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Ever heard of FRIES? Consent is: Freely given Reversible Informed Enthusiastic Specific I don't want to say anything to trigger something you're not ready for, but I wouldn't make excuses for this guy. And just because you were drinking does NOT make it your fault or for not saying no. A lot of women who were raped couldn't even speak to say "no" because they're body goes into "freeze" mode (fight, flight, freeze..) It's in the oldest part of our brains. Women are not objects to act upon and a 3…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:50 PM
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If this guy* hasn't heard that having sex with someone who is drinking is assault he has his head in the sand. No excuses in 2020.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 02:05 AM
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Why shouldn't it be?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 03:15 PM
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Stop trying to make fetch happen, it's not going to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 05:48 PM
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Looks like homeboy needs to get his apron out then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:43 AM
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After she leaves, I bet she finds that life is a little better without him around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:09 AM
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I feel this username and I don't want to 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:08 AM
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THANK THE MOD GODS 🙏🏻 About time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:50 PM
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OMG my MIL does something very similar. She'll randomly bring up in front of the family how her husband doesn't want to have sex. It's so awkward for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:44 PM
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This is literally anytime a woman brings up a feminist issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 01:16 AM
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You've set your boundaries and did so well. Don't falter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 10:39 PM
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OP, you deserve a monogamous relationship with your sexual desires fulfilled. People change over time, that's inevitable. So, whatever your decision just don't let anyone shame you for your sex drive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:47 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:01 PM
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Matt would have saved me some reading. 👈 Swipe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:33 PM
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Sure, I had one in high school. But let me know if you're still doing this when you're 36.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:17 PM
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Who counts how many people they've kissed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:26 PM
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I honestly don't like all the attention we give LVM on this sub. I think some outrageous stuff is fine, but half of our posts are about them. I would prefer it if it was only peppered in. What I don't like even more is posting messages from the trolls that message us. It gives them far too much power here. There shouldn't be any. Their lil pp gets hard when someone posts their harassment. All it does is encourage them or others to message us. Sorry guys I'm just being honest. E: I almost wish th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:31 AM
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Lol caught 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:02 AM
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You're not getting your money back. If you want to feel better about it set up a meeting that he has to Lyft to and ask him to bring a bottle of wine or something he has to buy. You're not going to the meeting, you just want him to spend the money. When he texts you after he gets there text back, "Running late, be there in 10." Don't text him back after that. He'll wait at least 20 more minutes. Then, watch the angry texts roll in and block him on every platform. Checkmate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:53 PM
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Old, but I love it: 10 Things I hate About You
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:08 AM
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How do you get an entire sub banned? Asking for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:25 PM
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Good on you for letting him know where your bar is 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:53 AM
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"Someday" aka "I want to mold a barely legal woman and string her along for years until she gets annoyed and close to leaving. Then let her carry my kids, cook, and clean up after me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:01 AM
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Her bf has death grip from his porn habit and she's shamed. Yep, makes sense for Reddit. E: Someone linked to Reddit's hypocrisy!! 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:44 PM
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It's sad you can't even tell if most of this shit is satire. With dudes today you have to put a /s on the end of everything bc dudes are so deranged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:49 PM
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It's a result of a nice cocktail of toxic masculinity + coomer brain to believe these delusions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:46 PM
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Very true. I just really believe that's the only source it even can come from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:43 PM
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What sort of attention do you need you text one word at a time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:38 PM
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Imagine leaving your house knowing you'll be photographed on a global scale and not giving af about your camel toe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:36 PM
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Oh, absolutely. It's obvious to me with the shade she has thrown his way that she's just there for the money, her son, something. She hates that dude and it shows. I'm not even mad at her for doing whatever she needs to do in life. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:34 PM
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Same, girl. Only family can love you unconditionally. Even your husband, as much as he loves you, if you cheat on him he's going to drop you. Parents have that love that you can steal money out their wallet or become a drug addict and they just love you through it. I don't have any parents so I don't know about it personally, but my situation makes me really examine what I am missing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:29 PM
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He really does. A lot of his stand up points to him being a misogynist. This isn't even odd these days. Comedians get a free pass to say whatever under the guise of comedy. It's so eye-rolling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:25 PM
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Usually, yes. However I have at least one that I remember specifically ask me to give him one while he was playing video games. LV stuff I know, but he tricked me into thinking video games were better than going to the bars, etc. I at least had the sense to deny him his request.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:19 PM
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Am I the only one against giving men blowjobs while they're doing something else? WTF is that? "Oh, if you're not too busy watching TV would you care to throw some spare attention at me while I put your dick in my mouth for your pleasure?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:07 AM
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There was an attempt at a joke. It wasn't funny. Get your ass to therapy and stop "joking" about your issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:45 AM
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I think men will treat you how you allow them to treat you. 5 or 10 doesn't matter. Set your boundaries, lay down the law and if they can mesh with that then great if not,🚪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:46 PM
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In my experience men have always been more "psycho" than women. The amount of men I've known with jealousy issues, love to ride by your house, text you after you break up and then respond later "OH I meant text another (same name) lol okay. You know why being curious about your partner's sexual past isn't considered under the" psycho" umbrella? Because it's a men's issue, so it's normalized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:37 AM
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Is it just the relationship status on your social medias or is there also not acknowledgement via pics or statuses, etc?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:53 AM
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My comment went ignored there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 11:18 PM
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Could also be he wants you to ask him, or suggest you meet him when he's talking about drinks. Maybe he even likes feeling chased. If he can't ask a woman out he's not ready to date. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:28 PM
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I say keep them talking about themselves as much as possible. #1 People love to talk about themselves #2 You don't divulge too much about yourself that way (safety and mystery) #3 Them talking more provides more narrative for you to see if it's a good match for you or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:27 AM
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I've seen men do some Olympic-level mental gymnastics to convince me other women were "crazy" or "obsessive" or "so in love" with them. Meanwhile I'm sitting back looking at the common denominator in all those relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:07 AM
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MEN👏will👏be👏MEN👏 This is not an excuse but a warning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:03 AM
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Any time it comes up for you just write about it. Write whatever comes to mind, don't try and dictate it to be logical. Writing is extremely helpful with processing things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:35 AM
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Just make sure he doesn't know your address. Please be safe. Men can go nuts to hits at their ego like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 05:06 AM
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Loyal is literally a synonym for faithful. So, don't lose a loyal man bc he's occasionally disloyal? ConfusedMathLady.jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:33 PM
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I'm from a highly racist area. When I was younger literally every dude would ask me if I'd ever been with a black guy. Looking back, I see it wasn't just about them being racist, but they were also petrified that you'd been with someone of above average (their) size. Both bc they don't want to look small and bc of the myth that our vaginas don't "snap" back into place (as I was once told😂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:55 PM
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Which is why they have to find women abroad who are in difficult situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:15 AM
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I hate if I woman says anything about marriage or a relationship it's always like "WOAH ease up on the pressure" Obviously, we don't want to marry just anyone, and literally no one asked YOU to marry me. It's a general question. Calm down, bro. They love to accuse women of pressuring them into things. 🙄 If you ever watch 90 Day Fiancé the guys will travel across the world to meet some chick they've been talking to for 3 months. Buy an engagement ring, walk around with it in their pocket and talk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:21 AM
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Please read the sidebar/handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:01 PM
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Just wait it out and keep checking. It takes a while to get unmuted but I think it's automatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:42 PM
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This is a female only sub. Roll tf out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:03 PM
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What is with people using their child in the place of their ego in conversations? Say one word that is perceived as against them and also mention their child and they pretend like you just bad-mouthed the child. I see you 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:13 AM
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Happy cake day, Robot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:52 PM
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That's pretty vague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 05:14 AM
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Don't be! Do your research and stay in better hostels. You'll meet a ton of people there. There is even a sub for this like /solotravel or something like that Don't overwhelm yourself with things. Just pick a couple to do and build from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 03:38 AM
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I think that's going to depend on the person. You should ask yourself what would be most beneficial to you. Do you want to get promoted at work? Further your education? Have you always wanted to learn another language? Try yoga? Learn to cook? Join a sports team? You can stay up to date with current events so you have things to talk about. Book a solo trip (best thing to do imo) and get more in touch with yourself and learn about other cultures. At the end of the day you will be most productive …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:49 PM
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Thank you! I'm going to look at respond to the I for about Java, too. I've just been feeling like hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:57 PM
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I don't have much in the way of progress. I started the splits app on beginner and am halfway through. I usually just use it when I go to the gym. However, today I'm going to roll my yoga mat out in my office and leave it so that I can dedicate time each day to the skill. I was wondering how one yoga pose could get you there, but wow! I can see how. I love Adrienne's videos and she takes the time to explain everything about the pose in this one. Thank you so much for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:53 PM
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Calling all 90 Day Fiance fans!! Both the ones I seen in there were actual trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:21 PM
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Ahh yes to all!! I started Java previously but simply couldn't grasp it. I had always just started dealing with my condition too, though. I was able to capture python easily. I was going to use Codecademy for Java (to pre-learn before I start the college course) would you recommend? I can't find your comment on yoga, are there certain poses you recommend? I'm using a Splits app right now and just kind of stretching when I go to the gym. It seems like it'll take forever at this point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:53 AM
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So true. That man used to see you as "his" and he is not thinking in 100% platonic terms believe me. Remain friendly if you can so you can give a quick wave if you see them in public. But keep the friendship slots in your life for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:21 PM
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Exactly my thinking. You'll eventually become a "starter wife".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:11 AM
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Ever notice how all males blame their friends for their shitty behavior? It's never their fault, they were just innocent bystanders with a social gun to their head. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:18 AM
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I know some of these things might be "duh" to some people but, I'm a work in progress. -Speaking up for myself instead of putting myself last -putting care and research into my skincare -Earlier in the year I donated about half my closet and have been adding more pieces that suit my new style -Leveling up my mental health -making an effort to see old friends and spend more time with current friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 10:59 PM
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I'm using the Splits Training app. Is it any good?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:47 AM
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I think he was just being an asshole. Why else would you whisper in front of someone? He was trying to power-move on me and I just disengaged and walked away. Instant deflate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 08:47 PM
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I'd love to do this with a good girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:33 PM
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She should initiate sex later, let him get nice and hard and just before he enters say, "haha you thought...now get tf out"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:57 PM
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Everyone is at a different place on their journey. Where I am, someone else once was, and where someone else is, I once was. It's important to support all of our sisters, not just the ones that are woke to men's behaviors or already leveled up and indepdent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:35 PM
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👏 👏 👏 Well said. Any dude I would get involved with in the future would have to organically see some basic feminist logic. My whole mindset is too rooted in feminism for me to date anyone who couldn't see that. It's jarring to me that dudes can't see their privilege just bc they didn't experience. I don't need to be a WOC to see that I have white privilege.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:24 PM
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Disgusting. This is prime example of why women need to be paid for their emotional labor. Just being a fucking decent person puts us in harm's way. It's lauaghable to me that dudes take the smallest thing as proof of affection. Tell him you enjoyed Game of Thrones too and they feel it's a sexual invitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:19 PM
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I completely understand. Get whatever you need to get from him, fiscally, objects, whatever and kick him out. The more you visit this sub and look out for these LVM behaviors the more confident you'll be in ending things. Don't feel bad for one second. He has wasted 8 years of your life. It takes some real asshole tendencies to do that, so don't feel bad about anything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:15 PM
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Yep! My response would be, "I like to eat, too."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:46 PM
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I'm surprised you don't get downvoted for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:44 PM
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I have found some men hang on to past gfs/lovers so tightly. Like, honestly I never even think about them. If years have passed they are long gone out of my mind. You talk to dudes and they can tell you about encounters they had in detail, what they wish would have happened, etc. I had one I ran into 15 years post relationship that started whispering in his friends ear all about us right in front of me. Like, dude I don't give you any space in my brain rent-free. Please forget everything about m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:40 PM
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Yes, exactly. I feel like it would be hard to find a guy that wouldn't have strong feelings about that, but 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:29 PM
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I've been binging this on Hulu lately. Chantel and Pedro's scenes in Happily Ever After physically pain me. She can do 829382% better and she's still just visibly fighting back anger taking up for her LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:23 AM
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I will absolutely, unequivocally never have anal sex. Any man who wants it is almost certainly porn-sick. Tell him it'd really get you off to peg him and see what he says. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:33 PM
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I have never dated or knew a dude that cared about what type of pet I had. If anything, I have dated men that liked cats. The only negative connotations I've seen with regard to pets are having too many or not well house trained. I honestly think you're getting some untrue opinions with regard to this. Just do you and let the men mesh with you or not. Don't live your life for some unknown, prospective dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:30 PM
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The surname thing is an issue that really bothers me. In the future I would not take another man's name. As far as kids go, I'm childfree but starting to lean towards older-child adoption more. If that issue should come up in the future I don't even believe in children taking the paternal surname. Women do most of the child rearing and housework, women actually bear the children. So why should they take his name? In the past women literally took a huge gamble with their lives just to bear childr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:19 PM
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I think a lot of people would tell you to continue you to focus on yourself and your studies and I would agree with that. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and are doing well at leveling up. I would add that you can incorporate dating, but I would stick to it for fun or just practice. Put literally everything else in your life at the top of your list and if you see someone interesting irl then maybe be approachable. You don't have to date with the intention of a relationship. You ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:50 PM
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Please do your civic duty and downvote this 5.8k upvoted misogynistic bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:39 PM
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Omg I'm so sorry!! This is so sickening to hear. I hope things have turned around somewhat for you. I know you're still ill (I am too) but at least some improvement in other areas as well as getting your money back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:52 AM
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I looked for flawed partners because I believed this was the only way I could add value to someone’s life. Damn, sis. I'm saving this post. I feel like I've just been read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:31 AM
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I would have just said, "We'll see.." and kept it cute. It also sends the subtle message he needs to impress you more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 05:13 AM
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I bet if you look back there were probably some signs that they weren't the person for you. My advice would be to run at the first red flag and try to be a better picker. I mean that in a sense of, maybe you're picking beta types and you would respond better to an alpha. Something along those lines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:47 AM
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As far as delivery, I find it helpful to freewrite like I'm writing in a journal when I have something I want to try and figure out how to say. It helps me to communicate better if I sort it all out of paper first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:15 AM
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Men will squeeze every but of value they can get out of you and then blame you for not being able to give more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:43 AM
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I agree. I had one that thought jack-hammering felt good! 🤮 If I would have kept him around I would have had to start from scratch. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 02:11 AM
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This is so relevant to me 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:47 AM
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Ohh I remember this post!! What a nightmare!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:38 AM
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I had to unsub the other day. It really makes me feel bad about myself. I remember someone posted a picture of Emma Watson and she was getting 4s and 6s. I'll visit the sub if I need to, but I really feel like there is one certain look that is considered the mecca and anything else is below. I feel more natural, down to earth looking beauties like Emma Watson can be 10s. Not everyone needs to get a brow lift and fillers to be their best self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:23 AM
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Okay, so I did some googling and TIL some roses can last a year. I'll take a box of black and navy ✔️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 03:54 AM
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"OH yes, I always pay my way with guys I'd never see again."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:03 PM
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And still expects sex after "date" three 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:04 AM
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Anddd he deleted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:53 AM
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Cool, so the trash took itself out. Bye 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:52 AM
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Yass Queen 👑 You do you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:47 AM
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Omg I literally LOL'd! I love this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:55 AM
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+1 Don't worry about it. You should be a "busy" person anyway. If he doesn't contact you again another one will come along. Remember--dick is abundant and low value 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 01:51 AM
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You already gave him 7 years. Don't give him 1 minute more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 06:32 AM
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A modern-day happily ever after 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:04 AM
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"YTA for setting healthy boundaries for yourself" WTF Reddit?? I can't even most of the time with AITA. Please someone wait two months and type this exact scenario, but genders reversed and let us know the results. Guarantee you it's all NTA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 05:56 PM
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I think at weddings it's "congratulations" to the groom, and "best wishes" to the bride. "Best wishes" as in "good luck" 😆 But seriously, congrats on your engagement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 05:10 AM
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I think you're over-thinking it. If you make it clear you want proof of a clean record and he wants to be intimate he'll find a way. And if you're in the US you're entitled to a copy of your medical records. Just let your provider know you want a copy of your results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 04:51 AM
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Answer that question and the next one would be, "So where do you want to go?" You may as well take yourself on a date at this point😂 Steer the conversation to dinner with him planning it, or leave him on read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 03:17 PM
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Simple: "Where are you taking me on our date?" The implication and responsibility are there. If they don't run with it or try and shrug responsiblity don't bite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:52 AM
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I hate dudes, young or old that call me by pet names. I simply say, "Please do not call me outside of my name." it usually seems to work. But why should I have to ask? I don't even call people a nickname/variation of their name unless they introduce themselves that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 04:46 AM
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My '20 is going to be me 2.0 - I honestly can't wait!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:39 PM
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I am also in chronic pain. I'm going through a program right now that is helping a TON. I expect to be pain free soon. Check out Dr. Howard Schubiner; there are videos of him on YouTube explaining everything. His website is unlearnyourpain.com I'm currently doing his course, but I've already done some relevant reading before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:29 PM
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Same, sis. Being angry feels good :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 12:38 AM
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May or may not work: https://www.vulture.com/2019/12/snl-jennifer-lopez-surprise-home-makeover-sketch-watch.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 09:33 PM
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You're doing amazing sweetie 📱 ♥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 04:42 AM
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I need to take a shower after reading this. How is she not cringing at herself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 04:39 AM
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Thank you!! Why would I want to put my raw mouth on your dirty dick? (They're all dirty until I know the dude lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 04:38 AM
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I was hoping for a "Dick is abundant and low value" and I was not disappointed! Love it all! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 04:29 AM
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I got prodded into revealing why I was upset with my then-boyfriend once. It was a mistake. I told them I was getting concerned bc summer was already here and he hadn't even tried to plan or set up a vacation yet. The look of disgust I got--I'll never forget.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 03:24 AM
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Honestly, as long as you're seeing each other regularly and he's setting up nice dates it's an ideal situation. He needs to be buying your time and attention. A lot of LVM want to text constantly. Why? They've got nothing else going on or they are using you to fill some emotional/social/therapeutic hole while they fill their sexual needs with porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:58 PM
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You should have called the cops on HIM. Or told the restaurant that if they didn't want someone to slip on out on their bill to have checked with you that you were paying before allowing them to leave. (But tipped enough for the whole bill obvs) That is one of the most disgusting things I've ever heard of. I would never do that to someone, even if I was expecting them to pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:19 PM
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"anti-reddit" Umm bro do you know where you are?? He needs someone to give him directions, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:16 AM
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You want most of your communication in person. I never personally liked to text much at all. I'd let them know I lead a busy life and I really only like using texting for making plans and memes. They should get the hint. He should be buying your time and attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:04 AM
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Even the slightest hint of jealous behavior. If he's overly-concerned about little things like "Whose that guy you were talking to at work?" dump him YESTERDAY. 99% of the time the one that is jealous is the one you have to worry about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:57 AM
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Red flags don't look so red with rose colored glasses on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:54 AM
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It's strange to me that society shames women for wanting a man who makes good money and doesn't shame men for wanting to marry based on looks. Like, a woman can have the standard of not wanting to live in a trailer for the rest of her life and always has food to eat/medicine when needed and the world calls her a gold digger. When man only dates an "8" or above it's, "Yeah I get you bro" The internalized misogyny is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 02:20 PM
15

I'd like to hear from ONE female who doesn't have a #MeToo story. I don't think men even get the fact it's literally almost, if not all, women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:57 PM
98

"#MeToo has gone too far!!" No my guy, it hasn't gone far enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:55 AM
4

I see no lies 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 08:49 PM
13

AMEN 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 05:10 AM
6

Yay! Level up and look down on the losers ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:23 AM
5

Good posture is your best friend. Besides that I'd say if you're walking, act like you have a purpose and be only acutely aware of other people. As in don't anticipate moving around other people too much, let them be the movers if it's possible. See someone interesting? 3 seconds of eye contact with a neutral yet slightly positive look on your face. Keep open body language--arms un crossed and legs can be crossed but facing towards them. You want to seem inviting, but not bored or desperate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 04:42 AM
8

he wasn't all that great There's your answer. A HVM will know you're busy with life because he's busy with life. Next time, just let them know up front you're not one for texting besides making plans and memes and you're often busy with your schedule anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 04:30 AM
33

That made me physically sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:52 PM
9

This! I am going to make a post of its own someday, but in short this is one of the dozens (if not hundreds) of words that have been used to deflate, degrade, and control women since the beginning. In my opinion these words are NOT for use for anyone but women! We need to take control of these words back. Take back their power. We've seen other minority groups do it. Don't even tolerate a man using words like bitch, cunt, loud-mouth, gold digger, slut, whore, hoe, thot, hussy, etc. I, myself onl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 03:39 PM
61

Men ask shit like this bc they want to know how much effort they will have to put into the relationship. Don't let under-achievers guilt you into staying in a relationship that isn't nourishing you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 11:50 AM
30

Sis, he should be already vetted for this type of behavior before you agree to sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 04:28 AM
108

mUh cAptAIn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 04:22 AM
6

How can I get approved?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 04:24 AM
5

Oh wow that makes sense. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 03:45 PM
88

My pussy would dry right up from someone putting down all these rules and regulations around my relationship and putting such a high value on their own money. This man clearly doesn't see the value (monetarily, emotionally, parentally, etc. etc.) of a mother and homemaker. He would never truly value her anyway. I hope you trade-up, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:03 AM
3

I'm looking for this same thing, sis. Let me know if you learn where to find it 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:41 AM
22

I knew a guy in high school who planned his "accident" with his casual sex partner. Word got around that she cried she was in much pain. NO ONE called this out for what it was- rape. He was not looked down upon for this, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 04:27 AM
17

What sort of mental gymnastics does it take for you to even think about excusing this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 05:05 PM
8

Probably the type of dude to get excited when you reveal your sexuality. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 01:15 AM
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