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Same. I've had psycho exes who would talk mad shit if I didn't go along with everything they wanted.
/r/MensRights27/07/25 01:15 PM
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Or you did, but some bitter women made him seem worse. I know I have exes who said the worst things about me because I wouldn't go along with everything they wanted
/r/MensRights27/07/25 01:09 PM
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This should be interesting. Late night/early morning drivers are usually men, and male drivers usually drive faster. Those are facts. I'm guessing more women are riders than men. Thus, even if a lot of women prefer women drivers, they aren't going to make it to work on time in the mourning and struggle to get home if they take women only. Same with ordering food. A woman driver might be preferred, but the food will be colder when they get there. Also, I believe women are less likely to tip. Pret…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/07/25 05:10 AM
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Please tell me you are not reading The New York Times. They recently published an article "The Trouble With Wanting Men". It was the most femcel trash I've ever heard. In the article the woman complained Men don't want relationships while saying she was in an open relationship and left her husband for a side dude. She also says she wants the guys who don't want her to suddenly want her. There's more agregus stuff but those were the top of my list of hypothetical things.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/07/25 05:29 AM
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Just listened to a guy read this article. My God, she was in an open marriage, had a kid, divorced, then marriage the side dude. She wonders why men don't want relationships? Duh, you left your husband for some other guy you were banging while married. Then the complaining about the guys she wants not wanting her. That's some femcel shit. Wanting a unicorn of a man, but being a worthless woman. How does The New York Times think this is a good article? Worth paying for? It just shows how egotisti…
/r/MensRights23/07/25 04:15 AM
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Just got done watching this. I like Nick for a lot of reasons, but didn't care too much on this. I don't want women stuck at home. Too many women couldn't teach a fish to swim, let alone a child anything worth while. I'd rather have women working a career.
/r/MensRights28/06/25 01:05 PM
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Don't know if you are in the US or UK, but can use this to your advantage. Many med tech jobs pay really well and are trade school/community college jobs. Same for accounting. Both are like 60% women. Grab yourself the pick me girl there and kiss these women off more lol
/r/MensRights22/06/25 11:48 AM
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Or see the immigrants as their slaves and, if they date them, they have to put up with their shit behavior. I've seen videos of women beating their illegal immigrant bfs because they can't call the police
/r/MensRights09/06/25 11:29 PM
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Isn't Pueto Rico like a state bit not a state? They don't use visas, correct? Could be wrong. Still, don't riot please
/r/MensRights09/06/25 10:32 PM
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Good to hear they aren't discrimination on that. I know they've arrested a handful of people.
/r/MensRights09/06/25 09:34 PM
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... Sweden isn't much different that they Nordic countries. They don't view male oppression in their equality. For example, they do have studies showing that shorter men are more likely to commit suicide and do nothing about it. They found this because all people are required to join the military but they don't know why shorter men commit suicide at a higher rate, as a guess, they are less likely to have women interested in dating them. It's not all bad for them though. In the rural areas, they …
/r/MensRights09/06/25 09:31 PM
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I think you're looking at conscription in the wrong way. In times of war, someone has to fight. Modern day drafts or mandatory military training isn't common. However, the argument for women to also be conscripted is more equalitarian, but highly unpopular, even in feminist circles. If you want to voice a complaint about gender problems with military, that would be it. Though, that's tough for a couple reasons. 1. Women are weaker. They will fail more physical requirements making them a bad cand…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/06/25 09:15 PM
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Pretty sure it's just a twist of the statistics. For example, in the UK, they have a high-ish amount of trans women in prison due to sexual assault compared to the number of identified trans women. Gay men are imprisoned at a higher rate for rape and statutory rape compared to straight men or number identified as gay. Idk which. But much like all stats on the identity basis, our society shouldn't judge every gay man or trans woman as a sexual predator because the majority aren't.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/06/25 04:20 AM
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The democrats tried getting women into conscription in 2024. Maybe in years past as well.
/r/MensRights28/05/25 11:44 AM
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Pretty sure it was so they can blame Republicans for not passing a bill for something they didn't want either 😐
/r/MensRights27/05/25 03:40 PM
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Funny enough, Congress Democrats tried to introduce it in a bill, but it was shut down. If Kamala ran on conscription for women, I would have considered voting for her.
/r/MensRights27/05/25 02:58 PM
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Some of that is expected. First, I hate the Latinx term. Most Hispanics I know, and as someone who worked in a meat pack and now lives in the Hispanic part of town, most of them don't care about it and don't want our culture to tell them how to speak their language. Anyhow, in Hispanic cultures, men are expected and desire male related, manual labor jobs. Same for their women in the service industry. They also like it that way because they are extremely jealous and worry about cheating. Can't ch…
/r/MensRights06/05/25 10:19 PM
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Not sure. Pretty sure I put it in my "do not recommend". Don't remember her name. All I can remember is she lived in a Nordic country, was married at a fairly old age, wore a hat about eating cat, and was featured on Badger Live Streams a year ago
/r/MensRights03/05/25 02:28 AM
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That makes the most sense. I don't remember the name of the woman, but she has a YouTube channel devoted to hating men to the point that many of her videos will be contradictory by the end. She use to work for the Guardian as well.
/r/MensRights03/05/25 02:12 AM
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In what way? Why the dislike? He's center left. He explained in his man vs bear video that it's feminists wishing they could control men again and advocates for men being able to not give child support if they choose.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/25 01:53 AM
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I remember watching this the day after it was on YT. The biggest 2 issues I have was Scott Galloway saying, "Men need to be providers and protecters" and his thinking that men were like him being complete losers smoking pot and doing nothing with their lives while also having a gf like he did. Fuck this boomer. He wants men to move to the left but offers less than the right does. I refuse to provide for a woman because she can make her own money and get plenty of financial help from various orga…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/25 04:30 PM
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Isn't she part of Badger Live Streams? They're pretty spot on about things, but they do sometimes go a little far into misogynist, right wing, and such territory. This video is indeed correct, though. For example, with the oppressor/oppressed narrative, we kind of saw that this year in the US elections. When an "oppressed" group means harm to their oppressors, the oppressors will attack back. It's happened across several cultures throughout history. Just look into the Tongans, Hawaiians, and Sam…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/25 06:54 AM
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not exactly wrong. ShortFatOtaku is more center left and NotSoErudite dunks on red pill, but she cares about incels and troubled boys
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/25 05:36 AM
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Probably just ShoeOnHead, NotSoErudite, TheBurgerKrieg, Finding Sky, The Authentic observer, Layton Observations, and maybe ShortFatOtaku. Everyone else I can think of is right wing or centrist.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/25 02:37 AM
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Could probably toss in Vaush, Dr. Ana, Taylor Lorenz, and a few others. I think the Bitchuation Room and Rebel HQ have said harsh things about men's issues, but I can't remember.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/25 02:27 AM
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Tbh, I think most men shouldn't really listen much to feminist, especially incels. William Castello did a study finding society overall cares about incels and some men's rights. However, female feminists do in fact have a distain for incels, which can sometimes bleed over into advocating against men's rights. The latter you can see in some of the feminists on WhichTV's debates
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/25 02:11 AM
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lol Tara Mooknee is very misandrist. Kid was misandrist at times, but she's gotten better and isn't a feminist from what I recall. Contrapoints isn't bad, but having rewatched some of her videos, she doesn't really land any good thoughts on trans issues. Even her video(s) about men still didn't have a clear direction on what to do to help men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/25 02:05 AM
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If you want a psychologist who really understands men and the problems of the APA, I suggest checking out The Prime Reaper
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/04/25 09:40 PM
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I remember watching a video by Richard the Fourth saying Tate is the embodiment of British liberalism. Muslim, feminine man, who doesn't follow marriage norms, and allows women to pursue their sexual desires. It's hilarious that the left talks more about him and the like because they are exactly what they allow/create/deem valuable. Other than the Whatever podcast, you never see a right wing person talking to pickup artists or red pillers, but you do see leftists doing that. While the right spen…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/25 08:46 PM
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Pop Culture Detective talked about this? Where? It's not on his YT channel. Dr. Ana is a grifter. Her form of feminism is to take all the benefits for women and hate everything about men. I don't know how she still has a psychologist license. I'm not sure how her husband puts up with it, unless 1. she's not actually married or 2. she drops all these feminist critiques outside the videos. A lot of these feminists on YouTube are stay at home wives after all.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/25 08:40 PM
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It's worth noting that we really need more women calling out the toxic stuff. Yeah, that's something I've was calling out for in the past few years. But I came to the conclusion that most won't. Evolutionary/Behavioral psychology agrees that it's in women's best interest either to act in ways to prevent their own harm and protect other women. Thus, even when they don't agree with another woman, they will often protect the other woman's ideas or keep quiet. It's one reason I've turned my back on …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/04/25 03:21 AM
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Very much so. It's odd that she's a psychologist too, while being the men should provide and protect but women own nothing and deserve equality type. The choose your own feminism. I don't know how she still gets the views and subscribers that she has
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/25 09:26 PM
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I avoid these conversations for the most part. Most of the time, men are willing to talk about them but don't fully understand. Most women I've talked to don't care because women have it "worse" and thus, not important. I've had both a gf and have female friend I've talked to about them. They admit men's issues do matter, but since no one cares to do anything about them, they aren't going to advocate for men. At most, they cut back on repeating the man hating talking points. I've stopped investi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/04/25 01:10 PM
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Well, the "marry up" thing is not quite true. For example, a college teacher I had was married to a guy who made less money and less educated, but he was pretty intelligent. Dove into research when it came to safety and such. If a woman was better than you in every way, would you ask her out or think she's out of your league? Most people wouldn't but they think they would or prefer it until they're reminded of their flaws. Also, feminist women are much harsher on incels and red pill like guys th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/25 02:07 AM
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You do you, but the data for datepsychology.com doesn't match that idea. It only makes sense for dating apps because those are strictly transactional relationships. The women are looking for good looking guys to pay for dates, and the guys are looking for the validation sex. Women typically are more family oriented, not exploratory, focused on how to be better because they have lower self-esteem, shy behavior on the bold/shy personality spectrum. The lower self-esteem being why some become man h…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/03/25 02:25 AM
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It would imo. Looksmaxxxers don't gather the same praise by women as a married man. After all, the married man must be doing something right, whereas the hot guy is often considered brain dead, wouldn't devote time to her, will likely cheat, or some other negative trait. You can ask women this and unless they have had several good interactions with the guy, they will nit pic something. Besides that, I recently came across an article that lower educated women seek out "masculine" men to provide a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/03/25 01:22 AM
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Yep. The left talks about Tate way more than right wing commentators do. The boogieman that never really was. The man that can take a licking from these people is far stronger than enslaves himself to women's whims. The feminist sons are them teaching men from the earliest point to think enslavement is his best option for a happy life. It's brainwashing
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/03/25 06:34 PM
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A couple things. The left has already decided that women's value should be disconnected with having a partner, so if that counts as doomer positioning, it's already there. But on the other side, why should that part of social value determine who is important in society? Having that social value tie causes women to chase married men or staying single and hate single men. Leading to either a smaller population or future generations with the fewer ancestors aka higher incest possibility. If a man h…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/03/25 06:12 PM
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That's why I don't know if the left is really for men. As an example, I was listening to a Democratic streamer talking about Harry Sisson. She thought it was stupid that they cancelled him because he's being a "typical 20s boy", that both men and women should have rosters because the other person probably does. "It's normal". That teaches women on the left to call men predators because men are wanting rosters but don't relies women don't want to share partners, when reality is, most men and wome…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/03/25 05:47 PM
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Yep. Yesterday I caught a video of a Terf talking about how they voted for Trump. As a whole, feminism is the same as the manosphere. To use labels as all feminists are left-wing, all manosphere types are right-wing is incorrect.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/03/25 03:00 PM
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Yep. No matter what side, a man's value is tied to what women want. The right says women owe men something for it, but the left says women shouldn't be tied to her value to men. Neither give men the option of disconnecting his value based on women. Imo, a man's value should be to be true to himself.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/03/25 02:56 PM
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Yep. When it comes to oppressor, oppressed interactions, when the power gets flipped, they don't stop and continue the oppression. This is seen in South Africa and Pacific islanders. The past few years has seen women gaining power, including trans women. Talking with these people and attempting to get them to understand that hitting an abused dog is just going to make that dog attack more. Embracing kindness is the best way to help society. It won't work for every person, but it can be one less …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/03/25 05:32 PM
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I'll give I haven't watched the series as I don't have Netflix nor really care about watching shows that aren't educational or political. But from my understanding, you and the guys in the comments of the TimMan video might have an issue of self-loathing. Already have a negative view of themselves and think this just adds to their overburden problems. I believe society will see this and think about how kids are bullied. That it's not that he's an incel, not that he thinks women should shame men,…
/r/MensRights27/03/25 03:44 AM
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What are you talking about? The TinMen video does have several comments about how they think society will be blaming the Manosphere. But I don't think that is how society is viewing it, or at least wasn't what the creator was going for. The latter being what the commentor said. The video I linked doesn't have anything really to do with the Manosphere.
/r/MensRights27/03/25 02:10 AM
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Yeah. Why?
/r/MensRights26/03/25 07:45 PM
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an equally rapidly growing group are the 'femcels': women who share their own hatred of men who they brand 'predators, cheaters and wife beaters'. Yes they do.
/r/MensRights26/03/25 03:42 AM
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Reminds me of Kavernacle's man video. Dude kept saying women don't hate men, but then says he wouldn't want to be dating again. Like, he knows there are tons of misandry in society but can't admit it because we need both votes, when the truth is, the misandrists aren't required
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/03/25 07:42 PM
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Let's be real, ChatGPT failed the video creator. So much of the video goes against his own narrative.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/03/25 07:36 PM
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What do you mean by a male character with femininity? What attributes would that be? I think the creator has a hard time talking about masculinity outside of the boy scout type and Optimus Prime. It doesn't help that it seems Hollywood and the comic industry has been focused on tearing down male heros, raising up female heros, and giving villains empathy. They are probably a little scared of doing the father figure hero.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/25 03:49 AM
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It's so weird that's the message everyone is taking from the show. He was bullied. Called ugly, his friends dumb and poor. Taught by other students that his value depended on attracting women, his dad rejected him when he didn't act "manly". The women in the family took in the Dad's emotional irrationality and taught the son, his emotions are the responsibility of women. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=teMKnxbd_O0&list=LL&index=1 The left in America has a major problem with understanding men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/25 07:48 PM
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Opposition to feminism, not exactly. It's the opposite of feminism but doesn't always act against women. Sometimes aligning with feminists for example: The Red Pill and liberal feminists want abortion rights, but they can also desire different rights. After all, there are different forms of feminism. Here's a video for a class on gender in politics for the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse explaining the various feminism and talks about the manosphere/men's rights. https://www.youtube.com/watch?…
/r/MensRights23/03/25 03:33 AM
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This is basically true. Sociologists have known for a while that people generally are interested in learning/stories of women being victims and when women move up in society.
/r/MensRights23/03/25 03:21 AM
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Two of my favorite boys! Do you know if William Costello has his graduate degree yet? I'm waiting to say, "look he's a Doctor. Listen to him!".
/r/MensRights23/03/25 03:16 AM
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Really? I just watched a video about what the creator was going for, how many takes per episode and such. They said the creator was going with how young men/incels aren't turning this way because of Andrew Tate and such, but that bullying and making men's value be tied to attracting women is what is creating the angry young boys. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=teMKnxbd_O0&list=LL&index=1
/r/MensRights23/03/25 03:14 AM
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Yeah, for some reason, a lot of places still go by that standard saying 1 in 33, but studies looking at any sexual abuse say 1 in 6. That's a major shift.
/r/MensRights22/03/25 09:10 AM
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That's my boy! Love William Costello. Been following him for years. Do you know if he's got a Ph.D. yet?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/25 08:46 AM
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This clip doesn't demonstrate what you're talking about. At least post who is as rude as you said. Think if the roles were reversed. Wouldn't you be upset if something you were proud of had to be never seen? The comment section does not have anyone saying throwing away the men's stuff. In this or the original. Having moved in with a woman with too much stuff. She was upset when I was demanding space, but all our friends agreed with me. Now, I got too much stuff and wouldn't be rude enough to den…
/r/MensRights15/03/25 06:16 PM
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The "wall" technically exists. Granted, we are believed to be less attractive in all ages. Though, that's slightly wrong as we have better skin, eyelashes, and other things. Pretty sure the bias is largely due to not wearing makeup. The "wall" is something like 40-45. When we reach a point of not attractive enough to have a child with. Money really can't make up for this except with a handful of women and less if we aren't super rich. You can see this in how women feel about bald/balding men.
/r/MensRights02/03/25 09:52 PM
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I was going to say something along those lines. Most men aren't criminals, but reoffenders are really high in the US.
/r/MensRights24/02/25 10:58 PM
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You're a woman, correct? Anyhow, women are most likely to be attacked by someone close to them. aka partner, family member, best friend. The stats are also more likely to happen to Native American, Middle Eastern, black, with whites being the least. I believe it could be because being such a small minority, someone in that group will be on the defensive and think something is harmful first when it could be miscommunication or understanding. Still, a lot of it is a misunderstanding of the data. F…
/r/MensRights04/02/25 03:33 PM
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I think you somewhat correct. People really don't attempt anymore but do work on looksmaxxing, seduction learning, education, and just don't really go out to meet people. Then again in the US, people are on edge of either being torn down or wanting to tear someone else down. Which is surprising as testosterone levels are lowest, they've ever been. Then again, I think loneliness is better taken care of by self-acceptance and not caring about relationships at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:26 AM
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Women are on average fatter and shorter than men, in the US. 2. Studies do show married women are happier with chubbier guys (probably cause he has less options and can't throw a fit if she gains a few pounds). 3. Most people have an idea of their league is. They may shoot their shot with better, but they also know it's extremely unlikely to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:17 AM
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This is ignoring nuance. A lot of people without degrees hate people with degrees now days because of their snotty attitude. I know some guys with and without degrees and often times, the one's without are actually making more money be it in engineering, electricians, manufacturing, or supervisors. They get laid plenty by just being fun which isn't professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:07 AM
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Exactly. I don't know why it bothered these women so much
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 09:28 PM
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Lol I'm about to finish my bachelor's and not for abortion rights past 20 weeks. The most progressive men I know only have an associate's and work low paying clerical jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:52 PM
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Still doesn't prove you would be a better partner. If anything just shows you are in competition with men. Like a doctor can still have a bad attitude and refuse to help around the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:34 PM
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I feel like I'm talking to a wall. If a degree is status/job, then that's SMV not RMV. What does a Bachelor's in underwater basket weaving prove? Musicians can find ltr without a degree. Many college educated women marry guys without a degree. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:14 PM
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It's so frustrating that people keep saying college degrees. That isn't a value. What does a degree in underwater basket weaving prove? Many women without college degrees are married to men without them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:10 PM
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That's some things I'm confused about. First, I have read online that women don't want children at the same rates as men and are drawn to the anti-natialist movement,. However when I was thinking about getting a vasectomy at 35, most women were freaking out on me because what if my future gf/wife wants kids. With feminist, it's very dependent. Some want legalized sex work, others want porn banned. Some want to promote rights for both genders, some want men brought down. A lot of feminists also d…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:06 PM
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True. But they believed that education wasn't a major factor for RMV and men need to work on RMV. But what in particular? Maybe I'm in an area where men have control over their anger and are caring. Just single by choice more than not being a good enough candidate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 05:27 PM
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Then what values/personality are important for men to learn? I have a hard time believing men aren't doing half the chores, family oriented, loyal, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 05:22 PM
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I always found SES to be such a simplified ridiculous idea. When I first learned of it, I was 34 in 2019, started college, working in a meat pack, making 60k, paid off mortgage, and had 20k in savings/stocks. Technically all over the spectrum of SES. I was looked down up on when dating because so much of that is below the surface. Likewise, in the video, they were saying that under the surface stuff is why so many people are unpartnered. Yet that doesn't match studies ie men on average still hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 05:12 AM
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Well, it matters to me in finding a potential partner lol I don't see it as lying per se, more so an altering the truth. I just find it unlikely to be the truth that some niche interest being worthy alone for some individuals. Doesn't everyone have some niche interest that could be partner worthy in that case? Like, is it because they have something making them a less desired partner such as a health condition or children which is doing the heavy lifting?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:34 AM
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So you're saying SMV and RMV are equally important for a ltr/marriage? SMV will get you in the door/a fwb, but RMV like education and provisioning are important for the long term. And you can't have one without the other for a relationship? It's not family lifestyle, how to raise children, and respect are not true values/RMV? Also, for a relationship RMV alone isn't enough? Which the video made it sound like education and provisioning wasn't important for RMV. Maybe I did phrase the question wro…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:19 AM
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This sounds like the most balance opinion I've heard. I've known some women to put up with some serious crap from attractive or rich men, but also some women who were willing to have a stay-at-home husband without kids because he was so supportive of their ideas, good or bad. I think Gender Decoded has a bias but unwilling to acknowledge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:51 AM
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I can see that in some women. 1 of my college professors was married to an electrician and said he made less money. She claimed that she fell in love with his research into how to do things like safety of helmet types for motorcycles. I can't wrap my head around it. Like, if I talked about how I research into what stocks I buy, into the reality of political topics, or healthy dieting could attractive and sustainable for a relationship? lol Surely there's more to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:44 AM
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Thus, they won't tell guys? Seems like a dumb idea. It's not like the guys have a better idea. At most, I can see not listening after breaking up because then it could be seen as manipulation. For example, several friends of my exes tried to get me back with the ex, but we were didn't share values. Them trying to get me to accept their values requires me to change mine. Saying they still loved me, means it wasn't about the values
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:30 AM
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hmmm. That's kind of what I meant, but not all. I mean, if a guy is attractive enough, would you be willing to bend on some values? At the same time, If a guy has all the best qualities, but is an average guy, would he be good enough? I hear women (Tbh, probably femcels) saying they care about a man's qualities, but also, he has to be above average in looks, a provider, and not blue-colar/less educated. The looks/income/status is the first thing mentioned, and I don't know any dudes with bad qua…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:22 AM
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I'll be 40 next month lol I think older people seem more social because we are. Not because of how we met and we were pretty anti-social when we were younger too. At most, we would hang out at each other's place more often out of slightly better than being online or watching tv/gaming alone. I do see college can kind of prohibit some socializing. Like, to get a good GPA, you don't have time to hang out but, in the dorms, they hang out often. Also, I think you mean white-collar maybe. Still, I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:59 AM
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Your title is different from the body of your post. Probably true. I tried to make it line up, but I did modify it while writing. I wanted to write about the video's premise first, but then I think most people wouldn't respond without the question/hypothesis first. I also assumed with women wouldn't have a relationship with a guy who has the same values if he's income or status is lower. Like, if he's making 100k as a trash collector, but has a great heart, he still will have no luck. Same for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:26 AM
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I wasn't talking about the carnivore diet or some such. I meant they would eat mostly junk food, aka refused to cook veggies or have fruit at any meals, which I had to go without whenever they cooked. And because you've been so bad faith, I didn't make them cook, they wanted to. What are you talking about with the gossiping? They were expressing their romantic interest in the doctor. That ain't just chit chat in the situations I've been in. Some nurses are single and looking, you know. Yes, one …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:06 AM
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Well, there is a gray zone. The doctor just being professional, rarely around the nurses, or just being a wall fly. Some nurses seemed to see him as simple existing, some will let a patient crash out while drooling over his eyes and arms during chest compressions. Yes, she said she felt bad for guacking and him having to snap her out of it to get the defibrillator
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:35 AM
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I think you misunderstood a lot of this. Starting with me. I didn't mind the compliments, but they weren't necessary. The fact that they did, along with asking me to pay some bills they didn't have the money for or buy them new phones, jewelry, clothes, or help afford new cars, makes me wonder if they were only with me for my money or looks. They would say they care about their health, saving/investing, and living an average life, but would avoid produce, always buying stuff, and had to be "bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:24 AM
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I see this irl and online. I've worked with nurses obsessed with a doctor's looks, heard wives complain about their husband's income, and women reject guys for being short/lanky/blue-collar. In my dating life, the women would claim to share my values, later find they don't, and were reliant on my money and in the relationship would often compliment my looks (I rarely showed grievance with my looks).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 12:56 AM
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... Not a reddit thing. I've seen in the Adulting, Venting, and HealthGamerGG subs women complaining they are lonely. It's also very common on TikTok and a little on YouTube. It is less common online though, probably cause it's slightly less common in women now days and more likely for them to talk about with family and friends. I don't think they have any better time making friends, just they will call more people friends ie What you call an acquaintance, a co-worker, a discord group, they woul…
/r/MensRights02/02/25 11:47 PM
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I remember hearing throughout history, population levels did wax and wane a little. But because so few people were on the planet, it isn't as noticeable. I wouldn't say happier/healthier children though. Like, we are programed to enjoy things that get us towards the goal of reproducing. However, many of us are programed to enjoy those things without it being about the goal. A misinterpretation of what works. It's like AI of Mario, that understands going right gets to the goal, but if the goal is…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 05:34 AM
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That's a bit of a misinterpretation of the data. A lot of genes get lost through multiple genetic crossovers. Male genes get lost more often. I can't recall why though. Plus, there is way more people alive now than in the past. Meaning, many of our ancestors banged others in the lineage. Like, your grandpa probably married his 4th cousin twice removed or some nonsense without knowing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 05:24 AM
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I kind of question the fewer friends and loneliness. Like, people are way more online than ever before. You might not call someone else in Discord or YouTube a "friend", but they offer roughly the same situation, though, the echo chamber of it can be not grand. The loneliness could also be from interacting with people irl who has opposing views. I mean, people can easily feel lonely in a crowd after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 05:14 AM
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Even that's debatable. Often the studies will include things like the AIDS pandemic, and well, gay guys weren't able to marry. Or include divorces men, who live even shorter lives into the single men category, but divorced women remain in the married category. Also, the longer you live, the more likely you are to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 05:09 AM
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Hmmm. Well college is different than most of society. Most college students now want a relationship, but if they are going to pass the classes, they likely will have to forgo dating. As for the non-college young people, they don't really mix gender group anymore. Young romance novels/movies have taught the girls to only want manic pixie dream guys, young men fall subject to anime and games with manic pixie dream girls. Both feeling they deserve better than them in every way without a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 05:04 AM
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Yeah. I mean, the way men and women are raised, what they enjoy, and more leads to different outlooks to everything. But also in how things show up in each gender are misunderstood. For instance, incels hate women for rejecting them and don't put in the effort to get their attention. Femcels on the otherhand are so scared of being used and worried about being good enough. Much like ADHD, it can be seen in boys but not so much in girls, when both boys and girls who have ADHD. Being an older guy, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 04:47 AM
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How is not paying for food a basic human right period? Personally, I haven't tried for sex on the first date and refuse to pay for her on dates too. Don't get mad at me because she still wants sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 02:26 PM
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First, there isn't need for all the name calling. From what I've learned, a lot of these women who are so hateful of men is they are basically incels (femcels). They're afraid of being used, attacked, and not being good enough. They talk shit as a defense mechanism. When you talk to them about how men also don't want to be used and not measuring up, they are going to hate you too. Most of these "attacks" aren't the true. You can see it in all the couples and co-ed friends who get along just fine…
/r/MensRights21/01/25 03:43 AM
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My go to is usually, do you not know any women who demand men buy them stuff or pay for first dates? How about men need to be chivalrous? Would you be willing to date a 4-foot-tall guy? Have you ever been the one to ask out a guy? That isn't men only.
/r/MensRights21/01/25 02:54 AM
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... I mean, if you watch any feminist videos, they will bring it up in some. I believe the "crazy purple haired lady" in the documentary said it if you look for the actual interview.
/r/MensRights19/01/25 05:15 AM
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Because they want men to have the right to have emotions, attempting to get more men into college, raising awareness in men's mental health... Some of their lesser contributions are silly like not shaming men for wearing nail polish and ending stigma around bi men. Could be all lies but then how do they not know men's right's activists aren't lying?
/r/MensRights19/01/25 05:12 AM
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lol I'm 40. I've watched the documentary. If you look into things like child custody laws. Several states push for joint custody. You're the one that doesn't understand how this sub still exists yet thinks all feminists are out to destroy men's rights. After all, men's rights were part of the movement for divorce laws.
/r/MensRights19/01/25 05:06 AM
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Why do you think I put it in quotes?
/r/MensRights19/01/25 05:01 AM
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Some feminists, yes, but not all. For example, some intersectional feminists believe "patriarchy" hurts men too and deserve help, while other intersectional feminists want only women giving more rights or men rights taken away.
/r/MensRights19/01/25 04:22 AM
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Well, this sub has been around how long? But the Red Pill had made some unnecessary accusations. For example, most feminists are for men's partial child custody. It's just the misandrists and extreme feminists who want to take it away from men
/r/MensRights19/01/25 04:17 AM
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Well, it's been my experience. a couple guys did get lawyers who told them not to fight and got a weekend every two weeks. A couple others who did fight did get 3 days a week, though I never asked what they're lawyers said. Then again, every state is different. Nebraska's not the worst on parent custody issues.
/r/MensRights19/01/25 03:54 AM
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Probably because he appeals to incels/men who struggle to be worthy of women. That is in a way pro-men. But I agree he is like most conservatives, feels men should do whatever women want. I watched a recent interview of him, and he said those exact words. It's why he still has some appeal with the left-wing too.
/r/MensRights19/01/25 03:42 AM
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He somewhat does. He did say women wear makeup at work to be, in a way sexualized. Granted, this is because women feel better about themselves by being sexualized.
/r/MensRights19/01/25 03:35 AM
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Easy. Don't say misogynist* things. When discussing things about women, say most or some instead of generalizing women.
/r/MensRights19/01/25 03:31 AM
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It really depends on how it's approached. For example, if the men are being shamed for mental health issues, remind them that everyone has mental health problems from time to time. For women, it's often depression and anxiety. If it's that women have it worse or misogynist, help them understand a lot of it could be out of frustration of being seen as not good enough. I find Dr. K of HealthyGamerGG to be decent at helping men work on becoming better. As for them seeking a therapist, not every the…
/r/MensRights19/01/25 03:09 AM
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I've interacted with several. Use to be left-wing. Most are okay and up for a discussion. I've learned all sorts of tactics about several of their issues. For example, wanting to ban porn or being for sex work. For the screaming ones. These are femcels. They are scared to lose a man yet scared of being taken advantage of. Sometimes it's been best to hear out their fears and explain men aren't as bad as they think or getting them to understand men don't have it easier. Sometimes it also best to w…
/r/MensRights19/01/25 02:01 AM
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I worked in a hospital for 6 months. There wasn't much misandry in the night crew, but a young woman I was friends with said there was a lot during the daytime. Still, I did hear some female nurses talk badly about men. One came out of a patient's room yelling, "Men can't stop touching their dicks." She said this in front of her male nurse supervisor. He proceeded to scold her while she continued to make all men out to be gooners. She got moved to a different wing but really should have been fir…
/r/MensRights19/01/25 01:00 AM
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I can see that. Of the few male therapists, I've had. They often would try siding with women every time. Last one I talked about the man vs bear thing, and he believed women should be less afraid of bears! Though, most of the female therapists I've had, not many were misandrist.
/r/MensRights19/01/25 12:50 AM
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Of the guys friends who didn't get custody, they didn't show up to court. The reason was either they were so depressed over losing their wife or they were told by their own lawyer, they aren't getting anything more than partial custody aka one weekend every two weeks. This was always with a court appointed lawyer. aka A lawyer who doesn't care because they are getting paid the same. I think if men were told to fight, even if the lawyer doesn't want to or pay for a lawyer, the outcomes would be e…
/r/MensRights19/01/25 12:37 AM
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Some issues that prove that it's not being a man makes one suicidal. Sweden did a study on men in the military's height and suicide. In their country, basically all males have to serve. The shorter the men, the more likely they would commit suicide at some point. Also, monks live an average of 5 years longer than average males. There is a lot of evidence that society causes men to die younger. While some men perpetuate lower lifespans on other men, some men know we're in this together. Most wome…
/r/MensRights18/01/25 10:02 PM
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Great points. The only issue I see with nuclear power is that it can be costly/time consuming to install. If the GOP can get regulations change so that these plants don't have to follow new regulations during instillation, our power grid could be so much stronger and cheaper. I'm hoping they do work on it in the next few years as JD Vance did bring it up during his debate against Waltz
/r/MensRights18/01/25 04:29 AM
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I think the democrats know why but can't stop it from happening. Neo-liberals have a playbook on how to talk to different demographics and things not to say. For example, they will never support nuclear energy despite the public being far less scared of it, AI companies using it, and would allow for more working-class jobs. They allow for protesters to control the movement
/r/MensRights18/01/25 02:41 AM
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I feel that know but don't truly care. Young women register to vote at higher rates than men. I would guess this happens because colleges are a good place to recuit new voters. The young woman vote carries more weight. Also, people rarely switch parties. I could be wrong because I switched from Dem to GOP around 2021. They are pandering for now, hoping to attract the young male vote, but will stop caring come 2026 as women live more in the now and won't vote without the reminder.
/r/MensRights18/01/25 02:36 AM
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... I've never figured out how to change this issue. I don't remember the exact percentage, but most college students grew up within 15 miles of the school. While most cities have more young men than women, rural areas are much more male and even further away. Many colleges also have more scholarships for women and minorities. They also have higher student loan debt afterwards. Even if the government created scholarships for men and white people, it would make college more expensive at the cost …
/r/MensRights18/01/25 02:22 AM
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And Sweden pays for all those things. Or maybe I have the wrong European country. Maybe it was the Netherlands. I believe it caps at 3 children though. While that might seem little compared to the US, it's a lot in their country and is why those things are unaffordable in the US. Free daycare, higher education, and higher child tax credits would easily 20x our inflation. Poorer families are struggling now, do you think it wouldn't get harder? Sweden/Netherlands already struggle to have parents s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 01:43 AM
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You are correct to a degree. Increasing a population via immigrants was started under Clinton to offset our decreasing population back then. Immigrants are supposed to have higher birth rates, but they reduce every generation afterwards. Another factor, areas with increased populations ie cities, have increased childlessness. Non-college/secondary educated people tend to have the most children followed by graduate students. Though, education isn't strictly tied to job creation from what I know. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 08:31 PM
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I find it odd when people bring up housing. In the US, increased housing prices has historically been linked to increasing birth rates. Housing also remained pretty low and stable from 2008 to 2020. The current housing market has some froth but it's near enough to the tread line. Also Texas and Florida has been doing well keeping house prices decent. When housing gets to expensive, they remove building requirements. Whereas in California and New York, where they increase building requirements wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 08:18 PM
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I think it was Sweden that has done pretty much everything you mentioned at their birth rate is now 1.25. They basically can't afford to give out more money for children.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 08:09 PM
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Fertility rates are going down in every country. Granted most of Africa is like 6+ but it's declining. Much like developed countries, it's likely due to less need for children as medicine has gotten better and thus, children are dying less often. This happened in the developed countries as well. As a guy, I don't care. It's only hard for the women in these countries. Men die at a younger age, can commit to self-deleting when desired, and women are the primary benefactors of social security. 2.8 …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 02:46 AM
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Right there with you. I've never known someone on our side this dumb. At least if you are into politics, know the data and how to win arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 01:34 AM
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idk If they are shit tests, that gets old so quick.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:00 AM
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Are you college educated yourself? That could be my issue. I've never dated someone with a degree. Nor had any of the couples I knew well had them either. Even the single mother's I dated pushed their kids on my every chance they got and not like, don't you like my kids. More of a, I'm so tired, deal with them. I've only known 1 guy to spend time away from his family outside of work. I always felt he was such a shit dude and told him that a few times, but he'd still try to hang out with me. How …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:56 AM
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These women mostly worked minimum wage jobs. I don't talk about my money with them until we are about 2-months in and discussing living together. I have no idea why they are so materialistic other than having friends with newer, more expensive things. Though, the Gucci bag talk was from my tax attorney who saw my brokerage account info and a co-work who was obsessed with designer stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:42 AM
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Collecting puzzles. Kinda helps with the problem solving and keeping my spatial thinking strong. What else should I spend my time and money on? Alcohol?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:33 AM
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buys "shiny objects"? When did I say that. My pickup is a '99, manual, 4-cylinder. My phone was the cheapest one from Tracfone 4 years ago. My house was built in the 1920s. I rarely have any fancy stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:29 AM
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Interesting that our experiences seem the same. Also, only child. I only have a few beers once a year when the criticizing voices in my head won't stop. Hate doing it too because it's so hard to become productive again. And only 1 close friend. But I'm pretty close with my dad's side of the family (mom's side is almost all dead or second cousin and their kids). I'm not sure about the "hotter" woman thing. The mid ones I've been with were roughly the same. And a few ugly/fat ones also were like a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:19 AM
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lol Beat me to it. I get that the good one is worth finding. But I also hate gambling.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:02 AM
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Is listening to couples on several occasions only surface level? I mean, my dad's side of the family is large, and I hear for them each about once a month. Isn't that how most people learn, from their parents? One couple I lived with for a few months too and man was she worthless. Only worked 3 days a week but called sick once a week and only sat in front of the tv all day every day. Also yelled at him every other day and constantly needed the newest phone, something off QVC, and so much stuff t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 02:40 AM
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Damn. Every comment you made is like a mirror and spot on to my experience. If you don't mind my asking. Do you still try for a relationship or choosing the single life?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 02:30 AM
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Well, I've seen at least 100 couples. Is that only anedotal? I'm not sure how many would take a survey. Though, I'll give, this post gives me a survey. Granted, I don't know how many are actually in a relationship other that those who said they were.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 02:24 AM
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You might be right. Though, I'm not doing any more FWB. I've had idk 3-5 and they all sucked at sex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 02:21 AM
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Demographics? White 5'8" 155 pounds. Nebraskan, though I couldn't find a date to save my life when I was in NYC. Most of the guys were around my same age, white. Though, I do have 3 cousins for examples and 2 of them are in their 50s. One in Maryland, one in Nebraska, one in Texas. Met most of the women online, 2 on dating sites, 1 friend of a friend on FB.1 in Job Corps. 2 in high school, 1 of them I dated several years after. 1 at a dance club. 1 was a friend of a neighbor. 2-3 were friend of …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 02:19 AM
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A couple I knew, the guy worked 2 full time jobs because she wanted to stay home with the only child they had for several years. She'd often get on FB and complain that he couldn't give her money for karaoke every night. Which he would be watching the child then. He also still did all the cooking, mowing, cleaning the gutters...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 02:04 AM
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Maybe for some guys. I don't really do much gaming. I mean, I own a PS2, but I haven't touched it for at least a decade. But like I said, they would work overtime at the job they hated and only got because the job they liked wasn't enough money to take care of them. Just so they can buy some MLM stuff or a new $1000 phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:54 AM
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Willing to be alone because I might be the "problem" but my problems are fine to me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:42 AM
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That might be the case. Just I want next to nothing and the things a lot of guys give are things I would never
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:41 AM
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She's never asked for a new car? Have you given her your old ones or is your relationship less than 10-years long? From what the news and everyone I know usually gets a new car around 7 years. I'm driving a '99 pickup that I've had since 2007. I'll have to be destroyed before I buy another.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:37 AM
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The car was in a 3 year. All the rest were within a few months though. Like, I don't get how a 2-bedroom isn't good enough for two people who don't want kids. And the ones with kids, usually wanted a bigger house than the one they're in. The women who talked to Kevin Samuels are surprisingly common.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:34 AM
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Agreed! I find the whole dom/sub thing so stupid. Like when it comes to dom/sub sex, the dom is doing all the work while the sub doesn't do things they don't want. Feels the opposite to me. It's like women get upset about being sexualized. They can use that as power over a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:28 AM
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How are they worthless? Educate me. I made this post to be educated. I don't know anyone other than the one cousin who isn't in a crappy relationship and doesn't pretend it's not. How do I find money smart women who also gives as much value as she takes?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:23 AM
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I'm thinking you're right. I'm good at making friends, women or men, but I'm honestly happy alone. I was an only child after all
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:11 AM
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RMV? For sure on most of them. I mean, at one of my jobs, I was making $70k a year, those guys made 40k. They were taller but fat, lazy, and complained about everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:07 AM
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lol Thanks. My bad. Idc about high end stuff so I can't bother learning to spell it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:03 AM
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Interesting. A good number have visited my place weekly for the first 3 months. A good number visited my place once during the whole relationship. Splitting the chores only happened in 2 of them. But those were year long or 3 years long. I didn't say all of them were 3 months long.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:00 AM
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If that's the case, then I guess I'm always looking in the wrong places. Not once did I date someone who had even $1000 in savings. Building wealth, become a millionaire by retirement is a goal for me. Almost every one needed money for something and refused to do anything about next time. I didn't pay off my house by being stupid. I could use some help with a couple college classes and bailing me out when I forget my keys in my locked truck, but none of them have been capable, nor do they do any…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 12:54 AM
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I knew about the ex helping with everything and she deserved it. I didn't know about the current wife. Odd that every media outlet doesn't mention anything about her other than she's pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 12:38 AM
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Asking questions. Seeing how they are from the beginning? Seeing their home? I've never had a gf that didn't tell me they loved me within 6 weeks. Only 1 that didn't ask for money within 2 months. Dr. Helen Fisher also believes you can learn a lot about a partner from sex, and I can only think of 1 that didn't have sex with me the first night, and that one still did within a week. I'm also not pestering them for it. Well, since high school. I didn't understand women that well back then. I want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 12:28 AM
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10 where 3 months. One was a year; another was 3 years. I'm also not sure about the "power". Most of these relationships, I had the higher income, net worth, taller, fitter, had fewer kids, had more skills at basically everyway, some I was younger than them... My changes are usually for my desires. Adopting new ways to save money, make more money, work on my health, etc. When I was a young man, I would spend time educating myself to be better at sex and love, but always being better at everythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 12:13 AM
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90% of the time, it was my money to buy them stuff and some other issue. One would yell for not doing what she wanted without thinking about me. For example, After work, she choose what's on tv, which was rarely anything I wanted to watch, I had to hold her the entire time, if for a second I wasn't touching her, she would flip out for at least 5 minutes and she would rarely hold me during this time. I wasn't allowed to do anything else like read a book or something and she also would play match …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 12:04 AM
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It is a compatibility issue for sure. Though, I've never met irl a woman who is working on building wealth. Makes sense as men typically have a higher net worth than women... at least until 55 or something like that. Which I think is due to widowers benefits but I could be wrong. Source: https://wallethacks.com/average-net-worth-by-age-americans/ I have in previous relationships bent the knee on some issues, but the happiness doesn't stick around long. Often offering some exchange that I don't c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:59 AM
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A good man prioritizes his wife’s desires above his. Let her take the lead if she wants. This is kind of what I was talking about. You put her before yourself. Doing all this for a woman but all she has to do is "respect" you. Not my cup of tea. If being a man is just being better than her yet doing whatever she wants, why would anyone want a drag on their life? In your analogy, she best load that 22 if she wants me to kill the spider, or other way around. No free lunch here
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:46 AM
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Winner take all isn't what I want and it's been annoying how often I and guys I've known to be on the opposite side. I'm just wondering how common is an equal or close to equal relationship. A different cousin has pretty equal, but she picked that. I think most women are willing to have that. Perhaps I'm blind to the woman's side. I'm sure some people could point to Jeff Bazo's ex-wife, but she did make out with a large sum of money. His new woman seems to offer nothing but looks, though, I coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:11 AM
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Well, in the relationship, I left once I saw how they acted. There's been a lot of bullets I've dodged by not dating them in the first place. Issue is, I don't believe I could choose better. Like better doesn't exist. Thus, maybe I shouldn't be looking in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:01 AM
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Basically, yeah. Demanding money for jewelry, cars, bigger houses, new phones, more video subscriptions, etc. Demands can be other things as well like men doing most if not all the housework, moving cities, paying for the household while she works less/stops working...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:58 AM
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lol I bet the gfs/wifes also still see their friends. Like drags him along but she refuses to see his friends. I've read and can see that is why men have so much fewer friends than women. Granted women sometimes loss friends after partnering up too, but it's less common
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:53 AM
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A bit hyperbolic of me. More or less I meant having demands unmet. I should have phrased it better. But I've known some guys to actually make sacrifices for their spouses. Like working overtime at a job they hated which was given to the wife's shopping addictions or taking out their life savings to buy her jewelry.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:49 AM
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The caveat is, You have to be the person you want to be with. If you are abusive, argumentative, neurotic, and always getting butthurt over stupid little things you can't demand someone who is not like that. If you have anger issues, deal with them. Is that a reflection on me because that seems out of nowhere. Though, I know I am pretty argumentative and maybe neurotic. Definitely not any anger issues. Plus, one of the prompts said I should be involved in the debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:44 AM
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Someone pointed that out. Kind of my fault there. I goggled are men or women more willing to move for a relationship and the AI said it and gave links, but I never bothered to read the links. I did this about 2 days ago because a YouTuber said women moved more, but I've known far more men to move. Now it says something slightly different. Maybe I did some further googling into just the USA or something. I wished I kept the link or something
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:38 AM
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lol When I did all that, I'd pull more attractive women, but they were just as demanding. In 2022, I told a girl that was interested in me that my house was paid off, and I didn't have home insurance because I had 60k in stocks. She told me that wasn't enough for a new house if something happened. I shrugged and said downpayment on one. Then she started yelling at me about the importance of insurance. The next year, I moved to NYC and my tax attorney was telling me, if I had a partner, I should …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:32 AM
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I haven't dug much into it because I only googled "are men or women more willing to move for a relationship" a few days ago. But the AI said, "According to recent surveys, men tend to more willing to move for a relationship... Somewhere on the page it said women do it for their career (makes sense with more female college graduates), family (can't tell you how many women I've known demand to live within 15 miles of their parents), and community (NYC is filled with women who weren't born there so…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:12 AM
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I'm saying if joined finances, if separate, then of course the door first, if she's got her half.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:09 AM
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Well, another ex ate only candy and a dinner of starch and meat. She would cook separate meals for me, then complained about how long it took. Then I started cooking for myself, but she complained about how she still didn't feel I was doing my share of chores which was pretty evenly split. As proof, she would also praise me for helping with dusting/spring cleaning and cooking during the holidays.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:07 AM
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Not getting new stuff all the time? Not sacrifices per se, but demands unmet
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:56 AM
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True, but even in my 3-year relationship, she still wanted it daily if not more. For a year of it she would yell at me for not lasting for 4 hours. Also research above
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:49 AM
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I mean, don't most couple ride together when out on a date, going to the airport, etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:47 AM
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But can you really have a backbone and find a wife/ltr?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:42 AM
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Because my cousin was willing to accept that. Like dear lord. Can your standards be any lower?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:41 AM
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Sex is really important to men. Most? Some? Can't be all because I'm fine with using porn instead. Less negotiations and more freedom
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:40 AM
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hmmm... That's an interesting idea. Maybe a lot of guys still have this addiction into middle age. I mean, I still like sex daily, and can go more rounds than my younger self, but my drive for a partner and sex has decreased a lot since my 20s. I'm thinking this is common, but maybe less so for some. Maybe those few are still craving it constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:37 AM
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Receipts on what?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:25 AM
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lol Kind of why I'm thinking I shouldn't date. I was being equalitarian in my relationships, but if I need to change, I'm throwing in the towel
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:24 AM
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Really? I imagined women are making sacrifices/compromises on their careers and such because they really wanted kids. Staying home because they don't want to work. With moving, most couples I've known, if they moved, it was 9/10 because the wife/gf wanted to. My last relationship, I brought up that I might have to move after college and while she said she wouldn't mind after her mom died (stage 4 cancer), but whenever I brought it up, she would basically have a panic attack. Also, data? https://…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:19 AM
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Your "Boomer" brother is what confuses me. Like, if he hates her so much, why doesn't he leave? Is he so co-dependent or is that what's the only options and you just see it differently than him? Also Glad you have a TMNT arcade. I have a Transformers collection that I have sitting in my dining/random room. I would never have it any other place. Also have a massage table and dance pole, but that's neither here or there.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:13 AM
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I've had a few options in between, but I'm not interested in gold digging mother of 2 with her tubes tied, a bitter 500-pound woman in her 60s, or being yelled at for talking to another woman by someone who maxed out all her credit cards
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:07 AM
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lol I don't know how that would work in most of my relationships. When they cooked, they most of the time didn't care what it was. If I cooked, they still wouldn't have gave a F****
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:01 AM
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https://www.lendingtree.com/home/mortgage/survey-moving-for-love/#:\~:text=budget%20when%20buying.%E2%80%9D-,Men%20are%20more%20likely%20to%20move%20for%20love%20than%20women,years%20prior%20to%20their%20move.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:57 AM
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Yep. Also, if we were living together, is replacing the door or the heater in the truck a "me" topic? I mean it would be our house and heating bill. She would have to deal with no heat when we ride together in the truck.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:56 AM
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normal no. But I'm starting to think the bar is in hell for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:53 AM
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That's what I'm trying to understand. Like, is there so few men out there with a backbone? Women must like that to some degree with how many are getting partnered up. The guys will also say they have a backbone, it's just they don't care about all these issues leaving me wondering what they do care about other than getting sex/a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:52 AM
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Ofcouse. I told her within the first few times. All the meals I made had them too. Like stuffed peppers and sometimes we had side salads. Until she started cooking...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:45 AM
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It's strange. I hear this from several women, including most of my exes, but then they pull the Uno reverse card
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:41 AM
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I would agree. But, I think it was liberals or historians, I've heard say that relationships are based on what men are willing to give to women and if women will accept it. In ancient times, men would fight for them, in the past few centuries it was pay for them, now might be submission.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:39 AM
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Yeah. But they act like it's the best way to live. Like my cousin is in a 2-year relationship with a 600-pound stay at home wife. They don't have kids at home. He isn't asking for her to stay home either. She's just given up on life. They haven't had sex for over a year either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:35 AM
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There's been a host of things they wanted. Usually around money issues. Like repainting the house, buying a new car when their car is good and only owned for a few years, a bigger house for zero reason, moving to a different city with higher costs of living, changing from gas heating to electric...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:32 AM
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Idk From what research I've found, it's the guy moving for the woman. Afterall, women care about their community, family, and career. Men typically have much more flexibility in work so moving doesn't matter much. As for the stuff like libido, every partner I've had wanted it more or just as much as I did. If they were lying, they know I'd be fine with jacking it instead, so that's on them. We split the chores evenly (even when I worked more hours). Never had kids, I'm not wanting them now, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:27 AM
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tbh, probably close to a roommate with benefits lol Just someone to split the bills and chores with. Maybe discuss personal life decisions with like should I buy this new stock or another of a stock that's been doing well? Should I choose this career path or stay on the one I'm on? Should we replace this door that has a leak or get the heating in my truck repaired?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:14 AM
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First, I've heard the author* on some podcasts. That hasn't been my issue. For example: I've laid rules with partners. They would say they respected it. But would still do it. Then I would break up with them They would cry and beg for me to be with them again, only to do break my rules again. tbh, I've been the one to end the relationship far more often. Second, I've heard this line of thinking with several other couples. He does what she wants. These situations, the guys will say they were fine…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:02 AM
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I mean for "not deal breakers" like what's for dinner. 2. As for "The relationship will end", I've known couples, myself included where the woman will do what she wants against the man's will and the man will break it off. aka the man has a deal breaker
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:57 AM
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Yeah, 12 is above the average for a person, but I mean, often I had at least a year between and a few months ago was the first since 2014. Before any asks, yes. We broke up over the election
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:52 AM
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That reminds me of the last relationship I had. I wanted to eat healthy and didn't mind cooking when she came to my house. After a while, she insisted on cooking, but every meal consisted of no veggies and sometimes she would bring stuff like donuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:45 AM
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Well, one example I have talked to people about is, if she wants a Guggi purse. I'd rather buy her a Walmart purse and put the rest into stocks. It's the same reason I prefer 50/50 or each paying every other on dates. I've known guys whose wives wanted new cars, and rather than repair all the problems, which is cheaper, they give in and buy the car. If she wants a 4-bedroom house when it will only ever be the 2 of them, the guy will buy the house. Another couple, the woman wanted to move to a di…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:42 AM
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