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Bro that stinks... I was abandoned as well due to my chronic illness. She thought I was weak and wouldn't last. Instead she just ended up costing us a TON of undue anguish, trauma, & money. She thought she was being smart... You're no longer a person once they decide to leave. Just a tool to use. A means to an end. You can't rationalize with an irrational person. Everything you do from here on out should be about protecting your interests and your family.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 01:58 AM
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I'm self-employed and disabled my grass is tall in my backyard right now but it gives a shit. My expectations of perfection went out the window a while ago I'm sure you'll get there soon just focus on your kids I'm sure they're capable of entertaining themselves for a while you got this man you can figure this out. You're so blessed bro, you got the house! on an acre! that's freaking amazing!
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 09:00 PM
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Bro you need full custody seriously I wish you all the best 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 04:07 AM
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Accidents happen every day!
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 04:18 AM
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Dude just because you can't produce breast milk doesn't mean she's more qualified as a parent than you are. Unless you want to leave your children in harm's path I highly suggest that you try for 100% custody and figure it out from there. Your kids come first always and forever no matter what.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 04:17 AM
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Neva gonna get it 😂
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/26 03:14 AM
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Dude that is insane! I mean she can't claim that she cares for the well-being of the children if she's letting a predator inside the house. Children are 35 times more likely to be sexually abused when a non-biological mail is residing in the household I can't imagine what that statistic would be when one of them is already a registered sex offender. It honestly sounds like you're even slightly entertaining their BS. I would probably not be handling this and such a slow or hands-off manner as you…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/26 03:04 AM
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The guy running the studio I'm sure he's done this several times before. If he thinks it's okay to ruin people's marriages for his own gain then I think that's messed up. I would probably write something about that for the public to read.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 07:13 PM
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Where's the receipts?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 07:11 PM
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Sad brother 😞
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 05:42 PM
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Yeah but this would definitely be a place for first-timers to come feeling very emotional looking for a place to espouse their feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/26 04:33 AM
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Yep they'll assign a social worker to your court case. Claim that she's just as crazy as you are and you'll both get interviewed and just so long you act like a normal same person then you'll be treated as one.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 03:52 AM
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Mine was 2 years and that's it it started the date it was served and ended 2 years later on the exact same date. We sold the house during that time and also got divorced. She totally used it as a ploy to gain more control in the divorce proceedings. I had to fight really hard and go through a ton of garbage but I have the same rights to the kids that she does except she has final decision making rights but I get to see them as much as she does and my kids love me and now I don't hear her complai…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 03:50 AM
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That's not how it worked in my case. I lost my appeal and it was the same date that was issued when it was first served.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 02:59 AM
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Dude I had the exact same thing happen to me and I got 50/50. I have real life health issues. I have been to the psych hospital before. I don't know what state you're in but I think you are selling yourself short and also realize that if you get anything less than 50/50 you're going to be paying more in child support too.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 02:58 AM
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It sounds like she just needs help and support. Hopefully you can get her the help she needs and she can get better so you guys can get back to living your lives, but know this bro... plans are made to be broken and nothing works out in life the way we expect it to. As soon as you put expectations on anyone or anything. that is just a premeditated resentment.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 08:51 PM
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That was her setting you up so it sounds like you had your conference with the judge after getting the protective order and that they have affirmed and basically instated it you have rights to your children even though still you need to get a good attorney and fight for 50/50 custody. Get your priorities straight and make sure that they don't have any ammunition to use against you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 02:37 AM
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My wife left me because my health issues and I think it sucks and so do my kids. Sounds pretty similar to your story we had about 6 good years and then five very difficult ones.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 08:06 PM
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For me it was court ordered
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/26 07:00 AM
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Please op do not agree to this 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 03:11 AM
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There's a song about it!
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 07:43 PM
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It's very natural the way you're feeling right now. We get a lot of feel good chemicals from our partners and when that is removed from our lives so are all of those feel good hormones and chemicals that we used to get from our relationship. It literally feels like there's a void in your mind/body/soul... I would say is very similar to going through drug withdrawal but even worse. This will be challenging in every way imaginable, but you will be stronger & wiser when you come out on the other si…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 06:47 PM
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Is your husband female also? If so I think your experience is very unique, and I don't know there might be a lesbian divorce subreddit that could be more useful.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 03:11 AM
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Exactly! The hypocrisy is what gets me too. Somebody said they got to learn accountability somewhere... they wouldn't know what it was if it crawled up their leg and bit them right in the cooter 😂
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 03:02 AM
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Yeah it's a tough situation but all you can do is love them. Try to redirect and use this time to grow your relationship with your children.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 10:32 PM
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r/breakingmom
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 10:24 PM
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The papers are very sobering... I was very sad and feeling forlorn towards my ex until I read those divorce papers. I was overcome with the feeling that *wow this is an evil and terrible person who is trying to hurt me", and I never tried to hurt them. Why are they doing this? They must be a bad person and I'm just figuring this out now:/
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 06:11 AM
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Pretty much when I got my divorce papers that outlined that she wanted to take everything from me and maintain her lifestyle as a stay-at-home mom swiping the credit card for seven grand a month.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 06:08 AM
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"Oh yes honey you want to go shooting with your friends? Go ahead & have fun!"
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 01:22 AM
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You just got to be there for your son now brother I love my kids so God damn much I would do anything for them.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/26 05:05 PM
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Bro I get it you were good family man and you wanted your family to work and that's all you wanted was to be a dad and a husband and you were probably damn good at it brother and I'm sorry that succubus stole your dream but you cannot let her put you into the ground God bless you my man I hope things turn around for you and get better but if they don't I completely understand and I will never hate on you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/26 03:29 AM
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Yeah it kind of sucks. I don't think I'm going to jump on a dating app ever again. I'm going to start going to church with my kids and hopefully I can meet some nice people. Not even looking for a relationship just friends.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 07:24 PM
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You got yours back LOL mine was smarter than that I spent $3,000 on her first engagement ring which I bought with the waiter salary but once I moved up in career and money has seemed like all her friends were getting new engagement rings and she would not stop talking to me about wanting a diamond engagement ring the first one I bought her was a pink sapphire so I capitulated and bought her a very expensive two carat natural diamond, VS1 clarity, color G, triple x with GIA certificate. Every yea…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 02:13 AM
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I have money but definitely a lot less...
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 02:59 AM
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Exactly brother she is the one who destroyed the co-parenting relationship; not you, this is her fault. I told my ex straight up every time I see you or hear your voice it makes me feel sick inside so we just don't talk or see each other it's better this way the kids know it's better. We're both communicating about the kids needs when it comes to school and medical decisions but other than that we don't talk about nothing and that's great cuz I don't want a relationship with her anymore than I h…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/26 11:14 PM
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Bro she does not care about you at all she is calling you a mother f***** every time you hang up the phone just remember that this is your enemy she's not your friend and when she says 99.9 that means she don't know s*** and any number she gives you is definitely way too low if she thinks that number is good then tell her that you'll take it for that price and see what she says then.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 12:56 AM
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What is a PFA?
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/26 10:02 PM
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Bro you're about to get alimony and child support I know you're in pain right now but I envy you. Take her to the cleaners get everything you possibly can do not be nice you'll be paying for it through the nose.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 09:09 PM
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I would definitely call one of the top realtors in your area to get a good idea they'll know better than anyone what's your house could actually sell for today if it had to be sold. If you guys can agree on their number then great if not then I think you can order a second appraisal if you wish. you can also try a rebuttal to the first appraisal unless the time frame is already passed.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 10:27 PM
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Brother it sounds like she's gone insane. it's really sad it's too bad that nobody can talk any sense to her. has she tried talking to a therapist and or a psychiatrist? I really think she probably needs to be medicated. I would want her to get this help even if you guys split up 50/50 because it sounds like she is not right and if she's going to be with your kids half the time without you there then you need to make sure she's okay. this is a tough situation man but yeah you don't deserve all t…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 08:58 PM
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Yeah bro she is just being gross and trying to insinuate things that are not happening in order to gain an upper hand. I would just let her know that the kids well being and innocence has been annihilated by her and her unreasonable rhetoric.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 03:50 AM
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If you have an Ikea in your area they make it really easy they have lots of really nice and affordable things that can help add that sort of touch I know that when I was given the silver bullet that's exactly what I did was go to Ikea and I basically just bought everything I needed for my life right there and then they had furniture cookware silverware organizational totes and items wardrobes swedish meatballs with lingonberry sauce 😂
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 01:31 AM
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😂
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 08:35 PM
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Isn't it funny how they want to act civilized after being total freaking monsters.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 08:37 PM
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I'm really sorry this is happening to you man. I know what you mean about the family, and I'm sure you're a great dad. The way you feel right now is not going to get any better if you stay with her. It will get worse:/ the best thing to do is to cut ties and move on. Do it the most strategic way you possibly can. Be sure you talk to a couple of attorneys and possibly an accountant if there are assets involved.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 10:43 PM
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If it's a small business and your regularly spending money out of the account I would get the account down to it's close to zero as possible. I went through a 18-month-long divorce and I had well spent all the money that was in my business account at the time when it was initiated and then once our divorce finally happened the judge awarded her half the money that was sitting in my business account from commissions that had earned well after our separation. I wish my attorney was smarter and wou…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 08:42 PM
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LOL no calls after 6:00 p.m. what are you 5 years old? as soon as someone said that to me I would laugh so hard in their face 😅
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 01:40 AM
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I'm sitting here with my kids right now living my best life. When my children are with me, everything makes sense except it still hurts that our family unit has been hindered. We are stronger together.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 12:48 AM
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She apologized after one of our dogs died and said she was just generally sorry... Very much and nothing Burger apology. I asked her if I could quit paying alimony since she lied in court and said I wasn't disabled and I very much so obviously am... She tried to say I was making it up and all this craziness, but no when the rubber met the road she was not willing to really say sorry which would be to quit beating a dead horse and collecting alimony from someone you're more healthy than and earni…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 12:47 AM
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Some guy she met at the overpriced boot camp I was paying for:/
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 06:52 AM
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Make sure you talk to a couple good attorneys and get yourself set up the best way you possibly can for this. It will be a financial wrestling match and even though she was the infidel none of that matters.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 07:34 PM
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Yes, we were having what I thought was a normal type argument but she just kept on being mean to me and sniping at me like she wanted to fight and I literally had to lock myself in her bedroom so she would leave me alone she then proceeded to call the police until then they had been drinking and that there were guns in the house they asked if I had threatened her done anything wrong she said no but that her attorney had told her that she should call them if that was the case and my neighbor's wi…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 07:12 PM
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Best advice here
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 06:20 PM
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You're assuming an awful lot here... Women will do anything to protect themselves from feeling bad about any of their decisions. I know I've had problems with my ego in the past but oh my goodness like this is a whole nother level, like self preservation depends on the ego. It's not the type of thing that changes overnight if at all.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 06:19 PM
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If you want to have a relationship with them you still can you might not be able to right now but I wouldn't change how you treat them based on what their mom is doing. I'm sure they don't have anything to do with it and it sounds like you were a good stepfather. They might choose to keep their relationship with you even if their mom doesn't want it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 07:25 PM
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The main thing I gained was control over my domain again she can give me all the shitty looks she wants these days but we don't really see each other that often if at all and it doesn't matter I don't have to wonder what I'm doing that's not meeting her approval at that moment. I can just focus on my kids and being the dad and person that I want to be which is a loving father who gives good guidance and protects his kids. Our divorce was very expensive not just financially but in every other way…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/25 07:04 PM
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Yeah man it sounds like your handcuffed to a crazy person and I'm sorry about that.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 09:18 PM
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Try some nice and sensual naked cuddling just know that she wants you to be there and likes you for who you are including your penis.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 08:07 PM
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Cialis has helped me a lot!
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/25 07:09 PM
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Take the rest!!!
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 02:46 AM
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Take all the money out of the accounts and start new ones. my ex started doing it to me and she didn't get in any trouble my attorney told me just let it sit there don't do anything no you're not allowed to do that and then finally after she depleted 2/3 of what was in there I said how about now? he said yeah go hurry up!
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 06:07 PM
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Yep, also talking to all of her old high school friends who had gotten recently divorced and getting arm sleeve tattoos talking about how awesome being single was.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 01:24 AM
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Does becoming depressed from having chronic illness count?
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 10:20 PM
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When a police officer told me I had ten minutes to get my belongings and be out of my house.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/25 02:18 AM
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Wouldn't this thread be considered part of the manosphere? I do see bashing on here, but it seems like most guys will hold each other accountable if they're blurting nonsense. you're completely missing the point...
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 10:53 PM
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Sure buddy, I bet that boot/high heel is tasting pretty good right now... I am a divorced man, therefore I believe I meet the qualifications. It's impossible for a woman to be a divorced man. They have other subs for that which I have never visited or even thought of looking into. I don't appreciate women burglarizing our conversations and commenting in our sub.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 10:50 PM
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You're wrong and also don't belong here.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 04:14 AM
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User name checks out
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 12:48 AM
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Here in Arizona, we have a crisis line that anyone can call. They'll come out and meet with you and get you help if you need it. I called them the day after my ex siilver bulleted me. I wasn't a really low place and didn't feel comfortable talking to any of my friends or family about the way I was feeling.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 09:46 PM
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I just watched my ex go full circle with this. She started doing boot camp while we were together. Started getting skinnier. Found some other dude. FYI I am disabled and then she pulled the silver bullet method and here we are. 2 years later I got my guns back and her ass is back as well but not in a good way. It's like one of those upside down peasant asses where it's bigger at the top than it is at the bottom. It never looked good to me at all but she was starting to get skinnier and it was st…
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 04:42 PM
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I just got my guns back like 2 weeks ago It feels so good. I'm disabled and it's hard for me to enjoy a lot of hobbies. Firearms are one thing that I can enjoy sporting wise. She told the judge I was "walking around the house and racking my rifle in an intimidating manner". The judge was a 4 and 1/2 ft lady who was an obvious anti-gunner and asked why I needed so many guns. Just ridiculous. We didn't have any violence in our relationship whatsoever.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 01:49 AM
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She also might be trying to build a case for domestic violence so she can get you kicked out of your own house. Be very wary of that also known as the silver bullet method.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 01:49 AM
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But you got to stick around for when she falls apart after realizing she can't have her cake and eat it too. Then the real wisdom starts coming out LOL
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 08:59 PM
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Basically using a protective order to kick you out of your house and break you down in every imaginable way possible. I would be very curious to find out what the suicide rate is for men in this situation. I already know that the rate is seven times higher for divorced men. I'm just wondering specifically for those who receive an order protection and are disposed of using this method.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 08:21 PM
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I don't know man. This is a really tough one. Totally stranger than fiction... If you've reminded her that her first duty is to remain alive and well so she can be there to support her kids then I don't think there's anything else you can do. As far as sharing the photo is concerned, I would probably do it but then again my life hasn't gone exactly as I planned so not I'm sure if you want to take advice from me LOL
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 11:03 PM
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Yeah the stuff isn't cheap. I think it would probably be hard to hide if you haven't noticed anything on your statements.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 08:49 PM
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If you're already working out 5 days a week bro you're good to go. You might find it hard to not talk about their mom when you're with the kids, but whatever you can do to just avoid the subject will be to your benefit. Unfortunately we have to become as cold as they are. It's hard to stop caring for someone that you cared so much for. Seems like you got the right attitude. This sucks right now for sure but you will be okay. Being single isn't exactly fun either. But once you do start dating, yo…
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 08:48 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It really is everything that you're describing in terms of lost relationships, split holidays, and the deceit that happened while you were together and she was "unhappy". Well guess what? I'm unhappy too sometimes, but I don't act like a petulant child and tear the cloth off the dining room table. The mess she's creating is even bigger than that if it was loaded up with Thanksgiving dinner with all the trimmings. The sad thing is once they've started this, you have to…
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 08:36 PM
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I bet she's taking ozempic too...
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 08:30 PM
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Just kiss her from head to toe and take it slow. All the right things will happen if you take all the right steps. It's really easy. Just enjoy it and take your time. Be intimate and know that she's excited and probably nervous too.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 01:03 AM
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For me I'd say two to three is the perfect amount. Anything over that can be detrimental.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 01:00 AM
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YOU CAN DO IT ALL NIGHT LONG!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 12:58 AM
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I totally agree
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 09:49 PM
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Yeah I went through the steps once before and I used to sponsor guys and I really struggled with steps 5 through 9. A lot of guys had trauma from their childhood things that they had no responsibility for whatsoever, but they had resentments and I didn't really know how to tell them how to deal with that. According to the book they were supposed to go apologize to those people which made no sense to me whatsoever. I certainly didn't recommend it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 05:47 PM
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Not really. Honestly, I think dating is s*** especially online. It's just full of garbage which is the best way to describe it. I just got out of an 8-month-long relationship after my divorce and I'm disabled which is why my wife divorced me and why this girl left me. My experience is different so don't really pay mine to me but it just seems like most girls these days are pretty selfish and not willing to give men any quarter at all.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 04:44 AM
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She's just trying to make herself feel better f*** her f*** that s*** read it but only do it for yourself
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 02:38 AM
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If you don't use it, you lose it...
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 08:24 AM
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It's not okay to be vulnerable with women.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 05:51 PM
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11 years over here... The year before she was talking about renewing our vows and for our 10th anniversary lol.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 10:46 PM
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My divorce lasted about a year and a half. I started dating after about a year. I met someone who's really nice and thinks the world of me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 05:04 AM
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I was in the exact same situation...
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 05:44 PM
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When I was served with divorce papers LOL. I was like "wow... this person really fucking hates me!" This made it much easier to move on once I saw how vile she was and the length she was willing to go to separate me from my children and assets.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 05:53 PM
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No more pictures if you're not there and you're not with them. It's not your memories. Create your own memories. They act like they're being nice by sharing that s*** but really it shreds us all to pieces. Don't fall for it anymore. Set boundaries and protect your mental health. She doesn't care about you. You need to move on and find someone else who will appreciate you for the man you are.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 04:22 AM
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My dude. I'm so sorry for all this. Hopefully there will be a wonderful spot for you in heaven for being the saint you are.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 04:19 AM
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My dude, you're failing to understand the gravity of the situation that you're dealing with and this dude gave you straight up honest advice. What do you want? Someone to hold your hand or to find a way out of this? We all love you here, and sometimes that means tough love.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 04:17 AM
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Not really. Most people just told me it was important to get out there. + Be with my friends and my family. My friends and my family encouraged me to start dating again after about 6 months of separation. I waited a year mostly just because I didn't have time or energy mostly due to my chronic health issues and my ongoing divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 10:44 PM
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GTF outta here, like seriously! Chicks are so fucking deranged why the hell are they on this sub?
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 02:59 AM
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Look dude. If you don't like banging chicks then go take a crochet class or something. I dunno what to say except that it makes me feel good. If it's not for you then it's not for you. But for most of us, our chicks either cheated on us or deprived us the last years of our marriage. + It's mentally healthy to get out there and feel like a man once again. I met my chick online and I'm totally fine with that. I don't feel like a loser or anything. She screams my name and scratches my back and begs…
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 02:54 AM
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I really think you should give your marriage a chance if she's not cheating on you or purposely trying to sabotage anything. Have you guys been to counseling? A lot of adults never learned how to communicate in a healthy manner and it could do wonders for both of you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 11:56 PM
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Especially if you keep playing all these games with her. You need to bring this thing to a head and get it over with.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 08:11 PM
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There's no way they're going to make you fork over 50% of your income. You need stronger representation and a better Outlook.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 02:15 AM
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Sure, but if they don't comply you don't let that hang you up. I'm pretty sure if you ask for a hearing to schedule final trial, the judge will compel them to release the discovery documents. And if not then you do the best you can with what you got.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 06:24 PM
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What's sitting in a jail cell going to do for your kids or even worse if you end up dead yourself? You need to try and stop being angry and move on to acceptance and then go from there. If you're not talking to a therapist, I think you should definitely start.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 06:22 PM
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Just ask for trial. Am I wrong here?
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 10:06 PM
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I'm dating a single mom right now and honestly I like it. I definitely don't want to be dating anyone that wants any more kids.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 12:50 AM
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If you go volunteer somewhere and there's some women around, they'll definitely think it's sexy as f*** that you're there
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 12:19 AM
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This might sound lame as hell but maybe try going to church and or volunteering somewhere...
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 08:09 PM
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You're not unique to think that the only thing keeping you here is your kids and that's a good reason to stick around. Sure life is dealt you as shit hand but do you want to pass it on to your kids or do you want to show them what being a man really is about?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 04:33 AM
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It's like mostly anything that's worth having. It doesn't happen overnight. It takes a lot of work and a lot of failure, but there's a lot of people in the same boat.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 05:10 PM
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If she's hiding alcohol from you, I'm sure there's other things as well. I'm really sorry you're going through this man. I sincerely wish you all the best.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 06:03 PM
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So I'll be one year separated tomorrow. I just met with my therapist yesterday and honestly for the first time he was able to ask me the question. What if your wife wanted you back and said hey? You can move back into the house and we'll be a family again... the kids, the dogs, the house and everything, would you do it? This used to cause a lot of emotion and inevitably in the beginning I admitted that I would waffle. As time carried on. I truly began to see the callousness in her and how selfis…
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 06:00 PM
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Yep, these high interest rates suck. If it wasn't for that I'd be trying to keep my house but there's no way I'm trying to refinance 600,000 at 7%...
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 10:43 PM
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Good job man! I have final trial coming up at the end of May and I just can't wait to be done with this nightmare
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 10:32 PM
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STFU, seriously 😣...
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 11:39 PM
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Not everyone has the same priorities I guess. But if you do willingly give up custody you're going to have to pay more child support.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 11:37 PM
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Feck!
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/24 03:41 AM
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GTFO with this BS! Seriously!!
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 05:27 PM
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Agreed and well said sir!
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:09 AM
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Thanks man 👍
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:07 AM
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I wouldn't say great but definitely not terrible and deserving of care and kindness.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:06 AM
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You're welcome man. I'm just a man doing the best I can. I just cleaned my whole apartment and washed all my kids laundry, washed their sheets, made their beds. Went grocery shopping & got all their favorite snacks, feels good man.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 01:05 AM
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In Arizona it doesn't matter
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 07:33 PM
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This is happening to me right now. I can concur.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 12:41 AM
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At least they're not living together yet...
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 12:40 AM
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Only in 2024. So weird bro. Sorry this is happening to you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/24 10:09 PM
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Bro, you totally need a different perspective. I recommend reading a new earth by Eckhart Tolle.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 12:04 AM
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If you own any firearms, it's pretty easy to get an order protection. That was my experience at least. If I knew what was going to happen I would have sold all my guns to one of my buddies for a dollar. And just gotten them back once the divorce was finalized. Now I'm on the Brady list and have to wait another 12 and 1/2 months before I can get my firearms back. And of course there's no way I could procure a firearm right now if I really needed to lol such a stupid law.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 12:01 AM
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You need to change your storyline brother. You're only 42 my man, same age as me and I'm living with chronic health conditions and my wife threw me away when we had two young kids together and tried to paint me as a bad dude but truth was she just wanted sex more often than I could give it and I was depressed a lot of the times because my health condition and she didn't like being around it. I high-five myself every morning in the mirror and I tell myself this is going to be an awesome day. I go…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 11:58 PM
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It's pretty easy to get an order protection on anyone these days. I had no police history whatsoever. No witnesses to any sort of abuse or violence. If anyone was violent, it was her and that's what happened to me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 05:30 PM
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Thanks brother
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 03:38 AM
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My stbxw has been having some dude and his kids stay the night at my house while my kids are there. It's been driving me nuts but there's not much I can do. I was able to figure out who he was through social media and my attorney's running a background check. I want to know who this person is.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 03:36 AM
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Well I can definitely tell you you're in the worst part of it. I can also tell you that people have been in worse positions and have made it out. I've chronic health issues and my wife tried to use them against me to try and take control of our children and our assets. She's tried to have her kids diagnosed as being autistic so she could keep the house. Just recently she's had some dude basically move in to the house that I own and have been paying the bills on but she had me kicked out of by li…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 02:56 AM
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F*** no bro. She is f****** delusional. If you can, you need to go stick in your dick in another woman and then tell her all about it. See how the shoe fits.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 11:48 PM
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I don't think women should be allowed in this sub. You won't find me lurking around any female oriented divorce threads or really anything for that matter. As far as advice for your post goes... I would recommend you just stop talking to each other. Edit: I can't believe you smoked pot during your pregnancies. You're just a selfish and not very good human being.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 09:14 PM
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Yep
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 01:16 AM
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Go get your testosterone checked! Low T can make it very hard for you to recover from all the things you're dealing with.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 04:15 PM
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You need to address the mother and tell her that her words are being repeated by your toddler and she needs to clean herself up and start acting like an adult. All actions should be taken with the benefit of the child in mind. Screaming and yelling that one of the parents is a bad parent or is wrong is not helpful to the child whatsoever. This could be considered alienation and should be treated as such. When your kids say these things it's going to be hard but you're going to have to ignore and…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 04:11 PM
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I would have loved it if mine did but she certainly didn't. All she wanted to give me was the plastic cups that she hated so much from our first apartment together.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 10:31 PM
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Yeah there is actually an incident. Maybe two months before this one where she told me that she could just sense guys were staring at her out in public and that like if I didn't basically f*** her right then and there then she might just f****** drop down and start sucking some rando's dick. I said I could f*** you right now she's like "oh yeah, prove it!" like a schoolyard bully... I dicked her down hard but after it was all over I just felt weird and gross.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 05:17 PM
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Yeah my ex is definitely dealing with some mental health issues at the moment. It's really sad... In the past she's had several delusions about me cheating on her or just other topics in the news. Keep in mind mostly accusations of me cheating on her came while I was/ am living with chronic pain and basically have the body and energy of an 80-year-old man. Now she's like posting all these weird videos on tick tock giving dumpster fire relationship advice. She looks disturbed and is speaking in d…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 05:13 PM
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We had sex like literally two days before we broke up and I was like this is going to be the last time we ever have sex and she's like don't be ridiculous. I'm pretty sure she has undiagnosed borderline personality disorder.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 12:02 AM
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I can't comment on r/singledads anymore for something I said to a woman on there. Can't remember what it was but it seems quite menial at the time. I have definitely never thought of checking out any women-centric divorce threads because it doesn't apply to me and I'm not interested in being a troll.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 11:58 PM
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Mine did all that and tried to have our kids diagnosed as being autistic so she could keep the house. Nothing is sacred. They will do anything to get what they want which is to punish us, brainwash our children and take all of our assets.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 12:04 AM
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Bro you need to totally change your attitude. She will get full custody and you are going to be paying through the nose. All you'll be able to do is work so she can sit on her ass and collect checks. You need to fight for 50/50 custody right now. This is a long term game now.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 05:37 PM
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Bro my ex has flushed hundreds of thousands of dollars down the toilet with all her actions. They're not sensible people and you can't count on them to be either. You're getting taken for a ride and absolutely everything you thought was never possible is possible. The gloves are off!!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 05:33 PM
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Whatever you do don't freaking text or talk to her even if she says it's okay. I had a friend of mine go to jail for 60 days because he accidentally texted his ex that he was going to be there in 15 minutes. When he meant to text someone else she knew his mistake. The captain think that he was really coming over but still it was enough and she wanted him in jail and that's where he ended up. You need to go cold, black, dark rock. Whatever the f*** they call it. Just realize your life is going to…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 12:35 AM
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F****** terrible. She's doubled down on being a vindictive bitch every chance she gets. I have health problems and I was a really nice guy and I worked really hard to support my family so she had to really pound her chest and make up a ton of crap and be really mean to me. Otherwise her story wasn't going to hold any water. She's basically used every delayed tactic she can to stay in our house while I'm paying all the bills plus 2000 for child and spousal support. My income has gone way down and…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 12:32 AM
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I lost my hearing for an order of protection even though I had no history of violence. No witnesses to me, yelling or making threats of violence. No police calls. Nothing. It was all just what she said versus what I said. The judge found it sufficient to have me removed from my home for 2 years. Everyone who was helping me on my side was wondering how this could have happened. Well it was pretty easy in my case. I had a bunch of guns and she lied and said that I would use them to intimidate her …
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 06:28 PM
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I don't understand the purpose of this post except to satisfy the ego.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 05:57 PM
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Wow, this sounds like a real mess. Save all this evidence and talk to your attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 05:54 PM
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I am disabled and fully understand this post. Unfortunately I do have high blood pressure and I need to start eating healthier and get my heart back in shape. On the outside I look great but unfortunately I have neuropathy in my abdomen. It has caused so many problems that nobody's advice really applies to me and I'm just kind of on my own journey and I accept that. I mostly just go for walks. Every once in a while I'll hit the weights but my goal is to get more exercise while I have my kids wit…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 05:29 PM
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I haven't seen my dogs in nearly 9 months. I miss them dearly. She tried giving me our first dog that I got before we got married but while we were together. However, I bought a female companion for him shortly after we got him and we just gotten married and I don't want to split them up and that's what she's trying to do. I know Charlie would be crushed if he was split up from Fiona. Anyway, she has the house and I have the apartment. My apartment is not pet friendly even though they say they a…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 03:03 AM
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Stop communicating with her
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 06:55 PM
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You can never trust her again. Get ready for a lifetime of checking her phone and always wondering where she was and whether or not she's telling you the truth. Actions speak louder than words. When somebody shows you who they are. You should believe them.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 11:31 PM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 08:45 PM
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It's like one of the best pickup lines ever. "I'm only in town for one night."
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 08:42 PM
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Sorry you're going through this man. It's obvious she's already moved on. And yes, women hate responsibility and making decisions in the light of day. We've all been told lies our entire lives that men are scary and hairy and women are sexy made out of Pepsi lol. Women are not as nice as men. In general they're very catty, insecure, and jealous. Do the best you can to protect yourself and the kids. Life is much simpler now that you don't have to worry about her happiness. Kids are much easier to…
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 08:33 PM
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My mother-in-law has been divorced eight times and is currently not married. The marriage I had with her daughter outlasted any of hers. Two-fold.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 05:41 PM
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Good for you man. I'm proud of you 👏
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 03:29 PM
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Bro she's playing you so hard. Don't listen to what she says. Pay attention to what she's doing. She wants to go bang other guys and it's not that you're not good at it or there's anything wrong with you. It's just the mentality that's out there and very common right now. She might regret it. But the problem is do you want somebody who's going to put you through all this trauma only to maybe do it again someday?
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 01:35 AM
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Just keep doing the right thing and the right people will notice. F*** everybody else.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 01:30 AM
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Definitely make a plan to do something if you can. Sitting home alone and eating top ramen sucks, but that's how some people are going to spend it this year.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 05:56 PM
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It was for me... Total rouse just so she could keep me paying the bills for her to live in our house by herself for an extra 3-4 months. I wish I had stood my ground and said no. If you feel like you're getting taken for a ride then you probably are. You can't trust her to be reasonable and want to do the right thing even if it means the kids get hurt. Protect yourself and the kids, fuck that cunt.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 06:47 PM
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That b**** hates you and it's going to do everything she can to f****** take every cent from you and every moment from your child away from you that she possibly can. You're behind the ball. It's time to get your game up and go total gray rock.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 09:45 PM
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One time I was at an Applebee's with my girlfriend and some drunk lady who was out with all of her co-workers tried to give me a b****** in the bathroom. My girlfriend saw her making eyes at me and why I went to go to the bathroom she got up to and saw her trying to follow me in. S*** like that never happens when you're f****** single!
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 06:15 AM
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My Uncle did and I thought he was crazy. Didn't help that he had lots of other crazy ideas but you know what they say about broken clocks...
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/23 04:53 PM
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Is this so that she can't use them when they run the conflict check?
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 03:44 PM
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That's because you live in California. You came to the right place to get the right advice. Hire an attorney immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 05:22 PM
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You're acting like the m************ on this page knew that they were going to get divorced. We didn't and that's why we're here to try and figure this s*** out.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 01:52 AM
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Lol, she really should've taken the vids down as 1st priority. We used to always clown on people who are trying to be "insta-famous". If the 🤡 👠 fits then...
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 10:01 PM
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Either she just deleted the videos or she blocked me. Can someone please confirm?
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 08:40 PM
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Same
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 08:37 PM
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Same
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 02:03 PM
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Most likely. It was a big reason we split up.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 07:45 PM
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You don't have any more mutual friends. You'll have your friends and she'll have hers. It's very sad but true.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 05:41 PM
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Yep totally street/hood... Has started telling everyone to call her Kris instead of Kristen. She has a few other friends that are "single and loving it" but she doesn't realize that they're all liars.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 05:38 PM
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I would definitely need help with that. I don't understand compoooters
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 05:23 PM
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There's nothing illegal that I've spoken about or done on Reddit but thanks for the heads up. I fully understand that.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 05:19 PM
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I have no idea who this person is. Kristen! If the Botox will allow you, please blink twice if you are okay! Lmfao!!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 12:50 AM
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Tell me bro! I did it for 13 plus years and I was a good listener. I would let her fill me with all of her negative toxicity and BS about who was too skinny and so and so being a bad mom... She never could get a solid group of friends going to keep her busy and always had to bug me, because she just loves to talk shit and doesn't realize people pay attention to that kind of stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 11:29 PM
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Yeah, she's completely delusional... It's too bad for our kids. I just hope I can get my health better so I can get full custody someday. Keep them away from her crazy ass
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 10:53 PM
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Spandex bro, it's all that skims where stuff that's meant to cram all that extra chubbiness and make it look like something it's not. She is addicted to the s*** and beware. If you see some girl with a giant ass out there that looks really tight. Chances are when she takes off those bottoms. S*** will look like cottage cheese.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 10:18 PM
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True story
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 09:41 PM
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I love to make her infamous. Please feel free to like, share and subscribe lol.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 09:35 PM
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Nope 37 with two kids ages 5 and 8 acting like a freaking teenager who still wants to be popular in high school. She left me because I have chronic health issues that are probably not going to get better and I'm going on disability and that just isn't the life that she wants. She spends seven grand a month on the visa for "food, clothing, and groceries". She got a bogus order protection against me and had me thrown out of my own house. My kids love me. They don't understand what the hell is goin…
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 09:34 PM
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shit show #1 shit show #2
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 08:38 PM
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Well s*** you need to have a lot more time than 20 minutes a week with your daughter. That s*** ain't right. You need 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 04:45 AM
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I'm tipping back a few myself at the moment. I'm not judging myself too hard right now. I also have severe and chronic health issues that make it nearly impossible to sleep. It's been a very long and difficult past 6 years
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 12:20 AM
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Bro, it's called the divorce diet like everything in your world is changing right now. You don't know which way is up. You don't know which way is down. You might feel better right now, but don't beat yourself up if you feel even worse later on than you ever have. This is serious trauma. People like to normalize it and pacify and say that everything is just going to be okay. But you're going to experience a lot of pain and the best advice I can give you is to get comfortable being uncomfortable …
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 10:53 PM
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My kids know it wasn't my idea and my son thinks it was his fault because he told his mom something I'd said under my breath in confidence when he was hiding under our bed in our room and it's just something silly like God. I hate my wife and he told her 2 weeks later and apparently based on her reaction he believes the divorce is his fault. I've told him many times it wasn't his fault but he brings it up still but we're just like 7 months into this. My kids definitely know this wasn't my idea b…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 03:55 PM
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Of course, think that's pretty incredible. I'm just working on a tri-fold pamphlet over here lol
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 01:03 AM
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Well very cool. Wish you all the best!
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 12:43 AM
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Interested in the books you wrote! Mind sharing the titles?
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 09:44 PM
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If you own firearms, it's very easy for them to get a protective order. All they have to do is say blah blah blah assault weapon." I'm afraid he's going to kill me and our children" even if you never even said anything remotely close to that and there's no evidence of it. Seems like that is the par for the course. Mine said she was afraid I was going to kill her, the kids and the dogs lol.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 08:58 PM
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Talk to text!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 11:22 PM
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I did something similar to this but the therapist knew better than to have us all in the same room at the same time. First she talked to my ex then she talked to me and then she talked to my ex again and then she talked to the kids and then she talked to me and then I went in with the kids and I think my ex went in with the kids but my ex and I were never in the room together. The therapist felt like my ex was an evil b**** and was very selfish and narcissistic. So even though the therapist was …
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 11:01 PM
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You can't trust her. She's like Sharon Stone and this other dude is like James woods and right now you're Robert de Niro and this is all going to end with you blowing up in a Cadillac from a car bomb lol. Sorry to kid around, but seriously I can't think of a better analogy.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 09:37 PM
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You need to set some boundaries fast and then go smooth. Gray rock lickity split
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 09:47 PM
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Dude just leave all your thoughts at the door. There's people there who are doing it, actually doing it. I've met some f****** gutter ass drunks and drug addicts talking about homeless meth addicts who were on the streets for 10 plus years and found recovery. Maybe it's your thoughts and your best plans that got you where you are and it's time to listen to somebody else.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 12:37 AM
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Sometimes a slap in the face is more effective than a gentle nudge.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 05:49 PM
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Bro, go find an AA meeting. You'll find people there that have recovered from the exact things that you're speaking of. You might not like it. Actually. I can guarantee you won't like it, but if it's working for them it could work for you too. Basically you've admitted that you're powerless. That's the first step.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 05:48 PM
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Yeah makes sense. We'll leave the furniture for last but honestly I bought really nice stuff. All of our stuff is really nice but I really don't need much anymore since I basically had to furnish a whole house because she gave me nothing except for my dollar store plastic cups that I've had ever since she knew me and would always harp on me to have them thrown away and I just told her I liked using them and I didn't want to throw them away. Literally the only thing she gave me out of our house b…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 05:10 PM
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Fourth mediation!! OMFG!!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 06:33 PM
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Amen brother, I loved my family and spent every moment with them when I wasn't working. Every time they have to go back to their mom I just get super anxious and can't relax. I feel sick to my stomach and once they're gone and I'm alone in this box I call a home I can't help but whimper just a little bit. I'm 6 months into this and hopefully next month it will be resolved after our upcoming mediation. But I don't think that will be the case and I'll probably be waiting till near the end of the y…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 06:30 PM
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Feck I hope not... I'm like 120 into it right now. We have mediation scheduled in the middle of next month, which I have very low hopes for. I wanted to go to trial. We got temporary orders that were in my favor. The social worker assigned to our case supported the temporary orders that the judge put forth and recommended that they remain in place. My attorney said if I refuse the request to go to mediation then it could look bad at trial, ughhh. All this is doing is delaying and costing me more…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 06:12 PM
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Yeah I don't understand interwebs... but if I did! I know just having 50/50 custody is enough to drive her up the wall. She thought she was going to get full which was just absolutely insane. I have our son on his birthday coming up soon and she asked me how we were going to "split up his birthday". I was like oh that's easy we won't:) Edit: very interesting link...
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 09:09 PM
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It's definitely getting done this week. It's just that I'll have to pay off the devices If I turn off the lines so it's a catch 22 for sure. I would then have to basically demand my property back but they would be useless to her because they wouldn't work anymore. Hopefully we can just get her to do it on her own.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 07:46 PM
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Real men of genius 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 07:35 PM
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It's deleted. Feeling better already:)
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 09:41 PM
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Yeah thanks man. That's what I'm coming to the realization of. Appreciate everyone chiming in and giving similar advice.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 08:05 PM
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Bro, she already did that with the nanny that we had who was a minor. Total garbage too because as soon as we separated I asked her if she would be willing to come work with me when it was just me and the kids and she said yeah. Gave me her number and didn't have it before then. As soon as my ex found out she put the gabash on it and had her attorney write me a nasty Graham saying that I was harassing our kids babysitter and that she didn't want to get involved in our divorce. But later on had h…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 08:16 PM
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No prob. At first my ex was demanding to speak with my nanny. I basically just ignored her and I think she realized that it wasn't gonna happen. She's been extremely toxic and I just don't trust her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 08:08 PM
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I have health issues which my stbxw tried using against me in our pending divorce. I just don't sleep very well... I found my nanny on care.com. I had a ton of respondents but the one who I selected is just amazing. She's young going to school, very smart, very compassionate and great with the kids. She just comes in the mornings right now and gets my kids ready for school and drops them off. I'm currently paying a flat fee of $50 per day and it's worth every penny. In my area most of the good o…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 07:26 PM
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Also be very careful. I had no idea about orders of protection or any of that kind of b******* My soon to be ex-wife told me to leave the house. She took the kids and 3 days later I was served with a document by some police officers that told me I had 10 minutes to grab my belongings before they would kick me out of my house. I really hope this doesn't happen to you. It's so easy for them to get these orders of protection. We had no history of any police interaction whatsoever. No violence, noth…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 03:58 AM
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Well it's time to start delivering pizzas or sign up for Uber. I don't know what to say man, but if you're serious about protecting yourself then it's absolutely necessary. You might be able to get some pro bono help, especially being in California lol.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 03:54 AM
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My 1st one(which was terrible) did charge about $275. My 2nd one didn't charge and she's been much better.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 11:34 PM
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Move on go total gray rock and just know that it's over and try and be excited for what the future may hold. If she sees that you're upset or anything then she's going to push her buttons and you will just constantly set yourself up for failure.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 06:41 PM
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Time to go nail it like you f****** hate it
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 03:03 AM
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Yep bro, I got slammed with an order of protection and we never had any violence in our marriage except for on her behalf. I own a bunch of guns and she just took a bunch of pictures and said that I was chasing her around the house with one. Absolutely unbelievable. She got up in front of the judge, started crying and lied her ass off and she bought it hook, line, and sinker. I also fought and I guess I won but only spending half the time with my children that I used to doesn't feel like a victo…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 08:23 PM
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I don't know why you all be talking about y'all's past and be talking about how many sexual partners you had is just seems like a conversation that is ripe to go nowhere and lead to hurt feelings and other bs... it shouldn't matter. Is she described as that? She's probably just trying to be funny. The truth is women have seen 100 times more dicks than they'll ever admit to and you just got to f****** know that yours is just another dick in the sea of dicks and just because it's not the biggest a…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 10:55 PM
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I'd love to keep my house except my neighbor across the street is nuts and steered my wife right towards divorce just because of the amount of guns I owned. She doesn't even know that I sold her husband 10 guns in one go and he probably has as many as I do. His house is bigger though and he has them hidden better. Mine took up a whole bedroom and was definitely not on the DL...
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 01:12 AM
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Yep, as I've seen my soon to be ex-wife have more and more divorced friends the more and more she seem to like the idea. And of course they're all lying and seeing that they're living their best single lives. And I think she's already figured out 6 months into our separation that they all lied to her. Unfortunately she put a bogus OOP on me. Freaking tried to take full custody of the kids 6k a month. Alimony keep the house. Oh and by the way I've been dealing with chronic health issues that don'…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 04:57 PM
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Accurate.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 10:47 PM
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F*** sorry bro
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 07:15 PM
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I feel that this could help somebody who was dealing with something similar. I haven't spoken up mostly because of my chronic pain and fatigue makes it hard for me to find the time to do anything. I hope that if somebody else out there is dealing with some of these problems and they read this that they know they can get through this too. I'm not necessarily saying how I'm just saying I'm still here after dealing with the giant pile of b******* and I still find joy in my life mostly thanks to my …
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 04:18 PM
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She just wants to explain why she's getting a divorce from somebody who had a caring and loving marriage to a man who was disabled and worked his ass off every day to provide for his family. You know just to her friends and family and stuff... Doesn't matter in court really here in AZ. I'm just figuring a bunch of this s*** out. I've been dealing with it for about four half months now so I know quite a bit more than when all this first started but it was completely blindsighted by all this, I ha…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 04:13 PM
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Trust me bro. I'm doing both or I wouldn't be here. I just never really get a clear-headed moment because of my chronic fatigue and I've been wanting to get something out and I just used "talk to text" and didn't really care about punctuation or indenting any paragraphs. All my therapists and doctors think I'm doing amazing given the circumstances. I'm not angry and upset all the time. I accept my circumstances and the situation that is. I'm doing everything I can to make my kid's situation and …
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 04:00 PM
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Thanks man, I've been wanting to get a message out. It's just been so hard and there's so much to unpack like I was so beside myself and wanted nothing more than to just be with my family until I read the divorce papers and all the terrible s*** my wife was trying to f****** say about me it was full of lies and exaggerated b******* and she was going for everything. She basically wanted to leave me with nothing. Within 5 days of us being separated, she removed 70,000 plus from our joint checking …
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 07:15 AM
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She said I was walking around the house racking a gun and that I yelled at her and made her feel scared for her life. We were yelling at each other. I did not have any guns in my hands whatsoever nor were they in the peripheral. She then said that she went to go sleep on the couch and that I disturbed her peace by asking her if she was now sleeping on the sofa instead of the bed. Attorney was like "and when he asked you if you were sleeping on the sofa, did that disturb your peace and she's like…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 07:17 PM
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Yeah it's total garbage. BS. Definitely feel like I'm in prison but I'm not. My wife dictates everything and won't even obey the judges orders. Now. I've had to spend a ton more money to get my attorney to holler back into court to get her to obey. Hopefully she listens. I don't know what they'll do this time that they didn't do last time. They just told her what to do. I guess they'll wag the finger this time when they say it. I have no f****** clue
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 05:27 PM
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Yep. Well unfortunately I had a lot of health problems/have and I barely had enough time to do all the things in life that I wanted to. She made it seem like she was okay with what I was doing and even championed it and every Father's Day and birthday was met with gifts of gun accessories and whatnot. If I had to do it over it again though, I wouldn't buy one without having to trust knowing this now. But my former significant other has already screwed herself so hard on so many other things and …
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 11:49 PM
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Lol I'm an AZ and started out with a 7.5 k retainer. Now I'm up to over 40k. Two kids(5, 7) been married almost 12 years. I've had severe health issues for the last five but if still worked and continued to be the only breadwinner for my family. My ex took advantage of my large gun collection and took a bunch of pictures that made me look like I was going to be the next school shooter and got an ordered protection against me and gotten kicked out of my own house. Fortunately the kids weren't on …
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 05:40 PM
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Well just f****** level up bro do what you got to do to get jacked and emotionally intelligent and you will land a fine ass woman that will make her ass jealous forever. Even if you think that was the best you can do, you are wrong and telling yourself a lie. There are plenty of women out there looking for a fit emotionally adjusted man go be those things and they will come to you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 04:03 AM
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Well bro that's your s*** and you got to work on it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 10:03 PM
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Wow, this is so spot on but wish it wasn't...
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 06:29 PM
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I had no experience with this when I first got started and I was concerned that my attorney sucked but he just tried to make me feel stupid for even questioning him. After a giant flopener order of protection hearing, I fired him and hired a woman who was passionate about my case. My wife has a high conflict attorney who's been writing letters left and right, assuming that I was going to be left holding the bill for his legal fees, but thankfully in temporary orders hearing my new attorney was a…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 06:52 PM
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