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We call it COVID style at our house now
/r/askMRP01/04/20 01:33 PM
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She, she, she, her, her ,her..... Work on yourself.
/r/askMRP03/03/20 07:12 PM
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Honestly, it sounds like you need a biology refresher. Sperm is NOT semen, it is only one component of semen. A vasectomy only blocks off the sperm from entering the semen, they stay in your testicles where they are reabsorbed by the body. None of the other components of the semen are affected at all. Vasectomy was the best thing I ever did. No more baby worries. Drop a load anywhere, anytime with no worries. You autistic fucks over think the shit out of these things. If you want one, get one. I…
/r/askMRP03/03/20 01:04 PM
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The correct answer was “cool, thanks for letting me know we’re seeing other people now” then you decide if you stay with her in an open marriage, or reply with “cool, but my wife doesn’t date other men. Thanks for letting me know, we can talk about plans for separation tomorrow after I’m done what I’m working on.” Want to know why that wasn’t your reply? Because you still aren’t willing to burn it all down and she knows it. This is basic 101 level shit.
/r/askMRP28/02/20 09:34 PM
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Asking the important questions!
/r/askMRP23/12/19 06:31 PM
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Your medical background can tell if she’s gagged on dick or been fucked up the ass? Amazing!
/r/askMRP19/10/19 10:24 AM
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Dude, you lost me at “greatest preaching ever”. You would have had better luck with “you just gotta believe!” Let’s just leave it at some people need fairytales to comfort them, and some people don’t. Jesse Ventura said it best (IMHO) “Organized religion is sham and a crutch for weak-minded people”. Since none of this has anything to do with sexual strategy you can keep any proselytizing replies to yourself.
/r/askMRP18/10/19 05:43 PM
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Because once I reached my teenage years I realized the absurdity of thinking that an all powerful being created an infinite universe only so they could give a flying fuck what self aware insignificant apes on an insignificant speck of dust in the cosmos are doing. It makes as much sense as me giving a single thought about the bacteria in my gut that ends up in my toilet everyday. Even if there were a higher power, I would think that they have better things to do with their time, just like I have…
/r/askMRP18/10/19 02:38 PM
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This is a clear cut example of why I don’t fuck with religion. You have a 26 year old LDR and a 22 year old Scandanavian hottie next door that BOTH want your nut, and you’re asking a bunch of strangers on an internet forum what to do? The fuck is wrong with you? My old school Orthodox raised father would tell you the same thing. Religion, not even once.
/r/askMRP18/10/19 01:51 PM
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You’re getting downvoted but you’re not wrong. It’s perfectly normal to dread taking a shit for 4 or 5 days after leg day if you’ve been away from the gym for more than a couple of weeks.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 02:05 AM
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He would be crushed into the ground instantly. You nailed it. Working on getting to 185 myself and it’s HARD, got up to a PR of 165 for triples before shoulder started complaining. Backed off and working back towards it again. OHP progress is slooow. No way a natty with that physique is moving 225 let alone 325.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 11:52 AM
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Look dude, no doubt your bodyweight fitness skills are impressive but looking at your physique, there ain’t no fucking way you can physically move 325lbs in an overhead press of any variety. Red is right to call you out on it. Yes the machine may have 325lbs worth of plates, but I’m going to assume that there is some sort of mechanical advantage (multiple pulleys) that reduces the actual amount of force required to move that weight. When you’re doing your bodyweight handstands you’re moving 155l…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/19 11:47 AM
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Best part of negative visualization is it quickly puts into perspective that almost everything you fear is not worth being afraid of. "Everything that happens either happens in such a way as you are formed by nature to bare it, or as you are not formed by nature to bare it. If, then, if happens to you in such a way as you are formed by nature to bear it, do not complain, but hear it accordingly. But if it happens in such a way that you are not formed by nature to bear it, do not complain, for it…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 01:43 PM
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I really like Alan Watts ‘ perspective on fear. Most of the anxiety we experience is caused by exactly what you describe, our brains trying to work out numerous problems and fears before they have even happened. How many times have you found yourself working through your thoughts on a negative conversation you are expecting to have later. You work out all the things the other party will say, and your planned rebuttals, over and over in your head, sometimes for hours, only to find the conversatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/19 01:32 PM
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You’re treating her pussy like it’s the prize, instead of being the prize. The thirst is overwhelming in your post. If we can smell it from here, imagine what the stench is like for her. It’s called abundance mentality for a reason. Women don’t like being chased by thirsty losers, they want to chase the prize. Be the prize. Work the sidebar and STFU.
/r/askMRP07/09/19 10:45 AM
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It’s not that hard, we all get the same 24 hours. The one advantage I have is my gym is at my workplace. I can get in an extra workout before or after work easily, my main workout is at lunch. Anything I run out of time for at lunch, I make up after work. The bike miles are no big deal, I just leave the car at home those days. Maybe an extra 10-20 miles on Sunday if the weather is nice. Running, I squeeze in when I can...it’s not that hard to bang out a quick 3 miles, it’s only 30 min even if yo…
/r/askMRP15/07/19 05:47 PM
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Wake up before the chickens. Split your workouts into two if that works better for your schedule. Don’t look for excuses why you CAN’t do something. On an average week I put in 6-7/hrs lifting (4 days of 5/3/1), 2 “off” days where I only do 30-40min of HIIT, plus 10-20 miles running, and 40-60 miles/week bike commuting instead of driving when the weather allows. Over the winter I throw in some extra work to make up for the lack of biking. That’s a typical week for me. Get out there and get after…
/r/askMRP15/07/19 05:33 PM
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There’s your problem.
/r/askMRP15/07/19 01:34 PM
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Fuck, here I am struggling to stay awake past 8:30pm most days....waking up before 4am with 2 and 3 a days in the gym will do that to you. Have you tried being legitimately tired? How many hours did you spend lifting last week? How many miles did you put in?
/r/askMRP15/07/19 11:58 AM
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You’re still VERY early at this. Get the prerequisite sidebar books under your belt, THEN start implementing what you read. Right now you (most likely) look like shit, have no frame, no game and are a kid running around playing with dynamite. You’re being told to STFU so you don’t do more damage with the tiny bit of knowledge you think you have. Start with MMSLP, NMMNG, Book of Pook, The Handbook and Bluepill Proffessor’s book. Hit the gym like a mad man. Fix your fucking diet. Work on your hygi…
/r/askMRP13/07/19 05:01 PM
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I’ll throw you a bone. Tap the three dots in the upper right hand side for the sidebar on mobile. Look for community info. Start reading.
/r/askMRP13/07/19 01:45 PM
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You brought back memories for me of the one and only time I had to up and leave. Like you said, it shouldn’t take multiple tries. . In my case it only lasted a couple of hours before she was calling me begging me to come back home. I was fully packed and ready to hit a hotel after the gym. I ended up with two great workouts that night, some new PR’s in the gym and some bonus cardio when I got home. Pussies are just too scared of losing their “one” to use the only power they have...the ability to…
/r/askMRP13/06/19 07:55 PM
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I’ve been following these FA posts and just have to ask, where is the value in sticking around with a women with this many fucking issues? MRP fixes the man, not the marriage. I can’t see any scenario that plays out with me coning to the conclusion that yes it is in fact her and not me....and then deciding “yup, I want to live the rest of my life this way”.. These posts have a ton of great content on HOW to deal with someone with FA. The question I have to ask is WHY?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 05:50 PM
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Let me see if I understand correctly, you’ve been lurking for a year and learned absolutely nothing?. You’ve been together “a while” and moved in together “a couple months ago” and can “see a life together “. With a women where you are already in low libido territory at a stage in the relationship where you should be fucking like bunnies. The Fuck? Let me spell it out for you. She’s just not that into you. Run Forrest Run!
/r/askMRP16/05/19 07:31 PM
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You just happened to have 2.5lb plates laying around the bedroom? I call bullshit on all of this.
/r/askMRP04/05/19 05:44 PM
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All I read was a story about an argument between you and your roommate. Where is the wife in this story? I’m confused.
/r/askMRP30/04/19 11:30 AM
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You’ve already got a lot of advice on what’s missing in your social life. My question is, as a self employed tiler who is in other women’s homes every day...why isn’t your wife’s hamster wondering about you laying some pipe while you’re there? My old man is a tradesperson, I’ve seen women openly hitting on him when I would go to job sites with him as a kid. I remember him asking me to wait outside in the van on more than one occasion when he needed to go “look at a few other jobs” the lady of th…
/r/askMRP29/04/19 09:18 PM
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Been away for a while and this is the first post I see...great work Bobby. Nice, clean, concise, synopsis of the sidebar. If all new guys would just get their heads out of their asses, drop their egos and just do the work of following the sidebar, maybe they’d get somewhere. Just do the fucking work, it’s that simple. Follow that one simple trick and suddenly you start finding that your “low sex drive” wife is sending you texts with dick emojis to hurry up and come home when she’s supposed to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 10:15 AM
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If she hasn’t called you an asshole or a jerk in the last week you’re doing it wrong. I’d rather be the asshole getting my balls drained on the regular than the alternative.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 09:47 PM
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All credit goes to Esther Villar for coining that term. I was the best damn plow horse a woman could find. Never again.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 08:49 PM
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Every fucking noob needs to read this and pay heed to it. I was the poster boy for doing it wrong and working 70 hour weeks to pay for it all. JUST SAY NO. You have no idea you’re pulling a plow until eventually the weight becomes unbearable. Im STILL paying for my beta mistakes. Got a couple more years to go before I’m back to where I want to be. Thank god I found this place when I did.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 06:41 PM
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Beat me to it. I was scrolling by to reply and say the same exact thing. Mines better than ever, so’s her husband. Must be some sort of strange coincidence.
/r/askMRP08/03/19 06:33 PM
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Speaking from my own past mistakes only, there is nothing more important than time spent with your loved ones, especially children when they are young. I fell into the career trap, always chasing the next rung on the ladder, always hunting for more, more money, more things. Ended up working 60-70 hour weeks for almost a decade. I can NEVER get back that time. As part of my MAP, I started prioritizing the things that truly matter. I have a 5 year plan to get those hours down to 40/week with not a…
/r/askMRP06/03/19 07:46 PM
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Time is your most precious resource. You can always make more money, you can never get more time. Figure out what your free time is worth to you. You’re talking about a roughly $4/hr increase or $32/day before taxes...so $20ish a day take home. If I asked you to stand in line for me for 80min everyday after work for $20 would you? There’s your answer.
/r/askMRP06/03/19 12:25 PM
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God, I wonder why you’re not getting your balls drained on the regular....
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/19 04:53 PM
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What is too much time at home? Are you following your MAP? Are you not doing things on your MAP because you feel like you should be home more? The way I look at it is that there is nothing inherently Beta about spending time at home UNLESS you are giving up things that you want to do to supplicate your wife’s demands. If you are living your life and getting the things done that are a part of your vision, and you still have free time at home what is the problem? There is only a problem if you are…
/r/askMRP14/02/19 08:39 PM
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This type of question comes up a lot, “my wife is dealing with xyz, how do I adjust my behaviour to handle my particular set of circumstances?” The answer is you don’t change anything. Follow the sidebar. It just works. The last year has been rough for my wife, dealing with loss, depression and more recently fairly serious health issues. During this time I’ve changed nothing. Working on being the best version of myself and following my MAP is beneficial and attractive, not just to her, but to an…
/r/askMRP12/02/19 11:13 AM
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Great quote from Twain. Alan Watts talks a lot about the same thing. Many times our mind starts racing about all the what if’s and what might happens, and we start to think about all the possibilities and all the things we may need to say or do. We end up stressing and suffering about many things that never actually happen. For example, at some point we all have moments when we are heated about something and we replay scenarios of how we expect a conversation to go. We plan out countless version…
/r/askMRP09/02/19 11:22 AM
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Be a real man and surprise her with one of those sexy 1930’s suits that show just a hint of knee.../s Insecure faggot.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 03:40 PM
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More like laziness and ego protection. Easy to justify the lack of progress as “I don’t want to get big” rather than face the truth that half assed efforts equal half assed results. “No citizen has a right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training…what a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” - Socrates
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 01:42 PM
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Your entire victim puke essentially boils down to “how can I make her do x,y,z...”? You can’t. You lead, she follows. Or she doesn’t. You’re balls deep in her frame with that frame of mind. Speaking of frame. You have none. Everything you just wrote is reactionary to her actions. Get to work on the sidebar.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 11:17 AM
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I had some professional help dealing with the same type of insecurity from over a decade ago. I was lucky that I stumbled upon a professional who happened to be pretty RedPill in his advice. You’re never going to know the truth, so you have to decide wether or not you want those thoughts driving YOU crazy for the rest of time. His advice to me, treat it the same as any other type of obsessive compulsive disorder. When your mind starts going to that place, think about or do ANYTHING else. Eventua…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 09:44 PM
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If that’s the case, I’ll be the prick who points out that you may want to do some self reflection on why your kids would rather play on the PS4 than go on vacation with you.
/r/askMRP28/01/19 06:05 PM
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That’s exactly what I was getting at. Great link, visualizing it like that really put’s into perspective how little time we all get. Time is the single most precious commodity one gets, and there is no way to buy more.
/r/askMRP28/01/19 06:03 PM
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Or you could have a stroke and die in your sleep tonight....Lost a close friend this past year, dropped dead unexpectedly. Great health, in good shape, diet, exercise etc. The last time I had seen him we talked about his retirement. He was less than 5 years away. I never understood forgoing all luxuries for 40 years (the best years of your life) so that you can save every penny for retirement when your best years are behind you, assuming you ever make it that far. To each their own, but I’d rath…
/r/askMRP28/01/19 05:38 PM
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So instead of working on areas of your life that are clear red lights, you decide to start with taking over an area that is running smoothly? Maybe you could have started with a single OYS post instead?
/r/askMRP28/01/19 10:43 AM
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What is it with all the pussies in this thread calling to inform the other guys wife? WTF? Since when did any other man ever have a contract with you to not fuck your wife? If your wife is cheating on you, she's the only one you should take ssue with. She's the one breaking promises. No one else. Stop behaving like bitches looking for some sort of righteousness to feel better about yourself. If your snowflake can't keep her legs closed that's on her and no one else. If anything you should be tha…
/r/askMRP26/01/19 04:13 PM
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I could care less if a man wants to fuck my wife. It's up to her to turn him down. Don't hate the player, hate the game. You're hung up on some personal morals that one shouldn't fuck someone elses wife/husband. Says who?
/r/askMRP26/01/19 03:50 PM
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Revenge? What the fuck for? He's not the one slighting me, she is. If another man fucks my wife, he can keep her.
/r/askMRP26/01/19 03:04 AM
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Last time I checked, OP has no vows exchanged with the other man. That man owes him nothing. I'll let you in on a secret. If you're being cucked, it's because one way or another you deserve it. Wether you're a beta chump, or just vetted poorly. It's your own fault. Finish choking down the pill.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 06:40 PM
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What does he stand to gain from this? OP has already stated he's a manlet. He's already getting cucked by another man. You want him to catch a beating too for ruining that guys marriage? Your suggestion is a terrific example of what an emotional woman would do. Fly off the handle and try and get some revenge on the other party. You forget however that revenge is a dish best served cold. OP has already fucked up by revealing his hand and not STFU. Now that he has blown that shit up, he may as wel…
/r/askMRP25/01/19 05:42 PM
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You getting soft? Not the connotation I was going for, it's just a lot easier to say slut, slutty than open minded, submissive, eager to please or kinky etc. I don't view slut as a negative. As you eloquently pointed out, more experience is a good thing when it comes to quality of sex. Beta Billy here will never believe what she is capable of and willing to do....with someone else.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 04:14 PM
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A lot of guys will think you're just beating your chest and this couldn't possibly happen with their snowflake. Fucking idiots. They have no idea how big a slut she can be for the right man. Can confirm 100%. Blowjobs should be the least of their worries lol
/r/askMRP25/01/19 03:26 PM
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Or lift.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 03:21 PM
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If this wasn't the occasion for ATM then I don't know what the fuck is anymore.... OP had a free pass to use her as a cum dumpster and blew it.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 03:20 PM
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Incorporate giant sets, complexes and circuits into your lifting. You’ll be too busy rep counting and gasping for air to have other thoughts.
/r/askMRP24/01/19 10:49 AM
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What program are you running? If you’re following an actual lifting program, and not employing fuckarounditis as your training method inevitably her weight will feel like a sack of potatoes at some point. Assuming she’s not a 200lb+ land whale.
/r/askMRP19/01/19 11:08 AM
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I see that neither The Handbook -Epictetus or Meditations- Marcus Aurelius are on the official list. If you haven’t read these yet, I would add these to your list first. They are game changing in your perception of and your reaction to the world around you. If you’ve read Can’t Hurt Me (which is excellent), I recommend reading Living with a Seal by Jessie Itzler for a more humorous take on David Goggins. It has been confirmed that he is the SEAL in Jessie’s book. It’s a quick, easy ready written…
/r/askMRP19/01/19 11:04 AM
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Do you even lift?
/r/askMRP19/01/19 03:24 AM
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They’re Rich
/r/askMRP19/01/19 01:59 AM
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Flip her around when standing into stand up 69. Muscles burning? Nobody cares. Work harder. Specifics don’t matter. Just be dominant and man handle her into whatever position you want. If there’s a giant wet spot on the bed when you’re finished, you’ve done the job right.
/r/askMRP18/01/19 04:15 PM
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Im going to shit on your lifting since no one else has. Gym once a week and 2/week at home is some bullshit. We all have the same 24hrs in a day. You make time for it. Carve all the bullshit out of your life before the gym. Half assed efforts equal half assed results. Are you up at 4:30am and still don’t have time? No? Then wake the fuck up and get after it. You want to have a body that is better than most? Than you have to do what most others are unwilling to do. Period. I used the “no time” ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/19 04:04 PM
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48 Laws of Power, Law 4: always say less than necessary. Had you simply observed this law her emotional outburst would have likely never happened. There’s a huge difference between listening and comforting and looking to solve her feels. Sounds like she was looking for an oak to soothe her feelings and you opened your mouth and proceeded to vomit out some bullshit that was either cringe worthy, or would work if you were later in your journey, but you are attempting far too soon. It doesn’t sound…
/r/askMRP16/01/19 03:41 PM
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Is this the same woman that cheated on you with an ex a year ago and you were claiming to be over your oneitis for? Or were you dumb enough to find a new one immediately after and put a ring on it within 8 months?
/r/askMRP14/01/19 03:57 PM
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Really needs a TLDR....especially for the non Church crowd.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 02:22 PM
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Can we get a TDLR? OP, you lost me at “as a Christian”....
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/19 02:21 PM
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A little bit if playful sarcasm goes a long way....if you’re not an unattractive drunk captain.
/r/askMRP10/01/19 11:24 AM
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She’s fucking you on the regular, has never been to a club, is post wall and you say you have no issues in your marriage....what exactly is the issue here? I’ll give you a tip, it’s way easier to fuck a cheating wife in her husbands bed than in the middle of a club. She doesn’t need to go to the club to get dick in 2019. Relax, let her have fun with her friends and whatever you do don’t tag along like a loser 5th wheel. Unless this becomes a regular weeknight habit and she stops draining your ba…
/r/askMRP10/01/19 11:19 AM
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Exactly this. Women want studs that just “get it” and give them tingles. Not only is OP missing any dread game, I’ve never seen him mention anything about fun and game. It’s been repeated endlessly on here that MRP is RP on hard mode. You need to have the total package. One facet is not enough. OP seems to only have lifting down. And OP, seriously STFU and stop vomiting your feels to your wife. Before you open your mouth run it through the filter of “is this making her pussy wetter”?
/r/askMRP06/01/19 04:28 PM
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Slow clap! Well done putting this together as a resource for new guys just finding this place. They have no idea what a service you have just done them. And truthfully 95% of them won’t apply it and don’t deserve it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/19 05:59 PM
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Stop looking for excuses not to lift because it’s hard. Do you honestly expect her to tell you the truth about what gives her the tingles and makes her pussy wet? Get out there, do the work for a few years, get to 200lbs of muscle and see if she still isn’t into muscles. There’s a reason it’s the FIRST rule of TRP.
/r/askMRP05/01/19 01:40 PM
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Surprised you’re the first one to catch that she’s already fucking someone else, and has been since before they “broke up”. OP, she’s a 23 year old female , hasn’t fucked you in months, broke up with you (but still has you paying at least half the bills) and has discussed fucking other people.... Do you need someone to draw you a picture?
/r/askMRP04/01/19 10:02 PM
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Give less fucks. You give way too many fucks. You are a needy, whiny, validation whore. That is the root cause of your problems. Get a life, have at least 2 in the kitty. Suddenly your wife wanting or not wanting to fuck will matter very little. Book of Pook, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.
/r/askMRP04/01/19 05:59 PM
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That’s a stupid fucking suggestion....you think her hubby is going to thank him or something? OP, Either fuck her or don’t. Whichever you prefer. But whatever you do, don’t follow this shit stupid advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 11:56 PM
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Most dudes will never see first hand how easily their vows are abandoned for the right man. They’re still hanging on to the notion that NAWALT exists.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 11:15 PM
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Million bucks they’ve all done this with other Chads.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 11:10 PM
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That was always my rule as well. Two decades before I ever even heard of the red pill I knew this to be true. If she’s not fucking by date 3, there is clearly an attraction problem...why invest any more time to be with someone who is maybe, kinda, has to grow into being attracted to you? Fuck that. If you’re both not fighting to keep your hand off each other by date 3, what the fuck are you still doing spending time together? I didn’t need RP to teach me that. My experience is 95% are DTF by dat…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 09:49 PM
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Whore or not, you are 100% correct. I’m ashamed to see what the replies are coming to. You and u/Perseus are keeping it real. I’m shocked at the level of BP responses. You nailed it. Any guy that has actually done the work has seen the proof, they will ALL fuck on the first date for the right guy. AWALT. Bitter pill to swallow but it has to be done. Once you been on the other side of the equation and you see just how fucking EASY it is once you’re sufficiently high value....it’s impossible not t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/19 09:34 PM
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Gotta agree. Fat chicks absolutely are consistently the best cock suckers. Followed up closely by chicks with daddy issues, and plain Janes on the crazy train.
/r/askMRP20/12/18 12:20 AM
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I’ll add to the feelz comment: A key takeaway is how much easier it is to generate those feelz once you are attractive vs when you are not. It’s practically easy mode. There’s a reason LIFT is always the number one rule. If she’s physically repulsed by you, all the gaming in the world is not going to generate a single feel. Put in the work and effort and you can see the switch flipped. Suddenly you can do no (or very little) wrong. I cringe thinking back to all my lame attempts when I was carryi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 08:57 PM
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Your post is doing a huge service to any of the noobs who bother to pay attention. Sometimes a 2x4 smack upside the head is what it takes to set a man back on the path towards self redemption. Some will read it and think it doesn’t apply to them or their snowflake and bury their heads in the sand. Others will be filled with rage and anger at what they have allowed themselves to become and use it as fuel to ignite a fire within themselves. When they want to skip a leg day they need to be reminded…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 07:53 PM
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Happy Late Thanksgiving to all you hosers south of the border!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/18 08:39 PM
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Thanksgiving was a month ago eh?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/18 07:53 PM
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My guess is OP half repping the squat which gives the appearance of the squat being >deadlift, since there is no way to half rep a deadlift. I see a lot of guys doing barely half rep squats with way more weight than they can handle. Same goes for bench with a ROM that is little more than unracking the bar, unlocking elbows, dropping bar 2 inches, then locking elbows again. Btw, to answer OP’s question my personal bests 3RM ...S 315, D365, B 245, OHP 155
/r/askMRP21/11/18 08:17 PM
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Read it, 2 years in it’s not an area I agree with Athol on. There is no way you are in your frame if you are changing your behaviour based on her menstrual cycle. I literally give it zero thoughts. I could care less. You should too.
/r/askMRP19/11/18 02:38 PM
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This is the answer OP needs to read.
/r/askMRP18/11/18 11:23 PM
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Keeping track of her cycle is the ultimate in her frame move in my opinion. As yourself why you care where she is in her cycle? Is it because you want to maximize your success odds when initiating? Still fearing her emotions when she is PMSing? Fuck that noise. That's still revolving everything around her frame and her emotions. Be the fucking prize. Who gives a shit what time of month it is. Regardless of my wife's behavior, mine doesn't change. Busier than normal? Why? What are you afraid of? …
/r/askMRP18/11/18 11:22 PM
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Life is all about finding balance. Spending every cent you make and then some trying to buy happiness is a really bad idea. Living the life of a frugal miser to optimize every possible cent of savings is a really bad idea as well. After seeing far too many friends pass unexpectedly far too soon, I’m reminded that tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone. Find a balance. Save for a better future but not at the expense of misery today. If you can follow these steps and feel like you’re not missing out on…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 12:32 AM
3

None of this will work if you’re doing it under the premise of “I will do whatever it takes to make this relationship, divorce is not an option”. You’re setting yourself up for failure. The person who needs the other person the least in the relationship has all the power. Tattoo that to your forehead. By saying that divorce is off the table (presumably unless you actively catch her cheating), you hand her all the power. Good luck making any meaningful progress while you are still operating under…
/r/askMRP29/10/18 03:02 PM
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I’d get your T levels checked.... Wife’s fucked unconscious AND you have a hot blonde who calls you Daddy wanting to suck your wife’s juices off your cock AND it’s the last day of your cruise AND you’re never going to see this slut again AND you have complete plausible deniability.... Either you’re full of shit, gay or the dumbest mother fucker alive. Great FR otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/18 08:02 PM
1

This belongs in askMRP. A mod will be along shortly to delete it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/18 07:58 PM
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You entire post is basically “I’ve done MRP SO THAT I could get BJ’s from my wife....yet she still won’t suck my dick”. The part you got right is the end, you need to decide what measures to take that are within your control. Make a decision and decide how far up the dread ladder you want to go to get your dick sucked. It’s all 100% within your control.
/r/askMRP27/10/18 04:49 PM
1

Amen to that.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 11:09 PM
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MRP isn’t about making her do anything. It’s about giving you the tools to be able to get that BJ. No one promised you it would be with her. Once you get to that point it’s up to you to decide how you proceed. The stay plan will always be the same as the go plan. What is it called again when you go into something with the expectation that if you do “A” for someone that they will then reciprocate with “B”?
/r/askMRP26/10/18 11:08 PM
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Love the link to the smv btw. Dudes need to be reminding of this smv imbalance all day long. An average chick with boobs and a dumpy body can get the same level of attention from men as a male fitness model with above average facial aesthetics gets from women. That’s the reality.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 12:27 PM
1

What other advice do you need? Do the work. Everything else is LARP’ing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 12:04 PM
1

Just because you bike everyday doesn’t mean you skip leg day. I bike commuted (80 miles/week) from May-Oct, currently putting in >20miles a week running. Didn’t miss a single leg day. If anything, leg day will only improve your cycling. Cardio is not a replacement for leg day.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 03:15 PM
2

Where to start? Lift. Starting yesterday. Then sidebar. All of it. You may think your situation isn’t similar but that’s only because you’re just getting started. Some of us have the benefit of a couple more decades experience. She may overlook your fat lard ass faults now, but how about after another 5 years, 10 years down the road? We know how things go because we’ve lived it. Now get to work.
/r/askMRP23/10/18 09:33 AM
2

Go pound some strange. Seriously, you sound like a woman.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 10:16 PM
6

Just curious how long have you been married? I used to think the same, that I had a unicorn, that it didn’t matter that I had let myself go. I even used to joke that I was sorry she didn’t have something better to look at. I look back and realize she was keeping the lights off because she didn’t want to look at ME. Let me tell you what you can expect....Slowly the sex life turns into a dead bedroom, barely a drip feed to keep you around. .She’ll say she just doesn’t have much sex drive anymore. …
/r/askMRP22/10/18 10:07 PM
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All good, except you’re NOT doing this to improve your marriage. That’s just another covert contract. You’re doing this for you. Either the marriage improves or it doesn’t. Doesn’t really matter. The stay plan is the go plan. Fix that one minor detail in your plan. It’s a major one.
/r/askMRP22/10/18 02:17 AM
4

He’s asking for a beginner program and you’re suggesting a higher volume version of 5/3/1? Great advice /s
/r/askMRP21/10/18 11:12 PM
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5x5 for 3-6 months until you are at doing at least 1/2/3 plates for bench, squat, deadlift. Wendler 5/3/1 after that.
/r/askMRP21/10/18 04:43 PM
2

You really should just shut the fuck up and listen to him. I hadn’t bothered replying to you because the words you needed to hear had already been said. He’s right about the ego+entitlement. Ask me how I know. There’s a lot of men here that have put in the work to unfuck themselves. A smart man would listen to them.
/r/askMRP21/10/18 01:27 PM
2

I’m thinking this should be the new standard answer along with “the hard way is the easy way”.
/r/askMRP20/10/18 09:56 PM
7

I only have one word for you....NEXT You have zero self respect if you stick around now....and yes I read your previous two posts.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 04:41 PM
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If you actually have multiple plates, why do you care? Also, it’s BS. She’s clearly not attracted to you. Won’t fuck because of carpal tunnel pain? I didn’t realize her pussy was connected to her wrist joint. That’s a strange woman you got there. Mine is going through some serious issues as well right now....hasn’t slowed our sex life down one bit. You’re obviously creating zero dread and have zero game.
/r/askMRP17/10/18 11:53 PM
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Questions: Why the fuck are you talking about counselling? Why the fuck aren’t you lifting heavy? Why the fuck are you turning down starfish instead of going caveman? Why the fuck are you “grey rocking” your wife when she is screaming at you rather than removing your time and attention? WHAT THE FUCK is “grey rocking”? Why the fuck do you have a SAHM and a maid? Want to know why she calls you a loser? Because you’re acting like one.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/18 10:26 AM
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Great additions, I was going to add the same things. Getting past my own ego and removing the covert contracts were huge revelations that I would have never grasped without MRP and the sidebar books. Once you realize that the only reason you are still angry about someone else’s words is because of your own ego, their words no longer have any bearing on you. Ego is a mother fucker.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 10:52 AM
2

You were trapped at her place because you couldn’t drive, cab, Uber, bus, bike, jog or walk back to yours? Wtf?
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:57 AM
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I think the ex husband is the winner in all of this.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 12:46 AM
2

I got my mojo back doing pilates and going for romantic walks at sunset....
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:46 PM
1

Slim odds. His ego seems far too fragile to heed any advice given.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:28 PM
1

Glancing at his post history, I can almost guarantee he does not.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:21 PM
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OP, the simple answer is any man with an ounce of self respect would get up, put their shoes on and head out the door... Her: where are you going? We’re watching a movie. You: no, I was watching a movie, you were texting your boyfriend. Her: so where are you going? You: to meet up with your replacement. Then leave. Why the fuck would you tolerate this shit? She has your balls in a fucking vice and you’re worried about wether you should ask her to loosen it up a bit.... Stop drinking soy lattes. …
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:10 PM
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One million virtual upvotes! (Slow golf clap) OP will ignore this advice, because he’s a faggot. And we might give him cancer apparently.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:04 PM
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5 years married, 3 years RP “aware”, stuck on DL 5. This horse has already been beaten to death but what the fuck have you actually DONE the last 36 months? Besides lifting? Absolutely nothing. You are still a beta that lifts is the best phrase already used to describe you. Even worse, you sounds boring as fuck. Have you heard of Pook? You are his polar opposite. No wonder your wife hates being around you. Nothing has changed because you haven’t changed. You are STILL afraid to change anything a…
/r/askMRP10/10/18 07:42 PM
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Corporate membership as in “big box gym”,not as in corporate discount rate. A $30 cancellation/1 month notice is fuck all even for a university student. None of the YMCA, community centre or university gyms have any sort of hidden enrolment or cancellation fees, even my wife’s membership has nothing of the sort. I was calling you out on your bullshit of 5-10x in enrolment fees. Seriously? What kind of moron signs a contract they don’t understand with $250-500 in upfront fees attached? My whole p…
/r/askMRP10/10/18 11:50 AM
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GTFO out of here with that nonsense. There are literally at least a half dozen options in the range I quoted within a 15 minute drive of my house. My oldest was training at a power lifting gym for $30/month while off school for the summer, no enrolment fee, one month cancellation fee. The local community centres are $40/month to month. No contract. The local universities and YMCA are similar and the YMCA will even drop the rates for low income. My wife’s corporate gym with all the bells and whis…
/r/askMRP10/10/18 10:47 AM
2

The reason your game doesn’t work in the first world is that you come off as heavily over invested in your attempts. This makes you come off as desperate and needy. Women pick up on this from a mile away. I recommend you read Models -Mark Manson (and the already recommended Pook) for a far better explanation than I can provide.
/r/askMRP10/10/18 09:36 AM
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You’re too much of a pussy to even say what she did to anonymous strangers. Gee, i wonder what the problem might be.
/r/askMRP09/10/18 08:18 PM
2

This and “We all have weapons” needs to be saved and read daily for a month by any new members before asking any questions. Great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 01:54 PM
1

I’m pretty confident that you aren’t nearly as high value as you think you are. You say the relationship has been this way from the start, no surprise based on RP theory. You say you are high value now, but let’s look at the facts we have: You have one embarrassing post you deleted. In two months you have ZERO OYS posts. You had your FMOFY speech 2 months in by FUCKING EMAIL, despite claiming to have read the sidebar materials. Your behaviours don’t exactly point to “high value man”. They make y…
/r/askMRP08/10/18 05:35 PM
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You're ready to end it all, and stupidly opened your mouth like a whiny bitch.... Your post history indicates you deleted something you were ashamed of 2 months ago. Given that you've shown you can't STFU and jumped straight to "Fuck me or Fuck You", in an email like a faggot, you might just be a bit Rambo. Slow your roll and maybe just maybe consider doing some fucking work first. You clearly missed the sidebar advice of 1 month of WORK per year of marriage. You've missed the advice of STFU. Yo…
/r/askMRP07/10/18 07:56 PM
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Haha, you nailed it. He's 6'3", 175lbs.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 09:19 PM
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I'm trying to figure out if this is actually an LTR, or someone you've met in the last 3 months and instapromoted to LTR because you're a needy omega who hasn't learnt anything and finally had a girl touch his pee pee. By the way, your height/weight stats tell me you're ajust above concentration camp victim and your "lifting" is dumbbells and machines. In other words, you're not lifting and yes your stats in the Big 3 do mean something. They tell us if you are actually jacked or not. There's no …
/r/askMRP06/10/18 09:16 PM
1

Need more info. 3 months ago you were posting in r/seduction. Now you say LTR’s are new to you.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 05:13 PM
3

Stats? S/D/B
/r/askMRP06/10/18 05:01 PM
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Have you read the sidebar materials? If not, there’s your starting point. There are no shortcuts or special tricks. Right after you start LIFTING. I’m just going to assume you don’t by the level of cringe in your post.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 04:58 PM
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I have no idea how far along you are but those all made me cringe. Reminded me a lot of my dead bedroom days. The honest truth is that once you’ve done the work and she’s actually attracted to you, it doesn’t take much effort to initiate. She knows you want it and so does she. Typical scenarios for me: Night: Get undressed for bed, catch her looking at me like a fat kid eyeing a chocolate cake, get in bed, kiss, escalate, either she goes along with it or (rarely) she doesn’t.... Morning: Same as…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 04:55 PM
2

Typo: more than a single
/r/askMRP06/10/18 02:29 PM
3

My favorite quip about Diogenes: When Diogenes noticed a prostitute's son throwing rocks at crowd, Diogenes said to him "Careful, son. Don't hit your father."
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/18 02:16 PM
2

I can’t prove you’re not, but I’d be more inclined to believe you if you had a single OYS post to your credit.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 02:11 PM
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Her behaviours are a reflection of you. If she’s no fun, then you’re likely overestimating your own fun level. Or she’s just a harpy cunt. Less likely, given the information you’ve provided thus far. If you actually do all the work without skipping any steps, you’ll get a concrete answer on which situation you’re in. Or just skip ahead to the end, divorce the wife, fuck the other 3 chicks and be right back where you started wondering why your LTR sucks and is a harpy cunt.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 10:10 AM
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You can’t undo your past fuckups. You can only change the path you are currently on. “Time is like a river made up of the events which happen, and a violent stream; for as soon as a thing has been seen, it is carried away, and another comes in its place, and this will be carried away too.” - Marcus Aurelius Go and take your anger out on the iron. That’s what it’s for. If you do it right you’ll be too tired to be angry anymore. Then go eat a steak, fuck your wife and go to sleep. Repeat as needed…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 10:01 AM
1

Who suggested NOT lifting?
/r/askMRP04/10/18 03:00 PM
0

Total bro science. https://www.google.ca/amp/s/breakingmuscle.com/amp/fitness/cardio-doesnt-kill-gains-and-you-should-be-doing-it If you’re ONLY looking to put on the maximum amount of muscle in the absolute shortest period of time, maybe you’re partially correct. If you are looking at all around fitness, you’d be foolish to neglect your aerobic conditioning as well. It doesn’t have to be one or the other. They can compliment each other as long as you’re eating enough to make up the lost calorie…
/r/askMRP04/10/18 12:24 AM
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I’m not in the military but am similarly compensated in a soul sucking job. Difference between me and you is if we traded places I’d be looking at a full pension by next year (I’m 6 years older than you). I’m not you so I have 20+ years to go. I’d give my left nut and join Lance Armstrong in the one nut club to be able to retire next year. Suck it up, ride it out for another 7 years, THEN get out and do whatever you want once you have that financial safety net in place. You’d be nuts to walk awa…
/r/askMRP03/10/18 01:38 PM
4

Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius, Pook The only thing within your control is your own thoughts.... You are choosing to let your ego and emotions control you.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 11:06 PM
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Here let me summarize it for you: She married you because you ticked off her parents list, you said it yourself “they prayed for you and you arrived”. You were a resource to her (make mom and dad happy) and them (they got a “good guy” to marry her) and that’s all. To top it all off you bore her, and don’t provide tingles. FFS, she’s going out clubbing without her ring. She’s sending you messages loud and clear but you’ve been oblivious to them. Saw this happen with a close friend. It was obvious…
/r/askMRP02/10/18 07:34 PM
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You are a dumpster fire. This just read like one big wall of puke. Looking at your post history, why don’t you start with the OYS posts weekly so there is some indication of what work you are actually putting in on a weekly basis. All I see from your previous askMRP posts is requests for help on how to deal with specifics. You need to start at the macro level and realize that what you need is a complete rebuild. How to fix your ego and anger problems? You guessed it, sidebar mother fucker. Step …
/r/askMRP02/10/18 04:56 PM
1

One can always find reasons not to do something. Unless you’re rural, I’m sure there is a gym, YMCA, university/college or community center somewhere nearby you that has a squat rack for $30-40/month or less.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 10:05 AM
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Careful you don’t raise the bar too high, you might strain yourself. Why settle for average? What is preventing you from going and lifting something heavy today? It sounds like you are hamstering reasons you don’t need to lift. I’ll bet that “picking up some free weights” means a few 25lb dumbells and NOT a squat rack, Olympic bar, 400lbs of plates and a bench.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 09:41 AM
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I can’t comment too much on the other stuff, but as far as the physical stuff goes this is one of the few times I’ll suggest body weight fitness. In addition to the recumbent bike is there any reason he cant start with a very basic fully body fitness circuit? Start out with something super basic that works around his physical limitations. Even something as simple as a simple circuit of pushups, air squats, lunges, and planks etc done every second day. Joe Rogan recently had Diamond Dallas Page a…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 11:45 PM
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None of this works unless you’re willing to burn it all to the ground. You’ve just said you’re not willing to do that. Either you unfuck yourself or you don’t. Your marriage has nothing to do with that. A decade of RP “aware” you should know this. ZERO mention of lifting. I wonder why she’s not attracted.
/r/askMRP01/10/18 10:27 PM
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Main benefit is fucking like a porn star without sounding like Jabba the Hut..... Increased work capacity in the gym is a nice bonus too.
/r/askMRP29/09/18 07:03 PM
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My 40-45BPM resting heart rate disagrees with your statement. Nothing wrong with adding conditioning work including running. Just don't be a moron about it and go from zero running to trying to do 25 miles a week. Long runs are great for endurance, building your aerobic base and building mental toughness, intervals are awesome for getting your VO2 max up. Mix it up with other conditioning work, Metcons, Tabata's, HIIT, Kettlebell swing workouts. While my workout partner is gasping for air doing …
/r/askMRP29/09/18 04:50 PM
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Go over to marriedredpill and get to work on the sidebar materials. Someone even had the foresight to put them in a recommended order to answer questions like yours. But before you do that, go lift some heavy things, then put them down, then pick them up again, then put them down, then.....you get the idea.
/r/askMRP29/09/18 11:48 AM
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Without going into details, I was fucking her friend, I was a young natural, No, Yes. Obligatory , lift faggot. Boxing and running are not enough. My 42 year old ass finished leg day, then ran 8 miles 2 hours later.
/r/askMRP29/09/18 11:34 AM
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Thanks, but Im long past that. Lifting, diet and conditioning are all top notch now. Never would have made them a priority without finding this place. I’m disgusted when I look back at my day 1 pic and think about the 6 pushups I struggled with that day.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 02:51 PM
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MRP didn’t just change my life, it likely saved it. I was well on the way to the 300lb plus fat fuck club, Type 2 diabetes and heart disease both run in my family. I could not undress without being out of breath at 240lbs and I realized I had been gaining 15lbs/year of lard. I probably would have been dead by 50. I came here to find the solution to end a dead bedroom. Instead I found the solutions to my own failings as a man. With or without Reddit this train ain’t stopping.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/18 12:36 PM
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Duh. Detained as in going to the station for questioning. In that case STFU is the best course of action until an attorney is present ( to prevent you from fucking yourself over like a dumbass). Chances are if you’re at the station, it’s because they are looking to charge you with something. STFU is the best course of action, yes even if it means hanging out in detention for 72 hours. I have friends who are both LE and attorneys and they advise the same. Routine traffic stop? Ya, be nice and pol…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 09:21 PM
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I get your points, I think you misinterpret mine. Im not nearly autistic enough for memorizing all that. You don’t have to memorize the entire thing. You just have to grasp the concepts, and be able to go back to the reference material. Maybe being a manipulative asshole just comes naturally to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 08:04 PM
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I think for the majority of men that come here acting Beta for another 12 months shouldn’t be a stretch. Act like you always have. Nothing is wrong. I’m not debating that you’re wrong, or that OP’s guide is trash. Just that much of the information in it is already in the sidebar in the form of The 48 Laws of Power. No it may not be specifically aimed as a step by step guide to divorce, but as a general guide to manipulating others. I would argue that being able to spot specific scenarios (such a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 07:52 PM
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You’re a smart guy, did you really need a lawyer to tell you to keep up a Beta facade until the divorce was finalized? I doubt it. Maybe I’ve just always been inherently Machiavellian and just buried it for a long while, but this shit all seems like common sense to me. Good guide for someone who hasn’t unfucked themselves yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 07:38 PM
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No worries. Must have been typing at the same time. Good guide by OP for those that need it spelled out for them (or pictures drawn) but why use 500 words to sum up what can be said in a single sentence. Anyone who’s bothered to read the 48 Laws already knew where he was going. For the newbs who didn’t already know, this is why it’s important to read the sidebar and not skip the parts you don’t think you apply to you. At the end of the day this is basically a “don’t eat paint” post that only rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 07:30 PM
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TLDR: Law 38: Think as you like but behave like others.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/18 07:07 PM
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Fastest way to remove the wife goggles.....
/r/askMRP26/09/18 07:03 PM
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Who is the prize? You or her? If you believe you are the prize, then none of this really matters. You’re still stuck in the “saving the marriage” mind state. Get the fuck out of that pronto. There is no saving the marriage. There is only saving yourself. 6 weeks in you’re freaking out as the veil is lifted. Stop worrying about all the “how to handle this” questions that arise and focus on putting your head down and getting to work. Whatever SHE does is irrelevant. It’s not in your control.
/r/askMRP26/09/18 06:45 PM
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I can make you feel like death in less than 20min. One word. Burpees. Don’t rest. Don’t stop. Keep going until you puke. You’re welcome.
/r/askMRP25/09/18 01:33 PM
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Lived together 5 years, not married(?), waiting hand and foot on a bitchy land whale... What exactly is the fucking question again? Sounds like the ONLY thing she brings to the table is BJ’s. Other than that one single quality what exactly is she bringing to your life? Plenty of other women out there to suck your dick that you would actually WANT to fuck. There is nothing worth saving here. Run while you fucking can. Whatever you do, don’t Impregnate that cow and get the fuck out.
/r/askMRP24/09/18 04:53 PM
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6 replies in and no “Titis or GTFO”? What’s happened to this place?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 12:11 PM
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Another Shrodingers affair post? Seriously? The answer is, IT DOESN’T FUCKING MATTER. You will NEVER know with 100% certainty. If you can’t accept this and focus only on the things you can control, then LTR’s or marriage just aren’t for you. Negotiations, promises, threats are all worthless. You can’t control another persons actions 100% of the time. Also, what kind of fucking loser thinks throwing acid in someones face is an acceptable response to cheating? Dude get some fucking help.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 05:07 PM
2

I do the opposite lol. All texts are routinely ignored if I’m in the gym. I only answer calls precisely because i know it must be important if it merits a call. It’s only come up once, and yes it was a real emergency, and the first words out of her mouth were “I’m SO sorry for calling while I know you’re in the gym but....”
/r/askMRP21/09/18 08:46 AM
2

It is exactly that easy if you stop fearing her emotions. What you describe isn’t anything special that many of us (myself included) haven’t experienced.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 08:43 AM
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All I want to know is why are you answering the phone in the temple? Turn it off or leave it in your locker until you have trained your woman not to expect ti reach you during that time. I’m nearing the 2 year mark and have answered the phone exactly once in the gym, only because it was so out of character for her to call me during that time. This was after a period of a good year or so of going completely radio silent while at the gym. None of this would have happened if you had simply refraine…
/r/askMRP21/09/18 01:30 AM
3

You’re marriage sucks because you suck. My wife once claimed to be asexual when I was a faggot too. Last night she came for about 10 minutes straight..... Stop listening to her words. You may have Chad’s looks but you sure as fuck don’t have his frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 07:55 PM
2

Get your T-levels checked. Increase your dietary fat levels to keep your hormones in check. Something sounds off if you’re sex drive is completely shut down. Even cutting I still get my balls drained at least a few times a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 02:49 PM
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I would strongly consider changing the order to lift, frame, mission. I’d say you nailed everything else. My experience pre-RP pretty much followed your post to the letter. Thinking that my earning power was enough to keep her attracted to me....I made all the mistakes, expensive gifts, vacations, catering to her every desire and whim. I was the typical Beta Bob, if only I could provide this next thing for her then she will be attracted to me. Puke. What a good fucking plow horse I was. The thin…
/r/askMRP17/09/18 10:26 AM
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You don’t HAVE to respond at all dumbass. How to deal with your anger with her? Start with realizing that the only thing you CAN control in life is your own thoughts and actions. That’s fucking it. You are CHOOSING to be angry. Stop talking about her. Start working on you. Read and internalize Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius and Book of Pook. You sound like a bitch but that’s ok. With some effort you can change that.
/r/askMRP16/09/18 05:50 PM
2

“Mother fucker its hero to zero moment every damn day.” This is what OP need to realize. It never ends. You are literally only as good as you are today. Yesterday doesn’t mean shit. 2 years in and I’m still amused the rare time I slip up and am reminded of the fact. A good slap to the head never hurt anyone. The is literally only one way to be, constantly improving.
/r/askMRP16/09/18 05:46 PM
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Rule number one, LIFT. Why does everyone think they can skip the easiest and most important tenet? You’ve been at this since May, that’s 3 months too long spent getting in halfass shape with body weight before moving on to lifting. I spent a single month doing HIIT at home before moving on to Stronglifts, but that was only because I knew my fitness level was total shit from 15 years of faggotry. After 4 months you can stop looking for excuses, go hit the weights and get on a lifting program. HII…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/18 04:47 PM
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I can’t decide if OP is a sperg, a troll or just a garden variety faggot. Can we get a poll going?
/r/askMRP15/09/18 10:15 AM
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First workout routine in forever and your knee hurts...huge surprise. Look, if you don’t know your body because you never played sports or worked out when you were younger then you need to learn the difference between soreness and “oh fuck something is wrong pain”. Soreness is normal and you can work through with ice, ibuprofen (if needed for swelling ) and rest (as needed). “Of fuck something is horribly wrong” is usually pretty fucking obvious. Sometimes soreness can creep up into “oh fuck” te…
/r/askMRP14/09/18 09:43 AM
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It’s already been said, she’s not submitting because you’re not worth submitting to dumb ass. Fucking hell, skip step 1 and think you can go straight to Go. Fuck you.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 01:38 AM
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A business is not necessarily a mission.
/r/askMRP14/09/18 01:35 AM
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So I see you’ve read Book of Pook....
/r/TheRedPill13/09/18 06:01 PM
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And know you should trust words and not actions....
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 04:31 PM
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You’ve been texting for a few weeks and are already thinking about LTR and marriage plans? Are you sure you’re not a woman? What the fuck is wrong with you? Forget buying the cow, you haven’t even tasted the milk.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 03:13 PM
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Not the answer you want to hear but....fuck more. When you’re always walking around with a loaded gun and fucking is a rare occurrence, it’s no surprise you’re eager and excited....and the worst happens. Once it becomes “I fuck whenever I want”, it’s a completely different headspace and you can finish whenever you damn well please.
/r/askMRP13/09/18 02:11 PM
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+1 Lots of gold in this post. Newbs should pay attention.
/r/askMRP13/09/18 02:06 PM
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You don’t have to nuke them, just have to have enough going in in your life that you no longer have time for them except for the rare occasion. At one point in my life I wasted many thousands of hours on that shit. I still have all of the above, yet I’m never really tempted to go use them. Last time I touched the system was to stream some movies on it for a family retro movie night. It also gets used for the occasional workout video or to stream some background music. A few times a month I will …
/r/askMRP13/09/18 01:56 PM
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Are you fucking serious? Sidebar mother fucker. ———> What makes you think that you are so special that there is some sort of secret short cut just for you?
/r/askMRP13/09/18 10:21 AM
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I’m glad you shared. As a group we need to share our successes along with the challenges we face. So many autistic fucks that come here, either don’t do the work or just don’t get it, coming here with the same questions hoping for some magic tricks to fix everything. After seeing that day in, day out it’s genuinely good to see other guys who just get it and go after it. Good for you man. Nothing but respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 09:40 AM
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Well it sounds like you tried your best. Unfortunately trying your best is for losers. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen. I’m putting more effort into my reply than you put into your post. You sound like a bitch. Learn to hate that whiny bitch more than you hate putting in the work. Nothing changes if you keep doing the same thing and expect different results. Giving up after two weeks is fucking pathetic. (Obligatory) Faggot
/r/askMRP13/09/18 09:33 AM
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What part of this logic filled debate did you think was going to make her pussy wet?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 12:32 AM
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Your SMV is shit. The proof is in the pudding. I believe u/Rian_Stone coined the phrase “would you feel comfortable sitting shirtless with an HB9 you wanted to fuck?”.... I’m paraphrasing. You get the idea. If you’re not there yet, that is your number one priority. Above ALL else, diet and lifting. Start yesterday. You can’t LARP your way through the physical game. Go out there and do the fucking work.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 06:39 PM
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They’re all tools in a toolbox. You need to read the social cues to know which ones to use at the right time. You wouldn’t use a hammer to change a lightbulb or a pipe wrench to trowel cement would you? They’re both tools, but they only work if you use them for the right job.
/r/askMRP12/09/18 02:31 PM
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We’re on the same pageThat’s exactly what I’m getting at.... Who would you rather spend a night on the town with, Cory Worthington or your Admin Assistant? Unless your Admin Assistant is smoking hot and blows dicks like flutes....I’d take hanging out with Cory over her every time. Dudes would be a fucking blast. Anyone can make plans, wether or not anyone else wants to follow them is a completely different animal. OP was being a buzzkill and had no idea. All he saw was “I made the plans therefor…
/r/askMRP12/09/18 02:25 PM
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I’m going to go against the grain here a bit and suggest that if you want to lead in a group situation, you have to have the sort of leadership style and charisma that make people WANT to follow you. How do you go about this? It’s not by being the selfish asshole who does whatever the fuck he wants. It’s by naturally providing value to others without expectations. You’re pleas of “guys let’s go now before it’s too late...blah blah blah” fell on deaf ears because they were having more fun at the …
/r/askMRP12/09/18 01:53 PM
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Well, at least we know who the captain is.
/r/askMRP12/09/18 01:08 AM
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I used MFP religiously for probably the first 6 months or so, after that it became rather intuitive and I eventually came to the realization that the best results would come from sticking to a consistent meal plan where 4/5 meals are the same every day. After that there’s not as much need to track. I know 80% of everyday is perfect without trying. The last meal of the day can vary a bit and I don’t stress too much about it. I know from experience tracking that my dinners generally all range with…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 11:17 PM
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I’ll be honest, I skimmed most of that waiting for the payoff. That was a long wall of puke, but it’s always good to see someone who gets it, goes after it, and gets their rewards. I just would have liked to see more effort regarding lifting and diet. You’re missing the low hanging fruit that has the biggest payoff. Cheers, hope to see you embrace the physical grind in the future.
/r/askMRP11/09/18 07:53 PM
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I’d say it may even be a higher percentage. By the time you dial in training, conditioning, diet, meal prep and sleep, it doesn’t leave much time for anything else in your life that doesn’t bring you value. Once you start cutting out the fat (literally and figuratively) from your life, many of the problems simply evaporate.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:46 PM
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To a certain extent. For example no doubt Hafthor, Eddie Hall or Brian Shaw have bigger chest, arms, and shoulders than 99% of the population. They’re strong as fuck too. All of them look like shit with their shirts off. Compared to your typical male fitness model/celebrity....who do you think MOST women would rather? There is an ideal mens physique most women are attracted to, and it’s not Mr Olympia or World’s Stongest Man. That said, it’s not even hard to be bigger, stronger and leaner than 9…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 01:40 PM
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All I see is a bunch of whining. Try owning your shit.
/r/askMRP11/09/18 11:45 AM
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What the fuck does “I get murky when I do not have attention to cover everything I need” mean? You lost me right there. I have no idea what the fuck you are on about.
/r/askMRP11/09/18 10:10 AM
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Getting a bit more protein shouldn’t be hard. For diet I’ve found the following works best for me, Figure out your calorie and macro targets. Once you’ve done that figure out how many meals a day you want. I find 5 works out perfect for me. Once you have that figured out I find that having the same meals everyday for 4/5 meals is the easiest way to hit your targets. I plan out the same 4 meals (3+protein shake really) everyday. For variety I will alternate protein sources for my afternoon meal (…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 10:03 AM
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For what it’s worth, I’m of the opinion that if you have to ask the question “should I have kids?”. to anyone...then the answer is always, definitely NO. I don’t regret having kids in the slightest, even if I could have had a few Ferrari’s by now for what it’s cost me. Sounds cliche but I wouldn’t trade them for the world. If you’re the type that has to balance equations based on hard logic and numbers on a spreadsheet, kids are definitely not for you.
/r/askMRP09/09/18 09:44 PM
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We all get the same 24 hours in a day. Some of us are better at time management than others. I’ve just eliminated anything that doesn’t bring me value or that I don’t want to do from my life. Spend time with the kids every evening (from dinner on), and most of the day on the weekends. I also include them in my workouts sometimes for example take the youngest for a bike ride while I’m out for a run etc. I’m also fortunate that my gym is at work and I get my rides in during the week rather than dr…
/r/askMRP09/09/18 12:54 AM
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Or he could be less of a faggot and get a handle on his emotions. For reference I’m 42 and wake up before 4am, last week worked 55 hrs, put in 5hrs lifting, ran 20 miles, biked 60 miles, did 2 half hour HIIT kettlebell/burpee workouts and joined my wife for yoga twice. I didn’t have any trouble with not being a fag.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 11:28 PM
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You need some actual muscle under there if you want them to pop. I believe the phrase around here is “6 pack on a skinny guy is like big tits on a fat chick, nothing to brag about”. If they’re not showing at over 6 feet tall and 160lbs....maybe, just maybe there’s nothing there to show. Rather than aiming to cut to concentration camp victim levels, you should look at lean gains and add some actual muscle mass.
/r/askMRP07/09/18 04:51 PM
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Nope. I have a simple rule now, I don’t do anything I don’t want to do.
/r/askMRP06/09/18 05:24 PM
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Experience tells me that often when someone’s lifts make no sense (scary skeleton marathoner who doesn’t lift regularly is benching > bodyweight) that usually they are either A) full of shit Or B) quoting a 1RM that they half repped at best You see it in every gym, guys “benching 2 plates” but the bar never comes within 4 inches of their chest. More of an unrack, shakily unlock elbows, lower weight 1”, then lock elbows again.....all ego. Now if scary skeleton man came in and said he’d been runni…
/r/askMRP06/09/18 05:06 PM
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Picking up 5lbs all day long counts as a physical job in your mind? By your estimates you are doing 2000 body weight squats/lunges in an 10 hr period...so about 3 1/3 per minute, assuming your estimate is accurate. That is sweet fuck all. Basically amounts to a walking effort considering you weigh sweet fuck all. Sounds like you’ve never had a physical job in your life if you consider this too taxing to lift after work. Stop being a pussy, eat more and go lift some heavy ass shit. Edit: my math …
/r/askMRP06/09/18 04:45 PM
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Own the sex talk but have some fucking fun with it. There’s no need to sound like a robot talking about how you’re not ashamed of your needs, body etc... “You’re a pervert” - “You’re fucking right I am” “You’re obsessed with sex” - “Only when I’m not hungry or tired, speaking of which...you make the best sandwiches “ You get the idea....have some fun, stop worrying that it might piss her off. What’s she going to do? Not fuck you more?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 05:53 PM
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Truth be told, for me it was the first time my wife had to travel for work and knowing that I no longer compared favourably to the men she would be around for the next week. Seeing her at the airport with her boss was like a kick in the nuts. I felt like a hopeless, weak, needy faggot. I looked like one too. I hadn’t found the RP yet, nor knew any of the terms, but I knew that I wouldn’t be shocked at the thought of her trading up given how shit I had let myself get. How could I have fallen so f…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 10:58 AM
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I often prefer pressure flip for this type of question ..... “Why do you keep bringing it up? Is there something you want to tell me?” Edited because it’s been ages since this exact question has come up in my case....
/r/askMRP03/09/18 07:16 PM
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You sir don’t fucking get it. She’s either miserable because you suck as a captain OR she’s just a miserable cunt. The sidebar and lift advice is really just a filtering algorithm. Once you are SURE the problem is not you, then the only answer left is that she is a horrible cunt. Sidebar and lift is there to help you figure out which scenario you fall under. Once you have it figured out, the answer becomes clear. Either she’s no longer miserable because you no longer suck or it’s time for you to…
/r/askMRP02/09/18 05:47 PM
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Dear MRP, Why isn’t my NAWALT unicorn acting like a man? OP, apparently you haven’t learned that a fish is just a fish and will do fish things..... Don’t expect your fish to fetch a ball and you’ll never be disappointed in your fish.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 05:47 PM
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2 YEARS! And you haven’t managed to learn fuck all....impressive.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 07:22 PM
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Read BPP’s book/ listen to his podcasts, pay specific attention to resetting every day. You can withdraw attention today and still play your nice card the next morning. Depending on how she acts, rinse and repeat as necessary.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 04:49 PM
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So, not only are you Blue as fuck for being in a LDR in the first place BUT you’re also psychic (you could tell from the look in her eyes) as well? Insecure and over invested. There is no such thing as an LDR. Read that every time you forget.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 10:35 AM
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I used to argue with my wife, but then again I also used to be a fat fuck and had a dead bedroom. I have better things to do than get dragged into her drama now. If she wants to argue over some stupid shit, she’s free to do so, just not with me. I’ll tease, AA and AM that shit but if she crosses the line from shit test into straight disrespect....I’m out. It’s not a case of STFU, it’s a case of I have better things to do and as Patrice would say not negotiating with Terrorists. Getting pulled in…
/r/askMRP25/08/18 11:44 PM
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The guys who get it, get it. The guys who don’t never will. Congrats!
/r/askMRP25/08/18 09:52 AM
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If you can’t ignore her mood swings cause you’re a bitch, learn to entertain yourself at her expense. Mine USED to do the same kind of behaviour. I put my big boy pants on and ignored her when she was acting crazy. Then I realized I was missing out on a huge opportunity to have some fun. So I started fucking with her intentionally. AM and sexualizing everything to the extreme. Sometimes just moving her shit when she wasn’t looking, then watching her run around like a chicken with her head cut of…
/r/askMRP23/08/18 11:33 PM
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You think she can’t keep you from finding out without travelling? Newsflash, you aren’t with her 24/7. If she wants to fall on strange she will find a way. Fuck, read reports right here of flaired posters banging Billy Beta’s wife in an upstairs bathroom while he’s downstairs oblivious. What are you going to do? Lock her in a tower? Travel or not, it’s all the same shit. Stop worrying about her. Worry about you.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 01:43 PM
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Thanks for saving me a lot of thumb typing! Worrying about “what if’s “ is insecure as fuck. Being insecure is unattractive as fuck. Noobs, be attractive, don’t be unattractive.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 01:35 PM
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She doesn’t need to go to another city to fall on some strange dick.... Travel or not makes no difference.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 10:40 AM
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Haha me too
/r/askMRP23/08/18 10:38 AM
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Resisting the urge to talk when it’s best to STFU. That’s a tough beta trait to keep down after decades of programming to “talk it out”. Interestingly enough I’ve found I’m starting to build a Pavlovian response to it. Every single time I’ve resisted the urge to open my mouth and say some lame ass shit has ended up with getting blown or fucking (her initiating) within 24 hrs. Makes it a lot easier to remember to STFU if the urge to spill your fee fees arises.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 09:58 AM
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What worked for my Golfers Elbow (inside of elbow rather than outside) was to just stick to upper body compound lifts (BP, OHP, Rows, Chins, PullUps/PullDowns) and remove bicep/tricep isolation work completely until the pain subsided. Took about 6 months total of no isolation work until it went away completely. My theory is it took that long for the tendon strength to catch up to my increased lifts and that the extra volume from isolation work was just too much to recover from until my fitness l…
/r/askMRP23/08/18 02:01 AM
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Punishing good behaviour.....ya, that’s always a good idea. If she offers it and you want it, be a man and fuck her how you want. If you don’t want it, don’t fuck her. Just stop being a pussy and acting like a woman about it. You’re whole post is nothing but hamstering. Wether or not you fuck her the next time she offers nothing changes. You’ve still got a ton of work to do. You’re expending way too much energy deciding what action to take. In the end the only thing that matters is that you act …
/r/askMRP21/08/18 10:39 AM
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You sound like a lot of fun at parties. Maybe work on your soft skills and being less fucking autistic. Give less fucks and have some fucking fun. From what I just read, I wouldn’t want to have a beer with you. Why would some chick want to fuck you? You’re obviously intelligent, now start working on your people skills. Right now it sounds like you have none. Debating people on smoking pot? No one wants to be around a buzzkill.
/r/askMRP20/08/18 12:24 PM
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Should be...soon to be plate.
/r/askMRP19/08/18 04:48 PM
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I don’t know about you but I don’t let my wife date her ex-BF’s or other men period. Going off with her ex while on a trip should be at minimum a demotion to instant plate status. A high value woman doesn’t date other men. A high value woman wouldn’t even suggest it, she knows exactly what it makes her look like. This is a power play on her part to make you jealous and nothing more. Fuck that. She can do whatever she wants to do, but that doesn’t mean you are required to accept it. Coupled with …
/r/askMRP19/08/18 04:45 PM
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Do enough burpees and KB swings and you’ll feel like you want to die. If you’re not in a constant state of debating wether you should run for the garbage can, you’re doing it wrong.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 03:09 PM
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Casting all bad ass hyperbole aside, I thing this could have been condensed to “strive do things that frighten you”. I would also add “challenge yourself physically and mentally”. It doesn’t all have to be life threatening (as mentioned at the very end by OP), but I do find value in actively forcing myself to do things I don’t want to do, every day. If I don’t do something that sucked every day, I feel like I’ve wasted that day. There’s a lot of bravado and machismo in OP’s post, but isn’t that …
/r/askMRP17/08/18 03:05 PM
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There’s your answer. Decide if you want to live with it or not....anything else is a waste of time and energy. Forget about worrying about winning or losing, that’s just your ego talking. This is a win-win scenario....what part of hotter, younger, tighter are you having trouble with?
/r/askMRP14/08/18 05:30 PM
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The ongoing problem is that you are balls deep in her frame worrying about it. So you’re worried her hamster is making shit up to justify her crush? Not only are you in her frame worrying about what her hamster is doing but you’re forgetting that we have standard tools in the MRP sidebar to deal with conflict. How do you deal with bullshit conflict she creates? You know the answer already. (Or you should given your flair). You can’t force her to do anything. You know this. You can’t lead her if …
/r/askMRP14/08/18 04:30 PM
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She’s not yours, it’s only your turn. No different at 51 than at 21. You worrying about it is the impediment to her being led by you. What’s the worst that happens? She fucks him and YOU get hotter, younger, tighter, firmer.
/r/askMRP14/08/18 03:35 PM
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The good news is, if he’s as Alpha as you say he is....what makes you think he’s interested in fucking your 44 year old wife? Take off the wife goggles for a moment and realize that he’s got his targets set on the same types we all would in his position , hotter, younger, tighter and firmer. If he wants to fuck her he probably could....it’s irrelevant. You know what you have to do,
/r/askMRP14/08/18 03:12 PM
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“I love your sandwiches too!”
/r/askMRP09/08/18 11:09 PM
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I wouldn't say it's any different other than the openness about it, which is probably a good thing. At least it's out in the open and those of us with the awareness can use it to our advantage if we choose. Every generation says that the next generation is worse than theirs....However I remember girls being just as slutty when I was in junior high and high school (late 80's/early 90's). I vividly remember laughing at the girls who would come to school walking funny after their first attempt at a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 12:44 AM
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He never got any respect...and he’s no Carlin.
/r/askMRP27/07/18 01:59 AM
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Your last paragraph reminds me of the line in the poem: “Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.” It’s never too late to go out fighting. Even on deaths door. Every day is one day closer to that day. Memento mori. You’re already dead, you just don’t know it yet. Every man should be raging against the dying of the light with every single waking moment. You’re dead on, 38 is still decades left to improve onesel…
/r/askMRP27/07/18 12:45 AM
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When confronted with a relationship issue think back to the days before marriage and ask yourself “what would that guy do?” Along with doing all the actual work (lift, sidebar, etc), making that small mental switch had the biggest impact for me. After all, that fucker is the guy she chose, not the beta loser she has (had) now. She may complain that she hates the “new you” but the proof is in her actions. The asshole she complains about is the same jerk she’s blowing later that day. For anyone th…
/r/askMRP26/07/18 06:44 PM
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My workout out partner is early 50’s. Never lifted a weight in his life before joining me (after seeing my transformation from fat fuck to fit fucker). Now he’s being asked if he’s on the juice. Diet and discipline work. It’s definitely not too late to start at 50.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 01:22 AM
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“White collar fuckwits” You’re just clearly a betafag who only understands memes apparently. You’re just not educated enough, or well earning enough to recognize someone of such class and sophistication. You’re so far beneath him that you can’t even comprehend the level of 7 dimensional chess he was playing at the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/18 12:53 PM
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You don’t suspect an affair from a guy who texts your wife that he’s always thinking about her and wants to hold her....a guy that also dates your wife. Very interesting.
/r/askMRP23/07/18 10:12 AM
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Paper. Thin. Ego. All for being called educated but dumb. Acta non verba. You’re actions showed just how smart you really are on that day in the quarry. Educated does not equal intelligent One of the smartest, shrewdest, and wealthiest individuals I know has a grade 4 formal education Your ego is the only reason you made this post, and it’s the main thing standing in the way of seeing what a drunk redneck and his stoner buddy could clearly see....that you endangered your toddler. How does that m…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 02:03 PM
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Fragile fucking ego, educated but dumb as a bag of hammers. Quarries are dangerous places for the adults who work in them, let alone unattended TODDLERS. JFC. Does someone need to draw you a picture? Next time be a man and pick the fucking kid up or don’t go tower climbing. It’s ok to disappoint the older kids. Kids learn more about responsible adulting from being told no than they do from climbing a tower with their dad while their youngest sibling is left behind in a quarry. Just one question,…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 01:41 PM
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TIL that being “well earning and well educated “ doesn’t mean that one is not a complete dumb fuck. How fucking enormous does your ego need to be to not realize what a monumentally stupid fucking decision it is to leave a toddler unattended in a fucking quarry? You DESERVED to be called much worse than a faggot. Own your shit, realize how colossally you fucked up and learn from it if you are capable. That way, you know, your children have better odds of reaching adulthood with all their body par…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 11:55 AM
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I ignored everything after “getting to the iron temple at all”.... That’s the EASIEST part of the sidebar to implement. Are you sure it’s your wife that has issues with irresponsibility?
/r/askMRP17/07/18 10:53 AM
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Known cheater. Still dead bedroom 4 years later. She’s still having sex, it’s just not with you. Next. I’d still do the work and use her as a sparring partner until you’re fuckable though.
/r/askMRP14/07/18 04:21 AM
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Reminds me of a situation I was in about 9 months ago. 20+ other adults I’m with are losing their shit at a situation completely outside of our control. Me, I’m siting there laughing at the entire thing thinking about what a great story this is going to make and how I’ll be laughing about it for years to come. What would have been a completely unremarkable, unmemorable experience ended up being something worth remembering. Sometimes it’s all about perspective.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 06:37 PM
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Go back over Meditations again. Then Epictetus. For shits and giggles you can add reading up on Diogenes and Cynicism to the mix. His school of Cynicism laid the foundations for Zeno and what would become later become Stoicism. Then maybe some Alan Watts and a bit of Buddhism (lots of overlap with Stoicism). Actually internalize that you are only in control of your thoughts and actions. Nothing else. Period. If those facts can’t help you come to the realization that 99.9% of the things that ange…
/r/askMRP13/07/18 04:52 PM
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“Feels gross” is an excuse not to blow your fat ass because she “feels gross” about YOU. Be the prize and feeling gross magically disappears. This shit is seriously not that hard if you put in the effort.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 10:30 AM
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Be attractive, always be gaming. Build sexual tension. Don’t be ashamed of being sexual. “Feels gross” is for Betas and guys she’s not attracted to. Mine used to always “feel gross” during shark week as well. 2 years later it’s BJ/HJ week every month. Slowly planting the seed for butt stuff. Weird how she no longer feels gross about it now that she knows I have options. . Follow the sidebar. Everything you need to know is there. It works.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 10:09 AM
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I never realised what a shit job most parents do until I started coming across basic ass shit posts like this. Reading to mine nightly from the time they were newborns sure seemed to work in my household to instill a love of books. I can't imagine they would have ever wanted to rip up their favorite possessions. Your wife is daring you? WTF? You have bigger issues than a toddler that rips up books. You have a wife that openly disrespects you.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 05:16 PM
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Hmmm....Starting out with the premise that you WANT a certain outcome and attempting to make it so. Sounds to me like the exact opposite of outcome independence. I have a Buddhist friend that loves to remind me that WANTS and ATTACHMENTS all lead to suffering. I personally would argue against MRP being RP on hard mode, and argue that it's all hard mode, and therefore none of it is hard mode. If you start with the premise that you really are in control of only two things, your thoughts and your a…
/r/askMRP06/07/18 04:53 PM
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I’m all for building your building your own life, but 4 weeks is an awful long time to spend without any meaningful interaction with your wife. What is your intent here? How exactly are you gaming her? Where’s the fun? My “me time” is 100% mine and I enjoy it. However, I also enjoy making my wife giggle like she did when we first met or sometimes just fucking with her for shits and giggles. Where are your shits and giggles?
/r/askMRP24/06/18 12:30 PM
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No different than the gym, weights that were once heavy become light. You were one of the first posters that guided me and along with the other men here have built and added to the bridge the rest of us have crossed. I had a similar epiphany recently that almost two years in I still feel like every month I’m “just turning the corner” as my life continues to move in the direction I wish it to. I came here to save my marriage as well and was slapped upside the head into realizing that it was ME th…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/18 10:49 AM
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This! When I was green and new I spent a lot more time reading, posting, and asking for advice As time has gone on I’ve realized that I only have so many hours in a day, and that I was spending more time than optimal reading and writing and not enough doing. As less hand holding is needed, a lot of us just spend more time doing the work of building the lives we want and less time here. And yes, getting our dicks wet. I have a ton of respect for the senior members who guided me and still take the…
/r/askMRP11/06/18 10:26 AM
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Doing it later this summer while I’m on holidays.Not only do I need 48 hrs uninterrupted for the challenge, I figure I’m going to need a few days after (at least) to recover. Currently doing about 20 miles a week and working on increasing weekly mileage over the next 6 weeks. One way or another it’s getting done, even if I have to shuffle, walk or crawl the last miles. Like I said before, it’s my gift to myself this year.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/18 12:57 AM
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This simple phrase freed me from what you describe: "The person who needs the other the least in the relationship has all the power" She's only the Alpha bitch because you allow it. Because you are afraid of losing her if you don't meet her demands. Because you are afraid you can't replace her if she does leave. Because you have no other options. Fear is what is keeping you in chains. You've got her so high on the pedestal that it's only natural for her to feel entitled to her man servant doing …
/r/askMRP30/05/18 04:44 PM
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Why does it need to be longer than a month? Does your city not have a YMCA? Gyms with month to month? Stop making excuses.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 01:30 PM
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Why did you bring up getting a gym membership in the first place? Do you need her permission? Learn to STFU and laugh about this shit. Just ask yourself how ridiculous it is that you feel you need to ask permission to go do something for yourself that doesn’t impact anyone else? She wants to leave over a gym membership? Let her.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 12:28 PM
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I’ll second this. Fit is everything. Just bought a new suit last month as my size has significantly changed since my last purchase. Everything needed alterations. Spent a small fortune on tailoring, but it fits PERFECT. Worth every penny, especially for anyone with an athletic build (broad shoulders, big chest, slim waist). As my body has changed drastically over the last almost 2 years, I’ve noticed that more and more of my clothing needs to be altered. Almost everything is made for the typical…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 10:52 AM
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MRP is the gift that keeps on giving. Every time I think I’ve seen the low point, a new posts comes out and resets the bar. Shit like this is what makes it so easy to be great if you just put in any effort at all.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 10:43 AM
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This is the most common excuse I’ve seen during my time here. “Calisthenics and dumbbells”untill blah blah blah....it’s better than nothing, but just fucking barely. If you can’t properly lift at home “because XYZ”, get thee to a fucking gym. Why do you need to wait until blah, blah blah? There are literally dozens of options for going to a real gym until XYZ sorts itself out.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 10:08 AM
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Who’s frame are you in when you ask this question? Your question is all about your wife, her friends, and what they think. What do you want? That’s where you’ll find your frame. For now, slow down, keep doing the work, HAVE FUN and stop overthinking it.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 01:52 PM
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Why waste time on someone who is “comfortable “ where they are? Seriously, one look at the guys “I love my wife post” was enough for me to realize he’s a waste of time. . The guy is just hamstering why it’s totally ok that he’s a weak pussy. Some of us were once the same. The difference is that we chose to improve and stop being faggots. He’s not there yet and won’t ever get there so long as he stands on his pedestal proclaiming how right he is and how wrong we are. Not worth the effort. Like I …
/r/askMRP22/03/18 05:10 PM
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Fucking gay. Should have looked at your post history before I replied to you the first time. Are you lost? You make it easier for everyone else to be great by staying so damn weak. So thanks for that.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 03:12 PM
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“Working out is not that important.” You just nailed it. It’s not important to you. You’re unwilling to make the sacrifice needed. How do you expect to make any progress? It’s literally one of the first rules here: Be attractive, don’t be unattractive I hear what you’re saying and it’s all bullshit. I work similar hours and am away similar lengths of time as you. I make time for it because it’s necessary.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 02:32 PM
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Kids up at 5am? How about 4am?
/r/askMRP22/03/18 02:02 PM
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Wake up earlier. You can finish a 5/3/1 workout in less than 1hr. Less than 30 if you follow the Jack Shit template. Check out Jocko’s or The Rock’s twitter pages. They are up hours before you. By the time you’re leaving the house, I’ve put in almost a half day. Every day.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 01:50 PM
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Weak excuse for not lifting. No such thing as “impossible”. Just tell the truth, it’s not a high enough priority for you to make time for it. I said the same lie to myself for years. The senior members here cleared that right the fuck up for me, and they were 100% right. You make time for the things that are important to you. Period. There is NOTHING more important in your life than your health. Diet and lifting should be priorities 1 and 2 above all else. They are literally the two most importa…
/r/askMRP22/03/18 01:46 PM
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Great post Bobby, upvoted both. I came to the same conclusion around the 6 month mark but don’t have the ability to articulate nearly as well as you just have. This is the type of post the new guys need to see.
/r/askMRP16/03/18 09:34 AM
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Upvoted. Looks like I wasn’t the only one thinking that. There’s a guy like that at my gym, swinging 50’s for hammer curls, arms flailing around like he’s on the ski slopes.
/r/askMRP13/03/18 07:16 PM
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I’ll answer the bench question.....3x5 Seems obvious to me.
/r/askMRP13/03/18 09:56 AM
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I’ll take “I better drain his balls before someone else does” kind of sex for $600 Alex.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 04:44 PM
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Im curious how you ended up relinquishing the head of the table in the first place. Unless there are more than 6 members in your family, there are 2 heads on opposite ends. Did you let the kids sit at one of them? This is something I’ve genuinely always been curious about when I read it here. Even in my most beta years, I always sat at one head with either my wife, one, or both of the kids at my sides. We now generally sit across from each other on opposite ends (heads), unless one of the kids i…
/r/askMRP07/03/18 05:44 PM
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You’ve got a lot of work to do ahead of you. It’s all in the sidebar reading materials. DEER - Defend Explain Excuse Rationalize Lift and read. Lift and read.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 08:08 PM
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No offence but you are DEER’ing like a mother fucker and delusional. First of all, going from skinny as fuck to just skinny and weak would have been possible on any program. You were concentration camp victim level at 125. Instead of BB.com, look at the advice of those members here and on r/fitness who have made huge changes fast using tried and true programs like 5x5, Starting Strength, PHAT, PHUL, 5/3/1 for beginners, Nsuns LP, etc. You are small and weak. Any linear progression program plus a…
/r/askMRP06/03/18 08:02 PM
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Im not doubting your perceived exertion level. Im doubting your choice of routine. Get to a real gym with real free weights and get on a real program. BTW, there’s zero chance of you putting out your back with any of the exercises you have listed regardless of weight.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 07:46 PM
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Listen carefully, COMPOUND LIFTS! HEAVY MOTHER FUCKING COMPOUND LIFTS! Get on a program that has you doing the 4 main barbell lifts at it’s core. Then add your accessories around those. You are not going to get anywhere doing 60lb leg extensions, and 30lb hamstring curls. You shouldn’t even be thinking about bicep curls if you can’t do 10 pull-ups and tricep extensions when you can’t bench your body weight. Your program looks like you wrote it yourself. While better than nothing, you will see mu…
/r/askMRP06/03/18 07:39 PM
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To anyone who enjoyed this podcast, I highly recommend Living with a Seal - Jessie Itzler. It’s an entertaining, light read about hiring David Goggins to come train Jessie for 30 days. He’s not named in the book, but he was dox’d a long time ago as the Seal mentioned in the title. The man is a fucking beast, and the book is full of great workout ideas and motivation. Actually fuck motivation, motivation comes and goes, be driven. The book is full of his words of wisdom. I’m not planning any mara…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 05:36 PM
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Glad I’m not the only one that see through Mr Newage’s bullshit. Guaranteed he’s been balls deep in the Mrs at LEAST once.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:23 PM
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I’ve got the same toothbrush. $20 for new heads. I wouldn’t be thinking about saving $20 while my wife is acting like a fucking lunatic. If this is real, you’ve got bigger fish to fry than worrying about saving your toothbrush. Such as asking yourself why the fuck you are staying with a lunatic that puts your shit in the toilet? Have some self respect man. She doesn’t respect you because you don’t respect yourself.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 01:11 PM
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Here’s what I don’t get, Why not just get the fuck out of there and buy a new toothbrush on your way back? They’re worth what, like $4 bucks? Your wife is acting like a complete psychopath and you’re worried about a toothbrush? I smell troll. Something smells shitty and it’s not your toothbrush.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 10:59 AM
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You trust her actions in the moment and nothing else. I went through a lot of trust issues early on and went to a professional to deal with them around the same time I first swallowed the pill. His advice was solid and is what I still follow. If things are good enjoy them for what they are, if something is going on that you don’t know about eventually you will find out, IF that happens then basically it’s her loss not yours. You move on with your life and she loses out on you (you are the prize)…
/r/askMRP05/03/18 10:50 AM
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Exactly. One of the reasons I love his program as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/18 10:39 AM
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Good mechanic/work gloves are worth it just to prevent all those inevitable bloody knuckles. Edit: just don’t wear them around spinning things (ie drill press) if you like keeping your fingers.
/r/askMRP03/03/18 11:48 PM
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Exactly, fucking up is a fantastic teacher. Why is everyone so scared to fuck up?
/r/askMRP03/03/18 06:53 PM
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You are living at a time in history when the sum of all human knowledge is literally in the palm of your hands. If you had this information available in the middle ages you would be worshipped as a god. Lots of good advice in here already that I wont bother repeating. What I will add is this, from my personal knowledge of academic types the problem usually tends to be overthinking and refusing to act until every single potential fucking variable has been accounted for. This just leads to analysi…
/r/askMRP03/03/18 06:51 PM
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Or do both. No reason you can’t be strong AND have a gas tank. Doing 5/3/1, recent workouts 315x5 on DL, 285x5 squat, 215x5 BP, 150x5 OHP. I still put in 15miles per week running, and 2-3 more HIIT workouts. I’m currently cutting for summer so not making any new strength gains, but there’s still a ton of improvement still left to be made in both strength and endurance. This is the one area where I think Crossfitter’s have things right. I’d rather be very good at both, rather than elite at one an…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 12:46 AM
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One simple suggestion: Change the mindset of “even went to the gym while out of town” to one of “I make time for my workouts “X” days a week”, (depending on whatever your schedule may be) Frame your workouts as a challenge you look forward to completing , rather than something you “have” to do, “even when out of town.”
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 11:50 AM
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My bad. You must be special and so must your wife. How does that saying go again? Continue doing exactly what you’re doing, and expect to get different results. It’s the hallmark of good mental health and high IQ or something like that. Whatever my IQ level is....I can guarantee it’s higher than your T levels.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 11:10 PM
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About the response I’d expect from a guy who has given his wife exactly TWO orgasms. Hint, hint....she was likely faking them to save your feels so she wouldn’t have to hear you talk about it any further.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 10:22 PM
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The only response I can bother to give you is this: Keep doing things your way, it’s clearly working great for you. I’m sure your marriage will continue to do great, and neither you nor your wife will grow to resent each other as you both continue being sexually frustrated. If I were you I would double down on the talking feels, and especially on the PC master race gaming. Chicks love men who come home and spend hours every night on MMORPG’s instead of doing man stuff. What I wouldn’t do if I we…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 10:05 PM
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“Never share your problems with others, 50% of people don’t care, the other 50% are happy you have them.” Life advice that rings true most of the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 03:56 PM
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Given that your posting history reads like a “how to dry out pussy” instruction manual, I think you may be in the wrong place.... It’s not about suffering in silence, it’s about coming to the realization that your wife is not your therapist. Save that shit for the locker room. Maybe, just maybe, you wouldn’t be asking “how to get my wife to ride” if your theory of puking your feels to your “correctly chosen” woman was a successful sexual strategy. I’m sure she loves it when you soak her panties …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 03:54 PM
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“Women have no interest in sharing a mans burden. Your feelings don’t matter, how you make her feel is all that exists. This is all she remembers of these interactions. “ This was a bitter fucking pill to swallow after a lifetime of BP conditioning. It’s also 100% correct. Looking back on it, I’d say >50% of the shit my wife and I used to end up fighting about was brought on by openly sharing too much verbal diarrhea about my own fears, angers, or insecurities. All I was doing was giving her mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 01:55 PM
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Some real gold advice in this thread. OP, you’re still looking at initiating from a spreadsheet point of view and keeping score. IE “MRP says I need to be constantly initiating, today so I have to keep score on how many times a day it takes to score an average of 3x week”. You’ve got it all wrong. You’re not initiating because it leads her to do something for you. You are initiating because it’s something you ENJOY doing. You have fun with it for YOU, not her. Anything else is just another cover…
/r/askMRP19/02/18 04:10 PM
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Clearly you missed that nothing will change unless you are willing to burn it all to the ground. Nothing. Read it again. You’ve missed it the first few times you’ve read it. You just want to sprinkle a little alpha and fix your “one missing piece”. It doesn’t work that way. Go back to square one and start again. You’re missing the big picture.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 11:35 PM
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Yes she knows. Got it done pre RP (by my own choice, condoms suck ass). No changes at all in me. Many changes in her (all positive) but those are all post RP. It’s all in your head. A nut is a nut.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 06:54 PM
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If you’re sure you’re done having kids, just get the snip. Creampie her all you like after that with no worries.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 06:36 PM
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You flair says “Head Negotiatior” Let me put this into negotiation terms for you. You’re negotiating from a position of weakness. None of this works unless: A) you are doing this for you and you only AND, B) you are willing to burn it all to the ground. You fucking nailed it. You are AFRAID she is going to leave. Over fucking what? Not explicitly asking mommy for PERMISSION? You should be laughing at the ridiculousness of having a wife who is angry with you for doing something fun for yourself w…
/r/askMRP16/02/18 03:41 PM
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So why is that a problem for you then? Go and enjoy your day and get out of her frame. How she feels about it is how she feels about it. It’s not your job to fix her feels.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 03:09 PM
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Folding like a cheap lawn chair. One email from her and your hamster is running a marathon. Her frame is solid. You should ask her for tips. You are not responsible for her emotions, she is. Once you actually start to have some semblance of a frame, you’ll realize that her being upset is as normal as her being overcome with joy. Let her have her feelings, up or down. Are you afraid of her anger? Why? Unless you are being a dumb mother fucker who is just deciding to go off and do his own thing on…
/r/askMRP16/02/18 02:51 PM
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In other words, don’t ask, just do. Years of BP conditioning is the only thing holding you back when you’re first starting out. Being afraid of her emotions, rather than enjoying the show, watching her ride them up and down. Eventually you learn that it all leads to watching her ride, up and down. There was never anything to fear in the first place.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 11:53 AM
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There’s a lot more gifted posters here that do a lot better job of explaining this shit to others than I can. I’m thankful for all of them, without them laying out the path, I’d still be lost in mediocrity wondering where my mojo went. Instead, I did the work, found it, am enjoying the rewards and continuing to push onwards and upwards....feels good man.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 11:43 AM
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Passed his first belt test.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 07:49 PM
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Aside from the covert contracts and butt hurt, where you really fucked up was in not assuming the sale. If you weren’t a faggot, you would have made YOUR move instead of waiting for her to initiate. Instead you sat there like a fucking momo hoping she would touch your dick. Then you took a fucked up situation and really fucked it up further by punishing her for initiating in the morning. You are Captain Fucking Oblivious.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:33 PM
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You’re describing it for OP a lot better than I can.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 01:51 PM
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63 days since you went from Rambo with dead bedroom, to improved sex life, to week long shit test. Zero OYS posts.....”7 months” in. My gut reaction is that you are still in the “fuck that bitch, I do what I want” head space. Great, you’re not a pushover with your balls in her purse anymore. Now, what are you doing to be a high value man that she WANTS to follow? Carrots and sticks. Sounds like you’ve got STFU and remove presence down. Your stick game is on point. How’s your carrot game?
/r/askMRP15/02/18 12:51 PM
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She doesn’t want to know how the sausage is made, she just wants some good sausage.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 05:37 PM
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I find that works best for me as well. Im up before 4am, get two meals in before my lifting workout at 11. For most people that would translate into mid afternoon. Last time I travelled for work I had to workout before work at 6am, felt weak as fuck. Fasted lifting first thing in the AM doesn’t work for me at all.
/r/askMRP11/02/18 04:48 PM
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I find cardio only helps my lifting by improving work capacity and recovery time. Since I workout at lunch and my time is limited, those are important for me. I do a mix of LISS, HIIT/Conditioning Work, and medium length runs. I’ve found no detrimental effects from doing this 6 days a week in combination with 4 day 5/3/1 BBB. The key is not to overdo the cardio volume (time) when bulking and increase the total amount when cutting. Keep it at around 30/min a day and you should be fine. Wendler ad…
/r/askMRP10/02/18 10:47 AM
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He claims he's read the entire sidebar, Rollo's work, Roosh etc but then also states he hasn't read NMMNG in another reply. I think it's obvious that if he has read anything, he's missed the fucking point of all of it. OP, read it all again and start putting it into actual action. None if it works unless you actually A) do the work and B) are willing to burn it all to the ground. There is no saving marriages here. There's saving yourself. You've got a head start on fitness, get working on everyt…
/r/askMRP08/02/18 11:51 PM
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You don’t need to hire a PI. You already know enough.
/r/askMRP08/02/18 10:44 AM
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What do you want? Do you want to be with a woman who doesn’t want you physically near her 40% of the time? Keep hamstering all you want but the reality is that you are accepting this situation that you created. Why? Would it not be preferable to be with someone who is behaving to your ideal nearer to 100% if the time? Create the life you want. I don’t think this it it. You are settling for it out of fear and lack of abundance.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 02:45 PM
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You can keep eating shit, but then you don’t get to complain when it gives you a stomach ache.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:51 PM
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Have you tried NOT being a doormat when she hits her 1.5 week bitchy period? Ever think that by accepting the behaviour that you are giving her defacto permission to treat you that way every month? What is the worst thing that will happen if you stop accepting her shitty behaviour ? Unless you are willing to burn it all to the ground nothing changes. You seem willing to put up with someone who treats you well 60% of the time. Why are you settling for that in life? Set your sights a little higher…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/18 01:50 PM
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Well, cant look at your original post because you’re hiding it from us so I have no idea about your background... BUT, I do know this. Pay attention and write it down. THERE IS ONLY ONE REASON TO KEEP A SECRET BURNER PHONE HIDDEN FROM YOUR SPOUSE. Read that as many times as you need to get it through your head. Regardless of what she says, you already know the answer.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 12:44 PM
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Get your T levels checked. By your own admission you have a hot wife who doesn’t shit test you, is a great partner and likes to fuck.... And your main issue is she doesn’t stimulate your mind enough on an intellectual level? Get the fuck out of here and hand in your man card. That’s what your colleagues, friends, mentors etc are for. Your ancestors would be ashamed.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 08:56 PM
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I’d do that for another month MAX if you’ve never lifted before just to improve your conditioning a bit more, then move onto a real barbell lifting program if gaining strength and muscle are your main priorities. There is no substitute for heavy compound lifts. Get on a beginner linear progression program and ride it for as long as you can. The classes you are going to are great for soccer moms (unless your talking CF) looking for someone to tell them what to do. They’re not going to get you whe…
/r/askMRP06/02/18 12:01 PM
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Are you following a structured program (SS, SL, 531 for beginners, other LP) or doing one you made up? What is your progression scheme on your lifts? 3 days a week full body? Upper/lower split?
/r/askMRP06/02/18 11:52 AM
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Jack ten’s I could make it through till the end though.... Edit: holy shit I just realized this is only part 1 of OP’s post.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 07:51 PM
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I’ll echo these exact same sentiments. OP, you’ve been around about the same time as I have and are still stuck spinning your wheels because of your own hamster. Fuck he must be tired. I think you really need to look at some individual therapy to get out of your own head before you can make any progress. Right now all you keep doing is analyzing the same points, over and over again to death. You’re right, MRP has what you call a Zen side. You need to find it. Stop over thinking and just do. The …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 07:49 PM
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Couldn’t care less about football so not going out of my way to rearrange my usual routine. If it was something more important to me, then time would be made for it, schedules would be adjusted etc. Priorities. I only have so many free hours in a week and so many fucks to give. Made up sports holiday doesn’t even make the top 20 on my list.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 02:42 PM
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In a nutshell you could say that MRP is all about being a man that has options. It’s not until you start having options again that you realize just how powerless a man without options really is.
/r/askMRP05/02/18 11:54 AM
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Basically you’re whining that life isn’t fair, that the fairy tale you’ve been sold is a lie, that “just being yourself” should be enough. You have two options, continue down the path of the herd and stay in dreamland OR swallow that bitter pill and get to work. You want to stay in dreamland and get the benefits of being an Alpha male? What you are asking for is an impossible delusion. Like many others you are describing who I WAS almost to a perfect T when you describe your ideal lifestyle of l…
/r/askMRP05/02/18 11:48 AM
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Everyone getting ready for Superbowl Sunday like it’s some sort of holiday and here I am wasting my time meal prepping for the week, getting my gym stuff washed and planning ahead for my next 3 months worth of workouts....
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/18 10:13 PM
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“Divorce rape” is an great excuse for putting up with inexcusable behaviour. How much is your self respect worth to you? You can always earn more money, you can never get back wasted time. You’re right, a married professional woman having a business dinner for a legitimate business reason is a VERY different animal from “wife adding dinner date with single former colleague that used to hang with MIL” on joint calendar. That sounds suspiciously like a date....
/r/askMRP02/02/18 05:39 PM
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Thanks. For a while I thought I had mistakenly logged into r/thebluepill.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 03:37 PM
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You bring up many valid points, however none of them change my opinion that dating other men is a giant fucking hell no. If you are doing things right it should never even come up. However, who are you to stand in her way of she wants to fuck up for whatever irrational reason she hamsters up that day? “Sure dear, that sounds like a fun date. Too bad MY wife doesn’t date other men.” She can do whatever she wants after that.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 02:45 PM
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As ridiculous as staying with a partner that dates other men. It has nothing to do with insecurity. It has to do with abundance and being the prize. I have no interest in being in a relationship with someone who dates other people. If I did, I would be spinning plates. If she doesn’t like my boundaries, she’s free to go at any time. Clearly, I must be fit, smart, well groomed and fun enough that she doesn’t consider it appropriate to plan dates with dudes she used to work with. I just don’t spen…
/r/askMRP02/02/18 02:38 PM
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That’s putting a lot of words in my mouth answering what was a very simple question. Where you got “I hate wimenz” from I have no idea. You ask “are you a man to be respected”? Yes. I am the prize. If you’ve internalized this, why on earth would you tolerate a woman overtly disrespecting you by scheduling a date with another man? I’m not going to stand in her way if that’s her choice, but I sure as fuck wont be waiting for her to get home and say “hi honey, how was your date?” I wouldn’t have ex…
/r/askMRP02/02/18 02:06 PM
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Looks like you did your homework, and I’d put money on you being correct in your assessment.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 01:28 PM
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I feel like MRP is having a bit of an upside down bizarro land day today. If this were TRP the standard advice would be: Plate: who gives a fuck, she’s just a plate, she can date/fuck whoever she wants. LTR: she’s showing low quality traits, next that bitch. As you stated, the only difference between a girlfriend and wife is that you can’t leave without consequences. So, if TRP praxeology would generally next over a GF showing low quality and disrespect by openly dating another man while in a co…
/r/askMRP02/02/18 01:26 PM
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Maybe you should take her shopping for some new lingerie before her date as well. Again, I wouldn’t tell her what she can and cannot do. It’s up to her how she wants to proceed. As I have no intention of opening up my marriage, I find that going out on dates with other men on dates to be a hard boundary. If she chooses to cross that boundary, that’s her decision. Your boundaries are clearly more liberal than mine. You do you.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 12:21 PM
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Agreed. They’re for one thing only, who gives a shit who they go for dinner with?
/r/askMRP02/02/18 12:15 PM
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That’s great for plates, kind of different for your wife unless you love the taste of cock on her breath. You’re correct in NGAF, she can do whatever she likes. However that doesn’t imply she’s getting a pass to go on dates with other men. If she wants to end things over a date with an “old colleague “ she’s free to do so, I just wouldn’t give her the expectation that she still has a husband to return home to. WTF kind of RP advice is take the kids to the movies while your wife dates other men? …
/r/askMRP02/02/18 11:12 AM
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I’d remind my wife that a man and woman going out for dinner alone is commonly referred to as a “date”. I’d then remind her that my wife doesn’t date other men. You do you.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 10:53 AM
1

The general consensus is they don’t count if you don’t do the pushup. Without the push up it’s a Squat Thrust. If your conditioning isn’t the greatest, 100 WILL be very hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 08:39 PM
3

OHP, what you’re describing is energy leakage. When you inhale or exhale in the middle of the rep, you’re core is losing it’s tightness and you deflate like a balloon.. Inhale at bottom, Valsalva, hold all the way up and back down, exhale, repeat. For rapid cardio improvement, if you’re not already doing them add Burpees (chest to ground, don’t cheat) and Tabata’s. You can do them at home anytime, no equipment needed and no time excuse. A Tabata takes 4 min and you can do them with any body weig…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 11:01 AM
1

Best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, second best time is today. You’ve got the path laid out for you here, all you have to do is follow it. It only took me 18 years to figure out that all the things you just mentioned weren’t enough. If it weren’t for finding TRP/MRP, I’d still be facing the exact same situation for another 18 years. If you haven’t yet, get to work on Book of Pook. It was a game changer for me. Be willing to burn it all to the ground. You’re doing this for yourself....not…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 03:40 AM
2

Took the words right out of my mouth. It was a real kick in the nuts the first time it all came into focus for me. It seems like a lot of new guys have a really hard time figuring out that what she really wants is a man that generates tingles, seemingly without trying.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 12:40 AM
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The root cause of your anxiety is lack of OI. I agree with the other suggestions that you need to stop tracking things as it only adds fuel to your anxiety. You’re focused on the destination rather than the journey. If you focus on the present, rather than the past or the future, there’s a lot less to get neurotic or anxious about. Edit: TLDR, give less fucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 08:07 PM
3

Exactly. Now that you’ve figured that out, you can start to make some progress. If she’s bored, it’s because you’re boring.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 07:40 PM
1

Im not against it, it’s something I’d definitely like to include but just hasn’t been enough of a priority to make time for yet. Why would any guy be against going to a class full of women bent over in suggestive poses? Faggots.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 06:41 PM
1

I mix my runs between a combination of LISS, intervals/fartleks and HIIT/sprint days. I do at least 1 of each workout weekly. Other 3 cardio days are a mix of ERG, Powermill and bodyweight/20lb weight vest HIIT conditioning circuits. The one thing I will caution is not to schedule sprint workouts the day before leg day. Same day after leg workout is fine, but doing it the day before is tough to recover from, and then try to squat or DL heavy. Seems sprints always cause me to have crazy tight hip…
/r/askMRP29/01/18 06:06 PM
1

You can do both, you just need to build up to having the necessary endurance as well as strength. When I first started lifting my legs would be useless for the rest of the week due to DOMS,then it was 2-3 days, now it’s mild soreness 24hrs later that is gone within 48hrs. I now go for 3-5 mile runs regularly on leg days , 2-3 hrs after lifting. Do you have time to space your workouts apart so that you have a few hours to recover before kickboxing/MMA? You just need to build up to the point where…
/r/askMRP29/01/18 05:32 PM
5

You threatened to tattle on her to the elders in your church.... Well, you definitely showed her who’s boss!
/r/askMRP25/01/18 04:16 PM
1

Just pointing out the size difference between a 145lb fighter and a 145lb dude....Jose Aldo may be able to wreck your shit, but he’s also significantly bigger than “145lbs” (in addition to his skillset). For average dudes who aren’t cutting weight, 145lbs is tiny unless they’re <5’6” tall.
/r/askMRP25/01/18 02:33 PM
2

Jose Aldo weighs 145 at weigh-ins, probably steps into the cage closer to 155-160, and I wouldn’t doubt he would walk around 170ish when not cutting down for a fight camp. I personally know one UFC vet who fought at 185, his walk around weight when not preparing for a fight was around 215-220. Fighting weight and real weight are two very different things for everyone except heavyweights (not counting guys like Brock Lesnar who CUT to make the 265 upper limit).
/r/askMRP25/01/18 01:26 PM
1

There is no use being bitter about the past. You can’t change anything about your past mistakes, all you can do is work on your present and build towards your future vision. Stop living in the past, the only thing that exists is the NOW. Get to work on the things you can control right now and the bitterness about the past dissipates on its own. Get busy. Lift, read, work on your social life. You’ll be so busy you won’t have time to think about the past. If you haven’t yet, start on Book of Pook,…
/r/askMRP19/01/18 11:43 AM
1

Start with fixing your response to being called a faggot bitch. Please tell us, what do you do when this occurs? Or when she’s being a bitch in general? I’m genuinely curious what your answer is. If you can’t even pass this easiest of shit tests, I’m not shocked that she isn’t inspired to follow your “leadership” while you “build your empire”. FFS, she is telling you exactly how low on the Totem Pole you are in her mind to your face. What do you do about it? Faggot bitch.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 08:50 PM
1

Eventually she starts to grab yours....my wife has picked up the habit of drive by ass grabs now. You’re bang on about the difference between creepy and turned on being simply how attractive you are.
/r/askMRP10/01/18 04:21 PM
3

Key takeaway: Your nephew established this FROM THE BEGINNING.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 02:54 PM
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I can’t possibly see how this will end up backfiring /s Can’t wait for the update where your wife is getting railed by 4 strangers while you film it all. You can’t see the forest from the trees. Nothing in your previous posts suggests you have the frame to pull this off long term. Enjoy your trip to Cucksville.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 12:46 AM
2

Fruit has its place in moderation. I stick with berries and bananas. Handful of berries in my oatmeal and plain greek yogurt in the morning for flavour. They’re low GI and delicious. One banana half hour before lifting, one post workout on days when I do 2 a days to help with the low blood sugar shakes. Only way I get even close to my potassium goals for the day. You’re right about the carbs though, they can add up fast. 2 bananas and 1 cup of blueberries is over 80g of carbs by themselves
/r/askMRP07/01/18 11:14 PM
3

Walk around with youngest on my back like a 70lb backpack. She rides me up and down the stairs every evening at bed time. Ended up hiking about a mile last summer with her like that when she got tired. Considering I used to struggle going down the stairs when she was 20lbs lighter, this is one of my most commonly observed barometers of progress for me now. I barely notice when she hops on me now. Bringing all the groceries into the house in one trip usually with a 5 gallon water jug in one hand.…
/r/askMRP04/01/18 01:02 PM
1

Are we saving marriages now? Did I miss the addition to the sidebar?
/r/askMRP28/12/17 07:21 PM
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Congrats man, i know exactly what you’re talking about. It does feel fucking good...because you EARNED it. You can’t buy that feeling, you can only get it through hard work, dedication and a willingness to repetitively endure self inflicted pain. Keep crushing it.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 08:44 PM
2

Lots of good advice already on how to deal with your shitty wife. However, the tone and language you use to talk about your son/daughter doesn’t exactly make you come across as father of the year. You sound angry, bitter and resentful of “the kid” just as much as you do about your wife. Remember, your wife is the only person not related to you by blood. Your children on the other hand....
/r/askMRP21/12/17 10:37 AM
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Only one way to find out...,
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 10:47 PM
1

Your welcome. Respect on your lifting numbers but that only impresses other dudes. Waist? I can tell you I started at a 38” waist, @239lbs so I’m guessing you’re >40”. So....BF >30%. You’re strong though so props for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 09:26 PM
1

I’ll save you the BF calculation. What size waist are your pants? 5am....I fucking wish. Since you’re clearly not ready for AA/AM, learn to STFU. You allowed her to drag you into an argument over complimenting her? Oldest teenager in the house. You are still balls deeeeeeep in her frame. You do sooo much for the house....congratulations want a cookie?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 08:35 PM
1

“Chad makes the rules, because good high value dick is in short supply and high demand.” Difficult to argue against your logic. As usual, this type of reply is why I keep coming back to MRP/askMRP. Often times the best info is buried in the comments rather than in the original post.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 08:28 PM
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You’re way dumber. Where the fuck have you ever seen it suggested to sit down and discuss your changes with her? Let me give you clear, simple, step by step instructions just for you: LIFT, READ THE SIDEBAR, STFU. When you feel the need to start puking your feelings out to the wife about the changes you are making, kindly step out of the room, and punch yourself in the nuts. Maybe you can condition yourself to stop making things worse for yourself. It’s a simple fucking plan that is laid out her…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 03:55 PM
2

You’re right, the shit tests are more of the flirty variety but I still get the odd garden variety shit test. Every now and then she likes to test wether or not she can regain her spot at the top of the totem pole. I’ve come to realize that subconsciously she needs that feeling of being kept in check by a man that deserves that top spot. So, every now and then she has to manufacture some reason for me to swat away her attempts and all is good in the world.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 03:23 PM
3

Too bad there isn’t a guide for dealing with that.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 02:58 PM
8

6 weeks since my last OYS. Decided it was time for an update to keep myself honest. Lifting: Starting my 2nd month of another 5/3/1 BBB 3 month challenge. Feeling run down/beat up. Took deload weeks after the last 2 cycles. Giving myself all of next week off for rest and recovery. First week off in over a year. Going to hate it but my body is screaming for it. I need to stop being such a sadist towards myself but I fucking love grinding through the things that make me want to quit. Current train…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 12:45 PM
1

Another post where I learn tons about your wife but hardly anything about you. Your post reads like it was written by a woman. You do you and find what makes you happy but it sounds like you’re just branch swinging looking for your next unicorn. Before you go hunting for that unicorn, I’d suggest that you put in some serious thought on wether or not you’ve given your wife the best version of yourself. Her behaviour should mirror yours, if it’s not I’d ask myself why? I’d caution that chasing the…
/r/askMRP19/12/17 10:44 AM
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You sound like a really Nice Guy. u/Triadis3 nailed it and saved me from having to type out a long winded response on mobile. You should kill your ego and take his advice word for word.
/r/askMRP19/12/17 10:29 AM
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252 days since your first post. Zero OYS posts. Gee, I wonder what the problem could be and why your wife won’t fuck you and is still googling divorce? Have you tried trying? Try sprinkling a little Alpha on it /s
/r/askMRP18/12/17 10:30 PM
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All I read was, “she, she,she”. Your posting history is over 2 years. I can’t be bothered to read it all, but after that much time, one would think you would have had an end game planned out before going to DL 12. You cheated, got busted and didn’t have the frame to pull it off and no plan to stay or go. Doesn’t exactly sound like you had a plan at all. Now you want a bunch of strangers to tell you what to do? Look at your answer to my first question. You want things to be better “between you tw…
/r/askMRP18/12/17 05:45 PM
5

What do you want?
/r/askMRP18/12/17 05:38 PM
5

Honestly, I found fucking more to be the best answer. When you’re in a DB and getting maintenance sex once a month, it’s no surprise that lasting “long enough” can be a bit of a challenge. It’s normal to have a hair trigger after a long dry spell. Once you’re getting it whenever you’re horny, it’s much less of a problem. I wouldn’t worry so much about techniques to last, I’d be focusing on doing what it takes to be the kind of man that is getting the kind of sex life he wants. Like most things a…
/r/askMRP17/12/17 08:19 PM
3

If you’re unwilling to move on, you’re starting out by hamstringing yourself from the very start. You’ve already lost.
/r/askMRP15/12/17 03:36 PM
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Holy shit, it’s like this wasn’t just covered yesterday in the latest Rambo thread. I’m too lazy to type it all out again. TLDR: How to deal with the anger and resentment? Don’t get angry in the first place. You’re angry because your covert contract isn’t working out for you. Ditch the contract. Work on being awesome. Someone will fuck you. “Everything that happens is either endurable or not. If it’s endurable, then endure it. Stop complaining. If it’s unendurable . . . then stop complaining. Yo…
/r/askMRP15/12/17 02:39 PM
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Truly give less fucks. If you haven’t read them yet I’d recommend: The Book of Pook and Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck followed by Epictetus-The Handbook and Marcus Aurelius- Meditations. Realize that life is fucking short, do you want to spend what little time you have angry, irritated and hostile? You can’t choose what happens TO you, but you can choose how you react to it. “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters - Epictetus” Once you internalize that concept, it’s…
/r/askMRP14/12/17 02:43 PM
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The one thing I always notice is missing in the “gone Rambo/am I going Rambo?” is FUN. You’ve taken steps to take your balls out of her purse?Good. You’re lifting, improving appearance? Good. You’ve learnt the importance of STFU, and DNGAF?Good. You can spot and handle shit and comfort tests?Good. You’ve got the building materials to start building a frame? Awesome. Now, what are you doing to actually be someone your wife looks forward to spending time with? Are you no personality spreadsheet ro…
/r/askMRP14/12/17 11:29 AM
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Hit the gym you lazy troll fuck.
/r/askTRP13/12/17 11:45 AM
1

Fuck KPI’s. That is all. Irks me to no end that I even know what the fuck you’re talking about. Measure KPI’s said no Chad ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 03:20 AM
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Wether or not I spend anytime thinking about frame. For me the time spent thinking about it is inversely proportionate to my progress. Having to think about it is no longer good at this point in my journey . If I am living in my frame I shouldn’t be worrying about wether or not my frame is improving anymore or whose frame I am in I should just BE.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 08:55 PM
5

You’ve been around for a long time and made a ton of progress in other areas, but dude in this area you really need to ditch this trainers advice. You’re not seeing the results you want, and DOMS is not an effective measure of work out effectiveness. Keep focusing on the big compound lifts, adding weight to the bar, hitting your macros and your body will have no choice but to adapt by adding muscle. For reference we started at similar points, I hamstring curl 3x10@100lbs AFTER my DL and Squat 5/…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 07:41 PM
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JFC. Fucking 8x8@30? After a year? Even if that’s kilos that’s still pretty light. If it’s pounds I’m pretty sure my youngest could do that. There’s why you’re not seeing much improvement. You’re lifting the same weights as a small Asian woman. Go back to 5x5. Run it as it’s designed until you plateau. Then move on to something like 5/3/1. Lift some heavy ass weights, eat and you’ll grow. Doing hamstring isolation work with 30lbs won’t get you any bigger. You definitely have fuckarounditis.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 06:24 PM
4

2 years of RP and you’re “desperate not to divorce”? Me thinks you’re doing it wrong. You’ve approached the entire process with a desired outcome, the exact opposite of OI and DNGAF.
/r/askMRP06/12/17 01:49 PM
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Why does spending time with her have to equal watching TV? My wife and I both have very busy schedules, sometimes it’s enjoyable to spend a couple of hours together unwinding on the couch being passively entertained. However, we also have a standing date night at the gym once a week, end up doing 1-2 date activities a week, outings with the kids, sometimes we just end up hanging together while playing games with the kids. As I improved, my time became more valuable and I noticed my wife and the …
/r/askMRP06/12/17 10:43 AM
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How about do whatever you want to do for you? My wife tried to tell me the opposite last week, “I love that you’re working out for me”....I told her I’m not doing it for her or anyone else, I’m doing it for me. That reply would work just as well for your wife. If you’re doing it right, you’re not getting muscular for her, you’re doing it for you. “No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength o…
/r/askMRP03/12/17 04:19 AM
5

Holy fuck. You need to learn to STFU. Here’s a tip, before you open your mouth run whatever you’re about to say through this filter: “Is what I’m about to say going to cause more tingles or less?” Your hamster is spinning 100mph over your wife commenting that she enjoyed passionate sex, with you? It was a compliment dumbass. She was fucking happy about it. Way to go fuck it up with your own insecurities. Back to your original question about what to do about tired wife? Same thing you would do if…
/r/askMRP02/12/17 05:38 PM
1

Hogan and Warrior for me. Biggest muscles duh! Whatcha gonna do when the 24” pythons run wild on YOU!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 09:08 PM
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I’ve had very similar thoughts but wouldn’t have been able to put then into a coherent post as neatly as you just have. It’s been pointed out many times before that a majority of TRP/MRP visitors were never naturals as evidenced by the huge amount of spreadsheet, autist and don’t eat paint posts. FFS when they start with the “I am an INT-J “ whatever the fuck that means, all I can think is, how the fuck have you EVER gotten your dick sucked? JFC. The ones going Rambo are the ones who can’t seem …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 08:56 PM
2

Gaining 4lbs of new muscle while crash dieting 14lbs in a month is totally doable. Haven’t you heard? /s OP’s never heard of catabolism apparently.
/r/askMRP30/11/17 07:37 PM
2

You only have 125lbs of LBM. If you were to add 20lb to your frame, assuming a 3:1 muscle/fat gained ratio = 15lb of lean muscle mass gained , you would be: 172lbs with 140lbs LBM. That would put you at 18.5 % BF but look a hell of a lot better than, 140lbs with 126lbs of LBM at 10% BF. Add 15-20lbs of muscle to your frame over the winter without getting too fat, then cut in the spring.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 05:43 PM
1

You’re skinny fat. You need to put on some lean muscle mass before you cut any further.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 03:59 PM
2

Exactly. I was commenting on 1g/kg being “enough”. It’s not. @1g/kg a 200lb (90kg) male would be getting 90g/day based on the comment I was replying to. Comprende?
/r/askTRP26/11/17 09:20 PM
2

.8- 1g/lb of lean body mass. 1g/kg of body weight is fuck all. That would be 90g/day for a 200lb man. That may be sufficient if you’re sedentary but for someone who is lifting or training 4-6x week, it’s not nearly enough.
/r/askTRP26/11/17 06:17 PM
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This is a big hurdle to get over when you’re still a recovering nice guy. It’s a learned skill like anything else. IF you have nothing to apologize for, then just don’t. She can make all the demands she wants. Be as distant as she wants to be, only you can choose wether or not her emotions will affect you. It’s not your job to fix her feels. Would she apologize to you if she feels she hasn’t made a mistake? Learn to take comfort in the discomfort. Saying “sorry” so you can get back to sex next w…
/r/askMRP25/11/17 04:20 PM
4

Nailed it with laughing about a situation most would consider misfortune. Those are the stories you will remember and laugh about in 10 years, not the nights where everything went perfectly according to plan. Cheers!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/17 06:56 PM
1

I’d suggest you start with OYS before adding posts hummble bragging about your business success, your SMV and how Alpha you appear to your fiancé ‘s family. So far you contribution has been a post on interior decorating and a covert contract that you expect a hot dinner in exchange for being a good provider. DYEL? You share nothing substantial about yourself but expect to give out advice. Fucking weaksauce.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/17 03:17 PM
2

I tend to agree with your point of view on this subject. I find that “working hard” is incredibly subjective. One mans 10/10 effort is anothers 1/10. A lot of guys quit before they’re even putting in 50% effort and pat themselves on the back for a job well done. Coupled with putting in the effort to educate yourself on lifting programs and diet, and is it any wonder why there’s a lot of hall assed results? I’ve been accused of being a masochist and pushing myself too hard, and to an extent I may…
/r/askMRP21/11/17 10:36 PM
1

5’10”.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 09:53 PM
1

I’ve seen OHP 1xBW BP 1.5xBW Squat 2xBW DL 2.5xBW As good goals to set. So for most males weighing around 200Lbs, that works out to roughly 2,3,4,5 plates as goals for each. That’s the goal I’ve set for myself. After 17 months of lifting sitting at the following tested 1RM’s. OHP 165/225lbs BP 250/315lbs Squat 300/405lbs DL 330/495lbs Those numbers are very doable for just about anyone in that timeframe. I have no doubt some can do much better. I see no problems hitting my goals within the next …
/r/askMRP21/11/17 08:18 PM
3

5am is hard as fuck? That’s cute. Try 3:30am and 60hr work weeks. It’s not hard. You just get up and fucking do it if it needs to be done. Regarding parental leave, enjoy it while you can. You should be rocking that shit. It is seriously the easiest fucking thing ever. There’s no reason you can’t be on top of the household tasks while baby is napping. At 10months they still nap a fair bit. This isn’t the time to think about what she did vs what she expects you do. Just get your shit done because…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 11:12 AM
2

I’m not convinced any omission occurred. Otherwise how was OP aware of the situation? Clarification is needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 04:39 AM
2

Agreed. Shoulda, coulda, woulda....but didn’t. Also, going back to the theme lately the only reason OP’s wife was having an emotional affair was because he deserved it. Been there, done that. I’m in full agreement on nexting her if she crossed the boundary now that OP has owned his shit. Where I disagree is wether or not a boundary was actually crossed. I’m not even sure she omitted to tell him. Rereading his accounts, it sounds like he knew ex man was there....so she told him at some point no? …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 04:37 AM
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If they work together what boundary was crossed? That’s the clarification I’d like. By all accounts dude showed up at his own company Halloween party. You expect OP’s wife to have control over wether or not ex man goes to his own company parties or not? Further more, why give a fuck where ex man goes or doesn’t go. Boundary was stop communicating with him. Sounds to me like wife was doing just that. Getting butthurt that she didn’t rub it in his face that ex would be at a work party, when it sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 11:04 PM
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Great progress man! The only thing I’ll criticize you on is your handling of the Halloween party and the ex. You are still insecure as fuck over this guy. By all accounts you say he is an ex but also works with your wife? If this is the case, why wouldn’t you expect that he may be at the party? You don’t need her giving you a heads up, or to be pissed off about her lack of mentioning it. Wtf should you care? This isn’t a case of her going behind your back and reinitiating contact on social media…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 04:02 PM
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Once a week I have a standing gym date with my wife At first it was purely for logistical reasons. Now we both look forward to it. We both check each other out the entire time, I get to play squat rack for her and position her weights for her if the racks are unavailable, and the best part of all.... I’d much rather look up at my spotters boobs inches above my face than my regular partners stupid mug. She enjoys putting on a show for me just as much as I do for her..... Always a good time when w…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 05:43 PM
2

You’ve got DEER down to an art form. Add that to your addiction. You’re an addict x3. News flash, you can’t heal from a TBI. Once the damage is permanent, it’s permanent. I’d figure 6 years on you might have clued into that. Whatever effects you have from the actual injury can be managed. However from what little you’ve shown here, I’d say 90% of yours are a combination of drugs and psychological. You can chose how you want to deal with those. Or not. Maybe you’ll feel better after the next time…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 08:29 PM
4

Hmmmm, you’re a gambling addict with a pill addiction...I wonder what the fucking problem might be? Before you go thinking I’m just an asshole who doesn’t understand....I also suffered a similar injury. Same types of post concussion/brain injury symptoms. The worst of it lasted a year, some of the symptoms I still struggle with over a decade later, one in particular is permanent and related to my memory. Wanna know how I got out of it? Fucking discipline and accepting that the new “me” would nev…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 06:42 PM
2

It’s not fucking rocket science is it?
/r/askMRP16/11/17 03:52 PM
15

OP, your post made me think of a recent JRE episode with Sebastian Junger. Particularly on their comments about humans having evolved to face the hardships of survival, and how now that the struggle is completely gone for upper income persons, you see staggering rates of psychological illness and medication among them. This doesn’t seem to occur in lower income demographics where the day to day struggle is still very real. He has also spoken with Jordan Peterson and Gad Saad about this phenomeno…
/r/askMRP16/11/17 03:49 PM
4

Agree about the stay at home dad part. Had the privilege with my oldest for about 8 months due to a layoff. Easiest 8 months of my adult life. What exactly is so difficult about get up, get child ready, make food, do fun shit together all day, put them down for a nap, clean up the house for an hour or two, then start working on dinner? I rocked that shit. House was spotless and dinner was ready for when my wife walked in the door. Daughter and I had spent most of the day having fun. SAHM is the …
/r/askMRP16/11/17 03:22 PM
5

Well thought out post. One of the biggest changes from BP behaviour is realizing that not only are her feelings nothing to fear, but that you need to embrace her need for them while at the same time being unmoved by them. If you’re not giving her the feels she needs, guaranteed she’s getting them somewhere. Regardless of the situation, she wants to feel “something” wether that be happiness, anger, sadness, it doesn’t matter. The worst thing she can feel is nothing. The opposite of love is apathy…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 12:59 PM
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“Lightly applied RedPill” There’s your first problem. You haven’t internalized shit. If you had, you would realize that you are the prize. Read Book of Pook. You would also realize that you can’t do shit about what anyone else does or doesn’t do. You can only control your own thoughts and behaviour. Read Epictetus- The Handbook, Marcus Aurelius- Meditations and Mark Manson -Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. This is basic sidebar shit. Irrational confidence, get some.
/r/askMRP15/11/17 11:32 PM
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I’ve never seen anything that suggests kids do better being raised by two parents who are unhappy with each other vs kids with parents who have divorced and are living happy lives. People can choose to bullshit themselves that they are staying together for the kids, but they are staying together because they are afraid of change. So afraid that they would rather stay in an untenable situation and lie to themselves that it’s “for the kids”. Fuck that shit. That’s why they are miserable. Because t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 02:21 PM
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Nothing changes if you start with the end point of “divorce is not an option”. You have to be fully willing to walk away or else none of this works.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 10:31 AM
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The only person that can prevent you from realizing your true SMV is you. Once you’ve swallowed the pill what tools does she have to prevent you from knowing your SMV? There’s 3 possible outcomes. You raise your SMV and she regains attraction. Or You raise your SMV and she doesn’t. Or You’re bullshitting yourself about your SMV Saying that your wife can prevent you from realizing your SMV is bullshit if you’ve internalized that you are the prize.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 03:20 PM
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1 year RP Weigh 150lb and 175lb bench 5x5 If you have been lifting that entire time, that’s some pretty poor progress. My workout partner is older than you, started at 95lb bench last January and just broke 200lbs this week. You need to eat.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 01:27 PM
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“Some cardio, some lifting” is a shitty metric. Fuck I hate that you made me use the word metric. A better assessment would be: I was sick this week, missed 2 lifting and 1 cardio workout of my usual 6 day lifting/3 day cardio routine. Weight still dropped x amount of pounds, probably due to illness. I hate seeing these soft targets of “got some/more lifting done”. If you’re not quantifying you’re performance improvement, you’re just fucking around. Edit: why is your diet “still bad”? Discipline…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 01:09 PM
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Humble brag, I’ve been hearing similar sentiments daily for the last couple of months. It’s amazing the change in her demeanour once you cross that line. Sometimes it’s hard to believe the same woman that was “just not really into sex anymore”, is now telling you that you own her pussy. Edit: only hard to believe pre RP
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 11:45 AM
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It sounds like you view your wife as an adversary. Still in the anger phase? You’re wife may not be an accurate barometer of your overall “true” SMV, but she is definitely an accurate barometer of your SMV as it relates to HER. Mine gives me an accurate assessment of my SMV in her eyes everyday. Early on it was obvious that my SMV to her was “unfuckable”, while now it has risen to “I just want him inside me”. If your SMV doesn’t increase in her eyes, you have all the information you need to make…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 11:39 AM
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5am....that’s sleeping in for some of us.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 03:23 PM
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Someone posted the Russian fighter pull up program here a while back. https://www.t-nation.com/training/tip-do-the-russian-fighter-pull-up-program Used it to go from a max of 4 pull ups to max 8 pull ups in less than a month. Basically you're doing pull ups almost every day and adding a extra one every workout. Super easy to incorporate into your routine. I just sprinkle my sets in between my 5/3/1 working sets. Planning on continuing until I get to 5x12, then working on adding weight. Give it a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/17 01:55 PM
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My 2cents to add, You can't internalize abundance mentality if you are unwilling to even entertain the option to move on if you're needs aren't being met. Without abundance mentality, outcome independence is not possible to achieve unless you are satisfied with the possibility of things never changing. You're basically stuck with I don't care if the outcome never changes. Hello groundhog day. You can only work on yourself, not her. You need to be realistic that irregardless of whatever improveme…
/r/askMRP10/11/17 09:07 PM
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I've only had to deal with this one twice since I started, First one was a pressure flip. My wife asked me "are you getting back in shape so you can cheat on me?", I looked at her and laughed and replied "why, is that your plan?" This worked because she had already been working out for a few months before I had started. The second time was maybe 6 months later, she came at me with a similar "promise me you'll never cheat on me". I just looked at her and said "if I start fucking other women it wo…
/r/askMRP10/11/17 03:03 PM
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This is fucking stupid. Speaking from first hand knowledge, Asian women (or any women period) are no different. Biologically they're all the same, there is no Asian gene that makes the rules different for Asian women. Hypergamy DNGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 10:41 AM
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I'll just add that if you're not going completely bald (razor) but just going to a number 2 or 3, get a GOOD barber who can do a proper fade. Makes all the difference in the world between looking like you just came from the dog groomer or DIY, vs having some style. A good barber can get your beard lined up while you're there and make suggestions for you too. Just make sure if you opt to keep it short, you stay on top of it every 2 weeks MAX. 1 week is even better. Took 10 years off my appearance…
/r/askMRP09/11/17 05:51 PM
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Best answer right here.
/r/askMRP09/11/17 02:45 PM
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TLDR: Lift, Give Less Fucks, Follow Your MAP All kidding aside, excellent break down for the spreadsheet crowd and for those of us who struggle with putting the nuances into words.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 08:26 PM
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What I disagree with is the idea that following what works in the business world transfers over to ones personal interactions. I wouldn't suggest having no plan whatsoever, but I think having too detailed a plan can lead to just as many potential pitfalls. Once you start setting metrics, collecting data, and analyzing performance to an ever increasing level of detail you run into the potential for getting caught into a feedback loop of digging deeper and deeper, and soon enough all you've done i…
/r/askMRP08/11/17 02:50 PM
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Showing off your Six Sigma Lean Practitioner Black Belt is the ultimate panty soaker and display of high value.
/r/askMRP08/11/17 12:38 PM
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Kaizen is not a word I ever expected to read on a forum about sexual strategy. What's next? An analysis of how to use the Toyota Production System to streamline your approaches for maximum efficiency and reduction in waste? Are we going to make a value stream map?
/r/askMRP08/11/17 10:53 AM
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Re getting a vasectomy, had one once I was absolutely sure I was done fathering children. As someone who was stubbornly anti-vasectomy in the past (ego), I can say that it was one of the best and easiest things I've ever done. Takes all the stress of birth control away, and is no more uncomfortable than a trip to the dentist. Takes about 15 minutes. Discomfort after? Minimal. If anything there was just a bit of a dull ache in my abdomen for about 4 days. If you're lifting regularly you experienc…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 10:48 AM
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The professional side holds no appeal to me at all. At my seniority level at my employer the difference in pay is negligible, would add a ton of responsibility, and would require me to possess an appetite for eating shit that I just do not have in me. I do work in a technical field for a very, very large employer with skills that are transferable around the world. To start working through the corporate rat race at my age by joining management just doesn't appeal to me. I am however taking advant…
/r/askMRP08/11/17 12:31 AM
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Look, I'm a blue collar guy....this system for OYS just seems autistic AF. Seriously, all the time you're spending recording, tracking, and weighing out your performance metrics for how well you did under 1.Personal->Spiritual->Religion...etc that's time that you're: A) not in the gym B) having fun C) doing anything remotely cool or exciting D) generating tingles A bit of advice I saw on text game that I think can apply to many aspects of married game....when doing something ask yourself is this…
/r/askMRP07/11/17 08:25 PM
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Definitely feels that way... I would never have been able to figure it out on my own without all of the resources here. I'm thankful for all the contributors who took the time to lay out the path for others such as myself to follow. All I had to do was follow the path, trust in the process, do the work, and not be autistic about it. It seems to me that those who struggle are the ones who can't seem to follow those 4 simple steps.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 07:59 PM
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Thanks for the comment. I see where you're coming from with your comment. I wasn't trying to hate on her, there was a lot more to the conversation that I left out. She was a bit of a spinny chick, definitely not my type overall. I found it a red flag for me personally. If I was single and looking for a plate, she'd be an ideal candidate. Impulsive and spinny can be good or bad, depending on ones circumstances at the time. Regardless, she made a dull flight entertaining and I'm not going to compl…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 04:23 PM
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If the weight isn't changing, start with tracking your CICO. Get MFP and use it. Track everything you eat for a week, and aim for a 500cal deficit the following week. 1lb/week is easy to do this way. Keep tracking your intake and weight weekly. If you're still not losing, guess what, drop another 500cal/day until you are. I personally find sticking to a meal plan where all my meals except dinner are the same every day the easiest way to stay on top of my nutrition requirements. Makes it easy to …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 02:34 PM
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I find it difficult to believe you are doing 4x15 of anything at a true 80% of your 1RM. 70% of the 90% TM for 5x10 in 531 BBB challenge is an absolute grind and borders on "barely doable".
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 01:57 PM
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Been a few months since my last OYS, as to be honest things were feeling repetitive on a weekly basis. Will keep OYS to weeks where I feel significant change or events have happened. Decided to skip my 1 year anniversary post as there was just too much positive change to list and I'm not gifted enough of a writer to condense it and make it interesting enough a read. Lifting: Just finishing last week of my second 531 BBB 3 month challenge. The last month's accessory work @70% is killer. Current t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 01:33 PM
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I'll second your nomination and add in a nomination for "user I'd least like want to go for a beer with" of the week.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 10:36 PM
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Let's repeat one more time: The stay plan is the same as the go plan. MRP fixes YOU not the relationship. Now that those two are out of the way, you left out all the details about YOU. I know what your wife is like, I don't know shit about you. Don't even know how old you are, how long you've been married, or if there are kids involved. If you're looking for stay or go advice, I'm going to tell you it doesn't matter one way or the other until you OYS. You're fucked either way until then.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 06:37 PM
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"New experience, why not?" Should be every mans mantra after finding TRP/MRP. Gives a completely different perspective on life moving forward. What many people interpret as courage is simply a man who isn't afraid to of the outcome of trying something new.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/17 10:38 AM
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I enjoy the day after DOMS more, they're like a reminder that things are going to be worse tomorrow. I have a dark sense of humour.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 05:34 PM
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If people could feel the results that come from lifting consistently for a year for just a day when they're starting out, they wouldn't need to "find time" to lift. Eventually you take comfort in the pain. There's no substitute for it. It's something that can't be bought, only earned through hard work. Guys who have to ask "where do you find the time" will likely never be the type to look forward to dreading every time you need to take a shit because it means sitting down, or feeling your chest …
/r/askMRP04/11/17 03:30 PM
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Best answer.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 11:31 AM
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OP, I found the reason you're wife likes it slow, in the dark and isn't into "rough stuff". You're looking for excuses to hold yourself back. While getting less than 8 hours a night sleep isn't ideal, neither is being a skinny fuck. Go to sleep at 10pm, get up at 5am and go hit the gym before work. You'll still be waking up over an hour after me. Your question is one of desire. How bad do you want it? While you're sleeping, the Chad your wife fantasizes about is in the gym.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 11:30 AM
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I can concur with this. All of the rougher stuff that has become common was strictly off limits when I was a fat drunk captain. Now she comes home and jumps in my arms, grabs my junk, makes comments about my package etc. The other day she came home and started bending over, grabbed her ankles and started grinding her ass into me within a minute of walking in the door. Sex has gone from starfish to steadily increasing porn star. Lights always off to always on. The more I push the envelope with do…
/r/askMRP04/11/17 11:21 AM
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I've only seen this exact question posted dozens of times here. I can't comment on the divorce part, there's plenty of more experienced posters on that topic than I. What I can say is this, your stay plan and you're go plan are exactly the same. You have suspicions and a timeline in mind. Use your time in the meanwhile to do two things. First, STFU and get proof. The best thing to say to her is nothing until you have proof and you serve her with papers. Until then everything is normal on your en…
/r/askMRP02/11/17 04:51 PM
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As the saying goes, nobody wants to see how the sausage is made.
/r/askMRP02/11/17 09:37 AM
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OP, this! Acta non verba
/r/askMRP26/10/17 12:12 PM
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Your SMV doesn't have to be higher than hers....it has to be higher than her options. It doesn't take much to be in the top 20% of men these days. Not fat gets you most of the way there.
/r/askMRP24/10/17 11:03 PM
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First step is to realize that you can't control the actions of anyone other than yourself. Once you realize that you can start to abandon your insecurities. Why worry about something outside your control? Worry about the variables that ARE within your control. Worry about yourself, about building the life you want, about vetting any woman you allow into your life for red flags and only allowing those that meet your vision to stay in it. That's it. Why are you worrying about ifs and buts before y…
/r/askMRP24/10/17 05:09 PM
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I think a reevaluation of your lifting goals is in order. It's fine to set goals, but saying yours are overly optimistic is an understatement. There's 9 weeks left in the year, even if you add 5lbs/week to your S/B/D, you get to S/110, B/165, D/ 150 Don't know how bad your hip is, but your looking at recovering and trying to add over 15lbs/wk to your squat and deadlift. Good luck with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 02:31 PM
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Schrodinger's affair. Either she is, or she isn't. The correct answer is, it doesn't fucking matter. Either A) she will eventually slip up and you'll have undeniable proof, B) you hire a PI and get proof, or C) nothing is going on. Either she is, or she isn't. Regardless of which it is, the outcome is the same for you, awesome life with or without her. Keep working on yourself, worst possible outcome is a younger, hotter replacement.
/r/askMRP24/10/17 10:41 AM
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Speaking from experience in my pre-marriage days, I'd guess he's having issues with all the new found attention his wife started receiving post boob job. Had an ex-GF get her tits done many years ago. The amount of attention she got post surgery was incredible. I couldn't walk away for 2 minutes without coming back to find some dude trying to chat her up. At that time, I couldn't give a fuck less. But I also wasn't 50, out of shape, and competing with Chad's half my age. I was Chad at that point…
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:25 PM
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Good plan of action. Now all you have to do is the actual work of implementing it and sticking to it regardless of outcome. Glad to see you're cognizant of the potential pitfalls of going Rambo. Along with all the steps you've detailed in your plan don't forget to have fun. It's the easiest detail to miss. I personally found that Book of Pook was the best resource for getting into that mindset. Hope to see you in OYS.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:03 PM
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Look at the starting point for most new guys, years, even decades of floor mat. Day 2, fuck that I'm not taking any if that shit anymore. You don't expect that to blow up in their face? You're tasking a white belt with rolling with Rickson Gracie on day 2.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 12:15 AM
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I saw potential Rambo because he was literally on day 2 (based on post history) and doing a complete 180 on his previous behaviors. Without doing some work on actually improving first, such a drastic change could easily cause more harm than good. This wouldn't be the first time a new guy comes in, starts acting completely opposite to his past behaviors BEFORE he actually improved his appearance or started building a frame and fucked everything right up for himself. I thought it was a prudent war…
/r/askMRP22/10/17 10:50 PM
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Slow your roll. It's day 2, you're on a slippery slope to Ramboville. Take it easy, 1 step at a time. You're tempted to use every new technique your read all at once, all that amounts to is using cheap tricks that don't lead to any lasting improvement. As you work through the sidebar, implement changes slowly. There a reason that the first levels of dread are all basically all about improving your appearance, THEN building off that once you've actually begun to show visible improvements. Slow it…
/r/askMRP21/10/17 06:57 PM
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The info you need is ---------> The sidebar only works if you bother to read it. There's enough info out there for removing Oneitis that there is no reason for everyone to rewrite novels for you just to regurgitate the same info.....since you've already proven you wouldn't read it. The simple answer to curing Oneitis is internalizing that YOU ARE THE PRIZE. Good luck internalizing that without doing your homework first.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 07:19 PM
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You've been asking the same question on different subs for almost 2 months. What makes you think you'll hear the answer you want to hear this time? In those 2 months, you have ZERO posts owning your shit. Nothing about what you've read, or done to work on YOU. All I see is a guy talking an awful lot about the two "she's" in his life, both of which he's idealized into unicorns. Here's a hint, do some fucking work, stop being a faggot and maybe you can have both (long shot for you in particular ).…
/r/askMRP19/10/17 04:49 PM
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Reading comprehension, do you even? "gained a visible inch or so from fat loss" Key words, visible and fat loss. Tough to see that inch when it's buried in fat.
/r/askMRP17/10/17 01:35 PM
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My wife used to complain about low sex drive and discomfort during sex, even tried telling me I was "too big" (nice ego stroking but I'm definitely not "too big"). Funny, when we first started dating it was neither painful nor "too big". What changed? Did her condition change? Did my cock shrink over the last 12 months? If anything, it gained a visible inch or so from fat loss. Yet no more complaining? Could it be that those were all manufactured excuses to keep from hurting me with the truth, t…
/r/askMRP17/10/17 12:58 PM
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Abundance mentality is internalizing that YOU ARE THE PRIZE. It has nothing to do with going through with cheating on your wife. It has everything to do with internalizing that one simple concept. Once you get there you'll realize that there is nothing more special about office unicorn than any other equally hot chick that you click with. You have Oneitis precisely because you don't view yourself this way and still have the scarcity mentality that she is "the one". Go back to the sidebar. Abunda…
/r/askMRP14/10/17 04:43 PM
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You're bullshitting yourself. Fucking around on a few machines, doing some curls and lat pulldowns isn't going to build you some muscle first. You have a serious case of what is know as "Fuckarounditis". Pick a beginner lifting program, go to your campus gym, lift the heavy things it tells you to lift, in the amounts it tells you to lift. Do this as many days a week as the program calls for. Same goes for a meal plan. Remember results are 80% diet, 20% lifting. Garbage in, garbage out. FFS, you'…
/r/askTRP13/10/17 05:52 PM
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Why are you giving more than a fleeting thought to anything or anyone outside your control? Do you know the ONLY thing that is within your control? Focus on that, rather than running around and being angry about things you have no influence over. Are you angry that a fish is a fish? You have way too many fucks to give if people living their lives in a manner that is different from yours causes you actual anger. You have no influence on their lives, why are you letting them influence yours? If an…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 01:41 PM
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The Good? I've started and deleted 3 attempts at writing a 1yr MRP FR updating my progress. Why so many failures? I suck at trying to condense what has been the most positive year of my life into something anyone would want to read. I'll sum it up as this, I came here an insecure, fat, unattractive, weak, beta faggot with a dead bedroom. One year later, I've dropped 50lbs from my start, over 20% body fat lost. Now hover between 190-200lbs at 5'10" and between 14-20% BF depending on wether I cut …
/r/askMRP12/10/17 08:04 PM
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Since taking the pill, I realize that boundaries are only enforceable if you are willing to walk away, and more importantly if you have other available options. If she knows you have no options other than her (because you're fat, out of shape, have no game and anger easily) she's far more likely to repeatedly test your boundaries. I mean what are you going to do? Walk away from the only woman who will put out for you? She knows this. You know this. You're only option is to get to work. The only …
/r/askMRP12/10/17 01:23 PM
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I severely underestimated the power of being able to pick her up and carry her up the stairs and to the bedroom when she least expects it. I wouldn't over use it, but I've been surprised at it's effectiveness once I was able to start pulling it off. The first time I did it she freaked out a bit thinking I'd drop her or we'd fall down the stairs, once we got to the top and I wasn't huffing and puffing from the effort....there were no more complaints. Aside from the success rate it's a great way t…
/r/askMRP11/10/17 04:43 PM
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Personally I feel it depends on your lifestyle and occupation. If I were to suddenly start wearing tailored suits every day I'd look like I was playing dress up given my occupation and lifestyle. Not everyone is a professional. There's a time an place for dressing formally, for some of us those occasions are more common than others. On the other hand looking good and dressing well can mean more than just what you are wearing. Well fitting clothing can make all the difference in the world once yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 10:51 AM
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I can't see any positive benefits that would come from sharing vs not sharing. Therefore STFU.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 01:35 PM
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You don't need to get your dick wet to have abundance mentality. You just have to know that you can. The fact of the matter is that there is nothing special about this "one girl". You're crushing like a teenage girl. Once you you start grasping that there's nothing more special about office girl then the next hot chick you click with, then you can start to make some progress. Internalize that you are the prize, and suddenly there isn't room for any pussy on the pedestal.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 01:08 PM
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The cure for your case of Oneitis is the same as the cure for any other, develop abundance mentality. You're nothing but her orbiter and she's lapping up the validation from you while her LTR rails her.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 12:53 PM
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First step. Kill your ego. As already pointed out, as Captain you are responsible for your entire ship. If the ship is heading for an iceberg that your First Mate sees from the other side of the bridge and you are closer to the wheel, do you refuse to grab the wheel and steer out of danger because "you don't like being told what to do?" It's your job as Captain to evaluate the situation and react accordingly. As your diaper example illustrates, a request for assistance from your First Mate for s…
/r/askMRP07/10/17 12:47 PM
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As you continue progressing you'll find that the "why" behind your actions are just as important as what those actions are.
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:44 PM
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IMHO the prescription for preventing Rambo is doing your reading on Stoicism. The Handbook-Epictetus and Meditations of Marcus Aurelius were invaluable. If you can start to grasp that the only thing in life you are in control of is your own thoughts, then it's a lot easier to put yourself in a mindset where getting angry is far less likely. In reality, most of the anger that ends up manifesting as Rambo behaviors is nothing more than acting out because you have a fragile ego. Get out of the way …
/r/askMRP06/10/17 12:37 PM
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I'd keep initiating, but work on your game and kino. You need to calibrate your game to the level of tingles you're generating. You're not attractive enough/you're passive dread is not high enough yet to pull off "wanna quicke?" at this point. So you have to make up for that with charm, kino and game. As you continue improving, you may find that things that used to make her uncomfortable are met enthusiastically by her.
/r/askMRP05/10/17 02:11 PM
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You're not attractive enough (to her) to pull it off, yet. Once you are, you'll know. You'll stop hearing "you make me uncomfortable " and instead start getting playful giggles, flushed cheeks or maybe a push away while she figures out a plan to get you two alone somewhere. You just have to stop being needy. I'm not good at explaining it, but once I got to true OI about the results of initiating, then suddenly my success rate went way up. Desperation is unattractive as hell and they can smell it…
/r/askMRP05/10/17 01:44 PM
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Will do. Thanks. What color do you suggest to start?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 11:20 AM
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I know that's ultimately the route to take, just have to make the time for it. I think I'm avoiding it simply because I don't want to take any time off and that will probably be the first suggestion. My own stubbornness getting in the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 09:26 AM
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Not since I switched to 5/3/1, BBB simply because of time efficiency. On my BP and OHP days, I superset in pullups and heavy dumbell rows. Doing any kind of barbell rows doesn't work for me simply because I'd be wasting too much time changing my setup every set. If that makes any sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 08:47 AM
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And Naproxen. I've given up on my elbow not hurting, one Naproxen and one Ibuprofen in the AM and PM keep me lifting pain free. Every time I stop it flares back up. I'm not about to give up on upper body lifts just because my elbow is sore.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 01:40 AM
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Sorry for your loss. No parent should have to go through that. Congrats on the feeling of righteous DOMS from your first squat session. Learn to look forward to always feeling that way somewhere on your body to a different degree. It's the feeling of constant improvement, and should be missed when it isn't there.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 08:29 PM
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Very true, however from just a quick skim a few things are glaringly obvious. He needs to learn to use less words. For lack of a better word he is FUBAR. He needs professional help to be less fucking neurotic. He's panicking cause he found RP and just realized he has Oneitis for unicorn Christian girl and is freaking the fuck out. Dude needs help to chill the fuck out and fix himself before he even considers marriage with anyone. I don't need to read the whole thing to come to those conclusions.…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 05:05 PM
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You honesty expect someone to read all that? Cut it down from a novel to at least a short story. How about a TLDR?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 04:56 PM
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Short answer, fuck no. Long answer, you're new. Work only on yourself and improving your SMV for at least a couple of months while reading the sidebar before implementing any changes you read about. There's a reason the first few levels of dread are basically lift, wardrobe, get a life and STFU. There's no cheating or skipping ahead. You have to walk before you can crawl. The levels of dread are in this order for a reason, you can't create any dread if she's not attracted to you. Period. Full st…
/r/askMRP12/09/17 02:53 PM
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What's there to be frustrated about? The only thing you should be frustrated with is the fact that you still haven't internalized the fact that you, and only you are responsible for your own happiness. If you are happy with the choices you made, what difference does it make to you what your wife's opinion on the matter is? Upset that you didn't get the validation you were seeking? What you should be angry about is the fact that you were still seeking validation in the first place. Let go of the …
/r/askMRP11/09/17 03:07 PM
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R/fitness R/bodybuilding Pick a program. SL 5x5 is a great start for beginners. After that you need to decide if your more into strength or aesthetics and pick an intermediate program depending on your goals. 5/3/1, PPL, PHAT,PHUL, GZCL, etc. Eat depending on your goals, bulk, cut or recomp. Personally, I don't have a ton of time and 5/3/1 BBB works best for me at the moment. A good compromise of strength primarily with enough volume for hypertrophy second. You don't have to skip cardio complete…
/r/askMRP10/09/17 03:33 AM
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Stop trying and start doing.
/r/askTRP09/09/17 03:29 AM
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The fact that your entire posting history is online gaming related AND You likely waste 100's of hours a month on it AND You claim to have read the sidebar and lift, but have no posting history save for a post you deleted like a bitch the second you realized you weren't going to get the answer you wanted AND You DEER'd immediately when called out on it EQUALS You're either a troll or too lazy to put in any actual work and thus a complete waste of time. OYS or fuck off.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 02:19 PM
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Drop the fucking video game habit. Then sidebar and lift. One look at your post history tells me you're not going to do the work. Deleting your post confirms it. Lazy fuck.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 01:42 PM
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Winning her back is some made up Disney fairytale bullshit. Why the fuck would you WANT to win back someone who dumped you? They've basically already told you that you are no longer attractive to them. Take the hint. The problem as I see it is that your ego doesn't allow for the possibility that some people just don't like you. That's ok. You need to get over yourself. She doesn't like you anymore and that's ok. Thank her for letting you know this now rather than another 10 years and 3 kids late…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:25 AM
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I'll fourth this one. Been there done that. If it progresses to more OP will eventually find out, regardless of surveillance or not. Eventually it always surfaces. No use in driving yourself crazy with paranoia. Wether she crosses the line is irrelevant. The important part is that OP continues to work on himself and if she wants to blow it all up over drinks with an ex....let her. In that case OP gets to trade up to a younger model(s) without the disadvantage of all the old BP baggage he was car…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:11 AM
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Thanks for making me snort my coffee. Normally I'd tend to agree with you, but if you're following a lifting program, hitting the gym for more lifting might not be in your own best interest if you've already nailed your workout that day. I hate doing anything that will screw up my routine for the rest of the week. Going to bench when you already benched heavy that day, or have bench tomorrow as your main lift MIGHT be a bad idea. For those reasons alone, IF I end up leaving to hit the gym I usua…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:01 AM
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Short, sweet and simple. It's amazing when so many "high performing" professionals can't seem to grasp KISS and end up having it all blow up in their face going Rambo.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 05:06 PM
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Conversely, any reason why you can't hit the gym first thing in the morning and work on the reno's late into the night? Other than being a vag?
/r/askMRP01/09/17 12:40 PM
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Well, I can see what the next book on your reading list should be.....
/r/askMRP01/09/17 12:37 PM
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LDR = no relationship. Get that through your skull. You've got Oneitis for someone you're not even in the same country as, let alone fucking. Think about that for a moment before you start asking if RP can work over Skype FFS. You're a man. Realz over feelz. Just what part of your relationship is real exactly? At the moment you've managed to talk yourself into believing you have a relationship with a computer screen. Let me guess, you're special snowflake is in some 3rd world shithole? DYEL or s…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 11:26 AM
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Never show division in front of the kids. If you disagree, disagree in private. They will exploit even the smallest crack in a united front.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 11:33 AM
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You were one of the first flaired posters to reply to my posts with advice that I'm still grateful for. Keep up the good work brother. It's men such as yourself that get out there and do the shit that needs to get done rather than sit and pray for help that get others through these tough times. It's always inspiring to hear tales of men doing what needs to be done when the shit really hits the fan, not for money or recognition, but because it needs to be done and because people need help. Glad t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 10:03 AM
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Nothing like a new PR and sore glutes for a couple of days to remind you who you're actually doing this for.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 05:22 PM
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Holy fuck, just when I thought it couldn't get more autistic. I've avoided interjecting up until now because of the cringeworthy mess you've spewed until now. Go back and reread your posts and then compare to the flared contributors. See if you can figure out where you're going wrong. When do you say "I love you" or anything else? Whenever the fuck you want, but I'd save the "I love you's" for when she's earned them...like say after draining your balls happily. You're not trying to learn to be a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 07:22 PM
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Yup, AWALT works like that. Back when I first started this journey my wife used to give me the same kind of shit tests about putting my gym time above all else. Every time something important would come up that interfered with my workout schedule and I would work around by saying "ok, I'll just move my workout to before/after" said inconvenience I would be met with a "sure, that's the only thing that matters to you". As you put it "she just didn't want me out enjoying myself", the fact that I ha…
/r/askMRP24/08/17 06:49 PM
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You can look for a reason to go, or excuses not to go. Up to you. You only have to answer to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 12:50 PM
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2x week is not nearly enough volume for lifting if all you're doing is SL 5x5. Progress will be very, very slow. I'd aim for minimum 3, preferably 4.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 09:58 AM
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I have no idea your age but the 13hr days, 5 days a week is no big deal. Stop being a pussy and using it as an excuse to skip the gym and being too tired for sex. You sound like a woman. Not to humble brag but I'm 41, up before 4am everyday 6 days a week, work 60-65hr weeks, am still finding time for 2 a days at the moment, and still find the energy to fuck my wife at least 2-3 times a week. Yes, it can impact your social life. But there's no reason it has to completely kill it. I still manage a…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 09:53 AM
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Thanks, it really almost did feel like a super power at the time lol. Just checked my heart rate for that hike, never topped 115bpm even with the little one on my back. No exaggeration, last year I was out of breath tying my shoes and could feel my heart rate climbing from rolling in bed. What a difference a bit over a year makes. You're right, this is the answer to why one should lift. Can't wait for the next unexpected physical challenge....
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 10:18 PM
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Bang on with the weak ego being the source of anger. I was a far angrier person before I finally realized how much my own ego was setting me back. Once you stop getting in your own way, things get a lot happier.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 07:13 PM
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Apparently she didn't try, that was the first thing I asked.....why didn't you knock woman? She said she didn't think I'd hear it. It's all good, she made it up to me later.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 04:58 PM
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Cutting back on weekly OYS to monthly as most of my reports were getting rather repetitive. Lifting: Finished 3rd cycle of 5/3/1 BBB 3 month challenge. Repeating final week twice while waiting for lifting partner to return from holidays. Tested maxes last week by hitting some triples doing Joker sets after my working sets. B/225x3 S/265x3 D/285x3 OHP/145x3 Doing 2 a days now with conditioning workouts every day until youngest returns to school. Diet: Finished bulk @ 204lbs. +8lbs in 9 weeks of 3…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 12:49 PM
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Honestly, I skimmed 3/4 of it. It was that painful to try and read. Way too many "she said's", told me everything I need to know about your frame. Try and condense your text communication only to what is absolutely needed. There's a reason the mantra for newbs is "text is for logistics only". From the bit I did skim all I saw was validation seeking and DEER'ing. Say more by saying less. Work on thinking, "do I really need to reply?" before hitting send.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 05:50 PM
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maybe im showing my age but I cant be bothered to read shit without proper caps and missing punctuation and stuff I dont know man its just like really hard on the eyes especially when its all he said and She said my favorite part is the random capitalization of some words for no apparent Reason That and YOU'RE BALLS DEEP IN HER FRAME. Verbal intercourse is optional. You talk too much. One of the best takeaways I've learnt from being smacked by many an endorsed contributor in my early days was to…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 05:31 PM
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Beat me to the punch. He lost me at "come back home with some Chad's jizz inside you". I agree with don't just sit around, sulk, mate guard etc. That's just good advice. But the rest is basically using oneupmanship to protect OP's own ego. "You can go out for GNO, but I'm going too then and giving YOU something to worry about". It comes off as needy and validation seeking. Losing you as the prize should be enough to keep her from riding Chad's cock. If it's not, then we all know the answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 06:53 PM
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Good job on the improvement. Just like in lifting, the only measure of progress is against yourself. Are you better than you were yesterday? Last week? Last month? It's always great to read reports from others who put in the time and effort to do the work and have seen the results. A breath of fresh air from the rash of recent "where's the shortcut" posts. I've got my 1yr MRP anniversary coming up as well. I'll be using your post as a guideline on what to include as I reflect back on my own prog…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 02:01 PM
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You don't want to improve, you want easy tips and tricks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 01:42 PM
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If you're too lazy to read the books what makes you think anyone here will waste any effort on you to spoon feed a "MRP for dummies" guide just for you? Would you want a surgeon working on you that read the more "information dense" dummy guide? What about your pilot on your next flight? Surely there's a lot of wasted reading he had to do. They really need to condense that shit. You're a lazy fuck who wants a shortcut like all the other lazy fucks. This is your LIFE you are talking about improvin…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 01:41 PM
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Kill your ego yesterday and realize that you're being given exactly what you need. Try actually listening to the message that is being given to you. All you hear is "these guys are being mean to me" because you fragile ego can't deal with the possibility that YOU are the problem. It's ok. To borrow a phrase from Stone, "you ain't shit". None of us are. Like many I got my share of being shit on when I arrived. I deserved all of it, and needed to hear it. The difference between those who make it a…
/r/askMRP17/08/17 10:38 AM
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I couldn't even be pained to read all of that, I stopped once it became clear you've done no sidebar reading. First of all if you can't even train a dog then I have to strongly doubt your ability to lead your family without some massive work on your part. The dog situation was YOUR fault. Why the fuck is the dog in a crate all day with someone home? Why the fuck would you think it's ok not to feed your dog because it "ate last night". Start with showing some leadership by taking the dog to obedi…
/r/askMRP16/08/17 07:20 PM
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For me the anger went away pretty quickly once I came to the acceptance that it was all my own fault. Once you can get out of the way of your own ego then it's pretty easy to let go of the anger. You can't change what's in the past but you can use that anger as fuel for changing your future. If you're going to be angry, be angry with yourself and use that anger to push yourself in the gym. Aside from the excellent advice you've already received, by the time you get to the Book of Pook, Epictetus…
/r/askMRP16/08/17 05:56 PM
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You're 40 and you've given up on being attractive ? WTF? I can tell you one thing, it's hard ass fucking work but it's worth every second of it. I started just before my 40th birthday, 240lbs of fat fuck. It's not too late. You just have to want it bad enough to do something about it. I took 15 years off my appearance and my wife fucks me pretty much as often as I like. Turns out she just didn't like fucking an unattractive fat fuck. Maybe your wife is the same.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 06:43 PM
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You still don't get it. Unless you fix YOUR behaviors that got you into a deadbedroom now, why would you expect a different outcome in any future relationship, married or not? Keep doing what you've always been doing, seems to be working great for you.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 05:22 PM
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Then go divorce now and repeat the same mistakes you made the first time in the next relationship. Or you know, do the work and fix yourself. That's the biggest pill to swallow, that you allowed this to happen to yourself. Get to work.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 04:57 PM
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Fuck, you need this place more than you think if that's what you think it's all about. No one is going to spoon feed you here. Take some of the advice already given and start reading some of the top posts, Own Your Shit, and the sidebar. Then start lifting, like yesterday. I guarantee your wife likes fucking, just not with you. I'll spoon feed you your first step, be attractive, don't be unattractive. Don't expect any help here until you show that you're capable of putting in the work.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 04:54 PM
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All you can do is lead. Buy healthy food, cook healthy meals, have sweet options that aren't loaded with sugar. Make it easy to make more good choices than bad. There's a lot of things you CAN do that will improve the likelihood of making healthier choices, talking to death about them and trying to impose your will isn't one of them. What are you doing to lead? Your entire post comes off as Rambo, one who hasn't read the sidebar and still has to ask "what is Dread"? I haven't read one single act…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 12:32 PM
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Have you read the sidebar materials? Sounds like you're unsure where you're even at. You're right, you can't control what she does. You can however continue running your MAP, she either comes along with you or she doesn't. You don't tell her anything. You follow the plan. You've already seen the results of talking about it with her. What other proof do you need to see that doesn't work? Where in TRP have you ever seen it suggested that there is a different way to talk about it? Acta non verba. R…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:50 AM
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Sidebar and lift Or Lift and sidebar Take your pick. Either one leads to the same outcome.
/r/askMRP02/08/17 04:30 AM
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Wait, WTF did I just read? You get her a gift every month on the day of your anniversary? Is my reading comprehension correct? Cause if it is, all I can say is congratulations you're officially the "Nicest Guy" I've seen here yet. No wonder she has no respect for you and you're walking on eggshells for missing the last 2 gifts. That is seriously FUBAR'ed. Sidebar and lift.
/r/askMRP01/08/17 11:36 PM
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I had plateaued on bench on 5x5 before switching to a hypertrophy split as well. The split didn't help at all with progression or breaking through the plateau. It did however make my tendonitis in my elbow worse from the increase in volume. I switched to 5/3/1 Boring But Big 2 months ago and smashed the bench plateau to bits. Also took the advice of switching most of my cardio to HIIT and hill sprints with only one long run a week, save my knees for squats. Really wish my gym had a Prowler. Keep…
/r/askMRP29/07/17 07:40 PM
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Number 1 and 2, To break through the bench plateau, if you're not a strength program get on one. Switching to 5/3/1 from a 3 day hypertrophy split has smashed my bench plateau. Went from being stuck at 3-5 reps at 190-205lbs, to easily doing 10x190 and 8@205 within 8 weeks. As far as diet goes, if your not actually tracking your calories and planning your meals you're just going to spin your wheels. Decide what you want to do, bulk, cut or recomp and dial in your nutrition accordingly. I find it…
/r/askMRP28/07/17 11:18 PM
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You're not doing any of this to improve things with your wife. You're doing this to improve you. That's your motivation. In the process things may improve with your wife. Or they may not. It makes no difference.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 08:41 AM
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Why do you think the same advice wouldn't apply to you as everyone else? STFU, do the work, sidebar, lift. That's the prescription for fixing yourself. News flash for you. It's all your fault. Get your ego out of the way and start putting in the work, otherwise you're just going to carry on the same mistakes once your marriage is over. If you don't fix yourself now I can already foresee your future. Divorce your wife, even if you keep your assets from your prenup, slay 20 year olds who only see …
/r/askMRP28/07/17 02:39 AM
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I didn't make the connection and figured it was just better hydration, but add me to the bigger load club as well.
/r/askMRP27/07/17 02:42 PM
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Possibly. That's the same conclusion I came to. That's why I said I don't claim it "boosts " production per se, it just ensures I'm not producing less than I'm capable off due to a nutrient deficiency. If that's all it does it's good, cheap and effective. The improved sleep quality is worth it as well. I have the activity monitor data to back it up.
/r/askMRP27/07/17 02:40 PM
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I didn't claim any boost, however I have noticed an increase in both sleep quality and the amount of morning wood since I started supplementing with it. I've seen plenty of studies concluding that IF one is low in zinc and magnesium in their diet that their testosterone levels MAY not be optimal. So, while it may not be increasing my T levels past "normal" levels I view it as cheap insurance to make sure I am getting enough to produce as much as possible naturally. Ive also seen some people supp…
/r/askMRP27/07/17 02:11 PM
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Lifting definitely helps the testosterone. I can definitely feel the boost on heavy squat/DL days. I'm absolutely wiped physically for about 3-4 hours afterwards, just completely sapped and low energy. However, a couple hours and a two meals later I am horny as fuck. My appetite for sex is through the roof at that point. My wife has noticed that on Tuesdays and Fridays in particular I am on a fucking tear. Add in ZMA and I feel like a 16 year old who just saw his first pair of tits pooping out o…
/r/askMRP27/07/17 01:51 PM
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Exactly. I put less effort in my Anniversary this year than I ever have and we had a much better time. No covert contracts. No validation seeking. Just a genuine experience and good time with no pressure. My wife actually seemed almost relieved that there was no build up. What little planning I did do actually got derailed by something unforeseen and I just rolled with it into something completely different. She would have been a bitch about it before, instead we just both had a carefree fun adv…
/r/askMRP26/07/17 05:59 PM
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Thanks for the mental image of anyone fucking Ayn Rand you bastard.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 12:51 PM
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You wouldn't understand, he has a "Strong Woman" "I have the woman who is strong, successful, knows how the STFU, withhold sex and break my frame all in 30 minutes. I" He needs special tricks and shortcuts. Standard MRP methods won't work for him. Of course, maybe if he actually tried doing the work instead of giving up after 3 months of looking for shortcuts he might actually get somewhere. But probably not because it sounds like she's just too strong....
/r/askMRP26/07/17 12:47 PM
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This sounds a whole lot like "get balls deep in her frame to get out of her frame". I'm not sure I follow the logic. Lift+be attractive+give less fucks+lead+keep improving+have fun+get a life=generate tingles Seems to be an effective formula. Trying to come up with a formula to generate active dread by anything other than "fuck me or fuck you" (which should only happen after you've gone through all the other levels of dread), seems to scream looking for a shortcut.
/r/askMRP26/07/17 11:37 AM
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That's why I suggested egg whites, once the yolks are gone you can eat as many as you want with no health concerns.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 11:24 PM
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Egg whites are your new best friend until the protein powder comes in. Either buy them at Costco in the little cartons, or just boil a couple dozen eggs, peel em, cut them in half and pop out the yolks after they're cooked. Easy and cheap way to fill your protein macros while you wait for your whey. I always have 2-3 dozen boiled eggs in the fridge.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 07:46 PM
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Sounds like a lot of generalities and no real work. What have you actually accomplished in 5 months? Took one look at your post history and you grade yourself for lifting and diet but provide no actual facts. Where did you start, where are you now, and where are you going? How can you plan a journey with no starting point or route? You need to shit or get off the pot. While you're sitting around mentally masturbating about mindfulness you could actually be DOING something. Do or do not. There is…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 07:40 PM
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Just realized it's been over 9 months, time flies. Lifting: Starting 3rd cycle 5/3/1 BBB 3 month challenge. Still progressing. Feel I could have gone a bit heavier on TM's for Squat, DL and BP to start. Estimated 1RM's: B/258 S/300 D/306 OHP/152 Diet: Lean bulking +500/day. Weight hovering around 200 +- 2lbs. Weight going up a bit, but BF% continues slowly dropping. Vascularity on arms, and shoulders still increasing. Waist line still slowly shrinking. Reading: Finished Gorilla Mindset. Working …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 11:45 AM
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I came to the conclusion that perhaps it wasn't her, it was me.....it's just a theory.
/r/askMRP24/07/17 09:12 PM
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Funny thing I noticed with my wife, right around the same time other women started showing interest in fucking me, so did she! Probably just a coincidence.
/r/askMRP24/07/17 07:12 PM
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Great feeling made even better by the fact that there's only one way to achieve it, you have to earn it through hard physical effort.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 04:45 PM
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Simple to follow for beginners or anyone just getting back into lifting. Focus is on heavy compound lifts which are most efficient for gaining strength. Quick linear progression for beginners. Easy to follow app. Reduces fuckarounditis by focusing on basics rather than trying to learn a dozen or more isolation exercises. Once you've built a solid foundation you can move on to an intermediate program of your choice and focus more on continuing strength gains or something more hypertrophy focused.…
/r/askMRP22/07/17 04:35 PM
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Having the experience of already falling into the complacency trap before TRP/MRP, What keeps me motivated? A photo taken on the first day I decided to make a change. A reminder that I will never allow myself to ever plummet so low again. The reminder of the feeling in my gut when my wife confirmed AWALT many years ago. Knowing what it feels like to know that you are in the bottom 20% rather than the top 20% and the insecurity that goes along with it. Seeing the difference in the way people trea…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/17 03:59 AM
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Learn to laugh at the absurdity of it all when she tries to gaslight you. You don't have to choose to allow her to suck you in.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 03:21 PM
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The sidebar is that way ----> The truth is you are in a massive hole you've dug for yourself. You're taking the first steps with NMMNG and by finding this place. What you need is to start fixing yourself (especially your temper) yesterday. You have no frame and allow her to gaslight you. You need to learn to STFU and that verbal intercourse is optional. Is there any reason you must engage in these arguments? What benefit do they provide you? I can't think of a bigger waste of time (or better way…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 10:14 AM
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I'll give you the same advice I gave my best friend when this exact scenario happened to him: CHANGE THE LOCKS NOW! If she's already moved out there is no need for her to still have access to your place when you are not home. My buddy wouldn't listen to my advice or his lawyers, wanted to keep everything non-confrontational with her, a "nice guy" right through to the end. She came back when he was gone with her new guy and family and cleaned out his place knowing he was a pushover and wouldn't f…
/r/askMRP19/07/17 05:13 PM
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You can't fix her, you can only fix you.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 09:08 PM
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Book of Pook. Seriously good reading for getting in the mindset of true OI and DNGAF. Kino and game work so much better once you truly DNGAF about the outcome. I think your problem is you are still in the "I am doing this, therefore she should reply like this" phase. AKA covert contract. Give less fucks, have more fun. It really is a game of doing less to get more.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 08:33 PM
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Sounds like you've gone a bit Rambo to me as well. Tough to say without knowing the state of your relationship preMRP. Just remember, 65 days is a very short period of time compared to 17 years. If you're getting the you've changed speech already and she's ready to call a marriage counsellor, you might be a little (or a lot) bit Rambo. Honestly assuming your wife isn't a horrible bitch who genuinely dislikes you, this shit isn't that hard but it takes time. Work through the steps one by one. Rea…
/r/askMRP17/07/17 05:56 PM
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They're based off my 5/3/1 AMRAP sets and are a convenient way to compare week to week or cycle to cycle progress. Most of the 5/3/1 excel templates have this estimate built in. Good, quick way to compare your rep maxes to each other. For instance it makes it easy to compare one week where you did 215x7 vs another where you did 225x5. How much relative strength did you gain (if any)? I like benchmarking this way as it makes weekly progress easy to quantify. That doesn't mean I don't test actual …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/17 06:19 PM
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What are you doing to be a better option than validation seeking in the other room? Sounds like that is the real root of your problems, not the lack of a job for your wife. Improve yourself to the point that she'd rather spend that time with you by choice. What are you doing to lead her into the world you envision? You've got a lot of covert contracts revolving around "I work, therefore she should....". That's not how it works. Work on controlling the one variable you can control, yourself. Impr…
/r/askMRP13/07/17 11:11 AM
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She's only had travel come up as part of her duties the last few years. Without getting into too much detail, it's only twice a year for her. The understanding up till now has been that it is NOT flexible for her wether or not she goes. Last year she was unable to make one of the two dates because of an emergency outside of her control. As far as my schedule, there are many different dates that are always options for me. Since mine is more flexible, I try and coordinate to make sure I'm not leav…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 05:50 PM
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Book of Pook 101, don't be boring! Doesn't matter how much higher your SMV is if you're boring. A woman will forgive anything for a high enough SMV man, except for being boring.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 01:42 PM
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Less bears. More shit lol. Finding out about my natural talent for shooting was coincidental. No bears were injured.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 01:37 PM
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You're missing the point, which is objectively her SMV is MUCH higher than yours in this circumstance. She knows she's your best option. You may be able to have her deported but that has no impact on her SMV relative to yours. Something to think about.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 10:56 AM
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Lifting: Week 2 of 2nd cycle 5/3/1 BBB 3 month challenge. Loving the progression so far. Lots of hill sprints, HIIT and Tabata's on "rest" days. Estimated 1RM's: B/258 S/293 D/290 OHP/151 Diet: Lean bulking +500/day. Weight increased to 198-200. +2-3lbs in last 5 weeks. Reading: Still reading Gorilla Mindset. Went back to SGM to refresh on DEVI. House and home life: Summer is short where we live so I've been doing my best not to waste any days with good weather. Making sure that when I'm not wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 10:50 AM
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You're thinking logically, like a man. The other poster is right, her SMV is off the charts in a situation like you're describing. Wether you're the boss or not, if she wanted she could get new dick in that town in seconds. You really think that your status would keep every other cock out of her in a town where she might literally be the only hot option? You're vastly underestimating the stupidity of men chasing pussy. If she's not getting any strange in the side, it's only because she chooses n…
/r/askMRP11/07/17 09:51 AM
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That's two excellent posts in a row, slow clap and an up vote for you. I'm not as eloquent a writer or able to compose my thoughts in such an elegant manner but this is a theme I've given a lot of thought to myself since discovering MRP. A few months back after having taking ownership of my life and owning my shit for about 6 months or so my wife spelled it all out for me, "I just want you to take care of me". It wasn't the first time she had said that to me, but it was the first time I UNDERSTO…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 10:06 AM
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So you'd rather have a pity party, continue doing nothing but stuff your face, settle for being an overweight diabetic beta bitch who's destined to die alone within a decade? This seems like a better choice to you than actually putting in the work to make yourself worth a damn? No, the easy way out is to continue doing what you've done and hope you can attract some 2 to join you in your downward spiral. WTF is wrong with you? If catching your "smoking hot wife" getting it on with Chad isn't enou…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 06:30 PM
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Serious question, how big were the tits you bought her? That's about the only way I see a 5 going to a 9.5. That or you have serious wife goggles.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 05:04 PM
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Are proper punctuation and paragraphs forbidden where you're posting from? You're plea for help is painful to read. I gave up half way through. I have a feeling it's representative of the work you'd be willing to put into fixing yourself. Your post reads like "my marriage is fucked, please give me a shortcut". The short cut is that way ------>Sidebar. And lift. STFU and don't think you can fix anything right away. You need to start working on fixing your shit. Start with using capital letters to…
/r/askMRP29/06/17 07:31 PM
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Good thing you don't have kids with this woman. People who go this mental over leaving the dog at home for 4 hours are seriously unstable. For me that is a serious red flag in and of itself. Edit: forgot....you're still balls deep in her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 07:17 PM
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Number 2 is such a simple concept that I was completely oblivious to before MRP. Rather than advice, help or suggestions, sometimes they just want you to handle shit for them. Not that long ago my wife shared "I just want you to take care of me" after venting about a few things that were bothering her. I told her not to worry I'd handle it for her. Sometimes they just want you to take away all the scary feelz from them. Today she shared with me "I wish you could do it for me" to something I was …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 07:06 PM
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I'm glad I found this place first when I was looking for help. Beta me would have wasted his time with that shit.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 06:58 PM
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One of the best pieces of advice given that I've seen here is: "The stay plan is the same as the go plan" The marriage didn't work out, but your plan remains the same. Continue your MAP and self improvement. There's really nothing else you can do that's within your control. Focus on you. Consider yourself fortunate that you have the knowledge and tools you need to come out of this a better man than when you started.
/r/askMRP26/06/17 01:42 PM
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It's not that hard to figure out how to use it wisely. If you're wasting time doing nothing, ask yourself if you don't have anything better you should be doing. If the answer is yes, then go do that. If you're still snacking on poor food then yes you have a motivation problem. Why is it still around? If it's because you're too lazy to make something better in advance, then you have your answer on what you need to work on. It all starts with motivation. Set your goals, then detail exactly how you…
/r/askMRP25/06/17 11:16 PM
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That's because you're still taking them seriously. Stop taking them seriously and you very quickly see there's nothing to get angry about. Why would you punch yourself in the balls and turn her away when she's doing what you want her to be doing? You're setting yourself up for a no win situation. If she continues shit testing you're angry. If she wants to fuck you, you're turned off. What is your desired outcome?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 09:47 PM
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I'm writing this as I've just spent my day so far as making a healthy breakfast for the family, going for a run with my oldest, doing a HIIT conditioning workout when I got back, fixed something broken on my wife's car, went to buy healthy groceries for the week and am now in the process of meal prepping for the rest of the week. I work at least 60hrs a week and usually only have Sundays off. If I can find the time, anyone can. It comes down to priorities. Do you know how much easier it would ha…
/r/askMRP25/06/17 09:23 PM
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This is the best advice. Good to be reminded of it.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 08:06 PM
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Be honest, how much have you really improved? Looking back at your OYS posts I see a starting weight but no mention of where you're at now. Nor any mention of body composition. What are your quantifiable improvements since your first OYS? Looks like you lift 1-2/week. That's not nearly enough. What's your program? Do you have Fuckarounditis? http://www.leangains.com/2011/09/fuckarounditis.html?m=1 What about your diet? "Generally cleaning up" is not good enough. How does it relate to your goals?…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 10:35 AM
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"That's pride fucking with you. Fuck pride. Pride only hurts, it never helps."
/r/askMRP21/06/17 02:59 PM
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What's the difference? Sometimes a good fuck is just a good fuck. It honestly sounds like you were displeased with her staying longer than she anticipated, and decided to "punish" her for coming home late AND drunk. The question is why did this bother you? Unless there was a clearly stated boundary crossed, it sounds an awful lot like you're upset about her breaking a covert contract that you had, but that she wasn't a party to.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 02:11 PM
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And you stopped cause you were bored? I'll echo the chorus of WTF's? Sometimes a good sloppy drunk fuck is just a good sloppy drunk fuck.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:46 PM
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Your comment makes me realize that yes, these are basically life throwing you a fitness test....and apparently my reaction is to AM my way through them. I wouldn't have made that connection without your observation. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 11:06 AM
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Attitude is everything when things go wrong. I used to be the type to get hung up on things going wrong, get pissed and end up making the entire situation worse for everyone involved. The thing is, it's a learned behavior. We are all surrounded by people reacting negatively when things go wrong that it becomes the de facto way of dealing with it. Things going wrong? Lose your shit. Get angry. Complain. Watch the downward spiral around you. This doesn't only apply to dating or relationships, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 10:57 AM
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Your "goals" are two giant covert contracts. Try and pick something you actually have control over like say improving yourself. Maybe that gets you "unlimited access to her pussy" and "woken up with blowjobs", maybe it doesn't. Either way you win if your goal is something that is actually within your control. Access to her pussy is not, no matter how much you'd like it to be. Your goal weight is 250lbs? You're either above 6'4" or a fucking monster on gear. Which one is it? If you're neither of …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 05:40 PM
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Lifting: Started 5/3/1 BBB 3 month challenge. The big compound lifts seem to aggravate my joints far less than hypertrophy work. Avoiding anything that flares elbow tendinitis up (no curls or dips) Week 1 estimated 1RM's: B/230 S/275 D/245 OHP/140 Diet: Back on track. Starting lean bulk while doing BBB. Weight still at 196. Waist still shrinking. Down another belt notch. Reading: Working on Gorilla Mindset. House and home life: Had a lot of fun with the kids while wife was away on business. Wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 12:34 PM
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She sleeps over at her male "friends'" house and is telling you to go fuck other women as she's getting ready to move out. Do I need to draw you a fucking picture? It sounds to me like this train has already left the station. Good news is, if you actually put some effort into lifting and sidebar, you won't repeat the mistakes that got you in this cluster fuck of a relationship.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 10:43 AM
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Agree with what's already been said. You sound like you're looking for an easier option for improving yourself, guess what....it doesn't exist. You either go all in and do the work to improve yourself everyday for you or you don't. You say you want to give this relationship every opportunity to turn around? Then put your head down and get to work. There is no other way. It's already been said, MRP fixes men, not relationships. Your relationship just may happen to improve as a result of it. They …
/r/askMRP20/06/17 09:55 AM
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One of the few times I'd openly disagree with you. If he's doing it with true DNGAF and she's already being receptive to his advances but giving him a soft no, then sure, it can be fun to mutually masturbate or enjoy her HJ. If he's doing it because he got a hard NO, she has no interest, and she's doing it just to shut him up? I can't think of a more beta thing to do than tell her he's going upstairs to jerk off, wether or not she ends up joining him. To me it screams toddler crying cause mommy …
/r/askMRP19/06/17 11:26 PM
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So many points to make, but way too much to type out on mobile.... 1: you're still not attractive enough. I don't mean just physically. 2: stop setting a schedule that you have to initiate every day. Initiate when you want to, don't when you don't. You sound thirsty as fuck. 3: inviting her to help you masturbate? WTF. Cucks go off to the corner to masturbate when they get shot down. That sounds unattractive as fuck. 4: she's 50lbs overweight. That's why her back hurts. I know. My back pain stop…
/r/askMRP19/06/17 08:56 PM
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"Currently the wife hardly leaves the house, never wants to do anything " That sounds like the missing piece of the puzzle to me. Your MAP mentions everything except fun. Lifting, finances, kino, escalation.....but no fun. You can be ripped, shredded, cubed and diced with a fat wallet, a huge house and a housekeeper but if you're boring none of that matters. Perhaps you've focused so much on the tangibles that you've missed out on the one most important intangible. Women get off on riding the em…
/r/askMRP16/06/17 11:26 PM
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Sounds to me a lot like you're digging in the trash. Stop worrying about salvaging an already sunk ship, fix yourself. Go back and reread what you wrote about calling her a slut on your way out the door, and then ask yourself how that aligns with your goal of salvaging anything? The only thing you should be concentrating on salvaging is yourself so you don't fuck up the next relationship just as badly.
/r/askMRP15/06/17 02:54 PM
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The asshole metric has been pretty bang on in my experience. I definitely started at number 1, then slowly progressed to 2, and now am all 3's and 4's. It's like music to my ears when I hear it now. There's also a direct correlation between how attractive she finds you, and the amount of asshole that turns her on. What used to send her into a screaming fit now has her soaking her panties.
/r/askMRP13/06/17 02:32 AM
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This is why you don't talk about fight club. Why turn hard mode into harder mode for no reason and with nothing to gain?
/r/askMRP12/06/17 07:00 PM
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Good for you brother. I'm still on my journey, but it's always awesome to hear the accounts of others who are further along than I. Cheers. You earned it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 07:24 PM
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Lifting: Lifting 5 days while gone on business. Ran all 5 days as well. Damn elbow keeping me from any heavy curls, rows, chin ups or dips. Diet: Fit my meal plan in as best as possible while away. However drank way too much everyday. Way too many liquid calories. Reading: Still rereading Book of Pook. So many gems in there. House and home life: Was gone for a week, but it was awesome to see the wife and kids pick up the slack while I was gone. Wife was texting and sending me photos of things I …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 10:23 PM
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Going Rambo is misinterpreting TRP as "get angry and become a giant dick". You've got the right idea. Lift, read, STFU and repeat. Once you've established some fundamentals, actually improved your appearance, gained some tools (fogging, AA, AM etc), and begun to develop the foundations of a frame, then you can actually start progressing forward. Follow the steps of dread and do the work. It took you years to fuck things up, you're not going to improve noticeably in a few weeks. Most importantly,…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 09:47 PM
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Exactly. The best time to plant a tree was 40 years ago. The second best time is today.
/r/askMRP04/06/17 11:08 PM
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Asshole and jerk have become my new favorite compliments from my wife. It usually signals a good fuck is near.
/r/askMRP04/06/17 10:10 PM
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Become a man she wants to fuck and suddenly she will not care at as much about wether or not you left breadcrumbs out from making breakfast. That doesn't mean you shouldn't care about number 2 on this list, just that once you get number 1 and 3 dialed in, she won't fixate as much on the trivial BS. Sounds like you also have a few covert contracts if you're feeling taken for granted. Cook, clean, and take your daughter out because you're an awesome man, not because you need your wife's validation…
/r/askMRP04/06/17 10:00 PM
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No. Women control sex, men control commitment. Get that through your head. None of your feelings will change until you internalize OI and abundance. This is basic sidebar stuff. Lift, read and own your shit. Right now you give far too many fucks.
/r/askMRP28/05/17 07:52 PM
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The biggest change I've noticed is amongst people you know, friends, family, coworkers etc. You'll start to get looks from strangers who you would have been invisible to before, but they don't know what you looked like before. Your acquaintances do. They all knew the fat you. Once that changes you'd be amazed how many people start coming out of the woodwork to compliment you, congratulate, ask questions etc. People you hardly know suddenly start coming up to you and saying "Wow, you've totally c…
/r/askTRP26/05/17 11:01 AM
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I think it's a combination of the the two. Owning your shit and taking your balls back out of her purse. First off, we don't really know how much OP is really owning his shit with his brand new account. My guess is if she's still blowing up over trivial shit chances are that he's not as far along as he claims. I'd be shocked if he's done more than just "hang around TRP for the last few months ". I will agree that in addition to owning ones shit, that there is a time for drawing a line on what ty…
/r/askMRP26/05/17 09:58 AM
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Been there, done that a decade ago. U/Zuesjames has it correct. May be too late to fix the marriage but not too late to fix yourself. I'll tell you from first hand experience, the insecurity is the hardest part to overcome. You need to work on getting yourself to a place of OI and abundance mentality where it doesn't matter what she does, cause it's all win-win for you. Become the best version of yourself possible and it doesn't matter what she does. Many here would say next her immediately. My …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 11:35 PM
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Im not an expert, nor do I know much about p90x to be completely honest so take my opinion for what it's worth (not much). Nor do I know anything about your age, weight or physical fitness level. For myself I don't see any added benefit to adding something like that to SL 5x5 if you're just starting out on a lifting program. Why not follow the strength program alone for 8-12 weeks and see how your body adjusts. Then decide if you want to add more conditioning type work like p90x at the same time…
/r/askMRP25/05/17 06:55 PM
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Freud would have something to say about you making that connection. Now you have me thinking about Jackass and the toy car prank.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 03:14 PM
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I absolutely hate running with a passion, that's why I force myself to do it. I love the feeling of intentional discomfort and pushing for that next goal. In that sense it give me a greater sense of accomplishment, knowing that I wanted to quit from the first minute, but here I am, still going 4 or 5 miles later. Love that feeling.
/r/askMRP25/05/17 02:36 PM
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Nothing wrong with doing both, lifting and cardio at the same time. Just make sure you get your 1gram/pound of protein and lots of rest. The fears of "cardio killing your gains" are overblown if you're doing 2-3x/week @30min of cardio in addition to your lifting. Just keep the cardio to after your lifts, or on your off days. I do mine as a separate workout 3x weekly, but thats becauseI lift 6days/week. . So that means 2 a days half the week. I split up my runs between a slow long run (4-6miles),…
/r/askMRP25/05/17 02:33 PM
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Bullet with Butterfly Wings - Smashing Pumpkins always gets me going and takes me back to that era.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 07:06 PM
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Great for running to, but I just can't get into music when lifting. I don't even notice what's playing most of the time in the gym but can't run without my running playlist. Edit: Intro for Hit'em Up-Tupac always gets me motivated. "That's why I fucked yo Bitch you fat mother fucker!"
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 07:03 PM
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I'm confused on all this. I'm not going to bother echoing a lot of the comments already made about your leadership. There's already been a ton of good advice there. What I will ask is what exactly are you afraid of her wrestling control of from you? Specifically. It sounds to me like she has zero ability to be involved financially. This means you are 100% in control of that. What is it that she can take over once you remove that from the equation? Are you basically saying you don't want any inpu…
/r/askMRP24/05/17 06:54 PM
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That's the whole point, having options is attractive. No woman wants to be with a man who is only with her because he has no other options. That means she's with a loser. She wants a man that other woman want, but that chooses to be with her. THAT is attractive. I think the reason so many marriages end up failing is that both partners lose sight of this simple fact. It's easy to lose attraction for someone you look down upon. Options keeps her off the pedestal and keeps her interested in making …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 02:05 PM
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Since you haven't added it up on your own yet: She's already fucking him. No sex for you + dont pressure me + weekly PRIVATE yoga lessons with instructor she swoons about with girlfriends = Do you need me to draw you a fucking picture?
/r/askMRP24/05/17 01:03 AM
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Lifting: Only got 4 days in last week due to long weekend and family plans. Tendinitis in elbow back with a vengeance. Focusing on everything else in the meanwhile. Diet: Fell off over long weekend. Confirmed what I've noticed during my last trip, falling off meal plan makes my body feel like shit. Simple carbs make you feel like dog shit. Tired, groggy, sleepy. Fuck that. Back to meal plan, body returning to normal. Diet >Lifting for mood and energy level. You really are what you eat. Reading: …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 07:09 PM
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Clearly you're not angry enough about it if it's not motivation enough to stop being a pussy and start lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 02:07 PM
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Embrace the grind. Take comfort in discomfort. It's taken me 20 years to figure it out, but I'm happiest when I'm doing something physically, mentally or emotionally draining. There is something uniquely rewarding about putting yourself in that situation, going through that discomfort, seeing the finish line far off in the distance and getting it done, as a man. No hesitation. No whining. Just getting it done. How to apply that to your situation? Put yourself in the mindset that you're happiest …
/r/askMRP23/05/17 09:51 AM
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I was wondering the same thing. Tough to give any advice when it appears like there's a LOT more to this story. Kids don't start acting like that from one single incident of their parents having a blow out. The only input I can add for now is , irregardless of how irrational you're spouse reacts, it should be pretty fucking basic parenting to get your kid some food when they're clearly hungry. Before learning better skills to handle this type of situation I probably would have blew up on my wife…
/r/askMRP20/05/17 04:06 PM
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You can hold frame without being Rambo. The A in AM stands for "Amused". Try looking at her as a bratty teenager when she's being rebellious and maybe you'll find your self laughing inside rather than raging. Holding frame doesn't mean be a dick.
/r/askMRP18/05/17 07:20 PM
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Seriously over thinking things here. "Thank you" and move on. No need to over think every single word she says and does. That is by definition being in her frame.
/r/askMRP18/05/17 12:39 PM
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It's unfortunate there isn't a sidebar book about how to say no without feeling guilty.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 09:54 AM
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You need to get clean and actually put in some effort into fixing yourself. That's what you need to do. Talking about "been reading TRP" for a while doesn't mean jack shit. What have you actually done? You want to know why you blew up? Because you knew he was better than you and making your GF's pussy wet. What are you going to do about that? There's only one variable in this equation you have any control over. You! Get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 06:00 PM
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How long before he deletes his original post too? OP, you seriously need to put some work in dude. Looks like you have a bad oxy habit and enjoy too much WWE, then flip out cause your GF is more interested in her friends new man than you. Gee, I wonder why? You are the very definition of the problem. Now that you know that, what are you going to DO about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 05:56 PM
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Been reading TRP a while? Bro, do you even sidebar? Because if you do, could you please point out where you were taught that losing your shit, being insecure and mate guarding is the correct course of action in this situation? Insecurity and mate guarding are super unattractive. Be attractive, don't be unattractive. I've been that faggot before, don't be that faggot. Instead learn to STFU, and maybe take tips from FBI Chad. Become friends with him even. Sounds like you need a friend like him. If…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 05:33 PM
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Been there, done that and it absolutely is Chad bait. I still work 50-60 hour weeks so I feel your pain. Where I'm fortunate is I've been doing it long enough to be used to it and to be able to include my workouts into my work day hours. Ive also gotten VERY good at making effective use of my time off. Get good at using every available minute. Look for opportunities to say yes to fun, rather than no. As far as anger, being tired is a cop out. You are fully in control of your actions at all times…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 04:33 PM
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Dude, from a former fat fuck to a current fat fuck: Stop fucking hamstering and just go do the fucking work. Trust me, you will look back and hate yourself for taking one minute longer than needed to get off your ass. Self loathing is a great tool to motivate your fat ass into the gym. Fuck goals. Goals are for losers. Anyone can dream a goal. Systems are for success. What is your system for actually doing the work? When you feel bad about your weight, go workout, don't go to Taco Bell. Taco Bel…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 03:16 PM
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Missed OYS yesterday: Lifting: Starting week 2 of conditioning routine. 3/days dumbell complexes, 3 days running 3 miles min, 3 days cardio cross training. Working on improving lifting endurance, adding speed and distance to runs. Returning to heavy lifting routine in 2 weeks. Diet: Back on meal plan. Weight plateauing at 192-195lbs but BF% still dropping. Lost another inch on waist, calipers finally came in, measured at 15%, Navy method says 16%. Reading: Finished How to Fail at Almost Everythi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 02:21 PM
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My wife used to give me the "you don't respect me" line when she wasn't attracted to me as well. Clearly I must respect her a lot more lately because I can't remember the last time she said that. She has however been telling me how "hawt" I am, and pawing at me when I take my shirt off. I still have a long way to go, but the difference is staggering. I'm not sure I understand what's going on, but it might have something to do with: Be attractive, don't be unattractive. Attractive guys can get aw…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 05:39 PM
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Every time I hear "we're all on different levels" or "this doesn't apply to everyone, we all have different starting points", I can't help but think what they're really saying is "I'm special, this doesn't apply to me". Seems an awful lot like looking for an excuse to not put in the work. The mental equivalent of "do I really need to squat and deadlift"?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 12:45 PM
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I was a total n00b when I first found MRP and am grateful for those who took the time to answer my stupid n00b questions, and who called me a faggot. It's tough to tell who the ones willing to do the work will be versus the ones just looking for a shortcut. For me it was an easy choice, I knew who I used to be and I knew exactly where I needed to get back to. I also knew the point where allowing myself to become a fat, lazy, sad fuck had gotten me. Doing the work seemed like a pretty obvious cho…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 02:33 AM
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It's human nature for people to try and look for the easy way out. I'd guess it's the primary reason most married men turn beta in the first place, taking the path of least resistance at every turn. They then turn to MRP for help and proclaim to have "taken the pill", continue their ways of looking for an easy way to get what they desire, lift a couple of weeks, go Rambo by acting out how they think they should, put on an tough guy act, and then wonder why they see no results. They put the same …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/17 04:10 PM
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It's amusing how obvious this becomes ones you've actually put in any effort into improving and actually done the work. Yet, when you were Billy Beta you're absolutely clueless to what is really going on. Guaranteed if she's comfortable enough to talk openly to him about how hard she's crushing on these guys that she's already fucked one of them or is planning to soon. This is basically her shouting at the top of her lungs "step up and be a man I actually want to fuck".
/r/askMRP13/05/17 12:36 PM
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I'd argue that game is even more important in a marriage or LTR. Your partner is still a woman and as such craves tingles. If you're not giving them to her, guaranteed someone else is.
/r/askMRP13/05/17 12:31 PM
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It sounds to me like that old Toyota has outlived its purpose in more ways than one. Are you hanging on to it as a symbol because you're afraid of sliding back into the man you were? The man that needed his wife to step up and take leadership to save a sinking ship? You're not that man anymore, why would you want to hang on to that symbol for one second longer than needed? Do you NEED that crutch to prevent a backslide? Are you afraid that who you really are is that guy and that you're just a fr…
/r/askMRP13/05/17 12:24 PM
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Gotta say I agree with this, that and train your dogs better. That said I have one intact male that just loves to escape and chase bitches especially at this time of year. He's a great dog, obedient, sits, stays, recalls on command, all that. But if there's any way for him to sneak out and there's a female in heat within miles, he's fucking gone in an instant. Lucky for us we've learned where all the bitches live now so it's just a process of elimination. Horny little bastard. Can't say I blame …
/r/askMRP12/05/17 04:53 PM
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Ya, apparently it's logging 1000's of hours playing video games and worrying about wether or not your lucid dreams are immoral or not from a Christian viewpoint. Or maybe it's not being able to stick to a meal plan. Those are all super Alpha behaviors that get all the pussies moist. Again, maybe you're in the wrong place.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 07:49 PM
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By the sounds if it, you're in the wrong fucking place. Try r/fitness if you don't like my answer. All of those rhetorical questions were the fucking answer to your main question. Next time try asking why your knees hurt when you squat if that's what you really want to know. Hint, it's probably cause your form is shit or you spend too much time on them. One of those two is my best guess but I'm not a fucking doctor. If you can't take a bit of locker room talk go back to your safe space and fuck …
/r/askMRP11/05/17 07:38 PM
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I gave you a factual list of reasons of why they are important. Apparently it's not just your knees that are hurt. Nobody is dick swinging. Sometimes people (including me) have a bit of fun with their answers.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 06:21 PM
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Because they make it possible to pick your wife up whenever you feel like it? Because they're manly as fuck? Because they build grit and determination? Because they teach you to take comfort in discomfort? Because they boost your T levels? Because no woman is attracted to a man with chicken legs? Because women like looking at a tight ass too? Is that enough reasons?
/r/askMRP11/05/17 05:33 PM
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Sounds like you're starting in a similar place to where I was. Take a look at my history if you care to. What to say after sex? I'll tell you what not to say, "Thank you". Nothing more unattractive than that. Depending on how good the sex was I'll throw out a "that was awesome" or if she's complaining about being too rough a "you're welcome" when I know she was enjoying every second of it. I'd work through the sidebar, the levels of dread, and get yourself physically and mentally to a place wher…
/r/askMRP10/05/17 09:49 PM
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Dude, you need to get over all that shit. That's the point. You have no frame because you carry all this bullshit with you. You can't get over the resentment issues because you still haven't internalized two key points, first it's all your fault and secondly you are the prize (or should be if you're not there yet). Everything else is just bullshit to protect your fragile ego. You're coming up with a ton of excuses of why this is really all her fault that you lost your shit. No, it's you're fucki…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 05:19 PM
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I laugh inside now when I think back to my attempts to logic her about it in the past. You're well aware of how well that would have went over.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 10:36 PM
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You're definitely placed in a situation where you have no choice but to be "vulnerable " as Mark Manson puts it unless you want to spend a few days alone in anti-social silence. I found that every single open I attempted was received positively. Not a single negative reaction. The event I was at was very serious and not very fun. Unlike just about every other male I saw there, I made sure to not bore them to death. Why talk about work bullshit at a conference like that, when you can give them ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 10:34 PM
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You need to change your goal. I can't quote on mobile but "sex 3x a week" shouldn't be your goal. Being the best version of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally should be your only goal. Once you get there the sporadic denials will continue to diminish in relevance. As has been mention ad infinitum here, neediness is the opposite of attractive and a sure fire pussy dryer. Ask me how I know. She doesn't want to have sex, no great loss to you. She controls sex, you control commitment. Rem…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 10:21 PM
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Absolutely. When my wife starts to get all "I hate the way I look, I'm disgusting ", I usually just grab her hand and put it on my dick and ask her what he thinks of her. That usually gets me a "you're an asshole" or gets me laid. I'm ok with either outcome. It's a lot more productive than the way I handled it the majority of our marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 10:12 PM
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Get to a point where you have options. Suddenly her denials will lose their power. Also, the denials are far less likely once she KNOWS you have those options. Lift, diet, work on yourself, increase your SMV and have fun. Everything else is irrelevant. Why be angry at her for denying you , if you know you're unable to get it anywhere else? Did I mention lift and diet?
/r/askMRP09/05/17 12:53 PM
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First OYS in a few weeks. A combination of too busy and too lazy to write. Shitty excuse and need to get back on the horse. Lifting: Changing routine up for next 3 weeks, focusing on complexes and conditioning. Took a scheduled rest week off last week. First days off in 9 months. Hated it. End up going for a midnight run on day 3. Diet: Allowed myself a diet amnesty during the rest week. Didn't pig out, but ate what I wanted to help recovery. Felt like shit from the carbs. Back on meal plan. Fee…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 10:08 AM
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Quality post and good timing for me as well. I was mulling over these same thoughts today as I started thinking about tomorrow's OYS post. I came to the exact same conclusion and it was a reminder of exactly what had worked in the past for me and what is working again. Having the confidence to know that you have options and that she is damn lucky to have you is the key. Getting your SMV high enough that this becomes fact is something that is firmly within your control. It's funny that most of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/17 07:57 PM
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You're right. I was setting the bar low to show that with very little effort it's easy to drop 50/lbs a year.
/r/askTRP07/05/17 06:24 PM
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If I could do it at 40, you have no excuse for not being able to do it at 19. Start with diet first, 70% of your gains (in this case loss technically) will come from diet. 500cal/day deficit equals 1lb/week fat loss. Anyone can do this easily. Keep doing this until you hit your target weight. Lift. Lift heavy and lift often. Pick a beginner program and stick to it. Give 100% effort at every workout. That's it. Make a commitment and stick to it. You won't see immediate change, but if you stick to…
/r/askTRP07/05/17 04:41 PM
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"Be happy", the most important part of your post....everything else gets so much easier once you figure this one out. It gets so much easier once you just ARE happy regardless of any outside influences.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 03:56 PM
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Haha. My bad, didn't look at their history. You're definitely right then, AND they shouldn't eat paint.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 03:45 PM
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Where I'll disagree is that everything you mention in your post is MRP and sidebar 101. If OP has put the work into owning their shit, then they are already doing all those things. In that case, "when you want" is the correct answer. If they haven't put it any if the work, then your post rings true and "when you want" is a disaster waiting to happen and requires Stones "don't eat paint" disclaimer.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 03:24 PM
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When you want to.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 03:20 PM
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That's what I'm finding as well. Came here to improve the sex life, discovered it was me that needed improving, worked on improving myself, sex life improved as a by-product of the self improvement, sex life is no longer primary driver of continued improvement. Being the best man I can be and living an awesome life is now the primary focus.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 05:57 PM
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Just did exactly this, took 10 years off immediately. Also does a fantastic job of getting rid of any grey that may be coming in around the temples. Go to a good barber and get a proper fade though, rather than someone who's just going to run a number 2 over your melon and make you look like a grade schooler who gets buzzed by their mom.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 05:55 PM
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Problem is you both bought the wrong thermostat, and should have bought the ecobee 3. Superior thermostat, better support, 4 wire conversion kit included in the box. The Nest is all marketing.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 11:06 PM
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Get an ecobee 3, it's superior to the Nest in every way AND you can set a passcode for it so no one can mess with the settings if you prefer. No need for an ugly lockbox.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 10:59 PM
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Congratulations, I hope to get where you're at in another 6 months. Good for you man for putting the hard work in and reaping the rewards of your improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/17 02:33 AM
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Correction, no value.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 10:27 AM
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Definitely an area of weakness. I've read the game books (The Game, Bang, Day Bang, Book of Pook etc) and had some success. However my schedule definitely doesn't provide many easy opportunities for me to practice. I know it's something I need to make time for. I have a couple weeks away coming up myself that will provide ample opportunity for practice. It's not so much a lack of abundance that the insecurity stems from, rather it stems from the memories of my own failures and fat, beta fagotty …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 10:15 AM
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Thanks for the advice. I'll add it to the reading list. It's something I've definitely worked on and improved on. I'm much better with it than I was, but I recognize it's still an area I need to keep working at until it's completely gone. I'm not satisfied with better. I keep my OYS posts honest, there's no point in bullshitting myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 10:08 AM
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There's so much going on here it's almost impossible to comment on all of it on mobile. First of all, you're acting as if she's the prize. If you'd done any of the sidebar reading you'd realize this is false. Acta non verba. What's with all the words? She said she'll stay if I do XYZ, I said I'd like her to do ABC. Words are next to meaningless. Lead by doing, not talking. Have you read BPP's book? Dread, create some. Right now your wife is running great dread game on you. Frame, do you even hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 09:54 AM
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Give yourself time to digest the sidebar materials and actually understand and internalize them. It's an ongoing process. Don't expect change overnight, it will take months of consistent effort in the gym and in the kitchen before you see any visible results. Just stick with it, and keep doing the work. Most importantly, have fun with it. Once you come to the realization that 95% of it is all BS, you can let go of the anger and start making real progress. Resist the urge to go Rambo and learn to…
/r/askMRP12/04/17 09:51 AM
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Apple changed their security protocols after the "Fappening" leaks. Anytime you log into iCloud from another device or from something like FindMyiPhone, an email is sent to the owners registered email address. Looks something like this "Your Apple ID (xxxusername) was used to sign in to iCloud and iMessage on an iPad. If you have not recently set up an iPad with your Apple ID, then you should change your Apple ID password. Learn more." That's probably how she was tipped off and why she changed h…
/r/askMRP11/04/17 01:45 PM
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Lifting: 5/6 lifting workouts done. Missed one due to other commitments. Felt good with reduced weight but more volume. 3/3 cardio. Reducing ab/core workouts as my obliques are starting to get huge relative to everything else. Diet: Got diet back on track. Lost the previous weeks water weight. Back to 195lb but been stalled there for a couple of weeks. Reduce calories by 300/day. Reading: Started How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big House and home life: Got another small project do…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 10:39 AM
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You may understand them better but that is beyond my point. What's easy is falling into a life of comfort. In believing the lie of unconditional love. Fuck that. We all have conditions, it's just considered politically incorrect to say it out loud. It's easy to believe that because you've "won" the girl that she'll always be there for you regardless of what you do. It's easy to let yourself go. It's easy not to put any effort in your appearance. It's easy to stop gaming her. It's easy to fall in…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 11:13 PM
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New habits is tough for me as my current habits have been both very good and effective for the last 8-9 months (45lbs lost). However, weight loss has stalled the last couple of weeks so I was already making changes prior to this post. I haven't readjusted my TDEE in over 3 months and I'm sure that is the main culprit behind my stall. It's very likely I have been eating at or near maintenance the last few weeks as my TDEE has dropped along with my weight. Reducing calories in by 300/day for the n…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 07:36 PM
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When you think it's getting easier, it's because your sliding into complacency and beta comfort. Fuck that shit. Never again.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 05:38 PM
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The burden of performance means hard work. Hard work is hard. Most people don't like working hard. It's far easier to be lazy, and wonder why no one wants to fuck you. That's really what it all comes down to. Work hard and be someone women actually want to fuck. I wish I hadn't had to take the long road to get to this realization.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 03:20 PM
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I think that a lot of the reasons for the types of problems we see leading men to MRP is falling into the trap of believing that marriage in fact allows one to fall into Easy Mode rather than the correct realization that it is in fact Hard Mode. Pre-RP we are conditioned to believe that once we have "won" the girl the hard part is now over when in fact it has just begun. While we (men in general) may become great husbands and fathers, the majority of the time it's easy to lose sight that what "w…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/17 02:36 PM
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Good job on the outcome, however: You could have avoided the argument in the first place by not texting a specific timeline to begin with. No deadline to be home by equals no way to be late. This is a beginner move. "I'll be home when I'm all done" or "as soon as I'm all finished", never a fixed time. By saying "soon" and then working another 45 min you set up a timeline to meet. Under promise and over deliver. Secondly, watch the covert contracts. "The kids are at grandmas so I'm going to get l…
/r/askMRP09/04/17 02:54 AM
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Nailed it!
/r/askMRP07/04/17 04:39 PM
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No surprise that a baby that is held all the time and carried around everywhere has been conditioned to want to be held and never put down. The earlier you break that conditioning the better. Yes, that means letting them cry it out at first. The longer you wait, the more impossible the task becomes. This shit isn't rocket science. Or don't and enjoy having a toddler sleeping in your bed. That will do wonders for your sex life. No surprise on the colic either. Here's something clearly no one fill…
/r/askMRP07/04/17 04:34 PM
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Stop being a faggot. When my oldest was young I had a period where I was laid off and a SAHD for a short while. It was fucking awesome because I made it so. Enjoy your time with you kid while they are little, many dads never get the chance. I work 60hr weeks and wish I could spend as much time with my youngest as I did with my oldest. Staying home with an infant is fucking easy. They sleep, wakeup, shit, eat, play and sleep again. How fucking hard is that? It's a 3-4 hour cycle where they're asl…
/r/askMRP07/04/17 03:22 PM
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Improving yourself should be the only goal. It just so happens that the relationship MAY improve as a byproduct. Doing it to fix the relationship is just another covert contract. If I follow MRP and improve, then the relationship will improve. It doesn't work that way. Improve for the sake of improving and becoming a better man. Everything else is outside your control.
/r/askMRP07/04/17 12:51 PM
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Really insightful post, it's going to take a while to digest it all.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/17 07:45 PM
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MRP fixes men not relationships. There's your answer. There is nothing to save in this relationship. It's dead. Can you bring your dog back to life once it's passed? No? Same thing here. No amount of Disney White Knighting is going to fix this shit. How much clearer can she be about her feelings towards you? Would you like me to draw you a picture? Put in the work to fix yourself. Lift, read the sidebar, and work on improving yourself for you. It's that simple.
/r/askMRP06/04/17 09:42 AM
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Beta Bux
/r/askMRP06/04/17 12:36 AM
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Let me guess, you're 1st world, she's from a 3rd world country. Let me spell it out for you, you're her BB. She's not going home to visit family and cousins. She's going home to visit her real boyfriend or husband. You're just the paycheck. Her attempt to get pregnant with you is nothing but a smoke screen to cover her tracks when she gets knocked up by the other dude. Then she can get the kid she wants with you none the wiser. I'd also be willing to bet there's a good chance her "real estate cl…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 02:29 PM
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You don't get a much clearer example than this. Thanks for sharing and best wishes to you for your wife's health.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 03:16 PM
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A little. I'll admit to taking comfort in pushing past discomfort. I enjoy the mental aspect of it. When I'm not pushing my limits frankly I get bored. I agree though that getting injured is completely counter productive. I've changed the course for the rest of this month to focus more on hypertrophy work and less on strength, while keeping a close eye on how my body reacts. If I get anymore negative signs I'll continue to dial back. I have a planned rest week at the end of the month and will re…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:53 PM
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I agree with your statements about my lifting routine. Changes are already in motion. Clarification on the asking wife for help. It's not that I don't ask her to get things done. I was speaking more in terms of asking her to take over things that I have already taken responsibility for part way through, mostly out of my own laziness or poor planning. This was a bad habit of mine in the past and poor leadership on my part. When I ask her to do "x,y or x" ahead of time she gets it done. Where I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 11:31 AM
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Gotta say this is something I have witnessed myself, having gone from one extreme to the other and back again. Excellent observation. I don't think it's something I would have pieced together on my own. I've seen a steady transformation occurring with my wife back towards the happy, carefree girl she was when we first met. For a long time I had wondered where that girl had gone.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 10:48 AM
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Lifting: Felt good after the self imposed 1 week break on upper body lifting. Went hard all week. No workouts missed, 6 lifting, 3 cardio, 3 abs/core. Unfortunately one week of going heavy and nagging injuries returning. Tweaked shoulder joining sore elbow. Diet: Diet was 90% good but had 3 really bad cheat meals to end the week. Weight shot up 4 pounds of mostly water I'm assuming. Only upside was that I felt like Superman after the last one, likely from all the extra carbs. Reading: Finished M…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 10:31 AM
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Thanks for the advice. Im just heading for the dreadmill. Ill give it a read tonight. I realize that this must be a version of what recovering addicts feel like. I'm almost afraid to miss a day as not to risk falling back into bad habits. Easier to just keep working.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/17 08:00 PM
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I did that 3 weeks ago (no upper body lifting, just cardio and leg days) felt better, went back at it hard the last two weeks and the nags are coming back. It's tough mentally staying out of the gym now as it's become so routine for me. I look forward to the discomfort now. I've got a planned 4 days off at the end of this month so in the meanwhile I'll just keep pushing through with lighter weights, more volume, and more AMRAPS. I really think I'm hitting a wall where I just need more food and s…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/17 07:43 PM
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I will focus the rest of the month on volume rather than strength. My joints are telling me that after lifting heavy while cutting for the last 8 months that they need a break. It's been very hard to accept that I'm pushing myself harder than my body is capable of recovering from. Still continuing the same 6/day week lifting week routine plus 3/day week cardio, just focusing more on form, higher volume, slower eccentrics, and incorporating more HIIT on lifting days.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/17 02:59 PM
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I had horrible acid reflux before getting back in shape for over a decade. After about the first 20lbs lost the acid reflux and constant heartburn pretty much disappeared. Losing the weight and fixing my diet was far more effective than Zantac 2x/day and eating antacids like candy.
/r/askMRP02/04/17 08:59 PM
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Go to the Y. They have heavy things there too and no cult to join. Doing Olympic lifts for time is a recipe for injury.
/r/askMRP31/03/17 04:54 PM
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Pick heavy shit up, put heavy shit down. I need that on a t-shirt. I know someone recovering from a hernia surgery from Cross-fit. After hearing about it for the last fucking year from them, seeing zero improvement, and them refusing to listen to anyone about the potential for injury, I can't say I wasn't a smug asshole when I heard about it.
/r/askMRP31/03/17 04:52 PM
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Looking back, this was something my wife said out loud a decade ago when we tried the marriage counseling route (waste of time). At the time it didn't have much impact on me, but after swallowing the pill I look back on it as a moment that should have hit me like a shovel upside the head. She was literally telling the therapist that "he should just know that", or "I shouldn't have to tel him that, he should just know" to almost every comment the therapist would make regarding her needing to comm…
/r/askMRP31/03/17 12:58 PM
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I've used the zombie one lately. Her: "why can't you skip your cardio workout today?" Me: "Rule #1 of Zombieland. Cardio"
/r/askMRP28/03/17 07:26 PM
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Thanks for the advice. Ill start adding those stretches in.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 07:13 PM
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Lifting. Worst pain is during hammer curls, reverse grip curls. I'd been ignoring it for a few months already. Tightens up pretty bad following chest/back and shoulder/back/triceps day. I've been icing it multiple times a day, took a week off upper body lifting, felt 90% better. Went back at it this week, 2 days in and the pain is returning. I welcome your suggestions. Edit: it's either tendonitis, my brachialis, or brachioradialis giving me grief. Need to make an appointment to visit an Athleti…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 05:28 PM
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Thanks for the correction. "You see the key though which is simply to not wrestle at all." It's ironic how much improvement comes about from simply doing less or doing nothing at all. That's been one of the most unexpected realizations for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 12:22 PM
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The only person you need to worry about saving in this circumstance is YOU. Work on improving yourself, because if you don't you'll be dead before you know what the fuck happened. Start with the 2 easiest steps, lifting and diet. Get that shit under control and I guarantee you'll be a hundred times better off for it. Then start reading the damn sidebar. Don't do any of this to save your marriage, do it to save your life. You already have one foot in the grave.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:31 AM
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Lifting: Had to make some adjustments due to persistent tennis elbow that was getting worse. Took a hiatus from upper body lifting for a week, still did 2 leg days, and conditioning on the other days. Total of 2 days lifting, 5 cardio/conditioning, 2 ab/core workouts. Sucked but needed to be done. Not lifting was much harder than lifting. Diet: On track for 95% of meals. 2 cheat meals last week. Weight down to 195lbs. Noticing weight loss slowing down, but BF% still improving visually. Need to r…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 10:28 AM
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Bro, do you even sidebar? I prescribe some Meditations and The Handbook for you. You have some serious anger issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 11:41 AM
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ZMA is basically just Zinc, Magnesium and B6. Works as a pretty good sleep aid as well, take it 30 min before bed and sleep like the dead. Only side effect I've seen mentioned (and experienced) is an increase in vivid dreams. Probably due to an increase in REM sleep. That and the raging morning wood.
/r/askMRP26/03/17 12:41 AM
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I don't know what my T levels are, but I do know that once I started taking ZMA every evening and a multivitamin with Zinc added every morning, I started getting raging morning wood every day again. It had been pretty infrequent the last 5 years or so. I don't know how much of it was weight loss, how much was the Zinc, and how much was lifting heavy, squats and deadlifts, but I do know that my highly unscientific results seem to indicate my T levels have definitely increased.
/r/askMRP25/03/17 11:19 PM
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Juice is just as bad as soft drinks for sugar content. Think of it as a soft drink with vitamin C added. You're better off saving those calories for real food. Eat your calories, don't drink them.
/r/askMRP25/03/17 03:13 AM
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Make black coffee and broccoli your new best friends. They are both great for hunger control, and very low cal for when you're hungry but don't want to blow your macros. I also find splitting my calories over 5 smaller meals throughout the day helps a lot with the hunger. It sucks, but you just have to want it bad enough to get through it.
/r/askMRP25/03/17 03:12 AM
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Great FR and progress! Awesome seeing how things work out for those who put in the work. Congrats and keep moving forward.
/r/askMRP25/03/17 12:40 AM
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I slap my wife's ass multiple times on a daily basis, does that count?
/r/askMRP24/03/17 04:37 PM
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Unpopular opinion these days but when I see these "my toddler is a walking shit storm who doesn't listen" posts the first thought I have is "want to know how I can tell you don't spank your kids?" I know that the politically correct way of child rearing is to never spank your kids, but my personal thoughts are "fuck that". Thankfully my wife was on the same page. If you're doing it right, the discipline progression should be set expectations, give warning expectation is not being met, removal of…
/r/askMRP24/03/17 03:20 PM
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Either do or do not, there is no try. I heard that somewhere in a movie or something. Little green dude said it. Or maybe you should "try your best". There's a Sean Connery quote for that one from The Rock that would be appropriate for you.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 12:57 PM
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You had me at physics of bouncing boobs, I think a gif is needed. For science.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 10:59 AM
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You're lifting 2x a week after 9-10 months? Dude wtf? That should be your biggest priority above all else. When I miss a day I'm hungry to get back. Be hungry. Can't get to the gym because "reasons", what's stopping you from banging out a quick bodyweight HIIT workout at home? We live in a time where there are videos and walkthroughs for everything. Use that shit to your advantage. Next should be diet. If you can't get the easiest two things sorted out, it's no wonder your game is going no where…
/r/askMRP24/03/17 09:56 AM
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After some improvement the texts can start to include some gaming and flirting. It's been very interesting to see the reactions change from disgust, to silence, to lol's and flirting back. I think it's an excellent barometer of progress. Just don't be a dumb fuck and turn the dial to 11 all at once. A very clear example of women (in this case your own wife) being creeped out by a comment from a man she's not attracted to (fat obese you), that would turn her on from a Chad (hopefully you after so…
/r/askMRP23/03/17 09:40 PM
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There's a reason STFU is the default for new guys when you don't know how to reply.
/r/askMRP23/03/17 04:43 PM
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It didn't phase me at all, just came out of no where so it was a bit of a surprise. I accept that it's just the way it is sometimes. Still, it did seem like a bit of karma coming around to kick me in the nuts for being so pleased with my progress so far. A little cosmic reminder that things can still get awry on me even when things are going well.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 02:45 PM
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I knew from the start that it would be tough to reflect on progress without coming off as humble bragging. However, I received my first hard NO in ages last night to serve as a reminder that there is still much work to be done and that it never ends.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 10:37 AM
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Thanks, I hope it motivates other to put in the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 07:30 PM
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Don't beat yourself up, 5lb a month is great. Just keep doing that. Anything over 2lb/week and you're losing muscle mass along with the fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 05:51 PM
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Thanks man! In all fairness it is a big ass wall of text.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 05:42 PM
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Today it dawned on me that it's been 180 days of MRP as of yesterday, so I'll change my OYS to reflect on my progress so far and my goals moving forward. I can say it's been nothing but positive for me, and I hope that other men are inspired to get the same or better results if they put in the effort. More than anything I've learned that putting in the work equals results. There is no other way. Wether it be lifting in the gym, watching your macros, updating your wardrobe, internalizing the read…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 01:41 PM
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It's never a bad idea to avoid chemicals as much as possible but, it's sugar and carbs causing most people to eat way more calories than they realize. I'm living proof. Been on a steady 1lb/week loss with no organics, just a 500 cal daily deficit and meticulous tracking of intake and macros. It's not rocket science. Organic really doesn't mean anything on the label as it is, there is no governing body or inspection agency for organic. Only self regulation. The idea for organic makes sound sense …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 10:07 PM
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Too many calories is a bad diet. Set the example by tracking your intake, you'd be surprised at just how bad your "healthy" diet can be. Start by removing as much added sugar as you can. If most of your food doesn't start with single ingredients, you can be pretty certain at least 25-30% of your calories are coming from sugar.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 07:36 PM
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Diet > working out for weight loss. You can't outwork a bad diet. Put together a meal plan for yourself first and follow it religiously. As stoney has already pointed out, 6 months later she'll probably follow you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 06:31 PM
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Find yourself a good athletic therapist or physical therapist and stop wasting time and money on quackery.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 07:54 PM
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Thanks, I'll add that to my reading list. Oddly enough since swallowing the pill I've found myself naturally gravitating toward watching more comedy and standup specials to unwind. Stoic and Buddhist teachings have also helped a lot. Once you come to the realization that there are very few things worth troubling yourself over, it becomes much easier to laugh off the other 99%.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 04:45 PM
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Lifting: 6 lifting days, 3 cardio and abs, 1 core and abs. Same as last OYS. Looking forward to being able to run outside soon. Decided to see what I was capable of last week and set new PR's in Bench (205) and DL (265), Squat still plateaud for me (235) due to lower ab/groin strain. Every time I try and push through it, strain comes back. Been doing a lot of pause squats at 185. Passed my short term goal of 700lb B/S/D, new goal 800lbs. Diet: Meal plan variety did some weird things with water w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 12:07 PM
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I do, what does that have to do with anything?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 10:01 PM
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Is the pause button broken on your Netflix? Does the resume playback feature not work for you? Just curious.....
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 09:44 PM
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The problem is your linking the two, cleaning and rewards. Clean because you want shit clean. Your not doing it for her, you're doing it for yourself. If she's not adding value, withdraw your time. If she is adding value reward with your time. It's that simple. If you think you're going to get her to do anything she doesn't want to do by buying/taking away rewards, good luck. Be a man she WANTS to clean for.
/r/askMRP13/03/17 05:46 PM
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OP just started the journey last week, meaning he hasn't read or learnt shit yet. One of the main principles is you can't change anyone's behaviors but your own. Since OP is the one that is a clean freak, and it bothers HIM, the answer is pretty clear, clean it up. Not because he should clean up after HER, but because it bothers HIM, and HE wants to live in a neat and tidy home, for HIMSELF. See why she is irrelevant in the equation? Eventually she may follow his lead as he progresses through hi…
/r/askMRP13/03/17 05:10 PM
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It works. For example, I leave for work hours before my wife has to wake up for work. She had never made the bed in the morning. This went on for almost 20 years. I hated this but accepted it despite talking to her about it many times. Sometime after reading Ironwood I realized that it was important to ME, therefore I should just start making it when I get home. So I did. For 4 days. On the 5th day I came home and it was made already. Occasionally I'd come home and it would be messy, so I'd just…
/r/askMRP13/03/17 09:46 AM
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That mirrors my experience as well. I don't bother trying to fix or get caught up in it at all anymore. Nice guy me would be running around trying to make things better and only fucking things up worse. Now I just laugh and withdraw. Her emotions are her own to deal with. It's amazing how easy it becomes once you finally turn that corner. Occasionally she'll actually admit to it, like the article above when I call her out on it. A few days ago she was acting like a spoiled bratty child, and I to…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/17 08:38 PM
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What would you do if she wasn't there? Do that.
/r/askMRP12/03/17 08:31 PM
2

Beard trimmer with nose hair attachment FTW.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 08:35 PM
2

I go with a number 5 on my trimmer every week. That works for me. Any shorter and it gets really stubbly and looks bumpy through clothing. Experiment. Start with an 8 or 9, then work your way down until your happy with the look.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 08:34 PM
1

Undercuts were big in the 90's as well. Wish I still had the hairline for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 03:04 PM
1

Great tips on the manscaping for those that are currently running au natural. Makes any man look instantly more attractive. I'd been trimming for a couple months before my wife noticed. She loves it now that there's actually some muscle to look at underneath what used to be all that hair (and fat). 900 pushups down, only 2100 to go. Got it down to 2x50. Love the fact that one of the tenets of Men if March is answer everything honestly. I'm finding that letting my inner voice out is getting incre…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/17 03:03 PM
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It seems to me that upbeat and fun are the areas where most seem to struggle. I personally feel it's their own egos getting the better of them. If you can't let go of the anger and resentment, and realize that ultimately it was your own failings that led you to where you are, it's difficult to be positive and upbeat and most importantly fun to be around.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 10:42 AM
1

Lifting like my life depends on it.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 10:35 AM
2

Actually it is as simple as you want to make it. Over thinking it just makes everything worse. Honestly, for me Book of Pook was extremely helpful in getting me back to where I started before slipping into betadom. Really at the end of the day you need to spend less time analyzing (analysis paralysis) and more time just doing. During my journey so far I found that the key to frame lies in listening to the internal dialogue in my head. I ask myself what do I want to do or say, and then do or say …
/r/askMRP08/03/17 07:53 PM
3

The mistake is making it about fucking metrics. Ugh, I can't stand that fucking word. People who try and use metrics to gauge personal relationships are losers. You can't metric your way into being cool, fun, and enjoyable to spend time with. You can't metric your way into frame. Fuck. For example do you think the word metric appears even once in any of the sidebar materials? Is Pook running around talking about god damn metrics? Fuck, get a life outside your work, business, boardroom, whatever,…
/r/askMRP08/03/17 06:05 PM
3

Agreed, it wasn't until I got below 20% that my wife really started to notice the improvements. I'm probably around 18% now (Navy method) and as the fat keeps dropping her attraction keeps growing. It's pretty obvious to me now what my biggest problem was.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 10:53 AM
2

Hate to break it to you but either you're not reading the sidebar or you just don't get it yet so here it is in big letters for you, SHE'S NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU. Reading your post reminded me of a lot of the covert contracts I had with my own wife. Be a good husband, romantic gestures, fancy hotels, elaborate gifts, etc and she'll reward me with sex. My wife was (and still is to much smaller extent) the same in the way she saw sex as something she was "giving me". I realize now that this was only…
/r/askMRP08/03/17 10:47 AM
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Drop the butt hurt. Continue working on yourself and your MAP. Work on actually being someone enjoyable to be around. Stop hyperventilating because your wife is getting herself off without you. Find your chill and maybe she'd invite you to join if you didn't sound so desperate for her validation.
/r/askMRP07/03/17 10:51 PM
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Assuming she was never attracted to you in the first place, and you started at -2 on SMV, and over 4 months you've improved to a +3 SMV, is that enough of an improvement that you should be expecting any change in her or any woman's attraction level? Using the above example, yes you're better than you've ever been, but is it any surprise she's still not attracted to you? Would you expect another woman to want to fuck you? My example is obviously extreme for illustrative purposes. What I get from …
/r/askMRP07/03/17 10:46 PM
3

Ever think that obviously that's not good enough? Seems like a pretty huge covert contract, "I'm better than I ever was, therefore she should want me now".
/r/askMRP07/03/17 10:19 PM
4

All you had to do was wait for the man to return and ask if he minded you working between his sets. Most people are pretty cool if you just ask.
/r/askMRP07/03/17 06:17 PM
3

"Life is suffering-Buddha" You suffer because your wife prefers you blow in her mouth when all you want is that sweet, sweet creampie. I suffer because all mine wants is the creampie, and all I want to do is blow in her mouth. Others are suffering because they haven't had either in months or longer and are wondering what the fuck either of us are complaining about. No matter what, once you "fix" one problem, another always takes its place. It's accepting this fact that allows one to be at peace …
/r/askMRP07/03/17 10:42 AM
1

Decided to follow through with my usual Sunday AM routine of stretching and core/ab work for Day 5 with one minor change, no music to distract me. One hour of working on nothing but myself with zero distractions except for the beep of my timer. Spent 10 min stretching, 40 mins on my workout, and finished with 20 min of meditation long before everyone else was up. It's odd how the physical sensations of working out are completely different when there are no other distractions.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/17 02:49 PM
1

Just did this with my closet a month or so back. Will work on my desk today but realistically this is a reminder of all the decluttering and hoarding I've been putting off dealing with. A few items I've been meaning to sell for a while now are going to be put up today. Great practical challenge again. I'll be continually working on this for a while. The hard part for me will be leading the wife and daughters into a minimalist lifestyle. Pushups done first thing in the morning. Only 2700 more to …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/17 07:58 PM
1

Doing 10 sets of 10 spread throughout the day is doable for anyone but the most obese segment of the population. Nothing hard about it. Even in my worst physical shape, starting out again after over 10 years of being a lazy fat fuck I could still manage 10 pushups. Within a month I could do 30. Just do 10 an hour throughout your day. There's no excuse for not even trying. Fuck, do girl pushups if you have to. You really think it's that hard?
/r/TheRedPill03/03/17 08:49 PM
1

Good job, but that's why I get them out of the way as early as possible, no opportunity to forget , slip up or procrastinate.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 05:50 PM
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Pushups done first thing this morning. Making it part of wake up routine. Pushups-shower-pushups-brush teeth-finish pushups. Annoyed I have to break it up into 3 sets. Aiming for 2x50 by the 31st. 300 done, only 2800 to go. Friday family fun night is a great challenge for us married guys. We've done this pretty regularly in our house for years. Time to mix it up a bit tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 02:32 PM
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Day 2: pushups done hours ago. Largest avoidance issue dealt with head on over the last 6 months. Time to work on the next one on the list. Thanks for the reminder that problems never end, new ones just rise up to take their place. There is no finish line.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 01:36 PM
2

Not nudes online, just general sexy pics. They're everywhere. No fap is no big deal, improvements in the bedroom mostly killed that urge a while back
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 01:42 AM
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Day 1 done. 100 pushups after my cardio and ab workout, after my leg day workout was brutal in an awesome way. Hardest part will be avoiding sexy pics. They're EVERYWHERE. It's like trying to avoid finding out who won something the night before. As soon as you try to avoid it, you notice it surrounds you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 12:39 AM
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I don't try, I've just stopped filtering my words and say what I'm truthfully thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 12:46 AM
1

Agreed.
/r/askMRP28/02/17 08:15 PM
2

Reread the post from zeteo above. Also, LDR = no relationship.
/r/askMRP28/02/17 07:43 PM
3

What is moral is what you feel good after, and what is immoral is what you feel bad after - Ernest Hemmingway In other words, it's all relative.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 07:35 PM
3

You're missing the entire point, and DEER'ing.
/r/askMRP28/02/17 07:30 PM
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Not everyone has the benefit of A) finding this place and B) the capability to kill their own ego and follow the advice given. It goes against EVERYTHING men have been told will bring them happiness their entire lives. The only thing I can blame them for is IF they stumble upon this place and refuse to even try to improve. In that case there is no one to blame but themselves. TRP/MRP is still a tiny sliver of the male population. The 99.999% still have no idea that they are sabotaging their own …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 02:52 PM
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I think many of us have been that poor beta guy. The good news is that it's never too late to improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 02:03 PM
3

Lifting: 6 lifting days, 3 cardio and abs, 1 core and abs. No deviation last 3 weeks. Had some setbacks pulling something in upper back, and tendonitis in elbow. Have dropped weight a bit, but pushing through it. Working in 8-12 rep ranges now rather than 5-6 to give my joints a break. Diet: Added more variety to meal plan. Skewed my calories and macros a bit. I definitely prefer to stick to eating the same things every day for simplicity. This doesn't work out so great for the rest of the famil…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 11:38 AM
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Eat more. If your not gaining, then your not running a surplus. It's that simple. 2500 cal/day is probably close to your maintenance once you factor in your workouts. Add 100 cal/day each week until you start adding 1 pound/week. I'd guess that will be around 3000/day for you. We're similar heights (although I'm heavier) and at 2400/day I'm losing a pound a week with 6 days lifting and 3 cardio/conditioning workouts a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 05:35 PM
1

Sounds like a plan!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 10:53 PM
3

Am I the only person that gets the feeling that OP's GF is a "mail order bride" type, openly using hypergamy to her advantage? For some reason every time I hear a similar story it's always 1st world BB, meets 3rd world smoking hot GF who seems like a unicorn, until 2 or 3 years into LDR where she either bails because she's found a better branch to swing on or gets herself busted riding the CC before she can immigrate over. Stop me if wrong. Just the vibe I get.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 04:12 PM
3

Great post. Hadn't seen it before, a lot of difficult truths in there. It's pretty jarring to realize that all of it is true. Arriving as a complete noob I don't know if I would have believed half of it, after putting in the hard work the last 6 plus months or so and seeing the results, I can easily say you nailed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 08:51 PM
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We have something similar set up. Fuck does it ever help remove stress on a day to day basis. Everyone can quickly glance and see what everyone else in the family has going on any given day. Small, simple improvement that makes everything run so much smoother.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 05:48 PM
2

You're correct, better wording would be "someone else you are happy to be with". I caught it myself after submitting it, but chose not to edit it.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 02:12 AM
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The day when I finally realized that all the insecurities were nothing but fear based. Killing that fear was the turning point to OI and DNGAF for me. Ultimately what is there to fear? If she isn't cheating, you enjoy your time together, live in the moment, and have a great life for as long as it lasts. If she is cheating, you enjoy your life together, live in the moment , when you find out you move on to someone else that makes you happy. Coming to the realization that the fear does nothing but…
/r/askMRP21/02/17 05:54 PM
2

Took me a long time to reach this mindset myself. No better way to kill the reek of desperation than to develop a solid frame of OI and DNGAF. No better way to drive her into falling on some strange dick than to come across as needy, paranoid and afraid.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 12:27 PM
1

Eat more foods that are calorie dense. Mix your protein shakes with chocolate milk. Basically the opposite of cutting.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 06:20 PM
1

I can't believe how many arguments I've had over the years over something as mundane as what to eat for dinner. I would have never believed it was really over me thinking I was being a "nice guy" by trying to make sure I made her happy, and her not wanting to pick in the first place. I know so many other friends and coworkers who have the same issue. I try and help them and say, "just TELL her what's for dinner when that happens, at most give her two options, would you like A or B?" and they all…
/r/askMRP08/02/17 11:46 AM
1

Take 2 or 3 then. What's stopping you from packing more than one? I split mine up over 4 meals throughout the day.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 05:45 PM
5

Shit Im owning: Lifting: 6 lifting days, 3 cardio and abs, 1 core day. Squatting heavy still causing discomfort/lower ab strain coming out of hole. Front squats feel better perhaps because of lower weight. DL still progressing. New PR of 255x5 Diet: No change in weight from previous probably due to weighing at different time of day and a few too many beers one night. Adding more variety in meal planning. Will see if next week returns to regular pattern of weight loss. Reading: Finished The Way o…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 02:46 PM
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Actions not words. Next time if she's disrespecting you like that, you just get up and leave. You don't say, "if you don't apologize I'm leaving" and then stay while she throws your coat. Guess what your boundary looks like at that point? Non existent. She knows why your leaving at that point. No words are needed. That said, here's the caveat....don't go all Rambo on every little thing you see as a boundary being crossed. Pick your battles and decide which ones are worth dying over. Resist the u…
/r/askMRP06/02/17 11:52 PM
1

Forget about "happily every after", it's Disney BS. What you need to ask yourself is this, is any woman worth the pain, insecurity, and anxiety you're about to cause yourself for the next 5 to 10 years or hell maybe the rest of your life? You're young and you've already caught her TWICE. Take advice from someone who's been there and was just as big a Beta bitch as you, get out while you can. Use the anger and rage to build yourself into a better man.
/r/askMRP04/02/17 01:30 AM
2

I have to question OP's commitment to improvement if he can't even stick with lifting and diet. Those are by far the 2 easiest changes to commit to as they require basically no change in mindset. Only the will to return to it every day. Internalizing sidebar material requires far more effort and thought.
/r/askMRP03/02/17 05:44 PM
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OP You need to finish the sidebar reading and STFU. You're ego is still too big to realize that you aren't shit yet and you haven't earned anything yet. Kill that fucker. You haven't even internalized the concept that just as you are not responsible for her feelings, neither is she responsible for yours. I'm still less than 6 months in, here's the main takeaway I've learned. You don't deserve shit. You keep acting like you deserve better treatment. Do the words covert contract mean anything to y…
/r/askMRP03/02/17 03:51 PM
1

I like the tattoo idea as well. I've got one planned as well but not until I've finished making some more improvements.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 02:32 PM
1

They're my insurance policy against ever considering a return to the path that led me there. Works great for positive motivation as well as negative. Having the ability to see the results of the last months, last 3 months, last 6 months efforts is huge. You can very easily look back and see that doing A+B+C = these results over the last 3 months. Then make adjustments to get the desired outcome over the next month, 3 months etc. There's no going back, only forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 02:25 PM
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You can't make any real progress unless you internalize that you are ok with burning it all to the ground. That's why you have no frame. That's why she can still push your buttons. You have zero leverage in any negotiation where you are unwilling to leave the table.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 01:25 PM
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Great post. Holy shit did that ever hit home. Basically described me to a T. The great realization came for me when my wife was on a business trip and we were Skypeing. She looked absolutely beautiful on the screen, I on the other hand came to the realization that I looked like complete shit. Forget about a good angle, I didn't even have a not total shit angle. The disgust in myself swept over me like a tsunami. I knew I had to do something. Two weeks later I started bodyweight at home, did that…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 12:51 AM
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If something frightens you, that's usually a good sign that you should do that thing.
/r/askMRP01/02/17 10:48 PM
3

Kino, ass grab, ass smack, pull her in for a kiss etc. Be playful. Expect resistance at first, especially if you haven't improved shit yet.
/r/askMRP01/02/17 12:57 AM
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https://www.google.ca/amp/s/therationalmale.com/2012/09/14/amused-mastery/ Read the sidebar materials, it's all there. Edit: I'll recommend Book of Pook for getting you in the right frame to take her less seriously and have some fun with it.
/r/askMRP01/02/17 12:53 AM
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Try AA or AM, fogging is not your only tool. Make it fun rather than Dr.Phil. When I first stopped taking my wife so seriously all the time I got plenty of "you're a jerk, can't you take anything seriously?", to which I'd usually just give her a "you know what I take very seriously ", or something along those lines. Usually followed up with an eye roll on her part. But slowly the eye rolls started giving way to smiles, the jerk comments slowly started coming less frequently, and often times I ju…
/r/askMRP01/02/17 12:19 AM
2

What did YOU want to do at that point? Do that. It's really that simple. You're over thinking it.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 11:10 PM
5

Before I was married I had an ex that did this to me, just made both girls hornier for me. I fucked them both for a while. It can backfire on you by creating more excitement for everyone involved.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 10:30 PM
2

Sounds like someone has a crush.
/r/askMRP31/01/17 08:11 PM
1

Set yourself some goals, same as lifting. Progressive overload works for cardio as well. It's how I keep from getting bored. Beat last weeks version of yourself every week. Mix it up between steady state cardio sessions and intervals. I need to feel challenged to alleviate the boredom. If I just slow jogged 30 min with no goal I'd be bored out of my mind too.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 06:53 PM
2

Cardio is definitely not over rated if cutting. The way I look at it is the extra 1800 calories a week I burn running is either an extra half pound of fat lost, or a bit of extra insurance against either cheating a few extra calories or underestimating my totals. I'm finding it's also helped my lifting out by allowing me to do more work in less time. I can get my heart rate back down back down much quicker between sets than when my cardio was completely in the shitter.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 05:54 PM
1

Shit Im owning: Lifting: 6/6 days, usual core routine on 7th day. Cardio 3/3, doing interval work to try and up 5k pace. Tweaked my back a bit and had to go light on squats/DL so no new gains there. Worked on form and pause squats instead. Diet: 95% good. 5% cheating a couple meals. Have started adding a carb reload day mid week to prevent running out of gas later in the week. Cutting carbs to 50-60g/day had me feeling weak by the end of the week. Down another pound. 201lb. Reading: Finished Med…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 03:23 PM
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I think you're handling it well so far. For the time being I would continue monitoring until you have enough evidence to either prove clear line crossing, or to prove there's nothing to be concerned about. You're right that confronting the situation will just lead to her denial and doubling up her efforts to cover any tracks. Once you have more information the right answer moving forward will be a lot clearer. You have every right to be concerned with the use of those types of phrases IMHO. In a…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 01:10 PM
1

Subtle as always. OP listen to this. This is the advice you need.
/r/askMRP29/01/17 08:41 PM
6

Very well put. Huge difference between the two.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/17 07:24 PM
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That's what I thought, until I actually had the frame and balls to take the advice given here. Long story short, she disrespected me horribly, I got up and left to the iron temple midway though dinner, despite her having plans for us after with her family who were due to arrive in a couple of hours, and I canceled the sitter for my youngest for the night since I no longer had any intention of joining them. I showed her that I would no longer tolerate that level of disrespect and DNGAF how it wou…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/17 03:17 PM
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Having been in your shoes long before I found TRP, I'll venture to offer a slightly different take based on the information you've given. I know that when it happened to me, I felt horribly betrayed and put all of the blame on her. How could she do this to me? I was a great guy. I worked 70-80hrs a week. I was sacrificing time with the family to do what was best for "us". My family time with my wife and kids consisted of an hour in the morning together, and maybe 1-2hrs in the evening together. …
/r/askMRP29/01/17 02:48 PM
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Best way to get over that is to give less fucks. The way I look at it is, things are as good as they appear, in which case I'm happy. Or, things are worse than they appear, I find out about it and I get to upgrade to a younger model. Either outcome is good for me. So what is there to be pissed off about? I used to feel the same as you about it until I came to the above realization. Live in the moment.
/r/askMRP28/01/17 07:25 PM
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"At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: “I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for — the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm?” -Marcus Aurelius Replace bed with couch. Have you earned your spot on the couch by doing all the tasks you set out to do that day? If so, then enjoy your brief respite, you've earned it. Are y…
/r/askMRP28/01/17 06:49 PM
2

If you can't even figure out this simple problem on your own I have to question your desire to really improve. Be resourceful for fucks sake. Step one, stop begging for access to your own money. Either get a joint account or get your own. Step two, start lifting yesterday. If you can't start yesterday, start today. No excuses. Seriously do it today. Step three, if you can't follow step one, ask mommy for some money, go to the store and get a prepaid card or amazon gift card as already suggested.…
/r/askMRP28/01/17 02:57 PM
1

10 years ago, made every Beta mistake possible, work schedules meant VERY little home time together. I was doing everything I thought was best for the family at the time, and too stupid to realize I was basically inviting the situation I ended up in. In a lot of ways the emotional affair ended up being mixed blessings in that it woke me up to how badly I had fucked up the situation. Of course, I didn't really understand that at the time, I just knew that things needed to change.
/r/askMRP28/01/17 12:35 AM
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You hate "pain" from lifting but you're going to bootcamp. Good luck with that.
/r/askTRP27/01/17 08:49 PM
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Can't change my own bad decision 10 years after the fact. I can only own it, learn from it, and use it to make better decisions going forward. Hopefully some find my experience useful to prevent making their own mistakes. It just appears to me that you've been here longer than I, and yet can't grasp the concept of not asking pointless questions that give you no answers. You clearly have a magical mind reading ability that I don't possess that allows you to tell when "she's telling the truth". I …
/r/askMRP27/01/17 08:39 PM
2

How long have you been here? And you still believe that "the look on her face" is an indication of truthfulness? I used to think so too. You'd be amazed how lifelike and authentic it can be, until you smash it with the hammer of proof and show her you know it was all bullshit. Hope you never have to experience it. Not like you'd ever know though, because you'd have "answers, congruent with the look on her face".
/r/askMRP27/01/17 08:20 PM
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Excellent advice, he probably figured it out the hard way.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 07:22 PM
1

No anxiety about it at all, I just honestly DNGAF any more. I assume the position that her behaviors ARE trustworthy, IF they are not it doesn't matter. I'm good either way. Took me a long ass time to get to that point and TRP helped a lot with it. What I don't do is IF I was confronted with a situation where I felt something untrustworthy were going on is ASK HER. What is the point? If I were to think she is doing something untrustworthy, and she is in fact doing it, why would she tell the trut…
/r/askMRP27/01/17 07:01 PM
3

Exactly!
/r/askMRP27/01/17 06:49 PM
3

I'm with you on the clear boundaries, and leaving like you said you would. It's a lesson I wish I had learned much sooner. The only thing we disagree on is what her answers are worth when confronted with a possible marriage ending question. At that point her words are worth exactly zero in my mind. No point in asking someone a question they have no incentive to tell the truth about if the consequences of telling the truth are negative for them. They will ALWAYS continue lying until confronted wi…
/r/askMRP27/01/17 06:47 PM
3

Exactly. Pointless line of questioning. If she had sent them to anyone else her ONLY option is to call his bluff and hope that he doesn't have any proof. She knows that if it's divorceville for him finding out about lying later, that saying she sent them to someone else would likely be the same. No win situation for her. The only win for her (if she is lying) is to continue lying. That's what OP is missing. In other words, no point in confronting.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 06:40 PM
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Both points 1 and 2 are my default assumptions now. Either way it doesn't matter to me anymore. She may be telling the truth OR lying, and my marriage is either good or its over. I'm ok with either outcome. The point is that directly confronting her doesn't get you any closer to the truth. I'd treat her answer as meaningless and therefore what is the purpose of posing the question in the first place? There's only one way to get the truth, however it's not for everyone and I will admit can leave …
/r/askMRP27/01/17 06:24 PM
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But until it's confirmed, you have no way of KNOWING which is which. I thought my special snowflake would never be capable of such a thing either. I don't even remember what it was that tipped me off, but I knew in my gut that something wasn't right. Follow your gut. If you have to confront her because you think something is off, her answer is meaningless without some concrete proof. Like I said, I'm incredibly biased.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 06:19 PM
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I'm glad you're happy with the outcome. However it's been my experience that the direct route will never give you the clearest answer. Perhaps I'm jaded by past experience but direct answers to a question mean exactly nothing. When I caught my wife red handed in an emotional affair almost 10 years back she swore up and down that there was nothing going on. It would have been believable too, IF I didn't have a months worth of evidence from the keylogger. She stood there like a deer in the headlig…
/r/askMRP27/01/17 06:01 PM
2

I enjoy your less than subtle approach. I've been on the receiving end of it once or twice, great tool for killing egos.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:56 PM
1

You can stick your head in the sand if you like, however you fail to address any of my points. How exactly is your approach NOT negotiating desire? What is your plan if she decides she's still not attracted to you despite what your shared beliefs are? What then?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 12:27 PM
3

Always going for the subtle approach eh?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 12:03 PM
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That's all fine and dandy, but what I get out of it is "you have to have sex with me because God said so". So you say to your Christian wife, "honey, you HAVE to do this. It's my right, guaranteed to me by God himself" Aren't you then basically settling for boring, duty, starfish sex if she's just not attracted to you? Isn't this going completely against the RP principles of "attraction can't be negotiated " and "be attractive, don't be unattractive"? This seems like the mother of all covert con…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 11:57 AM
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I've been using the Navy method that was suggested to me by someone here and it seems to be fairly accurate. Supposed to be within +/- 3%. http://fitness.bizcalcs.com/Calculator.asp?Calc=Body-Fat-Navy The numbers I get from it correlate pretty closely to the pictures at http://www.builtlean.com/2012/09/24/body-fat-percentage-men-women/ When I started I was easily in the 35% range, now down to low 20%. Seems to be pretty accurate to me based on how I look.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 10:56 AM
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Learn to love leg day, makes everything else seem easier.
/r/askMRP25/01/17 06:40 PM
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Where's the part about lifting?
/r/askMRP25/01/17 06:14 PM
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Both
/r/askMRP25/01/17 04:16 PM
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Try giving less fucks.
/r/askMRP25/01/17 04:07 PM
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Sounds like he was her sugar daddy to me. He's probably coming out for more than friendship.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 12:38 AM
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Happened to my buddy, successful, STEM PhD, tons of money, jacked and good looking. 1st wife worked in a similar group home situation, fucked around on him with a fellow counselor. Writing is on the wall. NEXT.
/r/askTRP24/01/17 11:27 PM
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Girls go nuts for Photoshopped Justin Bieber abs.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/17 11:20 PM
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Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness is a pretty common term.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/17 11:19 PM
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Start with the bodyweight for a month to strengthen your core for lifting and to prevent DOMS from hell your first week of lifting if you've never lifted before. Then start a beginner program (SL5x5, SS etc) at a real gym. Learn to love leg day and the discomfort that follows.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/17 11:01 PM
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You couldn't be more wrong. Women go fucking nuts over abs and jacked men.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/17 10:56 PM
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Thanks for sharing your story and congratulations. It's posts like these that inspire others.
/r/askMRP24/01/17 09:28 PM
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What's worked for me to keep the weight loss steady is to follow a meal plan that keeps you at 500 cal/day below your TDEE. For me that's right around 2000cal/day. The only macro I really focus on is protein to make sure I'm getting at least 0.8g/pound then filling in the rest with carbs (from fruit/veggies/oatmeal) and fats from the meat and eggs. This has me at a 40%protein, 30%carb, 30% fat split. Concentrating on your protein first makes it really hard to over eat carbs and still stay under …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 02:37 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: 6/6 days plus Abs/Core on 7th day. 2 Mile time down to 16:13 Cardio 30min 3x week. 15lb gain on BP last week. Not sure where that came from. Almost back to 190 PR, but that was only for 1setx5. Squat and DL has stalled a bit as lower ab strain has returned. S/215 B/185 DL/235 Diet: still on point. Had a couple of cheat meals near the end of the week and a couple of beers while out with the wife. Weight still dropping. Down to 202lbs. So close to being under 200 for the f…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 01:21 PM
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I'm no great writer, but damn can you break up that wall of text into paragraphs? It's practically unreadable. Edit: Also, what's up with answering texts when your working out and all the wive's expecting their husbands to run home to "help in the morning " lately? OP, is she a SAHM? If so, again why are you replying when she texts you in the AM while you're working out, and why does she think it's ok to demand help in the morning to get her own kids going? Seriously, WTF? Your conversation AFTE…
/r/askMRP23/01/17 10:27 PM
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Fade the sides more, leave a bit more length on top. Buzzing it all the same length just makes it look like you did it at home and has no style. If you're going to buzz all one length, you may as well shave it and go for the bald look.
/r/askTRP23/01/17 11:09 AM
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OYS is a great tool for keeping you on track. Forces you to honestly assess your progress, success and failures and keeps you accountable. Do it consistently and you'll see how much less inclined you will be to slack off like you have been the last 15 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 11:00 AM
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Very well put. I think you hit the nail on the head on what MRP is all about. I was no different when I arrived, it was only through doing the work, reading and most importantly internalizing the sidebar material that the light bulb went on and I came to your exact realization, that an improved sex life is only the side effect and not the main benefit of MRP. The main benefit is learning to be a man, and embracing your masculinity. Using the same mindset that works in the gym, (slow, steady, con…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 10:52 AM
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I found Book of Pook to be great for getting out of the initial anger phase. Great way to change ones outlook to having fun with your SO. Once you stop taking yourself and her so seriously, it's a lot easier to get over the rage.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 06:35 PM
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Welcome to the club. Use that anger to fuel your visits to the iron temple Hear the wise words of Tupac Shakur as your preworkout mantra "That's why I fucked your bitch you fat mother fucker". I have no idea how much 8 stone too much is in pounds bit it sounds like a fuck ton. Fix yourself. Maybe she improves with you, maybe she doesn't. MRP fixes men, not relationships. Good luck. See you in OYS this week.
/r/askMRP22/01/17 06:18 PM
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1st mistake, not ignoring texts/calls while in the gym. My wife knows not to even bother now when she knows it's my scheduled time. Even reminds oldest child that "your father is at the gym, he won't see your texts until after he's done" if she sends a group text to both of us. 2nd mistake, flowers because your SAHM wife is on her period and she had to deal with shit like an adult while you were at the gym. Go back to WISNIFG, and next time ignore the text unless someone is dying or the house is…
/r/askMRP20/01/17 08:46 PM
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Why are you doing the dishes because you're afraid of her feels? Why aren't you doing the dishes because they just need to get done? Bigger question, why do you have so much on your plate when she's a SAHM?
/r/askMRP20/01/17 02:55 PM
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That was going to me my first question as well. Way too much guilt and entering her frame for not doing something that SHE should have been doing all along. If she's a SAHM she has no excuse for not putting the kids down herself, doing the dishes and making dinner. It's the role she's chosen. If it was a case of you both work full time, and are sharing the responsibilities, then lead by example and stop being lazy and do the damn dishes before bed. Case in point, in one of the sidebar books (I t…
/r/askMRP20/01/17 02:49 PM
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Live in the present. Don't stress about something that hasn't happened yet. By planning out a conversation that hasn't even happened yet, all your doing is creating anxiety for yourself. You could get home and nothing happens, or she could go batshit crazy, or something in between. You can't plan a script for every eventuality. Use the tools you've learned from reading the sidebar materials as the need arises. Anything else is pointless speculation.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 04:26 PM
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Start initiating when you're horny, don't initiate when you're not. Throw out the calendar. How hard is that? Just stop being concerned on wether or not it's sex day or not, and remain OI. Who gives a shit if she turns you down cause it's not the scheduled day. Eventually she'll get the message that you don't give a shit about it anymore. As for tonight, if you want to fuck, initiate, if not don't. You're overthinking this.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 12:55 AM
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Never thank her for sex. You can say it was awesome, that it blew your mind, that you really needed that...... BUT NEVER SAY THANK YOU FOR SEX!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/17 12:47 AM
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Intentional discomfort. What a great term. Off topic but this is exactly what I realize was missing in my life. The feeling of being alive you get from enduring the discomfort once it's over. One of life's greatest pleasures. A shame that so many purposely avoid any discomfort for their entire lives.
/r/askMRP18/01/17 08:50 PM
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I agree wholeheartedly with your points. To clarify, I don't tend to think of ass grabbing, making out, cuddling, making sexual remarks or just being sexual all the time as initiating per se. Those are just things that I do because they're fun. Sometimes those things lead to a conscious decision on my part to take it further, sometimes they don't. Those parts I agree with you on. Don't make it obvious that X+Y is always leading to Z. What I meant by initiate when you want to fuck, is just that. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/17 08:16 PM
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Good job. Just keep putting in the hard work for yourself, not for her. The results with her will either come, or they wont. Either way, you'll be someone that somebody wants to fuck.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 06:48 PM
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I wouldn't set a hard finite goal for number of initiations. Instead set a goal for initiating whenever you desire sex. That might be 3 times, it might be 17, or it might be none. Setting a hard number just seems like seeking validation to me, "I need to initiate tonight to meet my target". She's going to pick up on that from a mile away. Initiate because you want to fuck, not for any other reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 02:43 PM
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This was a common issue for me as well. Wife would constantly accuse me of "making her feel guilty" when I would initiate. Given that this is something I have not heard her say in at least the past 3-4 months I'll venture to offer my hypothesis. She felt "guilty" for not wanting to fuck me, and feeling she SHOULD want to fuck me. She didn't want to fuck me, because she was not attracted to me anymore. End of story. She obviously knew how bad I wanted it, and my lack of OI that was abundant at th…
/r/askMRP17/01/17 01:58 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: hit 5/6 days for lifts. Missed one day due to personal reasons. Cardio 2/3 same reason. Core/abs workout on Sunday. Positive note, felt super sick, weak, dizzy on 2nd leg day. Still went through with it. Managed the best numbers in a month despite feeling like I was about to pass out after every set. Awesome mental workout to push through it. Not sure if I had a bug or just exhaustion, but slept it off the rest of the day and felt great by the next day. BIG bump on BP on…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 12:36 PM
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Try laughing at her when she's being ridiculous. If you don't have the balls to do it directly, at least laugh in your mind. Why are you taking her seriously when she's being irrational? Took me a while to grasp this concept, but once you internalize the concept it makes it so much easier to laugh this shit off and remain calm. She's a little kid throwing a tantrum at this point, do you lose your shit at them? You missed a prime opportunity for AA or AM. Have some fun with it. You don't HAVE to …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 02:00 AM
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You should give a shit, because 4lbs of water is not 4lbs of fat. To lose 5lbs of actual FAT over the last two weeks you would have had to achieve a caloric deficit of over 1,100 cals a day. Do you think you achieved that? Keep the diet up, don't fixate on false victories.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 01:13 AM
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If you just went back to Keto since Jan.1st then the 5.2lbs you lost is probably 90% water weight. Your body finished off it's glycogen stores and you lost the 3-4lbs of water you were holding along with them. Don't believe me? Go eat a few pasta meals this weekend and marvel at the 3-4lbs you gain over the weekend. Any weight you lose in the coming weeks, while keeping to your Keto diet will be true weight loss. All your doing right now is fucking around with the scale. What have you lost in th…
/r/askMRP17/01/17 12:40 AM
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You mention your BF% and your diet stalling, but not your height, weight, lifting routine and diet. Add those and you'd probably get a lot more usefull suggestions. It's EASY to drop 1-1.5lbs a week while holding onto lean mass if you're disciplined. I know, I've been doing it the last 6 months. Getting close to 40lbs lost in that time. If your not tracking your calories and macros, start NOW. MFP makes it easy. Make sure your getting your 1g/lb of protein, fill in the rest with fat and carbs fr…
/r/askMRP16/01/17 07:28 PM
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I started making progress once I realized that my own ego was the reason for holding onto all those fears. Once you can kill the ego, the fears go away. Once you're no longer afraid, all the anger goes away as well. Why get angry if your no longer afraid to fail, afraid of losing frame, afraid of initiating, afraid of angering your wife? I've realized that almost all of my past emotional outbursts, angry rages, jealousies, and insecurities were all ultimately cause by the same thing....fear. Kil…
/r/askMRP14/01/17 02:28 PM
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Great tips. Thanks!
/r/askMRP13/01/17 09:07 PM
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Got the "you've turned into an asshole" yesterday as well. Wife wanted me to rub lotion her feet, I didn't want to. So I didn't. End of story. I actually laughed inside at the request. After almost 20years together I'm finally comfortable saying no to her even when I know it's going to piss her off. If I had felt like doing it I would have, but I didn't. She was pissed before bed, played the nice card this morning, texted her an inside "Friday the 13th" joke this morning which frightened her and…
/r/askMRP13/01/17 08:57 PM
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I had a ton of back pain and sciatica before I started lifting again and started dropping weight. It has gone down by 90-95% since I started getting back in shape last summer. Dropping 35lbs likely had a lot to do with it. Start with body weight core strengthening exercises at home. Planks, side planks, sit ups, hollow holds, crunches, mountain climbers, leg raises, toe touches etc. Do those 3x week for at least a month before you start lifting. Take your core strength from shit to less shit fir…
/r/askTRP12/01/17 12:36 PM
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Precisely. Long table in this case.
/r/askMRP10/01/17 08:47 PM
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No beer needed, but thanks for the offer. This was a very long time ago. I was about 19. Dating a bat shit crazy but smoking hot Asian girl. I was also fucking a girl from work who was also brought into the same circle of friends. Probably about 8-10 of us out for a late night post clubbing meal to sober up. One long table. GF across from me, plate to my right (lol still remember this). Plate starts rubbing my cock through my pants, then just pulls it out and gives me a HJ for maybe 2-3 minutes …
/r/askMRP10/01/17 08:37 PM
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This fuck. If I'm thankful to MRP for anything, it's for guiding me back to this realization. My wife wasn't strong willed, I gave her that power willingly by refusing to challenge her because it was simply easier. Even worse than doing it because it was easy and I was a lazy bastard, was doing it because I was afraid. Afraid of losing her. Oneitis is a hell of a drug. Waking up from my beta slumber had me thinking back to my youth. I had a HB9 girlfriend that I could have literally done anythin…
/r/askMRP10/01/17 08:22 PM
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My wife is also strong willed and shares a lot of characteristics with yours, despite being less educated and far from a top 1% earner. However, none of that means shit. Here's what I've learnt so far, and the only things that have worked so far for me. First of all, Do you even lift bro? Honestly, nothing started changing in the right direction for me until I became less of a fat fuck. Second of all, sidebar reading. Have you done it? If you have, you'd understand that you have absolutely ZERO …
/r/askMRP10/01/17 06:10 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: Back on track after Holiday illness. Went 7/7 last week (6 days lifting,1 day Abs/Core). Moved cardio to separate 30min/3x week rather than post lifting. Feels great to be able to run 5k easily now, going from being winded by a flight of stairs. Main lifts coming back up from pre-xmas deload. S/205 B/170 DL/225 OHP/115 BR/140 Diet: On point 7/7 days. Had 1 cheat meal and one beer for sanity. Meal prepping 2x a week now. Weight loss a steady 1lb/week like clock work. Down…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 01:17 PM
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I'll give you my vantage point as a guy who came up in the 90's. It was easy AF if you were attractive, lifted and had ANY game at all. I have an older daughter and am shocked at how pathetic most younger guys game is these days. She confirms RP truths for me on the daily. All of the advantages social media gives young guys these days in being able to easily find girls to game, act as a crutch and actually make it harder for them to actually game these same girls. I hear about some pathetic kid …
/r/TheRedPill07/01/17 02:57 PM
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Great FR, good example of how saying less accomplishes more without being Rambo. Finally getting to the point where your completely OI, priceless.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/17 01:09 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: Holidays were a disaster from a fitness standpoint. Missed over a week of lifting due to a nasty flu right after Christmas. Got the year started right with first workout of 2017 done on the 2nd. Getting back to the routine felt great. Diet: Diet was surprisingly good over the break. Part of that because I was sick, partly because the lack of working out really curbed the appetite. Lost a couple more pounds. Down to 206. Not bad considering I missed working out for a week…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 02:50 PM
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Agreed. It's shocking how just about every other person at my work gym leaves the gym barely having broken a sweat. Is it any wonder the vast majority look exactly the same as they did 6 months ago? No progress whatsoever. Meanwhile by the time I'm done my lifts and 20 minutes of cardio my shirt is absolutely soaked and I'm stumbling down the stairs. You want results? You don't get that from putting in 75% effort. Leave it all in the gym.
/r/askMRP21/12/16 08:36 PM
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Stay the fuck away now that you're out. Had a crazy ex that pulled that shit, multiple times, because I kept going back, because she sucked my dick like it was the cure for cancer and I was young and stupid. Guess what, it still wasn't worth it. Never stick your dick in crazy. Took me almost 2 years to figure that one out at your age. No matter what, stay the fuck away.
/r/askTRP21/12/16 03:11 PM
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You're post is like looking in a mirror for me. Except I started with a month of body weight intervals first.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 02:00 PM
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Tell this to my old man who still played football at a highly competitive level into his early 50's, still relying on old school Eastern Bloc training methods developed in the 50's and 60's. Static stretches? What are those? He's a genetically gifted freak of nature. Part plow horse, part thoroughbred. I've never seen him injured, and he spent 40 years with his foot on the gas never letting off. Hell, until recently he was still in better physical shape than me into his late 60's. The only reaso…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 01:26 PM
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This isn't a new problem, it's been going on for as long as cosmetics have been around. Best advice I ever heard was my buddies dad warning us before we went out when we had just turned 18, "beware the 9's that are really a 3". That was from 50's old school European dad. Used to have a girlfriend that had this one friend that would look amazing when I'd see her at the club. I would straight up be thinking about working a 3-way with her and my girl, or fucking her on the side. The next time I'd s…
/r/askTRP21/12/16 01:18 PM
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Returning to lifting after letting myself go for far too long has felt like finding the fountain of youth. I realized that to look and feel like I did when I was 20yrs old, I need to do the things I did when I was 20. Lifting 6 days a week, rebuilding my cardio, following a meal plan, regaining flexibility, making sure I'm getting all the nutrients I need and supplementing where necessary. Compared to 6 months ago I feel at least 15 years younger. Energy levels are much higher, sex drive is thro…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 12:39 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: Missed one workout due to gym being closed for maintenance. Still have some lower abdominal strain. Pain isn't getting any worse but still keeping an eye on it. Continuing progression after deload two weeks ago. 2 mile run time still dropping, down to 16:39. Diet: Diet was good 6/7 days. Stuck to the meal plan except for the one day. Results seemed really good for first week. Down 3lbs to 208. Will wait and see next week if this was real fat loss, or just lucky timing. O…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 02:53 PM
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Law 40 - Despise the free lunch
/r/TheRedPill17/12/16 12:33 PM
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You can't, so don't try. You control your emotions, not hers. As you practice OI and actually internalize NGAF her bitchy behavior will bother you less and less. You stop feeding her emotional spiral downward by refusing to engage in it. STFU is your first step in this. There's a definite positive energy shift that takes place when you finally stop giving a fuck what her emotions are and instead decide to just be happy. Wife bitching - STFU be happy. Wife having a bad day -comfort, STFU, be happ…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 01:17 PM
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If you must give a time estimate always under promise and over deliver, not just in relationships but life in general. I always leave myself a window for unexpected shit coming up. Great way to never be late, and always give the appearance of being "early", all the while making it appear effortless.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 11:16 AM
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Solid post. Also one of the things I have really worked on, no losing frame period. Not just with the wife, but also with the kids. Especially when shit is hitting the fan. I'm not 100% there yet but i've made a ton of improvement. I can see a lot of myself in the contrast between your present and past state. Reading a lot of Eastern/Buddhist philosophy as well as starting to look into Stoicism has helped tremendously. Really helps to put into perspective what is worth giving a shit about and wh…
/r/askMRP15/12/16 11:07 PM
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Have plenty of experience in your shoes doing the wrong thing pre-RP. First thing you need to sort out is did you actually fuck up pre argument and own up to your mistakes? Notice I didn't say apologize, I said own it. If you really did give her a reason to be pissed than man up, accept mistakes were made and move on. If you didn't do anything wrong and you apologized, you're a supplicating bitch which you already know. If you're being a supplicating bitch, realize this, her emotions are her pro…
/r/askMRP15/12/16 07:00 PM
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I can definitely relate. I also heard the exact same sentiments but was too stupid to take them at face value. Fuck do I ever wish I had a time machine to go back and unfuck myself. Like the saying goes, best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, second best time is now.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 05:43 PM
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Thanks for the advice. Lessons are on hiatus until after the holidays regardless, so nothing will be happening there for a few weeks at least. In the meanwhile other options are bound to present themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 04:03 PM
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Instructor is male. Nuff said. Will open when opportunity is present. Kind of difficult to open if I'm running into her with either her husband or kids in tow.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 03:39 PM
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When the opportunity presents itself. By the time she was free to open, I was already sitting in the hot tub and she was walking by with her kids in tow talking to their instructor. Upon closer inspection she was also far less appealing to me, but she is definitely throwing up lots of eye contact IOI's.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 01:48 PM
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I'll third this as well. 10 years later I'm just getting over it thanks in part to MRP. If I knew then what I know now, I would have left.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 01:41 AM
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This right here is gold.....never let yourself go. I made that mistake and it was single handily the biggest reason my sex life suffered with the wife but I was just too blinded by Disney fairytale "love" to realize she just didn't want to fuck a fat slob. She was also too kind to just come out and say it. Second most important, make sure you actually like each other and enjoy spending time together. So many of my friends and coworkers are married to people they literally can't stand. If you're …
/r/askMRP14/12/16 12:44 PM
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My wife had worked my compliments into a covert contract in her head. For her hearing me say "you look so fucking beautiful " equaled "you just want to get in my pants". I spelled it out for her to clear up the covert contract in her head, "honey, I AWLAYS want to fuck you. Telling you you're beautiful has nothing to do with it. If I'm complimenting you, it's because I genuinely mean it." Perhaps you need to get the implications of massage = sex cleared up. Massage her if you want to massage her…
/r/askMRP13/12/16 04:25 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: No missed workouts. 6/6 on lifting days, abs/core on Sunday. Progressing back up from deload weights. Back feeling 100%, but now feeling some strain in lower abdomen approximately 2-3" above my junk, dead center. Seeing as there is no other symptoms of hernia and this is not a typical location, I will assume it's muscle strain for now. Dropped another 8 seconds off my 2 mile time, down to 16:47. Diet: Diet was good 7/7 days. Starting a new meal program this week, bought …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 02:41 PM
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She wont wear thongs for you "because they hurt", but she wears them on girl's night out? There's a giant fucking neon sign for you right there! Do you need me to draw you a picture?
/r/askMRP10/12/16 11:15 AM
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Great post, many men never have an opportunity to truly test themselves physically and find out just how much shit one can really take and still go forward. Two of my favorite memories both involve my more physical labour days. First one involved having to tarp a new house under construction in the middle of a thunderstorm. Winds were gusting at probably 45MPH, trying to keep my footing on a wet ladder with my boots caked in 10lbs of muddy clay, buckets of water drenching me every time the tarp …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 01:08 AM
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Reading books on spinning plates is not a bad idea because your wife is still a woman. I know, this may be shocking to you. The same game that works for generating tingles in a plate works on your wife as well. You should be gaming your wife the same way everyday as you would be a new potential plate you just met. Everyday I look at my wife as a new girlfriend, and treat her the same way to generate tingles. The biggest mistake I made over the first 18 years of marriage was taking her attraction…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 07:01 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: No missed workouts. 6/6 on lifting days, abs/core on Sunday. Mildly strained something in my mid-back on my 2nd back workout of the week during barbell rows so I decided to reduce weight on 2nd squat/DL workout of week the following day to play it safe. Concentrated on form and volume while giving my back a break. Back feels back to 100% after a couple days of rest. Deloaded this week as all lifts had stalled. Set new PR on 2 mile run time of 16:55. Using Army PFT scores…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 01:21 PM
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What do you want her to do about YOUR negative feelings about your dad having surgery? Are you looking for a shoulder to cry on? Why are you letting something outside your control affect you emotionally? It's normal to feel concern for your fathers well being. IMHO, it's not normal to expect anyone, including your wife to change their behavior because of your feelings. This just seems like you're expecting mommy to make you feel better. My wife does this shit all the time. Allowing herself to le…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 04:18 PM
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Get a Mastiff, you'll never lose lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/16 05:32 PM
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Accepting that you're doing something that is clearly not working seems logical to you? You'd rather she continue duty starfish fucking you rather than at least trying the given advice of kino, initiate, push/pull etc? Have you even done the sidebar reading? Read SGM? Where has it ever been suggested that the type of sex you want will be most easily obtained through negotiation? You do realize that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results right? Game her…
/r/askMRP03/12/16 02:41 PM
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Definitely something I need to do more of. Some of the most surprisingly interesting conversations have come from people whom I completely misread at first glance.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 05:56 PM
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I'd give you ten up votes for this if I could. Such a simple concept, why do some have such a hard time internalizing this? Rather than being butthurt and angry all the time, have fun!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 03:44 PM
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Yup, usually in public, often times when you don't have a spare shirt. LPT, pack a change of shirt for you in the diaper bag.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 03:41 PM
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STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 03:07 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: Didn't miss any workouts. No new PR's. Feel like I've hit a plateau on my lifts. Noob gains exhausted I guess. Getting some mild pain/discomfort/tightness in lower abs (above my junk) and groin on squats. Nothing major, but a bit concerned that I don't end up giving myself a hernia. Could also just be from squatting with sore abs. Not sure if plateau is related to still running a caloric deficit. Pushing it every workout but not seeing any further easy gains. Will deload…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 11:47 AM
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Bang on, the less serious I take my wife's moods swings, the happier we both are. She was stressed all weekend about some BS. Ignored it all, held my frame, stayed positive and continued having fun (thanks Pook). Hit the bedroom and she's eagerly inviting me to fuck her. She tisks and pretends she hates when I AM or make jokes about her when she's grumpy, but yet she's asking me to fuck her more than she ever has since the honeymoon phase. Lighten the fuck up and good things happen. Have fun, an…
/r/askMRP28/11/16 10:43 AM
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My point exactly.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/16 05:02 AM
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No it definitely doesn't, as my exhausted quads and glutes can attest to. Felt like I was going to pop like a squashed bug on a windshield on my last squat rep today, in other words it felt fucking awesome. One of the only binary things in life these days, you either pass or fail on every attempt. There is no grey area.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/16 07:04 PM
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Great post, thanks brother. This has been the one of the single most instrumental concepts in getting over my insecurities in my relationship with my wife. Accepting and internalizing that I don't NEED her in my life to be happy is incredibly freeing. Once you accept this you can feel the neediness within yourself evaporating.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/16 07:00 PM
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Who said she threw a fit? It does no one any good to put words in others mouths. I said I could clearly see she was annoyed. Nothing more. Nothing less. The fact that her annoyance was showing through (despite her best efforts) while she was in fact helping me is what I was referring to. It was enough for me to realize that the way she cared for me differed from the way I cared for her, and from the way we're all told "true love" works. Kind of jumping to conclusions to say she treated me like s…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/16 04:24 PM
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Considering it's been years and we're still married the answer should be obvious. She apologized after for being so grumpy in the middle of the night. The lesson was already learned, nothing else to do about it. I just had a pre-RP dose of reality that night, she "doesn't love you the way you love her" rings true to me. That doesn't mean I think she doesn't love me at all, I've just come to the acceptance of the commonly referred to AWALT definition of love. I'm no longer blinded by the Disney f…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 07:31 PM
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I was definitely firmly in her frame at the time. It's not that there was no empathy at all, she's not a complete bitch or anything like that. If she was, even Beta me would have nexted her. It was the fact that I could see that alongside her concern, there was ALSO definitely a level of annoyance. Where as I would have been 100% concerned with my wife's well being and couldn't care less about being woken up, she was 85% concerned and 15% clearly annoyed about my poor choice of timing. As if I h…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 09:47 AM
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Congratulations on breaking the 15 month drought man! I had a few 5-6 month droughts myself after our youngest was born, but I was never able to just wait it out like you. There's no way I would be able to have that kind of willpower. As suggested just keep your foot on the gas, keep being happy and remaining OI on how she reacts to your initiation, give her the opportunity to say no, not seeking her permission to say yes. Assume the sale has already been made. Keep doing what your doing and you…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 08:15 PM
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I realized she wasn't on my team the night I had a back pain so bad I thought I was having a heart attack, and she was annoyed that I woke her up asking for a ride to the hospital. Ended up needing morphine for the pain and she was huffing about losing sleep. WTF? This was pre RP, but that was when I realized that she may care about me deeply, but didn't love me they way I loved her. A good wake up call. Had a similar story from a friend who had a heart attack young, he said he could literally s…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/16 07:02 PM
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There's a difference between pain and discomfort. Most people seem to associate discomfort with pain. You should be in pain (discomfort) after every workout. Get used to it. Embrace it. Look forward to it. There's nothing I enjoy more than the DOMS after leg day. I forgot how much I had missed it from my younger days. Feels like victory. It's the reward for beating last weeks version of yourself. I actually had a coworker start joining me in the gym a month or so ago. For the first two weeks all…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 08:53 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: Went 7/7 last week. Got my Sunday Abs/Core workout in . Felt great waking up Monday morning with sore tight abs. Hit new PR for B/S/D total of 655 B/190 S/230 D/235 Hit a new PR 2 mile run time at 17:29. Diet: Diet was crap last week when it came to dinners. Too many family functions and things in our schedule that prevented eating at home. On the bright side weight went down to 214lbs. Actually a bit under that but I always round up. Slow and steady weight loss continui…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 08:40 PM
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So? What's the big deal? Even at my lowest point of BP manginahood I never understood why anyone would put up with a woman who freaks out over porn. What's next? You going to ask for permission to masturbate too? Take your balls back out of her purse.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/16 05:51 PM
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A lot of the same lessons I've learnt so far in this post. Thanks OP!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 09:23 PM
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Lifting is hard. Reading the sidebar material takes effort. Letting go of ones own ego and realizing that you are the source of most of your own problems is next to impossible for many. All he has to do is start down the path you've pointed him to. It can only be an improvement over OP's current situation.
/r/askMRP21/11/16 08:35 PM
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That's never been an issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 03:30 PM
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She's still throwing up a lot of "don't do X, don't do Y" as I stated in a previous FR a month or so ago when I finally told her I was done trying since everything I was doing clearly wasn't working for her and made her put in the effort to get me back into it. There's still a lot of hurdles to overcome. She definitely still has a preferred routine and playbook that works for her. She's slowly opening up to change, but it's painfully slow progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 03:16 PM
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Definitely will do, she just has to be willing to go along with it. At the moment she's usually complaining about being so sore/sensitive the last thing she wants is more stimulation. I think she still has one foot firmly in "duty sex" mode where she sees her role as finished once we've both gotten off. She has a way to go before she fully lets go, if she ever does. I'm not super concerned with the outcome either way. Either she goes along with my improvement and opens up more, or she doesn't. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 03:05 PM
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Thanks, I'll keep those in mind! I'd love to make her orgasm again, but she's definitely more of a "one and done" type, where as I'm always up for more. Maybe this will change in the future, maybe it wont. I'm not making any plans, just riding the wave of progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 02:50 PM
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Valid points, however where you're wrong is in thinking I misunderstood the comment. I know her well enough to know what she's saying is literally "my pussy is really sore after fucking", she's usually pretty sour for a while after, it's always been this way. Kind of a catch 22 for her, she enjoys the sex but know's it's gonna hurt after. The giant wet spot we leave behind is a testament to that. I took it as a sign of progress that while she may not be outright offering me a side chick, she is …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 02:32 PM
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I wish that was the case. Unfortunately I know her well enough to know that it does cause her genuine discomfort afterwards. This has always been the case for us. Let's just say that we're at opposite ends of the size spectrum when it comes to girth. I usually just brush her complaints off with "You seemed to be enjoying it while it was happening or really, seemed like you were enjoying it when you you came....". I really think she's physically having a hard time keeping up with the increased fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/16 08:03 PM
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It has come up in the past, but the last time was probably 9 years ago. We got very close a couple of times but without getting into details, things didn't work out. Like I said, the door is just cracked. It was definitely a comfort test, I just realized I missed the opportunity to flip it on her and make it about her offering a threesome. I'm not running around with hopes that this is going to happen next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/16 03:00 PM
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who was thinking this. I see a lot of post on here about SAHM who can't handle their own kids and house. WTF? What value is she adding then if she can't handle those duties AND she's not fucking you. For all my and my wife's faults, neither one of us has ever complained about running the household while the other is away and we both work full time and then some. When my oldest was a toddler I was laid off work and spent 6 months at home with her as a "stay at home d…
/r/askMRP19/11/16 12:20 AM
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That's absolutely the goal! Perhaps a better choice of words would have been "the type women tend to have a fetish for in uniform" lol. I can see how "hero worship" could be taken negatively.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 02:36 PM
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My wife doesn't work with armed forces, but civilian uniformed types. They are however the same type women tend to hero worship. The reference to "Army dude" was in reference to OP.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 02:02 PM
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I only wish I'd come to this realization about a decade earlier. I took the long, painful, bumpy road to get here. On a selfish note this thread and OP have given me great fuel for my workout in a couple of hours.
/r/askMRP18/11/16 01:59 PM
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This really hit home for me once I swallowed the pill. I also have a very attractive wife who looks much younger than she is, and who works in a very Alpha work environment. The guys she works with are all in a male occupation that all women fantasize about. This used to give me all sorts of insecurities. It all came to a peak when my wife had to go away on a work trip last year for a week. Here's my wife, surrounded by these dudes in uniform, on the other side of the country. Awesome. BluePill …
/r/askMRP18/11/16 01:36 PM
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This has always been my go to as well, ever since I was much younger and just starting out. You can't do better than warming up for the movement by doing the movement with light or no weight. Ie. A quick set of squats with the bar, then maybe a half weight set, and then into working weights. With the limited amount if time I have, I agree that anything more is just wasting time.
/r/askMRP17/11/16 03:18 PM
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Thanks for the advice. That's also why I went to dumbbells. I'm going a lot slower and trying to really get a good range of motion, working on really squeezing my pecs at the top.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 05:44 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: Not much new to report here. Got my 6 lifting days in. All lifts progressing except Bench. Still stuck at 190. Going to try going to heavy dumbells for a week just to change it up and go back to it next week and see if I can get through this plateau. Missed my Ab/Core routine on Sunday due to being busy all day. Hit new PR for B/S/D total of 620. B/190 S/225 D/205. Diet: Weight still at 215. No change in last week. Diet on point on weekdays. Slipped on the weekend due to…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 12:56 PM
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There is definitely something to the pheromones. I have witnessed it multiple times with my wife. Even during my worst Beta days when our bedroom was pretty much dead (once every month or two or less), it was always oddly coincidental that the times she would instigate would be on days when I had been with a pro earlier. What are the chances she suddenly found me irresistible that day and it was just coincidence?
/r/askMRP15/11/16 03:22 AM
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I was basically the poster child for Alpha while dating turning to Beta after marriage. When I first met my wife I was the definition of Alpha, 5'10, 180lbs, full six pack and ripped. I had a steady diet of 2-3 plates at a time, in fact I had met my wife because I was plating her best friend at the time. Worked as a DJ, and could not give less fucks. All that changed with her, she was my unicorn. I swallowed the Disney fairytale hook, line and sinker. Gave up all the things that she was attracte…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 03:04 AM
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My wife was the exact same way......when dating, and for about a year after marriage. Things are just now starting to come back around to that.....18 years later.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 01:12 AM
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That's pretty much exactly what I'd say, except maybe I'd skip the ass part and make it PG13 if the kids were around.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 12:46 AM
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Learn to live in the moment rather than worrying about all the "what if's?". Life is way too short for all that shit. As has already been said, be a fun, attractive guy to everyone you meet. Don't worry so much about where you're going to meet someone or what you're going to do. Just let things happen and unfold around you. There's literally dozens of opportunities in your daily routine to meet and talk to new people. Some work out, some don't. Who gives a fuck? Each one is a new experience. Enj…
/r/askMRP14/11/16 08:16 PM
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It's a great feeling once you reach this state of mind. It also reinforces why the steps in the MAP and recommendations given here are given in the order they are. Once you see all the blocks lining up together and everything clicking into place your frame starts to build itself. You suddenly realize that all you've done is work on being a better you everyday, and suddenly you have all this female attention around you starting to build. Everything just snowballs, soon you're in a better mood, mo…
/r/askMRP14/11/16 05:56 PM
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The whole "what do I say when she asks about my changes" seems secondary to me. What it really sounds like to me is "my wife is noticing I've distanced myself and still won't leave, how do I get her to break up with me?" Sounds a lot to me like you're the female in Rollo's Please, Break Up With Me! Get out of her frame and make a decision. What do YOU want. Saying you don't know if you still want to be married to her is BS. Make a decision one way or the other and work towards that. You can't an…
/r/askMRP14/11/16 01:39 PM
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There's only one power rack and one olympic bar. No worries on having to share the plates. I've been fortunate that 95% of the time no one else is using it at the time I go. If it is in use then I'll substitute a dumbbell exercise (eg dumbbell press instead of bench press) for that day or until the rack is free. We have 100lb dumbbell's so theres always an alternative.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/16 03:36 AM
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Are you in an urban center? Is there no public transportation? Unless you're in a rural area I don't see any reason you need your wife to be your chauffeur just because you lost your license.
/r/askMRP10/11/16 12:10 PM
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Half assed efforts = half assed results Ask yourself if you're really putting in 100% effort in the gym and on your diet every week. Are you tracking your lifts? Setting goals? Measuring your performance every week against your previous week? You've been doing this 25 years with no results. Ever stop to seriously think about that? The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. I was a 40 year old fat fuck 5 months ago with a gut hanging over my belt, the guts…
/r/askMRP10/11/16 12:00 PM
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My NEXT goal is 700, my ultimate goal is whatever my body is physically capable of, who know 's what that will be. Ultimately the medium term goal for me will be a 900 total. We only have 400lb of plates at my work gym, so realistic goals for me are B/200 S/300 D/400. I'm already near that bench goal (190x5), squats went up yesterday to 225x5, as did DL to 200x5. Just need to add 75 to my squat and double my DL :)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/16 11:18 AM
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Honestly I'm a total noob as well but here's my amateur take on the situation. 1) you say you're over weight and have been lifting one month. How overweight are you? You've lost 20lbs in a month which suggests to me you were very overweight to begin with. If you drop from 300lbs to 280lbs do you really expect a huge change in her attraction? You'll know when you're actually attracting her by her reaction. When you START to turn her on, you'll know. For me it was 3 months of 6x a week heavy lifti…
/r/askMRP09/11/16 10:34 PM
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Mine seems to think I'm somehow shaming her by turning sweets down. Not my fault she has a sweet tooth, and I dont.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 06:10 PM
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Not as bad as knowing that muscles turn her on, then letting yourself go because you bought into the "I love you the way you are" BS. Funny, she sure seemed to love me a lot more last night when I was on top of her and she was smiling as she rubbed my shoulders and told me how much she loves the way they look now.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 05:41 PM
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Speaking as a fellow MRP noobie, I can say it seems to also depend on the state of your relationship both before swallowing the pill but also the state you were at before and early in your marriage. If you're in a relationship where you have always been nothing but a Beta provider from the time you started dating, she has no respect for you at all, and you don't even like each other's company anymore I can see things progressing far differently than if you were an Alpha early on, fell into the B…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 02:41 PM
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All the sidebar materials really helped in that regards. Waking up one day and realizing that I was a sad, grumpy shell of my former self, physically and mentally. Once it all starts clicking it becomes obvious what you were doing wrong all along. I haven't been this happy in a very long time.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 11:15 AM
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No swimming. I do my cardio after my lifts are done, since I'm at work there's no pool. I like finishing off the leg workout with ramping hill intervals on the recumbant bike. Try and keep the intensity high (lvl 15 of 20), and my legs are on fire by the time the 20 minutes are up. I get my cardio in, give my knees and ankles a break, and get a great pump all at the same time. It's working well for me so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 10:43 AM
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Very much so. I just couldn't stick with it even after heavily skimming.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 12:04 AM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: Have missed only 1 day in the last 3 weeks due to an unavoidable commitment (jury duty). Still doing 3 day PPL split 6 days a week, core on Sundays. Cardio 6 days a week after lifting (4x20 min runs, 2x 20min cycling) Leg days is when I bike as I really like the pump after squats and deadlifts, and I feel like my legs need a break after running the two days previous. Hit new PR for B/S/D total of 605. Next goal is 700. B/190 S/220 D/195. Bench feels like its plateauing a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/16 01:15 PM
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One thing I've learnt here is this, MRP will fix YOU not HER. Stop worrying about what she does, and worry about making yourself the best fucking version of YOU possible. Sounds like you're already doing everything for yourself. What exactly do you need her around for again? What value does she bring you? It was coming to the realization that I don't NEED my wife in my life that set me free. If she wants to stay in my life and keep up with me awesome, if not she's free to go at anytime. What's t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 06:13 PM
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Good points. You identify and articulate the differences better than me. I just find even with comfort tests with my wife that what works best is some quiet affection followed by redirection if possible. Refusing to engage seems to squash both shit and comfort tests for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 01:31 AM
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I'm still relatively new, but here's what I do: AA or AM. For example just now at dinner, conversation with my wife ended with: Her: It's getting tiring now that your sex drive is so high Me: Your damn right, it's a lot of work for me but you don't hear me complaining Her: I'm serious Me: So am I, why do you think Ive been working out? Her: (dirty look) Me: you think it's bad now? Wait until I start adding ZMA, it's supposed to REALLY up my testosterone levels. You better bring your A Game. Her:…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/16 12:31 AM
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Same here, if I must ask then I present 2 options and 2 options only. No more, "what do you think, should we....blah blah blah?" Amazing to look back and realize how many arguments were caused simply by asking for her opinion or asking her to decide, when all she really wanted was for me to man up and make the decision. Blue Pill thinking really screws men over who think they are being a "good guy" by trying not to be overbearing and being thoughtful of her feelings and needs too....when really …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 09:59 PM
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PreRP I was very bad at this. I used those words as well as sorry far too much. I also asked permission far too often rather than just saying or doing what I wanted. Now my wife was actually pretty easy going in "letting" me do what I wanted but I realize now how Beta it was for me to ask in the first place. One of the main things I've worked on is being more assertive and just saying what I want. MRP has really helped me find my voice. Now instead of "where should we go for dinner tonight?" it'…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 08:01 PM
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A-fucking-men! A year ago I never would have thought that I could get my wife out of 90% of her shitty temper tantrums by simply STFU'ing, waiting for her to finish, walking over, smacking her ass, and telling her "Stop being a brat!", kissing her on the forehead and walking away. This is a cheat code I wish I knew 15 years ago. Fuck me. All those years of trying to DEER, rationalize, use logic and reasoning and attempts to fix her problems when all I had to do was NOTHING, smack her ass, kiss h…
/r/askMRP01/11/16 12:53 PM
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Your advice is bang on in my opinion as well. Both my kids we reached a point where eventually we just had to let them cry it out. Albeit we were able to do it at a younger age than 2. It seems counter intuitive but it really is the most effective option. The first night maybe they cry 2 hours, the next time it's an hour, then 30min, then 15, then eventually they realize no one is coming just because they're screaming their head off at 2am. Took less than 3 or 4 days with both our little ones. K…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 10:57 AM
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Starting to very slowly, adding a few new shirts and pants as needed, however I don't plan on going all out until I'm at a point where my physique is relatively stable. I'm currently planning to continue cutting for at least another 15-20lbs, then starting a bulk to start putting some actual muscle on my frame rather than just cutting fat. I don't want to end up buying a bunch of new shirts that will end up being too small later either. So in the meanwhile I'm getting new stuff as needed. Picked…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 08:00 PM
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Not a surprise at all, but it definitely contradicts the Disney BS and what they say is important to them. They all say looks don't matter, that "they want a guy that makes them laugh and takes good care of them." What they won't admit to is that he better stay buff as fuck or else he can expect to be drip fed once a month duty sex for the rest of the relationship.....if he's lucky. Fuck me if taking the RedPill hasn't been a real eye opener to me in this regard. This is a prime example of "Watc…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 11:09 AM
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STFU and Lifting alone are likely responsible for 95% of the gains I've made. It's amazing how much easier things get just by cutting out DEER responses and just STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 02:24 AM
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No covert contract. Just commenting on the fact that I've noticed the desired pattern forming of me improving equals her boundaries moving in the desired direction. I don't have any goal in mind, but the fact that all indicators point in that direction is definitely something that pleases me.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 02:14 AM
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Heavy is all relative, what is most important in my opinion is that I give 100% effort each and every day. What is light for me now, was heavy 4 months ago. What is heavy today, will feel light 4 months from now. I watch most of my coworkers in the gym for the last 4 months and all of them look exactly the same as they did 4 months ago, they're all lifting the same weights they were, most of them are hardly even breaking a sweat. The vast majority just come up to walk on the treadmill for half a…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/16 11:22 PM
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If you have an EAP program through your employer I'd highly recommend speaking to someone about it. Took me almost 10 years to realize I needed help dealing with it. Every year it gets harder, you just get more and more paranoid constantly looking for signs even when none are present. Is that really how you want to live? Constantly checking up on what your wife is up to? Aside from RP, what really snapped me out of it was my counselor telling me "The treatment for your insecurities is exactly th…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 04:54 PM
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Great advice! Coming from someone who has been dealing with these issues for years pre-RP, your advice is solid. Same exact advice I got from my EAP counselor, if she's going to do it then she's going to do it. If she does she will eventually fuck up and you'll find out. And guess what, you'll leave her and be just fine without her. No point in stressing about it in the meanwhile. Live your life, work on you. You'll be fine with or without her. This shit has been a monkey on my back for almost a…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 12:14 PM
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Thanks for the analysis. This is what I was looking for. As a newb to MRP, I find it helpful to get an analysis of what went right and wrong when encountering a new situation. Look at it this way, in almost 20 years together this is the FIRST time she has ever initiated after a hard no where is hasn't been begrudgingly because of my BP whining, ending in 5 min of boring starfish duty fucking. So, before I went patting myself on the back for a job well done I looked to those with more experience …
/r/askMRP25/10/16 07:56 PM
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Thanks for the reply. As a man I always find it helpful to learn what the hamster is doing during these situations. Those are the insights I find to be the most enlightening in all of the sidebar readings I have done so far.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 02:03 PM
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That's what I would have thought as well, had she not been complaining about the back pain from the moment I sat down for dinner. At first I did think it was nothing much, which is why I AM'd her offering to "pop her back, back into place for her" when she came upstairs. I can usually break through her LMR pretty well as 90% of the time that is her usual MO. Her mouth is saying one thing, but her panties are telling a different story and she just wants me to go through the hoops of breaking her …
/r/askMRP25/10/16 12:19 PM
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Early starts at work during the week for extra income. Usually up before 4am, try to get at least 6.5hrs on weekdays. I'd kill for 8. Just not enough hours in a day to get everything accomplished and get 8 hours sleep.
/r/askMRP25/10/16 11:36 AM
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Point taken. You are correct and pointed out something I should be more mindful of in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:53 PM
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Excellent point and I hear you loud and clear. Ive been very guilty of this in the past. I ordered two out of habit at the drive through, and realized it afterwards. In the past it definitely would have been a peace offering. In this case, I wanted a coffee on the way home as I usually do. I ordered two out of habit (my wife does the same without asking when she comes home). I could have thrown one out, and did actually consider it. But to be honest, since I had no intent of making it a peace of…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:46 PM
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I'm pretty sure my T levels are just fine. My energy levels are good during the day and after resting etc. What I meant by no energy, is by the time I have any free time left for me I've already been up for 15 or 16 hrs. Tough to have any energy left by that point. I need 2 or 3 more hours in a day.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 01:23 PM
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Shit Im owning: Lifting: Missed one workout because I took a day off work. Other than that hit the gym everyday, lifts went well, still working on DL form. Got running pace down to 9:40/mile from 12 min/mile 3 weeks ago. Diet: Weight down to 217lb Nothing new to report. Still eating clean Mon-Sat, 500 cal deficit, easy to maintain diet during weekdays as I maintain same meal plan except for dinner every day. Reading: Finished Book of Pook. Started and finished Saving a Low Sex Marriage. Mindful …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 12:24 PM
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Yes to all of those actually. She works full-time, great mom, good partner and friend, has a side business as well. Lots of reasons to keep her around besides the sex. If there weren't any other reasons she would have been gone back then. Other than the past issue and the sex, she brings a lot of value to my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 08:21 PM
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Serious question, if you know your wife is the type to flip out about strip clubs, then why'd you tell her? Why volunteer that info? It wasn't your decision anyways. If it came up later, just act cool, play dumb and say you didn't think it would be a big deal.
/r/askMRP15/10/16 06:14 PM
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I've read SGM. She's definitely up for the man handling most of the time, I could tell she just wasn't really into it and was just going through the motions. I wasn't about to jump through her hoops that time. I'm done playing that game. If she wants to play that game, she can come to me. I hear ya on the OI and abundance mentality. I just gotta keep lifting and improving my SMV. I figure it will be at least another 6-9months before my body is where I'd consider it a "good" starting point. From …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/16 02:07 AM
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It's been a 9 year struggle trying to pack it away, seeking help for it was part of my own self improvement. I realized that regardless of what happens with my wife, I don't want it hanging over me any longer in my relationship with ANY woman. Having someone spell it out for me in such clear terms made it much easier to swallow. It was a bit of an epiphany having someone else basically frame it as "stop giving a fuck, everything will be ok for you regardless". It was a bit of an epiphany. It's s…
/r/askMRP14/10/16 12:53 AM
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That's exactly the advice I got from the counselor I've been seeing for my own issues caused by my wife's past betrayal. It really helped frame it for me in the following manner: "With or without her you're going to be ok, you have a good job, are attractive and getting fit, have a wonderful family, and plenty of time to start over with someone new. Wether or not she is fooling around behind your back is irrelevant. If she is, you will eventually find out, leave her and you'll be ok. If she isn'…
/r/askMRP13/10/16 09:44 PM
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Doing a basic PPL split twice a week. Only started adding DL about a month ago. It's not that I "couldn't" DL more weight, it's that I'm staying at 1 plate on each side until I feel I have the movement down. Since it's the one lift that is completely new to me, I don't want to end up having to unlearn poor form later. I do 3 sets of 6-8 reps with that weight currently, trying to concentrate on good form first. Once I'm sure I have the form down, I think I'll be able to rapidly up the weight. I t…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 06:12 PM
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DL are the one exercise that are completely new to me so the movement is completely foreign to me and I still don't feel like I "get it". I've had one of the more experienced lifters (guy's a competitive body builder) at work help me with my form but it's still no clicking for me. I have no issues with the movement on the way up, it's bringing the weight back down that feels all wrong. I feel like I can't figure out exactly how to sequence getting my hips back and lean forward correctly. I feel …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 05:57 PM
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Shit I'm owning: Lifting, 6 days a week. Push-Pull-Legs split. Do Abs/Core on Sundays cause I feel lazy doing nothing on my rest day. Hit my first goal of a 500lb total for B/S/D (B185/S205/D135) Deadlift is seriously lagging or it would be 600lb. Next goal is 600lb by Christmas. Ultimate goal is 200/300/400lb. I'll have no problems with the first 2, the 400lb deadlift however is going to be a real challenge for me. Weight down to 218 from starting weight of 240. Jogging 2 miles a day everyday t…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 10:51 AM
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I feel a lot of sympathy for you brother. Except for the finding actual proof of her fucking the other guy, your post could have been written by me about 9 years ago. Same BS, Beta Bux provider thinking I did enough by working nights long hours to provide for the family. The pain of the betrayal is immeasurable. I forgave her and moved on as well, however I never had proof it was anything more than a long distance emotional affair. You have PROOF and admittance of her fucking Chad, take my advic…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 09:29 PM
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I'm in a similar boat with the long hours and long days, I think I'm going to have to try your approach out.
/r/askMRP07/10/16 07:53 PM
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Doggystyle is easiest Me on top I find it works best if I pull her to the edge of the bed, hold her legs down and wide open, then pound her standing up. That gets my body out of the way. Reverse cowgirl also works pretty good. Basically any position where she has access to her clit while your fucking.
/r/askMRP05/10/16 09:51 PM
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Buy it, don't tell her, blindfold her, use it on her. She'll probably freak out when she hears you turn it on. Just reassure her and tell her to trust you and relax. If you can get her to calm down enough to let you use it on her for a few seconds on low, she'll be on her way to a screaming orgasm in less than a minute the first time. After that she'll be asking for it regularly while getting pounded.
/r/askMRP05/10/16 05:50 PM
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I'm honestly no expert. I only discovered MRP about a month ago myself. I had however realized that a change was needed on my own about 4-5 months back. I self realized that if things were going to improve, I'd have to start with myself. The guy I had let myself become was far from attractive, both physically and psychologically. I got fat, let myself go, was always tired, grumpy, bitchy and needy because I wasn't getting fucked. Then it hit me like a tidal wave, would I want to fuck this guy? F…
/r/askMRP02/10/16 08:01 PM
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Coming from a fellow MRP rookie, let me just say that the 3 things that are working best for me are Lifting, DGAF, and STFU. If you can manage those 3 things, your sex life with the wife will take care of itself. When your horny as fuck, go lift, get yourself tired and have a good nights rest. If you still want to fuck, initiate. If she gives you a hard no, fuck it you need the sleep anyways. No loss for you, it's all win-win. I find the whole thing very zen like, the less you try the better the…
/r/askMRP02/10/16 05:32 PM
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Thanks for the advice. It it is much appreciated. I see the difference between the two clearly now. It worked out for me, but I see how it was undermining. It's nice to have a place to turn for honest advice on what I'm doing right and wrong. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 10:13 PM
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You're right in the covert contracts, it's one of the things I've been really bad at in the past. I think I worded it poorly though. What I mean is being new at this I've been actively looking to put to use the skills I've been learning. I'm not looking at it with any specific goal on a daily basis other than "let's see how this turns out today". I do gauge her reactions and occasionally fall into her frame, but for the most part I'm trying to make a quick exit as soon as I catch myself entering…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 02:11 AM
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Im sorry I don't understand....
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 05:22 PM
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5'10", 220lbs currently. Roughly 25% body fat. Working on getting to 190-200lbs and 20% BF before I start to work on seriously adding muscle. Up till know my priority has been on getting my fitness back up to a decent baseline level first. You can't build a great house on a rotten foundation.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 01:56 PM
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Thanks for the advice. It's not that my knees are sore from running, it's that I'm trying to avoid adding wear and tear to them. Being heavy and running is worse for them than being lighter. I've got years of knee wear and tear from standing on concrete floors for 10 hours a day for the last 20 years. I'm just trying to be proactive in planning out my return to fitness gradually to limit the potential for injury. I knew I was in very, very poor shape starting out. Started with a month of body we…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/16 01:50 PM
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Highly unlikely. What country are you in?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/16 07:47 PM
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It still bothers me as well and is one of the main issues I still need to deal with myself. I also have just recently come to terms with the fact that my own actions basically created the perfect breeding grounds for it to happen. Dad bod Beta me + working 60-70hr weeks + working midnights + being tired and grumpy all the time = perfect breeding ground for an affair I thought I was doing the best thing for the family, but in reality I was sabotaging my marriage without realizing it. Things were …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 01:47 PM
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It is actually pretty well equipped. Dumbells to 100lb, Kettlebells, Medicine Balls etc along with all the expected machines, benches, treadmills, bikes etc. Almost impossible to get a treadmill at lunch time but the power rack is empty lol. I'm kicking myself for not starting when they opened it 6 years ago. I had assumed it sucked and never even went to look.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 12:57 PM
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Thanks for advice and feed back. I realize that once I start lifting heavy I will probably need more time. I intend to either break it up and do half at lunch and half after work OR just start staying after work to do my workouts. No worries on being able to leave home to go to gym. Work and gym is key card access. Open 24 hrs. Better than a lot of gyms in that aspect. And we have a power rack that almost no one uses.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 08:43 AM
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Looks like my guestimates were pretty close, the calculator has me at 25% currently at 220lbs and at 20% at 190lbs By the photos I was around 30% at 240lbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 11:55 PM
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Fortunately I still have a decent amount of muscle mass under all the fat from my days of physical labour. I don't know (haven't measured) but based on past experience I'd say at 240lbs I was probably in and around 30-35%. At 190lb probably somewhere around the 20% mark. I really need to get a BF% measuring scale or Chisel as my next purchase to be able to gauge my progress and make sure I'm not losing muscle mass. The last time I made an effort to get back in shape that's pretty much exactly wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 10:32 PM
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Posting on the mobile app sucks. Thanks for the advice.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 08:16 PM
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I had a keylogger on her PC for weeks. I saw everything she was up to and saved it as proof so she couldnt deny it. Of course Im not naive enough to think there couldn't have been someone else as well offline.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 08:10 PM
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Yup that's pretty much it, minus the sexy pics and videos. It did however kill complete and total my trust in her. If I had not gone with my gut and investigated, she might have met up with him. She had already started prepping by telling me one of her friends wanted to maybe fly her out for a visit in another city the next month. I put two in two together after I busted her and said wtf? You were going to go meet this fucking guy? It was a pretty major blowout and looking back maybe I should ha…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 08:07 PM
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I ain't gonna lie, I got a bit lucky with that one and just winged it. I've just reframed my attitude towards her from being one of constantly seeking her approval and aiming to please her to one of IDGAF and SHE should be equally interested in pleasing me. It's worked out so far, I'm just waiting for my first big fail. In the past I would have handled that question: Me: but of course I love you more than anything in the world Her:really? Cause you haven't been showing me lately....blah blah....…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 07:57 PM
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That's a very real possibility I've thought of. Many times. That happened about a year after the last one was born so the odds are low, but still there. I knew something was up with her behavior at the time and busted her red handed with a keylogger on her PC. All of the information I had gathered indicated it was nothing more than online (the other dude was not anywhere near local). That doesn't mean she never has. Hence the trust issues in the relationship. To be fair, full disclosure during t…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 07:07 PM
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Almost done MMSLP, reading NMMNG next. I've read as much of the sidebar as time allows (tough on mobile, dont want to tip my hand at home on the PC), listen to bluepillprofessors podcasts on the drive to/from home. Almost done those. I've started running through the "best of" posts at Rational Male. I do my best to joke and stay positive. Often times my wife see's it as juvenile. I think this is mostly down to my perceived low SMV If it were higher I think they would be more likely to amuse her.…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:12 PM
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Thanks man. I need to hear that. It's basically what I say to myself when I look in the mirror now. Luckily for me I gain and lose weight fairly easily. I came to the realization myself thinking "would I want to fuck this?" I look at it as motivation to fuel my workouts. I just wish it hadn't taken 10 years for me to realize since the last time I was in shape. As far as my wife goes, she's yo-yo'd up and down our entire marriage. So far she's lost about 25lbs and has 25lb to go. In a way it was …
/r/askMRP21/09/16 06:05 PM
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