Futurebrain Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Girl next door Oneitis isn't limited to after rejection, however it may be a poor word choice here. Obviously you wouldn't bring cookies to someone at club. Like I said, to me, it sounds like too much considering the limited interactions you've had. If you are genuine and friendly, you can pull it off, but just so you know you risk coming off as too friendly/overbearing/creepy and ruining the set forever, which is an unnecessary risk.	/r/seduction	12/02/18 04:41 PM
5	Girl next door Reasonable is subjective, but to me cookies are literally no different. This much thought indicates a bit of oneitis. Just be honest to yourself about your motivations and make sure they are in accordance with your higher goals and boundaries.	/r/seduction	12/02/18 12:32 AM
8	How do I stop thinking about a crush that rejected me? She rejected you, right? Embrace that, accept it, let it make you sad for five minutes, and then realize that the past is immutable. I can understand why you are upset that she doesnt want to get to know you. It's offensive. "What's wrong with me? Why aren't I worth her interest?". You can't let her valuation of you affect your valuation of yourself. This is why so many on this sub emphasize 'inner-game' which I think really is just psychological health. Developing yourself and your mindset into…	/r/seduction	12/02/18 12:29 AM
1	Do self deprecating jokes build attraction? I'll disagree with most people here, I think. Self-deprecating jokes when executed correctly are not detrimental. However, there are two types that you must avoid. At one point in my life I found the purpose of some of my self deprecating humor was actually to fish for complements. I would say to a female coworker "wow he tipped the shit out of you, and all you needed to do was flash those big blue eyes of yours. My shit-brown eyes are only worth 10%!" What I was actually doing was fishing for a…	/r/seduction	12/02/18 12:12 AM
1	Need some advice/motivation Being alone is a skill, it can be developed and you will get better at it. I think what he's saying is that it's ok to be alone, but you shouldn't need to rely on the company of others to be happy/content. If you do rely on others, you're only reinforcing that your own self worth is dependant on them. Be independent.	/r/seduction	11/02/18 11:40 PM
1	Need some advice/motivation Objectively (and I know this will be hard to hear, but don't let that distract you from the message) you must realize two things. The actions you described her taking paint the picture of a shitty person. She said you hit her; in some circumstances that could have landed you in court, one of my buddies got kicked out of the Army and lost his GI bill for that, even though no charges ended up being pressed. Lying, and especially that one in particular, is not what someone actually worth your time …	/r/seduction	11/02/18 11:35 PM
3	How would you guys proceed with a girl like this? It's a bit of a fallacy to differentiate between treating her like a friend and 'gaming' her, in this situation. Think about it. It's not like you'll be escalating physically with her in class, right? If you decide then, to 'game' her, you'll do this by demonstrating value (inviting her to parties, giving insight/help in class etc), abundance (not caring/treating her differently because she's 'talking' to someone, and not stopping talking to other girls yourself), and social proof/genuineness (t…	/r/seduction	11/02/18 11:17 PM
2	Girl next door Cake seems a bit much to me. The card isn't a terrible idea, but remember to practice abundance. The reality is that you've already bumped into her twice, a third time is likely. You've already analyzed and identified your mistake (not asking for her name/number), so now just be aware of it next time you're in that situation, and you'll improve. From her perspective, she's met a neighbor a couple of times in an elevator, and engaged in some mostly superficial small talk. I, at least, would think…	/r/seduction	11/02/18 11:00 PM
8	How do I stop thinking about a crush that rejected me? Every time you find yourself thinking about her, force yourself to realize that your thoughts there are pointless, only detrimental. You went for it, and she lost out, applaud yourself for that. Then, forgive yourself for thinking about her, and focus on something else. You won't see an immediate improvement, but if you are determined, and continuously reinforce that practice, you'll find yourself completely over her sooner than you might think. In the meantime, act and talk to girls as if you w…	/r/seduction	11/02/18 10:53 PM
1	Went on date with african girl. She wouldn’t kiss me. What thoughts are you looking for? Sounds like the date went great. I've found sometimes that reluctance in that regard can sometimes be a sign of even greater interest. It funnels into this perception that for a meaningful relationship, girls should go slowly, accurate or not. Go on another one only if you actually want to, focus on escalation and dont be dependant on the outcome of the date being a kiss. And if you're really curious, ask how long she makes guys wait for a kiss in Cameroon. Als…	/r/seduction	11/02/18 10:45 PM
1	Anxious that my online dating pictures are too good? All this says to me is that you're insecure about your own appearance. If she didn't say anything about that specifically, why would you assume that's the case? It's a completely baseless assumption that's indicative that you're projecting your own insecurities. Thousands of things could have happened during the date, but all you actually know is that she isn't interested. Give careful ponderance to the actuality of the date, note good and bad points, making sure to make a plan to improve next t…	/r/seduction	11/02/18 10:33 PM
3	how do you handle teasing Does calling yourself a pussy help you in any way? The reality is that that shit mindset is probably only contributing to your social woes. Diminishing your own value because of how interactions with them went, or how you think they will go, is highly detrimental to not only your self-esteem, but your 'game' as well. First drop all the negative self-talk. In order to be present and aware in that social situation, which will be key to success, you must first be aware of that negativity. When you …	/r/seduction	11/02/18 10:25 PM
1	A List of Approach Invitations I'd agree with most of these, however, people need to keep perspective on glances. If you are flat out staring at someone, it's likely that they'll glance at you a few times, if they notice it, just to see if you are still staring at them. There's a fine line between an interested glance and a "why the fuck is this dude staring at me" glance. I've always practiced this with the contingent that they glance or make eye contact unprovoked. Of course if my owen wilson ringtone goes off loudly in a q…	/r/seduction	24/10/17 10:30 PM
1	My "best friend" keeps hitting on the girls I like Obviously you need to cut him off completely, I think you already knew that, though. If he pulled something like this on me TWICE, and I thought the girl was worth it, I'd try to win her back from him. You say you don't care, but it seems like you do and there's nothing wrong with that. Embrace your emotions, I'd you feel jealous and betrayed, then seek to understand why you do and then judge if you can justify them. Either you'll realize that your feelings are probably unnecessary and invalid a…	/r/seduction	04/03/17 07:11 AM
7	Autistic bro here. doing fine, but just need some feedback I'm going to... attempt to respond the best I can. I'm not autistic so I have no idea what specific challenges you are facing. With that in mind let me tell you that nothing like seduction is easy for ANY human to accomplish. The people who are good at it either have a lifetime of positive reinforcement stemming from positive social interactions and good parenting or they are like us. For whatever reason we didnt have those interactions, we didnt have those positive experiences that validated ou…	/r/seduction	03/11/15 04:05 AM
24	The wrong concept of "How to Pick Up Girls". Holy shit man, like I think your head is where it needs to be, but this writing is just so fucking.... I don't know what.... not good.	/r/seduction	22/10/15 07:06 AM
1	A cute Tinder girl starts with "wanna bang?"- Am I going to get murdered? Do whatever you can with her... But please, PLEASE, USE A CONDOM!	/r/seduction	27/07/14 06:39 PM