Summary: been working on being a better leader, just want opinions to see if I'm on track.

Background: 32, wife 33. Both of us have always been fairly high smv (high 7-high 8). Been lifting basically since junior high, and she was in dance her whole life. One son (7yo), she wants more, I got my boy and am impartial. Married 8 yrs, together 10. Met in college, and both had been w only 2 other people. Both sexually inexperienced. Got her into it pretty quick, and sex life was great. Got her into blowing me, different positions, but always had some hard no's (anal, 69, threesomes). After a few years sex would fluctuate mainly because I was not a good leader imo. She also has some daddy issues, and mom holds a lifelong grudge against dad. Clings to the kids to feel needed.

Anyways: Found mmsl a few years back, red MAP and the blog, felt validated but it didn't stick. Around October last year I started voluntarily transforming my life as I felt stuck in a rut. She did not respond well because resistance to change. Found trp around beginning of the year, got some structure and did some reading. Learned about frame, dread, OI, and a lot about the feminine imperative.

Beginning of February she is fed up and threatens to leave. I recognize this, and tell her if she's not happy then I understand. During her shitstorm I explain on repeat that it's not what I want, but I will not stand in the way of her finding happiness elsewhere. My son and I are happy, and we will continue to be with or without you.

She stays, and the next day I get a fantastic blowjob, and hate fuck the shit out of her.

Couple of ups and downs for the next few months, but more ups than downs. I learn more, start tracking her cycle, keep reading, work on leading more, building frame, etc.

Fast forward to May.

Shark week next week, meaning pms started on mother's day. Sex has been more frequent and decent quality this past month, but still not where I want it. She's been particularly lazy because mother's day entitlement.

So Tuesday I came home early from work because I've been kicking ass at work and had comp time. Took a nap, cleaned out a spare bedroom I've been meaning to make my office, and went to get some workout shirts before picking son up from school.

Right after I leave I get a call (she never calls when she gets home), and she's all pissed that I moved some shoes out of that bedroom closet. Broken record "just wanted the room cleaned out." Ended up hanging up on her, she calls right back and I just let her rant about how I've been acting different, blah. I go through my planned tasks, get home, and take son to baseball practice.

Get home and she's still mad obvsly, but she made dinner and we all ate together. Silent treatment ensues on through yesterday and this morning, whatever. I don't change my demeanor.

This morning while she's actively ignoring me, I brush against her ass while she's at the sink then try to grab and kiss her. She flips out and pulls away, "don't touch me, you think that's gonna make everything OK?!" I smirk and go on with my morning routine.

I'm not sure why I'm still getting this type of rebellion from her. I'm not great at leading yet, so that's what I'm working on mostly. Planned a trip to New Orleans for the two of us next weekend, and getting resistance to that as well. If she bails I already decided I'm going solo. The boy will be with my parents anyways. Also planning to consult with a divorce lawyer just in case, but want to see if this ends with the pms. The extremity of the overreacting concerns me probably more than it should.

So anyways, longer than I intended to post, so I'll let y'all pick it apart from here and I'll respond if I left anything out.