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FIELD REPORTFlouncyMcTwinkle/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 12:54 PM
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RELATIONSHIPSFlouncyMcTwinkle/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 11:46 PM
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FlouncyMcTwinkle/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 11:25 AM
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FlouncyMcTwinkle/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 05:20 PM
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is this a serious question?
/r/RedPillWives29/06/26 08:19 AM
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For me, she's 'scolded me for purchasing lingerie for her' and then you are surprised that when you buy her lingerie, she's less than impressed, despite you thinking you were being 'nice' and 'surprising her' If my husband saw a hole in my PJ's or thought my bra's looked worn out, he'd simply call it out as what it is and suggest a purchase...
/r/RedPillWives21/04/26 10:25 AM
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I do enjoy these references to butthurt like its an an actual word in a grown up's vocabulary. Pretty certain your wife's not looking at you thinking 'he looks like he has the butthurt' Maybe just thinking you're sulking. Maybe just stop sitting around pouting and man up.
/r/askMRP21/01/25 02:07 PM
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ugh, that's not a good sign...
/r/RedPillWives13/01/25 10:25 AM
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Reading through the comments, your man sounds like a proper pain the a*s. Does he like anything? Its not your job to make anyone happy, we are all responsible for our own joy. What does he like about you? Be that, do that. Curious to hear what the relationship brings you.
/r/RedPillWives13/01/25 10:24 AM
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Its clear in the post that he is stating he will be monogamous. That was his word hunny, that she should either trust him on or not. She's known him only since August. Of course he isn't read to give up his personal freedom for someone he's just met. Not compatiable
/r/RedPillWives21/11/24 09:18 AM
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Running clubs are mixed gender, people pair up. There doesn't have to be anything in it. Sounds like he really values personal freedom. I think you should respect that. If you don't take him at his word, then perhaps he isn't the man for you and you need someone who needs less of that freedom. Nothing wrong with that either.
/r/RedPillWives20/11/24 04:38 PM
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I really don't like the sound of 'staying creative to enjoy the hunt' but I honestly wouldn't be upset about my husband working out with a woman at his running club. I would never want to attempt to restrict or censor my man. I guess it comes down to the trust you have or don't have in his intentions and commitment to you.
/r/RedPillWives20/11/24 04:01 PM
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You are justifiably suspicious about your husbands activity. And you have set clear boundaries which he is appearing to accept and then disregard. Maybe you need to be less confrontational and more strategic about your approach to handling it to get the best outcome for yourself and the relationship. Reconnect, welcome him home, let him feel your love and then express your vulnerability and try to generate a respectful dialogue about how it made you feel, the concerns it gave you and the questio…
/r/RedPillWives01/11/24 08:49 AM
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Could there be maybe an element of religious belief subconsciously hampering your sex life? Not sure how you address that, but perhaps someone from your place of worship could advise?
/r/RedPillWives14/10/24 08:02 AM
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1) "things are great, got this really interesting project on. and busy at home" 2) "I prefer to let DH deal with that sort of thing tbh" 3) "Happy where we are for the moment" Personally I think you might care a little too much what people think and you are over thinking this,
/r/RedPillWives03/10/24 08:01 AM
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why do you need to give your feedback? can you just let people be who they are and not have to correct them to your way of doing things. If you don't vibe with them, just exit the situation. Focus less on the negatives of what other people do and focus on the positives of what you do and the good that others do. eg, your 'friend'1 doesn't really like this person but wants to do something. She wants to offer a gift card. fair enough, the recipient might prefer emotional support but friend 1 can't…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 07:44 AM
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I experienced this burnout in my previous marriage. For years, he didn't work, or worked part time. I was the breadwinner, but also the primary caregiver, carrier of all household burdens, life admin etc. He cooked, that was it. I was the man and the woman. I told myself I was a strong independent woman and capable of providing for my family. But in reality, he became another dependant in addition to the children and it killed my attraction to him. I began to understand that in being a woman who…
/r/RedPillWives05/08/24 02:37 PM
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OYS Number: 3 OYS Comment Preference: whatever comes to your mind :-) Demographics: 46, Fiance 52, 2 children from previous marriage 14 & 12. Marrying in 3 weeks. Together 4 years Gratitude list: Some strong sunshine! My daughter is absolutely smashing life at the moment (Poor Son been ill this week so not so much but he seems to be on the mend) Some people at work have cheered me up when I've struggled with the sometimes toxic culture I have a fun weekend to look forwards to Things I Did for My…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/24 09:07 AM
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My gut reaction to your list is 'meh' the first two, stop smoking and cook better, studying are decent goals to improve yourself. The rest is vapid crap.
/r/RedPillWives27/06/24 11:11 AM
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OYS Number: 2 OYS Comment Preference: whatever comes to your mind :-) Demographics: 46, Fiance 52, 2 children from previous marriage 14 & 12. Marrying next month. Together 4 years Gratitude list: Some lovely weather for some lovely runs in beautiful surroundings Missed a huge traffic jam due to leaving work early to collect a child from school Life Insurance arranged at work - got to give some good news OH has financially pulled me out of a bit of a hole Things I Did for My Present: Took a day o…
/r/RedPillWives20/06/24 03:41 PM
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Thats a good tip, I'll try it, might at least help me focus my attention even if i dont' remember!
/r/RedPillWives13/06/24 03:34 PM
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OYS Number: 1 OYS Comment Preference: whatever comes to your mind :-) Demographics: 46, Fiance 52, 2 children from previous marriage 14 & 12. Marrying next month. Together 4 years Gratitude list: 1) Rare few days of no rain 2) Kurt Geiger sent a new shoe tie foc 3) Etsy seller letting me return my veil and swap it now I've changed my dress 4) Helping altering my new dress from a fantastic source 5) No Wednesday night 'return of the kids' drama last night Things I Did for My Present: 1) Re starte…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/24 02:24 PM
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'The house that cleans itself'
/r/RedPillWives11/06/24 12:09 PM
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He sounds awful. Pack up the self respect you still have and move on to a real man. That's what a woman of high value would do. Don't let him have you thinking you aren't one.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/24 10:36 AM
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this is the only answer you need OP
/r/RedPillWives15/05/24 02:21 PM
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Just my personal opinion but it would make a meaningful improvement to your relationship if you put your phone down and attempted to engage with your husband during the meal. Also more important to your relationship than wondering if you should serve his second portion or have him get it himself, I wonder if you are changing out of your PJ's to greet him at the end of the day. Not neccesarily getting all dressed up, just getting dressed and being nicely turned out. If you can do that, and have a…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/24 10:54 AM
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"I assume your sons would be under a lot of pressure to live up to his 'Red Pill' alpha male father." Bit of a wild assumption that. I have two children, a boy and a girl. My beliefs will impact the way I raise them only by means of the way I live my life and what they take from that. They can grow up to live any way they wish.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/24 10:10 AM
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I met an amazing guy who is very traditional and masculine, lead the relationship, has high expectations and standards in life and has a lot of those 'alpha' behaviours. But he's never spent time on the internet or reading anything other then cycling or war books and wouldn't have any idea what the red pill is. Its not on his radar, he's too busy doing his thing. But I think he just naturally exhibits a lot of what the aspirational red pill fella's try to be. He's accepted me and my two children…
/r/RedPillWives22/03/24 11:03 AM
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Internalize it? He hasn't even read it. He's only bought it. Says so further up the thread.
/r/askMRP16/02/24 02:16 PM
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You appear to have lost all sense of your self worth. What do you want in life, from a relationship? What are your goals? Is being with him going to help you achieve them? I'm pretty certain I know the answer. Find a partner that respects you and doesn't feel you over estimate your value. Or just be a woman of value, living her life on her own terms. That horrible feeling of ick inside you is only going to grow.
/r/RedPillWives14/02/24 01:02 PM
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This relationship doesn't sound ideal. You are already worn down by it and spread too thinly. However 'high value' this man appears to be, remember that you are a woman of value. You are young, intelligent with hopes and dreams and a desire to be the best you can be and be a great support to a great man. YOU are a catch and a truly high value man will recognise this and value you for your great qualities and what they bring to his life. I think you are making a mistake trying to make yourself fi…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 02:36 PM
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If you want him to feel special and loved, make an effort to understand what he enjoys and appreciates and demonstrate effort in providing him with it. None of us can help you with that unfortunately. His Mum might.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/23 01:39 PM
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Listen to TikTokers instead?!
/r/RedPillWives07/12/23 01:07 PM
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You need to give him the space he is asking for and resist the urge to blow up his phone and change your behaviour. If you can sustain this and respect his choice and avoid arguing or hassling him, he is likely to step a bit closer again. Are you happy in the relationship apart from this?
/r/RedPillWives17/11/23 12:02 PM
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This is what I have found and what I do. Decide on a meal plan for the week. We are a family of four and a lot of it is automatic now. Work through the day. Three of us have breakfast and have certain things we like. It varies at the weekend, so I top up our stocks on those things based on what is in the cupboard. Tea & coffee are breakfast staples so check your stocks of those. And milk. I have a salad for lunch, partner has sandwiches and some picky bits. Kids have packed lunches for school. S…
/r/RedPillWives11/10/23 01:39 PM
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I'm just going to chip in with the self care token. You are fulfulling your role in the family which you usually enjoy but its starting to wear on you. Time for some you time. Make a point of looking after some of your own needs, or getting them looked after for you. Don't worry about what the other women think, you do what brings you joy and satisfaction. If the kids feel like they are inconveniencing you, there's something you want to do that they are hindering in some way. Figure out what tha…
/r/RedPillWives05/10/23 02:04 PM
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When Im performing in my choir i find it best to adhere to the appropriate tune, timing and lyrics as set as standard. If i just do it to the standard I like, and everyone else does the same, it just sounds fucking awful tbh. Harmony or unison.
/r/askMRP06/02/23 02:28 PM
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Ive thought many times I wish that I had met him earlier in my life and how different things could have been for us both. But i dont think I would have been ready for him then, so busy was I being a strong independent woman believing it was the way. It hasnt all been plain sailing though. His ex girlfriend keeps popping up to harass us. We have had to involve the police and on monday have a court hearing to try and get a restraining order. She just cant let him be happy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/22 07:39 AM
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I have no interest in being a tattooed lady but i do like tattoos on muscly men. I guess its a matter of taste rather than a red flag. Hate hate hate those neck or chest tattoos or random doodles, cartoony stuff tho. Just got my man (ex royal marine) a fabulous marine themed sleeve to cover his older blood group and Thor tat, with a ship in a storm, compass, lightening, kraken. The detail on the waves and the sky is honestly a work of art and he sat for 6 hours while they needled him. He never k…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 10:20 PM
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This is so perfect! Im newish to both riding pillion, and being led in life. Fiancé wants me to get my own bike and do my test. But Id rather sit on the back of his ride and feel safe 🥰 great analogy 😊
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 01:04 PM
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My boy gave me a stick of candy at bedtime from his private stash so ‘you dont need to sneak down for crisps later Mummy’ love him!
/r/RedPillWives06/09/22 08:46 PM
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Im thinking taste as in preferences. Not as in sensory mouth type sense..
/r/RedPillWives04/08/22 11:43 AM
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Both. Or either.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/22 10:42 PM
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Got my split ends cut off and my nails done. Was starting to let that stuff go in the day to day grind.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/22 12:26 PM
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I dont think there us a source, as such. Rather femininity is intrinsic to who I am as a woman. The hormones and psychology and social programming set it up. My own journey has been more about removing aspects of life that force me out of the natural feminibe and into the masculine. Or changing my responses to move from a masculine approach ive leaned into towards a more feminine one. This personally for me results in letting go, relaxing into being led, indulging myself with girly stuff like th…
/r/RedPillWives30/06/22 10:14 AM
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Im sure you mean well but that is ever such a little bit patronising.
/r/RedPillWives02/06/22 09:22 AM
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These are wise words. But not your own @u/blarg_risen
/r/askMRP30/05/22 05:50 AM
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You cant help him here imo. He needs to come to terms with himself and grow into someone he can look in the mirror and respect again. You just need to decide how much of his failure to be the husband you need you can stand. Take care of you in the meantime!
/r/RedPillWives10/05/22 06:35 PM
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Everything about your replies to me stink of bad attitude towards me trying to give you a perspective on poor advice youd been given. My responses to you after that have been as a result of your own poor attitude towards me. You can see from the upvotes to my comments others feel they are appropriate. So take your latest arsey comment and say it to yourself in the mirror. What do YOU think you can identify from that??
/r/RedPillWives09/05/22 10:36 AM
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See my answer to the last time you asked me.
/r/RedPillWives08/05/22 08:36 AM
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Take your time getting to know someone before giving it up.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/22 01:56 PM
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I know Im replying to you, so that you notice and read the different perspective.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/22 01:55 PM
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I truly dont believe you can identify a non f**k boy by the cleanliness of his toilet or he can cook for himself.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/22 11:49 AM
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You watched the movie tho right?
/r/askMRP30/04/22 07:34 PM
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You should make this into a movie.
/r/askMRP30/04/22 11:26 AM
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I do like nice lingerie for bed and swanning around in when the kids arent about. But generally its all about comfort, fit and making a nice shape under my outfit with as little lumps and bumps as poss and frilly lacy stuff makes lumps and thongs arent comfy! Tshirt bras in nude and briefs in the same shade, quite high waisted are my staple. Not sexy at all really but Ive got other bits for sexy time…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/22 02:30 PM
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Im all about the black beige white tbh separates tbh cos you always need more panties than bras anyway. And just occasional pretty sets or lingerie for ‘special occasions’
/r/RedPillWives24/04/22 08:33 PM
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You need to accept what he says and try to move on with someone who can give you what you want.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/22 08:52 AM
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Open up your circle of possibilities.
/r/RedPillWives20/01/22 08:13 PM
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Just laid here trying not to die of cringe at this.
/r/RedPillWives07/01/22 09:07 PM
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Is my cheesecake going to set? How does Nigella make it look so easy? Why dont I get some kitchen scales?
/r/RedPillWives02/01/22 04:50 PM
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I do not want useful things for Christmas, no thank you! Gimme the luxury items I covet Mr Man.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/21 06:32 PM
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“Proverbial heartache over a lost hypergamous opportunity” ugh, we arent here for your entertainment Mr voyeuristic wordy mcwordison.
/r/RedPillWives16/11/21 02:16 PM
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Its been a little over a year now since I met my Man. Lots of reminders popping up in my phone apps about how much my life has changed for the better and how much is down to him. Todays 12 months since he arrived at my old house with his van of tools and fixed my dodgy drawers, doors, windows, cleared my backyard and installed an outside tap and catflap. That was in a weekend. Imagine whats hes done in the year since!! Edit sorry! Not really about vetting theme! But the way he threw himself into…
/r/RedPillWives12/10/21 01:45 PM
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Who knew jigsaws would become our latest addiction. . I just cant walk away. I see pieces when I close my eyes. What a way to spend Friday and Saturday night! . I am so old. And shit at skies.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/21 08:45 PM
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You can be a woman of substance but still dress nicely and be well groomed. It doesnt have to take over your life.
/r/RedPillWives29/09/21 04:28 PM
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Time to apply for new jobs then, so many businesses are offering remote working now
/r/RedPillWives09/09/21 07:33 PM
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You are asking women if marriage is a viable option for men. As if we would say no. Work out if its viable for you, with a particular woman in mind when it becomes relevant to your relationship. Too many random variables otherwise.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 09:32 PM
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Just liked sex and wasn’t always looking to pair up. Liked an adventure. Thrill of the chase. Til it gets empty. Or damaging. Never broke the ability to pair bond though. Just a couple of wild years late teens to 21 when i met my soon to be ex. Followed by a wild few months after my 20 yr marriage ended. 9 months after that, fully paired up again.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 09:27 PM
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I take SSRIs daily and have done for about three years. Occasionally i forget and miss one. I am in a much better place in life than i was when I begged the Dr to give me something to make me stop crying and panicking and waking up feeling full of dread. My life no longer had the struggle it used to getting by and my new partner really looks after me. There is little to stress me out and nothing to worry over anymore. This summer I had missed a few days on and off and had been basically taking t…
/r/RedPillWives04/09/21 07:12 AM
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He just never grew up and i shouldered more and more burden of earning the money snd raising the family until I ad nothing left for him or for myself and had a breakdown. After recovering from that I started on a jourbey of self improvement and fulfilment and my head got turned. He found out my heart was no longer in it and Id considered cheating and ended the marriage. Biggest favour he ever did me setting me free.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/21 05:05 PM
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My husband was like this. I hope you have more luck getting him to step up than I did, the gap between us just grew bigger. Decide how much you are prepared to accept, set your boundaries and know when to stop flogging a dead horse before it breaks you.
/r/RedPillWives21/08/21 03:57 PM
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As unattractive as you might find it, I think the advice to stay in your lane is the advice you need. Nagging him and emasculating and childifying him further by forcing the cleanliness routine suggested earlier is going to make him even less attractive to you. Endless nagging will make him resent you and destroy intimacy. Waft around some room spray and aboid him if he comes over with his advances. Try sneaking nicotine patches surreptitiously on his ass pretending to squeeze his butt and hope …
/r/RedPillWives18/08/21 01:22 PM
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Its easy as being vocal about the things you like and appreciate. What are they? Tell him. Show him.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/21 08:04 PM
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There is no set answer to this question. Marry when you meet the right man and see what the age gap is.
/r/RedPillWives26/07/21 11:10 AM
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Im just delighted to be in a relationship where my desire is there, as it wasnt in my marriage. To the point i thought i didnt work anymore. So to be with a man who just has to look at me or unbuckle his belt and stir those feelings in me, ill willingly surrender to them any place anytime tbh. I could only provide on demand if the man inspired me to do so.
/r/RedPillWives20/07/21 11:08 AM
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So this morning told my man i had a headache. He said a cock in my mouth would sort it out. Man was right 🤣
/r/RedPillWives18/07/21 08:22 PM
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The thought of my ex husband speaking on my behalf.. er nope!! My current partner, mayyybe. Still quite a lot of strong independent woman in me, despite me getting less and less independent 😆
/r/RedPillWives16/07/21 08:57 AM
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It relies heavily on how much the captain of the house is worthy of the roleI think.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/21 02:22 PM
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She thinks your jokes are shit, bet they are too.
/r/askMRP11/07/21 10:39 PM
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Nah. Men don’t care.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/21 03:39 PM
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Just wow. You are correct this is not the right space and you sound like a massive weirdo.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/21 03:37 PM
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Awful isnt she 😆 love her 🤪
/r/RedPillWives20/06/21 06:49 PM
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Im getting divorced now but the vhs is still in the loft of the day we said I do. One day our kids will buy a video player to watch it. And wonder how it all went to sh!t. So young and full of love and positive expectations. Im glad for everyone that made it. I used to wear my wedding dress every anniversary. I’ll always be sad we didnt make it. But Im glad we stayed friends.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/21 07:43 PM
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We are renovating the house. Its the garden at the mo. Today my job is to run the tiller yet again over the back garden and help him get new top soil from the ton bag in the van into the borders. The children will jet wash the fence posts. He will be pulling up flag stone. It will be a good workout!
/r/RedPillWives19/06/21 06:58 AM
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I think you should. Dont even make intimacy your aim. Just make feeling foxy your aim. Send out that vibe. He’ll feel it. Just make him notice you again at your feminine best. It may begin to stir something in him…
/r/RedPillWives19/06/21 06:53 AM
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I know its not a great thing to admire but never the less, her manipulation, her spoiled entitlement, her childish spite. She lived in her power! Although she may not have used it for good 😆 edit - this is Scarlett Im referring to not Vivian!
/r/RedPillWives19/06/21 06:49 AM
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I do agree, on both points but I confess I do still quite admire her toxic feminine traits a little…
/r/RedPillWives18/06/21 08:34 PM
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Establish what he desires and values in a partner at home and become awesome at it.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/21 05:56 PM
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Vivian Leigh, Gone with the Wind era. Just beautiful.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/21 05:53 PM
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This is all great stuff. Perhaps you could get out the make up and put away the yoga pants to trigger a bit of frisson sometimes when you are at home together all the time, remind him of date night wife..
/r/RedPillWives18/06/21 02:48 PM
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The views and likes of the masses on social media mean very little in comparison to the rarer more valuable praise of the man I adore and seek to please though. Im expected to always look at my best and he notices when I dont. So for him to compliment a specific look makes me glow and feels exceptional. Friends and followers often just gush empty praise regardless..
/r/RedPillWives18/06/21 11:18 AM
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The lack of trust this indicates would bother me. Sounds controlling in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWives17/06/21 04:22 PM
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I hope you don’t take offence but I think this is a fair question. How is your appearance? Do you look after yourself and keep in shape, dress nicely, smell good?
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 11:47 AM
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Try Mike Matthews Thinner Leaner Stronger.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/21 05:09 PM
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Two. 8 and 11. Feels like my body calling last orders 😆
/r/RedPillWives30/05/21 06:03 PM
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Oh my goodness i want another baby...
/r/RedPillWives30/05/21 08:24 AM
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Its the joy of a clean kitchen that motivates me too. I feel so much happier with clean cleared kitchen surfaces and its worth the effort. My man has helped too, inspiring a clean up your own mess immediately after making it approach. Its less dreary is smaller chunks. Plus dishwasher. Everything just gets rinsed and stuffed in there. I cook, man mostly loads it & the kids empty it.
/r/RedPillWives29/05/21 06:44 AM
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Ok no need to get all judgey. I believe I mentioned things other than my speeding fine.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/21 12:18 PM
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Deals with any kind of ‘attack’ on the family. Keeps car serviced and home secure. Looks out for your personal safety. Ticks you off for speeding cos youve just done a speed awareness course and you can’t be losing your driving licence or smashing up yourself or his car (no no no it wasnt me promise 🤣 ok it was )
/r/RedPillWives27/05/21 11:26 AM
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Youve had a lot of great advice here. My advice would be to leave the horrible stressful job but reassure your husbands concern re the loss of income by taking on a part time more junior position that still covers a few bills or kids activities. And look at a budgeting arrangement together to show him how it will all work. Otherwise you risk removing all your stress and placing it upon him instead.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 11:20 AM
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Met mine in a bar we both worked in while students. We did 20 yrs. met current partner on an app tho!
/r/RedPillWives22/05/21 05:40 AM
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You say its not all purely transactional but it sure sounds it. Give what you want to give. Spend time and effort where you want to spend it. Gratefully receive the gifts he offers willingly and freely. Let it flow. And if it doesnt work for you, move on.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 06:03 AM
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Sometimes knowing when to stop and put yourself and your needs first is the best thing you can do. Stop chasing and start doing things for you instead. See where that takes you. Good luck. Its hard being the only one trying. X
/r/RedPillWives25/04/21 05:59 PM
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See I'm kind of the opposite. I was sent to a girls school and had my parents remove me. Bullying and isolation being the main reason. I found female company in high school (and even in the workplace until I hit mid 20's) high in bitchiness, back stabbing and gossip. I did find men more straight forwards and preferred to be one of a small number of women in a larger group of men growing up. I only moved away from that when I met the man I ended up marrying. That small group of women I'm still cl…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/21 10:31 AM
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Ego...
/r/RedPillWives09/04/21 07:36 AM
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Yeah, sometimes I just can't keep my thoughts to myself, my rebellious streak does occasionally get me in a pickle. In terms of tools I love the OYS idea and I've been running my own MAP for about 18 months. There's good and bad in everything right and it certainly helped me understand my situation more clearly. And place myself in a much more fulfilling relationship where I get to be the Woman.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 12:41 PM
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It seems quite a subjective term and you might do better gently probing him on how he would explain it. You don't have to pull it apart with him, but gently enquire if he could elaborate on what that would manifest as. I'd interpret it as being more gentle, approachable, vulnerable. Looking at it as 'less hard' might help you conceptualize it.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 12:28 PM
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It is entertaining isn't it? I've commented and been banned before. I even had a post I made here seeking help in my marriage cross posted over in the mens sub by one of their members (to be mocked and lambasted) under an old account. If I wasn't happy in my marriage and hubby wasn't doing the right things it must be because I'm fat and ugly and bitchy. Not fat, not ugly and only 15% bitchy ;-) That felt like a huge breach of boundaries. I deleted my account after that and was mocked for that al…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 12:10 PM
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Wondering if perhaps you should consider allowing women to post in your forums, since you clearly enjoy participating in our more open community?
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 08:25 AM
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Honestly as far as problems with MIL's go, this is nothing to fret over. As others have suggested give the food away. Even binning it is preferrable to making things awkward between Mother and Son. Drop your ego and seeing it as a slight on you. Just learnt to let it go. Whilst you may have a fully stocked pantry and you make your own bread, is it really that big a deal really? Its hard for Mums to let go. Buy a really big spare freezer and feed her back her own food next time she visits. Perhap…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 07:39 AM
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I didn’t pick him apart. I did criticise & point out his entitlement and her subservience and float the idea of reversing the two positions. God Im awful.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/21 06:25 PM
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"I have to hug him in bed for ten minutes everyday before we go to sleep because he needs it so much, so he can sleep in peace, we are very close" This sounds a bit cringey. Kinda needy and a bit sad really when you consider what he isn't doing for you. Tell him he needs to put his member in you for 15 mins every night so YOU can sleep in peace? I hope the test test helps because otherwise, this relationship is basically going to be a friendship and you have to decide if you're ok with that.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/21 02:14 PM
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Character becomes apparent only over time. Any kind of chat and saying the right thing is worthless. Watch their behaviour and enjoy their company and let things develop. Just hold back on anything you aren't comfortable with and pay attention to your gut. Don't give more than you get. Hold firm boundaries.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/21 09:53 AM
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My thoughts.. he picked a fight with you. He didn't want to go to dinner. And with his last chance thing he's setting the tone to bring all this up again another time. Why would someone do that do you think?
/r/RedPillWives05/04/21 11:23 AM
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I am grateful for the way my man works so hard to improve our home and the skills he has to do it. And for his ability to solve any problem that comes up along the way.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/21 07:44 AM
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He’s out of line, no doubt at all. He picked that fight with you. He sounds horrible. How to handle it? Tell him hes out of line and you will not tolerate being treated in that way. And then dont tolerate it. Stand up for yourself you did nothing wrong.
/r/RedPillWives27/03/21 07:34 AM
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Another one in love with lighting. Also scents. Also rugs and cushions but its been said I go a bit far with those! Nothing in the house that isn't either functional or beautiful. Preferably both. Clean! Also been known to smudge with sage for the happiness thing.. Edit - quartz crystals for rainbows. Not to everyones' taste!
/r/RedPillWives25/03/21 03:28 PM
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Ok so he's annoyed that this is consistent problem then? In that case you need to start changing your behaviour. Apologies mean little without the desired change being seen. Potentially he feels little like touching, flirting etc if he is irritated by attempts to control him and your 'butthurt' (Sorry I hate the phrase!) Think about what you can do to improve your contribution to the issue and do it. Your actions will reveal your intention to improve at this point better than words will.
/r/RedPillWives25/03/21 01:04 PM
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Just back off. Leave it for now. You've said sorry. You're self aware enough to own your part in this. He's letting his own feelings bubble over too by storming out in retaliation. No-one's perfect, you or him. What's he angry about? You going out with the dog or you asking for time to drill down to the root of your feelings? Either seems a little unreasonable tbh, unless you have laid into the guy. Perhaps he is experiencing some guilt or such. When he gets back just say his choice hurt your fe…
/r/RedPillWives25/03/21 12:27 PM
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I just adore everything about Ho'oppono, it achieved some great healing for me under hypnosis
/r/RedPillWives19/03/21 11:22 AM
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I think you should refocus on yourself and your marriage and let your SIL be. So you don't agree with her behaviour. Its not your place to try and change it, or look down on it and judge it. Its a shame that its spoiled your friendship. If I was you, I'd make more of an effort to pleasant and friendly with her and stop complaining about her to her family as it will simply drive a bigger wedge between all of you. Move the conversation onto other topics or nod and smile and move on. You don't have…
/r/RedPillWives19/03/21 11:18 AM
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When you're married its certainly the expectation that you will be each others only (or at least primary) sexual partners. If you aren't both enjoying a mutually satisfying sexual relationship, there is something a miss. Marriages can go on like that and people can live that way, but ultimately its not fulfilling imo. I think its quite an old fashioned view in the west (outside of religious upbringings) to see sex as dirty, wrong or a chore. The women I know and talk about this stuff with enjoy …
/r/RedPillWives19/03/21 11:13 AM
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Cue the downvotes, but just do it. Find a boy you'd like to date, Sean or David or whatever and spend time with them, if its gets hot and heavy let it. You know what you want to do. No-one else matters and no-one else has to know. Certainly dont rush to marry someone just to get to see what the fuss is about in the bedroom. Pick one of your trusted men and find out. Your worth is not tied to your virginity unless you make it so.
/r/RedPillWives17/03/21 12:50 PM
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I found from experience that you can't lead your Man to step up to be a different type of man. You can adapt your own behaviour though to elicit a different response. You want him to pursue you more - have you tried stepping back and giving him space to do so? Have his approaches been swatted away a lot in the past? Are you nagging and putting pressure on him for certain things? This may be making him wary or believe that he'd be wasting his time. For example my ex would be worried he couldn't m…
/r/RedPillWives15/03/21 04:06 PM
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My midlife crisis blew my marriage to smithereens. Life beyond it is more fulfilling. Painful as its been and as poor as some of my choices were, its been for the best.
/r/RedPillWives04/03/21 03:11 PM
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Once you're married you're meant to be off the market. But that doesn't mean let yourself go. There's more to life than what you look like and how attractive Men find you to look at. You can focus on that stuff instead.
/r/RedPillWives03/03/21 08:48 AM
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It is quite possible that your attitude towards him doesn't induce feelings that make sex and intimacy appealing. Are you an appreciative, respectful, pleasing presence in his life, soft place to land, soft and approachable? Or are you possibly nagging, critical, aloof and resentful. Probably a mix at different types. Try and honestly reflect on anything in your behavioural patterns that might make him retreat. If he feels that he does not satisfy you in bed he's also potentially going to avoid …
/r/RedPillWives01/03/21 02:09 PM
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Ok heres what I do in those situations when he needs bringing out of a funk. I go super soft on him. Lots of quiet service, give him space. Cook. Clean. Buy him a big bag of sweets. Playful doesnt help, it feels disrespectful tbh when he has something serious on his mind. Thats later when hes happier and can be taken the piss out of 😸He doesn’t want jollying round or distracting. He takes on a lot. He has a lot of people looking to him. He’s entitled to his feelings and I dont try and change the…
/r/RedPillWives23/02/21 07:59 AM
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Checking back in wanting to thank you for this comment. The "dissonance with how you see yourself bit" There's been more than a few times I've randomly burst into tears at his kindness towards me. It baffles him. Numerous times I've found myself wanting to fight receiving the things I yearned for. That baffles me. It happened again this weekend. He's been so damn impressive all week. We had a deep and meaningful after a few drinks Saturday night where he talked about painful parts of his past re…
/r/RedPillWives22/02/21 03:08 PM
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I'm a chick and it practically saved my life!
/r/RedPillWives22/02/21 02:34 PM
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Cant tell, are you being sarcastic?
/r/RedPillWives22/02/21 02:33 PM
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I love this post and its edits. What a lovely day it turned out. Sometimes you just gotta keep the faith a bit longer xx
/r/RedPillWives15/02/21 09:35 AM
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I'm sorry but beating the dog does cross a line for me. No matter if its ok. Anger management or reconsider your future together. That was how he behaves after a meal he wasn't in the mood for. What doe she do when shit really hits the fan? I would be worried about any future children. I'd also be worried for myself.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/21 04:11 PM
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I don't know, hope this doesn't sound unkind, but your post does seem to indicate that you have indeed been happy to set yourself apart from the majority at work and identify more with people 'well beyond your own usual circle' as they ' hold some basic level of respect and an expectation towards me as a woman that I hold up for myself to as well' whilst the other group just show 'roughness and ignorance and a certain level of a general disregard for etiquette and manners' I don't think there is…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 12:24 PM
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Ok, it might take a long period of time to get to your goal weight. But it takes literally no time at all to take the first steps and keep on stepping. Each step you make and each time you keep going with it, its an improvement, so don't discount or minimise your efforts there. He will start to see your immediate slow steady progress in the right direction. I can't remember all the details but aren't there 6 steps to intimacy that LD advocates? Oh here you go, good old google.. Replenish Your Sp…
/r/RedPillWives27/01/21 11:43 AM
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Yes, we do plan to marry. And are trying for a child together which as Im in my 40s is probably not going to happen quickly. Im still not divorced yet. He loves teaching me stuff, had me plumbing in my dishwasher the other night. I love watching him work too, funny isnt it? Sexy watching him do his thing...
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 07:01 AM
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Thats a really interesting perspective thank you! I think you might be onto something. Ive come a long way in terms of loving myself and self care in the last few years. But receiving is very strange and is taking training. First time he took me shopping I was so awkward saying what I liked. Ill get used to it I guess 😄
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 06:58 AM
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I didnt find it belittling at all. It was a massive relief that he had sorted it. He even got the old one running again. My folks sent me a contribution too bless them which ive given to him so that feels better too. I love that he just decided and went and did it to just make another of my problems go away. I just humbly thanked him and made myself stop fretting. Redid my makeup and hair before he got home and let myself be happy and sparkle for him.
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 06:52 AM
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I just feel bad accepting so much I guess. He rang an hour ago to tell me hes just bought a new boiler so ‘problem solved and stop worrying woman’ was pretty much the size of it. So Ill do as Im told and count my blessings x
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 06:54 PM
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Thank you, that is a really good idea about having a chat & setting a limit and I'm going to do that. We already covered the kids over xmas when he wanted to buy them a quad bike. In the end we agreed to pool resources and money from family also and put it towards it so everyone contributed and went second hand. So it goes to show he is appreciative of others situations. I paid for the boiler as I was living in the house at the time and needed one. But now he has that house and I'm stuck repayin…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 04:03 PM
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OK, so I spent my lunch break on google and found a Laura Doyle book I've not come across before. Its title? " Things will get as good as you can stand (when you learn its better to receive than to give). I've ordered it, but the contents give me hope that in fact, I have just found a decent guy and am making him happy. I understand the concern and will proceed with caution, but will also allow myself to receive what he freely gives to me and allow him to look after me. ​
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 02:00 PM
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Well he took me to the rubbish bin and had me cut them up but amounts to the same thing I guess. It could be either way but I just don't know. He seems legit but I've not known him a long time really...
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 12:08 PM
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Thank you. He's not uncommonly rich no but he is well off and moves in some uncommonly rich circles. There are millionaires in his immediate family and one of his ex girlfriends was also a millionairess from family money she'd inherited. He was significantly richer 10 years ago but lost two businesses and a lot of his assets. But yeh, he's always been around far more money than I've ever been used to. Initially I felt like he gave me his car to use as he preferred me to be seen in that and his u…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 12:05 PM
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Oh bless you x Maybe start by really focusing on what you want out of life for you both and see where stepping towards that takes you. Life always unfolds as it will anyway really. You just have to steer. Keep your goals in mind while you do it x
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 06:07 PM
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Look, none of us always behave perfectly, I'm a long way off and in no position to preach at anyone. But you have to try and put yourself in your Man's shoes as well as your own. Try and see how this situation looked from his POV. You will never be able to control the way he reacts to situations. Its futile to irritate yourself by thinking he should have said this or done that. You can only change your own actions. And try to understand his. He might well echo your sentiments and think, well the…
/r/RedPillWives15/01/21 04:02 PM
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Oh I don't know. Its natural hypergamy. What's the best outcome for you and your child? This guy you left before for your Husband, there was a reason for that you'd do well to reflect on. IMO it sounds like you don't want to be with your Husband any more but I wouldn't bet on this younger guy from before being the answer to your dis-satisfaction.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 12:30 PM
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I don't think people are caught up on the weed. For me I'm caught up on the roof blowing off the shed your husband had made, the shed door slamming on the car. him asking you to put a rock down, and then to give him his trackies back and you just doing none of it, nothing to help and sitting on the floor not answering him. That would irritate many people I think. You couldn't even save him the hassle of going up to get dressed by giving him his pants back. The weeds just your excuse for not beha…
/r/RedPillWives15/01/21 11:18 AM
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Agreed tbh. I like a smoke too but come on OP. In shed with door banging against car? Too scared to prop it with a rock. Sitting on the floor while he sorts it. Its not really great. OP agreed to the diaper arrangement so can't complain about that either. I was married to a man with a very short fuse, furious temper that always reflected any criticism of himself from me back as a fault of my own. There was no reasoning with him when he had been emotionally hijacked. He often slipped into the woe…
/r/RedPillWives14/01/21 08:52 AM
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Interesting post and unusual topic to see here. I can totally relate and see what you've written in my own personal experience on lifes' journey. I think what helped me drop my mask of attempted perfection, respectability and selflessness and unveil my real warts and all self as I recall being when I was much younger was a mix of the following things: A focus on attempting to identify and seek out that which made my heart joyful A further focus on gratitude for the many joys in my life. Mental h…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 11:30 AM
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My fella took the ice scraper and de-icer off me this morning and told me to stay in the warm. Its so foreign to me and my natural urge was to say, no dont be daft I'm capable you know. But I'm learning and instead I hugged him and thanked him and went to fill up his travel mug instead. We could both have looked after ourselves but after that, we both feel loved...
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 03:16 PM
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Your comment about 'are you willing to trust a man enough to let him lead you' really resonated because I know for me for many years the answer would have been no. My ex Husband I think honestly thought he was doing right by deferring to me, happy wife happy life etc but in reality I hated every second of it, but couldn't trust him to take the lead even if he had wanted to take it. Its been a journey of self discovery to get to a point where I was able to identify and secure the kind of man that…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 03:12 PM
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This is a great answer. Hardest thing is finding a man you are willing to let lead you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 09:47 AM
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Practically dragged my husband to the altar. Told him after 6 years if he didn’t marry me the next year, Id find someone who would and he said oh ok then. Most shit engagement story ever. We split up 14 years later. New Man in my life has proposed. On one knee, on the rug, in the bed, decorating the Christmas tree, over the dinner table. But Im still legally married so the answer is always no. Not stupid is he 🤣
/r/RedPillWives30/12/20 07:36 PM
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Consider that you are perhaps making it all about him. You are showing him that you need nothing and are there to cater to him. Your actions are showing you put a low price tag on your own satisfaction in that way, giving and giving and not receiving. Stop.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 08:42 AM
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You've either got it or you don't ;-) Jokes.... Listen, support, respect, be light hearted. Use your intuition. Example yesterday evening I got home and he's on the phone the the insurance company cos someone drove into his car. He's scowling and dutifully making his way through the call handlers screening questions while his work phone is ringing out. I answered his work phone to his business associate and sweetly put them off. I stood behind him just cuddling him. Then heard him and the call h…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 03:31 PM
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I met my husband at 21, married at 26. We are separated now, he was the right guy back thrn but wasnt anymore. We’d both changed. Ive met a guy now that is a much better match for me. We would not have been so well matched 20 yrs ago. Im 43 and hes 48. Never too late x
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 09:54 AM
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You are aware of the red pill concepts of AWALT, hypergamy and branch swinging?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 09:52 AM
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Yes a man who needs that much massaging is an insecure person. No its not attractive. No manliness is not dependent on women pretending its there. The masculine grows with challenge. Feminine with praise. My fella is ex military. ‘Manly’ as fuck. Does NOT need his ego massaged and does not value it. He wants respect and for all he does to be appreciated. Not in a show of praise or by my acting helpless around him. He likes me because Im capable and strong and able to add value to his life. A sim…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 09:47 AM
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Women like you give us a bad name.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 04:17 PM
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Ugh find a man to live off of? No hun, no it isn't.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 04:16 PM
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Agreed. Its kinds off putting to me when a guy is excessively soppy.. and feels needy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/20 08:51 AM
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Pinterest has loads...
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/20 06:12 PM
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I dont think she has to walk on eggshells at all. She just has to suffer a mother in law who is kinda braggy and pushy. Life is full of these kinds of people. People try it on in life all the time and press our buttons. No good shouting ‘narcissist, stone her’ As MILs go it could in fact be worse. OP just needs tools and strategy
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 07:14 AM
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Agreed. So she’s insufferable self interested and pushy and has poor manners and self awareness. She also sounds horribly insecure and unhappy. People like this are easy to win over snd get on side witj some strategic butt licking and politics. You can get her to work for you. Involve and enlist. Eg ask her what is his favourite birthday cake and make it. Bow to her ‘superior’ knowledge and make use of it. Shes not going about it in the best way but she is dying to be recognised as of importance…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 07:01 AM
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But if your spouse wasnt dying, and you were unsatisfied, would you leave then? Are you interested in just the specific dying spouse scenario or talking unconditional love in more mundane situations?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 07:22 PM
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The pandemic and its effects are taking a toll on a lot of peoples mental health. Youre doing lots to keep yourself occupied already. Sounds to me like you need real social contact and some people around you. Get out of the house more also maybe ?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 07:19 PM
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A woman in a relationship where she is satisfied would likely stay with a dying fiancé. I would too. Its an extreme and only a very cold heart would not do that. But as for unconditional love from a female.. Ive made a recent post on this which is very personal if you check post history.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 07:00 PM
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The red pill answer is no, we cant / arent. Recommend you read some Rollo Tomassi for more info
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 03:32 PM
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Loads. It matters loads. Dont date someone that doesn’t give you tingles!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 05:35 PM
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You’re right and I get it. I do. Told her I understand and Im always here whenever. But it does sting. Ive bought her books, sent her articles when shes lamented her situation to me. But she doesnt read them. Told her about my map. Too much work for her. I even paid for a tattoo she wanted to cheer her bloody up a few months back. Weve been friends 22 years but there was a five year period we were dead to each other. I hope there isnt going to be another one 😕
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 05:08 PM
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Your mother is a bitch with a mouth as ugly as her insides. Just rise above, get your shit together and move out.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 06:42 AM
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Totally. I went natural throughtout my twenties and thirties. 43 now and need all the help i can get, fucking worship my foundation 😂
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 07:14 AM
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Agreed. I dont actually find the quoted comments disrespectful at all. Hard to hear but honest and quite measured indicators of his feelings. Disrespectful to me would show up more as being told to shut the f**k up or actually insulted.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 09:35 AM
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This post makes me feel so sad. Your body is doing something amazing. You are growing a life inside you. Dont hate your body for the way it looks like youre doing it. You are blessed, your body is amazing. How you look will change. I hated my body after my first child was born. I thought Id never get to a point i felt proud of it again. It took 10 years but I wasted a lot of those feeling fed up and hopeless about it instead of taking any action. I had no stretch marks at 32 weeks. At 42 they ra…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/20 08:55 AM
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Its an investment sure but hardly a gamble. Unmarried with no family at 31, seems a good time to invest in providing yourself a good future. Pinning your hopes on waiting for Mr Right whilst cultivating femininity seems more of a gamble to me 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/RedPillWives05/11/20 11:26 AM
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Why not get a law degree anyway. You’ll meet men there, you’ll be increasing your value to a high value man, you will be able to support yourself until you meet the man you settle down with. Youve just decided your career isnt your main goal but its daft now to just sack it off and sit home practicing make up and embroidery. You dont have to tell your parents your goal is to not use the degree, just live your life. When you meet the guy, just make the changes to a traditional role as it becomes …
/r/RedPillWives05/11/20 08:33 AM
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I have some bad habits and baggage to leave behind. Ducks to put in a row.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 10:36 PM
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It felt completely natural. I feel pressure from friends and family to play it down and not rush into things. I've had two other big loves in my life and both those times it felt like this. Familiar, natural and so incredibly easy. He is pushing me out of my comfort zone in some areas though and I do feel some pressure as I know he has boundaries and requirements that mean me stepping up and away from certain people and things. I find that a little scary, but that's also part of my attraction to…
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 03:16 PM
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I've been out my 20 yr marriage 12 months. Took me 12 months to meet someone I actually wanted to date but we both knew after the first date we were all in and sat and disabled our profiles together. If you have a connection you have a connection. Don't sabotage it with the notion that there might be something better out there. Trust your gut. If you aren't feeling it, let him know, but if you are, go all in and see where it goes. You'll soon know.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 10:12 AM
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We are so conditioned to reject the concepts of masculine and feminine duality that when you start to see it and embrace it takes time to reprogram. Ive come out of a marriage to a very lazy, emotionally soft man that was very dependent on me. My new relationship is completely different. The dynamic is amazing but takes getting used to for me. I love the strength, discipline, boundaries he sets me. Im happy and relieved to let him drive the relationship. He enjoys me showing up in his life as my…
/r/RedPillWives25/10/20 08:35 AM
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