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If you take a step back now she’s only going to take two steps forward. Go for the ko
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 11:28 PM
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No dude. She made her boundaries clear, and I don’t blame her at all. At this point, it’s your choice to accept or reject that idea, and deal with it within the relationship. If I were somewhere outside of the US right now I’d probably make the same choice as her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 03:26 AM
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First off op, I am truly sorry, that is an awful situation to be in and I cannot imagine being together that long, going through so much of life together and then the rug getting pulled out. I only have 10 years to reference, but it felt like my entire life. yea, it does work sometimes, but I wouldn’t base my life decisions off of Facebook ads. You’re going to start seeing some wild stuff show up in your feed, don’t read into it. The only reason it’s there is to gain off of your tragedy. It work…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 04:12 AM
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Do your processing. Talk to a therapist if you can afford it. And move on. Don’t ruminate, don’t beg, let her go. Her behavior is about her own inner turmoil and lack of morals, not anything you did or didn’t do. We all make mistakes, sure, but as rational adults we can work through them. Her choices were her own, and it sounds like she’s going to have a shit life moving forward. Block her on everything you have, and don’t let her back in.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 08:08 PM
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With you on this one. I was constantly spinning my wheels trying to just understand why. I still do from time to time, but I’ve learned how to get out of the spiral.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 08:07 PM
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I used to be a very trusting person. It didn’t take much for me to assume that a person was inherently good. I’m much more wary of others now. Especially women.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 09:53 PM
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Well, its good to know that it’s not limited to my ex I guess? She started dragging up some crazy stuff, I’m talking about times she had to pay for parking when we went on dates 11 years prior, before we were official. That level of pettiness.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 12:07 PM
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Because you are likely in a trauma bond. You loved her, she didn’t cherish that for what it is and hurt you deeply. Same for me. It’s been almost 2 years and I still get sad and jealous any time I find out she has a new partner (she’s on number 5, that I’m aware of) My solace is that a mutual friend said they knew one of them, and that he left her bc he saw how she had treated/was treating me. Doesn’t make it hurt less, but it does give me some peace to know that she’s still trash.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 02:32 AM
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My ex did the same. She was talking to someone before we ever split, and I found her love notes to him as I was moving out. She still won’t admit that he was real though. Recently I was talking with her cousin, who she kicked out of her life over some petty female nonsense, and she let me know that her family sees right through her. She has a history I wasn’t aware of, and I’m not the first, or the last to be cheated on. Women that cheat are simply showing their inner turmoil, but in todays worl…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 02:47 PM
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Dude, if you don’t have kids, do your mourning and don’t look back. Take the good memories with you, but never forget how she repaid that. You’re still young, you have more than enough time to find joy in your life, and it’s not going to be tied to a woman that would abandon you like that.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 12:14 AM
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I’m about to hit two years Similar situation I was in despair for a long time, up until just a month or so ago. That’s when I started waking up, and honestly, it’s been great other than having to deal with ex at all. I get to do what I want when it’s my time with my child. No nagging woman to tell me not to let her have one piece of candy on Halloween. Taking her to cool, exciting experiences without her mom there to be a complete drag. Not to mention that I’m free to talk to any woman that migh…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 11:58 PM
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Are you talking about the replies or me? Bc if I was a bot my life would be soooo much easier.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 12:57 PM
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You were proven to be incorrect so you’re just shutting down? Proof we aren’t all the hapless men so many here claim to be.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 02:30 AM
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She has a very tenuous grasp on the concept of truth, and has likely convinced herself that she doesn’t have it (despite the prescription meds and doctor visit). She’s convinced herself that I was the abusive one in the relationship, even though I have videos, recordings, and physical evidence to the contrary. Some people really are that crazy, it just sucks it took me so long to wake up. She insists that they’re just “zits”.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 01:56 AM
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She was doing that before the divorce too Edit to answer the next question - yes I took an std test the moment I found out
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 01:50 AM
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I learned that I’m not actually as anxious as I thought I was. That she had subliminally been manipulating me for years and years to achieve that feeling in me. I learned that I have value, and that I don’t need someone as manipulative and deceitful as her. I also learned I don’t have to stay in the prison of a career that I once had - I can branch out and be happier, healthier, and free.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 12:04 AM
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According to what I’ve read some people (mostly European descent) can be carriers without having breakouts. Additionally, it sometimes can take years for a breakout to happen after initial infection.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 08:56 PM
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This is the first bit of good advice. Thank you. Not sure why a flame war has erupted here (pun intended) but I am not trying to shame anyone for having it, other than the witch of a woman that is careless about our daughter’s health
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 08:55 PM
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Here, I googled that for you. Not sure who told you there is no medication. cold sore treatments https://g.co/kgs/FDvxFPV
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 08:52 PM
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There are antivirals that are prescribed for breakouts. I learned this by googling the name of the medication that I saw, not to mention seeing the cold sores on her mouth. I know it’s common, but that’s not a reason to be careless.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 04:30 PM
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No one is losing their shit. Sorry if you feel attacked somehow, but this is regarding my daughters health, not yours.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 04:28 PM
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This was my experience as well. The first time a counselor agreed that I had a cogent point, ex would shut the session down with some grand announcement and then insist we find someone different. Then, when I would speak to the therapist and let them know we were going to try someone different , ex would all of a sudden be kind and gentle with them, and act like we had never discussed getting a new counselor. But just that simple action helped me realize she was never going to change, and really…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 12:38 PM
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You catch her and confront. Then you file a PO so the police will actually do something about it when she inevitably tries again. (My ex still insists that she never did it, but I have the receipts to prove it) Caught my ex logged in to all of my social media accounts. She had gotten into my phone before I was able to move out. Once I was able to boot her out of them, she created burner accounts and started stalking ALL of my friends, including people I had met after we split. Shame her on socia…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:01 PM
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Ignore her AND CHANGE YOUR PASSWORDS I had video of my ex assaulting me for the 5th and final time. I made the mistake of leaving my phone to charge while I let the dog out the next morning. She deleted everything. Thing is, 9 months ago, after being split for over a year at that point, she broke into my new home and assaulted me again. Have it all on video. She ran when I called the police, they refused to go after her and the prosecutor refused to press charges. So hopefully they won’t do Jack…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 12:35 PM
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In my exp, (also OP my story is very similar to yours - the birthday story was honestly unsettling for me to read) cops don’t give a shit when it’s a man calling the police on a woman. My ex broke into my home New Year’s Day and woke me up by punching me in the face repeatedly in front of my daughter. I called the cops, they did literally nothing. I called the prosecutor every day for weeks to press charges. She refused to do it. I’d have to spend thousands on a lawyer to get them to actually do…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 09:43 PM
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If you have an iPhone it should alert you that there is an unknown AirTag following you That doesn’t mean there’s not something though, likely on your phone that she’s gotten access to As someone with a stalker ex, sorry dude. Just ignore it unless it escalates, then hit her with a PO.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 02:25 AM
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Damn I must really be doing something wrong I guess paying for the service is number one - I notice that anytime I run out of free likes it all of a sudden starts showing me attractive women.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 12:03 AM
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My ex started being super nice recently. It’s because she signed our kid up for a second co-op, and she thought she’d be able to get out of the volunteering for the new one. She was wrong. She did this without my knowledge, and so now she wants me to pick up her slack on an agreement she made in my absence. I politely declined, but agreed to help with pickup/dropoff if needed.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 07:35 PM
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Consider this - abandonment, running away, whatever the case may be; her attitude could change quickly, and a lawyer will look at her like a piggy bank covered in caviar. They might convince her to go after you. Talk to her, stand your ground, and find a way to come to a legally binding agreement before you leave. Talk to a lawyer, have them help you draft something. A post nup, whatever you want to call it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/24 02:12 PM
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I’m just noticing this pattern, it seems that as more states move to no-fault status; PPOs etc are being given away like candy to women. If you go to the female divorce boards it’s constantly mentioned how easy it is to get one. They refer to them as “silver bullets”. My ex pulled it on me (and yet she’s the one that never hesitated to get physical) based on nothing more than me calling her a whore via text (not my greatest moment but also not a crime as far as I know) Since then she’s stalked a…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 08:36 PM
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No, spying is what my ex did - logging into all of my accounts and creating multiple fake accounts to spy on my friends and anyone I may have met. I feel if they didn’t delete/block they probably just don’t feel strongly about it one way or another. People really overestimate how strongly people “choose sides”. Certainly they do, but more to appease whoever they have to interact with on a frequent basis.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 09:41 PM
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You either work it out maturely, or as it so often goes you hire lawyers and have them figure it out. Don’t give her an inch, she’ll take a mile, they all do.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 03:15 PM
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Nope, I’m in the same boat friend. One day she’s holding me telling me I deserve to be loved after a complete breakdown, then the next day I’m finding love letters to her AP. It really sucks too, bc a lot of my close friends are women. I used to feel like I could share with them, but now I’m closed off and they’ve definitely noticed, but I don’t think they blame me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 08:02 PM
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They never admit the truth. Once they decide to cheat there’s no going back. I never thought I’d have these feelings about women but they all seem to be the same.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 11:42 PM
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Try counseling, but only with 100% honesty. She almost certainly has someone on the back burner, or has him in her sights at least.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 12:39 PM
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This was us 100% I busted my ass, worked side gigs all through covid and finally went back and got a significant promotion when my restaurant reopened. Our daughter was born that year, we bought a house, and she never went back to work. After two years of that, I asked her to consider looking for a work from home job, and use a neighbor kid babysitter a few times a week to make it easier for her. She “starts a company” with the guy she had done sales for previously, and - go figure - he gets div…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 10:52 PM
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Makeup and tanning do not equal true beauty in my mind To me it shows a lot of insecurity tbh
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 09:07 PM
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Not sure, but that’s not the point It’s saying that a male, with 130 iq has equal emotional intelligence to a female with 70 iq. Using the term “average male” is misleading
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 03:57 AM
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I believed that’s highlighted to show the disparity in emotional intelligence, given equal numbers to vastly different IQ scores. I’d like to see what the source is on that however, I’m not sure how you score emotional intelligence or what they’re testing against. Definitely will be looking into the video they are referencing.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 08:40 PM
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For real, this is an interesting perspective that I had not thought of. Probably has something to do with why a lot of states have moved to “no fault” status; not that it stops the judges from having biases.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 08:20 PM
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Don’t use your kid as an instagram prop. It’s fine to share life updates, but I am terrified of posting too much about my kid, number one for privacy/consent issues, they don’t have a say. Imagine if your parents shared every embarrassing baby photo with everyone else in the world. I don’t have the best relationship with my parents- I can’t imagine it’d be better if they had done that.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 11:54 PM
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I always thought it was too much of a buzzword. But then my eyes were opened. When I caught her cheating she said she didn’t “owe” anything. When I caught her lying about having a miscarriage and secretly aborting our second child she didn’t “owe” the truth. When I caught her pocketing mortgage payments and letting her parents cover them; I “didn’t understand”. When she physically assaulted me I “deserved it”. Just this morning I tried to confront her for the truth again. It’s useless. She lives…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 02:59 PM
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See my long time friends and make new ones Spend time with my family
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 02:27 PM
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I’m the one the initiated, after she attacked me while holding our daughter. Then I found out about the college ex she had been seeing while I was at work. She’d been accusing me of cheating for months. Good riddance, glad she’s someone else’s problem now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 02:27 PM
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This is all helpful thank you
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 04:49 PM
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This is all great advice. I haven’t had any luck at all with the apps. Been trying off and on for about a year now. Not sure what I’m doing wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/24 09:17 AM
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This is the way. So many out of context messages were pulled during our court spat. Luckily I was able to show my side of things on most of them, but as with most things; since we’re male the court shows favor to the female. I had messages of her admitting to buying/using drugs, threatening to leave our child w/o supervision, generally admitting to being a giant piece of shit. But you know what the judge seized on? The response message when I found out she was cheating, and I called her a whore.…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 01:41 PM
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Hard to say without knowing the full story, but I’d say that’s pretty reasonable. Just a quick hello at an exchange, nothing more. My ex has brought several new men around my child, and refuses to let me meet any of them, it makes me very nervous and just getting the chance to assess them myself would do wonders for my psyche.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 06:03 PM
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This is pretty accurate. When I confronted her in our short lived counseling she kept saying “I’ve been as honest as I can be” and that was a wrap on it. When things inevitably fell apart with AP all of a sudden she was willing to admit they were real, but still trickle truths about how long they were together. We get portrayed as abusers and dangerous monsters, but they get to skip thru life ripping families apart and destroying mens psyches based on some fleeting emotional nonsense, while chee…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 06:02 PM
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She was a big time journal person. She also loved to leave handwritten notes instead of an actual apology. Initially we were fairly amicable, I’d come over to the house and bring breakfast on my way to work, etc. she’d invite me over from time to time to have a beer and just hang out. One day (about 3 weeks after I moved out) when I stopped by there was a note on a ledge by the entryway. I assumed it was to me, as it was sitting out in the open. What I read gutted me. It was her begging AP to be…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:26 PM
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Buddy, my situation was extremely similar. Im the one that ended things, but I quickly wanted to try and work things out. Mine drew the same “only talk about the kids” boundary, it’s so they don’t have to cop to their behavior. She was on fuckbuddy number 4 within a month, just like OP. Found out she had been cheating at least emotionally, but I’m pretty sure physically as well, for around 3 months before we split. Leave her in the past. It’s tough. Especially when you still feel love for them. …
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 01:37 PM
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I’ve thought about a new dog, and I probably will get one but it’s too soon right now.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 12:31 AM
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Our ex’s seem to be very similar. She actually tried to involve the dog in the custody agreement, however my lawyer knocked it down. She had her way regardless. Like I said, she doesn’t even take care of her. When I FaceTime with my child I can hear ex yelling at my dog for no good reason. Probably uses pup as a stand in for me, but at least she’s not doing that to our child, as far as I know.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 12:29 AM
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Oh for sure it was automated, but it was uncomfortable being scolded by a bot instead of just informed
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 12:22 AM
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