and while that hasn't gotten rid of all the cultural baggage around the industry I think it's a good start. Not th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/19 09:22 AM |
| 2 | As a woman, what's your opinion on softbois?I have nothing against non-committal men on principle, and I certainly love guys who are emotionally expressive and aesthetically "soft." It's the manipulative aspect that creeps me out. People who obfuscate their intentions in sexual relationships are fucking scary. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/19 05:35 AM |
| 2 | Why do women insist be direct, but refuse to be direct themselves?When it comes to asking men out I think that the reason why most women don't flip the script on that one is because they don't have to. To some women it's less effort to let guys do the work. The main reasons why I learned to ask people out were just because I find subtlety tiresome and sometimes I date other women. It's no surprise to me that many women without those motivating factors just don't bother. The lack of directness in rejection has different origins. It's sometimes an attempt to a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/19 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Can men open up to women without losing sexual attraction?You're exactly right about the need for depth in a relationship. I think part of why TRP types don't get it is because they think everything in a relationship makes you more or less sexy to a woman. Deepening your relationship by being emotionally vulnerable doesn't create or destroy attraction. It's just good for the wider relationship that surrounds your sex life. At least that's what it's like when you're in a relationship with a decent person. If you ever find yourself in a relationship with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/19 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Why do I have to lie to womenFirstly there were other answers to her question, you could just say that you were there to have romantic dates or to have hookups or whatever it is that you want out of Tinder. She wanted to know what you wanted from her. It's entirely possible that she rejected you for giving an unhelpful answer rather than for being a virgin. More importantly why would you want to date anyone who would judge you harshly for the truth of your experiences? If you're asking what's wrong with the women judging yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/19 12:08 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: purely philosophically, wouldn’t it be more honest for a man initially approaching a woman for the very first time to comment or remark on her appearance, looks, or how attractive he finds her?I don't think that honesty necessarily means full disclosure. I think that both Jeffs are equally honest, because they do not say or deliberately imply anything false. It's only dishonest to leave out information when you do so with the intention of making the person you're talking to believe something which is false. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/19 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you have different standards for men depending on what relationship you want from him?I would say that my aesthetic standards for a hookup or FWB are the same as for a long term partner, I just also have a bunch of additional standards for the long term partner regarding their temperament and life goals. For example I can have fun with a guy who wants biological kids one day, but I would not be caught dead in the kind of committed relationship where he'd expect me to bear those kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/19 12:58 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: Why are women's exercise clothes such more revealing than men's?As others have stated tight revealing clothing is quite convenient for most physical exercise. Under such circumstances it would be quite strange to deliberately choose the least visually appealing options. People don't often go around choosing unflattering clothing on purpose, so when faced with a situation where tight revealing clothing is socially acceptable and quite practical many women will choose to dress that way. That doesn't mean that they want to be sexually pursued at the gym (in fac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/19 12:30 AM |
| 3 | Is it possible to be RPW and lesbian?Hey, I'm not from this sub and don't exactly belong here, but I just want to say that it's totally normal and okay to be a feminine lesbian. And if you feel that your way of being feminine requires your girlfriend or wife to have some traditionally masculine qualities that probably won't be a problem either. Most of the gay women you meet will be feminists, but usually not the kind of feminist who is against feminine gender presentation. Intolerance of femmes is not particularly common. The most… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Is Sexual Liberation a facade?I'd say that sexual liberation affects different women quite differently based on who we are and exactly what liberation-related narratives we ingest at what times. My experience with sexual liberation was fantastic, because when I was a teen I mostly received messages about how sex and kink are morally acceptable leisure activities, the importance of communication in sex, the importance of knowing ones own body, and how to mitigate sexual risk. It also helped that I was not in the kind of frame… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/19 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Do you know your partner's N count?No, I have no idea what my partner's/FWB's "N-counts" are. I'm also not totally sure how one would count that in the kink scene where some of the activities only count as "sex" to certain people. They do certainly know about my lack of previous experience though, it's quite obvious and good for them to know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/19 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Are we already at the point where as a young man is better being gay than being an undersexed straight beta?From what I've gathered gay men might have an easier time hooking up, but not an easier time finding long term partners. It's still a much smaller pool of potential partners which you can have a really hard time meeting. (outside of hookups for which you can just use Grindr) Gay men who don't fit certain aesthetic standards (weight, muscles, age, dick size, etc) also seem to be disadvantaged in the hookup market, so it's not like being gay is an escape from body standards in your sex life. Addit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 08:20 AM |
| 3 | What do you guys literally mean by a guy should "Lead" in a relationship?Not everyone who disagrees with you thinks that you are advocating for men to be malevolent dictators. "Captain/first mate" is fundamentally the same thing as dictator/subject just with a sincere attempt to be a benevolent dictator. All of that care and effort from the patriarch does not change the fact that your idea of a healthy relationship is based on a woman forgoing her ability to be responsible and make decisions. As someone who seriously values individual decision making and responsibili… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/19 07:55 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: is it always a turnoff if a man addresses something in your relationship directly?No. I am aware that he's not telepathic, so when I want him to know something I'll just say it. Communication is the foundation of any functioning relationship. I think that people who wait for their partner to intuit things are just too cowardly to use their words. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/19 11:18 AM |
| 1 | Do men and women just have completely opposite attitudes towards sex? (for some aspects)Well, results may vary but at least it's inoffensive in the right context. Asking her out for coffee or something first so that you know weather she has any interest in you before trying to start an overtly sexual conversation would probably reduce awkwardness. You're probably your own worst critic, people's insecurities about their appearances aren't usually in proportion with how they actually look. How you feel can strongly affect how you judge your own appearance. It could be a good thing th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/19 10:46 AM |
| 1 | Q4women: will this bother you....This is quite sensible and wouldn't bother me. If somebody who makes more money than I do (aka any money at all) pays for food I ain't about to protest, but it's not an obligation, and I don't expect a partner to bankroll my whole life. I do hope that somebody will take care of me when/if I become housebound, but that's a real outside case and I'll obviously do everything possible to avoid it ever becoming an issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/19 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Why Are So Many Female Teachers Sleeping With Students?I think you're spot on when it comes to the fact that it's easier to catch statutory rapists when they leave digital trails. On the other hand I think you're quite incorrect about what feminists generally believe. A lot of the old rules of female sexual behavior are (thankfully) being torn down, but that doesn't mean that there are no rules. If you pay attention to sex-positive people you hear them mention consenting adults every third sentence. It's even possible that the boom in publishing of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/19 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Why are there more male Feminists than female MGTOW?As far as I can tell most of them are celibate, it fits into their whole "women are scary parasites, never waste any of your time or money attempting to attract one for any reason" narrative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/19 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Q4All: What do you think of this new "daddy" fetish?You're not the minority, the Daddy Dom thing is one of those niche fetishes that are nonetheless all over porn. It's comparable to choking in that it's all over the place because it makes a video more appealing to fetishists without preventing the average guy from wanking to it. Ddlg is actually a pretty small subset of the BDSM community, and like all the other D/s stuff it's a form of play not a reflection of the roles of men and women in life in general. Mommy Dommes and male littles exist … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/19 06:48 AM |
| 3 | Why are there more male Feminists than female MGTOW?While feminism did make it much more socially acceptable to be a single woman it's more of a women's rights movement. An ongoing project to secure rights for women is the kind of thing that men can participate in. MGTOW isn't much of an advocacy group. They mostly just avoid women, and there's no need for female allies in that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/19 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?Ah, yeah in that case we're already on the same page. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/19 04:10 AM |
| 1 | To what extent do you think masculine confidence is purely biochemical?Well I don't agree with every thing you said, but it's cool to learn that guys get a testosterone spike from weight lifting. And we can certainly agree that human mood and temperament ultimately comes from biological processes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/19 04:08 AM |
| 1 | Do men and women just have completely opposite attitudes towards sex? (for some aspects)Sexual talk in general isn't disrespectful or wrong, it's just not appropriate to every situation. Yelling "HEY SWEETHEART, NICE ASS" across the street isn't how you start a conversation about sex, in fact I'd hesitate to even call it a real attempt at sexual communication. Even the guy saying it probably has no delusions that it'll be appreciated. The guy I fuck is the one who I can discuss sex with in a normal conversation. It's not less "respectful" for him to bring it up, but if he doesn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/19 02:25 AM |
| 4 | Do men and women just have completely opposite attitudes towards sex? (for some aspects)I think the idea that men don't mind harassment is probably bullshit. It could bother them plenty without us hearing about it, because our culture doesn't take the idea of a woman harming a man seriously and treats men like indiscriminate sex monsters. A mate of mine receives unsolicited nudes and he sure as heck doesn't appreciate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/19 04:29 PM |
| 5 | Do men and women just have completely opposite attitudes towards sex? (for some aspects)Is it that hard to believe that we like dick but don't appreciate being harassed? Brad Pit (or Tom Holland who is more my type) isn't the only attractive man in the world. If he catcalled me I could just flip him off and fuck somebody else. It's like how you (presumably) like to have sex with attractive women yet there are still plenty of ways that those women could scare you off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/19 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Will manosphereans admit that toxic masculinity exists if we accept that it's partially caused by male biology?Well, I don't really know much about the sort of person who wants their partner to be jealous in the first place. That desire is alien to me, so the following opinions might be very different from what someone who wants jealousy from their partner would say. That being said I see a huge difference between expressing jealousy in a mature way and being controlling. A mature person just admits that they're jealous and mentions anything that their partner could do (ie spending more time with them, o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/19 06:53 AM |
| 3 | To what extent do you think masculine confidence is purely biochemical?Honestly I think that was the mood lifting affects of exercise and sleep. That certainly involves hormones, but generally not testosterone. All the serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins from exercise make anyone feel more calm, confident, happy, etc. As for sleep I'm not as sure of how it improves ones mood, (and especially ones sense of calm) but it sure as hell does. Both of those are not male-specific phenomena. As a woman I use sleep and exercise to increase my calmness, confidence, and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/19 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Is it true that almost all women want to be dominated in bed?There's a lot of mild kink in mainstream porn, but I'm quite sure that that's not where kinky people come from. I am a sexual sadomasochist, and it's definitely not from porn. In fact part of how I figured out my preferences was because I wondered why I had never enjoyed porn. That being said we can agree that lots of porn does spread a bullshit idea that women in general desire to be spanked, strangled (which is very dangerous by the way), and have their hair pulled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/19 02:48 AM |
| 2 | [Q4W] If you had a magic wand that can rejuvinate bodies, what would you do?This question raises a lot of other more disturbing questions about why you're insulting older women and why someone thinks mid-puberty kids are more sexually desirable than young adult women, but I digress. If I had such a wand I would become eternally sixteen for health reasons. This would make me and my partner quite uncomfortable on a sexual level, but it would be worth it. When I turned sixteen I had far fewer chronic symptoms without being significantly smaller or weaker than I am now. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/19 02:04 AM |
| 1 | What's the thought process behind these games young women play?Well if that's what you think about it by all meens go right ahead, Your Royal Edginess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 03:07 AM |
| 1 | If male sexuality is predatory, do females enjoy being the prey?Look mate, if you're gonna post shit about women being "prey" and male sexuality being "predatory" without establishing that you're using those terms in a non-literal way people aren't necessarily gonna be able to tell that you're not talking about actual predation. As for me having a pain kink, that's a funny example because I really am a sadomasochist and I'm quite happy about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 02:13 AM |
| 2 | If you could pick a well known man to point to as an example of positive masculinity, who would that be and what makes his masculinity positive?You've already received pleanty of real life examples from people who clearly know more about real life famous people than I do, so here are some examples of the positive masculine archetype in fiction. Batman: A man who honed his mind and body to near perfection for the purposes of keeping people safe. He has a well earned confidence in his own skills. No man is an island, but Batman can nonetheless rely on himself above all others. Superman: He has mastered the gentle use of physical power. Su… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 01:29 AM |
| 2 | "Chad" isn't Real and Knowing your Attraction DemographicI'll never understand why Starbucks coffee is sometimes considered a personality trait. It's just a drink, right? And it's not a particularly unusual drink to enjoy either. Where I live espresso coffee is one of those things everyone is assumed to like unless otherwise stated. This makes it completely unsurprising that so many people living in parts of America that didn't previously have espresso cafés think Starbucks is the best thing since sliced bread. I don't like Starbucks that much compare… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/19 12:38 AM |
| 3 | Will manosphereans admit that toxic masculinity exists if we accept that it's partially caused by male biology?Isn't this a non-sequitur when it comes to wether or not some masculine behaviors hurt the men who exhibit them? Anyway while I don't personally know any women who want guys to silently stew in jealousy to prove their love or who feel entitled to child support for unplanned pregnancies I'm sure those women exist and we can agree that they are toxic. The toxicity of those attitudes is completely obvious and easy to agree upon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/19 10:49 PM |
| 1 | What's the thought process behind these games young women play?Well that's a new question. Nope, I'm a cis woman. Why do you ask? By the way I'm pretty sure tr*nny is a slur. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/19 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: If you had the choice and knew the outcome from the start: Would you rather be the single mum to the most beautiful child in the world, or raise an average child with a normal guy?Fuck all that, lol I'd choose birth control, lesbianism, or if all else fails an abortion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/19 05:24 AM |
| 1 | How does a woman's sexual strategy change after menopause?You're thinking of the process of evolution backwards. Our main natural selection preassure is towards decisions that are good for our reproductive success, not a preassure against doing things that have little to no effect on that success. Additionally I want to be clear that people (women included) generally do not have a singular drive for evolutionary fitness. We have a set of drives which includes a sex drive. The sex drive can cause behavior that is not reproductively practical such as pro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/19 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Do you/would you engage in pick me behaviour?I was referring to that fact that people who think well of themselves don't usually feel the need to worship the opposite sex or disparage their own. That could be construed as a female empowerment thing, but I meant it more generally. If you saw a guy posting shit like "All women are queens," "Men these days don't know how to treat a lady", or "Buy your girl whatever she wants, she deserves it" would you think he had great self esteem? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/19 11:23 AM |
| 1 | What's the thought process behind these games young women play?Are the ones complaining about your headgames the same ones who fuck with your head? If so that's fascinating. I'm starting to suspect that you've dated a lot of clinical narcissists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/19 07:42 AM |
| 1 | What's the thought process behind these games young women play?You do that shit intuitively? Jeez. I thought y'all were given terrible advice from other women and girls. Apparently some people are too socially adept for their own good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/19 07:30 AM |
| 1 | Men and women can be friendsExactly! The whole "can men and women even be friends??" thing is unique to straight people. If you remove it from a hetero context the absurdity is obvious. Nobody would ever ask "Can bisexual people even have friends!?" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/19 06:45 AM |
| 1 | Does the "Only horny with you" fantasy work for women?Oh gosh, same here. (At risk of being a sterotype) I'd also be dissapointed by the lack of threesomes in such a situation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/19 06:25 AM |
| 1 | Does the "Only horny with you" fantasy work for women?I assume so. That would explain why Twilight is about a 100+ year old virgin vampire who has a singular obsession with some random chick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/19 05:50 AM |
| 1 | If male sexuality is predatory, do females enjoy being the prey?Alright then. If your question isn't about wether women want actual predators I have no idea what any of it is supposed to meen. But it's cool that you aren't a lunatic, lol sorry for the misunderstanding. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/19 10:30 AM |
| 1 | If male sexuality is predatory, do females enjoy being the prey?No. Or at least not like that. Have you been reading too much erotica? Stay out of people's personal space unless you have reason to believe that they want you there. Being "pillaged" is not fun when it's unexpected and in real life. DO NOT try to turn a woman on by using unrequested physical force. You will scare the absolute shit out of her and she'll think she's about to be raped or murdered. She might also get proactive and kick you in the balls or call the police. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/19 06:05 AM |
| 8 | Men Should Never Give Up Their Harem / The Case for PolygamyYou are exactly the kind of person who women interested in non-monogamy have to watch out for. All that "Dread" stuff is just jargon for preying on insecure people to squeeze as much attention as possible out of them for your own narcissistic enjoyment. It's also quite impractical. You'd have to posess all the skills of a masterful cult leader to keep four women feeling so fucking worthless that they're willing to endlessly compete for your measly affections for the rest of their lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/19 05:38 AM |
| 2 | I think women should offer a paternity test to the father of their child without being asked.What on earth does it meen to "mateguard" in a modern society? If it's really necessary for you to "guard" your "mate" from sex with other dudes in a society where nobody is aloud to fuck her without her consent you're already doomed to be cheated on. (Unless you leave first) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/19 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Do you/would you engage in pick me behaviour?Of course not, and I don't think that's unusual. I suspect that "pick me" attitudes just don't exist in adults with decent self esteem. As for "femininity" that concept is so broad that it can definitely be stretched to include "pick me" behavior. I can only say that it's not indicative of healthy femininity. Submissiveness is a whole nother can of worms. I believe that any level of serious "submission" should only be practiced as a thoroughly negotiated kink. Being submissive to your partner in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/19 03:46 PM |
| 2 | (discussion) How does the masculinization of women and the feminization of men come into play in the RMV/SMV?You have a point in that we shouldn't discourage people from doing what they want just because it's too gender role conforming. It's okay to be a stay at home mum or a provider man. But you're extremely wrong about wether masculine women and feminine men should be themselves. I'm much happier as myself with my possibly smaller pool of potential partners than I could ever be if I tried to force myself to be a subby SAHM. It's just not who I am, and people who want me to be that way aren't viable … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/19 03:11 AM |
| 1 | How might we expect AI "companions" to influence relationship dynamics?I suspect they'll appeal most to people who are lonely because they lack the social skills to interact with real humans. Those vulnerable people would be most likely to be swayed away from human interaction in favour of an artificial substitute. It's a cruel kindness to give them the option of artificial affection which gives them releif from loneliness yet strangles their potential for social development. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/19 02:48 AM |
| 1 | What jobs do you consider "hot" and what do you find are"boring"?I can only think of a few professions that can appeal to me on a sexual level and they're all pretty unusual. -musician -Leather bondage craftsman -spanking porn "model" -professional martial artist -voice actor Usually a person's career is either inconsequential or a sign about compatibility. Being a nurse or counselor isn't sexy, but it's a good indication that we have similar values. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/19 02:05 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: WTF do BluePill women actually believe?There's no specific belief system of "BluePill" people, it's more of a mildly insulting catch-all term for people who think TRP is bullshit. This is slightly complicated by the fact that some TRP people have a "BluePill" strawman built up in their heads and will insist that any deviation from "just be yourself and respect women, that's all there is to dating" is "RedPilled." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/19 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Patrice's QueryThe whole framing of that question is crazy. It's especially crazy to a bi woman, but let's just assume for the sake of simplicity that the partner is a man and we have a lot of PIV sex. (Otherwise this comment will be a novel) My motivations for rebuilding a sex life with my partner after being robbed of my vagina by a medical emergency (probably not train related, lol) would have nothing to do with "keeping" him. If he's the kind of guy to leave me over my not being able to have PIV sex anymor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/19 08:10 AM |
| 2 | Q4men: how do you know her sexual history?Catholic school kids (and other isolated religious nutters) not withstanding I think most people know better than to say a woman is a virgin because she's only done anal. Additionally why would a woman (outside of the afformentioned puritanical loonybins) have anal sex before vaginal sex in the first place? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 09:38 AM |
| 1 | Q4men: how do you know her sexual history?In which way? "Must be this long to ride" or "must be this small to fit" ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 09:12 AM |
| 1 | Q4men: how do you know her sexual history?So you search their profiles and quiz their friends like a provate eye to find out their sexual history? What exactly do you conclude from this information? Is it about her "N-count," whether she does as many things with you as with others, or something else? By the way I think the reason why it's not "inconspicuous" is because it's not really a secret. There's even a possibility that with tact you could've just talked about it with her. (Although maybe not, because caring about that kind of thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 08:42 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: (if you had to pick only one; and couldn’t have both), would you want your preferred man to chase you, or to wait for you?Guy #2 is the best of the two because at least he'd respect my boundaries, but both options are kinda terrible. Guy #1 is demanding of sex and must not really care about me very much if he's not willing to give me time to build trust and comfort with him before fucking. That's an absolute deal breaker. Conversely guy #2 doesn't communicate his desires which is a huge problem. I'm perfectly willing to start the conversation but sexual communication has to be a two way street. Additionally the fac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/19 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: you find out your bf/husband would eat out his more attractive ex for hours nonstop but he tells you he wont go down on you because hes not into eating pussy anymore and didnt really like it at the timeThat would be so weird and confusing that I'd probably assume I was missing some kind of context.(Was the ex abusive?) The idea that he found his ex more attractive than me and wanted to eat her out because of that would never even occur to me. I think that's just not the kind of thing people worry about when they have decent self esteem. But anyway I have more questions about why I'd be in an LTR with a dude who doesn't eat pussy in the first place. I have nothing against people who dislike ora… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/19 12:34 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel about female marriage proposals?Insomuch as the whole idea of marriage proposals appeals to me at all, sure! I hate the idea of one of us springing that question on the other completely unexpectedly, so once we're both quite sure that the other would like to get married it doesn't really matter who proposes. The most important difference is that if I do it I get to craft the ring. Might marry a woman anyway, and in the absence of heteronormative expectations somebody's gotta take the initiative or we'll just keep hinting at ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/19 12:40 AM |
| 1 | "MaN uP" and "men and women are equal" are fundamentally incompatible and contradictory. Pick one!Well no duh. That's why a vast majority of people do not believe both of those things at once. It is also why feminists can so often be seen talking about the awfulness of something called "toxic masculinity." It's easily misentrepreted as an insult towards men, but "toxic masculinity" is basically the feminist term for man-upism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/19 10:55 AM |
| 2 | Q4A: How Do You Conceptualize The Difference Between Being Dominant and ControllingA dominant person in the vanilla sense is simply willing and able to make decisions and to take initiative. The dominant vanilla person will ask you out for dinner at a place of their choosing. They're not going to flip out if you say no or would rather go to a different place, they're just taking initiative. A person can also be Dominant in the kinky sense which is to take control of a submissive person in some pre-negotiated way for the purposes of their mutual gratification. The kinky Dominan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/19 10:41 AM |
| 2 | Women, what advice would you give your son regarding attraction and seduction?Thanks, yeah I figure it's the best I can do to give them a good place to start. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/19 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Women, what advice would you give your son regarding attraction and seduction?"be nice/be caring/etc" is not technically wrong, but it's overly basic. Being nice to people should be the bedrock of all of your relationships (both platonic and romantic), not a mear mating strategy. My brothers already know to be nice to people. I will teach them to be proactive about starting relationships and to communicate clearly within those relationships. They need to know that the most important step in beginning a relationship is to express your interest rather than just being a good… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/19 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Men love women's bodies. Women don't care very much about men's bodies. What makes up for this?Ass. It can be built in the gym, but just being relatively active is usually good enough. If you want something as attractive as boobs without being physically active at all I don't know what to tell yah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/19 03:07 AM |
| 3 | Some women actually like masculine men.We have a saying in the BDSM community. "My kink is not your kink," it's a prase which here meens: Stop projecting your prefered relationship dynamics onto random people! Those ladies with "Peter Pan boyfriends" wouldn't be likely to date them if they didn't like them. Those negative thoughts are yours not theirs. Not projecting also meens to never impose your "dominance" on women who think they're getting into a regular relationship and who you have no reason to believe want you to "lead" them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/19 04:36 PM |
| 4 | Is sex before marriage never wrong?Obviously you can have non-marital sex in an unhealthy way, but the reason it's wrong isn't because it's outside of marriage. It's wrong because it's unsafe, an unhealthy coping mechanism, a desperate bid for attention, or any other harmful version of sex. I don't give a shit wether people have hookups as long as they're looking after themselves physically and emotionally. It's not like getting your nails done because there are higher stakes, but that doesn't make it wrong. Long term relationshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/19 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Can Women Opt Out of the FSM?I can still zone out as an adult, it just doesn't happen involuntarily as often as it used to. When I was a kid it was nearly debilitating, because I'd zone out all the time and schoolwork is not one of the things I could do while spaced out. Although my ability to focus on things other than art and books is below average I still definitely understand what you're referring to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 09:25 AM |
| 2 | What's so awesome about being a man?It's not that the traditional female role lacks positive attributes, but purely traditional societies put women in bad situations. In the past when women were forced into a defined role (and in patriarchal communities to this day) women were disenfranchised by a lack of financial resources. Having to rely on men for those resources put women in many very compromising positions. That doesn't meen that men were doing alright either or that women should never be stay at home mums, it's just good th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 07:52 AM |
| 1 | Does BP accept or reject the idea of the dual-mating strategy (AFBB) ?I accept that it is a possibility, not that it's a general rule of how women work. Anyone who goes around thinking that they know the "mating strategy" of a majority of men or women is being incredibly reductionist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Q4A: Where do you rank on the Kinsey scale?3 or 3.5. I am extremely bisexual. I barely go a day in my life without thinking of sexual and romantic relations with men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 07:13 AM |
| 3 | Can 'shit tests' be summarized by saying that she wants to know your masculine energy can handle/compliment her feminine energy?I don't know where to start on this one cause the whole premise of "shit tests" is a crazy idea which only a crazy woman would use and only a crazy man would put up with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/19 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Can Women Opt Out of the FSM?Ah, I had no idea that you were referring to dissociative focus. I can't tell you much about how women in general focus since I probably have ADHD. But I can certainly forget my body and the people around me. It happened all the time when I was a kid. I wasn't hyper-focussed on anything, just completely zoned out. Sometimes I could draw or chrochet like that but I wouldn't say that I was more focussed on the craft while in that mental state. Just unaware of my surroundings and myself. I can also… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/19 12:52 PM |
| 1 | Do You Mentally Group MenNot in that way. I mentally note things about everyone I meet, but have never in my life decided a dude was "alpha" or "beta." Many traits that TRP people describe as "alpha" (ie being domineering, entitled, and narcissistic) will cause me to label a dude a dickhead. Some traits considered "beta" (such as being quiet or anxious) are what I'd call neutral or cute qualities. Other "beta" traits (such as being kind, paying attention to my needs, and admitting vulnerability) would cause me to label … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/19 07:33 AM |
| 1 | Q4W Is hot enough a thing?For me, yes. Once they've met a certain threshold when it comes to appearance the deciding factor in wether I want to fuck somebody is who they are. I'd choose a decent and mature normal looking guy over one who looks like Nightwing but is childish or unkind. The stakes are pretty high afterall. BDSM is a high trust activity. Even if I'm topping I need to trust my bottom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/19 07:11 AM |
| 1 | If your partner was going to die in a year, would you want to have a child with them to preserve their memory?Absolutely not, even just on a selfish emotional level. I'd only be hurting myself more in the long run by setting myself up to be dissapointed by how different the kid would be from my partner. I also would have to be a mother, possibly a biological mother. That's a whole nother can of worms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/19 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Straight guys, how open are you to the idea of being sexual with another guy?Are you one of those guys who dislikes the sound of male actors moaning in porn? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Can Women Opt Out of the FSM?A lot of women need it. A smaller but still substantial quantity of women do not care so much about social groups and random people's oppinions. As a socially apathetic woman it's incredibly easy for me to ignore social expectations and to seperate myself from social groups that I have nothing in common with. Socially oriented women are a majority, but not a massive enough majority to validate generalizations about wether women "need the FSM." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: Do you have a secret fetish that no one can know about?That subbredit is mostly just screenshots of transpeople being horny. Transpeople are sexual beings just like us. Their experiences of sexuality involve being trans in the same way that their entire lives involve being trans. A transman wants to have sex as a man just like he wants to do everything else as a man. If you're alright with the trippy style this video by Contrapoints would explain it better. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6czRFLs5JQo She's great at communicating with people of wildly … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 09:46 AM |
| 1 | Can Women have Dark Traid Traits like Men?Absolutely, yes. In fact two of my family members are/were female narcissists. One was my "great" grandmother. She was extremely manipulative, but one side of the family had the good sense to cease contact with her eventually. She also somehow wracked up three divorces. The other narcissist is my younger sister. She is also quite manipulative, but her most remarkable trait is violent narcissistic rage. I am seriously concerned as to wether my mother will be safe with her (my sister and I are bot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 08:58 AM |
| 2 | Can Women Opt Out of the FSM?Absolutely, I didn't even "opt out" on purpose. My brain barely registers social expectations and I don't generally see any point in fulfilling them. It's not that I don't have any social connections with other women, but I don't participate in anything resembling how you described the "FSM." I do not run in any female-specific circles, I'm not subject to any hierarchies in my social life, and I'm not being socially coerced into anything by other women. I just don't give enough fucks to get rope… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 05:59 AM |
| 1 | under what conditions will you allow yourself to be a 'forever gf'?I guess so, marriage isn't really a big deal to me. It'd just be some paperwork and an excuse to dress up/throw a party. I think that non-married cohabitating partners have most of the same rights in my country anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/19 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: Do you have a secret fetish that no one can know about?Just for the record being trans is not a fetish or sexual proclivity. For a transwoman (for an example) being a woman isn't sexually exciting, it's just who she is. Did you meen cross dressing fetishism? Being gay isn't a fetish either, it's a sexuality. But that's a finer distinction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/19 11:11 AM |
| 1 | Q4A: Should female-on-male sexual assault be viewed the same way as m-on-f assault?Of course a woman can sexually harass, sexually assault, or rape a man. It should absolutely be taken just as seriously as male on female sex crimes. No, no men who I know personally have told me that a woman committed a sex crime against them. The wacky narratives around male victims of sex crimes don't make me confused, they make me fucking angry. Jealous dudes who aren't seriously considering what it's like to actually be victimized shouldn't get to speak over men and boys who've been through… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/19 05:53 AM |
| 1 | People who have "rape fantasies" or other messed-up fetishes should admit they have a serious problem and stop using the excuse of "It's just a fantasy""Alright, but tell that to the people who blame pornography for actual rapes," those people probably wouldn't be convinced, but of course I'd try to tell them how the devision between fantasy and reality works. What they're doing in your country is an unjustifiable attack on people's freedom. It's the same kind of bullshit as banning violent video games to prevent violence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 10:57 PM |
| 7 | People who have "rape fantasies" or other messed-up fetishes should admit they have a serious problem and stop using the excuse of "It's just a fantasy"They're also fantasy "raped" in a way that suits their sexual tastes, and they're perfectly safe due to the fact that they're actually in control of their imagined situation. It's not even comparable to someone attractive raping them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 10:43 PM |
| 8 | Subtle flirting are you a fan of it and if so what’s your go to move.I don't bother with subtle flirting. It takes more effort than talking yet has a reduced chance of successfully communicating. It's just easier for me to use my words. Subtlety is also even less likely to be successful if I were to direct it at a woman. There is a notable chance that we'd both expect the other to "make the first move," and consequently keep trying to hint at our attraction until the sun consumes the earth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: What are your boundaries for opposite-sex friends in a relationship?To be frank, this is some straight people shit. I'm bisexual, what am I supposed to do? Have no friends? Keep everybody at arms leangth? That whole conundrum is more trouble than it's worth, and the way I see it cheaters are gonna cheat wether you make arcane rules or not. You can't force your partner to treat you right. You can only leave anyone who cheats and try to become a good judge of character. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Is the negative aspect of sex positivity, sex positivity itself?I don't think that negativity about vanilla people and chaste people is a fundamental part of sex-positivity. One can be unashamed of their sexuality without imposing it upon others, but our society isn't done figuring that out. People are fucking nuts, but it's not like going backwards to the times of even more rampant sex-negativity would help. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 11:00 AM |
| 1 | What measures do you take to prevent the idea of cheating from becoming a reality?You can't even look at pictures or watch porn without worrying that you'll cheat on your girl? How does that work? Do you think the porn itself is cheating or are you thinking of some kind of slippery slope from jerking off to porn to getting off in an actual other woman? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 10:47 AM |
| 5 | If your fiance asked you to delete your Instagram and Facebook accounts as a condition of marriage (with him deleting both as well), would you do it?I have neither, but I wouldn't marry anyone that damn controlling. If he's gonna be like that I don't give a rat's ass what he thinks social media is doing to "the natural dynamic between men and women." I care that he got all the way to the point of being my fiancé and is suddenly ready to throw it all away over some compulsion to control my browsing habits. Why are we engaged if he doesn't consider me up to his esoteric standards? I'd dump his ass and be greatful that he showed his true colour… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 10:40 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: what would be the ideal partner?I don't even know when it comes to looks. There's just so many different types of hot people!! -buff butch women -pretty boys -uncut dudes -people with curly hair -smol girls -thicc girls -redheads -skinny waifish dudes -guys with peircings -transwomen -David Tenant -NB people who somehow give off NB vibes visually -people with great asses -short dudes -people with long eyelashes -tall women -people who take good care of their hair -emo people -guys with strong arms -people with big noses ......… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/19 05:53 AM |
| 2 | Why do women stop being friends with a man if he isn't interested in her back?There are a lot of guys who do that too, and I don't relate but have guesses as to why. Sometimes they frame it as "he/she put me in the friend zone, why would they do that to me!?!" like having a friend is a bad thing? It's like they just don't see the opposite sex as regular people worth being friends with. Another possible explanation is that they're just super emotionally fragile and feel like not talking to you at all will let them think about the rejection less. Some people just can't take… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/19 04:34 AM |
| 3 | Why can’t men and women see what each gender brings to the table in terms of dating?I can't tell if that's supposed to be an insult to women, but in all seriousness you're correct. Men and women are able to enrich eachother's lives (or the lives of non-hetero partners) in basically the same ways. We offer eachother companionship, sex, and sometimes someone with whom to have/raise kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/19 10:02 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you lose respect for your SO if he backed out of a fight?"1. A guy is looking for a fight and insults you with the intention of getting your SO to defend your honor." This is neither middle school nor the middle ages. I would be deeply dissapointed in any partner of mine who falls for that "defend her honour" bullshit. It's reckless and stupid to be baited into starting a fight. I would be pleased if he leaft the situation with me like a grown up. "2. A guy insults your SO directly looking for a fight" This situation is quite similar, and I would simi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/19 08:47 AM |
| 1 | Why do many women refuse to make the first move?At least you're aptly named. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/19 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Why do many women refuse to make the first move?Lol thankfully my forthrightness hasn't noticeably reduced my ability to get laid, but even if it did I think it would be worth it. If somebody thinks clear communication is unsexy we're so fundamentally incompatible that I'd rather just go home and use my vibrator. It's probably more satisfying than sex with them anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/19 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Would women really like equality? Would women want to be treated like short weak men?I don't want us to be treated with equal shittiness, I want men and women to both be treated decently. I want beating up other men who didn't attack you to be just as taboo as beating up women who didn't attack you, and I want it to be acceptable to defend yourself against a woman. To answer your Q4W: That really depends on the severity of the physical violence and the "sexual aggression." I'd certainly rather have to defend myself from a regular assault than rape if that's what you're asking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/19 10:09 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What would you consider a high N-count for a man? How many partners would a man have to have for it to be a dealbreaker?I don't really care how much sex he's had as much as wether he practices safe sex and wether he's willing to get tested before genitalia to genitalia contact or oral sex. That being said if a dude has fucked like fifty people I would at least wonder how and why he did such a thing. It's not a problem for my arousal, just cause for curiosity and a bit of concern as to wether he's a reckless person. I have no idea why you mentioned the atractiveness of the previous partners, that's quite meaningle… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/19 09:54 AM |
| 3 | How much do you care about penises?I'm not a huge penetration person, but that doesn't meen penises don't matter. I just like dicks in general, they're fun to play with! Size is not a real issue for me unless he's really big in which case penetration could be unpleasant. There's also something kinda exhilarating about knowing I might one day meet a man who's entire dick I can fit all the way into my mouth (Without deep throating), so I have a slight preference tawards small dicks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/19 09:08 AM |
| 2 | What happens when a man turns down sex from a woman?Of course men are generally very horny. The narrative isn't made up, but it's an exaggeration of reality. Stereotype men are unrelentingly horny and down for sex all the time while real life men are beholden to other factors such as exhaustion or having work in the morning. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/19 08:50 AM |
| 1 | Why do many women refuse to make the first move?Why the heck would anyone put in all that effort to express romantic interest as subtext when they could just use words? It sounds so exhausting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/19 03:00 PM |
| 3 | We need more shaming to make younger men better in bedThe solution to ignorance isn't to shame people, it's to educate them. Your idea isn't just cruel, it's inefficient. Telling a guy he's bad at sex and watches too much porn tells him absolutely nothing about what you actually want from him in the bedroom. Thinking that sex should be like porn is a symptom of not knowing enough about how to have good sex, removing the porn from the equation won't treat the larger issue. On the other hand if he's not willing to learn he really should be ashamed of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/19 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: How were you raised to view women when you were growing up?Feminism would have never gotten all the support it has if all it had to offer was manhating. Most women are straight and romantically inclined, they love men. They went to feminism for voting rights, equal pay laws, birth control, abortions rights, etc. Saying feminism is about manhating is like saying MRA is about misogyny. You can find a hell of a lot of MRA misogynists, but it would be disingenuous to say that the point of advocating for men's rights is to oppress women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/19 12:20 PM |
| 2 | Do you have any silly dating standard or pet peeve?I'm a bit of a jack of all trades. Chrochet, knitting, sculpting, cross stitch, leatherworking, found object jewelry, drawing, painting, etc. Basically if I can try something without spending a lot of money I'll probably at least learn the basics. This makes my art pretty all over the place, but that's okay since I'm not trying to make a business of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/19 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Is MGTOW just the male equivalent of ''I don't need no man!!!''?Obviously yes, they're basically the same. Both groups consist mostly of people who have been deaply hurt or traumatized by members of the opposite sex. They validate eachother's misplaced rage towards men or women in general and encourage eachother's avoidant coping mechanisms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/19 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL - How has being LGBTQ+ Effected People’s Views of Gender on PPD?Being bisexual makes it really easy to dismiss any advice that treats men and women like two distinct kinds of person. I don't date The Women TM, and The Men TM, I date people and the biggest variations between them are on an individual level. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/19 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Q4Women: How important is weight to a man's attractiveness, to you?A dude has gotta be carrying a heck of a lot of extra weight for it to turn me off of him. Otherwise it's not really a factor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/19 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Do you have any silly dating standard or pet peeve?Must be some kind of artist or craftsman. It doesn't have to be their job or whatever, but if a person never creates anything we're not compatible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: How were you raised to view women when you were growing up?Then perhaps I don't know the name of the fallacy you're employing. Either way you're applying a definition of feminism that is incompatible with how the ideology is followed in the real world. Your definition of feminism is analogous to saying "Christians follow the teachings of Jesus Christ who they believe to be devine, so they baptize their infants." A prescriptive (as apposed to descriptive) definition that excludes some devout practitioners who have pleanty of beleifs in common with the re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/19 12:27 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: The future of mating/childrearing in the west might look a lot like the Mosuo ("A Society Without Marriage", kinda) and it already echoes somewhat the practices of the lower classes hereI think that would be fantastic! I'm greatful that there are women out there more willing than myself to incubate the next generation, because frankly I'd rather break a bone. Or perhaps several bones. The point is pregnancy sounds like hell. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/19 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Why do people despise MGTOW?It's not about the concept. Nobody is really mad about MGTOW dudes being celibate. People just look at their communities and think "eew, a hive of misogynists!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/19 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Do you think consent can be bought?Okay, let's just drop the "worst thing you could do to a woman" thing. It's not like anyone has any way of measuring what is the maximum amount of harm a person can endure, and you don't need to agree with that assertion to understand what rape is. Why does the existence of threats and coercion confuse the concept of consent? If a guy came at you with a knife and demanded all your money giving it to him doesn't meen you were okay with him taking your money, it meens you wanted to stay alive. You… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/19 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Do you think consent can be bought?I think that there's an argument to be made for poverty coercing sex workers, but that argument applies to all forms of labour. Once you go down that rabbit hole everything that impoverished people do for money is coerced. At that point we're just critiquing capitalism which isn't very useful when the issue at hand is prostitution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/19 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Does money matter to woman?What you're seeing here is that women don't all have the same priorities. Women's feelings about how much money you have exist on a spectrum. At one end of the spectrum you have women who could give two shits about how much money you make. At the opposite extreme you have gold-diggers who basically only care how much money you make. Women who want to marry someone they love but also want someone to provide for their future children (that's a lot of women btw) sit somewhere in the middle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/19 12:37 AM |
| 1 | why do men think feminism is dating advice?You're not wrong, but I'd add that humans in general tend to blow everything out of proportion. It's kinda just part of the human condition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/19 12:03 AM |
| 1 | why do men think feminism is dating advice?Overall, yeah feminism isn't for dating advice. Sometimes feminists will explain how to be communicative about sex or how not to make women feel threatened, but that's about it. Telling men how to be attractive is just not what feminism is for. Asking women in general is a good idea though. Dudes aren't hunting gazelles, they're trying to appeal to people who have preferences that they'd benefit from knowing about. A lot of crazy ideas get around among men about women's preferences which would b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/19 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Between 22-33% of women go on dates purely for free foodYeah, we can agree on that. Ambiguity is a pain in the ass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/19 01:59 PM |
| 0 | Between 22-33% of women go on dates purely for free foodYknow some people don't like fucking people they just met. That's why one night stands and regular dates both exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/19 12:28 AM |
| 2 | Between 22-33% of women go on dates purely for free foodWell that's disturbing. No, I don't know anyone who admits to doing this. It's not hard to guess why though. They want free food and have underdeveloped senses of empathy. I suppose it would increase pre-existing danger, but it wouldn't create danger where there was none. A man who would harm a woman because he suspects that she feigned affections has been a violent and paronoid person from the start. The best thing you can do to defend yourself is not take anyone you don't really know on an exp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/19 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Do you not enjoy being sexy for it's own sake?You could be right, I am about 60% gay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/19 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Why, or rather WHEN is ‘male thirst’ a turn off?EXACTLY The only way Christian Grey doesn't illicit terror in viewers is because of the same suspension of disbelief that lets people enjoy lighthearted adventure stories about young teenagers being thrust into potentially deadly situations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/19 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Why pro-male activism isn't nearly as widespreed as female one?Activism for women's rights has been a very big important deal in recent history. The need for it is diminishing, but the cultural momentum is still there. MRA isn't already established like that, which also makes it much more vulnerable to picking up a shitty reputation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/19 02:02 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if a guy you were interested in was super nice?Overall I'd definitely go for that. Although a guy seeming to always be happy makes me worry wether he's comfortable telling me about any of his negative emotions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/19 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: How were you raised to view women when you were growing up?The fact that Laci Green is well known enough for you to recognize by name (and come up with inexplicably boob-related insults) kinda proves my point. You clearly don't think very highly of Ms. Green, do you really think she managed to build a whole career on something that wasn't an already established branch of feminism? Just because you don't like sex positive feminism doesn't meen it's not a real ideology. Why are you employing the no true Scottsman fallacy on behalf of feminism anyway? That… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/19 01:20 AM |
| 1 | Red pill theories only work on women who have self-esteem issues or mental problems.Outside of the manosphere those are called backhanded compliments, and you can bet your ass that the average woman isn't naive to them. There's nothing sexy or mysterious about a dude radiating catty highschool bitch energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/19 04:39 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: How were you raised to view women when you were growing up?Sex positive feminism is actually a huge subset of feminism, that's why you can find so many sex negative feminist articles complaining about it. There is a huge rift between the two camps. Most advocacy for better sex education and birth control access originates with sex positive feminists. Sex positive feminist figures include Laci Green, Diana Cage, Dr. Lindsay Doe, and Erica Moen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/19 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Are women who posts nude/lewd pics of themselves online a turn on or turn off for you?That's a huge turn on for me. I think the fact that I'm not really comfortable sharing any of my own lewd pictures with the world makes me more impressed by it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/19 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Women say that one of the most attractive traits of a man, is his motivation to achieve stuff in life. But what if a mans source of motivation and inspiration to achieve stuff in life is a woman?I don't really see the appeal of "ambitious" guys in the first place. Don't get me wrong, you've got to have your own life and dreams and passions, but aquiring as much money and status as possible doesn't count as having a life. Doing that for me is even worse, because it meens he doesn't know what I want and is putting me on some kind of weird pedestal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/19 02:50 AM |
| 6 | Is sex like water to women?This is a great place to start. You're already way ahead of half the subbredit by just realizing that women like sex at all. Water is also a good metaphor for explaining some of the individual variation among women. You may have noticed that everyone you know drinks water, but they do so in different quantities. Some people wake up in the morning and immediately chug some water because they're parched just from sleeping. Some other people only rarely experience thirst. Like people with water, wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/19 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Is your fear of men analytical and based on statistics?My anxiety around men mostly comes from being raised in a paronoid household. My parents were always overprotective fearful people and had a weird obsession with rape. Now I'm living with their baggage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/19 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Are you guilty of "toxic femininity"?The whole premise of this question is kinda weird because your definition of "toxic femininity" is not the feminine version of what "toxic masculinity" meens. "Toxic masculinity" isn't just anything that's masculine and toxic, it is the toxic enforcement of a masculine gender role. Toxic masculinity is teaching boys that they're not aloud to cry, or calling dudes pussies when they refuse to do something risky or violent. A comparable meaning for "toxic femininity" would be about the toxic enforc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/19 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Are ‘backups’ really as common as I’m being led to believe?I don't really see how having "backups" helps with being dumped or "cast aside" unless you just really hate being single. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/19 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Are ‘backups’ really as common as I’m being led to believe?I'm sure there are some people out there who keep "backups" for dating, but I have never done this nor heard of it from any other women in my personal life. Personally I don't even understand the selfish purpose of keeping a dude around to date in case of a breakup. The last thing I'd want to do right after suffering a breakup is to jump right back into dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/19 01:22 PM |
| 12 | [CMV] For men, having "a look" is equally as important and perhaps more important than being fit or "good" looking.The way you emphasize not caring makes it sound like only edgy looks are effective on this front which is false. Nothing against piecings and whatnot, they're just not the only way to stand out. For instance wearing an uncommon color of dress shirt doesn't exactly "break the rules," but it does make you stand out in a good way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/19 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Why it's Virtually Impossible to Reach a Consensus on ConsentI'd just like to add that most non-con fetishists can discuss their kink beforehand and still have a good experience. If it would ruin the experience to talk about it immediately beforehand they can always negotiate a scene in advance, even ask their partner to start the prenegotiated rape-play at a surprise time if desired. There's pleanty of options. It obviously won't work for everyone. Some people get really unlucky in terms of having unsafe or unacheivable fetishes. But CNC is a likely solu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/19 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Why it's Virtually Impossible to Reach a Consensus on ConsentOf course. Relevant username I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/19 03:02 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: What is a hoe?The fact that you have to ask what they mean and everyone is giving you a different answer perfectly describes what I think of those words. Their meenings are generally unclear, circumstantial, and largely depend on who's speaking. Personally I often call people engaging in unethical sexual practices such as mate poaching and infedility hoes. I also use "slut" and "slutty" occasionally as nuetral or positive descriptors for clothing and behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/19 11:30 PM |
| 3 | Red pill theories only work on women who have self-esteem issues or mental problems.Women not commonly hooking up with conventionally unnatractive men doesn't make TRP correct. There's a lot of room between having preferences about appearance and having all of the weirdly specific tendencies postulated by TRP types. Just because she likes abs doesn't meen she'll tolerate "negging" or show you off as a trophy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/19 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Is "What would Chad do?" good dating/sex advice to give to guys who struggle with women?Fair point. In this context it basically meens act like you're comfortable talking to girls. Generally speaking social "confidence" just meens not acting like you feel out of place or are worried about how people will react to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/19 10:49 PM |
| 4 | Is "What would Chad do?" good dating/sex advice to give to guys who struggle with women?Not exactly. The whole "Chad" myth is spectacularly unhelpful. Half the time that anybody refers to "Chad" they meen a mythical man with such a hot body that his behavior is irrelevant, so that tells you nothing about how to act. And the rest of the "Chad" mythos is worse, because it revolves around being a domineering dickhead. Nobody really likes that. People with low self esteem settle for it, but nobody likes it. That being said you're nearly onto something. All you have to do is replace "Wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/19 03:45 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about porn?Clearly that lady has horribly controlling tendencies and is therefore trying to change her guy instead of addressing her insecurities. Her moralizing is probably also sincere, afterall you did find her on r/gendercritical, a retched hive of radfems and transphobia. Anyway I would never tolerate a relationship where either of us is aloud to control the other's porn habits. I understand that porn use in general used to be considered a form of infidelity, but that's rediculous and I'm glad society… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/19 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Congratulations, God gave you the authority to biologically restructure human males and females, what do you do?If I were to list everything that could be improved about the human body in general we'd be here all day, so lets just stick with things related to sexual dimorphism. Firstly I've always wanted the size and strength of a man, it would meen the world to me as a martial artist. Secondly obviously periods have got to go, fuck those. That meens no menstraul disorders either, no dangerous amounts of blood loss, no menstraul diarrhea, no feeling like my whole torso is fucking dying, none of that bulls… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/19 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Why it's Virtually Impossible to Reach a Consensus on ConsentLol yeah, no surprises there. Default sex sounds pretty shitty for all involved. It seems we can also both agree that it's not worth it to fuck anyone who doesn't have the wherewithal to talk about it ahead of time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/19 08:13 AM |
| 0 | Why it's Virtually Impossible to Reach a Consensus on ConsentHow about the incentive of not having to spell out "I DON'T WANT YOUR DICK" in five foot letters of fire whenever we aren't down to bone? Ambiguity encourages people to assume whatever they want to believe, so it's not good for when you want to turn somebody down. Morality aside guys asking me what I want ahead of time is a lot more useful to me than the ability to falsely accuse them of rape. I would gain nothing of value from their social downfall. Slander doesn't actually let me "get out of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/19 07:41 AM |
| 1 | Why it's Virtually Impossible to Reach a Consensus on ConsentAnd yet answers about dirty talk are always prominent in threads about what women want in bed, ergo if you're worried about ruining the mood use your sexy words instead of going all "may I put weiner in you, mam?" As for my flair, if you keep meeting women who have crummy sex lives perhaps it's because they're the one's fumbling around wordlessly like horny mimes and receiving nothing but monotonous penetrative thrusting due to their lack of communication. I figured it went without saying that "… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/19 09:55 PM |
| 1 | When the fuck can you be vulnerable?Sorry, but you sound like you have really crappy friends. Like what is even the point of being friends with them if they don't even care to hear when you're upset? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/19 05:31 AM |
| 1 | Q4W- Would you rather have women be the initiators in sexual interest as the status quo?I'm ambivalent, both ways work fine for me. It's not like I was gonna just sit around making eyes and wait for someone to come ask me out anyway. That sounds like a great way to miss opportunities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/19 04:07 AM |
| 2 | Why it's Virtually Impossible to Reach a Consensus on ConsentHow about yall both use your words? A simple "mmm, you want me inside you don't you baby" or whatever would go a long way. Why make her have to push you off or admonish you in order to "choose the level of escalation" when you could be communicating the whole time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/19 03:53 AM |
| 4 | Why it's Virtually Impossible to Reach a Consensus on ConsentDude just ask. It'll save both of you a lot of strife. And on the off chance that she wants to bone but refuses to verbally consent you shouldn't be fucking her anyway, you'd be sticking your dick in crazy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/19 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Do you compete with other women and/or do other women compete with you?I've never competed like that with another woman or girl, but I can certainly attest that it's a kids thing. I definitely did compete with a boy for a particular girl's attention when I was younger. The girl was straight as a ruler anyway, kids are fucking stupid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/19 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Genuinely nice guy versus Nice Guy (TM)There's an enormous destinction, and you can tell from a lot of ways. A great clue is that when you say "no" about anything a Nice Guy (TM) will be a huge dick about it. Either way the Nice Guy (TM) can't keep up the charade indefinitely, because he's not really a nice guy. People on here often use "alpha" and "masculine" to describe shitty personalities, but if you're asking wether genuinely nice guys are hot that'll be a huge yes from me. It's not just attractive, it's a requirement. You can't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/19 09:03 AM |
| 1 | The average woman is a married mother by age 29. What do you think?That sounds all nice and romantic but if you commit to sharing your life with someone incompatible you're quite fucked, so I advocate taking the decision very seriously even if that meens marrying later than your early twenties. I don't think watching my mother bear my siblings or just knowing what pregnancy is generally like counts as "anti-natalist propaganda," but okay. Where do you even find propoganda for that? r/childfree? Anyway I am aware that there are a lot of older women who regret no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/19 05:37 AM |
| 3 | The average woman is a married mother by age 29. What do you think?How fragile do you think society is? What's going to happen to civilization from people getting married and making babies in two-parent households a little bit later in life? That's hardly revolutionary. It's okay if you don't like the change but society will definitely survive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/19 12:43 AM |
| 1 | The average woman is a married mother by age 29. What do you think?Maximizing my earnings potential wouldn't be my main concern about getting married, I'm more worried about the fact that I absolutely do not have the skills to recognize a compatible long term partner and will probably not spontaneously generate them within the next three years. Don't get me wrong, early twenties is adulthood, but it's still a little early into adulthood to be picking a life partner. There's pleanty of other reasons why marrying at twenty-three and carrying some human parasites … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/19 12:22 AM |
| 8 | Do you think the dating preferences of teens show what each gender is truly attracted to?I think you're putting the cart before the horse here. Only the pop stars are carefully manufactured non-threatening blemishless idols singing about how special and beautiful a deliberately unspecified girl is. Are they attractive to teenage girls because they're famous or are they famous because they're attractive to teenage girls? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/19 03:20 AM |
| 7 | Do you think the dating preferences of teens show what each gender is truly attracted to?I absolutely disagree, being a teenager is a time of immense social preassure and confusion about one's emerging sexual feelings. On average teenagers don't know what they want, are ashamed of their new feelings, and feel enormous preassure to fit in. They can't even work out whether they're gay much less what their specific preferences are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/19 02:26 AM |
| 0 | Are the US the only place where hookup culture and PUA stuff can really be applied?People aren't fucking like rabbits in the States either, one night stands exist but not on the scale of a widespread "hookup culture." As for PUA crap, that's even less widely applicable, she has to be both interested in one night stands and also super insecure or oblivious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/19 07:52 AM |
| 1 | If you were transformed into a straight, average-looking single person of the opposite sex, and you had to find a committed relationship with someone you found decently attractive, what strategies would you use?Lol nah, there's no difference based on the men's appearance. Those girls just aren't being super risk averse. I'm not gonna say they're wrong for choosing that way, there's just some risk vs benefit things that women have to at least consider, because we are undeniably more physically vulnerable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/19 06:57 AM |
| 4 | What are some things that women almost instinctively know and men just "do not get".The fact that it's not universal doesn't make it exaggerated, because the anxiety doesn't necessarily have to come from significant danger. I have a suspicion that the main source of the difference in our experiences is upbringing. Women are not more likely to be attacked while out and about, but girls are more likely to be raised to fear a rapist around every corner. Enough women bear the brunt of anxious parenting that it colours how the female experience is described. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/19 02:55 AM |
| 1 | If you were transformed into a straight, average-looking single person of the opposite sex, and you had to find a committed relationship with someone you found decently attractive, what strategies would you use?You have some more decisions to make. If you want someone who's not a dickhead you'd have to at least go somewhere where it's socially appropriate to ask girls out. Where would you choose? Once you've been asked out what are your policies on sex? It'll still be super fun but you're at a higher physical risk from it than men. You also might not be able to cum from just PIV. How do you even decide when you feel safe being alone with a guy? Remember that they're mostly harmless but they're also all… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/19 02:21 AM |
| 2 | If you were transformed into a straight, average-looking single person of the opposite sex, and you had to find a committed relationship with someone you found decently attractive, what strategies would you use?As a straight dude I wouldn't do things that differently than I do them now. I'd go to my local BDSM munch, talk to people, find out girl's Fetlife names and see if they had compatible kinks. DM cute girls with compatible kinks, meet them for coffee or whatever. Play together at parties. Once trust is established we can also play together in private if we find a space in which to do so. That's basically what I do now, but the results could be quite different. On the bright side more girls! It's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/19 02:05 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: What elevates a man from mediocre at sex to amazing?If you don't believe in the existence of PIV orgasms whatsoever I'd love to hear what you think of other relatively uncommon ways that people acheive orgasm. Do you believe in prostate stimulation orgasms? Nipplegasms? Paingasms? There are a lot of things that make some people cum without doing it for most people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/19 11:46 AM |
| 3 | How do you feel about suger babies?Yknow majority oppinion has a pretty shitty track record when it comes to what sexual decisions are "degrading." Even oral has been considered unacceptable in the past. If you've ever wanted to do anything more interesting than missionary within marriage you'd be a deviant in recent history. And do I even need to spell out how wrongly a majority of people have historically judged queerness? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 10:23 PM |
| 2 | How do you feel about suger babies?I don't see it as particularly empowering or degrading. It's just something other people do. If I imagine it too vividly I get seccondhand discomfort, but the same goes for deepthroating and I wouldn't tell anyone not to do that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: What elevates a man from mediocre at sex to amazing?Yeah, guys seem to get a lot of unwarranted preassure to cause PIV orgasms. Your wife's experience of clitoral orgasms being stronger is extremely common, and an inability to orgasm from PIV alone at all is also very common. But that doesn't necessarily meen that cunnilingus is the "holy grail" of sex for every woman either, the ultimate determining factor in being a great lover is to just ask what she enjoys the most. But if you're looking for a more personal answer, I'd say the best thing a lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 09:51 PM |
| 8 | A man and women CONSENSUALLY having sex unprotected is the responsibility of both parties regardless of gender.I think that the idea of men being unable to use basic risk management while horny is both degrading to mankind in general and gives idiot men who cum raw into one night stands too much credit. If he's a manchild when he has a boner it's because he's always a manchild. Not that that invalidates your strategy at all, on the contrary the existence of manchildren is a great reason to be proactive about condoms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Q4Women: in your opinions, what legitimate challenges do you think today’s western young men face that are unique to them?You're not wrong about sex being viewed as a commodity under patriarchy, and people having more sex wouldn't necessarily fix that. But do you realize that we don't actually have to offer ourselves as rewards now that we have sexual and economic freedom? Now I can just participate in the "rate race" myself for resources instead of trading in pussy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 08:29 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: might mechanical vibrators/sex toys have had a similar impact on female sexuality as 21st century porn has had on male sexuality (I.e., artifically elevated sexual expectations)?I think it's a lot easier to work out that men aren't Hitachi wands than to work out that porn sex isn't regular sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 07:04 AM |
| 2 | Do results always beat work put in? Do you ever date below yourself?Alright there's a lot of strange guesses there but one of them really stands out. A big dick is ABSOLUTELY NOT a replacement for oral sex. Big dicks aren't even that valuable to women in general, what would I even want with all that extra dick when my G-spot is barely an inch in? And with a big dick you can accidentally batter her cervix which hurts like a bitch. Meanwhile when you eat pussy you're stimulating the clitoris, the most sensitive part of the female body in an incredibly direct and p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Hookup material versus boyfriend material in terms of looksThat's not necessarily how it works. "Boyfriend material" isn't someone more fuckable than a fuckbuddy, they're a fuckbuddy who's also really emotionally compatible to the point where I can imagine living in the same home as them without being driven nuts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 05:01 AM |
| 1 | If you hear a woman say she wants a man who will always fight for their relationship, what do you think that means?This really has nothing to do with feminism, it's just being a bitch. You'll be perpetually confused about what exactly feminism is as an ideology if you assign every possible form of female bitchitude to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 03:35 PM |
| 7 | If you hear a woman say she wants a man who will always fight for their relationship, what do you think that means?Can't we all agree that "I want a man who will fight for our relationship" meens you should flee? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Q4Women: in your opinions, what legitimate challenges do you think today’s western young men face that are unique to them?Depends on the feminist, but yeah some of them really to learn that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Q4Women: in your opinions, what legitimate challenges do you think today’s western young men face that are unique to them?Yeah but OP specified "Not married or divorcing men, but young men aged 18-28. What challenges do you think they face that are unique to being a young man?" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 02:13 AM |
| 3 | Q4Women: in your opinions, what legitimate challenges do you think today’s western young men face that are unique to them?That's an interesting question, the answer depends on what exactly you meen. Womankind in general is just a demographic and can't be rightfully blamed for anything. Individual women on the other hand can absolutely be rightfully blamed for any way in which they victimize a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/19 10:48 AM |
| 5 | Q4Women: in your opinions, what legitimate challenges do you think today’s western young men face that are unique to them?It's not an emminent danger right now, but the existence of the draft is essentially a threat of slavery to the state hanging over the heads of healthy young men everywhere. There are other less universal problems such as lingering emotional issues from toxic masculine parenting. I am aware that "toxic masculine parenting" sounds made up, but I don't know what else to call it when a peice of shit dad tells his son he's not aloud to cry because of his gender. If you're gay you're more likely to g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/19 05:51 AM |
| 0 | Do you only want tall guys?Definitely not. You can absolutely have too much of a good thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/19 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Do you only want tall guys?Absolutely not. In fact being short is a bonus in my book. I don't know how to explain it, short dudes are just really attractive. (And the same goes for short women) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/19 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Should a man tell his gf that he struggles with depression?Comparing women to fish doesn't invalidate what I said, it just shows that you can make absurd comparisons. And accusing people of naivety doesn't make you right. Anyway no, you didn't somehow read my mind and discern what kind of guy I was imagining. I'm a big fan of normal (in terms of fortitude and success) dudes. And their normal struggles do not "produce" or "consume" horniness, they just engender a sense of empathy and camaraderie. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/19 10:25 AM |
| -1 | Should a man tell his gf that he struggles with depression?I'm sorry you've been through so much shit, but "guess they're all like that, better just learn to deal with it" isn't a healthy way to deal with the aftermath of dating abusive people. If you normalize it you keep settling for it and don't learn to recognize red flags. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 05:23 AM |
| -2 | Should a man tell his gf that he struggles with depression?There's a big difference between having aesthetic preferences and having a preference against guys being vulnerable and human. All men experience vulnerability, therefore not liking men who are vulnerable would ultimately meen not liking men at all! It would mean we can't love like you can. That's kinda dehumanizing to say about women, but much more harmful to guys because you're telling them nobody will love their real selves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 04:22 AM |
| 7 | Should a man tell his gf that he struggles with depression?I know you've already received pleanty of advice from armchair sexologist guys who think women are another species that can't empathize and are only attracted to fake invulnerability, but please for goodness sake don't listen to them. She's not the mysterious female species, she's a regular person who loves you. Wouldn't you want to know if she was depressed? I know it's hard to open up after you've been hurt, and it might be a painful comfort to tell yourself that there's no point and that wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 12:46 AM |
| 2 | How do you feel about dating a man who is only dating you because he is unable to have casual sex.I don't see what we get out of that either, and I'm confident in my ability to attract someone who actually wants to be with me not just some guy who wants to get his dick wet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/19 12:35 AM |
| 3 | Making a man pay child support in case of paternity fraud is unethical and scandalous.This kind of argument doesn't apply to kids, it's not their fault who their mums are, and they can't very well take personal responsibility for their own needs. Even if the world was fair and nobody ever worked hard for insufficient money it still wouldn't be right to let kids starve if their parents were lazy. Besides kids are our future, why wouldn't you want to subsidize their development? I don't want to grow old in a society where the younger generation was too busy starving to acheive thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/19 05:01 AM |
| 4 | Why have women become more masculine over the years in Western society?Why do we do "masculine" stuff now? Because nobody's preventing us from doing so! Turns out when we're not shoved into the role of a young virgin bride a lot of us have no interest in it. As for feminism, a political movement doesn't just disappear from existence the day that it has acheived most of its ends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/19 07:43 AM |
| 1 | The notion that men are the gate keepers of commitment is laughable.This still buys into the idea that sex is something women give to men and not part of what we want out of relationships. It's actually pretty important to us too. Attention is neat but it doesn't give me orgasms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/19 06:49 AM |
| 1 | Would men, including "sex symbol" male celebrities, become less attractive if they got beaten up? A discussion of the sexiness of dominanceThere are some nutty ladies in the world, but I definitely don't agree that it's normal to lose interest in a guy just because he loses a fight. Being a martial artist I see hot guys lose fights all the time, it's utterly inconsequential. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/19 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Theory: Career women and nice guys act as they do -because that they project what they want in their partner?What exactly is a "career woman" in your eyes in a society where practically everyone needs a career? Hard work isn't necessarily a mating thing, it's just in our self interest in general. And by "nice guys" do you meen guys who are actually nice or guys who fake it because they think fake kindness will get them laid? Those are two very different categories. And for the record the former kind of guy is fucking hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/19 11:40 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Only a tiny number of cheaters experience any form of karmic retribution or enduring feelings of guilt.Technically nihilism is just awareness that the universe is fundamentally devoid of meening. Existentialism, the philosophy of those who deliberately create their own meaning (for instance by having a personal moral code) is just a subset of nihilism. So u/coughASSistant is indeed a form of nihilist, though why they believe that that meens multiple humans can't share a framework of meening is beyond me. If you can't trust that your significant other's moral code is similar enough to your own tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do some women call men gay if they are not hitting on the?Being a woman doesn't really give me any special insight into that behavior. All I can guess is that they're butthurt. Basically homophobic r/nicegirls I did once have a strangely relevant conversation with my father though. Dad asked me if I was sending nudes to a friend of mine, and I told him "No, I don't think he'd appretiate that," and my dad assumed my friend was gay. But I don't understand my father any more than I understand those random ladies in bars of which you speak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/19 02:24 AM |
| 1 | What's the deal with non-virgin women withholding sex?So your example story was deleted, and I'm getting the impression that it was made up or about a crazy person, so I'm just gonna answer your question in a more general sense. Why do women who've had sex with guys they don't know very well before cease to do so? The first date sex didn't work out well for them. They got their hearts broken or had crappy sex or whatever. The point is it sucked, so she stops doing it. Do you expect women to keep making the same mistakes over and over again just to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/19 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Q4 All: Do you try to help your female friends avoid scumbags?You know some weird ladies, man. This does not come up in any way similar to what you describe in any of my social circles. Ain't no women I know dating convicted criminals or guys who abandon kids, that's not normal. The worst I've had to point out is that sometimes female friends of mine date guys who just aren't putting as much care and effort in as they receive from my friend. And normally the friend takes my input seriously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/19 01:13 AM |
| 9 | New study shows unmarried couples living apart have the highest levels of sexual satisfactionIf women don't like sex what on earth are hookups and the endless supply of smutty fanfiction for? How about sex toys? Why do you think we buy sex toys? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/19 02:15 AM |
| 3 | My problem with this placeTry not to worry about it too much, relationships are meant to be mutually beneficial but not just in the coldly practical way suggested by TRP types. People (and I can not stress enough that that includes women) generally want sex out of their relationships, and sometimes they want their partner to be able to make enough money that they can afford kids, but they're still looking for somebody to really love, they won't be happy with anyone who they don't actually like as a person. They're also a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/19 08:53 AM |
| 0 | What are reasons why a guy would ghost a woman forever after regularly hooking up?Are you aware that the ghosting is not the source of the affection? She only cares so much that he ghosted because he was enjoyable to be around and fun to fuck. If you want a woman to like you as much as she likes this guy you'll have to actually be likeable, there's no shortcuts. Additionally he's no longer benefiting from her continued interest because by definition ghosting meens not associating with her, so what "results" is he actually getting? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/19 02:16 AM |
| 3 | What are reasons why a guy would ghost a woman forever after regularly hooking up?There's honestly no way to know, we'll never be able to read his mind so the best you can do is grow used to the fact that he fucked off for no discernable reason. Not knowing what happened sucks and makes it harder to get over, but that's how it is. Asking random people on the internet why he did what he did will only lead to a barage of blind guesses that don't really tell you anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/19 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Q4Women: Have you ever been manipulated into having sex by an older man?Yes, exactly! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/19 06:34 AM |
| 8 | Q4Women: Have you ever been manipulated into having sex by an older man?That's definitely a wild generalization, but I think the time I rejected an older dude and he said "ageism is like sexism and racism so you're descriminatory, and you're not mature enough for me anyway, I wouldn't want to fuck you, we can only be friends" was trying to pull some kind of "negging" reverse psychology bullshit. It's also possible that he was just mindlessly bitchng though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/19 09:44 AM |
| 1 | Why is it that the MRP men only try fix their marriage after the sex dries up?I still think you have some big misconceptions about why women get into relationships, but the fact that you think we get laid to upset whoever we aren't fucking is more concerning. People don't have fun without you to make you feel bad. Beleive it or not just because rejecting people isn't as unpleasant as being rejected doesn't meen it's exactly chocolate covered orgasms. Rejecting people is awkward and sad and makes us feel kinda guilty. Rubbing guys faces in it would feel even worse. What do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/19 09:32 AM |
| 13 | Why is it that the MRP men only try fix their marriage after the sex dries up?EXACTLY We can have jobs now, I don't know why TRP guys think we feel the need to trade pussy for a living. And that whole mythos seems to also assume that we don't like sex and companionship in and of itself, what are we, robots? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/19 07:15 AM |
| 6 | Why is it that the MRP men only try fix their marriage after the sex dries up?Dude, a lot of men bring first date paying upon themselves, it can be surprisingly fruitless to try to convince a guy that he doesn't have to pay for stuff. Most women who don't feel entitled to free dinner probably don't push the issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/19 07:07 AM |
| 1 | The myth of unconditional loveYou're very right that all human connection is (and should be) conditional, but you seem to have made some weird assumptions about what the conditions are. The conditions aren't necessarily services or resources that you provide to your friend or partner, a lot of the time connection is only conditional on doing your best for that person. For instance if your wife and kids need you to keep providing for them but you willfully stop doing so that would probably break the conditions of your marriag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/19 12:59 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheaterFair point, your reasons for looking at porn are an important factor in how you experience it. If you're looking for self understanding and acceptance you'll find it, if you're looking for breif solace in the face of loneliness you'll find that instead. I would absolutely still reccomend both fantasy and porn to people unaware of their preferences, but with the very noteable caveat that it's not for dealing with your negative emotions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/19 11:02 AM |
| 2 | What do you think about the austrian childcare model?Some Americans might fuss over it, but personally I'm all for this kind of huge benefit to individuals at the expense of merely inconveniencing corporations. Not everything that would be more financially efficient for an employer is the right thing to do! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/19 10:27 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Partners that refuse to allow access to sex in a monogamous relationship are just as bad as a cheaterNobody is a blank slate, a previously repressed sexuality is undiscovered not nonexistent. Wether you know about them or not there are things that you'll enjoy a lot and things that you won't like so much by no choice of yours. The least you could do is not go into a relationship blind with no idea wether you and your partner will enjoy any of the same stuff. You can make great progress towards that self understanding just by letting yourself fantasize and enjoy porn. As a fellow late bloomer I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/19 09:38 AM |
| 0 | Would you agree that muscles and height is the male equivalent to ass and breasts?Another thing those traits have in common is that they're generally considered to be desirable, but aren't by any meens a requirement for you to be able to attract a mate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/19 06:37 AM |
| 3 | Would you agree that muscles and height is the male equivalent to ass and breasts?On a related note were thigh gaps ever a big thing among men? Seems kinda like teenage girls and women's magazines created the "problem" of thighs touching eachother out of thin air. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/19 06:33 AM |
| 2 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?I've never fealt that way about one of my friends but I can understand it and I don't think it would be less possible with another woman. Either way the fear seems to be of getting into an emotionally charged situation that fundamentally changes how those two people interract with eachother, and that can happen with either gender. From my bi experience it seems like every conceivable relationship issue is possible with a man or with a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/19 04:26 AM |
| 2 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?It's probably safe to assume that if she says she's afraid of how it'll affect your friendship that's the truth. The feelings that are associated with sex can be overwhelming, and it's normal for people to fear change. Sex might be a much bigger deal emotionally to her than to you. You see something fun to do with a friend, but maybe she sees caught feelings waiting to happen or a short lived relationship that could bloom and die taking the status quo of your friendship with it. It's a fear of l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 11:47 PM |
| 1 | When should you have sex? Depends on if you're him or her?It doesn't have to be super extreme to be BDSM, and kink is the healthy context for anyone to seak out domination or their partner paying for everything, because everyone knows that kink necessitates communication. Expecting money, submission, or dominance without having to explicitly ask for it is nuts, and not quite the kind of nuts that I've come to expect from the average person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/19 03:29 AM |
| 1 | Do you think we will see a shift in heterosexual males going for transwoman?Not for the reasons that you're thinking of, no. Guys who strongly prefer cis ladies won't date trans women out of desperation. On the other hand the many dudes who identify as straight and are attracted to trans women will continue to date trans women. Just because it's not your preference doesn't meen men have to be out of options to date them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/19 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: What if 'Going Wild' is an act?The people who fear settling down mostly wouldn't be the ones who're just partying hard to fit in. I doubt the information that some people are "wild" inauthentically would be world shattering for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/19 02:09 AM |
| 12 | [Discussion] Is the "marriage benefits men" idea a myth?But seriously why would you not go to the doctor whenever something is wrong with your body? It's not just good for living to eighty, if you wanna live fast you need your body in working order. Shitty health limits your freedom. Why does your idea of masculinity involve self neglect? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/19 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Are men attracted to fertility markers or is attraction cultural? What do you consider to be markers of fertility?Definitely both. And let's not discount the amount of individual variation either. Everybody has a different set of sexual preferences partially shaped by the society they live in and what has historically helped humans to reproduce successfully. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/19 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Why women make “relationship material” guys wait, but not Chad.Please do not subject normal women to your idea of dating. We'd rather just get to know somebody in an honest way so that we actually know wether we want to have a long term relationship with them. There's no other way to make a good choice when it comes to sharing our most intimate experiences and at some point our living space. Games aren't just inconsiderate, they're counter-productive. Be as cynical as you want, but consider that living an eternal power struggle is not practical or enjoyable… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/19 09:26 AM |
| 7 | Why women make “relationship material” guys wait, but not Chad.Where did you even get the idea that this is typical female behavior? It's not even possible for most women to exhibit this tendency when most of us do not partake in one night stands at all. It's doubly implausible that we'd be more comfortable doing "adventurous things" with men we don't know, that stuff takes trust!! And in the odd case that a woman who is sure she likes you is taking an inordinate amount of time before fucking you chances are that she's just nervous. We have normal human fee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/19 01:02 AM |
| 1 | When should you have sex? Depends on if you're him or her?Perhaps I surround myself with some rather unusual people and am completely out of touch with the insanity of the average person, but it's equally possible that I live in the world of women and know things about womanhood that you don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/19 06:32 AM |
| 1 | When should you have sex? Depends on if you're him or her?The occasional naive religious or "Cosmo" reading type may make that mistake, but no woman in their right might sticks with the delusion that men's perspective on commitment can be changed by merely waiting a while before fucking them. The "boyfriend material" category largely exists to designate guys worth getting to know not guys to string along in hopes of wresting commitment out of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/19 05:56 AM |
| 1 | US finally catches up to Japan: around 27% of men under age 30 are virginsI think you're still vastly overestimating the importance of "sexual energy." Men still want to have sex and that's enough, it's alright if they're not radiating an overwhelming sense of desire. We can still tell they wanna smash. By the way contrary to your assertion coming off as creepy is caused by an overabundance of sexual intent in the wrong context. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/19 05:36 AM |
| 5 | US finally catches up to Japan: around 27% of men under age 30 are virginsOh yeah nothing more sexy than a guy amped up on sexual frustration from not wanking. Where have all the good men who look at me like they're starved lions staring at steak gone? My ideal man can't even concentrate on the conversation while he struggles to hide his boner /s For real though I prefer my guys "drained" of desperation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/19 01:07 AM |
| 1 | When should you have sex? Depends on if you're him or her?You can find "many women" interested in just about anything. We're quite sexually diverse. On the other hand if a high limit credit card energized the sexuality of MOST women sugarbabies wouldn't be a minority fetish community. The same goes for red pill myths about women being obsessed with domination, it's 2019, people who want to be dominated can go to bdsm forums or events and find a Dominant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/19 07:23 AM |
| 2 | Women of The PPD? Would you be upset if you're so asked for a praternity test?I'd be hurt, maybe even heartbroken because if I'm having kids with someone I trust them completely and thought the feeling was mutual. I wouldn't blow up at him or decline the test, but I don't know how we'd heal from that level of distrust. If he can't feel sure of my loyalty at that stage of a relationship when could he? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/19 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Q4W & ,M : Do you think it would be fair on a man to end a serious relationship if he found out he was beta bucks i.e safety reliable kinda a guyHe can do whatever he wants but wether it's reasonable really depends on how much of the "beta bux" narrative actually applies to the situation vs how much he just assumed. If she said "I mostly dated assholes before you, I'm glad I got serious about finding someone kind and reliable who loves me back," and he assumed she finds him sexually unappealing and married him for his money, he has a paronoia problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/19 12:09 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: Do you ever fret that you are not the best sex your SO ever had?I've fealt things like that sometimes, but I recognized it as a factor of my own insecurities and got past it. It's important to recognize your own emotions and not project your insecurities onto other people and hate them for what you think they think. The TRP guys need to stop "hating high N count women because they'll always compare us to sexier guys and give us unenthusiastic sex," and look inside themselves for the source of all that comparison and judgment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/19 10:17 AM |
| 2 | Q4Women: Do you ever fret that you are not the best sex your SO ever had?Our sources of sexual enjoyment are more complex than how big of a thing gets shoved into us. Further in isn't normally very pleasure sensitive anyway, and the G-spot is always somewhere near the opening, so it stands to reason why only some women even care about dick leangth. Additionally the clitoris is often the most sensitive part, so sometimes your greatest affect isn't acheived by penetration at all. And that goes double for women without very sensitive G-spots who do exist and can't alway… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/19 10:04 AM |
| 2 | When should you have sex? Depends on if you're him or her?I know you weren't trying to say that about pumping and dumping. I was just pointing out that it's futile to try to use withholding sex to force a non-commital man to commit, because if he's planning on pumping and dumping that attitude won't change. That's why it's not the default female mating strategy, because it wouldn't work. Anyway the point where a particular woman feels comfortable having sex does varry, and it is a good sign if she wants to go at it with you earlier than she normally wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 09:04 PM |
| 3 | When should you have sex? Depends on if you're him or her?Most women don't want to engage in prostitution though. We have sexual preferences and interests, so we'd rather fuck guys who we'll enjoy fucking than guys we don't like who spend money on us. It's not like a normal supply and demand situation, the "suppliers" aren't just trying to exchange for the maximum amount of resources. No matter how aware of economics you are you can't model human sexuality without factoring in the female sex drive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 08:00 PM |
| 5 | When should you have sex? Depends on if you're him or her?When I'm dating a guy I'm not gatekeeping sex to wrestle commitment out of him, I like him and I want to fuck him. If I'm not fucking him yet it's because I don't feel safe enough, if he can't respect that and keeps pushing I was damn right to feel unsafe. Meanwhile if he was planning on pumping and dumping me time won't turn him into a sweetheart. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/19 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Women Say Looks Don't Matter That Much. Is this true?Looks do matter a lot, but red pill types have a lot of misconceptions about what counts as attractive and what changes about dating based on your appearance. We have preferences just like you do, but you don't have to be a Hollywood Chris, and if you did look like that it wouldn't excuse any glaring personality flaws or change our sexual comfort zones. So somebody might say "looks don't matter THAT much" to a red pill guy even though looks matter pleanty, because they still don't matter on the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/19 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Because we haven't talked about sexbots enoughWe certainly do sometimes make money and have hobbies for the purpose of getting laid. We also make money for food and shelter, and have hobbies for fun and friendship. Mankind has many wants and needs, so I reckon that even if all we wanted out of our love lives was a good fucking our society would still survive sexbots. But on a related note I think a lot of people may find themselves dissapointed and lonely with a sexbot. It's easy to reduce a feeling of desperation for both sex and love into… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/19 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Would you want to have been born the opposite sex of what you are nowI assumed this man would just be me in a different body, in which case he actually would be guaranteed to approach people and to properly communicate his desires. Your seccond assertion is also a bit questionable but it doesn't matter. I do not have any use for the amount of sex I COULD be having as a woman. I would never in a thousand years miss being able to get a Tinder and receive an endless supply of penises to be fucked by. I'd still be able to start a long term relationship with someone c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 10:21 PM |
| 0 | Would you want to have been born the opposite sex of what you are nowI can only speak for myself but I might take the male body. If I had a male body I couldn't have endometriosis, and I would be a bigger person with a decent number of judo opponents. I'm already sexually assertive because it's more effective than waiting, so no harm done on that score. Would miss my multiple orgasms though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 08:51 AM |
| 2 | (Q4A) How would you feel dating someone very attractive, who thinks they are unattractive?It's not that it wouldn't bother me, cause I'd worry about someone I love having such a clear symptom of depression, but it certainly wouldn't exclude them from my affections. I definitely wouldn't be paronoid that they'd dump me for the next model-hot person to appear, I trust that if somebody is my boyfriend or girlfriend it's because they like me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/19 10:05 AM |
| 1 | Different Sexual Peaks Between The GendersYou make a good point, and I also still have questions about what could be so hot about middle aged men anyway. The idea seems to stem from red piller beleifs about women having an insatiable attraction to money, afterall middle aged men do have more money.....but it doesn't make them hot to young women. We'd mostly rather have someone our own age who we can relate to better and find more attractive. Afterall we can make our own livings these days. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/19 10:28 PM |
| 8 | What are some things that you believe the opposing pill gets completely wrong?That "blue pill ideology" is a straw man though, a majority of people who don't identify with "The Red Pill" understand that personal grooming, socializing, and having hobbies is good for your dating life. You can't lay claim to common sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/19 11:21 PM |
| 2 | What are some things that you believe the opposing pill gets completely wrong?I don't subscribe to the Red-pill/blue-pill dichotomy, because it just refers to one ideology (TRP), and litterally everyone else But nonetheless you'd call red my "apposing pill," so here's my answer. The number one weirdest thing I hear red pill types say is that attention and money are the female equivalent to sex, and the only motivation for women to get laid. I wanna be one hundred and ten percent clear here, WE LIKE SEX. We like it a lot, we like foreplay and orgasms and everything in betw… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/19 11:12 PM |
| 2 | (Discussion) How true is the phrase "men will treat you as bad as you let them"?That's not a fundamental trait of maleness, those guys are just jerkwads, and their female counterparts treat people just as poorly. Boundaries do help with interacting with those kinds of people but the best thing we can do in this world is be picky about who we associate with, not fucking him on the first date won't do the trick in the long run, it'd be an uphill battle just to be treated like a human being by someone like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/19 08:57 AM |
| 1 | Is buying an expensive engagement ring just a trap propagated by the diamond business or are you a cuck if you think rings shouldn't be expensive?Personally I see no reason for expensive diamond engagement rings, but that's not a universal opinion among women. What I can say for sure for all womankind is that we're not conspiring to "weed out" guys who believe we don't all want diamonds. We just have diverse oppinions on the matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/19 09:20 AM |
| 2 | What actually makes a woman good at sex?Communication and self knowledge! That goes for both people. How are you supposed to have good sex if you don't know what makes sex good for eachother? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/19 07:29 AM |
| 4 | Discussion: the stages of decline of women's sexual attraction to their partner in the context of a relationship.That's someone's personal experience or conjecture, there's no reason to believe it applies widely. Anyway the biggest false statements there are that we automatically get wet at the thought of a new partner, and that lube exists for women who aren't into their partners. Those are both false for the same reason, our wetness varries! Some women can get wet from fantasizing. Some women are and always will be relatively dry no matter how horny they get. Others get wet whenever stimulated. Still mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/19 05:55 AM |
| 0 | Would you say women are as disgusted by male sexuality as men are of “sluts”?I'd even wager that we're much more alarmed by youth/virginity fetishists than some guys (and some people in general) are by women who have lots of sex. Those guys don't want to fuck slutty women, but I don't think they're afraid of them. As much as there's nothing fundamentally wrong with a dude fantasizing about being a young (ADULT) woman's first love we can't help but see red flags. There's a lot of baggage associated with that fetishism, a lot of horrid religious indoctrination, a lot of mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/19 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Why do women like to highlight their non-interest more than men?Jesus Christ. I'm sorry to hear that, it sounds incredibly annoying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/19 03:03 AM |
| 1 | If you were the opposite sex, would you have sex with you?Well I already like girls so a gender swap would be unnecessary. But anyway absolutely. We would have exactly the same kinks! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/19 04:57 AM |
| 2 | What do women "REALLY" want?Women all want different things and can't speak for one another but we do know mostly what we want as individuals. That is the number one reason why the entire redpill ideology is incorrect, it starts from assuming women are all mostly the same, makes up a whole hypothesis of female attraction, and explains all deviation from that by disbelieving what actual women who feel that attraction say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/19 08:52 PM |
| 5 | Why do women like to highlight their non-interest more than men?Where are you in day to day life where that happens so often? Admittedly I don't get out much but this is still surprising. Is the problem on social media rather than in person? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/19 10:00 AM |
| 3 | Women, Girls, and "Agreeableness"I'm not gonna totally get into discussing that entire hypothesis, I'd just like to establish one thing. Some women such as myself are most certainly not born with emotional manipulation skills or even any level of social competence. I can not overstate the extent to which I spent my formative years with absolutely no idea how to interract with people. I do not know at all how common that is but it's still a counterexample. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/19 09:08 AM |
| 3 | The effects of hormonal birth control on womenTexastentialism pretty much explained it all, but since you asked. I specifically need it because when unmedicated I bleed way too much (I told a gynecologist how much and even he looked shocked) at random intervals, and it's accompanied by terrible pain and intestinal problems. I might have endometriosis (uterus lining growing outside my uterus on other organs for no good reason) but the only way to test that is a surgery and either way I'd still be treated with hormonal "birth control." It was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/19 01:03 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Women don't experience attraction the same way men experience attractionWe absolutely experience visual attraction. And I know it's not just me because other women tell me who they find visually attractive. This happens both when we know more than about him than his appearance and when he's just a random dude on the street. The problem with this whole situation is it's men asking eachother how women think. No matter what sounds like common sense or how other men try to refute it it's all unnecessary guesswork until you just ask a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/19 11:35 PM |
| 2 | How true do you find this sentiment to be?No, I don't meen to be dramatic but that's actual craziness. Women would barely ever have long term relationships if we were love hating aliens disgusted by affection. We're regular humans who like to be liked and exchange gifts and spend quality time and all that good shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/19 09:11 PM |
| 1 | The effects of hormonal birth control on womenWhen a child starts the pill it's normally not for birth control purposes, hormonal contraceptive pills are also the number one treatment for menstraul disorders. As a woman with such a condition I'd willingly subject myself to litterally all of those possible side affects for the day to day functionality I have enjoyed since I started the pill in my mid teens. In reality my mood didn't change which was the side affect I was watching out for. Women who experience mood swings from the pill genera… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/19 09:02 PM |
| 2 | [Discussion] Gay men have spousal homicide rates far higher than every other type of coupleTrotting out those statistics for that purpose is still stupid, but let's not dismiss the struggles of people suffering from violent same sex partners and men with violent wives. It's still a real traumatic mind fuck to have someone you both love and live in close quarters with start attacking you. They may be more physically able to fight but they're not always psychologically able especially with the same viciousness as their abuser. That abuse usually takes place in a vicious cycle of blow up… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/19 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Women who seem willing to play out a male fantasy, why are they doing it? Are they enjoying it?Oh dear god 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/19 01:00 AM |
| 4 | Women too make a calculated choice on the basis of men's sexual past, and it is the opposite of what men preferI'm too young to be seriously considering what's attractive in a thirty year old, but I think there's still a few things I could add. Women are just as capable of being insecure enough to wish a partner had no previous partners because they make her feel threatened. And if you seem like a reckless person I'll just be scared by your "attractive high n-count" in case you haven't been using protection. There's just a lot more variables involved here, so what all women want (and what all men want fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/19 12:57 AM |
| 5 | Women too make a calculated choice on the basis of men's sexual past, and it is the opposite of what men preferJust for the record if a woman is asexual she'll probably just stay a virgin forever on account of not wanting sex. Women can make our own stability these days afterall, we don't have to trade pussy for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/19 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Guy gets sent to jail after girl lies about being 19 yrs old. Was justice served?Alright, we can agree on that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/19 09:22 AM |
| 11 | Women who seem willing to play out a male fantasy, why are they doing it? Are they enjoying it?A lot of us just really really like sex and to feel sexy. That's not the only possible reason a woman might show enthusiasm but it's not as unlikely as you might think. Sex is fun afterall. That's why me and so many other women buy ourselves sex toys when we don't even have a man in our lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/19 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Q4Men: Do you approach women during the day or night? Why/Why not?I'm not a man but I approach women in social situations regardless of time of day, because on the street is rude. Obviously success is limited, most of them are straight, but at least I can talk to hot people now, lol Also just a heads up for the men here, if you approach a woman outside/alone at night she will not be turned on, she will think she's about to be murdered. It's kinda weird but I assure you it's how we're commonly raised to think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/19 09:13 AM |
| 4 | It’s immoral of men to have casual sex with women if the effects are as dire as they say.But if you really think they're choosing to harm themselves isn't it akin to going out drinking with an alcoholic? The fact that people are aloud to make their own decisions doesn't justify supporting terrible decisions. You can't have your female chastity promotion cake and eat it too. It's like I don't have any right to stop teens from smoking but I won't buy them cigs, not even if they pay me. It's enablement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/19 08:58 AM |
| 1 | In today's society, men sleeping around is not just a luxury but also a necessity to gain the interest of womenI can't speak for what women who have a lot of casual sex find attractive, but let's not be silly and suggest that people with different levels of sexual experience don't recognize one another as humans. It's not rocket science to tell that people are people and there's no reason why women who sleep around would he incapable of doing so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/19 03:00 AM |
| 2 | CMV: There is more competition between women than there is between menYet Twitch and similar places are not flooded with a majority of the female population, because getting guys to send us money is not actually the ultimate measure of female success. "By that standard they're in the top percentage of women," but women generally don't use that standard. We're not all competing to be the sexiest on the internet for money because there's pleanty of other things we can do for a living. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/19 02:48 AM |
| 1 | CMV: There is more competition between women than there is between menSome of your arguments to support your claim are more worth contesting than the claim itself. Firstly what women want in life isn't wildly different just because sex work and Instagram fame exist. Some women very much want those things, but it's not an equivalent to or replacement for a mate/partner. Secondly women don't only try things outside missionary for men's enjoyment, those of us with decent self worth try things we actually want to try. Women like sex and we like it lots of different wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/19 02:34 AM |
| 2 | Slut walks are as stupid as if men had virgin walksActually I think the main thing isn't just that they don't want to be shamed, a big issue among slut walkers is not wanting to be told they were asking for it if they're raped. I won't pretend to know how often that actually does or does not happen to rape victims these days but the prospect is terrifying, so they march. But anyway who says there shouldn't be virgin walks? I could get behind a bunch of dudes sick of being told they're lesser for not having been laid yet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/19 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Do Women Get Mad About Guys Getting Some of Their Assets in a Divorce Settlement?You'd be surprised by how many of the more jingoistic women do say that. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=e1p6D9iIyUk But I think they miss the point because they trust the government with that power in the first place. To me it doesn't matter who is forced to sign up, it'll be just as unjust either way and we'll still have to get rid of the damned thing. If all blue eyed people had to go into a lottery where a random selection of them were sentenced to death, including brown eyed people wouldn't i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/19 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Guy gets sent to jail after girl lies about being 19 yrs old. Was justice served?You misunderstand, it's not okay to share sexy pictures you took of a grown woman either unless she agrees to that. Nudes are private unless otherwise stated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/19 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Guy gets sent to jail after girl lies about being 19 yrs old. Was justice served?I don't know any twelve year olds that could be mistaken for grown women, but his guilt is certainly not beyond reasonable doubt. If he believed her he shouldn't be considered a pedophile. Sending his friend the lewd pictures of her would also be incredibly reprehensible and hopefully illegal if it was without her consent, but that's a rather different issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/19 11:20 AM |
| 2 | Can't we just agree that both sexes have their unique privileges and disadvantages?Absolutely. I think maybe a lot of people know this but we aren't as vocal as people who believe their gender has it hardest. This goes double for women because talking about feeling victimized as a woman is very mainstream at the moment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/19 05:41 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Women need to start approaching or stop complaining, and here's whyThere is some truth to this especially since there was never any good reason for us not to go start conversations with men we find attractive. It's what I do. But let's be clear about one thing. All good policies about "approaching" consist of only doing so in social situations. NOBODY should be hassling people they find attractive on the street on the way to work. It's not appropriate for men to do and it wouldn't be appropriate for women to start doing either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/19 03:28 AM |
| 1 | do you feel offense when I say girls have to put less effort into dating?No, that's not particularly offensive to me though I'm not entirely convinced. On the other hand there are some related statements which I do find quite exasperating. I once saw a guy on here estimate that women are approached by a new would be mate several times every week which is just silly. Just on a practical level we'd run out of men in our social spaces to keep up that kind of constant barage (which sounds awful) of new suitors very quickly. In reality men may be more likely to initiate r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/19 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Something RP and BP should agree on; childfree is the way to go.Personally that's how I feel for myself but some people really REALLY want kids, so having a decisive oppinion on which is "the way to go" for everyone instead of just me would be nothing but projection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/19 06:29 AM |
| 1 | CMV: A "Career Woman" would be one of the worst type of people to date.You're not necessarily wrong but it's not just a career woman thing. It's largely gender neutral. It can be equally frustrating to date a completely job centered man who has no time or care leaft over for his significant other. The exception to this is probably the career centered people themselves who'd in all likelihood be happy to date someone like them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/19 06:17 AM |
| 3 | Do Women Get Mad About Guys Getting Some of Their Assets in a Divorce Settlement?You really don't have to mention women at all to make it obvious that the draft is bad, you just have to be talking to someone who isn't the jingoistic version of a patriot. I'll never have to worry about being drafted, but of course I appose it because it's a really obvious human rights violation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Feminist mothers attempting to raise their sons to be feminist or gender-critical: how does this affect said boys' upbringing and mental well-being?Depends on the feminist. When someone says they practice "Feminist parenting" it could be many different things. Maybe they breifly explain sexual consent during "the talk," or show their little ones a lot of female hero movies, or are sure not to treat their kids differently based on their genders. Maybe they instil male guilt in their boys like you might be imagining. The label describes a lot of different things which would all have different affects. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/19 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Is pornography for men the equivalent of emotional cheating for women?So is going for a run or eating chocolate, we don't call those anyone's version of getting off to porn because getting off to porn is everyone's version of getting off to porn. Preening for sexual attention from people outside your relationship is certainly questionable monogamy, it's just not a female version of wanking because jilling off is the female version of wanking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/19 03:51 AM |
| 5 | Am I missing something? Is being a goldigger now the norm rather than the exception?Gold digging isn't generally considered feminist. It'd fall under objectification. The feminist ideal is for a woman to make her own money independently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/19 03:37 AM |
| 9 | Am I missing something? Is being a goldigger now the norm rather than the exception?Maybe the ratio hasn't changed, you just see more goldiggers than you used to because they are vocal about it on social media and algorithms designed to hold your attention show you stuff that pisses you off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/19 01:22 AM |
| 2 | Is pornography for men the equivalent of emotional cheating for women?We also have a base desire for sex, so the famele equivalent to porn is also porn. Men can also have a desire for romance, so the male equivalent to emotional cheating is also emotional cheating. In my oppinion porn is okay, you just have to have the conversation when you decide to be monogamous so you're both on the same page about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/19 01:10 AM |
| 2 | Is pornography for men the equivalent of emotional cheating for women?Masturbation is what's masturbatory. Attention is neat too but it doesn't fill the same need as rubbing one out. We're not THAT different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/19 01:01 AM |
| 2 | Is pornography for men the equivalent of emotional cheating for women?Actually we like sex, so the female equivalent to porn is also porn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/19 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Is pornography for men the equivalent of emotional cheating for women?Or just watching porn, listening to audio porn, reading straight up smut, looking at lewds, etc. Romance isn't the lady version of sex, sex is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/19 12:51 AM |
| 1 | What is your opinion on "last minute resistance" "being coy" "token resistance" and "no doesnt always mean no?"Some women do expect that but that's something they have to get over not something you should adapt to. Don't take a risk of being a peice of shit who scares the crap out of or sexually assaults a women who doesn't want to fuck you just because there are crazy girls in the world. If you lose that lottery you just seriously hurt someone and she might call the police. If you win? Congrats, you just stuck your dick in crazy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/19 12:24 AM |
| 2 | How will prenups affect women's desire to get married?I dunno about you but I like men, I could take or leave the paperwork but there is a certain kind of man that I'd like to live with and have sex with indefinitely. I don't need one for my financial security so I don't need his money if the relationship crashes, they're just nice to have around. I can live by myself and fuck myself, I just like the idea of living and fucking with someone I love who might be a guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/19 12:54 AM |
| 1 | What do you think TRP gets wrong and why are they lumped in with incels and white nationalists?People do tend to get internet ideologies that they have no interest in mixed up with each other, but that's not the only reason people make that mistake. There is one common thread between incels TRPers and white nationalists (and many other groups), the beleif that the differences between certain demographics (either genders or races) is more significant than the differences between individuals. Incels and TRPers have different ideas about what women are like and what women think but they both… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/19 12:33 AM |
| 6 | Would you rather be alone forever, or have to marry a man who has 3 other wives?The answer to that question depends on lots of other questions. Are the four people in that group compatible with me? Would I like living with them? Is this like a bunch of open minded poly people or a patriarchal harem? Not to put too fine a point on it, but can I fuck the other women? The point is having a man all to myself isn't my number one priority, I don't need to be monogamous but I do have standards and preferences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/19 10:34 PM |
| 1 | CMV: feminism wants men to show their emotions, unless those emotions are how we feel impacted by women or feministsIt actually makes perfect sense to me, let's frame it differently. Some feminists believe (with some limited accuracy) that society is teaching that men aren't aloud to share emotions, and the feminists notice that that's bad. Yet said feminists still don't like being hated or angrily disagreed with....much like everyone else doesn't like being hated or angrily disagreed with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/19 09:26 AM |
| 0 | Q4BP: If you found a porn video of your daughterWell yeah, if my hypothetical daughter wants it it probably makes sense for her. I would've already taught her how to mitigate sexual risks and beyond that it's none of my business who she fucks or why. It's not even my place to encourage her, if she didn't want to tell me I'm not to bother her about it. Even if it's not in the past it's just as okay, I'd trust her to look after herself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/19 10:36 AM |
| 0 | Women who date assholes in their youth don't deserve sympathyWhen a woman (or anyone) is so desperate and self hating that she'll stick with the first guy who noticed her no matter how abusive he turns out to be that's a lot worse for her than it is for whatever other dude was nearby not getting laid. Get a sense of perspective, I know you're lonely and horny but that's not the only thing going wrong in the entire dating world. These ladies don't need your sympathy but neither do they deserve your scorn for having gone through some shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/19 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Police demand DNA from Phoenix care staff after woman in coma gives birthShould the warrant be found to be too broad I would of course support a narrower DNA test warrant. Whatever actually works within the system to solve the case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/19 04:40 AM |
| 2 | Police demand DNA from Phoenix care staff after woman in coma gives birthThat depends on how exactly how it was "found" to be unconstitutional. I would be dissapointed if the Supreme Court voted to protect DNA under the right to remain silent, and would hope to live to see that ruling overturned by later Supreme Court justices because I do not support that interpretation of our constitution. But if something else is wrong with the warrant such as it including men who had no access to the patient or had not worked at the facility long enough or the police keeping the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/19 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Police demand DNA from Phoenix care staff after woman in coma gives birthYou have a right not to self incriminate by talking to the police but not to prevent the police from searching your house for evidence with a warrant. In my oppinion this is much more comparable to the latter example, and the police not being aloud to search when they have probable cause would be terrible for society. There is no right to never have the police check anything you don't want them to, and that's a good thing. To answer your likely followup question, YES this applies to DNA testing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/19 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do so many women here try to steer men to consuming hobbies, monasteries or homosexuality? Is it so uncomfortable to consider undesirable men as sexual beings?How many women have actually told you to go gay or join a monastery? I'm not at all convinced that that's a normal thing to say. As for hobbies maybe you are misinterpreting people who just notice that you're unhappy and want to encourage you to do things other than ruminate. It's not necessarily a solution to your struggles with dating but as advice to feel less bad it's not wrong. Whatever their reasons for suggesting that you get a hobby it's not to make you go away, that wouldn't even work, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/19 12:31 AM |
| 1 | If a stranger slapped your ass in public, how would you want your SO to handle it?I would consider that more of an attack upon my person than an afront to your pride. I think she fealt the same way and wanted to avoid escalation for the sake of safety. That being said to answer your question, I would want you to call the police for me so my hands are free to defend myself. Social rules be damned I will not let people take liberties with my body. But we're all different, clearly she wanted to avoid conflict and I can understand that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/19 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Should this guy get back his 4 million dollars for the wife paternity frauding him?Makes sense to me, it's reasonable to feel jilted and want the way the divorce was settled to change in light of this new information. I can also understand how a couple of the sons feel rejected though, on an emotional level it'd be hard to seperate their dad's anger at being lied to from the relationship they built on those lies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/19 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Is there any substantive difference besides money for "hubby material" vs "bf material""Hubby material" would simply describe a boyfriend who I had been dating long enough to be sure I hadn't missed any reason that we shouldn't get married. If I am considering marrying someone I really truly know them and can trust them to be alright to continue living and having sex with forever. It really has nothing to do with money, I can make enough of my own money for my childless life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/19 08:13 AM |
| 1 | Why are there so many perfect couples?You're right, it doesn't add up. There's a reason why not every man grows jaded and miserable from his experiences with women. They don't need the red pill because while they're not actually perfect the relationships generally don't suck. I wouldn't normally comment in this sub but you seem like you can make it out and go have fulfilling relationships, or just be more comfortable in a world that's about 50% female. | /r/MGTOW | 29/10/18 04:29 AM |
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