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| 164 | New reddit challenge: try to find a thread on dick size where women with a preference for larger dicks aren't downvoted/ignored and women with a specific preference for smaller penises aren't upvoted. And they think we're the ones coping......Not saying people can't prefer smaller but hmm....My ex hates my guts…because he couldn’t reach ‘em. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 02:42 AM |
| 319 | SNOOPING 101I look at what recent/frequently used emojis come up on his phone. If his “frequently used” emojis are all 😈😏😍🍆🙈, I’m out. Ask me how I know 🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:06 PM |
| 75 | Why is he single ladies??? Where is his queen??In summary: “Hurrrrr durrr can’t brain today. I have the dumb.” 😖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:09 AM |
| 9 | I’m glad more women are realizing this, but the comments are just sadMy research tells me that’s a KEITH HARING 3 Eye men’s sweatshirt. This is it in a different color... 😎Tilly’s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:49 AM |
| 2 | A red flag is when a man questions one’s preferencesMy ex negged me over...clothes hangers. I found some that were a pretty Tiffany blue. He saw and said, “You’re getting those?” The way he said it & the expression on his face gave a lot away. What difference does it make to him about what color hangers I use to air-dry laundry?? The difference...is that apparently they weren’t what HE would use. So obviously if he wouldn’t pick them, they were garbage. Just one of many reasons I threw the whole man out. 🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 02:04 PM |
| 10 | This is what dating a scrote looks like. Pass.They needed something to hold on to, apparently 😖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:04 AM |
| 10 | This is what dating a scrote looks like. Pass.And pudding cups duct-taped to a broom, microwaved grapefruit... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:59 AM |
| 13 | If I had to read a book to my ex...I would never assume it was an attack, and I appreciate the perspective. ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 11:18 PM |
| 97 | Yelling and being profane isn't comedy, scrotesMy LVM would always say things like “geEz hAvE a SenSe oF hUmOr.” So I’d reply: “Oh, I do. You’re just not funny.” 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 06:34 PM |
| 1068 | Dear male lurkers: FDS is coming for your girlfriends.Scrotes: your girlfriend? No. She’s OUR girlfriend now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 06:59 PM |
| 62 | Poor ring is so teeny tiny, it’s almost invisible. But I guess she has to love it or be rendered a scheming gold-digger, amirite?!?! 🤪💍::squints, gets out magnifying glass:: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:50 PM |
| 52 | If he does not support your career, he does not respect you and sees you as his competitor.THIS. My ex talked a big game about what his plans were professionally, but after a while it was obvious he didn’t want to work for any of it. Meanwhile, the more I excelled...the harder he worked to derail me. Some men will actively sabotage your career: texting you things to upset/distract you at work; disturbing your sleep; breaking promises, and that’s just the beginning. I’m preparing to start a new job, and I know he would have tried to sabotage it. Of course, any time I tried to cOmMuNiCa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:16 PM |
| 12 | Is porn just normalised cheating?I used to think of content creators as artists/musicians/creative types. I had no idea the definition of “content creator” now extends to selling pictures of your butthole for $4.99/month. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 07:33 PM |
| 53 | Is porn just normalised cheating?I glanced at that comment too quickly & thought it said they had an increased risk of cancer, so my first thought was “Great! They’ll weed themselves out!” 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 01:36 AM |
| 9 | the shit ppl do for cloutWith how much scrotes obsess over anal, I’d worry he’d enjoy the broccoli 🥦 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 05:50 PM |
| 40 | This is the kind of crap that just makes me wanna give up on love forever...That guy looks like he should be on display in the caveman/early humans exhibit in the Smithsonian. Me man, durrrrr mUh pEniS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 03:36 PM |
| 39 | Imagine having a mother in law like this 🤮 how about you tell your musty, dusty son to cook instead. Women like this raise the LOWEST of the LVM...this is where the bums and leaches come from.Been there, done that...didn’t get a t-shirt, but did send that PIED-riddled 10 piece Chicken McNobody back to his mommy 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 01:40 AM |
| 29 | My ex telling me I "have" to talk to him. I only reply if its about our son.This sounds like my ex, too!! Using the Notepad app to carefully craft & send paragraphs of verbal diarrhea with the aid of a thesaurus 🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 03:57 PM |
| 16 | If the first thing your boyfriend does when you show up to a hotel room is call someone else to give them a tour. That man isn't really your boyfriend.Another reason I check out a man’s social media. If he is constantly surrounded by PickMes/LVW or keeps in touch with exes, it’s a no from me. Nothing to do with insecurity/jealousy, but everything to do with my own well-being & boundaries. I tried to be the “cool girl” about this in the past, but now it’s an instant dealbreaker. If a man needs constant attention etc from other women, then he doesn’t deserve me. If he’s a narc, he’ll use them for triangulation & to “punish” you. Say NO to Captai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 08:29 PM |
| 2 | LVM rolling up to the table like...Done. Sorry, my bad! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 08:08 PM |
| 14 | Why Vetting Is So ImportantOne of the first red flags I noticed with my ex was that—for someone allegedly in several leadership roles and involved on campus—he had A LOT of free time. Over time, more inconsistencies came up & it was clear that he was full of BS. Last I heard, he’s still misrepresenting himself in just about everything. Obviously this was pre-FDS!! Now, I vet ruthlessly...or I would if I met anyone that seemed worth it LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 08:04 PM |
| 22 | LVM on hinge sending me sexist messages “you sound smart for a woman” to get my attention and get me to respond. I ignore. Now some of them have stooped down to this level. Really? Does he even have anything to show off? I’ve seen more muscle on a chicken leg.I almost spit out my drink. This comment wins the Internet 🏆👑🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:11 PM |
| 19 | Having to tell a grown man that he shouldn't invite his mom to your dates should make you rethink your relationshipUgh, I think this man is from the same defective batch as my ex!! Having no boundaries with mommy/overbearing mother= 🚮🚮🚮🚮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 03:11 PM |
| 196 | God, why can't women stop reading and cook and sex their men more? Thats all men want! They are waiting....I have a feeling “be romantic” means “sex on demand.” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 01:43 AM |
| 11 | Forever girlfriend tricked on the radioIt’d be our version of “To Catch a Predator.” Maybe some candid footage of them getting the celebratory phone call, them preparing for the “date,” etc. And then their face when they enter the room... 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 11:10 PM |
| 35 | Forever girlfriend tricked on the radioImagine what would happen if we prank called our loser exes, saying they won a free “session” with their favorite porn star/IG “model.” 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:03 PM |
| 9 | The comments on this are so sad...There are so many red flags—it’s harder to identify green ones! This is purely my opinion, but I feel like the less active a guy is on social media...the better. I’m especially wary of ones who are super active. My ex would post things like “I’m bored. Entertain me” w/his Snap name. His friends list was FULL of random porn “actresses,” IG trash, etc. He was trying to elicit attention from random girls and hope they’d add him. And this guy was pushing 40!! I’d say if the guy isn’t particularly ac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:17 PM |
| 26 | Movie night!! 🍿🍿If you haven’t seen it already, this is cute. Particularly how she lifts up other women by starting her own employment/staffing company. Summary via IMDB: Housewife and mother Ruth Patchett (Roseanne Barr), an overweight and unkempt woman, can seem to do nothing to make her husband, Bob (Ed Begley Jr.), happy. When he becomes embroiled in an affair with romance novelist Mary Fisher (Meryl Streep), Patchett does all she can to ignore it until Bob finally leaves her for Fisher. Bent on revenge, Pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:41 PM |
| 35 | The comments on this are so sad...I remember when Snapchat started to really be a thing back in 2012 or so. I was with my ex and I just remember thinking, “Great. Another means for him to be creepy and porn-addicted.” I should have left then!! Now with Tik Tok & OF, I really don’t see the point of dating. I honestly cannot feel attracted to a man who spends hours and hours looking up other women. I feel like it’s training them to never be satisfied with one person, and I’m not going to waste any time fighting for attention from … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:06 PM |
| 34 | So I’m sharing this as I feel there may be some women here just like me, who need to be reminded of this.When the narcissist can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 09:34 PM |
| 37 | On today's episode: men collectively sharing one personalityDon’t forget... •TaCoS •I can’t post a photo BeCaUsE of mY jOb—dude, I can tell you’re not part of the intel community. Your job is probably more like “I don’t want my wife/GF to find my account • Daddy Gang 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 09:52 PM |
| 165 | “My boyfriend has already gotten me evicted due to his loud tantrums about video games, AITA if I maybe don’t let him get me evicted again?” 🙄And that’s how he explains it to people too: “My partner left because I played the TV too loud once.” Ask me how I know 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 06:48 PM |
| 72 | “My boyfriend has already gotten me evicted due to his loud tantrums about video games, AITA if I maybe don’t let him get me evicted again?” 🙄I think this guy was manufactured at the same man factory as my ex. Was soooooooo LOUD. Played the TV way too loud. Video games. Daily screaming matches with his equally loud mother. Pre-FDS I was constantly trying to express how I felt: excessively loud yelling etc is stressful to me; noise complaints; neighbors lumping me in with him, etc. begged him to consider how it affected ME. I told him it was affecting my sleep and health. Guess what happened?!! Nothing changed. Absolutely nothing. He k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 06:47 PM |
| 9 | BuT I’m A nIcE gUy!Ernest...ERNEST! You pushed me down the stairs. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 12:45 AM |
| 2 | Hey! I made a list of red flags on when someone is cheating on you (Before and During) based on a question I asked on r/survivinginfidelity (hope you all find it helpful!!)You are most welcome! I could stare at Roberto Bolle ALL DAY 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Hey! I made a list of red flags on when someone is cheating on you (Before and During) based on a question I asked on r/survivinginfidelity (hope you all find it helpful!!)Roberto Bolle, Eric Underwood, Alban Lendorf, Ivan Vasiliev, Sergei Polunin, Aran Bell...and a few dozen others 👀👀 Sorry ex: these are actual ARTISTS. Your porn/IG thot obsession is quite different 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 09:47 PM |
| 13 | If you fw straight men “only ok” is hella generous.I actually found him on Tinder during my short time on the app. I had never used OLD before and had been out of the dating game for years. The apps are like sifting through trash 🤮🤮🤮 The longer I spend on my own, the more I realize that I have a LOT to lose/risk when dealing with men. When I matched with him, I noticed a few things on his profile that stood out: -a genuine smile with no dead pornsick eyes -no frat party-esque photos or photos with random women -no shirtless photos -well-groomed … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 03:51 PM |
| 2 | What’s the best story you have about “ownership?”That’s awful 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:57 AM |
| 104 | If you fw straight men “only ok” is hella generous.Thank you!! A few observations from “the field:” (see what I did there? 🤡🤡🤡) He never has that demented porn brain stare. Doesn’t play video games or have any addictions (at least not that I’m aware of.) Always opens my car door & helps me put on my coat. If he invites me over, there’s always an actual plan/activity (going to dinner that night & brunch the next day, at the very least). He plans ahead. His actions demonstrate that he listens to me/remembers my preferences. The only time he goes o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:37 AM |
| 45 | If you fw straight men “only ok” is hella generous.Thank you!!! I’m in my mid-30s & just now realizing that sex can be awesome. Anything less? It just isn’t worth having. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:13 AM |
| 7 | Hey! I made a list of red flags on when someone is cheating on you (Before and During) based on a question I asked on r/survivinginfidelity (hope you all find it helpful!!)My ex loved to play Captain Save-A-Hoe because I didn’t pay enough attention to him/aPpReCiAtE him enough. “Men like to be needed!,” he’d cry. So be useful, scrote. 🤬🤬🤬 He used all forms of social media as porn. Literally all forms. He’d say “if I did my job as a woman” he wouldn’t need the porn. But, if he saw me getting attention or if I followed male accounts online, he’d always have something to say about it. Dude—I’m following male ballet dancers and the Australian fireman who make the baby… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:42 PM |
| 234 | If you fw straight men “only ok” is hella generous.I’ve been dating a man recently (we dated previously & reconnected) who is not pornsick. Forgive me if this is TMI!!!!! When we finally got physical, I was absolutely floored at the difference between my limp dick pornsick ex and a MAN. Gets hard just from being near me & kissing. And I mean HARD. Insists on getting me off a few times before PIV sex. He’s got a big d*** so he’s always careful about not wanting to cause me any discomfort. Takes his time. Looks into my eyes. Has NEVER asked for an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:30 PM |
| 15 | Hey! I made a list of red flags on when someone is cheating on you (Before and During) based on a question I asked on r/survivinginfidelity (hope you all find it helpful!!)Yes. He “couldn’t sleep,” so he go to the couch and creep on IG, FB, watch porn, cry to his trash Pickme ex from college. The first time it happened, I should have left. Once you realize the person who claims to love you will sit in the next room doing that crap while you were asleep, you’ll start thinking about what they do when you’re awake. When you’re at school/work. Mine never physically cheated, but the behavior he engaged in was definitely disloyal. When I started to fight fire with fire,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:44 PM |
| 4 | Hate to see itYou are most welcome! It’s hilarious sometimes how obsessed they are with status & feeling entitled to it, regardless of actual skill/ability. It’s harsh, but no one cares that “you liked to argue with people” as a child or that you think you’re like (enter TV lawyer name here.) I’d pay a lot of attention to how they handled setbacks and frustration, or dissatisfaction with their current job or lack thereof. Is he constantly complaining/whining without actually attempting to make changes? Is he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:33 PM |
| 8 | Hate to see itDisclaimer: I’m speaking from my own experiences, and these views are not intended to be representative of all lawyers. I’ve met plenty of lawyers I deal with professionally and socially enough to know they’re good men. BUT, the practice of law tends to attract certain personalities. When I was in law school, I noticed a lot of my classmates focused on the prestige & $$ possible. True, you can make decent money as a lawyer...but the majority won’t. When these classmates graduated, they realized … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 06:19 PM |
| 12 | If you have to drop hints, then he doesn’t really want you.Unpopular opinion: unless it’s a “shut the f*** up/don’t leave me right,” an engagement ring symbolizes the consideration for the promise to marry. It should reflect her style/preferences, since she’ll be wearing it every day. It’s kind of a public declaration of how much she means to you & how valuable she is to you. Obviously the cost etc. should consider where the couple is in life/finances. I get a lot of flack for that opinion, but think about it—is the woman you supposedly love & adore wor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 05:15 PM |
| 17 | Why have I seen so many "girlfriend cuts boyfriends hair in quarantine" posts but not ONE post where the boyfriend cuts his girlfriends hair?I wouldn’t trust a partner with my hair. I’ve seen how they’ll destroy women’s belongings because they “black out,” but never their OWN. I can see this AITA: “My girlfriend is growing out her hair. She’s obviously growing it out to attract attention from other men. This made me feel DiSrESpEcTeD so when she was sleeping, I cut it. She wEnT cRaZy and won’t pay attention to my teeny weenie peenie anymore. I was just trying to protect her from other men. AITA?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 04:03 AM |
| 98 | Hate to see itSpeaking as someone who actually graduated from law school—congrats, dude. You are in law school...as are thousands of other people. Unless Daddy has a law firm, you’ll be competing with the thousands of other unemployed lawyers. You’ll be set, all right. Set with $150k+ in loans, and you still may end up working at Applebee’s. People are continually shocked when they learn that not all lawyers make 6+ figures...only some of us do 😎But you go, man. You’re set 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 My advice to my FDS ladies:… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 03:52 AM |
| 16 | Former pickeme me would’ve been like ‘Awww’.That’s a great night...for me and my cats 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 09:27 PM |
| 29 | Congrats on being a single mom“MUH LeGaCy:” what legacy?!? Will our children have titles? Are you a wealthy baron? No? Hmmmm. 5’6”. Balding. Beer belly. Some legacy 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 06:24 PM |
| 57 | As a woman, you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.And after the field, you get to pay for the Uber back to his place and “chill” in his nest 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 05:16 PM |
| 57 | Congrats on being a single momAt that point, I would seriously be thinking “Why am I risking my life to carry on this dude’s LeGaCy?!?” When I think about the awful things my ex said to me when I told him I didn’t want kids; little did he know the “with you” was silent. I realized how entitled/lazy he would be: he wouldn’t lift a finger to help me with anything, but he sure criticized everything I did. His mother was just as bad. It was then I realized I could not allow those genes to get passed on, or mix with mine. This po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 05:15 PM |
| 33 | There's a worrying amount of posts where the woman has no idea she deserves respect and bodily autonomy...We need to start pressing charges with these scrotes. They’ve become so pornsick and depraved. You should only have to say no ONCE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 02:43 PM |
| 54 | What’s the best story you have about “ownership?”If you’re dealing with a narc, a lot of the “ownership” comes out after you leave them. If they can’t have you or control you anymore, they’ll try to control how others see you & portray you as “damaged goods.” In my case, I was fortunate that everyone already knew he was full of sh*t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 02:30 PM |
| 10 | If I could describe everything FDS taught me in a single sentence...Mine is “If he isn’t adding value to your life, he’s just in your way.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:20 PM |
| 11 | Petition Signed 😎 💅🏼I may have sent one of these to an ex: Ship A Dick!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:38 AM |
| 14 | A LVM and a pick me on a walk dateIn addition to their usual strategy, I think some guys also use walk dates to push their “cAn yOu kEeP uP?!” delusions and will try to walk faster than you, etc. and use gross PUA kino escalation techniques. Obviously it’s to make the girl feel like she has to work to keep up. Dude, NO. I saw what looked like a walk date the other day that made me think about it. Someone tried to pull this on me once after getting coffee (pre-FDS!!), so I waited until we got close to where my car was parked. I s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 07:59 PM |
| 18 | This is what happens when a guy watches porn regularly. Their sex-life expectancy is 2 years or less.Meanwhile on the App Store: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/brainbuddy-quit-porn-forever/id726780077 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:45 AM |
| 31 | More thoughts on OnlyFans—the lasting consequences of your choices > demanding everyone else agree with them (LONG)I have so many questions. If some ARE making that much, it’s only a matter of time before the IRS gets curious or some disgruntled “customer” reports them. Do they have a good financial plan? How do you stay relevant with a new batch of players always coming on board? And what do you do when it comes to an end? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:04 AM |
| 9 | When men are trying to be against porn for the wrong reason.That’s a mugshot...right? 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:22 AM |
| 7 | Fuck Only Fans. Here's why.Disclaimer: I just skimmed this article, but the title alone says a lot. Imagine you wake up one morning, excited to post new “content” to your OnlyFans...and this happens. Someone Leaked 4TB Worth Of OnlyFans' Private Performers Videos And Images To The Internet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 11:20 PM |
| 20 | Fuck Only Fans. Here's why.My $0.02: on paper, the term empowering can be generally defined as “making (someone) stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights.” I’m sorry, but involvement in OF/porn/related stuff has the ability to let OTHERS control your life & rights. Who ultimately benefits in the end? Unfortunately, the consumers of OF/porn/etc.—men. Just my opinion, but if something is being touted as eMpOwErInG, I look to see if any men are partaking in it as participant… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 09:03 PM |
| 5 | "Would it be fun for me" = aggressive. But we are the illogical, emotional snowflakes. xDThese are the guys who demand a woman who cAn cArRy oN a CoNvErSaTiOn. Dude. You messaged me, out of nowhere. I don’t have to engage/talk to you, if I don’t want to. It would be fun for you? Well, enjoying my peaceful solitude is more fun to me. 🤷🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 05:00 PM |
| 165 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?1.) Don’t be afraid to walk at the first sign of red flags. He’s showing you who he is. Believe him the first time. 2.) Check his social media early on. Who/what he follows shows his interest and values. If he follows garbage publicly...what will he do in private? 3.) Don’t let boyfriends sabotage your goals and dreams. I’m in a great place professionally right now, but I cringe at opportunities I missed out on in college/law school because my boyfriend “encouraged” me to stick with him and not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 02:42 PM |
| 3 | When LVMs use burner/VOIP numbersYes. This has been super frustrating because there’s no way to get the real number. Even if I had subpoena authority it wouldn’t do much good just because of the anonymous nature of the internet. The most infuriating part is that he seems to know exactly what to do to prevent ID through telecommunications devices/records. So he’s obviously a pro. When I pulled my call history from my service provider, his # still shows as the fake one. When this all started, I had recently ended a 5+ year relati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 06:23 AM |
| 24 | The sympathizing of only fans simpsIt boggles my mind how these scrotes cry victim when they are their own victimizer. It’s pathetic how they think they’re the rational ones, yet they’re controlled by mUh PeNiS. They’re the ones who created the demand for this stuff, so...they’re sticking it to themselves. They don’t want to have a loving supportive relationship and invest resources with one woman, because they feel entitled to her labor for free. She should serve HIM. But, they’ll spend freely on other women because of mUh PeNiS… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:19 AM |
| 9 | When LVMs use burner/VOIP numbersIf my safety or anything was at risk, I’d consider it. This is a relatively minor annoyance. I just wanted to share as an example for why FDS encourages using a VOIP, etc. when online dating...and how LVM scrotes use them for more nefarious purposes. I wouldn’t change my last name for a man, so I’m definitely not going to let one change my phone number I’ve had since the mid-2000s 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 03:14 AM |
| 33 | She needs some guidance FDS style. This makes me sad for her.Ugh. My ex insisted on keeping in contact with his garbage ex from his college days. Now I recognize triangulation as a NVM/LVM and narc tendency, but back then there was that pressure to be OK with it. Let’s call this ex Diane. Those “friends” know exactly what they’re doing. They thrive on feeling like you’re threatened or jealous of them, even when that possibility is laughable. B**** please. They’re usually LVW themselves. His ex would pull the “oh Ive known him FOREVER etc” and when he’d go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 04:59 PM |
| 20 | Alli Grace on TikTok- not my content. Kinks can be straight up red flags. We should be talking about ‘kinks’ and how using that specific term for harming women in any way is a smokescreen, at best. ‘Don’t criticize my kink’ is often gaslighting.Hmmmmm. “Kink” sounds an awful lot like the definition of paraphilia: “Paraphilia (previously known as sexual perversion and sexual deviation[1]) is the experience of intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, situations, fantasies, behaviors, or individuals...” When I saw the kind of porn my ex watched, it really hit me that he would PLEASURE himself to women being abused. I hope his fat @$$ never gets laid again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 10:09 PM |
| 24 | FDS Answers To QuestionsScrote: “When are yoU tAkiNg ME out??” Me: “Soon...” she says to herself, from an elevated position as the scrote appears in the crosshairs 🎯😎 “You said you wanted me to take you out? OK!” Disclaimer: obviously I am joking and not advocating violence. I, however, have been threatened with actual physical harm/violence by an ex/other NVM & will not hesitate to defend myself. Scrote: “I want you to XXX/I want this/I want to XXX, etc.” Me: “And I want a new Mercedes.” ::shrugs:: Scrote: “WaNt to me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:24 AM |
| 16 | Middle aged guys and their awful jokes“I know it was a joke/I do have a sense of humor. You’re just not funny.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:25 AM |
| 17 | What are the signs a man is pornsick?-During oral, keeping his head slightly turned as if playing to a camera. Not listening to you if you say not to stop/keep doing that/etc & just going through a routine. Getting mad at YOU for daring to suggest what actually will get you off! -Calling anything that resembles normal & emotionally connected sex “vanilla.” Says that you have no “passion” and are boring for not enthusiastically performing the role of Porn Test Dummy. -Definitely look at his socials and who he follows. I cannot stres… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 01:15 AM |
| 183 | Wow!Any mention of “if you really loved me you’d do/let me XXX” should result in instantaneous man disposal. Yes. The whole man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 07:52 PM |
| 59 | What are the signs a man is pornsick?Brought to you after celebrating 1+ year of freedom from a scrote!! Ladies, you don’t need him. -Looks through/past you during sex, not at you. Or, he closes them to imagine his sick porn fantasies while using you as a human Fleshlight. -Gets horny when seeing you upset/in pain/in tears. Tries to initiate sex without regard to your desire/comfort etc. Example: My ex would come up behind me and grope at me while I was washing my hands after cleaning the cat box. I would tell him repeatedly why th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 06:34 PM |
| 172 | The “Arrangement” 🤣I hope so too. A friend sent it to me, joking “I guess your ex is having to put out ads for a GF?” His requirements weren’t too far off 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:36 PM |
| 13 | TLCs “I love a mama’s boy”- thoughtsCan confirm. I am a recovered people pleaser/pickme so please be kind. My ex’s mother would FLIP if he spent more money on my Christmas present than hers. She’d cry/complain and return the item to get the same thing. She obsessed over how much he spent on anything for me, or if we went out somewhere. She insisted on coming to everything, just to make it about her. Like this incident-What I thought was MY birthday weekend ended up with me being trapped in a single hotel room...with both of them. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:05 PM |
| 66 | Pick me attitude spotted in Buzzfeed comments. A shame too since their audience is mostly teen girls::Ted Bundy has entered the chat:: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:41 AM |
| 15 | I'm shallow because I don't want to teach a grown man how to wash his own clothes. Unmatch ✔️“I cOuLd Be tHe NiCeSt pErSoN yOu eVeR meT” LOL. I don’t know about you ladies, but I have NEVER had to tell people that “I’m nice.” That’s the baseline/minimum acceptable standard & I know that it’s just assumed that I’m nice/pleasant. The bar is in hell! He’ll probably expect you to carry his audacity in your purse, too. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:34 PM |
| 2 | My alarm 🚨 in the morning...“Eeny weeny teeny weeny short d*** man...” the scrote avoidance anthem 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 02:42 PM |
| 1 | How to stop having crushesIf I develop a crush, I go see who he’s following on IG. He’s 35+ and following college age girls/IG “models?” That nips it in the bud for me. 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:49 PM |
| 60 | Name a film you used to love but now makes you cringe because of the glaring toxicity it's encouraging or trying to market as drama/romance.The Notebook. A guy pressures a girl way out of his league in to dating him through manipulation and insults. The only thing they agreed on was a bizarre notion that they were BOTH birds in another life. Years later, she meets a much better match who adores her, treats her with respect and spoils her. Not a “Nice Guy™️”—a real catch! But being successful and handsome is a character flaw to her, it seems. After seeing the first dude in the paper during her dress fitting, she remembered she didn’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 04:30 PM |
| 3 | Think about it 🤔Nailed it. I even sent him articles on emotional incest & enmeshment towards the end. It was bizarre: he treated her like s***, but always ended up defending her and refused to set healthy boundaries. She was insanely jealous of me and would vacillate between me being out of his league & “that GIRL is spoiled/gold digger/etc” whenever she didn’t get her way. So gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 08:57 PM |
| 29 | Think about it 🤔Can confirm. The worst is when the mother treats him more like a husband than a son. I was engaged to a mommy’s boy. Gross. I dodged a bullet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:39 AM |
| 16 | What do you wish you could tell your 22-year-old self?1.) Don’t let other people tell you how to feel about yourself. 2.) Long-term “boyfriends” are a waste of time. If I could go back, I would have put all the time/money/emotional labor in to myself instead. None of my relationships really prevented me from achieving my goals, but they didn’t help either. 3.) Learn as much as you can about money and avoid student loans if you can. I know this is nearly impossible today, but go into it with as much information as possible. Think about what kind of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 10:45 AM |
| 2 | Im so tired of seeing some pickme in the comments of engagement posts.Were we both engaged to the same man?!! He did the same thing: “Show them the ring!” “Look at this ring I got her!!” Meanwhile, he lied and told everyone he went into massive debt because I HAD to have a nice ring to make me look bad...when he got the stone for free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 07:05 PM |
| 4 | A question about SnapchatMy ex would send me posts from his Snapchat feed that he thought were funny by taking screenshots. In the background of them, I could see a lot of the accounts he followed and messaged—ALL porn actresses and IG/fake “model” types...and a trash Pickmeisha ex of his that he’d complain to about me when I didn’t “behave” how he wanted. When I called him out on it, he would deny it & gaslight me. He was in his late 30s! You’re not wrong/insecure for having an issue with this. It’s disrespectful to yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 01:34 PM |
| 70 | Never again will I accept being insulted by a man. Forgive yourself for your mistakes, but make sure you learn from them.My ex fiancé would say things like “it would be REALLY hot if you did/wore/etc.” Meanwhile, he lied about his height before we met, was overweight but made excuses...and I worried about being superficial. Patterns, not potential! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Tips for recovering and being able to function normally after long-term emotionally/psychologically abusive relationship with a narcissistic LVM?Thank you SO much to everyone who has commented! I hate to say it, but now I realize I have been a Pickmeisha in the past & let LVMs and their BS affect how I feel about myself. It’s going to be a challenge trying to undo years of abuse, but thanks to you all and FDS? NO. MORE. I appreciate the “tough love,” too. It’s hard when someone holds up a mirror & you realize you don’t like what you’re seeing!! I am so thankful to have this community as a resource, and look forward to interacting with yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Tips for recovering and being able to function normally after long-term emotionally/psychologically abusive relationship with a narcissistic LVM?Thank you ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 04:28 PM |
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