Been lurking on this sub for a while and have finally decided to join you ladies! Glad to be here. Onto the question.

I know for a fact my body language holds me back. Specifically appearing more confident/seductive, but I tend to carry myself like a victim due to past trauma and I know predators can see this subconsciously. I want to feel like those fierce ladies I see where you can just tell the confidence is oozing out of them walking down the street. Especially when it comes to leveling up wearing better outfits makeup etc. I have stopped in the past because I feel uncomfortable with all the attention/stares and want to curl into myself.

One of my biggest issues is when walking down the street idk how to have the appropriate amount of eye contact. Don't make any, look like a victim, make too much and its an invitation. Please explain it to me like I'm dumb because I really need that much explanation of what is "normal". Look for a sec from far away, look away, make eye contact as they pass and keep walking? This is just for strangers that I *don't* want to approach me. I live in a big city so have to walk by a lot of people everyday and have been practicing but I just feel like I'm super awkward and look suspicious or something?

Also looking for tips on how to carry myself when out and about for the targets I really want, so I guess this is kind of two separate questions. I've heard of the superman pose, but other tips like how to sit, walk, where to place your hands etc. ELI5 please <3