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FIELD REPORTFriendCountZero/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 03:02 PM
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He was not a safe person, consider it a blessing that your honesty drove him away.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/25 02:42 PM
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You regret not being a side piece to a committed man???
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 10:59 PM
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Plenty of good advice here. I just want to spell out for you, because it can be hard to accept especially for extremely nice people as you seem to be, that you DO NOT owe this guy ANYTHING just because you have been friends for a long time. You don't owe him an apology, you don't owe him an explanation, nothing. You do owe your fiance the respect of being direct and forward with your friend but as for the friend, time spent in your life does not create a debt to him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 07:34 PM
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Healing isn't linear and it isn't quick either. Enjoy feeling better, it IS real, but also know that backsliding is a normal part of the process. Not to be pessimistic, but just to know not to be hard on yourself when you experience it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 02:07 PM
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Yes I lost 60lbs it was great for my marriage and my fertility! Intermittent fasting. Two meals and no snacks a day. The more you cook at home the better, even hotdogs and frozen fries are way less calories than anything you get eating out. It took time and the pace increased dramatically when I got off hormonal BC pills but even if you aren't on meds it works. After you get used to the two meal routine you can slowly work on portion size and adding exercise if you want. Just a couple bites and …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 01:51 PM
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So what, when you post do they tell you to wear less clothes? It's been a while since I've been in those subs but it used to be that you gave a quick description of your target style and people would go off of that. If yoir fav thing to wear is peasant skirts and you ask for advice they aren't going to tell you to try some booty shorts.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 02:54 PM
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Try the fashion advice subs
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 02:04 AM
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The pencil test 🤣 I'm only 30 but have lost a good amount of weight the last couple years (for my health) and I would fail that miserably. I've brought up my displeasure with my new boobs to my husband and he's like "sure they're not as big but have you noticed how SOFT they are now?!?!?" Anyway, you're worrying about a hill of bananas. Female bodies change over time, keep healthy and you will stay attractive. As other have said are you going to skip having kids because of this? There's not much…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 02:25 PM
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Don't lie. He will find the truth eventually and that kind of lie will not be a forgivable offense. You will have wasted your time and his and your time is more valuable right now.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 03:13 AM
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The internship offer is probably a lie, keep yourself safe and listen to your gut. I'd stay away.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/23 05:15 PM
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I imagine his parents are emotionally and psychologically abusive and he's going to struggle with the reprocussions of that for the rest of his life. That doesn't mean he doesn't deserve a chance but A) it doesn't have to be you and B) he has to actually want to take that chance. He needs to see that his parents aren't good people with his best interests at heart and he needs to strive for complete independence from them so he can figure out who he is. Right now he just lives to please them.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 02:59 PM
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RPW theory is about creating the best conditions possible for your man to take the initiative, step up, rise to the occasion. The only thing you can do is keep doing that and giving him time. Unfortunately it is possible that he doesn't want to or isn't capable of stepping up. You have to be the judge of that. Definitely don't approach things in a "here's what you need to fix about yourself" kind of way which is kind of impossible if that's what you really believe is the only way to solve these …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 05:09 PM
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I'm working on this too. Other people's feelings give me feelings, and then I want to deal with that and it redirects my attention in a selfish way. The best way to start is to talk less, I think. Sometimes an "Oh, really?" in the appropriate tone (concerned, excited, etc) is all that needs to be said and the person feels heard and keeps talking until they've got it all out and can come down to earth and be make clear about what they need. Let them vent first, as much as they want to. Then their…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 04:11 PM
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I deal with this a little too and I think I can see the issue here in your post. "He'll be in a perfectly good mood and then turn on a dime" If you really believe that, then what logically follows is that he's not super stable mentally. Not as reliable as you'd like him to be when life hands you unexpected things. You can't trust him 100%. Maybe 99% because he is great and you do love him, but not 100%. I want to challenge this. It's much more likely that he's PRETENDING to be in a good mood or …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 03:59 PM
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I'm 30 been off the pill for a year, we have sex at least 4 times a week, and often more, still nothing. You could have a long road ahead, so don't get too antsy! The best things in life take time.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 02:17 PM
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Agreed DO NOT bring it up!! OP you think you are way too in yoir head about this and worried that it's gonna cause a problem? Well just imagine how he feels! It's NOT a big deal, maybe just treat sex the way you always have and don't talk about what day it is.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 02:16 PM
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I feel like I could have written this reply 👆
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 05:31 PM
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Sounds like a legitimate money-laundering scheme
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 02:41 PM
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Remember I've been doing it for A YEAR AND A HALF before he told me that it changed his life! Like, what if I couldn't see how it mattered and had given up by now? Goodness lol. But yes just be consistent and see what happens. Don't sign yourself up for more than you can be consistent with, either. This breakfast is super easy, nothing fancy, frozen sausage and everything.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 08:47 PM
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Excellent. Getting honest feedback makes it easier and gives a better sense that you are on the right track.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 08:32 PM
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It is sooo hard and I'm with one of those guys who insists that he's super blunt and that if he's thinking something he will probably say it and just to listen and not try to read his mind... and yet... haha! It's kind of trial and error trying to anticipate his needs and then seeing if I've done a good or bad job by his response and also by his response when I DON'T do said thing. It's easy to tell myself that he doesn't care because then there's no reason for me to do it and let's be real "You…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 08:29 PM
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That is fantasic! I love that he has his own spot in the fridge where he can find whatever you prepped for him. Idk if it's a woman thing but I like to think about my food, plan my food, etc and I'd be so annoyed just eating whatever someone else made me all the time. It's hard to shift perspective sometimes and realize that the health and convenience are huuuge plusses for our dudes who don't feel the same as us haha.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 06:04 PM
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Bacon, a sausage patty, and scrambled eggs. I even buy frozen sausage patties. It's not hard but I try every day to make the eggs good and he appreciates the simple, heavy protein meal.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 05:09 PM
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Men are logical. If he can't put logic above the pressures he feels from his culture/community then I guess that's all there is to it. It's his choice to prioritize and he's chosing his image/status. I guess it's up to you how you feel about that and how much work you are willing to put in to support that choice. I can't imagine anything more grueling than getting a degree you don't care about. Think carefully about how to proceed without allowing resentment to creep in.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 01:33 AM
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If you like being around and helping people than wfh is going to be difficult to match with that. I am a Transaction Coordinator, that is I wfh handling paperwork for real estate agents. It's a supportive role and I get to build relationships with my clients over the phone at least. This might not be a bad option for you, it's very flexible. I'd think something in real estate either selling or administrative or take a talent/passion you already have and start your own business. Photography is a …
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 01:26 AM
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There are different stages of life, all you can do is embrace and appreciate the one you are in. I'm 30 and seeing wrinkles around my mouth for the first time. People still tell me I'm beautiful. 30 is a different kind of beauty than 22 but it's no less fleeting or precious.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 06:58 PM
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It's not fair or fun, but he didn't throw away a future if marriage and family just a future of marriage and family with you. Men get to screw around and then settle down. They have time to do both. They don't suffer social and mental reprocussions from doing both. Their path is different from ours.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 06:54 PM
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Yes budgeting is my job. We make long term goals together but I save for them (or not, in reality, see I'm not great at money either) In regards to housework, no I'm not resentful but me doing all of it is just the current arrangement since he got back to work so I'm not burnt out. And he has very low expectations for housework, he sees how busy I am with other things and thinks the house is good enough. Idk exactly how this will change when we have kids because my bar for the house is going to …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 10:21 PM
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No kids yet, we trade off who breadwinner is as we both work on ourselves and find our careers. I worked while he was in school and vis versa. It took us a long time for us both to settle on what we wanted to do but I think we are finally there. My job is from home so I do the regular daily housework and all the cooking. He handles bigger house projects when he has time off. I also manage the finances which I'm not 100% happy with but between the two of us I'm better at it and doing it together …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 09:27 PM
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The younger you are the more you "grow up together" and that kind of bond is incredible. However the wrong person at the right time does more harm than good! I think people should encourage early marriage but also great vetting and the involvement of trusted people.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 08:19 PM
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You can't white-knuckle your way to success in this area. It definitely sounds like more of a mental challenge to overcome than a physical one for you. Take time and listen to yourself... sounds vague and like mumbo-jumbo but it's really the only way to find the real problem causing the weight issue.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 05:26 PM
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There is tons of good, practical advice here so I'll just add the two cents that made the difference for me personally. 1) distance from my toxic family who I didn't even know were toxic until well after I moved away and... 2) getting off the birth control pill
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 05:24 PM
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Being soft is not the same thing as letting people walk all over you. You are supposed to be able to set boundaries with your family and have them respected. Consider that maybe you aren't the issue here. That doesn't mean there isn't/won't be anything for you to work on but consider space and therapy like the other commenter said before you get too hard on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 12:35 AM
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This is like asking if it okay that your small dog is aggressive towards big dogs because he can't really hurt them. No, it's not okay. People need to be accountable for themselves whether they cause a lot of harm or not. This kind of behavior causes emotional damage if not physical.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 03:10 PM
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Oh my goodness. No, at 25 you are not past "the wall". Women get married past 30 every day. If you are marriage material then there are good men who will marry you. However a woman who has so little respect for herself is not marriage material. ​ STOP sleeping around NOW. Never again, not even once, should you sleep with someone who is not making any commitment to you. Was this guy your first? That can make him hard to get over but jeez you are worth so much more than this, it's making me sad.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 02:34 PM
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The difference is that when you sign up for Audible you get one free credit, so any book is "Free" with a trial of Audible. This book does not cost a credit and many, many people already have an Audible account whether they are currently paying the subscription or not. For those that have an account already, it is like clicking a Youtube link. So there is a distinction to be made but I can see where your concern is. I think if you had viewed my profile it would have been clear that I am not a bo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 12:09 AM
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You can't know what is normal, only what is normal to you!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 09:56 PM
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I'm really not sure if you need payment info saved to the account or not but this book is free. You could start your account, cancel right away, come back to the same account in three years having never paid a dollar and it would still be free to listen. You just need an account. ​ Maybe there is a free PDF somewhere? I'm not sure. You have the title and author, find the best way for you to read it. Jeez I was just trying to help. Does what I posted look like a custom/ referral link? I mean look…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 09:53 PM
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No? I'm just a regular person. The book is free with an Audible account, no $ necessary, not even the monthly subscription. That is why I link people to the audiobook instead of a place to buy the physical copy. It's how it was recommended to me and the only reason I gave it a chance was the low barrier to entry so that is how I try to present it to others.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 08:50 PM
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I just want to chime in and say I was once a person who said "I've never experienced any trauma, I have no past to overcome, and yet I clearly need to work on my mental health" and it turns out I did have a past to overcome. I'd reccomend Listen to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD on Audible. https://www.audible.com/pd/B01F2M2GDO?source_code=ASSORAP0511160007 which is free on Audible via this link. It's great information for getting along with anyone and o…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 07:52 PM
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I'm a weirdo and I started dating my husband at 14. Our love is preposterously strong and it is built on what we've been through together. Time + effort. We are absolutely best friends, he knows my whole being, no one even comes close. But we built it with time. It kind of scares me to think, but if we had met for the first time at 20+ years old it doesn't seem likely that we would have really connected. There is chemistry for sure but a lot of the love is felt through effort. He is a true partn…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 02:06 AM
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Healthy is attractive! The other comment here has great advice. Healthy hair, skin, and nails and body come from good diet, enough exercise, plenty of water and sleep, and as little toxins as possible with alcohol being one of the worst.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 01:19 AM
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RPW strategy is to fill your role and act feminine to naturally encourage your man to step more confidently into his role. No talking required. In fact, talking complicates it. Like others have said of course discuss your future and finances and important things but as long as you are approaching topic with the right mindset you will be having those productive conversations without ever saying "this is your job in the relationship" or "the redpill advice would be..." This is how men and women na…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 02:27 PM
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He's actually not. He's been accused and jailed in a nation with a justice system nothing like the US's and now that he's out none of the charges are following him. I don't think he's a good person and I don't claim to know the truth of his actions but what's been done to him has, as far as I can tell, really been done to him. Not saying he's innocent, just that the evidence of guilt is flimsy and contrived at best.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 06:38 PM
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I relate to this. Still worming in it and probably will be forever, but gratitude and curiosity are the anecdotes.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 05:16 PM
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I definitely get that defensive monster rising within me at the idea but your experience is not abnormal and there is certainly something to it. I think the healthiest approach is a middle ground where we date men that are part of our communities so that our families know eachother and we can look to our parents and siblings for input. Chosing a partner shouldn't be done alone, whether its being done by the young woman or not. I also think you can get a lot of that long-haul kind of love just by…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 03:03 AM
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The season of Castle Rock that's based on Misery has this quote about "searchers" and "settlers". In the show it refers to individual people as being either searchers or settlers, but to me women are settlers and should lean into that. It means taking everything you have and making the best of it. Work on your living space to make it serve you and your family. The most comfortable, convenient, safe feeling, etc just prioritize what your home should give you and then focus on what you can do to g…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 06:17 PM
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Excellent side note. The whole comment was great, but that especially is something people need to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 05:58 PM
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The weight is falling off. I have a sex drive again. I feel like my hormonal fluctuations are more extreme now, I can feel it in my body and in my mental state. I'm here to ride the waves, this is what life is supposed to be. Up and down, not just flat.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 08:11 PM
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Can he switch to vaping? The negative effects are reduced both for first and second hand. Idk how I feel about the advice here. On one hand, yeah this was an issue to solve before marriage when you could still walk away. You didn't want to walk over it which I personally respect. But now you're stuck with it. On the other hand, this is has real consequences. It's tough. Keep coming from a place of empathy in your conversations and don't give up.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 12:44 AM
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Within marriage it is safe to be dependent. You can rely on him and he can rely on you even if sometimes it's just for emotional support. Outside of marriage, dependence kills. You think you can rely on your job and then one day it's gone. You think you're going to renew your lease, then they don't give you the option. If you worked for yourself, if you owned your home, then people who pretend to care about you wouldn't have the power to take things from you. It's also the times. In the 90s, it …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 07:09 PM
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To be honest it's coming off sexist now. A feminine woman is just a maid and a sex doll? If she doesn't have a career she has nothing else to offer? Her nurturing, companionship, steadfastness, dedication to family and community aren't valuable? Men are better at providing than women inherently. They are more driven to provide and they don't struggle to cope with the responsibility of providing as much as women do. A man that is out-provided by a woman is not a high-value man. Therefore a man th…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 08:40 PM
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So you want to do the cleaning then? The cooking? And work a job? Gonna hire a maid and order out all the time, that way you can both just keep investing in yourselves instead of into each other? Sounds really lasting. You don't understand the point of this subreddit and the conversations we have here. If you want to understand, feel free to lurk, but you have to accept the fact that you have nothing to contribute to this space.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 08:33 PM
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We are talking about what appeals to high value men, men that really good women want to attract. That's the point of this entire subreddit. How many of the 30% (dont really agree with that but I'll roll with it) are high value? How many of your friends are actually high value? That's why a man's individual opinion and his anecdotal experience is irrelevant here. Plus, you keep saying what's "attractive" to men and once again initial attraction is not what we are going for here. We are looking fo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 08:08 PM
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The women here aren't looking to get fucked, they are looking to get married. No, having a decent salary is not a bad thing. But what kinds of women have decent salaries, the ones who can keep up with men in the workplace? Who are competitive and ambitious? Those aren't personality traits a man is looking for in a wife. Also, women today have the perception that their career is very valuable to a man so they don't think they need to being other things to the relationship, like cooking skills, be…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 06:27 PM
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Sorry but as a dude, your individual opinion means nothing. Statistically speaking, a woman's income does not increase her dating market value.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 12:48 AM
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I agree with most of this. I think women, and young dating women especially, have no idea what men are looking for in a long term partner. This leads them to misunderstand their own value. Men don't care what money you make. Having an $80k yr job doesn't make you wife material and it doesn't entitle you to a $120k man. A $120k man is looking for a good companion and a good mother. Everything else he can buy.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 07:25 PM
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That all sounds very encouraging! Training a dog... yeah that causes fights in my house 😬 I'd consider it a pretty good test. Best of luck to you guys!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 07:20 PM
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I had another thought. Lack of conflict is not a cause for worry but lack of doing hard things together is because that is where conflict comes in. You said you've had stressful periods, how stressful? Have you moved into a house together, saved money together, accomplished anything really challenging together? When you have done things together has all gone as planned or have things gone off the rails and you were able to work together to adapt? That's what you really need to know before marryi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 05:08 PM
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As long as lack of conflict isn't a result of communication. It's hard to fight when you don't talk but if you can talk and you aren't fighting you're probably good.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 05:04 PM
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I don't think you are wrong here. If seeing you was a priority for him he would want to put effort, or in this case his hard earned money, into making it happen. I'd visit every two months on my dime and if he wants to see you more then he can pay for those trips. If he doesn't care to see you more often think about moving on.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 03:08 PM
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Wanna be friends? I'm 29 and even women my age are impossible.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/22 09:54 PM
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The opposite of resentment is gratitude. It's the cure to a lot of negative emotions. I love what others have to say about perspective/ this being a season in life and it too shall pass. Keep that in mind as you move forward but also look for things to be grateful for in your husband. Picture what his day looks like and the hard things he does every day. Don't compare it to your day, just appreciate that those things ARE hard (even if yours are harder) and he DOES do them (even if you would do t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 10:07 PM
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You may not see it as controlling but imagine you "gently suggest" and he doesn't take your advice? And imagine then, that a week later he has a bad day. Are you going to blame him for having a bad day when he may have avoided it by listening to you? It will color your perception if you feel like he should be doing something that he isn't so you need to let go of those shoulds.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 07:01 PM
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Work from home is clearly the answer, but I'm going to go against other advice here and advise you not to limit yourself to WFH right out of school. Change fields, yes, to something that can be done from home but then go out and hustle and do a hard job learning a lot so that you have credibility and experience to bolster your ability both to work remotely and to be trusted/ taken seriously working remotely. I'm a real estate Transaction Coordinator.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 03:52 PM
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I'm married to my middle school sweetheart. I was fastenated by him because his perspective was so different from anyone else I had ever met in my tiny progressive/surburbanite/firmly middle class town. He fell in love with me pretty much because I found him interesting and any girl who gives a 14 year old boy attention is something special to him haha. He's traditional and down to earth and likely I would never have been interested in him if we met as adults after I finished growing up in that …
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/22 10:12 PM
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r/femalefashionadvice is fun for the daily "what are you wearing today" threads. Not everyone is going for a more feminine look but if you state your goals people will give specific advice!
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 05:27 PM
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If you get into a relationship and it manifests as a problem, address it then. There's no reason for you to know or care about such private things until they effect you. Plus, there really is no way to address is now. He won't be happy about your jumping to conclusions. You seem insecure and threatened because these girls all look the same and that is different from you. That's just something you need to work through on your own. Whatever you think of means, you're likely assigning it too much i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/22 03:23 PM
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My first 10-15 dates with my husband were in 9th grade. I let him get away with everything and had no idea what to accept or expect. It is hard to change things now but communication makes it possible. It's just a slow process.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 05:10 PM
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I bought a digital planner called Artful Agenda and it's the only digital system I've even remotely stuck to. Pretty simple, laid out just like a planner. I've never planned something a year out so I'm not sure what your needs are there, I mostly use it to keep me from feeling like I'm downing day to day.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 05:50 PM
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Yes, I struggle with this in my relationship because he shows his vulnerability through anger and if it comes out of nowhere I am usually shut down before I even know what's happening. Then I simply can't listen to him which frustrates him and exhasterbates the anger. That's where I make it about how I'm bring treated (yelled at, maybe a little swearing or name calling on the worst arguments) and there is 0% chance we can get anywhere until I've had a chance to breathe and get my perspective. Bu…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/22 12:44 AM
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Serious question as I'm kinda new to the community but have been married to my husband for years. What do you judge his leadership and masculinity by, then? Not every day has a challenge or a problem or a clear cut opportunity for the man to "step up" but you still want to feel confident that when that time comes, he will be able to. What do you look for in boring, everyday life that can give you confidence in your man?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 02:51 PM
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Instead of being jealous of men's lack of standards and seeking to escape your own, I say we put more standards on men. Men with shaved pits!! It's smelly and gross and they can be decent human beings too.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 10:39 PM
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I can't have a conversation with someone who straight up rejects reality. Feminists hate reality. They hate that men and women are different, that men are more visual than women, that men are more sexual than women, that all these differences means a successful woman and a successful man don't look the same. They hate that women's contributions aren't quantifiable and they can't feel like they are worth anything without someone telling then with a diploma or an award or a paycheck. Redpill women…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 10:37 PM
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"Woman" can't be defined anymore because it's just a costume to wear when you want to gain the perks without getting everything else that comes with it. Its gross and degrading and yet all the feminists cheer.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/22 01:42 AM
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Definitely hurts everyone
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 08:24 PM
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What a bizarrely dark and terrible twist to put on the truth. Must be an incredibly hurt person to have such a perspective. Modern feminism hurts women in many ways and encouraging casual sex is one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 08:42 PM
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Just knowing that you are doing something about it will make you feel better. Some people are fat because they have bad self worth, and some have bad self worth because they are fat. It's hard to know which one you are until you start seeing your body change. I like intermittent fasting as a weight loss technique. There's a great sub on it. The gist is that you only eat during a certain window during the day. I fast for 16 hours and then eat for 8 from 11:30am-7:30pm. Getting using to ignoring e…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 04:59 PM
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Ideally, monthly budgeting is done together and you both get a say on how much gets spent where. Then, when it comes time to do the shopping, you don't have to ask "can I spend $200 on groceries?", instead you check the groceries budget and get a yes or no from that. Since you decided the budget together, you both have a say. Each person should also have a spending money budget.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/22 06:11 PM
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I see these two ideologies in many parts of life and it always makes me think, do you want to be right or to be happy? The RPW way makes women happy. Accepting reality instead of fighting it makes a person happy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 06:55 PM
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My thought here is that it is a self correcting problem. Obese people die younger and reproduce less. It's just a phase in society, it can't sustain itself so it will fade out. Just be a good role model for your kids and teach them about health and in 150 years we will mostly be normal sized again.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 04:18 PM
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That's something only you can answer and I have no idea what kind of importance this sub generally puts on weddings, but I would elope. I got married in the courthouse. This union is about you and your partner, not anyone else, and the two of you get to decide what is most important. Is it having a big party? Doesn't sound like it. Is it avoiding drama? Is it sharing your love publicly? All difficult to prioritize and you and your partner will not have the same priority list so I would say there…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/22 06:23 PM
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You would think that would be a relief to hear. At least then they can move on and find someone who is. That makes you a good friend. Man, people would rather drown in their own fixable problems than admit they were wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 03:38 PM
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Yeah, it's really hard to keep friends. I drive people away by treating facts like facts.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 02:26 AM
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Yes, I've been banned for participating here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 08:59 PM
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Not OP but this helped me a lot and I saved it to reread. I'm anxious and my husband has something that could be ADHD, he's never been evaluated.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 08:39 PM
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I just want you to know that I feel like I could have written this word for word myself. Except my husband yells which makes me more defensive and reduces my ability to reason clearly. But he is always right. I'd don't know, he grew up in a house of arguers. He also thinks through all of his thoughts and opinions all the way to the end. I have a feeling and go with it. I don't know why I feel the way I do sometimes. Thank you for posting and thank you to all the lovely commenters here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 02:39 PM
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He has already cheated in OP a few times PLUS she lets him hire hookers which she doesn't consider cheating.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 01:35 PM
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It's not normal for a husband to be so unfaithful. He's treating you badly because you let him. As soon as you said he could hire prostitutes, what he heard was "you can treat me however you want and I'll never leave" Nothing is going to get better. He has no respect for you as an individual person and you deserve better than that. Even more, you're kids will suffer if he is their male role model.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 01:31 PM
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