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There's so much truth in that.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 10:42 AM
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Tell her you're happy she called because you have similar issues. Your house isn't going to just clean itself, and there's a place in the fridge for a homemade apple pie
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 11:13 AM
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My father died, and I took it really hard. Got drunk late one night and broke down/balled my eyes out. She recorded it on her phone.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 02:28 PM
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She was crying for herself. She wasn't crying for you. She was probably thinking of how you victimized and abused her by you expressing your feelings and asking for help in the marriage. You monster (heavy sarcasm)
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 01:14 PM
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Look at it another way - this is 100% HER. 0% YOU. How could you not move on?
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 10:55 PM
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No chance. Be done
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 02:06 AM
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I like to think of it as their demon groundhogging.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 10:21 AM
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It's the little bit of darkness that precedes your doom. If you've seen this, they know you've caught a glimpse of the real them.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 09:19 AM
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Ever see her eyes go black? I did. Just like a demon.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 08:55 PM
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I admire your strength. I'm not sure how you escaped that hell.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 08:52 PM
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I feel the exact same way
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 08:50 PM
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Most everone here has been through it. I'm so, so sorry for you. The odds are low that you'll reconcile, but no contact is your best bet. If it works, she'll realize what she's missing. If it doesn't it'll start you on your way to healing. No contact. NONE
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 08:22 PM
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Your post really resonates with me. I've tried and tried for a couple of years with my 17 yo daughter with similar results. It's hard for me to tell how much is the divorce and how much of it is being a teenager. I backed off, and it didn't seem to make a difference. I finally got fed up with the disrespect and let her know how very disappointed I was in her behavior. I'm not sure why that hit home, but it did for her. Things have gotten slightly better. I hope you find what works for your situa…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 02:40 AM
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I'm not a fan of the gym either. Get your exercise in another way. Sounds like you're a fan of food. So go till a garden. Plant something healthy when it's the right season. Start winemaking. Become a beekeeper. Take some cooking classes.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 08:49 PM
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Been gray rocking for 2 years now. I thought enough time had passed that I should make an effort to be kind. Big mistake. They never change back into the decent person you met. It's just one of those things I'll never understand.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 02:13 AM
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You were definitely discarded. I'm curious to hear more about the ptsd. What did it originate from? What triggered it? How long between when it was triggered and discard? From what I understand, complex ptsd culminates in npd or bpd to varying degrees. Your whole history will have been rewritten in her mind. The worst part is confrontation with reality will have no effect on her. The voice in her head will filter out reality in favor of her fantasy. She isn't lying. She truly believes her fantas…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 07:49 PM
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I feel similarly. I couldn't do to a stranger the terrible things she did to me. I just wonder if that applies to all women, or if it's just something that comes with a particular brand of mental illness.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:27 AM
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I think most of the men here self reflect and care deeply that they couldn't fix the issues that cost them their children, their homes, and their marriages. Some problems have no solutions, despite your oversimplification. Mental illness is at the heart of the problem for many, and I think you'd be surprised at the number of men here that would have given up sex entirely for a chance to see their children grow up.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 11:12 PM
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That hasn't been my experience, but maybe you're a unicorn. Best of luck getting better.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 04:00 AM
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It's not so much that you are cursed, but rather you are the curse. Anything you love is doomed to misery.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 03:01 AM
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It's not a narc support group either. There's a lot of good men and fathers going through some hard shit in here.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 01:04 AM
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If that's the only use you had for a woman, you did it wrong. Glad she got out.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 11:29 PM
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You stand a better chance of your ex apologizing andbegging you to take her back. The Chargers are cursed.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 01:39 AM
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That's how you know you're the sane one. I'd be willing to consider that I was a monster if it helped me explain things to myself. I'll never understand because it makes no sense. I don't even think she can understand it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 11:03 PM
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What's wrong with that? I can admit my mistakes and times I was wrong. Why does it cause womens' heads to explode?
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 10:23 PM
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Yep. 100% Is that really how the story ends? There's nothing more? It's hard for me to believe
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 10:17 PM
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A question for the all the men. Are all women like this, or is it just the disordered women?
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 12:13 AM
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What sort of ailments did she have? Chronic illness? My ex wife had many chronic ailments, but I don't know what was real and what was made up. Illness changes people. Makes her more selfish. Makes you moe codependent
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 10:12 PM
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Maybe I can offer a different perspective. After separating, I wanted desperately to fix my marriage. My wife didn't want the same. After the separation agreement was finalized, I dated and slept with multiple women. For me, it was an attempt to move on. It was me crossing the point of no return - a point after which reconciliation could never take place. It was ME making decisions instead of having them made for me. Only your wife can tell you what was going through her mind. She didn't have to…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 02:27 PM
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It's a girthy, veiny monster. I predict 2,500 a month in alimony for 6 years.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 07:18 PM
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Typical from what I've seen (and it varies a lot by person and location) is spousal support for half the length of the marriage. From what I understand (and in my case) it was for approximately 40% of the difference in your incomes. So around 3800 per month in your case, likely. She gets 50% of the assets, unless you acquired them before marriage or inherited them and didn't comingle the funds in any joint accounts. Which 50% is probably up to you two to figure out. I used the house as leverage …
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 07:08 PM
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That's how mine ran me out of the house too, and I experienced a very similar narrative.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 05:40 PM
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Man, this hits home. Even the part about offering to live separately and staying married so she could stay on my health insurance... I'm wary of chronic illnesses now. Just an observation, but it seems like a lot of mental issues somehow manifest via autoimmune disease. I think that body and mind are more connected than we know. Throw in the never-ending control and sympathy such an illness grants them, and it's the perfect shitstorm of misery for everyone. Mine removed the family portrait over …
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 05:25 PM
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It's been a lot harder staying in this house knowing that it's no longer mine. It has a lot of memories, and I put a lot of work into it. Now she's painting the walls pink and letting moss take over the whole lawn. I've been thinking about encouraging her dating, honestly. Her getting serious means no more alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 12:45 AM
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She bought magnums probably precisely to discourage that kind of behavior ;-)
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 12:32 AM
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:) I would have never imagined her painting dildos on a canvas either. She had another masterpiece where she painted a fleshlight and put flowers in it as well. I call that one 'spring at the asylum'.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 12:31 AM
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I was trying to make it so she could stay in the house until she graduated high school. I honestly think she's just opt to not come see me if I did away with the nesting arrangement.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 12:29 AM
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affixed I think you're absolutely right.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 12:28 AM
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I'm about tapped out between rent and alimony, unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 12:27 AM
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For what it's worth, I really do want to continue the nesting for my daughter's sake. I'd like her spend the last year and a half before she heads off to college in the house she grew up in, living 2 houses down from her best friend, and finishing at the high school she began at. I'm not looking to stoke my ex's anger. We discussed having visitors in the rental house we share, and she didn't seem to have issues with it at the time. She chose to end our marriage. I chose to make the best of a ter…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 05:56 PM
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You're not alone. I don't think the disordered can love in the same way you do, and they don't move through the stages of loss like you do either. They can't get past the anger stage, and carry grudges for decades. I feel like you'll know when you're almost healed when you can stop focusing on understanding how the disordered think. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to understand crazy. I'm glad it was only an 8 year lesson for you and wasn't lifelong. Eight years of deceit is still a tough pil…
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 12:06 PM
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To do the horrible things she is preparing to do to you, she has to twist things in her mind to a point that it will likely never return from. To try to take away someone's kid? To take half of anything they own? To force someone to work to pay for your living expenses as long as possible? I couldn't do these things to a stranger... and surely not someone I care about. You are subhuman to her. You think there's coming back from that? Not likely.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 02:22 AM
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