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Have sone self respect and leave mate. This is insane.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 10:14 AM
7

I just reached a point after 20 years that I couldn't take any more shit from her. As far as the aftermath goes , it was the toughest time if my life the first couple of years but I'm 6 years post divorce now and literally could not be happier. Divorce was the best thing I ever done for my own happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 06:29 AM
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Women do this shit straight after you separate. They get a guy who they think is going to be the perfect second husband but they soon realise once he's bored of fucking her he'll drop her in a heartbeat.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 10:55 AM
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Never take them back . I kicked mine to the gutter 6 years ago. I still hold on to some resentment over her cheating. I'd rather never see that woman again in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 07:32 PM
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Because they are easy
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 11:46 AM
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43M here. I was married for 20 years. I initiated the divorce because I reached a point where I could no longer tolerate the mental and emotional abuse let alone her cheating. I just decided one day that I deserved better. 6 years post divorce and I can honestly say its the best decision for my own happiness I ever made. Currently dating a absolutely fabulous woman and couldn't be happier with life. Happiness is out there for you, you just have to find the courage to go and grab it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 05:26 AM
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Mine have, I'm 6 years past divorce. My ex wife had terrible spending habits that nearly sent me to bankruptcy. So much easier now I don't have that anchor dragging behind me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 05:00 AM
4

Yeah well said mate. It's all business from this point onwards.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 09:56 AM
3

Go and get lade mate. You will feel better.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 04:26 AM
1

Hahaha. They are sisters maybe.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 04:33 PM
2

Yeah it's crazy i know. We fought regularly about the fact I'd used money to pay our expenses and I couldn't afford to pay for her extravagances. Also this is a woman who kept every cent she earned herself to spend on herself. Plus I had to transfer $500 per week to her. All while i paid fir every expense in the house plus the repayment and running costs of her brand new car. Not to mention the overseas holidays she would take with her friends while I worked 7 days a week to try to keep up with …
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 02:34 AM
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I'm narcissistic if you ask my ex wife. Emotionally abusive because i didn't cure here life long depression and controlling because I tried to stop her having male friends ( who she was fucking). And financially abusive because i wouldn't just allow her access to my bank account so she could just spend whatever she wanted ( she thought me spending money on our bills was a waste).
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 10:31 PM
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Do yourself a favour and just divorce her mate. Staying together will not end well next time.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/26 04:12 AM
2

I learnt it the hard way too mate. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/26 05:24 PM
12

Once respect is gone it's all over. Take it from me, this level of disrespect towards you can continue indefinitely unless you put and end to it. Best of luck mate.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 05:47 PM
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You need to lay the law down with your son about calling his mother about shit that's going on in your house for starters... As far as the dog goes I agree with you. Let your ex wife deal with it if she wants to be the hero.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 09:44 PM
2

My opinion is that marriage counselling is just a last thing to do so you can say you tried to save the marriage. By the time counselling is suggested it's already way too late.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 07:15 AM
5

Yeah this is basically my opinion on this as well mate.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 05:21 PM
3

You have to get tired of being sick and tired Took me years to finally pull the trigger.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 09:32 PM
12

For me sexting would be a definite reason for divorce but it's totally up to you OP. Best of luck
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/25 07:43 AM
5

Nothing wrong with a hook up. A month after separating from a 20 year marriage I messaged a woman I had gone to high school with. I had a huge crush on her back in the day but hadn't seen each other since we were teenagers. Had a great night and fulfilled my high school fantasy of sex with her. Never seen her again after that but we both knew what it was so it was fine. Go for it mate.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/25 05:27 PM
12

I have to agree with your wife mate. Make the break and get on with it. Stop trying to be her friend.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 05:27 AM
6

Depends on where you live. Where i am your ex wife can make a claim in and money or purchase you have within 12 months on the final divorce settlement. Speak to your lawyer before doing anything.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 06:13 PM
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Not space, absolutely zero contact...ever!
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 05:49 PM
10

Get divorced and move on. Seriously mate, stop trying to be friends with her.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 10:41 AM
16

It's been 2 years since it ended between you. Jesus mate, move in already. Really, what do you care.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 07:05 PM
7

Look up oneitis mate. You have it bad. There's plenty of advice online about it. Rich Cooper talks about it a bit on his YouTube channel.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 07:08 AM
1

I feel our pain mate. My ex-wife had mental health issues and one of her things was constantly buying things. If I had stayed with her I would have had to file bankruptcy. After 20 years together and now 5 years divorced I've finally cleared the debt she got me into. The married seriously affected my financial position in life. You are not alone. All the best
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/25 07:14 AM
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It's just another day. I normally just go to work. Don't overthink it mate.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 04:32 PM
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Your ex MIL isn't your responsibility, nor is your ex wife. Besides your children, those others can take care of themselves. Best of luck mate.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 11:05 AM
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Why does you ex MIL expect money from you?
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 02:04 AM
2

I learnt a lot once I started dating again. The more attention you show a woman, the less interested they are..I've dated women who have told me when they were married that they hadn't had sex with their then husbands for years and that they never did certain things etc. But then with me, they were the absolute opposite. They went from a no sex marriage to giving me a blow job in the car park after the 1st date.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 09:09 AM
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This is exactly right. It's just a fact of life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 09:14 PM
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Yeah totally. The husband is supposed to do a list if things to get absolutely anything but some random guy at a bar can get it after buying her a few drinks.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 08:16 PM
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They are predictable as clock work.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 07:22 AM
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This is 100% accurate. In my 20-year marriage, bullshit lazy sex was given out occasionally with long periods without it. But when we first met and she needed a guy to help her with her kids, she was all over me. Once I kicked her out and she realised life was hard without me supporting her she turned up offering unlimited enthusiastic sex whenever I wanted. Took me about a week to see the light after that. Like you say, it's just a weapon they use.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 09:39 PM
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" He who has a why to live can bear almost any how". It's a great quote
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 09:29 PM
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I actually don't think I ever felt shock. Her cheating was no real surprise to me when I found out. It was just another bad behaviour. She'd already done so much other shit to me. I'm 5 years past divorce and the ways that I have been affected by my marriage to her are still with me. 20 years of being treated a certain way takes time to overcome.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 03:47 AM
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Exactly as I said mate...you lose them how you found them. The other thing to remember, whatever a woman says about her ex, those are the same things she will say about you in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 02:48 AM
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A side note to hopefully make you feel better mate. Your ex-wife will cheat on this guy eventually as well. They lose them how they find them. Karma is a bitch like that.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 07:44 PM
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It's amazing the value some women place on themselves. You meet them when dating... middle-aged with basic looks, a few kids and no assets and they think they are a princess. A lifetime spent having guys trying to have sex with them and they think they are an absolute catch.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 07:35 PM
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Not one bit. For me, getting divorced was the best decision I ever made for my own happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 06:44 AM
3

Absolutely. My ex-wife told me she was going to get a man who was a lot better than me. After letting who knows how many guys have sex with her she came to the realisation that they just wanted sex , then had the hide to ask me to take her back😅
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 09:24 AM
5

This is exactly the answer. I found myself in a similar situation when I was married.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 07:05 PM
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The fact that you are having a lot more sex could be a sign of her cheating. I don't know the situation with you obviously, but increased sex drive is often a result of a woman cheating. I've read this several places over time and experienced the same thing myself.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 06:34 AM
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It's temporary. After I kicked my ex-wife out I had some performance issues with other women. Once I regained my confidence it's been fine since.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 07:32 PM
2

Perfectly said mate.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 03:37 PM
1

Thats my feelings too. She didn't really cheat since they had already separated. When I separated from my wife , I wouldn't have cared if she took on the entire local rugby team😅
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 06:27 AM
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There is a book called Necessity Endings by Dr Henry Cloud. In it, he says you should look at your life like a movie. Play the movie and see how it will end. So mate my suggestion is to look at your life in both scenarios, staying with your wife and divorcing her. Watch those movies in your head and decide which of those movies you would prefer to live. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 10:51 AM
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I think this is the answer.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 10:47 AM
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Mine has never had a relationship in the 5 years since we separated but she tried hard. She was letting every Tom, Dick and Harry sleep with her in the hope that they would enter a relationship. The only part that bothered me was when she was bringing these guys around my daughter but otherwise I just let it go. The guys she was having sex with when we were still married hurt more.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 07:20 PM
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I was asking because you need something to focus on until the storm passes. Good luck mate.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 07:45 PM
2

Are you working?
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 07:32 PM
14

If you don't have kids together, it's time to block and delete her mate.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 07:39 AM
2

Your decision is simple hen mate. Get the divorce done and get out of there. She obviously wants you back to be her support mechanism for her kids.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 06:34 PM
2

" got pregnant during the case"...you fill her in or someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 07:45 AM
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I was walking through my house on one of the few days off work I ever got. She started screaming at me about something minor which I can't even remember what it was, she followed that up by following me through the house telling me how much she hated me and wished I'd get out of her life( this happened several times each week). I calmly turned around and told her that she wins, I'm done. She continued to try to convince me to stay with her right up to the divorce but I was done.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 06:38 AM
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It's not even a question. What you said is the only sensible thing you do here.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 08:11 AM
2

I used female... Primarily because the only lawyer in my town is female 😅
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 06:50 PM
9

This is the only answer here.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 05:49 AM
4

She can say whatever she wants, as long as you know what you did was right it doesn't matter. As far as the law goes, men are always going to get shafted in a divorce. Just remember it's only money and stuff and you can replace both. Just get her out of your life and move on. It's a tough road to travel but there is an end.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 05:08 AM
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The woman you divorce is never the one you marry. They show true colours at the end.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 01:55 AM
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Ok mate , I'll just tell you from my own experience... Your wife will never be happy with what she gets. I was extremely generous in my divorce ( to my lawyers disapproval) and to this day she tells anyone who will listen how she got screwed. Her opinion was that she wanted everything except the debt. Just stick to your guns. Give her what she has coming and bring it to an end as soon as possible. Let her throw a tantrum and ignore it. At this point it's time to look after yourself and then move…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 01:52 AM
3

This is a question for a lawyer. I know where I live for example, your wife can make a claim for any purchase or money you receive up to 12 months after your divorce is finalised.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 07:03 PM
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Ok. I thought this was a recent thing. My apologies.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 08:11 PM
13

Here's a lesson for young players...don't adopt a woman's kid. I sympathise with you mate😬🤦 Best of luck with this one.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 07:58 PM
3

I think this is the answer on this one.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 06:41 AM
2

You are never forced to sell the house in a divorce. You can simply have the home valued and refinance the property with the bank and give her the portion that is owed to her. It's what I did during my divorce because I wanted to keep the house for stability for my daughters.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 07:36 PM
3

My question is why have you lost attraction to her?
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 07:28 PM
4

You are her " safe option " as you said. You don't want to be someone's second choice. Do yourself a favour and bring this marriage to a conclusion mate. All the best with it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 09:33 AM
2

The thing about sharing your problems is that 90% of people don't care and the other 10% are glad you have them.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 08:17 AM
14

From a guy who did this, I'd tell you not to do it. The drama it causes later is not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 08:16 AM
2

Basically you will need to have a custody hearing in court if you and your ex can't come to an agreement
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 08:13 AM
3

My head hurts just reading this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 06:14 AM
2

I waited until my youngest was 13 before divorce. In Australia once the kids are 12 it's up to the children where they live so I had no custody battles. Spousal support isn't a issue here. Not saying it was cheap or smooth sailing but it wasn't too bad really
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/25 10:58 PM
2

What do you want to know mate? I'm 5 years post divorce so might be able to help.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 07:49 PM
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I totally understand this mate. I'm the same age as you and in a similar position financially. Have spent the last 5 years since my divorce working 7 days a week to pay off the debt I was left with. Never again...fucking never!
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 06:43 PM
1

I was given a piece of advice when I was getting divorced from a good mate who'd already been through it..." it's only money and stuff, you can replace both , just pay and get it over with as soon as possible ". Best of luck mate
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 06:33 PM
1

This guy isn't ready to move on. He's still riding the roller-coaster of emotions from his divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 06:28 PM
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There is a lot to unpack in my story but what finally did it in the end after all the years of verbal abuse I received on a near-daily basis was when she decided to start seeing other men. She denies it to this day but I admit I went through her phone one day just to confirm it for myself and the messages to the other guy were in there.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 06:21 PM
4

Well said OP. I'm 5 years divorced myself and putting my life back together. Like you said, it gets better with time.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/25 07:36 PM
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