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Show his wife, she deserves better. So does his child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:30 PM
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step away peasants!!!! love her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 05:29 PM
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altruistic, truly kind and generous men are truly sexy in my eyes. yes, i like an attractive body. and it's a bonus if they're fit AND altruistic and generous. But I'll take truly* kind and generous over a pretty body any day. ​ *truly - as in it's 100% genuine, not a show for others to see, their heart is pure and morals golden
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:42 PM
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i'm not saving anybody from anything anymore. i'll be a loving guide, voice of reason, and tough love but that's it. if you want to dig yourself into a hell hole i'm no longer going in after you because i've finally learned that they'll pull me down there with them and not help me out when i lift them up out of it. i choose me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:39 PM
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thank you for sharing this you beautiful soul. and I want to let any other young woman on here struggling with the same thing know that it is real, and it is possible and once you experience that euphoria there will be little desire to ever have sex without that connection again.. Yes. 100% yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:32 PM
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Couldn't have said it better myself. Agreed! Thank you for taking the time to share, for a second I thought this was a response to another comment I made elsewhere about feeling guilty for cutting a situationship out of my life. This reaffirms that I did the right thing even if the pickme and scrote indoctrination would try and make me feel miserable for valuing myself and trusting my intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:44 AM
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I was just thinking this morning how I felt guilty for ghosting a situationship in the past. I sent one of those long 'how you've wronged me' emails (I know, cringe at my former self to think he'd care) and then blocked & deleted. Part of me feel like I should have explained it in person for the year+ I'd known him but it finally clicked one day that he was using me. Literally felt like a rug was pulled from under my feet and I blocked and deleted every trace. Like he never existed. He never cam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:49 PM
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You shouldn’t need to explain anything I’d this is you. He should take it or leave it. If he has an issue then he has an issue with a piece of YOU and it’s next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:16 PM
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Block & delete. “On and off” relationships aren’t FDS You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:12 PM
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You are the leading role in your life, don't ever be with someone that makes you feel like a supporting role. Great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:56 AM
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i mean her UN fits .... also she is terrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:50 PM
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even young sperm is questionable, there's been about a 50% decline in sperm motility since 1970............ yup........
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:50 PM
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If I had listened to my intuition with every relationship I've ever had I would have never made it past the first date............... BUT, on the bright side, I now know my intuition is ON POINT and I'm trusting myself from here on out!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:48 PM
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so he's matt's bro-wife and she's matt's side piece. got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:44 PM
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I thought it was sharing was bonding Yep. I've really (finally) come to realize that just because I mean well and have genuine and (what I hope are) altruistic motives DOES NOT mean that others do too. While I thought for example, discussing food issues might make him feel closer to me (lol smh), it was in fact a control tactic as he soon made incessant comments about my weight to feel mentally unstable and insecure. It's odd that society seems to encourage some sort of oversharing but at the sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 11:43 PM
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why would anyone choose young and naive? i'll choose older and wiser any day. we all know that when they ask these types of things on reddit their still in the crux of pickme, i can only hope a lightbulb switch gets flipped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 01:33 AM
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Thank you so much for taking the time to share. It’s posts like these that give me hope! I wish you all the best and so much healing! Love and light is being sent your way ✨🌷.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:39 AM
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Many clowns get doctorates. The more educated I get the more I distrust the assumption that people “with degrees” means anything. Academia, sadly, is full of low value men pushing themselves along. Even the former editor of the New England Medical Journal recently made a statement that you can’t even trust published articles anymore. So yeah.... I play the Shania Twain song in my head when people wave a degree around “so you’ve got a doctorate, that don’t impress me much”...:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:34 AM
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yes their faces bahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 06:22 PM
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I've started to ask myself "do I really have a romantic crush on him -OR- do I admire ____ qualities in him?" It's helped shift my mindset and evaluate patterns, as well as, positive shifts in my psyche. Many times I'm just admiring certain qualities and that's also okay! But I turn it back trying to be the person to myself I always thought I needed someone else to be. I was wrong, it was me I needed to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:09 AM
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oh my god YESSSS i think i'll now use a variation of this from now on!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 09:04 PM
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LOVE THIS!!! Congratulations!!!! And, also I feel the same about being a HVW. It's so motivating and a good rubric for myself, always striving to be the best me I can be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 03:51 AM
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Please expand on this.. other good stories/wisdom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 03:35 AM
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sisters, you need to do better...... i can't with this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:26 PM
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Right, so I'm thinking of making a women-only space mission to a different galaxy. I'm thinking of setting up shop kind of like the warrior women from Wonder Woman MINUS the part where men come in and ruin it. Wonder Woman was SO MUCH better before she fell for the LVM lead (why?!?!?). We all live freely as our badass selves. Doing what we want and as we wish. We all have our own roles and gifts that benefit us as individuals and contribute to the group as a whole. It's paradise. As women want m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:23 PM
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the more you give to others that are unwilling to give back to you the less you have for yourself and to give to those who will value you. HURTING YOURSELF DOES NOT HELP PEOPLE. read that again. Love you all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:50 PM
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Preach!! just don't send nudes. HVM don't want nudes and HVW don't want and will not send them. period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:49 PM
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Yes, I feel the same way. I have great family and friend relationships that are very fulfilling. I can always reach out to them for companionship and to also spend time loving another human. But its not the same as the physical and emotional intimacy between a romantic partner. And, that's the loneliness that the friend and family relationships can't ever fill. What do I do about it? Still figuring that out. It's my biggest struggle in my life as I feel confident in so many other aspects of my l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:30 PM
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divorce him. bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:20 PM
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Stay strong! Don't respond. And of course he made the biggest mistake, tough luck buddy! it's gonna stay that way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:18 PM
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Got my first hate mail (male!) message today from my new account and it related to how I'll die alone and clearly only want men for what they can do for me. He must have been the type of underground troll that uses this calculator! Also, lovely, a biased calculator created by men to complain about women's standards they don't fit. #proveourpoint
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:16 PM
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I love it too! They're finding their groove and it gets better each week. I've been listening since the first episode came out! Feels like a treat every week knowing a new one comes every Wednesday. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:08 PM
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I mean, if you think about it- when human communities where much smaller everyone knew! Like women would tell other women, the whole town knew if someone 'did wrong'. We should bring it back. Hold them (and ourselves!) accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:12 PM
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Hear, hear!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:10 PM
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We live and we learn! Welcome to the other side! Try to release the men of your past so you can embrace the freedom of this new FDS life. :) (I'm still a work in progress trying to do this.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:10 PM
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We accept the love we think we deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:17 AM
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I really feel like my younger 20s and definitely my high school years were default pick me. It's unfortunate but I'll be honest with myself. I can easily see myself wondering something dumb about a relationship I should leave. In my 30s it's a whole different ball game! Zero tolerance. I literally can't believe this "wall" they say exists. And for any of those that mention it, I automatically know that it means they just want a woman they can control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 12:54 PM
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As independent as I am, it's absolute fact (proven time and again) that working as a team improves outcomes and performance. And, the more I follow FDS and see exposure of women in social media, youtube, etc I'm beginning to wonder if there's a big shift of women waking up -OR- what was always there is just no longer being suppressed. Either way, yes, non pick-me women seem to genuinely value other human beings and be open to cooperation and team work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 12:51 PM
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This is so good!! Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:47 PM
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Not sure if these have been added recently. They are bookmarked on my browser! :) https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/miv4tk/lets_continue_waking_up_queens/ This one touched my soul. On being a HVM for yourself. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/msmcse/i_want_a_wife_by_judy_syfers_brady_ms_magazine/ One of my personal favorites. A reminder to never forget how powerful and desirable we are. Everyone wants a wife far more than they want a husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 09:46 PM
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oh man, i love that i now find this hilarious instead of appalling. #growth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 05:54 PM
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LOL!!!!!!! I'm dying of laughter. I cannot unhear this. There are some LVM I have to see on a regular basis and I will now imagine them walking around to this!! bahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 05:37 PM
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The only negative comments I've EVER received about my career, success, body, etc have been from men. End of story. I value what the women in my life say about me and not the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 05:36 PM
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I experienced this and fell for it once, sadly. Looking back with the FDS scrutiny glasses I see everything he did to play on my emotions. My beautiful gentle kind emotions that make me ME! But now because I lived it and felt the pain of it, I spot it easily and everywhere. I even see it in my friends spouses (some I’ve gotten to read FDS). It’s so terribly sad society is so broken that instead of men seeking genuine human connection and companionship they seek to trick women for sex. I have nev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 04:29 PM
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I literally can't believe I accepted this in my life before. I really just wanted human connection not a situationship. I got my shit together and now get the connection from my friends and loving myself. Yes, make it stop!! And WE are part of the movement to make it stop!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 08:28 PM
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THIS IS 100% RIGHT. May FDS continue to spread and more women learn the truth. I thought when he first yelled at me it would be the only time. I thought when he screamed at me and broke things it would the only time. I thought when he smashed holes in the wall it would be the only time. I thought when I barricaded myself in a closet as he broke things to get in it would be the last time. It wasn't. And years later after the relationship ended, I'm still healing. There is a indescribable darkness…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 08:24 PM
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She might be being cheeky. But fair point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:39 PM
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Accurate except he never left Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:54 PM
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So so very happy for you!! What a new adventure you are on!! You are 100% worth it. Heal. Love yourself. Find the joys you always new you deserved. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 11:14 PM
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Oh my god, he knows where she lives....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:07 AM
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lol, the moral of the story at the end. Girl, I WISH!!!! If orientation was a choice I WOULD CHANGE MINEEEEEEE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:31 PM
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I can't get through all of those comments but it's interesting they assume it's all a certain political leaning of women. FDS is a movement, it's moving like wildfire, and I know plenty of conservative women onboard. It's not "left" or "right". It's woman valuing themselves, expecting to be in relationships that value them, and building up fellow women. But my favorite is when they tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:25 PM
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Wow, I thought you made this one up... especially the way some of it was phrased.... "my kitchen"... "She said she was sorry and I said that didn't cut it. I said from now on, if she wants to use my kitchen, she's not allowed to leave the room while there is a flame going on the stove. She said she did not like being talked to like a child and I replied, "act like a child, get treated like one." "..... Thought someone couldn't have possibly written that AND not be sure if they were being an assh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:13 PM
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oh lord if I had read this post 2 years ago it would have saved me some heartache. You are SO RIGHT!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:23 AM
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He deleted his tiktok after this LOL. it literally could have been a tipping point in his life.... he could have seen the light.... but, nah... let's flee from the friction of change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:21 PM
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We shall agree to disagree and that's okay!! Glad you liked that part of the post. It is * not * a mentality that has come easy to me and I'm constantly working on it. BUT my life is so much better thinking and believing this way!! :) Some people call me Pollyanna and I don't care. I'd prefer to be happy about the life I have than miserable about what I don't have. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:53 PM
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True true! Just wanted to acknowledge and try and shift the downvote-mob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:51 PM
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I hate that things like this get so easily downvoted merely because it disagrees with the main post. That said, I think if you expanded on the HVM and why it's an FDS type relationship maybe it wouldn't have happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:07 PM
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LOL, it is like sobriety. I always have a 'relapse' around 6mos-1year but it only lasts <24 hours and I'm like this is NOT FUN. BUT now I like the idea of getting a year past w/o caving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:05 PM
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I think the mods on the podcast are all around a certain age group. I don't know, but they seem in their mid-20s maybe? Not sure if it's different per age group. I'm in my mid-30s and it's a definite NO for me. Men of value at this age aren't wasting their time OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:03 PM
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I had sworn them off for a year after my last situationship... that you guessed it, I met OLD!! But then it was talked about on the pod.... and I was like maybe.... just maybe...... Yeah, NO! It's the same hell hole it has always been if not worse. I though maybe I'd just 'practice' my 'block & delete' as needed. But, no, my energy is worth more than this. NO ONE of value. And a time waster!! No thank you!! I 100% agree with you and appreciate this post. The man for me (and each one of you!!) is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:01 PM
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the sisterhood. i love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:38 AM
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YESSSSSS I'm so sad to say that I used to take it personally when men would try to tear me down because of my successful career. Not anymore. Never again. Die mad scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:37 AM
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There have been comments suggesting we have a massive book/online resource to record all these scrotes. While part of me tempers this thought with the fact that 'people change' and 'not all peoples opinions reflect the truth'.... CAN YOU IMAGINE?! Can you imagine being able to just look up a potential date and just KNOW that he did something like this?! It would be freaking amazing. There could even be a section for screenshots of his exact texts. But my first comments hold, because I can easily…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:44 PM
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I don't know if I'll ever live with anyone else ever again. He will literally have to make my life 1000x better for me to be okay with letting him in my space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:38 PM
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100% yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 04:02 AM
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100 points to Ravenclaw!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 04:21 PM
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Christina was the only queen. There, I said it. But she freaking was. Everyone tried to make her feel like she was wrong for wanting to live her dream and fight for it, even Burke and Owen shamed her for not wanting a kid when she clearly said she didn't want one from the beginning. She is a freaking badass boss of a woman that also had tremendous growth over the series. Everyone else, sorry to all of you that love 'em, are LVMs and LVWs that need to get it together. Their lives are utter messes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:00 PM
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Agreed!! I "re-tried" it for like half a day recently due to the podcast and it was the same thing and I'm just sick of it. I deserve better!! We all do! And when I * really * think about it, I don't imagine my future partner on dating apps either. He's busy living his amazing life and is going to want to ask me out in person. The 'give a man a chance' or 'he may just be shyyyy'. That's too bad, not the man for me! edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:21 AM
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Had an ex I met OLD back in the day (not going back to that!!) that took pride in "being fit". Apparently this just meant he could run.....and that was it. He was a bean pole and hardly ate anything (took pride in that too). FOR THE LIFE OF ME I can't believe I got emotionally attached to that guy. I was physically and mentally stronger in so many ways. I think he was the last of the pickme conditioning working itself out. The part that conditions women to be date men we're not attracted to to '…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:58 PM
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Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:06 PM
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:04 PM
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All good points! And, I agree with you. I think I was just throwing someone out there when I first saw this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:20 PM
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Wow, she's amazing! Will follow her work! At this point, I can only think of more well known people (eg Brene Brown identifies as moderate). But, the way this thread is going, sadly, I'm unsure if an FDS supporting conservative/moderate would want to be a part of it. I really genuinely loved this community until this thread and how volatile these responses have been. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:19 PM
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You and me both!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:12 PM
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WHY is this type of comment getting downvoted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:08 PM
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Agreed, honestly I'm so disheartened by how this community is attacking their fellow FDS members...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:06 PM
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Thank you for the feedback, I'll see if I can think of some moderates. Are you looking for politicians? political commentators?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:39 AM
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So well said!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 09:01 PM
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I remember someone posting about her a while back, the video was painful to watch. I think it was about modest clothing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:58 PM
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That's a fair point. But at this point, FDS is already controversial. So sad that we live in a time where it's so difficult to just have discussion with people w/o social media, news, etc inserting sensational opinions without letting people just think for themselves. All that said, thank you for your comment and insight!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:16 PM
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I finally decided enough was enough. I decided to value myself. I finally decided that he didn't treat me well, and not only that, that he was using me. AND, furthermore, I was letting him. I accepted my role in being in the situationship and that, ultimately, I wanted love and affection AND to give love and affection. BUT, I was brutally honest with myself that he/it/this wasn't it and I was worth more. So I told him I was done for good and he would never hear from me again. I blocked him on ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:12 PM
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If you want to drive attention to the podcast, ask Candace Owens. I might get downvoted for this (sad if I do), but it would bring a LOT of attention to the podcast. And, that plus good convo is the goal. Edit: lol to all the downvotes ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:54 PM
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Love this post! And, completely agreed. I've accepted that I give my all to my relationships (and finally my relationship with myself!!) and deserve that (bare minimum) from a potential suitor. If he's not offering that I'm not accepting, better things to do with my time. And, it may just be my experience, but I've found most IT/tech people to be so stingy? No idea where I 'learned' that tech men were a score in dating.....gonna be a pass from me. Frankly working class men are more appealing to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:13 PM
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there is hope for me ...... I just gotta hang in there and not be dumb. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:28 PM
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It's not just conservative minds, liberals as well. They can rave about Bernie and not be able to aptly speak about any of the economics and social changes he actually discusses. AND I'll add that this is NOT about people in general not being able to have leaders to look up to and learn from. My point, moreover, was that LVMs regurgitating things that "sound good" and "seem good/HV" but not truly reflecting on it for themselves. Same thing we should expect of ourselves I think, to critically thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:27 PM
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This is SO true. 💥The 2 lowest value men I’ve dated were “religious”. What I really learned was they used religion to hide their myriad of insecurities, sins they had no motivation to deal with, and the last one I am convinced he used to feel superior to others and women especially. Jews, Catholics, Christians.....you LVMs don’t fool me. As a spiritual but non religious person that has read the Bible all you gotta do is quiz them!! They don’t know their scriptures at all -OR- will just regurgita…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:14 PM
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Same! and thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:43 AM
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1000% Thank you for putting it so eloquently!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:23 AM
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This is cut throat and I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:13 AM
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but when your choices are casual, unsatisfying and potentially dangerous sexual encounters versus peace of mind/good health, celibate wins. Well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:09 AM
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Can I ask how old you are? Because I just want my high libido to go away LOL!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:02 AM
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Was going to write something along this vein, but you had already put it into words so aptly. I'm in the exact same boat. The men out there are never worth it and they don't deserve to be with this body. I will love and protect this body!! I like that, I think I'll use that as an affirmation. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:59 AM
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This is now my default. Thank you. But now, I wonder if I'll even let a LVM get this far now that you all have shown me the light!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:54 AM
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I would ensure God made me into a ghost and haunt this man and all like him for a solid 50 years before I decided to go back to the afterlife. What an asshole. WHY are people like this?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:48 AM
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One of the most low effort there is! Just putting down emojis tops it though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:47 AM
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Why are all the men I'm attracted too ancient or dead?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:43 AM
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YES. I fell for it once. Thank god I learned my lesson the first time. I just can't watch these shows anymore. Mind is a temple just as my body!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:40 AM
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bahahahaha yessssssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:06 AM
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I think I just fell in love with this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:40 PM
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please let this be fake for karma points...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:28 PM
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The moment I realized I am not in a competition with ANYONE except myself is the moment that fundamentally changed my life. And even now, it's now it's not a competition with myself in a negative sense. It's like, "good job you did great!! Let's see what else you can do!!!" I'm becoming my biggest cheerleader. And old patterns are still there, I hear the voice of my former self comparing myself to other women, to other people. And I say, let's reframe that... how can we build them up instead of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 07:28 PM
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“When we talked about getting back together, I told him all of the things I was missing in the relationship. I wanted him to take better care of himself, get fitter, see a doctor about some issues that he has. He has not done any of that, and in his spare time mostly sits in a dark hot room gaming. This is a problem, but if I'm being perfectly honest, I'm not sure I would feel very differently if he was making an effort, which is why I'm not pressing him on it.” I think you answered your own que…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:09 PM
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Good post & analysis!! Hopefully you block now?? My last situationship was like this and I was still in pickme-mode that I fell for it. Now I realize all the red flags were there, I just ignored them unfortunately. You live and learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:45 PM
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Same!! In the ocean we are easy prey for sharks and they are acting according to their nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:39 PM
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I 10/10 was used for this purpose in school. I finally realized that this year for the first time ever, I do what * I * want to do and not what people conditioned me to do. Miracles do happen. Every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:15 AM
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Yassssssssss There WILL be a documentary in our future and I am here for it!! Love how the social media takeover has commenced!! You all rock!! 💥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:14 AM
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When I see things like this I immediately think "are you fucking kidding me?! why are you putting up with this idiot?!" but then I remind myself that I too married a fucking idiot once and stayed with him for almost 5 years. So, I get it. We're all on different paths and never know when we'll wake from her slumber. I can only home she sees this post on FDS and starts to question. No pickme will change by being called a pickme or degraded for their poor choices. But they'll change when they've ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:11 PM
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WAY TO GO!! Love it when women share their stories of leveling up! I've done the same. Would LOVE to learn from you on stocks and improving finances. Have you posted about this elsewhere?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:05 PM
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Good god. Who are these people?! No judgement for getting old. I get that and have immense compassion for the elderly. But are these two together?! This is not okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:01 PM
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Ah, that's an interesting point about the translation. And being so grandiose seemed a bit outside of what they were trying to emulate in their religion.... but the scene still makes me giggle. And power to you! Thinking of getting a tattoo myself soon. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 01:09 AM
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I had absolutely no intention of watching the whole thing but it sucks you in LOL. Let me know what you think of the dating perspective. I do like that they are so matter-o-fact about NOT wasting anyone's time (on both sides) which is one good thing I took from it. It's not personal (for the most part), if it's not a good fit no use in prolonging something!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:11 PM
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Okay, real question- at this point who is NOT a fuckboi? I feel like every other post I read someone is like "yep, _____-type is usually a fuckboi!".... and now I'm like every man is a fuckboi or fuckboi-wannabe until proven otherwise. Just tired of them all and yet also want to actually date HVM!! That turned into a vent... thanks for reading!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:09 PM
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Affirming this!! YES!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:06 PM
7

Will be keeping cash on me here on out!! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:05 PM
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Not Jewish or religious at all! More spiritual than anything. But started watching it and just found it interesting. This morning YouTube was like, oh you watched that all the way though, here's this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jUDFpt6lcew I really enjoyed listening to her perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:57 PM
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Oh, I see what you mean. I think for me it's about my intention behind it. And for me the Ice Queen has become something that was initially protective of myself but now it's just a wall and hard exterior. For me I'm trying to find the balance of having the wall but also just being unbothered by them. I just want to get to a place where I'm not even giving my energy away to men unless I want to and I see putting up an Ice Queen wall as giving away my energy and, ultimately, it's a bit against my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:56 PM
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Could you give an example? I guess I don't know what you mean by putting it in practice other than trying to be less of an Ice Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:44 PM
2

Interesting mindset shift!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:05 PM
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Once I get it figured out I'll make a follow-up post, but I started therapy & meditation and think it's opening up doors for me to work through to 'get to the other side' of being open to love again. I want to be there but I know I have to work on not being so afraid to be hurt again, I think that's a big part of it for me. You'll have to ask yourself what it is for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:05 PM
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Yes agreed! It's a journey and we're on the path but don't get to the destination until the end. learning as we go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:03 PM
2

Aww, thank you!! Had a friend that said that to me once and I fell in love with it LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:01 PM
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Love this!! And I love being the Ice Queen 👑. I have gotten quite good at it LOL. I see their dumb fuckboi grins fade away as they realize ice daggers have been shot through their fake facade of caring. Not today Satan! Not today! My only problem is I have difficulty turning it off....so potential HVM likely won’t approach because my energy says get the fuck away from me or I’ll turn you into ice....unless there are women, children, or animals around. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:17 PM
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That’s weird...block! ✔️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:57 PM
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Maybe show him you leaving to find someone better. I'd comment that.... but they'd know I'm FDS and ban me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 12:53 AM
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I recently had a man child contact me because I unfollowed them. He never engaged and I was reworking my page, so if someone wasn't someone I genuinely wanted to follow they got nixed. Out of the blue, he messages me as to why I unfollowed. Like WTF weirdo. You have to be really checking frequently to see that.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:59 PM
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THIS. I needed this, please do more about mindset shifts and moving forward rather than regressing. I definitely sensed the shift to negativity on the FDS recently and am so grateful for the shift back to the FDS roots. Would love for discussion on more non-OLD dating too. And, Sarah, my girl - thank you for sharing. Regrettably I've put up with worse... and for longer... for me I must be able to have extended astral projection!! :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:53 PM
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If I've learned anything in my many decades of life.... is that if I think it might be a red flag, IT IS A RED FLAG. This is female intuition that we've been trained to silence. Don't. Trust it, it will keep you safe. Don't engage anymore. Get pepper spray and/or a gun/tazer imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:51 AM
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Oh lord, I can't last longer than a minute. I'll take the cliff notes. What is this place and why do you watch? Do they have good info? Some of the commenters on the video seemed to be wanting FDS type women.... but you can't tell from a couple sentences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:45 AM
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100%!! Agreed. The women that are open to it, power to them, but it's not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:35 PM
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To this day, I don't know if I'd ever want to live with anyone ever again. I love being on my own and having my own space so much. It's healing and restoring to be able to have my own space. I don't even want roommates, ever. The 'extra cost' is worth it to me in order to live alone in peace. So grateful!! So, if I'm moving in with a committed life partner, all expenses are on him and he better be ecstatic to have me and make me my own art nook and perhaps my own bedroom. Otherwise, he's not for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:32 PM
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“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...” C. S. Lewis It's a process. Decide to start and you'll learn. You never know what all those lessons (not failures!) have taught you to get you where you'll go. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:42 AM
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The type of friends I keep, I'd truly trust with my life. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:35 PM
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Hello there beautiful soul. I’m sorry that you are hurting. Please know that you are not alone and never are. When we compare ourselves to anyone else all these “rules” about where, and who, and how we should be bubble up. We may say we are ‘supposed’ to be a certain way by a certain age/time. But that is a rule we’ve developed in our mind and not the truth. 32 is not too old, 53 is not too old, even 95 is not too old!! To change. To learn. To decide to choose different. I say this having had to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:37 PM
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I'll never be cosigning a loan for a man, get it together buddy. My best friends only if they needed it. They are the family I have chosen for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:55 PM
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YESSSSS!!! And I've realized I would NEVER want to be with a man that didn't chase me. The only reason I would have entertained the idea in the past is because of societal conditioning I've finally shed. Chase me, woo me, show me you care about me, make me feel special and that's how you'll win my heart and have access to my energy. Otherwise I'm out. Your presence in my life is always optional, my peace is non-negotiable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:26 AM
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My primary way of coping and accepting the issue is to tell myself that it’s not just about me. When we allow men to disrespect us, we are also teaching them that it is acceptable to disrespect any other women they may meet after us. I do this too. And I also feel so protective of these woman. I just don't want them to feel the hurt I did. I'm sorry you're hurting. I wish there was something I could say to help, but all I can say is I've been mislead too and know how much it hurts. So proud of y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:22 AM
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Screenshot and share with his current girlfriend! She deserves better!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:14 AM
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Damn, this is the sort of thing that should be screenshot and attached to his life’s record lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:40 PM
8

Why are you looking at blocked messages.... from the LVM/NVM you blocked?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:05 PM
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A 10:54PM?! WTF was the mom doing inviting a guy over AND having her daughter with them? And, yes guy is a gross NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:32 PM
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I should have left when you said that going over my deadlift PR by 5lbs was "barely anything". The longer I lift and the longer I'm exposed to FDS and reflect on HV people in general, the more I see that genuine people will be ecstatic for your wins. It's one thing I love about the powerlifting/crossfit/stronghuman community. The HV people just trying to improve themselves every day and they KNOW that surrounding themselves with and supporting others doing the same is what it's all about. So, fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:54 PM
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I demand the redo the movie!! Start a petition! XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:34 PM
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I had an epiphany the other day.... that i am actually attracted to the first option. I realized how much society had conditioned me to "give a chance" to men I didn't find attractive. Suddenly, it clicked, I was like.......why? Why am I giving them a chance? I'm freaking beautiful and have so much to offer. ALL of these men I've given a chance to have told me I'm out of their league. And, I have finally learned to listen when people say things. Because each of them was right! I AM out of their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:33 PM
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This is not a solution to their behavior, but have you considered a local privately owned gym? I switched gyms long ago and it's made the world of difference. No one bothers me unless we know each other and want to chat. Otherwise, everyone is there minding their own business. Would be a good investment as you continue to pursue body building!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:41 AM
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Ditto!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:55 AM
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As one of my dear friends reminds me, it's just that one man that fits for YOU that you need. And when I think about "rejection" I have had or the thoughts that creep in that 'I'll be alone forever when I actually want a committed partner to love and be loved by' I think to myself about how unique I am as an individual. I'll need someone as unique as I am. He won't be the type that settles for any woman. He won't be the type lying to women for sex, using them like toys, he won't swiping on faces…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:45 PM
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Good lord, this is so sad. I need a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:35 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jgetcijG2wc and this one lol!! your link led me to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:47 PM
4

This NEEDS to be an ICD-10 code.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:44 PM
2

So glad you have you freedom!! Be free!! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:36 AM
12

Way to improve your bone mass!! Weights are the best!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:31 AM
11

YES!!!! Love it. You become and embody the love that is all around you and nurture the HVW in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:14 PM
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I'm stronger than most men now despite being petite. It's just sad. I look around at the grocery store, events, etc and it's a sea of dad bods, beer bellies, and scrawny arms. My ovaries shed tears. The only physically attractive men I see on a regular basis are at my gym and many of them are LVM or outside my ideal age bracket. Sorry, I have nothing to add really but 100% agreed. It's either a fit man (and all the other qualities my heart desires) or no man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:08 PM
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On being open to love and a relationship when the past has you putting up walls. Can't attract a HVM or be a HVM with such resistance. Still working through this one.... some weeks more open than others but I can tell men are afraid to approach me because I still have a "leave me the F*** alone" attitude paired with "I can do it all myself I don't need you". Which when I think about it, I wouldn't want to approach me with that attitude!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:04 PM
2

This deserves to be a main post. Great points! And I've started to do the same too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:14 AM
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Please see above comments. If you have an issue, take action. Speak up. Post your questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 10:32 PM
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I got a doctorate, started a business, living on my own, have pets I adore, started counseling to heal and learn to love again (I don't want my heart to be closed because of my past, I believe in my future), and got fit and feel absolutely beautiful, I spend time on my own, take myself on dates, and also have an amazing friend group of women I truly love and they love me...... like I am legit GLOWING. I looked up my ex-husband about a month ago and laughed so hard. It was a laugh of ecstatic joy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:58 PM
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Not sure where you are going with this? If you have questions post a thread or join in the weekly discussion thread. Not sure the wandering away you're referring to. There have been women with fulfilling relationships that continue to post and interact with the community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:47 PM
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In my mid-30s. We are all over the age spectrum I think....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:39 PM
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Yes!! Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:38 PM
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I'm living my best life sans makeup and a sweaty mess after workouts. They still want me. Another propaganda post for the books!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 07:19 PM
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LMAO!! This killed me. Thank you for the laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:34 PM
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I have so much compassion for former me that would have felt the need to 'prove myself' to a man. Poor past me has so much heartache to finally learn her value, she did. I'm proud of her. Now when I hear this? I just think hell no asshole. Bye, I'll never waste my time on you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:57 PM
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I kept waiting for "I bought myself a damn ring and left him."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:52 PM
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I never watched it in my teens but watched in my late 20s when I was still one foot in pickme ways and one foot in FDS. I couldn't understand why Carrie was the main protagonist.... really? This life? She seemed constantly miserable, always chasing someone/something outside herself for love and contentment. Samantha seemed the most stable and FDS of them all. I admired that she genuinely stood up for herself and chose to be who and what she wanted. While I don't want the lifestyle she lived, she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:51 PM
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I've deleted everything. It only exists if they kept it on their device. And they can reread to infinity 'cause they ain't ever getting the pleasure of my energy ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:47 PM
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*adds to lists of needs in a partner* I love this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:15 PM
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Yes yes of course. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:51 PM
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Thanks! I've been meeting to start a blog.... perhaps I will and write my first post with this title....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:28 PM
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It's been about a year since I ended a situationship. It hurt so badly at the time, but I'd found FDS about a month or two prior and the dissent of my soul had started. I began to realize this man child just wanted my attention to pass the time and had absolutely no true interest or genuine care for me. So I cut him off. I erased him. He was blocked and deleted everywhere, no way to contact me. All tangible evidence expunged. The memories though, I couldn't remove from my brain. So as I come abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 05:05 AM
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Thanks to FDS I have learned!! I just have to remind myself when emotions roll in, but thank you to FDS for reminding me that 'if I have to wonder then the answer is NO'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:28 PM
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So she is manifesting a beautiful life for herself and continues to attract good things to her life (except this guy)..... I don't see what the problem is? Sounds like should break up with her and continue on his miserable and pessimistic outlook and she should be free!! Live your best life girl!! Manifest that stay at home job in you house, roll in the money you make and all the good things you attract in the world! Hell, I want to be around her and learn from her energy. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:26 PM
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Loving the energy re-infused here at FDS!! I'm here for it!! I'll manifest my life partner too! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:50 PM
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my cheeks hurt from laughing so hard toy > LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:04 AM
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Bless you and this post. I've been on FDS for over a year. Had another account but had too much info so deleted and started anew. Been really feeling the "man-hating-all-men-are-the-devil" and it hits you in a bad place and then I started to believe it. I've just started to come up for air and realize that that's not how I want to think about an entire half of the human population. I first was here to recover from relationships that weren't good for me. Then to unlearn all my pickme habits. Then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:01 AM
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Damn straight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:22 PM
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Thank you for who you are and all you've done!! FDS has fundamentally changed my life, as have many of your previous posts. I am a new woman and so very thankful for you and the other moderators. I'll jump ship here and figure out how to join the website. I listen to the podcast every Wednesday. Don't listen to the haters, as the professor said today - you are doing the goddess's work!! You are loved and appreciated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:42 PM
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A little louder for the women in the back that keep posting about the NVM they find on OLD. Ladies, just stop. Stop drinking the Koolaid. I was there, I get it. BUT HE IS NOT ON OLD!!!! HE DOES NOT ONLINE DATE!! Leave the NVM that want you just for sex behind. You're worth more than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:22 PM
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I'm right there with you. I still have a "it would be nice to have a dedicated, sincere, and loving partner" thought a coupe times a month but I'm hoping that will pass with time. I wish I could take those thoughts away but I think they remind me that humans are made for connection and it's not wrong to want it. But, it's also just not worth the pain and heartache anymore. My life is mine now. I answer to no one. And my cats are lovely, I'm so glad I'm their human. Thank you for writing this out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:05 AM
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Getting a divorce was one of the best things I've ever experienced. Going through it was incredibly painful. But, I love who I am now because of it. I needed to be with someone that hurt me and didn't know how to love me so that I could come to a place of truly loving myself. It's been a journey. Truly a journey. But, I love who I am now and who I'm becoming. I'm not the girl that married that childish LVM boy anymore. Now I'm a powerful loving self-assured and grateful woman. Good things keep c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:15 AM
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Good work. You did the right thing. Happy birthday Queen doesn't take LVM whining and pandering for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:35 AM
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I'm convinced most healthcare issues would be solved if women were all in charge. Our power is in our compassion, intellectual dexterity, and commitment to both patients and the people we work with. It's win-win-win all around. But medicine still is ruled by a heirarchy fueled by the patriarchy. I don't know what to do about that. The only way I manage is literally being my own boss and running my own show which is not something you can do in a hospital-based setting. Nonetheless, girl I hear yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:21 PM
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Agreed!! Worth more than that, onward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:15 PM
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