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RantGoldenHour2929/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 11:20 PM
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GoldenHour2929/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 04:56 PM
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She's going to have to get a job! But one of you needs to move out ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 01:30 PM
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I threw mine into the ocean, it felt good! Highly recommend
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 12:41 AM
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She's lonely and wants attention & validation. I know it feels good in the moment, but please do yourself a favor and shut it down. Tell her not to contact you again. Nothing good can come of it for you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 12:27 AM
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Stop talking to her, don't check her social media...you'll never move on if you play into her looking for your attention. It's cliche, but find hobbies, go to the gym, dial back the alcohol, try therapy. You're letting yourself stay stuck in neutral.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 11:00 AM
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It's tough! Unfortunately it's on you and your girlfriend to be patient and she needs to be thick skinned. Don't make her correct or discipline them, talk to them in private about the situation and communicate your expectations. It won't happen overnight.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 12:52 PM
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My ex asked if I wanted to get a drink as we were walking out of court I just laughed and said I'm going back to work. I had no interests
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 12:49 PM
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Get your own living situation ASAP and build a new routine. I'm not saying that's a quick fix to get past the pain, but it's a first step. You will also need to get used to the idea that the person you were married to no longer exists. It's a tough pill to swallow, but recognizing that helped me move on. I'm a year out and can tell you it gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 12:47 PM
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If you're in a living situation that allows for it, have you thought about a pet? I have a dog so the house never has that cold, empty feeling and he keeps me going. My kids also love him, so it's something for us to bond over.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 12:43 PM
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You did the right thing!
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 07:55 PM
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Yes. I make sure the kids have gifts for her and texted her happy Mother's Day.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 07:55 PM
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This one helped me a lot. I listened to the ebook version so got through it pretty quick.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 01:20 PM
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I get that, my point was the idea that you're emotional and hanging on. Do you want a friend who shut you out emotionally 2 years ago, didn't talk you you about it, but still expects you to support her and her brother financially as she sleeps with a new guy? Find some new friends or get a dog!
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 10:14 AM
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No. Do yourself a favor and get the idea out of your head. My ex & I decided to get divorced and go back to dating eachother, looking back it's comical how bad of an idea that was. You're just hanging onto threads. Cut ties as quick and clean as possible and don't look back.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 10:00 PM
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Best advice I got, albeit, not always easy to remember is living well is the best revenge. Hit the gym, take care of your mental health, build a new life. When you're ready, find someone new and live your best life. Once you accept that the version of your wife you knew no longer exists, it will get easier.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 04:16 PM
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I'm not a lawyer, but definitely recommend having a legal divorce agreement in place. Even if you have language that says 50/50 but is loose on the language around the actual days. You didn't say how old your son is, but you have several years of this and don't know what will come up in that time. New partners, new jobs, moving, etc... I've been divorced for almost 11 years and I still have to look back at my agreement once in a while. You can keep it fluid, If there ever is a disagreement, you …
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/26 02:23 PM
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Figure about $350 per hour. Complexity and the more you argue the more the billable hours will rack up.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 06:45 PM
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Unless your divorce agreement says you need to pay half for tickets to see your former in-laws, I think you're in the clear. Not sure how long you've been divorced, but I'd also recommend picking your battles. But this is probably a boundary you'll want to establish.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/26 01:47 PM
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Put No More Mr Nice Guy on your list.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 07:14 PM
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Doing much better! It was pretty dark for a bit, but I came through it. I haven't talked to my ex in months, but I'm better off for it. Got into a good day to day routine, did stuff I enjoyed, go to therapy. The holidays were actually nice, peaceful and drama free. I actually dated casually for a while but just recently met someone I really like. Taking it slow and enjoying the ease and excitement of it. Best of luck, it does get better.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 10:15 AM
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Similar situation. Most of my day to day social life was with other couples. They either sided with her or just felt awkward and back off completely. I was lucky to have 2 or 3 people check in occasionally and seemed to pop up on the days when I needed it most. But overall, it is pretty isolating. You may need to be proactive and seek out support networks. One thing I learned going through it is if you show vulnerability, people will respond and it may be easier to connect. If nothing else, I le…
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 03:09 PM
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I agree with you, I just don't know what type of recourse you have unfortunately. As long as they are not being abused or neglected, there's not a ton you can do. How old are your kids? Most states have an age where the kids can decide which house they are at. In my state it is 14, but you can look into that and if they are old enough, give them the option to stay with you full-time.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 02:06 PM
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Unfortunately it's something you'll need to make peace with. It is not easy in the least, I struggled a lot with it, still due at times. My story is a little different than yours, but same thing. I'm far from perfect, but it was a very good husband, she left and convinced people I was the bad guy. You will find some people on your side, seek those people out and make them part of your support system.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 07:41 PM
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I know it's tempting, but it won't go how you think. Take the high road and do your best to move on.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 11:40 AM
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My ring I tossed in the ocean. I did not ask for the engagement ring back. It sounds like it was a family ring of yours, if she is a halfway decent person I assume she would be open to giving it back to you. But you have to ask her and see what she says, and prepare to negotiate.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 08:02 PM
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It's simple, generic advice but it got me through the dark days. I promise there is good on the other side. Go to the gym, eat well, limit alcohol, get sunlight every day, find your own friends (it was a hard pill to find out that people I thought were my friends were not), try new hobbies or go back to ones you got away from while you were married. You have to create your own life apart from her.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 03:31 PM
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Depends on the state, but valid point.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/25 11:28 AM
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Buy the motorcycle. Nothing wrong with being financially smart, but enjoy your friggen life!
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 11:30 AM
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Is this going to be a surprise to your wife? There's a lot more to unpack here. But given the info you shared, the short answer to your question is there is no ideal time. If you've made up your mind, your best to just do it today and focus on next steps. Why make your wife go through the next several weeks or months thinking everything is fine when you were planning to blow up her life? Do it tonight.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/25 03:00 PM
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Agree with her. I get your desire to not let go, but this arrangement will not work. Focus on getting through the divorce and maintaining a respectful co-parenting relationship, nothing more.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 09:42 AM
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I say go for it. Mine is signed and I'm planning to buy a car this week.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 03:23 PM
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I'd ask your lawyer. He will be better equipped to answer based on your state and situation.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 03:16 PM
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She spent ALL her free time playing some game on her iPad.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 03:52 PM
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Wow, 31. she got hit with the "Eat, Pray, Love" bullshit phase early. Seems that most women are hitting that in their mid-late 40s. Best advice I can give is don't get married again. At 47, just went through my second divorce. Learned from my mistake. I'll date again and open to relationships, but at this point there is no need to make it legally & financially binding.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 01:28 PM
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Learned it twice, haha. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 09:50 PM
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The answer is different for every situation. This one was from my second marriage that recently ended. I kept the ring from my first, my kids are all from the first one so I kept it in case any of them ever want to see it or even if they want to use it
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/25 01:08 PM
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I didn't do it for her, it was for myself,
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 04:01 PM
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Why? She left
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 02:30 PM
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Thanks, no volcanos in Rhode Island, so went with what I had available.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 11:32 AM
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Mine wasn't worth A lot. Her engagement ring was expensive. Probably could get about $8000 for it. She asked if I wanted it back this summer, I was emotional and stupid and said no. I'd love to have the eight grand at this point.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 01:29 AM
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Mine was tungsten, no real value. If there was money to be had, I probably would have gone that route.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 11:52 PM
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What did he say that would make you think he's a narcissist? I wasn't picking up on anything,
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 09:51 AM
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I call it the "Eat, Pray, Love" phase. They're convinced they are better off alone and it's too late once they realize they walked away from something good. If you need proof, check out the number of early-mid 50s women on dating apps. Once they are past this phase and realize they actually do need/want a man in their life.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 12:20 PM
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Perimenopause essentially ended my marriage, I feel for you. Very similar story, both on 2nd marriage, married about 7 years, very good marriage, not perfect. Once the hormones came, she couldn't deal with any stress, no sex drive and her addiction was some game on her phone. I basically became disposable, she told me we're done on a Monday and had found an apartment by the end of that week. This was 5/6 months ago. She's a completely different person than the person I knew and was married to, i…
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 10:01 AM
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Perimenopause ended my marriage. Her tolerance level for day to day life became non existent, sex drive disappeared...so I became disposable. I see it a lot in women in that phase. I call it the eat, pray, love phase, then 2 years later they wake up, realize they blew up their life for no reason and it's too late.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 06:20 PM
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It's tough to fake your way through work and life acting like everything is fine. I haven't figured out a solution, but I know how you feel
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 03:01 PM
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Not sure that's my style, but I appreciate the advice.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 05:43 PM
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Read my most recent post in this forum. You think being married to the mother of your kids is tough, you're going down the blended family path. I was you 10 years ago and I I wish I had advice like in this thread. Do yourself a favor and don't get married again. I'm sure you're in love, I get it. But it's just not worth it to get divorced a second time.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 05:17 PM
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Thanks all for the honest and sometimes harsh advice, comments, etc... I needed to hear it and it's helping shift my perspective. Having a much better day today.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 08:57 PM
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Do you plan to stay on them long term or are you just using them to get through this phase?
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 05:08 PM
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You'd think they were almost out. Some kids (hers) don't leave at 18 or even 21. I realized her child who is the source of our issue was going to be there indefinitely. Her above son did some unforgivable things and I was unable to continue to live with him or expose my kids to him
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 10:05 AM
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It took me a 2nd time to agree with you! Painful lesson!
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 12:27 AM
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Can't disagree with you, I was in love and ignored the red flags. I'll never get married or even own property with someone again.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 11:48 PM
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Can't disagree with you, I was in love and ignored the red flags. I'll never get married or even own property with someone again.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 11:47 PM
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I could have written this word for word
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 04:16 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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