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I bought some lube so it's only like 50% dry now.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 02:23 PM
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Lmao okay got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 02:09 PM
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Yea this is Korea. Pretty common to have one building crammed full of everything. She works at a cram school which is where kids go after regular school finishes. But yea I will try to get to the root of the issue when I want to bring it up again.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 02:07 PM
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This is one hell of an insightful post. Your mention of the rape victim post got me thinking because I actually haven't felt like she enjoys going out with me. Most of the time when we go out, it's with another couple, her family, and if it's just us, just a dinner and movie and right back home. She doesn't even like staying to just relax after eating. Part of it I think is personality, but a bigger part could be that she has lost lots of attraction. Pre RP I was whining like a bitch about sex, …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 02:04 PM
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Totally forgot about askMRP, but I just know there's more traffic here anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 06:06 AM
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Yeah I instantly regretted blowing up. She's never seen me like that except for when I went off on my mom about how she was acting during a trip.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 06:05 AM
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Teacher for 3 days a week part time. I have picked her up from her job twice since she's started working there and she comes home straight from work (I know the time it takes between our house and there). I think my wife is just weird. In reading the female psychology book some more this morning, I think she might be LSE (low self esteem). She has always had confidence issues dealing with her appearance even though she is attractive and she really cares too much about what people think about her…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 06:03 AM
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I love eating alone. I do it very often. I also go to the movies alone.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 06:01 AM
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Yeah I realized this upon waking this morning. No need to apologize for some covert contract she had in her mind about inviting her mom along. I have tried to engage by asking if she is ready to talk, but she is firmly in silent treatment mode. BP me is SCREAMING "OH NO SHE'S MAD! RUN TO HER! APOLOGIZE SO SHE DOESN'T HATE YOU ANYMORE." So frustrating. I know that her getting upset at me for not bowing down to her demand of inviting her mom is silly, but the conditioning is still there making me …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 05:59 AM
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Similar to the way I handled it above without the emotional outburst. Just turn around and go home although I like the suggestion of not even taking her in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 08:41 PM
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Everyone keeps saying this, but doesn't make sense. We were there just a few weeks ago at a restaurant and movie theatre (which is right above her work). She has been a bit down lately because of her work and I think she genuinely had no desire to be near that area during her break time. I'll consider this scenario, but highly doubt it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 08:03 PM
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Ah yea so true. I actually used to do that a lot back when we first started dating. Frame it as me going somewhere and bringing her along. That's one aspect I've wanted to bring back but totally forgot about. Also, it seems suspicious but we've been to that area so many times in the past few months (my gym is there and sometimes when I'm finished I'll pick her up from work since it's basically right next to the gym). Also, she stays at home all day. A true homebody and doesn't go anywhere. I mea…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 07:05 PM
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I can see how that would come into your mind from the outside, but highly unlikely since: The restaurant just opened and I didn't tell her the name of it And we've been to several restaurants in the past few months literally next door to the place
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 07:01 PM
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I remember doing something similar. My wife's aunt likes to just randomly drive from her hometown to ours without telling anyone and everyone is supposed to just drop everything and have dinner the next day. So one time it happened again and I had a long week and wanted to stay home and take care of some shit and just relax. Wife tells me aunt is in town and we should meet her the next day. I flat out say "No." I was fed up with her aunt's rudeness and didn't give a fuck. Wife was mad, went, cam…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 06:45 PM
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Well in the previous thread, I stated I kinda half assed everything and a lot of that came down to just reading shit on here instead of applying it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 06:39 PM
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My thought process with bringing it up again was from a post I saw in another thread some time ago. It mentioned facing the issue head on (leading) instead of running away from it. With the last line, I'm just saying that I know there is more work to do but I do need to reword it. Not so much "awaiting " the next test, but just knowing that another one will come to to just roll with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 06:37 PM
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I used to watch Everybody Loves Raymond as a teenager and while I found some parts funny, I was always bothered by how much of a wimp he would act like with his wife. He would never stand up to her even when she was being a bitch. I'm sure it had some effect on me. Great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 05:56 PM
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So final update. After all the bs I posted and getting good advice (kick in the rear) from posters here, it seems I passed the last little shit test my wife was pulling. Gave me the silent treatment all day, but took the advice and acted like her mood didn't affect me. Happy face after a cold text for logistics, she came home still grumpy and I smiled and kissed her. Eventually sat down and talked about the problem. I was adamant about maintaining frame and using broken record to repeat my posit…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 02:08 PM
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Did this tonight before turning in for bed. She's out in the living room to sleep and I gave her a good night with a smile as I headed off to the bedroom. She repsponded with a good night of her own albeit in a sulky tone. Will see what the morning brings.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 06:32 PM
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Noted. Thanks for the good advice. Instantly felt like I fucked up after apologizing and (if you read the second update) she shit tested me again right after we made up and she's mad again. So get this, she was the one who gave me the idea of inviting some friends over while she's on her trip. I message friends, get logistics situated and tell her it's all settled. Friends will be here, we will chill at our house, then head out and people watch at bars/eat food all night. I love the time with my…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 05:41 PM
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UPDATE: Man what the fuck is wrong with women. Did Red Curious' thing and she seemed aloof or whatever. Then came into the room all sweet and lovey dovey. Then reminded me of the trip with her family this weekend and said since she's rarely out of the house for an overnight stay, why don't I invite the boys over and hang. She said she will clean the whole house. I'm like cool, but inside I'm like wtf that's all it takes? So all seems cool now. She also did all of my chores today while she was st…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 01:25 PM
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Got home after the gym and did something similar. Situation is better at the moment but now she's acting aloof and almost arrogant. I don't care at this point and just gonna focus on me, myself, and I from now on. I'm at the point where I do wanna keep this thing going, but if she ends up leaving, so be it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 12:43 PM
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Lol yes it is a plea for attention. A need for tough love.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 12:03 PM
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Oh I left that part out. She actually did say she felt bad and sorry that she couldn't go the other night. So looking back, I'm probably just an asshole that caused an unnecessary confrontation because he couldn't control his urges for one more night.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 12:02 PM
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Still thinking like a beta bitch who is afraid of his wife being mad at him.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 09:40 AM
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Fuck it, I will apologize because I'm probably going rambo too fast and she really has not had a reason to be in the mood for sex except as duty sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 08:00 AM
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Harsh but needed. We met at 26 so been together 6. Took a few years to plan the wedding. But yeah I'm not even sure where to go from here. Probably gonna come home to the silent treatment today (which is bothering me less and less), but it seems that I fucked up so hard last night that either way I'm screwed (with an apology or just letting her stew).
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 07:53 AM
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I wasn't the best at hiding my emotions ever so I just need practice. My facial expressions have always been shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 07:51 AM
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Yeah just getting through the fogging section and I know I have a lot of stuff to get through. I feel deep in her shit and after years of conditioning, I need to just plow through it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 07:50 AM
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Thanks for the comments and help. I get so tied into that beta/alpha shit that I wonder if normal stuff is "normal" anymore. Comes with practice though and just doing what you feel is right and not for any secret contracts. I do feel she needs to be walked so I will do that. I will also try gaming her as someone suggested when I meet her.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 04:26 PM
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Yeah she is not a bitch about it. I actually think it may be some resentment as everything else is solid but she's always too tired to have sex. However I know that's up to me to change.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 03:46 PM
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Oh that's been her excuse for the past year. Nothing new lol
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 03:38 PM
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Doing what out of spite? Going out?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 03:23 PM
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Yes a few months ago. We've been 50/50 about it. I think the unresolved issue may be what I said in a previous post. She doesn't believe I will help out when there is a baby. My fault because I don't take care of shit around the house like I should now. She sees some of her friends and how depressed they are, and how their husbands don't do shit. Her father did the same thing. Also they have this thing about Korean men going out all the time to avoid being with the family so she may be projectin…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 03:22 PM
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Lol @ the last part but I knew I fucked up when I said it. But to your first part, I have actively tried to include her when I do fun shit. She refuses. I remember one time I took her to a laid back lounge for drinks and music since she had never been to one. Despite my fun and cheerful attitude, she didn't talk and wanted to leave after 30 minutes. She's very uptight, and I've been trying to open her up to no avail. My because of my slippage into betadom it's not working? I suspect so because w…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 03:16 PM
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Lol oh ok. Yea true.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 01:59 PM
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"Maybe you should man the fuck up and inspire your woman to get out and live life. Lead her to where you want her to be, grow the fuck up and recognize you don't just get what you want, you have to earn it." True. Although I should've mentioned we live in Korea so she's not just home in a foreign country alone. She has her Korean friends she hangs with and has no problem meeting new Koreans. It's just Westerners where she feels she can't connect. When we first started dating, I tried bringing he…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 01:53 PM
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I think this was her gripe. Since I'm still in the process of de-bluepilling, she doesn't believe I will take care of my shit if a baby comes. Although I have been doing more in terms of taking the lead with keeping the house in order, she still doesn't believe in me after years of just in general being messy and disorganized.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 01:46 PM
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Direction? Just feedback on how I handled the situation after a month in training.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 01:28 PM
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I typed all of that. no talking involved.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 01:28 PM
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Yeah I started to STFU towards the end, but probably too late. After round 2, she is saying "Oh no baby because you will be out all the time." I've been on the fence about kids, but I have never wanted to rule them out.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 01:27 PM
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That's the book I just finished reading. So much BP conditioning. With kids in the picture (future) I feel more guilty. What you said kept going around in my mind when she talked about it. Like so what? You are alone with the kid. Are you too incompetent to take care of the kid for one night?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 01:26 PM
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Yeah I felt like that may have been too much, but it was just something natural that came out. I think round 2 is about to start. I hate that I still feel an inclination to just bow down and say "Okay honey, I won't stay out all night."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 12:52 PM
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If it was too much or did I go too quick too soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 12:49 PM
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I live in Korea and I agree with most of this post. I'm also in an LTR here, and could say the same things. It's hilarious though seeing the Western women complain about dating options. "Why do all the guys go after Korean girls?" "Yellow fever." blah blah Maybe it's because they dress nicely and aren't always trying to one up the guy in a who can be manlier competition. I feel so sorry for some of the Westerners that come over as couples to teach. The guy always seems to be with some overbearin…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/15 03:28 PM
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Friends with the same guy. I posted one of his status updates over on TumblrinAction. He is a tool.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/15 12:57 PM
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