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As someone who was dumped by my most recent ex after wanting to leave him for months but rationalizing that his behavior wasn’t the worst, I applaud your courage! It’s hard to finally decide to leave and even harder to follow through with it. I tried leaving my ex multiple times but got accused of giving him ultimatums while I was working up the courage to leave him which ultimately led to me apologizing and cowering and eventually losing myself. Eventually he broke up with me because my feeling…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:54 PM
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I mean where’s the lie though? Men do generally suck, they are generally depraved in some way, and it’s safer for us to assume all men are dangerous until proven otherwise. I don’t understand (actually I do; see sentence above) why men get so butthurt over women trying to encourage other women to seek healthy fulfilling relationships, be safe, and desire positive attributes from a partner. If a relationship isn’t bringing more positives than just being alone then it ain’t worth it, and if a man …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:21 PM
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I have this post saved: Parental Seekers - Juveniles and Baby Boys I reread it whenever my mind starts wandering and I think of my LV exes (one of them was a combination of both categories). Also a great guide for these kinds of men. They are ever more prevalent nowadays!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:20 PM
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Dated a “loved by everyone” guy. He talked shit about several people he treated as “close friends”. He was emotionally immature and essentially felt burdened when I needed emotional support of any kind but thrived when I provided it. I’ve since learned that, in general, men who are “happy go lucky” and seen as “lovable” are men who are only really able to form surface level connections because their entire being revolves around surface level things. These men will never be empathetic, instead th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 05:55 PM
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I wish I had read this months ago! During my last relationship I never told my mom anything bad about my ex except once where I needed to get reassurance to break up with him, and I ended up not breaking up with him anyways. I never told anyone about the few instances where he would take his frustrations out on me by talking down to me. Fast forward a month after the breakup and I open up about those things with my mom and she asks me why I would ever put up with that because she knows that bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 08:02 PM
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Playing devil’s advocate when you are being emotionally vulnerable, treating your very real phobias as silly/unreasonable and wanting you to just stop having them for his sake, speaking poorly about co-workers that he then treats like close friends (two-faced), defending the objectification of women in any way (ex: while I can respect female twitch streamers that sexualize their bodies and make big bucks doing it, I think that if a partner openly supports said sexualization it means he himself o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:05 PM
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Yesss queen! Congrats!!!! Like you, my weight loss journey has flourished, I can actually get more than 3 hours of sleep, my stress eczema has disappeared (I wonder why), I’m actively looking for a better job, started hitting up the gym with one of my girlfriends, bonded more with family, and am learning how to play the piano. Everyone in my family has commented on how much happier/great I look and honestly, yes. I am happier. I didn’t realize how much internalizing my feelings had worn me down …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:12 PM
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The worst part is that this is 100% something some dirty scrote would write on their dirty circle jerk subreddits. They want a unicorn meanwhile all they have to offer is their roach-infested house/apartment (if they even have their own place), disrespect, and shit genetics for the unfortunate children that they have IF they ever manage to have any, which hopefully they don’t. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 11:01 PM
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It also is rarely ever “fine” either. I stayed way longer than I should have with my ex, talked myself out of breaking up with him over and over again, and he ended up breaking up with me because I was becoming increasingly passive aggressive. After processing the heartbreak I realized all the the things I put up with and that made me feel unhappy/unloved were HUGE red flags! We often times downplay how bad we are being treated or gaslight ourselves into believing it’s okay. What seems like just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:11 PM
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What in the pick-me bullshit is this??? My only kink is to be treated with fucking respect. Outlandish apparently to women like this. 🤦‍♀️ As women we need to stop lying to ourselves about enjoying this kind of abusive behavior. It’s not enjoyable, it fucking sucks. Pain is not enjoyable, degradation is not enjoyable. What kind of horrible message is this sending to young girls who watch this? I know for a fact (because I did this too) that messages like these while we are in our teens make us f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:19 PM
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Yes! 100% this!!! With the last LVM/NVM I was with whenever he did something that rubbed me the wrong way I would ask my friends if I was crazy in not being ok with how he acted, I would seek their validation before I could even start telling him how something he did made me feel. But even with their validation, when I brought up the issue he would say things like “well can we just move past this?” or give me half-assed apologies after we had gone around for hours discussing the issue and I woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 11:43 PM
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Or the long paragraphs about how “we can be friends down the road” 🤡 or “I still think we can work things out! I’m sorry for bring crazy, I was just going through stuff! ” 🤡 spoiler: I wasn’t crazy I was being gaslighted into thinking I was the problem when I was with someone who would display no emotional empathy, was emotionally unreliable, and would play devil’s advocate when I was upset. 🤡 🤡 The amount of effort I spent writing these pick-me texts when I could have been focusing on myself is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:21 PM
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This reminds me of a conversation I had with my ex. For whatever reason the topic of marriage came up and I mentioned why, at the time, I didn’t want to get married. It had to do with my own safety and freedom and independence. When it came to him elaborating on why he didn’t want to get married his reason was “I don’t want someone to marry me for my money”. I don’t think I even acknowledged his response. Looking back I should have realized how insecure and LV/NV he was for having that mentality…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 12:22 AM
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Not sure if similar, but I realized I became very passive aggressive in my last relationship. He made me think I was a toxic passive aggressive person. Talking to my mom, she made me realize I’ve always been pretty outspoken and assertive and not passive aggressive at all. Now I have this whole mind space where I realized he made me passive aggressive by essentially making me walk on eggshells because of his hurt ego, and now I’m trying to unlearn this behavior that I’m afraid of taking into the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:26 PM
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Her writing is beautiful! So much of the pain that she writes about is the pain I feel and am struggling to overcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:19 PM
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Reading this made me cry because this was me to a T. I played online games filled with men and acted like a “cool” “edgy” girl online. I dated guys that were gamers and always tried to be the “cool girlfriend” that could hang out with my Low Value (LV) Ex’s friends and essentially I gave up my own interests to play the games he wanted to play. I dated guys that didn’t believe in marriage because I didn’t believe in marriage (for all the wrong reasons). My Ex’s compliments to me were how cool it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:03 PM
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I think everyone should make their own choice. Societal pressures shouldn’t dictate your future and make you feel pressured into any decisions. Ultimately the goal of FDS is to do what is best for you! Marriage was always something I took off the table because I was afraid of that level of commitment, because being married meant “being tied down”, but it was a fear that I was placing on myself and unrealistic. Opening myself up to removing that fear and being open to marriage allows me to remove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:15 PM
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You can do it! I’m trying to get to the point where I’m happy on my own. I think that to truly find someone that will be a lifelong partner it’s important to be in a state of mind where your happiness isn’t reliant on having one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:06 PM
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Yes! A man who wants to get married (for the right reasons) is someone who thinks long term and is willing to make the compromise you both need to maintain a healthy relationship. Someone who can take the criticism, empathize with how you feel, and work to make the relationship work. Men that can’t think long term aren’t willing to better themselves, because at the end of the day they are content with their mediocrity and lack of growth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:05 PM
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Thank you! It’s taken me a lot of internal battling and working through counseling to realize that I was essentially self-sabotaging by allowing fear to rule my life. Here’s to a better us!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:58 PM
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100% this!!!! Don’t be blinded by infatuation!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:15 PM
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I was too afraid to give up on my last relationship because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings (unfortunately I’m a HSP and can’t handle other people’s emotions because I feel them, and it’s something I am now actively working on for future relationships so I can always choose me). He broke up with me recently, and while it hurt it was also a relief. I didn’t realize how much it was negatively affecting me until my dad and I were talking this morning and he said “You know I know the wound is sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:10 PM
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I’m consistently trying to shove this subreddit down my friend’s throat every time a guy acts exactly like I told her he would. Thank you for existing, here’s to hoping one day she’ll finally decide to fall into the rabbit hole like I did and gain a whole new perspective on dating and relationships. I’m so much happier now that I have the power to say no, and coincidentally I also happened to find a good healthy relationship to be in around the same time as I was discovering that I didn’t deserv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:17 AM
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Forewarning: This is just my perspective and everyone deals with their mental illness in their own way: Honestly I don’t understand trying to use mental illness as this bait for women, and why any woman would fall for it. I struggle with anxiety and depression. When I go through one of my episodes of severe depression, the last thing I want to do is bring someone down with me. I cope with it, and lift myself up through little things that make me feel accomplished and with a lot of cuddles from m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:16 PM
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It’s honestly sad that this is something he brags about. Congrats dude, you’re going to die at age 40-50 probably of liver failure because you’re also probably an alcoholic/drug addict, you’ll die alone with no one by your side and no offspring to carry on your legacy (thank god) because being a shitty human being stops working after a certain point when we all realize we don’t need to take this shit. Women are consistently evolving to become more independent and to take no shit, especially with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:21 AM
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I was with someone while I was dealing with a fibroids tumor that made me basically bleed out and feel excruciating pain. It was incredibly inconvenient for him because I never stopped bleeding so sex was nonexistent or messy. Also my pain was probably no worse than that one time he “insert shitty comparison here”. He ended up breaking up with me because I didn’t pay him enough attention because I WAS ANEMIC AND DYING AND TIRED. A few months later I genuinely almost bled out and died (I’d been b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:23 PM
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Thank you!!!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 02:12 AM
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I was today years old when I realized literally all of my relationships did not involve me being poor at communication but instead dudes refusing to understand me. Every relationship I would try to voice my opinion and then when we’d fight or break up they’d always be like “well maybe if you were better at communicating”.... I thought I just wasn’t ever getting my point across. I honestly felt like I have always been the issue because I was raised to be seen not heard. Turns out I was just datin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:00 AM
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I’m so sorry y’all have lost touch. And I’m sorry for your friend. I know I did that to a friend before (I cut them out because of a relationship). I realized after it ended how awful I’d been and how dumb I’d been for choosing some loser guy over my best friend. Thankfully we were able to salvage the friendship after I apologized. I hope y’all can eventually work it out and she realizes that guy isn’t worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:55 AM
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Yeah, as much as I know she won’t listen I wish there was something I could do to help. But everyone is right. This is starting to affect me too and it shouldn’t. I think really what she needs is therapy not a friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:53 AM
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You are completely right! It’s hard not being people’s shoulder though. I’ve kind of always been that for a lot of people growing up. Most grew out of it and are pretty secure in their own decisions and some friends will come to me when it’s a situation they don’t know how to handle and I try my best to give reasonable sound opinions without forcing a decision. Usually they are reasonable, see my point of view and decide what is best for them. But this friend just continues to make poor choices …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:52 AM
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Oh trust me, it terrifies me. I know she’d do anything for her baby, and I have no doubt in her ability as a mother. But the idea that one of these losers is going to be a predator terrifies me when she trusts so easily. She was seeing a therapist before, but the site she used changed their terms and conditions to include recording all sessions and her therapist didn’t agree to it and left the site. Now she doesn’t want to find a new one and I know the issues she has aren’t going to be solved wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:46 AM
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Thank you! Yeah I think at this point I’ll have to start distancing myself from her decisions and relationships. She’s good at seeing my perspective on things but then goes and still gets involved with guys that are worthless and make her sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:44 AM
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I completely agree. I don’t think she ever really thinks of how dangerous it can be. She loves her baby to death but like, I don’t think it really processes that there are evil people in the world. I’ve tried sharing some stuff but most things get a “yeah yeah I know” or a shrug and get disregarded. When I talk to her she always starts to understand what I’m saying and then immediately reverts to “well it’s my fault” and “clearly there’s something wrong with me”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 09:38 AM
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Y’all are the best. It’s so hard to break free of the routine of just being someone’s shoulder even when it gets to be too much for the self. Honestly I think for next time I’m just going to let her know I need to focus on me. I just hope she realizes soon that she is worth so much more than she gives herself credit for and shouldn’t be settling for these losers. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:07 AM
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You're absolutely right! It's really hard to disassociate yourself from someone's problems though when you've helped them get through them for so long. And I'm super proud of her for all that she has accomplished, it's just that in this regard she keeps devaluing herself and I just wish she'd see herself like me and everyone else sees her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 02:53 AM
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Right like right off the bad the first few words made me cringe and then I was just like... This dude is definitely an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:17 PM
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I felt more like he was trying to convey that he didn’t want a woman with a backbone, especially with how he described the girls he’s into. Like he wants a soft-spoken, Walk-all-over-me girl instead of a woman that sticks up for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 05:16 PM
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Right!? He once got me these like super cutesy personalized gifts and asked me to take pictures of them so he could show his work mom what he got me. It didn’t even click how weird that was until I started getting on this subreddit honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:06 PM
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My ex had a “work-mom”. She knew every little detail about our relationship before it even started. He told her literally everything that was happening and she knew before I did that he was going to ask me out. She also added me on facebook, stalked my facebook and messaged me to have a small conversation and decided whether or not I was worthy of her “work-son”. It was creeeepy as hell. After we broke up I went no contact, he still creeped on my snapstories and what not but then after I deleted…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:07 PM
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As someone who was okay with being walked all over until she decided enough was enough: I love this. Also, it’s so important for us to self-reflect after every relationship so we can grow. Why was he a bad match? How can I prevent myself from dating these types of men? What do I do to attract these types of men? How do I weed out the LVM? I’ve predominantly dated narcissistic men, and the reason they were attracted to me like bees to flowers is because I was constantly making myself vulnerable b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:02 AM
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This reminds me of my first serious relationship. We moved in together, I worked overtime a lot (sometimes up to 16 hour days) and had a swing shift so sleep was never something I got. Still was expected to clean and cook and asked to pick shit up for breakfast/dinner for him when I didn’t have time to make anything. I didn’t complain. He worked flexible hours and took a 3 week vacation between jobs but would get pissy if I asked him to do something simple like take out the trash. Or he’d expect…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:31 PM
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