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Field ReportFrankE32/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 09:31 PM
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We've been friends since? Pretty common these days imo
/r/askTRP17/01/18 01:41 AM
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Say hi to ex and her friends (husband too if he's here, we're cool) and not damage things with new girl who I'm into.
/r/askTRP17/01/18 12:16 AM
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Ha word. Need to get her to fuck not after we leave clubs n shit at morning hours. Was literally nodding off the other night but wanted to smash super bad.
/r/askTRP15/01/18 10:42 PM
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Intrigued by this...suggestions besides the obvious?
/r/askTRP15/01/18 10:00 PM
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Exactly what I've been doing - fine tuning my approach to fit what she seems to enjoy too, and dropping things that don't appeal to her (based on reaction too, not so much based one what she says). Gonna re-read SGM too I think.
/r/askTRP15/01/18 08:57 PM
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Sounds like frame and mindset are key here, not surprised. Gonna try to keep the mentality of just having a good wild time and not get caught up on who's better/more experienced. Like another poster said, just enjoy it.
/r/askTRP15/01/18 08:55 PM
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True, thanks. Funny you say this, the first time we had sex I started her out super slow to fuck with her, and she got all pissed - started slamming way harder and she changed her attitude and shut up real quick lol.
/r/askTRP15/01/18 07:35 PM
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She just had abundance and idgaf enough to talk about it, and I worn an overly "sex positive" frame that encouraged her to speak her mind. Same here, I love being open about this stuff. Not a fan of the "I've only slept with a few guys and I won't talk about it" mentality. Can you explain more about what messed it up? Do you mean that you started doing it the way she claimed to want it, versus being dominant and doing your own thing?
/r/askTRP15/01/18 07:31 PM
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chances are the more experienced the woman the easier it'll be for her to enjoy herself with your cock and you. Never thought of it that way. I have read sex god method actually - helped me a lot especially as far as letting loose more and not being so technical in bed. I went through a bad phase for a year or so like that. Actually as far as trying too hard, she seemed to enjoy it anyways. What I thought was not the best time choking, she came back later and joked I'm mr oh so privileged to be …
/r/askTRP15/01/18 07:02 PM
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True - just a weird feeling as nearly every other girl I've been with I'm more experienced than (or it was a one nighter and the sex wasn't that amazing anyways). She definitely enjoys the time with me, and the difference in experience doesn't seem to be an issue. Me trying too hard (in sexting) was the only point at time I felt like something was really off.
/r/askTRP15/01/18 06:56 PM
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Cool. Ultimately shooting for a good midway point between too much (like before) and too little (now). And not answering any questions as to what's up obviously.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 05:41 AM
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Now going forward with her, should I continue to act suspiciously distant, or ease off a bit? Ovulation begins in a couple of days, so I want to be at the forefront of her mind.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 05:33 AM
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She's demanding I tell her what's wrong now lol. Just talked on the phone and held frame. Didn't get butthurt. Nothing is wrong. Been busy (which is true). She's VERY skeptical. I assume at no point should I make a statement like "thought you said I was pushing too hard" (so now I'm not)
/r/askTRP10/01/18 04:15 AM
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Lol I see your point
/r/askTRP03/01/18 08:25 AM
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She's been doing this since we started hanging out. It's not new.
/r/askTRP03/01/18 08:23 AM
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Didn't think of handling it like a shit test. Thanks!
/r/askTRP19/12/17 04:21 PM
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Meaning this is something I should throw her once in a while now to keep her on her toes?
/r/askTRP19/12/17 04:20 PM
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Looking to see it go places. How would you put up boundaries in this case?
/r/askTRP19/12/17 06:54 AM
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Very emotionally needy as I've come to find via our period as friends.
/r/askTRP19/12/17 06:49 AM
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Yes. Can we get back on topic?
/r/askTRP19/12/17 06:46 AM
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Getting there, but I wouldn't call it regular yet.
/r/askTRP19/12/17 06:41 AM
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Customer. It's a nightclub.
/r/askTRP11/12/17 06:56 AM
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That's the easy part. What do I do if I reply in a few days?
/r/askTRP01/12/17 01:46 PM
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If I'm going to hard next her, I really feel like I owe it to myself to throw away one more hour of my life with her and tell her what she did wrong, because she doesn't seem to get it. I did this once, totally against RP theory, kept it calm, and hours later she was at my place doing everything but fucking me. Also extremely sick of her thinking I want a serious relationship with her. She's too much of a basketcase to date lol
/r/askTRP01/12/17 01:30 PM
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Well explained. Thanks.
/r/askTRP30/11/17 11:23 AM
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Appreciate the break down, I see ths flaws in it now. Will stick to being silent. Based on all the feedback given here, I'm assuming if she replies about whatever, it'd be best to treat it like she's still on soft next (not reply immediately) then either not reply at all or reply lager with something that absolutely does not acknowledge her explanations/excuses. Like a "so what'd you do today" or "check out this song". Assuming this will send her hamster into meltdown that I'm not engaging into …
/r/askTRP30/11/17 10:17 AM
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Always a winning solution. Thanks man.
/r/askTRP30/11/17 10:07 AM
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Got it. So how do I do well from this point out? Specifically if she contacts me again?
/r/askTRP30/11/17 08:15 AM
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Thanks. Already on the other women part. Should she reply again at some point with some paragraph she craftily put together, would that be an ideal time to tell her to relax etc?
/r/askTRP30/11/17 06:44 AM
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Valid. Will just stick to the plan and leave it.
/r/askTRP30/11/17 06:38 AM
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Hmm forgot about that part. I see your point. How would you work going forward here?
/r/askTRP30/11/17 06:37 AM
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Well. A has been blowing my phone up nonstop. Today a little less. Less double texting etc. Also claims she's tired. So not sure where she's at. More debating if I should pull back a little to make the hamster spin. Also if I no show on A it's highly likely she'll know I'm out getting my dick wet elsewhere lol
/r/askTRP26/11/17 06:12 AM
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Response to a joke that was in 3 numbered points. When she complained that I wasn't responding, that's when I always say I've been busy. Text ratio is still very much in my favor.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 09:20 PM
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Ehh even if it's after a 3 line text? Not to sound like a girl analyzing lines of texts, but I feel that'll make her feel like she's got me in her frame now. No?
/r/askTRP14/11/17 09:11 PM
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Logistics as in wait for her to reply and then try to set something up to hang out?
/r/askTRP14/11/17 08:57 PM
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Its always a reactionary attempt to get you back into their frame True, well put. Was gonna ask her to hang out tonight, but if she doesn't come around, I've got another girl to hang with.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 08:56 PM
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1 hasn't told me she isn't interested. She just doesn't act very interested, dodged going out for drinks (then invited me out with her friends), and really isn't my look. She's great on paper but doesn't quite do it for me. Good point on girl 1 not caring and making it look like I tried to set something up and flopped. Ideally I'd take 2 out, run into a girl who's into me - but that won't happen here. I'll hit 2 up later and suggest we hang out.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 05:51 PM
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True. Just trying to avoid blowing it with both by being an idiot. Also starting to like 2 a lot so trying to prevent oneitis by diversifying.
/r/askTRP14/11/17 05:16 PM
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Happy to explain. And I know it may not be the best idea that's why I'm here to ask. Hung out with 2 on Friday for a bit before work. Got a quick kiss. Tried again to get her to hang out on Sunday but missed the window. Didn't text her yesterday because I was working then lifting then running errands and she got all frantic. Funny thing is the thing I got invited to tonight by 1 is totally up 2's alley. But she's never actually seen me around any other girls, so I'm thinking inviting 2 along and…
/r/askTRP14/11/17 04:52 PM
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Thanks. Got a couple others this week anyways. Drunk mutual friend also may have spilled some beans about me having a threesome upon running into her the other night too, so I'm hoping lack of abundance isn't on her mind lol. Noted for next time though.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 09:07 PM
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She's definitely onto this, admittedly. And severely lacking in friends ie desperate for my attention. I've successfully turned another girl like this (who's actually been a long time good friend and done lots for me) dripping wet on multiple occasions by playing the same game super well. Like said friend gets drunk and tries to kiss me now. I'm dying to fuck this one to say I did.
/r/askTRP10/11/17 09:33 AM
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Ha fucking a
/r/askTRP10/11/17 09:24 AM
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Got it, cool. Just didn't associate the term. Thanks again.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 12:48 AM
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Provide comfort?
/r/askTRP01/11/17 12:46 AM
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Thanks man. And if she asks anything about the girlfriend when we hang?
/r/askTRP01/11/17 12:42 AM
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Makes sense. So it mightve been better to give her suspicions that I was seeing someone by being unavailable etc. Or just let her find out. She's obviously still trying. I'll set something up in a few days to hang with her.
/r/askTRP01/11/17 12:37 AM
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Like she doesn't want to be "that girl" and make herself super obvious right now, or like it's too much for her to want to compete against? Tips going forward?
/r/askTRP01/11/17 12:27 AM
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Cool thanks, that's about what I was thinking. Wish it were easier to apply here, but I don't think these two girls will likely meet before the one moves away.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 06:07 PM
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Thanks - right now she thinks current girl will be moving very far away at some point soon (which is true), thus making me available again.
/r/askTRP31/10/17 05:34 PM
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Elaborate on the last part?
/r/askTRP31/10/17 05:33 PM
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Sucks she doesn't have any friends I can have sex with. But thanks, always appreciate your sense of humor LT (I'm serious).
/r/askTRP29/10/17 11:08 PM
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She keeps stalking me out, she's got some qualities I haven't found in any other girls still, and yes I have been lifting and having sex with several other girls since.
/r/askTRP29/10/17 11:00 PM
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This is really sound advice. Especially on making my insecurities not a thing. I've been noticing the more I try to prevent some past slip ups from reoccurring (in general, not just with girls), I overexert and it gets really negative. Something to work on.
/r/askTRP17/10/17 02:10 AM
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Yea it's not my thing at all. But she's in the city for a couple of weeks so I can understand why she'd want to go, and I don't mind trying something new. I have no issue just showing up except fear that they'll be sold out except for 2 super shitty back seats, and she'll have expected me to handle tickets already. That would just look like lack of ability to show control IMO. Perk: she's pretty good looking for me, and she'll be coming to a party the next night that all my friends/friends of fr…
/r/askTRP17/10/17 01:45 AM
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I hear you. Let me try to word out my thought process better. She hasn't been blowing up my phone as much since she stayed over. So I waited until later that night and asked her how the party was (while I was at work). Just got back a "so good". Compared to emoji stacked "come on over" texts previously, it felt like she may have lost interest. Not assuming she wouldn't invite me, but her attitude changed and I figured it'd be smarter to pull back for the night and let her come to me than to test…
/r/askTRP14/10/17 10:45 PM
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ha!
/r/askTRP14/10/17 10:10 PM
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Got a perfect one. I work nights and got out late. No further explaining needed, very true (and did get out late), and lets the hamster spin a bit
/r/askTRP14/10/17 10:09 PM
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Right on. Plus it's giving me a lot more confidence knowing that this is the person I actually am, and then I can reliably lean on that personality to always be there, and be appealing to others. No more "oh no if I have a bad day at work I won't be witty enough to amuse a date, I'd better reschedule." I know it's always there, and it works perfectly on the people I naturally mesh with. Even after reading Models, I had a similar philosophy (which some of my friends laughed at), but still thought…
/r/TheRedPill11/10/17 06:38 PM
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Totally true on all of this. Years ago I was the guy who had to go to the bathroom to splash water on my face and text a friend for help. A couple years later, I was still relying on others for opening lines and "what do I say." I'd be sitting on my couch, feeling a little tired, and freaking out that I wasn't funny or witty enough. So friends started telling me to relax and be myself. Problem is, I still believed that chatty and witty was "right" and that I still couldn't get there. So I'd try …
/r/TheRedPill11/10/17 06:21 PM
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I think it boils down to this. Not trying so hard to be someone else = not caring as much and not looking like such a try hard. But the takeaway is that I didn't realize how much I was caring [to be like someone else] because this was going on for so long. The last time I tried mixing that with "not caring" I ended up in that awkward "haha I ran over the squirrel who gives a fuck" type sense of humor that just makes you look insane.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/17 10:43 PM
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This is the best answer yet and solves so many of lives questions as well. I couldn't possibly type a long enough reply to substantiate this, so just thank you.
/r/askTRP09/10/17 08:16 AM
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This sounds like general advice that applies to the 9/10 relationships that don't end in marriage (and the 3/4 of those that fail as well).
/r/askTRP09/10/17 02:59 AM
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I've definitely had poorer luck in splitting bills. Literally, the girl paying has worked better for me lol. No idea how. Probably low self esteem types who are begging for acceptance. I gave it some thought, and I'm more concerned that splitting it will send the friend message again. From her stories, she seems to have a lot of "guy who liked me but I just wanted friends" scenarios so I don't know if she's just being picky, trying to pull in more orbiters, or clueless about signs guys send. I'm…
/r/askTRP08/10/17 09:36 PM
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Thanks man. I feel we're on the same page here. I think getting out and meeting new women is a great way to shake the emotional attachment, but it's not necessarily seeking out the traits you need/want. The BP mistakes I made last time can be corrected for: Not listening to a girl (or anyone) for knee-jerk advice on "getting the girl". I'm in no rush to do this even. I'll probably sit on it for a couple of weeks. I actually know a great conversation starter I'll be able to use then so it looks e…
/r/askTRP08/10/17 07:23 PM
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She did a few weird things implying sexual interest since I cut her off last. Might be misinterpreted though. I ignored them. Any suggestions on how to best nail the asking her out part? Don't need it worded for me just a little coaching.
/r/askTRP08/10/17 06:03 PM
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Depressing as fuck is right man. I gotta turn this ship around.
/r/askTRP06/10/17 04:44 AM
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I think this is a huge component man. My confidence has been dropping the past few months, and porn use definitely isn't down. I think I'm gonna try the nofap thing again. Last time 30 days of it did wonders.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 12:04 AM
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LOL I worked off this one. Thanks.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 12:02 AM
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Good point
/r/askTRP16/08/17 04:13 PM
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Yea, you're right.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 04:13 PM
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Great approach. Probably just going to do that so I don't gouge my image and chances with more attractive/better fitting girls in our circle (which extends pretty far). Good point with the story too.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 02:44 PM
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Supposed to confirm a time today with her. May just do it and hang out, but make it clear I'm not looking to date right now. If I don't get any, oh well. Date is going to be no frills drinks, nothing more. Gives me an easy out if I get called out on it too, not like I took her to an extravagant dinner or anything.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 12:48 PM
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Did some more reading on this, you're right. Funny how I feel I'm in the lead and it might not be the case. Gotta keep a better frame.
/r/askTRP10/08/17 01:55 PM
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In the past 6 months, they've been all over the place. Past couple months have been pretty dry though, since applying more TRP strategy. So I think I'm doing something wrong. Maybe it is the comfort test part. Before that, I generally have a pretty good rate of girls begging to come back, keep talking to me, etc. One girl was even so bad in bed I went limp and she went nuts for months trying to get back in bed with me. Suggestions on comfort tests? I might be coming off as a flake/fuckboy.
/r/askTRP10/08/17 04:30 AM
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True. Sometimes I think twice about it later on though, specifically in moments of desperation lol. Which I know is a problem in its own. This past week, I've consciously "flushed" out a bunch of hopeless prospects I don't really like either, to force myself to stop rotating them and meet new ones.
/r/askTRP10/08/17 04:07 AM
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It's the latter lately, and has been an issue since living the RP way. Meeting way more girls, way more confident, way more dates, way more girls chasing me, but admittedly not cultivating them enough. Some of them I go on one date, it doesn't really excite me, so I move right onto the next. Which is a plus in a way, but then these girls keep circling back acting really confused.
/r/askTRP10/08/17 03:55 AM
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Ex and I used to do MFM and FFM swaps. We stayed together for a few years after the last one. Actually pretty awesome if you can both see it in the right light. But that, is one in a million. Most people it's a weird "I wanna cheat but not get in trouble" thing. You've gotta see it for your benefit as well as for your partner's, and never accept a 3rd person you're not 100% comfortable with. In other words, for most people it's a bad idea in an LTR.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 03:49 AM
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Valid, didn't think of the image aspect of it. Thanks.
/r/askTRP11/07/17 02:50 AM
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Bullshit right? But how do I know he didn't shut her down (he did) and now she's back to me? Again, I'm not looking for her to come back to me. It's just Monday night and I'd love to fuck if it's in the cards.
/r/askTRP11/07/17 02:43 AM
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Made out way back in the day, didn't go anywhere, stopped talking because she's nuts. She came back around, started hanging again, thought it was going already, got denied the kiss a few times because "just had a breakup not ready for anything" then she saw a photo of me with my lookalike friend and asked for his info. Told her cool I'll set you guys up and cut it off.
/r/askTRP11/07/17 02:34 AM
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Specific things that helped me get out of the last episode of this: Don't start telling all your friends how she's gonna be there and how you gotta step it up Don't start asking female friends for advice on your best look etc just for tonight Just keep thinking about how much fun you'll have tonight regardless of her As an added bonus, you'll hold a better frame when she shows up, and not look anxious and sweaty and like you're trying to be someone you're not.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/17 07:53 PM
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True. I did have a date a couple months ago where I absolutely assumed I was getting laid so it was on my mind the entire time. Didn't end up succeeding that night, but had a great make out session and got invited over the next night.
/r/askTRP07/07/17 06:37 PM
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My frame is visualizing and desiring sex while prentending we are kindergarteners playing in the sandbox. Brilliant. Noted on the rest too.
/r/askTRP07/07/17 05:24 PM
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ask if you are horny (tell her you have a semi) this is actually pretty slick ha. thanks
/r/askTRP07/07/17 05:18 PM
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I actually used to do this and it works. Not sure why I ever stopped really. I just spread out the invites to like a monthly thing. I've def made some halfway decent friends (which I know some guys disagree with) out of this. Mutual attraction is dead at that point anyways, so why not make a friend who could introduce me to a few more girls, or come in handy when I'm going somewhere that requires I bring a girl with me?
/r/askTRP06/07/17 03:13 PM
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Thanks, I try to limit use of jokes anyways, with some rare exceptions where overuse is the joke. Appreciate it.
/r/askTRP06/07/17 05:32 AM
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Why do you say avoid using previous conversation? Any particular reason?
/r/askTRP06/07/17 04:40 AM
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Yea sucks but oh well. It's only 2 girls. I think I'll give it a second try in a few days and if not then next. I read that article on the rule of twos and have been trying to adopt that.
/r/askTRP06/07/17 04:38 AM
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Honestly if you've found a magical way to wipe your brain in 24 hours of all memories of a person, we should probably set you up for a Nobel prize now. Don't see why it's bad to be excited about an accomplishment attributed to this community and want to share it. Never sold a shitty car and told everyone you're so glad it's gone?
/r/TheRedPill05/07/17 03:39 PM
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Nah. Sharing the story to help others man. Feeling proud and free.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/17 05:39 PM
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Yep definitely truth to that. I just try to remember why I checked out and don't like her, and how happy I am now. Gives me motivation to stay out. It's been years since I've been through this, and I remember it can take a while to be totally free
/r/TheRedPill04/07/17 05:38 PM
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You've got it man. If I can next this girl, I've got faith in you. The other side feels like heaven.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/17 03:34 PM
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Wel put. Thanks man
/r/askTRP04/07/17 02:59 PM
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She'd have to come up to me and shove her hand in my pants at this point for me to even consider taking her home. Not worth going back otherwise. More motivation to meet better girls. I'm sure there will be a text or two attempting this over the next few weeks that I'll just have to handle accordingly.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/17 12:41 PM
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Buddhist as well...and part of that for me is self respect as well. But I also tried the whole "be a dick to people" life and it didn't get me far. Back to being nice these days whilst standing up for myself.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/17 05:41 AM
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Really inspiring - couple years ago I dated a girl, she cheated on me, and the dude was apparently terrified as fuck I'd kick his ass. Plus her sister would get drunk and squeeze my arms and go "oooooo." LOL. Nowadays, I get random comments about how skinny I am, and it's nearly impossible to get anyone to take me seriously based on my size.
/r/askTRP04/07/17 02:30 AM
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Actually did this already, but the fact that I feel it isn't doing anything is preventing me from committing to it.
/r/askTRP04/07/17 02:25 AM
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Exactly how I feel. Glad to know I'm not the only one.
/r/askTRP04/07/17 02:24 AM
1

Used to be big into the gym, but lost a lot of muscle over the years from a car accident as well as from some unknown reason I have to see a doctor about. But yea I might just have someone help me for a bit.
/r/askTRP04/07/17 02:20 AM
1

The 2nd part is definitely helping. Definitely times I've taken what I can get that's "acceptable" just to have meaningless sex.
/r/askTRP03/07/17 11:31 PM
7

A good friend of mine used the friend card to his advantage like that. Girl kept asking him to be friends after they'd had sex. He finally said "okay, you wanna be friends, let's be friends." He then went and found more girls and treated her just like an average guy friend. She was crying about it in no time. In my case, I made a point too about her asking for my friend. Nothing dramatic, just so she knows I'm not naive and that it doesn't bother me.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 11:30 PM
11

As soon as this reality hit me, it really freed me. Just had to develop a plan of action after that.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 11:26 PM
15

Plus, everyone knows that just being friends isn't going to win a girl over. If you need a little BP to help ween you off, just think to yourself that the only way she'll ever come chase you (giving you an opportunity) is if you walk. Do car salesmen drop prices when you sit there and tell them you can't afford it, or when you walk?
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 11:26 PM
23

This has actually helped me as well, as far as something you can do without the help of others. Or go out, find a girl you think is really attractive, and imagine she has all the qualities of the girl you're hung up on. Chances are, you'll realize you can do better.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 11:24 PM
17

You too man. I'm very prone to getting emotionally attached to someone I like, but sometimes just being ripped from it suddenly is all it takes to make you realize you're caught up in an illusion, not a person. Saved me.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 10:50 PM
7

Similar situation here man. It's crazy how time goes by and you don't even realize it. Then months have gone by and realize how much energy and time you've wasted for nothing. Also helps when a female friend (which I do believe is fine to have) is there and points out the girl's flaws which you noticed but turned a blind eye to. Really hit me hearing "dude she's a loser because xxxxxxx, you can do way better" from someone I trust.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 10:29 PM
99

Thanks! I spent years doing it the other way. Always trying to prove I was better, or looking for a way to "win." I didn't realize I was simply causing myself more stress and embarrassment. Plus, girls can't really throw you any drama later if you're not playing games etc.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/17 10:27 PM
1

As seen in the past, this girl can't live without my attention. It's kinda weird.
/r/askTRP02/07/17 07:44 AM
1

Basically the photo with my friend was captioned new neighbor alert. She asked me to have my neighbor add her. I said thags your neighbor (and my friend). She then said she wants me to pass the contact info for some bs reason about seeing thru her curtains. She thought it was my neighbor - that invalidated her reasoning if it were my neighbor. In other words proved her excuse for asking for my friend was bs. Told her "Oh miss I don't wanna get involved with anyone" then told her I'd hook it up a…
/r/askTRP02/07/17 04:38 AM
1

Forgot another detail. She first asked me to have "my neighbor" add her. I said "that's your neighbor". Next day I took your advice and offered to set them up. She says she wants someone to let her know if people can see in her window. Obviously my neighbor wouldn't have been able to do that - she slipped up that one. Took her "not ready to see anyone" line and made a joke then told her I'd see what I can do. Gave friend the lay up and told him to add her. Haven't heard a peep from her since I s…
/r/askTRP02/07/17 04:27 AM
1

Okay. So if she was drunk and isn't talking about it now. Do I bring it up?
/r/askTRP01/07/17 08:32 PM
1

I do. But this girl and I have kissed already. Can't he smash someone else?
/r/askTRP01/07/17 05:59 PM
0

Kinda feel like handing a girl over is BAF
/r/askTRP01/07/17 03:35 PM
2

Thinking this is what I'm gonna do - probably also tell her to set me up with her friend though just to make a point (and get something out of it). Girl told me a couple weeks ago she's "not ready to be seeing any guys" either. You've gotta be shitting me. Icing on the cake is my friend and I look nearly identical.
/r/askTRP01/07/17 10:41 AM
2

Real killer is we have another friend who's into a girl that I like - if it were the same dude, this would be a win win easily.
/r/askTRP01/07/17 10:23 AM
16

Can't believe I made it more difficult than that. Thanks.
/r/askTRP01/07/17 09:17 AM
2

Valid point. Still kinda wanna call her out on it so I don't look like I'm clueless.
/r/askTRP01/07/17 07:09 AM
0

Kinda wanna have my dude add her and catch her being a slut about it. Then next her
/r/askTRP01/07/17 07:02 AM
1

What would you do without sounding insecure?
/r/askTRP01/07/17 06:51 AM
1

Makes sense. Not really dressed my best or anything right now so I think I'll just wait.
/r/askTRP28/06/17 01:39 AM
1

Other replies got me thinking she's flirting (albeit immaturely) and that maybe I'd be dumb to pass it up.
/r/askTRP28/06/17 01:20 AM
0

Makes sense. Also almost makes me want to hit her up in an hour or so and be like yo Let's hang out, your place. Too much?
/r/askTRP28/06/17 01:00 AM
1

Got it. Would you say avoid saying a word also as that would give her validation without actually having to hang out?
/r/askTRP28/06/17 12:58 AM
1

Right on
/r/askTRP22/06/17 01:24 AM
1

Ha thanks for snapping me back into place. Oneitis is currently on someone else, been trying to break it.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 12:16 AM
7

I used to just lurk on the other dating subreddits for that then realized I wasn't getting results or becoming any better at validating myself. Taking a little more heat here but making great strides.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 10:59 PM
3

Appreciate the honest feedback, makes sense. Still haven't hung with her since though, been keeping quiet while I contemplate (lesson learned from past slip ups) - just making that clear I haven't spent time with her since.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 10:47 PM
1

Hm good point at the end there.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 09:19 PM
1

Probably right on your guess at the end there. She may be generally very emotional, but I'm a believer that such things don't matter if you meet the right person. I'll see if she hits me up in a day or two, then just put out a casual invite to do something we'd normally do.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 09:18 PM
5

Lol, appreciate a good laugh. Yep
/r/askTRP20/06/17 08:29 PM
2

This helps a ton. Thanks. I'm gonna just pull back for now. She's definitely trying to bait me into thinking I'm the hopeless romantic/weirdo. Or she's honestly convinced I'm out of my mind for being upset when she rejected me. This happened when we spoke months ago, except I BP'ed hard and kept trying to explain myself and win her over. I think either way I can 100% say she (a) acted weird ("why do you hate me" and following texts), and that (b) she should be fully aware of my intentions.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 08:04 PM
2

Okay, valid points. I see what you mean. We have known each other for several months. I feel my best course of action now is to just leave it and let her fuss. Really don't want her to have the upper hand.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 05:11 PM
1

Similar story man. Almost feels best when you realize they're just in it for the attention. It's a feeling of victory for yourself.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 11:59 PM
1

Huge help again. Appreciate it man
/r/askTRP19/06/17 01:21 AM
1

This helps immensely - thank you
/r/askTRP17/06/17 06:02 PM
1

It's so funny because usually when I go out to party, I have a blast and enjoy the company of way more people, and get way more privileges from my connections. Guess it's just the unknown - assuming they're having a better time even if they're not.
/r/askTRP15/06/17 07:56 PM
1

Love this...thanks :D
/r/askTRP15/06/17 07:54 PM
1

LOL
/r/askTRP12/06/17 03:57 PM
1

Super helpful reply, thank you. One girl I saw Friday night last minute for the first time in months. I've got a cool outdoor music thing open to me today she'd love, thinking about telling her to meet me. Too soon/not intimate enough are my fears - opinion?
/r/askTRP11/06/17 04:50 PM
1

Also...What's your take on inviting to too many activities? It's the weekend so we hung out Friday but I've got something cool Sunday as well that'll make me look like a boss. Not very one on one personal time though (outdoor concert)
/r/askTRP11/06/17 07:22 AM
1

Say you already know this rebounding person, and have been alright friends in the past (with some texting back then) and recently just started talking again now that she's single. Same game?
/r/askTRP10/06/17 10:12 PM
1

Wouldn't you want to establish some level of communication (few texts a day) if going for the rebound, so invitations to "dates" don't stand out as much (more like casual hanging out), and so she gets feeling a little more comfortable with you faster?
/r/askTRP10/06/17 09:09 PM
1

Kinda what I meant but yea I'll be less questioning in it. Like I was thinking of hitting her later this week and being like "I'm going for ice cream come join" How do you suggest handling a frequent texter you're trying to be a rebound for?
/r/askTRP10/06/17 08:44 PM
1

Next fall lolol...word
/r/askTRP20/01/17 05:01 AM
1

Say it's not possible to see this girl for another 14 days
/r/askTRP20/01/17 04:56 AM
2

great advice, thanks
/r/askTRP20/01/17 12:11 AM
2

great advice, thank you actually got a couple new girls on deck this week which is helping for sure she's also definitely onto me (in a good way), sending me dumb snapchats (which she rarely does) so she can see if i'm viewing them, along with pointless texts hours after i give her a very bland reply. couple days of this, try to get her on the phone, and setup some plans for this weekend.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 03:53 PM
1

you're def right here...i do like her a lot too which isn't helping, but im also now convinced that's partially because we've been interacting so long. attached because of time
/r/askTRP18/01/17 03:50 PM
1

tru
/r/askTRP18/01/17 03:49 PM
1

thanks, this helps
/r/askTRP18/01/17 04:47 AM
1

Hung out a few times. We don't live too close. Haven't fucked yet - trying to fix that.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 04:02 AM
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