Gatsbysinthepool Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	How do you respond when a girl cancels same day? I always line up dates in such a way where I have a backup plan or cooler things to do if my date flakes, etc. It happens. If she wants to hang out again, she will. Otherwise, live your best life. Go out and do cool shit. Hit on other women. Whatever you do, don't say a word about how disappointed you are w her, etc.. Shrug and don't give her another thought for the weekend. Unless she reaches out.	/r/seduction	30/08/19 11:31 PM
1	Any movies to watch with characters to emulate? Don Draper, Mad Men. The guy's energy is magnetic.	/r/seduction	21/08/19 10:01 PM
1	Out last night in a hostel in Seattle. Sounds like you're a self limiting Debbie Downer. They rejected you? So what. They don't owe you sex, just because they're staying at the same place with you. If you go out in a similar group someday, see them as social capital. Make friends. Have fun. Consider them your crew as you go out on the town in search of a good time and maybe some ladies who are also into you.	/r/seduction	19/08/19 05:27 PM
8	Bus ride I like to follow the mantra, if you can't beat them, join them. The other night, a woman came up to me on my favorite bar patio and asked me about the book of poetry I was reading. I thought she was hitting on me so I started hitting on her. At that point, she noted she was there w her bf. Bummer, right? Nah, it shouldn't be. Round off that interaction or follow it where it leads...make friends with people and they'll know other people and set you up potentially if they think you're cool people.…	/r/seduction	16/08/19 05:22 PM
3	Bus ride Good on you, buddy! You miss 100% of the shots you don't take! Even if you don't get a number when you approach a girl, you went for it. You erased the "what if." The more you approach, the more women you'll discover don't have boyfriends and will totally give you their number, if you're vibing.	/r/seduction	16/08/19 05:16 PM
2	How to have an AWESOME night out I've gotten into the exercises of talking to people in line at the club so much that it is an involuntary muscle for me now to do so. Many times, that has resulted in me having an instant crew when I get into the club. I get a drink and join my new friends and the night just snowballs from there.	/r/seduction	15/08/19 08:56 PM
1	I think I learned the most crucial lesson in pick up. And maybe life. Since moving to a new (bigger) city 8 months ago, I've been working on myself a lot, such as trying to develop routines and become healthier, physically and mentally. And god damn, it's done wonders. Also, I feel much less desperate, partially due to the amount of choice I have living in a large city. When I started the year, I began journaling intensively and made it a point to make small talk with 3 people I found interesting. Sometimes those people were girls I was hitting on, but often they …	/r/seduction	15/08/19 08:41 PM
1	You Attract Girls With Emotions! Also, look around and determine if you can jump to a different job. Either a lateral job that you won't be as miserable at or (and this is better, if you can swing it) a job that's a step up in pay and situation. Best time to look for a new job to break the feeling of staleness is now when you aren't too desperate.	/r/seduction	09/08/19 05:34 PM
5	How do I get over approach anxiety? Fix my self esteem? And get better at sex? Try to talk up everyone! Well, anyone who interests you. That old dude at the coffee shop with a book you're into? Talk to him. That coworker you pass in the hall and always think has some en pointe outfits, talk to them. If conversation takes off, try to treat them like you're a TV show host, ask who, what, when, where, how. Same with women you find attractive. Say hi. Talk about your surroundings, etc. You don't have to get fancy. Remember, what's the worst thing they can say? Bye? Ignore you?…	/r/seduction	08/08/19 08:28 PM
1	Taking a step back and looking at the whole picture This! I moved to a new city around Christmas and have been putting myself out there as much as I can afford. Also, I moved here with almost zero friends to lean on. Which has meant a ton of self reflection. What are my goals? What are my interests? How do I build on them? On an ideal day off, what's my energy? Where do I feel content and happy? As I've been working on figuring myself out and what I want from life, I've also begun to figure out what I want and don't want in women. Like, looking a…	/r/seduction	08/08/19 08:20 PM
3	You Attract Girls With Emotions! You can have a shit job and still attract women. You've just gotta find fulfillment outside of work. Buy a book you've been meaning to read. Listen to podcasts. Try to pursue 1-3 interests you've been meaning to pursue but haven't. Make one of your non work interests a social activity. Boom! Commit to it for 3-6 months. I have a job I don't particularly love but I've discovered that it allows me to do the things I REALLY want to do when I get off of work. Right now, that's standup comedy. Or goi…	/r/seduction	07/08/19 02:36 PM
1	Is it a shit test when a girls says "Wait here I'll come back" when at the club? Sure, it can be. Sometimes not. Regardless though, you're at a club. This is a low investment situation. People come and go. I trust that if they like me enough, they'll wander back. If so, great. If not, so it goes. In the meantime, I'm dancing my ass off and/or mingling with other people. I'm having the time of my life. Sometimes, that ends up meaning you'll meet other people/women who you like even more than the girl who told you she'd be back. You're giving yourself more value and flipping t…	/r/seduction	08/07/19 11:05 PM
21	Learn to walk When I first moved to my new city, I was unemployed and didn't have a place yet. And I love exploring anyway. So, I opted to, if in doubt, take a walk. I've put in 150 miles each month this year. I walk A LOT. Funny, the usual depression that sets in in December and doesn't lift until March hasn't been present at all. Lots of anxiety initially, having moved on a whim without a job or place lined up but no depression. And the walking alleviated the anxiety too. Oh, and combined with cutting down …	/r/seduction	24/04/19 07:21 PM