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redmountainpill/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 03:47 PM
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redmountainpill/r/askMRP18/07/16 03:15 AM
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redmountainpill/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 09:47 PM
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I think you’re worrying too much. Your hamster is out of control. You’re trying to own your shit, yet you want to own her shit too. Your finances are under control and you’re getting your body in shape. Focus on what’s really important to you— I assume Health and your kid. I like the idea of giving her a job. She sounds bored.
/r/askMRP13/10/17 03:35 PM
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How is more cheating going to fix a relationship marred by cheating on both sides? Sex isn’t the problem in this relationship
/r/askMRP13/10/17 03:17 PM
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Maybe take some time away from RP. Learn why you have a void that needs to be filled by sex. Learn how to develop real connections with women— and men. Learn how to compromise.
/r/askMRP13/10/17 03:12 PM
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Thank you for the post. I recently took up plating again and gave it up because I found it to be a big waste of time with low quality girls. What I desired was a partner and I wasn’t going to achieve that with plates. Good luck, let us know how it plays out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 09:28 PM
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The women don't track them down. Jealous husbands on the other hand-- that makes for a shitty time
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 02:14 PM
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Keep her around for fun if you enjoy her company. Sounds like a tightly-wound, possessive career woman. If you like that type,you can have mine
/r/askMRP14/09/17 01:45 PM
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I'd agree with you. Maybe focus on leg presses and exercises that put less pressure on his spine
/r/askMRP13/09/17 03:10 PM
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I spent a year in couples' therapy wondering when my wife would take charge of her own problems. What I didn't realize is that I wasn't owning my own life. I was blaming everything on her. Once I started caring less about how she acted, she started coming around a little bit. The truth is, she may never fix herself. My advice is to meditate, do some yoga, lift, and once you're ready, do some mushrooms to figure out what's really important.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 03:07 PM
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My wife is on her second pregnancy. I've been doing MRP for over a year now. It's a lot easier than the first time. Still flirt, game, etc, but realize that any dread isn't going to work well for her. Focus on lifting, being a better man, and leading your growing family. Take a knee in terms of sex for the next few months. Her hormones are going to make her insane. Be empathetic without being a pushover.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 07:23 PM
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I've been down a similar road. Congrats man. Sometimes marriages need a huge shock to bring them back to life.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 07:02 PM
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I'd suggest you lift weights, read the sidebar books, and get out of your wife's frame. I understand you're pissed at her (I would be too if she cut off sex once we were naked) but you're only harming yourself by harboring anger and resentment. Maybe read up on stoicism while you're improving your physique. Become a happyguy in real life
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 01:25 PM
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Resist the urge to squash your feelings. Embrace your feelings and try to find the root cause. In my case, I thought I was angry because my wife 'trapped' me. It wasn't until I fully embraced my role as a family leader with a mission--owned my shit-- that I could break free from that. Eventually a switch flipped with my wife. After I started owning my life, she couldn't hold any resentment toward me. She had to examine her own motives and insecurities because my lazy ass wasn't part of the equat…
/r/askMRP27/08/17 01:18 PM
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Growing up in a conservative religious area, there's lots of girls here who resent their man for missing out on the cock carousel. If you're a high-value man you can mitigate AWALT. And it's good you realize that you have to be on your game all the time to manage your bitches. Personally, I'd rather have a girl know that I'm the best she'll ever have than let her have that lingering doubt of "what if"
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 10:02 PM
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What about this girl is worth keeping?
/r/askMRP25/08/17 05:48 PM
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A little reassurance is fine, she's your wife after all. Don't be evasive, cold or distant. Flirt with her over text messages. Have fun with her
/r/askMRP25/08/17 02:00 PM
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Having been down that road, there's no way for me to have a meaningful relationship at home when I'm regularly gaming other women. It's not the sex. It's the sneaking around that'll affect you on the inside.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 01:06 PM
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Why can't you take your kids to the festival and have fun while your wife is slinging balls? GLO had a post a while ago about agree and amplify about everyday things in your life. Your wife wants to go to this festival? AGREE to go and AMPLIFY by being the fucking man of the festival. It's a festival for christ sake! Do they have beer? Drink beer! Talk to the organic hippies about their farms. Ask your wife if she'll loan you a set of balls, give them to your kids (they need to know what good ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 08:34 PM
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Guess he'll have to master nonverbal kino escalation
/r/askMRP22/08/17 03:59 AM
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-- lurks for a year -- half-asses MRP for 3 months -- sits there like a mute retard (probably smirking) while his wife is seeking leadership and comfort. This fact that you think your marriage is "redundant and predictable" shows that you don't really understand any of this. Go give your wife a hug and tell her you're a team
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 03:54 AM
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I'm amazed bloopers can take time away from washing the fungus out of their stomach rolls. And then there's the men on there with feigned outrage
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 03:26 PM
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When a girl looks to you for leadership, you have to provide it. Otherwise, she's going to assume a leadership role and not trust you. If you want her submissive in bed, let her be submissive in life.
/r/askMRP20/08/17 01:28 PM
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"You don't take me at face value" You're correct that most women aren't internally consistent. That's a masculine trait. If you want to enjoy being married to the feminine, realize that her face value is constantly changing. It's pure energy. So take her at face value (right now) but don't make any decisions (right now) based on what she wants -- obviously if it's a reasonable request, indulge your first mate. Make her FEEL that you understand her. She wants a man that 'gets her'.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 02:39 PM
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A simple 'wrong' would have done just fine.
/r/askMRP18/08/17 10:02 PM
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As long as you're owning your shit, it'll be fine. Let her vent. It's like oxygen to women. And get outside the house more. If you're on the computer all day, do it at a coffee shop, book store, or library. It'll make her feel that you're not sitting at home all day and you'll get the chance to be social
/r/askMRP18/08/17 01:04 AM
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Are you counting calories? Pretty much the only way to get ripped
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 08:01 PM
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Sounds good except for the cliche mid life crisis corvette ;) Actually, you got me thinking about what I'd get if I started dating again. A sporty little car would be fun, but I might go for one of those old trucks with the bench seat-- no console and she can cuddle right up against you
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 08:00 PM
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Couple things: as far as social life goes, I get most of my friends from the sports activities I do. Can you invite guys from the gym over to watch the fight next week? As far as the wife getting drunk, don't 'regulate' her. That's controlling and unattractive. She's an adult. Let her live with consequences
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 07:53 PM
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You're missing the point of all the criticisms of your posts and replies-- that you aren't a masculine man who is owning his life. You're defensive and needy. So you get your dick wet once in a while-- eventually it's going to blow up on you because you don't take responsibility for anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 07:31 PM
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do you want to be married to a jealous, nerve-addled wife? Because this is how you get a jealous nerve-addled wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 06:42 PM
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Nice job man. I've enjoyed reading your progress over the last year. Thanks for being a valuable contributor. I think your best contribution is that you've been committed to the process, and you've shown others how to grind and get results.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 03:12 PM
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I love this guy
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 03:04 PM
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Ok
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:50 PM
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In addition to the normal dread steps, mainly being more attractive and learning how to game your wife, you'd probably benefit by creating more of an emotional connection with her. Let her vent her frustrations, encourage her role as first mate, support her hopes and dreams. We don't want to admit it, but really good sex in a relationship requires that you find little ways to make your wife think, "this guy is hot and he actually cares about my best interests"
/r/askMRP16/08/17 10:45 PM
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Sure, stress in general. Stress of grocery shopping, stress of kids, stress of home repairs. Women handle stress terribly. But for whatever reason women don't have much as a physiologic response to arguments-- probably why MRP even exists in the first place. https://taylorlab.psych.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/5/2014/10/2000_Biobehavioral-responses-to-stress-in-females_tend-and-befriend.pdf
/r/askMRP16/08/17 10:24 PM
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When women verbally attack us, as all women are wont from time to time, men experience activation of their sympathetic nervous system-- much more so than women. In fact, women thrive off the drama, while You can stay and fight, and we know how that ends. You can STFU and run away, which kicks the can down the road, and I would argue isn't very alpha at all. Or you can stay and focus on weathering the storm. Learn to lean into her bullshit. And while you're doing it, pay attention to your heart r…
/r/askMRP16/08/17 08:38 PM
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What does she say when she gives you a hard no?
/r/askMRP16/08/17 08:27 PM
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See, that's what most of us think amused mastery is. Smirking while she's being a bitch. And it works well when you're trying to bang a rando because it shows that you're amused by her childish antics. In marriage more often than not it comes across as condescension and a defense mechanism against her emotions. If you STFU, smirk, and discount what she's saying as comical girly feelz, you might be right but you're not growing the relationship. I'm not saying take her literally. And most of the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 04:52 PM
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Are RP nerds board certified psychiatrists? Take their advice with a grain of salt.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 04:37 PM
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I'd agree with at least 2 months per year. Depends how big of a hole you found yourself in. In my case, I saw immediate results in terms of my self esteem and mental outlook. The positive marriage results came after almost a year of huge ups and downs. Been together 6 years so that seems about right.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 04:32 PM
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Good point about avoidance. Sitting there with a smirk on your face while she rails on you will likely make marriage problems worse. Its ok to STFU and walk away for a moment, but make sure to return and engage your wife. Fix her feelz. I'm married to a take charge career woman too. She wants to win and have her life how she wants it. But what she wants more than anything is to be able to relax in the strong presence of a masculine man-- because she's fucking exhausted from the rest of life.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 01:49 PM
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From experience, if you want to have a stable relationship with your girl, you can't let her hamster go too far into overdrive about cheating. You've already dreaded her past any healthy dread. I'm a fairly charming guy and girls respond positively when I talk with them. This sometimes comes off as flirting, which sends my wife down a negative spiral. So I have to be more cognizant about how I come off around other girls. In your example, I would fog a bit, but I'd also offer a lot of comfort
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:12 AM
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Another thing I realized is I don't like sneaking around. Maybe if it's a one-off out of town thing it's good times. But sneaking quickies in between work and family life isn't really my idea of fun. But yeah, variety is lots of fun
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 11:39 PM
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Having been down that road, a few observations. Yes the sex is pornstar, but not any better (and usually worse) than the pornstar sex with my wife. Quality of girls you pull as a married man usually end up on the bar-slut end of the spectrum Friend of your wife!? Are you fucking retarded? If your goal is having the best of both worlds, keep each world in a different solar system. The time investment will often detract from more productive areas of your life (unless fucking sluts is how you measu…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 10:12 PM
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You're a smart guy and you know enough to not marry a woman with the negative traits that you find in your current wife. And initially she'll have tons of sex....until the honeymoon period wears off. Then all of your negative qualities will clash with hers and likely you'll find yourself in the same situation. So yeah, maybe divorce is inevitable. But the root cause of most problems can be found with you. Maybe you're not fat and lazy, but you have a shitty job. Or you're a terrible listener. Or…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 06:35 PM
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She needs to get treated for her multiple organisms
/r/askMRP15/08/17 06:28 PM
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I found this place after my wife moved out. Still married and happier than ever. Since you're not getting results from deadbedrooms, why would you continue going there? Just so they can jerk you off and say it's not your fault?
/r/askMRP15/08/17 06:23 PM
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She sounds like a lazy piece of shit. But she's your piece of shit, so learn to be at peace with her fat ass. My guess is the more you push her the more she'll resist
/r/askMRP15/08/17 06:00 PM
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We can debate the benefits of marriage. I've seen the good and the bad and overall I think I'm a better man for it. I definitely enjoy my kids and I wouldn't have them were it not for marriage. I'll warn you about the super religious part. I grew up very Mormon. My wife was the first girl I'd ever had sex with. Not for lack of willing partners, but I didn't want to go to hell. Whatever you do, make sure you fuck at least 15 women before you settle down with one vagina. The 'what ifs' aren't wort…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 05:15 PM
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I pay a small fortune to my nanny, so the cost of childcare isn't insignificant. Even with my wife being a high-earner, after taxes and shit it's probably not that great financially to have the nanny. I'll agree that my wife is happier and a more well rounded person by having a job.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/17 07:55 PM
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I'm on your side, man. She needs to be adult enough to attend to her own needs. At the same time, you gotta realize that many women are useless in physically taxing situations so you gotta treat them like little kids. Make sure she's fed, watered, and has food in her belly. It's annoying, but it's how they are.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 07:40 PM
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"What could be worse than crucifixion?" "You could be stabbed" "Crucifixion is suffocation over days...." "At least you're out in the open air"
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/17 02:18 PM
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I've stopped going for numbers. A back injury isn't worth it. Now it's 8-12 reps. It's better for hypertrophy anyway
/r/askMRP14/08/17 02:25 AM
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BPP has a good post about what we mean when we say STFU. We don't mean be an aloof, brooding asshole who's too focused on getting stuff done (I.e, owning his shit) that he neglects the important relationships in his life. It also doesn't mean stonewalling your wife during arguments with a stupid little smirk on your face. It means don't be defensive. Don't do tit for tat. Don't let your mouth run wild with emotion. Actively take time to foster a good emotional connection with your girl. Let her …
/r/askMRP12/08/17 08:33 PM
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This isn't time for some RP games. Just tell her how you feel. Reassure her. Then flirt with her. If she's a good wife, shower her with praise and when she gets back fuck her with reckless abandon.
/r/askMRP11/08/17 04:07 PM
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It's good to be more productive around the house with cleaning and ironing and crap. But that stuff in and of itself isn't alpha. Owning your life is alpha. So if you've been cold and distant while taking care of little things, your wife (or anyone close to you) will sense that and likely respond negatively. Here's what I do if I get caught up in trivial tasks-- I stop and reevaluate if what I'm doing is really important to me. Like last night, I'm fixing my tent and my wife and daughter were ju…
/r/askMRP11/08/17 03:36 PM
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Your lady had surgery two days ago. Hyperthyroidism will fuck a woman up (more than their baseline). Give her time to adjust to having a normal T3 and T4 before you make any decisions. And don't be so reactive in your life.
/r/askMRP11/08/17 02:52 PM
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My wife has a similar personality. Very high strung and constant shit tests. I got a lot of mileage from some of the traditional marriage improvement books. Instead of STFU, fog, and AA, which often come off as insincere (because they're usually a defense mechanism to stop the cuntiness from affecting us) I started doing advanced shit tests maneuvers. I'd sit down with her when she's a bitch, actively listen, and be empathetic. If it's something that I can change, and it's not a big deal, I work…
/r/askMRP10/08/17 03:38 PM
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I'm glad you brought this up. It's a fairly minor issue, but it represents a whole slew of larger problems. We preach 'don't be jealous.' But, sometimes, it's ok to tell her what you want. It's ok to say, "I'm not jealous of this guy, and I want you to have friendships, but if we're going to get married our bond has to be the strongest partnership of anybody we know because marriage is a risky proposition. Sure, it's harmless now. Our relationship will have ups and downs. If you're cultivating f…
/r/askMRP10/08/17 03:27 PM
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Dude you're shredded. Especially for a middle aged dude. Do you think being so anal about diet and exercise is adversely affecting your peace of mind? I know that when I'm training for a race or a big climb, I can barely crawl upstairs to bed. Sex is the last thing on my mind. But when I dial it back a bit and enjoy life my sex life is more satisying
/r/askMRP10/08/17 02:14 PM
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I was an ultramarathoner and a legit climber for years. My wife treated me like shit. I start lifting for 6 months, put on 20 pounds, and it's like I'm an underwear model to her
/r/askMRP10/08/17 02:08 PM
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I was an RT before going to med school. After the first two semesters I got a job as a CRT, delivering oxygen and other home equipment. It paid around $15 in 2002 money. Before that I worked part time selling shoes because, hey, a guy's gotta eat. As an RRT, if you work hard you can make up to 75-100k. You gotta hustle, bro. My guess is that you've been fairly lazy. Hope you're not lifting like you've been working.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 10:07 PM
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So what are the two modes you're suggesting? I'm curious
/r/askMRP08/08/17 06:57 PM
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This is a good breakdown. I think it helps to offer people several categories of beta behavior and not stick to one beta stereotype. When I arrived here, my life was in shambles not because I was lazy, or over-placating my wife, it's because I had abdicated all responsibilities in the house To my wife. Financial, kids, house. All her. I was in great shape and had friends though. There was zero family leadership from me. So this last year has been a good exercise in owning my responsibility aroun…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 01:31 PM
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There's occasional problems like pain and swelling. Very rarely you get a hematoma. Low T isn't a problem because testosterone is carried from the testes by blood vessels, which are left intact during a vasectomy. You can reverse it, but it's a difficult operation that's not always successful
/r/askMRP28/06/17 06:06 PM
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If I have to pack her bags like a 2 year old, she's not a very good companion. I think OP did great. Planned an activity, she didn't prepare well, gave support. And 48 hours before a hike? Maybe if you're backpacking for 3 days, which OPs wife definitely isn't if she can't remember a t shirt
/r/askMRP26/06/17 11:01 PM
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How in the hell could you hide that? "Oh that scar? I was shaving my balls, cut myself and stitched it up. No big deal"
/r/askMRP24/06/17 02:36 PM
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It's kinda hard to grow a relationship if you don't spend time together. We preach owning your shit, but if you focus too much on yourself you become one dimensional. You have a lady who wants to spend time with you. Enjoy it
/r/askMRP24/06/17 02:35 PM
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Way of the superior man talks about withholding ejaculation. I'd read that chapter and see if it applies to you
/r/askMRP24/06/17 02:30 PM
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All those squats are paying off. Though I always thought you were Asian for some reason
/r/askMRP24/06/17 02:29 PM
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I usually assume that the wife isn't a totally shitty person. Maybe yours is. But what's obvious is that she's fucking with your head. I've read your posts and it seems like you're investing too much energy into her. You need to set up a custody arrangement and stick to it. No more impromptu visits. If you don't respect your time, she won't respect you.
/r/askMRP24/06/17 02:27 PM
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I'd invest in a vasectomy if you 100% don't want another kid.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 06:33 PM
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I guess it's a little subjective what's an RP or BP 'goal'. My interpretation of RP philosophy is to shed aside any dogmatic or ideologic beliefs/patterns and focus on what works. For me, my goals are to be successful, fit, have adventure, free, and have satisfying interpersonal relationships. Those could be BP goals too. I think satisfying interpersonal relationships are hard to achieve because they depend on another person. The other goals are fairly easy because I control my career, my body, …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 03:14 PM
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I would have reframed your rights. By saying you have a right to sex with her, she essentially loses control over her body. All she hears is marital rape. And I wouldn't equate phone snooping to sex. Just say she can't get into your phone. When you tie it all back to sex it makes her dig in her heels even more. You've laid out your expectations to her before. She knows it. So just shut up about it and work on either getting out of the marriage, spinning plates, or being celibate. You can't issue…
/r/askMRP23/06/17 04:17 AM
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What about yourself do you want to fix? It helps to have some idea of how you want to improve yourself
/r/askMRP23/06/17 04:10 AM
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I'd use the opportunity to shock her into a main event. I'm sure you've painted your side of the picture pretty rosy, and she's not the harpy you make her out to be. But maybe not. Maybe she's just a shitty person like you say. But maybe she's stuck in a shitty cycle and doesn't know how to get herself out of it. Until you shock her out of this cycle, nothing will change. I'd be direct with her. "Yes I've been exploring other options. No, I don't want to go down that route I'd prefer to be in a …
/r/askMRP23/06/17 04:04 AM
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It's good to foster that friendship. Keep doing the behaviors that bring you closer together. Just realize that women will test you until the end of time. Don't get mad about it. Embrace it
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 06:51 PM
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You're lucky she's saved you from years of living with a harpy. Enjoy being paroled! Get hot and develop some passions in life
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 04:41 PM
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You're still fighting stupid battles with her. I'd focus on lifting, diet, and learning to enjoy shit tests. Do that for 3-4 months, then reassess. You care too much what she says
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 04:31 PM
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If you think of sex as an expectation in a marriage, as I do, I would communicate that through your actions. Flirt, kino, etc. be happy fun. You can't expect her to have sex with you, but if she keeps denying, she knows the expectations of marriage and is not willing to do her part. Maybe it's her way of saying she doesn't want to be in the marriage. Now, I think you can start checking out of the marriage while still trying to connect emotionally with her. Spend time to get to know her. Validate…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 04:20 PM
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Are you jealous?
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:42 PM
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I dunno about you but I have the best sex of my life when my wife is tipsy
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:37 PM
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Just be careful that you don't change things too quickly if you want to keep your wife
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 01:31 PM
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Yeah, she's probably a better skier than me and I dragged her up some legit climbs when we were dating. I think we've been skiing 5 times together in the past 6 years. I never had a dead bedroom, but the dead rec room has been my struggle. The recreation had picked up a bit, but now with another pregnancy it'll drop off
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 03:25 AM
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Dude, if you're getting defensive to internet strangers, you don't stand a chance with your girl. It's less of a problem that she gets bitchy. All women do that. The problem is how you react to it
/r/askMRP21/06/17 02:33 AM
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I think you can experiment a little. We know that too much beta comfort dries up a pussy and too much dread turns them into nervous wrecks. Your lady is a jittery mess right now. What do you have to lose by trying to connect with her more? Be a little vulnerable around her. Share --some-- fears of your own. If she adds value, tell her you're not going to leave. Pepper some of this stuff in here and there and see if it works. If it doesn't, just go back to doing what you were doing
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 11:49 PM
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I sense that you're bottling up a lot of your emotions. I know we preach being the "Rock" but don't let it explode
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 11:27 PM
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Buddy, I think this is a case where 'dread' will shoot you in the ass. You're not dealing with a situation where you have an otherwise normal relationship, but you let things stagnate. You have a legit trauma that needs to get sorted out. Some of the concepts here will help you-- being more assertive, physical fitness, a positive mental outlook. They will help make you more confident. If you start issuing ultimatums and flirting with other girls, your marriage is just going to go further down th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 11:25 PM
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Be careful not to make huge changes too quickly. If you're just getting out of the house because a bunch of internet dudes told you to, that's kinda dumb. If you're leaving the house because you're more productive, or just because you like being away from the house, that's better.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 11:17 PM
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I've had some success implementing RP goals with BP tools
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 11:14 PM
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Work-- Finally passed all my board exams. Full fledged. For the first time in my life I don't have a big goal to work toward. It's surreal, and for now I've filled it with projects in the backyard. I've been thinking about taking more time to do the things I enjoy instead of working toward a goal. Not Owning: Birth control. Three months ago my wife and I were on the verge of divorce. Then we made up and fucked and fucked and fucked. We fucked so much I knocked her up. So far, things are going we…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 11:12 PM
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I married my wife mostly because she came climbing and skiing with me all the time. Funny how all that changed once the ring was on...
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 09:56 PM
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I don't like to tie sexual acts to specific rewards. Then it becomes contractual. So what I do is reward generally good behavior with small gifts. The wife had been sweet, pleasant and sexy for a month, I surprised her with flowers.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:43 PM
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I understand you're angry at her and you want out. And if that's what you want, that's cool. Go for it. But if you think there's a chance that she'll come around it might be worth it to calm down and not be so reactive. If you own your shit better (not even worrying about what she's doing. Bitches be bitchy) the probably eventuality is that you won't get so angry when she's a bitch. It's not manly to threaten to divorce her during the heat of the moment. Take stock of the situation. See where yo…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 04:31 PM
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At your point active dread is just going to fuck it up. I'd just focus on being more assertive, a little less available, keeping commitments, good posture, better clothes, etc. all that general good man stuff. Also, you can't reasonably expect anything. If you do you'll just be disappointed and get butthurt.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 01:31 PM
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I agree that you need more help than a bunch of internet dudes can provide. Your wife is checking out. On thing that stands out is the safety-- women use this excuse all the time for not having sex. And for the most part it's true for them. She doesn't feel safe with you touching her body. Find out why. It's probably got less to do with you being unnattractive than not connecting emotionally. Make yourself attractive. But at the same time, take time to listen and validate her feelings. And for g…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 01:22 PM
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She may be a bitch, but she's your bitch. Treat her like she's important to you. You were probably flirting with this chick and you wouldn't have said anything if you weren't at least aware of the fact that your wife felt left out. Make sure you're not skipping to active dread (flirting, gaming other women) before you've become a cool, fun guy. Otherwise you'll just piss your wife off for no good reason
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 10:43 PM
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Over time you'll learn how to be an oak. That is, you don't go storming off when she rages on you and you don't blow up and yell when she's being a bitch. You stand there and weather the storm of her emotions, while having compassion. Her childish tantrums will either be slightly amusing or cause you to feel sad that she's being such a cunt. You and your wife probably never learned how to fight assertively. It's going to take time for the both of you to learn these complex interpersonal dynamics…
/r/askMRP05/06/17 11:25 AM
2

Monk mode wouldn't be a bad idea in your situation. I bet you use pussy as your validation. Maybe give it a break and learn how to validate yourself
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/17 07:45 PM
6

It might help to know that relationships are at their absolute lowest with the birth of the first child. There's so much change going on, new roles, new responsibilities. It's impossible to know how things will turn out a year from now.
/r/askMRP04/06/17 07:43 PM
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Yeah you're right. I had a long response typed out, then I noticed that everything I'd written had been said better by some of the other guys. So I distilled the essence of it
/r/askMRP03/06/17 10:31 PM
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I'd go over anyway, give her a kiss, bring the fun, throw her in the car and take her out. Withdrawing your time and and attention doesn't work so well when the lady doesn't like you much in the first place. You gotta prove you're fun to be around.
/r/askMRP03/06/17 08:59 PM
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This is where I think someone like Mark Manson could help you. You've mastered the art of sleeping with women, but you don't know how to be vulnerable, let people into your life, and still maintain your sense of masculinity. Be aware of your emotions. You get jealous-- don't let it control you. You like affection-- embrace it but don't get needy. Do you have close male friends that you can count on?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 05:52 PM
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"That wasn't normal I wouldn't expect that" Man, I was on the fence if whether farting around with other girls was the right move for you. But hearing that--regardless of the preexisting history-- I say move onto greener pastures. Any normal wife would say, "Look, we have some bad history, I want to move past it, but right now I don't feel comfortably having sex with you. Let's work on ways to foster intimacy." Just make sure that, if you want to be in your kids' lives, that you're not prioritiz…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 05:41 PM
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Flirting with girls can be good to stay sharp, practice game, establish a little dread, etc, but this guy is using it as a coping mechanism to avoid his wife. I mean, sex once a year and you're out gaming other girls instead of banging your wife who's DTF and sleeps with you every night?
/r/askMRP03/06/17 02:55 PM
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Her: "Blah blah blah you're in a bad mood." You: "Worst mood of my life. Let's have ice cream and play mini golf." Her: "Blah blah blah 5 years ago you offended me." You: "Haha yeah I guess you're right. Vanilla or chocolate?" Her: "You're always so serious and moody." You: "I'm serious about being in the mood for sex." WISNIFG teaches about fogging. The rest is up to you in learning how to bring the fun. Don't be reactive to her. Plan fun activities and stick to them. It's like when you're kid …
/r/askMRP03/06/17 02:11 PM
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You're an entitled, fat bitch
/r/askMRP03/06/17 02:06 PM
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There's some benefit to admitting that you were a screw up and acknowledging mistakes. But reading this post to her would just make things worse
/r/askMRP03/06/17 01:52 PM
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This is a case that the red pill "Dread" is almost certain to backfire. Because you've essentially dreaded your wife for 20 years by avoiding intimacy and she's actively repulsed by being married to a eunuch. I don't even know if MRP is right for you, bud. Because you haven't been beaten down through the years and need to reclaim your masculinity. You aren't being denied sex-- you've denied her the gift of being married to a man. If you keep coming here, you'll probably get a lot of mixed messag…
/r/askMRP03/06/17 01:34 PM
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I'd add that it's ok to acknowledge that it's a new situation and you guys are a team working together. Women love "us vs the world"
/r/askMRP03/06/17 01:36 AM
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Women love to pull this "woe is me, it's so haaaard working and taking care of kids" routine whenever a guy goes out of town. you still have to validate it a little bit. Agree, fog, etc. let her know you hear her. I've got news, these tests will continue until the end of time. No matter how attractive you get. Eventually, they'll turn into "I miss you" and a sexy pic. But they'll still be shit tests that you have to navigate. Right now, you're domestic help. Eventually you'll be domestic dick th…
/r/askMRP03/06/17 01:35 AM
1

Nice job bro. Often, little trips away from each other are just what the relationship needs.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 07:24 PM
1

Tsunami-scientists in Japan have minor heart attacks every time a blooper has a bowel movement
/r/askMRP02/06/17 07:19 PM
2

I think they're jealous that nobody wants to slap their asses. The resulting fat-rippling wave would be too nausea-inducing
/r/askMRP02/06/17 05:44 PM
3

It's amazing how easy numbers can get when you're presentable and somewhat attractive. Like someone else said, make sure you've talked with a lawyer and got the divorce logistics locked down. When your bitchy wife finds out about all these shenanigans it's going to be a shitstorm. In my experience it's more fun to pick up chicks when you're not sneaking behind your wife's back.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 01:50 PM
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My wife is pretty uptight, but uptight girls need to relax once in a while. As you progress mentally and physically you may see her relax into your frame and masculine presence. High strung girls get pretty kinky. Now, it's going to take a long time, with ups and downs along the way. The only way to see what happens is if you reclaim your masculine essence
/r/askMRP02/06/17 01:56 AM
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Redpilled for 3 years, divorced from some Thai ladyboi, married a bitchy alcoholic mental patient and you trusted her and her mom to plan a move across country, while you abdicate responsibility and drink beer in some dive in Buttfuck, TX. Besides jumping the border and starting a new life in Mexico, I'd recommend that you read about stoicism. It'll help get your emotions in check
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 01:25 AM
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Yeah, I thought my wife was a BPD narcissist. But she's actually pretty cool most of the time. If you look at my OYS a month or two ago I felt a lot like you do right now. I've had a lot of success by leaning into the bullshit that she throws at me-- not by withdrawing. In fact, withdrawing seemed to have the opposite effect. Then again, most of the change I've seen from her came from her and not by anything I did. Maybe you need to fuck this HB8 and get it out of your system to see if it's sex …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/17 09:01 PM
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I gotta congratulate you on this, man. You've come a long way from the head case when you started. I still wonder, why is your wife such an ice queen? Sounds like you've improved and given her a chance. What's the backstory (other than 'career beta')?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/17 07:54 PM
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If you don't want to fuck the girl, then why would you keep her around? Jesus, just cuddle and go to brunch with your wife. At least she provides some value to you. Any girl who isn't providing value should be cut out.
/r/askMRP01/06/17 05:39 PM
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I'd rather have my wife screw me because she craves the D. But try your way and let us know how it plays out
/r/askMRP01/06/17 03:31 AM
2

Shit, I'd be taking a girlfriend to Italy if my wife was constantly rejecting me. But you allowed this mess to happen so you can handle it how you like. I've been getting more mileage from talking with the wife, letting her talk about whatever she wants, comforting her when she needs comfort and bringing the fun. It takes some work not to let the convo get antagonistic. That girl loves to pick a fight. Also, she's probably stressed because you guys are old shits and you have tiny kids. Not sure …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 09:30 PM
1

What's preventing you from lifting? It's the easiest thing you can do to improve yourself. All the mental shit takes a lot longer. FWIW I wear condoms when my wife is fertile because she's a nut job on BC and I don't want another kid right now. Around the period it's bareback
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 09:21 PM
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I hate being told what to do too. But I noticed that the more I dug my heels in, the more she fought back. The more the commands came. The more our relationship deteriorated. To me, the alpha thing to do is treat it like jiu jitsu. Let your opponent wear herself out (compromise on little shit) and go in for the kill on the big shit. Because otherwise you're just two assholes fighting for control.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 09:17 PM
2

It's fantastic you're focusing on getting guy friends. I think we don't talk about that enough in MRP. Even better when the guy friends are fit, fun dudes
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 09:11 PM
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I dated a lot of girls who were more submissive than my wife. But I married a smart, pretty, shit-testing machine. I got bored with the other girls. It's your preference, man. No girl is going to have it all; except apparently TFA's lady-- if she even exists ;) Just gotta decide what floats your boat in life and go for it
/r/askMRP31/05/17 05:21 PM
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Lots of guys are giving you actionable advice, but you're not seeing it. You want them to spoon feed you answers, because right now your life feels like shit and you don't want to feel like shit anymore. But there's not any easy answers because learning this stuff takes time and practice. If you're reading NMMNG, you'll learn about DEERing (Defend Explain Excuse Rationalize). You Defended yourself by listing what you've read and the time you've spend in reflection. It's little things like that t…
/r/askMRP31/05/17 05:10 PM
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If you're as defensive in real life as you are to internet strangers, I'd work on that first
/r/askMRP31/05/17 04:58 PM
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Sounds like she's got a lot of insecurities on her part (if you're obese she probably is too and for girls it affects them a lot more). She's probably worried that you're going to get fit and leave her and women want security in addition to the tingles. Right now, you're destabilizing everything so that the benefits of improving don't outweigh the insecurities she's feeling by being a land whale. And when you don't say "sorry" it just further invalidates her sense of a relationship. So what I'm …
/r/askMRP31/05/17 04:56 PM
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BPP purple hair dye BPP spanx BPP dildo BPP litter box (for their sensitive boyfriends cats)
/r/askMRP31/05/17 04:47 PM
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You want respect, but you haven't earned it. Nobody cares if you're the primary breadwinner. That's just a part of being a man. In the words of Chris Rock "what do you want, a cookie?". Your wife works and homeschools 3 kids (we can debate the virtues of homeschooling and MRP-- the general consensus is that it puts you at a disadvantage in terms of being the leader of the family, because she's actually the leader 90% of the time). Of course the house isn't going to be clean. Of course she's stre…
/r/askMRP31/05/17 04:11 PM
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Unique set of skills? Wife left you? Young daughter who loves you? Are you Liam Neeson?
/r/askMRP30/05/17 11:26 PM
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Dude, I gotta congratulate you on being congruent with your wants and your actions. I don't know the whole backstory, but it seems like your wife is holding onto a lot of anger about something. The thing is, we shouldn't have to go through Herculean struggles to get mediocre sex from saggy middle aged women. No, sex is not a right in a marriage. But it is an expectation. You've stated clearly that you don't want a marriage without sex and now you better follow through with that. Get a good lawye…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 11:02 PM
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In any case, whoever is managing your prediabetes/low T needs to look into the neurological symptoms.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 09:06 PM
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I guess the same thing applies to you that applies to all other guys: your choices created this situation, and you allowed yourself to enter into a sexless marriage. Of course, the cost of exiting this untenable union are pretty minimal to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 09:03 PM
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That's a problem for u/scurvemuch. He'll get a half chub over it
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 07:05 PM
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It's ok to be frustrated. Marriage=sex after all. But focusing that frustration toward a productive goal will be the challenge. Also, don't mention the cheating ever again. You feel too much guilt over it. That's lame and it needs to to stop. She cheated too. It's a clean slate. If you choose monogamy with a sexless shrew that's your decision. Own it. Don't take it out on her. How long you choose to be monogamous is up to you
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 05:41 PM
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What do you mean by beta faggotry? Even fat fucks who marry each other figure out a way to screw. I'm genuinely curious why you two got married. Beta bucks? Shotgun wedding?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 05:04 PM
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Have you asked your wife why she recoils at your sexual advances? They seem a little extreme to me. I've found that if you talk in a curious, non defensive, non judgmental manner that she may want to open up. I'd be interested to know if you're clumsy with your advances or if there's something she's not talking about.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 04:58 PM
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That's a tough situation. Sounds like you've withdrawn the safety that women need in the relationship to have sex. And it's happened over years of dysfunction. Upping the dread is going to be counterproductive, but you're not going to want to be affectionate with a sexless shrew. Vicious cycle. Sounds like you're getting some interpersonal gains, but it may be a while until she feels safe enough to have regular sex
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 04:32 PM
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If you have to squeeze your abs to get blood to your brain (which is actually physiologically impossible because you impede venous return to the right heart) you need to look at why your BP is so low. Are you getting light headed? Sometimes if the BP is low it's ok as long as you're not having symptoms.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 04:28 PM
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Wait....sex once in 1 year of marriage? Do either of you have some medical problem that precludes PIV? Do you even want to have sex? I guess you guys lived together for a while, so it's a little different situation. But for me no sex=no marriage. Especially without kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 03:14 PM
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I agree that plating as a married guy takes a lot of time and energy and is rarely worth the fun, especially if the wife is putting out. What's to keep you from putting all that sexual energy into the wife, instead of waiting for her to initiate? Usually, wives love it when their man games them and the sex is higher quality.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 03:05 PM
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Your wife separated from you a year ago right? Here's the problem, you smoke, you're skinny fat, you maybe have low T, you have no game and it looks like you're lonely and probably don't have a ton of friends. I don't know what your job is, but i doubt you're killing it. You are not a catch for any quality woman....right now. But, you're looking to improve yourself so in the next couple years you're going to be more muscular, a former smoker, have strong male friendships, etc. You'll be a more c…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 02:56 PM
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I don't do well with sexual denial. To me, if I'm getting turned down consistently the marriage is practically over. But I've set that tone throughout the marriage. I've got plenty of other problems though. Looks like you've allowed monthly sex to be OK and suddenly expecting her to open her legs on demand is changing the terms of your relationship. I know you get angry about being denied, but it might help to know that you created the environment where it's ok for her to deny you
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 02:38 PM
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I've noticed a lot of benefits from telling my wife how I feel-- sparingly. Especially if it's some action that she can correct. If it's just a general sense of dissatisfaction, STFU about that. Actionable items go over well
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 02:33 PM
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I think you did fine. Girls want to have that sense of "us vs them" and talking about teamwork, how the two of you are special compared to all the other sexless fat fucks, that shit can bring you together and help you bond. 4 weeks into it? You should probably just be lifting, reading, and learning how to control your emotions. Keep working on fogging.
/r/askMRP30/05/17 11:18 AM
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You bloopers are usually full of shit but you're right this time
/r/askMRP29/05/17 10:00 PM
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Make sure you have some defined goals to work toward. Your little beta slip of "I'm wasting my life" probably had a lot of truth toward it. For now, I think the mission of losing weight is excellent. But there will come a time when you want more. Always be working toward your mission
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/17 09:07 PM
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Take advice from random strangers with a grain of salt, but if I didn't have kids and my wife wasn't screwing me, I wouldn't be in that marriage. Shit, even with kids I'd be out the door. Otherwise, do you have any male friends? I know we all want to practice game, but I think the foundation for life should be strong male friendships
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/17 08:59 PM
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Of course not. In his case, he's running himself ragged thinking about his wife sending nudie pics. The poor guy desperately needs to take his mind off what his wife is doing, because at the end of the day none of us can control another person. Whether he's exercising, communing with nature, therapy, etc, he needs to replace his rumination with something more productive. And, since we want to help guys get the sex they desire, he might as well get a better physique while he's at it
/r/askMRP29/05/17 08:43 PM
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Even when my wife was at her bitchiest I would still initiate. But I got angry every time she'd deny me, because a marriage is sexual by nature to me. So i never did master the art of not getting butthurt. Women have to know that if they won't take care of their man someone else will. If you can go a couple months without sex, more power to you. I couldn't
/r/askMRP29/05/17 05:23 AM
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It helped me to realize that she doesn't owe me sex and if I choose to be monogamous with her, that's my choice. And I can't get mad at her for my choices. Of course, if you don't have a choice to be monogamous then you'll feel trapped. Make yourself into a person who has options
/r/askMRP29/05/17 05:15 AM
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My brother set a precedent with his wife before they had kids. She worked part time while he worked his ass off. Now they have two kids and she's a piece of shit that doesn't work ever. If you have the cash and she brings value to your life, it's ok that she doesn't work a lot. But you need to fix your leadership skills in the meantime
/r/askMRP28/05/17 03:12 PM
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My wife does that all the time. If it's not done on her timeframe it's WW3. Learn to laugh it off. Poke fun at her and turn it sexual
/r/askMRP26/05/17 03:15 PM
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Learning to maintain frame takes a while. Though I once bought a new set of dishes because she didn't like how I was washing the plates. She stopped nagging after that. I'm finding the utility of STFU, walk out, get a hooker, change your name and move to Brazil, is counterproductive in my case. Probably works well when you're dating or don't have kids. I get more mileage out of leaning into her bullshit rather than being reactionary.
/r/askMRP26/05/17 03:06 PM
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I'll add that just because you have an infant doesn't mean your wife is a cadaver. She'll enjoy sex if you get her into the mood. Continue to initiate. Just don't get butthurt when she turns you down. Assume she'll turn you down a lot. Some women think having kids gives them a free pass on sex. Then they wonder why their husbands cheat on them. Set the expectation that your relationship is a sexual relationship. You still have to be patient with her, but she should know that you value her as a m…
/r/askMRP26/05/17 01:31 PM
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My wife was often like this in the beginning. And usually it was because I failed to live up to some commitment. She'd lose trust in me when I'd forget to do some menial task. Then I learned to fog. Suddenly she had no power over me. Over time, I've actually been able to have rational conversations with her about what the real problem is. You know how long it took me to get there? Almost 2 years. I still forget stupid shit from time to time but I built up a good track record so she can relax now…
/r/askMRP26/05/17 02:50 AM
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I feel like you're just agreeing with everyone here without really taking their advice to heart. A lot of guys get the most value when they post to Own Your Shit. I'd suggest you do that. It really helps me. FWIW my wife and I have had our share of extramarital shenanigans. Very dysfunctional at times. But at the end of the day I can look at myself and see where I screwed up and it spurs me to action.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 01:59 AM
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You know what's not attractive? Snooping on your wife and being an insecure, needy manchild. She should be worried about you getting some on the side, because high value men attract women. I know you're equating the drop-off in sex to her getting her needs met elsewhere. The more likely story is that she isn't attracted to you. Same as every other man here. And when you're insecure, she's even less attracted, creating a negative cycle. Worry less about her and lift more.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 10:15 PM
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I've been romantically involved with work girls. Never goes well. Just have fun with her and treat her like a fun person. Like one of the guys. Otherwise you'll get bullshit "feelings" for her and it'll all go down the toilet
/r/askMRP25/05/17 07:19 PM
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20 week or 20 month? If she's still breastfeeding, yeah cut her a little slack. If it's almost 2 years then it's game on. Stop complaining to her. Ever. And continue to game the fuck out of her. Yeah, get a job. But in the meantime get ripped and be a masculine dude
/r/askMRP25/05/17 04:05 PM
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Sounds like poor communication on both your parts. Personally, I don't mind giving up my bed. I'm happy throwing a sleeping bag in my truck and camping out in the backyard. Maybe I'd bring my kid and make it fun. The bigger problem is that she didn't consult you first. Decide what you want and talk to her about it. Tell her she can't give your bed away without talking to you first.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 12:31 PM
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Like someone else said, maybe you need to give her complete autonomy over small projects. Girly shit like drapes and such. Also, I agree with westernhagen that you haven't been doing this long enough for her to trust in the new alpha you. 3 months ago? I had a belt sander from Home Depot break down in less time than that and I had to return it. Ive been at this for almost a year and my wife barely trusts me.
/r/askMRP24/05/17 07:43 PM
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Completely shutting her out may be necessary to do the job right but it's unlikely to bring you closer together. Read WISNIFG, take her opinion into account and make her feel like she's part of the process. I have a ball busting domineering wife too. And, yeah, you have to set firm boundaries from time to time. But you also have to be magnanimous most of the time. Sit down, talk with her. Care about her opinion. Let her know that it's your decision at the end of the day. My guess is you're swing…
/r/askMRP24/05/17 05:37 PM
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I've felt the same as you at various points over the last year. Every other month my wife and I have some blowout and I consider moving on. But it passes and we generally have a good time. Whenever we struggle I can see it was caused by some failing on my part. Now, my wife is pretty hot. I look forward to sex with her-- but that wasn't always the case. Despite her looks, I craved other women. Nothing wrong with that, but I realized that high quality sex with one chick is better than mediocre se…
/r/askMRP24/05/17 01:07 PM
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I have a wife like that. We're in similar fields and she always outshined me. I really had to up my game at work to reset the respect dynamic. Also, I love those nights she works late. I own being a single dad (use it as practice for if I ever check out of the marriage). I put the girl to bed early then I get a couple hours to chill by myself--golden time. Also, never ever ever whine about her not being home. That's the worst thing you could do
/r/askMRP24/05/17 04:10 AM
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I wonder why she thinks you're a narcissist. You've got zero insight into yourself. All I see is a Rambo who calls himself and 8 and his wife a 4. Let's assume the standard MRP exaggeration scale and take two points off you and give them to her and now you're both a 6 which is probably closer to the truth. She's a bitch because she hates you and you haven't brought the tingles. I wouldn't fault you for divorcing her but I'm more worried about your lack of insight
/r/askMRP20/05/17 03:51 PM
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I've been reading this book lately: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 If you read it with an assertive, masculine frame you can weed out the blue pill nonsense. The guy actually did some scientific studies and can back up what he's saying. I focuses on fixing the feelz of women. He basically admits feelz before reals. And it helps you not DEER
/r/askMRP19/05/17 04:56 PM
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We do a joint account and we have separate accounts too. My wife is pretty stingy so I don't worry too much about what she does. If she got out of control I'd separate our accounts completely and make her feel the pinch
/r/askMRP19/05/17 04:04 AM
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I'd give that a passing grade. Well done.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 03:59 AM
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I've been stranded overnight in a flash flood, clinging to a cliff. I'd rather put up with that than the shit my wife gives me.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 03:50 AM
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aka how to train a guy to get divorced, wtf Ha!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 07:09 PM
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See, there's your problem. You can't change her and if you try you're going to be frustrated. Luckily, if she wants quality time from you eventually she'll understand that she needs to up her game
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 05:40 PM
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Sounds like she's trying to communicate some need but it's not coming across well. Try to lean into her bullshit. If you want a companion and not just a FWB you have to take some time and be present and at least listen to her concerns. Take her advice, be nonjudgmental and don't get defensive. This is in addition to owning your shit, frame, etc.
/r/askMRP18/05/17 04:31 PM
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It doesn't change overnight. Make it fun for her and don't pressure her to donkinky stuff. It's likely to backfire. Get really fit and increase the dominance in bed. It'll probably take at least a year
/r/askMRP18/05/17 04:24 PM
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I'm glad OP posted this, because somehow our message is coming across to some men that, in his warped little world, it's "alpha" to not thank your wife for compliments. Maybe we don't talk enough about benevolence, gift giving, gratitude, etc
/r/askMRP18/05/17 02:18 PM
2

If you pick up a couple girls, bang them, and send them on their way it could help cure you of oneitis. I think your wife cheating on you probably already cured you of that. I get it, you're horny and banging a bunch of girls sounds attractive. But if you're considering staying with your wife, cheating on her will make it harder to form those intimate connections that you crave. From experience. Spinning plates doesn't develop the kind of frame that a marriage requires. It's so easy to screw a g…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 02:28 AM
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I usually don't like the love languages shit, but it might help you out. Have her fill out a questionnaire online and it could help you know how to connect with her better. It doesn't mean that you have to be reactionary to her, it means that you express your love, appreciation, etc, in a way that resonates with her. Motivating others is what a good captain does
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:21 PM
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As someone who used to think he had a sex addiction, I think the addiction term is bullshit. You want sex. You can't have sex with your wife. So you masturbate. Maybe a year of not touching your dick is what you need....but I'd be careful of letting people label you as an addict for having a sex drive. But I like the insight that you're relying on compulsive behaviors. I'd set up a system to eat less and exercise more and make that #1, #2, #3 and so on. Don't try to bite off more than you can ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:16 PM
1

Sounds like you still give some sarcastic, unproductive retorts when she's trying to be serious to you. Look, we all hate it when women try to have "the talk" or bring up relationship bullshit. Because, in the end, we don't need as much emotional support from them. Sure, it's nice, but we don't need it. And we don't want to change what we're doing just to please a sexless bitch. I'd try to look at 'holding frame' as leaning into her bullshit. Listen, try to remain nonjudgmental, and let her talk…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:10 PM
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Way of the Superior Man was helpful in controlling my anger toward the wife. Work on STFU, bringing the fun, and working on your mission. Lean into the bullshit instead of trying to change it
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:05 PM
2

Do you have any male friends?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:00 PM
2

I found MRP a week after running a 50-mile race. I thought I was pretty badass. Turns out, I had no clue about my real SMV. I like outdoor stuff, too, but in terms of SMV and confidence, nothing can replace lifting. Don't give up trail running if you like it, but you gotta put on some muscle. Not just for women, but for every aspect of your life. Nobody respects runners-- everyone respects a dude with biceps
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 10:58 PM
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Sounds like you need to establish some abundance mentality. You didn't mention what your career and fitness are like. If you're a loser, monk mode might be a good option for you. Also, go find some male friends with mutual hobbies that you can rely on when times get tough.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 10:55 PM
2

I'd suggest you drop spinning plates from your MAP. It's just going to complicate your already weak frame. There will be a time for that, but now is not the time
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 10:05 PM
1

Try being more subtle about KINO. Ass-grabbing is fine and all, but it's lazy. Gently touching her arm while you press softly against her from behind-- that'll likely get a better response. The problem is that you're 1. not attractive and 2. unimaginative
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 09:47 PM
1

That's a good point. MRP works better for building self-actualized men than it does for making "better husbands" whatever that means. The language is couched in terms of getting sex, but the real meat is learning to take charge of your life
/r/askMRP17/05/17 09:12 PM
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If you value staying married, like i do, one thing that's helped me is to explore my definition of value. It's helped to look at areas where my wife excels and not focus so much on her less fun qualities
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 07:09 PM
1

PA's giving viagra and testosterone supplements over the internet. Oh, and you need a monthly consultation to keep getting the scripts......
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 06:52 PM
1

That's an interesting point, as you of all people know. I don't think there's any way to get strange without reveling in the validation. Or else we'd be out getting hookers. We want to work for it and it's an accomplishment for us. I'd say a lot of what we do (gym, career, etc) is mostly validating ourselves (unless we come onto MRP and brag about it). Isn't self-acceptance what we're striving for?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 06:43 PM
1

W&S is an interesting case-- smart guy marries smart girl, has a kid, and makes her a SAHM, still knowing all the risks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 06:31 PM
1

If you're talking about relationship 'virtues' then absolutely the other partner has a role. There's no sense being a martyr
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 06:14 PM
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Instead of leaving when she's being a bitch, try staying and weathering the storm. STFU, pretend she's the charlie brown teacher, and let her storm blow itself out. You're used to spinning plates and having shallow relationships. To have a meaningful relationship, you can't bolt at the first sign of her being a pain in the ass, because she'll always be a pain in the ass at some point. Also, read WISNIFG. It'll help you develop the skills you need to live with a woman.
/r/askMRP17/05/17 06:01 PM
1

1200 would likely be too low and hard to maintain. I'd shoot for 1500, not do too much cardio (it'll just make you hungrier) lift more and eat lots of protein
/r/askMRP17/05/17 05:54 PM
1

I've gotten a lot of mileage by verbally affirming the good things my wife does. Not so much in bed (thank you is communicated by aftercare) but in everyday life. When she does something good, I thank her for it, and she does it more often. It has the effect of her feeling valued and rewarded and I also learn to notice the little things she does that make my life better. Otherwise, I focus on the negatives and it comes out sideways.
/r/askMRP17/05/17 05:51 PM
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You absolutely have the right to communicate your need for sex 2 times per week. And she has the right to tell you "no". You're 2 weeks into the process of becoming an assertive, attractive man. Honestly, all you should be worried about is changing your diet and lifting weights. If you communicate to your wife that you want more sex, she'll just say no and you'll be butthurt because you haven't really made any lasting changes. And I know we say "one month per step of dread". But that really does…
/r/askMRP17/05/17 05:43 PM
1

Shit, if you've got a lady that works hard for you then you're doing well.
/r/askMRP17/05/17 05:35 PM
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I'll agree that dread as an one size fits all solution does not work. And that active dread usually comes off as try-hard. But it's a framework that works for a lot of men, especially if all they want is sex. I think the general consensus among most of MRP is that passive dread is usually very effective in generating attraction from women. Inadvertent active dread, in the form of other women showing attraction to you, is also very effective. But as an algorithm (if step A doesn't work, go to ste…
/r/askMRP17/05/17 05:09 PM
1

I've noticed a cycle with my wife-- 1 or 2 months of sweet and fun, followed by a couple weeks of utter chaos. In the low times, I'm not interested in her. It could be that you were a low value shithead and you married the best that you had available, and she was never a quality woman. Or it could be that you actually like her and there's going to be undulations in your attraction to her
/r/askMRP17/05/17 05:01 PM
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I imagine that your wife being medicated is far better for you than if she went off meds, but had a higher libido. I also imagine that if she went off meds she may have a higher libido, but she still wouldn't want to fuck you because she'd be too worried about closing every door in the house 7 times. So you're going to have to figure out how to connect with her and get her interested in sex. First, make yourself into a high quality specimen of a man. Second, hold frame and be an oak when she's c…
/r/askMRP17/05/17 04:43 PM
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You decide what the appropriate response is. She's obviously hurting over something (likely the fact that you're not connecting with her and giving her the tingles) and wanted to talk with this dude because he's a sympathetic ear. I'd soft next her for a couple days so she knows it's inappropriate. Then resume your MAP. Be happy, fun, and attractive. Be the man that she wants to connect with at 3AM.
/r/askMRP14/05/17 11:21 PM
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That's women, man. They are waves of energy. Fuck her, Give her comfort, have fun with her. Don't get sucked into the drama.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 05:12 PM
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It's ok to verbally validate her once in a while. It's not your style, but it might make you seem more fun to be around
/r/askMRP12/05/17 04:00 PM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with owning your actions. Makes you look like a bigger man. Express regret.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 06:55 PM
3

Makes me wonder if we're drama whores after all...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 06:40 PM
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I heard an interesting comment from an old dad yesterday. A wise dude. He said kids form an attachment to their parents most strongly between ages 1.5-4. If you're present and involved in that time, it doesn't matter if you become a worthless drunk, they'll always love you and want to be in your life. This resonated with me. If you're going to spin plates, maybe wait until both kids have developed that bond. Otherwise you never know how the wife will poison them. Edit-- I forgot to mention that …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 06:33 PM
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Who says what his priority should be?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 06:29 PM
6

Nice levels of punishments. I think it leaves out the appropriate rewards for good behavior. In my case, I have to be mindful of every moment she's trying to please me. Those moments have to be encouraged and rewarded with the appropriate time, attention etc. I've had very little success with negative reinforcement. The more I check out the bitchier she gets. Sparring works well for me, parry and thrust leads to more thrusting.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/17 06:27 PM
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Think about your text "Wow". What's the point of that? All it does is make you look defensive. All she wanted was to be validated. And that little word just ruined everything. Here's how I would have handled it. Her:"Blah blah blah I'm a reactive bitch." You:"Yeah I guess you're right" Her: "I'm still a reactive bitch, what are you going to do about it?" You: ..... Ignore her texts. Game her in person. Don't be angry around her because then she wins.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 06:04 PM
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You've already confronted and how did it work out for you? There will come a time when you can confront her, but right now it's likely to backfire on you
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 05:56 PM
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If I built a fence I'd want a threesome, without her. I think a BJ costs $100 from a pro.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 05:55 PM
1

Someone else explained it as "Charlie Brown Teacher Voice". Or https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zvhw9BSURGg
/r/askMRP10/05/17 05:46 PM
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Early on in my MAP this was a huge issue. Major blowups from my wife. Now they're less frequent because I STFU, fog, and AM. The natural inclination is to run away, but I get more mileage out of holding frame, not getting defensive, and sticking it out. Leaving for a half hour or so and walking the dog works well if she's still a bitch, but don't leave for too long.
/r/askMRP10/05/17 04:08 PM
1

I bought her a little vibrator but we don't use it all that often. The wife likes the Real thing more
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 03:14 AM
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Yeah I suppose so. I'd be more upset, but she has to live with her decisions just like I do mine. For my part, I find it easier to be compassionate toward the wife when I'm plating. It takes a lot of the resentment away because of the abundance mentality. Any shit I put up with is because I choose to be there, not because of lack of options.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 03:12 AM
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Yeah, who knows. I don't really care if she jumped on some guy's dong. The marriage wasn't in a great spot and it's not like i was at home with my dick in my hand in the meantime. Whether I stay in the marriage or not depends more on if I'm getting value out of it. For now, it's a net positive but that could change.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 09:46 PM
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It's not a physical attraction issue-- she wants my dick regularly. I've thought about this a lot-- I've been trying to change her, or condition her attitude. And I was setting myself up for failure, which made me angry. She is who she is, half sweet and affectionate, half bitch. And the less I get mad about the bitchy side the less it comes out. So that's what I need to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 09:38 PM
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She's brought up the possibility of an open marriage. I don't think it would help matters-- she's just way too jealous. And the open marriages I've seen are just a wreck. Way too complicated. Yeah, I've thought that maybe she just needs a heavy hand and she wants some boundaries from me. I'm not a jealous guy by nature and it would come off forced.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 04:47 PM
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The thrill of new chicks is exciting for sure. You can get that thrill and not cheat by talking to everyone. Enjoying hot girls' presence. The actual sex probably wouldn't be that satisfying. Your wife knows what you like, you can have your way with her, and you get to share intimacy with someone that shares your life. That satisfaction doesn't come from strange. Do you want random chicks because it's thrilling? There's plenty of ways to get thrills. Get a motorcycle. Jump out of planes. Get int…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 04:23 PM
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Kind of sounds like you overdreaded her by cheating as a beta. Have you owned the cheating? And did she get any therapy for it? In addition to being attracted to a man, women have to feel safe in the relationship to want to have sex. I think any active dread on your part is going to backfire so I wouldn't go above level 4. Still, I don't know how you're not out there banging a bunch of randos after 6 months of no sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 04:16 PM
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You spent a lot of time talking about women in this post. It's fine, and I'm a fan of the ladies, but you're risking making women your mission. I've been guilty of that and it usually doesn't work out well. I'd focus on two things right now-- career and fitness. You don't mention if you're overweight or skinny-fat. You don't mention what body weight exercises you're doing. Most of the other stuff tends to work itself out if you own it at work and with your body. You go from getting near-wall gir…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 04:03 PM
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I definitely have a sweet tooth and eat more candy than I should, but I reserve it for a pre-workout boost. The insulin spikes are good for working out. Other times, all they do is convert glucose into fat. This isn't bro science-- it's science science. You don't have to go cold turkey-- but just eat less sugar. You'll be glad you did
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:55 PM
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Work: Been studying for the last part of board certification. Shit's getting real and it's been nice to have a goal to work toward. I'm totally goal-oriented and I like having a big accomplishment that I can throw myself into. Fitness: Been lifting 3x/week focusing on high volume for hypertrophy. Supplementing off days with climbing/hangboard training for a big trip in a week. Weather finally stopped snowing and raining so I rode my bike to work a couple times which i love. Took my girl hiking i…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:48 PM
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For sure. In my case, I'm glad I made the decisions I did. Life's messy and I wouldn't have had the same personal growth.
/r/askMRP09/05/17 03:30 PM
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Do you care to elaborate about not feeling connected to other guys? I sometimes feel the same way-- most of my friends come from climbing/skiing and they don't have kids. My friends with kids are lazy, boring, and up their wives asses. Maybe there's no male unicorn?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:25 PM
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That's an awesome insight. You should be getting the sex you want and you'll probably start dealing with some resentment as you lose weight. It'll be helpful to find a close friend to deal with the fact that you want sex--and can get it from other women-- but your wife is unable to provide it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:14 PM
1

Same here. I find I can do more reps and really work those glory muscles
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:12 PM
2

Definitely take advantage of roofies
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:08 PM
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That's just women. Perpetually stressed out for reasons we'll never understand. Stop hoping for your woman to get easier because she never will. But you'll get better.
/r/askMRP09/05/17 02:38 PM
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You're lucky in that you've woken up before you got attached to a kid. Most guys would be envious of that situation. Personally, I'd have zero tolerance for a wife with no kids who doesn't work and won't touch my dick. I don't even care if I was 300lbs and played video games all day. Women have a sex drive too-- makes me wonder if she's getting some on the side. I wouldn't blame you if you went Rambo because what's the downside? She leaves and you get to stop supporting dead weight?
/r/askMRP09/05/17 02:35 PM
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I've been in your shoes. It's a struggle for me. The thrill of another girl is a high. But there's costs. And they suck. I'd suggest you talk it over with a close friend in real life. Be honest and open with him. Otherwise your hamster will keep spinning until you actually bang a chick
/r/askMRP08/05/17 11:32 PM
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Dude, if you resent her for the toilet seat thing just wait till real decisions have to be made. Sounds like you're both trying to control the other person. You gotta figure out what your red lines are and defend those. Let a lot of little shit go. It's only been 10 days. Just chill out and don't sweat the small stuff. It's going to take a while to get into a routine and mesh your lives. Women are nesters. Let her make the home and enjoy the feminine shit. Otherwise, you'll fight stupid battles …
/r/askMRP08/05/17 04:32 PM
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Supporting a woman before kids come is setting a bad precedent. They don't know the value of a dollar. Now, most guys here don't really like their wives so the idea of supporting them makes them physically sick. Nothing wrong with wanting a traditional family-- I'd just make sure to have a good prenup in case things go south
/r/askMRP08/05/17 02:12 PM
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Whoa, i just looked at his post history. What a loser.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 09:40 PM
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This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. It's fine to spin plates or get a piece on the side if your wife isn't putting out. But oneitis for a side girl? That's never worked out well in the history of mankind.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 06:22 PM
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Narcissists don't go to therapy and try to work on the relationship. I doubt she's a true narcissist-- those people are pretty rare. Sounds like your typical type-a ball buster. I've got one of those at home too. Yeah, protect yourself in case she's building a case to divorce your ass. But in the meantime you may as well have fun with her. Don't treat her like the enemy because that's going to make her dig in her heels even more. Kill your ego bro
/r/askMRP05/05/17 06:18 PM
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You're getting berated by guys because you're not taking the appropriate accountability for yourself and getting defensive. MRP doesn't work if you get defensive. I think marriage and kids can be really rewarding. You have to pick the right girl, and even then you have to have a frame of steel. Yeah, earn lots of money and work on your body. But frame is 90% of this shit and it takes a long time to master
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/17 06:09 PM
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If you think that most women are deceptive cunts then you'll create that reality. Don't be bitter--enjoy women. Enjoy the feminine energy they bring to relationships. If you don't think you can find a quality girl in America then I think you're a pussy and not really all that "high-value". You don't believe in yourself
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/17 04:17 PM
1

Focus on your mission. Whatever that means to you. I've found it helpful to actively lean into the discomfort that my wife provides. To revel in the bullshit
/r/askMRP05/05/17 02:31 PM
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This is a normal thing for men who have made improvement. I imagine you want to stay married. I'd encourage you to actively seek out value from your wife-- what attracted you to her initially? Bring out the feminine energy from her. Enjoy the feminine polarity that she brings. If, after a while of trying to foster her best qualities, she's still a waste of space then you'll know whether to stay or go
/r/askMRP05/05/17 01:04 PM
1

So, I tried conditioning my wife to not be a bitch and it backfired. I withdrew and she got bitchier. But that's mostly because my time around her wasn't that special. I wasn't treating her like my girlfriend-- I was treating her like the same anxious girl I see every morning and that I can barely tolerate. So conditioning my time was worthless. Instead, listen to her. Joke with her. Treat her like she's your girlfriend. Establish some non-sexual intimacy. Make her actually want to be around you…
/r/askMRP04/05/17 09:36 PM
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Do you like the pictures she posts? It's ok to like them. My wife did some beauty pageants and posted pictures. She worked hard for it and looked hot. Compliment her if she looks good. You've got a good problem in that your wife works out a lot and wants you to notice. That means she values your opinion.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 02:08 PM
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I'll second the expectation that sex=marriage. Nobody in their right mind would sign up for marriage otherwise
/r/askMRP03/05/17 07:06 PM
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Hey we gotta start somewhere. Hopefully you can turn it around and do what she did. I like your wife
/r/askMRP03/05/17 06:57 PM
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Dude the vaginal mucosa isn't made of Kevlar. It can get damaged at pressures greater than 20 cmH2O. Why would you ignore a valid complaint? It's ok to say, "guess I got a little too rough with you." it's not a shit test if you injure her cooch
/r/askMRP03/05/17 05:30 PM
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From experience (n was 1 too) if you can find a way to not cheat and get rid of that feeling of missing out, especially if you have an otherwise good marriage, I would do that first. Talk with friends. Talk with a counselor. I never could overcome that feeling and I'm not sure if there's anything other than banging another chick to get over it. My marriage was shit, so I'm a little different. If your wife is nice and hot, man I wouldn't screw that up
/r/askMRP03/05/17 05:26 PM
1

Why did you let lifting slide?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 03:27 PM
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I feel the same way after dicking around for hours. I find it helpful to set a limit on leisure time, or do it mindfully-- we need to relax so have a purpose to it. I also find it helpful that when my wife says "I feel___" that I don't automatically discount it. Sure, most of the time it's bullshit but she's a human and if you treat humans like robots they're less fun to be around. Revel in the bullshit
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 03:09 PM
2

Totally. This has been a hard one for me to break. I'm sure it has to do with my upbringing, but I have a hard time allowing her to have negative emotions around me
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 02:11 PM
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I like having a blow fund because I never took a liking to pot. Seriously though, if you're at MRP your marriage probably isn't doing so hot in the first place. Which means the chances of her bolting are high. And if she doesn't work the dreaded "divorce rape" becomes a reality for you. At least have her work part time. She'll be happier having an outlet outside the home and you'll have some blow money.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 11:07 PM
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True BPD is a very complex disorder and requires strict boundaries from the people around them. You'd likely need the help of a psychologist with expertise in the area to help you navigate the disorder. It's not something you can just read about on the internet
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 07:11 PM
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I'm not sure if you're trying to be dense, or what. Is your goal financial freedom or do you want her to like you? Because right now it seems like financial freedom is more attainable for you.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 06:48 PM
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I take a picture every month, as well as send pics to my wife when I'm pumped because it's a fun way to flirt. If I don't compare pics month-to-month, I constantly think I'm too small and need to keep bulking.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 06:33 PM
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Here's the thing about cheating on your wife-- yes you can over-dread her. Yes, she'll freak out about stupid shit. And it makes it all the worse when you don't own your actions. She's going to get all dramatic and she needs to process it herself. Just make sure you're not doing anything to make it worse. That's why i like to not engage in active dread around her. It's tough, because if you're an outgoing and attractive man, anything you do is going to be considered flirting. I'd stick to passiv…
/r/askMRP02/05/17 06:30 PM
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So I'd focus on the positives. Women are a pain in the ass half the time no matter what. Accept that as their nature and enjoy the good times.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 06:25 PM
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My point is that, if you're not being micromanaging and instead trying to keep the financial ship afloat, she will not support you in that goal. And your current plan requires her buy-in. I'm sure you've given all of us a one-sided view of her, but if she's 1/10th as bad as you make her seem, she just plain doesn't want to work things out with you. If that's the case, you've gotta be a hard-ass. Now, if you're just trying to make an asshole power move, that's a different story
/r/askMRP02/05/17 06:24 PM
2

A bigger question I have is why you're with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 06:08 PM
2

If I remember right, your wife hates you and won't put out. Like ever. And you make all the money? There's no way you can negotiate with her. She'll never respect your decisions. be generous with her. Be willing to make large sacrifices, because a captain has to set the example for his crew. But in the end, I f you make all the money just give her an allowance and stick to it. What's the worst that happens? She hates you more and leaves you?
/r/askMRP02/05/17 06:06 PM
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Hey if you can have workable conversations about finances with your wife, who cares if you got laid afterward. That stuff builds safety and women are all about feeling safe with a high value man. It's good for the long term. Careful you don't set too many goals-- you're all over the place this week. As for the fitness goals, if you want to look good track your progress with photos. Body fat and weight are great, but photos will tell you if you look "good" or not
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 05:41 PM
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You blew the comfort tests (though sexless for months would make me not want to provide comfort either). It's ok to give your wife a massage. It's ok to make her feel wanted (if you want her around). Talk to her. Have fun. Come home after the wrestling match (which is fucking retarded and low class, but hey it's your life) and try some moves out on her. You know how you "work on us"? You become a masculine man and you do fun things with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 05:30 PM
2

I see BPD get thrown around a lot by a lot of men. True BPD is fairly rare (though maybe MRP self selects for men married to BPD cunts). Hopefully your lady is just garden-variety anxious and you have to reset your communicating patterns. I like to assume women DON'T have personality disorders. It takes the blame off of them, allows you to own your shit, and gives you some hope of turning things around.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 05:23 PM
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Writing this to be accountable to myself and so that I can refer to this in the future. As a recap, several weeks ago the wife wanted a separation. Been sleeping in separate rooms. She cut off sex completely. Our sex life had been fantastic, the impetus for her separation was that I said I wouldn’t help pay her student loans. Here’s what I’ve discovered about myself over the last few weeks. I exist in a very reactive frame. As in, my wife gets angry— i get mad at her. She resents me, I resent he…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/17 02:52 PM
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That's awesome if you can say that you've really examined everything. As for the values, passive dread is usually more effective than active dread. Still, if divorce is off the table you'll probably reach a limit. She can treat you like garbage (not that she will) because she knows you'll never leave.
/r/askMRP01/05/17 08:02 PM
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Bro the good news is that you don't have to worry about being tempted by other women for at least a year or two while you lose the weight. Also, unless you're willing to challenge everything in your life you'll never achieve real freedom. You'll always be a slave to the dogma of your ancestors. Don't you want your value system to be YOURS?
/r/askMRP01/05/17 07:25 PM
8

I have a border collie and a wife with many advanced degrees. Training them should be easy, right? Right?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 07:21 PM
2

Hambley. Not legally married, no kids, no assets and sexless for years. And still he was torn up over leaving her
/r/askMRP01/05/17 07:07 PM
2

Depends how old you are, etc. Live a healthy lifestyle, sleep enough, eat right, and decrease stress and your T should improve. If not, inject it bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 04:14 PM
3

You did a good job by being assertive and using STFU. Women have emotions and get pissed. Tomorrow she'll be different. It's how they are. Be upbeat and fun and enjoy the soccer tournament. Also, be cognizant of your actions. Be aware of the situation
/r/askMRP01/05/17 03:44 PM
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I've been in a similar position as you for the last month or so-- separate rooms etc. Meet with a lawyer, see what you need to do to protect yourself. Keep a journal and log all your time with kids. It helps to be proactive. Do you want to stay married to her? If so, work toward that. Really, at this point, you've got nothing to lose so keep working your MAP
/r/askMRP01/05/17 03:40 PM
1

I agree with you there. But don't actively make it worse. Just STFU and change the topic.
/r/askMRP01/05/17 03:05 PM
1

My wife pulls this shit all the time. Night's going good then she picks stupid fights. Maybe it's a shitty comfort test. It's still not appropriate behavior. Sometimes I can pull her out of the shitty mood. Most of the time I can't. It's not because I'm not alpha enough or man enough. It's just the way she is. STFU and realize it's not always about you
/r/askMRP01/05/17 02:59 PM
3

I understand the feeling of missing out. In my case, it helped to screw a couple random chicks to get it out of my system. But make sure you know what you're getting into and you're willing to accept the consequences of your actions. Also, dude, stay away from chicks at work. No good can come of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/17 03:52 PM
5

Even if you become a ripped billionaire philanthropist they may never follow and that's ok. You have to allow people autonomy and not make them fit into your ideal little life.
/r/askMRP27/04/17 04:18 PM
2

Personally, I like guns but as a form of self defense they suck. Are you always going to carry it? If you have it at home, are you going to keep it loaded under your bed in case of a home invasion? Get strong and learn some martial arts. Making male friends also helps when shit goes down
/r/askMRP27/04/17 03:51 PM
3

Sounds like a preferable alternative to whatever OP likes to do. Is he boring or is she a low-value person? Maybe both?
/r/askMRP27/04/17 02:53 PM
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Sounds like you let things slide for 15 years and you're all of a sudden trying to enforce boundaries. It's coming off as controlling (which it is) and obviously the family is rebelling against the Screen Time Nazi. I think planning fun activities outside as an alternative, like you're doing is good. Try to explain why you want the family to use phones less. Explain the health benefits, the relationship benefits, etc. they have to buy into any effort to change or else it's useless for you to for…
/r/askMRP27/04/17 02:49 PM
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Just go out and learn something. Don't spend a lot of time trying to find the BEST form of self defense, weighing the pros and cons, etc. With anything in life, choose what sounds interesting and throw yourself into it. Also, don't be paranoid.
/r/askMRP27/04/17 12:28 PM
2

Try not to be cold around her. Also, use active listening when she bitches and moans. "I hear you say x. That must be frustrating." Along those lines. Let her know she's heard but that you are your own ultimate judge.
/r/askMRP26/04/17 08:33 PM
4

No, OP said he would hate to divorce her. Seems like he should be happy to get an addict away from his kids-- he'd likely get full custody. I don't see anything wrong with supporting an addict who wants to get help. She's refused help several times and now he's being codependent
/r/askMRP25/04/17 07:15 PM
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I think the bigger problem is laughing at her and blowing her off. Does he have other things to do that are more important? "I understand you're frustrated at the lack of poppy seed bread. I'm busy doing x so I won't be able to get them." And don't immediately throw it back at her. If he just drinks a beer and watches TV he looks like he's playing control games with her-- which he is
/r/askMRP25/04/17 07:12 PM
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More people die from prescription drugs than heroin. You have to get your kids out of the house. This isn't an MRP thing. This is just life. And your bigger problem is that you don't want to divorce a drug addict.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 06:07 PM
1

Geez bro. What got in your vagina?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 11:53 PM
1

Haha IDK. My wife is pretty hot and makes a lot of money. At some point the narcissism outweighs the fun of having a challenge
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 10:47 PM
1

That's a big realization to come to
/r/askMRP24/04/17 09:30 PM
1

Lifting is about the easiest thing you can do toward improving your life. What's your barrier preventing you from doing that consistently?
/r/askMRP21/04/17 12:43 PM
1

Slow down. Improve yourself for at least 6 months. You may see your wife in a different light if you follow MRP. I know you see a waste of space, but if this is really the best relationship you've ever had, either you dated crack whores before her--- or you turned her into this mess. Pay attention to how you act around her and see how you can improve
/r/askMRP21/04/17 11:55 AM
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I've done it a lot. It's a BP behavior and quite a time waster. You sit around and jerk of to porn you had I work for. Eventually you'll end up meeting one of them for lackluster sex that'll threaten to blow up your life. If you're at dread level 10, that's probably ok. It's your choice. Plus, most of the girls are attention whore manatees who you wouldn't give the time of day in real life. If you have a good thing going at home, don't bother with it.
/r/askMRP20/04/17 12:24 AM
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A few "assholes" are fine but there's gotta be some beta comfort thrown in there
/r/askMRP19/04/17 09:22 PM
1

Kid, you worry too much about a lot of stuff. Just have fun, try to make friends, and pick up an athletic hobby. Date around and experience all sorts of different women. Get into LTRs with them, because you need to learn how to be a partner to somebody. The only way you can do that is to practice. I made a lot of friends through a triathlon club when i was in my 20s. I got fit and had a lot of fun. And don't think of girls as a distraction-- enjoy them for their feminine qualities-- you'll proba…
/r/askMRP19/04/17 05:16 PM
1

Jesus, you described me-- down to the W2 shit. Married a type-A doctor 6 years younger and you can look at my OYS for how that's working out. I'd recommend this kid date around, have a few LTRs, just don't get married till after residency. Your SMV skyrockets, especially if you stay fit, and the type of girls you get are completely different once you're all done with training.
/r/askMRP19/04/17 05:11 PM
1

Yeah, I can do a better job of trying to include her in my life. I realized I was putting a lot more effort into being nice toward random chicks than toward the mother of my child. It was fueled by anger and I can work on being fun and civil while still inviting her to come along.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 04:59 PM
1

This might be a good opportunity for us to reframe the relationship. She's very assertive, type-A, and has resisted being pulled into my frame thus far. It's hard to game someone who I don't trust-- or rather, it's hard to want to be in a relationship with someone who may bolt for whatever reason. Sure, I can game her and eventually get into her pants.....but why?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 04:57 PM
1

It's hard to find positive male role models while you're lifeguarding and partying. Put yourself in a position to find the type of guys that you want to emulate.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 07:22 PM
3

Last week in my life: Wife told me she wanted to separate. Instigating incident was I told her I wasn't paying for her students loans and all the nanny. I'd told her if she threatened divorce (as she had in the past) I would file first. So last week I slept in the basement just to get some peace. Wife was a volatile ice queen. I researched lawyers and talked with a couple. Financially, a divorce wouldn't impact me much as we have the potential to make the same (she's refusing to work more than 3…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 06:16 PM
1

Still, every girl I've known who had an LTR for the entirety of high school is crazy. Maybe she's not. Exceptions to every rule
/r/askMRP17/04/17 12:00 PM
1

I think we poo poo the idea of LDR because we assume the male has at least an average SMV and could pull average women without too much problem. But in your case, it sounds like you have huge barriers to raising your SMV (at least in the US. I don't know, maybe you could work hard and be an Indian Chad. But maybe not because of the caste system. Maybe there's a whole new Indian Redpill genre that needs to be explored). Anyway, if she makes you happy and you get a green card it might be worth onc…
/r/askMRP14/04/17 03:29 AM
1

After her student loans and half the nanny, the rest goes into her retirement. All other household expenses are covered by me.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 03:22 AM
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Marriage can be great when you're working together, make a great team, raising kids, and fucking frequently. But you don't need a piece of paper for that. And it requires enormous amounts of work to maintain your identity. But if you're even considering marriage while in an LDR you're just a dumb shit who doesn't know what he doesn't know.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 07:55 PM
1

Anesthesia. So we're used to getting pissed on by others. Gee, it's like blue pill-me chose marriage like I did my specialty
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 06:49 PM
1

Congruency is where I got myself into trouble. I slacked on holding frame and not letting her drag me into drama. It's been a good kick in the ass
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 06:45 PM
1

Oh god, not another fellowship. What am I, a foreign medical grad? I like making money too much
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 06:44 PM
1

Haha i'll make him put on scrubs and meet me in the OR
/r/askMRP13/04/17 06:42 PM
1

Yeah, the whole thing is backwards. "Let's separate, but not until I've passed boards because i need you to babysit." WTF? I was pushing for her to work 4 days instead of 3 so she'd pay her loans off faster and she could do whatever the fuck she wanted after that. Maybe I pushed her away by not seeming like a team player, but i didn't want to get left holding the bag if i'm paying into her loans and she bolts.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 06:25 PM
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Yeah, she thinks that i should respect her just because she's an MD, that I should appreciate that part of her and praise her. She doesn't realize it doesn't work like that for women. Yeah, she's a great doc, but men don't care. Men want sex, respect, and affection. Period
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 06:22 PM
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It was to the point that I realized "I'm 35, better body than when I was a high school wrestler, make a ton of money, slay it at work, own my shit at home, 20 year old girls flirt with me unsolicited. She should be begging to suck my dick." In reality, all she wanted all along was a beta provider.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 04:49 PM
1

Yeah, I told her "My wife is 100% committed to me." She got the message but doesn't care. Even told me to get a girlfriend. I don't even care if she's trying to prove a point. I'm not staying married to someone who doesn't take it seriously. My next free day I'll be meeting with a lawyer.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 04:43 PM
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Thanks for this post. I've recently come to the point where I'm researching lawyers. My biggest hangup has been our two year old. And while I think my wife is a great mom, I'm not relishing dealing with her for the next 16 years
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 02:39 PM
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This is a great point. My wife told me she wanted to separate unless I did "x,y,z and be more senisitive etc". This was because she feels she's the prize. And after 10 months of MRP I'm finally realizing I'm the prize and she doesn't get to manipulate me anymore.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 02:26 PM
1

Been slacking on reading and I think that's how I got into today's mess. I forgot all the WISNIFG, was losing frame, and probably went Rambo in the last couple months. I had a case of the fuckits with regard to the wife. She was unpleasant a majority of the time so I withdrew time and attention. This made her angrier. So I withdrew more. Until now she's wanting a separation and probably a divorce. The reason? I'm making her pay all of her student loans and half of the nanny. You see, I wanted it…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 03:27 AM
1

Being benevolent could help. I know you don't want to leave, probably because of kids. You need to face the fact that your happiness is not dependent on whether your kids like you. You have a shitty woman poisoning them against you. It's a no-win situation. Maybe just stop caring so much about your family
/r/askMRP07/04/17 11:02 PM
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It takes a long time to remodel yourself. And then it takes even longer for her to notice and respond to your changes. Yeah, she's being a poor quality wife right now. But you've probably been a poor quality husband for a long time. You won't know the answer for at least a year. More, if you don't engage in serious mindfulness about MRP
/r/askMRP06/04/17 11:51 AM
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In the LDS faith, there's 3 heavens. The highest one, where god and Jesus live, is reserved for faithful mormons. In that heaven there are higher levels. To achieve the highest you have to be married in a Mormon temple and have kids. Many women will not marry a man unless he's served a Mormon mission and they get married in the temple. The level of sexual dysfunction is through the roof in Mormon marriages because of purity doctrine. In theory, the Mormon church could be a pretty cool RP faith, …
/r/askMRP05/04/17 02:56 PM
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If you're Mormon you've got a hard road ahead. She didn't marry you for you. She married you to check boxes and get into super special Mormon heaven. You're a sperm donor. And what about receiving revelation for the family? Apparently her talks with god mean more. Anyway, you can learn frame and lift and some game, but it won't work until you challenge all your beliefs. Until you tear down all your preconceived notions, you'll still be blue pill. You'll still be following the same, unwinnable sc…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 03:35 AM
1

Shit man. That's an impossible situation for you. My wife was roughed up by an ex-- he dragged her across the floor and maybe raped her (who knows)-- but not really as bad as your lady. I can understand where he was coming from because my lady will dare me to take a swing at her. You have to disconnect any expectation of MRP making your marriage better. I get caught in that cycle often and periodically I have to step back
/r/askMRP29/03/17 01:37 PM
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I think it's a good idea to play your nice card everyday and try to enjoy your wife. They can be shitty, and you'll be tempted to ignore her, but if you don't withdraw time and attention selectively, and totally disengage from her instead, she'll just get shittier and you'll withdraw more until there's no point being together. Don't placate shitty behavior, but also have fun with your lady. Or else why be with her?
/r/askMRP27/03/17 07:07 PM
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Didn't move in with her until we got married. It's nice to have some companionship on a day to day basis, but the headaches outweigh the benefits. Just constant shit tests when all you want to do is relax after a long day. And if you chill out for an hour she loses respect for you
/r/askMRP27/03/17 06:03 PM
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A lot of guys are pointing to the lifting and attractiveness issues. I agree with that-- you need to be good looking and develop some game. Withdrawing your time and attention won't mean anything until she values your presence. My wife has the worst PMS. Every month it's like WW3. So I have absolutely no interest in being around her for about a week and a half. I climb, ski, hang out with friends and make myself scarce. Because she isn't worth my time when she's unpleasant. So that makes her fee…
/r/askMRP24/03/17 03:26 PM
1

I remember your first posts. You started in a really deep hole
/r/askMRP24/03/17 03:19 PM
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People are giving you great advice. But your problems are really deeper than MRP can fix. MRP is going to be a great adjunct for you, but you need professional counseling in the form of sexual addiction treatment. Now, if you really love this woman and she makes your life better, I'd work on yourself for your own sanity. I was having a drink with one of my old sex-addict friends. He was banging high-priced escorts until it almost made him bankrupt. But he loves his wife so he straightened out hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 06:52 PM
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Found MRP June 2016. Lifting, gained 25 lbs after being a skinny distance runner. I've struggled greatly with frame lately. I've struggled with a feeling of wanting more, even though I have plenty. Work is fine, and it causes me to want to blow it all up and start over just so I have a challenge. Kid is great. I have a general sense of 'meh' and it causes me to be antsy at home. So then I take it out sideways on my wife and she blows up, I get sucked into her frame, and she's been bitchy for two…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 04:25 PM
1

Thanks for posting this. I'm in a similar situation with my wife. She works 3 days per week but I pay for a nanny 5 days. She's in a lucrative field, but refuses to work one more day so we can get out of our mountain of student debt. Makes me feel very resentful. I approached this from a position of weakness-- all about how I feel, deering, etc. I was trying to be controlling because I don't want to subsidize her lifestyle when she can earn a lot of money yet chooses not to. And she's been a rag…
/r/askMRP23/03/17 01:58 PM
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She may never want to become slutty for you and that's OK too. She may never come out of her shell. Pushing boundaries can be fun, but don't make too big a deal over it. There's some things my wife will never do and I've had to come to terms with it.
/r/askMRP17/03/17 03:51 PM
1

Brooks brothers makes the best dress shirts for me. You can tailor them there or have someone else do it for probably $20. I've also had good luck with Express
/r/askMRP17/03/17 03:30 PM
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Long game troll if he his. Gotta respect that commitment
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 01:51 PM
1

If a man has a BMI of 18, we'd be worried about him. I'm not telling you my opinion, just stating medical facts. Women need more fat to perform essential functions. But, hey, I guess it's good birth control to have a girl who's too skinny
/r/askMRP17/03/17 01:27 PM
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You don't have a real job. You've got minimal life experience. Your first duty is to yourself. The kids won't have a shot if you can barely take care of yourself. They aren't your responsibility. Maybe when you have your life on track you can work something out, but really ask yourself if you want to be a martyr for these kids. It's like when you're on an airplane and they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first. You can't take care of someone else if you're asphyxiating. I would take my nephe…
/r/askMRP17/03/17 01:22 PM
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Sounds like you got lucky. She probably told you because she's wanted the relationship to be over for a long time. Enjoy your new found freedom.
/r/askMRP17/03/17 02:00 AM
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Dude, I hate fat girls. They're not people in my eyes. But 16-18 BMI is underweight and bordering on anorexia. It's just not healthy from a medical perspective. And it's not healthy from a psychological perspective
/r/askMRP17/03/17 01:43 AM
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God you have the frame of a faggot. Defensive. Of course she gets all emotional. You're a micromanaging bitch who isn't happy if he doesn't have some mythical idea of beauty on his arm. I was the same way when I was single. How tall is she? 5'5 or so, 125 is pretty decent. 10 lbs isn't a big deal in the scheme of things. What's her BMI? Make sure you don't want her under 19 or so. If she's a midget and 125, sure 10lbs is a big deal. The only way I've found a girl to want to change is if she has …
/r/askMRP16/03/17 07:58 PM
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She's only killing your soul because you're in her frame.
/r/askMRP16/03/17 04:18 PM
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I agree single life wouldn't be kind to him-- overweight, over 40, divorced with kids, no game, probably living in a dinky little apartment because he doesn't make that much money. At least now he can use her as a sugar momma of sorts. I think deadlines are good, not as a hard stop but as a chance to reflect and reasses. When I was at my worst with my wife, I gave myself 4 months to make a decision. Luckily I found MRP in that time. Since then, every couple months I look back and assess my progr…
/r/askMRP16/03/17 03:56 PM
1

I've always eaten whatever i want, largely because I lead a really active lifestyle. But that may not work for everyone
/r/askMRP16/03/17 03:02 PM
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There could be a whole litany causes for your wife to feel like shit. As you know, MS usually progresses in a relapsing-remitting pattern. There may be good and bad days. On the good days, she may be horny as a teenager. Scurve knows a whole lot more about this than me. Still, the plan is the same whether she has a disease or not. You make yourself into the best version of yourself that you can be. It doesn't matter what your wife does, because your self esteem should be independent of her. Stor…
/r/askMRP16/03/17 02:51 PM
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I bet you enjoy getting railed by those teenagers at TRP while you espouse RP theory and make your girlfriends stay under 2 drinks
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/17 12:26 AM
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Luck has nothing to do with it. You allowed your wife to get fat
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/17 12:08 AM
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You've got a toddler and a newborn right? If she doesn't want to go, one alternative is taking the older kid and leaving your wife with the newborn. That way you don't have to pay a babysitter and your wife can still mope around. Previous example from my life: I'd planned a fun weekend at a friend's cabin. I was looking forward to it as a fun family trip. Last minute, my wife refuses to go because she wanted to hang around the house instead. I'll admit, I was pissed. But instead of throwing a ta…
/r/askMRP15/03/17 06:05 PM
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I got the "not communicating" line yesterday. Tried all the WISNIFG stretgies. Nothing worked. So I STFU. Sometimes that's all that works. Jackten has a good comment about shitty comfort tests. Treat them like an employee who is acting out. Don't get offended
/r/askMRP15/03/17 03:55 PM
1

Do you think you over-dreaded her? And did she find out about your affairs? It would help a lot of guys calibrate their actions
/r/askMRP15/03/17 03:45 PM
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That strategy was bullshit. Throwing her out would just backfire because you don't have the frame to do it. You're trying to fix a broken woman before fixing yourself. It's not going to happen overnight. Work on your frame and in the meantime revel in the batshit that's going on around you. It's temporary, one way or the other
/r/askMRP15/03/17 03:35 PM
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I've always had regualar sex (except after childbirth). Came here because my wife was a bitch and I didn't know how to stand up to her.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 03:18 PM
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Be friendly and social to everyone, without showing sexual interest. Once you're good looking, dress well and have a job of importance women will flirt with you occasionally.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 03:15 PM
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I'd agree with that. AM, AA are great for playful banter. Most women want to feel a connection with their spouse and that requires some smooth talk sometimes
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 09:37 PM
1

Winner!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 07:37 PM
2

"Your honor, my actions on June 13th should not be assessed when considering the crime that occurred on June 13th"
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 07:35 PM
2

Read up about amused mastery. STFU works for a little while but in the long run it'll just fuck things up if used all the time
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 07:30 PM
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It doesn't matter why she's flipping out. She's begging you to be the calm in the storm and you get wrapped up in her emotions. That's why she keeps doing it. She's mad that you're scared of her emotions
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 07:29 PM
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You're absolutely not handling these shit tests well. And I bet that you're likely doing stuff that eggs her on. You're not setting appropriate boundaries around your time. You're not communicating well with her. You're probably acting like an autistic retard, expecting her to just "get it". Which of course she doesn't because you've got years of BP behavior. Learn to pass shit tests, bro. That's the only thing you should work on now. Amused mastery. And get out in front of her. Have a plan and …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 04:46 PM
1

You know you shouldn't be a control freak. You can communicate and set expectations. Make sure you've got all your shit on lock before you start expecting the other person to change
/r/askMRP12/03/17 11:29 PM
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Nah. I'm a firm believer that if you live with the indians you start to go wild. Spend all day with children and you turn into a child. Especially if the lady doesn't have a good support network of other adults. Plus, having a wife stay home is a sure recipe for divorce rape.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 05:30 PM
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It's tough, because you want to make it better right now. It's not going to change overnight. You're angry. She's an anxious wreck. It takes time for her to see change and to acknowledge that you have your shit together. You held it together pretty well for a while, but you totally fell into her frame. After months of staying out of her frame she may get the sense that you're in control. Cool, calm, collective. Supportive but not trying to fix everything. She may not fix her shit, but at least y…
/r/askMRP10/03/17 05:09 PM
2

SAHM is a shitty job for a lot of women. My brother is in a similar situation as you. His wife is worthless at home and won't get a job, even though she has a master's degree. I bet your wife would find a lot of purpose by having something outside the house. edit-- After reading everything, I think you absolutely need to pull the trigger on daycare, go back to working 5 days (if that's your mission. My guess is that your mission does not include doing most of the childcare), and give your wife a…
/r/askMRP10/03/17 05:05 PM
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Dude, she's paying for you to be a waste of space at home while she busts her ass providing for you guys. Until you become a man worth anything you don't have much of a say.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 04:48 PM
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Who said anything about placating her? OP's ship is in disarray and he needs to be an effective leader. OP's wife is a shitty excuse for a SAHM. She's not going to learn effective coping skills on her own.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 05:40 PM
2

Totally agree with you. She sounds like a waste of space. But it'll take OP a while to get there
/r/askMRP09/03/17 02:00 PM
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You're in grad school or med school? Whatever you do, don't bank on having the sugar momma. Live like a peasant, take out as few loans as possible. Then you can live like a king after residency.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 05:50 AM
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Your wife was overwhelmed. Happens to moms all the time. Their hamsters get overloaded with all sorts of manufactured problems. Then you come in and start handling shit. Makes her feel inadequate. And to top it off, you make her feel like she's not a valuable member of the team. You've gone from drunk captain to "The Boss" and she doesn't want a boss. She wants a leader. She's going to rebel against you're authority because you haven't earned it just by virtue of having a schlong. Next time, say…
/r/askMRP09/03/17 05:45 AM
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I find that most people progress too rapidly through the dread stages. I know I did. Is your time and attention worth withdrawing? Make sure you're a fun, happy dude before you start conditioning your attention on her sexual availability
/r/askMRP09/03/17 05:34 AM
1

I did a group program. I tried 12-step but didn't like it. I also did personal therapy. What helped me most was personal therapy, MRP, and a period of abstinence to reset my circuits
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 02:44 AM
1

I'd say that you're not in a position to have a monogamous relationship right now. You can't take care of yourself while single, it's not like being married will magically fix your problems. I don't like to recommend therapy for most guys, but your problems are deeper than any MRP program can handle. Might have sex addiction. Definitely have other addictions. I went through addiction therapy and it definitely helped me gain insight into my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 01:07 AM
1

Yeah, I bet the instinct to take over and doctor-speak to her is hard to overcome
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 12:58 AM
1

Oneitis and scarcity mentality. Really bro?
/r/askMRP09/03/17 12:52 AM
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I'll second the point about being a rock. I thought my wife was an anxiety-stricken mess whose sole purpose was to torment me. And yeah, she's more tightly wound than average, but I made everything worse by not being in control of my own emotions, which is really all I can control anyway.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 12:08 AM
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I have a hard time calibrating when to leave and when to be the "rock". Usually it's a no-win situation either way. I've found that best to make an attempt to spend quality time with the wife, even when she's hormonal and pissy. Otherwise I'm just avoiding my problems. Every job has times we don't enjoy.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 08:59 PM
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Yeah. Every guy is different, but at 15% I had pretty defined abs
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 08:51 PM
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What do you think is causing the lack of energy? It's a common excuse for not working out. I'm working 16+ hours today and still went to the gym this morning because it's a habit
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 08:43 PM
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The age-old problem of "What to do with a fat wife." Some have suggested leading more. Being passive rarely works. And being demanding usually blows up, like you've found. I've seen some success by bringing the whole family to competitions. Not sure if you're training for a triathlon or other endurance race, but setting a goal as a family may work. Obviously have her do a shorter distance than you to make it fun for her. In the end, I've found women in general suck at fitness. They aren't wired …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 08:42 PM
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That sucks, dude. At least you understand the process and you're in a position be the oak through it all. Be patient and find a friend you can vent with
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 08:30 PM
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Withholding sex is passive aggressive and counterproductive. Right now you're on a high of sneaking around with a younger chick. It's fun, no doubt, but probably a waste of time on par with video games and jerking off. At best, it's an exciting hobby. Speaking from experience. My feeling is that you want a nice, stable family. You can't do that when you're throwing your energies in other directions. If you married a fatass and don't want her to be a fatass you can try to lead, but I don't know m…
/r/askMRP08/03/17 08:23 PM
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I think that's a great way to look at it. She's going to be uncomfortable and emotional. It would take super hero levels of control to just grin and bear it. My wife made all sorts of unreasonable demands when she was pregnant. I catered to a lot of them, ignored some, and fought her over others. I had no clue what I was doing other than being a bitch myself. There's no reason to dread your wife through this process. But you should still maintain frame at all times. And give her gifts of your ti…
/r/askMRP06/03/17 07:22 PM
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Manufacturing jealousy has always backfired with my wife. Probably because her envy tank is overfilled most of the the time. But I guess it could work for some guys
/r/askMRP06/03/17 05:13 PM
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Divorcing isn't mandatory. But finding your balls is. Find them and use them and you'll be fine
/r/askMRP06/03/17 12:21 AM
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Dude, I like your progress so far. I think the moratorium was a good step for you. It's probably time to initiate when you want sex. You're a man and don't suppress your masculine desires. From here on out, keep focusing in your mission. If your mission includes being a rock-star Christian devoted to his faith and family, work toward that and you'll be happy. I still think it's shitty of your wife to deny you sex, but if you want to keep the family together you have every right to make it how yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/17 04:08 PM
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Women think pregnancy is carte blanche to act as moody bitches. Yes, be sensitive to the physical difficulty, but don't put up with moodiness. It just encourages them.
/r/askMRP05/03/17 04:58 AM
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Even if you get an arranged marriage, she'll eat you alive. Your frame is shit
/r/askMRP02/03/17 10:22 PM
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Man that's tough. You deserve to have the life you work toward. Sickness or not. What you decide is up to you. Who cares what society says you should do. Are you truly owning your shit? Has she had an opportunity to be a productive member of the family, yet refuses to engage in reality? I mean-- not showering? Sick or healthy, people have the capacity to make choices. My feeling is that you'd love to make a life with your wife, as long as she makes and effort to be sweet and loving. She can't co…
/r/askMRP01/03/17 07:00 PM
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A moratorium can be helpful for some men who've built up a ton of pressure in their relationships around sex. The women feel anxiety just getting touched by their husbands, and the denial messes with men's heads. Now, 3 months is a long fucking time not to have an orgasm, but it think it can help reset the sexual tone.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 04:59 PM
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I'm always amazed how you surgeons can be so assertive in the OR, yet little pussies around your wives. Goes to show the BP conditioning is widespread and powerful. Hey man, I know the thrill of being up all night and doing a transplant. No better high in my opinion. You've found you're mission and you're living your life on your terms. I also get the two-physician marriage. It blows for any type of stability and comfort. As for setting the terms-- you know how you get all anal about tacro level…
/r/askMRP28/02/17 10:10 PM
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"Hehe what a bunch of immature turds. I'm so glad my cat BF isn't like them and respects me as a woman. They're all going to get divorced."
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 09:00 PM
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You need to decide what you want out of life. A woman who doesn't disrespect you from across the country? You can learn to maintain frame and deflect shit tests by reading the sidebar. You lack abundance mentality because you put yourself in a stupid situation (LDR) because you have oneitis. She may be a great girl and all, but believe me-- do not stay with a chick just because she's hot. Sure, you can put up with her shit-- but why?
/r/askMRP28/02/17 07:26 PM
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Do you really want to have a kid with someone who says "baby or gtfo?" She's not on your side. My wife said the same thing. So I gave her a baby. Same situation as you. She was such a raging bitch after the first kid that I refuse to give her another one. She's been in a sour mood all week because my sister is pregnant. Maybe I'll change my mind, but as long as the first pregnancy is fresh in my mind I doubt it. Part of me knows it was a failure of leadership that caused our relationship to dete…
/r/askMRP28/02/17 01:27 PM
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I love the guys who lay it out there on OYS. I think it's a valuable tool most most men. I've noticed that the feedback gets diluted from the sheer volume on one thread. There's a lot of value to be had by making individual posts on askmrp. You can get a lot of personalized feedback
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 03:37 AM
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My wife is a shit-testing machine. Pulls stuff like that all the time. I used to take it so personally. Now I laugh it off. Or, if she's being particularly bitchy, I spend more time out of the house. Not because I want to "punish" her. Mostly because I don't want to spend my precious free time with someone who is unpleasant. When I go home, I'm upbeat and friendly because that's my personality. 99% of the time her mood will change because the substance of her shit tests is like a ghost. Ephemera…
/r/askMRP27/02/17 03:28 PM
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What's the downside of playing the field?
/r/askMRP24/02/17 10:45 PM
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It's so hard to say without context. Why should she travel out of the country to see someone she probably doesn't even know, just because OP wants her there. I know, she should support him and all that, but he probably hasn't earned respect from his wife. It's like sex-- you can't negotiate desire or respect.
/r/askMRP24/02/17 03:28 PM
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It may be tough to force her to go because (1) she doesn't respect you and you're a bitch (2) handcuffs will probably set off airport metal detectors. If you go that route, get zip ties. If she doesn't go, definitely disrupt your time with a dying loved one to obsess about setting a trap. You insecure fuckhead
/r/askMRP24/02/17 03:01 PM
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Sometimes my wife wants to do some crazy stuff with me, but feels shy about it. If I "make a deal" with her, it gives her a reason not to feel slutty. That may have been what happened with your wife. Negotiating desire can be fun when your wife already has a high amount of desire for you. If you're unattractive its counterproductive
/r/askMRP24/02/17 02:56 PM
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When you're not overweight, prediabetic, with high cholesterol, and consistently going to the gym to get ripped, then you can complain about a loose pussy. In the meantime, focus on your mission. Put less of an emphasis on sex, and put more effort into creating intimacy with your wife. Live in the moment (breathe through her or some shit like Way of the Superior Man says). You can't change your pussy, but you can change your mindset and your expectations on what the"perfect" sexual experience fe…
/r/askMRP24/02/17 02:51 PM
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Nothing wrong with taking antidepressants until you can meditate and get your head in order. Sounds like you've got a lot of issues to work through. AD may help get your anxiety down to tolerable levels and help you figure out your shit. I would treat lorazepam like a post-wall single mom. Only in dire circumstances like legit panic attacks.
/r/askMRP24/02/17 02:39 AM
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I'm going with troll on this one. His replies aren't defensive enough for a narcissist
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 08:07 PM
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Yes and no. If it needs to get completed, then you own it. You could also turn it into whatever room YOU want if you pay the bills
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 09:06 PM
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You need to work with her on not using the kids in arguments. I used to do that and it's immature asshole behavior. Also, learn not to be mad. If you're butt hurt she'll sniff it out
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 09:05 PM
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You definitely don't need more quantity of time with your wife and kid. Just more quality time. I can work long hours. Sometimes go a couple days without seeing the family. But if I put in the effort to make my limited time with the family the highlight of their week, everything goes smoothly. If you're time and attention is awesome, then your wife will miss it and dread will work. If your time and attention isn't very fun, the withdrawing isn't going to do much for your sex life. Be fun. Be hap…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 09:02 PM
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If she's a doctor, lawyer, or other professional and has already established her career under her surname, it may be advantageous from a career perspective for her to keep the name. A high-earning woman is insurance against divorce rape. Personally, I wouldn't care if my wife changed her name back because I'm confident in myself. Now, marriage is such a shitty deal for men that you need to be 110% sure that she isn't entertaining ideas of bolting. Men are independent. A marriage-worthy woman doe…
/r/askMRP22/02/17 01:29 PM
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I was like you. Had only fucked my wife. I was so torn up inside that I went out and cheated. The fallout was hell and a huge pain in the ass. As bad as it was, I wish there was another way that I could have internalized that pussy is pussy, but I don't think that I could have done it without cheating. Focus on your mission. Your mission should not include getting your dick wet. Career, hobbies, family, travel, etc. if you truly are giving your all to your mission it should help you Get over mis…
/r/askMRP22/02/17 11:49 AM
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i'd stick to the promise of renovating the apartment. It's emblematic of the rest of your life. Follow through on this promise and it sets a precedent that flows through the rest of your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/17 08:34 PM
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This is interesting. I'm curious what you think about the >50% of women who are overweight or obese. Sure, they can get laid easier than guys but nobody is out there trying to make them into instagram queens. I'd argue that it's a small minority of women who are driving this social-media ego validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/17 08:25 PM
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I struggle with feeling that my wife is an annoyance rather than a helpful companion. And sometimes, no matter how much she's trying, I don't give her any credit. So I've worked on changing that. Giving my wife clear expectations and positive reinforcement.
/r/askMRP20/02/17 07:35 PM
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I'm not a jealous guy and I used to not care if my wife has orbiters. She's had them in the past but gets bored of them easily because they don't compete with me. I don't mind her talking to pussies. But I do mind that if I'm going to all the trouble of being monogamous, I want her to put in the same effort. If she gets my commitment, she better be on top of her game
/r/askMRP20/02/17 04:13 PM
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Speaking of apologies, how's the drama going on at home? Still spinning plates?
/r/askMRP17/02/17 09:28 PM
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I agree with u/anythinginc about the schedules. It's hard to have any type of relationship when you don't see each other st regular intervals and have actual quality time. It's not a great way to have a relationship for either of you. Eventually you'll want your schedules to align better. I've done shift work and it sucks in the long run. For now though, it's a great time to work on yourself and get looking better. You have a lot of free time with the kid after work. I'd get a bob jogging stroll…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 07:24 PM
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Depends how early on in the MRP journey you are. I found I had to wean my wife off of apologies. If you've been a supplicating fuckup before, suddenly changing the apology expectations will make your life harder. Sure, you could refuse to apologize. I don't think it makes a big difference in the long run. Say "I'm sorry" once. Move on. Do better next time. Make the apologies less frequent as time goes on. I don't remember the last time I said I'm sorry
/r/askMRP17/02/17 07:05 PM
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This is where I find it helpful to disconnect sex from the most important things in your life. I made this mistake with my wife, where she felt like shit and had no libido, and almost blew the marriage up because the sex dropped off. If she's witholding sex or being bitchy, those are problems to be addressed. But if she's making a good effort at being a decent wife, I say cut her some slack and focus on your mission. As always, your mission is your most important priority. I don't know if I'll e…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 07:00 PM
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My wife is a horny slut during ovulation. Doesn't matter what I do, it's just how she is. But she's also really into it right after her period. Mostly because I don't initiate much during her period and she hasn't had the D for a few days. I make myself scarce when she's on the rag. I've got better things to than cater to her moods. All girls are different. I don't think it's necessarily related to your level of alpha
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/17 04:28 PM
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Logged in to upvote
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 05:00 AM
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I've found a lot of these problems you describe don't have great solutions. Especially for those of us who lack a lot of empathy. 99% of the time, I don't give a rat's ass about my wife's problems. And I do a pretty shitty job of empathizing with her. I fail comfort tests, occasionally DEER during shit tests, and live in my own little world. But you know what's worked? Consistently trying to be better at listening to my wife and giving her the attention she deserves as my first mate. It didn't g…
/r/askMRP15/02/17 11:54 PM
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I'd never read his whole treatise in that comment before! That dude has some real interpersonal skills.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 11:49 PM
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I'm all for raising a family with a quality woman. I really do think that you'll regret not playing the field a bit. Not just for sex, but to find a woman that really complements your life and follows your lead. It doesn't mean it can't be with your current LTR, but you need to find out if she's really a good catch or just the first fish that jumped in the boat
/r/askMRP15/02/17 11:34 PM
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Yeah, I'm not sure how to read it. Apparently she has some really messed up mental models. Personally, I'd probably take her up on the offer and screw around. But OP admirably is trying to make his family work. Maybe it's not a matter of SMV, but that she honestly doesn't know how to be sexual with him and she also wants to make the family work.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 11:33 PM
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Fasts that long are ok once in a while, but I'd stick with the 18 hour fasts 3x per week. 36 hours is going to make your body horde anything you put in it. Or count your TDEE and run a deficit. I bet you're overeating on days you don't fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 09:18 PM
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From what you've posted before, your wife is a real ice queen to you. So I guess this is a step in a positive direction. I don't think she's really scared to lose you. Maybe your paycheck. But not you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 09:08 PM
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It's worth it for you. Why do you want to save this relationship anyway? Mid 20s and only been with one woman-- and you're fit and can attract women? That's a recipe for disaster. I know.
/r/askMRP14/02/17 08:46 PM
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Unless there's a reason she needs to be bedbound, like an incompetent cervix, she should be as active as possible. This a great time to lead her toward healthy activity and as much exercise as possible. The average woman should only gain 25lbs the entire pregnancy. Her her lazy ass up. She'll shit test you to the end of time, but it's better than trying to lose all that weight after the baby comes
/r/askMRP14/02/17 01:50 PM
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I think it's natural for other things in your life to be more interesting than sex. Especially with the same woman year after year. I'm at the point where I'd rather ski or work on my business than have sex. But I do it all because I like a well-balanced life
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/17 07:29 PM
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All these guys who think they're getting shafted by SJW wives: you have the perfect opportunity to create the confident, masculine polarity that all women crave. If she was a "yes-woman" she would be boring and you'd lose interest. Be confident. Be fun. And fuck her like a man. Who cares what she thinks about politics?
/r/askMRP13/02/17 07:16 PM
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Hahahah! "Just make the best of it" is what got him here. A happy man doesn't hope it gets better. He makes changes
/r/askMRP13/02/17 07:11 PM
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I don't think you have to induce any jealousy here. Your lady's jelly-meter is redlining already. Unless she isn't putting out, reassure her that you're focused on the present and you chose her for a reason. If she's not having sex then be mysterious
/r/askMRP13/02/17 06:42 PM
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You can't make her change. You can be the best version of yourself and do things that attract women, but she has to change on her own. And she'll only make lifestyle changes when you're a man worth changing for
/r/askMRP11/02/17 05:13 PM
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I like to think of comfort not as supplication, but being magnanimous. She adds value to your life, so it's ok to reward her. You have to provide value to her. Eventually a virtuous cycle will ensue. All women are shitty sometimes, but you can be above it and give her the gift of stability.
/r/askMRP10/02/17 08:44 PM
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Your problem isn't that you had lunch with another girl. It's that you had lunch with a chick in reaction to what she's doing. When your SMV is high enough and you've been a leader for MONTHs, yeah, you can do whatever the fuck you want. But you are still her little beta bitch. She's an insecure wreck. Make yourself valuable and she'll probably fall in line. And don't worry about other girls. They'll always be there. There is an infinite supply of pussy. As a side note, I made almost the same mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 05:20 PM
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I'd keep up being friendly and chatty with all people, young and old. I occasionally chat with fat girls just because I know they get zero attention from attractive guys. I'll even kino them a bit just for fun. Careful you don't overdo it. If I'm just being friendly to other women around my wife her hamster goes out of control. Tailor it to your situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 03:31 PM
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Yeah the content is a load of shit. But I think the fact is that lack of comfort from a BETA husband=divorce. Women will stick around with a high value man and there's just not that many of them
/r/askMRP09/02/17 03:37 PM
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https://familyshare.com/20703/5-reasons-women-leave-their-husbands
/r/askMRP09/02/17 03:48 AM
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That's a tough one. If you want her around you may have to fake it till you make it. Zero comfort is the number 1 reason women file for divorce. I don't suggest telling her you love her if you don't. But take an interest in her day. Joke around. Be playful. You still have to game her if you want to end your deadbedroom. You dont have to dote on her. Just have fun. If nothing changes you're on the fast track to one of you leaving.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 01:23 AM
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Disagree about the SMV part. Sometimes bitches be bitches. Doesn't matter if you're an underwear model. A woman post menopause or on the rag probably isn't jonesing for anyone's dick and the only way to shut down a bitch is not to put up with it, 6 pack or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 11:01 PM
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Whatever you do, I hope you post lots of field reports. This is some grade-A drama.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 09:52 PM
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If you really want to be married to this woman, I'd go on the trip. You can't improve the marriage if you don't spend quality time together. Hey, if your arrangement works out for you and the kids you may not want to change it up. I personally wouldn't want to be tied to someone who won't have sex, but reaps the benefits of my companionship.
/r/askMRP07/02/17 09:08 PM
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I'm guessing "this too shall pass". It seems that as men progress and focus on their mission (yours is keeping the family financially afloat) wives tend to fall into line. Unless she's completely disconnected from reality (and she might be) she'll see the benefit of being financially strong. I agree with others about not having a big talk. It's not going to accomplish anything
/r/askMRP07/02/17 08:21 PM
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You've read NMMNG, so you know you can't rely on women for validation. What are some things that you do better than anyone else? What are you doing for a career? How can you be the best ____ you can be? Find your passion and go for it!
/r/askMRP07/02/17 08:08 PM
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You're busy not owning your shit. Jesus, just pick a couple goals like "I will not eat out this week" or "I will apply to 5 summer jobs". If you're an undergrad you will NEVER have as much free time as you do right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 07:56 PM
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You were being passive in response to her passive aggressiveness. It's ok to be magnanimous when she's communicating in a shitty way. You're changing the rules of your relationship and she's playing by the old ways. Every once in a while you can use actual words. "Hey babe, why don't I take you into town and you can shop while I read. If you want something, just ask babe." It's not being beta. It's not tolerating disrespect. It's simply showing her that the game is changing and neither of you ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 07:51 PM
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Get a hang board if you're going to climb more. Most time efficient way of getting finger strength. What's holding you back from a job? You've been hunting so long it might be time to wait tables or bag groceries. Just something to get you out of bed in the morning
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 04:36 PM
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If you identify more specifics, it will help break down each individual problem. I sense an overall sense of anxiety and not doing "enough". Define what you measure as success and echeive them with small steps.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 04:34 PM
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In time, the fact that she threw your coat downstairs will not be insulting to you. It'll be so hilarious that you won't stop laughing. You'll be amused that she plays out the same old script. Her same manipulation tactic. And it will have zero effect over you. Go get the coat. Don't be a retard and go to work cold again. Focus on your mission. And it's ok to use the goddamn hook. It doesn't make you less alpha
/r/askMRP07/02/17 12:29 AM
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Is it her money she earns or the money you make?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 07:49 PM
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It's not a bad thing to think you can always be doing more. There's healthy anxiety-- the drive that men use to create business, conquer nations, and own their shit. And there's unhealthy rumination and self-doubt. Find a way to challenge your beliefs and transform the worry into a sense of ownership. As you succeed in life-- whether in your career, family, athletics, or whatever metric you use as "success"-- you will gain that positive self-image. You will never be the best at any one thing. Bu…
/r/askMRP06/02/17 05:35 PM
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Way of the Superior Man has a good section about focusing on your mission. Many men find their mission in their career. Others, in their hobbies. Society tells us that our mission should be our family-- and while that's an important aspect to a man's overall happiness, it cannot be his mission. He will not be fulfilled if he obsesses over his wife and children. Find what drives you-- money, ego, power, or altruism. Work toward that and you will find your validation
/r/askMRP06/02/17 05:26 PM
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One part of your story stands out to me: She cheated so you went out and fucked other women. I don't blame you, i'd probably do the same thing. But I'm realizing that having such a reactionary mindset-- if you do A, I'll do B-- is still in her frame. This isn't about making yourself more attractive, but becoming your own mental point of origin. You focus on your mission, and your hatred for your wife will dissipate. For me, I hated my wife to no end. Wanted to kick her to the curb because she wa…
/r/askMRP06/02/17 05:21 PM
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I know you're insecure and you need to work on that. You're pedestalizing your wife's intelligence. Stop it. Anybody who starts a sentence with "Y'all are so fucking...." is NOT a brainiac.
/r/askMRP02/02/17 09:01 PM
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Whatever you do, don't take out a loan. Paying it back will be harder than you think. Like you said, nurses (and even NPs) don't make extravagant money. Nursing school isn't that long so suck up the financial pain for a while longer. The bigger problem is that you have a mission, but you're letting your woman try to derail the mission.
/r/askMRP02/02/17 01:04 PM
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Dude, I like where you're going. So what if you DEER'd a bit and got choked up. I actually like that you showed genuine emotion! Let it fire you up! I see too many eunuchs walking around and, my friend, you are not going to be one of them!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 11:13 PM
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Others have given you good advice about the finance logistics. If you think you've internalized a great deal in 3 months, you need to do some introspecting. You don't know what you don't know
/r/askMRP01/02/17 06:59 PM
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Hey, I'm all for plate spinning. But not for wrecking your life. Spinning plates is supposed to add value-not detract from it. Think of the worst-case scenario with this girl from work. Then think of an even worse scenario-- that's what will happen when you screw around at work
/r/askMRP31/01/17 08:49 PM
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Why are you pouring so much emotional capital into this lady? You're so insecure that if you go nuclear she'll probably thank you. Why aren't you making yourself into a man who can score girls 20 years younger? Or, better yet, a man who is so busy having a fun, interesting life, that he doesn't worry about trivial shit?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 02:26 PM
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Pretty sure that's a twoitis. Dositis
/r/askMRP30/01/17 11:20 PM
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Dude, I know how you feel. My n count was 1 because of religion. Blue pill me was so full of resentment that I went out and cheated. It made my life a mess. BUT, it led me toward a path of self discovery that I never would have found elsewhere. I wish I could have done it differently, and developed an assertive frame without having to break my wife's heart, but I don't know if I could have. If your wife is being awesome, I encourage you to work out the regret in a healthier manner. Mine was a ha…
/r/askMRP30/01/17 11:10 PM
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Women shouldn't give a shit how a man gets his rocks off. But they do. Don't lie about it. Don't DEER. Own it. But if you want to provide comfort you may have to stop looking at porn. Think of it as giving a gift to your wife because she provides value. Now, if she's not putting out.....what's a man supposed to do?
/r/askMRP30/01/17 05:14 PM
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yeah, it's so hard to assess the guy's frame. My guess is emotionless retard. But if she's always been weird about sex, that's not likely to change
/r/askMRP30/01/17 04:52 PM
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Hey, at least you're out there trying to be more assertive. It's not going to come overnight. Have you ever done martial arts, played football or wrestled in high school? Often, that makes the difference between a clumsy attempt and a suave maneuver. If you know how to physically grapple with a grown man, it makes physicality between you and your wife much more smooth. If it's important to you to show off your strength, maybe take a few grappling lessons.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 09:46 PM
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Is your marriage otherwise good? I mean, if you've endured a dead bedroom and shitty bitch behavior, why would seating throw you over the edge? To me, witholding sex is worse than cheating
/r/askMRP27/01/17 08:15 PM
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Now, this isn't to say you can't be affectionate and attentive to her needs. And if you've let her run the show for years, suddenly doing what you want without regard to the realities of family life will likely set your progress back. I suggest taking slow steps every week to regain your life. Like months or years. asserting your independence on this one matter will probably help issues with the FIL because it shows you have a spine. And she will fight tooth and nail to keep you in the house. Ma…
/r/askMRP27/01/17 08:10 PM
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Pm me if you'd like. I know some people in AZ
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 06:00 PM
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Dance class could be fun. I bought lessons for my wife's Christmas present. It could help you learn how to physically lead a woman and have her enjoy the connection. I like disc golf but in my experience only weirdos play it. If you take it up, own it. But it's probably not going to improve your sociality
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 05:34 PM
2

lol I like your last line. Good metaphor. But I think you're giving too much comfort. Maybe you can lead her toward being well-adjusted. She's got to do the work on her own. Have you communicated your expectations to her?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 05:30 PM
2

I'm not convinced you have to go out and fuck other girls, but if she's going to shut you down like that you need to withdraw more. If she's not going to abide by the terms of the marriage, you gotta tighten the screws. Invest in yourself,your kids, your work, your mission. She needs to earn your time and attention
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 05:23 PM
1

Economies of scale and volume discounts, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 05:15 PM
2

I go to the university sports training dept every 6 months and do a legit displacement test. It's free for me, but they charge $25 for others. But I find BF% by itself is a poor way to track progress. If you think you're skinny, bulk. Too fat? Cut. And take pictures every month.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 05:04 PM
3

Never let a woman dictate how you spend your time. It is your most precious commodity.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 05:00 PM
3

No kids and not even married to this chick? If you're struggling with AA and AM, it will help to know that she's very replaceable. I'm not saying walk around like a dick, but if she's being a bitch just leave the house and do something fun. Live your life on your terms. Set the tone now
/r/askMRP27/01/17 05:07 AM
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Who are these husbands that never think about screwing random hot chicks? We need to capture them and perform scientific experiments. Women think they're everywhere but they are unicorns
/r/askMRP27/01/17 05:00 AM
1

I know a guy in your situation. He's generally a pussy and his wife is using it as an excuse to fly around the country (on his dime) and fuck other dudes. The quality of women he attracts are definitely not worth the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 04:34 PM
1

I don't know man, it's your mission. I think going around and sleeping with as many women as possible is generally a good thing. It takes the mystery out of pussy. But doing it while married is just so complicated and time-consuming that it could detract from other areas of your life. It's like having a part-time job. I'd suggest that you first learn to handle shit-tests, develop a strong frame, and improve your inter-personal conflict resolution skills with your wife before you start chasing st…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 04:33 PM
2

You need epic levels of frame to pull it off. But if it fits into your mission then go ahead and have fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 04:18 AM
1

I dunno dude. She could be totally committed to you. Though I fucked around once with a married chick who was really into making her own porn. Maybe it's not something you get out of your system. Maybe try to channel that energy into something the two of you do together
/r/askMRP25/01/17 02:47 AM
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You sound like me. My wife and I both have busy jobs and a small kid. I use a mix of getting up way early, pay more for childcare, go after the kid's asleep, etc. I also arrange time for the wife to get out and do her thing too. I reserve at least 3 days per month so do whatever outdoor adventure I want. The wife just has to deal with it because that's what I need. Don't make excuses. Make time and be more efficient.
/r/askMRP25/01/17 02:20 AM
2

Read WISNIFG. Assertively deal with her criticism. It's ok to ask her opinion about family matters. Ignoring her is no way to live in a marriage. Are you controlling? Are you no fun to live with? Be hard on yourself She can't nuke your progress. Nobody can. Stop measuring your personal growth against her reactions. Never let a woman derail your mission. Especially the gym. When it comes to your free time, Give a bitch an inch and she'll take a mile.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 08:11 PM
2

If he played the apology as being a naughty girl who needs to be punished it could work out. Depends on the chick
/r/askMRP24/01/17 04:47 PM
2

One of my good buddies is an underwear model. Literally. Yet he has shit luck with women. The guy starts professing love after 2 weeks. Like you said,some people don't want help
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 04:31 PM
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Women need their partners to try to understand their feelings. It's stupid, but it's like oxygen to them. I'd use the conference to learn some better communicating skills and how you can mirror her emotions when she needs comfort. Shit tests need fogging. Comfort tests need at least a little compassion.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:56 PM
1

This isn't any different than most men's problem around here: loss of attraction for whatever reason. Use the tools in the shed: STFU, AA, AM. You decide how ridiculous you want to play it. If she's got one foot out the door, you don't have much to lose. She'll either get over it or she won't. In the meantime, keep living your fun happy life. Your woman AWALT-- she doesn't think she has any control over her life and she's playing the victim.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:53 PM
1

If you feel like your frame can handle it, you might want to try riding and embracing the emotional waves. Ride that nuclear bomb while waving your cowboy hat. Instead of trying to have a perfect, conflict free marriage, get emotional with her sometimes.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:34 PM
1

"I want a relationship too. What kind of guy do you think I am?" Something along those lines to keep her engaged. Just keep her talking. Also, nothing wrong with flirting and not getting a number. If you don't want to cheat, abundance mentality can be achieved just by conversing.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 03:26 PM
0

What are you getting out of a long-distance relationship with a girl who doesn't like long-distance sexy stuff? I couldn't handle being monogamous in that situation
/r/askMRP23/01/17 03:53 PM
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There's no parlor trick in learning this stuff. You have to develop a busy, interesting life and invite her into it. Right now, it hurts when she doesn't show affection (why you're dating a girl who isn't enthusiastically sending you nudes is beyond me, but that's another story). If you make your body strong, have an interesting career and fun hobbies you will be so full of self-validation that you won't care. Find out what your mission is. Until you do, you and your woman will be unsatisfied
/r/askMRP23/01/17 08:52 AM
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I think you handled it well. I would have waited till work stress died down. The comfort at the end was necessary. Frame it as something that will draw you together and connect more-- because it will. Also let her know that she may be at risk for incontinence and it may help to batten down the hatches. You won't know for sure until she sees the gynecologist.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 06:16 AM
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Dude, you're one of those idiots who thinks the first stages of dread start by flirting with other chicks. Other chicks will always be there. Pussy is unlimited. Active dread only works when she finds you attractive. You may be physically attractive, but emotionally you disgust her. You need to 1) STFU. 2) gain control of your emotions. 3) don't blame her for your problems.
/r/askMRP23/01/17 06:12 AM
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In my case, I had to double down on comfort. I stopped flirting with other girls because her insecurities went out of control. The game plan was the same for me whether she left or stayed. I made myself more attractive physically and worked on gaining control of my emotions. I stopped complaining. I was way less vulnerable with her. I worked on STFU while still listening to her. That's a concept I think a lot of guys struggle with. Their wives shit test them, so they shut up like retards. I did.…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 05:15 AM
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I've had the same speech from my wife before. 'Blah blah blah I'm unhappy.' Who gives a shit. Women's moods are fickle. Keep lifting and develop a strong frame and you won't care what she thinks. Right now, you're super worried about how she acts because you're a typical nice guy. After you've proven that you are worthwhile you'll laugh when she puts you down. Her attempts to hurt you will seem so pathetic you'll smile. Then you'll have the problem of seeming like a condescending asshole. It's a…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 03:28 AM
2

I'm different than most guys. If she's objectively treating me well, we coparent well, the house is taken care of, etc, I may still stay. Shit, I did stay but we were in a fucked up place when we cheated. But monogamy is off the table
/r/askMRP22/01/17 05:22 PM
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I'm confident that 90% of your problems will be solved by STFU. Look up BPPs recent post on it. Laugh more. Care less about her. You probably engage her emotions which intensifies them and then you don't know what to do, so you say something stupid which makes everything worse. Stop doing that. A home office isn't the problem. The problem is you don't set good boundaries around your most precious commodity-- your time
/r/askMRP20/01/17 05:53 PM
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Work the dread. And gain control of your emotions. You're still a scared boy in your head without true abundance mentality (I'm not talking about other women. Other women will always be there). On a practical note, get her a job. Kick her out of the house 3 days per week. SAHM is a shitty life for a woman that's a control freak. If she refuses, keep working the dread to the point you can make ultimatums.
/r/askMRP20/01/17 05:45 PM
1

Nice blame shifting on the pussy FIL
/r/askMRP20/01/17 05:37 PM
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If you don't want to do the dishes, then own it. Nobody says you have to do dishes. And if she gets pissed, that's her problem. Find ways to connect with her. That's all she really wants. To feel like you listen to her. Go to the gym, come home, pick her up and laugh. She won't give two shits about the dishes because she has a high value man
/r/askMRP20/01/17 05:31 PM
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I agree the best way would just be to stop having sex on the regular day. An alternate solution is to have it on the same day, but switch the time. Do it first thing in the morning. It conditions her that the time isn't fixed then you can wean her off that day
/r/askMRP18/01/17 11:13 PM
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If you gotta work that hard to survive, do it. But it sounds like you're running yourself ragged. Spice it up somehow. Weekend trip to the city. Or just a day of adventure. Change up the routine and find that spark
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 10:57 PM
1

In terms of your wife planning things, I find it's helpful to put my plans in a family calendar. If she plans something around that I'm usually fine. You could be a hard ass and make her run everything by you first, but I doubt that would work well in your case.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 09:54 PM
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Pro tip: If you're running the race to pace her, then just fucking stay with her. I have a problem running slow with my wife because I'm too competitive. But if the point of doing something is to support her, then I support her. Put the ego aside for a bit
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 08:35 PM
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If she's got a 3-4 hour commute your city is not conducive to your lifestyle. Either it's too expensive or your jobs suck. I wold make that priority #1. Happiness is inversely proportional to commute time.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 08:32 PM
2

I bet you probably have some body dysmorphia from being tubby. Personally, I don't think you'll gain much SMV by cutting any more. You don't have enough muscle mass for a cut to mean anything. Go on a bulk, 0.5-1lb per week for the next 3-4 months. You'll probably lose some definition in your abs if you keep doing strong lifts. I'd add in some higher-rep workouts that will speed hypertrophy. When you're around 175-180 then you'll see some real definition when you cut.
/r/askMRP18/01/17 08:24 PM
1

This is what happens when you stop your psych meds, guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 08:17 PM
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hysterectomy by itself shouldn't do anything with a woman's hormones. If they took her ovaries that could change things. The bigger problem is you can't gain control of your emotions. I guarantee if you STFU and take care of your shit 95% of your problems will get better.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 08:09 PM
1

I cheated when I was in a blue-pill haze. It was to help me get control of my behavior and for her to help deal with being betrayed. I don't like how they made her out to be a victim, but it helped her get some insight into why she was acting like a raging bitch most of the time. i hate how girls manufacture drama. Seems like they need it to feel alive. Maybe redirect the drama?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 06:54 PM
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I think the sex moratorium is a good plan. As well as focusing on your cool qualities. The levels of dread sound tailor made for you. Learn how to flirt and game women. First on your wife and, if she's still rejecting you harshly, with someone else. You could use a good dose of abundance mentality
/r/askMRP17/01/17 05:14 PM
1

Dude (chick?). Who says it's scummy? Who makes the rules? Women?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 08:12 PM
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If the logistics are favorable it can be fun. But if you have to create alibis and cover your tracks it's just so damn exhausting. No pussy is worth the effort to me
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/17 07:43 PM
0

Imagine if we got a bunch of MRP men and started a company. It would be unstoppable
/r/askMRP15/01/17 07:39 PM
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25 years without strange and then all of a sudden you just 'let it happen?' I've done my share of playing around. It takes a fair amount of work. There must be some void that it's filling. What do you think that is? I read your last post with a lot of admiration for your capacity for self-reflection. Sounds like you want a loving, faithful partnership. Why now?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/17 04:24 AM
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Jesus, what a bitchy reply. You must have really been a loser for 10 years. Looks like just the thought of sex with you makes her mad. It's going to take many months of owning your shit and becoming attractive before she responds positively. Shit, she may never respond positively. After a year or so you'll genuinely not care. Keep focusing on building confidence and making yourself a cool dude. There's no one right way to respond to her shit test. STFU was fine because it didn't make things wors…
/r/askMRP13/01/17 08:49 PM
2

Fingering cracks, hand jams, nuts.....so many fun ways you can take it
/r/askMRP13/01/17 08:41 PM
1

Personally infidelity wouldn't be an absolute next for me. It seems impersonal. Violence, child abuse, withholding sex, or some systematic boundary crossing would do it for me
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 07:47 PM
1

We both had some therapy to help us gain insight. In her case, she knew the anxiety was destroying her well-being so she was motivated to work on it. I helped by owning my shit at home. That way she didn't have a man child to take care of. I took over the finances too. As far as little stuff, I support most of her decisions around the house, unless I really disagree. One big thing was she finished training and her work life became way less stressful. If your lady has a big life stressor it may b…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 07:18 PM
1

Dude, I hope you didn't skype her. You're trying to communicate overtly. That's advanced level stuff. STFU and have fun with her when she gets back. In the mean time just work and enjoy your hobbies. Don't take her so seriously
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 06:43 PM
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This is why lifting is the first step in any RP advice. You've got no self confidence around her. Lifting isn't the only way to build confidence. But it is the easiest way to internalize that you are the prize. Lift heavy 3x per week. In 6 months you'll give way less fucks about what your wife thinks because the validation will be coming from within. BTW, I think you should keep working on your text game. Text is mostly for logistics. But you can flirt a little bit. It works better when you're a…
/r/askMRP13/01/17 03:27 PM
1

Had oneitis for a girl in my early 20s who won beauty pageants. My wife did beauty pageants when we were dating. First girl, I was total blue pill pussy and made every mistake in the book. By the time my wife rolled around I had A successful career track and I was into fitness. I had a pretty good frame (it disappeared after marriage). Frame is everything. You can never compromise yourself or what you want. You may give gifts freely to your woman if she adds value. Good looks are not value. Ther…
/r/askMRP12/01/17 10:22 PM
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It's so hard to divine emotion over written messages. As soon as the conversation takes a negative turn I stop texting. It gives her hamster time to calm down. And really, if she's threatening to break up over stupid shit, let her walk. You're giving her your most precious commodities-- your commitment and your time. If you don't realize how magnanimous you're being by giving your high-value commitment, then yes, gain some abundance. Anyway, in your case texting may be best for logistics. Keep i…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 09:07 PM
2

Interesting. I went nofap for over a year. My wife was always sexually available, but only a couple times per week. I wasn't deliberately transmutating my sexual energy, but it happened by default. I made more money at work, improved my house, became a better father, and ran an ultra marathon. Then I found MRP and started doing it deliberately. I found that by letting go of the relentless pursuit of sex, I became much more productive in other facets of my life. I took more enjoyment from them as…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 08:51 PM
1

When I was jerking off and looking at porn I'd be down 3+ times per day. It's been a year and a half without porn and I jerk off rarely. I don't fantasize about other girls. I wonder if I need some stimulation to get my engine running?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 04:01 PM
2

The fitness thing is weird. My wife can be an incredible athlete when she trains, but she'll go months without working out. I used to drag her along on my workouts, but it made working out less fun for me. Sometimes women stress out about all this stupid shit that doesn't have any real bearing in life. Maybe you can try to lead her away from that stuff. I've had some success with my wife on that front. Ultimately there's not a whole lot you can do to change a person's thought patterns.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/17 03:42 PM
1

I find sleeping more while on a cut enhances fat loss and helps with the hunger
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 06:09 PM
1

Cross-country skiing dude! Your abs will thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 05:59 PM
3

Do cuddles normally turn into sex? It could be that you're escalating too quickly without creating a sense of safety. Girls will fuck the mysterious dude when they're drunk and ovulating. But they want to know their man will protect them. Sometimes my wife just wants to cuddle when I'm horny. 75% of the time I can convert it to sex. The other 25%, I'll cuddle for a couple minutes then get up and do something more fun. I don't just walk away like a retard. It shows her you care enough to stay the…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 05:57 PM
2

Why do you think your wife isn't hot for you? Sounds like diet and fitness are on track.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 05:49 PM
3

I'm trying to be more consistent about posting in OYS, even when things are going well. In the past I'd been posting after a major storm at home. Work Goal is to be an expert in my field. Slowly, slowly finishing my research projects. I'm respected by my peers at work. Now want to have an influence on the national community. A job opening came up across town for more money. I'm considering going for it, but I already make plenty and I enjoy the work environment I'm in. If I don't take it, I can'…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 05:36 PM
1

There's a lot of pointless fighting going on in your life. Keep reading, keep lifting, and get your diet on lock. This is going to take many months of consistent work on your part. After a while, it won't even seem like work. Start posting on the OYS thread. It will be good for you to gain introspection. And laugh more.
/r/askMRP11/01/17 05:14 PM
1

Dude, this active dread is getting you nowhere. It's just stupid validation. Why would you want to have secret lunches with bitches?Guys are a million times more fun than hoes. Here's how I see it-- you're career and finances are on lock. You keep yourself decently fit (probably). Life has come more or less easy to you. You are coasting bro. When you were single, you weren't RP. You were good-looking and charismatic, but your frame was shit. Still is. Until you gain control of yourself and your …
/r/askMRP11/01/17 05:08 PM
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It's your life, man and you gotta set your own boundaries. I know men and women are different, but if I'm dating a person and they said I can't go on a vacation with a friend, I'm going to walk away. I've got too much self respect for someone to restrict my comings and goings. I never would have made it in the military
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 01:08 PM
1

If she told you she'd go with you and then bailed, it's a bitchy move. It's what girls do. Ever been stood up on a date? Girls do it all the time when they don't respect a man. The answer is to get strong and become fun. Don't do it for your chick-- she sounds low value. Do it because you want to be a high value man Make plans for yourself, invite her along, and she chooses her actions. Don't get your hopes up for anything with this chick. And don't get butt hurt and passive aggressive. Just hav…
/r/askMRP10/01/17 11:52 PM
2

The rules are the same, Bro. My wife is a ball buster, high earner, etc. You have to own your shit at home before she'll trust you. Get buff. Fuck her right. And make her feel like a woman. It seems like a pain in the ass most the time when your wife just won't fucking chill out. But when she does it's way better than those basic bitches.
/r/askMRP10/01/17 07:36 PM
5

My wife makes a good income, almost as much as me. I control the bank accounts, investments, loans, etc. She's pretty stingy so I trust her to buy whatever she wants. It's usually little kid stuff or crap for the house. I usually outspend her. I make her pay all of her student loans. I'm not getting stuck with those if things go south. Most of all, we live way below our means. For a privileged rich girl, she's got a healthy fear of going bankrupt. Keeps things running smoothly
/r/askMRP10/01/17 07:24 PM
1

Rather than an end-state, I like to look at what drives people. A friend posited there are 4 drivers: money, power, altruism, ego. Find which one drives you the most, invest in it, and you'll be happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 06:28 PM
2

Nice work bro. Keep being introspective and owning your life.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 06:21 PM
10

Great FR. Reminds me of a dinner I had a couple months ago. I was with two guys, both wildly successful beyond anything I could imagine. Their cars cost more than my mortgage. Great guys, but haven't been inside a gym since high school. They were complaining that it cost so much money to get a girl to sleep with them (dinner, entertainment, etc.). I said that banging a chick is easy and shouldn't cost anything. Their response: "Not when you look like us!"
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 05:04 PM
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Sounds like a comfort test. Maybe she feels like she lacks purpose when all she does all day is deal with little shit monsters. Encourage her to find time for her hobbies. The answer is not to back off on your personal growth. You spend maybe 5 hours/week working out? IMO that's the bare minimum a man needs to be physically at baseline. Now, about the sex moratorium. I'm generally a fan for short periods of time so a man can take stock of his life and rewire his neural pathways. Keyword is short…
/r/askMRP06/01/17 04:24 PM
1

Girls pull this shit all the time. It's not enough that they've secured commitment from a man. They want all his time, attention, validation, blah blah blah. They don't understand that marriage=sex. There's no other reason to be married
/r/askMRP06/01/17 03:46 PM
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Your wife doesn't give a shit that you did rhythmic gymnastics, you fucking egghead. There's doctors, lawyers, millionaire businessmen and pro athletes here who all had to kill their ego and realize that they still had to get to work. OK, fine. You're a catch. But you can't lead your house for shit, you entitled bitch
/r/askMRP06/01/17 03:34 PM
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I don't think he's capable of diffusing the anger between the two of them unless he takes sex off the table for some period of time. He's made it such a all-consuming fixation that he may need a little time to reset his brain
/r/askMRP06/01/17 11:59 AM
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Sounds like you both settled for each other. Do you really want to spend your life trying to lead her out of anxiety? Or would you rather find a more complete woman who doesn't need fixing, captain save-a-wreck? All girls are crazy to some extent. Whatever you do, don't get her pregnant. And spend some time figuring out what you want instead of what other people will think
/r/askMRP05/01/17 11:54 PM
8

This whole "text is for logistics" mantra is killing a lot of guys. If you love your wife, tell her. If you go somewhere with the kids, communicate with her. If you think of a funny joke, it's ok to share. If you're under 40 and you can't hold a fun convo over text, you need to up your text game. Keep it light, keep it fun, and if the conversation turns serious or adversarial, tell her you'll talk about it in person. I'm amazed that you basically blew her off all day long in an effort to create …
/r/askMRP05/01/17 07:26 PM
1

Yeah, sex with his wife has become such an all-consuming notion that he's forgotten to have fun in his life
/r/askMRP05/01/17 05:38 PM
2

Jesus that's terrible advice
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:34 PM
4

I think your major problem is you're trying to force sex on a woman who is breastfeeding, hormonal, and not attracted to you. You're putting all this pressure on the both of you and it's coming out all fucking sideways. You need a sex moratorium of a month, keep owning your shit, and get out in front of her. Just jerk off. It's not going to kill you for a month. I can feel the pent up frustration from here. She's probably all stretch-marked and flabby anyway. It's not worth getting such a boner …
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:36 AM
1

He's got a point bro
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:31 AM
2

Young kids just suck in general. It's not like there's a great way for the two of you to get free time. Maybe tell her, "sure you can go if you help me with the other kids first."
/r/askMRP05/01/17 03:26 AM
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Girlfriend of a year or so? The game is so different than old married dudes. She knows you as a high value man and will do all sorts of things to keep you. My wife would have waded through a mile of shit for some of my affection when we were dating. Here's the thing-- your girl is scared shitless from the thought of losing you. I like your soft next strategy. Keep it up. Yes, provide comfort as you see fit. You don't want to turn her into a nervous wreck. You have the option of ditching her with…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 11:52 PM
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My wife likes giving affection, cuddles, etc. most of the time I don't mind. But when she's sick or pregnant she's pretty aloof. Could be your chick just doesn't feel well and doesn't want physical touch
/r/askMRP04/01/17 11:04 PM
1

She's crazy and he sounds like a poking, prodding child. I probably would have spat on him too.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:15 PM
3

I'd probably offer one apology for losing your temper then never talk about it again. If she feels like you don't have her best interests in mind it'll reinforce her poor opinion of you.
/r/askMRP02/01/17 03:16 PM
3

You might have to build up a track record of good, positive, non-whiny times with your wife before she notices the lack of time and attention. u/druganswer has a great post on always playing your nice card. Now, it's not about the quantity of time. You could spend 20 minutes a day with her. If those 20 minutes are the best part of her day she'll light up whenever you walk in. You've got to show over several months that you're a fun, happy guy with options. I'd say still spend time with her, but …
/r/askMRP02/01/17 03:00 PM
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You're probably posting here because you can't talk about it with anyone else. It's ok man. Tomorrow will be a new day. Keep owning your shit. Might have to ramp up the comfort. Hold your head up and look at all the positive changes and take it minute by minute, then a day at a time.
/r/askMRP02/01/17 06:30 AM
1

Lol. I bet you use your extendable reflex hammer as a sex toy
/r/askMRP01/01/17 11:19 PM
1

Sleeping too much could be depression or seasonal affective disorder. Too much urine is probably drinking too much water before bed, especially if it's clear. If it's really upsetting, see your doc and get a few simple tests. u/scurvemuch seems like the type of guy who geeks out over urine specific gravity and fena
/r/askMRP31/12/16 09:55 PM
4

I'm in a similar situation. I don't really care to have sex with my wife. It's not a matter of attractiveness or enthusiasm on either of our part. I realize that a well-dicked wife is a happier wife and if I keep up disinterest in sex her attitude will decline. For me, I think it's an issue of dissatisfaction with monogamy and maybe resentment with my wife. Again, totally my issue I need to work on. Here's what I'm doing-- rereading Way of the Superior Man. Taking a couple weeks to focus on myse…
/r/askMRP31/12/16 05:18 PM
3

If she leaves or not it's not your problem. The game plan is the same. Be upbeat, go about your business, workout, and don't whine. Whatever you do, don't leave the house. The courts would eat you alive
/r/askMRP30/12/16 11:16 PM
3

I think you're a pussy. But you're your own mental point of origin.
/r/askMRP30/12/16 09:34 PM
3

Lots of guys come here when their wives move out. I did. I don't think monk mode will help anything. Yes, raise your SMV. But the most important thing you can start doing is STFU and never whine about anything. Don't go Rambo and start setting boundaries. You won't help your cause. Lift, STFU, don't whine. Take time to internalize the concepts. Yeah, you know how to attract a woman. That part is easy. But you don't know anything about how to be a man.
/r/askMRP30/12/16 09:26 PM
3

I wonder where your wife gets her defeatist attitude from
/r/askMRP30/12/16 05:04 PM
1

High in protein and fructose. The perfect recovery drink
/r/askMRP30/12/16 05:02 PM
5

A couple things stand out to me here-- you have an infant that just had heart surgery. Most new moms are nervous wrecks. Then you throw major, life-threatening surgery on your baby. Losing weight is going to be the last thing on her mind. Leading her to losing weight is going to require incredible time and patience. My guess is at least 6 more months. In that time, you need to own the shit around the house. Baby, bills, repairs, etc. Studies show that the biggest factor to weight and exercise is…
/r/askMRP30/12/16 04:33 PM
4

I think TFA has a good message for a lot of guys. But they were right-- he's a guy who's kept himself fit and masculine and he married a girl who likes to have a lot of sex. I think his message may be best for guys in their early 20s so they can do the proper vetting and self-development before they dig themselves in a hole
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 04:10 PM
7

It's like they think men come here in otherwise happy marriages and proceed to blow the thing up
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 12:01 AM
6

Feeling trapped is the major struggle in my life. I'm mid-30s, successful, and above average looking. Girls flirt with me every day. I wish I had some easy answers on how to get over the feeling of not sowing your wild oats in your 20s. In my case, religion is my blue-pill excuse. I had hot naked girls throw themselves at me and I backed off. The resentment has been suffocating at times. Here's what's helped me: I shouldn't resent my wife. She's not responsible for my life choices. And she's not…
/r/askMRP29/12/16 06:23 PM
1

DEERing is useless and actually sets you back. Instead, work on letting her FEEL good about you. If you hate her and you really don't want to spend time around her, figure out why you're angry and own your shit. But if you love her and she adds value, show her physical affection, joke around, be fun. Reward her when she's being good and play your nice card every day. Jack10 has a nice post about slowly conditioning your wife by withdrawing time and attention. If you do it all of a sudden of cour…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/16 04:20 PM
2

You've received great advice from the other guys. Stop weed, workout, eat right. Whether you go on a trip with your wife, or let her go with her slut friend won't matter in the long run. You need to start thinking about what you want and then go do it. Do you want to bang other chicks? Make yourself the kind of guy ALL women are attracted to. You're stuck in a rut so change your patterns. Join a sports league. Go camping. Go hunting. Do some manly activities. A lot of the advice from others is r…
/r/askMRP29/12/16 03:52 PM
0

You've got an awesome time to work on yourself right now. Breastfeeding is a shitty deal for monogamous men. Prolactin and oxytocin are running roughshod over the ovaries and sex drive isn't going to come roaring back until the kid is off the teat. Luckily for you, she's preoccupied with the little squirt so all the time you spend lifting and getting your diet on track she won't care as much. You're not getting sex anyway so it's not like it'll get any less
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 09:24 PM
1

Not sure how hot your wife is. I'm 5'9", 175. 12% BF. My wife still acts like I'm lucky to be with her. I'm thinking it's going to take underwear-model abs and herculean frame to get her in line.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 07:37 PM
1

That mindset has helped me a lot. Actually going out and cheating is usually more trouble than it's worth-- the logistics alone are exhausting. But knowing that I give myself permission to seek sexual variety, even if I don't act on it, has helped lessen the anger. It makes me resent my wife less because, like you said, I'm the only one stopping me from screwing around.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/16 07:35 PM
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Last week I was at my wife's work Christmas party. We've had a strained relationship and have even been separated for the last 6 months. She shit tested me and I lost frame at the start, but I recognized it and was able to regain composure. While I was in the bathroom, some European dudes crashed the party and literally killed their groove. I don't want to go into too much detail so I won't get doxxed but I went AMOG on the party crashers, displayed high value, and restored the party back to lif…
/r/askMRP28/12/16 01:04 AM
3

I bet his mission doesn't include spending protracted periods of time at his in-laws in BFE Nebraska. If the man decides he doesn't want to burn his vacation time in corn country he has every right to stay home. I get he should lead, but that doesn't mean he spends all his precious free time with his family. He screwed up by trying to set bullshit boundaries over FaceTime and being boring in general. If she can't handle the kids with her own frickin family then that's her problem.
/r/askMRP27/12/16 10:24 PM
1

It'll be interesting to see how this plays out. Is she a free spirit who doesn't want to be tied down? Does OP want to lock her down? I'm looking forward to updates
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 05:18 PM
4

If you have hypertension in your 30s you either have shitty genetics, a shitty diet or both. You can only control your diet. What are you doing about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/16 04:17 PM
2

You need to give my wife lessons on cattery
/r/askMRP25/12/16 03:48 AM
6

I got lasik 10+ years ago. It didn't increase my social capital but my life is much much better. Maybe I'm more confident. I just like being able to look at the stars when I'm camping
/r/askMRP25/12/16 03:47 AM
0

Stoney's point about doing what he wants is spot on. We've all spent hours mentally masturbating about this woman's intentions. She's definitely given them less thought.
/r/askMRP23/12/16 06:27 PM
2

Blue pill me went out and had an affair. So my wife knows that she's not so special. As a result the shitty comfort tests are off the charts. I've found the best method to squash them is with a stern glance. I chose to stay with my wife after all-- and definitely not because it was the easiest route. I'm actually offended over her tantrums. I have to follow it up with comfort a little later. If you do cheat you need balls of steel.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 03:23 PM
12

I grew up with polygamists. Five ugly wives do not make a pretty one.
/r/askMRP23/12/16 03:10 PM
7

Dude, this is a case of thinking too much. She's genuinely into you at the moment. She sees your value. Don't let it go to waste. Do you value her too? Call her. Flirt over the phone. Phones are good for more than texting. Keep it short then amp it up when you see her later.
/r/askMRP23/12/16 12:20 PM
3

Is she the independent type? These women, a rare breed, are like cats. They don't want much time and attention. They're fickle in their displays of affection. Make sure you're not being too available to her.
/r/askMRP23/12/16 12:04 PM
1

Thanks for the input. It's clear I went about it wrong. If the wife is into it, I'll let her escalate. If variety is what I need I'll have to go about it on my own.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/16 09:42 PM
3

A problem a lot of us fall into is thinking our wives should respect us just for being men. It takes a long time to dig out of the beta hole for most guys. It's probably easier to get a wife to fuck you regularly than to treat you with respect. Patience. Plan your moves
/r/askMRP22/12/16 04:31 PM
8

Removing time and attention only works if your attention is worth a damn. Is it?
/r/askMRP22/12/16 12:27 PM
1

I think it's the latter. She's got this warped notion of "love" meaning I should never desire another woman-- if I really loved her.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 11:31 PM
3

One thing that works for me, and it's hard for me to do, is acknowledge her feelings. Don't admit any right or wrong, but say "because I did X, you feel Y?" And then fog some more. Then crack some jokes, move on, and do better next time. Most women want you to fix their feelings, not their problems.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 09:46 PM
2

How do you get past the mental block of not resenting your wife for being the ultimate cockblock between you and freedom? I've been stuck there for a long time. Right now, I feel like the only reason I stay is because i feel like I have more influence over my wife's actions if we're married and a make more decisions on how my kid is raised.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 09:04 PM
3

I think it's good to take a long hiatus from both porn and fapping. Like 6 months. Then reintroduce it selectively. It gives you insight into your motivations behind it. Is it a form of escapism? Or is it a legitimate need to keep the dam from blowing up? I think there's a case to be made for self-love
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 07:40 PM
0

Fitness Lifting has become my routine, so getting up early has become the norm rather than the exception. Still seeing gains in my physique. Will cut after New Years (when I get braces) with the aim of achieving my six-pack again. I will attain this through simple calorie restriction, with the goal of losing 1 lb per week for 2 months. After 1 month, I will assess my progress to see if the calorie restriction is enough. It's clear that my wife sees her SMV as above mine and I have to kick it int…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 05:37 PM
4

Most guys get worried about Chad. Thy should be more worried about "different".
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 10:26 PM
7

I'd like to see a more structured format for accumulating the MRP material. But the point isn't to hand-hold men. It's to lead them to the answer rather than force feed it to them. Maybe it's unfair to newbies to rip them apart. However, I got shredded in my victim pukes and it helped me get my mind back to reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 10:23 PM
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I like the actionable items you have. Just a couple suggestions: 1-- this makes you look weak and butt hurt. Maybe it's what you need to do to break out of your wife's frame. After a big fight with my wife this weekend I considered doing the same. But the silent treatment never works on a woman who already hates you. Look for u/druganswers "nice card" post. Keep it light and crack some jokes. If she's still bitchy leave her alone. 3-- you're fighting oxytocin and prolactin. They are stronger tha…
/r/askMRP19/12/16 08:13 PM
2

Careful you don't go Rambo. It's going to take you at least a year to make yourself attractive. Similar thing happened to me. My wife walked out with our kid. I basically ignored her tantrum and she came back enthusiastically. She was probably set to jump on some other cock but who cares at this point. Make yourself valuable. Learn to STFU. Lift like your relationship with your children depends on it-- because it does.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 07:53 PM
2

You know your situation best. If the MIL is a good employer that might be a good option. Something that works with school seems like the ideal option. Nothing wrong with taking help when it's offered. Especially if you go into the job and work your ass off A degree is great if you want to work for a big company. If you want to be the fucking man and run your own business there's nothing better than experience.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 06:32 PM
0

Nothing you do to save yourself "for the kids" means a damn to her, at least currently. This is big. My wife has pretty much figured out the only reason I stuck around is because I'm attached to our daughter. And no matter how shitty she acts, I'll probably continue to stay. So she knows she's got me by the balls. Now, life has gotten better as I've learned to STFU and she's responded well. But she knows she can hold custody over my head and that gives her all the power. I have an abundance ment…
/r/askMRP19/12/16 06:20 PM
4

This is a subject that will probably get different responses depending on the age of the Merper. Guys over 40 probably have no text game. Guys in their 20s would be stupid to ignore text game. I'm in my 30s. A couple times a week I send sexy pictures to my wife when I get out of the shower at the gym. It usually soaks her panties. If I'm working late she sends me lingerie pics. If she sends me some emotionally charged bullshit, I try to ignore it or fog. You can fog over text pretty easily.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 03:26 PM
1

You can't be lazy. Ever. It sucks because you have to step up and take care of shit before your wife realizes it's a problem. It's mostly shit that you don't give a flying fuck about. But if you want her to relax into your frame, you have to prove that you can handle the little things.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 03:19 PM
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I understand the bitchy wife stomping around the house, making everyone's life miserable. My wife does that at least every other day. I have a really, really hard time trying not to escalate because why should I have to put up with her shit? The answer is you and I married anxious control freaks, knocked them up, and we were passive pussies for years. Do you think they are going to change overnight? Squatting 300 may bring out the tingles but it doesn't fix anxiety. Show her you are unmoved by h…
/r/askMRP16/12/16 05:16 AM
2

Holy shit, I just realized you don't have kids. What kind of blackmail does she have on you that's making you stay? Does she have pictures of you with underage trannies?
/r/askMRP15/12/16 09:14 PM
1

Make sure if you feel any pain or discomfort in your back, you stop what you're doing. Pushing through the pain is a sure way to end up back at the neurosurgeon.
/r/askMRP15/12/16 09:06 PM
1

Sounds like this is a good opportunity to strengthen your spine. I like to give my wife little gifts to show her she's valuable in my life. But what I think she appreciates even more is having a man who's confident and her oak. That's the essence behind skittles man.
/r/askMRP15/12/16 08:01 PM
1

Not sure why you'd want a relationship with a girl younger than 25 anyway. They're stupid and not in a good way. The only reason a young girl wouldn't dig an attractive older man is if he's creepy. Don't be creepy
/r/askMRP15/12/16 01:31 AM
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Why do you want to stay with this woman? Really, what value does she add to your life that a couple plates wouldn't? Yeah, you can get over an emotional affair. I wouldn't even bat an eye if my wife was getting her feelz out with another dude. I've got better things to do with my time than worry about her. But why would you want to emotionally invest in her if you don't have kids?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 11:37 PM
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I was the other man for a chick when I was in college. I was a total dick for a few years. She left her husband and started dating me. I was such an asshole that I would still hang out with her husband and he knew I was dating his estranged wife. And there was nothing he could do because he was such a pussy! My point is that if your wife really has the hots for this guy, nothing will stop her from seeing him. Especially if they're not fucking, because in her mind she's not doing anything wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 11:26 PM
1

My point is that men with low SMV or lack of abundance will settle for an ugly girl who's nice or a cute girl who is nuts. High SMV men (as OP should be) won't settle down with crazy. I always attracted cute girls. Settled down with my wife, who is pretty and successful but is a PITA more days than not. I had a lack of abundance mentality.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 11:19 PM
4

What would happen if yoU don't buy her jewelry?
/r/askMRP14/12/16 11:12 PM
1

Anything sporty. Running groups, climbing gym, sporting good stores even.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 11:10 PM
2

Depends on the actual safety of the neighborhood. I agree, you could show you're a protector by meeting her and walking. If you have to get up at 5am and she's safe otherwise, it's a compliance test. Also, if you don't have kids and she's not having sex with you why are you with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 08:48 PM
1

I'm said that dude deleted his post! We'll never know how that gay-ass pinecone dinner turned out
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 08:27 PM
0

I'll throw you a bone and say you should move in together. Just make sure birth control is locked down. You'll see a woman for who she really is. This will be great practice for your next relationship, because there absolutely will be someone after her. As for cheating, it's not necessarily a negative. It shows that you're attractive to other women. But the shit tests will always be more severe. This woman will never trust you completely. Why make your life so difficult by staying with her? Dude…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 07:49 PM
1

I agree with all of what you said except the dating pool going up as your SMV increases. Yes, the pool gets larger as more people will be attracted to you. But the actual women you'll be interested in will be fewer. You won't want fatties or girls with baggage any more. That takes out at least 90% of the population. Not to say he won't find a suitable girl. But cute girls who aren't crazy or entitled are very very rare.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 06:41 PM
2

This is the best advice here, OP. When you're dating, all women want to be the cool girlfriend. She'll support you in whatever hobby or career or whatever is important in your life. Even the first couple years of marriage, no woman wants to be the bitchy spouse. But slowly over time she will fight tooth and nail to chip away at your frame and freedom. She wants to drag you into her reality. Personally, OP, I wouldn't marry. I'd get a surrogate or adopt and pay a nanny to watch my kid during the …
/r/askMRP14/12/16 05:50 PM
3

What the fuck? I don't see a sacrificing woman. I see a woman who followed her man so he could provide for the family then promptly fell apart physically and emotionally. If you reward this behavior with some bullshit Pinterest picnic, you're telling her that she can add zero value to your life and you'll thank her for it. If you knock this woman up you'll regret it the rest of your life, captain save a ho
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 08:46 PM
2

Does she offer a lot of value otherwise? I guess if she's a willing participant it's better than no sex at all. Starfish sex really turns me off though. So here you are, with a wife who lets you masturbate with her body, and it's unsatisfying. You could enjoy it for what it's worth. Or you could strive to make it what you want. Sex, pleasantness, attractiveness, and respect are most of what men want in a wife. If you take away two, what value does she really have?
/r/askMRP13/12/16 08:32 AM
2

I don't really want to cheat-- it's too much work and not really satisfying to me. I'd like to have more variety but that would probably get old after a while too. Maybe what I need is a high class hooker once in a while :)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 06:31 AM
1

Sounds like you want to make the marriage work for the sake of the kids, but you can't cool your shit and slow down. I don't know if id be able to go slow if my wife was a sexless, moody, fatty. I've got a theory that if a wife is moody, sexless and fat it's over for most guys. At least one of the three has to change for the man to keep going-- usually two of them. Because who wants to work so hard to get sex from a hippo? I don't know-- maybe you should meditate more and keep a diary or somethi…
/r/askMRP12/12/16 06:12 AM
2

The biggest thing you need to watch out for is a false rape allegation. Was she really raped? Who knows. Might as well take her word for it. You know her best. Tread carefully--you don't want a gilt-ridden religious girl suddenly deciding that rough sex is rape.
/r/askMRP10/12/16 04:07 PM
1

I considered leaving before I found MRP. I even retained a lawyer. She'd become such a shitty harpy after I cheated (and I cheated because she was a shitty harpy) that there was no point staying. Finances wouldn't be a problem if I left. She makes about the same as me so I wouldnt get divorce raped. And I could probably get 50/50 custody of our daughter. Coparenting with my wife would be a nightmare. She'd be a vindictive bitch. I'm staying to make my daughters life as good as possible. And MRP …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 10:55 PM
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This made me think about the men I've surrounded myself with. Almost all of my close friends have come through some type of sport-- endurance racing, skiing, climbing, etc. Almoost all of them are masculine men-- even the couple gay friends I have. I think there's something about proving your grit to another man, sometimes even having your lives on the line together, that creates strong friendships. I've never been military, but I imagine there's similar sentiment. So that's what's worked for me…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 10:38 PM
1

Also depends on what your goals are. If it's pure strength, you should probably keep squatting 3X/week. Size? You could do higher reps and fewer squatting days. I squatted heavy 3x/week for about 5 months. I lost all my endurance and dropped it to 1x per week so I can ski now that snow is here. The weight has dropped, but I enjoy the mountains more than the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 08:38 PM
2

If I have to hear from one more of my coworkers about how much of an angel my wife is, I'm going to snap.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 08:12 PM
3

I wonder if anybody (especially men) can truly be happy when they're sacrificing 50% of their time, money, decisions and 100% of their self-respect, just to please their spouse?
/r/askMRP09/12/16 08:06 PM
3

Some homeschooled kids come out ok. The rest are social retards. Who cares how smart they are if they can't negotiate normal social interactions? My wife and I were both homeschooled.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 08:00 PM
2

Makes me wonder what I'll do in a few years. My wife is unbearable one week per month and shit tests constantly. But at least she keeps herself fit. I agree-- some shit testing is fun and keeps the relationship interesting. But after a certain point it just becomes exhausting and the resultant sex isn't worth the work you had to do to get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 07:57 PM
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Dude, you have a good wife there. You had a 474-page (with references) texting bitchfest with her and she still strikes a deal. Work on leading and planning activities instead of responding to them. At least you were able to shut down the texting and take the convo face to face. That's progress, and you showed you could maintain frame when she gets moody. That's how you generate attraction and confidence.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 05:26 PM
0

Not trying to guilt him. Rather, trying to find out his real reasons for wanting a BJ. Is it that he just wants the physical act? Or does he want unsolicited enthusiastic, sloppy BJs? Because the former is easy enough to obtain by being assertive. The latter....
/r/askMRP09/12/16 05:00 AM
2

Don't go and invite other people over. Or get a bottle of scotch and a hooker
/r/askMRP08/12/16 08:32 PM
2

Dude she's throwing a tantrum like a child. Don't always treat her like one. Use it selectively
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:45 PM
2

Every person has to decide what they want in life and if their spouse is going to be enough. It's fine if a woman doesn't want to have sex with her husband. But she's got to face the likelihood that he may get his needs met somehow.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 07:43 PM
-1

I've always thought a sexless, faithful, harpy is way worse than a cheating, happy, doting wife. If she was making my life better, I don't really care what she's up to when I'm not around
/r/askMRP08/12/16 06:53 PM
2

Totally wrong. There's kids and finances and all sorts of bullshit that make it so that "divorcing" isn't the easiest decision. If a wife is a sexless shrew (or the husband is a similar equivalent) and kids are involved, I've got no problem with someone cheating to get their needs filled while also being in their children's lives. Don't want someone to cheat on you? Don't treat them like shit and deny sex.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 06:50 PM
2

Agree and amplify that literal shit test. Also don't take anything she says seriously during PMS
/r/askMRP08/12/16 06:42 PM
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Sounds like she's trying to please you, but has a lot of sexual hangups. She knows what you want. I wouldn't talk about it again or you'll sound whiny. I mean, how bad do you need a BJ to feel fulfilled in life? Do you really need head or are you looking for the validation of a wife who eagerly sucks your dick? Head from a hooker can't be more than $100. I think you're trying to negotiate desire-- or at least have a covert contract about it. If your wife is in her 40s and isn't into BJs she may …
/r/askMRP08/12/16 06:39 PM
4

Others have given you good advice about ignoring bullshit texts. But breaking stuff is out of line. I don't care how beta you are, if she's destroying your shit you need to put a stop to that. You figure out the punishment next time. Make sure she knows it's a hard boundary and enforce it. Soft next. Disinvite her to Christmas. You know her best. Take away a privilege.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 02:43 AM
2

I'd stick around if she added enough value. But cheating doesn't bother me. If she crossed that line I'd bang college chicks and figure out a way to co parent. Some guys can't get past cheating and that's ok. Did you get any therapy to help you process the infidelity?
/r/askMRP08/12/16 02:40 AM
3

It's not that video games are bad. It's just that you need to choose whether you want to play halo (is that still a thing?) or you want to have high quality sex. Every minute-- let's face it, you probably spend hours playing-- that you are playing games, that's less time that you spend making yourself an attractive man. Why do you think you're poor and out of shape? Probably because you've misallocated your precious time into bullshit video games.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 05:47 PM
1

Ho Lee Fuk. You married a slut and you can't get her to touch your dick. You desperately need to make yourself attractive
/r/askMRP07/12/16 05:41 PM
2

If you can objectively say you're in the top 10% of intellect and physicality, why do you think you are so insecure? I sometimes catch myself being insecure, even though I'm at the top of my profession. For me it stems from being around a lot of very smart, very confident people all day. Then I remind myself that I AM THE SHIT and I fucking save lives and look good doing it. That's the advice I got early in my career from seasoned vets. Be irrationally confident
/r/askMRP07/12/16 05:33 PM
2

I was at our last session of marriage counseling the other night (MRP has made it unnecessary). I asked the therapist if, when a husband fixes everything about himself that his wife hates, does it improve the relationship? Short answer was no
/r/askMRP07/12/16 03:04 PM
1

When I was Mormon in my 20s, fearing sex because of the threat of damnation, I wished I could extinguish my libido.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 03:02 PM
4

Is she breastfeeding? If so, the surge in prolactin and the resultant decrease in estrogen, progesterone and testosterone could leave her with zero libido. Basically, she's not a sexual creature. I think you should still initiate when you want sex, be OI, have a positive frame and don't display butt hurt. Be helpful with the new kid. Try to get the baby away from her as much as possible. If she's cuddling the newborn constantly she won't want to suck your dick. Just because her hormones are out …
/r/askMRP07/12/16 12:47 PM
3

Sounds like you're scared to be alone. What do you think the worst case scenario is if you leave? Somewhere there's a mental block and you don't realize how awesome your life could be
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 01:35 PM
3

Sounds like you need a dose of irrational confidence. Make yourself into that SMV stud. She doesn't sound like she's a unicorn who could be banging NBA players
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 09:55 PM
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I think that's true for 50% of the population. The normal BMI population. But the other 50% of women who are overweight or obese usually take what they can get. Shoot, I may be wrong but I think most land whales are pretty introspective
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 08:18 PM
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I was a virgin before marriage because of religion. I had lots of offers with really hot girls. When I realized I wasted my best on a harpy my blue pill resentment went through the roof. Lots of therapy and MRP has helped me come to terms with it. It helps that she's a high value woman in a lot of senses. My wife had her run through the CC. I don't think she regrets tying her sexual futures to one man. Sex has always been enthusiastic for the most part. She probably regrets tying her future to a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 08:07 PM
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Last year, before MRP, I spent thousands on a new living room set. It just made her hate me more. This year I bought her some dance lessons. I figure I can bust out some Magic Mike when we're done.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 07:56 PM
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This is an excellent post. Unlike you, I entered marriage and fatherhood reluctantly, under pressure, and have had a hard time accepting my choices. I love time with my daughter, and experience the same highs when she falls asleep in my arms, or laughs when I teach her to summersault. I think that I'm more successful and productive by having a family. If left to my own devices, I'd work as little as possible, live in a very meager house, and spend most of my time climbing in the desert. I don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 07:47 PM
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SMV for men is much more complicated than looks. Career, social status, charm, etc. Maintain fitness however you can. Focus on the areas that you can improve. MRP is more about mental toughness than physical toughness. Lifting is usually the easiest way to build mental toughness.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 05:10 PM
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I guess your only option is to invite your best friend over and when he gets back have a threeway while you cook him bacon. Shouldn't have touched his phone
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 03:51 AM
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I'd absolutely support a man in his quest to be authentic. but he'd have to face the consequences. Everyone and their dog knows that men must go to great lengths to suppress their natural desires. Still, women are stuck with the notion of "if he really loved me he wouldn't have eyes for anyone else."
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 03:48 AM
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No kids and a wife that doesn't put out? You're setting up a situation where you've established that you'll put up with a lot of shit. When kids come, you've essentially given her carte blanche to shit on you every day and still not have sex because she knows you won't leave. I understand guys who stay because they want to provide a nuclear family. You are just being spineless
/r/askMRP05/12/16 03:35 AM
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I'm not sure what that guy was expecting when he got married. Happily ever after with the plastic surgery addicted tramp? It doesn't take TRP to figure that chick out
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 10:46 PM
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I like way of the superior male. The language is fluffy, but I've found I have better quality sex when I channel my "energy" or whatever you want to call it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 09:33 PM
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I had an existential crisis after a month of rejection. Some guys can endure a lot I suppose
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 09:30 PM
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I think you did well. You're taking a beating for not telling her no, but you'll probably remember it in the future. Good job on a positive change in your life. Sometimes STFU can be the hardest skill to master. Also, if this is a behavior you can't tolerate from her, figure out a way not to tolerate it. If she interrupts your sleep for stupid reasons, sleep in another room the next night.
/r/askMRP30/11/16 07:33 PM
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If you really outrank her in SMV the fix Is pretty easy. Don't worry about the warranty guys. If you do it or don't, it's not going to matter in the long run. I've got experience dealing with a woman who's both a hottie and has a high-powered career. First, STFU. Then STFU. 95% of your problems are probably because you don't STFU during fights. Second, STFU. Then be fun around her. Act like a superior male. Life has probably come easy to you. Start working at it for once. Third, she didn't kick …
/r/askMRP30/11/16 07:27 PM
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Disagree about the wife and kids part. I need at least 2-3 days per month that are mine. I need to it embrace the adventurous, masculine, thrill seeking man that I am at my core. I take those days with close male friends. Those days make domestic life worth living for me. Maybe someday I'll be able to integrate it all, but I need it to be completely separate for now
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/16 06:17 PM
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I'm not aware of any success stories with fat, lazy wives. If there are some I'd be interested too.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 09:11 PM
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This is good advice for men who have become beta comfort bitches. I caution new guys that if they go full retard and withdraw all time, attention, and comfort in an effort to act like they're single, it could set you back in your progress. Now, if you're trying to test the waters and make sure you're OK with ditching your wife, and co-parenting as divorced people this could be a great strategy. I think most guys do just fine living by themselves. Dealing with an angry ex-wife is the difficult pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 09:09 PM
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I'm in the same boat. My marriage was essentially one big failed comfort test for 4 years. It's important to instill the feeling of comfort and safety into the woman you're fucking. Doesn't mean you have to spend all your time with her, but make her FEEL safe when you're with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 09:02 PM
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This is an interesting concept. I entered marriage reluctantly and operated from the framework that marriage was a necessary step in adulthood and not really a choice. All I wanted from my wife was sex and for her not to make my life worse. Of course she picked up on that. I didn't give her the chance to work toward making my life better and I didn't reward her when she tried to do nice things for me. After a while, she said "what's the point of trying?" and she stopped doing nice things. Slowly…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/16 10:05 PM
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You can ignore shit tests but comfort tests require something
/r/askMRP28/11/16 06:54 PM
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Haha that's true. What do you think about the research that shows 10-15 reps is ideal for hypertrophy?
/r/askMRP28/11/16 05:31 PM
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I have a similar problem of getting angry when my wife is being bitchy. Text is for logistics but you have to text something back. take a few minutes before you respond. Do some push-ups, go for a jog, talk with someone else. Then come up with a response
/r/askMRP28/11/16 04:55 PM
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I don't mean pretend I'm happy with her. I mean I don't walk around all butt hurt. Play the nice card. Some women don't turn into submissive sex kittens overnight
/r/askMRP28/11/16 02:33 PM
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OP. I was sort of like you. Porn, sexting, cheating. Wife left with the kid. You gotta STFU and start working on yourself. Sounds like you have some real addiction issues. A 12 step program probably isn't going to be enough. Find some group therapy with members who will hold you accountable. From now on never talk about your problems with your wife. Find a male who you trust and work through them. Good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/16 12:33 PM
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My wife wrote this long email last week about something she was pissed about. I ignored it because I can't argue with emotion. Then when I got home, she shit tested me about ignoring the email. So I threw her a bone and tried to engage her in a dialogue. It made everything worse. There's really no way you can win in this situation. Just go about your life. Tell her, "I respect my sexy wife" or some bullshit, and be prepared for more shit tests. This sounds exactly like what my wife does and it s…
/r/askMRP28/11/16 03:16 AM
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What value does she add to your life? When I'm pissed off at my often-bitchy wife I resist the urge to withdraw and instead try to focus on the reasons why I'm sticking around. It helps prevent a downward spiral of negativity
/r/askMRP28/11/16 03:05 AM
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Took my wife to see Adam Levine and she begged for my dick. I agree with redirecting the tingles
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 10:36 PM
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I agree it's a shitty situation where you have to lead her into fitness. The fact is, it sounds like you married a lazy fatass. She's probably always been lazy. And she's not going to fix this on her own. Again, I agree it's a PITA and time suck. But you have to create the life you want with the hand you were dealt. Maybe look at it as some comfort-building when you take her for a jog. It's an investment. And it may not pay off. You may be stuck with a fat ass at the end of all this. I guess you…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 10:27 PM
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I'm not a naturally jealous guy. Never have been. My wife hates it that I've never gotten worked up when guys flirt with her. So once or twice a year I engage in strategic mate guarding. Just enough to show my wife that if I needed to, I would fight for my interests. I get borderline violent and puff out my chest. 60% of the time it works every time
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/16 03:03 PM
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I think you found the solution-- you stopped initiating every day. Now, you may be some testosterone-laden dick monster, but I get tired of it every day. Initiate when you want and not because you want quantity. I also find kino-ing for a couple of days leaves her in more suspense and makes quality better when we finally do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 09:09 PM
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I'm impressed they have a section on how they may have contributed to the problem. I think my wife has a rock-solid frame because she's never done an ounce of introspection.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 09:03 PM
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Seemed like a cool guy. Ex-military. Manly hobbies. He's got a bit of a belly now. Society just drills the "happy wife happy life" mantra into men that it's hard not to buy into it
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 08:44 PM
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I forgot we had a late start today and told my poor med student to come an hour early.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 08:10 PM
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Congratulations, man. Looks like you're on a good track. What's your plan for not getting complacent? Also, 15 months? I got a couple hard no's for the first time in months and I'm tempted to research divorce attorneys. You've got some stamina, dude
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 07:28 PM
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My insurance is covering the bulk of the treatment. And I'll probably get a permanent retainer when I'm done. I didn't wear my retainer as a teenager, then my wisdom teeth came in and my mouth got jacked again
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 04:51 PM
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I was at a wedding over the weekend. I was talking with my wife and her cousin (the bride). They were talking about how hard it is to be strong, independent women, and how it didn't really make them happier. I told them they'd be a lot happier if they'd just relax once in a while! You would have thought I'd told them to club baby seals by the way they looked at me
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 04:41 PM
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If I got politeness and respect more than 50% of the time I'd be thrilled. But if I attained that goal, I might want more too
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 04:33 PM
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Good job with the runner chick. Sports activities with girls are always an easy way to game them. I have mixed feelings about asking her to lunch. If your goal is abundance mentality, just being friendly and fun around women is usually enough. In my experience, anything date-like with another woman leaves me with the desire to take it further and then complicate my life even more.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 04:31 PM
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If you become an expert in some thing-- any thing-- you'll get a lot more satisfaction. You could work on an assembly line and if you own the shit out of it you'll love it
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 09:14 PM
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I get the fear thing. I was scared most of my life. I'm still having trouble letting go of fear towards my kid if I leave. I think my progress will be stunted until I get over that fear
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 08:53 PM
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Owning-- Lifting/fitness-- after plateauing on 5x5, I starting working out with my bodybuilder friend. Lifting lower weight at higher volume. I've seen more size in my pecs and lats. Now weigh 173. Aiming to go up 1/2 pound per week until New Years then cut. Started running more miles in anticipation of ski season. Lifting is fun and all, but my endurance has tanked. I've gained 25 lbs since June. I now only do 1 leg day per week so I'm not trashed on the slopes. Reading-- working on Way of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 08:42 PM
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I understand the resentment toward your wife. It can easily destroy your relationship with her. She smells your resentment, it makes her angry, you resent her more and can't be upbeat around her. I struggle with it every day. What's helped me is focusing on my mission-- at work, at the gym, in the mountains, socially, and with my family. When I focus on those other things I'm a lot happier and I can bring that happiness home. Let's face it-- women are just going to be angry a lot of the time. It…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 08:01 PM
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I've known a few open marriages. It usually doesn't work, but sometimes it does. It's a lot of work for a guy to bang a chick. And when you're married, you usually won't get the hottest chicks. I personally hate monogamy. I think it's a shit deal for men. Especially as your SMV grows and your wife's stagnates at best, more often than not quickly declines post-childbirth. What do you get for the privilege of staying faithful? Day after day of shit tests and a total drag on your most precious comm…
/r/askMRP21/11/16 03:46 PM
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I'm going to echo the guys who say that she is a full-grown adult. If she can't handle the kids for a few days by herself, she needs to get a job and farm out the childcare to a nanny. You got a cleaning service, for christ's sake. It's not your job to hold her hand and show her how to do her job
/r/askMRP21/11/16 03:34 PM
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I totally understand the kid conundrum. I was dead set against having another kid with my wife. Pregnancy, newborn, breastfeeding, psychotic wife--it was the worst time of my life by far. But after spending a few days with my brother, who I consider my best friend, I'm feeling the pull of giving my daughter a sibling. My situation is different in that my wife is a good mom and if i'm going to have another kid, I want it to be with her. Also, MRP has made marriage waaaay easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/16 03:18 AM
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It used to piss me off to no end when my wife would get upset about something trivial. Was it disrespectful when she called me an asshole last night and told me to sleep on the couch? Maybe. I STFU, AM'ed a bit and she was sucking my dick an hour later. I could have put my foot down about disrespectful language, but I chose to treat it like yet another tantrum.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 09:24 PM
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Interesting. Was she ever into fitness or was she just naturally a skinny teenager? I think it's a lot harder if she didn't learn a good work ethic. I mean, you can accept responsibility for letting yourself go, but whatever choices she's made to become a whale are hers alone. I think you need to set expectations, support her in her goals, and give her at least a couple years to become healthy. But she has to choose to do the work. She has to know that it's unacceptable for more than a couple ye…
/r/askMRP15/11/16 06:02 PM
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Yeah, you gotta rip that kid off the titty. New moms are psychopaths. Go have some fun with the kid--because you want to. She can use that time however she wants, but set expectations for how she should use it-- not just fucking around the house. This isn't to control her, but because you honestly want to support her in being a better mother and wife
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 05:24 PM
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I'd be interested to hear of any men who have had success in leading a wife to lose a significant amount of weight. It's my experience that once a woman is fat and lazy, she's always fat and lazy. For me, it's always been non-negotiable that we stay thin and fit. That was part of my vetting process, as I come from a family of obese people and I didn't want that for my kids. A fat woman doesn't have testosterone, it's a lot harder for her to lose weight than a man. They're less adventurous and us…
/r/askMRP15/11/16 05:10 PM
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Depo is still hormonal and could mess with a woman's randiness.
/r/askMRP14/11/16 10:39 PM
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You gotta look at what value she adds to your life. Was she fat and lazy when you met her? Chances are she'll always be fat and lazy. Personally, I think it's best to move on if your SMV is high enough. If you're still in your 20s don't stick to one chick
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 10:35 PM
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If it's working for you and you're happy, enjoy the ride dude. Just be warned that most girls will bend over backwards (and forwards and sideways and threeways) just to please a man while they're dating. That ring changes things
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 10:32 PM
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I get what you're saying. Wife shit tested me the other night while we were having sex. I don't remember what she said but it really pissed me off. I almost walked away and slept in the basement. But I just pounded her hard to "punish" her. Better than hitting her and she was satisfied too. She cuddled up close and apologized. Amazing what STFU and sticking to my plan can do.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 10:29 PM
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When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer. I was thinking about this with my buddy. He's become insanely rich and successful. But his wife has definitely lagged behind. He doesn't know about red pill, but is a natural alpha. He left his wife for a while because she wasn't providing any value to his life. Then he went back because he wanted his kids to have a nuclear family. He kept some plates on the side just so he could fuck once in a while.…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 07:09 PM
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If you provide enough value in her life, generate tingles, and make her feel like she's the most important woman in your life she may be cool with sharing you. It would take years to months of being a strong captain for her to feel at ease with that. What's important is that you don't make your goal "getting my girl to feel comfortable when I spin plates." Your goal needs to be making yourself such a high value man that she relaxes into your frame
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 06:24 PM
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I bet if you lightened up around her and included her in the fun she wouldn't call you out on being butthurt. She'd enjoy the changes and be able to relax
/r/askMRP14/11/16 03:48 PM
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Thanks for bringing in a differing viewpoint. Communication plus the methods advocated here bring about a lot of happiness. I guess a lot of men disagree with your assertion that wives can be reasoned with. Sometimes mine can, but nonverbal communication and positive assertion on my part make us a lot happier.
/r/askMRP13/11/16 05:41 PM
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It's ok to talk about logistics. Otherwise you're just a retard. If she's shit testing you, don't DEER
/r/askTRP13/11/16 10:26 AM
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Try Express. I've got the same build and the extra slim shirts look great on me
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 11:54 PM
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Racing is an awesome way to meet friends. Some of my best friends have been my training partners. How are your hobbies and career coming? I've found it's easy to attract women when the career is on point and I have a fun life that doesn't revolve around women.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 10:40 PM
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Anger phase + DEERing is a bad combo. Maybe you should slow down, work on amused mastery, and make your wife feel comfortable in your masculine presence. Take ownership of buying the new home. And make her feel like you're an awesome dad. Take that one guy's advice and leave the house with your kid for a few hours. It gives her time to chill and you get to bond. You don't need to work harder. Be more fun and amused
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 10:30 PM
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Sounds like hysterical bonding from your wife. I agree with others. You need to decide how you want to live your life. Maybe you go back home and keep chicks on the side. Maybe you won't need to if your wife is draining your balls. Maybe she won't mind sharing a high value man.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 10:22 PM
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What makes you think you have a pathology? What are your symptoms?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 09:36 PM
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What about it? If you run enough, calories don't really matter
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 07:07 PM
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If you want your life to stay the same, sure, talk about your feelings with your wife. She wants very limited insight into your feelings. I used to be really religious and I spent 30 years not knowing who I really was. You owe it to yourself and to your family to find out who you are, to embrace your masculinity. You will love yourself more when you can stand up to your wife. Perhaps she will love you more as well. Women are drawn to men who are try to their masculine selves. Don't be afraid of …
/r/askMRP11/11/16 06:14 PM
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I totally understand the religious freak wife. You're going to have to go really, really slow with her. I'm going to suggest that you don't watch a racy movie for the next three months. Your weak little frame won't be able to handle her emotional tirade. And really, it's not a big deal in the long run. Read the material, get strong and develop amused mastery. Stick with the program. Then in a few months you'll be able to do whatever you want. Until then, STFU and lift. Don't just start watching …
/r/askMRP11/11/16 04:52 AM
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Ain't that the truth
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 09:09 PM
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I'm surprised at the diversity of men here. I think a common theme is an anxious/aggressive woman and a man who is afraid of her emotions.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 07:06 PM
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You'll be well served by developing patience. It's going to take many months-years before things get significantly better. For now, you can practice mindfulness or stoicism. Learn to embrace the sucky parts of marriage. Read up on amused mastery
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/16 04:11 PM
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Overweight, out of shape, boring middle aged woman? Why are you staying with her? I imagine the kids are mostly grown by now
/r/askMRP05/11/16 02:41 AM
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It's interesting how everyone in the article referred to stay at home dads as "freeloaders" during a divorce. And many men are embarrassed about asking for alimony. Yet women typically try to take a man for all he's worth and society just nods along.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 08:40 PM
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I've never understood long distance relationships. It's like voluntary celibacy. No chick is worth it. Look, she seems like an awesome girl right now, but if you wait around for her like a dildo she'll lose respect for you. And if you finally get married or whatever she'll whittle away at your manhood. Don't waste your time on an LTR. I bet if you walk and then meet up again in a few years she won't be a girl you like
/r/askMRP04/11/16 08:18 PM
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I bet they can sense your somewhat below average erection
/r/askMRP04/11/16 06:19 PM
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Staying in and going to bed early on a Friday night doesn't have to be a bad thing. I like to crush the mountain activities early on Saturday morning so more often than not I'm pretty boring at night.
/r/askMRP04/11/16 06:15 PM
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This is an interesting point. Last night I went for a run with a buddy. We came back to my place and shared a beer. He's single and I was talking with him about male-female dynamics. My wife joined in the conversation and agreed to a lot of RP theory. I don't talk about MRP with her, but she agrees with a lot of the concepts when we discuss them individually. I brought up the concept of covert contracts. She had an 'A-ha' moment when she realizes that she does makes them all the time. And it con…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 04:17 PM
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Sounds like my life. The wife can't handle a crying baby and throws a fit when I take time for myself. I take the baby on workouts when the wife is getting too stressed out. Other times I leave the two of them to duke it out together. I think the key is to take care of yourself but also maintain some flexibility so you can still be a good leader.
/r/askMRP03/11/16 08:49 PM
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I was in the Midwest. I never had much game. Just above average looks, fitness and a DNGAF attitude through most of school. I didn't attract 10s but 7-8 were available.
/r/askMRP03/11/16 08:00 PM
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I can relate a little with you bro. I think I got complacent when my wife started entering my frame. Slowly I stopping passing shit tests and letting my guard down. As a result my wife has been cranking up the bitchiness. I think part of the problem is that I haven't made the internal mental changes required to be a 'natural'. I still have to stop and think before I AA or AM. I've let a lot of BP laziness creep back in, in terms of leading my family. It's exhausting. So I'm taking a couple days …
/r/askMRP03/11/16 04:17 PM
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I don't know how it was for you, but I felt like girls in med school were nymphos
/r/askMRP02/11/16 10:10 PM
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Good point. If she sees that she's not really needed she may ask herself what her value to the family really is.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 08:46 PM
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If you develop a strong frame and become attractive-- not just physically but mentally as well-- she'all either start cleaning the house or you'll be able to kick her out and make her get a job. If she says SAHM is her job, then she better do her job. Otherwise she's a lazy babysitter and those cost $10 and a popsicle per hour.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 08:44 PM
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I was always fit, an athlete, successful with girls and had a good career. I was alpha in an external sense and I DNGAF because I didn't really have anything to GAF about. Life always came easy to me. But I was mentally weak and passive. That was the biggest downfall when I got married because I never learned to stand up for myself. I'd never had to stand up for anything. To me, MRP alphas have to be more mentally tough than physically tough.
/r/askMRP02/11/16 06:58 PM
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You just made me think of my own life. I never really liked the idea of marriage but did it anyway because I was passive. I think I remember telling my wife early on that my whole expectation was that she just didn't make my life worse. And that pretty much set the tone for our relationship. All she had to do to be a good wife, according to my own description, was just not suck. Man, that's some failed leadership on my part
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 02:04 PM
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Remember, women are their feelz. If you're not taking ownership of their feelings (apologizing) that means they have to. And women hate being responsible for their emotions
/r/askMRP02/11/16 02:30 AM
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Yeah it's frustrating that women have to shit test so much. For example, I came home with an anniversary gift for my wife. She was so thrilled I thought she was going to blow me in front of guests. About 20 minutes later she's back to harping on me about something. At least now I'm recognizing when I've had unconscious covert contracts and I can learn not to be butt hurt.
/r/askMRP02/11/16 02:27 AM
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I don't think most people are excusing the wife's actions. She was being shitty. I guess most guys are used to shitty behavior from women so they don't get worked up about it. OP is in such denial that he could have contributed anything to her actions that it's frustrating for most to read. I agree that the advice around here that men 'have to do everything' sucks. Unfortunately that's what feminism has come to. A woman thinks she has a right to 'have it all' and when she's miserable she blames …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 12:22 AM
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Why should your SAHM stay up all night with the kid? It's not like she gets to nap all day. SAHM is the shittiest job in the world. I work 14 hour days and it's easier than dealing with my toddler
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:14 PM
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You need to be firm with her. Let her know that you will walk if she ever does it again. Document that she hit you. Save some form of documentation where she admits to doing it. My wife hitting me is how I ended up on MRP. But echoing what other people have said, while I didn't deserve to be assaulted I was responsible for becoming a sniveling pussy that my wife disrespected. You need to deal resolutely with your wife. But you also need to put you fucking ego away. You are not a special snowflak…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:11 PM
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I'd suggest you read up on oak moves. If she responded well to assertiveness it suggests she'll follow your lead long term. Become the rock that isn't fazed by her whims. It will take a lot of internal self esteem to know that you are your own ultimate judge and that while she can complement your life, she can't ruin your good mood.
/r/askMRP01/11/16 03:43 PM
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I wouldn't blame you if you went out and fucked the chick. A sexless marriage isn't a marriage at all. But you also have to have the frame to face the consequences when your wife finds out. Bitches come and bitches go. They'll always be around, especially if you get your head on straight. Right now, you're weak minded. You're riding a high of attention from a hot chick. And that's all you can focus on right now. It seems like this is the only chance for good sex because you've been deprived for …
/r/askMRP01/11/16 03:27 PM
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I've read a lot of the stuff you've posted. Sounds like you're depressed. Maybe that's because your wife wants out and she's not treating you with respect. I don't know what you should do. Do you have any close male friends? They'd know you better. I know that I was ready to drop my wife a few months ago but now I really enjoy her company so things can change. I think if you leave now it may be a blessing for her and you. Then she can move on and start a family with someone else. If you keep wor…
/r/askMRP31/10/16 10:32 PM
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You guys are stuck in a tit for tat situation. I know. I've been there. You're too focused on the specifics of the situation and you're missing the bigger picture. Think of it this way-- for years the two of you have been dysfunctional, trying eek out some form of cooperation while raising four little shitheads. You probably had bad models from your parents. Now you found MRP and you want to go all red pill rambo and start setting ultimatums and swinging your dick around like it's a billy stick.…
/r/askMRP31/10/16 10:20 PM
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If money isn't an issue and you're just trying to enforce a power move by having the kids with your folks, then there is no way you can win. You abondoned your family. she will not trust any childcare decision you make. I think you'll have to take an L on the daycare thing until you consistently prove you're a good leader. If you put your foot down right now you'll be sticking it in quicksand
/r/askMRP31/10/16 06:35 PM
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The counselor was right. You can only change yourself. I used to go to marriage therapy and practically beg the therapist to tell my wife she was being a bitch. Do you think it stopped her from being a bitch? She stopped acting like a bitch when I stopped caring so much about how she acted. Now I still go from time to time but mostly because the therapist is kinda hot
/r/askMRP31/10/16 06:22 PM
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Why would you waste time trolling here?
/r/askMRP30/10/16 08:49 PM
1

Interesting. I applaud you embracing your natural man. Monogamy isn't natural. I don't think I could go back to sneaking around-- it's too tiring. But I'd be interested in hearing how it goes plating your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 11:07 PM
2

I just read your old posts. I think you're causing yourself a lot of unnecessary pain by staying with this woman. You need physical separation at the very least
/r/askMRP26/10/16 09:27 PM
1

You make a great point there. I've spent a lot of time whining about a life that I didn't choose, that I passively let happen. I hadn't been much happier than before swallowing the pill. The fact is that I wanted a life devoid of responsibilities. The more I think about it, the more I believe that men can't reach their potential without responsibility. I have a high value wife and a great daughter. They are responding well to my changes. So yes, I may not have the carefree life of adventure that…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 08:37 PM
2

I bet he has a fine collection of scarves to match his skinny jeans
/r/askMRP26/10/16 08:03 PM
1

There was a lifting guide on the marriedredpill sub a couple weeks ago. It was called lifting for noobs or man building in the gym or something. It has a very detailed program. People aren't going spoon feed you information. But they'll tell you what's worked in their lives and the lives of others. The gym isn't the only way to get your wife to treat you better. But it's probably the easiest. and it gives you time to learn how to act more assertive in other areas of your life. Honestly, I don't …
/r/askMRP26/10/16 07:55 PM
1

I think he's one of those guys who believes that women aren't attracted to big muscles.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 07:47 PM
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If you squat deadlift and bench press three times per week and write down your workouts you'll see results. And really, you can't devote 4 hours per week to improving your physique? Trust me, your life will improve if you bulk up. If you want to stay skinny fat, be my guest. I'm not going back to the shitty life that endurance racing gave me
/r/askMRP26/10/16 07:43 PM
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I'd rather run 20 miles or climb mountains than go to the gym. But I can't argue with results. You don't need to be huge. Just a little size. And I thought I couldn't gain weight for years. You just gotta eat after you're full and cut back on cardio. I'm at the point where I've had to cut back my calories so I don't gain too much fat. I definitely had fuckarounditis when I tried bulking in my twenties. You have to find a program and write stuff down. And really? You don't like gyms because they'…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 07:38 PM
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Dude, you're a faggot. You're only staying with this woman because she makes money. And then you obsess about her cheating. You need to get a fucking life. Fine, being a man isn't all about making a good living. But at the very least you have to have control of your emotions. And being a tool who digs through the laundry for dirty panties is the pussiest thing you can do.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 06:08 PM
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Careful with this one. The minute her husband finds out-- and he will, chicks are terrible at keeping secrets-- he'll get pissed and at minimum blow it up with your wife. If you want to fool around with other girls, make sure there's no way they can find out who you are. I disagree with u/persaeus about the burner phone. Even if you get snap chat or kik or some other app to sext with, you'll eventually get sloppy and your wife will find out. I'd get an iPod touch or something and keep it at work…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 09:09 PM
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Just curious why you're getting back into the game and how did you develop the frame to withstand the eventual fallout? OP will want to make sure his frame is ironclad in the face of divorce rape and child custody.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 08:56 PM
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No kids? Doesn't put out? What value is she adding to your life? I get that you want a sparring partner, but staying married to a low-value woman isn't the only way. I mean, irradiating my testicles is great birth control, but I'd rather wear a condom.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 03:55 PM
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I'd cut and run now. Tell the chick it's over and block her number. Your wife will 100% find out if you keep going. If you want to fool around in the future you need to develop a guiltless frame. And get a burner phone, a fake name, etc. I was in your shoes when I was blue pill. The sneaking around was exhausting. I'm much happier focusing on other areas of my life. Best of luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/16 12:03 PM
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I think there's some truth. A lot of women are attracted to status. I like to drive an old truck even though I could afford a new one. I donthink like to get caught up in the trappings of wealth. It's too stressful for me
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 04:42 PM
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I totally disagree. The insecure mate guarding of the guys here is a total beta move. If you don't want to be with a cheater, that's totally fine. But if you want to restrict what your woman does, that's domineering not dominant. If you want her to act like a cheater, treat her like a cheater. If the roles were reversed, and you wanted to take a guys trip and your girl threw a shit storm, all the guys here would be calling her a cunt. I mean, if she wants to cheat she's gonna cheat. OP doesn't e…
/r/askMRP24/10/16 03:06 PM
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I've been to Puerto Rico twice. If you want to take belly shots you can. If you want to lounge in s hammock on the beach you can. Just because she's going down there doesn't mean that she's going to blow a bunch of random dudes
/r/askMRP24/10/16 03:00 PM
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For sure, jerking off is easier than fucking your wife. But it's also less fulfilling. My sex life improved a ton when I stopped jerking off.
/r/askMRP24/10/16 12:45 PM
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Congrats on finding your balls! Please report back and let us know how the conversation goes. If you haven't set boundaries before it's possible she'll shit all over this one. Maintain a strong frame. Personally I like it when my wife goes out with her friends. She almost always comes home horny. But she's not 2 hours away. The whole boundary situation is tough for me. To me, it's a form of controlling another person. Obviously, if it's a behavior that causes you a ton of distress you shouldn't …
/r/askMRP24/10/16 12:30 PM
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Is she a good wife otherwise? If so, you may want to patch it up and sprinkle a little beta comfort once in a while. Did you go red pill Rambo? This whole thing just seems like she's reaching out to an orbiter. If she really loved the guy she would have branch swung by now. You may want to laugh it off if he's really a pussy like you say. You're the one fucking her in the ass. He's sending her cat movies. Are you really threatened by that?
/r/askMRP22/10/16 04:34 PM
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You don't need to divorce your wife to play the field. I don't think anyone who's only had sex with one partner can cure the 'grass is greener' feeling unless they've experienced other people. I know, I've been there. And after fucking other bitches, I learned that pussy is pussy. But I never would have internalized it with experiencing it. I'm lucky, my wife is dtf 3 weeks out of the month and keeps herself fit. And the hotter I get the shit tests get easier. She's turning into a girl I never w…
/r/askMRP21/10/16 09:36 PM
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Plenty of atheist women and women cheat as well. I think that if you're raised not to have sex before marriage you are more likely to wander because you are obsessed with missed opportunities. I've never believed that a low n count will stop a woman from cheating.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 11:17 PM
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Another former Mormon here-- sure, the church teaches men to be the head of the household and women to be 'pure'-- whatever that means. And it works for a lot of people. But MRP could never work in a fully believing Mormon setting. The idea that if you get divorced you'll go to hell-- it removes all incentive for a woman to try to be a pleasant person. It creates a lot of fake niceness. And women will only love their husbands as long as they remain faithful. Don't even get me started on the sexu…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 10:45 PM
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I'm sure you have some level of insecurity or else you wouldn't have written this post. If you're really worried, tell her to go alone. Then coordinate with one of her friends and find out where they're having drinks. Show up unannounced, wear a nice outfit, game your wife and take her back to your hotel room. Fuck her brains out and let her go back to her friends while you order room service and watch a game.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 08:43 PM
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I'm going to go against conventional MRP wisdom on this and say that this sounds like a psychological aversion to sex with anyone. You're a model? I guess that means you're hot and fit and whatever. I'm not a sex therapist. I don't know much about marriage relations. One thing I know is that if your wife is feeling intense pressure to have a mutually desirable sexual experience, she may get anxiety to the point that any sex sucks. Does she orgasm to masturbation? If so, it could mean that all th…
/r/askMRP19/10/16 08:04 PM
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I've found olive oil works well for us. All natural and doesn't irritate mucous membranes
/r/askMRP19/10/16 07:56 PM
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I'd never hate-fucked my wife until a month ago. We were on a two week vacation and she had kept up a constant stream of little shit tests. I couldn't take it any more and blew up at her. We fought for about two hours and she pushed my buttons by threatening to leave with our kid. Oh man, did I hate that woman at that moment. But instead of sulking I went in for the kill. I was amazed to find that she basically spread her legs and put her ass in the air. Like she was turned on by the emotions. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 04:52 PM
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If wives cared about our happiness, none of us would be here
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 07:01 PM
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I never would have married if it weren't for religion. Men are just way more interesting than women. I've yet to meet an attractive woman who isn't a homebody. An average day in the backcountry is better than sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 06:45 PM
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Don't elaborate any more. A similar situation happened to my wife and I. I said something to the effect of "if either one of us ever turned into a land whale or stopped putting out, I wouldn't expect the other one to stick around." She threw a shit storm of epic proportions: "What about loooooove!" Just STFU and keep working on yourself
/r/askMRP18/10/16 06:40 PM
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My wife is a physician and she changed her name. It was a giant pain in the ass for her. It makes me grateful that she respected me enough to go through all that trouble. Still, you have valid reasons for wanting to keep your maiden name. I think that a name has very little to do with feminine-masculine polarity in a marriage. Everyday interpersonal interactions carry much more weight. For example, my wife took my name, I turned into a drunk captain and she treated me like shit. A name had nothi…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 06:36 PM
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I don't know much about catholicism, but I hear it's damn near impossible to get a divorce. Sounds like you can put your foot down and get your way. What's she going to do? Continue to be emotionally manipulative? Read WISNIFG and you'll shoot that shit down. The only leverage she has over you is taking the kids. And if she's really committed to the religion, she's not going to do that.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 03:12 PM
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It's going to be incredibly hard to lead your family in the direction you think it should go if you cling to the infallibility of the church. By all means, believe what you want. But also realize that you are your own ultimate judge. If you let the church have an outsize influence on your family life, then you aren't leading. You aren't even letting God lead. Your letting God's "servants" lead. I get it. It's easy to do what the church tells you to do. It's safe. It's what you know. But if you d…
/r/askMRP18/10/16 02:54 PM
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You have 3 years before the oldest goes to school. That's long enough to make yourself mentally tough. I understand what you're going through. My wife can be a bitchy hardass when she wants her way. I'm living in a city I don't want to be in because I was such a pussy. But the more I LIFT and pass shit tests the more she defers to my judgement. I've only been at this for 4 months. I think you underestimate the power of being hot.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 02:46 PM
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Get fit. It'll solve 50% of your problems. If you have another baby it'll double your problems right now. Your marriage is falling apart and you want more kids? Are you on drugs?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 12:28 AM
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I mostly did what I wanted when I wanted for the first few years of marriage. It almost blew our marriage up because who wants to be with a guy that's never home? So I've been trying to be more present with my kid and not be an absentee father. that's my dilemma-- I can't reconcile the feeling of being trapped with the responsibility I feel to be present and engaged.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 12:00 AM
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It's great you've lost weight. Nice that you're more aloof. You now have a golden opportunity here. Learn everything you can about lupus, RA and autoimmune disease in general. Lupus affects almost every organ system in the body. RA legitimately makes every joint feel like you got hit by a truck. No wonder she doesn't want to have sex! This isn't a fantasy world, this is her body attacking itself while your fat ass tries to make a move on her. The opportunity you have is that she'll probably stop…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 11:29 PM
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You're spending too much time worrying about what she says or how she says it. If you get buff, get a haircut and put on a fitted shirt, she should fall in line. She's got the body of a linebacker. You will outrank her by 5 points
/r/askMRP12/10/16 11:11 PM
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Hopefully she turns the ship around because you'I'll never have a satisfying relationship with a woman who's lazy, bitchy, and a whale. Your SMV is rapidly improving over hers. I bet she improves on least one area. Hopefully she works out and becomes a sweet sex kitten. If she stays fat and whiny, you'll leave her after a while. Even if she's giving you sex enthusiastically, you won't want sex from her. You have a nice situation. Your SMV gains will always outdo hers, since you have testosterone…
/r/askMRP12/10/16 09:04 PM
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Is he a high value male in other regards? It could be that he jerks off a lot and isn't in to the real thing as much. My advice is to keep being really sexy around him. Make sex really fun for him-- be enthusiastic
/r/askMRP12/10/16 08:54 PM
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As someone who got married mostly so God would be ok with me having an orgasm, I can tell you it was the worst decision of my life. The problem is either she or you will get the itch to sow your wild oats in a few years and you'll be miserable. And I can tell you the low n-count thing is bullshit. All the chicks I fucked when I was whoring around had an n-count of 0 before marriage. Now, if you can become a high value man and keep your body hawt, she probably won't stray. In any case, I'd figure…
/r/askMRP12/10/16 08:49 PM
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You're not a piece of shit. You've just let a bunch of shitty things happen to you and now you're paying the price. I'm in my own world of hurt because I don't want a family. But the thought that keeps coming back to me is, even though I made decisions based on shitty information, I still chose my life. It may not be the life I wanted. But it's my life. And as long as I want to be an involved father everyday, I have to own the decision of staying with my family. Maybe your choice lies in fucking…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 08:06 PM
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I hear you about the fat. I'm about your size. I think I bulked too quickly. Going to slow down and eat just above maintenance for a while instead of stuffing my face.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 07:48 PM
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Do you have a specific plan on how to stop? I don't think cheating is wrong if you're in the right frame. You're a long way off from the right frame. I doubt you'll be able to stop without some professional help. The rush of new women is just too much fun to stop on your own. You need to figure out what traumas you've experienced in your life and why they make you seek validation from bitches. Cuz that's all they are-- bitches who don't add value to your life. PM me, I may know some therapists i…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 06:10 PM
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Owning: Career-- after hitting a couple major milestones the gains will be slower for the next few years. I'm positioning myself to be an expert in my ultra specialized niche. It'll pay less, but I enjoy the mental stimulation. I finished data collection on my study. Next week I'll take it to a national meeting and get ideas from other experts on how best to publish it. Lifting-- 5'9, 172. <15% body fat. Up 22 lbs from June when I found MRP. Lifts have been increasing every week. 190 squat, 210 …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 05:46 PM
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This is the best advice I've seen. New moms get so much guilt about always being there for The baby. You gotta rip that kid away, take them all to the park and not let your wife come. She'll probably protest, but after a while she'll enjoy the free time and probably get a lady boner for her DILF. Plus you can flirt with soccer moms at the park as you do pull ups on the swing set. IDK, it's just a suggestion. New moms are psychopaths so there's no one solution to dealing with them.
/r/askMRP11/10/16 02:08 PM
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I'd take what you're given and be happy about it or else look for someone else. Unless they're so big they give her back pain just enjoy the ride man
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 04:33 AM
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I thought this was a forum for straight men, but I suppose we can be all-inclusive this time
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/16 04:28 AM
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I think you can come out stronger as a couple on the other end. But she has to be fully committed from here on out. Otherwise, you're not only dealing with a shitty wife, but a shitty wife who doesn't want to give her all. Most guys here just have to deal with a sexless harpy. If she adds value in your life other than fidelity, it might mean that it's worth sticking it out. I like to think of it like this-- if my wife is giving me great sex, is fun to be around, and adds a lot of value to my lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 09:55 PM
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I agree with what most guys are saying here. Sex shut down when my wife was breastfeeding. Blue pill me went out and banged another chick. But I was totally in the wrong frame. I'd make sure if you go that route, develop an ironclad frame in the (almost certain) eventuality that you get caught. Otherwise, by all means go out and have fun alone. Also, take the other two kids out and have a fun time. Leave her at home with the shit monster. Hopefully the other kids will be raving about all the fun…
/r/askMRP07/10/16 09:47 PM
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Do you mean deprived or depraved? Totally changes context. Either way, shit eating grin will get you out of it
/r/askMRP07/10/16 02:32 PM
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You're right-- it doesn't do any good to blame. But it was by far the biggest factor into pushing me into a marriage that I didn't want.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/16 01:38 AM
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You can blame your church for not willing to let people truly be themselves and embracing their destiny.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 09:10 PM
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I agree. Leaving religion was the best thing I ever did. Religion is the main reason my marriage was fucked up. But I understand the feeling behind not wanting to divorce your wife because of religion. But I don't think you can ever really embrace MRP if you're not willing to question everything--even your faith. It's the ultimate blue pill fantasy
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 09:09 PM
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I think it's somewhere in between a come to Jesus talk and talking about feels. Sometimes women need a little overt communication delivered in a way that doesn't make them defensive. We know women don't care about your feelings for more than about 30 seconds after you express them. Especially if they're already feeling defensive. But they respond well to routine and expectations. Now, they can't be spelled out like a chore list (fuck me 3x per week, dinner on the table, etc) or else resentment g…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 10:55 PM
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I get the religious responsibility. I'm not sure you'll get much of it if her unless she thinks it's a possibility that she could lose you. She's got no incentive to make herself a better person because she does jack shit and she gets a guy who provides and works out
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 08:00 PM
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Even if he's Quasimodo he'I'll get a lot of mileage from amused mastery. Give her lots of hugs, let her know it's ok to be upset. STFU about most things. Nod. Reassure her that her feelings are valid. STFU again. Shit eating grin. Hug. Go lift or work in the yard. OP has to keep interactions brief and upbeat, but also show 'concern.' Too much talking and they'll revert to old patterns of conflict resolution that have left them on the brink of divorce.
/r/askMRP04/10/16 07:20 PM
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I think a lot of us get caught up in the 'removing time and attention' part of behavior modification. That works well, but it can't be the only part of the strategy. We think 'she's being a bitch so I'm going to go away for a week. That'll show her!' It's the equivalent of wives giving us the silent treatment. Removing our attention when they're mad at us is actually a blessing for them. Let's face it-- most of us aren't so awesome that being in the same room inspires awe and adulation. In order…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 07:08 PM
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I looked through your post history. Is your wife still fat and lazy? Bitchy behavior is one thing. But bitchy, fat, lazy, and doesn't put out? What value does she add to your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 05:15 PM
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He's so fixated on her mistakes that he doesn't have a shot of self improvement. Sure, he could drop her but that won't fix his problems. All he'll wind up with is alimony and child support. And he'll still be in her frame. And he'll continue to blame her for this mess
/r/askMRP03/10/16 07:42 PM
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Maybe not postpartum. But does she seem sad around the house or just in general? If she's moping at home, but pleasant to everyone else she's probably unhappy with her home life. Sounds like she has hobbies and she wants to get you involved. Are you energizing and exciting or are you boring and draining? You were probably exciting for a year at least. Did you stop bringing the fun? That's where it could be your part. Swallowing the pill isn't some magic one-time event. And the truths in red pill…
/r/askMRP03/10/16 12:19 AM
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I'm guessing she's depressed too. Could be postpartum, could be something chronic. Could be that she got knocked up by a fatty within a year of knowing him. OP, your marriage depends on you becoming attractive and bringing the tingles to her.
/r/askMRP02/10/16 11:06 PM
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Hahaha! I can't stop laughing at the thought of you rubbing your dick all over her while she fingers her phone. I'd probably go limp. I think jerking off once in a while is better than what you're doing. I'd keep it to a couple times per week so you still have juice to screw your wife.
/r/askMRP30/09/16 02:00 AM
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This is awesome! Thanks for all the detail. I've been seeing noob gains on strong lifts. Very satisfying, especially since I started out skinny and toned. After I plateau I'll re-read this and probably do your progression.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 10:11 PM
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I know a few couples in open relationships. It works if you have tons of game and aren't jealous. Just know she'll get way more action than you. Pussy is at a premium. Dick is in high supply
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/16 04:11 AM
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I'm with you. Who cares how she spends her time? I kinda feel sorry for the poor dude-- such low self-esteem
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 06:33 PM
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Did you ever cheat on her before you found out she was sexting? It must have been hell seeing gains in your SMV while she was still lazy and fat. It's interesting that women crave "feeling" wanted and desired. When I was in my philandering days, neglected wives were like fish in a barrel. And most of them had decent husbands that provided for them. They hamstered all sorts of reasons why they didn't "feel" wanted. Also, I don't think the courts will care if she's sending tit pics to dudes when i…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 06:27 PM
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What confirmed it? The 4 novels, including references, that she's written on this thread? Definitely not a dude
/r/askMRP26/09/16 03:48 PM
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I had this same problem starting out. I truly didn't care about my harpy, shit-testing bitch of a wife. I posted a victim puke about it. One guy pointed out that I was treating her like a plate, not the mother of my child. I realized that no matter how she was treating me, I needed to be the bigger person and lead her. Not respond to her. So I did what u/druganswer suggests and played my nice card every day. And I stopped worrying about passing every shit test. And I slowed down. Did I still wan…
/r/askMRP26/09/16 12:32 PM
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Well, what value do you add to her life besides a paycheck? You probably are uptight. She hangs out with fun people all night then comes home to you and your reading and shopwork. If you're not exciting, she's going to get excitement elsewhere and I don't blame her.
/r/askMRP25/09/16 05:46 AM
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If you're truly staying away from gluten and lactose, you shouldn't have such GI distress. There's no reason you can't bulk with meat, fish, vegetables and fruit. Maybe you're eating too much fiber? You might benefit from seeing a gastroenterologist, confirming your diagnoses, and then sitting down with a nutritionist and coming up with a personalized plan for your autoimmune diseases. Good luck
/r/askMRP23/09/16 03:02 PM
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His right arm is going to get huge after this ;)
/r/askMRP15/09/16 08:15 AM
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Awesome FR bro. Sounds like you're having fun with the LTR. I remember the days before responsibilities....
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/16 07:50 PM
1

You need to add more context. What exactly were your comments and why isn't she happy? Women's moods change with the winds. Let her talk and vent. Smile, be upbeat and kiss her on the forehead
/r/askMRP04/09/16 07:39 PM
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I think there's nothing wrong with adopting rather than going through pregnancy. Women turn batshit crazy for a year. The world is overpopulated enough and it would be nice to give some kid a chance that he wouldn't have other wise. That said, my wife bounced back nice and the OB sewed her up tighter than she was before the baby. It also matters how old the woman is. She's in her 20s and really watches what she eats
/r/askMRP04/09/16 07:31 PM
1

She needs to quit smoking, no doubt. That's not even debatable. But don't use this as an opportunity to bludgeon her into good behavior. Make sure you're doing this for the right reasons-- her health, family's health, not wanting to make out with a tracheostomy-- and not because she treated you shitty for years. I may be wrong, but you're giving off the vibe of "finally I have something to hold over her bitchy head."
/r/askMRP03/09/16 03:43 PM
2

Make sure you record it. I'd pay to watch
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/16 12:06 AM
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Maybe the reason she hid it is because you came down on her like her dad would. Shaming people only makes them hide it better. If you set it as a hard boundary, it'll drive it underground unless you can be nonjudgmental about it. Still, it's your boundary and if you want to nuke it you have every right to bail. Also, why is it a deal breaker to you? It's her lungs. Is she doing it in front of the kids? Is her behavior somehow infringing on your way of life? Or do you just want to control her beh…
/r/askMRP03/09/16 12:01 AM
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Women would whither in the wilderness. They would not branch out and conquer. In the absence of men, they could not work well together or form lasting bonds
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/16 03:25 PM
1

My lack of respect for a woman stems from the fact that I've never met one who is genuinely fun in the outdoors. One who can laugh in the face of physical hardship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/16 03:21 PM
2

I agree it's easier for us skinny guys. I went from 5'9" 150 to 170 in the two months I've been on MRP. I stopped running so damn much, started strong lifts, and I eat an extra meal on days I lift. Now I plan on only gaining .5 pounds per week till I'm 175-180 then cut to 170. My abs still show now and my wife frequently comments that I'm more attractive than her. A couple v-neck shirts, nice jeans, and a hair cut topped it off. The trick now will be to not get complacent and lazy
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 09:17 PM
2

Funny, when I was going to the mormon church (and uber blue pill) I used to be disgusted at the "patriarchy". I thought it was so unfair to women. I mean, the mormon temple ceremonies make a woman vow to harken to her husband's counsel. And only men can be ordained to the leadership. Now I realize they're trying to hold onto the old order. I lost my faith for many other reasons-- but maybe there's a reason mormons have so many kids....
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 08:03 PM
1

If he doesn't have evidence she'll flip it on him and he'll likely end up with no kids (the fact she makes more is a bonus for him). Worst case is he'll end up in jail. I'd hide the scissors and get evidence first
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 07:48 PM
3

The other guys have given you great advice. She sounds like a psychopath. But you also sound like you're leaving out a lot of shit that you've done to her. Yes, you need to leave her. But you have to be 100% calm in all interactions. No yelling-- ever. Do not give her a reason to call the cops. And keep a little tape recorder on you at all times to counter any accusations she makes against you. When she calls the police, you need evidence to protect yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 05:50 PM
1

Dude, it's rough when you quit jerking off and you don't get it elsewhere. What do you mean by action dates? And do you have guy friends that you hang out with?
/r/askMRP31/08/16 02:09 AM
2

I was in your shoes a while ago. Fucking random women and couldn't get my dick hard for my wife. A friend of mine was doing the same thing, couldn't fuck his wife without viagra. I got professional help to figure out why I was acting out. It might do you good. My life has never been better since integrating MRP theory with what I learned in therapy. PM me if you want more info. The problem isn't your wife. The problem is your sex addiction
/r/askMRP31/08/16 02:00 AM
2

I'm in a similar situation, different problem. I want to live in a more rural area. My wife likes the city. Moving to a rural area would mean divorce. Maybe some day I'll be red pill enough to lead my wife to the country. For now, I enjoy the trappings of city life and unlimited access to my kid. It's not worth the cost of divorce and, really, the city can be a lot of fun. I asked myself "is this the hill I'm willing to die on?" Apparently your wife is tough enough to stake a hard boundary on th…
/r/askMRP31/08/16 01:54 AM
2

I don't think that she means communication in the dictionary sense. She probably means communication as in "I try to communicate my feelings and he doesn't validate my feelings. He's a bad communicator"
/r/askMRP30/08/16 11:01 PM
2

That's awesome dude! You are a role model to aspire toward. Does your trailer have a tampon dispenser as well?
/r/askMRP30/08/16 04:19 PM
1

If it's a comfort test, give her some comfort. Hug her and tell her she's the woman in your life. Sounds like she's still in junior high. Here's what I would do: make sure you're in charge of birth control. Do whatever fun hobbies you have whenever you want to. If you want to go to a nice dinner, invite her along and tell her to wear a nice dress. The next week, do your own hobbies without her. Saturday night, take her to a nice restaurant and make her wear a nice dress. Fuck her. Repeat the nex…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 04:17 PM
1

I mean, if you're a masochist go ahead. I'd take the ultimatum shit and let her walk. A wife who is berating you into having a kid isn't TRP on hard mode. It's impossible mode for at least 3 years. And then, if you have a kid with her before you figure your life out and she bails, you're stuck with the impossible situation the rest of your life. So please don't impregnate her until your life is on track
/r/askMRP30/08/16 04:09 PM
1

OP, u/anythinginc has some great advice here. Yes, you are the cause of your problems. And you can work on yourself, lift, sidebar, OI, abundance and all that stuff. But at a certain point you have to be willing to walk away. Unless you're not telling us something, it sounds like your girl came into the relationship with one foot out the door. You won't grow as a person if you walk out or she walks out. She can be a great sparring partner, but only if you realize that the relationship is dead. T…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 12:09 AM
1

I have one of those girls. Using humor can be effective. You just have to use it in small amounts, don't overdo it, and realize when enough is enough. Chuckle and walk away when she gets pissed
/r/askMRP29/08/16 11:56 PM
1

Why would you give them an ultimatum about camping? They obviously didn't have a good time. An ultimatum is going to sound like a relief to them. If you want to go camping-- not pussy trailer grandma camping-- go for a few days with your buddies (I'm being generous and assuming you have friends). Don't tell them how to act. Show them that they can have a good time with you and they'll want to spend time with you.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 09:00 PM
2

Man, I get the anger. Yesterday on a road trip with my wife, I was so fed up with my wife's bitching that I pulled over in the middle of the fucking forest and took a walk for 15 minutes. All sorts of thoughts went through my head-- including stranding her there 300 miles from home. "That'll show her she can't act like a bitch and get away with it". But you know what that walk did? I had time to collect my thoughts and think about all the things that I could do better. And instead of anger, I be…
/r/askMRP29/08/16 06:30 PM
1

Your wife is awesome. Is she seeing anyone?
/r/askMRP29/08/16 06:12 PM
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You can't convey the appropriate AA or AM via text. If she texts you logistics, reply appropriately. If she texts feelings just say "ok, we can talk about it later." If she texts crazy "ok" or "sure" or no response is good enough. You're in a pretty deep hole so you might be better served by reading more, playing with your kids, and working on yourself. This woman is obviously done with your shit.
/r/askMRP29/08/16 04:24 PM
4

5'6", 188. It's not going to kill her or the baby. They'll be fine. It's a little more weight than she should put on, but it's not medical intervention time. I'll echo what others have said. Take over the meal planning. Don't focus on the fact that she's a cow because, frankly, that doesn't do anybody any good. Chill out man. I get it-- you don't want to be married to a fatty. Nobody does. It's a huge validation issue. If your wife balloons, it somehow destroys your ego. This is one of those thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/16 03:48 PM
1

I think you are starting to do some of the right things. Everybody starts from a different place. I think you don't have a lot of emotional awareness. You react to what other people are doing, rather than having a plan, being mindful, and being able to do what you want regardless of the manipulation of other people. Keep reading WISING. Internalize the concepts. Also, realize you don't have to be in this relationship. Remember, the one who cares the least has the most power. The fact that she sh…
/r/askMRP27/08/16 12:19 AM
1

That was a great response. She didn't respect the time you had available. You're not going to wait for her. Next time she might respect your time. Either way, if you're doing something you enjoy you'll be too busy to care how she reacts
/r/askMRP27/08/16 12:13 AM
2

Don't tell her you know she's playing games. Just laugh at her games, tease her a little, and don't take it too seriously. She likes playing them because she knows it gets under your skin.
/r/askMRP27/08/16 12:07 AM
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Dude, I kind of envy your problem. Your wife made the decision easy for you. Next her, move to a cheaper town, get a better job. I was sort of in your shoes 3 years ago. My wife cried every day that she wanted a kid. I wanted one, but not at that time (both working 80 hours per week, mom just died, still figuring myself out). Every time I put on a condom she would freak out because she had baby rabies. I should have walked out, worked out my issues, and then worked things out with her. Instead, …
/r/askMRP26/08/16 09:42 PM
1

I get comments like that from time to time from my friends. Last weekend, I took my wife's car on a road trip with my buddies because it's more fun to drive over long distances than my truck. They joked about what I had to do to get permission from my wife to drive her car. And I can't blame them! For years I literally asked my wife permission to do anything.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 09:03 PM
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I got over my fear of commitment by actually committing to something and putting all my effort into it. You can't half-ass anything and expect amazing results. You have to use your whole ass. Marriage requires a ton of work all the time. You constantly have to be improving yourself. I'm probably more naturally geared toward MGTOW. Really, I'd be cool living in a cabin with my dog and maybe having a girlfriend once in a while if it fit into my lifestyle. So if you think you're wired that way I'd …
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:59 PM
1

Don't be a co-dependent asshole. Not owning her emotions will fix 75% of your problems with your wife. Don't check out and don't ignore her. Just realize that her moods will pass whether you're there or not. You're not that special
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:48 PM
1

The only thing looser around here is your anus
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:32 PM
4

The gay agenda is to ensure sh0ckley doesn't get laid
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:24 PM
1

Go before work. Shit man, she even told you to go earlier. Who cares what she thinks?
/r/askMRP26/08/16 08:16 PM
4

This is a great point. Never complain about anything. This week things had been going well with my wife. She'd been pleasant and horny. Good times had by all. So what do I do? I start getting complacent and let my BP tendencies show. I was tired, so I complained about being tired. Work was stressful, so I complained about work, thinking I might get a little sympathy. Dude, that pussy dried right up and she got super bitchy. Never complain to your wife
/r/askMRP25/08/16 07:37 PM
1

My brother and I make the same money. I went the uncreative path by going to school and getting into a lucrative job. He was creative, found a sales niche, and now own his own business. I've got tons of student debt, he has none. He got where he is by developing relationships with people and gaining their trust. I stuck my nose in a book. Years later, I'm happy where I am. I have an interesting job and it's very rewarding. But school isn't the only way to make a buck
/r/askMRP25/08/16 05:26 PM
2

Make sure you're taking care of your shit at home-- keeping a clean house, yard is in check, etc. It's one thing if it's a shit test because she's insecure about the new you. AA, STFU, AM and all that. It's another if she's mad because you neglect the house and spend a bunch of time working out. Also, she says she wants 'quantity' time with you. What she really wants is 'quality' time. Make sure you're fun and energizing to her. If all you spend is 30 minutes a day with her, but those 30 minutes…
/r/askMRP25/08/16 02:43 PM
1

Sounds like she's making decisions for the both of you by not looking for a better job or at least something closer. That's fucking selfish of her to make you sit 3 hours in a car each day. One thing I've done before is drive my car most of the way and then run or bike for the last few miles. You can optimize time by combining exercise with your commute. Also, if you can find a gym close to work, get up a half hour earlier and knock out a few sets. SL 5X5 can be done in a half hour if you're eff…
/r/askMRP25/08/16 02:58 AM
2

I've been helping a few guys quit porn. You need to quit not because it's evil or immoral or your wife doesn't like it. You need to quit because it will improve your life and be the starting point of making yourself a sex god. PM me if you want help
/r/askMRP24/08/16 12:36 AM
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My guess is she pity fucked you because you think Kristen Stewart is hot.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 12:24 AM
1

I was a legit N=0 when I got married. Fundamental religion will mess you up. Seriously, I had girls strip and beg me to fuck them, but I turned them down. I resented my wife and fucked around with a married girl whose n=1, she resented her husband big time (he was a fat slob so I don't blame her). I sexted some other girls whose n=1. I'd talk with her about it. Ask her if she wants to explore what's out there. This might be a time to do some actual communication. But first, make sure you're doin…
/r/askMRP23/08/16 09:43 PM
1

I think there's a big part of her that wonders what she could have done had she not settled down so early. I know that's how it was for me and lots of girls I know who married at 20 or 21. If your N=1 the drive to experience other people is out of this world strong. Even if you're gaming her and providing a lot of value, she's going to daydream about strange dick. And chunky body or not, she knows there's plenty of guys out there who would stick it to her. It might be worth talking to her about …
/r/askMRP23/08/16 07:45 PM
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This was the biggest realization for me on my red pill journey. It's not even a red pill concept. Any marriage counselor will tell you not to own your wife's emotions. But for some reason (fear probably) I could not let my wife have a negative emotion. Now I use Amused Mastery whenever she's in her emotional tornado. And my life is immeasurably better.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 04:31 PM
2

My wife has seen me reading NMMNG and WISNIFG. I invited her to read them, but she wasn't interested. But telling her about the other stuff would just complicate things. I get it, you want to be transparent with her because she's your soulmate or whatever. But transparency has never worked in the history of mankind.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 09:03 PM
3

Why is that your worst fear? Rising interest rates should generate more fear
/r/askMRP19/08/16 08:58 PM
1

Let her go. Enjoy the time alone. That's the greatest gift she could give you. Dude, you are so emotionally wrapped up in this woman it's sick. She might cheat on you. All women are capable of it. And so what if she does? Does it make you any less of a man? Is your entire self-worth dependent on whether there is another dick inside your wife? There's been dicks in it before. Shit, I'd welcome my wife cheating on me. It would make any exclusivity I have with her null and void. I'd finally bang th…
/r/askMRP19/08/16 05:07 PM
1

If you give her an ultimatum right now she won't respect it. First, have you read WISING? If you have, re-read it because you obviously haven't internalized the concepts. It's ok to set boundaries. This is one I've done with my wife: "If you are yelling, name-calling, or otherwise vile in a discussion, I will walk away for a period of time and we will try again." You do this when things are calm and not in the heat of the moment. The key is you have to stick to it. She has learned that the only …
/r/askMRP19/08/16 04:49 PM
4

When I told my wife that my brother fucks his wife maybe once every 2 months she said, "He needs to stop being so emotionally available to her." It boggles my mind that women intuitively understand this stuff, but think it only applies to other women
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 03:11 PM
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You did a great job of walking away and telling her when you would be available to talk. That showed her that she was being bitchy, yet not tuning her out completely. Any hamstering that she does over the next 7 hours is completely on her. I would go radio silence until 1pm. It's the nicest thing you can do for her because you've been an asshole that's tried to fix every one of her problems in the past. She has to learn to regulate her emotions. And the part about telling her you're done with th…
/r/askMRP19/08/16 02:46 PM
1

If you're getting defensive to random dudes on the internet, no wonder your wife doesn't love you
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 02:40 PM
1

Sounds like you need to work on your day game with her. I used to just rub it out in the afternoon to relieve some stress. But that worked for like, 30 seconds and then I went back to being stressed out. Now I don't fap, and if i'm really horny I work on gaming my wife. It's more fun than going blind
/r/askMRP19/08/16 02:37 PM
1

I've always been pretty goofy around my wife. One thing I've been working on stopping is self-deprecating humor. To me, that's totally beta stuff that I do to cover up for insecurities. I think my wife even told me years ago "Stop making fun of yourself. It's not attractive."
/r/askMRP19/08/16 12:07 PM
1

It's cool you're standing up for yourself finally. It'll take her a while do get used to a guy who has hobbies and isn't her emotional tampon. She's late 30s right? She may never get used to the idea that you're a man with a life that doesn't always involve her. Also, make sure you do some fun stuff around her. Show her that your time is valuable and if she's pleasant, be awesome around her. Make sure you're someone she (and everyone) wants to be around
/r/askMRP18/08/16 10:11 PM
2

Shit man, if you've got your shit together give us advice
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 10:06 PM
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This sounds like a huge shitty comfort test. And the fact that she cheated and now she's paranoid at you cheating (with your cousins? How is West Virginia these days?) probably makes it hard to provide her any comfort. So she's a cheating, cunty, psychopath and you're ass-deep in her frame. You need to get your house in order and document all the time you spend with the kids. Make sure you're owning your shit. Man, I can forgive cheating but I can't forgive cunty behavior. It just seems so much …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 10:03 PM
2

That was my issue with my wife. It's a deep hole to dig out of seeking validation from your wife
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 09:55 PM
2

The problem is you do what you want when you want. It dries your wife up. She probably seems like a cool chick on the outside, but she's sitting here with three kids and you're off doing whatever the fuck you please. "If she'd only fuck me my life would be perfect!" Sorry, you can't have it both ways. You either have to take care of shit around the house-- that means giving up some of your carefree attitude to tend the kids-- or settle with no sex. Your wife wants a man who gets shit done. Who h…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 09:37 PM
2

If you want help kicking the sex and porn, you can PM me. I have a program that's been beneficial. Plus, you need someone you can be accountable to
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 08:09 PM
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Probably because you suck at flirting. You're too overt. Your wife knows it and she thinks it's a weak tactic, which it is. Work on your social skills until girls flirt with you. I'm pretty introverted, but when I clean up, act confident, and joke around with people girls will naturally flirt with me. It's not my intent most of the time, it's a nice byproduct.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 05:47 PM
2

I think you handled the situations well. In time, you'll be able to have an assertive conversation with your wife. You've probably been passive aggressive assholes for so long that it'll take a few months to learn how to talk like adults. As far as the phone goes, just let her see it-- unless you're afraid she'll find your gay midget porn. You don't win any points by making it look like you have something to hide
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 05:42 PM
1

It sounds like you're boring. You lift, work, and hang out at home. Do you plan fun activities and then invite your wife along? Do you even know how to do fun activities? For now, I'd work on cultivating male friendships and then worry about your wife and kids. This is straight up NMMNG stuff. You're probably introverted, don't make friends easily, and rely on your wife for validation. That's not uncommon. Like others have said, join a group that forces you to interact with people. For me, it's …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 05:31 PM
1

Sometimes it's nice to bust out the slow, sensual stuff that lasts an hour. Want to make her shake and shiver? Dominate her mind while you fuck her. She'll be putty in your arms for the next day
/r/askMRP17/08/16 05:14 PM
3

I read your submissions over the past year. Looks like you were pressured into marriage because of religious beliefs. Man, I feel for you more than you know. My wife can be a genuinely awesome person that people are drawn to. The fact that she's shitty to me is something I have to work on. If I were in your shoes, I would bolt before you knock her up and then you'll really be fucked. I don't know if it's a religious guilt thing or not, but you've been at this for a year and you still hate your w…
/r/askMRP17/08/16 03:36 AM
1

I love how when you took her phone and car away she went out and bought a new phone and new car. I'd love to be the salesman. Him: "What kind of car would you like to look at?" Her: "I don't care. Just make sure the plates say MRSCUCK"
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 10:13 PM
2

When I was dating my wife I hardly spent any time with her. I was unattainable and I had her eating out of the palm of my hand. One time, she complained about wanting to spend more time with me. I literally told her "Tough shit. I told you when we started dating that I'd be recreating more than I'd be with you. If you want to come along, great. But you have to keep up." I was a dick and she couldn't get enough. Then we had a kid and I descended into betadom. Do what makes you happy. Don't marry …
/r/askMRP16/08/16 06:51 PM
1

I've never understood guys who spy on their wives. To me, it's little beta bitch behavior. Yeah, if you're planning on divorcing her anyway, it's good to gather evidence. But really, if she's cheating on you she's still likely to get the house and the kids anyway. What good does it do to stalk her Facebook and email? You should be out living your life, lifting, gaming other women. Why do you want to let your little hamster run wild? You might say that you'll leave your wife if she cheats. Bullsh…
/r/askMRP16/08/16 06:40 PM
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That's a huge realization to have. Fucking other women may be fun and exciting, but it's not going to make you happier if you're doing it for validation. Sounds like you have it figured out.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 12:59 AM
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You have no frame. No sense of self. Seriously, she gets mad and you run away. That's not frame, that just withdrawing from the relationship. And you stalked her social media account like an insecure bitch. Her looking for another guy was a huge shitty comfort test. She's crying out because she doesn't know another way to feel good about herself. Remember all those years that you tied your sense of worth with her emotions? Well she does the same. You are codependent assholes. My wife and I are t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 10:19 PM
1

Maybe after a while he'll have the frame to be a benevolent leader. I'm not saying he has to walk around in her frame, seek validation from her, or even care what she thinks. But it will help his cause if he ACTS like he cares. He might be surprised that she has some good ideas. Right now, his wife doesn't give a shit about him. He hasn't proven to her that he's valuable. And he's liable to blow the whole thing up if he doesn't throw her a bone now and again. She'll rebel and get even shittier u…
/r/askMRP15/08/16 10:01 PM
2

Do you think it's easier because she's acting better, or that you just don't care as much as you used to?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 09:53 PM
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It sounds like she doesn't value you. And then you go around acting all butthurt all weekend (I know you say you DNGAF, but you really do and I'm sure it shows). So instead of being an awesome alpha that she's drawn to, you're acting like a butthurt retard. See, she's probably been bitch for many years. And it feels good to be mad at her. You need to show her that you value her. That you have value to her. And that you want to work with her. Don't shut her out of your life. Yes, reward good beha…
/r/askMRP15/08/16 03:04 AM
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I have a couple female friends at work who have done scenario 2. Their husbands weren't adding value to their lives and they bailed. In one case I know the husband was never home and had a shitty entry-level job. Both have kids both are post-wall. They're successful women and were the primary breadwinners. They aren't becoming cat women, but aren't planning on getting married again. In fact, both are successfully riding the CC again. It's rather redpill-esque in their treatment of men. They won'…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 11:49 PM
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Don't talk to cops without a lawyer. Don't talk to your ex-wife. Don't even talk to your daughter right now. Find a trusted friend you can go to. And find a very, very good lawyer. You are not a nice guy any longer. You are fighting for your life. Your wife and your daughter are not your friends. Have zero contact with them.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/16 02:29 AM
2

OP, if you want to quit fapping and looking at porn I can help you. I went through 'sex addiction' therapy for a year. Sex with your wife won't be satisfying until you stop the porn. PM me if you want help
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 02:18 AM
1

Owning: -- Lifting: after my surgery I couldn't lift for a week. Got back into the gym, had to de-load a little so my nose wouldn't bleed, but feeling good again. It's amazing how good lifting makes you feel about yourself. Better self-image than I ever got from running an ironman. -- Work: rocked the boards. It's nice to have that load off my back. Been working on some research projects and I got back on track with those. -- Home: My nanny was being a cunt so I fired her. I found alternate chil…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 08:53 PM
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I got married mostly to have sex. Biggest mistake of my life
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 08:39 PM
1

She can try, but my money is that if she forces him he'll just retrench and shut her out
/r/askMRP12/08/16 06:11 PM
1

I've see that some people have a mental block about getting treatment for terminal illnesses. They feel helpless, or scared about doing what they need to do. They get depressed and hopeless. Some people never get the treatment they need and it's very hard on families. You can help show him that it's not hopeless. That you love him and want him in your family's life. Sometimes, a trusted friend can have a talk with him and it may make more sense to him than from his wife. But at the end of the da…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 05:51 PM
1

I sense a lack of self-confidence in your posts. I feel for you, because it can be hard to be unsure about yourself and then have to put up with a wife that yells at you. And maybe she's contributed to the lack of confidence. It's a vicious cycle. When you can honestly look in the mirror and realize that you are legitimately awesome, she'll lose all power. AM and AA with be natural. Now, this sense of confidence doesn't happen because you do awesome things. Or you make lots of money. Or you're s…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 05:27 PM
1

The decrease in yelling was a huge milestone for me. Some people start lower than others
/r/askMRP12/08/16 05:21 PM
1

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be with an older woman. It just complicates and inverts the power dynamic in a lot of cases. Women will naturally want to assume a nurturing role and it can come across as mothering. You can learn how to be an alpha. And she'll probably respond positively if she's a high value woman. No need to ditch her for a college girl if she adds value to your life. However, you have a serious case of oneitis. Acknowledge it, accept it. Don't be blinded by it. There is …
/r/askMRP12/08/16 04:52 PM
1

Yes, intent is what matters. If you're doling out punishment, you've given that person too much power over you. You can't control how they interpret your actions. Feelz before realz. You become the prize and condition your wife to want to be pleasant around the prize.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 04:43 PM
1

You don't have to like it. You could tell her you don't like it. And tell her you don't like her friend. Unless she respects you, she won't care what you think. Improve her image of you and you'll get her respect. Be an oak
/r/askMRP12/08/16 04:40 PM
1

Any boundaries he sets at this point will be laughed off. If he's not ready to pull the plug on the marriage, she'll continue to disrespect him
/r/askMRP12/08/16 04:35 PM
2

I like to pretend that my wife will run off with one of her orbiters. Makes it easy to NGAF. It would give me a reason to bag the college chicks at work
/r/askMRP12/08/16 03:36 AM
3

I'd just start lifting. No sense working out too much. You won't get big muscles if you try to lift in addition to all the other stuff you do. I tried for years and at least for me it's not possible to be a great runner and also look big
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 03:11 AM
1

You are a lesbian. No, sorry, that was an insult to lesbians. Have you heard of those people who will pay to be cuddled? They pay people over to their homes to cuddle and not do anything else. You're a fucking eunuch. No wonder she doesn't want to have sex with you. Stop cuddling now! Also, you mentioned you're about 160 and cut? I'm 160 and cut. I run (ran?) ultramarathons and rock climb. My wife never complimented my body. I started squatting and lifting big when I found MRP and she gets wet. …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 08:51 PM
1

If she's thin and halfway attractive, guys will be lining up down the block
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 08:43 PM
-1

I've only been at this for a couple months. At first, I couldn't see any value to my wife. All I saw was a shitty harpy. After I stopped swimming in her frame, I could see she had the potential to be a very high quality wife (I asked her to marry me for a reason). This happened after about a month and a half. Now, she's pleasant company most of the time. Does she cook me dinner and blow me afterward? Never. Is she fun and exciting? Not most of the time. But why would I deserve that? I've only be…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 08:34 PM
2

Earlier in my marriage, before being completely blue pill, I had some alpha traits. I'd make plans without my wife, go have fun with my buddies, and only tell her about it afterward. I'd get home and she'd be fuming. We'd get in a big fight. I had better frame and she'd usually apologize after each fight. And then the next week I'd do a bunch of selfish crap because I wanted to. I did not give much of a fuck about my marriage. And I could do this because I knew my wife wouldn't leave me (or at l…
/r/askMRP11/08/16 08:21 PM
1

If your intent is to punish your wife, you're doing it wrong. Negative reinforcement-- or removing the pleasant experience of your time, attention, or commitment-- shouldn't be as a result of being butthurt or angry, or some other negative emotion toward your wife. That's a form of weakness. Think of it this way: if your wife is being shitty, don't get mad at her and "punish" her. Women will be shitty at times. So will men. Accept that people will always be shitty at some point, especially our w…
/r/askMRP11/08/16 08:06 PM
3

If her pussy really is broken, as he says, wouldn't an open relationship be a better option? He'll get some mediocre ass and she theoretically wouldn't get any sex. And OP can maintain his integrity by not sneaking around behind his wife's back. Plus, the logistics of an open relationship would be way easier than trying to hide it. Right now, OP doesn't have the frame to either cheat or have an open relationship. If he gets caught he'll either DEER the fuck out of any frame he's developed or go …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 08:31 PM
2

What's science ever done for us?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 09:31 PM
1

Ask yourself why you get so worked up about it? Are you insecure about yourself and seeking validation from your wife? Become the man that she wants to fuck after she flirts with other guys.
/r/askMRP09/08/16 09:28 PM
1

Once you have kids, and unless you can unlink their happiness to your happiness, you can't be MGTOW. There's just no possible way. I'd almost say that MRP is a totally different praxeology than the red pill. Some of the underlying concepts about mating strategies, alpha/beta behavior, and sexual strategy apply, but the whole application is so much harder, so much more nuanced and fulfilling. TRP can turn losers into successful adolescents. MRP turns adolescents into men.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 08:46 PM
1

I'm under 15% BF, fit, attractive, and wealthy. Ugly girls flirt with me and my wife thinks it's cute. It doesn't induce tingles. Get big
/r/askMRP09/08/16 04:27 PM
1

In my case, AA doesn't work very well unless I'm honestly making a joke out of it. Amused mastery gets me further because it's more natural to me. I act like whatever bullshit she says is generally amusing. Because, let's face it, if she said it to a stranger on the street he'd have to laugh it off. Lot's of times I don't even say anything. Just smile and go do something I'd rather do.
/r/askMRP07/08/16 09:23 PM
1

As a couple others have said, you're worrying about a hypothetical. And if she did cheat, why would it cause such distress in you? Do you tie your self-worth to your relationship with your wife? You'll still be the same awesome guy no matter what. Will you be disappointed in her behavior? Maybe. Her decisions should not affect your happiness.
/r/askMRP07/08/16 09:14 PM
2

I definitely let the power balance in the relationship swing to her. I'm not assertive by nature and it's one of the things I'm working on in my MAP. She'll take charge if I let her and then she loses respect for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 06:05 PM
3

It's OK to go slow. Keep lifting, eating right, and taking care of things around the house. First, put a stop to the things that you will absolutely NOT tolerate. And remember to still have lots of fun. Be an awesome guy that she wants to be around.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 05:21 AM
1

I agree, it's hard to not seek validation from your wife. She's supposed to be there no matter what, right? Unconditional love and all that bullshit. That's what's hard about this-- nobody loves you unconditionally. Not even your parents. Especially not your wife. She's not your enemy, but she's not necessarily on your side....yet. Trust the process. Have patience. You won't pass every shit test.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 05:07 AM
5

If things need to get done, get them done. When your perceived SMV is higher, your GF will either get on board or not. Luckily for you, you don't have kids with her. I'd make sure she's a good first mate before you knock her up.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 04:49 AM
2

Thanks. I'm actually an anesthesiologist so I'm pretty familiar with the effects. I just didn't know exactly how I'd react, since I'd never gone under the knife. I don't think I was upset with my wife, rather I didn't want to get drawn into a fight I knew I wouldn't win. I'm sure I was acting childish.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 04:44 AM
2

That's a good point. In an ideal world, she should be there for support-- not to second guess her own colleagues. My MRP journey is new. I think I went a little overboard at the beginning by flinging boundaries around and looking weak. I tried to get her out of the waiting room, but she's not a person that takes direction well. I may need to be more explicit ahead of time, since I knew she would react this way: "I want you there for support. You are not the physician in this case." If she starts…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 10:11 PM
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No kids, wife in another town...I'd use the opportunity to spin plates. But maybe that's my validation addiction talking...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 07:36 PM
9

Don't discount u/spexer's advice just because it's not entirely positive. He's been around the block and the same patterns show up in nearly every man. Show some humility and you'll be surprised what you can learn. Don't talk about fight club with your wife. There's nothing to be gained at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 07:10 PM
11

That's a great point. If we acted masculine all the damn time, we could accept our wives' help when we really needed it. It would be a chance for her feminine nature to shine. The problem is we became men-children and complacent and accepted the (s)mothering. The feminine beauty dimmed over time. This isn't their fault. It's our fault for not being men in the first place
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 06:46 PM
8

You're probably stoic by nature. That's a good quality and it shows when you're disinhibited. It's not my nature, so I have to work at it. Good on you for holding your shit together, even under the influence
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 06:42 PM
7

I get white-girl drunk so I figured anesthesia would be the same. I planned ahead.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 05:10 PM
1

There's a lot to be said for good mental hygiene. Take ibuprofen for the caffeine headaches. More sleep, fewer chemicals, eating right. Those all might help. Do you see an endocrinologist? It may be a good idea to get your HPA axis cleaned out as best as possible and not focus on body-image for a while
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 05:03 PM
1

I wish I had the frame of my 2 year old
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 04:27 PM
2

If you're taking that much valium, it may be signs of a larger anxiety issue, something that might benefit from an SNRI. Do you think you suffer from excessive worrying more days than not?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 04:08 PM
1

Brilliant
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 03:55 PM
3

No need to complicate an already difficult process. Nothing to be gained from fooling around when there's hope for your wife
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/16 08:43 PM
1

I rock climb, backcountry ski, and do a bunch of adrenaline junky stuff. I love it, but it doesn't inspire tingles in my wife. But I enjoy it and I like being able to do athletic activities that most people will never get to do in their lives. And I'm excited to get my kid to do it someday.
/r/askMRP01/08/16 08:26 PM
2

Wow. She's got some very bad coping skills. Keep reading the sidebar and really internalize stoicism. Don't argue. Don't argue with her.
/r/askMRP01/08/16 08:21 PM
1

What did she mean by "you made me this way?" Is there any truth to that. Regardless if you leave her or not, it would be good to be introspective to this part.
/r/askMRP01/08/16 12:13 PM
1

Hey! Another Mormon who's trying to undo poor life choices like me
/r/askMRP30/07/16 07:34 PM
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If you want kids, have kids. Make sure you really, really, really want this woman in your life forever. If there's any red flags, think seriously before you have kids. I'd make sure your marriage is a redpill marriage for at least a year until you take the plunge. Make sure you are strong, confident, and OI, because she WILL go crazy when she's pregnant and breastfeeding. After assessing if your wife is willing to be led, and that you've established a good track record of being a leader, then by…
/r/askMRP29/07/16 10:14 PM
4

I'm new here too. One thing I'm learning is you can't start throwing boundaries around without being able to back them up. If she threatens to take the kids to her mom's, the only answer should be "Great". It's ok to go slow. Help her see why she shouldn't be taking on so much. Lead her to a place where she can set her own boundaries on her time. Anticipate the times when people ask her to babysit and plan fun activities BEFORE she says yes. If she says yes before you have a plan for that time, …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/16 08:56 PM
2

Physically attacked me when I was working in the garage, took our kid, and wouldn't tell me where she had gone for a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/16 08:56 PM
6

You have oneitis for her. I think leaving may be the best option. But unless you apply red pill to your life, you'll either double down on the beta and this will happen with another woman or you'll let your wife come crawling back and your life will be miserable. Either way, you need to find happiness from within.
/r/askMRP26/07/16 10:13 PM
1

That's a good thought. Maybe that will happen. And I agree, crazy is something that we breed into our wives. Some are just more prone to it than others. My wife had some huge red flags that I ignored when we were dating. But it doesn't mean she can't approach a somewhat tolerable level of decency if I have my act together
/r/askMRP26/07/16 01:14 AM
1

That's a good question. I like to give my wife the same respect I want from her. I don't like to set up expectations from a place of insecurity- a situation like mate guarding. I don't like to control my wife because she can't be controlled. I guess if she keeps disrespecting big boundaries then she shown she doesn't give a fuck and the consequences would have to be bigger
/r/askMRP25/07/16 07:58 PM
1

How old is the baby? It might be time to sleep train that kid. Nobody will be happy if you're up all night
/r/askMRP25/07/16 07:41 PM
2

One thing I'm learning is it sucks to be a man. My wife is so goddamn efficient at work, but it comes at a price. She's a nervous wreck. Unless I show her that I 100% can handle the house, the finances, the kid, the nanny, my own job that is more time consuming and profitable than hers, AND work out-- she loses it. She's built a reality in her head that should be clean, tidy, neat, well-behaved, and she'll work toward it. But unless I show her how it can be done she falls apart. The thing that r…
/r/askMRP25/07/16 07:21 PM
1

I'm so new into the process that when I set boundaries she flips out. The only boundaries I can enforce are the ones I place on myself and how I spend my time. My goal is to start small with things I absolutely can't tolerate (her threats of divorce for one) and move up to things that normal people SHOULD be doing (not being bitchy if things don't go her way). Some things aren't going to change overnight. I've put up with them for years, so I can bide my time until my SMV is higher, I'm more ass…
/r/askMRP25/07/16 07:13 PM
1

I may be different than a lot of guys. If my wife found a better option than me, good for her. I see enough weak, poor, effeminate fucks that she'd be hard pressed to find someone better. Maybe it's because I have one foot out the door already. But I've never been the jealous type. If she had an affair I'd either divorce her or open the relationship up. No sense staying monogamous if she's not down for it.
/r/askMRP25/07/16 06:28 PM
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Here's my experience with a plate, from when I was fully blue pill. I'd never had sex with anyone beside my wife, I was jerking off to porn and sexting random girls everyday. I avoided my wife and newborn daughter because I hated myself and my life. I finally found a girl that I thought would be discreet. She was married, too, and just a dirty slut that couldn't get enough of my cock. So I thought, here's a girl who has a lot to lose if we get found out. She'll keep her mouth shut and legs open.…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 06:08 PM
21

Amused mastery is amazing. I'm with my wife in the car last night. She picks some bullshit fight. I retreat to STFU because I don't want to make things worse for myself. But in the back of my mind I hear a little RP devil say, "Go for amused mastery". Now, I'm still learning how to use AM without coming across as condescending. So I say, "You know, I like how you have passionate emotions. It's really interesting" I don't acknowledge her argument, because she's not arguing facts. Just emotions. D…
/r/TheRedPill24/07/16 08:04 PM
3

Most days I'd like to take the easy way out and move into my own apartment. I used to think it was because I was OI. Now I think it's because it would be a fucking lazy blue-pill passive aggressive tactic. Would my life be better on my own, without responsibilities in the house? Absolutely, 100%. I'm curious as to why you wanted her back sooner. If my wife took an extended vacation with the kid, I'd be thrilled to live the bachelor life again.
/r/askMRP24/07/16 07:26 PM
1

Looks that way. I'm glad for these pencil dick boys she texts. It gives me 5 minutes of peace
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 11:10 PM
3

Sounds like your ego wants her to beg for it. I get it, I wish my wife would beg once in a while. Usually she starts begging for my dick after about 15 min of kissing/oral/fingering. Maybe learn some sex moves that'll make her beg
/r/askMRP22/07/16 11:01 PM
1

Do you have a hidden camera in my house?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 06:44 PM
3

I'm not a psychiatrist but I have some training in mental illness. I'm interested in a few things: paranoid delusions, family history of schizophrenia, her age (women develop schizophrenia in late 20's/early 30's. Men get it late teens/early 20s) and alcohol abuse. Now, the alcohol abuse could be causing psychotic symptoms. Or she could be bipolar with psychotic symptoms and self-medicating with alcohol. In any case, it sounds like you have bigger problems than your wife not fucking you and you'…
/r/askMRP21/07/16 09:44 PM
1

Learn to flirt with other girls. It'll help with the feeling of rejection
/r/askMRP21/07/16 08:40 PM
8

If she has an untreated ovarian cyst, it could be making her lady parts uncomfortable right now. If she hasn't seen her OB, she should get an ultrasound and get that checked out. Also, hormonal birth control like the Nuva ring can affect a woman's sex drive. That said, if you're attractive enough, she should still want to have sex with you
/r/askMRP21/07/16 02:08 PM
1

You aren't ready to talk to her about her mistakes. You need to get control of yourself first. She will put up walls and get defensive because in her mind, everything is your fault. You have to learn to not let her opinion and moods influence how you feel about yourself
/r/askMRP20/07/16 11:52 PM
1

I like the catch and release idea. In the past, I was afraid of not being able to release.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 08:01 PM
1

Talk with him. Keep it friendly. But don't complain about your wife. You don't want him to think his daughter married a pussy
/r/askMRP20/07/16 05:58 PM
1

Sounds like me a month ago. You know what you need to do. DNGAF and live your awesome life. Don't talk with her dad. It will make you look like a pussy, crying that a girl took her ball and went home. Try to see as much of your daughter as possible. Document the time you spend and what you do with her if you want to be in her life. Consult a lawyer because your wife will likely be unpredictable. Keep a small recorder on you at all times when you're with your wife, so if she accuses you of abuse …
/r/askMRP19/07/16 10:21 PM
2

It's a good thing German terrorists aren't attacking your Christmas party.
/r/askMRP19/07/16 10:07 PM
5

I've thought about this a lot, as I'm facing the prospect of facing my wife in a fierce custody battle. I've done a lot of things to protect myself-- document time with my daughter, work fewer hours so I can be home more, give up fun time with my buddies so I can prove in court that I'm an invested father. Shit, I probably spend more time as a parent than my wife does at this point. But I would still get custody-raped in court. I'm looking at every other weekend tops. And you know what-- I'm exc…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 10:03 PM
2

I think you might realize it, but this is a situation that will not get any better. I know you're hurting. My wife threatens to take my daughter out of my life on a weekly basis. And I get violent thoughts. Those thoughts have turned to suicide. You may need to learn to accept that your daughter may never change. It will be the hardest thing you ever have to do. But you can always hope for a better future and enjoy your awesome life now
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 09:35 PM
1

OWNING --Realizing all my problems in my marriage are my fault. I may have married someone prone to anxiety, but my failed leadership brought out the worst in her -- Lifting. After years of endurance sports, I've been doing strong lifts. Seeing noob gains -- diet. Cutting out candy. Trying to bulk cleanly -- Career. After phoning it in for 13 years and having good success, I'm taking it to the next level and becoming an expert in my field. Setting aside time to do research, have a goal of presen…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 09:11 PM
1

Dude, nice work with the club! That's showing initiative
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 05:17 PM
2

Assuming you aren't a troll, you need to work on yourself before anything will get better. Dumping her isn't necessarily the answer to make yourself happy. Having kids with a wayward wife who will make your life a living hell is a sure way to be miserable
/r/askMRP19/07/16 12:12 AM
4

This is true. You can look at my victim puke on askMRP. Not owning your shit will make her resent you even more.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/16 07:49 PM
2

You misinterpreted what I meant by her getting an ulcer. I don't care about what would happen to her-- other than that if she's stressed out my daughter would suffer. I'm not staying in the marriage for any altruistic feelings toward my wife. I like being with my daughter every day. And I need to work on myself before jumping ship. I'm not going to leave, just to be in another fucking dysfunctional codependent relationship and still have to fight custody battles with an emotional wreck. So you'r…
/r/askMRP18/07/16 06:25 PM
2

Look at most climbers' bodies. Some are ripped. But most are toned but skinny. Climbing only works your upper body and you won't see much improvement on overall size-- which is what increases your SMV-- unless you work your lower body too. I'd say climb and lift. Do the strong lifts program in addition to climbing. You'll be shredded
/r/askMRP18/07/16 05:26 PM
1

Haha! In my field I don't use outpatient prescription pads. Maybe I'll have to buy some just for this purpose. There's going to be a lot of trees wasted....
/r/askMRP18/07/16 05:04 PM
1

Divorce wouldn't carry social/religious repercussions. We left the church a while ago. It would be the custody burdens that would be worse for her than for me. Who knows, maybe if she were on her own she'd get her act together. But realistically the day to day life of a single mom AND doctor would give her an ulcer. Actually, she got an ulcer because of the stress of med school. She's not BPD in the clinical sense. Maybe BPD traits. Definitely has an anxiety disorder. OCD and narcissistic traits…
/r/askMRP18/07/16 05:00 PM
3

I've been reading a bit about stoicism. Don't have much time for extra reading since I'm prepping for my specialty boards. Do you know any good introductory books?
/r/askMRP18/07/16 04:50 PM
1

That's pretty accurate. It's liberating to know I created the harpy. And I retained a lawyer several months ago after her acting out became unpredictable
/r/askMRP18/07/16 04:49 PM
1

She really did hit me hard when she left the first time, from behind while I was working in the garage. Only reason I didn't get a black eye is because I ducked. She was stupid enough to text all her friends about it. This was the moment I realized I'd become Prime Minister of Pussland
/r/askMRP18/07/16 04:47 PM
1

I've been in therapy for the past year. Some of it is blue pill nonsense. But some is pretty helpful in gaining insight into my motivations. If nothing else, it's helped me gain mastery over my compulsions. Haven't masturbated or looked at porn in a year.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 04:43 PM
2

And that's what I wonder sometimes-- maybe she'll never get over the cheating. As much as I'd like to cut her loose, I'm going to do work on me for at least the next year. If she's still here and wants to be a part of it, and wants to be civil, then that's something I can work with.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 12:31 PM
3

The better options thing is tricky. She's an attractive lady. Appears to have it all together to other people. She's got no shortage of beta orbiters who tell her that she's so special and deserves better. She buys into it and tells me that she's got plenty of guys who will do whatever she wants and I'd better do what she says. I usually A&A, but that doesn't work if I also throw some comfort in. She just wants to know that I want her around. But I'm sure tired of hearing about all these pussies…
/r/askMRP18/07/16 12:29 PM
4

Hahaha. I used that line once: "You have the right to be angry or have any emotion you choose. But I won't talk with you when you act this way. When you act pleasantly I'll talk with you." She told me I was emotionally abusing her. See, that's what she sees-- if she doesn't have complete control over the relationship then I'm abusing her.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 12:22 PM
1

You're absolutely right. For most of my marriage I was terrified of her emotions and intensity. I still am to some degree and I'm working on not owning her emotions. It's a struggle to DNGAF and still show her that, despite the drama, she adds a lot of value to my life.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 12:19 PM
4

That's a good question. I think it all comes down to being addicted to validation from women. There's other stuff-- being molested as a kid, a rigid religious system that pushed me into marriage, never having sex with anyone else. But it comes down to the fact that I wasn't happy with myself and I sought validation from someone else.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 12:12 PM
1

That's interesting. I've noticed that in distance running, women can often do better than men. It may have something to do with the increased body fat and ability to use that fat for fuel
/r/askMRP07/07/16 02:29 PM
1

It's good that you've done some introspection on why you are retarded. You need to stop blaming others. It may feel good in the moment but doesn't let you progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 05:49 PM
1

I was in your situation (well, not the broke-ass part. If you're really broke, why are you taking a trip overseas?) three weeks ago. Your wife is insane. And she's insane because you are a fuckup who cultivated her insanity. If you want any decent life with your daughter, do all the sidebar stuff. Lift. And then do anything and everything to spend time with your daughter. Get rid of your apartment-- it will show divorce courts that you abandoned your family. Move back home with a big smile and g…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 05:36 PM
4

I'll second the lifting weights. I ran an ultra marathon last month. My wife didn't give two shits. In fact, she was disgusted by me because I was puking all night afterward. I started lifting three weeks ago, gained maybe 2 pounds, and she's constantly feeling my biceps and saying how sexy I look.
/r/askMRP06/07/16 03:41 PM
5

Not all of them. Some guys like OP feel that marriage is the best way to live if you want kids. I agree. The trick is to create a wife who buys into your vision. OP is lucky because he found TRP before marriage
/r/TheRedPill05/07/16 01:12 AM
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Go over to married red pill. Those guys know how to live your dream of having kids. Want to be an alpha dad? Show your kids how to do cool shit? Find an LTR who buys into YOUR vision. Your vision is to have an awesome wife and awesome kids? Create your vision. Fuck those who say it's not worth it. They're playing life on easy mode
/r/TheRedPill04/07/16 08:55 PM
2

There's a time and season for everything. If you want to settle down have emotional intimacy and kids, then monogamy is the best way. I like throwing all my sexual energy toward one high-value woman. I tried the fucking around thing and it left me a mess. The upside is you're 26, not married, no kids, and you can make your life however you want. If you don't like just having one girl, you can say you gave it a shot and go back to fucking random girls. Whatever you do, make sure you don't half-as…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/16 09:30 PM
1

Well, I tried the approach that therapists had given: you have to do everything she says and MAYBE she'll forgive you. That approach left me suicidal, feeling controlled, and acting like the biggest beta bitch that ever groveled in the mud. She lost all respect for me, took the kid, and moved out. 2 weeks into redpill and she's moved back in, fucking me with reckless abandon, and respecting my boundaries. OI and frame are working wonders so far.
/r/askMRP30/06/16 06:18 PM
3

My wife and I tried marriagebuilders after my infidelity. It's the same as other marriage counselors. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Very woman-centered.
/r/askMRP30/06/16 11:39 AM
2

Sorry man, that's rough. Kissing another woman and no PIV? I'm new to all this. Does RP only apply to heterosexual women?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 09:55 PM
2

Hey guys. Super new and fresh. Loving what I'm learning. How Long? -- 2 weeks Dread Level? -- 1 How Long Married? -- 5 years Sex Life Quality? -- Sex frequency has never been a problem (except when she was breastfeeding). Sex quality last 2 weeks has been awesome. Here's my issue: a year ago she was being intolerable with her bitchiness. I went uber beta bitch and started sexting random girls and cheated on her. She found out, made my life a living hell. Been in therapy for "sex addiction". She …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 07:14 PM
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