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| 4 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenYes. He’s exactly one of the ones I was thinking about. He’s like serial killer level crazy but he’s still out here free and unharrassed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 10:48 PM |
| 10 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenWoman like Taylor Swift and Halle Berry have been labeled crazy for things as small as “dating too many boys” or responding to/ leaving an abusive partner. Meanwhile men like Elon Musk who was the abusive partner and by the accounts of ex wife almost certainly has a personality disorder are worshipped and celebrated as genius and goals Taylor swift was seriously getting the crazy label for a couple years for dating too many boys in her 20s!!! There was article after article about what a cant kee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 10:00 PM |
| 3 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenYes, there is a small section about your last paragraph either in the OP or in the article i read. I’m not sure if i included it or not | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 08:46 PM |
| 11 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenYes, them controlling her with lithium is one step above giving her a lobotomy and locking her in the attic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 08:35 PM |
| 14 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenITA agree. Spot on. That’s part of why I only quoted and never linked the article i got the portion about witches from. Although it’s written by a woman it was only half way there and still fell into the trap of speaking about Britney as a confirmed mentally ill person which I don’t believe we actually know. All we know is what her male handlers and the doctors they pay off using her money tell us. I don’t believe she’s crazy and I don’t believe ex gfs are crazy either, even in the lesser sense … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 08:01 PM |
| 15 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenI actually do find it a bit unsound to go on a campaign complete with other fake accounts just to smear a sub you feel rejected you. Log the fuck off for godsakes. It shows a lack of perspective. Of course, I’d say the same if a man did it. Honestly, in this game where people call others crazy for no reason other than not agreeing with them- that’s often the sign of personality disorders issues etc. I can’t make a judgment as I am not a doctor but I’d be far more likely to look at that party- ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 07:41 PM |
| 8 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenYeah I agree. I added more to the bottom of the OP about how much easier it is for a woman to get slapped with the crazy label and why it’s more likely to become a self confirming narrative that’s believed about her and that she can’t get out of, even without proof, than it is for men How fighting back against the label is seen as fair game for men but more confirmation of the crazy for women. So that the strait jacket/ crazy label becomes a chinese finger trap that only squeezes and oppresses t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 07:22 PM |
| 55 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenI don’t believe she’s anywhere near as crazy or unstable as we’ve been led to believe She’ll have trauma from this experience anyone would but it’s the trauma they purposely created and it wasn’t there before | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!“I got a phone call from my dad day after I did the psych test, basically saying I failed the test. ‘I’m sorry, Brittany, you have to listen to your doctors they are planning to send you to Beverly Hills to do a small rehab program that we’re going to make up for you. You’re going to pay $60,000 a month for this.’ I cried on the phone for an hour and he loved every minute of it. The control he had over someone as powerful as me as he loved to control to hurt his own daughter and 100,000%. He lov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 09:47 AM |
| 1 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!Yes! Thank you. I feel people are far too naive and stupid about this type of manipulation falling right into the manipulators scheme by being quick to think a woman is crazy just because they paint her so. Doing stupid shit like taking her signs of upset at abuse as signs of insanity You would really have to be on the receiving end of having a manipulator try to foist this label on you to know it for what it is. And even on here people are being so naive and unseeing about it- scrutinizing her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 10:55 PM |
| 3 | The Mask SlipsYeah. It’s like get on board or gtfo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 10:35 PM |
| 8 | The Mask SlipsHe’s a narcissist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 06:42 PM |
| 8 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!Oh but I thought she was eloquent…and powerful. Especially if you’ve heard the audio. I posted links above. But you’re right. Even if all a person can do is get up there and grunt sadly, that doesn’t change their truth or the truth, nor does it invalidate their inalienable right to humane and human treatment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 02:40 PM |
| 34 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!He needs an evaluation. To abuse one of his own children that way, he can’t be right in the head. I’m pretty sure you’d find a personality disorder underneath it all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!She spoke with intelligence and power. I love how she did not cow or beg for her basic dignity or the human rights that she’s already fucking entitled to/ that already inalienable belong to her. In fact she made plain that her team works for her and that she thought, in not so many words, that the law of California and courts were a failure and a fucking farce in so far as they failed to do their job to protect her. At the end she threw down the gauntlet and told them she will not be subjected t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 02:13 PM |
| 4 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!I dunno, if you google you’ll find it. Framing Britney Spears maybe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 10:41 AM |
| 15 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!I object to use of the word rambling. They’ve clearly been trying to paint her as unstable, both by putting her on lithium etc., publishing video to her social of her dancing under its influence and out of it, and making her go seek mental health treatment where the press and paparazzi can photograph her when they could easily have someone come to her house. I don’t buy that shes as unstable as they try to make her out to be. But the violence of putting that label on someone, especially a woman … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 10:36 AM |
| 17 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!They paint her as unstable, they put her on lithium etc. I don’t buy that shes as unstable as they say but of course once they put that label on you- that’s typical of how the public takes every single, even normal thing you do as confirmation of it. Everyone looks for signs of mental illness in every little piece of shit movement. Someone here called her statement “rambling” which I disagree with. I’m sure she’s been through hell these past 13 years. So much more than words are even able to exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 10:22 AM |
| 28 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!I didn’t read the whole thing but I found it intelligent, the audio clips I heard I mean it’s been 13 years. How do you condense all that bullshit into one statement and really give people a view of what’s really going on without really talking quite a bit. She’s been silent over a decade. I wouldn’t call it rambling. Let dat girl have her say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 05:13 AM |
| 8 | Planning to end things with LVM tomorrowYou should read my post on Men Who Play Devils Advocate. It’s in my history | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 05:09 AM |
| 35 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!Yeah, that is a good point. That would make me so sad. I’m not even going to think about it. She’s almost there. I want her to take 2 years off maybe have that baby she always wanted and then do a comeback tour called “Reborn” with amazing dancing. I’ll be front row with a grin, a swaying lighter, and the hardcore gay fans who never stopped listening. I’ve always felt she was treated so poorly and i’m thrilled that there’s been a sudden reexamination of and outrage over the presses unfair treatm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:13 AM |
| 8 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!what did the judge say | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:09 AM |
| 218 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!If she’s that mentally ill why the fuck does he have her working around the clock at a fucking vegas residency to pay his bills and feed a small village of support staff that all depend on her for their livelihood and checks? If she’s too fucking ill to have the very money she earned she should be too ill to fucking work too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:08 AM |
| 60 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!Kanye also still in charge of self | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:04 AM |
| 90 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!YESSSSS YESSSSS YESSSSSS!!!! Finally!!!! I watched the britney docu and her brother was espousing some sexist views about women and Britney and Jamie Lynn in particular- something about they make the money but you gotta control them/ tell them what to do. I fully believe the dad has the same sexist hick mentality. The women are the stars in that family all the way- the looks, the charm, the incredible charisma and ability to relate. The men in the family look like catatonic hickish slugs by comp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:02 AM |
| 68 | Being skeptical of the advice you get from older women about datingI think for older women to really embrace what we say here is to admit that they took shit all their lives for nothing. There was no deeper meaning, no grand Freudian excuse, behind that man dogging you out, he did it because he wanted to Bingo. I’ve been saying this. They would have to realize you don’t get more heaven points or an extra feather in your cap for not settling or allowing yourself to be walked on. That it was in some ways a personal choice that they choosed to make, not just how i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 07:44 PM |
| 67 | Learning to Say "No" and Learning to Ask for What you WantHere’s a powerful game change for you, since you’re practicing asking for things. Next time someone fucks up say- I want/ would like an apology. “Nothing I’ve done would merit that treatment and I refuse to accept it. I’d like an apology”. It’s an incredible game change for when people do you wrong and then try to side step around the accountability of having to admit it or only half set things straight which happens often. I used to be pushed/ manipulated into accepting half assed, non-apologie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 03:51 PM |
| 29 | The emotional labor of being hurtIt’s a cop out to say- Don’t expect me to provide any emotional support to you ever. As a matter of fact, don’t expect me to take any responsibility for your upset if I act like a jerk/ pig. I disavow all responsibility for that beforehand and put it back on your lack of emotional maturity and regulation. I’ve seen men say that a smile and it’s a gaslight and a dick move meant to say- I don’t give a shit about your feelings and I’m putting you on notice that you should never expect me to. Well f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 03:39 PM |
| 55 | The emotional labor of being hurtYeah this is one area where the therapists are wrong. It’s not about whether a person is actually able to make someone else feel a certain way. It’s about the desire to try or lack therefore. If you care about a person and realize something you did caused them to feel shitty- you seek to correct. It’s the emotional callousness that so many jerk men display. And that brand of psychiatry, doesn’t understand that nuance, stupidly lets them off the hook by looking at it from too clinical and wrong a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 10:58 AM |
| 3 | Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.Yeah, I was talking about how I blocked her for a while following my departure because i couldn’t take any passive aggressiveness while i figure out how to move next. I got downvoted and called a selfish bitch and a horrible friend because she recently had a double mastectomy (preventative. she’s never had cancer). I figured chances were it’d go unnoticed as we only speak about 3-4 times a year, usually through text and she may not even reach out during that time. One call got through though and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 12:14 AM |
| 2 | I just dropped a pick me friend but I feel badAs soon as that person is disrespecting you or walking all over you or just generally making you uncomfortable whether they’re doing so intentionally or not- tHinK aBoUt tHe oTheR pErSon becomes 🤡 shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 10:53 PM |
| 3 | I just dropped a pick me friend but I feel badPreach. So many gems here. We are not taught to quit things that don’t benefit us. Instead were taught to “think about how the other person must feel” even when they’re hurting, disrespecting or annoying us. To prioritize being polite, avoiding offense, serving others over preserving our own happiness, mental health and good vibes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 06:42 PM |
| 24 | Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.It’s the most common way I’ve experienced it. I’ve gotten far more hate from insecure women than from insecure men and whereas most males are messy or very upfront with it, the female variety can be very insidious hard to identify especially when it’s wrapped in the innocent guise of friendship but little bites are being taken | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 06:37 PM |
| 59 | Don’t Date Insecure Men! I LIVE For This Goddess’ Channel.Insecure women friends and acquaintances do this too. Everything you do is about how you made them feel about themselves. Her looking good make me feel ugly Her having career make me feel stupid Her having friend make me feel unpopular Never be around these types, even if they are fellow women. They are monsters of insecurity and a lot of times their active jealousy and negative feelings about self does more harm to you than if you were dealing with someone arrogant. Since they feel small by eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Sharing my story: "jUsT cOmMuNiCatE bEtTeR" can be the gateway to abuseUgh. Both him and the entire situation were beneath it. You’re excelling in other areas of youre life and you will be firmly above it. Deep down, I’m sure he knows | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 05:21 PM |
| 7 | Sharing my story: "jUsT cOmMuNiCatE bEtTeR" can be the gateway to abuseWhat a true quote. In secular areas of life you win by working as hard as you can. But dating and friendship are counterintuitive. Applying that same principle with men will literally cause them to undervalue you and view you as less- to look at you as a desperate try-hard, so anxious to be with them they can get away with anything. Working too hard for men or friends actually lowers your stock with them because people read it as you not valuing or respecting yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 02:46 PM |
| 1 | We should all uplift ourselves. I won’t be surprised if she’s scrolling through FDS and adopting it into her lifestyle.Yeah, he toxic and ought to be alone until he changes if he ever does rather than wrecking another womens life. Why would Hailey even get with him knowing selena went through years of therapy and is still talking about her it shook her up years later. Honestly that shoudlve scared her off. But i do get that he can be charming I follow him on Ig and no cap, his shit makes me laugh. I can see how he’d be charming enough to make someone ignore the red flags | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 03:18 AM |
| 2 | We should all uplift ourselves. I won’t be surprised if she’s scrolling through FDS and adopting it into her lifestyle.I don’t think the media does, but selena fans are always going on about how mean and bitchy she is and mistreats others etc. I’ve never seen any real evidence. And they’re trying to make it a blind for her deserving the abuse from justin- which no woman actually does. It’s painful for me to watch how wreckless/ careless he treats her while she lavishes him with so much grade A love and attention. I wonder what the last straw will be. She married him at 21. Regardless of how mature she seems. I d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 02:14 AM |
| 2 | We should all uplift ourselves. I won’t be surprised if she’s scrolling through FDS and adopting it into her lifestyle.Even in his own songs, he sings about not being shit and not deserving the woman he’s with because she’s “so pure and clean as opposed to what he offers” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 01:59 AM |
| 2 | We should all uplift ourselves. I won’t be surprised if she’s scrolling through FDS and adopting it into her lifestyle.You should read my past post on self love. It’s in my history. I had a lot of the same conclusions as you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 01:56 AM |
| 3 | We should all uplift ourselves. I won’t be surprised if she’s scrolling through FDS and adopting it into her lifestyle.I’ve noticed it too and it’s emotionally abusive. He subtly plays with her in convo in a way that’s meant to make her panic or unsure of herself or embarrass/ humiliate her in subtle ways that make him look disinterested and her concerned she looks annoying or desperate. And you’re right. It does/ will look like nothing to most people, unless you’ve actually experienced it. It literally jumped out at me. Once you’ve been there you know the emotional violence being treated like that by someone yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 01:52 AM |
| 3 | Block and Delete: People Know Because Their Texts Turn GreenExcellent idea to relate friendships that no longer work to dating/ romantic relationships that no longer work. Thanks for weighing in If a phone rings i tend to always pick up without thinking so I do need the block feature | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:49 PM |
| 4 | Block and Delete: People Know Because Their Texts Turn GreenGreat comment. I’ve noticed the same reading bios by successful people. Who you hang with matters | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Hadn’t been OLD in almost 15 years. I wanted to see what you all were talking about. Now I know I will be single forever. On purpose. 🤣💖But also hilarious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 01:59 PM |
| 18 | Block and Delete: People Know Because Their Texts Turn Greenwhat are your explanations | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:19 AM |
| 2 | after his creepy OLD videos, she's back with himTheir thinking is not my focus- but if I can readjust it while having fun and living my best life- why the hell not? You’re interpreting it wrong. I wouldn’t be doing it FOR them. It would just be a pleasant consequence- killing 2 birds with one stone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 05:09 PM |
| 103 | Dear John: Betty BroderickPeople think they have others so figured out they can play with and deeply disrespect them over and over again with complete impunity. But should that person snap on your ass- you get what you get and you don’t get upset. Because that was a risk you chose to take by abusing them, KWIM. Not saying Bettys actions are right, but when you actively mistreat a person over and over again you’re consciously choosing to assume a certain amount of risk because there’s no telling how a person may react. Wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 04:32 PM |
| 54 | after his creepy OLD videos, she's back with himAs the cheated on party she would’ve been painted as the victim/ the spurned woman regardless Ben is serving her purpose. Sure she’s hot but without the revival of that old storyline people would still be focused on her as washed up and rejected because ARod was cheating with a younger woman. Ben is central to the diversion shes creating. She could get with someone new but the press would not be losing their minds over it. It’s not as click baity or interesting or powerful as her pretending to r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 01:19 PM |
| 28 | I am sorry but I am not buying it..."Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck Are ‘Inseparable’ Now: J.Lo ‘Knows It Was Meant to Be’"Same. Even if she isn’t finding deep long lasting love. She’s also not staying in anything that hurts or doesn’t serve her. It’s kinda inspirational. She’s also the only one Diddy didn’t run game on/ who didn’t take Diddys shit. He cheated on Cassie. Also on Kim, had her pregnant with twins at the same time as Mysa. All these women all stayed in his life too, as a harem under his thumb when they were no longer with him. Subsidized by him. Vacationing with him etc. JLo is the only one who got wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:36 PM |
| 52 | after his creepy OLD videos, she's back with himNo, I made that up. It’s just exactly the kind of thing they would do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:11 PM |
| 130 | after his creepy OLD videos, she's back with himIt’s either this or face Dailymail headlines like: JHo Blows 5th Chance at Marriage! Will She Ever Find Love?? Once Svelte Star Gains 2 Stone on Crisps and Thai Takeways! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:09 PM |
| 442 | after his creepy OLD videos, she's back with himPeople are going to say she’s a pick me. But I’m here to give a different spin. She was engaged to marry ARod and supposedly planning a wedding. She went on Oprah’s tour speaking about hes the only man to ever love her enough to want her to grow and be her biggest career wise, how they mesh family etc. Then he was discovered to be cheating with the girl from Southern Charm. Facetiming her, liking and unliking her photos on IG, and sliding into other womens dms. This was all publicly known and wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:40 AM |
| 80 | I am sorry but I am not buying it..."Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck Are ‘Inseparable’ Now: J.Lo ‘Knows It Was Meant to Be’"People are going to say she’s a pick me. But I’m here to give a different spin. She was engaged to marry ARod and supposedly planning a wedding. She went on Oprah’s tour speaking about hes the only man to ever love her enough to want her to grow and be her biggest career wise, how they mesh family etc. Then he was discovered to be cheating with the girl from Southern Charm. Facetiming her, liking and unliking her photos on IG, and sliding into other womens dms. This was all publicly known and wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:39 AM |
| 33 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.Just because you participate in this community does not entitle you to direct it in any way. There are some older radicals here who seem to think it does. I’ve seen them be very pushy and entitled with their viewpoints on posts about makeup and beauty recently. Not respecting that those views or tenets are not necessarily part of the coda here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:20 AM |
| 32 | We should all uplift ourselves. I won’t be surprised if she’s scrolling through FDS and adopting it into her lifestyle.How was she treated in the past that she’s talking about | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 07:45 PM |
| 23 | Another Instance of a Celebrity Woman Labeled “Crazy” for NothingYeah, although to be fair all this happened before James Packer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 07:20 PM |
| 41 | It's that time of the week again! Mods will be posting pictures of hotties for your reviewing pleasure!Meh. Don’t enjoy the men and it crowds off better posts. I can’t believe they cut Monday memes some of which were thought provoking and smart as- “low quality posts” to switch to this, which really is just pictures as well and pictures with a complete lack of substance at that. Memes were at least 50/50 chance of value Not my fave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:59 AM |
| 10 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?Yes, definitely. I experienced microaggressions over things I wore too, with the same talking about it like I wasn’t there. None of the clothes in question was noteworthy or inappropriate in any way. It was just an excuse for them to sublimate their negative feelings in thinly veiled aggressions and that was the first sneaky sign of animus. What lame insecure people. Their punishment is to have to be exactly who they are. What trouble and self inflicted pain they must experience every day. Can y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 07:42 PM |
| 19 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?It does tend to come from middle aged/ older women a lot and yes; they do often act like middle schoolers with jealous gossip and petty passive microaggressions. That has been my overwhelming experience in the workplace too, factually speaking. I went through middle and highschool with zero bullying or problems. It took my being a grown ass woman working with women in their 60s to see behavior that juvenile and lamely immature. I’d actually never experienced it dealing with 13 year olds- they we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 05:32 PM |
| 29 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?It’s best not to let it bother you, yes. But it is natural to be bothered by someone engaging in microaggressions toward you. Let’s not stigmatize that. It is still essentially an aggression regardless of motive. The song lyrics she referenced are clear and rude. Super inappropriate, rude behavior for the work place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:06 PM |
| 8 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?No, sweetie. I never said anything that could be misconstrued as encouraging her to be hostile. I simply said she should continue to be herself without shrinking. What I did and didn’t say is a matter of record and fact, not opinion. The transcript of exactly what I said is right above us. You’ve yet to direct quote where I stated that she should be hostile and that’s because it never happened. But you’re right. You go about your day and be blessed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 02:55 PM |
| 6 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?Where did I say she needs to be hostile? I keep encouraging you to direct quote where I said that and you can’t, because it’s not there/ never happened. So you need to stop bringing that up repeatedly as if it’s factual. And no that’s not me being hostile to you. That’s just a statement of facts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 02:50 PM |
| 10 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?The woman is engaging in microaggressions toward her. We don’t have a responsibility to teach people even as they as harming or being rude to us- not even other women. Singing a song (the lyrics of which are super rude. Look it up) that is passive aggressively aimed at her and suggestive of her being a sugar baby is an aggression Why don’t you take that same energy and use it toward holding the woman responsible for her poor behavior and poorly managed negative emotions? ”It's just unnecessary t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 02:44 PM |
| 7 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?I’m not confusing you with anyone. The comment is right there. You literally said/ direct quote: “That does unfortunately mean compromising on what jewellery you're going to wear” You said she needs to compromise on what jewelry she wears. Thats clown shit to me. She must scrunch and dumb down and and not wear what she owns and would like to, to make this insecure sack of shit feel comfortable and less less than- less jealous? Lol. Get out of here. “uNLesS yOuRe tHe bOsS u hAvE tO cOmProMisE” No… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:30 PM |
| 4 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?It says senior. She doesn’t need to do anything. She may choose to, but she damn sure doesn’t need to/ have the responsibility to. The comment has phrases that say the OP was “flaunting” and “rubbing it in”. So yes, that is victim blaming. The implication is that this wouldn’t have happened if she hadn’t been so “showy”. Which is ridiculous and presumptuous to assume. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:27 PM |
| 16 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?Yes, I’m totally disgusted by it. It’s so Southern catty under the guise of concern. I think the only reason it’s being upvoted is because people agree with the idea to share less, NOT because anyone actually believes OP was flaunting or showing off. Those things slid in under the wire because she attached them to and slipped them in with seemingly legitimate advice. Although the condescending suggestion that “well you need to stop showing off and be a little less, ok honey?” really is quite rud… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:17 PM |
| 12 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?I don’t disagree with the advice to say less. But the language is obviously blaming of OP, using terms like “flaunting” and “rubbing it in”, which she never did. While at the same time coddling, catering to and centering the problematic women’s feelings, putting them on a pedestal and urging us to consider them, which is totally undeserved and the wrong way to view it. This woman needs to be accountable for her behavior in a professional environment. Why is the commenter chiding OP for “showing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:13 PM |
| 35 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?“You could have a pep talk sometime about self-esteem and dating and talk about how you had to learn and overcome some things too and how it paid off.” Nope. She doesn’t have a responsibility to bare a wound or vulnerability to lower herself to a level that is relatable and comfortable for this insecure woman. This woman needs to learn to manage her own emotions. “Talk about how you had to learn to overcome some things” 🙄 Maybe she fucking didn’t. That’s such a female response of having to or be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:06 PM |
| 29 | Bullied for being a FDS-er. How do you react to this ?”Stop flaunting how well you're being treated at work. Doing this in front of coworkers isn't very kind” Wtf. If someone asks where you got something and you tell them that can hardly be considered “flaunting” or “unkind”. That’s absurd and very victim blamey “Rubbing it in her face constantly likely stoked some jealousy. “ The woman literally asked where she got it. Answering truthfully can hardly be considered “rubbing it” in anyone’s face. What a stupid fucking comment. ”Everyone is human, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:01 PM |
| 2 | What It Takes for a Man to Get Called Crazy - Whitney Cummings (lol she called out man on how bad he was dressed)I legit can’t even watch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 06:52 PM |
| 13 | What It Takes for a Man to Get Called Crazy - Whitney Cummings (lol she called out man on how bad he was dressed)I think people are beginning to see how stupid the “can’t keep a man line” is. It’s move offensive to me how they stick the crazy label on her. No one can say she’s pretty or she did good work on x movie without a black man jumping in to discredit everything about her with yeah- we all know she crazy as fuck though When actually, no, we dont know that. There are many men who’ve acted out far worse and are still considered sane and even enviable- Elon Musk who unquestionably has a personality dis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 02:02 PM |
| 11 | Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently?IMO, something about the 6 month mark tends to be really revealing. Of course at that point you’re invested and like them. But you still need to drop them at first red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:11 AM |
| 119 | What It Takes for a Man to Get Called Crazy - Whitney Cummings (lol she called out man on how bad he was dressed)It’s always annoyed me how quick people are to slap that label on a woman. Halle Berry has been in bad relationship after bad relationship. Wesley Snipes, David Justice, Eric Benet. All physically or emotionally abusive. Snipes hit her so hard he left her partially deaf in one ear. Benet was aj admitted sex addict who did nothing but cheat with woman after woman in their marriage. Yet she’s the one who’s been branded mentally unstable and problematic- crazy in the black community. I can’t read a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:03 AM |
| 6 | A line from 'Flawless' Beyonce ft Nicki MinajEh, I don’t agree with all her choices or branding but I hardly get the idea she’s a child at nearly 40. Being in the industry tends to age you faster. She comes across plenty mature in what I’ve seen of her. I think she’s pressured to have a very clean, pristine image to avoid criticism. To say she sounds like a child at like 38, after 4 kids is somewhat silly to me and says maybe you’re someone older or white who hasn’t followed her much/ doesn’t really know all that much about her. It sounds … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 08:15 PM |
| 5 | What the hell is with all of these men who don't respect a woman's dietary restrictions???Yes, it’s not them being sensitive or offended. Shit has nothing to do with them. It’s that they don’t respect or believe women so in their mind it’s “Stupid. She could eat those foods. She just doesn’t want to. I’ll show her- she’s gonna eat it today anyway”. Sneaking it in etc. I can see exactly the disgusting fucking attitude that’s behind it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 10:20 AM |
| 1 | On creepy old pervy men…I remember he was in a relationship with Giselle and a reporter asked her a question and she kinda stumbled over it. Leo said something kind of rude like- “Biggest model but she always hides behind me like she can’t talk.” She looked embarrassed. English isn’t even her native tongue The whole exchange probably says a lot about how he “respects” the girls he dates and giselle was probably closer to age and status to him than any of the ones since Whatever. She was the highest paid model in the wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 11:31 PM |
| 6 | The importance of not sharing your trauma with the men you’re datingAll they think when they hear you’ve had pat trauma is- oh, so she’s used to being treated badly anyway…i can do whatever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 11:16 PM |
| 10 | "They're like brother and sister"She hopes you don’t break a leg…. Ugly smile | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 07:43 AM |
| 12 | "They're like brother and sister"Emotionally incestuous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 07:43 AM |
| 5 | I ignored FDS principles and it cost me 6 weeks of my lifewhat were the flags | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:21 PM |
| 327 | "They're like brother and sister"Brother and Sister in question = Cersei and Jaime Lannister | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Shitty dudes will even neg your family membersGood point. So self entitled that he thinks he gets to control the sister like that when all he is is a third degree acquaintance to her. She’s not even married to him, yet he thinks he has power over her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 04:39 PM |
| 2 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingYeah, one in particular started trying to sidle up to other people a few feet from my desk and laugh openly about me or loud whisper that I was a bitch or she can’t stand me. Just a lot of foolishness. It progressed to her loudly stomping from desk to desk several times a day to bitch about me and complain “I just had to have a mental illness” that i was bipolar or retarded/ autistic and she didn’t know what my boss saw in me. Just ridiculous. I’m thankful for it thought because the job was low … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 02:01 PM |
| 42 | Men are more responsive to women's facial expressions than our actual words.Yes, I’m so tired of having them invalidate or try to arrogantly claim i’m misperceiving a situation and they know how it was/ are setting me straight when they weren’t even fucking there. There’s insufferable arrogance and conceit in that. How much must you think of yourself to correct someone on an experience they had that you did not witness and were no where near. It’s lame and almost psychotic and such an uphill climb to even engage with. It’s all microaggressive. All they fucking do is gas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 09:38 AM |
| 63 | Men are more responsive to women's facial expressions than our actual words.Yes, I hate that look of smug amusement like you’re playing with an overhyped child or really amusing animal you have total control over. I’d never abide someone doing this in my personal life but Ive still had to put up with it from bosses or men on the job and it is maddening | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:08 AM |
| 110 | Men are more responsive to women's facial expressions than our actual words.I’ve known guys who would brush off everything I say with a little smile like they were cat and mouse toying with me until the complaints were stacked sky high and would then need an hour long discussion to get clear on what happened and what was needed. And then of course they act like they don’t have time for that or like it’s doing too much. But they cause it to pile up to that level by dodging small points as the come up. They don’t care. They don’t care. They don’t care. Until I’m about to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 03:19 AM |
| 114 | Men are more responsive to women's facial expressions than our actual words.Then it becomes “sHe nEvEr tOLd mE/ cOmMuNiCaTeD” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 03:09 AM |
| 244 | Men are more responsive to women's facial expressions than our actual words.IME men take everything I say, even angry things overly lightly. They sit right up there with stupid smug smiles, almost holding back giggles, that signify- I can manipulate you and your concern down. I know how to bend and twist you...teeheehee. Until shit goes tits up and I put major distance there and they feel a pull away. I know so many men who were straight up wiling, until I put them on blocks. They never dreamed it could happen, even the ugly, stupid, incompatible ones I barely wanted th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 02:55 AM |
| 466 | Men are more responsive to women's facial expressions than our actual words.One of the greatest predictors of divorce is a look of disgust particularly on the womans face toward the man. A study was done. Make of that what you will Edit: To nag is one thing and normally taken as weakness/ disregarded. But I think if the guy perceives he’s being looked at with derision and disgust especially by a woman, that puts the ego into a real tail spin of sELf dEsTrUcT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 02:24 AM |
| 1 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma Bonding“Advocacy attorneys”- well there you go. The demographic i’m speaking of are older women about Boomer age but certainly not advocacy attorneys. The vast majority of boomer women never made it that far in their education or career. It wasn’t as yet all that common for a woman to be professional or to have multiple higher level degrees. It may be easy to think that if you’re in a major city like NY but Boomer female attorneys are in no way representative of the Boomer woman demographic at large. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 12:12 AM |
| 1 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingWe’re talking about pick me qualities specifically as it relates to it being pushed on you as a form of forced bonding. Older women are the main ones doing that- pushing you to fix a plate for the men at the party or help serve etc. Honestly some of them have the most internalized misogyny as a hold over of how they’re raised. What makes them worse than young pick me women is they feel fucking pushy and entitled. Like they’re getting you in line and have a right to jam it down your fucking throa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 06:18 PM |
| 1 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingI’ve really struggled with this working with older secretaries on the job. What they really want me to relate to and unite with them on is smallness. The idea that we make do with what we have. We’ll always be under the attorneys and a lesser class. We keep our mouths shut and work our whole lives and can take one trip at the end or maybe we can retire. They wanted to bond with me over my accepting that as my limits and whispering with them in solidarity about it, because that makes them feel be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 05:59 PM |
| 1 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingI’ve worked closely with and for female millennial lawyers. They were never anywhere near as much a problem as the Boomer secretaries I was sitting with. For almost my entire working life those have been my colleagues and the people I spend the most time around. I also deal with them extensively through church and community functions. Your experience with them seems limited. I doubt you’re seeing them as they actually are. Frankly, I feel most people don’t. It could hardly be more nasty, lame, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:01 AM |
| 30 | The BARE MINIMUM: when he wants “someone who can keep up”Exactly. “Not smart enough to know everything they don’t know.” This is the space that simple people who think they’re amazingly smart operate from- one of ignorance about how far above them the ceiling actually is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 07:22 AM |
| 25 | Same energy as 'MaRriaGe iS a PiEce oF pApeR'What will “happen” will be 10 years and 2 kids with your last name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 07:18 AM |
| 7 | Being an OF model/stripper/camgirl/sex worker is not empowering, here's what is empoweringHaving a 10 ft long, apple authentic iphone charging cord. You’re empowered to turn over | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:41 AM |
| 5 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingYes, educated high earning women usually aren’t the problem but they’re usually few and far between. There are far more in secretarial and selling Avon and being small minded, that’s the bible belt majority that dominates the demographic and that i work with, which tests my patience daily Someone else here said blue collar Boomer women seem to be the main problem and I find that true IME | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 11:37 PM |
| 6 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingSame. One of the guys asked me about a book he saw me reading in front of them. They made such a huge show of repeatedly rolling their eyes in an over obvious microaggressive way for me to see. On another occasion, they took a collection for someones child who’d been involved in a terrible accident. Not having any reference of how much everyone else was giving, I gave a certain amount which was more. They made a huge show of loud whispering about it a few desks from me in a sneering, mocking way… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 11:06 PM |
| 11 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingIME, if you don’t bare a problem they try and create one for you through outright gossip, lies and sabotage just to slap you down a notch and feel more comfortable themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 10:46 PM |
| 10 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingYes, no one respects that work. Men opt out of it as fast as they can. I resent older women trying to push it on me as my feminine lot in life. It’s a complete waste. It’s never ending yet adds nothing to your education or knowledge or money. All it does is take time from furthering all 3 which is why men would never fucking deign to do it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 10:41 PM |
| 15 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingExactly. It wouldn’t be so problematic if they were quiet with it instead of forceful and self righteous in jamming it down others throats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 07:45 PM |
| 3 | The "Nothing To Hide" Feint.The other feint- I need to know if I can trust you. When in fact it’s YOU who can’t and shouldn’t trust HIM and he knows it. It’s a play to get you so caught up in proving and getting him to accept your trustworthiness that you don’t see his | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 06:40 PM |
| 12 | Idris Elba - Glorious, gorgeous manYeah, he screams emotionally unavailable and problematic, charming fuck boy. His last wife says he abandoned her for his image because his management wanted him looking single. Jill Scott claims he came onto her and K Michelle says he ate her out, they undercover dated etc. Which I actually believe could be the case. He seems to like thicker body types based on his past wives/ flings. I’m not sure I care for his current relationship with Sabrina, his new wife. She seems like a faithful lapdog or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 06:37 PM |
| 46 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingThey don’t like confident women who don’t appear to have any obvious weaknesses/ insecurities or troubles in life. The token for entry is that you bare a wound, an insecurity, a vulnerability to show youre the same/ relatable and they can be at ease around you. You must neg or self flagellate. It’s kind of like dark magic spells that require spilled blood to operate. You must slit your wrist or cut a finger and smear the blood. These rituals of bonding are based off suffering | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 05:38 PM |
| 30 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingYes! Omg. This is so accurate. My experience has been exactly the same. The only difference is that no one is on a diet. They all blame the demands of the job for not being able to lose weight but make no diet or exercise changes. Instead they watch what people around them eat and make passive aggressive slightly angry/ rude comments, especially if that person is thin. And yes, you are expected to bare a wound; show a weakness or vulnerability to put them at ease and be relatable, as opposed to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 05:01 PM |
| 19 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma Bonding“Younger ones have their own issues”. Only Fans, etc. Yeah but we’re talking about it as it relates to how women bond. Only Fans isn’t being used to bond with me the same way that female chores and service to men are being constantly pushed on me as a casual form of feminine bonding usually by older women. That’s far more common and has been going on far longer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 03:38 PM |
| 33 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingI’ve spent an incredible amount of time dealing with older women. They’ve been my main and closest colleagues on the job for almost my entire working life which has been mainly secretarial. They’re also the people I most rub shoulders with socially through church and community events. I know this Dworkin reading type exists but shes not the majority. I’d venture to say a lot have internalized misogyny theyre not even aware of that they push on younger woman. I’ve encountered that wayyyy more tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 03:05 PM |
| 62 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingI have the same issue with older women. Most are unbearable to hang with for me because they’ve internalized the misogyny or secondary status and service to men and unthinkingly, without a second thought as to whether it’s right or wrong, keep trying to force it on me, jam it down my throat When I reject it, I become an uppity bitch who they want to cut down and humble through sabotage and ugly comments As older women theyre intent on being the one to teach you, instead of learning a new way the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 02:38 PM |
| 45 | Shitty dudes will even neg your family membersSteams me she’s talking about apologizing in his behalf. He should be dragged back by the scruff of his fucking neck to do it himself in person, just as publicly as the comments were made- to the whole family It’s emotional labor that she now has to run around and fix things. I get why she’s doing it but she shouldn’t have to clean up his fucking mess | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:46 AM |
| 36 | Low value men act indignant when we want a guy who is both attractive and kind to us, because they think that attractive men are entitled to treat women poorly and get away with it.“#singlewhitemale #nohomo” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:48 AM |
| 3 | My friend's mom just told me, "the only anti-aging skincare you need is sunscreen and staying away from men who give you stress"https://www.instagram.com/p/CG48EYzgRqp/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:29 AM |
| 84 | You Don't Need To Be Grateful🤷“Cut off people who think respect is binary and consists only of the powerless and powerful” Powerful statement. So many men think of women as a powerless class and therefore not owed respect. They only respect people with power. Any respect a woman can gain is secondary by associAtion to a powerful man, or money position. Even with those things he may resent her and seek ways to disrespect anyhow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 02:27 PM |
| 12 | How to Confront Narcissists' Lethal Weapon: ProjectionThis is being unfairly downvoted because of the slow start. All the useful material is in the bottom half to 1/3. I didn’t care for the parental blurb or agree with the idea that any put down is a projection of how the abuser feels about themselves but still found a lot of value in it. The most important point I got is that a narcissistic projection of bad traits onto us only works or sticks if we choose to accept it as apart of ourselves because we have pre-existing insecurities about it. The e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 01:37 PM |
| 27 | CURRENT RELATIONSHIP STATUS: IN THE AIR/ POTENTIAL COUGAR.I’d love if this were to become a celebrated thing that women revel in large groups on, mouths open in laughter. A whole subsection of loud and proud, never been marrieds with money, embracing their freedom to travel, spend and love/ not love/ sex where they want. It would fly so hard in the face of the sad, lonely desperate narrative men try to paint for women who have that “fate”. Even the word fate implies a life of doom no one wants. We should recapture and control the narrative of what it m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 12:07 PM |
| 16 | Women who are angry at men are seen as "unfeminine". There is no male equivalent of this phenomenon: when a man is angry at women it is not considered emasculating. If anything, hating women is seen as extra manly.Yes, when a man is angry at a woman and expresses it in a threatening way. It’s seen as confirmation of his masculinity and power. He “put her in her place/ checked her”. When a woman is angry at a man she’s seen as unfeminine and moves into the realm of male challenge and threat. Most men see it as an affront to their dignity that a woman dare correct or just approach them in a way that is not fawning and deferential and the misogynistic mind set causes them to go into attack mode, even when a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 11:40 AM |
| 46 | Women who are angry at men are seen as "unfeminine". There is no male equivalent of this phenomenon: when a man is angry at women it is not considered emasculating. If anything, hating women is seen as extra manly.✨👑Miss Ann Drist 👑✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 01:49 AM |
| 9 | ❗ I read this and I had to share it: "As a woman, I have been taught that to be liked is to be good....Women who don’t take shit are unlikable." | from "On Likability" by Lacy Johnson. Can any of you relate?Yes, little boys 5, 6, 7 feel they have more right to respect and offense over disrespect, than grown ass women 30s-60s. They will fight over perceived disrespect even at that young age- because society communicates to them that it’s their inborn birth right as “man”. Whereas a woman can live 100 years and still not have a right to take issue with even severe disrespect in society’s eyes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 12:49 AM |
| 14 | Netflix’s Dirty John s2Broderick? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 09:52 PM |
| 26 | ❗ I read this and I had to share it: "As a woman, I have been taught that to be liked is to be good....Women who don’t take shit are unlikable." | from "On Likability" by Lacy Johnson. Can any of you relate?Some men count on your doing this- openly relishing your discomfort in feeling you have to say yes to something both you and him know you clearly don’t like. IDK what it is. But it’s almost perverse. Like they feel like they’re controlling you, even toying with you, by eliciting a yes, that you clearly don’t want to give and gaining some pleasure out of your feeling of discomfort and unwanted social expectation they themselves don’t face Ive seen men try to toy with the discomfort with a big gri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 06:20 PM |
| 3 | Disappointing Role Models: Athletes, Only Fans, and Toxic boyfriendsYeah, it was a stupid comment for sure but not enough to say things like he’s “obviously responsible for her withdrawing”. Seems like a stretch. We have one line so far | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 05:44 PM |
| 63 | ❗ I read this and I had to share it: "As a woman, I have been taught that to be liked is to be good....Women who don’t take shit are unlikable." | from "On Likability" by Lacy Johnson. Can any of you relate?Women are conditioned to prioritize being liked over being respected. A woman who responds to disrespect immediately becomes branded as “unlikeable”- a bitch, a crazy, doing too much. She faces complete social marginalization Where the same response and more is perfectly acceptable, even praised, in men. If I’m a bitch. I’m the baddest bitch alive. There’s no pleasing people, you’d have to make yourself so small you barely exist. That’s actually what they want. What the aim is. Once you figure t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Disappointing Role Models: Athletes, Only Fans, and Toxic boyfriendsWhat episode and time line was that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 01:53 PM |
| 14 | “You seem expensive”NS Edit: Laughing at the upvotes. Didn’t expect anyone to know what this means, cept 1-2 black fonts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 01:41 PM |
| 17 | Disappointing Role Models: Athletes, Only Fans, and Toxic boyfriendsNo ones really broken down what the bf issue is and so far I’ve only seen him pitched as cute and supportive As far as her withdrawing- looks like a power move to me. She was positive and classy with it and put herself first. People want people, especially black women, to be so grateful to be there, they take anything. No one has that obligation to prioritize money and big business over personal well being. But it’s constantly expected of minorities and woman, as if even those with outsize talen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 11:14 AM |
| 31 | Disappointing Role Models: Athletes, Only Fans, and Toxic boyfriendsI did hear that part but user above says “I think we all knew what that was about” I don’t. Am I missing something. What is she referring to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 03:58 AM |
| 32 | Disappointing Role Models: Athletes, Only Fans, and Toxic boyfriendsWhat was it about. Real question. I don’t know what’s going on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 03:43 AM |
| 32 | How FDS helped me recover from an abusive relationshipYes, it would either be removed or immediately invalidated by a bunch of short cocks rushing into the comments with “superior” understanding of what took place that favors the man and questions her ability to perceive things correctly despite not having been there or knowing anyone involved. Of course the worldwide echo chamber they create that silences women and their experiences while placing male truth as the only truth and reality is exactly what allows this behavior to keep taking place in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 06:41 PM |
| 8 | The difference between a real HVM and a fake one- how they treat you at the end.So self entitled. Command her to disregard risk to her own life and health to come help me when you’re not even together anymore likely because he’s a POS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 03:32 PM |
| 22 | Any man who dismisses your physical discomfort is trash.That goes for emotional discomfort too. That didn’t hurt that much! You don’t have a right to be upset about xyz! If they allow social situations where you are overlooked or mistreated and think you don’t have a right to feel any way about it. Family members or friends making rude comments to you or about you in his and your presence. A cashier/ waiter/ coworker being rude to you and him taking their side. And arguing you don’t have a right to upset or gaslighting that you weren’t mistreated at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 10:46 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else find certain shows/movies infuriating now that you've found FDS?The great doctor/ Faith FTW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 10:08 PM |
| 10 | Scrotes are literally cancer. Always get the Pap smear.They’re not sure where else it comes from. But it’s not purely from having sex. Virgins can have it as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 07:42 PM |
| 25 | Scrotes are literally cancer. Always get the Pap smear.That doesn’t mean is isnt through HPV. Even a virgin can have HPV. It’s not purely sexually transmitted. So for a nun to have it isn’t necessarily saying anything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 06:30 PM |
| 6 | Stop letting men triangulate you against other women - they are trying to deliberately belittle you because they are threatened by your confidence. You are a Queen. A bad bitch. You laugh in the face of men who try to make you jealous- you see them as insecure and attention-seeking. They are LVM.Very good points | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 03:53 PM |
| 53 | FDS & British Royal Mantra: 👑 Don’t Complain and Don’t Explain 👑Yes, if you’re above a certain level of intelligence they’re never telling you anything helpful or that you didn’t already know any way. More importantly, no one knows you, your wants, goals, foibles etc better than you do. It’s hard for anyone to give meaningful advice that applies to and suits you without that even if they are intelligent themselves. Usually, you just end up exposing yourself unnecessarily with no reward Honestly most of the men I talk to or friends are not mentally more equip… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:20 AM |
| 29 | FDS & British Royal Mantra: 👑 Don’t Complain and Don’t Explain 👑We’re still humans. Part of bonding and experiencing emotional closeness and connection comes from that sharing of personal experience and feelings with other people. It’s normal to crave intimacy, but it doesn’t pay to try to fulfill that need with the uninformed mass of messy/ friends/ family acquaintances. The majority of people fall into that category and just aren’t suitable to bare your heart to. I’m still waiting on the one or two with whom I can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:14 AM |
| 41 | FDS & British Royal Mantra: 👑 Don’t Complain and Don’t Explain 👑lmao...so...you thought they could read... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:06 AM |
| 98 | FDS & British Royal Mantra: 👑 Don’t Complain and Don’t Explain 👑Yeah, I used to get caught up in wanting to tell the truth of how certain situations went or were. But no matter how I tried I could never communicate that to a person- they always ended up thinking it was better or worse than it actually was. Language is imperfect to describe what we go through and it’s further filtered through the listeners perceptions and biases and own experiences. Even if you could communicate what you went through perfectly, they would always get something different from w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 01:04 AM |
| 10 | A treatise in favor of casual snoopingWhat keylogging app do you recommend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:38 AM |
| 14 | A treatise in favor of casual snoopingHotbarbage’s comment should be pinned. A lot of women don’t know how to do this research properly Things I’ve found men who were coming on to me had records for: Grand theft. Domestic assault One was previously married when he lied and said he’d never been before All of this I found through Clerk of Courts searches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:28 AM |
| 9 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureCalm down. You’re being downvoted for a reason. I’m not gonna change you and you damn sure not gonna change me. Let’s go our separate ways in peace. We don’t agree on this but stay great, Queen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:57 PM |
| 11 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureYea, you can say whatever you want. Anyone can. That don’t make it right or correct logic, which it is not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:48 PM |
| 6 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureHair splitty distinction that’s still super judgmental and not your place to say even with the “clarification” “Do not fool yourself into thinking wearing makeup is empowering, art or a hobby or that you do it for yourself. None of that is true”. In other words any woman who wears makeup is brainwashed, and acting out of patriarchal conditioning not free will. Again. Not your fucking place to say and super condescending. If you don’t agree with it personally that’s cool...for YOU | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:16 PM |
| -1 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureIt’s a choice but it’s your choice and one no one has a right to make for anyone else. Makeup is an art just like painting or drawing. Can you really tell someone who enjoys that- you’re only doing it to pander to the male gaze, whether you know it or not? How presumptuous and outside ones place | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 05:26 PM |
| 7 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureNot like other women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 05:25 PM |
| 0 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureITA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 05:24 PM |
| 7 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureYes, it’s about not having to dry out your skin by washing your face twice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 05:23 PM |
| 18 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureTik tok girls caking their faces? I find this judgmental and out of touch. Women are standing up now more than ever and many of the women “caking their faces” are light years ahead in the treatment they will and will not accept than their mothers of the 70s who wore no makeup and stayed with men who slapped the shit out of them regularly. It’s irrelevant and yes, can be a matter of choice. You could remove men entirely from the equation and have a world solely made of women and I can assure you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 05:01 PM |
| 2 | And this is why you demand more for yourself and set clear boundaries and expectationsSo is money, but he chase that don’t he? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 09:51 AM |
| 8 | My aunt had FDS principles for decades. I used to think she was a crazy spinster. Now I realize that she is right about everything.Lmao. Sounds like the chicken was already in the car | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselvesMost men are ugly. There are far more beautiful women in the female sex than there are beautiful men in the male sex. Women can fall out the womb beautiful, by just having great proportions. Men need to be born the right height and then workout to actually develop and grow their looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:18 AM |
| 5 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselvesI had a friend who was very critical of her wearing JCrew and her items supposedly not being properly fitted as befits a Presidents wife. Why isn’t she wearing designers like Oscar de La Renta who all presidential wives have traditionally worn? I thought it was so stupid and simple minded. You’re talking about someone with TWO ivy league degrees and that’s your criticism??? It was also during the 2007/8 recession. So it would’ve been rather inappropriate and made her a target for criticism to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 11:08 AM |
| 5 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselvesBeauty is passive power that first needs to be acknowledged by someone else before it can be active. I work with a lot of older women. They are not beautiful or powerful in the sense of having built important careers. But they try to be powerful indirectly or by proxy, by virtue of bragging about who they work for or how they can’t be fired. Their name is not on the marquee. They are not making millions of dollars a year, in fact many admit they’re stuck there because they don’t have enough to r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 10:55 AM |
| 3 | How to make men pull their own domestic weight from day one.Brilliant. A Gold post if ever I saw one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 09:09 PM |
| 24 | "Sit down with him and have a conversation"Your a bitch if you don’t communicate and just act but a crazy if you try to get him to see the problem | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 10:47 AM |
| 511 | Just read a thread about the worst rejection men have experienced from a women that made the front pageWomens negative experiences with men involve straight up emotional and physical abuse. Being choked out in bed til they pass out. Being gaslit so hard their self esteem is broken to nothing Men: tiFfaNy LaFf aT mEeEeeEe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 12:04 AM |
| 6 | Ways to protect your devicesEven if you just have the Nest doorbell outside. How does it listen to anything besides doorstep convos? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 10:44 PM |
| 3 | Scrote wants pity for getting dumped after stringing ex along for 10 years.Yes, it was satisfying. I’m getting second hand satisfaction as I read it right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:39 PM |
| 2 | Is This One-Line Statement a Gaslight/ Non-apology?I actually did leave but woke up this morning wondering if I’d overthought my bosses apology which I’d taken as a disappointing non-apology that still blamed me. Wondered how it looked from an objective outside standpoint. To me, “i’m sorry you had that experience” looks like he’s still saying “we’re still not sure what you said happened and that you didn’t just imagine it, but we’re sorry you feel that way” | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 02:08 PM |
| 4 | Is This One-Line Statement a Gaslight/ Non-apology?The apology seems standard on surface but given the context it registered to me as him still kinda suggesting i’m unreliable/ saying he doesn’t believe what I say went on happened He never admitted that what I’d said happened hs been true. Even though the culprits admitted it glibly and openly that yeah- they had done the things i said and would do it again. He still continued to act like- well we don’t really know if that went on. She (me) is a bit unreliable/ unstable....That was never really … | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 01:54 PM |
| 13 | Gaslighters typically begins gradually, with a snide comment or critical remark disguised as a joke. They may then deny having said or done something, tell blatant lies and eventually wear down your sanity. The more aware you are of their techniques, the better you can protect yourself.Best way to handle this is to gaslight the gaslighter. Like in above experience where he insists the grandfather attacking her dress choices wasn’t rude, instead of your launching into explaining why it was disrespect, and basically begging him to understand, only to have him act dumb and claim you misperceive things because you’re histrionic. Ugly smile what are you talking about?? You say ok. Good to know what you think. Then you start packing your shit. He’ll get upset. Demand to know why you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 10:49 AM |
| 3 | What is the best tool for protection?Can someone link to a good one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:46 AM |
| 4 | Why do people think women are being tricked/manipulated into casual sex?I didn’t say it was FDS or even that it was good. I said it’s what often happens. Most women in the world are not adhering to FDS. Sometimes women out there just want the ego stoke or being wanted for a while or going on dates having a little fun even if they know the guy isn’t the one or has some traits that are less than stellar It’s not about them. It’s about women doing what they want in the moment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 05:41 PM |
| 9 | Why do people think women are being tricked/manipulated into casual sex?Sometimes this can happen. But a lot of these guys are fucking stupid. They think they’re being smart and master manipulators and tricking someone- really often times the woman chooses to ignore some not so great things about him because she’s bored, wants the spark of feeling desired for a bit, or wants to relieve some sexual tension herself. Women are not being tricked anywhere near as often as they think or brag about | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 11:49 AM |
| 68 | Why do people think women are being tricked/manipulated into casual sex?Part of it has to do with: Men always having to feel like they’re in control the masters The infantilization of women. The idea that we are passive objects only being used and manipulated by men and not having our own autonomy. Id guarantee most these women knew what was up and were just bored, didn’t like the guys beyond sex. You didn’t fool anyone into shit 🙄 It’s the same as the phrase “I/he got her to do xyz”, like your fucking controlling her. No, you don’t control shit. She decided to do x… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:31 AM |
| 60 | Life advice for men from men...Look up to you or listen to you- She’s not your fucking child Desire you- Look up to you sexually. Help you with your goals- Mother you/ serve you All of this = Put me on a pedestal/ let me be the bigger superior person/ worship me/ service me sexually and like a servant | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 12:40 PM |
| 4 | Beware of the term “I Care for You”Yeah, this post doesn’t necessarily imply you saying it first although it’s definitely a red flag if you say ILY and he replies with that. But he may stillmake comments like this unsolicited and it still means nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:14 PM |
| 37 | Beware of the term “I Care for You”Yeah but if he can’t even be arsed to say it insincerely it’s a red flag. It screams non committal, emotionally stunted fuck boy. Guarantee he doesn’t know how to love if he can’t even say it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 05:18 AM |
| 10 | "My father was livid. But instead of leaving her, he decided to make her miserable." -Humans of New York. Reminder that a man choosing to stay with you is not always a good or kind thing.I saw that and immediately thought of here. Emotionally abusive fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 10:08 PM |
| 1 | I keep seeing this topic of “women not having hobbies” come up, and this is a great video on why that’s a problematic question.What are your hobbies so I can pick up new ones | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 12:19 AM |
| 12 | Be weary of men who intimidate you into not voicing your concerns in the relationship.It’s now my #1 non negotiable in a relationship of any kind- acquaintance etc. am i able to be heard of do they find ways to give me the run around/ avoid listening to me when there’s a problem i want to speak on. If i can’t be heard you can gtfo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 11:46 AM |
| 2 | She's a pickme for sure but what's the FDS advice on this situation? What does he do to make it right?Great comment with a perspective no one else quite brought up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:26 PM |
| 25 | This guy is just wasting her time and wants advice on how to continue wasting it. Upset that people are taking "her side". Trying so hard to be the victim.Eye roll at i consider myself very open and kinky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:39 AM |
| 147 | This is why Reddit’s favourite adage of “just communicate” is so inappropriate. Communication means nothing if you’re with someone who is committed to misunderstanding you.https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-explaining-reexplaining-disrespect-is-like-saying-im-open-to-negotiating-on-my-boundaries/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 11:47 AM |
| 1 | What else should be in the FDS Handbook?I’m not sure how i feel about the passivity. I’m already very quiet and feel men have zeroed in on that to try and run game on me or assume they can strong arm into doing what they want. I’m actually NOT particularly passive but the fact I don’t speak much means they MISTAKE me for such. The disrespect starts. I cut them off. They reel because they thought I was so weak it couldn’t happen. At heart I feel it always leads to disrespect and I feel it’s the opposite of establishing Queen Energy fro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 10:06 PM |
| 3 | Important Points on Self-Love/ Self-Respect. Read even if you don’t think you have low self-esteemYou’re allowed to have boundaries around what you’re willing to talk about or even choose to hear. Whether this be sex, salary, your business, other people’s business, etc. When they start talking like that you could be like “yeah i’m really not into that type of talk. i’m out or give it a rest, please save that for when i’m not around.” You’re not in charge of what they say. All you can do is make your position known and leave/ be willing to walk away if that’s not respected. The key is you HAV… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 08:35 PM |
| 18 | The Weird Power of Journalling. Really.A great trick I learned from Oprah: Always end an entry on a positive note. Omg, it’s feels so good to get encouragement and upliftment from the past you every time you open the journal. I only write every 3-6 months, sometimes less, so oftentimes I’ve forgotten what I was going on last time I was in there. But I realized when I rant in there it really takes me down when I open it again and reread that. So I always now maintain a certain bottom level of optimism and positivity even when describi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 10:48 AM |
| 2 | Shower Thoughts: Being Always Ready to Walk Away Keeps You from Acting CrazyThis is such an important point. Most woman do not value their own feelings enough to put them first even in situations that make us feel like shit. We submit to feeling bad without thinking why bc at the bottom of it all we think we should. We don’t think how we feel is worth enough to act on. We put it on the bottom under everyone else’s comfort, even when we’re damn near dying. A good question to ask is- what would i do if i truly loved myself. How would I act if i were moving from a place of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:08 PM |
| 61 | Shower Thoughts: Being Always Ready to Walk Away Keeps You from Acting CrazyWhat I realize is another mistake- Loving someone soooo much you think you’re one person. No, you always must have self love first and a boundary up between them and you to check them when they disrespect you. This will unquestionably happen in even the best, closest and most pure relationships. This goes for the love of your life, parents, siblings, best friends. You’re still always distinct from them. And must recognise this to continue to have your own back within the relationship. Never love… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:41 AM |
| 1 | So are you wondering if he disrespected you? He did. Don’t give him the benefit of the doubt.People have posted her before and the vid was too long and just didn’t resonate with me. But this one totally hit home. I found myself watching everything i could find by her on how to handle disrespect. I tried to stick to one topic so i could remember all the points without being pulled in too many directions. https://youtu.be/L8V0VVUGdYU This one was gold too and short. Something about how she sounded down in the final couple minutes why this behavior is so degrading and nothing to let slide … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 12:30 AM |
| 3 | So are you wondering if he disrespected you? He did. Don’t give him the benefit of the doubt.Thanks so much for posting this. This video was gold. Guys if you watch it- you will get real actionable phrases to push back against disrespectful situations. She actually talks about several disrespectful situations she faced in the dating world and her dialogue with the men. How she verbally defended herself and put them in check which is crucial to know. I’m so tired of weak advice on disrespect- you just need to walk away. Yes, you can usually do that in the dating world. But what are you g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 12:10 AM |
| 2 | How Can I Phrase my Job Quit to Prospective EmployersI’m looking for the same style position elsewhere though and it gives off the vibe i’ll grow bored with the new position too or want it merely as a stepping stone to advance That’s the best i could come up with though. I kinda let them have it on my way out. They mismanaged things and expected me to shush down and grin through an abusive situation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 06:38 PM |
| 2 | How Can I Phrase my Job Quit to Prospective EmployersHope so, most people don’t choose to lose health insurance and benefits in the middle of a global pandemic without smthng big happening | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 06:35 PM |
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