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Goobergus_Gubbins/r/askMRP10/01/20 04:02 AM
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Agreed. I don't use the techniques verbatim, for example I almost never go agree and amplify, and I fogg a lot. My approach also varies depending on how I value my conversational counterparty. If it's my FIL, I go straight to pressure flip because he's too dumb to comprehend agree and amplify and I consider the relationship to have negative value. With some people, it's just "uh huh," because I don't care enough to be witty. The point is to stay in my frame and not get sucked into the vortex. I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/22 11:03 PM
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One year ago, after two years of absorbing and acting on MRP posts and a chunk of the sidebar, I had to step away from the subreddit for that very reason. I had made killer progress on many things that greatly improved my life. In one of my dumbass OYS posts, a flaired member asked "What do you want? Do that." I backed away from MRP and read Looking Out for #1 (1977). Maybe I'm a slow learner, but finally I understood what frame was. This really unraveled the remaining areas where I was my own w…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/22 08:30 PM
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Good advice. Due to my own shortcomings, the resources I review most often are "Always DARE, never DEER" and "The Shit Test Encyclopedia." I wish these were on the sidebar for new guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/22 08:18 PM
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Speaking as a former bannee, I agree with this. Either I post something that adds value to the community or STFU. This motivates me to make progress toward my mission so I can report something worthwhile. Kudos to the mods and their banhammer.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/21 05:51 PM
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I'm reading the original 1977 version of Looking Out for #1 before they watered it down. Best material on frame I've seen. He starts with your statement above, then explores how others will attempt to shame and re-frame you without giving any value in return. Your recommended solution is correct and simple, but requires nuking a lifetime of conditioning. Thanks for your feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/21 09:08 PM
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I’m two-ish years into posting here on MRP. Initially I made a lot of progress lifting, STFU, and reading and applying the sidebar. I reaped ongoing rewards of those changes: More sex, immunity to shaming language, ownership of boundaries, etc. Then I started receiving feedback from the mods and members here that my posts were unhelpful to the readership. They suggested that I figure out what was motivating me to waste the members’ time and my own with that style of posting activity. That was go…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 10:44 PM
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Agreed. I was making progress a year ago, but now I find myself stalled and paying the price for it. Thanks for your feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/20 09:49 PM
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Interrupting happens most often when I’m socializing out of obligation rather than genuine interest. For example, my wife’s family or religious friends. I’m trying to be cognizant of what part of the situation is on me, and I want to improve. Being ex-religious, I often choose to fade out of the social group rather than state my views. As an outsider, every word I say is by definition false. With a handful of people closest to me, we have great conversation. My challenge is how to handle this in…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/20 09:40 PM
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Wow, I've needed that method for many years. Will give it a test drive ASAP. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 08:50 PM
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"I seldom can get a full sentence out when talking to strangers, friends, and loved ones. It's nothing new, it's been this way as long as I can remember. But it's my fault for allowing it to happen. I let people walk all over me. This is something I need to change." Same here. What is the right way to handle this? My answer is I don't socialize with those people, and focus on those that value my input. Some of those I've deleted are blowhards that opine long and loud on whatever. Interested in w…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 08:47 PM
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Yep. I've been checked out of my marriage for a long time, just stick around because it's easy and convenient. If mama dropped the D word I'd jump all over it. I only shared this outburst to illustrate potential progress i have not yet arrived at.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 08:34 PM
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OYS 2020sept9 Gym: bench press and rows with Barbie weights, back hyperextension bench, walking lunges with 45 pound plate. This routine until March 2021/1 year post-op Sidebar: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TRM, MMSLP, others. Progress: When I arrived at MRP some time ago, I was a sneaky, manipulative nice guy and I blamed my wife for a boatload of resentments attached to situations that in fact were completely within my control. I read the basics section of the sidebar and much of the archived posts on MRP …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/20 12:29 AM
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OYS 22 April 2020 Age 56, 155 pounds. Wife 51, Kids grown and gone. Physical: Post-2 spine surgeries, no lifting for six months. At 6 weeks, just started pushups, lunges, floor core exercise. I'm winded walking around the block. I was already acutely aware of the need to not be a pussy after having a lot of titanium bits installed in my spine. The post https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/fxh8yu/psa_lockdown_and_you/ woke me up to a few key areas where I was still playing the victim …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 12:35 AM
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Excellent feedback, much appreciated. I’m going to focus on letting the conversation flow and listening rather than set up my next quip.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/20 05:13 PM
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That’s encouraging. I do pretty well with general conversation. Area for improvement there, per other feedback, is to be okay being uncomfortable and not feel the need to comment on everything said. All that, for me, in the category of killing the ego protection.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/20 05:12 PM
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OYS Mar 17 2020 Stats: 56yo, 5ft11, 160lb, wife 51, married 26, together 32ish. 2 kids grown and gone Gym/Physical: Post-surgery, no lifts until June Sidebar: NMMNG, RMvol1, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Poon, Pook, The Game Current: Cycling through above list. Need to execute more before moving to new books. I’m a little over one year in here. According to the 12 levels of dread post, I should be 40 percent unfucked at this point. That would be generous, but I am making progress. The following is an example …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 04:34 PM
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THIS provided value and actionable feedback. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 08:05 PM
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As usual, I gleaned nothing from your high-effort feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 08:03 PM
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OP is lucky,he had her on her best years,she should be someone else's problem now. That's a really good point. Rather than marrying a used-up 31-year-old party girl looking for BB, He will be divesting himself of a liability just as she hits the wall. The only downside is custody, and OPs recent edit indicates he hopes for full custody. Because wife has explicitly blown up her vows, he can dump her without guilt.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 07:26 PM
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OP, do the opposite of everything that this assclown recommends. Plent of good advice from flaired members here.
/r/askMRP05/02/20 11:50 PM
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Free T is the operative number. My TT was 560 before TRT, but FT was 9, very bottom of range. TRT now has my FT at over 20, and it's a substantial difference. You need an extensive blood panel from a TRT specialist to really gauge whether you would benefit from the hobby.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 10:58 PM
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We have had the best friend dynamic for so long and that left our relationship not nearly polarized enough. This is a good thing that’s changing. Right before I started diving in to MRP she said “you’re the only guy I’ve ever been with that I know would never cheat on me”. I needed to fix that perception and I think I’ve made some progress. My god I needed to hear that. Wife and I are professional equals and colleagues. Having spent much of our years together in the church culture (I'm now out) …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 10:55 PM
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I agree. Although I still have a long way to go, being direct about "I want" makes negative results much more survivable for my dignity. Wanting something and not being willing to state it or make a move physically is what leads to covert contracts and nice guy resentment.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 10:47 PM
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I'm fully on board with your message. Just poking fun at the absurdities of internet forums.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 08:56 PM
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My experience with religion mirrors yours almost exactly. For me, I had to reach rock bottom and conclude that the invisible guys were very likely imaginary as well. This led to being ostracized from the church community and freed to wake up and see the world for what it was. This year I'm starting cheap university mental health counselling to uncover and process a shit-ton of guilt and shame messaging from childhood and early adult years in hyper-religous upbringing and culture.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 08:52 PM
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To clarify, I can hold my own fine in general conversation with most middle aged dudes. Where I fall short is witty banter where the shit is flying and I need to give as good as I get. I need practice in a hostile environment, for example a family reunion in the Bronx.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 08:48 PM
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The above comment is really the key to this whole place. You are doing this for yourself. You are guaranteed to reap substantial rewards for your effort regardless of whether your wife changes toward you or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:48 AM
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This. Real TRT where you self inject every two or three days is where it's at. You normally need to work with a TRT specialist doctor to get what you need. Message me if you want a recommendation. Good OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:44 AM
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Wait, you made a kid with the babysitter? Who the hell is going to watch it when you're banging the babysitter? This is some seriously Meta shit. Nobody on this forum can match the sheer epic quality of your posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:39 AM
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What do you mean it never works out? What about the tren-abusing 2,000 pound club dudes on here that ditch their aging wife, spin a dozen plates, and continue to post advice to the noobs?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:25 AM
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Is there a massage school in your town? This can be a way to book 1.5 or 2 hour DT massages at a fraction of the spa rates. You will need to befriend front desk staff in order for them only to book with the most talented students. Weekly DT sessions can be life changing if muscle knots are chronic. Also the extended human touch is very healing to one's soul.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:20 AM
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Do you cook much of your own food? Sauteeing sausages in butter with a splash of wine starts to add up the calorie content nicely, before you add in the rabbit food. Clean eating is the enemy of weight gain if you're a bean pole. Also add 16 commandments of Poon (web article) and Sex God Method to your reading list.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:16 AM
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What do you want? After years of being a plow horse for unappreciative roommates, employers, hangers on, etc. it's a hell of a mental shift to focus your limited personal resources on a mission based on "I want." It sounds like you may need to hit NMMNG again, asking the question, "How would my life look different if I were focusing my scarce resources on my own mission?"
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 07:10 AM
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You are young, rich, jacked, rich in personal resources and high in SMV. What do you want out of life? Why did you wash up at this subreddit? Let's see your soft underbelly on your next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 06:53 AM
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Quit that sanctimonious bullshit attitude that I'm doing myself favors by feeling bad for myself for all the ways I've fucked up my life by playing the victim. Just stop playing the victim. No more self-pity, only change. Stop looking for excuses. Be a fucking man. Once you really absorb and embrace NMMNG (I still have a long way to go), write down a mission based on "I want," and start simply acting in your own best interest, much of your last bullet point starts to improve. For me, it even hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 06:42 AM
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One of the things that makes marriage the "hard mode" version of RP is all that common history. You both judge current behavior and value based on past track record. One of the benefits of MAP and writing down your mission is that you start to take off the wife goggles and assess what value she is providing today. Unfortunately, if you were a jackwad for years like most of us here, your wife may not really be able to see what kind of man you are becoming. She may or may not get there eventually.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 06:34 AM
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OP, this is really good advice. Our brainwashing of proper man behavior is to set ourselves on fire to keep others warm. Focusing on what adds value to yourself is mind-jarring when you've spent a lifetime sacrificing for others and then patting yourself on the back for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 04:14 AM
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OYS Feb 04 2020 Stats: 56yo, 5ft11, 160lb, wife 51, married 26, together 32ish. 2 successful adult children Gym/Physical: bench press 175, started 5-3-1 program. Hitting the heavy bag on “rest” days. I went to a meetup drop-in hot yoga class. Made it 14 minutes until my pain level reached fuse-blow status and I quietly slipped out with my tail between my legs. After I get my lumbar spine repaired (Spring 2020), I would really like to make it through a one hour beginner class. Sidebar: NMMNG, RMv…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 01:51 AM
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Comment on your edited OP. You are making progress, but have a long way to go. As your wife goggles come off, you will be able to conduct yourself in accordance to your mission. Your current wife may or may not choose to get on the train. As you lift, sidebar, and figure out frame, your SMV will improve and you will notice attention from women in general. This will further erode your wife goggles. Eventually, the pedestal will be destroyed and you can proceed with an adult relationship. And I ag…
/r/askMRP04/02/20 09:30 PM
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As a civilian, I found church-based counseling bizarre and counter-productive. Advice based on invisible beings doesn't work unless you are invested in that worldview.
/r/RedPillWives31/01/20 08:48 PM
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A plan that respects the unique value of women but also modern economics: Wife gets a teaching degree and works until first child arrives. Then she is a SAHM until youngest child enters 1st grade. Then she works as a teacher, which is a parenting-friendly career and has killer pension benefits. To make this work, husband has to recognize that a working wife needs lots of hands-on help to raise the kids and keep the house running. In this model, both spouses work full time after youngest child le…
/r/RedPillWives31/01/20 08:44 PM
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Truth. The need to come out on top of a pointless argument is just your ego ruining your frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 07:30 PM
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I'm in the same trap. Feedback received from the flaired members indicates that true OI only comes from an abundance mentality. When your SMV rises to a level that women in your life would obviously shag if you initiated, then OI becomes much more internalized and believable.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 07:29 PM
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Same here. If butthurt, then my frame is weak. My own obstacle is that until I experience abundance, OI is at best an acting job. As your overall SMV and options improve, the butthurt aspect dries up on its own.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 07:25 PM
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I would suggest one of the standard lifting programs: stronglifts, 5X5, 5-3-1 that focus on the core compound lifts that build functional strength. Doing curls until you injure yourself is not a good foundation for fitness nor physique. Also STFU and keep reading the sidebar in the order listed. Take a breath, buckle up. Focus your OYS content on "I" statements.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 07:06 PM
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Things like replying "Yes your prettyprincessness" and "Get you water? Sure, while you do what exactly?". Could misfire and be interpreted as butthurt passive-aggressiveness, I suppose. Gird up your loins to do it, and "That's cute." Then go back to what you're doing. Let whatever consequences fall, and be prepared for a shitstorm. It will be the first day of a new life. DO IT.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 06:57 PM
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I understand that estrogen is a side effect and a blocker would be necessary. Not something to worry about. Plenty of TRT guys including myself are at or over top of range on TT/FT and still have estradiol within range and no gyno symptoms. Only add an AI if needed later, it complicates getting dialed in. Having a competent TRT doctor and thorough labs will lead you to what you seek.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 11:51 AM
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Exactly this. You're not married, your girlfriend contributes no money to your operation, does not put out etc. What value is she providing to you? Is it just the social validation of saying you have a girlfriend? If you spend the next year building yourself into a kickass, strapping young lad with muscles and outdoor hobbies, and focus on improving your job skills, your SMV will qualify you for a much superior girlfriend than you currently have. TLDR: Current girlfriend is low value. Solution i…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 11:02 AM
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The textbook-correct version of DL4 is to remove your time and attention for the rest of the evening after initiating and being rejected, then reset the next morning. What to do if bedtime is also your potential sexy time? I've had good luck being civil but not affectionate or interested the next day after a rejection, and resetting after dinner or so. It's not so much the timing, it's the consequences and boundaries. In my experience, DL4 also helps my dignity, because it's one category of nice…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 10:52 AM
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Applying the MRP recipe will result within a year or so in you being a man that is shaggable in the wider sexual marketplace, and have the side benefit of better social value in general. Whether that cuts any ice with your current wife is entirely out of your control.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 10:38 AM
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Nice OYS Chad!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 10:21 AM
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That's awesome, h. for sure in my case. In the past few months, I'm getting to where I'm questioning whether the juice is worth the squeeze, and am way less needy and clingy. Wife still gets confirmation of h. from literally everyone in her universe and is confused by my lack of urgency validating her. Not sure where this will go next.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 12:01 AM
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Becoming attractive (lift, diet, dress, game) is the easy part as it’s mostly physical. It does require discipline. Killing off the unattractive (butthurt at rejections, lazy, DEERing, wrong mindset, etc) is much harder as it is more mental / emotional. STFU is better than saying something unattractive. True Outcome Independence will ONLY come from abundance. You can (and should) fake OI in the moment, but if you don’t have options, you don’t have OI. Healthy men have options. 99% of the time th…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 11:48 PM
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I've been trying to watch some videos too. 21 Convention YouTube videos, Elliott Hulse's stuff, Rollo. I saw one by Hunter Drew which I liked a great deal. Sometimes finding this stuff can be a bit tricky, so recommendations are welcome. I like "coach red pill" (not red pill coach on this forum) on youtube. He's a bit of a fat slob, but content is on point. Example: Be less agreeable.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 11:43 PM
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Glad you liked it. Related post, "Always DARE, never DEER" http://archive.is/SvxCf
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 08:16 PM
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I'm just whining. This is textbook low estrogen menopausal conditions. After all these years she still responds positively to game and enjoys the ride. I need to suck it up and own the realities of a LTR. The only thing is, my wife goggles are coming off pretty hard at this point. Thanks for your feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 08:10 PM
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OYS Jan 28 2019 Stats: 56yo, 5ft11, 160lb, wife 51, married 26, together 32ish. 2 kids grown and gone Gym/Physical: bench press 175, started 5-3-1 program. Hitting the heavy bag on “rest” days. Bicycling to the gym this week. Loaned my car to my wife while hers is in the body shop. Sidebar: NMMNG, RMvol1, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Poon, Pook, The Game Current: More Jack10ofHearts posts on this forum. Finances: I’m retired, same specialty as my wife. She is moving up in her career. At this point in our liv…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 08:31 PM
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Much appreciated. You might want to check out posts by u/man_in_the_world. He is way ahead of me.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:26 AM
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One you can buy things with, the other you can't.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 03:41 AM
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BP? Kinda slapping labels on there, aren't you? Having fuck you money (I'm only working because I enjoy it) allows you to focus your life energy on whatever agenda you want to. At your income level, you could have a high savings rate and still travel internationally, water ski, and do whatever you want with your family. Being a miser has nothing to do with it. I'm baffled why you think high net worth for your age is BP.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 07:05 PM
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Rule 9. You recognize you are at rock bottom, that's a good start. If you can shed the ego and start building on a solid foundation, you will do well. Lots of us are mentally wrecked from a fucked up childhood, so what? Now that you've had a victim puke, let's hear a structured OYS next week focusing on you and what you are doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 12:14 AM
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It's enough money were I don't really need to worry about spend. I'm going to make the argument that not worrying about burn rate based on current income is a trap. An aggressive saving rate working toward passive income covering your spend is a stronger financial frame. r/financialindependence
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 12:08 AM
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Good. One of the benefits of OYS is to write down your bullshit thinking and then take your beating via feedback. Some guys just argue with that feedback. You are listening. Good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/20 12:04 AM
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My wife is 51, so 20 years post-wall. If she's admiring herself in the mirror and commenting on her mojo, I take the opportunity to fuck her brains out. You're over-thinking this. The offer's out? Take it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/20 11:54 PM
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Look into an old video and book series called "love and logic." You can provide leadership without a pissing contest between you and your son. Decoupling that relationship from your ego will allow you to keep your cool. You are the iceman. Keep up the good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/20 11:51 PM
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Squats, press, pull ups and deadlifts. Numbers are pathetic really Don't worry about your numbers right now. With that focus, strength will come with time. Not getting injured is a good goal. Your wife sounds like she understands boundaries. You need to catch up. Read WISNIFG again.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/20 11:48 PM
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Good OYS, focus is on you and what you need to do. What are you reading on the sidebar? I also suggest https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/20 11:44 PM
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OYS Jan 21 2019 Stats: 56yo, 5ft11, 160lb, wife 51, married 26, together 32ish. 2 kids grown and gone Gym/Physical: bench press stalled at 175, noobie gains should be continuing but are not. Switching from [drop sets/all sets to failure] to 5-3-1. Hitting the heavy bag for cool down and mental health. Overseeing my wife’s training for a tough-mudder type event in February. Deadlift & squat on hold for lower back surgery. Sidebar: NMMNG, RMvol1, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Poon, Pook, The Game Current: RMvol…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/20 01:23 AM
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Also, don't let an American doctor talk you into fusion surgery. It's worth $60K to have proper ADR done in Germany with current-generation ESP devices. Message me if you want more information.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/20 07:47 PM
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Try this: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/config/sidebar
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 06:56 PM
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For me, TRT is like being on cheat mode. DM me if you want more information.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 08:49 PM
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You're in good company. I too recognized myself in everything Alex J Anderson wrote. I'm not like you other guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 08:45 PM
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If you land a city job, retirement at 55 is a lock. Your state may vary: State PERS, as soon as you hit your 5 year anniversary, you buy 5 years. That means you hit 30 years of service credits at age 53. At that point, you can start collecting pension checks with zero penalty. Hopefully you have also accumulated net worth such that you don't need the pension. Also go over to r/financialindependence and r/leanfire for how to set up your calcs. If you want, DM me your email and I'll send you an Ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 08:23 PM
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So all those times I felt butthurt from feedback, I was actually on track. Nice to know.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 08:17 PM
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As others have said, the value of OYS is writing down my own bullshit. Even without others' feedback, I start to recognize the cringy nature of my thoughts. Although each OYS looks pathetic in the rear view mirror, the sequence should show that I am doing the work and starting to get it a little more. Edit-spelling
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 06:55 PM
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I also needed to hear this. Have been pressuring my wife for more sex for 26 years. Time to back off that, improve my frame and SMV, own that any sexual famine is my own doing, and let things fallout naturally.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 06:25 PM
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If you are in the USA, Defy Medical or any TRT-specialized clinic will hook you up. I started at 560TT (mid-range)/9FT (bottom of range) and have experienced the same benefits from TRT as guys that started at much lower baselines. My FT is now at 24 (top of range). The cost and trouble are well worth it. I also use PT-141 injections for libido and erection performance, highly recommended. DM me if you have specific questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 04:46 PM
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Dude, you remain my #1 hero at this sub. Banging the babysitter, wife pregnant again, and not giving a fuck about any of it. I salute you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 03:56 PM
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It’s amazing how much shit I was angry about and blamed her for that was 100% my fault. The last few months have been eye opening. I have never been the placating scared to piss her off type but more the I will convince you to agree with me even if I have to make our lives miserable in the process and be butthurt type. Covert contracts out the ass. That's rock solid, and resonates with my experience. If you have not already done so, add MMSLP to your reading. It's early in the sequence for a rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 03:48 PM
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Failure #2 from: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/df0oxb/oys_posts_are_for_you_to_own_your_shit_not_to/ Good OYS. Read the above link, and make sure you are owning your sexual famine, not pinning that on your wife. Welcome, and don't take any "faggot" comments personally. That word helps us drop the ego and face the facts about our own selves.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 03:44 PM
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OYS Jan 14 2019 Stats: 56yo, 5ft11, 160lb, wife 51, married 26, together 32ish. 2 kids grown and gone Gym/Physical: bench press 175. Working through some injuries. Started hitting the heavy bag. Sidebar: NMMNG, RMvol1, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Poon, Pook, The Game Current: Day Bang (suggested via feedback at AskMRP) Finances: I’m retired, same specialty as my wife. She is moving up in her career. At this point in our lives, neither one of us need the other for economic reasons. Hobbies: Sailing, aquarium…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 03:28 PM
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As much as I value the collective experience on this forum, I keep in mind that they are, at the end of the day, internet randos. I make my own decisions, which is why I'm not creating a Tinder profile or "fucking 10 women" as a way to find myself. I appreciate your advice and perspective.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 11:58 PM
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I always value your feedback. I'm moving forward with having a more independent schedule of activities and interests. Not being unfriendly or condescending. Initiating daily with about a 30 percent success rate. Working on being more OI, which many of the responses to this thread addressed.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 08:20 PM
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I'll get right on that. Look how well Mystery is doing these days.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 08:13 PM
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I like the idea. When I was working, my teams performed well and had good morale. I empowered them to be decisive and take risks, and shielded them from executive hostility when things came off the rails occasionally. Good leadership, to me anyway, means equipping your guys to do the work and not be afraid of a little resulting messiness. Now need to find a topic that speaks to my competencies and could find an audience. Thanks for the specific advice.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 08:07 PM
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Not sure what you mean. I received excellent feedback, much of which is actionable. Including yours, although I'm going to defer that Tinder/Bumble business forward a bit.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 12:06 AM
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I'm listening. Will cut that shit on next OYS.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 12:02 AM
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Autocross is cheaper, but all the young hotties gravitate toward the drift dudes.
/r/askMRP11/01/20 12:00 AM
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I'm still going to give my ultra-loyal old dried out wife (in your eyes) a good bit of breathing room to step up. If you don't see why that option has value, I don't think I can explain any further.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 11:59 PM
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Given that the typical attendee is a six foot six "transgender woman" I hope I don't find out. Good people to have a coffee with though.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 11:56 PM
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Good point. I need to be reminded of that all the time. It's my MAP, she doesn't need to know how the sausages are made.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 11:53 PM
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Gotcha. Conflict avoidance in all areas, not just sexual, is my core personality fault. Working on that should yield gains across the board.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 07:57 PM
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Counterpoint: When I see some middle aged sad sack posting a selfie with a comic-con thot, that screams "pathetic loser" worse than anything I can think of.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 07:47 PM
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18+ yr old girls who just might think you're creepy Alright, will do. I've found that grandmothers have no limit to how much obvious flirting they like, but have not been approaching anyone I find attractive. Need to learn to love rejection and not fear it.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 06:34 PM
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That's good. The only benefit of a meetup group is if you're the guy hosting it, which automatically makes you the AMOG.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 06:30 PM
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head out in 20 knots and sheet in the main like your life depends on it. I do this every time there's a small craft advisory. Sometimes solo, but damn that's hard. I retired so I could do that sort of thing rather than grind out another year in the office. My lack of risk is not in the area of hairy smelly man stuff, I'm good there. But socially, I'm very much fly under the radar and be a gray man. I mean, I literally dress in expensive but invisible style. Dudes run into me at parties and intro…
/r/askMRP10/01/20 06:23 PM
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I've seen enough field reports to 100 percent believe that what you're saying is rock solid and would work in my case. Doing so would also break my wife's heart. She loves me very much, and I have no reason to burn that down seeking validation. For you fellas who's shrieking harpy bitch gave you dead bedrooms, the above approach seems reasonable. Edit: grammar
/r/askMRP10/01/20 06:16 PM
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BSDM is like BDSM but way kinkier.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 06:11 PM
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The flaired older gentlemen on this forum indicate that all MRP strategies work just fine on older ladies. I follow u/man_in_the_world like a mountain-top guru, a couple others are also hardcore MRP guys that kept their original wives and arrived at a good end point. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/ekvv3i/running_map_on_peri_menopausal_or_menopausal_women/fdece9z/
/r/askMRP10/01/20 06:10 PM
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Not rationalizing here, just explaining how it's been up to this point. My dick works perfectly when I sense my wife is receptive and/or aroused. Visual signal of that is she dons sexy lingerie. If she's in her granny jammies and curled up under the covers, when I try to initiate, my dick goes totally limp. Clearly, I have an internal fault that will need to be cleared before I'm able to initiate like a caveman. Like I've said in other posts, my sex life was frequent but dysfunctional.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 06:05 PM
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I liked this advice right up to this so-called "social media" you speak of. But I do know a very flamboyant bartender at a PT's full of oxygen-tank grannies. Maybe I'll start there. Baby steps.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 06:01 PM
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I'm' on that one. I'm already planning to take welding 1 this spring so I can fabricate subframe connectors for my floppy-frame 1980's convertible. Good idea, thanks.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 05:36 AM
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I'm introverted to the bone, however I can do everything you're describing in my work environment. I talked to everybody across departments and other agencies did favors and asked for favors, sent head-up warnings so the guy wouldn't be blindsided. I'm not a social retard, it's just that i never did any of that stuff off the clock. When I attempt to branch out, I feel like Detective Adrian Monk try to talk football with the guys based on notes written on his palm. I can have occasional friendly …
/r/askMRP10/01/20 05:33 AM
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what you are doing now is replacing all these small covert contracts with one big one - MRP for sex. In other words, if you run your MAP, if you improve, if you lose weight, if you do the work, she will fuck you as often and as enthusiastically as you want. You have made your wife your mission and you have turned MRP into one gigantic covert contract. Not OP here but might as well be. Quoted comment summarizes much of the feedback I've been receiving for months. Consciously, I'm trying to focus …
/r/askMRP08/01/20 11:35 PM
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More specifically, this week is making clear to me I need to go back to the MRP basics and build from the starter fundamentals. I had skipped over foundational steps because I thought my situation was unique. Wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 06:31 PM
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My situation is luxurious and comfortable. There's no external crisis driving me to make changes, only my sense that great things await as soon as I step up.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 03:16 AM
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Appreciate the feedback. I am being more direct during playtime and not asking her what she wants to do. Seems to be working. But have not leveraged that into introducing new activites. And re: middle aged wives, I find very few of them attractive. And I live in a neighborhood full of aging trophy wives that hit the gym 5X a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 03:13 AM
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OYS Jan 7 2019 Stats: 56yo, 5ft11, 160lb, wife 51, married 26, together 32ish. 2 kids grown and gone Gym/Physical: bench press 175, dumbell row 85, lower body lifts injury impaired. If gym visit happens at night, wife always asks if she can come with me (For Opsec, she’s training for something akin to a tough mudder). I find that a little annoying, but don’t have a reason to say no. I recently realized that middle aged strong independent career women training for grueling athletic events does no…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 04:30 PM
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I still beat myself up for mistakes I make and I’m trying to reconcile why I feel the need to punish myself. I don’t need to be perfect. I’m allowed to make mistakes and learn from them. No reason to dwell on the past. Or the future for that matter. I think meditation will help in this area so I’ll work on doing more of that this week. I need to make it a daily exercise. Maybe ten years ago I identified "Coulda, shoulda, woulda" and "I'm such an idiot and asshole that I brought these bad outcome…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 09:03 PM
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OYS Stats: 56yo, 5ft11, 160lb, wife 51, married 26, together 32ish. 2 kids, out of college and gone, thriving and still friendly to us. Gym/Physical: bench press 165 (deloaded from 185, too wobbly), dumbell row 85, squat nope, deadlift nope, back hyperextensions, walking lunges 45lb. Moderate to severe pain 24/7, taking opiates like pez candies. More surgeries scheduled for 2020, best outcome will be zero opiates. I don’t want to lose any more weight to find my abs. Nobody cares about a six pack…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 08:39 PM
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Validation seeking came up as feedback early in my posts. If I at age 56 were to take my newfound mojo and use it to bang women half my age, that, for me, would be validation seeking in a big way. Appreciate your feedback. EDIT: That dancing monkey link was brutal. I'm seeing solid sex returns from the basic beginner MAP listed, without having the solid foundation or focus required for the long term.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/19 07:27 PM
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Lots of good feedback this week, I will adjust next OYS to comply.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 04:22 PM
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Again, I appreciate your feedback. Perhaps a more direct expression of my situation is that I'm very well taken care of already. Any improvements in my sex life will come from me improving my game, not looking outward for someone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 12:02 AM
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Up to this point, 90 percent of my MRP progress has focused on getting my head on straight and improving my SMV. Have mostly left things with my wife status quo. It's a huge leap for me to go from what's essentially a low-risk approach (I keno early, she initiates, I don't push the envelope very hard) to me sticking my dick out there and putting the alpha moves on her like Chad. Keep in mind I was never Chad even 30 years ago, I was a total pussy not initiating on sluts I dated even though they …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 10:58 PM
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Appreciate your feedback. I'm going to be honest. The Rollo Thomasi age vs SMV chart sounds good, but I see few examples of it IRL. If it were true, you would see 25 year old hotties with 50 year old jacked dudes on TRT all the time. When I see that woman, she is nearly always with someone between her own age and 10 years older. Sure you see field reports of middle aged dudes banging much younger airheads, but I think that dynamic is over-advertised on here.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 08:58 PM
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You are correct, I'm the poster child for covert contracts. When I read No More Mister Nice Guy, it was the story of my life. It's mentally jarring to me to say what I want while making eye contact.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 08:55 PM
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Something tells me you like taking the easy path, and always have. That there is the core me, in spades. I already knew that about myself. I don't consider it a fault, but something to be aware of as a limitation or barrier to some goals. My blood pressure is very contained, I will not die from stress, and I enjoy the hell out of life. My opinion? This woman is praying and hoping you stop seeking her approval and just fucking the ever living daylights out of her until her eyes roll into the back…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 08:47 PM
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Kudos for including the ugly truth. Better than seeking validation from internet strangers. Good OYS, you are seeing the hole you're in.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 12:45 AM
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True, but that shit will drive a man to MGTOW. Luckily MRP is here as a better way.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 12:44 AM
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Good OYS. A couple comments: I've also been spending my time off cleaning the house like a pro trying to show her how it's done (she works part time). Wrong focus and possibly covert contract. You clean the house in order to have a clean house, not to get a blowjob or "one-up" your wife. Getting a lumbar spine MRI at a cash-pay lab costs $280. Get one, see an orthopedic surgeon to see what you're dealing with. Do NOT let Dr. talk you into fusion surgery, PM me first. Get a vasectomy unless you r…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 11:12 PM
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Good OYS. With your lifts, you will look very good as you shed the fat. There are really good resources and inspiration for your finances and long term net worth goals over at r / financialindependence and r / personalfinance. Sidebar like mad, keep the focus on what you need to do, and you will be feeling a lot more solid in a few months. Wife may or may not respond positively to all that. Keep posting to OYS, it's how you stay accountable. Best of luck to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 11:01 PM
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Perhaps a misunderstanding on my part. I thought you meant sarging in the PUA sense where you are hitting on all the cardio bunnies at your gym. If not, then disregard my remark.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 10:24 PM
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Your OYS was brutally honest about the ugliest of your life facts. Focused on you, not blaming your wife for stuff. That's as good as early posts get here. The other responses are from forum veterans with killer long term results; listen to their advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 07:48 PM
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Good OYS, you are moving in the right direction. Early career (now retired) I was advised that my employer didn't really care if I lived or died, but my family would be a reflection on my efforts for my entire lifetime. I made a concious decision to focus my energy on them, and only give my employer what was reasonable and necessary. I have never regretted that priority. In contrast, I see guys living at the office and neglecting their family. That's a huge mistake in my view. 200K means they wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 07:39 PM
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Good stuff, except: Planning on sarging while at gym to help with lifting. This will quickly result in your gym membership being revoked. Just show up, lift, stfu, and go home.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 07:32 PM
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Try to find some threads over at askMRP where the question sounds like your situation. You will find plenty of practical advice for how to navigate the early days of your MRP journey. Lots of field reports at this place about starting right where you are at and being epically better a year later. Best of luck to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 07:04 PM
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OYS Stats: 56yo, 5ft11, 165lb, wife 51, married 26, together 32ish. 2 kids, out of college and gone, thriving and still friendly to us. Gym: bench press 185 (was 95 2.5 months ago post-neck-surgery), dumbell row 85, squat nope, deadlift nope, back hyperextensions, walking lunges 45lb. All this is a train wreck. My arms look good, but I have to put on a neutral happy face to lift an empty bar off the floor onto my bench setup. Functional strength is pure shit. Priority in 2020 is to get further r…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/19 06:56 PM
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I'm ashamed to admit that I failed at the latter situation a couple years ago at a sports bar. That event was really rock bottom for me, and one of the things that propelled me into MRP and starting to progress from a jellyfish into an adult man.
/r/askMRP24/12/19 12:44 AM
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"Don't forget the hot crazy scale. When you vet a woman you should be looking for a woman who has low nueroticism and high self esteem" After dating a lot of hot/crazy in my 20s (tho mostly didn't fuck them because religious, tradcon, BP and pussy) I deliberately married stable/high self esteem/same profession/n=0. Whatever troubles we have had, I hate to think what would have happened if I LTRd one of the crazy chicks. Vetting is half the battle. Everything else recommended on this subreddit is…
/r/askMRP23/12/19 08:28 PM
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This forum self-selects men that have taken a beating in their marriages. Advice to the OP to vet for similar economic level is rock solid.
/r/askMRP23/12/19 08:22 PM
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I see what you are saying. It might get the OP better mileage to go with "Babe, relax. I've got this." More immediate and addressing that instance head on.
/r/askMRP23/12/19 07:26 PM
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Your last point is one of my most-used takeaways from this community. My wife and I are both STEM people, and tend to discuss technical facts when those are not in any way the actual topic.
/r/askMRP23/12/19 03:12 AM
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Are you suggesting he stone her to death?
/r/askMRP23/12/19 12:48 AM
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Agree. I'm learning a lot on this thread. Finding MRP 30 years in, I'm going pretty hard on improving my own frame and value, going slow with "frog in a pot" approach in regards to interacting with my wife. She is a very capable and astute human being, and it becomes very obvious when I'm pushing my outward game faster than my inner game can support. But that's me. There are some impressive success stories on here where guys went from flabby and dead bedrooms to jacked and all kinda kinky shit i…
/r/askMRP22/12/19 04:46 AM
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The other comments here are solid. I would add that we fixed this in my house 20 years ago. I calmly stated, "If you ever feel the need to criticize how I'm doing a task, or the need to suggest a better way to do it, you are volunteering to take over that task permanently. You can proceed however it seems wise to you." She has never, ever complained or suggested after that point.
/r/askMRP22/12/19 12:55 AM
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Good point, although this sub delivers a lot of quality, actionable information. Thanks for your support.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/19 05:09 PM
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Edit: Deleted my previous comment, it was poorly advised.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/19 05:06 PM
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I am super quick to back down after she displays the smallest hint of disapproval or anger. I’ve made my wife my mission a long time ago, at least I realize it. A decade+ of this shit is hard to reverse. You're telling my story. I'm 30 years in. As the months go by and I make gains in my physical and mental strength, I'm starting to gain confidence that I can push her boundaries and after a transition period of her not knowing what the hell is going on, she likes it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/19 12:28 AM
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Per your last thought, I had one of those last night. Wife was burned out from a nasty day at the office. Ate the dinner I cooked (I'm retired) then retreated to the bedroom in her "don't fuck me" jammies to read a book. I was a little butthurt and flubbed the interaction. I later realized she wasn't pissed off or anything, she just needed to decompress. I obeyed bluepillprofessor's dread level 4 instructions and reset the next morning to friendly and normal. At my invitation, wife is coming hom…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 09:14 PM
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OYS #? 56, 5ft11, 165 pounds, wife 51, married 26y, together 30y Lifting: Benched my body weight this week, 7 reps. I see a lot of posts on this sub ridiculing this milestone. For me, I had never reached that number before, and it's a lot more than I maxed out at prior to 25K euros of neck surgery. So to me, it was a big deal. Squat: Attempted to squat the empty bar. Left it on the safety rails, chewed up a vicodin, and spent the rest of the day at home curled up the the fetal position crying li…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 08:48 PM
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I tried to get this type of roleplay going. As soon as I finished explaining how it worked, she simply said the safeword, indicating zero interest. To be fair, this was years ago and I was very blue pill, having mediocre SMV and not understanding ovulation timing and what not. Perhaps time to give it another go. Great write-up, thanks for all the value you add to this community.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/19 06:41 PM
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I would add that if her ass does not yield after a couple minutes, it's OK to wipe yourself off and go for the puss. Her willingness is a gift, being flexible/willing to bail helps to encourage that willingness next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/19 01:25 AM
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Thanks for your reply. I'm not downplaying the value she brings. Drama-free affection, loyalty, and a high level of competency aren't exactly falling from the sky around this place. What I'm trying to say is that a core takeaway from this forum and the sidebar is this: Choreplay gets you a clean house, fresh oil, and a plate of food to eat. You should do it for that reason. It does not make mama's panties moist in any way. After a number years of friendly but lazy shagging intitiated mostly by m…
/r/askMRP14/11/19 11:17 PM
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I'm not questioning your judgement. Just saying as a crusty old dude that maximizing age gap is a solid tactic if you are looking at the long haul. With your smv, you could choose a 19 year old if you wanted.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 01:55 AM
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My wife does all that, affectionate and intimate, then has zero interest in draining my balls by any method. Intimacy does not equal sexual arousal.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 01:20 AM
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Given your circustances, I would probably next her and find a 22 year old new grad in engineering, accounting, or similar field, and that has a less titillating sexual history. When you are 50, boinking a 40 year old is going to be preferrable to someone almost your own age. You have very high SMV; in my opinion you are settling for a wife like you have described. Go younger and fresher.
/r/askMRP11/11/19 11:31 PM
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If you have not already, research r / testosterone. The gel has limited effectiveness, and most general-practice endos don't know much about TRT.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 04:28 AM
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Me: 56, Wife 50. Together since 24/19. Medical: Was overseas for 5 weeks to receive state-of-the-art cervical spine surgery (vs the barbaric antiquated butchery they do here). By myself for the first month there, then wife came out for my final week and we flew back home together. Gym: Had to be completely out of the gym until 2 months post-op. Backed down BP from 135 to 95, now up to 115 again (working sets). No squat, no deadlift, probably forever. Walking lunges with a 45 pound plate. 70lb du…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 11:30 PM
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There is. Mark mansen.
/r/askMRP28/10/19 06:34 PM
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To be honest, I just took a modest early out pension. My wife is a high powered consultant, and fully agrees with my retirement. But we enjoy a more stable relationship than a lot of guys on this sub. The fact that I use some of that free time to hit the gym doesn't hurt anything.
/r/askMRP28/10/19 05:17 PM
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Absolutely. Only way to defend yourself is to mirror her career downgrade. See how open she is to you reducing your stress level on the same day. Bring home a case of beans for a prop to support the discussion.
/r/askMRP28/10/19 01:37 AM
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Not sure if you're trolling. Short answer is maybe only while your offspring are not in all day school. Having a similar occupation spouse has many tangible benefits to you and your kids. Would you rather have a lawyer/engineer wife raising your kids, or a hairdresser/barista? Would you rather get divorce raped or contribute More or less equally to building wealth? Smart men don't marry down economically.
/r/askMRP28/10/19 01:24 AM
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You are aware that marriage vs fucking around are usually two different life strategies, right? I'm not saying one is better than the other but normally, you have to choose one.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 11:48 AM
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You misunderstand me. I encourage my wife to go see her father all she wants. She talks to him on the phone weekly. That is all fine, I just exercise my right to not have any contact with the man. I also request that she not provide any information about me to her parents. They don't need to know.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 11:43 AM
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Wife and I n=1. Together for 30 years. 95% of standard RP strategy still applies. AWALT and hypergamy still apply. Perhaps easier in some ways, but you still have to do the work.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 11:25 AM
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I'm impressed. I just try to not write anything online that would be highly troublesome if I got Doxxed.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 11:22 AM
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That's exactly what this forum did for me. Was not at a crisis point, but applying the sidebar and starting to lift improved my brand with immediate results.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 11:02 AM
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There are some advantages to sticking with the original model after it's well amortized.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 10:46 AM
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My FIL is just like yours. I cut off all contact with him 10 years ago and my life improved dramatically. Give it a go.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 10:24 AM
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I'm in Cologne for a month to see a guy about a thing. Have been eating some amazing grub cooked by several of your countrymen here. Their style seems alpha as fuck. If you are of that same shave twice a day and don't take shit from anyone mold, I'd say tell your wife how it needs to be an slay pussy all you want. If she refuses, politely divorce without any hostility, and go your own way. OR you could have kids together, be monogamous, and have someone to watch your back for the next 60 years. …
/r/askMRP20/09/19 10:20 AM
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About 10 years ago I transitioned (how 2019, right?) from a lifelong, hardcore Noah's Ark is real/Evolution is fake evangelical nutjob to an atheist. My wife asked what she was going to do for spiritual leadership. This being a time in our marriage where my own experience had long since been mediocre at best, I told her, "I guess you will have to figure out how important that is for you. I'm done with the whole business." She's still around and still likes my brand, and we're doing better than w…
/r/askMRP20/09/19 10:05 AM
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I'm pretty sure we are. You can't fight it though; People pick their facts based on their social group.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 10:00 AM
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I just know that a lot of guys in the US recieve fusion surgery because that's what their doctor and insurance/NHS cover. A lot of us opt out of that plan and get state-of-the-art ADR surgery in Germany or Spain. Fusion creates a lot of problems in future years. One level like you're having might not be too bad, but I recommend that you do some intensive research before you just follow path of least resistance and let the system railroad you into a fusion.
/r/askMRP18/09/19 07:35 PM
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Oof, that's hard. So the surgery is to remove the broken facets? I would try to get multiple opinions from the best surgeons you can find within your system, if that's allowed. Best of luck to you.
/r/askMRP18/09/19 07:05 AM
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Before I got a vasectomy 20 years ago, my buddies all told me they sent your boys home with you in a mason jar so you could still feel like you owned them.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 03:39 PM
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Fair enough. I was at 560TT starting and received a lot of flak for going on TRT. Still, the before/after picture is much the same as guys with a low starting number.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 03:37 PM
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For God's sake, you don't want fusion if there are any other options. Many Americans fly to Germany or Spain to receive ADR (artificial disc replacement) surgery instead. Fusion glues together your vertebrae, then a few years later, the good discs outboard of that repair also fail from the increased stress. Go over to adrsupport dot org to educate yourself on ADR. I am user funcrew over there, would be glad to help you by PM.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 03:34 PM
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Hard to say. I just forked over $27KUSD to receive state-of-the-art spinal surgery in Germany. Taking care of yourself physically is a worthwhile investment.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 10:39 AM
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u/Iammrp2 is dead wrong. Getting your FT into the 20s will make your dick work better, you will pass shit tests much more naturally, and women will touch your arm for no particular reason. "Your T is not low" because you are within a range devised by insurance companies doesn't mean anything on a practical level.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 07:22 PM
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I would ask that question over at r / testosterone. We have it easy in the USA with cash-pay lab work and online TRT docs that mail the meds right to your house. But there's guys on that subreddit from all over that could explain particulars for your country. You can also try the excelmale trt forum.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 07:19 PM
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You are only non-recourse if you want your insurance company or NHS to care about your libido and erections. If you are willing to crack open your wallet, quality inject-yourself at home TRT runs about $3K per year. Only you can determine if that's a good value. For me, it would be worth ten times that.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 04:02 PM
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TT493 and FT10 is not good. Those ranges are based on population averages, not what levels will make you a goddamn sexual tyrannosaurus. My TRT doc says he likes to get FT into the low twenties before patients see a substantial improvement in libido and erections. You might want to visit r / testosterone for a bunch of field reports from guys on TRT.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 03:59 PM
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Having a low-n-count wife has some value. My story is similar to yours except I was a religious-abstinence idiot and a lot older than you. I can't say what your best path forward is. One good path forward might be to do all the work advised on this subreddit: lift, develop frame, read the sidebar, be proactive about what you want and building a life for your family. You might find that your current wife responds to your continual improvement as a man and proves to be an enjoyable companion. Whet…
/r/askMRP16/09/19 03:20 PM
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56yo, 5'11" (0.5" taller than before, see "medical" below) 162 lbs, 17% BF Lifts: BP 135, walking lunges 45, lat pulldown 120. Dead: nope Squat: nope Medical: Received 3 levels of cervical ADR in Cologne Germany using the CP-ESP (flexible core) device. Positive is that pain is reduced and will improve over the next several months. Arm strength and reliablity much improved as well. Downside is I can't turn my head more than a few degrees for the next 12 weeks while the ADR titanium end plates fus…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/19 01:05 PM
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As a dumbass that got married in the religious community without going for a test drive, I can verify that u/Rifleshoot is exactly correct.
/r/askMRP12/07/19 02:55 PM
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Pixar movies.
/r/askMRP28/06/19 05:34 PM
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Solid answer. Thanks for the clear response.
/r/askMRP24/06/19 11:39 PM
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I'm getting better at not DEERing, but I can't DARE on a bet. Trying to STFU in a friendly, positive way. Rather than lifting, I'm putting together a rental house worth of funds to have much of my spine replaced by titanium and polymer. Then will start lifting.
/r/askMRP24/06/19 11:36 PM
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Excellent, that's what I was looking for.
/r/askMRP24/06/19 11:34 PM
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Also helpful, much appreciated.
/r/askMRP24/06/19 11:34 PM
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NMMNG was a biography of my life. Finished TRM vol 1, and pook. Working on the rest of the sidebar.
/r/askMRP24/06/19 11:34 PM
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Good stuff. Wife is already in my corner and responds well to each increment of unfucking I achieve. This kind of feedback is helping me to relax and focus on creating value.
/r/askMRP24/06/19 11:33 PM
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Agree that as a rookie, focusing on the basics is my priority. I'm only bringing this up because validation was a common response to my OYS. I'm a recovering tradcon beta & I find that much of what already unplugged guys find obvious involves a great deal of de-programming for me personally. Thus absorbing a lot of content helps as I work through the beginner steps. I'm trying to not freak out, not act stupid, and not ramboing. Results so far are good; my wife is very warm toward me, lots of ken…
/r/askMRP23/06/19 07:00 PM
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Off-topic; I'm jealous of you and FIL. I went no-contact with mine years ago, don't even open his nasty little handwritten rants about my poor performance when they arrive anymore. If he were a tequila drinker, we probably could have found some common ground.
/r/askMRP23/06/19 05:34 PM
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If you end up needing to get divorced, being at 50 percent of your current income would be very helpful in setting spousal support.
/r/askMRP23/06/19 05:24 PM
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I've been going through a bunch of validation threads on the forums. Definitely applies to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/19 10:24 PM
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Good stuff, thanks. That link and the one on validation were right on point for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 11:41 PM
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Bingo. The house decreases her motivation to step up, and amplifies the pain level if you need to next her.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 06:14 AM
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Without using faggot language: Buying a swanky house in the 'burbs together does not send your wife the message that your marriage might not be viable and might not be there next year. Buying the house means she gets to play long term no matter how little value she brings to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 06:12 AM
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Thanks for that link. Have not encountered that concept in the sidebar so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 11:40 PM
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So you're saying it's a covert contract on my part? Perhaps. I asked her pointedly before we married if she wanted to do all that, and she said yes. It was an interview question. My bad for being ultra religious and skipping the test drive.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 10:55 PM
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Our intimacy is already very good. Afterwards, she purrs like a kitten with her head on my chest. I respect your indifference toward the menu of sex acts, however I view the fact that she knows I like all that and her not doing them as an SMV issue on my part. I could be wrong. As a typical non-sex example of our current status: I knew she went in to work early to stop by a project site and didn't have time to make a lunch. So I stopped by her office and took her out to lunch. She practically gl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 09:24 PM
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Jun 2019 OYS post OYS#1 I’m 55, wife 50, married 25+, 2 adult children doing well. Just retired due to chronic back pain. Sidebar: Finished The Rational Male vol 1 and No More Mr Nice Guy. Got halfway through The Book of Pook and got bogged down in the long slog 2nd half. The “15 lessons” in Pook were amazing; god I wished I had access to that 40 years ago. Working on The Rational Male vol 3 and When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Reading lots of posts on MRP and AskMRP. 160 pounds, 18% body fat. Lifts…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 04:27 PM
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I tried to ride the fence and keep my old church friends, but ultimately it didn't work. Evangelical Christianity is just as insular a community as LDS (I think) and I am now an outsider, and thus not to be trusted. Just the way it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 09:40 PM
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Great post. I'm now 55. Was raised in a cult. [Aside/ Do you know how you can tell if you're in a cult? Great news! It's those idiots at the church across the street from yours with their totally-incorrect invisible beings from the ancient world that are a cult. Yours is the one true faith. /aside] At around 40, my cognitive dissonance shattered when I read a couple books about evolution and big bang cosmology that were written by scientists and not theologians. It's hard to describe how mentall…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 09:37 PM
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Tough question. I got lucky with a top-notch wife and really fun now-adult children. But it could have easily gone sideways with a miserable setup like the average cat. Getting married is a really high-risk move with an outrageous and uncontrollable downside. Worked out for me, but I wouldn't advise it for most guys.
/r/askMRP17/06/19 09:23 PM
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"Take your kids away daily for Daddy Time to give them your undivided attention and you theirs, and to give your wife a break and daily time to focus on being a woman and wife instead of a mother." Brilliant. I essentially gave up most of my friends and hobbies for 20 years and spent that time with the kids. Never regretted it, and Mama was able to have an actual social life like a real human being. Sometimes the guys on RP forums describe a routine that would take 36 hours a day. Just goofing a…
/r/askMRP05/06/19 11:29 PM
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My kids are 22 and 24, both happy, friendly, and competent. They have empathy and commitment to making the world a better place, balanced with fun and standing up for themselves. We used an old book and video series "Love and logic." The gist: Allow the kid to take risks and own the results where the failure mode is acceptable to a reasonable parent. We also treated the kids as mini-adults. No baby-talk and smothering. Lots of jokes and pranks. Hands-on help with math, english, and social skills…
/r/askMRP05/06/19 11:23 PM
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