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Marriages are not "way down"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 12:41 AM
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I've initiated plenty of dates. When I have, I offer to pay. If whoever us doing the asking out is butthurt enough to brood over buying someone a cup of coffee, no one should go out with them anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 09:00 PM
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Pretty much every home owning household in the US is dual income. Its nearly impossible for the average young American to buy a house on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 07:29 PM
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In Japan, men are still expected to own a home on their own before they are considered candidates for marriage. It is highly taboo for women to date or marry men who cannot financially support them. However, the Japanese live in the same global economy that we all do, which makes it extremely difficult, borderline impossible, for an average person to buy a home appropriate for a family on their own. It's the best a young Japanese man or woman can do to barely support themselves. it's not a coinc…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 04:50 PM
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Hows the traditional attitude of the man earning the money working in japan?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 04:36 PM
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This sub almost always completely ignores economic conditions when it comes to interpersonal relationships. It's likely the most significant factor. We are more in debt, more overworked, and less secure in our future than any generation since the great depression. How on earth wouldn't that significantly effect sex/dating/marriage/children?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 03:48 PM
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If a guy asks me out, he should offer to pay for the whole date. If I ask the guy out, I should offer to pay for the whole date. That's just manners. First dates shouldn't be expensive. A coffee and a walk is appropriate. After the first few dates, we should either go Dutch or take turns paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 03:41 PM
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still dodging, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 10:07 PM
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I've been to a few myself. Most are boring, but I did go to one that was pretty amazing. The girls were all professional dancers and put on an incredible show. Would love to go to one like that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 06:39 PM
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I don't think hiring a prostitute and going to a strip club are really comparable
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 06:18 PM
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I'm just enjoying your hamstering. You made a pointless, irrational comment and cant back it up. Now you're upset that you can't explain yourself. Go whine on another sub about how you were "shamed"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 05:23 PM
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Lol ok dude. Any more off topic rants you need to get out of your system? How else are you a victim?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 05:14 PM
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ok, so you're just going off on an off topic emotional rant for no reason at all? Neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 04:30 PM
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nobody is shaming anyone here. quit looking for reasons to be offended
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 04:07 PM
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let me rephrase that if you aren't dying to unlock your jaw or murder the person with your dick.....don't LTR them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 08:26 AM
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You have to be the most sensitive person on earth to find anything about my comment "shaming"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 08:17 AM
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people who LTR people who are bad at sex are stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 05:55 AM
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I would find that pretty pathetic. I'd also be confused as to how that would come up at all. I also would never LTR someone who wasnt awesome in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 04:02 AM
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I think this attitude is born out of naivete. I have a very close guy friend who confided in me that he had an affair with a teacher when he was 17. At the time, he thought it was awesome. It wasn't until years later when he ended up in a bad place that he really had to examine that and acknowledge the effect it had on him, which was significant. He know believes and acknowledges that the relationship was abusive and the teacher was a predator, and he has been able to get the help he needs to mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 04:25 PM
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I dont know for sure and don't care enough to calculate it exactly. I'm guessing about 20, maybe as high as 30. 35/F, sexually active for 20 years. West coast US raised
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 03:18 AM
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Also why men on here speak so much about women with "bipolar disorder" and "borderline". Pretty rare afflictions, but they way many men speak about it, you'd think half the women on earth are diagnosed as such. Crazy people are fun. Until they're not. They can also be very manipulative and good at spotting easy targets.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 11:53 PM
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Both hobbies are exceptionally common for men and women in the west. I'm not knocking it, do whatever you want. But if you want to meet people with interesting hobbies, you gotta branch out beyond the norm a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 04:10 PM
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Well there ya go. You're wondering why you dont meet people with unusual or interesting hobbies, its because they're hanging with people who also have unusual or interesting hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 04:39 PM
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I love hiking and trail running with my dog, and try to do that most mornings. I choose where I'm going to live based on proximity to good hiking trails. I also love backpacking, but don't get to do that as often as I would like. Maybe 3 times a year these days. A side hobby of mine is finding and identifying plants, bugs, and wildlife. I found a Mojave sidewinder this week. I used to be a member of a mushroom hunting society, but there isnt one where I live now that I know of. I repair and refu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 04:23 PM
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Feminists and LGBT activists able to withstand dissent? AND criticism? Unadulterated nonsense, they call for the firing of people who disagree with them. They made it through decades of public criticism, losing their jobs, being imprisoned, being publicly humiliated and even assassinated. You have a lot of opinions for someone who clearly has little understanding of how these groups came to be. Why are consequences considered part of the deal for other groups, but a nonstarter for men? They aren…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 03:28 AM
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Feminists were called evil too. As were (and are) gay rights activists and civil rights activists. What's special about them that they can withstand dissent and criticism, but mens rights activists cannot? Why are consequences considered part of the deal for other groups, but a nonstarter for men? Many activists have lost jobs, their reputations, and even their freedom and lives to bring forth the progress we all enjoy today. Why would mens rights be any different? And what do you mean "forced" …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 05:58 PM
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Are you literally kidding me right now? This is good faith discussion? Maybe it's bullshit because women get free woman birth control, but (brace yourself) men don't get free man birth control? Yes they do. Condoms are free at every state hospital. You can take as many as you want. In many areas, you can even get a free STI test while you're there. Are you suggesting that it is against the law for pharmaceutical developers to make progress on male birth control? The previous systems explicitly e…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 04:31 PM
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Ya it would be nice if everyone loved everyone and no one ever wrote articles about how men are trash, or how women shouldn't be able to vote, or that black people deserve to be poisoned by lead, or that gay people are responsible for the downfall of society. But that's not a realistic goal. If they want the movement to grow, they should do what all movements before them had to do, which is roll with the punches and carry on with their message without being too reactionary. First, they need a me…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 04:19 PM
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Both of those acts were for the purpose of giving women the same healthcare rights as men. These are not privileged laws, they are corrections to previous exclusions. There have never been healthcare exclusions leveled at men, so there is no need for a correction. Bullshit. Men do not get free contraceptives as mandated by the central government - women largely did even before the contraceptives mandate. And seriously, maternity coverage? Men just HAVE paternity coverage? God I love talking to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 04:13 PM
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Can you show the law that explicitly favors women in custody/welfare/alimony, etc? Primary parents are favored. Men who go through the whole legal process of custody are statistically just as likely as women to be granted custody. Most never try. If men want custody and child support, they need to do what women do. Which is to engage with the legal process. This is a great example of where the movement goes wrong. It's not effective to complain about unfair outcomes from a system men aren't util…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 04:04 PM
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Right, most of the "movement" is "We want people to like us more". Understandable, but good luck with making actual structural changes to make that happen. They're rallying against people's feelings, not fundamental rights or policy. Especially difficult considering that it is entirely focused on what they don't want, with little discussion as to what they do want. Come to me with solutions and I'll listen. Whine to me about your feelings and you've lost me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 04:01 PM
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Both of those acts were for the purpose of giving women the same healthcare rights as men. These are not privileged laws, they are corrections to previous exclusions. There have never been healthcare exclusions leveled at men, so there is no need for a correction. That's like saying gay marriage is a special right because it has the distinction of "gay" included in it. It was implemented to give gay people the same rights that straight people already had.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 03:56 PM
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Can you show a specific law that excludes men and/or favors women? I'm not asking to be combative, I'm just trying to demonstrate how difficult it would be for men to convince a significant portion of the public that reform is necessary. It's pretty straightforward when there are laws in place specifically excluding people. No such laws exist for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 07:52 AM
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The equal rights act never passed. And there is no cohesion with any of the issues you listed, because men already have 100% of the legal protection of women with each. In fact, women have zero rights that men don't also have. Any change to these social issues would require adding special rights just for men, which would never get off the ground for obvious reasons. So again, difficult if not impossible for a men's movement to gain significant traction beyond some moderate shifts in public attit…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 06:47 AM
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I think you're still missing the point, which is clarity of message. All previous movements mentioned had a clear objective, which was equal rights under the law. Men's movements have no such clear message, because they already have equal rights under the law. Since their are no clear objectives, there is no unity. Because there is no unity, there is no leadership. Because there is no leadership, there can be no movement. As far as what men and their supporters could rally for specifically, your…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 03:52 AM
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Na you have it backwards. Movements never start out with numbers, that's the point. When feminism first popped up, the vast vast majority of both men and women disagreed with or even hated it. That's why movements need two things, a clear message and the ability to withstand criticism. Both of which the men's movements completely lack. Can you imagine the women's movement succeeding if they imploded at criticism? Impossible. At this point, the men's movements are little more than whining reactio…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/19 12:19 AM
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It's hilarious to me that some men consider learning that women are complex and nuanced people is some sort of revelation
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 04:56 PM
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The media and polite society crucified the early feminist movements, too. Many still do. The same is true for civil rights and gay rights. If men want social change, they need some pioneers who are tough enough to endure that. So far, no dice. Modern men's movements shrink away, cry, or disappear at the first sign of dissent or criticism. If everyone agreed with you, there would be no need for a movement. Getting raked through the coals is part of the deal. Men just need leaders who will effecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 04:44 PM
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Anywhere from 6 to 14 years older than me. We definitely had common interests and none of them were even close to conservative or square. Mostly musicians. I liked the guys just fine, it was simply the stage of life difference that was the barrier. I recently was contacted by a long lost ex who I dated when I was 22 and he was 34. He's 47 now, still hot, still rad. If things were different I could see us being very happy if we dated now. But that's not how it worked out for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 03:02 AM
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It's often a combination of several or many reasons. For me, I value my life the way it is and don't want it to change. I love to travel and move. I dont want to endure the potentially permanent physical changes that pregnancy brings. I would like to spend my money on other things. I find fulfillment in having close relationships with my 9 nieces and nephews. I don't want to strain my relationship with that level of stress. I love my career and don't want to lose it. It's not so much that I beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 07:18 AM
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Not married, but my boyfriend is like me. Used to party balls to the wall and now a sober dude who wakes up early to run or hike with the dogs. We usually make a nice meal, read in bed and are asleep by midnight. Dream living. Would have bored me to death ten years ago, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 05:57 AM
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Young guys were more fun when I was young. Older guys are more fun now that I'm older. What people consider fun and exciting changes as they age. I used to want to go to a punk show and do blow in the bathroom all night. Now I'm stoked to get up early and go for a long hike at sunrise. I dated some older guys in my twenties, and while we got along just fine, there were issues with relatability. He thought my friends were annoying and immature, and he was right. I thought his friends were boring …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 01:20 AM
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Interesting that they don't seem to stick around......
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 05:03 PM
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Na. I dated a few older men in my twenties and I found all of them boring, unrelatable and lame. They were all attractive. Young women want fun boyfriends, not daddies.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 04:59 PM
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This is my general age bracket and I know a lot of single people. The reasons they are single vary so widely that its impossible to make assumptions. Some are divorced, some have ended longterm relationships, some are entirely career focused, some prefer dating casually or dating multiple people, some are dealing with other life issues like grief, addiction, health problems, family stuff, mental illness. Some are in long distance relationships, some are very picky, some genuinely prefer to be al…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/19 03:45 PM
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No, every woman in this thread does not say that nearly all men are evil perverts. You're projecting your own bigotry onto them. What a coincidence, I didn't say that either. You did. We all say that "no" or "I'm not interested" isnt enough to get the message across to most dudes. Because it's not. Either way, a certain type of person finds their way to becoming a regular on a gender war board. Pot, meet kettle
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 04:58 AM
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Literally every woman in this thread says the same thing. Theres a reason why women have multiple strategies to deal with desperate men. They are relentless.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 09:43 PM
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What? Are you not familiar with Roe v Wade?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 09:42 PM
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You'd stop scoffing if a man bigger and stronger than you decided to follow you around, making sexual comments and demanding your attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 07:14 PM
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Why wouldn't they be? You believe individual women are responsible for the demographic, why wouldn't it work the other way around?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 07:13 PM
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Of their own making If men want to feel safe, they should stop being so dangerous
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 07:10 PM
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Why do you have such a hard time understanding that being followed around by thirsty guys can be annoying, anxiety inducing, and even terrifying? What's confusing to you about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 07:10 PM
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They're in danger from other men. If they were in danger from women, we'd never hear the end of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 07:07 PM
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Is it difficult for your mind to hold two things true at once? Is it possible that approaching strangers for attention is scary and getting constantly approached by strangers who want attention is also scary?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 07:06 PM
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As any woman will tell you, most men who cold approach will not take a simple "no" as an answer. It is exceptionally rare that these guys will simply move on without asking why, throwing a tantrum, pestering with more questions, or lashing out in anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 07:01 PM
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Women can't do anything about the fact that men can't take no for an answer. That's men's problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:51 PM
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lol. Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:38 PM
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Some are. I can't demand an abortion from my dentist or cardiologist. But an abortion provider cannot deny me without a sufficient medical reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:37 PM
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That's the textbook definition, dude. Continuing unwanted interaction after being told no. Why is "no" not enough for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:35 PM
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Your cognitive dissonance is truly impressive Anyone who wont take a simple no as an answer is a creep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:32 PM
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Literally yes. Abortion is a constitutional right, and being denied an abortion is a violation of your rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:29 PM
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I've rejected hundreds of attractive men. It's literally impossible for any woman to accept every attractive man that shows interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:28 PM
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Do you truly not see the difference between lying to random creeps on the street vs someone you're dating, or are you just playing dumb?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 05:19 PM
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Don't you think it would be better if men learn to just take "no" for a complete answer and move on? I do. But they almost never do. So I'll say whatever I need to say to end the interaction without being unnecessarily rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 04:29 PM
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Q4Women have you ever used a man for sex while disregarding their feelings? A person is only "used" if they feel used. I try to be as up front as possible in any sexual relationship. I check in often. "I'm not sure where this is going or what I want out of this, but I enjoy spending time with you", "I'm not in the market for a boyfriend right now, but I would like to continue seeing you", "I really like you and would like to take this a step further", etc. I encourage the same level of transpare…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 04:11 PM
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So, so wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 03:43 PM
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lol no I think men's resistance to basic hygiene and skin care is stupid as fuck. Grow up and exfoliate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 07:35 AM
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I've never been fat and I work out every day. It's beneficial to every aspect of my physical health and beauty, as well as my emotional and mental wellbeing. Having a sense of personal accomplishment is very attractive. Plus I can do a bunch of cool shit with my body, and I know i look great wearing any outfit or nothing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 03:55 AM
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That's because awkward, obnoxious straight dudes have little to offer compared to LGBT dudes with similar personalities. Awkard/annoying straight dudes are a dime a dozen. People who are interested in LGBT dudes have fewer options.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 03:53 AM
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If you're satisfied being out of shape, then you're fine. Just don't get butthurt that you can't attract beautiful women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 03:50 AM
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And most do
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 08:18 PM
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This is about male standards. My point is that men wanting someone "not fat" is an unreasonable standard is they are fat themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 07:38 PM
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Well then frustrated men should just stop being fat
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 05:57 PM
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Most men are fat, though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 05:56 PM
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You're projecting. Only truly desperate men take any woman who comes along. Normal men select.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 05:55 PM
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I've never committed to a guy I was sure I would break up with, if that's what you're trying to say. I have dated guys outside of my norm to see how it goes, though. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. The man I'm with now is very much my "type". That was not the case with my last boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 04:20 PM
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What's your point? That people tend to avoid obnoxious people?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 07:14 AM
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How is it different? How am I to enjoy a man for his sense of humor of he can't make me laugh? How can I enjoy a man for his creativity if he doesn't impress or inspire me? How can I enjoy a man's spontaneity if he doesn't entertain me?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 06:52 AM
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I think they're hilarious and I enjoy laughing at them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 06:50 AM
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eh, I lived there for over a decade and did just fine. I've lived and dated in Austin, Portland, San Francisco, Seattle, Phoenix, and Los Angeles. Dating is hard everywhere. You get what you give.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 04:31 PM
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Crooked teeth. Speech impediments.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 11:10 PM
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Depends on the situation. If I'm feeling that crazy, then it's probable we're just not a good match Could be something he did. Could be my own bullshit. Could be no one's fault at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/19 04:25 AM
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So it wouldn't upset or offend you to learn that your gf had been reading your texts and emails?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:58 PM
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If my suspicions were so severe that I was tempted to invade his privacy or outright accuse him, then yes I would end it. Cant have a functional relationship with that level of distrust
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 09:57 PM
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So you would be ok with your girlfriend looking through your phone and getting your passwords, right? She just wants to be sure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 05:42 PM
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Of course we understand the other way around If I suspected my SO was cheating, he wouldn't be my SO much longer. Simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 05:41 PM
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Depends on the circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 05:38 PM
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Nope. Just don't lie straight to their faces about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 02:58 PM
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The point is that normal, healthy people don't think this way. Go describe "beta bucks" to a non autistic, normal guy with a stable relationship. He will think you're crazy. Because you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 04:53 PM
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This isn't strawmanning. You made a statement and I'm pointing out how insane you sound..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 03:50 PM
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I am capable of all this and much more. As are you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 07:55 PM
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Ok so you acknowledge that the only way you'd be happy is if all your partner's exes were exactly like you And you still don't see how that's mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 07:04 PM
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Read the OP. He is only assuming that because he is comparing himself to her past partners and deciding that they are more alpha than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 05:52 PM
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So if you're with a woman and you learn her last boyfriend was taller than you, you feel emasculated?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 05:38 PM
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I just want foster children
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 05:12 PM
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Don't you understand that a fear of being "emasculated" for such a trivial situation is paranoid and neurotic? That's bordering on mentally ill
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 05:10 PM
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paranoid neurotic fear
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 03:27 AM
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No, even controlling for lower marriage rates people are divorcing less
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 12:40 AM
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Normal guys have normal relationship problems. This is not a normal relationship problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 10:51 PM
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The guys who land in TRP have either zero relationship experience, or are utter failures at relationships. They are NOT a good metric for normal men. Not by a longshot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 10:15 PM
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I think the fact that you had to use a clip from that movie as a "source" says just about everything anyone needs to know about your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 09:47 PM
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Yes. When men find out their partner is a "reformed" whore, they reevaluate the relationship. Terpers and incels desperately want to believe this is true and common. It's not. It's no coincidence that upwards of 90% of women asked report that partner count has never been brought up to them, and in the rare occasions that it does come up, it's nothing more than casual story swapping that changes nothing. It's not a normal thing to discuss. At all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 08:17 PM
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Anyone can break up with anyone for whatever reason they want. This does seem silly though, to break up what sounds like a happy and stable relationship because your SO has had partners with qualities you lack in the past. I don't see how a normal person can date without having variation in the types of partner's they choose. What would make this guy happy? If every person his girlfriend had ever gone out with was exactly like him in every way? But still, every person has the right and ability t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 07:35 PM
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Lol, no. Everyone is less happy and the greatest indicator of low happiness levels is lack of education and finances, not romance or gender. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2017/12/06/not-only-are-americans-becoming-less-happy-were-experiencing-more-pain-too/?utm_term=.db998cb03aff
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 05:37 PM
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You're taking the legal term of art too literally. "No fault" divorce means that no one is legally responsible for the end of the marriage, not that one party did nothing wrong. If we are married and you suddenly become wildly irresponsible with money and I suspect you're cheating on me, that's not something I can likely prove in court. If I threaten or enact violence against you without any witnesses or damning evidence, you cant prove that either. Both of those scenarios will almost certainly …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 05:02 PM
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Everyone is less happy now. You know there have been other eras pre feminism in which general happiness levels have bottomed out. Such as the great depression and certain war times. Sex and romance are only one factor in adult happiness and satisfaction, but the manosphere constantly overlooks the many other significant factors that effect the population's general life satisfaction. Economics is a much better metric than sex. We're only barely out of a long period of economic crisis. Our politic…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 04:56 PM
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My grandmother left her abusive husband in the 50s. It was possible, but extremely difficult. It sentenced her to a life of poverty, struggling to support her 4 children on her own. Even though she was highly educated and served in the military, it wasnt exactly easy for a woman to get a well paying job back then. Especially a divorced single mother. She literally starved. She still said it was better than remaining married to my grandfather. That's how bad he was. If she were a modern woman, sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 04:50 PM
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Depends on context. Skipping an employee get together because you think one of your coworkers might have a crush on you and people will be drinking is pretty paranoid and won't make you look good as a team player. If a coworker has feelings for me, that's his problem. I'm not going to avoid interacting with him or other coworkers because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 05:34 PM
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No. That's weird and paranoid
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 05:00 PM
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It depends on the intention behind it. There have been many times when men have been convinced I was flirting with them simply because I was friendly. Even simple things like smiling or saying hello are often misinterpreted by men as sexual interest. When I flirt intentionally, I do it for a reason. Either I want to make money (like in my bartending days) or I want to fuck them. I have never and would never try to fuck someone else while I'm in a committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 10:47 PM
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I mean, everything is for sale at the right price.... I wouldn't do it for the standard amount offered, which is a pretty good chunk of change. My room mate in college did it and it was a grueling process that had lasting effects on her that she had to seek medical treatment for even years afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 03:46 PM
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Having a good job and a pretty face doesn't exempt a person from life's struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 03:38 PM
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This idea that all men only want sex needs to die in a fire. TRP and the manosphere certainly aren't helping with that
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 05:27 AM
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Very few people in my circle are failing at dating. Just the common complaints of breakups and shitty dates. The few women I know that are having serious trouble dating have issues holding them back. Extreme shyness, trauma, health problems, addiction, too many personal problems, demanding work schedules, being hung up on an ex, etc. Just like MGTOW and similar forums, anyone complaining "where have all the good men/women gone?" are no good themselves. There's no shortage of either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 05:25 AM
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I don't mind guys trying to start random conversations with me in social settings like a party. It's super annoying when I'm just trying to work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 05:22 AM
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Depends on the event. A party? Balanced mix. The gym? All or mostly women
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 11:29 PM
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That's a perspective, not a fact I have an aunt who I have always considered the embodiment of peak femininity. She's 82 and still feminine as hell. She always looks her best, loves makeup and pretty things, is very "ladylike" in her language and mannerisms, is a charming hostess, her home is always perfectly clean and inviting, and she makes everyone around her feel doted upon. There's youthful femininity, and then there's motherly and grandmotherly femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/19 03:55 PM
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I've definitely known men with an unapproachable air that turn out to be really friendly dudes after I get to know them. I bartender for many years, and throughout that time I got good at profiling people. There were customers I could tell probably wanted/needed to talk or perhaps would appreciate some extra attention, and others who would rather I just serve them their drinks and leave them alone. There were some that would sit at my bar nearly every night, sometimes for years, that I would nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 05:14 PM
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Then why do so many men refuse to do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/19 12:44 AM
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They do pull their weight, though. Pretty much all women work and take care of children
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 10:55 PM
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Ya I dont see the point of getting my panties in a twist about some obscure, rarely visited website.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 08:44 PM
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And nearly all of those women return to work once their kids are in school. Also, are you suggesting that raising children is not supporting the man/household?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:47 PM
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For me, it's not so much about a specific amount, but how he's earning his money and how he's managing the money he has. I'd much rather be with a guy who earns less pursuing something he loves than a guy earning buckets at a job that makes him miserable. I'd rather be with a guy who's prudent and responsible with his 40K salary than one who's reckless and indulgent with his 200K. As long as he's fully self sufficient and planning for the future, it's good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:45 PM
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Most men don't support their partners, though. Almost all households are dual income. Supporting a spouse is a luxury reserved for the wealthiest families.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:41 PM
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Kinda seems like a bunch of uninteresting spam from the same 3 or 4 contributing commenters. What's special about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 06:35 PM
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Everything has become so politicized that offering any empathy or credibility to "the other side" is perceived as sleeping with the enemy. I suspect that a vast majority of men, even the most conservative men, would give a shit if they were to learn that a woman friend or family member was dealing with sexual harassment or assault. I expect most would be extremely upset. Because that's personal. It's also easier to believe someone you know. Similarly, a liberal minded person can't really get awa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:21 PM
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And there's the issue. I know it, you know it, everyone with basic critical thinking skills knows it. As far as what the average man or woman is to do about it, I really have no idea other than exposure. That's the issue with the MeToo movement. Rampantly accusing suspected scumbags certainly isnt an ideal strategy, but with no other options I dont see any other direction is could possibly go.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 04:12 PM
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I feel like I havent had to put in much effort into expressing my femininity because my natural appearance is so hyper feminine. I look exceptionally....."womanly"? Very petite with an hourglass figure, long thick hair, rosy cheeks, long eyelashes, etc. Because of that, I very rarely put on makeup or accentuate my figure further. I'd look feminine wearing a burlap sack. I think my femininity is most expressed through caregiving. I love doting over people. Making them food, gifting handmade craft…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 02:57 AM
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Ignore that garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:57 PM
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Those aren't games or strategies. That's straight up disrespect and abuse. If someone treats you like that, you dump them. Stop over analyzing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:53 PM
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I blame myself for things I have control over. My general success/failure, my choices, my attitudes and beliefs, etc. It would be moronic to blame myself for someone else's failures. Unless I'm purposefully and directly sabotaging them, I have no control over whether men (or other women, for that matter) meet their own standards for success. it's really simple Things you can control: You. Things you can't control: Everything else
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:49 PM
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Inb4 "women's standards are so unreasonable! I shouldn't have to leave my house or have any interesting qualities to find a cute gf!"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 08:09 PM
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I would not date someone who was reckless with money I also would not date someone who's frugality was so miserly that it borders on paranoia, as you've described It's not difficult to be a normal, responsible person. I also don't go out to bars and clubs. Not because I'm frugal, I just prefer doing different types of stuff for fun. A guy who's idea of fun is sitting around like a bump on a log at home all the time would make a terrible partner for me. There's lots of fun stuff to do that isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 07:49 PM
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Everyone is entitled to being shallow. They're just not entitled to results.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 07:47 PM
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That's the truth, but a lot of incel types here are trying to make a point that rejecting men for height is sexist
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 04:11 PM
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I'm not a mind reader. If the dude is acting like my friend, I will probably think we are friends. I do nice things for my friends all the time. If this ends up upsetting him because he feels lead on, it's up to him to Express himself and/or remove himself from the situation. I'm pretty sure everyone here, men and women, have mistaken kindness and friendly gestures for flirting or romantic interest. I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/19 03:06 PM
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Yes. I would want to know. She was sad, but grateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 09:19 PM
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Never knowingly. I did find out that a guy I had been seeing for about 6 months had another girlfriend. I'm not sure who between us was the "second fiddle". I did dump the guy and tell the other woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 08:57 PM
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It's hard to lie about something that no one ever asks about
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 05:00 PM
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Don't be fat. Don't eat garbage and play video games all day. Dont be a drunk or a stoner. Have goals. Moisturize. Get and stay educated. Have an active social life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 04:28 PM
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This happened once in my family, we are western and non religious. We are super tight knit. It was the general consensus that my cousin was dating a psychopath and she was causing chaos and distress in the family. We also had legitimate concern that he was being abused. It escalated into a family intervention and banning her from family events all together. This was an extreme move for our family, who has historically been very tolerant and welcoming to SOs. Mercifully, my cousin saw the light a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 03:37 AM
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Yes I'm aware. My parents were foster parents to 3, adopted 1. One of my brothers also adopted from foster care. It's a bit of a family tradition. It's quite the rollercoaster
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 03:32 AM
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No. I want to be a foster parent, but I'm not necessarily married to the idea of having biological kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 12:57 AM
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I've had a few grand gestures that were very romantic and fun. Getting surprised with a limo after work to take me to the theater, a private chef hired to make a 4 course dinner with my favorite foods, etc. But to me, the most romantic thing is an unexpected handwritten love note. I'd rather have that over any elaborate gesture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 06:18 PM
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Morals are personal, not universal. Some people hate sluts because they're jealous. Others because they think they're yucky. Others because they're religion or cultural teachings told them to. And of course plenty of people don't give a shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 03:50 PM
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That's simply not true. Deadbeat dads are not rare, but they're certainly not the majority
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 03:47 PM
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This is more appropriate coming from a father. My mom gave me tips on makeup, hair and fashion, bought me my first pushup bra, etc. It's pretty fucking weird and creepy to imagine my dad taking that role. Do you have an Oedipus/Electra complex?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 08:21 AM
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No. I have no concept of myself as a man. I like myself and my life as is. There have been specific circumstances in which I've wondered if I would be better off as a man. I'm sure that's true for some things. I expect I might feel exactly the same if I were born a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 05:57 AM
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Are y'all not discussing this with your current partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 05:56 AM
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Depends on perspective. Indulging in fantasy "the perfect woman/man" can only result in disappointment. He/she does not exist. Not for you, me, or anyone on the planet. It's a matter of defining your own priorities and going from there. Am I willing to forgo frequent camping trips with my partner for an otherwise totally fulfilling and happy relationship with someone I respect and admire? Obviously yes. Even if he did wake up one day and decide he loves the outdoors as much as I do, he still won…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 09:30 PM
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Right. But then he'll have other not so great qualities or lack qualities that I value. Because he's a human. My last boyfriend loved camping with me, but wasn't as funny or intelligent as this guy. Another boyfriend loved cooking meals for me, but he wasn't as emotionally present. Every partner on earth has flaws.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 09:14 PM
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It's not her fault he's sexist. She's just the type of person who either doesn't mind or gets off on sleeping with people she hates. People do this all the time. Doesn't make sense to me, but it's not uncommon for men or women to bang people they dont respect or even despise. I think people like that are idiots, but it's really none of my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 08:58 AM
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Depends on perspective. It's better to patch a leaky roof before the rain starts, but if it starts coming down you'd better grab a bucket.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 06:39 AM
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There's life in your balls and my ovaries this minute. So?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 05:51 AM
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So is using a condom or birth control, then. With your logic, anything less than raising a kid every time you have sex would be. Would you be satisfied only having sex 2 or 3 times in your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/19 04:50 AM
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The argument is that he found out she was pregnant after the fact, and he wanted to keep it. He did not intentionally have sex with her to impregnate her, which is what it sounded like you were suggesting. That's what OP said, not me. He said it would make no sense for him to use a condom because he wanted her to have his baby. But either way, it doesn't matter. He has no right to compell any girl or woman to have his baby for any reason. We were talking about pregnancy, not abortion or adoption…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 11:24 PM
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Biology doesn't function on democracy. Luckily. Right. But lucky us, we have critical thinking and resources. The guy doesn't have the right to have a child via this girl. "Via this girl." What do you mean by that? You think he was just using this girl to get a baby? Your argument is that she shouldn't have terminated because this guy wanted her to have his baby. My response is who fucking cares? He doesn't have the right to dictate which girl/women has his child. He should go find someone willi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 08:57 PM
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That is correct, but only if you are placing all of your faith into their use. Adoption should go without saying. You believe that sex should always result in a baby. Most people disagree. If the guy wanted his child, why would he use a condom? That's basically what you said in the previous response. I'm not sure if the article said he used a condom or not, but women act as though there is no contraception for women. It's "Mr. Responsibility's" fault if no protection is used at all. Even for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 08:34 PM
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No, it really isn't. It is dodging responsibility. If someone is being paid to get rid of a "problem" you have, that you've created, you are not being responsible for it. They are. That's all that abortion is: placing responsibility onto the doctor to remove or eliminate your problem for you. Thinking of it as "taking responsibility" is a defense mechanism. By that logic, condoms, birth control, and adoption are also "avoiding responsibility". If that guy was so hell bent on no abortion, he shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 08:13 PM
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Having an abortion is taking responsibility. If that guy was so hell bent on no abortion, he should have used a condom when he was fucking a 16 year old. I think that should go without saying. They were both reckless during the act, and then the responsibility lies with the woman (or in this case, girl) after the deed is done. She took responsibility by choosing abortion. If an abortion is worst case scenario for a dude, then he should either be diligent about protection or stick with partners w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 07:52 PM
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Acknowledge them, but don't indulge them Sure, I wish my boyfriend enjoyed camping as much as I do. But he doesn't. I can either accept that reality, or focus on the lack of camping with my partner until I create a resentment. Resenting him for being a bit indoorsy isn't going to make him outdoorsy. And in the long run, it damages my otherwise happy relationship. It's a pointless exercise. Best to accept what is and work with that. Solo camping with my dog or hiking out with a few friends will h…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 05:15 PM
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Men are sensitive to rejection in general. Hence, the entire basis of the "manosphere"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 04:58 PM
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Oh believe me, they care about getting nexted by their casual hookups too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 04:53 PM
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The terpers here who think men don't care about getting dumped crack me up. Believe me. They care. A lot. It ruins them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 04:27 PM
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Apparently you've missed the millions of posts on reddit from sad, rejected men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 10:23 AM
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Until the women get bored with them and dump them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 10:15 AM
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I mean it depends on the situation. Maybe the guy I really like is fresh out of a breakup and I want to give it some time. Maybe I'm not sure yet if he's interested. Maybe there are social reasons to be extra cautious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 07:49 AM
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Depends on the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 05:12 AM
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Women give up sex right away to men they don't respect or want to date. That way, it's easy to drop them when we get bored. They are used for sex and entertainment, nothing more. So from a woman's perspective, making the move into sex a little slower is her best. But women's reasons for doing this are actually very simple. It works. If men want women to give it up easier, they should question themselves as to why they so readily dismiss the women that do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/19 02:49 AM
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Seven. Average size. But the rest of me is not average size.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 08:16 PM
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Almost! I measure between 4'10 and 4'11 depending on the day. I usually just say "just under 5 feet" Very petite in every measurement except my boobs and feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 06:31 PM
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I'm not uploading any selfies, but I have been told many, many times that I look a bit like Katy Perry. I can see the resemblance in body shape, although I am shorter and smaller in every measurement. Similar proportions, though. Take Katy at her thinnest and chop about 7 inches of her height and we're in the ballpark. I do not think I favor her in the face. I am more round and babyfaced than she. My eyes are dark green, not bright blue. My skin is significantly darker/deep olive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 06:27 PM
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As my grandma used to say, "Honey you can wish in one hand and shit in the other. See which one fills up faster" I don't indulge in fantasy. I do my best to stay in the present, not dragging past hangups and hurts into it. I appreciate what's good and walk away from what isnt. I do my best to asses each individual relationship on it's own, as it is. What good is it to focus on what isn't? Should I focus on the fact that my boyfriend rarely wants to go camping with me over the fact that he is a k…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 06:18 PM
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There's a difference between fantasies and dreams. Imagining opening your own business is a dream. Imagining winning the mega millions and never working again is a fantasy. Best to focus on dreams, not fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 06:12 PM
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A few dates/weeks? Not a problem Months or longer? Bye It's pointless to compare yourself to past partners. Maybe rushing sex harmed his last relationship. Maybe he felt pressured by his last partner into sex too soon and is trying to avoid that. Maybe his past few relationships haven't gone so well and he's trying to do things a little differently. None of my business. I just see what an individual guy has to offer me and make a decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 06:02 PM
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But the things you listed cover most of the cases of rape. No they dont. Not at all. Maybe being raped by a friend does not look so terrible. Depends on the circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 10:32 AM
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I didn't say that, you did. The point being: is murder worse that rape? Maybe!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 10:17 AM
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Again, it depends. You're trying to make this an absolute thing, and it's not. Some people would legitimately rather die than break up with a boyfriend/girlfriend. Some people would rather die than reveal an embarrassing secret that you might think is no big deal. Some people would simply rather die than be alive. There are fates worse than death, but they're different for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 09:49 AM
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It depends. Raped by my dad or brother? Rather die. Raped in a society where women are punished for being raped? Rather die. Forced to give birth to a rapists baby? Rather die. Raped outside my home in my current circumstances, with my current support system, without any life threatening or disabling injuries? Rather raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 03:02 AM
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Even though most people agree that murder is worse, there's no "correct" answer here. For example, I'd rather die than ne held captive in terrible conditions for 20 years. I'd rather die than be tortured for a long period of time. So, is being held captive or tortured worse than murder? Depends on perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 12:51 AM
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No time for men with low self esteem. People with low self esteem make shitty partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 12:37 AM
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There's simply no demand for it. If there were, they would be everywhere. It's not a conspiracy against men, it's a market reaction. Staright men want to be at the gym with women. Men's only spaces get dominated by gay guys because straight guys don't want to be hit on while they are trying to work out. A bunch of my guy friends go to a men's only spa around my area. But these are guys who are either gay or don't mind being hit on by gay men. An average straight guy is likely not going to be int…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 11:04 PM
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Three pop up in my city. Looks like at least two of them are boxing gyms. There's not as many men's gyms because theres not as many men who want them. Men dont want to go to the gym if they can't hit on women. Women want to go to gyms where they wont get hit on. supply and demand. You know who loves men's only spaces? Gay guys. Not a coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 07:03 PM
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You're not dumb. It took me years to figure that out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 06:59 PM
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Seems like you're overthinking this a bit from women's perspective. We do this because it works. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 06:34 PM
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This would be an issue better asked of men, not women. Why this strategy works almost every time, I cant say for sure. I'm not a man. I have some educated guesses, but I cant tell you what's going on with them consciously or subconsciously to make this the most effective strategy available for women. I'm sure you've heard older women giving this same advice your whole life, too. It's universal wisdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 06:08 PM
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It would be less bewildering if there weren't umpteen bajillion different, contradictory, and oftentimes hypocritical cultural signals essentially stating that men should do this or shouldn't do that. Men didn't do that - some individual men have, and even those men that have, weren't platformed by huge media institutions or cultural narratives. Most of us pointed at those men and laughed, and then went on with our daily fucking lives. Team women, on the other hand, regularly goes out of their w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 06:04 PM
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If you want to keep a man, sleeping with him on the first date is generally not a good plan. Men want to commit to a woman who is a prize, someone that the had to work for. It's almost universal. Holding off on sex for awhile isn't about me and my desire to fuck, it's about creating the outcome I want. It's similar to the strategy of demanding "real dates". When I was younger, I thought "real dates" were stupid and unnecessary. I would rather casually hang and see what happens. Experience has sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 05:53 PM
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They exist, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 05:35 PM
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Theres a mens only gym like 60 yards from my apartment. The coed gym I used to go to had optional men's and women's classes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 05:35 PM
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I've made lots of friends at the gym as well. Just not with dudes who interrupt my workout or follow me around trying to hit on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 05:34 PM
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Why is it so bewildering to you that different women have different preferences on when and how they are approached? Are you expecting someone to give you a foolproof step by step? Some women likely do enjoy being hit on or followed around at the gym. Most do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 05:32 PM
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Why wouldn't it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 07:14 AM
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If you shop smart, in season fresh food does not cost more than standard fruits and veggies. You can pay more, but you dont need to
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 02:08 AM
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My responses aren't so much for you, but for the people who have bought into the myth that healthy eating needs to cost a lot of money. It doesn't. Some people choose to overpay for their own reasons, but anyone can eat healthy and organic on a budget. A lot of people hang on to the idea that more expensive = healthier when it comes to fresh food. Its total BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 01:57 AM
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I don't know about other women, but the gym is like the second worst place to try to hit on me, right behind the train/subway. I hate being puppydogged around when I'm just trying to get my workout done. I started going to a women's gym and I'm much happier for it. You have the right idea. People usually dont go to the gym to chitchat and make friends. It's best to limit approaches to social situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 01:48 AM
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If you're spending 20 dollars a day on organic food, you're either majorly overeating or getting ripped off. I live in the second most expensive city in the US and have been eating organic vegan for 15 years. I know how much it costs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 01:40 AM
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I absolutely cannot relax in a dirty, disorganized, or cluttered room. It doesn't matter if I'm injured, sick, or very busy. I'm cleaning. My house is always clean, organized, and smelling good. I will prioritize it over everything. Messy house, messy mind. I'm not bothered by clutter or mess in other people's homes, so long as it isn't smelly or gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 11:06 PM
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Whatever diet you've bought in to, you're getting ripped off
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 06:35 PM
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Learn context
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 05:09 AM
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Did you read OPs post?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 01:27 AM
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It's arbitrary because it's immeasurable and inconsistent. Some gal is going to think it's very attractive that a guy is in a rock band, whereas another equally valuable woman will consider it a "hell no" dealbreaker. So, does being in a rock band make a guy desirable and worthy? Yes! also, No!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 09:57 PM
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They're in poverty largely because the father isn't around. Obviously. Does anyone really need to explain that two incomes are better than one?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 08:53 PM
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Dudes on this sub are so wrapped up in this arbitrary idea of superiority. If I make more money than my boyfriend, but he's more attractive, who's superior? If I'm in better shape than my partner, but he's more intelligent, who's superior? If he's more educated, but I'm more highly paid, who's superior? If he is more successful, but I have a greater level of status and reputation, who's superior? I've never in my life met a person who isnt "better" than me in some way. I've never met a person wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 07:50 PM
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Luckily my SO isn't a neurotic spaz. So we're all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 07:43 PM
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What a ridiculously autistic over analysis. Sure, some teenagers are awesome compared to other teenagers Normal adults don't give a fuck who you were when you were 15. And they shouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 07:43 PM
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I have that problem too, sometimes. Journaling has helped me a lot with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 06:19 PM
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This is not complicated. You are trying to argue with me by agreeing with me. I said that I don't care if a dude was a loser in high school, because everyone is cringey in high school and it's silly to compare their adult self to their teenage self.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 06:10 PM
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Are you lost? Read my original comment
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 05:48 PM
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why are you marrying her (or anyone at all) if you're convinced you'll be cheated on?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 05:37 PM
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Right. So why would I care if my boyfriend now was a weirdo in high school?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 05:08 PM
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Very few 20 year old women have any interest in 40 year old dudes. Women that age want fun boyfriends, not daddies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 04:40 PM
3

I just went to my friends house and made him dinner because he's having an unbelievably shitty week. You consider that cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 04:22 PM
3

Age gap relationships like that are exceptionally rare. Sure, some older women enjoy fucking super young dudes, but they are a tiny minority. Insignificant, really. And believe me, there is no shortage of young men who want to hook up with older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 04:19 PM
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It's just too nuanced and variable to pin down. Given obesity rates, the average 22 year old guy or gal is not attractive in the traditional sense. A fit, stylish, attractive 37 year old will have an easier time finding an attractive partner than an overweight and/or poorly styled 21 year old. Women want to date men their age or older, so no 37 year old is crying because some ripped college dude isnt in to her. My options are better now than they were in my early twenties, because I'm better now…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 07:44 AM
4

I was one of those kids. I still sucked though, because teenagers have mush for brains.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 06:52 AM
1

Depends on what kind of loser. If he has a history of violence, he can fuck off forever no matter how "reformed" he claims to be. But like a nerd in high school? Who cares? Everyone sucks in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 04:46 AM
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This is a discussion sub, my dude. If you dont want people commenting on your insane ideas, dont post here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 11:43 PM
5

If you're single, no problem. Otherwise this looks sheisty. I wouldn't care for it. That's insane. My dude friend just had surgery and I've been driving him all over the place for like two weeks now. I've also been making him meals and helping him around the house when he needs it. Anyone who thinks that's inappropriate because we both have SOs has no idea what friendship is. I'm doing it because he needs the help and I know that he would do it for me if I ever needed it. That's what friends do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 11:25 PM
1

I decide if I want to give it a chance before sex, but I would NEVER commit before having sex at least half a dozen times.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 11:20 PM
2

Normal people don't behave like this guy. He's allowed to make himself look foolish, the rest of us are free to mock him. I'm sure if I were to ever say anything similar to what this guy did I would be rightly criticized and mocked. I would deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 06:01 PM
1

No. There's still a sense of freedom with an LTR. Both parties are aware that they can walk out whenever they want. A sense of freedom is just as important as an action of freedom. That's why I haven't ever married. I get a greater level of satisfaction knowing that my SO and I are together because we want to be, not because we're avoiding a painful, complex, and expensive divorce. I do understand the appeal of marriage, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 04:53 PM
2

Dude. This is a discussion sub. I was asked a question and I answered it. He asked what the ladies thought about this dude, and the answer is most of us think he's a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 04:35 PM
2

Everyone has thoughts and opinions about any number of things. Most of us know when to share our opinions and when to keep it to ourselves. Arrogant losers think EVERYONE needs to know their opinion. I think my colleague has a stupid hairstyle. I'm not going to go tell him that. Because my opinion on his hair is irrelevant. Just as this loser's opinion is irrelevant and useless to pretty much everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 05:19 AM
1

There is a small side if average, just as there is a large side of average. What's confusing to you about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 05:16 AM
1

So?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 04:10 AM
3

Of course I do. I'm just not so arrogant and insecure as to create a list of demands. I simply evaluate the individual and make a decision. Like a normal person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 01:08 AM
5

Walks like a failure, talks like a failure.....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 11:55 PM
4

It's almost as though most people who behave like losers are indeed losers. Who'd have thought??
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 11:32 PM
2

Fat fetishes are super common. There are thousands of fat women online who get paid to eat on camera in skimpy clothing by chubby chasers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 11:19 PM
9

When was the last time you saw a genuinely attractive guy with something to offer a woman making a list of demands? This guy is clearly loser. Unattractive, poorly styled, entitled, not masculine, whiney, convicted felon. No one gives a shit what he has to say. Why would any woman listen to a failed man?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 11:14 PM
2

Ha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:05 PM
3

If he sucks, quickly If he doesn't suck, indefinitely
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 10:01 PM
4

That's not what semantics means
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 06:48 PM
3

They perform when they feel like it, for men who they think deserve it. No one's going to feel inspired to perform for a guy like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 05:47 PM
3

"On the small side" is still average. No woman can reasonably tell the difference between 4.5 and 5. Penis size is really only noticeable in the extremes. I have seen a lot of dicks, and I would consider like 90% of them to be in average range.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 05:29 PM
2

Average is best, in my opinion. I've only been with one guy who was significantly smaller than normal. It wasn't ideal, but he made it work and it wasn't an issue. I did dump a dude about a month into our relationship because his dick was WAY too big. Like monstrous. After many attempts, creative strategies, and simply biting the bullet it became clear that there was no way I could comfortably have sex with him. Too bad, he was really sweet. I only know one woman who is a size queen, and she app…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 05:25 PM
3

It's not other people's job to improve you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 05:18 PM
8

We know what men like. We just don't care. A woman can be nothing on that list and still do just fine. To assume a woman needs to conform to some list of demands to find love is arrogant and stupid. Women tend to do what makes them happy rather than perform to make "men" happy. Men should do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 05:13 PM
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Classic /r/choosingbeggars I'm gonna go out of a limb and say that women don't give a flying fuck what this guy wants, and he's making himself look foolish be being so demanding. Guy is obviously a loser and no one should listen to him
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 05:09 PM
3

No one can give you a manual. This is stuff you have to figure out on your own through work and self examination.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 04:27 PM
9

Do your best to not take it personally by acknowledging that dating is hard, period. The odds of finding someone you are attracted to, who is attracted to you, that is generally compatible, lives near you, in your age range, and single are tough for everyone. Pretty much every person faces a good amount of rejection, bad choices, and failed relationships before finding a suitable partner. If you're dating a lot or talking to a lot of people on dating sites, you're bound to encounter assholes. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 09:22 AM
1

Whatever that particular relationship calls for to be the happiest and healthiest. Providing attention, time, acts of service, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 08:44 AM
1

Denial about what?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 08:42 AM
3

So dramatic! I used those two qualities as examples, not literal statements. Literally everyone has some strengths and some weaknesses. Maybe you're great at math, but a terrible house keeper. Maybe you're an interesting conversationalist, but you are very forgetful with appointments. Maybe you're a great cook, but you suck at small talk. Instead of trying to force yourself to stop sucking at what you naturally suck at, try to capitalize on what you can do. If you are a great cook who sucks at s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 07:10 AM
3

"How to improve" depends entirely on the individual and their unique limitations
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 04:46 AM
9

Thanks for beautifully demonstrating the blind denial that naive men hang on to! you live in fantasy. Unable to face the truth
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 08:14 PM
1

"If you care about me, you will do this thing you don't want to do" Literally textbook partner abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 08:13 PM
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Not really. No matter how fucked up a person is, they certainly have at least a few good qualities. Best to capitalize on what you have instead of trying to force something that isn't. Masquerading isn't sustainable. If you're great with technology but bad with people, it makes sense to pursue a career where you can work with computers rather than try to force yourself to be a bartender or caregiver, and vice versa. The same applies to interpersonal relationships. Recognize your attributes and l…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:45 PM
3

Pro tip for women attracted to children? What does your common sense tell you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:40 PM
5

It would be funny if it weren't so pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 05:57 PM
13

It's not. Your naivety is preventing you from observing and acknowledging reality. You have bought into fantasy thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 05:18 PM
1

Coercing someone into a sex act they are not comfortable with is abuse, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 05:08 PM
17

ya, 9 year old girls love it when attractive men try to abduct them. What a moronic statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 04:36 PM
5

I'm not surprised one little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 04:35 PM
1

So if she let's you be abusive, you will let her abuse you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 04:35 PM
3

Obviously. And a lot of those minors are young girls as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 04:34 PM
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We're talking about sexual assault. The general attitude is "bad things happen to men. Therefore, bad things don't happen to women." I'm pointing out the ignorance and childlike naivete involved in that narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 09:01 AM
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I grew up in a middle class white neighborhood in Portland, OR. Nice try tho. This is the male naivety I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:56 AM
14

I was comparing experience of a boy and a girl from same family. My sister never gotten beaten once. I have never seen a single bruise on her. ok your parents are shitty. This proves nothing. My nose was broken due to my face smashed on pavement. It happened when I was 10 years old. Ok. I got my eye socket shattered by an adult when I was 8. And? I doubt any woman was grabbed by pussy. If it happened I doubt they got kicked on it. LOLOLOLOLOL This. This is the blind naivete I'm talking about. Yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:26 AM
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Pro tip for men, then. If you find yourself attracted to a 12 year old, keep it to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:09 AM
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I do know very unpleasant experience like being bullied by cousins from age 5 including my sister, watching a girl getting a easy way because of gender. Being beaten in school for advancing way early than others. I highly doubt you have been beaten so bad that your nose factured or you have gotten a head injury. You'd be completely wrong. How does a shattered eye socket sound? Bruised ribs? I had my face smashed into the pavement during a random assault at a bus stop 3 years ago. The dude who tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:04 AM
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Naive. Exactly the point I'm making. You are unaware of unpleasant realities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 06:42 AM
12

What does that have to do with anything I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 06:39 AM
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There are no surprises on red pill. There's a reason women are more aware of harsh realities than men. Boys have to seek out hard truths, but hard truths come to girls. It's very difficult if not impossible to hang on to a silly prince Charming narrative when you've been cat called, followed, propositioned, harassed, touched without permission, etc since girlhood. Girls discover the truth the day they grow tits. I was 9 years old the first time a guy called me hot and tried to force me into his …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 05:11 AM
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No. I would dump a guy if he weren't affectionate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 11:06 PM
2

Horeshit. You know just as well as I do that if a sex act you didn't enjoy ripped your asshole and left you bleeding that you would not want to do it again. There's a word for the type of partner who would coerce you into hurting yourself for their selfish gain. Abusive. And honestly, how much of a doormat must you be to agree to that? Have some boundaries, man. No one likes a pushover. Unless you have a kink for humiliation and dominance, which is a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 05:46 PM
1

Are you a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 07:50 AM
2

What if you tried it and it injured you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 07:50 AM
8

Men don't just run around buying stuff for random women. Are you asking if my friends and associates stopped being courteous or doing favors once they found out I'm not single, then no.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 04:17 AM
1

There's a world of difference between normal aging skin and flab
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 04:15 AM
2

So if your girlfriend wanted to shove a ten inch dildo up your ass, you would do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 04:14 AM
1

50+ years of dedication to diet and athletics is not genetics or luck. It's hard work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 12:52 AM
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Depends on context. Was he deployed overseas? Was he drunk in Amsterdam in college and decided "when in rome"? Not a big deal to me. If he's cruising red light districts or craigslist, then I will think he's pathetic and undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 10:26 PM
2

There's no shortage of undesirables and losers, either. If that's what you're getting at.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 10:23 PM
2

Yes I did. I have only dated a handful of them because it is impossible to date them all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 07:39 PM
2

How would you expect her to know whether or not she enjoyed something without trying it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 07:38 PM
7

I live in LA. Handsome, fit, successful men are a dime a dozen out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 06:08 PM
12

You're assuming that the only reason to reject a guy is because he's low quality. I've rejected many high quality guys because I was in a committed relationship already, because they lived too far away, because they weren't single, etc. I can only date one at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 06:07 PM
1

oh yes it is. I have had tons of younger guys actively pursuing me since I was in my late twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 06:00 PM
2

Many thousands. And?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:59 PM
4

So "her best"= willingness to endure discomfort for your selfish benefit
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:59 PM
2

Anal is painful for a lot of people. Why would you want your partner to engage in something they don't like and is perhaps physically painful? To stroke your ego?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:50 PM
2

yep
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:49 PM
5

That's essentially what you're saying, though. If she tried a sex act with an ex and realized she didn't like it and doesn't want to do it again, you take it personally as though she's depriving you of something. Why would you want your partner to engage in something they already know they dont enjoy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:49 PM
10

High quality guys are not rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:21 PM
0

I think you'd be surprised at how many 21 year old dudes actively seek out women 35 and up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:13 PM
2

You don't see the difference between "my ex didn't like the flowers I bought her" vs "I tried that sex act and it really hurt my body so I don't want to do it again"?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:12 PM
3

So your partner's comfort, safety, and enjoyment during sex doesn't factor in at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:11 PM
1

If I weren't giving my best, it would be because I'm not satisfied in the relationship for some reason. I am satisfied, so that's not a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 05:09 PM
12

Most women don't prefer significantly older men, either. It's just not uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 03:27 AM
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I dunno. I'm 35 and can tell you that a lot of young guys have a thing for older women. Very common, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 02:09 AM
1

When was the last time you saw your mom without clothes on? Well, we work out together regularly, usually in our sports bras, and she goes swimming every morning so I see her in her bathing suit all the time. I'm her daughter, we change clothes in front of each other all the time. Her abs are toned as fuck. The lady doesn't even have any visible stretch marks. She's an outlier, sure. But to claim that returning to a toned figure after childbirth is impossible is simply wrong. People have differe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 06:19 PM
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Well I can't speak for other women, but that's certainly how it usually works for me. By the time a breakup rolls around, I've been thinking about it and usually trying to talk myself out of it for months. The exception would be a major transgression on his part, such as cheating or a violent drunken outburst, both of which happened to me without forewarning and resulted in immediate breakup. In both of those breakups, I felt dumped even though I was the one that ended it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 05:52 PM
2

Yes and I regretted it. Granted, I can't think of a worse time for me to have begun a relationship. Shit was super fucked. It was awful because the dude was such a catch. I didn't ask him to wait for me because that's fucked up, but I really needed some time. Anyway he ended up with someone else and when I was ready to date I did too. I still think we got cheated out of a good thing. I know he feels the same way. He's single now, but I'm not and I moved 2000 miles away from him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 06:40 AM
1

Agreed. My mother had 5 children, including twins. She is 65 this year and is still completely toned and slim. Because she has always prioritized diet and exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 12:22 AM
0

To me, expecting things does not mean you are acting like you deserve that thing. I would not say a woman expecting sex from her husband on Valentines Day to be acting "entitled." Nor would I consider her "entitled" if she became agitated that her husband rubbed one out after Valentines Day dinner instead of seducing her. How she feels about it is irrelevant to your question. She is not entitled to sex, period. Not even from her partner, not even on valentine's day. If she feels entitled, that's…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 10:51 PM
1

Or, in my case, not knowing I was pregnant until I was at the point where I needed surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 06:28 PM
3

i had an abortion and didnt give a flying fuck about it, have any feelings about it but relief and have no regrets and never did Other than the physical pain (which not all women experience), I felt similarly. I didn't like that I had to do it. It was massively inconvenient and a significant financial burden for me at the time, but I had exactly zero regrets and had total confidence that I did the right thing. Still not something I'd like to do again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 06:25 PM
3

This might be a bit of a nonsequiter but has anyone noticed that a lot more dudes seem into astrology these days? I expect it from teens and young adults, but it really seems like a lot more grown men buy into this stuff these days. I do live in LA, which likely skews my perspective, but it seems entirely mainstream now. I don't think I knew a single dude into astrology in my twenties, now I hear about it all the time. More related to your question, I think Male and female superstitions are dist…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 06:26 PM
3

Like, morally wrong? No. But she's definitely going to leave you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 05:26 PM
4

But if they weren't successful actors, Jason Mamoa would get the poon, not Jon Snow. Delusional. Kit Harrington is one of the most attractive men I've ever seen, Jon Snow or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 08:39 AM
4

DiCaprio was pretty when he was a kid. Young girls like young boys, and that was his demographic when he became famous. "Teenage heartthrobs" are meant to appeal to teen girls, not grown women. He is exceptionally masculine as a grown man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 08:37 AM
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It depends on the situation. I got dumped years ago for being too distant. I was hurt at the time, but in retrospect can definitely understand why he felt that way. There was another relationship in which I stayed waaay too long, and I believe leaving when I first realized it wasnt working would have saved us both a lot of time and pain. I only have one failed relationship that I fully blame on the dude. Things were super good, and then he got drunk and banged his ex. I dumped him, and he spent …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 08:29 AM
2

I think what really got him is that she laughed in his face about it. Honestly, I would have too. It's pretty insane to believe that any woman over 30 would want to date you after you've declared that women over 30 aren't good enough for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 07:48 PM
9

We all tend to judge other people's actions and reactions based how how we choose to act/react in similar situations. For me, this means I can often project intention on others that simply isnt there, because what they're doing/saying doesn't make sense to me otherwise. The truth is that there are countless factors at play that cannot be known. This creates nuance. For example, some years ago I briefly dated a guy I thought was really great. Everything was going very well, and then he dumped me …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 05:06 PM
3

Well we dont choose who we fall in love with. Which is why it's stupid to create arbitrary boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 04:57 PM
2

She is now single, and was interested in dating him until she learned about his under 30 standard. Now she thinks he's ridiculous and is pursuing her other options
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 04:56 PM
2

She wasn't single, but she was definitely interested
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 04:04 PM
3

I think his main problem is just being a fucking weirdo with misplaced resentments against women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 12:53 AM
8

I have an acquaintance who has straight up told me he's red pilled. He's a very handsome guy, but has loads of trauma and emotional baggage which has seriously affected his ability to connect with others and successfully date. He's a very black and white thinker, so he takes pretty much everything from TRP at face value as gospel truth. There have been some notable improvements, mostly him seeming less insecure and approval seeking and more stoic outwardly (in his head is a completely different …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 11:39 PM
3

Tons of potential factors at play here. Overconsumption of hormone treated animal products, obesity, sedentary lifestyles, poor nutrition, lack of natural sunlight, industrial toxins, high rates of prescription drug use, natural evolutionary patterns, etc. But good luck convincing these dudes that it's anything other than feminism
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 05:41 PM
7

Too bad there's so much disinformation about plant based diets. A lot of the manosphere believes that soy and other vegetarian proteins actually feminize men (they don't).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 05:36 PM
1

Public transportation is the most common place I get approached, whether I have headphones in or not. I live in LA, though
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 08:30 AM
1

Women lose sexual attraction Only if the dude is useless Don't date or be a useless dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 06:43 AM
1

I'm even shorter than you and also have baby face. I have always been approached a lot. Some women have "resting bitch face", and I'm pretty sure I have "resting please talk to me face". I have no idea how to remedy that. Your vibe probably has a lot to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 06:40 AM
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I'm not sure why you believe you'd even be aware of "cold approaches" happening around you that don't involve you. It's just two people talking. But to answer your question, they happen pretty frequently. At least 3 times a week for me. This will vary on where a woman lives, how much she goes out, what she looks like, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 01:25 AM
1

They used to have these events at a bar I worked at. There were a surprising amount of attractive and interesting people there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 08:12 AM
2

That's really all they're good for. It blows my mind that so many men here take them seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 08:01 AM
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Their "audience" is people dumb enough to fall for the bait and read the article. Like OP. The only people who are claiming that men should be attending are the people who stand to make money from them. No one else gives a shit (except OP)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 05:15 AM
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Why are dudes here so into tabloids and pop "news"? No, men are not obligated to attend random dating events. Fucking obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 03:50 AM
2

I get asked for a date/my number by strangers on the street at least 3 times a week. Wolf whistle/cat calls pretty much everyday. I am approached by men who know me rarely when I have a boyfriend, and almost constantly when I'm single. I don't do online dating and I've never had a social media profile that wasn't private for friends and family only, so online approaches are rare. Maybe once a month. I have lived mostly in large coastal cities
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 01:33 AM
2

I'm sure they're all very interested in your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 11:47 PM
4

Not according to the men that want them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 10:08 PM
6

Then your standards are too high compared to what you have to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 07:47 PM
5

If they find partners that meet their standards, then their standards are not too high. Simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 07:12 PM
2

OP is clearly not red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 07:08 PM
4

Well then my life is suboptimal because I wasn't born to rich parents. Better spend my time whining about having to work for a living.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 07:05 PM
6

"Allowed"? lol. A little dramatic don't ya think? Everyone is free to set their standards high. Just dont complain when you don't meet your own unrealistic expectations. Why are you so special?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 07:00 PM
3

It's good enough for most people, but not incel types.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 06:59 PM
3

Then we're slipping back in to the assertion that normal sex with normal people isn't good enough for normal dudes, and that they are oppressed if they don't have loads of casual sex with super hot babes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 06:52 PM
6

Their girlfriends obviously do. Popular funny dudes are rarely single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 06:51 PM
10

You've never met a fat funny man who's popular because he cracks everyone up? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 05:38 PM
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Holding oneself accountable for personal ethical and moral boundaries is judgmental to you? Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 06:52 PM
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Because I'm not a piece of shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 06:46 PM
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I've never cheated, but I've almost cheated a few times and it was always because I didn't feel like I was getting enough sex. Never jumped from one guy to another.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 05:48 PM
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Na. Some people just have a greater need for personal space than others. I love my boyfriend to bits, but I still need time completely away from him and I don't want him to text me all day every day. I don't want that much attention from anybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/19 08:34 AM
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The dudes here are totally delusional about this subject. I've never been asked either, although it has come up once or twice in casual story swapping in established relationships. Didn't change anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 11:25 PM
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I dunno, I've never felt the need to downplay or lie about it. It hasn't been an issue for me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 11:19 PM
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That 90% of men aren't "perfectly fine"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 05:57 PM
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Every woman on earth, ya dingus
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 05:56 PM
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Pretty much all women marry within their general income bracket and education level
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 05:15 PM
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Depression isn't categorized as a serious mental illness unless it is severe MDD That's why I differentiated it from severe mental illnesses About 20% of adult men have some sort of physical or mental disability. Source? That sounds way too high. Census is actually about 19% https://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/miscellaneous/cb12-134.html
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 08:41 AM
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10% of American men have clinical depression. That doesn't include men with more rare and more serious mental illnesses, nor does it include men with autism. About 20% of adult men have some sort of physical or mental disability.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 08:32 AM
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Delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 08:28 AM
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If you dont think following women around begging for phone numbers, making sexual comments, or asking for dates is an approach then I dont know what to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 06:27 AM
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You're overthinking. There's no way to know right now what she's thinking and feeling. Maybe she's tired. Maybe she thought you were a bad kisser. Maybe she's busy or distracted. Maybe something else turned her off. Maybe she doesn't think her texts are coming across "dry" at all. Just wait and see.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 04:20 AM
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I have decades of experience in bars and clubs. I don't hang out in those places any more That's what happens when you grow up
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 04:17 AM
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I was 15 almost 16. The dude was 16 and one grade above me. No idea about the other girls in my class. High school was a long time ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 04:11 AM
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It's the most common approach method. Look around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 01:37 AM
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I'm sorry that pointing out the absurdity of your commentary is upsetting to you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 01:36 AM
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I've met a fuckton of Japanese people throughout my life. Let me tell you what it's like living in Japan
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 12:27 AM
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you don't have any experience. You have no idea what women deal with. You are not a woman. You sound like someone who's never been to Japan sharing their experience of Japan like it's equal to someone who lives there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 12:10 AM
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I have been to thousands of such meetings. One of the core tenants of sharing is that there's nothing wrong with drugs and alchohol, there's a problem with you and your relationship to drugs and alchohol. Literally the opposite of what MGTOW is about, which tells dudes that their failures are not their fault and its women, other men, the system, etc to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 12:09 AM
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Most of my experience is in bars and clubs. Guys will be asked to leave if they’re following women around or sticking around after being told to go away You don't have any relative experience. You're a dude. I don't drink so I'm not hanging around in bars in clubs. Most approaches are on the train, on the street, or going about my day at the grocery store or coffee shop, etc. Or white knights will jump in Lol. Absolute fantasy. Maybe if the dude gets physical. What sort of environment are you re…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 12:05 AM
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Western woman
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 11:53 PM
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You're in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 10:16 PM
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90% of cold approaches are dudes following women around. Cold approaches are no different than bums asking for spare change.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 10:03 PM
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Women who enjoy being catcalled and followed around by strange men are about as common as people who love it when bums follow them around to beg for change. Not just uncommon, exceptionally rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 07:23 PM
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Maximize her beauty and status. Get educated, stay in shape. Some men here believe that a woman just needs to be not fat and not crazy to get a keep a high quality man, but there's more to it than that. Almost everyone marries within their same general income bracket and education level. If a woman desires a wealthy husband, she should get her ass to grad school and become wealthy herself. Mirroring qualities you look for in a partner is the best strategy for anyone. Want an honest partner? Be h…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 06:04 PM
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Women have no choice but to reject the vast majority of men who approach
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 05:26 PM
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That's pretty much exactly what I said. I don't like traffic jams, but I need to get from A to B, so I just need to deal with it. I don't enjoy taking the trash out, but being alive produces a bunch of garbage so I just do it. I don't like having to reject tons of men, but I must do it because I was born a woman and I'd like to leave my house. If someone said to you "Man you wouldn't believe the traffic on my way here! It took me twice as long as normal to get to work!", would you consider that …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 05:24 PM
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Fat and unattractive women have to deal with unwanted attention and street harassment too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 05:18 PM
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Theres a few dudes on here larping as women who claim to never get cat called, hit on, harassed, or hit on in the streets, but a vast majority of women here do agree that street pickups are both very common and super undesirable. The men who believe women are generally flattered by random advances don't want to believe how common and gross it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 10:37 AM
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The "women" here who claim they never get approached or love being approached are almost certainly not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 10:29 AM
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The train, the street, the grocery store, the bank, out at shows, the coffee shop, work...... Extremely rare on social media. I've never had any social media profiles that are publicly visible to anyone but friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 10:20 AM
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Rejecting advances from men is not an accomplishment, it's a daily chore and a necessity of womanhood. We must express disinterest constantly, sometimes subtly and sometimes overtly. It is an unpleasant but mandatory reality. What men may perceive as boasting or overemphasis is just women sharing extremely common daily experiences. I talk about rejecting men the same way I talk about traffic jams, work stress, pain in my back, or daily chores. Shit I don't like but have to handle no matter what.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 08:53 AM
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lol. Sure. You seem like a genius. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 11:56 PM
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The big stuff hasn't changed. I've always preferred kind hearted, sweet, quiet creative types. The details around that have changed as I've learned. I used to not mind if the guy was a stoner, for example. Now it's a dealbreaker. Things like career and family plans don't seem important in your late teens and early twenties, but become more and more relevant as time goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 11:52 PM
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There is criteria that must be met. Determined by a medical doctor. One that went to medical school. Not angry virgins on reddit who get their feelings hurt by the existence of birth control. You're not going to convince me or anyone here that you know better than doctors. Quit trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 11:30 PM
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When it arises to the point of being a medical condition, yes. Normal puberty? no.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 11:11 PM
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So an atheist is only an atheist if they shitpost edgy memes and cry about religion? Lol k
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 10:02 PM
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A fucking doctor
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 10:01 PM
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Competent, kind, attractive, and useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:56 PM
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Severe menstrual cramping is a medical condition that requires medical treatment
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:48 PM
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Pseudoscience and conspiracy aren't worthy of earnest debate
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:44 PM
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Vaccines cause autism blah blah blah
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:36 PM
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My boyfriend made me a very sweet card and I'm cooking his favorite dish tonight. We don't really do holidays. Handwritten, thoughtful notes are always the most romantic and most appreciated gifts to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:26 PM
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Hormonal disorders often crop up during puberty. No doctor prescribes medication for normal puberty (other than a very rare and very negligent doctor). You made that up. You sound like you get your medical knowledge from Alex Jones and mommy bloggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:23 PM
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Again, we're talking about diagnosed hormonal disorders. You are not a doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:15 PM
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What you're describing is medical treatment. All medical treatment has potential side effects. It's uneducated and reckless to avoid necessary treatment with a safe medication because of some arbitrary moral opposition. That's some antivaxx shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:08 PM
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More likely for spouting straight up false information about medical conditions You're free to rely on a gluten free diet, essential oils, and Gwyneth Paltrow's butthole crystals or whatever, but anyone reading this who think they might have a hormonal disorder should understand that it is a medical problem that requires diagnosis and medical treatment by a doctor. That treatment may or may not include hormonal birth control. And there's nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 08:32 PM
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Seems like you don't understand the difference between normal hormonal fluctuations and hormonal disorders.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 08:31 PM
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Teaching yourself to think with your big head instead of your little head is a processes. Not something most people can just flip a switch on. Especially if they choose to take on a victim complex and whine all day
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 06:58 PM
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Look at the top posts on MGTOW. They are clearly not solution oriented. It is a sub for whining and victimhood. Can you imagine if AA meetings were filled with people crying "Its not fair that I cant drink in moderation like other people! If I cant drink then NO ONE should drink! Alchohol is evil and anyone who says they enjoy it responsibly is lying to themselves!"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 06:41 PM
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Maybe the “hormonal disorder” is just temporary and doesn’t need any “treatment?” That's not how it works. Maybe hormonal acne is just temporary and a natural occurrence, so people should just leave it alone until it goes away? Hormonal disorders don't just "go away". Leaving them untreated can cause permanent damage including infertility. Why would a doctor do that when their is a safe and effective treatment available? Amazing how clueless people can be about these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 05:18 PM
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"If people in drug rehab programs are done with drugs, why do they keep talking about how drugs fucked their lives up and warning other people not to let them control them?" If you'd ever been to a sobriety meeting, you'd know that going on and on about drugs is discouraged. The purpose of group discussion like AA and NA is to focus positively on solutions, not whining about problems. Bad example
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 04:56 PM
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most don't. The ones that do are considered cringey even by other atheists. Most atheists are perfectly happy living their lives without whining about religion and the choices other people make
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 04:54 PM
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No. It doesn't. If diet and skincare cured your acne, you do not have acne caused by a hormone disorder. What you have is bacterial acne.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 04:18 PM
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They are prescribing endocrine disruptors instead of determining what's causing the imbalances. Every time you stop, the hormonal acne comes back. There is no "cure" for many hormonal disorders other than hormone treatment (such as birth control) I'm glad my derm wasn't like that and we managed my acne through diet and skincare. Diet and skincare cannot and do not cure hormonal acne.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 10:18 AM
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Honestly I feel like we could both be so happy together. I really just want to do everything for her. I want to buy her gifts, take her places, do cool things with her. Have never and would never date anyone who didn't feel this way about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:12 AM
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Average dudes these days are far less attractive than average dudes of previous eras. They are fatter and weaker and less established. Plus, women don't need to rely on them for survival anymore. Perhaps standards have increased, but it's more likely that the "well I guess he's better than nothing" guys for women who needed to find a husband are no longer better than nothing for the women of today. Women would rather be alone than with a useless man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:11 AM
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Birth control is prescribed for a wide variety of medical conditions like hormonal imbalance, skin conditions, abnormal periods, etc. Most women who start the pill in their teenage years do so for a reason other than strictly birth control. I went on it because I had severe cystic acne. I stayed on it for the added benefit of birth control after I became sexually active.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 09:05 AM
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That's laughably inaccurate. The conversations women have between each other of their sexual conquests would make most of the men here blush.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 01:17 AM
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I have personally never been called a slut by a woman other than friendly teasing. It's always from men I've rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 12:50 AM
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Adults don't sneak notes under people's doors to call them names. Children do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 12:34 AM
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Most guys are fat and unattractive, complaining that they can only fuck fat and unattractive women. Incels are rare as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 12:09 AM
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Lol are you in highschool?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 12:08 AM
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No. They vet guys with their friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 10:48 PM
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most dudes in their twenties are fat. "Landwhales" are their peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 10:48 PM
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almost all men are sexually active in their twenties
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 10:32 PM
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That's not true at all. If you go around calling people sluts and whores, everyone is going to think you're an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 10:30 PM
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Oh people still try, it's just not effective anymore. Feminism has essentially neutralized it. Now the shame just blows back onto the shamer.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:48 PM
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If a stable LTR is your goal, I would suggest staying away from online dating and hookups. It can trap you and make it more difficult to transition into a committed relationship. Other than that, it seems like whatever you're doing is working. No high drama breakups or trail of embittered exes is a really good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:46 PM
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Slut shaming is effectively over right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:44 PM
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I wouldn't worry too much about it until you hit 30. It seems like you're trying, having some decent luck, arent doing anything destructive, and are pretty well focused on what you want. Sounds perfectly normal to me. Just keep doing what you're doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:41 PM
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Lol. They say they're doing their own thing, but a quick look at their sub will show you that they are actually quite obsessive
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 08:10 PM
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Isn't one of the main things they complain about institutional inequality? They do need institutional power, but they are unwilling to do what it takes to gain it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 06:28 PM
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I was class president, varsity athlete, and a drug dealer in high school. I dated a weird drama kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 07:33 AM
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I'm 35, if that counts. I'm happy as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 12:08 AM
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Women I know, women I do not know, men I know, and men I do not know. In that order. I'm a woman. Of course, it depends on the situation and the particular compliment. For me, compliments from other women are more meaningful because they are less likely to have ulterior motives. It feels more sincere.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/19 07:54 PM
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Two reasons Firstly, it feels good to make people you love feel good. Most people who love their partners are happy to accommodate them in any number of ways. Changing a routine, quitting a habit, trying a new activity, preparing specific foods, putting on a bit of a show, or doing sexual favors are all totally normal things people do when in love. I don't think there's anything special about stockings and frankly I find them uncomfortable. But I know my boyfriend loves to see me wearing them, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/19 09:58 AM
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Accountable, useful, competent, measured, of service.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 07:04 PM
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Which scenario between strangers sounds better to you? "Wow what a cool party! So how do you know the host?" "This is my first time taking a class like this, what about you?" or "You are the most exquisite beauty I have ever seen. Please allow me the pleasure of an introduction" "Uuhh...so...do you like music?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 10:01 AM
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In my current job? No. If I fuck up, it fucks everyone else up. There is very little room for error in what I do, and it requires taking a lot of risky last minute decisions. Those decisions affect hundreds of people. If I make the wrong move, I don't hear the end of it. If I kill it, I'm a hero. Nature of the job. My friends are forgiving of me, though
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 04:59 AM
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Not really. We were like 16 though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 04:54 AM
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Yup. He was a friend of a friend that I had known for a few years. Sweet dude, attractive, relaxed, single.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 04:32 AM
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Nope. I just wanted to get it over with. I had no naive romantic expectations of the experience. I just found a decent dude who didn't go to my school and got it done. Haven't seen him in almost 20 years. Don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 03:30 AM
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"I want to break up with you, but I don't want to hurt your feelings or be accountable so I'm creating an arbitrary/imaginary goal which doesn't include you"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 09:18 PM
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I think the surveys are interesting, but not really applicable to normal dating. I don't know about you, but I've never been grilled about my sexual history by a partner. It's come up like once or twice in already established relationships, but really just as small talk and story swapping. "So, how many people have you banged?" is not a question I would feel comfortable asking a date, and no date has ever asked me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 07:31 PM
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Just a heads up, incel nonsense is not allowed on this sub. Try to be less obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 04:04 PM
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It's because you say it's a necessity, you're implying these men are dangerous hence why it'd be necessary. Where did I say men are dangerous? I agree that the trope you originally mentioned is false and both men AND women slut shame whores. I'm sure your cuck of a boyfriend doesn't mind your sexual history, he probably jerks off to the thought of you being with other men. Most of these unbothered men are like that. That's all, I'm done. Have a good day. Aahh. You're an incel larping. Everything…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 09:42 AM
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This is so autistic. "Women think all men they reject are creepy rapists"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 07:04 AM
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If you're rejecting them, they're clearly not your type, one could say that they aren't even handsome in the first place at least according to you. Or I'm not single, or I'm turned off by non physical qualities like rudeness, drunkenness, or stupidity. You're awfully reductive. You would never reject a handsome man out of your league because he wouldn't approach you. If he's approaching you, he's really nothing special. Sure I would. I'm happy in my relationship. Your boyfriend probably got reje…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 05:23 AM
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Rejecting handsome men is not an accomplishment, it's a necessity. It strikes a nerve in the same way a crazy bum yelling at you that you're a waste of space "strikes a nerve". Perhaps a brief thought of "what a weirdo", before moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 04:41 AM
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It's not just the ugly guys I've rejected that throw fits, it's also the handsome ones. I'll agree with you there. Slut shaming doesn't work anymore. I'm sure you wish that those "sluts" who rejected you for another guy ended up lonely old hags, but they probably won't. I couldn't give less of a fuck what some tantrum throwing dude thinks about me or my sexual history. It doesn't effect me whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 01:31 AM
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according to the think tank – was the revelation that women were almost as likely to send tweets with the words “slut,” “whore” or “rape” – used both casually and offensively – as men were. According to this article, this includes "casual use". Obviously women are much more likely to use words like "slut" in a friendly teasing manner or even a positive way (like SlutWalk) than men. Even controlling for that, men still used the words "slut, whore, and rape" more than women. So this article doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 01:27 AM
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In movies, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 01:17 AM
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That's literally the entire reason they started.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 11:27 PM
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I have no idea where this misinformed trope comes from. A woman has never tried to "slut shame" me. Not once. 100% of people who have called me a slut (outside of friendly teasing) or tried to shame me for sexual behavior are men who I've sexually rejected or men who know I would sexually reject them if they tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 11:27 PM
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I would have maternal concern for the kid
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 09:47 PM
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It was never about men approaching you while you were minding your own business. 99% of approaches are when women are just trying to go about their day
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:16 PM
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The difference is that those weird women dont impose themselves constantly on men nearly as often. 25% is a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:16 PM
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The issue is that many men only accept empathy from women if it involves sex. Ignoring the fact that women have no choice other than to decline the vast majority of approaches from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:15 PM
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Does this happen to you that often? Move to a place with fewer single men? I've lived all over, and desperate men are everywhere. I'm not going to give up my career and move to bumfuck nowhere because some men cant control themselves. It's just a fact of life
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:13 PM
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Yes. About 25% of men get weird. That's not an assumption, it's an assessment based on ny my 30+ years of interacting with the public
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:10 PM
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Ok, sitting on the train reading a book and avoiding eye contact is "attracting assholes" then. There's nothing a woman can do to avoid these interactions short of never leaving her house. It's part of living in society and rejecting these dudes is just another daily chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 08:03 PM
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Yes, sitting on the train reading a book and avoiding eye contact is "thirsty as fuck". Lol. I swear some men here dont interact with the world at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 07:58 PM
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How should a woman interpret begging for a phone number, sexual comments about her body, or getting followed around? Friendly conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 07:57 PM
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We're not talking about men we assume are expressing sexual interest, we're talking about men who do express sexual interest. Of course men don't feel the same level of anxiety when interacting with women. They generally don't have to worry about getting followed around and harassed for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 07:55 PM
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But you do, apparently?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 07:18 PM
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There's no pleasure in interacting with these men at all. Rejection is simply something that must be done. Like scrubbing a toilet.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 06:55 PM
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And I guess men are "adult" enough to ignore this risk. Are you legitimately trying to argue that women are as likely as men to follow people around begging for sex and attention? spend an hour on my commute discussing literature with a stranger next to me, but that's simply not realistic. Why not? Because too many dudes take that as an indicator of sexual interest and make it weird if not downright scary
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 06:54 PM
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Do you derive pleasure from scrubbing your toilet, or do you do it because it's necessary?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 06:36 PM
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Divorce rates are down, my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 06:33 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 06:19 PM
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I'm not sure why you're having issues comprehending my commentary. There are many reasons why people choose not to have children. Money is the major factor, but there are other potential reasons that have nothing to do with money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 06:08 PM
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I have no idea what the statistics are, but my own experience is that if I engage with a stranger, theres at least a 25% chance I'll get followed, harassed, be subject to lude comments, begged for my phone number, touched without permission, insulted for not being sexually interested, or simply captive of a very unpleasant "conversation". I've been physically assaulted by random men on the street three times in my life, once quite severely. I don't take chances any more. Edit: to address your po…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:59 PM
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Where did you get the idea that celebrities have fewer children than average people? I think you're wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:50 PM
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Use common sense. If a woman feels bad for a guy down on his luck in the rain and offers him a ride to the bus stop, and is subsequently attacked my him, she will be raked through the coals for being so stupid. All women know that engaging a random man in conversation or even basic courtesy is going to go badly at least 25% of the time. It's not worth the risk. That's not to say I dont feel empathy for these men, I'm just not a gambler and prioritize my personal safety over a strangers feelings.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:48 PM
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Is this about Hollywood stars or regular people? Celebrities have other unique reasons why they may not have kids. Demanding work schedules that require extensive travel and long hours, needing to maintain a certain physique at all costs, etc. Average people don't have to worry about shooting a film in Tanzania for 6 months straight or looking like a convincing superhero, but they do have to worry about how to feed, clothe, and educate each child, which is getting more and more expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:42 PM
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Many do have multiple children. There are other reasons besides economics to limit how many children you have, but for average Joes and Janes, money is the major factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:32 PM
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They're a bunch of weird virgins, dude. Who cares what they think?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:30 PM
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The choice to have children or to not have children is one of those things that people are going to judge you for (sometimes harshly) no matter what you choose. It's one of the most important and most personal decisions one will make in their lifetime. You have to feel confident in your decision and not let criticism get to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 04:57 PM
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Like most divisive issues today, the powers that be seem to always overlook the most obvious answer (or at least a major contributor). Economics. I see these dumb articles every day. "Why is there so much political unrest? Why are young millennials still living with their parents? Why aren't older millennials having children? Why are traditional industries dying? Why are young people less indulgent than their parents?" Everything from video games, to immigrants, to feminism, to Mr. Rogers is bla…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 04:45 PM
3

I see women offering up bus seats to the elderly, pregnant, disabled, and injured all the time. I see men and women hold the door for whoever is coming in right behind them, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 07:48 AM
4

A lot of this is just basic manners
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 04:31 AM
4

It's one of those old wives tale memes that has turned out to be mostly true, in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 04:30 AM
1

Just a normal work day for both of us. I'm going to make his favorite pasta dish and I expect he will probably get me a card or something. Vday is stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 10:19 PM
1

Always walk with keys in hand, avoiding eye contact, wear headphones, don't engage unknown men in conversation. Don't go to bars or parties unless I have a good reason to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 08:44 PM
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Whatever they can offer to the individual assessing them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 05:33 PM
2

Really reaching at straws there, bud. She was a youtuber 4 years ago. She was underage 4 years ago. When this happened. Are you in the habit of using present tense when speaking about past events?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 04:46 PM
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Here's an idea: if you think theres a chance she's underage, get proof or don't fuck her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:08 AM
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I knew a guy who narrowly escaped a charge for banging a 15 year old who said she was 19 (he was 31). The thing is, we all met this chick. Every other person could tell she was lying. Not just because she looked young, but her mannerisms, word choice, and conduct were that of a child. It was obvious that she was full of shit. She crashed a party of ours and literally sat in the corner with a coloring book and crayons, for fuck sake. We had to ask her to leave in case the cops showed up, due to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:06 AM
4

Lol. Just defend your comment you coward.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 02:14 AM
2

You dont understand what hypocrisy is. At all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 01:22 AM
3

I feel like thats something only men experience I'm talking about this embarrassing comment you made
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 01:17 AM
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No, you haven't. Not being attracted to you does not mean they've never found other people attractive. Barring actual rare medical conditions, every human finds certain other humans attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:54 PM
3

Are you actually arguing that the men on this sub don't frequently blame all their problems on women? Are you new here?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:35 PM
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You're describing finding someone physically attractive. Every person on earth experiences that. That is not a special feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:32 PM
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Pretty telling that you don't see the difference between "Wow a lot of guys on this site dont take any responsibility for their circumstances. Look at all these comments!" vs "Women are incapable of love because I cant get a date"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 10:23 PM
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Notice how I said the women and men here behave in certain ways. I can confidently say that most normal men do not have the issues around accountability and maturity that most of the men here seem to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 08:37 PM
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A lot of people think that love is a feeling, when it is in fact a choice and actions you must take day after day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 07:44 PM
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It's a lack of accountability, mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 05:29 PM
3

So you would love your woman even if she gained 100lbs, started insulting you for no reason, quit her job and spent all your money? What's with this childlike belief that people should love you no matter what for who you are, rather than what you do? Your mother might think you're a perfect child of God who deserves to be loved just for existing, but the rest of the world is going to judge you on your merits. Don't be useless. Your girlfriend isnt your mommy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 05:22 PM
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So women don't love men who are useless dead weight? Women can only love men who bring something to the table? I'll agree with you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 05:10 PM
1

"Women don't love me, therefore women don't love men"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 04:54 PM
3

When both parties are focused on what they can bring into the relationship, as opposed to what they can take from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 04:52 PM
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In that case, I invite anyone who's naive enough to believe you to go ahead and give it a try.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 04:48 PM
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Notice the answers men and women give to questions. The men here believe they are representative of all men. They assert that their feelings/beliefs/experiences represent ALL men. Even the most insane and fringe dudes here believe they are average. They often assert that "most men feel the way I do", even in the most ridiculous claims. Even the incels think they're normal. Common male logic here is "women don't love me, therefore women don't love men." The women here use phrases like "Well I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 03:51 PM
3

You can't possibly be that imprressionable
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 03:45 PM
8

I would eat my shoe if that story ended up to be true. You'd have to be extremely naive to take a comedy routine as actual dating advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 07:37 AM
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All guys get 2 chances to truly piss me off. After that, it's over. I have never had a longterm relationship with anyone I fought with, never ever would.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 07:36 AM
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It's less that and more of the feeling of "oh I would have never expected that person to notice." It does not need to be about sex. If you are an adult, you are already going to know what your friends and family are going to say. They are less compliments and more formalities. This is twisted. As if one cant appreciate and genuinely compliment someone unless they are total strangers. Absolute horseshit. Like a spoiled child. Regular compliments simply arent good enough for you. You want special …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 11:57 PM
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Most grown men know how to take a compliment for what it is. Only immature or mentally ill men think "she said she liked my shoes, she must want to fuck me!" and then get butthurt when they learn that she actually just liked his shoes. There's a reason why there's subs dedicated to mocking men like this. It's because they are absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 11:01 PM
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I didnt realize we were drowning non feminists
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 09:01 PM
3

Sure, if you're a negative self-centered child.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 09:01 PM
3

Right. Lots of rational thinking going on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:21 PM
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I would wager that guys don't feel these things count since they often come across as a patronage, rather than a genuine compliment. Believing that compliments can only be genuine if they signal sexual interest is exceptionally immature and bratty
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 06:11 PM
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Most atheists are content living their lives simply not believing in God and creating their own moral codes. The ones who rail against any and all religion are considered extremely cringey, even by other atheists. I'm an atheist. I am secure enough in my beliefs and morals that I do not feel the need to complain about choices other people make. You do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:49 PM
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Do you think the opposition to frats could have more to do with the fact that they tend to turn into crime factories and kids end up dead a little too often?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:46 PM
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Not at all. As for the rest of my relationships, none of the "rules" screeched about here apply. I come here to enjoy the delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:34 PM
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It's hard to compliment men when most women quickly learn than any peasantry or positive comment will be taken the wrong way by many men. I stopped a woman on the street yesterday to compliment her glasses. I would never to that to a man. Not because I dont like his glasses or dont want him to feel good, but because I don't want to be followed down the street afterwards. But of course I compliment my dude friends, family members, and partners all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:32 PM
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There are countless remedies for loneliness that don't include sex. There's no substitute for food, water, and shelter.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:29 PM
1

Being ignorant or naive doesn't make someone a bad person
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:26 PM
4

Most IUDs have the same hormones as oral BC, so same side effects. Copper IUDs are known to cause extreme period cramping and potential scarring. I tried to get a copper IUD some years ago and was denied due to having a medical history of passing out from cramp pain. Also, they cam dislodge. Not to mention the insertion process. I've broken limbs and had holes drilled in my skull, and getting an IUD inserted was by far the most painful experience I have ever had.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:25 PM
0

I wouldn't date a man who is so immature as to need to be instructed to do something so basic
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 05:21 PM
5

I have never responded positively to a cold approach. Never would.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 10:02 PM
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There are a million ways to have "unhealthy views" on women, some are easier to spot than others. Creepy, desperate vibes are usually very obvious. Sociopathic, lying vibes are often very difficult if not impossible to spot in time. And of course, some women are more or less perceptive than others
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 01:05 AM
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This has existed as long as humans have existed, and while it's not going away, there's no evidence that it's becoming the "norm".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 01:03 AM
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My dad tries to give me money all the time, even though I don't need it. I've learned to gracefully accept the gifts even though he cant really afford it and I'm doing just fine. He wants to feel needed in my life. I will always text him after with "I just filled my tank! Thanks dad!" or whatever. He loves it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 10:20 PM
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I can only think of one time in my life that I asked a man for money, and it was my brother. He had made it clear several times that he was willing and able to help out if I needed it, and I had landed on hard times due to an unexpected hospital stay. I paid him back 3 months later. I love my brother more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 10:16 PM
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Your words not mine. Safe to say that if your SO needs to ask you to complete simple tasks like emptying the trash over and over again, you probably have an issue with maturity and responsibility. Man or woman. Grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 10:07 PM
1

I've had 5 longterm relationships. Two of them were fully initiated by the guy, one fully initiated by me, and the other two were so mutual it's hard to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 05:22 PM
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Yes I am assuming they didn't constantly put it off. That's a pretty big assumption considering that it devolved into a such an issue that it was causing consistent conflict. If she was "nagging", that meant she had to repeat herself many times But if it gets done within a reasonable time frame is it really an issue? Obviously it was for them, considering he's still butthurt about it and they apparently broke up some time ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 05:19 PM
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He's upset because his girlfriend asked him to take out the trash.....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 09:24 AM
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Not to suggest that I believe them to be lesser. I have no issue in acknowledging trans men and women as the gender they identify with, but I do consider them in a different category. Not a better or worse category, just a unique one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 09:23 AM
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Yes I consider them to be women, although a different kind of woman. I think of it like adoptive parents. They are fulfilling the role of "mom" and "dad", even if they don't share genetics with their kids. So they're not parents in the rigid scientific definition, but they are acknowledged as parents socially and legally.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 07:35 AM
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It's a maturity issue. A lot of dudes need mommies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 05:16 AM
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Look at the division of labor in the home. Turds like you complain about being "nagged" to act like a responsible parent/partner and are surprised when they are served divorce papers. A lotta dudes are simply dead weight. Like OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 05:15 AM
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What Lala Land do you live in? A whopping 7% of households are supported only by husbands. Even more rare for boyfriends. My God you're naive. https://www.prb.org/traditional-families-account-for-only-7-percent-of-u-s-households/ Look how pathetic the division of labor in the average home is https://www.prb.org/traditional-families-account-for-only-7-percent-of-u-s-households/
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 05:11 AM
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You do realize that only a tiny fraction of men financially support their girlfriends, right? Learn to get by without a mommy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 04:58 AM
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Truth hurts. You want people to stop bugging you about not doing shit you should be doing? Just do it. Be an adult and take the trash out, or be honest enough to tell your partner you cant be trusted to complete your chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 04:31 AM
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Doesn't that go without saying? If anyone wants to pay my rent, I'll happily take out the trash, scrub the toilets, and make all the meals.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 01:27 AM
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Why can't he just be straightforward and be honest with her that he can't be trusted to complete simple tasks in a timely manner?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 01:25 AM
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So you're slacking on your responsibility in a way that is effecting her by letting smelly trash pile up. Her attempts to persuade or teach you how to do basic chores have failed, and now her only option is riding your ass until you do it. Like training a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 11:34 PM
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Watch his hand and body movements doing normal everyday activities. If he's physically awkward, he's probably gonna suck in bed. That was a tip given to me by a gay man that has been accurate 100% of the time I've tried it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 05:06 PM
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It's basic manners and respect. There's literally no point in mentioning it other than to purposefully hurt his feelings and make him insecure. Just because something is true doesn't mean it needs to be said. Do you often have difficulty with fundamental social skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 05:05 PM
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I guess you don't know what a bum is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 08:26 AM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 08:26 AM
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such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 05:51 AM
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Acceptable by who?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 04:32 AM
2

Is he immediately looking for a job, or is he being a bum?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 04:26 AM
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Men try to shame women for rejecting them constantly. Pretty much every woman alive has been called a slut by a guy she's sexually rejected or had a few guys go full NiceGuy. People act out when they get rejected. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 04:26 AM
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All men have preferences. There's no conspiracy at work to get them to stop. In my experience, the ones who get shamed are those with unrealistic standards compared to what they have to offer (/r/choosingbeggars)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 02:46 AM
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Are men not allowed to have preferences? Are others not allowed to make judgments about you based upon your judgements of others?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/19 12:00 AM
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It's one thing to feel that away, it's quite another to say it out loud. I love my boyfriend dearly, but if he gained 50 pounds or lost his job and became a bum, I would dump him. No reason to announce that to anyone, let alone his friends. It's rude and disrespectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 11:59 PM
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I see it as two different things. If I'm cooking my own meal at home (which is 95% of my meals), I don't make a big fuss. If I'm going out with friends, that's more about a social engagement rather than eating. I don't spend 25 or 40 bucks on a dinner out because I'm hungry, I spend it because it's a fun activity with friends. Eating out is a special occasion for me because I do it so rarely, maybe once a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 07:14 PM
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I can't tell unless I talk to them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 05:37 PM
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A large group of mostly well-off creatives. Some partnered, some single, lotsa gays.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 05:36 PM
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If your in a social setting, it's not inappropriate to start a conversation with anyone. Just know that if you start out directly with hitting on her or asking for her number, that's going to be off putting to the vast majority of women. Just have a normal talk the way you would with anyone else. "This is my first time taking a class like this, what about you?", or "So, how to you know the host of the party?", etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 04:32 PM
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Anywhere from flattered, to apathetic, to annoyed, to threatened, depending on delivery
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 08:21 AM
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Common knowledge and easily verified but here ya go https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infidelity https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 08:17 AM
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Most people never cheat
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 05:37 PM
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I'm not saying I agree with it one way or the other, but the reason why there are more separated gender shelters for women is because they are much more likely to have children with them, and assault rates in shelters that allow men are incredibly high. In general, homeless children are kept away from homeless men for safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 05:36 PM
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A man I was dating died on his motorcycle. A week later, both of my friends parents died on their motorcycle. Two months after that, my ex's new girlfriend died on her motorcycle. A few months later, a motorcycle was struck by a speeding SUV about 20 feet from where I was walking. The rider's screams haunted my nightmares for weeks, but I think he survived. I will no longer date anyone who rides a motorcycle. I think it's not totally irrational. Most people who ride motorcycles are totally fine.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:54 PM
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My parents are more feminist than most, and all three of my brothers consider themselves feminists to some degree. Two of my brothers are pretty beta, computer nerd types (magic cards and video games). One is about as alpha and masculine as they come (guns, football, and cars). My alpha brother has the most well thought out and left political beliefs, but all are very liberal. All dated normally and are happily married with kids. It's my opinion that all three did a fantastic job in selecting wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:13 PM
3

Test all kids at birth and severely punish any parent who doesn't care for their biological children
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 06:48 PM
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Alone. I have friends, family, a good job,a community, and a dog. A partner is not required for fulfillment, it's icing on the cake.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 06:46 PM
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I think I would. I have a friend who has a medical condition that affects her hormones. She is 37 and claims to have never felt sexually aroused or attracted to anyone ever in her life. She doesn't even know if she's gay or straight. She has never dated and doesn't wish to. This bitch has a PhD, a crazy successful baking business, speaks 3 languages, and so many skills and hobbies I couldn't possibly list them all. She can do/make/fix anything. It makes me wonder what the average person could ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 05:47 AM
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Dude how are you this confused. That's just a story. It's not how things normally work. You had a strange experience with a singular woman. It's indicative of nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 11:37 PM
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It backs up my point that a vast majority of the time, if a woman is acting disinterested, it's because shes disinterested. Not playing some game. Just move along to someone who actually wants to fuck you instead of pestering someone who doesn't like you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 11:22 PM
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Most of the men in this thread agree with me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 09:07 PM
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Are we using weirdos we met in college as evidence of stuff now? Because man I could tell some stories
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 08:49 PM
2

I am considered liberal by American standards, and centrist by global standards. I don't really know how this affects my dating life, outside of seeking out partners who's beliefs and values are at least somewhat aligned with mine. I'm a woman, no pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 05:29 PM
1

Looking like a kid didn't exactly inspire men to treat me like a sexy woman, even though I was cute as a button.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 05:25 PM
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Maybe the minority of old men who want little sugar babies. But I think the majority of regular guys in their thirties want a sexy woman, rather than a cute little dolly. I look extremely young, and when I was in my early twenties I got dumped twice because the guy felt self conscious about being seen with someone who looked like a teenager, and a few more were vocal about how it made them feel weird. Now that I'm in my mid thirties and easily pass for mid twenties, that's no longer an issue. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 05:10 PM
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I'm 35 and unmarried. I expected my social life to die down by my age, but it hasn't at all. I'm more socially active now with more friends than in my twenties. Life is pretty good for me and my friends, who are mostly also unmarried. The biggest changes in my social life are the fact that we all have more money, and my friends are a much more diverse group than when I was younger, especially in age. I have a close friend who's a 22 year old Instagram model, and a close friend who's a 72 year ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 05:04 PM
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I think it's the opposite. In my experience, cute gets you pretty far when you're young, but older men prefer a sexy woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 04:56 PM
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You know just as well as I do that fathers walking out is accepted as an unpleasant, but totally normal fact of life We have extremely low expectations for men's parental performance. Men get a round of applause for changing a diaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 08:27 AM
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The great men in my life are of service to others, measured and calm, principled, honest, and not out to prove to everyone how great they are
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 07:49 AM
2

Then don't whine when you're criticized for taking the easy way out
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 07:47 AM
3

You watch too many RomComs
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 07:46 AM
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I just can't understand the mentality of wanting to fuck someone that doesn't want to fuck you. If you have to put effort into convincing her, then she doesn't like you that much. Simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 01:00 AM
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It's what I've been doing with men since I began dating. It's amazing how infrequently their actions and words align. I think it's a good strategy for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 11:08 PM
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Most absent fathers don't pay even the court ordered amount of child support, and if course a vast majority don't pay alimony. But we're talking more about the court of public opinion. Fathers walking away is considered totally normal and ok. Mothers walking out are monsters. It's my personal opinion that anyone who abandons their children is a piece of shit loser who deserves to be publicly shamed on Oprah, but for now that's only for bad moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 10:38 PM
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That's how double standards work. It's the same reason men walk out on their families and start new ones with almost zero repercussions, and when a woman does it she ends up on Oprah being labeled the worst mother alive. We have different expectations for different types of people. Sometimes fair, sometimes unfair. Best to just do what you think is best and not worry too much about other people's opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 10:15 PM
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Physical touch and acts of service. I would guess that my boyfriend would choose physical touch and verbal affirmations. He really needs to talk things through, and shows remarkable vulnerability in doing so. It took some getting used to for me, but I think it's helped me grow. That level of vulnerability is scary for me and a lot of people, but it's nice to have a partner who is so upfront about his desires/needs/boundaries, and communicates it in such a kind and open minded way. It takes all t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 06:05 PM
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Narcissism and self loathing are intrinsically linked. Anyone who builds an identity by passing blame for their own failures on to others (women, men, the system, immigrants, muslims, black people, etc) is simply reacting to their own shortcomings by avoiding accountability. Extreme self loathing is an obsession with self. An inability to consider why people do what they do, independent of your personal feelings about it. Take incels. They see a happy couple being affectionate in public and say …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 05:59 PM
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Not my experience at all. There's no shortage of good men, but there's certainly no shortage of losers and jerks either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 05:11 PM
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People end up overweight because they make choices that result in weight gain. That's it. This is not problem for women, it's a problem for everyone in the developed world. Keep in mind that most American men are fat as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 10:02 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 08:49 PM
3

Yes and no. White nationalism is a lot more well defined than feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 06:39 PM
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I agree Electras point that the people who shift blame for their failures on to the left and feminists cannot accurately describe what exactly that means, and use those descriptions to dismiss people without actually debating their points. The "left" and "feminists" are such vast and complex descriptions that they could reasonably be used to describe most people. An argument could be made that anyone who isn't a neonazi antifeminist is a leftist feminist. It's like the word "slut". It's a real t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 06:20 PM
1

Then why are so many handsome celebrities dealing with the wreckage of MeToo? Shouldn't they be exempt, according to your faulty logic?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 06:16 PM
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Those aren't definitive schools of thought. Is anyone who believes in equal rights and opportunities for women a feminist to you? Is everyone to your left on any issue a leftist?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 06:12 PM
1

Ben Affleck, Jeremy Piven, Jamie Foxx, Sylvester Stallone, James Franco, R Kelly, Matt Lauer, Russel Simmonds, Ed Westwick, Kevin Spacey......
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 06:11 PM
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Go ahead and tell us what a "feminist" or a "leftist" is, then. My mother identifies as a staunch feminist, but many people would consider her beliefs pretty centrist and common. American leftists would be considered moderate centrists in most of the developed world.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 05:56 PM
2

Outcasts are generally a lot more likely to develop an oppositional attitude towards others. They are looking for a group to take them in and tell them that their failures are not their fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 05:54 PM
3

Any evidence to back that up?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 11:59 PM
1

I don't respect anyone who blindly goes along with whatever anyone says . Those people lack backbone and intelligence. That said, relationships require equal give and take. If I'm not getting mine from an overly oppositional partner, I'll go find it somewhere else. I can't think of a single time that my partner denied a reasonable request from me without a really good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 06:41 AM
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Women love kind men. But you have to bring more to the table than basic manners
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 05:22 AM
4

Not when the good guy John's are chasing Slutty Stacy around.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 05:18 AM
1

Sexual. I have loads of friends and family that fulfill my emotional needs, but only a partner can satisfy my sexual needs. Of course, ideally I would have both. Which I do. Woman, 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 01:31 AM
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Women feel this way too. It would be rad if the average woman could get and keep a good man by just being a nice person. Instead, she must compete for attention, maximize her beauty, and if she wishes to express her femininity to any significant degree, she must put herself more or less at the mercy of men who may not have her best interests at heart. It's brutal out there. Sweet plain Jane can't reasonably compete with gorgeous slutty stacy. She needs a strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/19 01:29 AM
1

That's a faulty metric. Using your logic, Spanx are one of the most vital inventions in modern human history. Or for a more pedestrian comparison, do you think an NFL player is fundamentally superior to a surgeon? There are a lot more surgeons than professional athletes. Professional athletes outearn most surgeons.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 08:04 PM
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Being nice without being a doormat. It's a delicate balance
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 06:00 PM
1

This is also working under the assumption that STEM interests and careers are somehow fundamentally superior to other disciplines, which isn't a fact. There's an argument to be made that we place higher value on "mens" work that isn't necessarily warranted. STEM is obviously vital, but so is teaching, caregiving, medicine, social work and any number of careers that are dominated by women. It's a weird hierarchy we all place on certain jobs simply for being more lucrative. Recently a dude I know …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 05:47 PM
1

I met my boyfriend through mutual friends and pretty much forgot about him the minute he walked out if the room for a year before I realized he was rad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 05:17 PM
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Labels aren't important, but I would never sleep with anyone who I believed to be misogynistic in any way. Most of my partners have described themselves as "feminists", at least casually. But that's just a word. I watch what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 12:40 AM
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Probably pretty similar to the deal breakers I have now. No addicts, no losers, no cheaters, no one with a serious mental illness, no meanies, no one who doesn't take care of their body.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 12:36 AM
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That's insane. You're insane if you actually believe that. So you think it's completely justifiable if a woman divorces a guy, takes all his money and his children if he's rude to her once or twice?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 12:32 AM
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lol. So if you cut me off in traffic and I respond by stabbing you, is it your fault for being rude, or my fault for inappropriately handling my emotions? Why do you think it's a crime to assault people that irritate you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/19 12:20 AM
1

Ok, so if you hurt my feelings and I key your car, who's fault is it that your car got keyed?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 06:00 PM
2

You choose your reactions to your emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 06:00 PM
0

We don't choose physical pain. We do choose reactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 06:33 AM
0

No. She's responsible for her actions. No one can be responsible for other people's emotions. It's literally impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/19 06:33 AM
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What do you think the likelihood is that a marriage falls apart without both people dropping the ball in some way? Also you're confusing my point. We don't control what happens to us, but we do control how we react to what happens to us. No one can force you to have an extreme emotional reaction
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 10:12 PM
2

You don't see the difference between "I'm feeling this way" vs "YOU made me feel this way"? Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 10:11 PM
-2

And all that magically happened without any contribution by you at all? No accountability whatsoever?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 06:41 PM
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A lot of men have a hard time understanding the difference between expressing emotion and making other people responsible for your emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 06:15 PM
1

It was really hard to earn my master's degree. Still, people would find it obnoxious and boring if I bragged about it all the time, wouldn't they?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 04:52 AM
3

There's no reason to believe that is or will be true
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 01:37 AM
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Fashion changes, beauty does not. Find any model, actor or pop star from the past and you'll see that they will still be considered beautiful, even if we find their outfits, hairstyles, and presentation weird or unappealing. Hedy Lamar had some seriously questionable eyebrow styling at certain points, but she would be considered a knockout in any era.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 12:51 AM
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They're not. Masturbatory aids will never replace human intimacy. That's just a revenge fantasy for incels. Dudes that are falling in love with robots, dolls, and pillows were never in the running in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 08:14 PM
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I feel totally neutral about it. I certainly would not reject a guy simply for being a programmer. I have dated at least two that I can recall. They seemed to be financially stable and liked their jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 06:22 PM
2

There are so many different levels here. I have friendships that don't go much deeper than enjoying hiking together, and friendships with people who have literally bathed and hand fed me after I had major surgery. I have friends I wouldn't necessarily trust with a secret, and friends who I've loaned thousands of dollars to without question. I have friends I go to when I need some loving encouragement, and others when I need a reality smackdown. Woman, 35, no pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 06:16 PM
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If you let it. College was harder for me than many if my peers because I come from a poor family and had to work a shit job 40 hours a week on top of my studies. Boo hoo. There's not a single person on this earth who isn't better than me in some way, and there isn't a person on earth that I'm not better than in some way. You can "compare and dispair", or you can use other people's success as an opportunity to learn and improve. Some people use adversity to foster a sense of pride and personal ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 06:07 PM
1

Completely false. Easy on that koolaid my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 06:00 PM
1

I always just assume there has to be something else going on with them. And thank you. My friend is alive and still in treatment. Lots ahead, but looks like she'll pull through
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 09:43 AM
2

That's pretty similar to what happened to me. One of my closest friends called me and told me she had been diagnosed with aggressive cancer out of nowhere, and that it didn't look good. She was only 29. I held it together for about an hour and then her cousin texted me in a panic and I broke down. My coworkers were cool about it, but I really was hoping to save it for the drive home.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 09:21 AM
1

Oh man. I once went 2 and a half years without crying and then finally blew my load at work. Everyone was cool about it, I had a very good reason, but I felt so embarrassed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 05:16 AM
1

Calm down. It's completely relevant to the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 05:05 AM
1

I mean without being harshly judged
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 05:03 AM
1

Probably crying. I cry like maybe once a year but I'm sure I could get away with more.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/19 12:10 AM
1

That makes no logical sense
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 06:59 PM
2

These are stats for people who do get married
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 06:54 PM
1

I think for this scenario, marijuana is a better comparison. Some people ruin their entire lives by being stoners. Others lead completely normal and successful lives despite being stoners. Sex, like weed, is only as damaging as the person who's using it makes it. Some people indulge without consequence, others use it to self soothe for other more serious issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 01:40 AM
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Option A but substitute the wine for lesbian sex
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/19 01:32 AM
2

Small talk literally is a social skill my dude. This really isn't that confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 10:34 PM
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Wrong. Small talk is one of the very best indicators of social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 10:07 PM
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Why don't you go to a fun party and start talking about the more detailed points of critical theory or your deep analysis of foreign policy. See how many people want to stick around. People like to have fun. Flirting is fun. You do not sound fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 10:06 PM
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Sounds like sour grapes on your part, honestly. Social skills =/= general intelligence. Social skills =/= being a good partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 10:02 PM
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Initial small talk is an excellent indicator of social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 09:42 PM
4

A lack of social skills is unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 09:21 PM
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My closest girlfriend and I started online dating profiles at the same time a few years ago. To put it bluntly, I'm attractive and she's not. She is a rad person, but overweight and plain in the face. Other than our pictures, our profiles were pretty similar. We are the same age, similar hobbies, similar taste in music, similar income, etc. Right out of the gate, she got more messages than me. But, those messages were low quality. Mostly "Hi", a few lude sexual comments, and a few straight up ru…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 07:56 PM
3

Keeping your approaches to social situations and not following women around in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 07:45 PM
2

The fact that most people aren't especially promiscuous and that men and women have almost equal amounts of sex partners throughout their lives, between 4 and 7. Most men are not promiscuous, and they still get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 07:36 PM
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Use your common sense. Are promiscuous men going around deflowering innocent virgins, or are they banging party girls and club sluts?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 07:35 PM
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Reality supports that high n count women like high n count men. Sluts tend to date and marry each other. Women with average or low counts tend to seek out similar men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 05:57 PM
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This is entirely dependent on the individual. I know men and women who have slutted it up big time and found happy longterm partnerships easily. I also know both men and women who have been damaged by dating and sleeping around too much and can't seem to hang on to any healthy attachments. I think it is a bit of a chicken/egg situation. Do people become insecure and damaged from being promiscuous, or do they become promiscuous because they are insecure and damged?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 05:55 PM
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If I'm suspicious enough that it's damaging my mental wellbeing and making me paranoid enough to even think about doing something extreme like invading their privacy, that's enough to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 05:35 PM
1

Well that sounds promising! Best of luck to you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 05:23 PM
5

He sounds a bit spectrumy, but that doesn't need to be an issue if you don't mind giving him clear instructions. It's definitely worth meeting up for a coffee and an in-person talk. He might be exactly what you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 09:30 AM
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We're not talking about normal men here. We're talking about weirdos and creeps who follow women around begging for attention
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/19 01:26 AM
3

It depends on the job. When I worked in a cafe during college, I dated my coworker and there were no issues. It was a low stakes situation. If things had gone badly, one or both of us could easily quit and find another serving job. That didn't turn out to be necessary for us. In my professional career, I wouldn't risk it. I've worked too hard and too long to gamble it on a relationship. Eligible bachelors are everywhere, but a great job is hard to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 11:48 PM
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No one is forbidding it. Just know that you are opening yourself up for rejection, judgment and mockery if you choose antisocial behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 11:45 PM
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Always tell someone exactly where you are, who you are with, and when you plan to be back. If it's an online date, send someone a screenshot of the profile. If you go out to a bar, claim that you know the owner or staff members. Wave at some of them like you know them. Better yet, suggest a bar where you actually do know the staff. stop at some point during your date and say "Sorry to pull out my phone, but I promised my dad/roommate/friend that I would text them at 11pm". This way your date kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 06:58 PM
1

How did you get that from "a lot of sleazy guys are PUAs"?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 06:40 PM
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It is very different than online dating. People join dating sites to date. People don't get on the bus or go shopping to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 06:38 PM
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Congrats. You just used a work of literature about one of the darkest times in history to try to make yourself the victim. Yes, I'm sure not being able to find a hot date is just as bad as having to rip your own teeth out to save your baby, spending 19 years in prison for stealing some bread, or having your best friend die in your arms after literally taking a bullet for you. Clearly, incels have it just as bad. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 06:29 PM
1

Social situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 06:25 PM
1

A bit dramatic of an assumption, wouldn't you say? Most PUAs are sleazy. A lot of sleazy guys are PUAs. Obviously normal men dont follow women around begging for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/19 04:30 AM
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You've never been followed around by a sleazy guy trying to pick you up? I'm sorry I find that impossible to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 11:00 PM
2

That's literally what cold approaches are. It's no different than asking for spare change.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:12 PM
2

You haven't heard of it because you're not a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:09 PM
2

Everyone who wants legal custody has to go to court
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 10:08 PM
3

quality men don't need to beg for attention
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 06:24 PM
6

You being a deadbeat also increaes the fertility crisis. Other men can't properly parent their own kids or create more when their busy taking care of your responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 06:22 PM
2

Yes it's possible to walk away after you've already bothered, annoyed, or perhaps freaked a stranger out who's just trying to go about their day. Most don't, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 06:20 PM
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If a guy actually goes to court to gain custody of his kids, his chances are just as good as the mother's for shared custody. 80% of men don't even bother. 50/50 is the default when both parents seek custody. Courts denying custody to a parent who goes all the way through a court process is very rare. There has to be something seriously wrong to deny a parent their child. Most custody arrangements are made privately and agreed upon by the parents without a judge. If a man isn't satisfied with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 06:16 PM
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Most men don't follow women around begging for attention like a street drunk begging for change. This guy is not average.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 06:13 PM
3

Desperation for validation is always a sign that something is wrong. How that manifests is not always equal. A young woman who is obsessed with social media only harms herself, since her objects are all willing participants and followers. A PUA is directly involving unwilling participants in his sickness. It's a lot harder to get rid of a weirdo following you around the grocery store than it is to simply scroll past or block a profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 06:12 PM
3

Pretty much every woman is familiar with PUA types
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 06:08 PM
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/u/reluctantly_red is basically claiming that men are largely irrelevant in child rearing, because they can impregnate many women. I'm simply pointing out that men having multiple mothers for their kids actually increases the fertility crisis. Women can only care for so many children on their own, and men can only afford so much child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 06:07 PM
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Depends on the type of asshole. My friend in high school dated the same guy from ages 14 through 20. He proposed to her in college and she accepted. Then he cheated on her, gave her herpes, and dumped her at her birthday dinner. I have sympathy for that. A male family member got a little too involved with his first girlfriend. He moved in with her when he was 18 and she ended up fucking him over by not paying her rent and basically trashing all his stuff. I have sympathy for that. Contrarywise, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 06:04 PM
3

You think high value men don't become parents? The highest value men I know are almost all dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:57 PM
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We need men to help care for the children
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:40 PM
2

Ya I have one of those too. Haven't seen him in 5+ years and he's still obsessed. Those people are mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 08:55 AM
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That's insane. You're insane if you actually believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 12:38 AM
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Read the book and you'll see that /u/spacewhiskey is completely right about this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 11:53 PM
3

About 5% of American women and 4% of American men are homosexual or bisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 11:51 PM
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"No women are attracted to me, so clearly they must all be gay"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 11:47 PM
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If a guy prefers women who dont use makeup, he has plenty to choose from. If he prefers women who look flawless without makeup, then he's going to have a hard time and will likely end up bitching and moaning online about it. When a guy says he prefers women with no makeup, he almost always means that he prefers women who are gorgeous with perfect skin who don't use makeup. Not an average or even cute girl with some blemishes and dark circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 10:16 PM
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Maybe he thinks an alpha widow is a young girl who gets supremely fucked over by a man and then subsequently society, rendering her unable to care for herself or others? Either that or he's completely missed the point of Fantines existence as the most tragic character in the most tragic narrative ever written or performed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 09:04 PM
1

Read the book. You're just wrong here
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 07:37 PM
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Ok, so if we misinterpret, project upon, and twist the meaning of the actual song completely out of context, it suits your narrative. K. This is why she's such a poor example
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 06:19 PM
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I have the entire opera memorized and have read the book three times. I've portrayed two of the main characters on stage, including Fantine. I'm familiar with the story line. Every featured character is meant to be a symbol of victimhood and powerlessness. Victims of the justice system, of low birth, poverty, war, societal pressures, and (such as fantine), misdeeds of others. Her story in greater detail is meant as a narrative of how someone can come through and ruin your life and there's nothin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 06:07 PM
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That's a poor example. A European woman in the 1790s with an illegitimate child was a pariah. Her life went to shit because it couldn't have gone any other way. It's not as though she could have just found a new husband and started over.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 05:55 PM
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From my understanding, it's a woman who is hung up on an ex. It's a pretty common experience for anyone, but most people get over it with some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 05:23 PM
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Men like being married more than women. Married men report being happier, healthier, and wealthier than single men and married women. Divorced men are much more likely to report that they would like to marry again than divorced women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 04:44 PM
2

It's a fine line between opening up to someone vs making someone else responsible for your wellbeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 04:42 PM
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What would it take for you to become captain America?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 04:41 PM
8

general social skills longevity safer drivers pain tolerance pragmatism attention to detail money management caretaking for the young and elderly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 08:30 AM
1

I would date a man almost exactly like my dad, but there is a feature or two I'd rather avoid. My dad is awesome, but flawed. Most of the men I've dated have been quite distinct from him. I've noticed that men I choose to date are a lot more similar to my older brother than my dad, which is great for me because he's the best person I know. He shares interests and values with my dad, but his general demeanor and personal expression could not be more different. My father is very shy and prudent. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 08:25 AM
1

Right. But that almost never happens. Most women get approached hundreds if not thousands of times on the street. The vast majority never respond positively.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 08:22 AM
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No way to analyze that without knowing about their marriage and what arrangements/agreements they had/have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 11:56 PM
2

What? I don't understand how hobbies make a man less sexually desirable. If anything, being proficient in a personal interest is attractive. I've literally never seen anyone here earnestly encourage monastery or homosexuality. Think you imagined that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 11:53 PM
1

If you want to be so reductive as to claim that there are certain features that are strictly masculine and strictly feminine, could you give an example?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 11:02 PM
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No. There is no personality trait or set of values that only applies to men and women, and most ideals for both men and women will be the same, even if the expression differs. For example, I think a lot of people might describe "patience" as a trait they find ideal in both men and women. For men, that might lean more towards patience in process. For women, that might lean towards patience with others. Still, patience is patience. Most people strive to be "strong". Oftentimes, men's strength is m…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 10:22 PM
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That neither gender is more or less loyal. When shit gets hard, people leave. Love is and should be conditional
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 06:09 PM
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Why on earth would a man not want to submit DNA to prove he hadn't raped a coma patient? The only way I would ever give DNA to the authorities voluntarily is if they had other circumstantial evidence pointing at me and there was a chance I could be prosecuted. I refuse to give my urine to employers, even though I haven't done any drugs or smoked marijuana for many years. Because that's my urine. You can tell a lot about a person by analyzing their body fluids, and that's not information I feel m…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 05:01 PM
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Men are something like 80% more likely to leave their partners after a serious diagnosis like cancer
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 04:38 PM
0

Men who cold approach do so out of desperation, poor social skills, or sometimes just to make the woman feel uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 04:24 PM
4

Body autonomy goes out the window for everyone when there's reasonable cause to investigate you for a crime. If a cop thinks I have drugs on me, he/she can search my person. If I'm in the direct vicinity of a chaotic crime scene, I might be cuffed and detained until they rule me out. It's not a pleasant reality, but what's the alternative? You can't prosecute a crime without investigating it first.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 04:20 PM
3

Everyone but your mother and your dog loves you conditionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 04:15 PM
4

People meet through friends. At social gatherings. On dating sites. This isn't my opinion, it's just a fact. Cold approach and pick ups are the most common and least successful way to meet someone. It almost never works. But hey you're free to set yourself up for rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 04:14 PM
1

That's even worse
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 04:11 PM
2

Na that's just my dad
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 04:10 PM
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To me? Measured and calm, of service to those around him, knows his limits, knows his strengths, genuine, curious, strong convictions, active and compassionate listener, accountable, hard working, competent leader, ability to seek guidance when needed. Of course those are my standards because my dad is that type of man. A more recognizable model of what I consider peak masculinity is the general portrayal of John McCain, whether ir not that is an accurate description of who he really was as an i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 08:42 AM
1

Who's telling you to believe everything anyone says? Have you no critical thinking abilities or agency?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 08:16 AM
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How many couples do you know that met because the guy randomly picked her up on the bus or on the street? Couples almost never meet this way. For a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 07:40 AM
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Terpers love to say that, and yet I have NEVER met a couple that met because the dude followed her around the grocery store. It's statistically the least effective way to meet a mate. I've been approached by attractive men hundreds of times going about my day. It has never worked. Never once.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 07:39 AM
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Do men not understand that women respond to sexual advances differently? Why do they refuse to acknowledge that attempting to pick up women in public going about their day is going to result in annoyance a majority of the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 05:11 AM
1

I don't understand the desire for other people to approve of your sex toys. How is it anyone's business?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 03:34 AM
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I would be surprised, considering we can barely keep our hands to ourselves as it is. If I wasn't thirsty as fuck for him, he wouldn't be my partner. Also this dude is whiney and insecure. Would not date.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 03:31 AM
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Ya but it's stressful af. At least for me. Hats off to anyone who can pull it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 12:10 AM
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Good luck convincing the hardcore terpers that women seek out sex without a desire of commitment. They are completely married to this myth, no matter what mental gymnastics are required to hold on to the belief. But ya, I've "plated" plenty of dudes. Sometimes I dont have the time or interest in a committed relationship, but want to have sex. I've sought out FWB arrangements plenty of times, never with the intention of committing to the dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 12:07 AM
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I don't know where you're working, but when I was in food service, everyone was banging everyone. Coworkers and customers. It is probably one of the easiest and best ways to meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 10:04 PM
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She's entitled to whatever preferences and standards she pleases, but finding a good dude with a 6 figure income when you're only earning 45k is going to be difficult. Wealthy men tend to date and marry women with similar income level and potential as themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 07:47 PM
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Confirmation bias. I have a relatively high N count. No depression or anxiety disorders other than the occasional situational rough patches we all go through. Could also be your age group. College age men and women report much higher levels of depression and anxiety than the general population. I would also assume that depression could lead to high N counts as a way to self soothe? Think of it like weed. Some people smoke a lot of weed to self medicate for mental illness, and some people smoke a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:50 PM
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I've ended up in enough troubling situations and known enough women to end up in horrifying situations to be cautious. That said, caution and prudence only get you so far. You can't always control who crosses your path. I'm 35. I've been physically assaulted (once quite severely) by 2 men on the street. I've had to threaten to involve authorities on a number of "stalker" types, and had to follow through on that threat for 2 men and 1 woman. Of course I've been in many, many situations where a du…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:45 PM
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When. I've heard it used, it has always been used to describe a young douchebag. Like a sleazy guy. I have no idea what younger people use it for.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:36 PM
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Across the board for me, men in their late thirties to late forties are the best in bed. No comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 06:52 AM
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Young men will still try to pick up on older women. They'll never stop doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 06:51 AM
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What can a younger man do that a more mature man can't do better?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 04:39 AM
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as would a woman cheating confirm it to be the man's fault
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 10:50 PM
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If a man's wife is infertile, he could cheat and produce children .
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 10:44 PM
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You could use the exact same logic to flip it around to say it's the man's fault or no one's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 10:20 PM
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How is the woman "accurately blamed" for hers and her husband's infertility? This makes zero sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 10:14 PM
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You realize that a woman can't just go get IVF on her own, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 10:10 PM
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You said the woman is "accurately blamed" for her husband's infertility, meaning that she is responsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 10:08 PM
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That your point is totally illogical. You're claiming that a woman should cheat if that's the only way to conceive a child, and that if she doesn't, she's failed in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 10:03 PM
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What? What kind of social situations do you find yourself in that people are just casually discussing their STIs?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 10:00 PM
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You do realize that in the shitholes that adhere to this dark age bs, a woman cheating is often punishable by severe assault or even death?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 09:58 PM
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which ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 09:57 PM
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Woman cheats, it's her fault Woman doesn't cheat, is still at fault. Lol. K. Cultures that hold these beliefs are across the board scientifically illiterate shitholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 09:56 PM
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What STIs?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 09:54 PM
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I would prefer he let me handle it unless there was a direct threat to my physical safety. No need to escalate the situation further with hotheaded confrontation. I would not date anyone who started a street fight unless he was neutralizing a legitimate danger to himself or others. No patience for that nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 09:41 PM
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This is the most autistic thing I've read on this sub in months, and that's really saying something. Basically you're claiming that if a man has any desirable qualities, any at all, then he is superior to all women and most men. That's lunacy. Sheer delusion. Even someone with downs syndrome has some quality that others lack. Literally every person alive is superior to you in some way, and you are superior to them in other ways. You've created a loop of cognitive dissonance. If he's taller, then…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 09:39 PM
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Which is why you don't sign anything unless you're sure, and don't wait. If a guy takes the woman to court within a reasonable time frame, his chances are pretty good to win. Dont put it off until the kid is 10. When you agree to parent a child, it's not easy to back out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 06:49 PM
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Well none if the info I've read supports that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 05:43 PM
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Where did you read that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 05:33 PM
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And the courts can deny a child support request if the mother waits to long as well. So don't wait. Here's how it usually works. If a man has been raising a child, living in the same household, and decides to contest paternity when the kid is 14 years old and has never known anyone else as their father, the courts are likely to deny a request to cut off support for the kid. If the mother in that scenario suddenly decides to go after the biological father for support, even though her partner has …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 05:28 PM
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You're only forced by law if you dont bother to petition the court for a paternity test.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 05:22 PM
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Likely to avoid private citizens making a mess of paternity arrangements and encouraging people to go through the authorities. I can see how an argument can be made that this would be in the best interest of the child, but let's see how well it works in practice. People often try to take the law in to their own hands with this and the result is usually that eveyone loses.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 05:20 PM
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Private paternity tests are illegal. A person can petition the courts for a test if there is a question about paternity. This would include women who want the dad to pony up, and men that have reasonable doubt that their kids are theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 05:15 PM
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Better at what? If my boyfriend is taller than his girlfriend, but earns less money and is less attractive, who's dating up? If he's short and unattractive but rich and has a supermodel girlfriend with a trust fund, who's dating up? My boyfriend is taller than me, but he's average height. I'm more attractive, but he's more handsome then most men his age. We have the exact same job and earn almost exactly the same income. He's a much more talented visual artist than me, but I'm a better musician.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 05:10 PM
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Describe what "dating up" means
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 04:23 PM
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Eroding for who?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 07:35 AM
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There is no such thing as a perfect "Man", just as there is no such thing as a perfect "Woman". It's just as unrealistic to expect a potential girlfriend/wife to be a super hot virgin who has an insatiable sexual appetite, who never complains and is sweet all the time and is a perfect mother as it is to expect a man to be a tall rich and handsome dude who never gets flustered and always knows exactly what to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 03:44 AM
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I've had relationships that could be accurately described like both those scenarios. I've also had relationships that are both or neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 03:41 AM
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Right, low quality men. I know a few myself and they aren't exactly desirable partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 06:05 PM
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Poor people marry and have families at higher rates than middle class and wealthy people. I think having money might help a bit, but it's not a death sentence if you don't have it. Just keep within your own tax bracket and your odds are pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 06:00 PM
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I don't have enough experience with therapy to have any solid opinion on it one way or another, but I did spend a few months in therapy with a sibling to get through a trauma that was affecting our relationship, and it was very helpful. My sibling's therapist had recommended we see a marriage counselor, considering our goals were to strengthen our relationship, let go of resentments, gain coping skills, better our communication, and to set ourselves up for a strong lifelong relationship. I was v…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 05:58 PM
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I listen intently to what people say to see if it matches up with what they do. It tells you a lot about a person. I don't dismiss anything automatically until I have evidence that their words cannot be trusted. For example, one of my closest male friends laments to me constantly that he wants a girlfriend and is tired of the online dating game. And yet, every weekend he's out with some gal from Tinder who he has no intention of dating in any serious way. Obviously, he doesn't want a girlfriend …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 08:23 AM
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Yup. Just look at Lemmy or Ronnie James Dio. If they can smash legendary amounts of women looking they way they did, you can find two or three if you capitalize on what you're good at and stand out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 08:14 AM
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People have standards for Mr Right Now too
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 05:21 AM
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I wouldn't make anyone my boyfriend unless I thought they were husband material
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 03:25 AM
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I can't speak for all women who find themselves single in their thirties, but when I went back on the market at 32 after my engagement ended I was very pleasantly surprised. Dating in my thirties was not only easier than I expected, but easier than it was in college or throughout my twenties. I dated a few men and then found my current boyfriend, who I'm sure is the very best dude I've ever dated in my life. I have some advantages. I live in a well populated coastal city. I'm college educated an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 03:23 AM
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So what's your point? That having a crush that doesn't like you back sucks? Everyone knows that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 11:27 PM
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If he's not getting the response he wants, he can move along. Kinda pathetic to stick around begging.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 11:16 PM
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It's certainly something to consider, but wouldn't necessarily be a dealbreaker. I would use more caution dating someone with a fucked up background than someone without that baggage. I know plenty of people from horrible homes that are great people, but more often than not it creates serious and perhaps lifelong issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 10:46 PM
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Can you find one? A few people here looked yesterday and came up with nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 08:56 PM
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Go look at the top posts of those subs. How far do you have to scroll to get to a "men are trash" post?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 08:51 PM
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Having a kid with an ex wife is a no on it's own. I don't give a fuck about what piercings she has.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 08:15 PM
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Very few people are "involuntarily single". Most reasonable adults have basic sets of standards. An average guy with good mental health would prefer to be single than with, say, a meth addict, an idiot, someone he's not attracted to, an unemployed woman, someone with serious mental or physical health problems, etc. Sometimes the standard are lesa reasonable, like she must be super hot, a virgin, have a certain hair color, etc. We're all holding out for something. Depending on your standards and …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 06:39 PM
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People who marry in that age range are the most likely to divorce. Best to wait until your late twenties if you want something to last
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 06:33 PM
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They still matter a lot, even if our criteria as to what gives someone a bad reputation changes throughout the eras. My friend recently went on a few dates with a guy she seemed to like. I guess she posted something on Instagram of the two of them together at a museum, and one of her followers messaged her and encouraged her to Google her dates name. She did, and she found some very troublesome criminal convictions and accusations of pretty serious misconduct. She ended the brief relationship. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 06:04 PM
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Maybe. There were dozens of them all over the world. Would be pretty remarkable if they pulled that off without any controversy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 05:16 PM
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And you can say no
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 06:22 AM
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And yet, most never cheat
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 04:43 AM
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So people force you to go on dates when you leave your house?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 04:43 AM
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So far, men have only whined on the internet about it. Feminists have hit the streets, run for office, and made things happen for decades. Agree with them or not, you can't call them ineffective. What have MRAs done other than complain and assign blame? I mean other than demand feminists focus on men's issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 12:10 AM
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The goal of the annual marches is to advocate legislation and policies regarding human rights and other issues, including women's rights, immigration reform, healthcare reform, reproductive rights, the environment, LGBTQ rights, racial equality, freedom of religion, workers' rights and tolerance.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 10:56 PM
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Look at the top posts
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 10:30 PM
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Yes you can
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 10:15 PM
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So, no examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 10:15 PM
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I just did. Go look at the top posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 08:25 PM
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Can you show me mainstream examples on par with TRP and MGTOW?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 08:21 PM
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Do you think its unreasonable to seek out partners that share your values, have compatible lifestyles and future goals? Do you think it's wise to have rock bottom criteria for LTRs? No, I think it's unreasonable to expect LTRs to be "Hookup+" (or "FWB+"). Few men out there provide "The Full Package" and are in very high demand. So if a woman is looking for an LTR she'll often risk becoming a plate for eligible men who are bachelors. Let's be honest here, after 30 most eligible LTR-minded men are…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 08:19 PM
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Like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 08:17 PM
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Care to point out what part of my comment upset you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 06:04 PM
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Why are the ones of men blaming problems on women vastly more popular with hundreds of thousands more users?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:59 PM
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You can link from mobile. I think you're grasping at straws.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:59 PM
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He made an assertion and I'm asking for evidence. If men are more accountable, why are they so much more likely to assign blame for their failures on to others? Where are the masses of women blaming men for everything?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:53 PM
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I just scrolled down the top 50 or so posts on that sub, and not a single one is accusatory towards men or anything akin to "where have all the good men gone". Where are you seeing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:52 PM
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Do you think you struggle socially due to lack of opportunity, or do you think you're naturally unskilled socially? Or both?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:50 PM
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I was reading an article about the influx of male baristas recently as well. Even as recently as the late nineties, that was considered women's work. Men are becoming nurses in droves as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:45 PM
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You're right, I haven't heard of it. Because it's a tiny sub with no attention on it. Anything comparable to MGTOW or TRP for women? Anything even close? sub counts femcels 7K braincels 49k TRP 314k MGTOW 85k
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:43 PM
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Look at the top posts of that sub. It's clearly not designed solely for blaming men for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:42 PM
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Dating is brutal and humiliating for everyone. If you can't take the lumps, stay out of the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:39 PM
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I'm unclear as to your point, but I disagree that gender roles are totally obsolete, even if they are less important now than in previous eras. Men help out more with raising children now than before, but the lion's share of this responsibility still lands on women. Women are bringing home more money to the household than ever, but men are still more likely to be the breadwinner. Careers in education and child/elder care are still dominated by women. Most ditch diggers are still men. I would say…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:33 PM
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And yet there are dozens of subreddits with thousands of users dedicated to men blaming all their problems on women, and not one similar for women that I'm aware of. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:26 PM
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Here's the incel/MGTOW logic on this one. a woman who holds out for an attractive, compatible guy with a steady job, nice friends and good values is an overly picky hypergamous witch. a woman who dates just any guy who comes along is a dumb slut who deserves what's coming to her. Rarely do I see good quality men or women end up with awful partners. It happens, but it's rare. The women who routinely date losers are losers themselves more often than not. If you're wondering why you can't find a hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:06 PM
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Do you think its unreasonable to seek out partners that share your values, have compatible lifestyles and future goals? Do you think it's wise to have rock bottom criteria for LTRs? That shit doesn't matter for casual for casual arrangements. For example, I don't really care if my FWB smokes a lot of weed, but I wouldn't be in a serious relationship with anyone that does. Let me guess. A woman that is picky about who she dates is a stuck up bitch, and a woman who dates a loser is an idiot, right…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 05:00 PM
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There was one dude I had a FWB arrangement with over 6 years that I occasionally thought "why dont I just date him?". He's one of the coolest dudes I ever met. After consideration, I repeatedly came to the conclusion that things were better the way they were, for several reasons. We became very close friends and were both totally upfront about our feelings and intentions throughout the whole relationship. We stopped sleeping together about 4 years ago, but remain friends. I have been accompanyin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 08:29 AM
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I see you have a flair for the dramatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 08:22 AM
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1) The boyfriend asking the girlfriends parents permission for their daughters hand in marriage. Kinda weird but whatever. It entirely depends on the woman's relationship with her dad. My dad would probably think it was funny. 2) The girlfriend taking the last name of their future husband to be when they get married. Eh, whatever works. I can understand wanting to share a name with your husband. I also understand wanting to hold on to it. I have a very rad last name, and my partner would have to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 06:34 AM
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Not much. The vast majority of women do not have the money, time, interest, or artistic skill to drastically change their looks with makeup. Most women wear a minimal amount if anything. Hair extensions dont do much more than regular styling and grooming can accomplish. Most men dont ever even consider trying steroids, and the ones that might are pretty easy to spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 06:30 AM
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That's a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 02:27 AM
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I get that with guys a lot too. Hard to say if they're lying when they say they're cool with NSA, or they develop feelings later. Either way, I prefer to be as clear as possible so my side is honest and fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 11:30 PM
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The criteria for hookups is much lower than my criteria for LTRs. For casual sex, he really only needs to be attractive, nice, and good in bed. For dudes that I consider "boyfriend material", prolonging the courting process and taking more time to get to know one another pretty much always pays off. By the time we fuck, he's already invested. So basically if I sleep with you on a first date, it probably means that I like you, but not enough to date you seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 11:20 PM
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Certainly. I'm a pretty upfront person, so to me casual arrangements begin with a discussion and agreement that we are not going to pursue anything further than sex and maybe some fun stuff like a movie or show. But a lot of people consider anything other than monogamous relationships "casual". I like to date someone for some time before we agree to be an exclusive couple, usually at least 3 months. I dont consider sex in that time as "casual", because we have the intention of moving on to commi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 11:12 PM
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I agree. I'm in an LTR right now, but when I've sought out casual sex in the past, it's because I have been unwilling or unable to invest in a committed relationship but still wanted to get laid. Something is better than nothing. I have never had a casual sex arrangement with anyone I actually wanted to date. That's just a recipe for disaster. I've never used casual sex as a method to gain a relationship. Seems risky.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 11:04 PM
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Unless you're so nosy and sensitive that two people you don't approve of fucking upsets you, it doesn't affect you at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 08:53 PM
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Well it's only "delusional" if it doesn't work. If it works and she lands a good match, then he is by definition in her "league" If it doesn't work and no one wants to date her, then no one cares and that's her problem. Either way, men are pretty much unaffected by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 05:00 PM
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Whoever does the asking should pay, or at least offer to pay. That's just basic manners. It's my opinion that first dates should be lowkey and inexpensive for this reason. Don't spend a bunch of money on someone you don't know well. Have coffee and go for a romantic walk. Once I'm steadily dating someone, we usually take turns paying or go Dutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 04:53 PM
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Exactly. Which is why we judge people and decide whether or not they should be taken seriously. OP is upset that people don't automatically respect his ideas and beliefs "just because"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 08:17 PM
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By using OPs own words and assertions? Not all ideas and beliefs are valid
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 07:01 PM
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Where have I done that? OP got his panties in a twist because I pointed out the reality that normal people will dismiss someone they don't find credible. He finds himself constantly dismissed. Obviously others don't respect his ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 05:17 PM
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I didn't say decent and desirable, you did. If you've decided you can only be happy if you find a partner when you're a teenager and stay with them until you die, go for it. You'll just have a very hard time finding someone who shares that idea. People who marry young dont tend to stay married. Most people want to date around before they marry or settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 04:50 PM
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Average=normal. Sorry if that upsets you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 04:43 PM
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I'll invite you to reread my original comment that set you off in the first place, dear. Your rants are completely irrational.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 04:08 PM
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That is normal. It's how most people date. It's literally what dating is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 04:07 PM
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You don't make judgments on individuals as to whether or not they know what they're talking about? So you would take financial advice from a broke person in debt? Relationship advice from a child? Legal advice from your barista?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 04:06 PM
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His point is that most people aren't interested in hearing a bunch of nonsense from non credible people and will dismiss their ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 07:55 AM
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No such thing as risk free sex and dating. For anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 05:14 AM
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You just linked A DATING SITE as a scientific study! lol! And one no ones has fucking heard of, no less. The CDC begs to differ
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 01:49 AM
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Considering most men don't regret getting married even they divorce and most report wanting to marry again, ya a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 01:48 AM
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Hey genius, you described yourself as MGTOW and now you're butthurt that people are criticizing you for being MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 01:42 AM
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Most men understand that most things worth doing require a bit of risk-taking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 01:30 AM
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Oh look. An emtional tantrum without anything to back it up. Listen, the fact is that pretty much everyone is going to respect the perspective and thoughts of a person who demonstrates they have solid experience and knowledge in whatever subject rhey are discussing. Is there a chance that someone with little or no experience at all has something if value to offer? Sure. It's just extremely unlikely. And you're desperately naive if you believe that everyone who mocks and dissmisses MGTOW is a "fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 01:29 AM
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People with valid, rational beliefs and ideas don't need to beg and plead to be taken seriously. MGTOW is obsessed with gaining approval, but the fact is that their (your) ideas are far too irrational to ever be anything but dismissed. People will never listen to virgins about sex and dating. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 01:06 AM
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MGTOW and incels are "scientific studies" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 12:59 AM
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And yet, pretty much everyone ends up partnered and men and women have very similar amounts of sex partners throughout their life. How do you figure?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 12:25 AM
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does it not bother you that you immediately did the thing I said you would do? did you even realize you were doing it? Of course it doesn't bother me to use critical thinking skills when interacting with people. Why would it? If someone is talking to me about gardening tips, I'm not going to put much trust in what they say until they demonstrate some level of knowledge, experience, and expertise. I will trust someone who has an awesome garden over someone who's read a bunch if gardening books bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 12:22 AM
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Again, for every woman who finds one a guy does too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 12:15 AM
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So men can only be happy with one lifelong relationship, instead of the normal trajectory of several relationships before settling down?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 12:01 AM
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Dude was mentally ill. That's all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 11:59 PM
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Why would I lend credence to anything someone says? Respect is earned. Only an idiot would immediately listen to a stranger's rambling without scrutiny. You should look into methods to improve critical thinking skills. Everyone you meet is scrutinizing you and making assessments on whether or not you are a good, rational,and reliable source of information, and making decisions on how much to respect you based on that assessment. And yikes what a little temper you have. Very emotional about this …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 11:51 PM
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my question is, what characteristic could a man have that would not automatically disqualify anything he says? Some evidence that he knows what he's talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 11:38 PM
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lol. sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 05:50 PM
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Have you never met people who exhibit none of those traits that you mentioned? I know I have, and I feel for those people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:46 PM
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Really? You've met people who have no money, no home, no water, no family, ugly, disabled, with nothing at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:28 PM
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I would argue that just about every person alive has some sort of innate advantage that protects them from certain types of hardship. Maybe they were born into money. Maybe they are exceptionally intelligent. Maybe they have had some excellent luck. Maybe they are extraordinarily talented. Maybe they are beautiful. Saying that beautiful people are protected from tragedy is like saying people with access to clean water cannot possibly be depressed. To someone without clean water, this may seem tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:01 PM
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I was taking some community classes for a bit. I also carry a knife, brass knuckles, and a telescoping billy club. I have handled razor blades sewn into my winter boots. All my weapons are illegal but I doubt I'll ever get frisked considering I'm a tiny little white lady. I have a friend who ended up having to use her billy club to defend herself. She absolutely fucked the dude up. The cops told her not to carry it in public anymore, but they didn't cite her for it. I guess they knew the guy and…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 05:30 PM
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ya he can drag. I prefer his short stories. Try Difficult Loves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 05:17 PM
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Someone gifted me one of his books years ago but I never got around to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 05:17 PM
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How often do those women follow you, demand stuff, threaten you, or try to just take your money?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 05:16 PM
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These people must have had very charmed and easy lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:40 AM
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How would one "block" someone twice their size from following them around in public without committing assault?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:40 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 03:35 AM
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I've done that! Hurt like fuck!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 03:35 AM
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I can't remember exactly which one I used for this sub, but I think it was corpse something something. I remember you. I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 01:09 AM
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neither. I had an account like 2 years ago and used to comment a lot. Ditched that one because I forgot the password. Don't really know why I'm back.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 12:47 AM
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Ya I weigh about 98 pounds
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 12:46 AM
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oh lol. Clearly I'm an excellent reader.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 10:35 PM
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I believe she was just the translator for that work
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 10:30 PM
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She grew better with age, in my opinion. Her later works are simply devastating. I really enjoyed her biography, called Savage Beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 10:18 PM
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Right? The arrogance of these people to believe that their opinion is so special and important that they simply must be heard. I can't imagine being so sensitive as to be upset about who other people fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 10:17 PM
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Again, why get worked up over it? You are not obligated to engage in that behavior if you don't wish to. Nor are you obligated to date someone who does. I find overweight men unattractive. It's super easy to simply not date them without letting myself get upset about the fact that they exist. They're allowed to be fat. I'm allowed to focus my attention on dudes who take care of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 09:57 PM
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You still haven't explained why you feel the need to throw a fit over it instead of just moving along and finding someone who fits your personal preferences. Why so emotional about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 09:46 PM
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I did graduate from university, so? Most students are just regular people trying to graduate. Why does it bother you that most people don't end up marrying their high school or college partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 09:39 PM
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Is it difficult for you to have a personal preference without lashing out at those who don't suit it? Why? I prefer men who are gainfully employed. Never have felt the need to insult or shitpost about unemployed dudes or get myself worked up about their existence
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 09:20 PM
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I leverage my sexuality for the perk of getting laid pretty much every day
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 09:19 PM
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Everything from average bros, to well dressed older men, to street drunks. The last dude that grabbed me on the street looked like a lawyer who might have had a martini lunch. Nice button up, dress slacks, nice watch. I don't really count insane ramblings of schizo type homeless folks. They yell at everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 08:54 PM
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I've literally been catcalled wearing a snowsuit. You are desperately naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 08:52 PM
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Am I on a modeling job? Not a problem. Am I just trying to commute to work or buy groceries? Annoying as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 08:01 PM
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Black dudes will whistle or make lude comments White dudes will follow you around and get aggressively butthurt if you tell them no.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:50 PM
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In my experience, white guys cat call a bit more than black or latino men. I do get yelled at/whistled at by black and latino dudes, but none of them have ever followed me or gotten aggressive after a rejection. That's all white dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:48 PM
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Both. The groups are the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:47 PM
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Have you ever gotten into Italo Calvino? If you like Borges, it's worth checking out. A bit cerebral but worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:36 PM
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I don't really know. I haven't travelled as much as I would like. I have been catcalled in Europe and Mexico, buy not as badly
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:34 PM
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In my experience it just seems to happen organically. First you're dating, then dating and sleeping together, then dating sleeping together and going out as a couple, then intriducing eachother to friends and incorporating into each other's lives, and eventually reach a point where you're just together. There has been at least ome time when I've brought up the "what are we" talk, but it's mostly been the men I've dated who have askes first.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:31 PM
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It depends on what city I'm living in, and what neighborhoods in those cities. Because I've mostly lived in major metropolitan areas and often in population dense neighborhoods within those cities, it's been pretty much a daily thing since puberty for me. Maybe twice a week in Eugene, every damn day in San Francisco. There are other factors, like that I prefer to take the train to work instead of drive, I take a lot of walks, and I have noticeably large breasts for my figure. Maybe I have an app…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:23 PM
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I love Borges!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:15 PM
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The more info, the better. Do you read fiction? Do you download stuff from project Gutenberg or librivox? I read voraciously, about 3 books a month. I try to fit in at least one fiction in there, favoring the classics. At the risk of sounding like a turd, I much prefer analog books over kindles etc, so I get my reading material at bookstores, Amazon, borrowed from friends, and the library. What pill are you? Where do you stand on feminism? More blue than red and more feminist than not, but gener…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:52 PM
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Thank you. All of this was a long time ago and I'm pretty happy and healthy now
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:43 PM
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BDSM is not fundamentally misogynistic. Not by a long shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 08:53 AM
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Because women don't like it when dudes ask them out over and over even after they ask them to stop?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 08:49 AM
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Being hot didn't stop me from developing a life threatening illness that ate my early twenties. Nor did it stop that distracted driver from striking and killing my brother, just as it didn't gift me healthy coping skills for dealing with the loss of a sibling. Nor did it prevent a serial arsonist on the run from the cops from breaking into my home and attacking me, etc. Tragedy befalls us all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 08:36 AM
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Unexpected wholesome and reasonable answer
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 08:34 AM
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Girls who are around the age when people do stuff like hang pictures of their crush on their wall do it because they're horny, not because they're fantasizing about a nice home in a good neighborhood and a reliable car to tote their kids around in.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 05:58 PM
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I think Dick Van Dyke is very handsome and has aged beautifully. Would I fuck him or someone similar? No
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 05:22 PM
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Who cares? Let the shitty manipulative men be with the shitty manipulative women. The rest of us are free to pursue partners that share our values
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 07:08 PM
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There are no metaphors that fit every woman who breathes air. "The wall" is just another way of saying that average or below average women have a harder time finding attractive partners than hot women. Everyone knows that. If a woman is in bad shape or not pretty, she'll have a hard time no matter how old she is. A pretty woman in good shape will have no problem finding attractive partners whether she's 21 or 45.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 04:58 PM
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In the context of a romantic relationship, sex is the priority for me. It's the most reliable indicator and communication method in a happy relationship. That said, I've enjoyed "meaningless" sex plenty of times before. Sometimes you just need to get it in.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 04:44 PM
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Not if she's hot. I have juat as many if not more young guys interested in me at 35 as I did at 22. The only reason my pool shrinks is because I prefer to date men closer to my age. Luckily theres no shortage of attractive men in their mid to late thirties for me to choose from.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 04:41 PM
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What this story should tell you is that there are a bunch of reasons why dead bedrooms happen that don't include the guy not being good enough for the gal. This lady clearly had some mental hangups about sex (perhaps anxiety related) and all she needed was to get out of her head a bit and get stoned. I had a dead bedroom situation after my boyfriend lost a good friend of his in an accident. At first he was too deep in grief, and then things just got off track it was very difficult to get things …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:26 AM
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It's easy to lose hope that you can improve your circumstances reading the rage filled bitterness on here from people who don't have enough experience to even know what they're talking about. Things aren't so black and white. I don't think you're fucked by any means. It seems like you've realized what you've been doing isn't working for you, and you have a willingness to do things differently. You'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 03:19 AM
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First one, then the other. I'm pretty sure I hit 10 partners around the time I turned 20. Those were mostly hookups/fuckbuddies/ONS. After that, it's been mostly a mixture of short and longterm relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 02:24 AM
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I don't know for sure, but about 20. I'm a 35 year old woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 01:27 AM
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I don't have any moral or ethical issue with it fundamentally, but it's not something I would personally pursue. It's a matter of personal goals. If my goal is to have many experiences with many lovers and remain mostly single throughout my life, ya why not go for 100 partners? If my goal is to find and foster a longterm, committed, monogamous relationship, it doesn't make logical sense to do the exact opposite of that by sleeping around. In my opinion, neither goal is better or worse than the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/18 01:26 AM
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And hooking up with someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 10:02 PM
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It's an attempt to shame me for my behavior. It's just ineffective
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 08:53 PM
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Just from a human perspective, if I'm touching someone and they are not responding to it, I stop. Some people don't like to be hugged or touched and it's certainly not my goal to physically impose myself on anyone or make them uncomfortable. I'm also a hugger and am pretty physically affectionate, so I've definitely put myself in the position of accidentally crossing a physical boundary in an attempt to be warm and friendly. I just apologize, take note for the future, and try not to take it too …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 05:41 PM
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I've never bern shamed for my sexual behavior by a woman, either. Men on the other hand have tried to make me feel bad for having sex with certain people for various reasons. Easy to assume it stems from underlying jealousy, even if I've never directly rejected them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 05:34 PM
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Do you really believ women take surveys of their friends and associates to gage attraction stats before they decide if they themselves are attracted to someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 04:56 PM
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find humor in the situation don't catastrophize avoid attaching yourself to any specific outcome put yourself in the other person's shoes. Think of times you have been unwilling or unable to give people what they want from you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 11:34 PM
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Do you think it's likely that either of them had normal social skills/good social lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 11:13 PM
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Too "busy" to form normal social connections for 20 or 30 years? Not something healthy people experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 07:11 PM
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I have never been called a slut or a whore by another woman (excluding friendly teasing) . 100% of people who have attempted to "slut shame" me are men. Most of whom I have sexually rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 07:02 PM
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Top 20% according to who? If I'm with him, that means I think he's desirable and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 07:01 PM
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I could probably do that over a 3 day weekend if I wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:22 PM
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Preferably neither but if I had to choose, 30 partners. A virgin in my age group would have to be religious or have something seriously wrong with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 04:20 PM
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As an addition, women have been having children in their 30s and 40s for hundreds of years, it’s just wasn’t usually their first child. My brother was born when my mother was 39. And up until fairly recently, having a few dead children in the family was completely normal, and parents died in their 50s and 60s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 05:39 PM
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I think all rights and privileges should be equally applied, but that doesn't mean there will be equal results. I fully support full body autonomy. In this context, that allows women the right to maintain or terminate a pregnancy. A man's bodily autonomy is limited by his biology, not the law. In principal, he has the exact same rights as any woman, and anyone who violates his rights to his own body is subjecr to punishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 05:06 PM
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Everyone is manipulative to one degree or another. We'd all be lying if we claimed to have never done something similar to your ex to some degree or another. I've been both the recipient and instigator in such interactions over the years. I've disappointed myself several times by allowing myself to be manipulated, not seeing things for how they are until later. Ultimately it's up to me to not only be honest with myself enough to acknowledge my own intentions in interacting with people, but also …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 05:01 PM
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Do you think men buy expensive gifts for women for altruism?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 04:55 PM
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I think men are more likely to feel manipulated I've apparently "manipulated" men completely by accident. One dude I barely knew bought me an extremely expensive box set of DVDs because I mentioned in a group setting at a party that I wanted it, but couldn't afford it. When I refused the elaborate gift and encouraged him to go get his money back, he told me I manipulated him into buying it for me, just so I could humiliate him by refusing his gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 12:28 AM
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He's not the most attractive guy I know or even the most attractive guy I've dated, but I'm thirsty as fuck for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 09:39 PM
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So you believe that this is a common occurrence?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 09:20 PM
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Is this something that has happened to you a lot?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 09:01 PM
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I would never date someone who didn't want to fuck me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 08:46 PM
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So if you are having sex and your partner asks you to stop, for whatever reason, you would just keep going?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 08:45 PM
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Almost everyone marries within their own income bracket. When comparing apples to apples, married poor men are happier than single poor men. Married wealthy men are happier than single wealthy men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 08:44 PM
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I wouldn't care to convince anyone who doesn't want to get married to do it anyway or vice versa, but there are reasonable arguments on both sides. Married men are healthier, wealthier, and report being happier than single men. Divorced men are more likely than divorced women to report that they would like to marry again. Married men live longer. Marriage can ease the financial, emotional, and physical stresses of aging. If he has or wants children, the benefits of marriage are pretty obvious. B…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 06:08 PM
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It's almost exactly like panhandling. Most of the time when someone on the street asks me for money, the answer has to be no. The reasons for my reasons vary from being in a hurry, being preoccupied with something else, having a bad day, the person who's asking freaks me out, and of course sometimes I really wish I could help but don't have anything to give. And obviously sometimes I do give them some money. It's true that panhandling is usually annoying and unwelcome, but it only becomes an act…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 04:37 PM
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There's no such thing as risk free sex. Pregnancy and disease are still possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 09:52 PM
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There's no such thing as risk free sex. Pregnancy and disease are still possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 09:31 PM
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Which could actually save them money in this scenario if done strategically. The same way reducing your income can save you money on college.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 09:26 PM
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high risk of becoming responsible for children that aren't yours or your partner having children with people outside your union affects the children's wellbeing. Cheating partners expose their spouses to infectious diseases. Spited people becoming involved in a marriage can pose a danger. Breaking up a household causes financial distress.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 09:25 PM
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Would it be rational for me to fear being eaten by a lion if I live in Los Angeles? What if I lived in the African bush?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 09:21 PM
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A single person fucking a lot of people does not have any affect on you other than maybe some bad feelings. A partner cheating on you threatens your family, your future, your children, potentially your home.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 09:20 PM
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Do you understand the difference between a rational fear and an irrational fear?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 09:01 PM
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Because a cheating partner actually poses a real risk to the affected person. It's an insecurity, but a rational one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 08:55 PM
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Do you truly not see the difference between a single person having sex with multiple people vs cheating on a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 08:41 PM
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Most people don't pay the court ordered amount of child support, usually because they reduce their income either purposefully or incidentally which exempts them from the original mandated amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 08:14 PM
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And yet they cheat at almost identical rates
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 08:10 PM
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Everyone thinks about cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 06:05 PM
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Your argument is essentially "they might not cheat, but they think about it!" My response is "so?"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 05:48 PM
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It's meaningless because it's a base instinct that every human has. We all think about doing things we shouldn't do. That doesn't mean we actually want to do it, considering the consequences. Anyone who's been a relationship for 5 or more years would have to admit they've considered dumping or cheating on their partner. Every parent has momentarily considered slapping their kid. Every one of us has thought about calling our boss a motherfucker and walking out on our jobs. We use our human intell…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 05:02 PM
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Right. Maybe he doesn't love his wife anymore. Maybe they're in a rough patch. Maybe he just has poor impulse control. Maybe he's an unfeeling scumbag with no moral compass. Same can be said for any woman who cheats as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 04:51 PM
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Anything to back that up other than a weird outlook?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 04:49 PM
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Would it be fair to call you a shoplifter if you thought about stealing from a store but didn't because you don't want to be arrested?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 04:28 PM
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No, they don't. About 30% of people across the board cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 04:26 PM
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Married men cheat at slightly higher rates than married women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 04:21 PM
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Every single person alive has thought about cheating or been tempted. The same way we all momentarily are temtped to shoplift or punch someone in the face. Most of us don't actually do it. The fleeting temptation means nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 04:20 PM
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Divorce rates are below 50% and steadily declining. Also are you trying to say that 100% of divorces are the result of women wanting to cheat? Married men cheat at slightly higher rates than married women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 04:19 PM
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Most never do that either, and in fact fewer and fewer every year
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 04:18 PM
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Then why don't most women cheat?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 08:59 AM
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I also have a family member with BPD Who is a general nightmare of a human being. She ended up with an absolute physcopath and frankly thet deserve each other. I would not like to be a guest at their house.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/18 04:29 AM
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I'm asking you if you believe that a self reported survey is as accurate as a professionally administered survey accompanied by a personal assessment, because that's what you implied.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 11:10 PM
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Are you asking how an in person assessment by a professional profiler is more accurate than a unsupervised, vague, self reported internet survey? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 10:55 PM
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You mean the test that are administered in person along side a mental health assessment?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 10:22 PM
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Depends on the individuals
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 09:46 PM
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Yep, there's a ton of service work being done for this issue, and with pretty encouraging success https://www.equalitynow.org/end_fgm?locale=en https://www.raptim.org/fighting-against-female-genital-mutilation/
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 09:40 PM
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I doubt the accuracy of this test.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 08:57 PM
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Boundary issues. Either having no standrds or sky-high demands.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 06:20 PM
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He would sometimes fuck with people "What do you mean??? Mom, is this true??" Meanwhile he's standing almost a full foot taller than every member of my family with light blonde hair and blue eyes. The rest of us are short with black hair and dark features.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 06:17 PM
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Yes I would imagine so. I suppose you take what you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 06:09 PM
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Some people like being fat
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 06:03 PM
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The same reason I don't eat 4 donuts every morning or let my boyfriend raw dog me without birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 05:51 PM
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I grew up in a family of mixed adopted and bio kids. None of that was an issue. We all got along great and are successful adults. One of my brothers stuck out like a sore thumb because he looked so drastically different than the rest of us, but the most that ever happened because of that was "wow you must be adopted!". My parents never showed overt favoritism, but I think were softer towards my brother who had the toughest time with his bio family and foster care. He's been through a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 05:11 PM
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Well then I guess lucky for me that I can use my human intelligence and a degree of free will to override base instincts in favor of something I personally find more meaningful
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 05:08 PM
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Because I want to foster, and there is great need. Two of my siblings were adopted from foster care, and I would prefer to help a child in need over creating more children just so I can have a replica of myself running around
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/18 04:22 AM
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I had to end my engagement over this issue. The kids thing came up pretty early. He wanted them, I was on the fence. We negotiated to the compromise that we would apply to be foster parents, something we both wanted to do, and would keep biological kids as a "maybe" for the future. As the wedding approached, he had to confront his truth that biological kids were important to him. Thus created the crisis of him wanting to marry me, but not being willing to compromise on having children. I'm very …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 06:18 PM
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Or the other way around. When I was younger I assumed I would want kids "eventually". That never happened and I'm now perfectly content in my mid thirties without ever having the desire to have my own kids. Being an aunt is enough for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 06:11 PM
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People who make their needs and feelings my responsibility. There is a delicate balance between expressing desires/needs/boundaries and being overbearing and demanding . Clingy people have difficulty with this boundary. A partner falling to pieces without constant attention is not attractive. It puts too much pressure on the object and signals weakness and insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 05:43 PM
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I can understand the symbolic significance of making a vow in front of friends and family to stay together through life. I think it's great if people want to make themselves accountable for that bond. That said, I personally don't feel the need for a ceremony and certificate. I do see the appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 06:21 AM
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People are good about justifying shitty behavior. We all do it. There are just some things that cannot be justified no matter what excuses people come up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 02:27 AM
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I've heard all kinds of shitty excuses for cheating. My friend's fiance said he did it because he was "forced" to sleep over at someone else's apartment because their cat was sick and he couldn't stand the meowing through the night. Another friend justified her cheating because her boyfriend didn't want to play tennis anymore, so of course she needed a new tennis partner who just happened to be an attractive single man and...woops! As far as tattling on people who cheat, that's trickier. There h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 02:19 AM
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Yep, because I feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 10:53 PM
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With shocking regularity. Especially in Florida.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 10:44 PM
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Oh jeez, there's so much I could say here, but I'll stick to general priorities. What existing laws would you like to see abolished? I would like to see a complete overhaul of how we handle drug offenses, ending the "war on drugs". Legalize marijuana (and eventually all drugs) nation wide, clemency for non violent addicts currently in prison. I would like to see an end of life sentences without parole for persons under 18 years old. End Citizens United. What existing laws would you like to see a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 05:25 PM
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Do psychiatrists use generalizations and data to trear their patients, or do they asses each person individually? Think about this hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 05:07 PM
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I can't prove a negative, genius. You claim that this is a common thing, it's on you to prove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 05:08 AM
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And every time someone is asked to find commentary on reddit supporting that, they come up with nothing. Because it's not a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 01:33 AM
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You're trying to create an argument that dating sucks because men "aren't having it". All evidence supports the opposite: that women are the ones who've "had it" and have decided to forgo traditional relationships with men. There is no mass exodus of men choosing to not fuck, date, or marry so much as there is a small hut steady decline in what types of men (if any) women choose for fucking, dating, and marrying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 01:30 AM
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If you don't see the difference between quantifiable data regarding measurable statistics and trying to apply that science to unquantifiable, nuanced concepts such as individual personalities......you lack social skills. The fact that you even think this is a sane comparison speaks volumes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/18 11:30 PM
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The only people who say looks don't matter are incel strawmen
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/18 09:34 PM
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I think it's silly and misguided, but it doesn't affect me. The only one's missing out are those who choose to see individuals as flimsy data instead of judging each interaction on an individual basis. This is not something people who are socially skilled do. Other people having shitty social skills is not my problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/18 02:01 AM
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She's entitled to her opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/18 12:02 AM
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Most people don't give a fuck about any of this shit. Just talk to people in real life and judge on an individual basis
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 05:48 PM
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I don't tend to stick my nose into other people's business and assign blame to one partner or another when it comes to people I don't know divorcing, like assuming they "ditched" their spouse. That said, I don't think it's immoral or wrong to end a marriage that isn't working for one or both partners, and obviously absent parents are and should be obligated to financially support any and all children they have. Spousal support depends on circumstances. Maybe they had an agreement that the man wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 04:47 PM
1

What qualifies as "dating down"?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 07:49 AM
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Almost everyone dates and marries within their own income bracket
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 07:48 AM
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I grew up with a guy with endless potential. I really love that dude. He has so many wonderful qualities and would make an excellent boyfriend. Sadly, he grew into a sloppy, lazy, unmotivated young man and never really grew out of that. As he is, he is not boyfriend material for any reasonable woman. It's really a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 07:46 AM
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Generally? None of my business. For potential partners, I prefer a close to average sexual history but can make exceptions depending on the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 10:36 PM
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To a degree, yes. I have a family member who has always been hyperfocused on one thing: getting rich. She used that focus to motivate herself through high levels of education and then a highly competitive career feild. She doesn't give a fuck about people's feelings, just advancing her career and getting paid. She's not evil, just insensitive. She's been like that her whole life. Her attitude has paid off. She is wealthy and successful. She owns a beautiful home, drives a quality car, vacations …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 05:23 PM
1

Most men are both
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 04:52 PM
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It depends on the circumstances. Did he hire a prostitute when he was on vacation in Amsterdam? Deployed overseas? Just one time out of curiosity? Not a big deal to me. If he was cruising for street walkers on a regular basis, that is a hard pass. Same goes for one night stands. A few here and there in college or after a rough breakup isn't a dealbreaker. Jackrabbiting and ghosting a bunch of people off tinder just for kicks is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 07:26 AM
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What do you call women who give it up right away to anyone who expresses interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 05:26 AM
5

If the game is sex and dating, finding a partner is the reward
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 05:15 AM
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Unfortunately, I know this man very well. We work very closely together and have for years, making personal life details par for the course. Fuck I'm at the dudes house every week or so. I've met his family. He has no friends. He is a professional model/actor/stuntman. He is undeniably good looking. He just weirds everyone out. Men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 03:51 AM
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I don't see why any man would publicly complain about never having sex if he were in fact having sex. That doesn't make sense. Every few months he gets stoked for a date and then makes excuses as to why it went poorly. It's hard to articulate just how off-putting this dude is. No one likes him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/18 12:51 AM
2

Honestly I would be surprised if this guy has ever fucked. Maybe in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 08:40 PM
1

Certainly. There have been some qualities that I didn't consider a big deal until I dated people with/without said qualities and realized through experience how important it is for me to be with someone who has/doesn't have those qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 08:23 PM
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I don't think they are. I know for sure none of them have in at least a year because he bitches about it constantly. He thinks it's because they're racist against him because he's white. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 08:20 PM
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Yep. I have a coworker who is undeniably attractive. He looks like a classic old school Hollywood leading man. He fucking sucks. Pathological liar, short fuse, exceptionally immature, very weird vibes. I've known him for 3 years and not once in that time has he made it past a first date with anyone . I've never known a more attractive and yet totally unfuckable person in my life. Not to totally trash him. He does have some good qualities. I still think he'll be single forever unless he finds a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 06:48 PM
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