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The desire for pain or hardship stems from your recognition that you've been weak. So put it to work in getting strong.
/r/askMRP25/09/18 07:23 AM
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No one can answer that question for you, bro, you're on your own. But your life hinges on how you deal with it.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 08:41 PM
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Gotta agree: Alcohol is the most dangerous.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 05:54 PM
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Dude, your rejection was a success. You tried. Even Jose Altuve only gets a hit a third of the time.
/r/askTRP20/09/18 12:34 PM
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Once you reach the state where one of the partners feels they have to play "marriage police" (see Chumplady), it's too late - the trust is gone and the relationship is toast.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 06:07 AM
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Nice summary, thanks. Peterson is interesting on his own terms, even if I agree with most of your critique. But I respect him primarily because he's one of the few public intellectuals to fight back against the politically correct assault on language and culture.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/18 09:14 AM
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The Stoics and Buddhists agree: Attachment is the cause of suffering.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 07:13 AM
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I hope that none of that happens. If it does, and you take your own life, you will have been in good company; it's too common an ending for wounded men. (See Rollo's Book II). Better that we accept reality, follow our missions and make ourselves the best we can. If you enjoy the ride with a clear-eyed view of what the future might hold, perhaps you won't be so badly hurt IF it comes to pass. And then you'll still be around for those little guys you love so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 06:42 AM
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I honestly do not know why men put up with witches. Perhaps they only become witches when you've surrendered. I never made a conscious decision to start acting like a pussy; one day I looked at myself and did not like what I saw. I tried to fix it, but it was too late.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 06:13 AM
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In other words, you become a more attractive beta when you take a Western salary, etc., to a poorer country; but you're not an alpha there if you're not an alpha here.
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 07:19 AM
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Your wife will respect you - sorry, be awestruck - if you eat the gift brought by the cat.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 02:25 PM
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Wait, file a complaint? Doesn't that justify the "fragile masculinity" label that's got your knickers in a knot to begin with?
/r/askTRP14/09/18 05:27 AM
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Funny, I regularly see the opposite, especially with Americans and Brits: A fairly good-looking guy tied to an overweight, unattractive woman. In those cases, I assume the guy just doesn't appreciate his own SMV.
/r/askTRP13/09/18 08:12 AM
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It's not that you have to be willing to walk away; sometimes you have to walk away.
/r/askMRP06/09/18 11:50 AM
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Dude, if you've not had sex with your wife in four years, you're not in a marriage, you're in a dependency. She's just waiting for you to get the message and go.
/r/askMRP06/09/18 08:02 AM
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A lot of gold in here, particularly the message that marriage is "a game where you are tested each and every day, to the grave" and the imperative "to withstand the barrage of signs and support that is directly aimed at getting you to become a complacent (numb) man." But while it is perhaps true that "marriage changes nothing," making babies changes EVERYTHING. With the arrival of your little bundle of joy, there are things that men cannot or should not do, things that belong to mom; and while y…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 02:34 PM
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A good story, well-told. She's just your wife, it's not like you own her. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 09:36 AM
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OP, there's a simple rule for people in your situation: She comes first. Use your mouth, your tongue, your fingers, etc., so that even if you don't last as long as you want, she'll get her jollies. And that will take the stress off of you. In fact, you might both find that you prefer it that way. Plenty of women do.
/r/askTRP03/09/18 06:04 AM
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Heh, beat me to it. Sometimes blood relatives are responsible for the harshest betrayals.
/r/askTRP29/08/18 08:35 AM
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She hates that I go to the gym, that I meditate, am busy much of the time and that I spend time with my kids. Dude? Why in the fuck are you even THINKING of making something permanent out of this?
/r/askMRP29/08/18 08:23 AM
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Try this book, which helped me think straight about drinking: https://thisnakedmind.com/ Good luck, alcohol is the cause of probably more stupid man behavior than anything else but pussy.
/r/askTRP28/08/18 10:22 AM
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Learn a foreign language. Learn a musical instrument. Learn statistics. Learn a martial art. Not dicking around, do all of these things like you mean them, learn them for life. You'll go far.
/r/askTRP28/07/18 03:20 AM
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The stay plan and the go plan are the same: Improve yourself. The kids are for life, but she's just your wife, it's not like you own her.
/r/askMRP22/07/18 03:41 AM
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Holy Crap...
/r/askMRP14/07/18 07:26 AM
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Try to see yourself as a three-year-old kid in an adult's body having a tantrum and imagine what that looks like to the people around you: complete self-destruction of your frame. Hard to pull off in the heat of the moment, but effective if you do.
/r/askMRP14/07/18 07:20 AM
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If you are still caught in the anger phase or you identify as an incel then you need to do something about that rather than embracing it as it is a dead end. You may as well shake your fist at the thunder or hate female spiders for consuming the males during or after copulation. Just be glad you are not a male spider. This was, for me, the hardest thing to take on board, but it's the truth. Great post. Sorry to see you go, Will - you're probably the most level-headed commenter in the bunch, and …
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 07:11 AM
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Gold. Take this reply to heart.
/r/askTRP14/07/18 06:46 AM
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Fun and natural way to dread: Find a class of some kind where you learn something that increases your culture level/attractiveness/employability/etc even as you meet new and potentially interesting people.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 09:42 AM
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Excellent point. When you obsess about revenge, you're basically giving the object of your anger and hatred a lot of space in your head that would better be served by fixing yourself.
/r/askTRP12/07/18 09:30 AM
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Heartbreaking. My advice, operating from the assumption that you WANT to give her a chance, 1) Find out from a lawyer what your options are - but don't take any action until you've thought it through. 2) Gym every day. Be selfish about improving yourself: This is not a covert contract, it's about YOU. 2) Ask yourself if you could endure the suffering needed to try and salvage this; it's no joke, your mental health is on the line, and this is where guys in our situation end up offing themselves. …
/r/askTRP12/07/18 09:18 AM
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Obviously, he did this as an attempt to mock me,disrespect me, and just make me feel shitty. I stayed calm, kept dialing, then went for a quick walk when I had the chance to step out. I did not break my frame and blow up. Sounds like you really latched on to a doozy. On the bright side it sounds to me like this guy may be solving your problem for you; he's ego-invested in her, even though he doesn't see it that way. Just smile, stay away from her and STFU and maybe he'll be the one to take the f…
/r/askTRP12/07/18 08:56 AM
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What //microgum// said. Plus, be polite and professional, but don't make her part of your social life.
/r/askTRP11/07/18 11:11 AM
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Here's the actual JAMA study: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/2526639 In this nationally representative survey of adults in the United States, the age-adjusted prevalence of obesity in 2013-2014 was 35.0% among men and 40.4% among women. The corresponding values for class 3 obesity were 5.5% for men and 9.9% for women. For women, the prevalence of overall obesity and of class 3 obesity showed significant linear trends for increase between 2005 and 2014; there were no significan…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 11:06 AM
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Well said.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 10:52 AM
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Here's a possible place to start, point blank: "Do you not feel capable of stopping our daughter from tearing up books? Why is that? How can I help you to build the necessary backbone?"
/r/askMRP07/07/18 12:07 PM
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I feel your pain (see my post here https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8142dt/divorced_rp_after_50/ ) And see this on the reality of Tinder etc for men https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a - and they're not even addressing what it's like for older guys. I'm approaching 55 and my experience with dating apps was extremely depressing, ie, few matches, none that I wanted to see…
/r/askMRP07/07/18 11:07 AM
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"So me in a cracked up beta voice calmly tell her that I was first and she looks at me like I’m crazy. Gives me a sassy ‘I’m sorry’ and lets me order." That didn't hurt, did it? Next time it will feel more natural. But even if you sound goofy, you have to stand up for yourself.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/18 10:51 AM
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Alternate title: "An Incel's Guess of How Love Works."
/r/TheRedPill07/07/18 10:48 AM
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Be friendly, say "Hi" without doing anything that could remotely be construed as creepy. If they're responsive, take it from there. If not, absolutely ignore them; like the man said, "Gym is church."
/r/askTRP07/07/18 10:44 AM
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Only the USA, among advanced economies, doesn't have a reasonable national healthcare system, so if your partner is losing it and needs to be put in a constant-care situation, you're faced with running out your assets completely to take care of them and living on in utter poverty after they're long gone. Perverse incentives at work here.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/18 09:24 AM
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I wondered about this, too - see my post on the subject here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8142dt/divorced_rp_after_50/ Ultimately, I think it better to stick with MRP than try to start a new sub, and TRP skews way too young and inexperienced.
/r/askMRP04/07/18 06:23 PM
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I don't mean this in a mean way, but you don't how LTRs work. "Till death to us part" means, until you get fat, fall into depression, start drinking, lose my job, and so on.
/r/askTRP04/07/18 01:30 PM
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What this guy said.
/r/askTRP04/07/18 09:26 AM
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These things all make great sense, but it's tricky to understand that it's happening to you in real time, precisely because it's manipulation. If you 1) feel like shit about the relationship but can't figure out why; 2) find yourself angry or anxious for seemingly no reason; or 3) don't understand what she's up to, you're probably a victim and should get the toxic person out of your life.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/18 06:12 AM
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If only someone like Rollo had written about this: https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/
/r/askTRP01/07/18 06:00 AM
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Probably, from what I know of women, the single biggest turnoff you can bring to a new babe. Learn from your breakup, but talk about it only with other men or your mom.
/r/askTRP01/07/18 05:59 AM
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This works, too. A little extreme for most people.
/r/askTRP01/07/18 05:56 AM
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A quick search on the Google yields these: Guatemala, sweet climate, nice Spanish accent. https://www.ytravelblog.com/how-to-choose-a-spanish-school-in-guatemala/ Ecuador - you can go to Montañita and spend half your time studying and the other half surfing. http://www.montanitaspanishschool.com
/r/askTRP01/07/18 05:55 AM
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Go to Guatemala or Ecuador and enroll in a 9-week intensive Spanish course. Cheap and massively boosts your worldliness and career potential.
/r/askTRP30/06/18 02:48 PM
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And get a paternity test.
/r/askMRP30/06/18 02:45 PM
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Thanks for posting. Interesting history.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/18 06:19 PM
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This post belongs under the category of people who haven't read the sidebar.
/r/askTRP29/06/18 08:06 AM
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I feel like people are way overthinking this crap. You're not going to find the answer in a pill or a self-help book, or in talking with a therapist. The answer is that you go out and take risks, and prove to yourself that you're a man. Depending on who you are it might mean, what, you join the Marines? Go work a year in a hospital in some godforsaken shithole country saving lives? Run a marathon? Sacrifice and bust your ass to get an education beyond what normies get? Something that requires gu…
/r/askTRP29/06/18 08:04 AM
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You know how you get over self-worth issues? By proving your worth, to yourself and others. If you spend your entire life without ever taking any risks, all your time in mom's basement playing videogames, never seeing what you might make of yourself, you'll never get over it. "I could have done if only X...", "Had I had been born with X I would have...", no, that's bullshit. You do the best you can with what you've got.
/r/askTRP28/06/18 05:53 AM
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She goes from 0 to 100 saying how she feels trapped now, can't wait to divorce me, etc... . Basically attempts to pass shit/compliance tests are responded with anger, yelling, and in some cases violence (hittimg me/throwing things). Remind us why you're trying to save this?
/r/askMRP27/06/18 03:18 PM
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You've lost your mom to death and girlfriend to hypergamy. Those two things are all mixed up in your head now. Untangling them isn't easy, I can say from my own experience, but it's important to at least grasp that you're not just messed up over the woman. For me it was making music, hanging with friends and loved ones that got me through. And lifting and exercising.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 06:58 AM
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It's simple, even if it's not easy.
/r/askMRP25/06/18 08:38 PM
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I feel guilty. This is my fault for sucking ass as a husband, for not being a leader, for being unattractive. But I also don't know how if I can proceed. WTF are you talking about? Not your fault. She's just your wife, it's not like you own her. Get lawyered up and leave with your head held high.
/r/askMRP25/06/18 08:36 PM
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You might think about STARTING with this: https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/
/r/askMRP25/06/18 07:18 PM
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Change her name in your phone contacts to "Do Not Answer". Good idea. Other possibilities: "Liar Alert", "Psychopath", "Danger."
/r/askMRP25/06/18 07:15 PM
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The anger will ease with time. For now, do a google search for going gray rock: Minimal contact/no emotional communication.
/r/askMRP25/06/18 04:39 PM
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You are confused. Look at these mutually exclusive statements: My intention is to go no contact with her outside of logistics. I care for her and would like to reconcile. Then think about those in light of this: She had expressed a desire to remain friends but she also explicitly stated that there was no chance of us being together again. She's already accused you of DV. What more does she have to do for you to get the message that it's over?
/r/askMRP25/06/18 04:37 PM
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Nietzche called it "the eternal wound of existence." Nothing unnatural about it, everyone experiences it. People who deny the existence of this emptiness usually deal with it with drugs, alcohol, mindless pursuits (sports, videogames, television, social media, etc). A stoic approach would be to accept it is there and get on with your life.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 12:37 PM
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Certainly not worth getting in a fight with some loser; better to run. But if he represents a real threat, there are cops.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 08:07 AM
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Does anyone have any recommendations on specifically removing the need for sex? No, healthy humans have healthy sex drives: As a living organism, you are driven to seek reproduction.
/r/askMRP24/06/18 02:49 PM
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If she knew it wasn't cool with you for her to go without you, and she chose to ignore that, why do you even need our validation?
/r/askTRP24/06/18 02:44 PM
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I agree with MrChad - because I went through this exactly, allowing my fitness to decline as I enabled her life choices. She ended up getting out of the rut and worked on herself, even as I continued unattractive. Were you able to guess that she swung branches next? It sounds counterintuitive at first, but if you want her on board, you have to raise YOUR attractiveness. Maybe - maybe - she'll follow. The stay plan is the same as the go plan.
/r/askMRP23/06/18 08:43 AM
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So you've decided to obsess about an area in which you don't max out the conventional standards of attractiveness. That energy might be better spent doing the best with what you do have.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 02:11 PM
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This crap makes for a toxic workplace, and the facts of life being what they are, women can get away with it and you can't. What you absolutely should not do is descend to her level. Maintain strict professional demeanor when you MUST deal with her; when you don't have to, ignore her. Hopefully she'll get herself fired by going too far with someone who has the power to get rid of her.
/r/askTRP22/06/18 01:33 PM
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Here's what my dad used to say when confronted with a fuckwit who got up in his face to talk politics: "Is that right?" "You don't say," shaking his head. "Wow, that's something else."
/r/askMRP20/06/18 02:14 PM
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This.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 11:23 AM
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Be polite, casual, don't invest an ounce of interest.
/r/askTRP19/06/18 11:20 AM
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Wrong sub.
/r/askTRP19/06/18 10:56 AM
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STFU sounds like a good start. Keep reading and working on you. And remember, she's just your wife; it's not like you own her.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 06:00 AM
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Reading fiction is the easiest way to make gains in so-called emotional IQ, because you're seeing the world from someone else's point of view. Think of it as de-sperglerization.
/r/askTRP18/06/18 05:56 AM
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Agree, except "We should see other people" means, "I'm seeing other people."
/r/askTRP16/06/18 03:32 PM
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Yeah, where's your data?
/r/askTRP13/06/18 05:04 PM
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Troll?
/r/askTRP13/06/18 07:13 AM
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This brings up a very important point, because birds of a feather flock together. If your wife's best friend was fucking their chiropractor and your wife didn't have a problem with it, you may well have a wife who is fucking the chiropractor and doesn't have a problem with it. And tell your friend to sue that chiropractor for every penny he has.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 10:23 AM
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I'm 22 -turning 23 shortly, and am living at home with my parents. This is a lot of victim puke for such a simple situation. When there is someone in your life (in this case, your mom) who is exercising a toxic influence on you, do whatever you have to get out. Escape to where? To any place where you have to be a man by owning your circumstances. And here's an important warning: When you're entering relationships with women down the line, watch out that you don't end up with someone exactly like…
/r/askTRP11/06/18 10:12 AM
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Ghosting, sadly, is impossible when a kid is involved. 50 percent custody means communicating with the ex Every.Damn.Day. ChumpLady recommends going "gray rock." Basically, you never share your emotions with her again.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 07:13 AM
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Looks like this is where you're confused. Think of boundaries as expressions of your WILL. When you don't enforce them, you dishonor yourself.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 08:29 PM
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Hear, for the voice of experience speaks.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 08:27 PM
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Very dangerous view. As RedPilledRooster said above, "Don’t sperg out."
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 07:57 AM
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MuhTriggersGuise is making a big leap, but it's definitely within the realm of the possible. She might well have shagged him and is now projecting on you. You can't know and you can't do anything about it. The worst thing would be to think that you somehow own her; after all, she's just your wife. As we say here, the stay plan is the same as the go plan. STFU and work on yourself.
/r/askMRP09/06/18 07:43 AM
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Sounds like YOU are HER plate. The opposite of traditional RP. Whatever works for you though.
/r/askTRP09/06/18 07:36 AM
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First thought: What a sad beginning to life. Second thought: Good that you're aware of it, but nothing you can do about it, counseling, witch-doctoring, whatever. JoATMoN9 is right.
/r/askMRP08/06/18 12:07 PM
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But absolutely critical to YOUR allocation of attention and resources.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 11:46 AM
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“Women don’t owe you sex!” Correct. They do not. But the flip side is that you don’t owe women your time, attention or resources, either. I don't do gold, but if I did I would for this.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 05:22 AM
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Yeah, you look great in your wig until a strong wind comes along and blows it half off and you collapse into pool of humiliation. Women love it when you do that. Perhaps, if you wore funky wigs and openly joked about it. Otherwise, no. And my guess is that if you go without wiping your ass very long, you'll start again for obvious reasons whether or not anyone knows or cares about it.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 05:18 AM
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Wearing a wig shows that you care too much what other people think and leaves you dangerously insecure. Same as the doofuses who, faced with balding, adopt the "bar-code" look, combing over a few strands of hair, imagining that others are fooled. Hell, why not also get pec and ab implants instead of putting in time at the gym? No. True confidence only comes when you decide to be a man, accept your fate, and do the best with what you've got. Shave it or trim it short.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 04:44 AM
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Weed is a buffer, like porn, alcohol and videogames.
/r/askTRP06/06/18 05:55 AM
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I've been going through the same crap. A few thoughts: 1) It sounds perfectly normal to me. Your old life, the life you thought was forever, is over, and you haven't fully adapted to the new life. 2) This is not about women, it's about you. You are in a period of enormous potential growth, take advantage of it! Don't worry about the end result, just take your time to think, read, love your kids. Of course lift, and consider combat sports, too, but - and I think this often gets short shrift here …
/r/askMRP05/06/18 09:14 AM
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88Will88, as usual, is right. In any case, sex is women's ultimate manipulation tool. She's inviting you back into her frame. If your relationship is already in flames, you'll just be extending the agony.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 07:07 AM
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Sure sounds like you're being played by a cheater. Do not invest a single dime more in this relationship for now. Step back - ie, go very limited contact, no dating, no sex, no emotional Q-tip - and see what happens.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 07:01 AM
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First off, you're doing the right thing, you're working on you. That is the most important thing. Stick with that, go to the maximum, not just in the gym but with learning and growing; you may discover that things come around. If not, you gave her a chance.
/r/askMRP03/06/18 06:57 AM
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LOL. Facebook, enabling betas since 2004.
/r/askTRP01/06/18 07:32 AM
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Delete your FB account.
/r/askTRP31/05/18 08:46 AM
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Er, I think the dread is all coming from her, bro. She will never tell you more clearly than this that the relationship is finished.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 08:11 AM
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Did you mean for this to be posted on TRP? I think you might have meant it to go to one of the incel subs.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/18 08:05 AM
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EQ doesn't actually exist either, so there's that.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/18 10:59 AM
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I just went through this. There's nothing you can do about her shit-talking. You're going to find that people you think are your friends aren't. Others will rally to you. Try to take the high ground, STFU and work on you.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 03:59 PM
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A dating event overseas. Without you. I see. Life is way too short for you to be twisting yourself up in knots over something like this. Tell her to move her shit out before she goes and don't let it turn into a big drawn-out drama. Or wait till she's gone and do it for her.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 01:47 PM
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Immediately remove all soy from your diet. Oh, and remember Iron Rule of Tomassi #7: "It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was."
/r/TheRedPill25/05/18 07:20 AM
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It's not just young men and unattractive young women. I mentioned this in my post on "Divorced RP after 50." There are lots of studly-looking 30-something guys who swipe right on everything on Tinder, picking the low-hanging fruit of 50-plus women.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 07:50 AM
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My gift is not a loan, always a gift. "If the day ever comes that you can repay it, then pay it back on to someone that needs it." Nice.
/r/askMRP24/05/18 07:41 AM
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UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES DO I EVER OFFER FINANCIAL HELP. A friend of mine follows a version of this rule, in that he never offers LOANS. But he does help when his family or friends have a legitimate need for it: He figures out how much he can spare and he gives a gift. That way, though there's a sense of obligation - no small thing, of course - there's no chance of a loan burdening and/or destroying the relationship.
/r/askMRP23/05/18 06:49 AM
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Evola is a nazi. Not sure what that ideology has to do with sexual strategy.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/18 06:03 AM
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Or maybe she won't change. Doesn't sound to me like she's adding sufficient value - not enough sex, extremely annoying demands for constant validation - to waste much more time on. As they say, the stay plan is the same as the go plan.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 07:36 PM
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Yep, covert contract, ReddJive nails it again.
/r/askMRP16/04/18 06:08 PM
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This is an important post, because many of us have been there, are there, or eventually going there. We may not all be blubbering in front of our exes and the kids, but we all feel it. Brother, your marriage is over; it's not coming back. You will not get any distance, let alone monk mode, until you grasp that. As soon as you do, your life will improve rapidly, and you'll better start to understand what happened to get you to this point. And that's when you'll find peace.
/r/askMRP15/04/18 04:50 PM
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Problem 1: Wife brings up divorce every week or two. If you haven't seen a lawyer yet and sorted it all out you're about to have your world blown up. This relationship is toast, and you're in denial. Edit: FoxShitNasty83 has a point re possible outcomes. I think his Outcome A is very unlikely, but it's possible. You should assume Outcome B. Outome A - you show her the divorce papers and call her out. She back tracks and shuts the fuck up about it for good. Stfu carry on. Outcome B - she signs th…
/r/askMRP10/04/18 06:59 AM
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HB10 - you find them on the bell curve, waaaaaaay out on the right edge...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/18 09:02 AM
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All of the above. Plus whenever you start feeling sorry for yourself, sit down in a dark room and listen to Gabriel Fauré 's Requiem.
/r/askMRP06/04/18 06:14 AM
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on the reg Damn good response. And that list of red flags...
/r/askMRP04/04/18 08:01 AM
1

But my dilemma is whether I owe it to her and the kids to give it another shot. They didn’t get the best of me when we were together, so now that I’m getting my shit together part of me thinks that I owe it to my family to try again. The kids are happier now and I'm a better father than I've ever been, but part of everyone's misery before was my drunkenness at the helm. I fully understand that you would consider trying again for the sake of the kids. But I have to agree with ReddJive and Rollo o…
/r/askMRP04/04/18 07:55 AM
1

In your situation I'd press the charges, unless it would irreparably fuck up the kids lives. I cannot believe that she'd get hard time, but she would get grounds for thinking twice about harassing you again.
/r/askMRP29/03/18 11:34 AM
3

I bought this book, it's great.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 07:33 PM
1

I was in this situation, as I wrote about here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/8142dt/divorced_rp_after_50/ The good news is that the logical part of your brain completely gets that it's over, even if you aren't yet ready to deal with it emotionally. That will come.
/r/askMRP26/03/18 03:50 PM
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Great post, sidebar material, even. I would add one other rule, perhaps under the rubric of red flags: Do NOT marry an ambitious career woman. Regardless of your AF/BB status, you are just a stool for her to stand on as she climbs.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/18 07:17 AM
1

Wanted to downvote as soon as I saw the subject line, but waited till I'd read the post.
/r/askMRP24/03/18 03:01 PM
1

Funny, I'd been thinking how this topic is so important to MRP, yet so infrequently addressed. I wanted to share this from a book about controlling your drinking, called "This Naked Mind." Allen Carr, an author and addiction expert best known for helping smokers overcome nicotine addiction, uses a perfect analogy for how addiction works: the pitcher plant. This analogy is powerful, both in making sense of addiction in your conscious mind and in reconditioning your unconscious mind. Have you hear…
/r/askMRP23/03/18 07:41 AM
1

Alcohol is a poison. Here's the science about what it does to you: https://pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/Hangovers/beyondHangovers.pdf. Excessive alcohol consumption/alcoholism is also a contributing factor to divorce. Think about it, once you get drunk you stop having frame, you stop being able to understand your wife's signals, you start failing tests. Moderation is essential, or if you can't handle that, cold turkey.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 07:38 AM
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I agree it's all there, but you can't just walk away from marriage and kids the way you can "next" a girlfriend in whom you've not invested much. It's this investment that simultaneously shackles you and clouds your judgment, even as you tell yourself how great it is that you're sacrificing this and that for the sake of your family.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/18 10:06 AM
1

When they find new cock, their hamster starts rationalizing how you are the bad guy. That’s most likely what’s happening. Sadly, this is the way it works. Who got her pregnant?
/r/askMRP17/03/18 06:53 AM
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You may have wondered why there is so much talk of women wanting guys to "open up" and "share their feelings"? This is the female imperative at work, the more accurate her psychological model of you, then the easier it is for her to manipulate you..." Perceptive point. Precisely why marriage counseling is often rigged to screw over the poor sap who goes in with his wife thinking the point is to solve relationship issues.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/18 04:18 PM
2

Maybe you guys are right, but this has been my (unscientific) observation so far - older women seem just as entitled as younger women, and they have a constant stream of dating app suitors. And commitment doesn't have the same meaning to a post-childbearing/post-childrearing aged woman as it does to a younger one. Maybe some of the other post-50 guys can weigh in with their observations.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/18 07:41 AM
1

Good advice from Screechhater: Drawing a boundary is something that you should do only after serious reflection, and only if you're prepared to enforce it. The one you're talking about carries a real risk that you'll have to escalate from arguing over a couple of texts to walking away permanently; indeed, if she's lying about her contacts with him it might be entirely justified, but it's not something you want to stumble into blindly. Of course not enforcing the boundaries you set will just make…
/r/askMRP03/03/18 07:27 AM
1

I'm definitely well above average in fitness and muscle for my age, though I don't get the bulk like I used to. Definitely need to clean up my diet.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 10:17 PM
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Thanks. This is what I should have spent more effort trying to communicate. When it's time to go, you have to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 10:15 PM
1

The path is the same, I agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 03:48 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 03:47 PM
1

Thanks, going through it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 10:13 AM
2

Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:55 AM
1

Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:53 AM
1

Thanks, I can't deny my cucktime. As for the saving your marriage advice, I stand by it, even if my advice on HOW to do it is, you know, worthless...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:52 AM
1

Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:51 AM
1

Maybe the volunteer military guys are just naturally the more risk-taking, harder-living people (by genetics or whatever). I think the only way to support someone with substance abuse issues is with honesty.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:50 AM
2

You fucker. So much for my cover.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:49 AM
2

Thanks. I agree that no one forced her to stray, but truly I have to own that I enabled her bullshit for far too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:49 AM
2

Thanks, I've long appreciated your MRP contributions.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:48 AM
1

Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:29 AM
1

Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:28 AM
1

Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:27 AM
1

Agreed. I shouldn't laugh, but not sure I'm willing to compare my situation of 20+ years of marriage then divorce with that of a guy who was in a long LDR with someone he's never met.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:23 AM
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Not arguing with any of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:19 AM
2

Thanks for this, great stuff in here.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:18 AM
5

Absolutely brilliant. If only I'd seen that 7 years ago...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 11:53 AM
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Here's the money quote from the study: "For each female rater, we computed the correlation between her ratings of the men’s attractiveness and the men’s actual physical strength... These correlations were examined to see if any women in our samples showed a significant preference for weaker men. They did not. None of the 160 women in our study who rated attractiveness produced a statistically significant preference for weaker men." None.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/18 07:51 AM
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Good post. Also, be on the alert for really vague explanations that don't really seem to make much "emotional" sense, suggesting that she's leaving out key details to hide her bad behavior...
/r/TheRedPill18/02/18 06:48 AM
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You're going to be okay. It will take a few months before your head starts to clear, but you're blessed in being able to leave someone who doesn't deserve you without having a joint mortgage or kids to complicate things. Blessed!
/r/askMRP17/02/18 05:52 PM
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Hmm, now why would someone get in touch with their ex on a messaging platform?
/r/askMRP17/02/18 05:26 PM
1

Most of the establishment news organizations have spent the last two decades deliberately loading up their ranks with "diversity hires" - in practice, that means gays, lesbians and white women, at the expense of the dreaded whitemales. This has now gone so far that they are in lockstep with the gender studies departments of the elite East Coast universities. What you are seeing is the result.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/18 08:36 AM
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Worst part is that I know I should stop boozing but I am AN ALCOHOLIC AND I CAN'T QUIT. not sure I want to. There, fixed it for you. Step one, bro, start shedding crutches.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 10:38 AM
1

Great idea. But for now maybe those of us who have done the deed should weigh in with our experiences.
/r/askMRP05/02/18 07:52 AM
1

Pretty low value post. You might consider reading the sidebar before ranting.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 03:44 PM
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This: The moral of the story is that men that work hard, lead, learn, lift and constantly work on themselves do themselves no good by staying in bad relationship with a poor partner.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 02:56 PM
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The only thing that stops hair from falling - the floor.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 04:32 PM
1

Read the sidebar bro.
/r/askMRP07/01/18 08:05 AM
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Gosh what a high-quality post.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/17 05:18 PM
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A woman at almost 50 years of age, who engaged a series of LTRs over three decades, absolutely has to know that she will not be able to hold a man's long-term interest. To expect serious long-term commitment after years of focusing education, career, and sacrificing marriage and kids led to and will continue to lead to an inevitable conclusion and continuing series of short-term LTRs. It’s great that she’s relatively fit. She stands out in a sea of overweight and grossly obese women, but that’s …
/r/TheRedPill11/12/17 10:34 AM
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You're overwhelmed now with regret for what you lost. Understandable and entirely normal. Grief is part of the necessary psychological adaptation. My story's close enough to yours that I can say confidently that she checked out long ago. The time to fix it was when she started getting her shit together, but you didn't and it's too late now. You can't have it back (It's also possible that it never existed the way you imagined it did. Ask yourself, why did you spend all your time drinking and watc…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/17 08:26 AM
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It's over. If she hasn't gone all out to get you back by now it ain't gonna happen. You're just rooting through the trash. Read Rollo: https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/08/rooting-through-garbage/
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 02:00 PM
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Why do your wife and kids come ahead of your own health and well being? To my great chagrin, I didn't follow this advice. It was a huge mistake. When you are on the airplane and the oxygen masks pop out, you put on your own before you try to help anyone else. Same with taking care of yourself.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 01:57 PM
1

Is it me, or is this the most spot-on comment ever?
/r/TheRedPill02/11/17 11:52 AM
1

Sorry, brother. It's over. That's as close as she's going to get to telling you that she wants to end it. If you don't get the message it will turn into a pathetic dragged out mess.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 03:04 PM
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This. If she lies about stupid stuff, you can be certain that she will lie about the big stuff. Drop her now.
/r/askMRP17/10/17 07:30 AM
1

I'm coming around. Basically there's not much upside, I agree, except honesty and justice.
/r/askMRP14/10/17 12:58 PM
1

Again, thanks for all the thoughtful replies. This is consuming me. Because, don't we have a responsibility to train the kids to AVOID just this type of woman? Otherwise, the kid may end up with a woman just like her. One of the reasons I divorced her was that I could no longer allow myself to be a shitty role model for my kids, who were watching their mom lie and cheat.
/r/askMRP14/10/17 07:27 AM
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Thanks UEM. I appreciate your answer. I am torn, because the narrative their mom feeds them is that it was "nobody's fault," a message reinforced by her network of amoral hags, who have - literally - been telling my kids that "it's all subjective." Well, I believe there is a difference between right and wrong, and I want my kids to understand that, so it rubs me the wrong way for them to be told that it just somehow happened. 470_2_700_nm's point is good, too, as my 9-year-old does need security…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 03:46 PM
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What does "badmouth" mom even mean? Does it mean lie about what she did to protect him from knowledge of the real world? In other words, if mom blew up the relationship through affairs, lies and gaslighting, does the kid need to still only hear her version of what happened, that "mommy and daddy decided that they needed to move on and have their own lives again?"
/r/askMRP13/10/17 05:56 AM
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Gaslighting: You find an incriminating text on your wife's phone that shows she's - at the very least - gotten very close to some guy that you don't know. You call her on it and she angrily replies that he's just a friend and you're being a jealous asshole, that you have so many problems and she doesn't know if she can stay in a relationship with an insecure guy who can't trust her. You go off and beat yourself up over your insecurity which she has made you believe is undermining your marriage. …
/r/askMRP05/10/17 05:48 AM
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Her boundary problem is that she has no boundaries.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 04:31 PM
1

Yes, absolutely. The crazy feminist/gender-bender crowd has utterly confused people about what is meant by "left" and "right." NOT mutually exclusive.
/r/askTRP25/09/17 07:23 PM
2

Absolutely spot on.
/r/askTRP21/09/17 12:28 PM
1

Your wife is fucking another guy(s).
/r/askMRP18/09/17 06:05 AM
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Run away as fast as you can. Don't walk. Run.
/r/askTRP11/09/17 04:44 PM
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Do your homework and track down the obituary, she might be lying about him being dead.
/r/askTRP09/09/17 08:38 PM
2

Sign of a narcissist - they don't have any empathy.
/r/askTRP07/09/17 09:07 PM
2

Crikey. This is so correct.
/r/askTRP07/09/17 09:06 PM
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We were both in relationships at the time, but we started dating secretly and fucking like bunnies. Eventually we both ended our relationships and started dating "officially". Your relationship was founded on betrayal; if memory serves, you have about a 3 percent chance of succeeding at marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/17 09:00 AM
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Not a simple question: Language acquisition is a complicated thing, and depends on all sorts of variables including your age (brain plasticity), the similarity of the target language to your native language and your aptitude.
/r/askTRP31/08/17 07:02 AM
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Your relationship is finished. I can almost hear her giggling with her girlfriends...
/r/askTRP31/08/17 06:10 AM
1

No contact. Block them all.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 06:59 AM
1

Yes, she's a pathological liar. If you were to marry her you'd be in for a life of hurt. You should be happy that you fiund out now. Next.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 06:55 AM
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Peace to you. Some bitter shit to swallow.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 08:27 PM
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That kind of trearment from your own family, it's not Redpill/Bluepill, it goes beyond that: It's simple betrayal. You're right to kick them out of your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 09:28 AM
1

Why don't you go all the way and pee sitting down, too?
/r/TheRedPill24/08/17 06:27 AM
1

To each his own: "Book women" are the only type worth trying to build an LTR with, in my opinion. I want someone who knows a little more about the world than a binge-TV and Facebook drone...
/r/TheRedPill16/08/17 11:59 AM
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Since when is spending money on a hooker an "investment"?
/r/askTRP10/08/17 06:39 PM
1

Yeah, they do "remorseful" when it suits them. Have you checked out chumplady.com?
/r/askMRP10/08/17 05:22 PM
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What you must understand: You imagine you are negotiating the conditions for continuing your relationship; in reality what you are negotiating is how much of your self-respect you are willing to give up. As for me, I am days away from finalizing the divorce, just awaiting official papers. Getting here has been the most miserable experience of my life. Trying to rise above it; indeed, if I'm going to survive I have to let it all go, but I waited way too long before I gave up. And that cost me.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 06:44 AM
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I'm sorry, bro. It's over. You can either accept that and move on (the smart choice), or you can drag it out indefinitely and multiply your pain to an infinite degree (as I did in not totally dissimilar circumstances). Time to be reborn.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 03:50 PM
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Not making any claims about my level of enlightenment.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/17 06:45 PM
1

I keep mine at a cut length of #1 (the lowest setting on a shaver) AND PEOPLE SEEM TO LIKE IT. Bruh the point was about not giving a fuck what other people think...
/r/TheRedPill27/07/17 04:51 AM
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Dude, if your SMV is that far ahead of hers and she doesn't care either your dread game is nonexistent or she simply doesn't care. Next.
/r/askMRP24/07/17 04:46 PM
1

"Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity." Simone Weil
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 05:35 AM
1

Agreed, if men have enough of a clue to come here, they're probably adding quite a lot. But the idea that a man controls the relationship is a stretch from that.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 04:46 PM
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Cold facts. Great rebuttal.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/17 05:23 AM
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Ultimately you control the relationship. Doesn't this contradict Briffault's law? https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1anu3q/briffaults_law/
/r/askMRP16/07/17 11:15 AM
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Gentle OP, I think you know the answer but you're just coming here for validation. Trust is the essential element in a marriage, more important than sex or love or shared commitment to feeding the gerbils. If you don't trust her in your gut, the marriage is over; all that remains is to decide whether you take charge of formally ending it, or if you hang on until events overtake you.
/r/askMRP15/07/17 05:07 AM
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Thanks. I came here for probably the same reason as everyone else, my world upended by my wife's family-destroying behavior. So if I'm alpha again now it's only because I've been through the wringer. MRP - meaning all of you - really helped me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/17 06:45 AM
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I'm just days from finalizing my divorce, and don't need to have a fucked up relationship with a co-worker. She's eye candy, though. Maybe I was just too friendly, American-style, in the beginning; I certainly wasn't hitting on her. One piece of info that makes the marriage comment clearer: She's about 32 years old, I would guess, surrounded by younger, very attractive, but poorly paid, men. She's at the wall and knows none of them is interested in a long-term thing, and the hours she works mean…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 11:16 PM
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OP, NMMMG is a great start and your question is a good one, though MRP is based on the idea that "you can't negotiate attraction." That even if your goal is to save your LTR, you ultimately cannot control how your partner reacts. You can only do you. My advice is to read this series from Rollo Tomassi called "The Reconstruction." It hits directly on your question and is probably the best thing I've ever read for men in your (our) situation. Here's part 1: https://therationalmale.com/2017/01/10/t…
/r/askMRP29/06/17 05:33 AM
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It's not complicated but it's hard, and it's not the fear that you won't find someone as hot. You let yourself be vulnerable and you got dumped; that's the price you pay for taking risks in love. For what it's worth, your suffering shows that you're human. Time will help, as will accepting that you have no choice but moving on. So move on.
/r/askTRP29/06/17 05:26 AM
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Not entirely wrong. By all means, if someone cheats you out of 500 bucks, you should take all reasonable measures to get it back. But in other areas, think about it: If you spend all your time obsessively plotting to avenge yourself on the person who wronged you, that means you have let yourself be sucked into that person's frame; you're not working on improving yourself, on fixing the things that you can. Forgiveness is something you do as much for yourself as for the other person.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/17 08:46 AM
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yes, but if you're going to have an addiction, better that it's a healthy one.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/17 08:07 AM
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Garlic and curry? This post smells of something else, deep insecurity.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 06:43 AM
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FamilyAlpha and MattyAnon: Paradoxical though it may be, I think both of your posts, taken together, are essentially the truth.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/17 05:25 AM
1

thanks, bogey
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 05:31 AM
2

Very smart post; thanks for trying to sort that out. Applying the terms "alpha" and "beta" in Red Pill theory was probably an original mistake, because it doesn't mean the same thing that it means in anthropology or biology, and that has caused endless confusion.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/17 06:40 AM
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No one (especially your wife) wants to hear your puke and it makes you look weak. ANY sign of neediness makes you look like a pussy... Sadly true: Your lifeblood could be pouring out on the dirt in front of her, but you shouldn't admit to any concern. Otherwise, you'll be breaking the contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 06:48 PM
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Also, no leverage? She has her pussy which you are no longer using so it is SHE who has no leverage. You have the power and her source of power is gone. What is the problem? This. Gotta think that OP is either still shagging his ex or trying to. If that is the case, friend, you are hopelessly stuck in her frame. The boundaries will start when you have gone your own way emotionally.
/r/askMRP19/04/17 11:25 AM
1

Interesting, OJ was a trigger for me, too, but not straight oranges. I gave up the OJ years ago.
/r/askMRP03/04/17 12:27 PM
1

For me it was just a question of reining in my overeating. Once I accepted that I needed to get up from the table without being quite full, the problem was solved like magic. Good luck.
/r/askMRP03/04/17 12:26 PM
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Well said, Rollo, as usual. And where does men's anger come from? There are some men so fragile that they will shoot someone to death for cutting them off in traffic. They are entirely at the mercy of their emotions. It's easy to see how a person like this can be manipulated as easily as putty by others with greater awareness. For this reason the kind of ordinary anger expressed by men in relationships with women is also worth examining. Speaking from my own experience, I'd argue that it's our i…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 06:48 AM
1

sadly, this is correct.
/r/askMRP12/03/17 07:47 PM
1

Yes, agreed: If African doesn't work and rhythmically interesting music is important, it's probably got to be samba or something else Latin American.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/17 01:03 PM
1

Reading good nonfiction is great for expanding your knowledge. Reading great fiction actually appears to improve your emotional IQ, which doesn't hurt, either.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/17 01:02 PM
1

What about African dancing? Shaking loose with live African drumming is for me almost a religious experience. In fact, the hardest thing about getting interested in learning social dancing is that I usually find the music too terrible to bear...
/r/TheRedPill24/02/17 09:45 AM
1

I haven't done curls in two decades. Just don't have the gym time. But I'm sure that people who do have the time get something out of them.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 07:54 AM
1

Some 3/10 fatty friend of my friend's wife tried to hit on me, started touching my arm being maniupulative and trying to exert social power over me at a party and I just yelled out "no i will not sleep with you" and humiliated her. Dude, you might want to come up with a little more manly way of reacting. Like, you know, smiling and chuckling and saying "no, thanks," or even just ignoring her.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 08:04 AM
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Dude, boundaries are about YOU, not her. "Simply stated, a boundary is an action you either take or refuse to take, whether you communicate it or not. For example, screening your calls before you answer them is an action you take. So, it is a boundary. If instead, you tried to get other people to stop calling you, that would not be a boundary. Boundaries are about controlling what you do; they are not about controlling other people’s behavior." https://coachjackito.com/blog/boundaries-in-marriag…
/r/askMRP07/02/17 08:28 AM
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“No slavery is more disgraceful than that which is self-imposed." -Seneca
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 01:37 PM
1

Damn.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/17 07:39 PM
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You’ve been told to refrain from being aggressive, competitive, and lustful in any way. I played my sport last week, and though I'm over 50, my skills set me apart such that I usually dominate the game (unless there are truly talented youngsters who are stronger and faster, I've been humbled plenty of times over the last couple of decades by these guys). In this instance, I was the best and my team crushed our opponents. I told my wife afterward how good it made me feel to have won and been the …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 05:09 PM
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playing means becoming emotionally invested whatsoever in what she has to say right now. As soon as you get pulled into her frame, you lose. She feeds off the emotional drama you allow (and actually encourage her to do) by your reactions. I think I'll have this tattooed on the inside of my eyelids in the hope that I remember it...
/r/askMRP03/02/17 04:39 PM
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I used to live in a place with very cold winters. The house was freezing in the early morning, but I nonetheless had to wake up in the dark chill and take a shower to get my day going. The shower was warm and comforting, and I dragged them out - which should have taken no more than five minutes - sometimes, I'm embarrassed to say, for as long as half an hour, just because I was comfortable. I hated to leave the warm shower knowing that I was going to be cold for a little while. The psychology: E…
/r/askMRP03/02/17 06:00 AM
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Church is for sinners, not for saints.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 08:50 AM
1

A merciless truth.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 08:20 AM
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I'm savoring this post, as I think that it's getting at something important. It is an illusion, though, to think you can control your environment. All you can control is how you deal with it. If even that.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 08:05 AM
1

"I'm with you, baby."
/r/askMRP30/01/17 05:20 PM
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Maybe you got a lot better and she is having a minifreakout because she sees you SMV outpacing hers and she is securing a branch. This. By starting to improve yourself, you began changing the terms of the relationship as they had evolved up till then. You rocked the boat, she went off into the deep end. No one here is going to tell you that working on yourself is bad, but the effects on your relationship of doing so are unpredictable; in the best case, everything gets wonderful, but maybe the wa…
/r/askMRP29/01/17 09:15 AM
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A bitter time it is.
/r/askMRP28/01/17 02:18 PM
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I agree with pretty much all the comments, but I'd like to suggest another possibility. When a woman has decided - consciously or not - to destroy her relationship, she will begin rewriting the past to make it seem like her husband has always sucked, in every way; she might not be able to say a single good thing about him, or remember any happy times. If she's in that stage, pretty much EVERY male she comes across is better than him. Stay humble for now.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 12:58 PM
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And this: A woman didn't take away your self respect, and she can't give it back.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 07:35 PM
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Too much for most people, I understand. But hanging out drinking with your buds is hardly "transformative." Aim high. Do something so completely out of your comfort zone that people's mouths with drop open with astonishment and you'll always be able to look back and say, "OMG, I can't believe I did that shit..."
/r/askMRP19/01/17 06:06 AM
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Go somewhere that is culturally challenging and wing it. Maybe fly to Calcutta and work for Mother Theresa's Missionaries of Charity working with dying people.
/r/askMRP18/01/17 07:49 PM
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its sounding like a pretty large consensus here that I end that. The question is: how? Schedule some time for your activities out of the house that night.
/r/askMRP18/01/17 08:11 AM
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And she doesn't know when to back off the kids either. She will just rail on them well past the point of getting a message through. Almost as though OP were describing a wife...
/r/askMRP17/01/17 05:57 AM
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Very interesting. It sounds like a "how to" guide based on Freud's idea of sublimation. School of Life has a cool video on the concept here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K96AeGqKVbs
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 06:41 AM
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Somehow, I'm a little skeptical that Marcus Aurelius, were he around today, would go out and buy that shiny new red sports car.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/17 06:41 AM
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even the mute retard approach is a large improvement over my past unrelenting DEERing. So true: As soon as I started to internalize STFU, rather than trying to respond to the emotional bullshit, I stopped getting caught in the headlights. I have a long way to go still, but that lesson alone was worth the price of admission.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 07:02 AM
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Sex CAN be about those things, but I'm pretty sure that one of the main reasons most of us got married was for the sex. (What the hell were we thinking?)
/r/askMRP07/01/17 08:50 AM
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-- She thought "you're not really interested in me, you just need to feed your addiction." Dude, wanting to have sex with your wife is not an "addiction;" it's normal, it's healthy. She's using psychobabble to make you feel guilty about it. Bad.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 03:08 PM
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Over the top, obviously, but true in essence, especially on fixing the boundaries at the start and demanding they be honored.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/17 10:36 AM
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No worries, bro. We're in this together.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 07:26 PM
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My favorite bits from that post: You must stop engaging the emotional chaos around you until you can learn how to manage yourself first. But when you begin to establish this stoic frame, your wife feels it and is jarred by it. She will attempt to engage further to test your resolve. You need not engage.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 08:51 AM
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kicking a door in a fit of rage is more than enough to get you removed from the house if the cops came. it's terrible decision making. This: For those defending the crazed doorbuster, what precisely did he accomplish? Apparently nothing. But once the cops answer the call and see the evidence that he is "violent," he will be at the mercy of the state. Everything in his life will change for the worse.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 07:41 AM
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Strip clubs = pure beta. How can you talk about "game" with regard to women whose job is literally to flaunt their bodies to losers?
/r/askMRP31/12/16 11:14 AM
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Word. The most important thing is to hold frame, what psychologists think of as "setting and maintaining your boundaries" and defending YOUR interests. Refuse to get back into the box you've inhabited in your emasculated beta phase. Focus on you. Read. Lift. Don't argue.
/r/askMRP30/12/16 01:14 PM
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I understand your point. On the other hand, if your old lady is planning to do New Year's Eve without you, I think the moment of nuclear destruction is at hand...
/r/askMRP29/12/16 08:00 PM
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Do NOT go with her, are you out of your mind? First of all, it sounds like a nightmare. Secondly, have some self respect, mate. But encourage her to go. Then STFU. Hell, pack her bags for her and tell her not to bother coming back.
/r/askMRP29/12/16 05:02 PM
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Well said.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/16 08:32 AM
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I agree. What could be more destructive of a relationship than insisting that your spouse burn their vacation time hanging out in the suburbs watching Fox News at high volume? OP could have handled the wife better, as many have noted. Boiled down to its essence: STFU and listen for the feelz.
/r/askMRP29/12/16 07:22 AM
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Fancy club probably has continuing costs that you're not accounting for here. Lasik is a one-off.
/r/askMRP25/12/16 01:19 PM
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STFU. Act, don't speak. Stop falling into her frame. Stop telling her shit. Work on yourself. Dread games. Become the man she sees doing shit and owning shit, not the boy who keeps telling mommy he's all grown up now, look at meee! Nicely put. Sounds like you're moving in the right direction, just keep your head down and continue slogging away.
/r/askMRP22/12/16 02:29 PM
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You have some delusions you really ought to abandon. Gotta agree. You're going to be a two-hour flight from home with a massive drama going on that wrecks your emotional and work life. Might be best to sort out your decisions about marriage before heading off half-cocked...
/r/askMRP21/12/16 08:03 PM
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Her feelings won't stop her from doing what she wants. They just help write the narrative that she's still a good girl. Word.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 01:09 PM
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Thanks, just watching and learning.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/16 11:45 AM
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grit Here's the NYT book review on "Grit" http://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/08/books/review/grit-by-angela-duckworth.html?_r=0
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/16 05:28 AM
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I get knocked down, but I get up again. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=egN8CjfQkxc
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 05:31 PM
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1bw OHP All great replies, guys, thanks. In fact, I am in agreement with you all. When I say I "can't" I mean I don't think I'll ever be able to go heavy again, not that I've actually quit lifting. I'll try again - light - on the squat and bench machines and talk with a fitness counselor about the deads. I do USMC-style combat fitness test overheads for shoulders, 14 kg, and that's probably about as much as my shoulders can handle, but it makes a major difference in my appearance. Bottom line, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 05:28 AM
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Hey all. Time for me to quit lurking. I recently had an experience that's made me think, and I wanted to ask for the group's wisdom. Long story short, mother in law was visiting, wife and I agreed that the kids would not sleep in the same room with her, when mom started to walk to the boys bedroom, I spoke up and told her it would be best for her to sleep in the guest room instead. Wife came out of her room and said "Mom, just do whatever you want," after which mom promptly went into the boys ro…
/r/askMRP03/12/16 05:41 AM
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Absolutely gut-turning to hear stories like this, which show an utter lack of empathy. Would it have been the case earlier in the marriage? Or did you slip into her frame? Sounds like you might have let some boundaries erode.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 05:22 AM
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I couldn't remember where I'd read that. Heraclitus is the balls.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/16 10:47 AM
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Don't overthink it, there's no metaphysics to it at all. Your character is your karma.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 07:46 AM
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Cut.Your.Losses - she's doing you a favor.
/r/askMRP13/11/16 06:53 PM
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Bingo.
/r/askMRP05/11/16 07:51 PM
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Opportunity is missed by most because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. - Thomas Edison
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 05:42 PM
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On top of everything else, exhaustion on her part, frankly, could be the straw that breaks the camel's back. Newborns drain mom's sleep time like nothing else. You could - without asking - just take over middle-of-the-night feeding duties and see if the extra rest makes her less of a crazy person.
/r/askMRP21/10/16 06:22 AM
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Cool thought. The best adventure, it's generally agreed, is ocean rowing, like this: http://www.newoceanwave.com/great-pacific-race/
/r/TheRedPill03/10/16 05:45 PM
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Art or music: Read or write literature, paint, dance, or play your guitar. Go in deep.
/r/TheRedPill30/09/16 06:43 AM
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This is the worst advice I've ever seen on TRP. Don't listen to someone who tells you going to prison is cool, kids.
/r/TheRedPill29/09/16 08:46 AM
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I would guess that he doesn't really know how to listen, that his antennae are not picking up the subtle cues needed to be part of a couple. In the old days, matchmakers might have sorted him out with a woman who complemented his weaknesses and gained from his strengths. Doesn't mean there's anything at all wrong with him. Our society tends to fail people like this...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/16 09:13 AM
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