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FIELD REPORTFluffyLlamaPants/r/RedPillWomen21/03/20 04:30 PM
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First of all, I do want to express that I completely understand where you're coming from, and I'm in no way trying to invalidate your feelings on this matter. It IS important to us, women, to receive the intentional expression of love from our man. In fact its IMPERATIVE for us to be frequently reminded that we are, in fact, still still hold that special place in the man's heart like we were told at the beginning of the relationship. For us, that expression varies how the man sees it, unfortunat…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/20 11:03 PM
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Fairly sure the principle of "I don't put stuff in my body that I don't want" still applies, red pill or not. If her husband choses to be offended - that's his choice. You're not responsible for another person's feelings.
/r/RedPillWives21/12/20 04:41 PM
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I would do nothing. No one can control what another person decides to do with their life, no matter how much they may disapprove of it (especially a hypothetical one 😂). Let him feel how he feels. What difference does it make?
/r/RedPillWives15/12/20 12:50 AM
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Do you mean other than Jesus? No, my soul doesn't require one. But that doesn't mean that we should take for granted those people that we get to travel with for a while. They all are a part of our story, and teach us how to love another despite their and our shortcomings. So no, I don't believe in a "soulmate", but I do believe in most optimal travel companions. Best adventuring duo who compliment each other's strengths and weaknesses.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/20 03:01 AM
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Think of it this way. Imagine his reaction if you did the same with a male friend. It's extremely trust breaking.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/20 01:01 PM
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You've already apologized once. If he valued all the things you believe he does, you would've known about his conversations when they started. Men, who aren't interested in a woman, wouldn't say that line he did. Clearly, you're uncomfortable with what he's doing. He's already broken your boundaries.
/r/RedPillWives28/11/20 12:58 PM
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What's this "free time" you're describing? Where does one download that from? Seriously though, that free time you're wasting away, is more precious than gold, diamonds, anything. Everything is pointless when it IS pointless. Take all those hours you're burning away on the phone, gym, guitar, etc, and invest it in people. The only way to invest time is by giving it away to others: in service. Get out of the comfort zone and dare to learn who you really are. Call the local hospital - see if they …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 01:16 AM
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Life rarely is setup in a way that coincides with what we want, doesn't it? One can have a perfect looking marriage and it ends in a divorce. One can have a perfect Captain and he's taken away from your life by a tragedy. I don't know about "insurance". You can try to prepare yourself for every possible worst outcome by getting an education, preserving your beauty, stashing money in a bank account, having a bunker in a forest stocked with canned chili and ammo...but you'll never be ready for the…
/r/RedPillWives15/11/20 03:13 AM
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Two choices - keep looking for the man who's so much smarter and more knowledgeable than you, so that you're never in the position to have to correct him, or Accept the fact that attempting to control everything around you is tiresome to everyone. Sometimes the best thing to do, is close mouth, trust your captain to make a decision that could be wrong, allow him to learn from it, so that next time he can use that experience to steer the ship where it needs to go. If you're not willing to do that…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 03:53 AM
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Never. I'll talk about farts, because farts are hillarious, but I won't ever do it in front of him. But if it escapes and its loud, I'll be laughing my ass off. Under my own blanket though is fair game. If he chooses to uncover the hidden fart-cache without giving me a chance to warn him - sorry, my love, but you brought it on yourself. A wise man never rips a blanket off a person without warning. Ancient native wisdom.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 04:08 AM
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That ship, unfortunately had sailed for me, so it'll just have to remain a dream I didn't get to live. It'll be just a meaningless carreer grind until retirement for me. And by carreer I'm talking about whatever job that pays the bills and is not too horrible to wake up to. C'est la vie. It's alright, I have other dreams to fall back on. Whoever makes it though - hope it gives you what you were looking for, cherish that place.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 04:56 PM
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Good luck, I mean it. I've never not regretted raging, so I empathize with you.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 04:34 PM
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There's not much else to do, other than give him time to decide what he wants to do. After that offee a sincere apology and ask for forgiveness. Just be 100% honest, but don't bring up the nature of the fight. "Bottle up+explode" is as classic Woman behavior as one can get, so hopefully he is patient enough to be willing to move past that. Thing is, bottle+explode is a symptom. I know in my personal experience it's been because of the following things: I didn't feel safe expressing my true feeli…
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 04:28 PM
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No thanks. Not only it's unattractive to me personally, but I would assume that he either slept with them previously (and planning to do it again) or haven't slept with them (and hoping to). It's weird.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 01:43 AM
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It's hard to convince the hospital to accept fresh rhymes as a payment, when your son's on the 10th round of chemo, and you gotta quit your job to help him with his daily basic skills, even though he's 18 - he no longer can take care of himself, and on top of it all, the AC breaks down and that corporate bore of a husband who will cash in his 401k and his life's savings to just have one more Christmas with his son, starts looking better and better. Because life sometimes doesn't care who had dre…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 01:12 AM
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A man can sit and ponder the quality, the depth, and the persistence of my love for him, or he can accept that I love him the only way I know, and reap the benefits of it while we're both can, because God knows that nothing lasts forever in this lifetime. Same with me - I can sit, fret, and wonder whether my love measures up to his expectations and ideals, or if he believes that I do, or simply love him the only way that I know. The Thing is, we often assume that "love" is something we're born w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 11:25 PM
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That's nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 02:33 AM
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Red Pill theory is for men. It's defined in a context that's meant to reveal the world around them (mainly when it comes to interacting with other humans) as it really is. It's not meant, nor can be reasonably used, to define me as a person, for example. It's not a dogma, nor a religion. It's ideas, observations, and in many cases - direct experimenting to arrive at a conclusion, by men FOR men. There's nothing to accept or resist really..It helps being aware of, because if you know what your po…
/r/RedPillWives16/10/20 07:38 PM
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Whatever that means to you - life can turn on a dime and change your reality 180 degrees south. Always have something to fall back on. It's great to want to be an exemplary wife, but that's not all. Sometimes captains fall, even the best ones. Disease, accidents, wars, violence, this is a dangerous world. The first mate still has to steer the ship back home - the crew depends on it. Not ""just a great wife" - the kind of woman he will know will be capable of getting the crew home, should he ever…
/r/RedPillWives29/09/20 12:20 AM
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My advice? Always have a plan B.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 11:07 PM
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Frankly - I don't really ponder on that, it's just not worth my time. I am aware of the traditional AWALT "features" as identified by the RP theory, but dwelling on it (especially when it's used in a negative connotation) serves no purpose. What I strive for is being more sensitive to those AWALT behaviors that ARE in fact, detrimental to any relationship, especially the one with the man I love. All humans are capable of being an asshole, so I try to minimize those asshole traits that are associ…
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 10:32 PM
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My man? No, he would not only see through it but also find it insulting. Telling someone the truth does require a measure of trust: trust that his ego can take it (and a sensible man understands not to be angry at the messenger), and he trusts you to be honest, all WHILE having that truth come from a place of love. I wouldn't want him to lie to me when there's an opportunity to improve. Ultimately it wouldn't't make me feel better, but weak and Any other man as a friend? No. If a friend came to …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 01:26 AM
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Ok, this one is actually something my friend's husband did once, and I thought it was such a cool idea: Moroccan getaway in the living room. He put up a camping tent, and inside he decorated it with cloth and lots of pillows, and arranged them like divans. Some moroccan music, string lights, some light incense. He cooked a moroccan traditional dinner (ok, he was also a chef!), Had their sons dress up in like arabian-esque garb and be their "servers" for the evening. They both dressed up in costu…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 07:22 PM
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I don't agree on the new rule, because to everything is an exception. But I'm not going to discuss the rule, frankly, it has no bearing on my life or how I view myself as a woman. I was talking about a different point.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 02:04 AM
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This hits close to home for me. Not too long ago I had to 'give up' my own child to the law enforcement. People in my life didn't accept that. They felt that if I was a "normal mom" - I would have "kept my mouth shut". I actually had that hurled in my face, that I'm the most horrible mother. How can I do this to my own kid? My child believes it too, in some ways, maybe not so much now. I can't tell what the future holds for him, but because it was a first offense - the punishment was infinitely …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 12:33 AM
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This is a comment that's really underappreciated. Sometimes love makes itself visible by doing things that don't seem loving. Clearly they both need help. Separately from one another, but they both need help. By removing herself from the situation, she actually IS protecting them both. It's better to be prosecuted for a lesser offense and have a chance to change the course of your life, than wait until there's no second chance.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 12:11 AM
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That was tongue in cheek.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 11:47 PM
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If we get banned from the sub - feel free to reach out via DM. Stay safe. Hugs.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 11:45 PM
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So if modes are the only authority of value on thus sub, why are the rest of us even here? To give out manicure tips?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 11:21 PM
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Agreed. An abusive man is as low value as they come. Finding high value captain IS a woman's imperative, always, but we're focusing more on how to make sure their hair is feminine and she knows her way around the kitchen. Those skills are great, but they mean absolutely nothing if they don't know how to tell a cleverly disguised beta from a real man.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 11:14 PM
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Yeah, no. Don't do that. He lost.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 10:45 PM
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Forgot to mention. You can put an "Emergency dialer" on your phone that looks like an inconspicuous app. If you are ever in danger, it dials 911. Don't need to speak, but they will listen. Make sure your phone's location is on. They will dispatch a car to the location of the phone. And I know, calling the cops on your loved ones is the last thing you ever expected to do. Trust me. It's awful, but it's better than the alternative. It's best he's arrested for lesser offense than murder, right?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 10:44 PM
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Oh goodness, dear fren. First of all - hugs. Second of all - any trust or hope to "make it better" he lost. That's not a man. That's a beta who spent all his life pretending he was a man. He can be on his best behavior until the day he dies, but HE. LOST. YOU. I am as red pilled as they come and the minute a man crosses that line of violence - we're done. Frankly, domestic abuse comes in many forms, but what you described is horrific. Being feminine has NOTHING to do with turning the other cheek…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 10:38 PM
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Cut out some activities and go to bed earlier. There's no such thing as a "morning person". But there are people who go to bed early, get plenty of sleep, and get up early. Eventually it becomes a habit.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 11:26 PM
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I'm so grateful for my man's patience and love for me. I'm grateful for him just being, frankly. Grateful for my home where most everything works. It has food and entertainment and quiet. Being healthy and pain free. I work in healthcare and I see so much suffering during the day. It reminds me to always be thankful for every day without pain. Vegetables. Definitely vegetables. Cooked with some garlic and cumin.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 11:21 PM
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In case someone is still living under a rock, anything that even remotely endorses traditional man/woman relationship and encourages traditional femininity without the insidious feminist ideology - is persecuted, squashed, laughed ar, misrepresented, and eventually snuffed out. We're no strangers to adversity. This world has a very specific plan for men and women, and it is most definitely not to promote a simple, happy life filled with love and improving ourselves as human beings. Whether it's …
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 06:47 PM
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May I suggest something that might be unpopular? 😃 Not everything has to be perfect 100% of the time. I'm not saying - abandon cleaning forever and use that time to nap. But it's critical for a woman to have "me time". It's easy to lose your identity if your only purpose is to be mom/cleaner/cook/wife. You're so much more. Find ways to incorporate that into your life daily. Afterall, being a good wife doesn't mean getting completely absorbed into the walls of your home. That's how women disappea…
/r/RedPillWives05/09/20 05:42 PM
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Red Pill is not a way of thinking, it's a realization of the natural order of things, the acceptance of how human beings are built biologically psychologically and spiritually and how those schematics apply to the interaction between female and male humans. It's hard to answer your question, because I don't live out red pill. I'm just me - female to my core. Red pill is simply information that showed me my operating system, how it inyeracts with the male's operating system and most importantly W…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 05:18 PM
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We both are. Sometimes we discuss RP topics and sometimes we joke about it. We are in a long distance relationship, so there are many dynamics of a traditional relationship that we don't have the opportunity to experience fully. At times I find it annoying when he responds to my emotional swings as a RP man does, because a) I know what he is doing, and b) it works 😡 Also, I can't get away with manipulation at all because he is always aware of it (even when I'm not) and I pout, because I don't ge…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 12:20 AM
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The gift you bring is you, as you are. Your love for your chosen mate, your life experiences, your dreams, your hand in his to walk along side with him on this journey in a dangerous world. If he looks beyond all that and judges you for past transgressions then, I am sorry to say that man is neither loving nor secure enough to be your captain. Forgive yourself and be kind to you. People do much worse for less. God sees us at our worst, even the parts we hide from ourselves, and He still adores u…
/r/RedPillWives27/08/20 07:10 PM
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Personally, I am abysmal about setting and achieving goals. So I'd like to work on that this year (again) by really sticking to the SMART goals principle: S - goals should be Specific. (I will go through that junk drawer and organize it) M - goals should be Measurable ( is the junk drawer still a junk drawer or a drawer with usable, accessible items?) A - are they Attainable goals? ( Yes, you CAN resolve the junk drawer situation) R - are they Relevant? ( Yes, that drawer brings shame upon you a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 05:56 PM
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Yup, I've been cleaning more before the new years - it's a tradition. Many things that I've been neglecting to do over the past few months.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 05:49 PM
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Thankful for my children, who are alive and healthy. So many parents today are bereft of their most precious. Just gotta remind myself that when they aggravate me. Thankful for my man. My oak. My beloved. He keeps me standing in my storms. Thankful for my job. For obvious reasons. Thankful for adversity that makes me more resilient.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 01:04 AM
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I think I got lucky. Work in healthcare, with a dozen of women with a woman in charge. Everyone is simply too busy and too tired to be catty or gossip. Also, they've worked together for many years, so they support, uplift, help, and care for each other. There's only one person who's kind of a little black cloud (not me😂), but even she is loved and somehow fits into the mix. When one is overloaded with work, another will offer to take off her load and help. When life gets me knocked to the ground…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 01:17 AM
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Holy tamale, woman. There's a novel-worth of paragraphs here, all about you. One of my favorite lines is from a movie My Geisha ( I highly recommend!), That summarizes submission perfectly: "No one before you, my husband. Not even I." Shift the focus from "me, my past, my attempts, my , me, memememe..." to him. In your thoughts, your deeds, and your heart. You gotta get rid of your first idol, before you can worship another.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 09:22 PM
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(raises both hands) preach!
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 09:14 PM
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In this day and age, waiting for Mr.Redpill to find and ask you out of the blue, eventually might get you sitting in a company of 15 cats, binging on last week's chili. Don't get me wrong, both of those things sound amazing, but so does having a good man to love. As some pointed out, in the US, the act of courting/pursuing/doing the seduction dance was equated to pretty much sexual assault (thanks, feminism!). So, a lot more men of a certain age will say "not worth the chance of getting police c…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 08:43 PM
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I would: Divorce Quit smoking. Go back to school and got a degree in something I REALLY wanted to do ( instead of doing nothing). Move back to my moms and be present in my little brothers life, instead of trying to patch up the tatters of our relationship twenty years later. Start doing martial arts then. Take care of my mental health. Take chances outside of the safety of my computer. Travel. Not to be a negative Nancy - I like me now. I don't regret most of my life's experiences as they were. …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 10:17 PM
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Being irreplaceable was something that I dreamt of before I got married. One man, who will be my "other half", my inseparable twin, my soulmate! Ah, this must be what true love smells like....(narrator: it wasn't.) As I got older...much older, the picture of what being irreplaceable to a man actually meant gradually became clearer. More often than not, it meant a man that hangs his very happiness on you (a hell of a weight to carry,big you ask me). A man who's looking for a mother figure, while …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 12:21 AM
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Correct.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 05:04 PM
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Don't send him the letter. Since you've already stated that he's not comfortable with expressing his feelings in a way that you hope he would, the letter would just create an unnessesary obligation. Don't. Actions over words. Look at his actions. They don't lie. The letter is a classic manipulation tactic to get him to change. Don't. He's not going to change - take it or leave it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 02:58 AM
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No matter how awesome, handsome, rich, amazing in bed, alpha, whatever he is, you gotta know and like YOU. Because life's waaaaay shorter than you think it is, and the person that you gonna spend most of it is yourself. There's a big difference between a good Captain who expects his first mate to keep up, all while encouraging and supporting her climb, and a man who hammers down every sharp edge and imperfection in you, in order to see his own reflection better. Think carefully about which one y…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 02:30 AM
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Trouble with Valentine's day and other forms of Large-scale covert contract events, is that beta men DO use the gifts, flowers, wooing, etc, to essentially place an obligation on the wife to have sex with them. That is in a relationship where the sex part is missing for the most part. (see the majority of the long term US marriages). Women know this and preemptively resent the gifts/efforts. It's understood that all these things are a song and dance in exchange for sex. The holiday now places an…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 02:01 AM
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Actually, shit/comfort testing, is how we weed out the "fake alphas" from the pack. We do it always, whether we realize it or not. Part of our programming, like it of not. Think of it as a wonderful biological/phsychological ability to constantly calculate, weigh, and decide, consciously or unconsciously, whether our chosen mate is "good enough". Don't confuse shit/comfort testing with just conciously playing head games. Most true shit/comfort tests we do on subconscious level and they are not a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/19 12:57 AM
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I literally started to question him, before shutting my mouth, thinking for a second, and saying “well you’re smart, I’m sure you’ll figure it out”. Funny, when I say that, they're like "worst tech support ever!" And "I wanna talk to your supervisor!" Seriously though, Haven't read that book, but great! Sometimes we all just want to vent. I find just listening and being receptive/supportive is actually way harder than diving into the advice-giving mode. Something I'd like to work on, personally.…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 01:11 AM
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I wouldn't say it's a red flag, remember, just 15 years ago not having social media presence was the norm. Plus, SM is an excellent tool for anyone with smarts to create a persona they want others to see. But she's right to be cautious of that as well, and it doesn't hurt to be extra cautious of meeting anyone new - FB account or no. Keep in mind, that he might also be married/involved already, and having no SM presence would help him to remain anonymous in that sense.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/19 05:08 PM
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For me, a man who lives in a dirty home (and is the owner of said home), especially at that age, is a HUGE red flag. The place we occupy is often a reflection of us, our mental state. The fact that he lives alone (did I get that right?) And yet unable to keep his place clean is a bad sign. It's really easy to keep things clean actually. In fact, it takes a little effort each day to maintain order, even if you're really busy ( provided you live alone and not in a house with others that constantly…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/19 02:58 AM
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Have you tried asking the other hunters where to find the deer? 😊 Just throwing it out there. 🤷
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/19 07:35 PM
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You lost me at " he smokes since he's 15yo and drinks." Could've stopped there.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 12:27 PM
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When someone's deceived, the fault is on the deceiver, not on the deceived. It's his fault for misrepresenting his intentions ( if that's indeed the case here). Don't ever stop working to improve yourself, and yes, not a waste. Think of it as a bachelor's degree in Life's Lessons? You got this. Don't despair. You got this.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 10:02 AM
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Best of luck, I hope it works. It takes guts to bring up a problem, but a good thing is worth fighting for! Hugs.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 09:56 AM
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Hey, let's form a club! We'll build a tree house and decorate it, and have tea and scones on Tuesdays! We'll call it The Unpaid Maid Club. Because a lot of what you wrote hits close to home. And yeah, when those drug commercials say "depression hurts everyone", that's not just a clever line. It's the truth. He was suffering, but you've been suffering too. You started out trying to be a good wife, a loyal officer, but ended up a maid with a man-child. Many men, most men don't get praised for what…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 11:50 PM
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The man I love always says "hope is not a strategy". I disagree (shhh, don't tell him I said that 😁), but I understand how that applies to some situation. This is one such situation. We women often love our idea of the man, perhaps his potential, perhaps our fantasy of him, but rarely the man himself. So we spend years either trying to mold him into that man of our vision, or waiting for him to become him. Neither will happen. I'm sorry if you were led astray by this man, I truly am. But you kno…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 11:30 PM
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Oooh boy. You've answered your own question by listing several paragraphs of reasons why this whole thing rings as wrong as an onion ring at a Cathedral. So, I'll just point to the "brownie points": Was he? Since this is your criteria for his merits, do you know this for 100%? That sounds great. He can talk about "future together" until the cows come home. What's he done to indicate that will happen? Again "he said he'll fix stuff". My SO been fixing a hole in a wall for a few months yet. The ho…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 07:36 PM
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If you want to learn how to make connections with people, you gotta put yourself out there. Staying home or going out with your close friends accomplishes neither of those things. Go out alone, or engage in a social activity, club, hobby that allows you to meet new people in a safe environment. Hiking, i.e. Is a very popular and healthy hobby. Apps like Meetup can help you find and keep in touch with people that share your interests. And if most of them are women - try a new hobby. You never kno…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 01:51 AM
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Sounds like your previous manager knew very well that the new one is bad, and moved you there to essentially do the managers job without actually getting paid accordingly. Pretty sleazy, not even talking about an incredible level of unprofessionalism and liability issues for a bank. The current one most likely knows he sucks, but either is unable or most likely unwilling to train you, so that he doesn't look bad (and loses his job). Two options: ask for your old job back, because a buck more is …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 08:39 PM
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A friend of mine, a long time ago, told me that coming home meant his wife's "first act of greeting him" was to update him on: what broke which bill was due how crappy the kids were at school and how he should punish them and...nope. that was the one and only "act of greeting" he was given. Every day. He stopped coming home on time, and kept staying out later and later everyday. Last I heard, he switched carreers to make sure he doesn't come home for weeks at a time. That's no way to be. As some…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 07:47 PM
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No matter how handsome he is, no matter how sweet, romantic he is, how exciting it is to touch him, or how good he makes you feel, you first priority and always is YOUR self-worth. Set boundaries, make them clear. Don't hint, or insinuate - clearly (but politely) articulate to him what your boundaries are. If he crosses them again, decide is what I described in the beginning is greater than YOUR self-worth.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 07:39 PM
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Hah, I still think of my first boyfriend sometimes, 20+ years later, and wonder "did he ever get a chance to nail his stepsister or not?" Yeah. Ask me that question in about a year.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/19 12:09 AM
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The not-so- fictional Caroline Ingalls (Mrs. Ingalls in the little house on the prairie TV series). To me, she's a wonderful example of an extremely strong woman who follows her husband's lead with trust, patience, and love. She is still an individual but her focus is providing the home and care for her family. Aside from that, it's also how the character treats others around her and deals with (insanely great) adversity. For the younger ladies here - if you haven't watched Little House on the P…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 02:36 PM
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Stop sparing his ego. You have no children with this slug, not married to him ( technically), can't stand him, and on top of it all - he practically rapes you. Yes, marital rape is a thing. Run, don't walk. There's absolutely nothing red pill about this man other than you've convinced yourself that he is. Red pill or not, this just sounds like a miserable experience. With no kids involved, there's seems to be 0 reasons to continue with this. You can't decide for him to be the man you hope he is …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/19 02:30 AM
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Yes, I'd love to! Actually, I have the tension bands thatve been gathering dust - I can probably use them to do some rowing. Thanks for the suggestions! Yeah, I'd love to have a full sized punching bag in my home tbh. Maybe Christmas? 😁
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 07:17 PM
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I'd like to second (third) the request for workout ideas. Also, am I being a little snooty, thinking 26lbs is really small weight to make a big difference? I really don't know, I'm just stuck in the "more weight =ripped faster" mentality. But I'd like to increase my upper body strength, arms specifically.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 05:05 PM
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Hey, congratulations! A full time job with benefits ( hopefully?) Is nothing to shake a stick at. Aside from getting valuable experience and a steady paycheck, don't forget some other bonuses: social networking that can potentially lead to better job opportunities in the future a good commonality that you and your bf can share and discuss together. I've worked with SO on multiple jobs and it really helped having that big chunk of our day as something we both shared and could talk about at the en…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 03:35 PM
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A high quality man DOES have the option to walk away at any time and for any reason. Doesn't mean he will, but that's ALWAYS an option for him. A quality woman will work hard on herself to make sure that SHE is the woman he chooses to spend his time with. The other woman is irrelevant. He is the focus. And grabbing anyone's junk and claiming them as your own, well, that's just silly. If the husbands' dicks really belonged to their wives, they'd be taken care of MUCH better than the marriage real…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 10:24 PM
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I personally wouldn't change my behavior from my usual one. Her being friendly doesn't affect your relationship with your bf. She's irrelevant (in sense of competition), as long as you focus on him. Acting possessive and defensive of him is unattractive and smells of insecurity, and nothing deflates the "new contender" like your own confidence. Focus on him and watch his response. If he's responding to her whiles - reassess what might be missing in your relationship and care the loving crap out …
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 03:46 PM
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Thank you and you are very welcome, I hope it helped and best of wishes!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/19 02:59 PM
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To have her respect,you gotta be the man she respects. It's red pill 101, my friend. But this isn't a place for us to coach you on how to conduct yourself or your wife. I can't comment on her actions, because she's not the one telling her story nor asking for an advice. All I gotta say is that I wouldn't dream of acting this way towards the man I love because I respect him AND because he wouldn't allow me to act that way. I'm no special perfect snowflake - he leads and doesn't stand there waitin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 01:46 AM
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My health. I really am thankful for having a body that does what it's supposed to do and that I wake up every morning without pain (for the most part). I've been fortunate all my life, and even in sickness my body recovered quickly and got stronger. So many others around me are not as fortunate, either by the chance of their genetics, circumstances, or their own choices. I know that no one guarantee that tomorrow won't be the day when everything changes, so tonight I'm just thankful for the heal…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/19 11:33 PM
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What are your computer skills like? Here are some things that I prefer to keep on my laptop/PC for organization/accessibility sake an might help you (especially in the future, when kids/house ownership/car ownership comes into play. Am I correct in assuming this is a long-term relationship plan?): start keeping track of your and your family's personal health record. You can do this as simply as scanning (or taking pictures of your immunization records, doctor's visit notes, lab tests etc) and sa…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/19 05:12 PM
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No one SHOULD have children, imho. It really is a personal choice in our day and age, and while I completely understand family/cultural/social pressures to have one, it really is your decision. You don't owe it to anyone to produce another human. I've actually went into my marriage not planning to have kids. Didn't want them. Even now, the sight of babies really doesn't make my ovaries explode with desire for more kids. Oh, I adored my own (when I became a mom) more than I can adore anything on …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/19 03:21 PM
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As a 40-something woman, who spent most of her life enjoying "boy hobbies", working in a predominantly-male field of work, and overall having 50%of my interests being traditionally "stuff that only guys like", all I can say is if it feels like you're playing dress up - you're playing dress up. You gotta do you. Being feminine isn't what you're wearing, or the music you listen to, or your hobbies. Heck, my mother, the most genuine Woman I know, is a geophysicist who spent her youth working jobs m…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 12:17 AM
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It does make sense. Humor is a great shield - it keeps you all warm and protected from any potential judgement. A sense of humor is an awesome gift, it really is. Just try not to let it take place of the more difficult aspects of relating to other people, like showing vulnerability and asking for help. You want/need help - don't just show you need help. Straight up ask your close ones for help. I know, it takes guts. It's ok. Jokes will still be there when the dust settles. And I say that as som…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 03:18 AM
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Don't bring it up, in fact it shouldn't even be a factor in your relationship unless you're married and sharing finances. His insecurity (if it's really there) is not your responsibility to manage. He either can handle it or he'll let his fragile ego speak for him. Either way, You can't affect how he feels about it, so there's really no point in fixating on it. You do you, be humble, be generous, and be tactful. And chances are, he's thinking more about what's underneath your clothes than what's…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 01:50 AM
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Here's a pattern that I'm seeing so far: You analyze and overanalyze your behavior so you can present yourself how you think he wants to see you. How you think he wants you to be. How you imagine is the "correct way to be". Avoiding arguments? Hiding your hamster? Trying to push down your true wants and needs on the altar of Being the Perfect Girlfriend. What I'm seeing is not the perfect girlfriend but a woman who's frightened of trusting her captain to be able to handle her hamster. A woman wh…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 01:39 AM
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I honestly think that getting a home economics textbook might be very useful. Even something from the old days. True, some things have changed, but those books still have an incredible amount of solid information on how much actually goes into maintaining a household efficiently and successfully. Things that I wish I knew when I first got married: Budgeting. How to track your actual expenses vs your fantasy numbers. How to accurately predict future expenses. How coupons work and generally how to…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/19 12:37 AM
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Let me introduce you to my three best friends. Mis tres amigos. My biffles. Ross Marshall's Bealls outlet. And if you're too busy to shop between the studying sessions: https://www.zulily.com/. Sales, and I've been happy with the quality (although that's not always guaranteed).
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 11:12 PM
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I never thought about it when I got married. I was 18, in love, and didn't care if I spent my days working part time waiting tables. His income or stability wasn't an issue or a consideration. My own income or earning potential wasn't either. We were in love. What else does anyone really need?? Well, apparently babies still need stuff. Doctors want to be paid. Cars get towed. Houses foreclosed. Utilities shut off. Loans denied. Love is not enough. It wasn't the stability or the earning potential…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 08:10 PM
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Of all of the things that I talked about with SO before we tied the knot, the one conversation we shouldve had was "what are our expectations from this union?" Have a sit down talk with your husband. Both of you layout what you want from the marriage and what you expect from the other. Be honest about how much you want/willing to deliver on the expectation. It's ok if it doesn't line up - that's why you're talking. Negotiating. Finding issues before they become the irreparable cracks in your mar…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 04:47 PM
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What kind of a relationship/marriage/household do you want for yourself? What is your goal? While basic life skills are a must for everyone, man or a woman, try outlining the shape of your desired future. It'll help you see in detail what skills you're missing, and it'll help us to make suggestions in that direction.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 04:36 PM
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Never dull your shine for anyone, period. As many already said - a weak person, man or woman, is intimidated or scared of someone with more education, strength, experience, wealth, etc. A man who is worth all you can offer would not be scared to take you on board, but will recognize your strengths and abilities, and use them to lead you both where you're going. No good captain picks a number one who's incompetent for fear of being bested. A great captain picks exceptional crew, because anything …
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 08:06 PM
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Tea and cupcake is right on the money. The healthier the face looks - the more attractive it will be. Even if your features fall outside of the "insert classic beauty convention" parameters, nothing can replace the allure of clean, healthy skin. Sunscreen - always! This should've the first thing you put on your face and other exposed parts of your skin (unless you live in the cave, which is cool, no judgement 😁). Make sure you pick something that doesn't make you break out, there's a good number…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 11:14 PM
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Wasn't the point of my reply at all. I was cautioning about romanticizing the ideal. As other posters pointed out - most women they know are married to a Michael. Most women I know as well, are married to one. Because Michaels are generally safe, reliable, and easy to control. That's all.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 09:51 PM
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Of course he doesn't. I'm not the one who described him as "poor Michael". Having potential is not what makes a diamond in the rough a diamond. Reaching it does. We all have potential coming out of our ears. Very few of us actually reach it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 08:26 PM
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Well, I'm somewhat confused by the focus of this. While yes, essentially we're looking for the certain qualities in a man and how those qualities benefit us in the relationship, but I don't believe that's a good way to gauge a man's emotional/intellectual/physical development level. It's a great list of what you're looking for in a man personally, but not what I was hoping it's be. I would actually be interested to hear from men, what they view as definitive passage from boyhood to manhood. Afte…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 05:32 PM
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Yet, this kind of a comment is a wonderful example. Rudeness is for children.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 04:37 PM
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I'm a little confused. The original question asks how to differentiate a boy from a man, but the list is a laundry list of your needs/wants from him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 04:30 PM
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Well yes, that's the essence of a woman. To be desired, accepted, worshipped, catered to "as we are". Without having to continuously improve ourselves, prove our worth every day, drive ourselves up the hill all the time in order to be the woman worth all the things we crave. We want gains without the pains. In fact, humans in general would prefer gains rather than pains (even though the pains is where we grow the most). But women, well we perfected the art of "love me for who I am inside" and th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 03:44 PM
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Ah, even more reason to delve into the topic from the point of view of history, because even the Bible points out that nothing ever changes, when it comes to how people are. A very good question, with which I've struggled myself at points (but from a different perspective). Have you ever visited r/rpchristians sub by chance? I'm not 100% that's the exact name, but there is one and you might get a good discussion from the biblical point of view there. Edit: found the sub! But to answer your quest…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 02:21 PM
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I have a good man and I don’t want to ruin things by acting entitled & spoiled That's an easy one. Just don't act spoiled and entitled. Don't overthink it. Let the man do what the man wants to do. He wants to shower you with gifts - that's his perogative. Don't try to control his action under the guise of humility. You don't think you're worthy of the gifts/ attention? Let him make that decision, be always grateful for the gifts and the help, and don't ask for more. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 09:36 PM
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How do you quantify happiness? On your terms or the woman's? Viewing it from a perspective of a person from a Western culture or from someone another culture? You can certainly guess about an emotional state of a hypothetical group of women, but seems like researching from a historical/ cultural perspective might shed some light on that. What's the purpose of your questions?
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 09:30 PM
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A polygamous marriage is a common and working marriage/family format in many cultures and for many centuries. That should answer your question. Technology changes, humans do not.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 08:18 PM
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Unnessesarily difficult at the most unexpected times, while making her want to keep playing through the tears of frustration? I like your style!
/r/TheRedPill27/07/19 07:30 PM
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Depends on how much you want that man. Quality prey takes time to study, to prepare, before you actually begin your "dance". If this is just for a light flirtation - don't try to out-do the other woman.thatd be obvious and chances are will end up making you look foolish. Instead, pay attention to the man himself, not the other woman. She, the other woman is irrelevant. He - is the goal. Watch closely to how he interacts with the other women, men, how does he respond to the others flirting? Their…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 01:10 PM
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While Michael sounds like a lovely, hard-working, muscly, sweaty model of a man for the middle class America, I'll definitely pass. Why is he poor? I mean, he's got brains, brawn, and looks. So being poor, while sounds romantically noble, also sounds like a man who settled into mediocrity, has no plans to expand his skill set and has no ambition. And while that's all fine and dandy when we're both 25, young, full of life, in love...it starts to lose its charm when you're watching your once-stron…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 12:56 AM
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Great post. Nothing feels uglier than a mirror that tells the truth. It's EXHAUSTING to be the woman in the first paragraph. Always doubting. Always double-checking. Always driving herself mad with the hypothetical problems of her own making. Someone, save me from this ever-present hell of mistrust and the insane need to control EVERYTHING! Now that's out of my system. One of the hardest things that I'm learning everyday. Baby steps. A car needs only one driver. A ship needs only one captain. An…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 06:33 PM
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Personally, I avoid touching people in general myself, especially when flirting. I find touching to be far too intimate gesture ( any intentional touching). Plus, I feel like there's just way too much chance that can be misinterpreted and make a flirty situation become awkward. What worked for me in the past with receptive men ( those that already gave me a que that they are interested): good- natured teasing. Be extremely careful with this one. Nothing ruins a good teasing flirtation than accid…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 04:44 PM
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Wait, so there's an Alan now?! I dunno how im gonna keep track of this ever-growing Thundercock clan. Maybe they should form a boy band....ahem..apologies, a man-band. Seriously though. Thank you. Many great insights to take in.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 04:18 PM
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What exactly is the result that can't be achieved by applying natural femininity? I mean, if whatever you're doing works, not judging here, but I'm curious what's the desired goal here that would require applying man's game to a man?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 04:00 PM
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Look at it from his point and of view. You have said that he's the breadwinner of the family, which means he has a full time job. He comes home from work, a place that's meant to be his resting cave, his shelter from the daily storm. Yet, instead of getting rest that he needs and feels he earned - he's expected to do the job that his wife's supposed to be doing. What's worse, he's told that what he's doing is not enough. That there's some type of a "good father" ideal that he's supposed to live …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 09:38 PM
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Great tips! Number 3 saved my life - when things got dark around me, keeping moving, exploring, engaging my brain on other things (rather than dwelling on the negative) made a huge difference! My personal 3 Small Things would be: Chose to be kind above all. Even if it's not returned. Even if it's unnoticed. Even if you can't take the credit for it. It counts, and the tiniest measure of kindness can create a large ripple in a life. Be positive. Sometimes I get into a negative mode, for no reason.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 08:52 PM
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I don't have many - being older, I find the daily life and time shortage makes it more challenging to maintain active friendships. But the bff's I have - I've known for over a decade now. They are similar to me in many ways - similar age, married, families, similar world views. We don't agree on everything 100%, but we still love and care for one another. While my BFFs and me are not the ladies Id call to hit up a bar on a Saturday night ( we are way too busy/broke/tired for that unfortunately),…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 03:01 PM
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He sounds like a beta loser, sorry. I understand - 22 years old and all that, he's got a lot of growing up to do. Is he really the highest value make you can get? If that's the case, there are only two options - grind your teeth and bear it, or raise your own value until you KNOW what you have on your hands is a man-child and go get a better man.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 10:16 PM
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The need for validation is great for many of us. When you get that first like, then more, more, the number climbing up...it feels amazing! It's a high! You're walking on air!! ....for all of half an hour. Then you realize that those likes and comments added absolutely nothing to your life, nothing to your value as a human, and haven't made you any friends. It also starts feeling demeaning. Embarrassing. I'm sure not for all, but for me it did. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be attractive …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 10:11 PM
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I am grateful for the troubles that surround me right now. Last week was rough. Like a storm. Waves coming over my head. It was some of the worst storms I've seen, and they aren't over yet. I'm still floating, but not giving up. I. Grateful for them still - they illuminated where I was lacking. They humbled me. The troubles, while painful, they showed me where there's room to grow, improve, or remove. Grateful for the pain, because it reminded me where I was lacking and failing. I can start impr…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/19 06:44 PM
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Lately, Frank Sinatra, thanks to my special someone. 😊 I'm a big fan of the 40-50s music. Big hair, big skirts with pettycoats, long gloves and elegant ladies! What's not to like?
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 09:52 PM
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Life can be so ugly, isn't it? I'm an artist, and making objects of beauty (albeit my own subjective view of it) is a constant drive in my life. Femininity to me is not so much about outwardly beauty, but so much more. It's about having this drive and ability to make life itself less ugly, less painful, less cruel and cold. When I tap into that, it makes sense. Like I'm a creature of purpose, of use, of value. Be it through pleasant appearance or more importantly - through my deeds, I feel like …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 09:48 PM
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I grew up without a father (he left us when I was five). My Mother became a single young mom, trying her best to provide and yet live her own life at the same time. That, sadly left me on the sidelines: I was just a baggage she carried with her through life. An inconvenience. A mistake she was too late to correct. That's how I viewed myself. Years of abuse by her and those people that she brought into our lives did leave a mark. It took me decades before I started to be comfortable with who I wa…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 09:37 PM
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Right. That's the "walk away" option.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 02:44 PM
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You cannot and will not change him. He is who he is, and he may or may not become who he's meant to be. That's his journey to travel. But you also have a journey of your own. Are you willing to wait and hope he becomes what you hope he is? If he doesn't, will you feel like your time was wasted, squandered, be resentful towards him? Would that be fair? Disgust is natural but inappropriate. He's got a right to be who he is. You can't steer him in the direction you want him to go. He must find his …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 12:13 PM
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Something that my mother taught me since I was little is "a true woman is always a woman, no matter what she's wearing, where she works, or what she does for a hobby. It starts with her character and how she interacts with the people around her." You're not missing a thing, don't worry! You're getting to know YOU. Frilly dresses, shoes, sparkle pink things does not a woman make. All that stuff is just a wrapper. You're in the perfect spot to start discovering what kind of woman you are and who y…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 12:03 PM
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I hear ya, it's so easy to slip. I fall down all the time as well, get back up, fall, etc etc. The biggest lie were told as little girls is that once the guy gets the girl - they ride off into the sunset. Disney doesn't prepare us for the fact that we gotta keep proving to be worthy to sail that ship every day. That that's where the story actually begins. Keep at it. Keep trying new things, new methods. Challenge yourself. Try something you never thought you'd do before, as long as you keep movi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 05:18 PM
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Well, since you are most definitely not an issue in those situations, I'm puzzled about what kind of advice you are looking for. You can only correct/alter your actions and reaction, and since there's nothing here that can be corrected/altered (because you've already established that you are definitely not the issue here), then this is an unresolvable situation. Isn't it? See, the thing with evolving is that you have to allow the possibility that it's not "them" but actually "you". Not "take bla…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 04:00 PM
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Thank you! It's really upsetting to hear comments like "oh you lucky skinny bitch!" Nothing lucky about it. Lots of effort went into it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 02:58 PM
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This right here is gold.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 02:22 PM
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I struggle with that a lot! Something that my pastor always told us is "what comes out of your mouth is a reflection of what's in your heart." Wit and sarcasm doesn't make you unfeminine but it can, if that's the only way you communicate. Here's my list of good feminine communication: keep it clean! It's not impressing anyone. (I fail at this so much😟) either have something of substance to say or keep your mouth shut. Make your words mean something. don't answer/talk for your man. He's not a chi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 02:13 PM
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After 21 years of marriage, one of the main takeaways (other than " 18 is way, way early to be making a permanent decision") is : don't get complacent. I see this happen often, among my family and my friends. We get that ring, get our Princess night, our special dance, our honey moon, and then plop on the couch in our ratty old t-shirt. Soda in one hand, smart phone in the other - "I'm done! Money in the bag! No need to upkeep or improve ourselves anymore. I know that I gained a lot of weight wi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 12:44 PM
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I feel like "taking care of yourself" is a pretty broad area of actions and behavior, and for me it includes healthy lifestyle as much as being visually pleasing on purpose (aka, it IS Maybelline). It took me decades to realize that my mother and grandmother wern't trying to force their old-world values on me. They were trying to teach me how to be a woman to the full potential and NOT be shamed of it. What began as an adolescent rebellion against the older generation, gradually grew into lack o…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 10:08 PM
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