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Long time salsa and bachata dancer, dabbling a bit in west coast swing and kizomba as well. Been dancing 5 years in total so far. It's the best thing that happened to my social life. Before that I was very insecure and afraid of touching girls. Today I constantly get complimented on how I can dance well. Through dancing I met my first girlfriend ever at the age of 25. Even though nothing else has happened ever since (I'm 29 today), I still go out dancing once or twice a week. Made some good frie…
/r/seduction31/03/17 05:26 PM
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Obligatory Comment to this title: https://youtu.be/5-sfG8BV8wU
/r/seduction30/12/16 10:48 AM
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Well, my story isn't all that special, but considering that it happened when I was 25 (today I'm 28), I still see it as a fond memory of mine. It all happened as part of salsa dancing. I regularly go salsa dancing at a few places around my town. Met this girl that came to visit there a few times (not one of the regulars) and it was somehow clear to me that we were connecting well, unlike with other girls that I knew back then. So, after we see each other and dance together a few times, I take he…
/r/seduction27/10/16 02:04 PM
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Have you thought about trying the online scene (Okcupid/Tinder/etc)?
/r/seduction03/09/16 07:42 PM
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"but I spent too much time when I was younger feeling hurt and confused, because the only way I knew how to show my affection was by being really nice, and that obviously didn't work out well. As you said, that changed as I matured, but I wish I didn't have to learn the hard way." This right here. Right in my feels, but another bad habit is regretting things in that happened in the past that you can't change anyway, so it's better to just focus on the present and future and building the best lif…
/r/seduction27/08/16 12:17 PM
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Reading this while hearing the Indiana Jones theme is one of the most inspiring things ever :-). Great post!
/r/seduction08/08/16 08:18 PM
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Will confirm this. Long time salsa and bachata dancer, but I can't flirt even if my life depended on it. I get constant compliments from women on how I am such a good dancer (both in the salsa dance scene and out of it at "normal" clubs). But I just can't find a way to turn a fun dance into a conversation or something more :-/
/r/seduction19/06/16 09:32 PM
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Thanks for this post man. I just got shot down by this girl that I went out with twice and I was instantly hooked on her from the get go. Probably one of the coolest, happiest person I have ever met and I just fell for her and was excited on dating her. But she shot it down because she still has feelings for her ex that she recently broke up with and isn't ready for a new relationship. The funny thing is that in hindsight all the signs were there - not showing reciprocal touching and mentioning …
/r/seduction13/06/16 03:50 PM
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As someone who likes to dance salsa and bachata, this sounds like a solid idea. However, if you are talking about a regular dance club, try aiming for when more "dancable" songs come up (like Latin songs, pop hits etc.) Also, I think it's better if you would approach girls normally and try chatting with them a bit, before asking to dance, I think that might get you better results (and allow you to screen for girls who aren't your type).
/r/seduction11/06/16 05:32 PM
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Just wanted to say that salsa and bachata dancing pretty much turned my life around as well, from being a loner and shut in that could barley talk to women, to a competent dancer that is actually considered to be on e of the better dancers in my scene.
/r/seduction08/06/16 11:06 AM
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No shame in being a virgin. I say tell her about it, don't be afraid of being honest. It all depends on your perception - if you give a vibe that's it's like an infectious disease of some sort, that's how the girl will respond to it. If you take it as "no biggie" that's how the girl will respond as well. In the end though, first times are always awkward with someone new. So just don't forget to bring a condom (or a few), take it easy and just try to enjoy the ride (no pun intended lol). Also, if…
/r/seduction05/06/16 09:45 AM
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Well, never actually did anything like that... What kind of event did you go to, maybe I am going to the wrong kind of events haha :-p
/r/seduction18/04/16 06:46 AM
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Trust me when I say that the fact that you are a virgin should be pretty low on your priorities when it comes to meeting girls, because if you have the right attitude, it doesn't really matter. Be honest about it when the time is right (like when things are escalating towards it). That's what I did when I lost my virginity at 25. I'm pretty sure that not only it didn't deter the lady that was with me, she was pretty enthusiastic to show me some cool stuff and teach me the things that she likes t…
/r/seduction17/04/16 05:43 PM
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A good way to practice touch is through dancing. Before I started dancing, I was literally afraid of touching. But then I started to go to social dancing events and then I realized that I was touching women and nothing bad was happening. And I kept escalating the intimacy level and not only didn't I get really bad responses (maybe the girl would be pull back sometimes, a sign to back off a bit, but that's like the worst response that I remember) but some girls liked it, smiled at me and later on…
/r/seduction17/04/16 05:35 PM
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Just wanted to add my perspective: Dancing is awesome - I dance latin styles: salsa, bachata, kizomba and also a touch of west coast swing. It saved me on a social level. Before it I was pretty much a shut in. 4 years later I have several friends that I met through it, plenty of acquaintances and I am a regular and known face in the scene (I get discounts/free passes at the big dance places) and I actually want to start trying to DJ a bit at these places. -Through dancing is how I met my first g…
/r/seduction17/04/16 04:39 PM
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Damn dude, this post hit me right in the feels. Your perfectly normal. I still remember when I told my first gf that she made me the happiest version of myself. Felt like someone took a ten ton hammer and slammed it right in my heart. It's called being human. It's ok to cry sometimes, especially when shit gets really emotionally intense, so long that it's not all the time or too frequently. You guys clearly like each other, hoping for you that it can work out in the long term as well.
/r/seduction15/04/16 07:11 PM
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Just wanted to add my 2 cents from my life. My ex, who was also my first girlfriend ever, was "technically" the one who "made the move". I write technically, because while I was the one who Asked her out and got her number, nothing ever amounted before SHE asked me out later. What happened basically was an unfourtunate case of technological malfunction and miscommunication: I tried calling her, it ringed and went to voicemail, she never called back so I asumed she wasn't interested. Later that m…
/r/seduction02/04/16 10:06 AM
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Well tinder is absolute shit for me... Swiped right at least something like over 100 girls and got just one match... Which faded in a matter of 2 texts. Now before you criticize, yes I made sure to have good, clear photos (I don't think I look bad). I also tried revising my profile a few times Yet I am still empty handed... What gives?
/r/seduction22/02/16 07:05 PM
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Quick question: You wrote in the first story that you were "teasing her"..... no matter how hard I try to understand this concept, it seems to pass right by me everytime. I would like it if you would try and explain this, or even better, give some teasing examples you make when your flirting.
/r/seduction15/02/16 08:26 PM
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I think this was a great FR actually. It's easy to fall into a fallacy that everyone here is super original and creative and have these totally crazy FR stories. I think that most people on this thread have stories that are more similar to yours than to the crazy stories. Also, don't sweat the can't get off part - that happened to me once as well, it happens, a part of being human, porn effects on the mind/body and all that jazz.
/r/seduction15/02/16 08:03 PM
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"palms are sweaty" :-)
/r/seduction07/02/16 11:56 AM
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Can totally relate, before my first time I pretty much had anxiety attacks throughout the whole week. If there was chemistry between you two, then your most likely good in her eyes. Just punch yourself in the face or something, tell those anxieties to go F themselves and go for it. Don't forget to use protection and have fun! Pro tip: If you want to know what she likes in bed, just ask. I'm serious. I did it and oh-boy did the girl I was with end up happy :-)
/r/seduction03/02/16 10:51 AM
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What do you mean by this "it's simply meant to promote a reaction"? In what way? And what KIND of reaction was the other side expecting?
/r/seduction28/01/16 11:31 PM
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I agree with this. With my ex it was even longer than that - just as our second date, she asked me if I would like to come to her apartment a few days later, specifically saying "my roomates are out of town, so it'll be just the two of us". That is a non-direct pre-scheduling of sex. So yeah, it might be rare but it happens. I actually really appreciated being given a heads up about the whole thing, takes a lot of ambiguity out the window.
/r/seduction28/01/16 04:59 PM
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It really depends on the person and the interaction IMHO. For example, I'm now texting with this girl I met at a dating site. My goal is to get to know her better, but also not probe for too much info and keep stuff a bit mysterious for the first date that hopefully will go down this Friday. So far it seems to be working (getting long response texts and she asks me open questions), at least for me. So those are my 2 cents.
/r/seduction05/01/16 01:31 PM
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Sounds like one amazing vacation, will admit that this story touched my heart, especially that necklace part at the end, you probably left a REALLY good impression on her. Thanks also for the message you get from this case, defenitley serves as a reminder to just say fuck it and go for whoever you find attractive, leagues are a mind fallacy of insecure thoughts.
/r/seduction30/12/15 12:30 PM
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Update comment: Wow, I never thought this will make it to the "hot" section, even for a short while. I also want to add that like I said, the more basic stuff I am already getting better at. Asking girls out isn't a huge deal for me anymore and I always aim for a mindset of just having fun and enjoying the process. But like I wrote earlier I still lack a lot in the physical contact department, even though that in the dance scene I find myself touching almost without a problem, sometimes more int…
/r/seduction29/12/15 10:05 PM
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Wow, awesome post. Especially number 5, it's like my Achilles heel or something, I always worry what others might think if they see me "approach" a girl..... I also think this would have been appropriate for the TL;DR link there: https://youtu.be/5-sfG8BV8wU
/r/seduction29/12/15 09:23 AM
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So to address your some your points: What moves you threw her way: None. I literally didn't really make a "move" of any kind towards her…. Like I described, it was a small gathering of 8 people. We all sat around a table and I kind of felt out of place. I just didn't know how in the name of crap am I supposed to move things along in such a situation, so I defaulted to "being nice in general" as I usually do when I get nervous. She sat directly across me at the other side of the table and mostly …
/r/seduction26/12/15 04:27 PM
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So FR report... Well nevermind... I was having fun in general with the people at the place, but she wasn't feeling me at all, which pretty much created a snowball effect of me being afraid of moving things foward (and frankly I felt REALLY awkward about trying to escalate and not knowing how to do it in a small group setting) and it was pretty much over from there. Texted me today a "thanks but no thanks" message... It really fuckin sucks knowing that the reason it failed is ABSOLUTLEY because o…
/r/seduction26/12/15 10:57 AM
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Wow, thanks for the tips. The most important thing is to have fun as if this was a party of a well known friend and I'm just being the friendly person that I'm usually - with an added bit of attraction towards the girl that I'm interested in :-)
/r/seduction25/12/15 05:44 PM
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Salsa & Bachata
/r/seduction16/12/15 10:48 PM
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Also, a pro tip: No matter what you are dancing/doing - THE most important thing in dancing that I discovered is CONFIDENCE/ASSERTIVNESS. So long as you LEAD properly, in a way that feels direct and sure of itself, even if it's just basic steps and simple moves, the girls WILL LOVE THAT, way more than if you try some super complex and difficult variation. I tend to go hard on myself for not doing a lot of complex stuff, but the fact that I still get compliments serve to prove that it's not the m…
/r/seduction13/12/15 08:24 AM
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This is the only reason I ever got into my first relationship almost 2 years ago. While I was technically the first who "made a move" (asked for her number), in the end she was the one who initiated and asked me to hang out with her (and at least in my opinion, she was easily a 9/10). From there, things escalated pretty rapidly - after the second date, she told me flat out "so next time at my place, ok?". It was like a dream come true to me, but unfortunatley it ended a few months later and I ha…
/r/seduction13/12/15 08:07 AM
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Going to second this. A long time dancer for a few years now. While I don't find any of the regulars there attractive (and those that I did are either taken/not interested) - there is usually a casual flow of newbies and visiting people from other dance places that keeps things fresh and opportunities coming. Nothing came out of it so far, but it's worth it just because I enjoy it so god damn much and I still remember when I started and I barley knew how to do a basic step, now girls compliment …
/r/seduction13/12/15 07:39 AM
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I just take it face value, because I don't play games. If I ask someone out - I mean it. I have zero paitence for bullshit games like saying you have a boyfriend just as a shit test. Fuck that. Either she's game or not. Filters out a whole lot of headaches, mind games and such.
/r/seduction16/11/15 07:45 PM
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Update: Date was actually interesting and nice all around, but not beyond that. 95% nothing else will evolve out of it. Had a really interesting and engaging conversation, but just couldn't make kino, felt too self concoius and awkward about it. Ended with her saying "Well it was nice to meet you"... Oh well, at least I had a good time (and I think that she did too). Live & Learn my friends....
/r/seduction13/11/15 08:58 PM
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Well, sounds that even after what you describe as a "horrible" kiss, she STILL seemed to be happy and pleased from the entire thing. From my POV, it wasn't as bad as your saying and I think she's probably still into you. So if you guys meet up again, then she is definetly into you. Next time try and take things a bit further and see what happens.
/r/seduction12/11/15 11:57 AM
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I think that the entire point of "seduction" is making your intentions known in an attractive way. So yeah, her knowing your intentions is the exact point of this entire subreddit. So if she knows and when you go ahead and escalate she still stays/doesn't reject - then you know your on the right path.
/r/seduction12/11/15 08:41 AM
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Awesome story, it's the little victories that count, because they eventually stack up and lead to even further success. Also - here is a video I sometimes turn to when I need motivation for improving myself
/r/seduction12/11/15 07:31 AM
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Well I think that anxieties don't really go away, you just learn to understand them and handle them well. Plus, I feel that it's a constant path of improvement - it's never completely gone, you just learn how to handle it better and better each time. For example, when I started salsa dancing a few years ago, I literally used to physically shake from anxiety I had about touching women in general. Today I don't shake at all and just yesterday I received a complement from one of the most talented w…
/r/seduction11/11/15 04:20 PM
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Have to say, one of the best posts I have seen here a long time. I really need to work on my game, while "on paper" I think I'm cool, when I need to perform I suck and I barley approach and such. Need to focus on just approaching and doing rather than just reading here stuff. Though please make a post about tinder - I haven't had a single match yet and I don't think I'm THAT ugly or that my profile is a mess :-/ (though I think it's more about the tinder scene in my country, which compared to ot…
/r/seduction09/11/15 10:49 AM
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Mostly OK Cupid. My typical message goes usually along the lines of: Hi there I'm (Insert Name). Then I usually say they have a cute smile, add something that I liked about their profile and would like to get to know them better.
/r/seduction08/11/15 06:17 AM
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My problem is getting responses, it seems that I send out almost 10-20 messages a week and rarley do I get even 1 response back and when I do they never seem to respond back after that initial response. I had my profile checked by my friends and they helped me improve it and had some semi-pro images added to it (a few clear DSLR camera images, not shitty cellphone images), but still no luck. I mean I'm not exactly brad pitt but I'm not ugly either.
/r/seduction07/11/15 02:21 PM
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I'm basically at home for the Duration of my M.A. After that ends (by the end of this year I hope), I will most likely start looking for an apartment. But until then I still want to be able to attract women, this whole "still living at home" thing is messing with my brain. P.S. With my ex it basically meant simply going to her place every time, but that was different because she basically offered to come to her place the first time so i didn't have to tell her at first at least, that my place wa…
/r/seduction25/10/15 11:55 AM
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Haha this right here should replace the entire fucking article!
/r/seduction18/10/15 06:54 AM
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I say tell her, but don't blurt it out in a kind of shamed way or out of the blue and out of context. Tell her just as things are heating up towards bed and do it LIKE IT'S NO BIG DEAL. She will follow your lead - if you act cool about it, she'll FEEL your relaxed vibe about it and won't really care too much. If you APOLOGIZE about it or act insecure about it, then yeah she'll probably think your weird or something. Now I'm talking from experience, I lost my virginity last year at the age of 26.…
/r/seduction09/10/15 10:59 AM
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Haha that's a funny story right here. Also "its a music and dance class after all"..... next time, go ahead and dance with her. Even if all you know is the basic steps, trust me, the ladies appreciate a man who is assertive in his dance, even if it's just the basic steps.
/r/seduction23/09/15 08:00 AM
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I'm no PUA expert, but I know your pain, I used to linger around girls I liked a long time like you - just to be shot down. The key here, is to be honest with your intentions as soon as possible. I'd recommened limiting the "getting to know" part from anywhere between a few hours (girls in parties, bars, concerts etc.) to about 3 months max (girls in your social circle/school/activity etc.) before asking out, properly, using the word "date". After that, from my experience, it's 99% she sees you …
/r/seduction16/09/15 05:24 PM
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Yup, I actually have done this before and learned my lesson ever since. I don't want to add some random people to my facebook and if I DO it's because that I don't really care if she'll answer me or not regarding the date Sometimes I want to add women I meet as another social connection that's simply good to have around
/r/seduction05/09/15 03:45 PM
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Smaug pretty much summed it up. The best only way as far as I can tell is classes. Youtube is good for maybe getting a small trick here and there but not actually learning it properly.
/r/seduction05/09/15 12:06 PM
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Well I am really passionate about dancing. When I just started I sucked hard, but with time and dedication I quickly improved. It's the best thing that ever happened to me. I am now thinking about messing around in DJing. Got traktor pro 2 and a controller - soon will invest in a basic mixer to practice. Just do what you love man :-)
/r/seduction02/09/15 06:25 PM
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Seconding this. A long time salsa dancer. Once you know even a few basic moves, anytime you dance in a place that isn't your usual dancing place (like a friends wedding/local party) you instantly get bonus points from everyone around (ladies and men alike). Here's a pro tip for you too: Focus on HOW TO LEAD and less about technique. If you show confidence in your moves (being assertive about them and not half-assing them), then you cover almost 80% of how to be a good and fun dancer.
/r/seduction26/08/15 06:46 AM
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Seconding this. A long time salsa dancer. Once you know even a few basic moves, anytime you dance in a place that isn't your usual dancing place (like a friends wedding/local party) you instantly get bonus points from everyone around (ladies and men alike). Here's a pro tip for you too: Focus on HOW TO LEAD and less about technique. If you show confidence in your moves (being assertive about them and not half-assing them), then you cover almost 80% of how to be a good and fun dancer.
/r/seduction26/08/15 06:41 AM
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Ok so heres what went down: I came up to the place I wanted to enter, but they told me it's invatation only right now, come back in an hour when it opens up to everyone... somewhat confused I go onwards in an attempt to find another bar. Suddenly, in the middle of the street I see two people who seem kind of lost so I ask them if they are lost. From this moment on I meet one of the most interesting people I have ever met. He claimed to have been in the army and he died but came back from the dea…
/r/seduction22/08/15 09:00 AM
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Well - the biggest change was the realization that I can actually touch a woman and it won't end in a sexual harrasment charge. That over time, women began asking me to dance with them and telling that I am a really good leader. That they ENJOYED being around me, dancing with me and touching me and being touched back. It REALLY helped to shape up my confidence, despite other factors still holding me back. It allowed me to connect with emotions and feelings I have repressed inside me for a long t…
/r/seduction21/08/15 06:11 PM
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Therapy works only when you find a therapist that you are comfortable with and that you think is helping you deal with whats bothering you. It isn't easy. I went through 3 different therapists before I found one that I was truly comfortable around. I also think that it takes time to open up in therapy. It's supposed to be a place where you can feel safe to talk about the things that's bothering you and for me it was a place where I learned how to better express my emotions. Once again - it's not…
/r/seduction21/08/15 06:05 PM
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My advice: Find a hobby that you like and invest in it and go to therapy. I did both these things and found my passion in salsa dancing. It completley shattered my conceptions about women, attraction, dating etc. Therapy helped me to deal with my shames, fears, anxieties that held me back for so long. It's not a magical cure, but it set me on the path of self healing. Last year, at the age of 26 I lost my virginity to an amazing women that I met and attracted. Another tip: Read the book "No More…
/r/seduction21/08/15 11:09 AM
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Just wanted to add - I am also a long time salsa/bachata dancer, but I almost never end up talking to girls I dance with. I honestly just try to focus really hard on becoming a better dancer, so this always took second place. Until now. Now I feel comfortable with my level, but I lack any flirting skills and so far I got nothing but rejections. I also fear of tarnishing my reputation, as I am a regular in my scene and I don't want to be seen as a "player" who only wants to "get layed" instead of…
/r/seduction14/08/15 07:34 PM
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