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Inner Game FiftyNereids/r/seduction12/10/22 12:54 AM
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ConversationFiftyNereids/r/seduction02/07/21 12:22 AM
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Done with this subreddit, I swear this place has turned into a subreddit for degens. See you.
/r/seduction01/12/24 03:04 AM
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The thing people aren’t talking about is she already found you attractive physically enough to give you a smile. It’s equivalent to going to a bar and getting a smile from a girl across the bar. If a girl is smiling at you it’s an invitation. Not saying you weren’t smooth but tbh after a girl smiles at you you’ve already won half the battle. The other half is just passing the creepy check which most people with decent social skills can do. Unfortunately most guys won’t even be getting a smile an…
/r/seduction19/11/24 02:31 PM
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Not to be mean but you probably have pretty privilege if you haven’t figured out what to do in this situation by now. How do I know you have pretty privilege? I find it hard to believe you dated several women without even knowing how to do something as basic as saying hi to them when they show obvious signs of interest. This is dating 101, just say hi.
/r/seduction08/11/24 04:10 AM
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People have to realize with complex issues the driving forces are usually multi-factorial, which means it’s not only caused by 1 reason. So, porn can be blamed equally as women’s views on dating as they can both contribute largely to the problem.
/r/seduction07/11/24 09:24 PM
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I’m actually not a believer in moderation of porn simply because there’s usually only 2 outcomes: You’re already an addict You’re on your way to being one. Since porn is such a high dopamine reward (for biological reasons), it would be almost akin to doing heroin “casually” but expecting to not become addicted. The issue and reality is, you will probably become an addict and increase frequency of usage especially as natural tolerance develops. So those who believe moderation is possible, I would…
/r/seduction07/11/24 09:20 PM
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The key is really feeling the vibe and not forcing something that isn’t there. The girls who you kissed but didn’t go on a second date probably weren’t into it, because if they were you would have gotten a second date. I used to think there was a rule to it and that kissing on the first date meant something and gave you brownie points, and if you didn’t your chances of a second date are lowered. The fact of the matter is, it isn’t true and these “rule of thumbs” don’t really work. The trick is t…
/r/seduction04/11/24 11:24 AM
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Same boat as you, I’m a top 10% earner along with a multitude of talents and positive traits. I get decent number of matches but like you most don’t go anywhere. Im probably gonna hang up on the apps soon because it’s actually contributed to personal negative world views. I also think that the pool of women who frequent apps tend to be a certain type of individual, contrast that to women who don’t use apps. You’re basically exposing yourself to the worst and bottom of the barrel, ie. Women who w…
/r/seduction16/10/24 10:05 PM
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Maybe but tbh I’ve gotten significantly way more matches on apps in the last year than I have in my early 20s. Though my photos were not the best in my early 20s nor my finances or income. After 10 years on apps, I’ve actually been doing the best now and the biggest change for me at least of late has been changing my height by 1 inch
/r/seduction13/10/24 04:23 AM
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Yea you would think 1 inch height is nothing right? But from personal observation, experience, and a huge sample size on apps it tells me otherwise. The simple fact that most women will filter you out on apps for being below a certain height already proves this. I for example changed my height from 5’8 to 5’9 and nothing else and got 10x the amount of matches. You will also be surprised how many women will not even look at “everything else” upon seeing that you’re short. You can be as rich as Je…
/r/seduction10/10/24 08:38 PM
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Yes women have eyes but I doubt most of them can tell a man who’s 6ft from a man who is 5’10”. Which proves the point that the 6ft standard is an arbitrary bullsh*t number. In fact it’s so BS that this 6ft requirement only exists in the US since in the rest of the world they use the metric system so someone who is 183 cm won’t be perceived much differently than someone who is 182cm. All women really look for is someone who is taller than them by a few inches and on average most women are below 5…
/r/seduction10/10/24 12:50 PM
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Unfortunately it’s limited by the medium. You cannot sense “confidence” from a dating app profile. You will simply be filtered out before even having a modicum of a chance. All it takes is for the woman to filter her matches via height and you will not even exist on their potential matches, your profile will have a 0% chance of showing up once that happens. Confidence works but only in a real life setting. So yea, the only solution is lie about your height so you can actually be seen, or don’t u…
/r/seduction10/10/24 12:40 PM
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I recently tried this for the first time and my God, did this tiny change shatter my views on online dating (for the worse). My matches went up 10x and all I did was change my height from 5’8 to 5’9. I didn’t change anything else. I make literally 6 figures, I’m fit, I got some charisma, entrepreneur and much more, but Guess What? I had very little matches for literally years. We’re talking about 1 a month. That was until I got better photos, then 10x my matches for the first time. I hit another…
/r/seduction10/10/24 12:31 PM
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A really good one is “Models” By Mark Manson. The social proof thing I mentioned is probably in a book but a lot of it is from experience. However evolutionary biologists do talk about this in mating selection so looking up podcasts for that on YouTube will be super beneficial when it comes to learning big picture ideas such as this. Applying the knowledge would be a bit different though and that part will just require practice and failure. If you can look past failure though and just rinse and …
/r/seduction01/09/24 01:03 PM
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You can’t make any girl do anything, only increase the probability of attraction but even that will vary depending on many factors including her type, her upbringing, etc. Having said that the general rule is women like what they can’t have. This means the more “rare” you are the higher the demand women will typically want you. How this translates is a combination of having better traits than your competition (other dudes). Some of these traits include status, wealth, charisma, body type, height…
/r/seduction29/08/24 10:35 AM
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I can see why you've been single and haven't been able to get any until your 30s, even when a friendly online stranger is trying to help you, you're too stubborn to listen. Goodluck being single my dude... Nothing hurts more than self-sabotage. See yah.
/r/seduction26/08/24 09:48 AM
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All good, your loss
/r/seduction26/08/24 09:45 AM
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You JUST met, the love of your life… as in you had the FIRST conversation… you’d stop talking to every woman because of 1 interaction? This fits into my point exactly. Because there simply is no way to know if this person is indeed the "love of your life" from a single encounter. Which means that she didn't even know what she was saying by using the term "love of my life". Tbh it just actually paints her as even more idiotic and at best naive. Secondly if she thought this person was the "love of…
/r/seduction26/08/24 09:34 AM
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And that’s not true if you’re single why not? If you met the love of your life but you had a date planned with a hot girl and the vibes was good and she went to kiss you, you’re saying you wouldn’t? Not if I just met the "love of my life"- which would probably mean I'd really feel something different about her. How I see it, which I see is the problem in modern western culture, is people are so willing to cave to hedonistic, primal tendencies rather than commit to an individual. This is exactly …
/r/seduction26/08/24 08:58 AM
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A few things. She's low quality. And I'll explain why, it's quite simple. Why the F*** would you go on another date with another man if you met the love of your life a few hours before another date? Either she didn't meet the love of her life and she's just trying to get attention on her Twitter, or she has poor boundaries. It would also be one thing to go on another date after just to not stand up the guy, and another to actually make out with the second guy after meeting "the one" a few hours …
/r/seduction26/08/24 03:35 AM
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It’s good that you realized it and are open to feedback and change. And don’t worry man, most men have been there. It’s actually quite easy to lose yourself in the dating scene and develop a taste for short term gratification especially how modern dating is setup. But your willingness to be self aware and strive towards a deeper goal means that you’re on the right path. Trust me, I’ve been there too, and sure you can brag to buddies about body count but at the end of the day it’s a lonely road a…
/r/seduction26/08/24 01:31 AM
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Bro not trying to be a dick but she probably senses your impatience and that’s probably what’s making her even more stressed. The fact that you’re immediately contemplating on moving into a new girl actually says more about you than the girl. It says you value sex above an actual relationship, hedonism above deep relationships. If that’s the case just know that you’re more meant for short term relationships than something actually long lasting. If you actually cared about the girl you’re dating,…
/r/seduction25/08/24 11:00 PM
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Didn't use to be the case, it is because the culture has shifted. Older women have spread the culture of making a wider age gap seem "predatory" when it actually is not. Sure there are actual creeps but it is normal for women to date older. However specifically older single women spread this current culture to younger women because they know older men no longer see any value in their older age. This frustration is the motivation used by these childless single-bitter older women to limit a man's …
/r/seduction24/08/24 10:55 AM
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It actually depends on how well you’ve established rapport. Obviously context matters. If hypothetically she only met you for 2 minutes on a cold approach most women will say no. However if you had a full convo with her, established rapport, made her laugh a bit, turned on the rizz a bit, she feels safe, and she’s into it, she will probably say yes.
/r/seduction15/08/24 12:43 AM
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100% this OP. Women will always say “ok” but feel differently about it just to keep the peace. It’s part of their highly empathic nature to not want to hurt peoples feelings or get into conflict. However that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to only hang with you. Assuming she only wants to hang with you, you cut out the other guy as cordially as possible to not appear as an as*hole. Assuming she isn’t into you and you misread the situation, you face a moment of embarrassment but you get your …
/r/seduction15/08/24 12:38 AM
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Well, maybe it’s time to wrap up the one night stand lifestyle. You don’t have to do any of those things if you had a nice GF or wife to go home to. No need to fake sht or go through all the BS to get a 304’s tainted pssy. Having a fulfilling relationship + good sex? It’s way better than meeting some bimbo at the club and going through hell just for a chance to smash.
/r/seduction08/08/24 11:40 AM
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I don’t agree with #11 generally. But because this post is about being a fu**boy the rule works. This is because you may find a conservative girl who isn’t willing to put out by date 3, but is actually wife material. If you’re looking to have fun and be a fu**boy the 3 date rule works to screen women who don’t want to sleep around out of the picture. It works for short term relationships if that’s what you want. However anyone reading this who actually wants a long term relationship with a whole…
/r/seduction07/08/24 07:32 PM
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100% agreed
/r/seduction19/07/24 09:00 PM
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Although I agree with most of your points, the truth though is sometimes there’s nothing you can do “correctly” if the woman just isn’t attracted to you. I point this out because many men will often get the impression they didn’t do something correctly or could have done something better to “magically” make her like him more. Though this can be generally true to individuals who lack social skills or “rizz”, even people who are extremely good at it cannot attract women who simply don’t find them …
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:52 PM
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Yea, I think what makes this all unpredictable for us guys is the fact that this all hinges on what a woman considers “normal behavior” and her own internal model of the norm. Since not all women are the same and come from all different types of families and upbringings, there will be certain behaviors that they find more acceptable than others, however there will still be a general overlap of “acceptable behaviors” that most women agree upon. So as long as those behaviors are avoided then you’r…
/r/seduction09/07/24 07:01 PM
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A lot of what constitutes as “creepy” is considered psychological behaviors that deviate from the social norm. Ie. The guy can’t take no for an answer, keeps pursuing. Or he cannot read the room or her body language. Or does something completely radical and unpredictable based on the woman’s internal model of what is considered “normal behavior”. Some other Redditor commented about some guy who saw a beautiful woman while walking, then stopped what they were doing and stood there and stared. Thi…
/r/seduction09/07/24 06:34 PM
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On top of this analysis, a lot of what constitutes as “creepy” is considered psychological behaviors that deviate from the social norm. Ie. The guy can’t take no for an answer, keeps pursuing. Or he cannot read the room or her body language. Or does something completely radical and unpredictable based on the woman’s internal model of what is considered “normal behavior”. Some other Redditor commented about some guy who saw a beautiful woman while walking, then stopped what they were doing and st…
/r/seduction09/07/24 06:24 PM
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Don’t be surprised when degenerates act like degenerates. The only reason why most of these influencers can even make a living with their degen content is correlated with the rise in degeneracy of the average Joe who pays for their content. While elsewhere these influencers cannot make a dime because they have no actual useful skill sets, they can thrive in a nation where we entertain ourselves by paying these degenerates to do degenerate things for a quick dopamine kick. These highly narcissist…
/r/seduction09/07/24 11:44 AM
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Yes it is basically a lie because most guys know in 99% of scenarios if they’ll be with the girl. They’ll just say this to be ambiguous to cover themselves later. Also they know if they say the alternative “I’m just here to smash” that the probability the girl will continue is 0.01%. So yes it’s a line guys say already knowing 99% of the time they will not be in a relationship with this girl later.
/r/seduction05/07/24 07:22 AM
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Let’s be honest tho… it is dishonest because most guys know the probability is they want to smash 99% of the time and maybe be in a relationship 1% of the time. Any guy knows this is true on a subconscious level. You can try to rationalize it and say because of a “technicality” you were actually trying to “go with the flow” and see. But tbh most guys already know the answer before they even sleep with the girl. You are simply just rationalizing and justifying the desire to smash the girl by tell…
/r/seduction05/07/24 07:18 AM
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TBH contrary to popular belief, for women a good amount of attraction is looks. Having said that personality is like a multiplier. You will get approached as a woman for looking pretty, but the guy will only stay (for a relationship) if you have a decent personality. Though it is true there's a lot you cannot change about appearance it is also simultaneously true that there's a lot you can change physically. This includes physique, fashion style, and even mannerisms which all contribute to physi…
/r/seduction04/07/24 09:27 PM
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Actually not for the same reason as women. Women “shit test” as a way to see how men will respond in hypothetical scenarios to gauge if she has chosen the correct person. Ie. She may start a fight with you to see how you handle the situation, if you make a big deal out of something small or if you handle it very easily and nonchalantly. If you fail enough shit test its will indicate to her that you are not a suitable mate or long term partner to raise children with. If you for example get super …
/r/seduction02/07/24 09:59 AM
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100% true. Showing emotion is a short ticket into the permanent friend zone. Women will always wish men were more emotional but when they do show it, it is game over for the guy.
/r/seduction20/06/24 10:49 AM
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Don’t listen to the “it’s not your race it’s your looks and attitude” comment. Literal online dating statistics prove that white are highest desired out of any race. Also most women will not admit having racial preference but they literally will filter you out on the app when you’re not white. The idea that race plays ZERO factors into dating is plain incorrect and a fallacy. At best it is ignorance and at worst it is the denial of the reality that people will naturally have prejudice in their t…
/r/seduction14/06/24 07:17 AM
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I don’t have much dating experience in Japan having only been there on short vacations that lasted 2-3 weeks on average. Having said that I have had flings with Japanese local women mainly from meeting them at bars. It seems like it is socially acceptable to talk to strangers at a bar compared to other places I’ve been in Japan. Most of my stranger interactions have been at bars, the Japanese are very friendly in general but even more so at bars. I’ve been approached by people at bars and have a…
/r/seduction04/06/24 07:00 PM
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Yea it sucks on both sides but there’s a clear winner on who has it worse on average. Any man here would rather have the female issue of having to go through 1000-3000 matches to find someone rather than 1 a month with unattractive girls. Statistically the odds are in the woman’s favor of finding a partner and tbh she is presented with a plethora of options. The vast majority of guys don’t even have options and this hurts their self esteem. If women had to deal with the same problem as men they …
/r/seduction01/06/24 07:23 PM
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Because they love attention. Most of them just want to receive without ever giving back, at least the ones on dating apps.
/r/seduction01/06/24 07:14 PM
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“In their LOGICAL mind…” haha good one!!
/r/seduction31/05/24 12:01 PM
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Very true. The higher I climb and more experience I get, the more I realize most women are quite replaceable. Most of them don’t even have anything actually going for them other than looks.
/r/seduction27/03/24 03:33 AM
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Nope. The only thing you can do is move on and forget about her. Notice the more you grovel and ask for her back the more she will be repulsed by you. You might be able to get her back and that is simply just to DGAF. She may come back to you after seeing you don’t care, and if that’s the case then you might be able to think it through. But unless you actually DGAF, every other permutation of choice will leave you the loser. Stay hard. DGAF.
/r/seduction27/03/24 03:31 AM
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True but not entirely. Part of it was women who started accusing men of harassment when a dude who wasn’t up to their standard approached them. I’ve seen women put men on social media blast for simply asking them out.
/r/seduction27/03/24 03:09 AM
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This explanation also explains why online dating does not work most of the time. A woman will by default have very little investment from a random guy online, most girls will just ghost intentionally or unintentionally especially with the amount of options they have at every given moment. “Backing off” when there is zero chemistry to begin with will result in pretty much a 99% chance of failure. This is a lot different when meeting people IRL as rapport can be built through simple conversation. …
/r/seduction22/01/24 11:47 PM
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I get your point but if the girl is getting approached very often chances are they’ve probably heard most of the observational comments as well?
/r/seduction24/09/22 11:43 PM
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A good rule of thumb, which you alluded to as well is proper escalation. If you do not escalate when appropriate the woman will lose interest. So like you said, if you don’t set up an initial date the convo will fade. I think a good general rule of thumb is the only goal you should have before the first date is setting up the first date and it is for the very reason you just laid out. You wait too long, the woman will lose interest. Note that it’s also because if this is a girl you’re talking on…
/r/seduction16/09/22 01:56 AM
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Fair enough, I've checked out the articles and the allegations don't seem far-fetched and they do seem believable (Although I don't trust VICE as a platform because of their practices, but that's besides the point). Assuming the allegations are true I do agree that in these instances there should be legal prosecution involved. I do also agree with you in sexual assault cases it's hard to prove in court due to the lack of evidence. I will say though that the silver-lining with sexual abuse cases …
/r/seduction15/09/22 10:39 AM
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“… you literally do not care about women getting raped because they’ve done their research” You’re literally putting words in my mouth. I never said anything of the sort. Here’s the thing, until you actually show me that the actual data I will remain skeptical about your claims about “rape”. I’m not saying it doesn’t exist, however given the context of the conversation your assertion is that this “raping” and “coercion” is happening at a massive scale which I do not think is true. The onus is on…
/r/seduction15/09/22 07:45 AM
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It has everything to do with male and female perspective. How would you expect to empathize with any issues pertaining to either gender if you are not ever affected by those issues? It's certainly easy to put down bullet points but the entire experience of being male is completely lost to you if you've never been male. It works the same way vise versa. It is therefore important to realize that viewing from either a male or female lens is by default from a place of bias. To simply state that you …
/r/seduction15/09/22 06:48 AM
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No one is forcing men to pay for OF. However you were the one that made the assertion that no one seemed to care that the porn industry was making money while women seemed to be specifically criticized when they did it for OF. I explained why which is exactly as I stated. It is because Only Fans is a more predatory business practice. I could say the same about your biases. You simply don’t empathize with any of the male experiences stated because you are probably not male, therefore you only pri…
/r/seduction14/09/22 12:03 PM
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If you’re in a western society, education is free. I’d be more empathetic if you were referring to a third world country which I assume you probably aren’t given your viewpoint and that you’re on Reddit. I’m not getting your analogy of construction workers who are men who objectify themselves? You’re comparing a platform which literally makes money via pornographic content with a job that involves laying bricks. How is that a valid argument? There are women who actually work hard who don’t take …
/r/seduction14/09/22 10:24 AM
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I don’t support either. I think they’re both extremely damaging for relationships, how women view themselves, how men view women, and it creates long term life addictions that will impede on quality of life. If you want to get into the details, the devil is in the details. OF tends to get more criticism because of the predatory business practice. What predatory business practice you say? Well, actually the exploitation of the emotions of young men. Cam models exploit men, many in which who want …
/r/seduction14/09/22 10:11 AM
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No it definitely isn’t hypocrisy if you’re not enacting behavior you’re condemning. It is hypocrisy if you are which is my point. You’re definitely speaking from a female perspective which I think is completely valid, while I am speaking from a male perspective. While it is true that men consume the content and even create it, it’s also true that it takes two to tango. Willing women who are not exploited decide to become sex workers and/or start OnlyFans off of their own free will. There is no o…
/r/seduction14/09/22 09:41 AM
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Men pay for the content for sure, that is obvious and to be expected. The hypocrisy however are many women who hate the idea of women being objectified will constantly continue to partake in actions that promote their own objectification. Tell me do women have autonomy to make their own choices? If so, then they should face the results and/or consequence of their own decisions, such as the one to partake in OnlyFans content, or promiscuous behavior. Also to note, I have no issues with women bein…
/r/seduction13/09/22 09:58 PM
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your* Also not really, this is a real phenomenon in western countries. Why else do you think the divorce rate is 50%? At some point women should have the same accountability as men, that is after all what equality is about. Why do you think there's a rise in OnlyFans content btw? Women are okay objectifying themselves for male attention and money. That is a direct cause of degeneration of values by definition. Also if anyone wants to argue this point, please argue why OnlyFans content is NOT obj…
/r/seduction13/09/22 09:30 PM
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I agree generally however, if you are generally not endowed with great looks, charisma, and/or confidence it is easy to be invisible to women despite following everything you just wrote. The only way to attract without good looks is building charisma, social skills to make up for it. Having good humor also helps. If you have none of those things, you are guaranteed to stay invisible to women no matter what you do.
/r/seduction10/09/22 06:28 PM
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What you’re experiencing is the degeneracy of good values, values such as comradery, loyalty, decency, and integrity. What’s on the rise is simp culture. Low value men who lack basic self-respect and will backstab their brothers for a chance at getting their knob wet. If that isn’t degeneracy, I don’t know what is.
/r/seduction10/09/22 02:20 AM
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I'd refer to Liberaler's reply. Human nature and attraction is subconscious, there are many theories as to why women react the way they do to certain features, traits, and/or behaviors of men, some are correct and some are false. However what Mark Manson states in his book is true to an extent biologically at least. Women simply like attractive males that pursue them. That is essentially what the "Chase" is. I think there needs to be a distinction between this idea and being straight up creepy b…
/r/seduction10/09/22 01:55 AM
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It’s a possibility, we wouldn’t know unless we were able to actually see your interactions. But based on your story it seems like you’ve been escalating at the right times. You’ve asked her specifically on dates or 1 on 1’s for the past couple of times. Most girls if they’re into you they would still give you a chance even if you are a bit awkward in your delivery. The fact that she hasn’t reciprocated one bit shows that she’s probably not interested. I will say that there’s always the possibili…
/r/seduction08/09/22 02:11 AM
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Yea this is definitely a real thing and a possibility, I don’t know her obviously but if she’s one of those kinds of girls you’re probably dealing with a real Narcissist with NPD.
/r/seduction08/09/22 02:04 AM
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Nah no point calling her out on it. Judging from your story she seems like the type that just loves the attention and the chase without actually wanting to date you. I’ve met chicks like this before, many of them just want to feel the rush and feelings of being desired and pursued. They like the idea of having a man dance on the edge of their palm because it feeds their ego and their own perception of their own beauty. The reason why they keep going cold is because they’re simply not interested.…
/r/seduction07/09/22 10:02 AM
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Some questions if you don’t mind: Have you always had the confidence mindset or did you build it through your successes? Do you believe your looks, such as height/race/body, matter at all? Do you cold approach the most or use online apps?
/r/seduction28/08/22 08:25 PM
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I see you weren’t able to get the punchline… Look it over again… slowly. Then once more. It may come to you. Grab a dictionary and get a friend to help you out if you need. It’s actually quite hard to explain the joke to someone who is deficient in basic intelligence but you’ll have to trust me, it’ll be worth the payoff. Good day to you sir.
/r/seduction26/08/22 11:29 AM
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Haha that’s funny coming from a guy who replies exclusively with insults. I get it though. Must be hard when your only reproductive strategy is based on virtue signaling. And no I meant “sentience.” To be able to actually think you have to first learn to read.
/r/seduction26/08/22 11:18 AM
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Nah it’s actually from reading and research. Maybe you should try it sometime instead of just parroting insults you found on Google. Your lack of actual sentience really shows.
/r/seduction26/08/22 10:56 AM
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It’s not the same thing and let me explain why. For men to be seen as attractive to a woman, he needs to have obtained some kind of status, preferably a decent paying job, and have enough social skills to carry a conversation and/or lead one. This is literally how women judge a man’s attraction based off of. A woman’s value is her physical beauty, that’s what men look for in a woman (among other things like a good personality, however you cannot divorce the two categories). Men do the approach, …
/r/seduction26/08/22 10:42 AM
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You’re not wrong… but double standards much? If a woman commented their BF called them fat, would people be blaming her “lack of confidence?”
/r/seduction25/08/22 06:24 PM
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If you want to be truly "scientific about it", get twins to do a study. The problem is you cannot "pinpoint" exactly whether or not it was social skills, natural charisma, the woman's type, luck, location, culture, a person's physical looks, or the "right" combination of all of those traits that helped with a person's success. Look, if you can show me a guy who has a success rate above 50%, maybe I'll listen. But people like the idea that if you worked hard enough you'd be able to get any girl, …
/r/seduction25/08/22 05:04 AM
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But… what is a woman?
/r/seduction19/08/22 09:37 AM
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It’s made up for sure but I guarantee you it’s probably closer to 90%. Won’t know the exact number since no studies have been done but most guys you will meet have probably never cold approached. Warm approach? Maybe. But actual cold chilled approach, where you go up to a stranger you have no idea who they are, and start a conversation with the sole intention of asking for this girls number to date her? Probably not a lot of guys. Especially in a world where social media and dating apps have mad…
/r/seduction14/08/22 09:24 AM
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I like how the natural assumption is always it’s the man’s fault because he’s doing something wrong. I’m telling you girls today aren’t like girls 50 years ago at all. The social dynamic has changed completely because of the culture and feminism. What you end up with are girls who are perceived as “high value” but think of what they actually do to be that? Literally nothing. Guys are perceived as high value if they worked their asses off and establish high competence which takes decades sometime…
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:33 PM
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There’s definitely several reasons women might find it “creepy”. Most of the time they just don’t like awkwardness because it makes them feel awkward too, given how generally empathetic women are. They are highly empathetic creatures and as a result pick up on the emotions around them quite easily. If you’re stumbling on words and getting embarrassed they’ll feel those emotions of embarrassment and as a result not want to be around you because of those feelings. On top of that, the lack of socia…
/r/seduction03/08/22 06:20 PM
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Dang that’s late. I was slinging hoes when I was still an embryo
/r/seduction31/07/22 08:14 PM
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Tbh in this situation it’s mainly the dude’s fault. They waited way too long to ask you on a date and may have lost interest themselves. But why ask? Because at that point they just want some validation. You gave it to them and they moved on. The only thing I think you can do differently next time is instead of asking “when are you free?” You say “I’d like that”, and then let them ask you when you’re free. That minor difference can make a difference. If you say “when are you free” you’re already…
/r/seduction31/07/22 09:33 AM
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Obviously that chick is in a shitty relationship and wants you to fail at yours as well. Pathetic human being. Move on, she ain’t even worth your mind space.
/r/seduction31/07/22 06:16 AM
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I'll leave the med recommendations to other users in the comments. What helps I find is before your date try to have a social conversation with other people in your life. A friend or even better a stranger. That is the natural social lubricant. By the time you go on your date you've already warmed-up and gotten a flow going. It's a lot easier to do this than to go on a date and not spoken to anyone in a day or two and then stumbling on your words. You don't want your date to be the warm-up, do t…
/r/seduction30/07/22 09:46 PM
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The explanation to this behavior is simply self-denial. People who constantly state what they are or what they are not are self-conscious of their inability of being what they overzealously claim they're against. Ever met people who constantly say "I don't even care!" or "I'm an honest person" ? These people are signaling the opposite. A person who actually doesn't care wouldn't be even caring enough to say the remark, and an honest person would simply live their honest life without claiming the…
/r/seduction18/07/22 06:41 AM
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Love the don’t take any shit kind of attitude, many other man should learn from this
/r/seduction15/07/22 03:04 AM
2

Just curious what part of it do you disagree with?
/r/seduction15/07/22 02:57 AM
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Which source are you referring to? Also think pieces on their own without data don’t seem reliable but the ones I posted use Tinder Data. It isn’t only speculation.
/r/seduction15/07/22 02:47 AM
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I don't know the answers to your problems unfortunately, we would need to peel back your entire history, and break down your interactions with women methodically to do that. I am also not an authority on this either being someone who struggles with dating myself, just being honest. Having said that it doesn't invalidate the statistics (they're grounded in actual data) or logical deductions. I've noticed that having a masculine role model naturally helps with attraction. My backstory is a bit dif…
/r/seduction14/07/22 08:14 PM
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Sources on Dating Statistic: https://theredarchive.com/r/PurplePillDebate/tinder-study-confirms-that-8020-rules-applies-to.256706 https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a Sources for Pareto Distribution: https://aproductiveperson.com/21-fascinating-examples-of-the-pareto-principle/ https://corporatefinanceinstitute.com/resources/knowledge/economics/pareto-distribution/
/r/seduction14/07/22 07:52 PM
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Seasoned Online Dater here, and I totally feel your pain. All I can say it does get easier as you work on yourself more. I’ve gotten rejections and ghosted over the course of 8 years that probably have amounted to over 500-700 women. These are all chicks who I’ve matched with whom I’ve shared a message or two with and was eventually ghosted. This is what I’ve learned and this perspective may help you. I learned this Tinder statistic that might blow your mind, the top 80% of women (at least on da…
/r/seduction14/07/22 11:28 AM
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Yes I agree and thought what you said was obvious. The thing is confidence is reinforced through societal and external validation. If you’ve for example have always had success dating you’ll be naturally confident because a line of success is what builds confidence. However the opposite is also true. If you’re constantly rejected it becomes harder to feel confident especially if you’ve gone through a line of failures. My point is the external result of success or failure will quickly snowball yo…
/r/seduction14/07/22 09:22 AM
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Yep. The whole thing is pretty much a shit test to see if you’re manly enough. This is why I rarely if ever listen to dating advice given to by a woman. They literally contradict themselves almost all of the time. That’s when I realized that indeed most women are truly emotional creatures rather than logical, which by the way isn’t a bad thing. These biological roles came with its own pros and cons but western society likes to assign judgment on it by attributing emotional to mean bad when it’s …
/r/seduction05/07/22 07:09 AM
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Same for me traveling to Hong Kong. 100 matches in 3 days as well half of them with 9-10’s. In the US I get literally 3 matches a month with below average looking women. Makes you wonder what is wrong with American women at least the ones on dating apps. I do notice that at least where I’m at in California there’s a lot of unrealistic expectations. Might have more luck elsewhere.
/r/seduction05/07/22 03:56 AM
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I’m in the same boat as you brother. Had a couple hookups but been single for 10 years. Been rejected/ghosted by chicks on dating apps probably more than 800 times over the course of 8 years. Dating apps have made me more misogynistic.
/r/seduction13/04/22 04:34 AM
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I agree with most of what you’re saying but not your entire analysis. You’re underestimating the unrealistic expectations women have developed since the 1960s. Status and money is definitely important to be an attractive male, but even if you are making over 100k in today’s society, you will not get the time of day if you don’t have the looks to back it up. Women will only compromise your looks when you’ve reached the top 1% or even beyond. Before that you will still be treated the same as the m…
/r/seduction12/04/22 06:35 PM
1

I would prob stop talking to her. It’s already a huge red flag she’s blasting a potential relationship/personal affairs on social media. If you think this is bad it’s only the tip of the iceberg. It shows a lot a girl’s character if she is sharing personal info to millions of people for attention. Things will only get worse if you get with her. Trust me I get the appeal, you meet a beautiful chick who is hot and also has some form of status. It’s not worth your soul though, trust me, speaking fr…
/r/seduction12/04/22 02:05 AM
1

What about if you’re Asian?
/r/seduction26/03/22 10:28 AM
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It’s a bit different at gyms, the etiquette is like you mentioned, people rarely talk to each other because that’s the unspoken rule. Not saying you can’t approach women at a gym but chances are they will think you’re a creep if you do so. They also may think you’re annoying because they’re there to workout, not to flirt (though this depends on the individual as well).
/r/seduction21/03/22 02:43 PM
1

It’s frustrating though when you’re having a good convo but you realize she was never interested in meeting up. Then you realize that she probably is only on the app for validation and attention. This happens on the regular for dudes, it sucks and it takes one too many of these for a guy to start taking the road to incel territory
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:04 PM
1

In the same boat. I’m actually the one wondering why they even responded to the initial messages if they aren’t interested in meeting up
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:01 PM
1

I propose underground bunkers with a tunnel system that links between Vaults
/r/seduction18/03/22 12:37 AM
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Not opposed to it at all, I appreciate the feedback, truly. Part of going through so many matches on dating apps too is testing it out and trying things that work and do not. The right girl is definitely still out there and trying to find her.
/r/seduction17/03/22 05:29 AM
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Agreed, you don’t play the logic game in dating, it’s about the emotions game entirely.
/r/seduction17/03/22 05:05 AM
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I feel you brother, people will accuse us of misogyny but this has literally been my empirical experience dating online the past 8 years. It feels like half of these chicks are reading off a script (when they do talk) and you’re talking to an NPC half the time. Same views for the most part and an inability to explain their views when actually questioned about them. There have been exceptions of course and those particular women I find extremely attractive and are definitely in high demand.
/r/seduction17/03/22 04:32 AM
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I love how the natural implication is to always blame the guy. The girl can’t be at fault right? I will say that a lot of these experiences come literally from the first two messages. For example you start off with an opener question (often related to something on her profile) and the girl responds “yes”, it’s actually pretty difficult to continue the conversation especially if the next follow-up questions are also answered by one worded answers. But to answer your question, yes I have considere…
/r/seduction17/03/22 04:24 AM
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I feel you, however it never ceases to disappoint just how flakey and boring almost every chick I match with is. Literally the recent past 5 chicks I talked to were like this. I've been through probably hundreds of girls on dating apps like this before that. At some point the chick has to put in some kind of effort or there is zero attraction potential. When a guy asks you a question, maybe try not to respond with a one word answer. I get it though, when you're juggling 50 messages at once, it's…
/r/seduction17/03/22 03:17 AM
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From personal experience just treat her like she’s nothing. And I don’t mean that in a derogatory way. Just treat her like you would any other stranger you pass by who you don’t care about. If she says hi, say hi back, if she tries to strike up a Convo answer in one word responses or replies that make it hard for her to continue the convo, maybe even pull out your phone or look at your nails and scraps off some dirt. Point is, she don’t matter to you no more, you give her the basic respect as an…
/r/seduction27/02/22 10:41 AM
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No response is the best response. You could be the better person and say something short and quick but you’re not obligated to.
/r/seduction23/02/22 09:48 AM
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Yea it’s important because from a biological perspective procreation is such a fundamental aspect of life no matter what species you look at. Also it somewhat determines your worth as a man. Before anyone starts accusing me of simping, know that women choose men to procreate voluntarily. They get to choose whether or not they see value in you enough to pass your genetic code to the next generation. They are in essence the gate keeper to your legacy. If they do not find you worthy then your genet…
/r/seduction18/02/22 10:51 AM
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Yes charisma and all the other usual attractive guy stuff definitely helps. Being famous and well known helps too.
/r/seduction18/02/22 10:27 AM
1

Perhaps using the term racism is too extreme. I would revise what I said as just “inherent prejudice”. But yes there is inherent prejudice when it comes to only dating specific genders. I’m also making the argument that people simply have them (prejudices) and not implying that there should be entitlement and that individuals have to date outside their prejudices. The type of racism I talk about in dating isn’t exactly the same type of racism we’ve come to know today in our current political cli…
/r/seduction14/02/22 08:21 PM
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No it doesn’t make you prejudice because you end up eating both of them at some point. However it doesn’t work the same way in dating. If you date only a particular type of person then during that duration you will not be dating another person. If you’re choosing to eat apples, you will be eating oranges whenever you feel like perhaps even the same time in the same meal. To answer your question if you only chose apples to eat and NEVER oranges, that is a form of discrimination to oranges. But yo…
/r/seduction14/02/22 07:55 PM
1

Look up the definition of prejudice, every human being has it. If you don't think you do then you're in over your own head. Choosing to date one person over the other purely based on race is the definition of prejudice just like if you hired someone for a job purely based on race. You can deflect and call it "preference" all you want, but that's just another term for politically correct racism.
/r/seduction14/02/22 12:32 PM
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I appreciate the advice. The definition of Racism is: Discrimination or prejudice based on race. What is preference in dating: A woman choosing to value one factor over another. ie. race, height, weight, skin/color, hair. These are all that you've mentioned as well. To pick one race over another in any situation is a form of prejudice because you are valuing one above the other. Therefore all people are intrinsically racist whether they like to admit it or not. All humans have their own biases a…
/r/seduction14/02/22 01:49 AM
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Thanks for the positive advice, that's something I can definitely work on. I have seen that book and read parts of it, it's a good classic. I can definitely work on my approach more and improve on that. I will say my in-person experiences have always yielded a lot better results than online dating. I am actually thinking of quitting it because it has contributed to my black-pill view on dating in general. Going through literally thousands of profiles and getting ghosted over the course of 8 year…
/r/seduction14/02/22 01:25 AM
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Belief systems are created from experience. If you experience the same thing everyday for years you begin to believe it's true and reality. People don't want to believe racism affects dating and always default to that answer. Like I said before getting dates super easily in Asia proves that race is a huge part of it. Dating statistics online show Asian males are the least desirable and least attractive in the US. You can look up the statistics. It doesn't mean Asian males get 0 dates, it just me…
/r/seduction14/02/22 01:15 AM
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Ive been trying to figure this out for almost a decade. Before you make any assumptions just realize I do all of those things you listed. I make 100k+ salary and fill my day with my own personal goals and/or work. I work out 4x a week and I never EVER simp. I dress like the catalog from Zara, play an instrument, have a passion. But I’m Asian. So literally I don’t even get a chance. Most chicks pass me by and would it be nice to see two chicks compete for me. Online dating is worse, averaging 5 m…
/r/seduction13/02/22 07:01 PM
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