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| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?She volunteered at an animal shelter and was a nurse that seemed to care about people, I think there's some legit block in women's minds where their lower brain takes over 'this guy makes me feel safe and secure' (even tho he abuses me on the regular) therefore I'm staying with him, or maybe there's even less thinking. It has to be something like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 12:19 PM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?making it there and performing well is actually incredibly difficult considering many women's expectations these days... then you see some smooth brained tubby redneck (or even just some completely mediocre guy) do it and it blows a hole in your whole thesis lol I think it's that these guys are naturally tuned into the same wavelength as these women. Ask them for any advice and they literally won't be able to tell you because it essentially comes naturally to them and despite being deadbeats in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 11:56 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?They aren't all. I've had a date with a tertiary educated kind hearted ladywho ghosted me and wound up dating an actual thug And I know plenty of otherwise intelligent women whose intelligence seems to disappear when it comes to dating (the one area where it's probably most needed especially for a woman) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 11:52 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?My experience is they're selectively picky. Really fucking punishing on some guys e.g. from dating apps, but then they really lower their standards for coworkers, mutual friends etc who they deem to already be socially vetted also that there are certain guys who can push the right buttons and basically inveigle them into fucking them even if they objectively aren't highly desirable guys or anything. Maybe that answers my question a bit It is a really confusing situation tho. Also a lot of really… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 11:47 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?Crazy thing is there are actually more women than men where I live, since a lot of guys work remotely. Assuming 1/3 of men are out of the running immediately for being well below average, and 50% of desirable men are in monogamous relationships, I don't understand the math, where the fuck the army of simps is coming from and how they seem to outnumber women. Obviously they're more likely to slobber over many many women so they have a wider presence but it can feel like guys outnumber girls 3:1 s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 11:33 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?I'm not sure exactly but I know one lovely educated women ghosted me after a date then about 6 months later I saw she was dating a guy who appears to be in a vicious local motorcycle gang and his profile picture is him flipping off the camera on his bike with a skull mask, so... that made me feel slightly better about the fact she ghosted me because clearly she's fucked in the head, but also I could barely wrap my mind around it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 11:30 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?Weirdest thing is that women allow that irrational part to override the part of them that must realize that it's not going to end well for them. But even so the click is such a strange concept. If it can't be narrowed down to physical appearance, humor, intelligence, kindness etc. Is it how sexy they come across? Maybe being sexually aggressive and not giving a shit about boundaries is sexy to some women? I don't know why I'm trying to look for some logic, it's just hard to accept that animals w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 09:47 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?I've noticed some guys are great at pushing the right buttons to get a big payoff despite not actually doing anything differently to other guys. Women just seem drawn toward them in particular, I've seen it in action and it's bizarre. Maybe there's more skill involved than it seems, but despite being good looking and funny it's not a skill I possess. I've got some women through them realizing I'm a stable well meaning humorous guy but not through the emotional manipulation game which is way more… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 09:27 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?So if it's not that he's got a great body or a great heart or a great mind, what it is? That he's a tryhard macho man who makes her feel safe despite being a volatile aggressive brute who actually treats her like shit? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 09:15 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?He may also be more persistent or not respect boundaries which women mistake for investment sometimes. That's another mindfuck... I've lost women for moving too slowly and not being intense enough, but lost women for being too persistent as well. Like persistence can seem like desperation and that's extremely unattractive...but also having a guy become obsessed with you is apparently attractive to a lot of women as well? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 09:13 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?A lot of these women wouldn't consciously acknowledge it either. I'll bet they repost social media messages about how vulnerability is strength and how men's mental health is important blah blah blah but obviously on some deeper level they're still looking for a certain type of guy, and for as long as that continues unchallenged, men will continue to pander to that particular archetype | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 08:55 AM |
| – | Why do so many ladies get the ick so easily of minor things, then stick with guys who have major issues?That's the logical answer but also like... how invested can a woman get in a guy she's only just met? I'm a pretty good looking guy with a good sense of humor and a lot of empathy, according to everything I know about dating, how many assholes are out there, I should be quite a catch... I know that sounds arrogant but I'm just being objective. It's wild that women can become so invested in a guy who seems incredibly mediocre even lacking to everyone else, and overlook guys who should tick most o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 08:44 AM |
| 0 | Is it fair to say that being a genuinely nice guy WITH the ability to be not so nice when needed is the most attractive thing a man can be?How does that manifest in reality? Putting people down? Arguing for the sake of it? That's school kid shit. I have my views and I'll defend them and stand up to people if I see bullshit going on, but I'm not going to be disagreeable just for the sake of it. Any woman who's into that is a fuckwit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 04:57 AM |
| 3 | Is it fair to say that being a genuinely nice guy WITH the ability to be not so nice when needed is the most attractive thing a man can be?What do you think being nice means? Apologizing every 10 seconds and never disagreeing with anyone? Being nice is just not going out of your way to make someone feel low or uncomfortable , and tying to make people feel good about themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 03:29 AM |
| 16 | Is it fair to say that being a genuinely nice guy WITH the ability to be not so nice when needed is the most attractive thing a man can be?Well that's like owning a pitbull. No sympathy when it mauls you one day | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 03:24 AM |
| 3 | Is it fair to say that being a genuinely nice guy WITH the ability to be not so nice when needed is the most attractive thing a man can be?What? Just because I'm a nice guy doesn't mean I'm going to let women walk over me. I've broken it off with women and turned quite a few women down for sex if it felt like they were using me or rebounding, and I don't pursue women who don't have the time for me. Do you think the world is divided into big dick alpha daddy chads and beta cucks? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Is it fair to say that being a genuinely nice guy WITH the ability to be not so nice when needed is the most attractive thing a man can be?I'm also 6'5 classically handsome but have been 'beaten' by lesser attractive more confident guys. The weirdest thing is that these guys aren't particularly charismatic or charming or anything, they just exude some intense emotional energy and women seem to lap it up. Not all women, not the really self respecting wiser women, but lot's do. It makes dating feel like a huge farce. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 03:20 AM |
| 3 | Is it fair to say that being a genuinely nice guy WITH the ability to be not so nice when needed is the most attractive thing a man can be?They might not publicly describe themselves with those words but they most likely know on some level that they're a prick. The guys I know close enough who are that way have admitted they don't like who they are. Some probably lack that self awareness or are so twisted they don't see the problem with it but most of these people don't actually respect themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 03:17 AM |
| 5 | Is it fair to say that being a genuinely nice guy WITH the ability to be not so nice when needed is the most attractive thing a man can be?Because if you're a genuinely nice person there is no acting, it's just expressing who you are. Or are you someone who denies that such people exist? I don't think the only options are to be a pushover or an asshole, didn't you read the title of the post? So what are you saying the world needs more selfish bragging egotists? Do you really think that comes from a place of self-respect? It's impressive how stupid your views are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Is it fair to say that being a genuinely nice guy WITH the ability to be not so nice when needed is the most attractive thing a man can be?Everyone thinks they are nice, even abusers, racists, Nazis, etc. No they don't. Some do, but I know two complete assholes who have admitted deep down that they hate themselves. One of them is my father. Also what's your point? That there are no real nice guys? many people will choose the more exciting and dangerous option when it comes to selecting a mate. Why isn't this a bigger talking point and more heavily ridiculed? It's the cause of so many of the problems in the world yet a lot of wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 03:02 AM |
| 6 | Truth be told, as delusional as women are a man’s greatest enemy is always going to be the desperation of other men. No matter how well your deck is stacked, if you have standards there is always going to be someone willing to work harder than you for less. You simply cannot compete with this.Ironically if men collectively decided to stop jumping through so many hoops they wouldn't have to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Being slightly neurodivergent is more of a dealbreaker for most women than being a complete scumbagIt's strange because it can be so subtle. I am generally more charismatic, funny and interesting than most guys - I know NTs who are almost objectively none of those things, but things like my slightly incongruous body language, minor difficulties with reading facial expressions and slightly off behavior is presumably enough to overshadow a lot of my qualities relative to the next guy who may still be offensive and spit out awkward comments every now and then but is outwardly socially normative … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/24 07:19 AM |
| 1 | Being slightly neurodivergent is more of a dealbreaker for most women than being a complete scumbagWhat signs do you look for? I know it should be a bit obvious but it isn't always, women seem to be better than men at masking it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/24 02:10 AM |
| 2 | Being slightly neurodivergent is more of a dealbreaker for most women than being a complete scumbagI think unmasking would only work if the lady is also ND. Which is perhaps the only type of lady I'll realistically be able to have a relationship with. But that cuts the dating pool down to a puddle when I consider the other criteria I'm looking for in a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/24 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Being slightly neurodivergent is more of a dealbreaker for most women than being a complete scumbagBecause these issues can seem insignificant like you can still be interesting, funny etc but your subtle body language cues can turn someone off you. It would be like having a good vocabulary and syntax but not knowing where to put punctuation marks or something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/24 02:14 PM |
| 4 | Being slightly neurodivergent is more of a dealbreaker for most women than being a complete scumbagWhat are you talking about? Weaponize your ND? Go on, elaborate on how you became a ladykiller using your socially inept traits to your advantage because the whole point of being ND is that you can't very easily just be socially calibrated otherwise it wouldn't be a big deal. You can learn to mask it over the years but it's not going to make you exceptional, most of the time you do all that just to be normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/24 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Being slightly neurodivergent is more of a dealbreaker for most women than being a complete scumbagI like learning and talking about deep subjects too and I hate small talk but... need to be careful with that. Even when women who enjoy that sort of thing can be put off by it if you come in too heavy with it in the early dates as I've found out. I always figured that it would be a good way to screen out who I'm not really compatible with but now I try to dial that back a bit because I realize that it can signal a lack of social skill if you delve into subjects or deep chats when they haven't t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/24 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Dating 7’s and 8’s vs 9’s and 10’sActually yeah that's true but I meant more in terms of 'is this guy worth pursuing? is there a potential for something long term?' which factors in stuff beyond just looks, but I guess guys do the same with women if they're looking for something more as well | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 03:31 PM |
| 10 | Dating 7’s and 8’s vs 9’s and 10’sGirls seem to make up their mind about guys fairly quickly. I'm not sure if it's our fashion or our mannerisms or voice tone, or pheromones or what, but it's always tripped me out, and I've learned not to waste time and energy trying to convert someone who isn't initially into you unless perhaps you are really into them and see them regularly but even still, I try to reserve my energy for people who reciprocate these days. | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 02:10 PM |
| 26 | Dating 7’s and 8’s vs 9’s and 10’sHow about just treating them like people you want to get to know and be intimate with? Be friendly, be flirtatious, express yourself and convey your interest, don't hone in on their insecurities or anything, don't take any shit, move on if you have to | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Why do women need constant emotional stimulation to keep them attached?Do you expect constant stimulation from your friends whilst you sit back and judge? That's more or less the dynamic with many women and it's hardly comparable to a healthy friendship | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Why do women need constant emotional stimulation to keep them attached?In my limited experience women like that generally don't respond well to classical pick up tactics, and generally aren't found in clubs and bars, unless it's like a hens party or something. And when you find one like that who you also find sexy, chances are she has a ring on her finger lmao. | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Why do women need constant emotional stimulation to keep them attached?And yet so many guys I know who do well with women are actually quite boring behind the superficial layer of chest puffing charisma, so obviously they aren't looking too deep. | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 02:01 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys handle a long series of rejections?You can't let women be the cornerstone of your self-worth. I know it's easier said than done, but when things aren't going well on that front, focus on other things for a while; friends, hobbies, career, fitness, long term goals, that will also cause you to come as less desperate. Also...why do all of my posts get immediately removed? | /r/seduction | 24/03/24 01:58 PM |
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