Shit test or comfort test?

Scurvemuch · 2016-12-14T16:13:10+00:00

OP :

I live in a very very safe area in a nice house. In the middle of the night, or even late in the evening , wife will freak out, think she heard something, ask me to please check the doors, am I sure I closed the garage door, am I sure there isnt someone in the basement.

I used to get really fucking pissed off at this. Like, WTF, you don't trust me to close the door right the first time?? You aren't an adult and can't check the door yourself? And that is this shit about being afraid of the area?? We got this house because the neighborhood made YOU feel safe! I was fine downtown near the bar scene!.

So , get up and check the door, look down in the basement. Come back and fall back into bed. Wife nearly asleep again. " Babe, thanks for making me feel safe, I know I am crazy sometimes".

You don't do this to get laid. But I guarantee if you do not make her feel like you can and will protect her, she will find someone who will.

TheFamilyAlpha · 2016-12-14T16:37:47+00:00

I'd meet my girl, maybe make it a thing where I'd sit outside and read in the fresh air or something. If you're in the hood, maybe she's got a point.

The night before my wife started going to night class I sat her down and handed her a Knife/Flashlight combo as well as pepper spray.

Her school was in a nice area, but she had to walk into a dark parking lot.

I explained how to use light to disorient, how to use pepper spray, and when and where to use the knife.

She sat there and soaked it in, a few days later she thanked me for caring and that she was glad she had a crazy guy instead of a pussy who didn't care.

Countpudyoola · 2016-12-14T15:38:04+00:00

If I'm confused ... I err on the side of manly.

Protection from danger is one of the oldest biological drivers for a female to seek out a mate.

If it's a clear case of compliance/man-ipulation. Ie. "I need you to hold my purse in Bed Bath and Beyond to protect it...then no.

But guard me late at night in a situation she can't avoid? Do it.

bogeyd6 · 2016-12-14T15:07:56+00:00

Listen here PurpleDrink27. If you want her to go to the gym with you start going at a time that it's feasible for her to go without asking her directly. Also, if the neighborhood is shady at night, asking for her man to protect her isn't exactly beta. I would be more worried if you went to walk her home and she said "why are you here?".

anythinginc · 2016-12-14T16:17:17+00:00

It depends on your frame. Are you the guy that takes care of what's his and loves being papa bear? Then meet her at the bus stop. Are you the sexy lothario who kicks a girl out of bed in the morning? Make her walk. "Tired" isn't a good reason here. "Manning up" isn't a good reason either. Decide what is best for you and your family and do it.

Without knowing where you live...I would do it during the Winter/Holidays if I could. Or arrange for some way to get her to the door of the building. There is a cab or uber driver around that would love a couple easy guaranteed dollars a night by waiting for her at the stop and dropping her off at the door. If staying in bed is worth a couple dollars to you then this should be an easy call. It gets dark super early and every petty criminal is out in full force trying to score some heat/Christmas money. If you decide it is something you don't like doing anymore after Christmas then great, you have an out, you said what you were going to do and why. A compromise might be to call her and stay on the phone until she gets inside the building. That way you both can feel more safe and secure. I'm used to my girls calling me and staying on the phone when they have to get gas in a sketchy part of town or walk to their car at night somewhere and I appreciate being thought of as their safety net and protector.

The walk is also an EASY place to game her.

Show up with a hot chocolate if you need to show some comfort
wrap your arms around her, flirt with her, hold hands...
you've got a perfect kino, isolation and escalation opportunity every night
"BABE! WHATS THAT!" as you grab her and pull her into a corner for a grope and kiss.
"They're coming! Kiss me!" as you pretend the couple walking past is the gestapo looking for you.
5 flights of stairs! The comments and ass slaps I could make with 5 flights to work with!!
"I can't keep doing this baby, your ass going up those stairs gets my cock rock hard."
Stairwells! Great place to make out.

When she gets in the door alone her shields are probably up. You have 5 minutes and 5 flights to try to get past them every night, or make sure they never go up. I'd take the opportunity. But remember you're doing it because you decided you wanted to, so if she is still not receptive most nights you can't be butthurt. You're setting the precedent that you are too tired to walk, and she gets to follow and be too tired to fuck...change the game. Again, would be easy to start now because of "Christmas crime" and drop in several weeks if you wanted, but if you decided to keep it up you get to say "Baby, Christmas is over, but I really enjoy our walk and time together and fucking in the stairwell, so I'm going to keep meeting you." If you didn't enjoy the walk and time together and didn't ever fuck in the stairwell then Christmas is over, you don't like doing it, she didn't add value to your time, so make better use of it.

Bigger issue...find a place where you both feel safer after dark and/or get her in a different job. 11PM and opposite schedules isn't conducive to sex and family.

addictedtoyourface · 2016-12-14T15:33:13+00:00

Honestly lately I've just been too tired to walk down five flights of stairs and back...

Then we better not see you on here crying when your girl says she too tired to fuck you.

Grapedrink27 · 2016-12-14T22:46:27+00:00

Thanks for the comments and help. I get so tied into that beta/alpha shit that I wonder if normal stuff is "normal" anymore. Comes with practice though and just doing what you feel is right and not for any secret contracts.

I do feel she needs to be walked so I will do that. I will also try gaming her as someone suggested when I meet her.

redearththeory · 2016-12-14T17:07:55+00:00

You're the Head of Security for your family. Complete a risk assessment (with research, analysis of route, building) and make a decision whether this is a security procedure your family needs. You might find there are other options: mace, whistle.

drty_pr · 2016-12-14T19:15:55+00:00

She just wants to feel safe bro. All women do this. As scurv said, she will find someone else toake her feel safe. Guaranteed!

Take it as an opportunity to have some fun. Show up one night dresses as a secret service agent. The next night, be waiting in a banana hammock. The following week, hide around the corner dressed as a killer clown. Mix it up. Make her feel alive.

mrpthrowa · 2016-12-14T15:02:38+00:00

It may be a compliance test. "May", depending on whether you genuinly think there is a safety concern.

Do you think she finds comfort when you do this? does she not shit test you when you do this and is pleasant to bring back home? if so this is great, continue doing this.

Is she a harpy bitch all the way? don't do this.

Are you genuinly concerned and do you think there is reason to be so? Then move to a place where she can get home without fear of getting raped.

BobbyPeru · 2016-12-14T15:46:48+00:00

She's looking for security. Don't try to read into it too much. She feels unsafe, plain and simple. Maybe she didn't approach it the best way, but she's pissed and that's how it comes out, sideways. Too tired is a BS excuse

Scurvemuch · 2016-12-14T15:45:27+00:00

How are you too tired to walk ten flights?

One of the things women look for is to FEEL PROTECTED by their man.

If you are too lazy / weak / tired to do that, do not be surprised that she feels safer coming home with someone else's sperm in her. Or not come home at all, since you can't even provide basic man for her.

redmountainpill · 2016-12-14T20:48:42+00:00

Depends on the actual safety of the neighborhood. I agree, you could show you're a protector by meeting her and walking. If you have to get up at 5am and she's safe otherwise, it's a compliance test.

Also, if you don't have kids and she's not having sex with you why are you with her?

benmarvin · 2016-12-15T01:15:01+00:00

At the risk of concern trolling, how you gonna feel if something happened and you were too tired to jog down the stairs?

For fucks sake, make it about you. Add the extra stairs to your workout routine. Go run an errand down the street 30 min before she comes home. Ravage her in the stairwell halfway back up to the apartment. All win-win ideas.

Texas_Sir · 2016-12-15T03:19:28+00:00

My first post. Red Pill ideas don't seem to lend themselves to just flat out being fucking lazy. Do you protect your own or not? Do you even have to ask? Enjoy your evening nap.

470_2_700_nm · 2016-12-15T15:55:18+00:00

This is a "I need you to protect me" signal. It's neither a shit nor a comfort test. It's rooted in her desire to stay alive and well.

Walk her back, but put some conditions to it so that it works on your terms.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-12-15T16:35:26+00:00

This is a tough one and I think only OP knows the true best answer. Really it depends on your assessment. Walking home by yourself at 11:00 p.m. can be dicey and even dangerous for a woman so the concern is not completely irrational.

I would compromise and have her Skype on the phone if she is worried about part of her walk.

Triadis3 · 2016-12-16T12:54:20+00:00

So I'm lying in bed with a sleepover plate post marathon session. I'm exhausted, drained, leg cramps, the full meal deal.

In the dark there's a distinct "thump." Once. No further sounds.

I can barely see her face, but her eyes are huge with fear.

Now I know it's just a raccoon or coyote jumping on the deck, no big deal.

Did I tell her that?. Fuck no. It's your job to be the king of your castle. I grabbed my .50 beowulf AR, clicked on the flashlight, and did a bare ass sweep of the perimeter. Did I chamber a round? Fuck no. The appearance of safety is all she wanted/needed.

Result - subbie kneeling BJ when I returned from the mission.

spexer · 2016-12-14T22:38:34+00:00

Do you.

I walk around and open my woman's car door for her. it is not for her, it is not to get laid. It is what I think is the right thing to do (Southern Gentleman).

So what do you think is the right course of action... who is the man you want to be?

Title	Shit test or comfort test?
Author	Grapedrink27
Upvotes	11
Comments	33
Date	December 14, 2016 2:55 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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