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Man you are so far into her frame. ​ 'Why is she doing this! How should I respond to her?" ​ What the hell man. Do you. If you want it at the moment, take it. If you don't, don't.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 06:10 PM
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What do you want? Realize that you never mention this in your initial post. (an no, I am not going to read your linked biography, you do not deserve that investment from anyone here, yet). You are so much into her frame.. your life right now is nothing more than a response to her. Hell, it could be argued you are in CHAD'S frame! ​ I mention this because if this is serious, one of the first steps you need to make is to live, to lift, to rehab your life... for you. Not your wife. Not to compete w…
/r/askMRP19/10/18 05:00 PM
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I disagree. Folks, Acta Non Verba is a key element to MRP. IE: your actions should do almost all of your speaking. When you get into verbal negotiation, you have already lost.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 01:11 PM
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and I couldn't go home because I was there for the weekend and live 40 minutes away. In this entire thread, this line in itself stood out to what is your fundamental problem. The ONLY times I have seen it justified to have to stay is if there are very small children (yours) or if there is a credible concern of suicide. ​ What you need is to define your self worth, and commit to stand up for it. What you need to do is to take a day (not a passing thought) to decide what is your worth, what is you…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:17 PM
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Man, I was going to post for the first time in ages just to rip you a new one, and then the punchline hit! Welcome back, and good to see you doing well. ​ PS - 3rd name change? Did you get doxed or id it due to the drama over at TRP?
/r/askMRP11/10/18 01:13 PM
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rule #1: you cannot negotiate attraction. yes, your dread statement helped her not be a fish for one encounter - that is the extent of effort she gave... so you ask: I'm wondering if I should bring something like this up again? No. not with words. Remember the phrase we live by here: Acta Non Verba .... Actions, not words. You can start employing a bit of dread, just the first few levels of it.. and stop talking to her about sex all together. If you want her, take her. Go caveman. If she resists…
/r/askMRP05/12/17 07:57 PM
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Some good advice overall... but I disagree with some of the tone. You tell them they talk little, but also "TELL her how things are/will be". I would say STFU - this is the worst time to lay down ultimatums. focus on you and find your way first. There is too much effort here to keep her happy and informed. Doing this placates the hamster, and we want that little fellow spinning on his wheel. Text and talk for logistics only. Don't tell Lisa you will talk later. Just "I am out for the night". As …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 08:46 PM
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"Be the Rock" best advice my father ever gave me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 01:36 PM
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I dropped her off happy and not affected by her bullshit. does not compute with My wife broke and wanted to hold hands but I wasn't in the mood to be loving after her bitchiness, so I dropped her off with just a hug. It appears you are reacting more than acting. IE - you are in her frame, not your own. Enjoy your week of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 08:35 PM
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I missed this, and only saw you guys doing this upon my recent return from my reddit sabbatical. Will this be done again (annually?), or is there a link list to do this program on my own (or share with buddies to do it with them)? Very excited to go through this... props to those who did it!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 02:45 PM
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Update: Your wife won. You just gave her everything, and all she had to do is have one night of dirty sex with you. You do understand that text messages cold be deleted, right? You do comprehend that hookups dont always involve text messaging, and that her mom didnt have to know about it for it to occur. You get that right? But sure... go with that she didnt cheat because it makes you feeeel better. Fact is, your wife shaves down there for when she won't be with you. Comprehend that. And I know …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 09:14 PM
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You live in her frame, and this post made me live in her frame. so lets instead talk about you. If you divorce her, why would your next relationship be any different?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 08:55 PM
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you do it for you.. thus my last line: Of course, by living in your own frame, this renewed attraction of her is pretty irrelevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 06:15 PM
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nice FR - a lot of good wisdom and insight.... a great read for those starting on the path. One point of contention: What's more, though, I was framing this incorrectly, focusing on the fact that she fucked this guy, rather than on the fact that she left this guy, hates his guts, and married me. It's like winning the tournament, but getting hung up on the fact that I lost a match or two along the way. Now, yes - admittedly, I won this genetic tournament through a BB strategy, one which has had s…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 04:31 PM
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I believe it was also sarcasm. Don't live in her frame dude. You do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 09:15 PM
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We aren’t victims. We may passively accept the things that are not in our control, but the rest? Fuck it. Best line of your speech. Dead on awesome. And I get what you are trying to encourage, ... But I have to disagree with some of your ideas, or perhaps the confusing way they are presented... You suggest betas have fear, and that alphas dont. That is just not true. We all have feelings come at us. We all have fears and doubts. It is what you do with those feelings that define you. You’re plann…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 09:11 PM
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I like Dead poets society and Cake. Very oldschool masculine.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 04:30 PM
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This post is full of victimizing and living in her frame. MRP is not about the gaining back our ability to choose. Outcome Independence also means we don't have to choose at all. Work on you, buttercup, and stop worrying about wifey.. After-all, It is all your fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 02:50 PM
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Low-effort post. A good example of stepping up to confrontation, and realizing self-worth, but outside of that it is hard to easily transfer this into helping those here with struggling marriages. Unless... this is a a masterful metaphor that went right over my head. Is the money-grubbing vacuum machine who wont suck... is this an eloborate illustration of my wife? you nailed her!!! :)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 02:45 PM
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well said.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 02:40 PM
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You are missing the point - because you are in her frame. Your focus is on whether you can change her, and if you do certain things if you can get her back. MRP is about making yourself great. Focus on being the best version of you and go after what you want. After 6 months of transforming yourself, if you do not want her, then move on.... whether she wants you, is wet by the new you, or is indifferent... is irrelevant. This journey is not about her. Oh, and about your post - It's basically the …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 02:15 PM
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If you are posting a FR or a guide on how to get more blowjobs - cool. OK advice towards the end. However to set this up as a question which you quickly abandon, makes this post appear to be a humblebrag.
/r/askMRP07/03/17 11:18 AM
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what are you willing to do to get what you want? The bluepill fantasy life. A degenerate personal whore, upstanding wife and great mother etc. Smart enough to know the purple pill program is bullshit, so I let that die. That leaves Degenerate whore wife, with everything else in order where I can be sexually free to do whatever I want with whomever. Leave, see my kids when I want. Live standard TRP life, but no nuclear family. notice how your answer is not about who you want to be, but who your w…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 09:45 PM
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Your question and post is all wrong. (and you really need to man up).
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 09:42 PM
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Nicely done. I enjoyed your FR. I am in my 40s, so I admire your 4 rounds. Hell, 2 rounds in a row rarely happens for me.. mostly because after one, I am done! For others, here is a simple rule for determining the difference between comfort tests and shit tests: Comfort tests are about her, and concern about her: "I don't think anyone loves me" Shit tests are about you, and what you should do: "You should show me more often that you love me"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 02:17 PM
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Interesting read... however I think you have way too much focus on trying to keep her pleased... I half expect to see the neighbor blue=pill husbands I know chime in on this with their "He's right! Happy wife Happy life!" mantra. In some cases I would argue the opposite of your advice. For example: Have female friends and make sure she knows it. Only give affection (comfort) when it is deserved, NOT based on how often she gives it to you (your 2 for every 3 suggestion) Do NOT be consistent. Chan…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 03:24 AM
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The root of the problem is much worse. I've learned over time my partner was living a 2nd life, and that I was essentially the "mask of sanity." I was a beard, more or less, for the fact that she is a sexual sadist. Could someone explain to me what this means? To the OP: sorry to hear you are in such a mess. I would focus on being the oak for your kids... and that does not mean staying with your LTR... it means being a consistent force in their lives that they can count on. ...and you cannot do …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 03:08 AM
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Q: In the past was the wife bitchy due to you being beta, or were you being beta as a reaction to her being bitchy? A: irreverent. What matters is that NOW you are leading, and choosing how you are going to be. She is and will be reacting to that, as long as you lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 09:54 PM
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Expect the snowball of success to continue to grow, because with each realization your confidence will increase.. and confidence is sexy as hell to women. However: I asked as usual for a blow job as part of fore play. Dont ask or vocalize bedroom requests. show her. Guide her head there as it is expected.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 05:35 PM
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so... you want to give her your commitment, the base of your power. why again? why not just date her / plate her for a year, and then consider this? As to reviewing her merits; i thought it was interesting that you think she lies to you about fucking the neighbor because she is worried about losing you. People lie for themselves, not others. She is lying for herself, likely because it gives her a secret go-to option for sex, and she wants to keep that option open for the future (this is why she …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 03:42 PM
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a buddy of mine, naturally red pill, was lamenting about his 2 year girlfriend who just broke up with him. He says he is at a point where he is tired of the game, and just wants to cuddle, be in love, and be completely open and honest with someone emotionally. SO he did that with her, telling her that he was pretty sure this would lead her to break up with him. She swore that it would only deepen their love. ... and 1 month later, she left him.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 03:29 PM
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no worries.. getting doxed sucks so just watching out.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 10:19 PM
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if this is the OP, note that you are using a different account. might want to delete this to avoid being doxed.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 09:13 PM
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LOL. My panties can't take too much more of this!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 09:11 PM
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What I care about is that I require direct communication and respect. its my standard. Has this been communicated, or is it a covert contract?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 09:10 PM
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Yeah.. I am going to challenge your thinking on this. In the end, you decided not to do it because she didnt ask properly.... because she asked you the way she has always asked you (as you reference in your post). The way you have taught her over the years to ask you for stuff. You did not decide to take her with you because it would be logical. Or because it was the smart move. Or Because it would be an opportunity for you to seduce her out in public, or for her to feel a little dread as she se…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 09:09 PM
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very true. I shouldnt of generalized... I guess I was "triggered" heh
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 07:07 PM
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TRUST IS BULLSHIT. It is an idea that someone is morally obligated to be with you and only you, regardless of attraction. So instead focus on where you do have control and power. You can attract her to you by being awesome. and guess what, the same goes for her.
/r/askMRP07/02/17 03:54 PM
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True... but I would consider that part of the win win. either a) You follow MRP guidance and become the man... your wife follows your lead and your marriage works. or b) You follow MRP guidance and become the man... your wife doesnt follow your lead, and you realize you are better and deserve better than her and the marriage. You move forward with your better life without her. both scenarios end with you having a better life!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 03:20 PM
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Going to ignore the entertaining grammer nazis focus... and instead try to offer some guidance. YOU are the container, and a woman is the water that takes the shape of the environment it is placed in. So if YOU improve yourself and your life, and are leading, MOST women will follow. And likewise, if you marry a girl and you then let you and your life go to shit, she will follow you into a shitty relationship. The sex tap is turned off, to borrow your words.... and guess what? it is your fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 02:56 PM
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I was brief in my description of improvements in my marriage. Yes, sex has improved, I get it when i want and she is often the instigator. however what I find even more rewarding is her accepting me and following me again as the leader of the family. She and I make a great team again, and we are heading on a great adventure. At it's root, MRP is not about getting sex from your wife. It is about you improving into the man you want to be. Your wife naturally will want that, unless there is too muc…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 02:50 PM
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I am not arguing for those posts to be removed... Just adding this thread so there is some balance. Not all of the MRP crowd ends in a divorce where they think they are the victim.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 02:48 PM
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no. I'm good.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 10:42 PM
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Well I didn't use the bullet points that you display... so you got me there. I admit I could have gone into greater depth, offering more insight, some examples and the like. But truth be told, I need to get down to the gym and LIFT... sorry, I mean 'lift'.... and I wanted to respond to the confusing posts arguing other views. I also did not see a recent positive report, and want to offer some of the newer folks that this stuff does work. They need to see that in addition to all of the "Guess it'…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 10:19 PM
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great post on how to dodge responsibility and play the victim.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 03:01 PM
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I tried to fix my low-T with lifting, sunshine etc and I did make a but of improvement... however... What worked best was having my urologist prescribe testosterone cypionate that I take every 10 days. Not only does this up my T levels, but it helps my lifting and Iam constantly seeing better gains. ..something to consider.
/r/askMRP26/01/17 04:02 PM
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Patience. They key is that you are no longer faking it. You now know you are the prize. Up your dread level a bit.... and be patient. The road is long so keep your stride.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 03:05 AM
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hmmmm.... I am on the fence. Your evidence shows: She is flirting with this guy, she is complaining about you and talking bad about you to him, and she is hiding this behavior from you. If that is honestly all that she has done... then where is the Nasty stuff? She is not propositioning him. she is not the aggressor... and she has not agreed to his advances.. she is not writing him about how she can't stop thinking about how hard he is going to fuck her... right? Don't get me wrong, my girl and …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 02:55 AM
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I agree, a wife mother with a full time job is exhausting. I get your point. I can even understand why some wives find the solution is to put their marriage on the back burner.... after all, he would understand, right? No. He should know that this will become the norm.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 02:47 AM
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Nice blog post. I would liek to see more of this stuff from you. The Line that is sticking with me the most: "When the time comes, the only virtue that matters is outcome."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 10:41 PM
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Do you. I walk around and open my woman's car door for her. it is not for her, it is not to get laid. It is what I think is the right thing to do (Southern Gentleman). So what do you think is the right course of action... who is the man you want to be?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 10:38 PM
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hah!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 10:36 PM
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1st - document everything. 2nd - assume the worst. Likelyhood is this has gone much further than them "sharing cake". You know she is keeping secrets from you.. but will she LIE to you? test this, without something so obvious that will let her know you know... Don't question the LIE she makes. To each their own, but for me, the action I would take is: After getting all the documentation I need, I would visit my lawyer and get the papers drawn up. I would calmly confront her, and let her know tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 09:31 PM
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AWALT.... but let's entertain your thought process for a moment. If you are suggesting that college girls are easier lays and that a woman with a family takes more effort... ok. So wouldnt a guy with a family, a job, and responsibilities take more to please than a college dude? Shouldnt a woman work harder for the mature man? But she is not putting forth more effort.. she is putting forth less in keeping her man happy... right? THAT should be the focus. Why isnt she doing more to keep the guy. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 09:10 PM
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I disagree. These are clearly shit tests.. not comfort tests.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 01:04 AM
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Do not give her a massage for sex. You win the battle if you so, but lose the war. and stop the half ass 2 second backrubs.. just say no. or flip it on her and tell her you want a back massage. But show her that backbone you say you have grown and stop caving to her.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 12:59 AM
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there is no problem here... except for your attempt to humblebrag. Just keep doing the same thing. tingles are generated.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 10:55 PM
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Back in college one thing i liked about my roommate, who was a natural alpha, is how the girls would stick around and clean up our dorm room - all smiles... after they got a good dicking. and here you preach for us to take that role... You claim this will quiet the noise of frustrations in her head... but you never deal with the fact that she isnt thinking about your to begin with... And speaking of those noises... that is her hamster running. You don't quiet the hamster. You let it lead her to …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 10:47 PM
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You don't think you shit test your husband?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/16 07:49 PM
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I dont see how this comment helps anything other than identifying you as a jealous troll. Either improve the conversation or lurk.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/16 05:27 AM
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1st... patience. It took years for you to fuck this up, so expect a good while to unfuck it. 2nd... stop avoiding the pain. She will get angry. she will fight and yell. But understand: the only path before you is through the fire. Stop trying to avoid confrontation and avoid upsetting her. Just be the man you want to be and let her fight scream and bitch ...into YOUR frame.. 3rd... become the ultimatum. You are a fun loving guy who gets shit done, right? You come home, have fun with the kids... …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/16 02:00 AM
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Do you think wives stop being wives? That the battle ever ends? Or even more important, do you think shit tests ever stop? God lets hope not. Shit tests are good things. they are wives testing you for worthiness... they mean you are being considered. Hell, when you get good at this... you will see them as foreplay. When a woman stops shit testing you... that is when you and your marriage are in serious trouble.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 03:44 PM
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I couldn't agree more. In fact here was a popular post I did which is a Guide to STFU The rookie mistake is to appear sullen and withdrawn. That is why I always recommend the grin for the win. If you are just smiling and shaking your head... it will get her hamster spinning about what is wrong with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 03:34 PM
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You still lift. And when you cannot do as much, lower your body fat percentage to show off what you do have. A somewhat muscular dude with very low BF% has higher SMV than the heavy muscle dude with the pot belly.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 09:39 PM
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You post dances around the benefits results of caveman sex, but you do not get into what caveman sex actually is.... and that is a needed clarification for the the new members and lurkers out there. Often on this forum it is described as sex with each of the following- Going primal on her, with an animalistic intensity to devour her for your own satisfaction. being physical dominant, throwing her around and using your strength. focused on your pleasure. Whether or not she reaches satisfaction is…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 02:36 PM
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also consider the impression it is giving your daughter on what men are. They are being shown that men are to be used up, and not valued.... as you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 10:07 PM
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Tell her this. "You have scheduled yourself out of this family and this marriage. If this was not your intent and we are your priority, then you have 1 month to correct course. Otherwise I will be filing for divorce. Tomorrow I will be seeing divorce lawyers regardless." She will freak out. Do not engage. The next day see the top 5 divorce lawyers. This will keep her from being able to hire them, initially. Continue to be your great self. She likely will come to you with a proposal on how she ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 10:02 PM
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You need to get over your fear of upsetting her.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 09:52 PM
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why the hell are you telling her to put her higher on a pedestal? How the hell is this red pill?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 09:21 PM
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I disagree with many of the posters here who suggest you do more stuff to win her. Take her off the damn pedestal already. The main problem is that she is taking you for granted. You know this, but you are asking how to get her to take responsibility where she wants you to lead, and she is eager to get involved... this is all code bullshit for you to say you dont want her to get mad at you. fuck that. That is the issue holding you back - you dont want her mad or to deal with her being mad at you…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/16 09:19 PM
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one observation: You did take a stand on your shaving, and asked her what the decision would be. Good for standing up for you, but bad for leaving her in charge. Consider option 2: You tell her "We are all going to be in the family photos together. Period". With this, you are in charge.
/r/askMRP16/11/16 05:35 PM
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I understand where you are at - my wife also claims she has never had a libido. But before divorce, try the following: implement MRP by reading , stfu and lifting like a motherfucker. Seriously - get alpha and sexy. It is amazing how it works. go with caveman sex where you are only focused on pleasing yourself read sex god method. You can find a PDF of this book.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 05:27 PM
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good advice. when you feel rudderless it is not the time to get paddling. Taking my time on this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 03:12 PM
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yeah, I skimmed it- I should give it another read. Really need to find an audio book version. Issue with my girl is that there is no destination to get back to - she has always been blase about sex. I can do most things with her (except anal), and she does things to make me happy - but there is something about getting a girl horny crazy that I just haven't ever had with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 03:12 PM
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focusing on my mission, which is to create an environment where my son can florish into been a masculine man naturally. This is a good reminder of the other missions in our life. thanks- I needed to be reminded of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/16 03:05 PM
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good point, and a good reminder to soldier on. My situation is very similar.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 09:12 PM
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damn it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 09:10 PM
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If you look at my posts, you can see I am a strong believer that you take the responsibility for everything. However at some point, it comes down to who she is, and who she is willing to be. For your situation, I definitely would not go from LTR to marriage. Perhaps up the dread some. For my situation - my wife is amazing and does SO much for me and the family. She wants to please me, but does have a few quirks I do not like, is a little pissy in attitude at times, and has never been a passionat…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 09:08 PM
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very true... now I know how it feels.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 06:46 PM
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thanks. strong guidance.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 06:06 PM
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The one thing I would encourage you to do is find a way to let her become your muse again. Gong to put together a getaway with her. She is a great wife and mother to our kids. I am not done by any means. But a lot of the effort, even in bedding her, is a mental challenge. It is like I am doing the duty sex now. who would of thought?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 06:03 PM
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Good to know I am not alone. I definitely have no desire to get into another relationship with another woman. Plating could be fun, but I know it would just be escapism.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 05:58 PM
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I agree with what you are saying, but want to put the context back on us. A side effect (or main effect?) of implementing the pill is that you might find yourself challenged to still care.. the blue-pill brainwashing on love wont be there to drive you. The oneitis fear of being alone will not be there to keep you marching forward. How do you champion forward in your marriage, when you DGAF?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 05:56 PM
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This arrogance is dangerous. You never know what ammo you will need in a future fight, or what weapons your enemy will have. Why turn down having something in reserve? Let me put it a different way - your future could be one will you need everything you got to get to see your kids, and something like this could help.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 02:13 PM
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could be. It is entering new ground in their relationship. how he responds now will set the precedent on how much this behavior is tolerated. In this case it was physical domestic abuse. Could you use the "a one off is a one off. If it's a one off." to excuse and move past an affair?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 02:10 PM
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I guess I was more focused on me in the last post. Exactly where your focus should be, and I am discounting you owning your shit. Just trying to point out the other big issue - she needs to know that shit doesnt fly. Glad to hear you got some written detail of what happened. I completely agree that withdrawing yourself emotionally and physically AND CONSISTENTLY over the next few months will have a significant effect on her considering this type of action again. Sounds like a good time to call u…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 02:06 PM
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*So you can get hit and she can get away with it. * That is what you are telling her. Your actions force her to take no accountability for her actions. I give you credit for taking responsibility for yours. But tell me how this will not look to her as the following: I hit him I get away with it, after I apologize and he gives me a "stern look" he steps up and gets his shit together, making life better for all of us. Hmmm.... seems to me like she is being rewarded for her actions. Maybe she will …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/16 03:24 AM
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I don't know where you get that I won't take responsibility, or playing a victim whatsoever. Simple. Read your post and all of your replies. Show me where you are taking responsibility. Show me where you say "Here I fucked up, and I am going to do better in the future by..." Now it is easy to see where you are blaming her. You are happy to talk about her problems. And there is plenty of places where you are defensive, where you are refusing to take the responsibility your brothers here are putti…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:28 PM
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plenty of advice here on how to deal with the wife... what is becoming a bigger red flag is how you are not taking responsibility. This Sub isn't to friendly or helpful to those who insist on playing the victim. At MRP - you are responsible. Own that. It will see you through.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:18 PM
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Go cold shoulder and distant from her. When she attempts to apologize, I would cut her off and tell her that you are not ready to listen to her, and that you are still determining if this damages the marriage beyond repair. When she jumps on this, and she will, say "I told you I will not discuss this right now. Write down your apology, what you feel you did wrong, and how you are going to fix it. I will consider that. But I we are not moving forward without at least that much effort from you." T…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 06:16 PM
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Women love how you make them feel This. And some people would see this as a problem to bemoan... However it can also be seen as an opportunity. Create the feelz. Don't worry about the "love".
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 03:54 PM
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Complaints criticism on herself was a comfort test. When she turned it to a complaint about you, it became a shit test. I would handle this looking to the forward instead of dissecting the blame of the past. This sounds like she might want to be a better wife, so LEAD her there. "I fee l like I have not been a good supportive wife for your carrerr growth" answer: I know you want for US to succeed. Next month we can have my boss and a few colleagues over. YOU can make that happen. I am not sure t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 02:22 PM
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you got this - journey to greatness continues
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/16 12:25 PM
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Wait - what? You were not aggressive. You were rewarded by her "jumping your bones and best sex of your marriage" What about the "Filthy stuff coming out of her mouth that I never heard before" Did you encourage that to happen - weer you aggressive there? It appears to me you were rewarded by holding a little frame- but that's it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 08:41 PM
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Lesson learned. She needs me to be emotionally stable and sexually aggressive Oh I am sure that is what she needs... however I do not see in your FR how you demonstrated any sexual aggressiveness. What am I missing?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 07:03 PM
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he will fall into a pool of collected tears from triggered Canadian feminists I can't stop laughing. Well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 01:32 PM
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If she is the girl you want, you have a child together and you are happy, then what is the issue? Sounds like the only problem is if you go Blue-pill again.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:32 PM
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And quit hanging around with chicks and paying their bills. Faggot. most important point thus far.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:24 PM
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I joke/A&A about her finding her shit in a box on the doorstep all the time, so she knows I wouldn't tolerate her messing around in even the slightest. Joking about consequences about how bad it is for her if she cheats on you, and doing this ALL THE TIME as you say - definitely will come off as being protective, scared, and beta. I recommend you dial that way back.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 07:23 PM
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That's a far cry from asking for sex. only if her response - whether dismissive or encouraging... has no bearing on whether you are going to make a move on her tonight. @Scurvemuch is right - only woks if you dont give a shit either way.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 06:56 PM
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Stop trying to be a girlfriend.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 05:10 PM
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But a note to those new: Flirt texting is for advanced MRP'ers only. Part of the transition with Red Pill is to stop asking for sex, but instead assume it and take it. Text flirting can be a subtle "ask" for sex, or become a way for you to gauge whether she is warm to the idea or not. Doing this is a crutch and a bad idea. so only flirt text if you are advanced and have already cleared the asking/taking issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 05:04 PM
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Your post is all over the place - why are you rambling like this? I do not see any significant shit tests in your story. It sounds like you are handling things, but remember: Shit tests are a good thing - it gives you an opportunity to prove yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/16 04:59 PM
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exactly.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 03:39 PM
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Honest question: "Would you be ok with her going out with friends and coming home in the morning?"
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 03:37 PM
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I agree that Religion offers many benefits... but one can't logically take a leap of faith for those reasons. If you do have a religious girl, the old testament is your red pill friend!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/16 12:50 AM
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Taking responsibility for everything in your life means you are going to have to work hard for everything..... but everything is now attainable. congrats.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 04:59 PM
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I wasnt calling you out on whether you were "hawt"... I was calling you out for giving advice to others while still being new to it yourself. Using your metaphor, it would be like Neo explaining what was most important in the Matrix, after only recently being unplugged. Congrats on getting the 4 pack though.. I still have yet to acheive that goal. Try as I might, food is too damn tasty.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/16 04:56 PM
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This was the last straw and I scolded her "I am talking to my son and you were not invited into the conversation. You are being rude. Knock it off." Take note that this was not followed with a long discussion where BP explained logically his feelings and examples of abuse, etc etc. A mistake Many have made is "talking the problem out". I did that very thing the other day when my wife disrespected me. after the hour long discussion and makeup sex, old Bluepill me would say I won... but Redpill me…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 03:58 PM
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It is too early in your journey to make declarations like "be hawt... game is secondary." Happy to see you are getting it and that your transformation is underway.... but I would recommend you be patient with the preaching until you are further into the journey. Right now you are enjoying newb gainz, like in weight lifting. the challenges and hard work are coming your way.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/16 03:44 PM
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exactly this. your problem was not the fact you engaged in a battle... it is that your position is weak and unattractive. Change the game rules by playing different.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 05:44 PM
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You can't undo the past. hell I am kicking myself for talking too much yetserday. It happens. Moving forward, work to LEAD to where you want it to go. For example - you mention there is no sexual intamacy, but you are not saying that you are making moves and she is rejecting you. So - what gives? Dont look to her to fix this.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 05:38 PM
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Similar situation yesterday. Working from home.. sexy time teased and assumed for the lunch break in about an hour. But during the current coffee break where my wife and I were chatting, her response to my playful flirty banter was too aggressive and disrespectful. I stewed about this during the next hour, and when she came bouncing in for lunch, suggesting we get to sexytime, I was not game. But I didn't STFU and let her hamster figure it out. I tried to quickly just say that first, she needs t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/16 03:29 PM
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glad to know Cad is still with us.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 09:05 PM
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I agree that all 5 components will make you a more successful and awesome of a man. A good post for ways to continue to grow, to evolve into something even more ideal. It was the comparison to alpha/beta that is confusing... especially for those new here. Oh, and: TLDR: Lift! :)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 09:03 PM
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Sure, being a man that is well learned, a good conversationalist, a teacher/mentor, good looking and someone who isnt pulled into drama he doesnt care about...... this is all well and good. But these traits are not beta or alpha. In fact we know plenty of people with these abilities that are dominated by their wives, and live in dead bedrooms. And I take you to task for some of your statements that are not accurate: I think if you look at Beta and Alpha as a 0-10 scale, where 0 is a Betabux... .…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 06:10 PM
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if it helps, realize who you want to do this for - you. It is a selfish act to want to share these intimate details. She might say she wants to know it - but you have swallowed the pill and you know - she does not.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 05:30 PM
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I know your pain - it hurts. But you cannot be as connected the way you were. You cannot share your deepest fears, your failings, your doubts about whether you are loved. Sharing those thoughts will make a stronger bond with her, sure. But it will also dry her up.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 05:28 PM
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yes
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 09:16 PM
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Look into the following: http://stress.lovetoknow.com/Anger_Management_Hotlines Call her to say the following: I love you I am sorry I am getting professional help for my anger issues immediately Let me know when you want to talk And then give her the space she needs.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 08:54 PM
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Bah... Stone doesnt need any props - which is kind of the point.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 08:48 PM
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You will always know this truth. *It's not that she won't do (whatever sexual act). ....It's that she won't do it with you.*
/r/askTRP10/10/16 05:49 PM
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Great. You get it. but remember: Enlightenment without action is just a passing thought. So... why did you post all of this? How does this help you, or anyone? Instead, post about how your ACTIONS are being received, the hurdles you are having difficulty with in this journey. We all know why to take this journey. We are all here....
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 04:46 PM
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What will you regret more? Not scoring a few more notches on your belt with different girls? Or not getting the girl you married to really lust after you? THink about what you want. Oh, and.... This is not a humblebrag, I have never lifted in my life but am tall, dress well and ok looking. LOL. Never lifted? OK looking? ... talk about regrets!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 04:32 PM
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Your wisdom like this has been missed! The Red Pill self improvement and man building program has a warning on the box….. "Do not take this pill for anyone other than yourself. Medicating yourself for others benefit does not work, and can be hazardous to your health."
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 03:39 PM
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you are answering this logically, as a man would process this. Not a woman. For them things just happen, and they get caught up in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 03:37 PM
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This here gents, is pure gold. It cannot be said better: Did that covert contract I carried for years, without her signature on it, stating that if I was a good little provider, that that entitled me to her desire? I wasn’t worth fucking. Plain and simple. Does this make it my fault she cheated? Absofuckinglutely not. Her actions were hers; I didn’t stick his dick in her. However, that doesn’t absolve me of blame. By not owning my shit, not leading my family the way I should’ve, pedestalizing my…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 02:33 PM
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You cannot make her NOT want the neighbor. You can make yourself more desirable. You admit you are not sexy attractive. Focus on fixing that. Don't make things easy for her to hook up with him ("hey honey, can you and neighbor finish off this wine, I am going to take the kids to the park!")... but dont guard-dog her in fear- she will see that and you will look pathetic. So STFU about it. if you are insistent to try to do something about this, you can: befriend the guy and get some guy time with …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:46 PM
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Thunder, Thunder, Thundercats - Ho!!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:16 PM
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you are asking the key question here. Whether she is asking with respect or not, is the OP actually pulling his weight?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:11 PM
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Start to laugh and say "Funny how you are trying to tell me what to do." You teach her how to treat you, so this is on you. Dont get mad. Laugh at it. belittle it. Ass far as justifications on why you should be doing more to make the house run.... well, what ARE you doing with your time? If you are busy making life awesome, working out, doing that project you always wanted to do restoring the engine from the old mustang, then do you thing and say no. If you are working on projects you feel take …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 05:10 PM
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no. You want her more than she wants you. Only option is to soft next her and see if your lack of want pulls her around.
/r/askTRP07/10/16 04:10 PM
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shooting a massive load, with velocity and intensity, is often seen a a very viral and wanted trait... Her complaining about mess and cleanup are just shit tests for you to pass. But yea, I am with you ... back to the 'real world'
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 12:37 PM
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Send him the book, without hiding like a bitch. You are a man, and proud of your masculinity and putting yourself first, right? Time to show it. I would reach out to him directly. "I know where you are at, and I know a path out of it. Let me know if you want to know more. Here is a book to get you started." Never be ashamed.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/16 12:33 PM
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Good post. It is an interesting dynamic, as you will always be measured against her father, but you do not want to replace him and take that role. Different is good.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 09:35 PM
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I get my testosterone cypionate injection prescriptions from a eurologist. I think this is beast as he will keep an eye on bloodwork to make sure there are no problems developing.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 04:08 PM
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Oct 5th - yea I fucked up. Wife has her period so I have been staying up late , watchign some porn, and fapping. Thanks to MRP and the improving me, my wife comes in today and gives me an unsolicited blowjob. I could not get off. I eventually saw that her jaw was hurting her and told her to stop. I gave her some comfort and reassurance. but this pisses me off. I could not enjoy this because my mind and expectations are currently set by the false porn world.. and my drive and desire is weak becau…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 03:25 PM
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No I have not be because " Acta non verba" has been my motto since unplugging. How are you guiding her to a happiness with you through Actions? We know you are using the stick, as in punishment when she acts wrong (removing yourself, for example). But what is the carrot? How are you rewarding her when she happens to step closer to the goal? EDIT - and how are you making the goal an attractive destination to reach?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 09:22 PM
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The question comes down to what you want... and then going after it. If you want her, then make moves on her, kino, romance, flirtation, etc and get her. Right now you are not doing this... Now many of us, myself included, went through a stage where we somewhat lost interest when we realized the truth of women, and then we pulled back and went monk mode, and then wondered why there was no sexytime. But the very act of going reluctant and putting the ball in her court to make the advances..... is…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 09:19 PM
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Good progress on yourself and your personal development. However, it is always insightful in these FR to see what people leave out.. as this points to what they do not feel is important. You do not mention gaming, playing, flirting or sexing your wife. I do not see how you are LEADING her to a relationship you want. sure, you are holding the line and not letting her walk all over you. And you have taken her off the pedestal. Both good things. But why should she be with you, why should she want y…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/16 07:03 PM
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it is always easier to get something new than to take the time to change the old - but it is doable. most of the men here had wives just like yours - would not put forth the effort, would not want to get a babysitter, and no longer saw us that way. Do not see her current opinion of you and sex to be a constant.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 08:59 PM
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So far, with a solid frame, STFU about my feelz, AM, and command presence I have been able to lead wife and M through this recent storm. truth - you are leading your ship through these rough waters. good job. I have worked in the mental health profession for a while, specifically rehab and mental institutions like this. be careful of scope creep... group counseling session on your daughters issues becoming a discussion on your values, your wifes feelings for her relationship with her mom, etc. N…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 08:39 PM
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August 2016: Arm injury. Couldn’t do any upper body for several weeks. Started cut at 2084 cal/ 175g protein per day. Went from 176 lbs → 168. BF from 20.2% → 17.8% in 1 month. can you share more about how you did this? I have an arm injury I need to address in the coming weeks that I know the doctor will recommend that I take a break on using it for a few weeks at the gym... but I would like to continue my evolution and your cut sounds fantastic. What did you do while your arm was out of commis…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 06:22 PM
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Dave ramsey plan got us out of debt - highly recommended.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 06:17 PM
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No mention of you flirting or hitting on your wife. Why not? Why take her somewhere and hit on other girls but not her? Why not escalate to sex when you were back at the hotel room?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 06:16 PM
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Sounds like you are an asshole. Seriously. I saw very little behavior from you in this story that made me sit up and say - "now that is a captain!" I get that you are trying to use A&A, and being aggressive with your attitude. But it also sounds like you turned a bit insulting, putting her down (negging her) in front her of friends and her boss. And then when she didnt handle that well, you abandoned her. You got totally in her frame. Why would you leave the hotel room you rented for yourself? y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/16 06:09 PM
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If I can follow this - do you agree with TRP not linking or connecting to MRP?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/16 08:16 PM
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Hi Rollo What are your thoughts on the divide between TRP and MRP? Specifically, The Red Pill appears to be anti-marriage and often receive negative press that is.... at times, deserved- when the lower quality posters give advice with such venom and callousness. While here at MRP, the majority are not against the marriages we find ourselves in, and consider solutions to help them succeed. This place has a greater focus on building better men and self improvement, where TRP is more focused on PUA…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/16 06:58 PM
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Also consider that if the WHY is a response coming from her - that you cannot really ever answer it correctly. Because any answer means you are agreeing that you must justify and explain your actions and decisions to her. Best answer is to not answer. Just blow past it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/16 04:08 PM
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well, Shock referred to him as alpha... so followed suit. My point is that it is worth noting not only how women view you, but also how you are perceived by other men. He was not viewed as a threat by this guy, or even a significant obstacle to overcome. That is worth noting. At the very least it should be fuel to lift harder at the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 08:20 PM
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good progress, and towards the end of the report you did good with demanding/stating and not asking. However in the middle of the report: I mention "you know we're all alone for another 45min?' with a raised eyebrow. I get a hard no and tsk. No worries. I'm OI and I act like it's nothing and say, "Oh well, your loss" and grin. Go back to watching show. She get's up to go use washroom upstairs. As she's getting up I jokingly say "29 min left" as she's walking away. 2 minutes later she's calling m…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 07:19 PM
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I would add to this another question: Why did the Alpha go for the wife - the girl with a guy on the arm who was there, instead of the other 2 girls who were available? IE: Why didnt /u/sh0ckley come across as a bigger obstacle, making the alpha make the smart move to get the easier girls?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 07:00 PM
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By choosing not to be ignorant to the way things really are - means you now have to live with them. Yes, Hypergamy is real, and you did not marry a unicorn. AWALT. And right not this is only your turn.. we all must accept that. So how do you handle? Well you know that getting defensive protective is the absolute wrong answer - it will turn her off and make her even more likely to consider steeping out. So take a breath, and act cool. Do not ever let her know what clues drop in your lap. Be mindf…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 04:57 PM
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Her: Are you going to leave me after your back in shape? Me: Yep - so you better get all the sexing now while you can (grin) Her: Why would you say that? Me: Because your clock is ticking! And I want you to give you some good fucking memories to think back on when your pleasuring yourself as an old spinster! (Grin) Her:.......dumbfounded (but we)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/16 02:38 PM
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I disagree. It shows insecurity. There would have been better success with Agree & Amplifying. Why take the hamster off the wheel?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 05:20 PM
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You need a frame. Badly. To help let that develop, consider these simple steps. Don't DEER STFU & Grin (Grin is essential) LEAD - lead means you are acting... taking action. Right now you are just reacting... to her. "I have been a career beta turned RP Rambo and I have hurt my wife several times through my alpha antics." If you are alpha anctics as you call them like what you describe in this FR - well know that is not Alpha... that is beta.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 03:05 PM
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true - its the feewlings of the moment.... but as the logical crowd discerning this mess, it would be worthwhile to know what the problems are in the marriage... and he doesn't mention any of that. Do they fight about money? Is there a dead bedrooom? Does he beat her with a switch? Etc Etc....
/r/askMRP20/09/16 05:48 PM
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But at this point, saving this marriage is going to be a fuckton of work, IF it works at all. How can you come to this conclusion? All we know is "she's tired of being married and wants to separate." Why is she tired, what is the problems in this marriage and why are they not fixable? It could be that this marriage is indeed fucked beyond repair... but there is so little information given. It is concerning that you are so quick to encourage others to quit.
/r/askMRP20/09/16 03:51 PM
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By the time a wife says this, she's not just ruminating. She's already done that. She's made a plan, she has a lawyer, she has already decided what to do and how to do it. All that remains is the paperwork and execution. So you are suggesting women are about taking action, and only after they have done the work and gotten everything together will they 'complain' about a situation like this. Nope - women are just as likely as beta men to just express their feelings.. to often go with talk over ac…
/r/askMRP20/09/16 03:46 PM
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I disagree - from the limited information given, it is not possible to declare "Game Over" or that this marriage can be saved or that this marriage isnt worth saving. All we know is she sent an email saying she is tired of marriage - OP left out why she is tired of it, and that very fact points out a lot about why he is failing. To me this comes across as a wife telling her husband that this marriage sucks. Maybe it is boring.. maybe it is exhausting... it definitely is not exhilarating. Maybe t…
/r/askMRP20/09/16 02:22 PM
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Why are you leaving the elephant in the room OUT of your post? To give you solid advice, we need to know WHY her hamster is running in the direction of leaving you. What is her perceived problem with the marriage, do you think it is a real issue that you have, and how are you fixing it? I am not saying live in her frame - but we need this information to get a clear picture.
/r/askMRP20/09/16 02:13 PM
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You explain your life as if it justifies it. It doesnt. I sincerely hope you realize that significant change is required to go from victim doormat to man. I love her, and while my marriage and overall relationship with her is a lot better than most on this and other subreddits. I want to head off things I read about or that my friends are going through. You are wrong. Things are worse than you see it. Your situation is NOT better than most. The good news is that you can change all of this - you …
/r/askMRP19/09/16 09:58 PM
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Why did you post this? There really is not an update on your previous post - are you trying to brag that you are still getting laid, because of a talk? I admire the hard work you put in, and no one should tolerate disrespect.... however Shit tests are good things. they are foreplay. If you are not getting shit tests, the likelihood is that a marriage is int trouble. Now in your case, the lack of shit tests could be because you showed a huge amount of presence with your "fuck me or fuck you speec…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 02:50 PM
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pretty much my response when guys complain about harpy wives/dead bedrooms: "Well, would you fuck you?" I let that sit in the uncomfortable silence for a some long seconds, and then I add: "I realized I wasn't such a prize about a year ago, and worked on becoming a man again. it's nice that she wants a lot of sex again, but I am still focused on becoming the best 'me.'
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 02:37 PM
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Your gut is rarely wrong. Use a keylogger and track. Stop talking to her about it - completely. go stupid and ignorant about this around her.
/r/askMRP16/09/16 06:53 PM
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A good report - Newbies take note how his FR is focused on him, not his wife. Speaking of YOU - I am still not gleaming what you want - what are your goals for this, beyond being there for your son?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/16 04:43 PM
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nice update.... be careful of revealing specifics of your life here, ,.. don;t want you to get DOXXED.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 08:21 PM
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I will try once again. You do not have to have the intent to commit rape to be charged and found guilty of rape. You could want and believe that you are having consensual sex, but the circumstances of that sex could get you charged and found guilty of rape. Your specific INTENT is not the deciding factor. That might be what is tripping you up. There is a difference between "specific" intent crimes and "General" intent crimes. Rape is a General Intent crime. HERE is a good discussion of the two. …
/r/TheRedPill30/08/16 02:44 PM
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Rape requires intent for your own education and so you don't run into trouble with this assumption, I highly advise you to get educated on this. Rape does not require intent.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/16 02:05 PM
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it could be that what turns you on is the hunt... and your wife is already captured prey. Not much of a solution there, unless you want to roleplay a bit with her in that direction (have her be more of a challenge to you). Are you doing with your wife what you want to do?, and are you able to do all your fantasies with her?
/r/askMRP30/08/16 02:01 PM
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At this point, I don't really care about the weight gain itself but more about the fact that she's putting herself and our baby at risk for issues. dont bullshit us dude. You do care. The amount of weight gain is barely over the suggestion - and the risk at this stage is minimal - https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/obesity/conditioninfo/Pages/FAQs_pregnancy.aspx So I would suggest that you back off and you take care of you. If asked, express disappointment that she is putting the fetus at a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/16 04:00 PM
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perhaps just note that it is a Monday Morning... and you posted before coffee :)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/16 03:20 PM
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I have never seen the show - but now I am very intrigued! Of note, my only other introduction to them was the actors voicing an actual court case in Georgia - if you need a laugh then give this a listen - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pkFaIxpbHvM
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/16 03:19 PM
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This bit of wisdom illustrates my entire point quite succinctly. No. I was still lost to your point when I read this. You need to structure your thoughts coherently, instead of a rambling list of questions and anecdotes. I am not saying you do not have anything worthwhile to contribute - I am saying your delivery sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/16 02:10 PM
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I have it printed in my office along with the one below. In fact , the 2 phrases I mutter to myself the most when I get down are: "And miles to go before I sleep" and "Rage rage against the dying of the light." Both of these poems motivates me to keep climbing, keep building and to keep fighting for what I want (instead of retiring into betadom old age submission) here is that other poem: "Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night" By Dylan Thomas Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age shoul…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/16 06:12 PM
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that poem has become my mantra.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/16 01:51 PM
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Great to see the growth over the last few years - I have seen amazing transformation in my own marriage, and I hope to help others obtain the same level success ...and for all of us to continue to become better men.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/16 01:41 PM
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yes. Taking responsibility and ownership is key in these FR - or else prepare for your MRP beatings. for they are a'commin.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 09:37 PM
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You should always expect a shit test before sex. It is both a LMR and also a last test to make sure you are worthy. Swat it down - push through it - you got this.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 06:43 PM
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deep breaths. More importantly, you need to shift your perspective. With this happens, you will be smirking, chuckling and shaking your head at her tantrums.. See it as follows: shit tests are invitations for you to prove your worth, so she can know you are worthy of her sex. This is a good thing. See her as the oldest teenager in the room. Let her burn herself out like you would do with any teenager. Be the adult.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 01:38 PM
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It really is a simple formula for success. But people want shortcuts and blow it all up. /sigh
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 01:35 PM
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If she has the ability to talk about past sexual experiences with you, then she can open up about what she likes, what she wants to try, her fantasies, etc. So make a choice - do you want to protect your insecurities, or do you want to open the door to more adventurous sex with the wife?
/r/askMRP22/08/16 01:27 PM
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I follow the rule that If I say NO to doing something I need to do (bills, lifting, mowing the grass, whatever), I have to answer it with "if not now, when?" And I have to set an appointment to then do it. I have had my 1 mulligan, and there is no getting out of it then. I have found that just posing that question in my head "if not now, when?" often gets me past my laziness and I go ahead and do it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 07:51 PM
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I agree with your assessment - if they don't fix their bluepill beta behavior, then these traits will cost them the next relationship as well. We teach people how to treat us, right? However, you lose points by asking if you spoke out of turn- pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 07:46 PM
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agreed. if they are still blue pill betas, they will lose the next girl too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 07:40 PM
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if you break a rule you have to upload a picture of you lifting. I like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 01:26 AM
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Root cause I would change this to How you are to blame.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 01:24 AM
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I see you responding to her but I do not see you leading. I do not see you telling her how things are going to work - or showing her. Step up and lead your family. the vacuum is forcing her into the leadership role.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 08:36 PM
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So many post of late like you describe... it would be heartbreaking if I have not witness many times here on MRP the transformation that can happen when a man: takes responsibility for his shitty sex=starved marriage builds a solid frame leads himself (and the family that often follows) to an amazing life. I have seen it happen. It has happened to me. I started my reddit journey in dead bedrooms. Back then i didnt hit on my wife because I was emotionally ripped by the rejection. Now the reason I…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 08:30 PM
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not a sad reality- instead look at it as a great barometer to determine the health of your relationship. Your relationship is not well. ....however... you showed in your initial post an ability to take responsibility for the events in your life, so i am confident you will own this one. It is your fault, right? So good news then. You know the problem and you are learning the solution. I thought just cause i look way better than her kow would be enough. Not the case. Its as if she resents me for m…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 07:41 PM
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Im always happy cause i do what i want, when i want. Except for sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 04:48 PM
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Good quality post. A few notes on a few things you say. The last 2 discussions about sex have ended with me saying i want more. I haven't said this for 7 years. Its a start i think. You don't improve your sex life through discussion. attraction cannot be negotiated. Make the improvements here non-verbally, by you just picking her up and having more sex with her. Acta Non verba. She has always been kinda flirty towards him, but I've always told myself it's in my head and don't be a bitch. Until a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 04:47 PM
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keep this phrase in your mind to avoid ever getting trapped. When she says "no" to doing something with you sexually - what she really means is "not with you" When she says "I don't do that!" What she means is "I dont' do that ... with you" And she might actually not do that stuff anymore... she focused on the stability you provide, not the wild highs she got on the CC. but the point is, if you accept these answers, then you are her beta. You do have a chance... there are old wive tales of betas…
/r/askMRP18/08/16 03:25 AM
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definitely hand in hand...the strong silent type, right? i think we all agree the worst combination is the chatterbox in the gym when you are worshiping the iron temple.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 02:40 AM
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see here is the trick - You are determining your success based on how she reacts. What I have seen happen here is that when MEN get their shit together, get confident, fit, and take on the world as only a captain can do.... then they are surprised that they find happiness and peace in themselves.... in their journey. The wife? she is a byproduct - she can be a part of the journey or not... he is going to live awesome regardless. And when a man honestly thinks this way, his woman can smell it... …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 02:06 AM
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good post - goes well with my breakdown of the "STFU & Grin" guide for those that just took the red pill. I would add another reason why to STFU - because it is better to let hamster do the talking... and it will explain it to her with all of her self-doubt and self consciousness spinning up her wheel in your favor.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 09:26 PM
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Troll? if not, here we go: No, you cannot plate her. She will be plated by others, but definitely not by YOU. There are many reason's why - but most of all it is because you have proven that you are so emotionally invested in her that you cannot obtain fairness, let alone the upper hand that is required to 'plate someone'. You are her cuckold. You have been walked on, mistreated and disrespected by her in the worst possible ways, and yet you are excited about having a date with her? Just... No d…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 09:53 PM
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AMEN
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 09:35 PM
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damn - never seen familyAlpha rip like this. time to go lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 09:26 PM
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I wish you the best dude. I do not know if you have swallowed the red pill - so I will be gentle with a few basic ideas to get you started. If you want to learn more, read the sidebar on the right side of the page. (from a PC) attraction cannot be negotiated, so do not "talk" to her to improve your sex. Acta non Verba - it means through actions not words ... and most importantly.... do you even lift?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 09:20 PM
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ah... then step 5 "get a hobby" got it!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 08:36 PM
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My basic premise is this - why would I want to chase someone who doesn't want to be with me Because the chase is awesome fun. Because we men love the hunt. Because we want challenges so we improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 08:29 PM
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no response. ..and forget it. she is trying to get your hamster running. When she is ready to reveal the facts of whatever this is - she will. texting is just for logistics - and Alpha Pros can also use it for foreplay. Definitely not for a therapy session.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 08:26 PM
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It is I that fucked up this marriage. It would be an easy cop out to get out of it and fuck up his life. And I don't want to look him in the eye 15 years from now and tell him we had to go our separate ways because "we were incompatible" or some shit like that, because I would be lying. I owe it to him to properly try and unfuck this. finally you say something right. Except you should do this for your kid - you should do it because YOU deserve it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 08:21 PM
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i like it. Let me guess... step 3 would be "introduce wife to your new girlfriend." step 4 would be "improve your diet"
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 08:16 PM
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Not sure what you want here. Do you want to keep her as your wife? I don't think the main event has happened, so as far as your MRP journey making your marriage great - that is still in the cards if you keep working it... if that is what you want. However - her reaching out and being romantic with another man over email - that is a line that changes things. If because of that, you can no longer accept this marriage, well there you go. As far as the hamster - never kill it. it is one of your best…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 08:12 PM
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LOL
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 08:04 PM
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This post is all about her and what you think she thinks. Next time please focus on you - how you are responsible, where you are fucking up, and how you are going to improve it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 08:03 PM
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3 points to consider: Decinding on your trip based on how she behaves is a reaction - and places her in charge. Instead just do you and your life (action), and then you are in charge. Be the captain. Dread works best when it is real- unless you have a really good poker face - so suggesting a trip is because of her behavior when you need to do it anyway for work is likely to not work. You still feel the need to explain things to her. Don't. Let her hamster help her figure things out. It will alwa…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 07:57 PM
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so i tell my brain to shut up and she takes me upstares and presses all the right buttons so important to take our own hamster off the wheel. great report.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 07:48 PM
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Very nice FR. My best description is that I see things happen rather than feeling them happen. You have arrived.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 08:03 PM
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This has to be a troll post. But thank you for the reminder of how much you have to twist a pretzel to make it think it is broccoli .
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 07:15 PM
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much better! MRP hugs are the best!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 07:11 PM
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While I do enjoy the sex that is not the only reason I'm with her...I do the majority of the cooking/cleaning in the house. There is sooo much wrong with that sentence.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 05:44 PM
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I hate that you are so correct with this. the "not with you" - that one really stings.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 05:32 PM
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There is a common response with taking the pill that people go tooo far into Asshole mode. Beyond you getting into better physical shape, you mention nothing here as to why she would want to be with you. I am in no way suggesting you treat her like a special princess on a pedastal, but I am curious - are you being a fun, exciting guy, or are you the now the silent monk-mode and always seems pissed guy who retreats to the gym? Why would she want to stay with you?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 01:41 PM
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to add an exclamation point to this, consider how old her eggs are getting, and the increasing likelyhood that thee will be some issues with the child because of that. If you want kids - especially more than one, this one is likely too old.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 01:17 PM
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As men we have the habit over over-explaining - we want the other person to understand logically what is going on. It makes sense- when dealing with other men. With your woman, you need to let the hamster have the conversation with her - she needs to figure it out. So consider the first conversation you had above, where you said: “what do you think, of course I did but you first questioned me with attitude and I don’t appreciate it.” Now see how her mind has to work with this: She comes home wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 01:15 PM
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Your are doing a lot of talking. Too much talking. Your go-to move should be to "STFU & Grin." Take for example your father-in-law comment. When his wife responded angrily, why not A&A, or the aforementioned STFU & Grin? Instead you tried to start a discussion with her. Why? In addition to this, you are you talking to women about red pill stuff? Why? You cannot negotiate desire. You cannot make change through words - only through actions. ACTA NON VERBA You are also taking what women say back to…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 05:41 PM
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Wear your ring - always When you are out hitting on girls , and one notices and asks if you are married, give her a devilish grin and say: "That's right, so you better not fall hopelessly in love with me. I am only good for amazing naughty sex." If you are going to be a bad boy, then be a bad boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 03:27 AM
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Good start! Remember to go slow, read the sidebar (all of it), lift, STFU, and most of all - have fun! The big change I saw you make was when you stopped asking questions and asking for permission, and just took charge. That and removing sorry from your vocabulary does so much in itself!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 09:20 PM
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I do find it easy to deal with others... except when a feminist is getting really pushy about their views and challenging me. However a shiteating grin usually is the best card for that hand. The path I prescribe is the following (YMMV): take full ownership of your life - It is your fault take pride in the new man you are building. Be proud of you, have confidence in your decisions, and expect respect. let go of being responsible for how others choose to be do not give anyone authority over you,…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 09:08 PM
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ECs What are ECs?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 02:28 PM
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I am still wondering why it was deleted. I can understand if someone could be doxxed or if the wife gets the reddit account... but outside of that, it is nothin g but a selfish move. Each post instructs others on the values here - either on what to do or what definitely NOT to do. The invested discussion that follows help even more of us parse that out. It makes us all better.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 02:25 PM
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A great metaphor here - nicely written! This reminds me of what my grandfather said about what makes a great leader. "It is not yelling orders and telling people what to do. It is making it happen yourself, which attracts others to support and follow you. "
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 02:20 PM
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just wanted to add that this was quite a thought out answer from someone really trying to help. One of the reasons this sub rocks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 02:13 PM
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What I'm struggling with is how close I should be with people who aren't "on board" with our values. The solution is not to isolate yourself to just be with those that think the same as you - that is how cults are formed- even if it is not comfortable, always have parts of your life where perspectives and values differ from you - it will keep you thinking. That being said, there is a big difference to seeing them for a few hours once in a blue moon, to inviting them to live with you. Should I th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 01:54 PM
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parental alienation sucks. It hurts deep. However... your post takes soooo little responsibility. Read it yourself and see if you dont see someone passing the buck. You have to own this if you want the power to determine the outcome. Victims get no say.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 08:54 PM
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how is she disrespecting you? I did not pick that up in your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 08:47 PM
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you do realize you are blaming your wife for all of this, and thus being blind to the possibility you are fucking up. cmon dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 08:42 PM
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I also struggle with MNRP principles when it comes to family - one of my previous posts deal with my failures with my sister. That being said - I chewed him out too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 08:41 PM
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You are wrong. Your daughter is not upset with you due to your wife's manipulation - she is upset with you because of your clear manipulation. I grew up hating paternal fucks like you who give gifts with strings. ... and my family had a lot of them. Either give a gift out of love, or don't. Right now, your daughter sees a guy who teases her with gestures of love, but then demands payment in her doing certain things... so much for a father just loving his daughter! ...and I am not saying you shou…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 08:39 PM
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Buy her a cake. It is her birthday. MRP does not preach "be an ass". Your job is to fix yourself, not her. So. focus on your growth, and who you want to be. She will come along for the ride if she wants to.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 08:25 PM
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It implies that men should pursue relationships more than sex. No... both are unappealing in the long run, if it doesnt have some of the other. So why in the world should a guy be worried about finding that perfect relationship? There is no mention of what type of cake, or to make sure you have the perfect cake. The point is that a life JUST of 1 night stands will eventually feel empty. You need a little cake to go with all that icing. I can see it going especially wrong when the wife starts wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 04:47 PM
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My dad's advice: Sex is like icing. And a committed relationship is cake. You can have icing by itself, but after a time of just that, you will fill empty and desire something more that can fill you. Likewise, a cake (relationship) might fill you up, but without icing on top, it loses it's taste and you lose your desire for it. Cake with icing, that is what is best.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 03:18 PM
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STFU & grin. Your talking about her not initiating was beta. Dont do this. Your desire to explain needing to take a break - Dont do this. The motto here is Acta Non Verba. Be a man with actions, not words. If you feel you are the one always initiating, always expressing affection, then back off. If you feel like things are getting stale, then change the habits up (like start taking her to your place)... And most of all, only do this stuff if you want to. be the man you want to be, instead of bei…
/r/askMRP12/07/16 05:53 PM
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2 kids from a previous relationship Yours or hers? How do you answer the "I love you" texts? Texting: it is for logistics only. In fact follow the beginner rule of "STFU & Grin" until you have your feet back under you. PS - You don't have your feet back under you yet. She flips out and says I should want to make her happy, etc. Thoughts? Your job is not to make her happy- but likewise, you job is not to be a controlling asshole. If it is going to be her car for her to drive, why is it such a big…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 08:15 PM
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Also look at how much you are in her frame. I asked you to tell me why she is attracted to you. Instead of talking about you, you said: I would say she is not terribly attracted to me, because she is doing little or nothing to attract me. I then say how some people go overboard with the 'I am the leader, do as I say' and that takes the spotlight while 'being a fun witty guy' and 'being a lover' take the back-burner. part of your answer is: She is a hard person to have fun with. This too requires…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 06:56 PM
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This isnt bad, and i had quite the laugh at your wife's expense :) I disagree. it is bad because he had to result to such a tactic. He wants to be the leader in his family, and yet has to result to tactics like this because his family wont follow him. What's next? A padlock on the freezer so his ice-cream isnt eaten? Maybe put a lock on the kids doors when it is their bedtime, so they will stay in their rooms? To me this response is an indicator that he is not leading, and is likely a drunk capt…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 05:36 PM
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I bring this up because some people go overboard with the 'I am the leader, do as I say' and that takes the spotlight while 'being a fun witty guy' and 'being a lover' take the back-burner. so the question is, what do you offer beyond "being in charge and in control" I see you offering to be a take no-nonsense boss. what else?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 05:29 PM
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Tell me why she is attracted to you (if she is). Tell me why she would want to be with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 04:05 PM
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good rule of thumb: STFU and grin.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/16 08:48 PM
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Ovulation time is when you need to be a man of quality - she subconsciously doesnt want to have a weak mans baby. You know this. So it is natural for there to be more LMR and shit tests when you go for it during this time - she wants you to PROVE your worth. Thus, there is a possibility that she is fuckable then, you are not pushing through the increased tests.
/r/askMRP07/07/16 06:39 PM
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Not sure of the point here. Compatibility does not take the responsibility off of you. But ok, looking at compatibility... sure, at the end of the day it could be that you as a alpha captain is too much leader for your specific wife to accept. But that is at the end of the day. MOST posts here with complaints about their wife's behavior and compatibility are from guys who are not at the END point - they are pretty much at the START, where they are still swallowing the pill and implementing it in…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 06:27 PM
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Well your reply is full of you taking responsibility, so it sounds like you are there. But be careful of regret- perceived mistakes in the past should be fuel to motivate you, not tear you down. And even if you could go back and push harder at Red Pilling your marriage and she changed to be the wife you always wanted, you would still have to account for her actions and how that effects your feelings for her. She cheated on you- she owns that and deserves whatever decision you made in response.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 11:46 AM
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A&A is the right call. Not taking it seriously because you are too busy having fun... mix that with the fact that your manly instincts are taking your focus and you must have her. TL:DR; go with A&A and caveman. So, an example of this would be "Dishes? I only see one thing that needs my attention!" and then carry her / throw her on the bed. As to her follow-up fighting with you, saying you almost got a reward... laugh at it. (A&A). Then make some fun plans with others for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 05:01 AM
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no, but I will take a look. Hopefully an audiobook is available.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 04:51 AM
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well said. I really like you bringing up the "woman are liquid they fill the container you provide" metaphor.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 04:50 AM
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Very nice.. so many times it is asked "what do I say when she says..." ? you repeatedly did the best answer to so many of these. I just smirked and STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 08:10 PM
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You suggestion to continue to play the blue-pill beta pushover until you have the finances to impress her is a failed strategy. Either man up, or accept your fate. I rented an apartment this month, from where I can focus to reestablish self-employed revenue. this is a bullshit reason and you know it. You don't have money so you rent an apartment to make some? Because you can't work from a room in your own place because she is in charge there? ANSWER: setup shop in one of your current bedrooms. t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 04:14 PM
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I agree - too many disclaimers and exceptions offered to solid advice here - and too often. I see posts that suggest to only take MRP as much as it applies to you, and then see people half-ass it and then wonder why it is not working. Caution Signs stand in the way of Darwinism. Let them sink or swim, whether there are sharks or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 06:39 PM
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there are more rewards to life than just sex. Glad to see you rediscover this, and get yourself back. enjoy the ride
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 01:19 PM
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another point to consider - I have read often here and on TRP that there are compounds in your semen that help her bond to you, and raise her own T levels. (often this is mentioned in relation to a possible negative to getting circumcised or using condoms with your wife).
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 01:12 PM
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or >I< lose interest all together I have dropped masturbation - but now I find myself also losing interest (and getting old is a known factor). Interesting that you say it happens for you after a week+ of no-release.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 05:59 PM
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you say you are not blowing your load. Does that mean no sex? Sex but no ejaculation? No masturbation? Clarify please so we can see where you are going with this. For a long time now I have gone without masturbation or porn. I told my wife she would have to fill all of those needs for me. Life has been better since, however my interest in sex has been waning. We are still having sex just us much, but she is doing almost all the initiating now. Going back to doctors next week to see if I need to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 05:55 PM
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I initiate that night and she resists, but doesn't say no. I make it playful and keep going - resists again. This continues and she finally gives in - and enjoys the hell out of it Keep in mind that shit tests and LMR are often subconscious "is he worthy?" tests. These are good and should be welcomed as foreplay. overall i think you are doing good. Especially good at the STFU part :) Remember, the goal is a better you - not a better you so she will appreciate you / sex you more.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 05:48 PM
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Your second point is a problem now - she sees me going to the gym etc. and believes it's for her. I'm in this for the long run and am OK with spending 6-12 months improving before I see changes, and reasess things then, but it may be too late now. This actually the point in itself. You are concerned about what she thinks. Dont. Her hamster will run on it;s wheel as it likes. You go to the gym and get fit for you. Because you are a man and youhave control over your own body, and you desire yours …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/16 03:59 PM
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and bring a zuchini
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 09:45 PM
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You are reading too much into this.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 09:01 PM
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I want to drop another 10 pounds, and I want to lose another 5% BF. BF is now around 18%. My muscles look good, arms and chest getting BIG, but I dont see the 6 pack yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 02:38 PM
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I am not sure what you want. Often the main event is a "fuck me or fuck you" conversation, but it strikes me that what you want is to have more control over her, not more affection/sex/etc. Am I right? If not, please clearly explain what it is that you want. Because when you say: However, if in the next couple days she reverses course and pleads guilty and promises to do everything I say, I am not sure I want to forgive her and giver her another chance. It sounds like you want obedience.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 12:52 AM
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she once got my dad so riled up that he shoved her. Police were called and he was out of the house for a few months. She has gotten in my face yelling and screaming... and more importantly- she has blocked the exit from the room. I make sure I am not trapped before engaging her now.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 06:15 PM
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How is your sex life? (quantity and quality) Still haven't ever had PIV sex, although the blowjobs have gotten much more enthusiastic. Is this a typo? You other field report references a lot of sex, but here you are saying you haven't ever had penis in vagina sex.....?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 06:13 PM
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what up button?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 02:01 PM
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Make sure you get ketosis strips to test yourself. Atkins shakes and bars are a great way to suppliment your snacks at work. I also make a huge dish from Caveman Keto like their chili and then take a tuperware of it each day to work for lunch. Dont go too hard too fast - that is setting yourself up for failure. Remember the loss of sugar is going to mess with your energy levels until they broaden out. Let black coffee help you through that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 01:33 PM
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How long you have implemented red pill into your marriage? 1 1/2 years to 2 years. Where are you at on the 12 Levels of Dread? Dread level 5 How long have you been married, and how is it going? A little over 15 years. 2 kids. Marriage was is a deadbedroom before MRP. Now I am the captain again and it has been smooth sailing for the most part. The marriage is very strong. How is your sex life? (quantity and quality) With MRP it has increased to the quantity I want (2-3 times a week). Her period a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 01:17 PM
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With much of what you are saying, if we use the word confidence: I completely agree. I was looking at the traditional definition of Ego, and I think that is where the semantics come into play. I dont agree with the suggestion that a strong Ego is blind to introspection and evolution. What does MRP really do? It puts it back on you, the man Amen.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/16 07:58 PM
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Ego on the other hand, can prevent you from seeing a situation for what it truly is, which can lead to you deciding no plan is needed or making a faulty plan because you misread the situation because you failed to see reality. You are only looking at the negative extremes- When you are so cocky you dont think you need to make a plan (too much ego). You are jumping right past the benefit of Ego, where you take on more than 'reality' would dictate you can handle, and thus you struggle and progress…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/16 07:08 PM
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I will take a look and consider - however my mindset right now is that there are a lot of benefits from having somewhat of an ego, in the sense of self confidence, belief in yourself, and putting yourself first. Of course someone can be too cocky, too full of themselves. However I would rather that be my problem to solve rather than to try to raise up a weak, self-hating defeated version of myself into someone worth while. and as far as MRP sexual strategy? Women get wet for a man with confidenc…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/16 04:01 PM
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keep up the good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/16 02:51 PM
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A very good point. I am having great success with my wife, thanks to the red pill mindset, however i was not aware of how One-itis was blocking my path to success with my sister and parents. I received a lot of good advice from fellow redpillers in a post about this, if you need specific guidance on parents/siblings. It can be found here
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/16 02:26 PM
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your post is short on details, so we do not know what level of dread you are at, and what level you need to be at.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/16 03:37 AM
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thanks. I will carry the grin from the moment I enter their house.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/16 03:34 AM
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yes, I am hoping that proves to be true... having a urology keep an eye on it just in case.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/16 03:33 AM
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your right, concern and caring for your parents is the same as post wall whore. /s
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/16 03:32 AM
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hey look everybody - I have a fan! I made it!!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/16 03:30 AM
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will do. thanks. For clarification, it is not that I care about her or this shit, it is that she escalates it to complete meltdown hysterics which ruins the family activity.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/16 03:28 AM
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Acta, non verba. I will plan to be better at this. I will refuse to discuss this childish stuff with her, and give it just the absurd look and the comical laugh that it deserves- and continue with my visit.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 08:38 PM
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I have. She... keeps pushing. I have told her she should go into sales... she is the type that wont drop something until you agree (or she goes ballistic, as with me because I wont agree).
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 08:36 PM
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thanks. some hard truths. I do not want to lose what little I have left with my parents. It really pisses me off, with them getting so old, that she is dominating them like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 08:35 PM
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thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 08:27 PM
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no where do I ask for sympathy. I stayed because of my mom and dad. Moms health is deteriorating and I do not know how much time I have left with the both of them. I have attempted to just cut my sister out of my life, but all big family events are at my parents (where I cant ban her) and my mother's despair when my sister and I parted ways became so great she had a breakdown. so, for sake of my original family, I am trying to find another path forward, a way to handle this instead of nexting. p…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 06:26 PM
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I get a 1 ml vial of testosterone Cypionate from the pharmacy every 2 weeks, and inject it myself in the butt cheek. This is prescribed by a urologist who is keeping an eye on my prostate numbers, as that is the main danger from taking T.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 06:08 PM
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find a good urologist
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 06:06 PM
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Nice to know I am not alone! I am ok not changing her - I just want her to be cordial at family events. Problem is that family events are at my parents house because of my mom's poor medical condition, and I can't kick her out of my parents house. I would love to be able to shut that shit down. Every tactic I have tried just blows her up bigger. has your sister responded well to the oldest teenage treatment?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 05:59 PM
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I had low energy, low libido and some ED issues. It has helped a little with all of that- but not as much as I want it to. I have been doing it for about 7 months now. I see the doc next month to check numbers again.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 05:55 PM
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with that reply it sounds like you are on the right path back to sanity.
/r/askTRP24/06/16 05:52 PM
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do you want to be her lover? do you want to be her new boyfriend? What type of work and personal relationship do you want, and how will the 2 coexist? How do you think this will end? Now, imagine the worst possible way this could end - can you survive that?
/r/askTRP24/06/16 04:22 PM
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You are completely in her frame - this post is all about her, and you never reveal what you want. Without knowing that, we cant help you. dont shit where you eat. do not flirt with girls on company IM, do not date or plate girls in your office. They can easily fuck your career and get rewarded for doing so. so.. dont be stupid.
/r/askTRP24/06/16 03:39 PM
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My T was very low, and I am now taking testosterone cypionate shots twice a week. If anyone needs advice or insight on this, let me know.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 01:55 PM
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stop porn and masturbating. there is a nofap subreddit that can help you. In the shower, practice the edge technique.
/r/askMRP24/06/16 01:51 PM
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lol. every once in a while, Stone seems to have a heart.
/r/askMRP24/06/16 01:39 PM
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This is so textbook i am going to assume it is a troll post. If it is not, I feel bad for you man. Sorry you are going through this. Here are a few quick answers. I will be happy to go more in depth if it comes out this is not a troll and that you actually will foollow thorough and make an effort. You wife is not attracted to you, and the reasons are in your answer itself (you have her on a pedestal). If you want her, you need to change that, and reading the books on the sidebar can help. You do…
/r/askMRP24/06/16 01:38 PM
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"I got this." best answer to so many issues people have here.
/r/askMRP24/06/16 01:24 PM
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continue doing the bills. She will harp on this - hold your frame and defeat the shit test for what it is. nothing I say to her will get her off my case This is a great quote. apply this to almost everything... and you get the same answer. so... realize that answering by 'saying stuff' is not the solution. Maintain frame. stop the talking and DEERing. fucking lead.
/r/askMRP24/06/16 01:23 PM
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are you listening? This is the same feedback you got on MRP. Doing this is a bad idea. Not sure why you are cross-posting this.
/r/askMRP24/06/16 01:19 PM
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What do you really want? Your end question is about how to ask a girl who is not interested in you for sex. Beyond just getting off, what do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 11:37 PM
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1st, welcome. You finally posting is a good sign. Lets get to work. A lot of your effort has been to give you a better life - which is great and is one thing preached here. HOWEVER - I do not see in your post how you have stepped up to be the man of the family. How you are making great vacations, how you are a fun guy, how you are going to make the finances work. your focus is too much on her. you are doing these changes for her, and in hopes of pleasing her. Recognize this. Think about the man …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 11:29 PM
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first, welcome! It reads like you are doing really well. So how do I deal with her jealousy? You don't deal with her jealousy - she does. so let that hamster spin. Should I still attempt to provide comfort to her when I consider these requests for my time to be irrational? You can provide comfort and support when you are there - but this does not mean giving up your time. I would encourage her to join you, and if she says no, that is her call to try to control the environment and circumstances y…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 06:57 PM
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well, you bent over like a little bitch, and so the guy fucked you harder. Why are you surprised?
/r/askTRP23/06/16 04:36 PM
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nice - I will have to give that a try! Wife got the copper mugs so these have become a nice summer evening tradition.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 04:27 PM
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here you go... do I win? Or maybe I should just get the tattoo "Happy wife, happy life"
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 03:53 PM
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"It's a Trap!" - Admiral Ackbar Seriously, the warning here is if this is something you are looking to do to then talk and share with your wife. Hell it could get her on board! <--sarcasm Your relationship mission statement should be reflected on, and be a part of your life goals and MAP. Some would argue they already did this when they wrote their vows. I cannot help but think you are creating work all for the mental masturbation reward that you feel you have accomplished something by thinking …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 03:44 PM
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Very interesting - thank you for sharing. In avoiding too many prescriptions, I have been easing off my alcohol and inches off my waistline with the following: glass of water before any alcohol drink - and a glass of water between every drink extreme light beer (Ultra for the low carbs) or low calorie/carb drinks (vodka tonic with a twist of lime.) only rarely have a fancy/fat-filled heavy drink for flavor, and only as the first drink - so those White Russians, Moscow mules, or Margaritas are no…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 03:34 PM
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welcome - here is my elevator pitch for MRP which gives you a concise breakdown and first steps - and more importantly, get to reading the leftside and lifting!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 08:50 PM
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good stuff. You are leading. My wife used to always say she didn't like muscles on men... but then why did she go see magic Mike with her friends? She told me I didnt need to work out, that she liked my dadbod. Now she grabs my arms during lovemaking and gets really into it. look at what they do, not what they say :)
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 08:21 PM
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I get what you are saying... But for the new MRP'ers out the gate, I would not encourage making this self-improvement plan into a 'us' improvement plan. hard enough to just fix you, let alone a marriage. And the initial goal is to fix the individual.... hell they might decide after doing so that the marriage inst worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 06:39 PM
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Telling (not asking) your wife that you are changing your diet to atkins/keto/Mediterranean/whatever, and that would need certain food items from the store makes perfect sense (and in my post that is under 'logistics" and "to tell what You are going to do, as statements." I would caution against sharing a vision beyond anything very vague like "I am working on a better me, for me" - and I would definitely not bring it up. (let your actions introduce this). keep in mind that the first 6 months is…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 04:32 PM
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You wife is sleeping in the boys room as it avoids any sex initiation from you. I solved this issue by taking charge and putting them to bed myself, breaking them of this dependency. Your wife is also turned on by your brother and his flirting. This will happen, and your attempts to control it by talking to your wife and brother as very beta. My group of friends always makes swinging jokes, some of them seriously. I handle it by being the biggest flirt, and constantly working toward that 3some w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 04:03 PM
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That same year, researchers at St. Andrew's University in Scotland concluded that women seem to desire different types of men at different times of the month. When they are most likely to conceive, they are attracted to men who have very masculine features, preferring more feminine men when they are not ovulating. A fact we already knew. If your wife is ovulating and not wanting to fuck you- you have BIG problems.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 02:42 PM
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that is actually the one I have printed up!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 02:01 PM
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maybe. but lets talk real here and stop the circle jerk. you do have the money for this trip. You could make this happen. We both know that. Hell another post in this thread you are talking about how you have aggressively paid off one of the cars, how good you are with the finances. So it is not that you are too poor to go - it is that it doesnt work in the current financial plan you are following. so.... don't you think she knows this, and that maybe your motivations could be that you don't lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 05:17 PM
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you tell your wife it is due to finances.. she might think it is because you dont like disney. You try to answer this logically - and logic dont work on feelings son!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 05:03 PM
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You backed it up by breaking frame and escalating. When she shit-tested you about your leadership, you failed. She accuses you of being a controlling male, and you respond by giving her a speech about how you are in control? You know we don't answer shit tests. You got off the broken record "We don't have the money"... and not by going with A&A - you broke frame and you went to the "Captain/First Officer speech" C'mon man - you know that a real leader does not have to tell people to follow them.…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 04:32 PM
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You only lose the edge and mystery if you totally fail. I disagree. All you are doing is setting up an expectation that you are now expected to meet. Where is the edge in that? Also keep in mind that the more you talk and explain, the less her hamster has to talk and explain what is going on. The hamster is your friend and will paint you in a better light than they see themselves.... so you want to let that hamster run on that wheel. For a male like OP, a lack of communicating intentions is not …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 08:45 PM
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Failure is expected, perseverance is demanded. I actually have to do the work for myself to get the real gains. Solid gold
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 05:29 PM
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I would post how this guy gets it, but I don't want to validate him.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 05:26 PM
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I know you are trying, and I don't want to discourage you - but dude. Talking is easy- and it aint an accomplishment. Stop talking. Just stop. If you are going to do MRP, then Acta Non Verba. You dont tell her there will be a new you - you SHOW her. Shut the hell up and let your actions speak for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 02:45 PM
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I coach and I am right there with you on this. I always loved this line from the movie The Incredibles Mom: Everyone is special Dash. Dash: which is another way of saying no one is. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1E9pKU_N15A Off topic - I would argue that the movie "The Incredibles"has a lot of RP truths in it. Look at what this sequence from once Mr Incredible starts lifting again, and takes charge of his life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWt0-dy3s4E
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 02:42 PM
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I have the following quote on my desk at work: When you start to feel sad, always remember to stop being a bitch and no one cares. So I agree with your sentiment. Dad to dad, I would encourage provoking thought with leading guidance, instead of telling them what to do. We want them to think straight, not just obey. for example: As he walked back to the dugout I saw the chin quiver and his eyes were fucking furious & sad. I said "So what are you going to do now? Will you let this defeat you, will…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 01:51 PM
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good luck on your journey - it sounds like your head is on right and you are on your way... keep marching.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 10:06 PM
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if you can't take it, don't dish it. I was flirting with my wife, and commenting that with her period ending, that she would finally be getting what she needs. She threw a few digs back that she didnt need what I had to offer. She was trying to be playful, but it stung, because I carry a lot of baggage on her lack of needing sex in the previous years of our marriage. I got quiet and distant, and it was apparent to her that I was butthurt. so, lesson learned - Do not be butthurt, do not dish what…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 10:03 PM
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I'm guessing OP forgot to get some estrogen blockers, and at the end of his cycle... don't do that. gawd i spit my coffee on this one. I should save it for most of the posts like this... classic.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 09:16 PM
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oh I completely agree - why did he get married? I just don't want him to think that changing the woman would solve his problem. His lack of frame and leadership will teach women how to treat him (ie: badly)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 09:00 PM
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I don't think the solution is for him to get a different woman. His behavior would be the same and the next one will walk all over him as well. he needs to change how he acts if he wants better results with this or any future girl
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 03:26 PM
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There was a good post here last week about "I'll handle it". I would strongly suggest that you stop delegating logistical decisions to her. She wants to go to a concert in DC? "Great. I'll handle it. We are going out the front door at 4:00. Pack an overnight bag.". You are dead right here - he did not lead at all. His post is full of complaints, like her getting a pizza... but where was his leadership in handling the plans for food? She is in charge, likely because he wont be.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 03:23 PM
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to the original poster: @brucewillisondrums - You have failed and this is completely your fault. Here is why: You failed to lead. She is making everything here happen, and the 1 thing you take on (giving directions) is done last minute and communicated poorly. She is being the LEADER here by default, because you wont step up. You constantly broke frame. You are not consistent in your emotional state or your ability to handle your woman. You fight to end the argument and then you start it back up…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 03:15 PM
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Pay attention men - there is an important lesson from this post. *In life, you can either be a victim or the victor. You cannot be both. * The victor is responsible for his actions. He takes the blame for everything and because he takes such responsibility, he has the power to change it. Thus, he can change himself and the world. The appeal to be the victim is that it makes you free from the responsibility of what happens - others are the blame. But this also robs you of the power to change it -…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 02:38 PM
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welcome- it is never too late. I am in a very similar boat as you - not quite as old, and about a year ahead in swallowing and implementing the pill. It is a worthy journey. to your questions: So I’m thinking of letting her continue to manage the household finances. My wife did fine with our finances too - but this is a must step. It is a key action that defines you as in charge and as the leader. I am using YNAB so she can still see what is going on and it still follows our dave ramsey financia…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 09:16 PM
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thanks - i will take a look. rereading with greater focus the Sex God Method book as well. I think part of my likely issue is that she doesnt know how to be a great lover.. of course that could be me being bling to her previous experiences, like most men are... but this is the vibe I get from her.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 06:38 PM
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Good guidance for those trying to get sex with the wife - and I am good there, getting the frequency to higher than my own libido. The challenge before me is to improve the quality of the sex - to go from a partner that s unadventurous, quiet, and inactive, sometimes due to insecurity and sometimes starfishing - to an enthusiastic partner that works up a sweat as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 06:36 PM
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love to hear how you changed your paradigm. I am working on improving my quality and could use some FR's in this regard.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 05:27 PM
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ok - I will play one more round, to see who is trolling who. My initial comment in this chain: if she was blackout drunk, then she can't give consent. Don't hate the player, hate the game... I was then challenged over whether she was black-out drunk or passed out drunk- and the definitions of each. My point is that she cannot give consent in either condition. Do you have an argument to counter that? Or do you want to continue with insults?
/r/TheRedPill13/06/16 04:30 PM
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So you have only been presented with duty sex once in your life, but you are an expert in defining it, with how to overcome and defeat it?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 04:01 PM
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Why don't you tell me why the difference matters? Should a man have sex with a girl in either condition?
/r/TheRedPill13/06/16 03:57 PM
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If my wife told me there would be no sex for 18 months, and there was not a doctor's note to justify this, then I would tell her that I would not accept such a marriage, and that we were divorcing. Now with that being said, understand that when a child is born, you have a few factors that get in the way of sex for a good while: physical exhaustion from around the hour breastfeeding and caring for a newborn stitches and physical recovery from a vaginal birth. possible post-partum depression. So I…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 03:09 PM
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Congrats! Love seeing reports like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/16 10:04 PM
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Very good FR. You took a lot of ownership. A few thoughts: Up the dread- when she asked if you thought you were looking better- that was a great chance to say something like "Well the girls at work bring it up. They are rally getting to be chatty Kathys with me when I am trying to get work done. " I think saying no to bad sex is ok, as long as it is not punitive which could create emotional baggage that can weigh down future sexing. I.E.- don't put her down telling her she sucks at sex. However …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/16 12:22 PM
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Just be careful not to buy into the "happy wife, happy life" philosophy.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/16 11:00 AM
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And with this reply you are still in her frame. Still talking about her wants. Hell, at least you mentioned what you think I might want. (wrong, btw). What do you want? And why isnt that part of your equation? OK, let's use an example of your own making to illustrate this. Proposal: Grope your wife. Now what we see you weighing this decision: Does she want to be groped? She has said she doesn't, and she is compliant in 99% of everything else. And then you make the decision to not grope her. Why …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 11:08 PM
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Of course we are going to point out areas he can do better, and things we think are wrong. If you are looking for a circle-jerk of praise, this isnt the subreddit for you. Example: My girl's not big into lots of kino all the time, and escalating every day is definitely a non-starter, as she likes me to run cool and let her chase me her part of the time. "Ooooh! she's being the gatekeeper" "I'm doing it wrong!" "That's not what the book says!". Yeah? too bad. Knowing what is going to work and wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 09:48 PM
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Some good improvements - But allow me to play devil's advocate, and see if a different perspective offers you some insight. I decided that since I wanted a clean house, I would have a clean house. So I cleaned it. As the leader, you are not delegating or empowering your team - you are doing it yourself (the cleaning). Thankfully, she picked up on the hidden meaning and realized that she was not putting in any effort towards this goal. You are purposefully not being direct and are thankful that s…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 07:16 PM
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6 in front of kids she treats me like shit , in public she never sits with me she insults me in public like anything in front of relatives she is ok with me . why do you tolerate this?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 01:50 PM
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We all make mistakes- sounds like you learned from them and are on a better path - I hope you dodge psychos like this in the future
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 01:47 PM
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I think that is very telling. His only comment to suggest whether the sex stuff was good or bad was whether or not she gave him a shit test the next day. He is all about how she reacts.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 01:43 PM
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You are adjusting your behavior and desires to what she is comfortable with. You think this a win because her shit tests are down, and because you have learned how to be ok with this. Here are the obvious problems with this: You assume she knows what she wants. Consider the possibility that she doesnt. From her foreplay activity to her immediate negative response to all things, she is only doing what she has learned, and like all of us, she is not a master at life - she has not figured it all ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 01:40 PM
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hmmm... maybe the fact that she was unconscious? Not a hard rule to follow dude- don't sex a girl who is out cold.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/16 11:55 PM
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if she was blackout drunk, then she can't give consent. Don't hate the player, hate the game...
/r/TheRedPill08/06/16 07:17 PM
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there is something missing here. You say you were silent and after a few minutes of silent she complains about how you were treating her. So... how were you treating her? More to the point, your FR is heavy on what she does and says, and light on YOU - which suggest you are still in her frame, instead of focusing on what you did, what you can do better.
/r/askMRP07/06/16 09:31 PM
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good FR, and congrats! For me, I would say the 3 words are "I got this." The difference is subtle, but "I got this" implies I am taking ownership of a problem that I want to address and handle. Saying "I'll handle it" could imply you are responding to her, and taking care of a problem she wants you to fix... this could suggest she is leading you. just a little nitpick over coffee this afternoon.....
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 03:19 PM
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you are putting as much effort into this post as you are putting into your marriage. Why dont you tell us what you did wrong, and what you think you could have done better?
/r/askMRP06/06/16 10:01 PM
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Simple rule to know what kind of test it is: If it is about YOU it is a shit test.. IE "You need to change..." If it is about HER, then it could be a comfort test.. IE "I don't think I am attractive anymore" This was a shit test. You did an OK job with it, just be careful not to DEER. Say No, smirk, and move on with life. (dont discuss). Remember, you are leading her, so if you respond with A&A and make her request sound silly and ridiculous, she is likely to follow the reality that you set.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 09:53 PM
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wait, what? when I first recognize that my wife didn't do something that I wish she had (clean the house, make dinner, fuck me, etc.) instead of just stewing on it and let it build into a blow-up moment, I tell her that she's got a hot ass and then I go do something that needs to be done (lift,read, fix something, play with my kids, etc). So if she doesn't do what is expected, you reward her with a compliment? I am going to assume I do not need to go into why this leads to a bad dynamic. How abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 07:20 PM
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TL:DR Don’t Ever Get Married. Learn from my mistakes. I implore you. I'm not perfect, but i tried to be the best husband and father that I could. If you can be bothered to read this, it will show you what can happen when a woman, even your wife…mother of your kids, decides you are no longer needed You leave out the key fact that you were blue pill beta during this experience. If you were red pill during your marriage would things be different? maybe. (I am not sure, with how crazy this girl soun…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 05:59 PM
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I am so sorry for what you are going through. You are being there for your wife, for your family, during this difficult time. You manned up, you are leading and taking care of business. In the end, that is the secret - it is who we are, not what we get for it. Keep it up and good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 08:37 PM
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I also recently took over the finances, and it is a must step in being the leader. I would not say your financial move led to your wife's submission - in fact, she was the instigator and planned the whole sexy couch time, right? You did what she said. ...which is fine. You had a good time and Sex God Method teaches us that variety is the spice of life. I am just saying that your title is misleading. I don't always agree with the brutality of rhetoric on this sub, but the message is always right:…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 04:57 PM
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LOL - I enjoyed this.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 02:04 PM
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depends on whether that escort is a male or female!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 01:56 PM
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A quote I love - very applicable to this conversation - https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/69/8b/c2/698bc2c678e51f8fcaa7ce42ea7f38da.jpg
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 01:55 PM
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the camo I wear is the 'Coach' jersey - works great!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 01:49 PM
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No prostitution does not work. The very act of soliciting a prostitute is placing women on a pedestal- one that you have to PAY to access. Prostitutes have sex with you because of a financial contract. Not because of attraction and not because of desire. Not because you are alpha - hell they will sleep with a fat beta-bitch for the same price. The very act makes them the prize and the person with worth. And that makes you the lesser person who has to PAY to get it. I dont know why there are so m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 08:44 PM
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Glad to see the growth. Disappointed in TRP trying to create their own MRP brand... didnt they passionately argue that what we were doing was all wrong, because Marriage should never occur? I recall how upset they got because of the phrase that MRP is Red Pill on hard mode. ...those kids have no idea!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 04:28 PM
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Good point here. It might be about preference, but the appeal of cheating on my wife is the thrill of the hunt - of seducing another woman into bed. With a prostitute it would just be a purchase- so unless there is a crazy fetish the wife wont do, for me there is no appeal. to each their own.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 04:19 PM
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Even in a poor quality post, you can find responses like this that offer wisdom, guidance, and a sincere desire to help the original poster. That is what I like about this community.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 01:59 PM
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Some basic truths that I believe all BETA BLUE-PILLED WEAK BITCH married dudes on here will come to corroborate : There, I fixed that for you. Your A) and B) solutions are those posed for and by a BETA. an ALPHA would not accept either one. Read the sidebar, lift, and get do the work. -or continue your genius idea that you can PAY your way out of your failed relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 01:53 PM
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The brain is an imperfect organ, that will toss everyone for a loop at some point in their lives. You have to learn how to use your brain to exist as best as you can - and the psychology branding of mental ailments unfortunately has led to the idea that you are not responsible - that it is not your fault. No matter how fucked up your brain is, dont choose to be a victim. Man up and adjust to be the best man you can be.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 01:47 PM
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Well said. The initial post discusses the merits of the idea that: "prostitutes are the accepted solution to the "my wife lost interest in sex" problem afflicting affluent middle aged men. " In debating the viability of this, we miss the bigger issue - a wife who wont fuck her husband. At MRP, we are focused on self improvement and self respect that will lead to either the wife fucking the husband or the husband telling his wife to fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 01:41 PM
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What I have instilled in my son: "We are (Last Name) - we do not pay for women or sex. If others are worthy and treat us right, we might give them our time..." So take some pride in yourself. if you are the prize, then people should be investing in you, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 01:29 PM
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am I missing something? You keep on referring to you being a dildo or dick that she gets to use... ..what is the problem there? Sounds like a woman who wants your dick... Are you mad that she put up some soft resistance the first time you initiated shower sex when she could not lock the door? You got a soft no. You will almost always get shit tests and soft nos when you initiate. The trick is learning how to push through them. ...not getting mad and then going monk mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 09:34 PM
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I get your feelings. We have been there. Your solution is wrong. Do not deny her sex. Do not deny yourself sex with her. the are very FEW exceptions to this, like saying no to starfish sex if you are at the point of improving quality after you have obtained your quantity. Here is another way to look at it. You are the leader of your family. The alpha captain, right? With this behavior from you, how are you leading her to a richer sexual life with you?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 09:28 PM
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I completely get that, and I have the to-do list that I have put together on what needs to be done... and I am working through it. My frustration was also partly from the fact that this was our 45 minute window of being kid--free, and she chose that time to discuss such issues. Now on reflection, I realize it wasnt a conscious choice on her part, and I could have handled it, swatted it down and carried forth with my desires. But my anger led me to a place of not caring. I did not want her anymor…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 02:06 PM
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The more that men try to give women what they think they want... the more women look elsewhere. can we just change the phrase to: "happy wife, marital strife"
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 02:00 PM
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good point - thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 01:41 PM
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exactly. blocking him is just denying you information that can be used in court.
/r/askMRP26/05/16 05:28 PM
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so you are not doing a fucking thing wrong? Your world is burning down around you, but it is because of everyone else. Play the victim if you want, but that takes away all the power to fix it.
/r/askMRP26/05/16 05:27 PM
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Your post is about her, how stupid she is, and why cant she see things the right way. This way of thinking will not help you. You can't change her. You can only change yourself, and in doing so, attract her, for a period of time. that is it. I demand she tell me its over so I can just hear and move on. You need her permission to make decisions for your life, for your son? By even saying that, you are looking in her eyes as the ultimate beta bitch. It is time to take out the tampon and man up. I …
/r/askMRP26/05/16 05:22 PM
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exactly. I see one huge covert contract being made.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 03:27 PM
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Have the hard conversation with him. Explain to him the facts from your perspective. That he is responsible for how his wife treats him that if he doesnt change how he acts with women, that future women including this girl will learn to treat him like shit too That he made a vow to try to make this marriage work, and it doesnt look like he has tried fixing himself as part of that effort. That only a pussy runs from his problems - he should fix himself, and then choose to stay or go from that pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 01:57 PM
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When you are at the iron temple, you need to have something to pray for. You need to be able to funnel those feelings, the anger, the frustration, into the steel - otherwise the exasperation of the situation will lead you to talking yourself out of the workout, and you will be defeated. In other words, you need to get mind ripped as well - you need to be reading to clearly define your purpose. I would also advise you change your diet as well - go Keto or atkins while she is gone. I get the sarca…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 12:32 AM
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I would say that I have to reclaim the man I once was fuck that. Why be a man that let you down, dropped the ball and ruined your marriage? Why not strive to be a new man, a better man?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 08:48 PM
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You are improving your physical looks, but you know you are still not attractive.. but you are working on this so keep going. What are you doing to improve your frame? To stop the crying and emotional reaction, to take her off the pedestal you have placed her on? Why would she think you are a prize, if you wont? also - you put too much faith in her words. She is cheating on you bro. sorry.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 08:44 PM
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Why is the pill half white? Are you suggesting the red pill is Oxycodone?
/r/TheRedPill25/05/16 08:12 PM
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I know we say acta non verba - actions over words, but I have to share this one offhand comment I made a year back that had a lot of effect on my wife. Her: complaint/bitch/moan about me hitting on her My response: "You shouldn't be worrying about me hitting on you. You should worry when I stop." The key is to not add anything else to it, or discuss it any further, and to continue to withdraw. YMMV
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 06:46 PM
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I have had back pain issues as well - when I have those issues, I focus on Chest and Tricep exercises. The key is to isolate your back - so do barbell chest presses with your back on the bench. Do flys with a machine with your back against a pad, etc.
/r/askTRP25/05/16 03:10 PM
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There's no one, just you, and your own faggot brain, tripping you up every step of the way, for no reason other than it doesn't know any better. Fuck you brain, I'm building a better man here. Listen up for he speaks the truth! You are responsible for your failure, which also means you are powerful enough to make YOU great. Nice guidance, stonepimpletilists.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 01:38 PM
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Best thanks is to help the new lost souls that wander in here...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 08:27 PM
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Shit I am owning Doing a good job with handling the finances, first month in since I took it over- and she thought I would drop the ball here like I did in my twenties. Good to see her relaxing here and deferring to me. Kicked ass coaching girls soccer team this weekend for their tournament, for a big come from behind. Lots of IOI from soccer moms. Shit I need to own Continual back problems and physical therapy kept me from lifting for another week. Slipped in diet as well over the weekend. Good…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 02:22 PM
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nice FR- but dont regret the past. that will never do you any good. For me I had a similar result - when I became proud of my masculinity and sex drive, not ashamed of it.... that was when all arguments against it held no water, and she started to turn into my frame of sexlife.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 09:43 PM
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the swingers subreddit can help you with a lot of this - As to the jealousy question - you do NOT want to keep your girl from getting jealous - that drives her to compete for you. you are too motivated by her feels....dont go beta on us....
/r/askTRP23/05/16 07:42 PM
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Why are you sitting here debating problems you dont have? IF and WHEN you have a LTR girl who starts pushing the Marriage issue, then you cross this bridge.
/r/askTRP23/05/16 07:38 PM
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your right dude. No mistakes in your strategy at all - you did a great job. Hell, you didnt want to go out with her anyway. And you are right - ask TRP is where we should have intellectual discussions about how women should know how how bad they have it, and appreciate a decent man! That's the solution they preach here right? For women to change.... can someone make this dude a MOD? he is clearly the alpha. ;)
/r/askTRP23/05/16 06:18 PM
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Good FR I have not yet begun to realize many gains from lifting, but they are coming. You have to lift man. Until then it is all intellectual hyperbole. Lifting puts your words of change until visible action that she cannot unsee. the effect on yourself and your own outlook is remarkable.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 04:41 PM
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Ok - lets take an honest look: I'm really not bothered but I like to throw this out there for thought why people with disadvantages in the sexual market place fuck up their own chances. 1st - you are bothered - you just wrote a ton of paragraphs about it. 2nd - She gave you a shit test. If you know anything about red pill you know that All Women Are Like That. (AWALT). All women will shit test you to continuously determine if you are worthy. Women do not stop shit testing because they are "disad…
/r/askTRP23/05/16 04:25 PM
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man you are bitter and still in her frame. Look at how much you wrote about this.. LOL Hell, you rightly decided to NEXT her, so why the drama? If you are looking for guidance, you fucked up leaving it to her to choose the place in between. You failed the shit test when she suggested changing the place already decided. She is looking for a man to lead her, and you failed. learn and improve.
/r/askTRP23/05/16 03:01 PM
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She still sees you as a beta chump who will buy her a drink. If she is buying you one... then there might be a thought of plating her. not now.
/r/askTRP23/05/16 01:41 PM
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of course. the key is not to DEER. (Defend, explain, excuse, rationalize). Closest I think I came to that was the answer, "I was out. I had energy to burn."
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/16 03:11 AM
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I'm actually finding this funny. She asks why I'm laughing. I ask her "you don't find this funny?" The situation is satiracle to me. She is dubstruck. You have reached the point where you are no longer acting - welcome!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/16 04:45 PM
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I had numerous texts and voicemails asking why I left, where I was, etc. I went radio silent, so she had to converse with her hamster.... and her hamster will always make her out to the one to blame, the one with flaws and problems... so let it do the talking. her messages eventually included crying. It shook her up that I would leave. I felt bad about that, but did not cave. When I went home I just went to bed without conversation. And that is important - you ACT, you do not TALK. She woke me u…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/16 04:38 PM
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The one time I left the house after being turned down changed everything. It was also the last time I was turned down.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/16 06:15 PM
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MRP is not about saving a marriage. It is about making you a better man, whether you stay married or not. My condolences that your marriage did not work out - but I am happy for the significant growth you have made in yourself, which is making all of your future relationships soo much better.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/16 03:48 PM
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Whether it's flawless sidebar implementation that got you the oral or pure luck, have some fun. That is the point I was trying to convey. Instead of analyzing what is happening and being hypersensitive to how she is reacting... you need to just have some fun. And if you are not able to do this - then you are still not there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 06:37 PM
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Foolish to look for a rule like this to live and die by. If you enjoy a woman's company, and she treats you with respect, keeps you sexed... then keep seeing her. As far as whether a LTR should be married... we ll you are not there yet, right? You not even in a LTR, right? Stop thinking so much about "what if" situations and get out, get busy, get lifting, and get a life.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 03:48 PM
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I see your goal to help her, as she is acting to irrationally in front of the kids. Suggesting ways for her to get help and offering some comfort is understandable, as long as you do not let her manipulate you with her emotional extremes, where it becomes a family walking on eggshells around mom. My guidance was focused on her relating to you. In that circumstance, it is often better to let her hamster run.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 04:57 AM
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Sounds to me that you need some dread, which will put her hamster back to that initial stage of wooing you (because she will be afraid to lose you).
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/16 05:12 PM
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dont have her call you "Daddy"?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/16 06:40 PM
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Do not talk to your wife about MRP. First, because the mantra is Acta Non Verba - you show your changes and improvements, you do not talk about them. 2nd - because there is a lot of guy talk here that wives will NOT process properly, and it will be misunderstood. Do not get her books so she can change. First - because the focus is YOU changing, not her. This is all about YOU being the man she wants. 2nd - you want her changes come in response to you leading her, not from what some book tells her…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/16 04:43 PM
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Be very careful here. The betas that want to remain plugged in will resent you and turn on you and your marriage. What I do is the following: Friend bitches about his low-sex marriage Me: Yeah I hear you. I used to have those problems too. It sucked. Then leave it there. If you must, you can throw in a "If you ever want to talk about what I did to fix my situation, then let me know." But don't go any further. If they want to really fix their situation and are man enough to ask for advice, they w…
/r/askMRP16/05/16 02:16 PM
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YOU ARE DOING THIS WRONG MRP is about changing YOU , not her. You can never change another person. What you can do is take responsibility for what you do have control over --- and a lot of the problems you mention are ones we have seen a thousand times here. --and they are problems you own. let me make this clear - YOU are the problem here. She is not wanting to fuck you because you are not attracting her. She is not wanting to be a good wife because of YOU. Now, the good news is that because yo…
/r/askMRP16/05/16 02:05 PM
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talking is for logistics. affection is shown, not discussed. so answer with action, not words. "I feel like you don't love me any more" Go up to her and give her a passionate 10 second kiss. "You only want me for sex, but you don't even want me for that any more because I'm old and ugly go up, give her a hug and a kiss on the forehead.... and then start feeling her up. Mix in Action with your A&A.
/r/askMRP16/05/16 01:57 PM
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wow
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/16 03:47 AM
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well i wish them the best. Good of them to help others so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/16 04:51 PM
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what happened? I see their accounts have been deleted? Was it by choice or was it a banhammer?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/16 04:20 PM
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She has a lower libido. Do not take this as science. I have seen many women who claimed low libido in marriage drastically change and have that 'ailment' go away when either a) their husband take the red pill and becomes her alpha or b) they split up, and suddenly she is riding the CC again, and out having fun 1-night stands. Sure - there could be some medical factors, such as the pill she is on. Have her hormones checked. But you need to know - a lot of claimed "low libido" comes down to the gi…
/r/askTRP13/05/16 02:12 PM
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she is already claiming the low libido during courtship - that is a problem. I would have to ask what YOU want - your goals. Do you want kids? how many? How many years of marriage before kids? When do you want them off of your finances so you can retire? This is the math problem people forget about. So lets do this. we will go with the average choice. 2 years of marriage before kids, and then 2 kids total that are close in age. That is really pushing it with what you have given us. Lets assume s…
/r/askTRP12/05/16 07:02 PM
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It has been hard for me to find good mrp books on audiotape. recommended links?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/16 03:41 AM
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yeah, I am pretty good at throwing the wit as a cover, but it still dwells in my mind.. I have been trying to avoid tying massages to sex, because I did not want to create a choreplay relationship... but maybe I will give that a go.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/16 03:40 AM
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thanks. this helps. It is all on me and I accept that.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/16 03:38 AM
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When I got home, I told her to pause here TV show and told her that I was sorry for blowing up her shit on her graduation day(because I am, I could have waited till tomorrow to push the issue), but my expectations are that our sex life improve. You should not be apologizing for this. In fact, you should stop all use of the word sorry for at least 1 month.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 01:57 PM
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I am leading with: Back in the gym and lifting (after month break due to back injury). back on the atkins low carb diet. Areas of concern: frame and attitude is overall good - I am not having angry outbursts, and I am bringing more joy and sarcasm. However there are some discussions or responses where I should respond lighthearted and with sarcasm, and instead I get serious and at times quiet. I need to get my IDGAF back... I am talking way too much. I allowed myself to get pulled into a convers…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 01:39 PM
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BY making light of it - thus your are putting forth the frame that it her complaints / issues are small things we can joke about. And this also plays well into you being the fun guy that doesnt get bent out of shape and take things too seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/16 03:04 PM
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what - you think she wants to hear your feelings? what you are struggling with, what doubts you have in life? She wants to hear that you got this.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 09:09 PM
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I say- while pulling her directly into my frame "Then you will do what I want tonight and you will not be tired ......." great. You have now set up the "I will do this for you = I get sex after" arrangement. Enjoy your choreplay.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 09:08 PM
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I know what you are going through - my wife is also "anti-submissive"- hell the first time I spanked her she spanked me back! A lot of the advice here hits on a key concept. You have to hold frame and not lose your swagger. The best way to do this, as many have offered examples of- is to A&A, be playful, and make light of it - because you should make light of her attempts at dominance instead of letting them break your frame. You should definitely not argue them. You should definitely not get bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 08:15 PM
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Blue - you have mentioned in the past that your wife is a very smart lawyer who is in charge at work, and that before you figured all of this out, she was not so dirty and submissive to you. I would love to hear some FR of this transition - when you first pushed the boundaries into the promised land.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 08:10 PM
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what? I believe even the veterans here still have to push through LMR with their wives. I would be happy to do without it, but now I just look at it as foreplay, like shit tests.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 06:31 PM
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I agree, and would add to this that masturbation does that as well (another reason why to go nofap) If you guys have not seen this Ted talk on Porn's effect on the male brain, it is worth a view
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 06:29 PM
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know the difference between comfort tests and shit tests. If she is saying "I, I , I" it is a comfort test. "You, You You" is a shit test. She(weeping):"I can't take this. I am hanging at the edge in this relationship. I might just slip away." This is a comfort test. You can provide comfort without giving in to the veined threat.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 05:26 PM
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How about a simple statement that a pet is a bad idea for a marriage that is heading to divorce. Would that be a shock to her? I would bet yes. It sounds like you have a lot of covert contracts- No, you cannot talk her into desire- it cannot be negotiated... but does she know you are not OK with the status quo? Does she know you are unhappy in this marriage? Seriously. I am not talking about you getting emotional with her. But have you told her that this marriage is not working? You need to.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 04:48 PM
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One possible contributor to this problem is porn. If you are using porn, I recommend you stop asap (and consider NoFap). Porn can have the effect (especially if it the only sex you have had for 8 months) of creating unrealistic sex that your mate cannot match, and thus your attraction and desire is deflated. You have a real person with you, not a plastic porn-star with great acting skills, acrobatic abilities, and perfectly timed moaning.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:51 PM
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Here, you allowed her lack of enthusiasm to bring you down, and into HER frame. Don't do this next time. That is not easy to do when it is a physical reaction that you cannot control. I have a similar issue, where at times my wife's LMR comments can kill my hard-on. Maybe the solution is that all of this is being taken way to seriously, and he (and I ) need to adopt more of an IDGAF attitude - perhaps that is the path forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:45 PM
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ah.. this is my problem. thanks. It is so hard to get out of your head. I was getting an unsolicited BJ yesterday, which would be considered a great win, but I was pressuring for her to deepthroat (something she has never done) and she was resisting, so it got to be a battle of wills instead of the good times that were intended. The advice that helped me a lot when I started down the MRP path was to just go caveman and not worry about her getting off.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:40 PM
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this is really good - thanks. I will follow your guidance. yes - she is very OI. As I am now as well, we are both going separate ways. I am not finding success with her turning submissive and following - so it is turning into a test of wills. You suggest I have not been OI - but in that very conversation with her, I told her that I would be ok with us continuing to grow distant - I just wanted her to be aware that it was happening, because of her. Internally - I am at peace with where this can g…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:00 PM
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You make a good point. I fully realize and accept I can not find my emotional support in her - and as that is somethign I want, I assumed it was something she would as well (hell, she is in the role for me to offer that beta comfort)... so maybe this is why this bothered me so much, because she didnt seem to want the emotional support. Good to have this self reflection. I will not push onto her my assumptions of what she wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 02:51 PM
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good point - perhaps she will not dump on me emotionally because she does not think i can handle it - another good argument to have a strong frame and be the oak. I also think her own doubt and insecurities is a lot of the reasons behind the walls she keeps up, and how quickly she gets defensive. thanks for the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 02:34 PM
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damn. Ok - you bring up a few good points for me to look at . And I am also picking up on the mantra that my conversation, no matter how unemotional and stoic it was, completely failed. Act non verba. got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 12:08 AM
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thanks BP. I will get busy. But to clarify the crux of the issue - It is not that I am needing her or going to her for emotional support. Sure I miss it, but I now know better that to hit her up for it. What has thrown me here is that she is not needing me for emotional support.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 12:05 AM
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giving this some greater thought - I could see a concern TRP might have with one difference we have in implementation of red pill. We are not as quick to suggest NEXTING. But I do not see why that would be a threat.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 11:02 PM
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Not sure where you are getting that. Since taking the red pill, we now have sex as often as I like.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 11:00 PM
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I could see TRP having an issue if we were advocating for people to get married. I don't see anyone here doing that. We are red pill and married. It would be like creating a subreddit for red pill men that are currently in the military, where they could discuss their unique circumstances, and how to apply the pill to that life. I dont see why his panties are in a wad.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 10:51 PM
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I was actually a bit surprised. My assumption was that she wanted more than just sex as a connecting/bonding tool - and wondered why she was not pushing for it. The conversation cemented that what she sees as our bonding tool is... sex. who knew? I can't help but worry a bit about an emotional affair - that she has to be getting her emotional needs met somewhere... but maybe not.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 08:40 PM
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Well I brought this subject up, but perhaps I was just triggering a shit test on myself, or perhaps giving her a layup so she can dunk a shit test on top of me... As far as how I handled it - I didn't go all "feewings". My statements were logical. I said we were growing apart, not that i was sad or it hurt or anything like that.In fact I said we could go that way - but I wanted her to be aware of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 08:34 PM
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No one really cares for you - but you. The awesome part of that is that you are now all powerful to make your life great - because now you are counting on yourself, someone who you can count on.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 07:39 PM
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Why not be honest? I am seeing a lot of covert contracts in your posts - and Birthday's are often the granddaddy of them, when we expect and think we deserve special treatment but never explicitly ask for it. Keep in mind that often covert contracts fail because the other person doesnt know about the contract. that is on you. For example - she might now think that you really like that beer, because of your lying answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 07:37 PM
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Yes, I do miss companionship. But I don't miss the disdain, disrespect, and lack of desire. I needed to see that. good reminder of what the cost is for such intimacy.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 07:27 PM
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good point. Working on developing better male friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 05:50 PM
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thanks for your reply and advice. PS..this is not a license to remove emotional support. You are the man, this flows from you like water to those you love. Its a reminder (or lesson) that its unnatural to expect her to do same for you. You are the one who takes care of her needs, not the other way around. The issue here that has thrown me for a curve is: What is she comes across as not needing you to take care of her needs. If she appears not needing or wanting emotional support. that is what ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 05:48 PM
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I have read the sidebar. Year+ into my MAP. Lift 3 times a week (except for blip of last 2 weeks due to back injury). Talk on my PT visit was not a "woe is me, it hurts" type chat. It was about a new exercise which is pretty cool. I get your perspective that this was a Blue pill step. But I do not get any vibe of repulsion from her.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 05:44 PM
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Good points. I have put together a few things for us like you suggest - such as signing us up for mud runs that we do together. But you hit me squarely with this line: She also acts like the guy in the relationship That was the case a few years back, and then it seems to be a battle of who can be more 'guy'. I thought I have won that war and put it to bed. A little slip backwards here.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 04:24 PM
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I have been doing it since august. I do it every 2 weeks. I admit, the days around shot day are a bit lower with energy and drive... so there is a little roller coaster. But if you do it every week, you are making yourself a pincushion. Remember, you will be giving yourself the shots. Also - it is a controlled substance. I cannot get more than 2 vials in a month.
/r/askMRP04/05/16 03:50 PM
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To answer your specific questions: What is a good strategy to eliminate "if you did more chores we would have more sex"? I am not able to maintain frame saying "I did X and Y for the past 2 hours and Z can wait till tomorrow" and this always devolves into her doing it and being grumpy at bedtime. I don't care when she slogs it out because of "she is responsible for her happiness" attitude. You cannot negotiate desire- so the best you could hope for with this bargaining is starfish pity sex that …
/r/askMRP04/05/16 02:25 PM
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well I was looking to immediate action, as it would take time to get the papers drawn up. If he has a meeting scheduled and drops the name of the lawyer, it adds a bit of weight to the threat. But yes, you are right, still just a threat at that point.
/r/askMRP04/05/16 01:53 PM
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It should be "Bring GUNS to a knife fight" LIFT!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 07:03 PM
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I went to a urologist, which is good because he can regularly monitor prostate tests which is the only major risk from hormone replacement therapy. I have been prescribed Testoterone cypionate which I inject every 2 weeks. great stuff. PM me if you need mroe advice or insight.
/r/askMRP03/05/16 06:52 PM
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she does not believe your threats. You need to add to it. Schedule an appointment with a divorce lawyer for an initial consultation, and meet with him. Trust me, it will be money well spent. Key to this, is after you schedule it, today... TELL her. "During our talk, it really came across that you do not see the line that a wife should not cross. I am going to see (insert name), a divorce lawyer to see what my options are. " Either this will scare the affair out of her, or she will see a lawyer t…
/r/askMRP03/05/16 06:41 PM
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I am right there too. There are times I am gaming her and I sooo don't want to hit on her. I am just not interested. But then I remind myself, I am working toward something.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 02:29 PM
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I have had a few friends who had wives fully check out... and in each of those cases it was because they have checked in somewhere else. Have you looked into her cheating? I understand you want to have the talk, but I cannot tell if you have let the hamster have enough conversation with her. Are you making yourself scarce? Have you left the house and gone to a bar, radio silent, after she has turned you down for sex? Have you given her any reason to think that if she doesnt meet your needs, that…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 02:23 PM
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I would add to your "I wish I can list:" Finish reading the sidebar put together my MAP Lead this relationship
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 02:15 PM
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Not sure I am getting your point. Yes, she is having to work at this now - keep her man somewhat happy, because something is up with him and he isnt taking her shit anymore. That doesnt mean that she likes him. My point was that you can't just create a tense situation where she is now scared to piss you off, and is walking on eggshells hoping to keep you happy because of her fear of you leaving. You also need to be awesome. Give her a reason to stay (not by putting her on a pedestal all nice guy…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 03:40 AM
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are you the man you want to be?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 03:34 PM
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There are different paths you can take with the knowledge of the red pill. (or a combination of paths) Path 1 we can call "Be the awesome" This is the direction of self improvement to re-create that natural attraction she would have for you. Getting your frame back. Lifting. Confidence. Regrow that backbone. Be the captain, the oak. Be the fun loving Alpha guy that someone would want to be with. Be cool, funny, with an IDGAF smirk and chuckle that keeps your frame from caving. Building attractio…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 02:55 PM
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well don't take it as a knock on your book. I am looking forward to it (and the caveman sequel).
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 09:07 PM
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I can't tell if you are asking these questions because you need help with this issue, or if you are trying to do a book club here. Not interested if this is just a circle jerk.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 08:27 PM
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Good report - you are not alone, my journey has been very similar. not sure why I expected her to be passionate when I didn't even feel it in myself. This part really hit me hard. I have been having sex with my wife sometimes just to keep up the new frequency I have created. Perhaps I am gaming myself. I will have to think on this a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 06:44 PM
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why the hell is this posted here, and not in a BJJ subreddit?
/r/askMRP27/04/16 06:12 PM
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I like your tag
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 05:40 PM
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thanks [deleted].
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 01:20 PM
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how do we know we are using or getting the appropriate flair? Reddit Newb question - have RES on my home PC, and it auto-logins my account. If I make sure to log out, when reddit is opened, the login name and password are pre-populated. I am struggling to undo this, and I would rather my wife not explore this reddit thing and go through all my posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 12:17 PM
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it's not about the women- that is their frame. It is about you. What do you want in life? I want to have kids (continue my DNA strand) - and I want to have a woman in my life that I share my life with with, share experiences, ups, downs.. and grow old with. Someone to love. So I chose Marriage. Is it a bad financial deal? Did I instantly lose value? (like driving a new car of the lot?), Does marriage make it harder to seduce, to romance, to get laid? yes to all of this. Marriage is Red Pill on h…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 12:10 PM
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take the red pill. read the side bar. lift.
/r/askMRP25/04/16 07:40 PM
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It comes down to this. What do you want.... and who do you want to be. You say you want a relationship. I would challenge this based on the information you have given. It appears you want the 'freedom' to date around.... which is personally fine. hell you are a freshman in college. As to who you want to be? You want to treat girls right, which i respect- just be careful of becoming a nice guy. I like that you don't want to hurt her, and that empathy is a good thing. But here is the kicker. You a…
/r/askMRP25/04/16 06:40 PM
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what's the best way to end this relationship on good terms? This is MRP - where we try to make our relationships work. It sounds to me you should go to AskTRP - where you can look at how to make someone a plate. It sounds to me like you are not ready to settle down. that you do not want to settle down. It is good that you care for her and you dont want to hurt her. I would not suggest you stay with her out of the guilt or pressure you feel to be good. But at some point, you will have to step up …
/r/askMRP25/04/16 05:59 PM
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good job turning down the transaction. I grabbed my wife in the bedroom the other day and start initiating, and she says "Oh - now I see why you made the bed and did the dishes" I replied that I did them because I wanted to, and I would not do choreplay- ever. But this spank is for free! and then I slapped her ass. Instead of getting mad - I found her even wetter.
/r/askMRP25/04/16 05:25 PM
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Let's digest the facts. she lied to you (and is still lying to you about this) - so she is willing to lie. she broke her marriage vow and cheated - so this is a line she is willing to cross. Would I confront her? No. There is nothing to gain from confronting her. You can't change another person. Does this information change whther or not you want to be with her? Take a stroll and think long about it. Make up your mind then either let her go or get over it. I personally would save this card and k…
/r/askMRP25/04/16 05:20 PM
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I don't really see a benefit for going to either sub. I know it is encouraged to keep a tab on the main red pill page as it offers regular insight (and not just PUA stuff) - anyone have a good reason to recommend keeping an eye on women red pill sites? After all - watch what they do, not what they say.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 01:34 PM
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I disagree. dont apologize. You are new to this MRP - so unless you just drove over the cat, you should not be apologizing for anything for the next month. Instead, for this case, I would recommend you become mroe playful with this issue. rib her, joke with her, carry a lighthearted smirk on your face. If you need to respond to her bad mood, do so by leaving and going to do something else. She is responsible for her behavior.
/r/askMRP25/04/16 01:27 PM
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a couple thoughts: She is looking for you to lead - so if YOU are acting cold and distant, hurt, it encourages similar behavior. If she is acting cold and distant, hurt - but you are being a smart ass and already flirting again - then you are just that asshole that is stirring her up (which is good) - and your smirk is leading her to make light of it too - and for the two of you to have more playful banner. as far as dealing with the angry stage - remember these key points: you are to blame. thu…
/r/askMRP25/04/16 01:24 PM
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A wife with close male friends is a marriage either in trouble, or heading that way. You are setting up a situation where she has a confident, a connection with another man - who she can vent 9as friends do) her issues with you... and this man has direct influence on how and where her hamster will run. Will he guide it in a direction for him to sleep with him? He is a man.
/r/askMRP25/04/16 01:13 PM
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An emotional affair is also known as an affair of the heart. It is her connecting with another man in a deeply emotional way- sharing intimate feelings and thoughts which creates and even more intimate bond. This type of affair is so serious for women, that they will argue it is on the same grounds of cheating if you do it. Would you be ok with this? Would you be OK with your wife developing a deep emotional connection with another man? In your circumstance, their common interest that they would…
/r/askMRP22/04/16 05:48 PM
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She just likes him as an emotional tampon / someone to talk about art stuff with. Are you ok with her having an emotional affair? This isnt red pill plates, where that would be great to have the beta boys carry the emotional baggage for us... this is MRP - red pill on hard mode. So would it be ok with you for your future-WIFE to have an emotional affair?
/r/askMRP22/04/16 04:03 PM
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Wow your hamster is running fast. You say your fiance wants to see him... not that he wants to see her. but then you argue that this might be ok because he is not an alpha chad? Are you ok with her fucking a beta blue pill? if not, then why make the distinction? Here is what you know: she wants to see him. he wants to fuck her. she wants to see how you respond to this. If she didn't, she would not have brought it up. She knows this crosses a line, and how you handle it (or allow it) will define …
/r/askMRP22/04/16 03:58 PM
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A&A "Sounds like a plan - have any friends of yours in mind? And would you be joining in?" wink I do not see a problem here...
/r/askMRP20/04/16 08:58 PM
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your are explaining yourself. why? dont DEER. furthermore - texting should only be used for logistics, with the 3 to 1 ratio ..... once you are advanced it can be used for flirting.
/r/askMRP20/04/16 08:53 PM
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I'm willing to give 3 days for this vacation, 5 at the absolute max. So then tell her. This is already a compromise over what you really want, which is to not go at all. But the kicker here is how you LEAD. Are you leading? Is there another alternative offered other than "see the parents"? Why not step up, and put together a cool get-away for the 2 of you - and lead her to an awesome fun time. So instead of just saying NO to something, you are leading your relationship by creating the fun advent…
/r/askMRP20/04/16 02:43 PM
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Rule 3: look at what she does, not what she says.
/r/askMRP20/04/16 02:35 PM
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what do you want? It really is that simple. You do not owe either family anything... ever. ..and this is your ceremony - your day, right? It sounds to me what you would want is for your family not to attend, as their attitude and potential drama would distract you from the experience. AND, they have refused to meet you halfway regarding your wife. so... dont invite them. they can see the pictures on facebook. or am I missing something?
/r/askMRP19/04/16 07:10 PM
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seeing the pictures will not help - it will make your situation worse. cheating on her will not help - it will make the situation worse. You fucked up and married a girl much older than you. It sounds like - as far as bedroom activity and the like - things are good. So... is your desire for just a tighter body on a girl? You could divorce her and start hunting younger models - but note these 2 caveats: 1) You are not redpill and you are not alpha - yet. So your ability to get a hot 25 year old i…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 04:11 PM
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I was looking into them - however I have read that the new version is getting poor reviews and I would also want to avoid the cost. The old version will only be supported through this year. Still considering it though...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 06:44 PM
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very good feedback. thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 04:52 PM
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I am 6 foot even, and weigh 210. Definitely game to adjust diet hardcore for a 3-4 month cut. Looking for the best way to go about it, where I am not eating away my muscles
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 04:47 PM
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the envelope system has worked great - it got us out of debt and has kept us on the straight and narrow. However.... It is hard for both of us to keep up on the envelopes and she has assumed more and more of that role... to the point that I am out of the loop. I could just take that over, but it would be a challenge hitting the bank as much as she can as a SAHM to take money out, deposits and everything. Far easier for me to handle the finances if I can do most of it electronically - and also I …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 04:44 PM
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I was mistaken - it has been a year an a half of MRP. I created this account when I first took the pill. Didnt know I joined the subreddit from near the start - it has helped from the get-go
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 04:02 PM
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correction - it has been a year an a half of MRP. I created this account when I took the pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 04:00 PM
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thank you - I will order it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 03:56 PM
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You are right. My lashing out at him for doing something wrong, (like putting up the beach umbrella) was more about my frustration with the situation. I did eventually adjust and chilled out. I know I will lose some of my strength - hoping to be able to do some stuff still. Reading up on potential diets, as I have full control over that.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 03:54 PM
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I would frame it more as "I like taking care of my family, and not needing to be taken care of" That was the kicker for me. Yes, I want to continue making strides in the physical attraction department - but I also accept that I am getting older, and that age will continue to wear down these charms!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 03:51 PM
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I agree- MRP will make you a better man, and that is the ultimate goal. However- many new folks that come here are looking to solve their immediate 'dead bedroom' issue. This post is to help them swallow the pill. Once it is down, their real transformation can begin.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/16 01:25 PM
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her hamster wheel is running. That is all the conversation she needs right now... as the hamster will get her going. Sounds to me you are right on track.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 03:03 AM
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That is what she says. Look at what she does to really see how it is working. And dont forget your feedback on yourself. How do you feel about the new you? Starting to have a sense of pride? Is the sarcastic smirk becoming more natural on your face? Feeling the gains from the gym?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/16 08:17 PM
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I think "more sex" is the initial goal that gets a lot of us in here. Then that changes for some to getting better quality sex and treatment. Eventually it sinks in that this is about being a better man - and how to be a leader for your family. ..and get sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/16 07:40 PM
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I agree this is essential - however it might be too advanced or complicated for someone just trying out the pill for 1 week. I tried to keep this to the most basic easy wins. (and shit tests can backfire if you misread comfort tests). My biggest concern about the 1 week plan is that there is no mention or warning about nnot being a jerk - and a lot of beginners make the mistake of being too much as asshole
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/16 07:36 PM
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looking at the pictures on itunes suggest bluepill heaven. Lots of ways for her to remind you of errands, tell you what to do, and use emoticons. Look at its iphone to do list with this app she can even Iwatch!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/16 03:59 PM
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I would add that your title is misleading too, so thanks for the click-bait.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/16 03:18 PM
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You want me to recall some story that you saw, click on a few links and do the work so I can engage with you on a circle-jerk about how we would rather be the Alpha instead of the Beta? GTFO with this weak ass post. It is barely worthy of askMRP let alone here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/16 03:15 PM
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All this, because I didn't get her some stupid fucking water. It ruined both our evenings (after what had been a really nice day). Can I expect this kind of behavior from her every time I try to display the least bit of spine? Do you think a different reaction from me could have steered the fight in a different direction? Or should I just have gotten her the fucking water? I'm 100% confident the fight wouldn't have happened if I had. If you are looking for the easiest smoothest path, choke back …
/r/askMRP30/03/16 09:51 PM
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welcome back! curious, did they come after you this severe simply because of your posts on MRP? I would love to know more of what they did , to be prepared in case I ever encounter similar actions. Very happy to see how this test made you and your marriage stronger. I will buy you a low carb beer if you are ever in the ATL area. is like low carb with intermittent fasting, at first your body hurts and it sucks, but if you embrace the suck and move forward your body gets sleeker and harder. gettin…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/16 03:16 AM
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Great FR. She will never love me the way I want her to... ... She is a mirror that I can see how well I'm leading in. this is so very true. A great indicator. and you also set up a new goal for us all to strive for: I need to continue to improve a LOT before I can start to acheive a big victory like her begging for my cock in her ass while I eat a pizza on the beach in Hawaii.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 04:07 PM
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so you are atleast 20, right? Get a job and move out. It is that simple.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 02:32 PM
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thank you. I was going to skip the Gym today - but heading there now.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/16 09:58 PM
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interesting to read about your start on this journey. Thank you for sharing this
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 03:27 PM
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can everyone just put their hamster away and we get back to improving?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 03:14 PM
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BAD IDEA. I have read here too many times of this blowing up in your face. show her the new you and the new path forward through actions. her hamster will explain the rest.
/r/askMRP09/03/16 09:30 PM
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you need to give a fuck about something. Pussy is not the purpose - you know that now. so now... you have to find other purposes in life to drive you. career, personal, life achieving goals. She then can join you, as a man on a mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 06:05 PM
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charges dropped - http://www.minnesota93.com/2016/03/03/charges-dropped-against-local-man-for-newborn-drug-exposure/
/r/TheRedPill09/03/16 04:58 PM
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I just laughed and said she can give me the rest of my valentine's present after the kids are in bed. She said, that's not going to happen and she was right, as I got a very hard no that night. Be careful that your flirtations are not actually verbal requests for permission, like this one is. Even jokingly, we do not ask for sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 02:48 PM
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good point. thanks. it looks like it has turned into a playful interchange, and the punishment will be a spankin...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 02:40 PM
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good guidance. thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 02:37 PM
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quick swing by home to pick up gear for my daughter's team that I coach. Wife met me in the garage and attacked me like I did at the door, and then playfully said "oh, you are rushed and don't have time, like I didn't this morning?" I told her "touche" and then left for practice, then ran some errands and hung out with a buddy for a bit. When I came home, Wife and I laid down to try to watch a bit of house of cards together, but couldnt get through an episode because my daughter who missed pract…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 02:36 PM
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exactly. actions, not a verbal request for permission, even if it comes out witty with a grin. note taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 02:27 PM
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well, she has been swamped with taking care of the kids... and as for the 2 days of my return, she was finishing her period and I did not hit on her (exhausted). But Chad is always a possibility. AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 02:26 PM
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Maybe she felt rushed in the morning and was worried about the time. yes, I would say she felt rushed. We do not have a quickie in the mornings when the mad rush is on to get the kids up, get them to school. It was out of character for me to make a play for then. Hey /u/spexer , you guys fucking regularly? Sex is not a problem. I have it as much as I want. Wishing I wanted it more, and main project now is to improve the quality. If so, why are you being such a little bitch about this? What is th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 02:25 PM
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well that clarification is needed, as your initial post did not clearly communicate that this was in reference to only those that can't leave without being seen as butt-hurt. I do get the point you are making - yes, a lot of newbs at this jump to dread levels (even level 12) before they know what they are doing. However, I wonder what does more damage - the guy who gets emotionally upset and drives off and is away for a few hours, or the same guy who stays home, where his emotions are in full di…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 09:17 PM
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I think he is in the middle of a cleanse....
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 06:46 PM
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think about this. You "agreed" with your girl to have a sexless relationship. tell me again why this is a good thing to do. (unless you dont want sex to be an essential part of your relationship).
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 05:39 PM
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Ah the sullen distant husband making his own breakfast and coffee. This is sure to generate the tingles you wanted. good point. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 05:19 PM
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very well said. At my church they say for you to not give up something for lent that will hurt your relationships. that is exactly what this does.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 05:10 PM
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You do realize that you are being a girl. You are currently using sex as a manipulation tool for power, and even propose doing it again before the wedding. Do you not see how wrong this is? How you are setting up in your marriage that sex can be used in this way (by both of you)? She said we should never do this fasting again, since we will be married and we have to have sex to keep the relationship going. Your bride to be is absolutely right. Sex is a key component of a healthy relationship. No…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 05:05 PM
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sitting in a parking lot and reading this forum, calming yourself down and deciding on how you are going to handle your situation so you return with a mission... is doing something. and gorditas are delicious.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 04:55 PM
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Yes running away, that's what you're showing your wife when you do this. You see a problem and your solution is to get away. Note this is NOT the same as withdrawing your presence and attention. Withdrawing is done with purpose, it is a calculated move and you did not fuck up or slip into your wife's frame before you did it. No - it is the same - for your wife's hamster. You leaving to "go out", even if it is sitting in the taco bell parking lot, is withdrawing your attention. Sure, there are fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 04:52 PM
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this is not a place for hamsters to gather - and this was clearly posted by your hamster. however -- here are a few observations, for you to consider: Your issue is that you do not know what you want. That is discovered by doing, not talking. Stop deciding your actions by obligation, and start trying things to fill that void, alone, together - whatever you want. you should not make a large life decision (ie- divorce) when you are unsure and confused. You are confused. do not look to someone else…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 06:20 PM
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RP S.OB. - havent seen that tag before!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 05:49 PM
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ease up on the comfort - and do not discuss other than the dismissive "What did she expect to happen" type remarks. No - do not bring it up - her hamster will talk about this with her FAR better than you ever could. Acta non verba
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 05:45 PM
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ok, I am going to give it to you straight. You have not swallowed the pill. Instead just a taste. If you had, you would be LIFTING- not "practicing form to start 5x5" If you had, this wall of text would clearly state what YOU want, instead of just being a hamster on a wheel. My advice to you - MAN UP. Stop talking and get to DOING. Do the work. Make yourself worthy of YOU, and then consider if she is worth your time.
/r/askMRP01/03/16 03:23 AM
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yep - I have work to do. Last nights sexy time had a few of these symptoms.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 04:52 PM
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Congrats! However, instead of offering thanks, pay it forward by chiming in with your won tips and advice on what worked for you - and what did not. This post in itself will inspire folks just starting - that it is possible!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 04:02 PM
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I have encountered this (especially around the breast). Yes, if it is mental, she is not arroused. However if it is physical... Switching to a bit rougher, ie - manhandling, should resolve it. You will get gasps instead of giggles.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 07:11 PM
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I enjoyed all of those posts (had missed the Gag one - reading that next) and your suggestions have been a great guide, although I admit I am a little uncertain on some of it. Fully expect to get slapped, and not in a good way.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 01:39 AM
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I like that idea. I tried years back watching porn with her, but did not do a good job pre-selecting material, Has anyone had success watching porn with the wife, as a motivation and door opening experience?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 01:09 AM
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My simple formula for explaining this to new guys is: Being red pill does not mean you can argue better. It means your a happy guy that laughs at arguments. You are proud of what you do and do not NEED to defend it. Life is fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 01:06 AM
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to add additional weight to this - here is a quote from a woman's recent dead bedroom post, on why she has lost desire for her husband: The thing that really killed it was hygiene issues on his part... I love giving head, but every time I went down there I was grossed out by the smell of stale urine. And whenever we did have sex, I'd end up with bacterial infections that took ages to clear up. I told him he needed to clean better, which he took poorly, so I became hesitant to say more. I know no…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 03:56 PM
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I know you are venting, but so much of this is about her, and not you. You need to own this. Only then can you be the captain and steer the ship where you want to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 02:32 PM
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Definitely adding this to my Lifting playlist!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 05:18 PM
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No one asked where beyonce's husband was...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 04:08 PM
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Congrats BBP. I have enjoyed conversing with you here over the last year, and you are very astute in 'most' of your observations. I wish you all the best with the book. PS - please let me know if there is an audiobook option in the future. Red Pill reading material is very light in the audio book departments... and I have a long commute!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/16 02:56 PM
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this is bad advice. Do not make contracts or deals for sex. And do not ask for sex in the future, or at a certain time. Dont ask, period. acta non verba
/r/askMRP03/02/16 07:33 PM
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An old bull and a young bull are watching a heard of cows down in the pasture. The young bull says "Hey, lets run down there and fuck one!" The old bull says "How about we walk down there, and fuck em all."
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 03:47 PM
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I will try to be constructive, even though your post (and your answers in this thread) are full of MRP 101 mistakes. I thought you said you have been here for a while? you don't deserve shit. You earn it. Even then, you should not have a covert contract thinking you now get a treat. you cannot negotiate desire. You can not argue, guilt, logically explain or justify why she should have sex with you. you have sex twice a week. For majority of marriages that is a win. check deadbedrooms for perspec…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 08:34 PM
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you could start complimenting ladies with that booty you want - in front of her... or making comments to her about girls with the look you like. however - I think it is kind of a stretch to push for this type of change in someone. Similar to manipulating someone into getting a boob job that doesnt want one. it is their body.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 08:17 PM
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Key difference between shit tests and comfort tests is the subject. "You never say you love me" = shit test "I feel like no one loves me" = comfort test A&A shit tests. Offer reassurance IF it is deserved/earned for comfort tests
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 04:24 PM
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too much talk. You should not apologize, and not discuss / argue about apologizing. Her: WHY WON'T YOU JUST APOLOGIZE?!?! Me: This is childish. I am going to lift. I will say that stopping the "sorry" was a big help to me out the gate. I still on occasion catch it getting back into my dialogue - for instance this morning I said to her "I am sorry your foot is hurting, I hope you feel better". So there is always work to do - but ending the use of that word is a BIG step. good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 04:21 PM
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perhaps you are seeing the posts through your own tinted lenses then. Majority of the responses here are that, of course, women have value. Your suggestion that red pill posts on MRP suggest otherwise is false - and yet you continue to push that narrative.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 03:15 PM
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This post and it's title is misleading. Perhaps on the red pill main site you will see numerous posts about women having no value - but that is not a common theme at MRP. And the insinuation is insulting to those here trying to find ways to lead their families and save their marriages.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 07:54 PM
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How - by her words? Look at her actions, not her audio. And furthermore - by deciding your actions based on how she reacts - you are in her frame. Do what you want, be who you want. This will attract some people and repel other people, and in the end you will have a group around you who honestly like you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 05:19 PM
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well said.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 05:16 PM
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Most of our conversations throughout the day are usually about something I did, the dogs did, or something I need to do... ... ...there is some major disrespect, constant shit tests, and lack of the things I actually want in the relationship Let me address this one - The goal is not to get rid of shit tests. That is not attainable, and honestly not wanted. If a woman stops shit testing you, then she has completely checked out and it is game over. MRP is about seeing shit tests as welcome opportu…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 05:15 PM
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I will give you an honest response - without going mental or calling names. RP and MRP are not the same. This group wants to lead their wives and their marriages. With that being said, it is important to recognize red flags, and realize that sometimes getting out of a relationship is the best course of action. ignoring red flags and staying in a bad relationship is not stoic, it is not being an oak, and it is not MRP. I think it is good that you stood up to him. I have not read details of him ap…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 03:58 PM
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great post - I have been on the journey about as long, and agree with all of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 03:43 PM
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I was going to post this as my answer! An unsolicited blowjob is the best indicator that I am doing it right.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 08:01 PM
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my wife is not happy with her slight weight gain, and it is really affecting her mood and behavior. I called her today on the drive in from work, and I told her that I was aware that she was upset about this, and that I was actually more attracted to her now. When she tried to call BS on me - I told her: Hey, I am not denying that you have put on a few pounds. But I prefer the current you over that more athletic, tighter, fitter version of you from a decade ago because that girl would just lay t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 05:31 PM
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so wait - you mean to say she has never physically cheated on you?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 03:40 PM
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1st, your post sucks - so much of this keys on that big event that happened before, and yet you give us absolutely NO details on it, so we could put it in reference. 2nd, you say you know what you are going to do - but be real --- you don't. Because you are living in her frame and just reacting to her actions. And you say you are red pill? You even admit in your responses that you do not want to cheat - so how exactly are you forging your own path and becoming your own man? 3rd, This post is ful…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 03:30 PM
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Also - your post is lazy. Your title gives us no insight on what this is about. Details were confusing (hard to tell you were on the phone, who was speaking, etc). If you want help, you need to put in a bit of effort
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/16 08:06 PM
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sounds to me like she was being fun and flirtatious on the call, and you got all serious and butthurt. Are you a fun guy? Be careful with going STFU and monk mode - it might save you from losing ground by puking emotion, but you are also not gaining any ground because you are not a fun loving awesome person to be with. Also be careful about punishing her for speaking her fantasies - yes you dont like this specific one, but you dont want to shut down her willingness to express her sexual desires …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/16 07:51 PM
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good reminder to have fun - be cocky with a grin in life. Also a good point in the middle about not owning anyone else's mood- and then by not feeding the drama it will starve itself.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 05:13 PM
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wow - this post is depressing as hell.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 11:22 PM
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you are looking at this with the best possible outcome of the rekindled 2 parent home. Also consider the effect on your kids (who are not stable) - if this rekindled relationship does not work , and things are toxic. Already you wife would have to adjust to the new redpill you (and shittest it hard) - with your kids witnessing this. Add to this the prospect that she now knows she can cheat and get away with it.... I understand what you are considering and respect the call you have to make - just…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/16 11:20 PM
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funny - I bought some tickets but the red pill made me see all the dangers such money would bring. I was immediately aware that this would make it possible for her to leave me AND be extremely well off financially. Not a branch swing to a better man, but the possibility to branch swing to a poor alpha man and not worry about the money problems that come with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 11:00 PM
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I like my gaunt body, I’m not interested in bulking up, and have never felt unattractive. Your wife prefers tatum channing's bulked body to yours. She won't say, and will argue against it, but it is a fact you need to accept. You need to accept that when she looks in your eyes, she loves you - sure. But when she looks at your body, is she attracted? Does she get tingles? She might SAY yes - that your little pouch you are getting is cute! Those are words. I myself was shocked that my wife, who al…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 04:06 PM
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the hamster cant run on its wheel if you answer everything. It needs some unknowns to make assumptions about , to worry about, and to get running. Next time she asks why you are leaving - just say "I have energy to burn" and then LEAVE THE HOUSE for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 10:43 PM
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If your T-levels are low, they will proscribe testosterone cypionate (shots) - or they might go the route of the topical cream. I do the shots myself - made things a hell of a lot better. There are ways to increase it naturally as well. Lifting weights, getting plenty of sunlight...
/r/askTRP12/01/16 07:40 PM
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well if she is nympho as she claims, she should be down for the Mormon backdoor clause. However, as you are a secret who would be embarrassing to her - might want to be careful of a possible rape claim someday to explain you. Might be best to move on......
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 04:21 PM
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So the msg is that because you laughed at a sexist joke as a kid, your daughter will be raped and you will be to blame. I like how the video was redone from a guy's perspective here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:21 PM
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yes, I would try again - but not with words. I would advise you go caveman on her, and stop focusing on pleasing her so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 06:50 PM
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you could also see it as an opportunity. She is into you - she is revealing that she is a nympho - and she is still waiting for you to lead - Instead of walking away, I would try to lead the relationship to where I want, first. Sounds to me she would be happy with that as well (but will fight it along the way).
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 06:45 PM
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All the good ideas you bullet list there, I agree with - and none of them make you an asshole. I take from MRP what I believe in, and what would help me. Most of that, like for you, deal with becoming a better man. So when there is talk here about negging her or something, i choose not adopt that. So.... help me understand why you are leaving, and making a show of it?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 04:53 PM
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Fyi m38/f32. wait - you are saying that she is 32, says she has just had 1 partner, and claims to be a nympho? buddy......
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 04:49 PM
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best response will be to tell her the following: I will not apologize for being a man yes, if you do not have sex with me, our relationship will be in trouble. I need the reservation details on our wedding, so I can see if we can get our deposits back. This is just a shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 04:45 PM
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you have hit one of the clearest shit tests - and at MRP, you dont run from shit tests - you win them. Here is how the table is set: Her last boyfriend got her crazy in bed, and she liked it. She does not want to lose control again (and for a man to have such control over her - feminism wont allow such a thing!) So then she asks you: (paraphrasing) Will you be my bitch? The only answer of course, is to laugh and push her head down. Or to answer this philosophically, because the moment has passed…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 04:13 PM
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cool man. Just make sure you are driving the car - driving the conversation - driving the life.
/r/askMRP08/01/16 10:55 PM
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Let me back both of these MRP-ers up on this point. MRP holds as it's motto "Acta Non Verba" (or something like that. This means make your life better through action, not by talking about it. So STFU is great guidance to those that are new, because you should be showing your worth through action, not through debating. Too many take the red pill and go into asshole mode. be wary of this. Good luck man.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 10:53 PM
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you need to make a plan for what you want - and then lead your family to that destination. Right now your plan for when you meet with her is.. nothing, and you are going to let her lead. Why? better yet, why would she want to be with an indecisive guy who thinks he gets points for being cool with either outcome. lead.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 10:04 PM
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keep in mind the real possibility that she does not know what she likes - and needs you to lead.
/r/askMRP05/01/16 10:15 PM
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your example sucks. Man up and take care of your responsibilities. As to the larger question: You handle it like you would handle a child misbehaving. Look at it with disapproval, rolling your eyes at her and maybe adding a snide joke about it. Basically, you are belittling it, and adding a slight neg to her, making her reconsider the behavior not because it makes you angry, but because it is not cool.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 09:28 PM
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Congrats on reaching the goal. Perhaps one key that brought this about was your assertiveness, your directness in 'commanding it' Consider that - perhaps she wants to be told more often.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 09:22 PM
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You are completely in her frame here. She suggests that you are punishing her because you are min her mindset. Try this perspective. This woman does not want to have sex with you. Not only in the moment, but in predicting future events as well. Now do you want to spend time with a woman like this? It is that simple. Now you could take this realization in the direction that you need to have the "Main event" and lay out the ultimatum. Just remember: you cannot negotiate desire. However the directi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 06:34 PM
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this is good advice. I would also suggest that you leave the house when she gives you a hard no. Just get up and go (not but-hurt). If she asks, just say "I am just itching to do something". You do have a serious issue issue here.
/r/askMRP04/01/16 02:24 PM
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telling your wife would be yet another selfish act done for emotion. Put together an action plan, and work on yourself.
/r/askMRP04/01/16 02:04 PM
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Not only should you NOT give her reassurance or cuddletime - But the next time she turns you down, leave the house. As far as attitude, it is important to be the happy fun loving dude - who just happens to have a lot to do and wants to have fun. She doesnt want to have fun with you? No biggie - i am going to head out and have fun elsewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 05:41 PM
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overall, things are going well. I have lost a little ground I feel, that I need to own: Eating has gone to pot. too many sweets and carbs. struggling with the holiday cookies and sweets everywhere, and willpower is low. I am going to try to limit the intake, and add some cardio over the holiday break (run a few miles every day) to help counter this. wife commented last night that I seem angry a lot. She blames it on the Testosterone I have been taking. I was disappointed in hearing this as i tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 03:35 PM
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thanks BP - I think that is a lot of it. Also part of it the mid-life anxiety and not wanting to get old. Interestingly enough - I had an answer to this a year ago. My libido was low (I had low-T) and my wife and I were having a loving but low sex marriage, and because of my low T I found myself becoming OK with it, or finally giving into it. I could have stayed on that course and become a grandpa beta type guy. however- I decided I was not done. I took the red pill, and I now have regular T-sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 06:25 PM
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nope - I am not that guy. That being said, I believe I am a Poly - I am comfortable with sleeping with multiple people. but - I also think it would hurt me badly if my wife did so. So no swinging for us. well, we are exploring soft swinging a little, with her and girls, that could lead to MFF threesomes.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 06:19 PM
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Great metaphor. You are correct - no sex is worth what it could destroy in my current life. Perhaps putting the energy into my MAP and life goals to such a degree will get my mind focused on other things.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 06:15 PM
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You hit on my goal. I WANT to be content with what I have, and move pass my obsession with the hunt / with sex and the like. I would rather focus more on career, philosophy, my kids, and mroe hobbies. I thought that getting the amount of sex I have long thought I was denied would quench this thirst. I am just surprised it has not, and wanted to see what you guys have done
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 06:13 PM
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Yes, I miss the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 06:10 PM
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to start, that was just an example of what one of his decisions could be - there are 100 ways to skin the cat. That being said, if you take that specific example, I disagree with you that it is 100% disregarding her. That decision takes in mind her desire for them to see her grandmother together. He does not give in to it being on that day, but rather other days during the holiday period. But as I said, it was just one example of a possible answer. My point is that he should consider her wants a…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 06:21 PM
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My advice might seem soft, but that is because too many people see MRP as an excuse for being assholes. I say, be a good leader. (who considers the needs and wants of his team). That being said, dont shaft your own wants. You need to be comfortable saying NO to your LTR.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 05:25 PM
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this belongs in askmrp. keep in mind, MRP is primarily about sexual strategy in marriage. this is not a relationship column. with that in mind, here is some advice. Take her wants and desires into consideration. Think about what you feel would be just and fair (seriously). Then tell her what the plans are as the leader of your relationship. "I have put together the holiday plans. Together we are going to my grandmothers, but then we will travel to your grandmothers for New years" or whatever. Sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 05:20 PM
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Keep in mind the different circumstances you could be in. wife used to be kinky in the past with you, and now will not. Likely you have gone Beta and by going MRP, you can bring back the crazy. wife was and has never been kinky with you, but was in the past. (there have been a few posts like this where a guy would find out how his wife was double-teamed in college or something). She is an alpha-widow and you were likley married as a beta bux. This one is a hard win, however all hope not lost tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 05:12 PM
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I try not to be shady myself, however I do keep my reddit/MRP details from her. So with that thought, I believe she should have the privacy of her girls groups to bitch and moan, without concern that I would be reading. However, I do have a buddy whose wife was part of a girls facebook group, that when he snooped and read discovered they were trying to talk her into having affairs on the next girl trip...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 04:41 PM
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I'm guilty of caring. now be careful here - too many people new to MRP go into asshole mode.
/r/askMRP03/12/15 02:31 PM
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you didnt talk your sex life better - you did through action. But - it seems you think the answer to improving your marriage is by having these talks with her. Instead, fix it through ACTION. Lead. put together a plan for your family's success, and share it with her (our vacations for next year, here is how we will retire, etc.) Let her see you making a great life for the both of you. stop the talk sessions - especially initiating them!
/r/askMRP02/12/15 08:02 PM
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This all makes sense, I thought it was me. She has always been stand-offish since I proposed. Dude. It is you. AWALT- she is thinking of another guy because you are not being kickass. this guy is just a symptom of your problem, and again - the problem is you. I suggest you stop with all this drama - stop with casting blame anywhere except on your shoulders. take ownership, become the man, and kick ass. it is really that simple.
/r/askMRP02/12/15 07:32 PM
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is there a question here? here is some feedback: you are trying to use logic on whether she should have sex with you, and where it should be on the priority list. Sex is not negotiable. She will want and enjoy sex with you when she is attracted to you. do not barter for sex. do not use back massages as a way to get sex (that has you start off by giving, and becomes a covert contract). you need to be comfortable saying NO to her just like she says no to you. at the least that would even the field…
/r/askMRP01/12/15 08:51 PM
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AWALT is not a pass for you not to take responsibility. Women are responsive. she is responding to you. The state of your marriage is due to your lack of leadership. So the good news is that you are in charge. Now figure out what you want and do it.
/r/askMRP01/12/15 08:38 PM
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I always chime in on these posts when I can (and really, use the search function, there is a vasectomy post every month) I do this to offer an important perspective. I was snipped. I regret it. For me it did effect my T-levels, my view of myself as a man and I did have side effects. Dont do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 04:26 PM
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She would sometimes resist, but then I insisted with a little assertiveness, and then she went for it. She loved being told what to do. low and behold I made her cum for the first time after 10 years of betabux fucking. I am very curious how this went for you and others. It seems she was resistant to your dominance and treatment of her, but then if you pushed through, she actually loved it. I ask because my wife is resistant... however she is has never really loving sex and I dont think her inne…
/r/askMRP21/11/15 12:45 AM
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be careful being seen as the ringleader of RP in your social group Other wives might not like their husbands changing, and will blame and take it out on your wife (if only she kept you in line, this rebellion would not have started). Your wife will likely handle this like a champ (mine did) - but it is added stress that could mess up your own progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 02:11 PM
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I would suggest going more monk mode instead of asshole mode - and hey i get that you are not trying to be a jerk, but in the beginning it is difficult to get A&A and other skills down without missteps. another advantage of going quiet - she will miss your interaction and you stop talking
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:45 PM
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hmmm, it was in my late 30s, so the ED issues, the lower libido and drive could have been factors unrelated. I was one of the unlikely that had some bad bouts of pain that followed, really bad swelling for a few months. However, I would add that every guy I have met who had the snip (about 5 guys) have regretted it. I do not think it is worth it to take away your virility.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:24 PM
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I regret that I did this. I had this done 7 years ago. I am in my mid 40s. Yes, there was a drop in testosterone and sex drive. there was an unforseen hit on my male psyche There are posts here and on Red Pill that make the argument that your sperm gives her testosterone and helps her bond to you (and desire you). Consider that. I can go into greater depth on any point you would like. I highly advise my friends NOT to get snipped.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 04:27 PM
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Take for what it is - from another guy on the same path - that reading your initial post gave me the impression you talk too much. Telling her to stop brining up the cheating conversation - OK i get that. But how about telling her to be kinkier/ Telling her how she must handle guys hitting on her? You key question is about how much to communicate and I would suggest you talk less. Acta Non Verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 04:23 PM
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Good FR A bit concerned that your paramedic comment came across as butthurt, but is seems the jovial nature of you saying it was more A&A and DGAF - only you know for sure. Perhaps Mr. Litz should causally up and leave the house for a few hours when she is unresponsive.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 02:55 PM
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I know that I should communicate clearly my expectations (I feel that after 9 months of implementing MRP I can do that) this is wrong. you are talking way too much. Stop having conversations where you are laying out demands and expectations. This is MRP 101 - you know you lead by actions, not words or threats. Just from reading your posts, I can see you also have a lot of covert contracts.. from how she should act because you stopped porn, from expectations on her sexual behavior because of AWAL…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 02:15 PM
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similar experience, where I was stimulating her on the clit with our new hitatchi magic wand, and she came so hard she actually peed a bit. She was pretty embarrassed by it but I laughed it off and she followed my response. Still, havent found a way to increase her sensitivity/response from inside.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 01:52 PM
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so was she previously an external-orgasm girl, and now has them from PIV?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 01:49 PM
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she only gets off by clit stimulation Interesting. I know some here would say that this isn't true, it could lead to a good discussion. I am curious about this as well. What I have realized in the last few months is that maybe she doesnt know what she wants, and havent explored herself to the degree that she should. So I purchased a dildo and we have been playing with that, trying different angles and hunting for that elusive G-Spot. I am trying new things. has anyone here experienced a girl who…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 07:11 PM
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if she will only blow you when she is ovulating, then you have a concern.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 07:05 PM
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I would say these were clearly shit tests, not comfort tests. Especially if you follow the simple code of "YOU" = shit, "ME" = comfort). She said "You need to be nicer" , not "I don't feel loved" That being said, i wouldnt pick a fight.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 08:19 PM
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Hamster spins for a RP man, not against him Should be listed as one of the 10 laws of MRP!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 05:38 PM
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He does not work for our partnership, his wife started company and hired me years ago. He works out of the office 2 days a week, so acts as if one of the employees, kind of To me, this is the key fact. You are a professional in a business that he is not an official part of. And so I would marginalize him OUT of the conversation. If your boss brings up his points )"my husband thinks you have been getting the bonus too often..") , which I assume is what is happening (how else do you know this?) - …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 03:02 PM
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I have been working this direction as well (soft swap) - from what I have learned, clear expectations and rules need to be defined beforehand, while sober.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 04:26 PM
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thank you for your reply - very informative. My wife and I are heading down a path of possible soft swap with a few other wives. I agree with the being in the same room. That is a rule I laid out early on.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/15 04:23 PM
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I cant do one of the stronglift 5x5 exercises due to an old shoulder injury (cant lift directly over my head, up and down - causes pain). What would you advise for me to do instead? currently lifting 2-3 days a week, rotating chest /tris on one day and back/bis on the opposite. (mixing in a few squats and abb as well).
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 07:09 PM
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that is my goal. Can you share a bit of your journey to accomplish this?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 03:48 PM
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You don’t need a supportive, loving wife by your side. You actually don’t pay her much attention, and you’re not obsessed about your sex life because you’re too busy becoming awesome. Your desire to jack off wanes, you start to feel invigorated and free from the shackles of a sexless marriage. Ok - this is where I need clarification. I would think that if I am being an awesome leader of the family an everything, and NOT continuing the constant pressure on her for sex (by hitting on her and teasi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 02:43 PM
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the issue is if it starts with "Why don't you give me a back rub first?" So even if you then rub her a way to turn her on, you are still starting from a point of negotiation. Sure, during sex I take a breather and offer some beta romance, however it does not come from a place of rewarding her (or thanking her for having sex with me). It is because I want to.
/r/askMRP06/11/15 02:36 PM
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You can use duty sex to Sex God Method her right into wanting to fuck. I am working on this. In addition to SGM, is there any other sources or advice on becoming a better married lover?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 02:29 PM
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Thank you - great reminder of the harsh reality. I grow weary of this race, but this has added a dose of anger and determination to my steps. I really wish sex was not on my mind so much. It would make all of this so much easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 02:24 PM
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Any advice in addressing/breaking this type of transactional attitude? You are an equal participant of this. You think she should be OBLIGATED to have sex with you, because you are her husband. You list all of these things you do to suggest you have EARNED it. Your post reeks of covert contracts. MRP Rule #1 Attraction cannot be negotiated. You don't deserve sex. What you need to do is make her WANT to have sex with you because you have attracted her, or with dread because she is afraid of losin…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 05:41 PM
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agreed
/r/askMRP03/11/15 10:55 PM
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a good note given to me by the MRP folks - "Before pushing your wife into porn sex, ask yourself, are you ready to deliver porn sex?"" That hit home for me. I realized I was not ready to delivery what I was asking for her to receive. I know your situation is a bit different - but still consider the basic idea - if you want her to give up control, are you ready to take it and be more dominating???
/r/askMRP03/11/15 09:40 PM
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She is leading your family. I would consider yourself lucky that you have someone who wants a fun exciting life - consider the opposite - a depressed bump on the log who just wants to stay home and do nothing.... ... well in the current story, that is you. MRP is about being the leader, and delivering an amazing adventure for your family. (within means and expectations). I dont see you doing this.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 09:05 PM
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"Why don't you give me a back rub first?" A 50% hit rate of starfish. A guy who gives a backrub to get sex does not deserve anything more than starfish.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 09:00 PM
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Here is the answer I gave my wife - she has not brought it up again. WIFE: "All you want from me is sex" HUSBAND: "Wow, you have a real problem there!" WIFE: "Stop it! I am being serious." HUSBAND: "Ok. Then seriously.. you should not be worried about me wanting to have sex with you. You should worry if and when I don't anymore."
/r/askMRP03/11/15 08:55 PM
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interesting to read this, as it has become my own metric as well. To receive unsolicited blowjobs to me will be the indicator that Have made it (and then the constant work to remain there begins)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 07:19 PM
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that thread hit home for me too. Although I also think that she might be partially in-expereinced and needs me to lead. SO I am working on being a better lover.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 09:03 PM
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seems like you are floundering, and not making smart decisions. Take some time in Monk mode until you have a plan. Then you can march in a straight line, and lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 06:39 PM
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It is would be another good reinforcement example of the Alpha fux / Beta Bux reality - which is helpful for those still working the pill down, or is losing faith.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 08:14 PM
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why are you answering the phone so much, if you are at work slaying dragons? If you are always at her beck an call for her like this, just how alpha are you?
/r/askMRP23/10/15 01:36 PM
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not a knock on you, but now that the fascination with learning about that subreddit has subsided, I would advise we stop the circlejerk about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 05:52 PM
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I get that too. She actually reached back to slap me once when I spanked her some!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 08:03 PM
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Why are you posting this here? Red Pill is about changing you into a great awesome alpha guy, but your entire cry was about what was wrong with her. Many say that a woman is like water, and they take the shape of the container they are placed in (you). So, if she has not always been this way, you should ask yourself how she is changed, and what you have done or become to cause this. Do you deserve to be treated better? 2 more thoughts: check out the guys at Married Red Pill - they might have ins…
/r/askTRP20/10/15 05:25 PM
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yes, it strikes me that the Immersion (of the SGM DEVI) is not being met. She can't detatch and just enjoy the moment... or it takes her forever to get her to this place. I have decided to up the dominate behavior and create a more sexual atmosphere - and let the battle to who will submit play out.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 05:16 PM
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thank you for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 04:42 PM
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what would you recommend then? I have been living red pill for a year now. I lift hard a few times a week and have raised my SMV. I am the oak, the leader of my family and I have been handling most shit tests quite well - ---but, even though I now finally get the sex amount I want, the quality still isnt there. I grow weary of this game.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 03:14 PM
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You fucked up by talking - you know that. Now she will see if your words are backed up by action. Go see a lawyer and let her know who you are seeing. Move forward with separating the finances. fuck her silent treatment. She gets no attention from you other than needed business. ...or was it all talk? Time to see if you have a backbone.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 06:43 PM
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She's not ready to fuck you like a porn star and basically you are not ready to fuck like a porn star. you nailed it here. I was a really good lover back in the day, but with this girl (who I then ended up marrying 15 years ago), I have never figured out how to rock her world. I tried digging but she claims never to have fantasies, never to have really liked sex, etc. and wont spill any beans. I am getting back into the SGM book. To be honest, I have actually thought of cheating on her with a gi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 04:16 PM
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One of my favorite take-aways from here was the idea that shit tests are invitations for you to prove your worth - thus in a way, is her flirting and asking "are you good enough to fuck me?" bring em on!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 02:19 PM
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wow - you solve it so simply! This is exactly what I need to do - set the atmosphere. So what I will now try: I will set the mood and attitude for the type of sex and fun I want, and if she doesnt join me without much struggle, then I will just go do something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 02:16 PM
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I thought it would give the non-interested lazy fucks a chance to contribute as well - but I get what you are saying. Why would I want their comments anyway if they wont put in the time to read.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 02:14 PM
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I would like to do all of that - it is making the switch from our respectful and gentleman lovemaking from the last 10 years to this behavior that I am failing to grasp. I have tried small steps. More throwing her around (need to get back to that), placing my hand on her throat, being a bit rougher. I tried spanking her some, and she later told me she didnt like it. When i did it the next time she started slapping back and we almost got into fisticuffs. From what I have done aggressively, I have…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 02:13 PM
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thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 02:07 PM
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thank you - just the bullet points I needed. Reading Sex God Method - challenge is she fights hard against being submissive. Has a major mind-block there.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 02:06 PM
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I see what you are saying.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 01:57 PM
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THIS. here you are arguing that it is over because of who she is and how she reacts to you. Red Pill is about changing you, which then changes how they react to you. It is NEVER about you reacting to them. And that is all i see you doing here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 01:56 PM
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How do you handle it? as a shit test? There are times where it is hot, but to be honest it has been a while. Due to her surgery, I have had to be bit more gentle and asking a lot more (as in "does that hurt? does that feel ok?") - which takes the caveman out of the cave.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/15 06:44 PM
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so your against offering a TL:DR;? I thought those were common courtesy on reddit. At the least, I wanted those not interested in my in-depth personal story to at least be able to chime in on the basic question... are conditions thrown at you at the sex start a LMR, shit test or comfort test? ...and you offered neither response. which is surprising as you usually have some of the more insightful or brutally direct responses to someone's MRP plight.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/15 06:42 PM
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yes, she has always had these issues. The BS I fell for was that the catholic upbringing made it difficult for her to enjoy sex, and that it would be better once we got married.. This is not to paint her or our entire time as a bleak wasteland. She knows how to dance for me, on occasion wears sex lingerie and tries to please me. I fear I did some damage back in my Beta days of 'talking' to her about the lack of sex, thus making her even more insecure about it - making her cry. Since red pill I f…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 08:13 PM
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But in your case, I think rurpe is right. She's not into it with you (yet). I would say she has never been into it. She claims that she has never been into it with anyone, and sex has never been a big deal in her life. yea, I know I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 07:48 PM
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Yes, she does initiate sex - especially since I took the red pill. However most of these are a 3am booty call. She wakes up and then spoons up beside me without wearing any pajama bottoms. Which is great - except we have to be sneaky quiet not to wake the kids, so I am limited in my positions and caveman attitude. Other times she initiates, she is looking for a quickie. She has never been wanting foreplay. Of note, if it matters - she has never been 'into' sex the entire time I have known her, i…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 07:44 PM
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My wife is similar in some of these ways (very alpha, doesnt want to talk about feelz, etc.) In reading your account, it appears you are chasing her, a lot. How about you stop that for a bit, because you have better things to do? Spend more times having fun with your girls. Don't do your marital rape with her, but instead lose interest if she is cockblocking out the gate, and go do something else. This is not being butt-hurt - this is you demonstrating that you are not interested in the behavior…
/r/askMRP15/10/15 05:42 PM
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stop the text game. Text 1 time for every 3 of hers, at max. Not being butt-hurt is good. But you should not ASK for sex. (or disguise an ASK by making it a playful demand). Understand, and this is KEY- you cannot talk your way into sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 03:24 PM
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However, if your wife is NOT withdrawing by refusing your sexual advances and if she is NOT being a bitch about it but genuinely trying to please you, albeit with Starfish Sex, then I strongly believe that a different strategy than punishment should be used. The problem in Starfish sex is NOT a disobedient, unpleasant, or rebellious wife. So in this case, you should not worry about punishing a wife for her lack of desire. The problem is that YOU are not attractive enough to her to sustain passio…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 01:02 AM
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Meanwhile Joe is continuing to kick life in the face and then mouth fuck it, while you continue to get buttfucked by life more and more. But sure Not following you here. How is Joe kicking life in the face and mouth fucking it? He is preemptively forgiving people for letting him down. That is taking shit. That is accepting that you dont deserve better. Compare this to a guy who expects people to step up and give their best with him and his time. And if they don't... he is disappointed in them, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 04:01 PM
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I would suggest being careful to make sure you are not preemptively lowering the expectation and your standard of what you deserve and how you should be treated. "Ah, don't worry about Joe - he always seems to be OK, no matter how badly we let him down.. he will just smile and go with it."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 12:45 PM
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always initiate. Be your happy self - remember you are the oak. If sex is like that again, respond the same way. next day try again.
/r/askMRP07/10/15 07:54 PM
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thanks -done.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 05:25 PM
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ah - I dont know the nuances of Reddit - and not sure how to do that, to be honest.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 02:15 AM
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agreed. I was not looking for tactics, just picking up on some confirmation that the red pill is the way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 08:26 PM
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This used to be me. The lack of outward love during birthdays/father days and the like shined a light on how I was actually always being treated (I just expected to be treated better on these special days). and that was the epiphany. I got mad because I wasn't treated well on these special days.. When did I let myself get so low to not expect to be treated well on every day? I deserved better. It was my fault because I did not establish in this relationship how I would be treated. It is hard to …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 05:55 PM
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I love my wife. And I believe she loves me. However MRP is not about love. It is about becoming the best version of YOU- which happens to also be one that will attract your wife. Love has nothing to do with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/15 08:20 PM
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MRP 101 Dont talk - do. Take on the responsibility for yourself and move forward to being a better man (and thus a better husband). Telling her this is just creating drama that wont help her.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/15 06:30 PM
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I have tried to tell a buddy of mine what his wife's "girl's getaways" were really about, but he didnt believe me until he finally saw some dick pics she got from some of the women going on the next one, with the tagline "get ready ladies!"
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 06:52 PM
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she wants to fuck. just not you. Absorb that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 05:58 PM
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Are you expecting a snowflake here? From reading red pill, a common theme is that women will LIE about the number of people they have slept with, right? Tons of advice about how you should times any number they give you by 2. The fact is, as far as we all know, she has been a faithful wife. If you are expecting complete honesty from a woman, you need to find that snowflake.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 04:20 PM
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Thank you for this. My wife has been laid up for 2 weeks after surgery and I have been taking care of a lot of her chores. I need to be mindful that this does not become an expectation.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 02:21 AM
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congrats on the progress - but have you read the books? How about Sex God Method? When she tries to go starfish on you, are you LEADING her to better sex? Starfish sex is bad, but if you walk away from that the wrong way, you are doing more harm than good. You dont want to come across as butthurt. You have to have better things to do. You dont want to just go to the computer room and fap - that is just telling her you will be taking care of and encouraging starfish. Ideally, you want to leave th…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 08:55 PM
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ah - thank you. So there is the added issue of EGO. He looked like a fool around these people, because they all knew this. The grins they must of had when he would discuss faithfulness at Sunday dinner. Yea, that stings. I wouldnt blow my marriage up about it. Maybe take it out on the in-laws by ending holidays for a while and being cold to them, and let them all know why. Make them apologize along with your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 08:47 PM
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She is doing things you do not like, and instead of handling this, you are just taking it internally. I get trying to maintain frame, but not at the expense of you building up a lot of covert contracts on how she should treat you (without you LEADING her to that point). Instead, set some boundaries. Tell her how you want to be treated, and that you bring this up because you are falling out of love with her. (seriously. I said this to my wife and things changed). And I would suggest you consider …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 08:44 PM
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As a Newbie, do not turn down sex. Rejecting sex because it is not good enough takes advanced skill to pull off effectively. Until you are much further into MRP, i suggest the following: Go caveman on her, with no focus on her getting off. LEAD physically - flip her over, manhandle her. do not verbally ASK for anything. Tell her what to do, what you want. do not perform any tasks (back massage, giving in to shit tests) in order for sex. Just go and take her.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 08:38 PM
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I am not so sure - since improving my SMV, I am honestly hocked at how many Suburbia wives openly diss their husband in front of me - as an apparent way to impress me. It actually just makes me thankful I am not tied to that!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 08:34 PM
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Ok, so the loss of trust is fresh. I hear you. She will have to earn that trust back and you can never fully believe her. Just remember there are no unicorns and that trickle truth is a characteristic ALL women share. I'm not going to pretend like I'm a happily married man at this point in my life Is this because of the lie you learned about, or are there other issues? If it is just about finding out about something she did BEFORE YOU WERE ENGAGED, and that she kept from you... then I would say …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 08:28 PM
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/u/nightdepartures1 was basically a walking cuckold for a decade How was he a cuckold in his marriage? I have not read anything about her being an unfaithful wife - you know in marriage where you make such a vow (no such vow when we are boyfriend/girlfriend). If you have absorbed red pill knowledge then you know that any of our wives could go cheat on us with a Chad. and that we have to constantly lead, lift and be the alpha to make sure her tingles are from us. I admit I don't know all the deta…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 08:22 PM
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I would say definitely not red pill. You are still acting hurt about something that happened more than 10 years ago? When you were not married, not engaged? So you were boyfriend and girlfriend- when people are trying each other out and making mistakes. I honestly don't get how thin skinned some of you are. I cheated on my girlfriends. I am sure girlfriends cheated on me. Because we were only boyfriend and girlfriend! And now you are hanging that over her head, and thinking you are not acting bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 07:51 PM
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3 things got me through her 'woman' behavior AWALT - by learning this I stopped holding her responsible for the subconscious behavior that all women have. It is my fault / It is what I can fix - If she is not treating me well, then I have not EARNED the treatment I want. So instead of being mad at her, I get mad at myself and work harder. OI mindset. When i realized that my time is valuable and I got busy OUTSIDE of our relationship, I became less tolerant of being treated poorly. This was no lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 06:10 PM
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You are not alone in this. My wife has never (according to her) have had an orgasm from intercourse. She can have one from masturbation, but sometimes we try that for a bit and she eventually says "damn, she is not waking up!" and we go on to other things. I would rarely get a BJ - but now I get them far more often. For me it just came down to me telling her how much I like how she does it, and I tell her to give me one. Here are a few tips I have done on my MRP journey, I hope it helps: Get a v…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 02:10 PM
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no - you should not do covert contracts. Not sure what he is getting at there.
/r/askMRP25/09/15 01:36 PM
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"You are having issues because I want to be with you physically? Your real concern should be when I don't want you physically - and this attitude is helping to get me there."
/r/askMRP25/09/15 01:32 PM
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You are the scum of the earth. Definitely not a man. You wanted advice - let's get into it. Reading through Red Pill I understand where I have gone wrong, and started seeing the light that I allowed this person to abuse the situation. I need to stop this relationship as soon as possible. You say you have been reading Red Pill and then you say she is abusing the situation? You have read nothing. Red Pill means that YOU are responsible. For. Everything. Get that? Yet here you are, playing the vict…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 01:59 PM
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It doesnt sound like you are LEADING at all. Just trying to avoid fights, blame, confrontations. Just doing enough to keep the peace. Your wife, who is JUST LIKE ALL OTHERS, needs a leader. This takes WORK.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 03:15 PM
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you are arguing for arguments sake - You don't even know what type of woman you would want in a relationship, or if you like relationships..... and you are trying to decide if you should be in a long-term one? this is called thinking too much. Stop - go out and live life a bit, and THEN analyze it to hell.
/r/askMRP23/09/15 03:10 PM
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you should be thinking about decisions on marriage, kids etc - until you have had multiple relationships. Lose that virginity.
/r/askMRP23/09/15 12:49 PM
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thanks for the info and answering my question. as itstartstoday said, for new members to note - this is not the MRP way. MRP teaches you to lead... not to trick them and sneak in surgery to make them tighter... My head is still rolling at this concept...
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 08:53 PM
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If you really want to make her hamster run, then the next night instead of hitting on her like she expects, just go "out" again.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 03:06 AM
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welcome to the rest of your life. I really hope you follow through on this with actions, and not more words. good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 03:02 AM
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He also mentioned he'd put a little something extra in her paycheck for me when he stitches her back up, if it isn't a Caesarian delivery. Could someone explain this to me?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 02:55 AM
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100 times this. If you are new, do NOT try to text-flirt. It often becomes a beta way of asking for sex later.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/15 06:22 PM
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Great tips. For me its my Jeep wrangler over the motorcycle.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/15 03:49 PM
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Sure, I'd rather have sex with my wife but I SURE AS SHIT am not going to rely on her to help me maintain my focus. Why not? That would be my challenge to you to climb the next rung of the MRP ladder. The ideal goal would be that whenever you are horny, your wife takes care of you. How can she step up to that plate if you are taking care of that in the shower?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/15 01:22 PM
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congrats on your success so far. Sure, I’m a dude so I get horny ..but a “tension release” session tends to do the trick for a few days. If I am reading you right, you might want to challenge yourself on this. I was where you are at, and I decided to stop all masturbation and porn. Why? Because I was losing attraction to my wife, and to real sex all together. (how can it compete?) Also, the more Redpill you get, the more the image of masturbating at the computer becomes "weak" So I ended it, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 06:47 PM
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The biggest part of it that I have internalized is: I am the problem, and thus I am the solution. This is now part of my mindset, and it has made me very powerful.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 02:29 PM
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You have lost the Disney fantasy image you had of it. Now you have an opportunity to lead a real life, as a man. welcome to the real world.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 01:50 PM
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I have seen a few posts here lately of men upset that their wives wont let them go down on them. Why? Is it that it could be a covert contract and she would then go down on you? If you are trying to make sure she gets off - then dont. just go caveman and enjoy yourself. If she is not being satisfied, she will speak up.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 05:46 PM
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thank you for this. Inspires me and keeps me working for more.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 05:07 PM
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I didn't want to believe it either. I wish I could just cuddle in love, and tell my wife everything and bare my soul.... and that she would still be attracted to me. Be careful of using that anger too much - remember AWALT and it is their nature subconsciously. Take that anger out on weights! One thing that helps - is to take that responsibility for everything as an opportunity You get to be in charge of this - so many never do. Own this, and make a MAP to a better you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 02:37 PM
2

LOL I have very huge muscled legs from decades of playing soccer. However I want to start squats to increase my overall strength gains, and the boost it give your T-levels.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 06:28 PM
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great post - I have been lifting for 2 months steady now, but have not worked squats into my routine - need to do that. Challenging as I work out alone so I do not have a spotter. Also have been trying to do ketosis but it is hard to not cheat on a day with a few carbs that blows me out. but this post will make sure I lift today - in a few hours (back and Bi)
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 06:01 PM
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1st - stop asking for sex. Either you take her or you don't... or you try to take her and she is resistant (beyond LMR and shit tests) - at which point you roll off and do something else to improve your life (ideally OUTSIDE of the house). 2nd - stop the covert contracts for sex. You giving her a massage beforehand should only be done if it really turns her on. (most likely it is relaxing and not stimulating). 3rd - stop trying to please her in bed. I know this makes no sense but it is true - ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 05:45 PM
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nice reply - really well written and a good reminder to us all.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 05:37 PM
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the letter is a mistake. You really want to talk so much you are now going to do it through a letter? How has talking helped you so far? Acta, Non Verba also, you can't lead if you are not a solid oak that can weather a storm - and right now you are an emotional bitch that ENJOYS the drama dance with her. stop - just stop talking and instead improve your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 05:34 PM
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"Wife, I have a plan for my life and being a father is an essential part of it. You are a part of my life, but if you do not want children or do not want children with me, then you and I will divorce. Show me your decision immediately with your actions."
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 02:19 PM
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no worries man - with great power comes great responsibility. I would suggest you slow down = perhaps go into monk mode for a bit. Sounds like you need a hobby you can go off and do with guys. Do not talk so much to your wife, or explain yourself - let her hamster do the talking. And save the text for HR. Make sure all future contact with the coworker has a third party there that can be your witness. You have just been introduced to the start of her crazy train, and there is much more to come.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 02:14 PM
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congrats - enjoy the journey! For reference, here is a look at the other path. I am grabbing this from a girl on facebook that had cheated on my beta friend and divorced him. She was never a good mom, and sounded a lot like how your wife was. (she was a SAHM who wouldnt clean the house but refused to get a maid) Over the last few years since the divorce she has been married twice and engaged 3 times. She is now 'newly' married and is 'born again' - ie: after riding the Cock carousel a few years,…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 04:21 PM
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no worries - found it!~
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 12:47 AM
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dammit - wanted to go to that link but was at work. now at home and it is deleted
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 09:44 PM
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BPP is right. With the update that your wife is now pregnant - you will want to check to see if it is yours. seriously.
/r/askMRP08/09/15 08:23 PM
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get your T levels checked. our lack of desire could be a sign of Low - T. That is what I had.
/r/askMRP08/09/15 08:19 PM
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dont talk - show with actions.
/r/askMRP08/09/15 08:17 PM
1

why did she throw out the other one?
/r/askMRP08/09/15 08:16 PM
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are you the prize, or is she? Being alpha means that you are about you, and others are attracted to be a part of you. A lot of your post indicates that your focus has been on how to get the girl- that sounds like they are the prize. Not you. sounds like you are putting the pussy on a pedestal.
/r/askMRP08/09/15 07:54 PM
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still initiate. you are becoming a still oak that doesnt talk so much. She cant seem to get a rise out of you and your seem aloof, mysterious.... as she tries to figure this out, one thing is constant - you are hitting on her, always. However when she says no, you act like it is no big deal, and then go off somewhere. what's up with this guy? (push/pull, dread, IDGAF, OI - learn these and show the new you through actions, not talking)
/r/askMRP08/09/15 07:51 PM
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agreed! I would add to this that you could look at the benefit here - you dont have to listen to her complaining and emotional feelz - she has an orbiter for that! Next time she starts dumping on you, tell her to call him and go to the gym. IDGAF + DREAD.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 06:48 PM
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you didnt include any of the Cons I listed, or answered my questions - Let me add a thought for you to consider in your pro/con winning! list. She is getting what she wants. She gets a nicer place, she has your help supporting the place and the kids, and she does not have to give you anything. She gets what she wants while she shops for a new husband, without having to demonstrate her ability to take care of the kids without you. (for the future claim that she gets them all the time). What do yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 06:42 PM
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1st - happy birthday. Welcome to the rest of your life. Make it great. Did I fuck up here by thinking she could be a little appreciative that I just swapped all the furniture and cleaning two rooms in 2 hours. She wanted it done. I got it done. Wtf? Do not expect any appreciation - ever. Those are covert contracts that will never be met. You deserve nothing. I hugged her and said I'm sorry if she thought the day was ruined. stop saying you are sorry. Do not utter that phrase unless you do someth…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 05:11 PM
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Your should not be hoping not to have shit tests - but instead see them for what they are: an opportunity for you to prove your worth. they are a good thing! I would recommend humor and lightheartedness. such as responding with a hearty laugh at the fact that she was right there, noticed the dryer wasnt turned on, and didnt just turn it on like an adult? overall - nice job!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 01:43 PM
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one of the big realizations from MRP for me was to learn that shit tests are not bad things that you want to have go away. Instead they are wonderful invitations for you to prove your worthiness for mating. Next time she shit tests you, say to yourself "great - she is wanting to know if am good enough for her" and then knock it out of the park. there are plenty of tools here to learn- lots of techniques. It starts with confidence and IDGAF. - and knowing the game. good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/15 01:28 PM
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there is a high likelyhood that most of us were not the best our wives have had. That is the reality, and it is a hard one to comes to terms with. "welcome to the real world" now what are you going to do about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/15 01:22 PM
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here are a few points I havent seen mentioned. your theory of this working all depends on things going well. so what happens if they do not? If she breaks the rules, and you are invested and moved into this bigger house with her, how do you get out? She has already shown she does not have your interests at heart, by being a bad wife. Now you want to enter a deal with her that is a nightmare to manage and get out of. how does this work with family and friends and society? Are they kept in the dar…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/15 01:19 PM
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I don't it is being offered to give his wife a free pass - but I do believe (and see posted here OFTEN) that with pregnancy, you do give her some slack and a bit more beta / comfort. He is upset that his pregnant wife wont suck him after he has been in her. to me, this is not the hill to die on.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 06:04 PM
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throughout this subreddit you will find advice to give more beta during pregnancy. I advise this here as well. She is pregnant dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 06:00 PM
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13 is young. he has a girlfriend, and she wants to kiss more than he does (I told him to wait until he is ready, and not be pressured). I did make it clear that there would be huge trouble if he went beyond kissing (when he is ready to do that) at his current age - from her parents if they found out, to the school administration and from society at large. And he seems cool about that. like typical 13 year olds, he is just all about obsessing about boobs. thank you for your advice, as always.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 03:29 PM
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I hear what you are saying. To clarify, in previous conversations with him I have laid out the possible negative consequences with sex, primarily: pregnancy STDs false rape type charges effects on reputation effects on friendships (bros before hoes) Where I am struggling is 2 things: 1) I have always been a southern gentleman and have been raising him this way. Now I realize thanks to the red pill that some of this is the feminist agenda BS and bluepill. - so I find myself catching myself saying…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 01:19 PM
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very nice! I know it a IDGAF - but it would raise an eyebrow if she went away and then was really cool towards me (and shunned my advances) - any concerns there with her being faithful?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 03:13 AM
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then great news - you are on your way to a better life!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 04:12 PM
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it was difficult when this happened to me after I took the pill. It is hard to just grab her and take her caveman style, when you need a lot of attention down there to get up. But things are much better now - and because I just laughed at it, it set the example for her to do so as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 08:28 PM
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Let me 2nd this. I also have this issue. I tried Viagra, Cialis and the like, with very limited success. For me, getting hormone replacement therapy made a big difference. It is related! I now get injected with Testosterone Cypionate every 2 weeks - and I am a rock again. so if you have ED - check to see if you have low -T , because that could a factor. It was for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 08:25 PM
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tough one - she is responding to you as a leader and expecting you to lead - but you want her to 'lead' in the bedroom sometimes. you can't have it both ways - but you could lead her to more adventurous sex, everytime - until that becomes the expected norm. For my wife, plenty of times she would be fine with the standard wham-bam, but if I go get our bags full of goodies, I know she will get into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 05:10 AM
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ALWAYS. You set the bar, you raise the bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 05:08 AM
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do you up the dread those 2 weeks?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 09:58 PM
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You think you can convince her of things through talking. you cant. However, if you show the right action, her mind will talk to her and come to the right conclusion (he call this the hamster). so... stop talking so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 05:29 PM
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I would argue though, that your greatest success is with the way your carrying yourself, instead of the weight you carry. I saw a guy I know henpecked hard by his wife (very bluepill) who took his shirt off at the pool, and damn! he was rocking an awesome physique with abs popping! ..but I know he is not getting laid. An although I dont think he is the best example, I know how much my wife had a thing for Tony Soprano - and he was not in good shape at all. But he is alpha. (although too emotiona…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 04:53 PM
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Should add: If you say "I am in pretty decent shape" - understand that you are NOT attracting your wife. there is no negotiation here.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 04:10 PM
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well done! One measurement for success that I use is whether she wants to have sex with me when ovulating. Of course that is the time when women are the horniest, but a lot of red pill teaching suggests that they sub-consciously only want it from a worthy alpha man, and thus are more likely to say no to a beta / blue-pill man during this time (and cheat). So it looks like you are passing that test with flying colors!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 03:50 PM
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happy for your success - however: You mention she is now pregnant - how far along is she? Did she want another child and were you guys trying? not to sell your success short, but when a woman wants a child, she will have more sex than ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 03:15 PM
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Is she on her phone a lot - does she hide it from you? are you hitting on her, making moves, trying to sleep with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 03:11 PM
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key details missing: is she seeing other people? HONESTLY assess this. What does she do the nights she is not with you or the kids? what are your standards for yourself? You have already accepted that you would pay room and board for a woman who will not sleep with you. How little do you think of yourself? What is more important: gaining control or making her happy? You can;t have both - well at least not in the way you think about making her happy (doing what she says, not ruffling feathers). H…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 05:02 AM
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ok so here is the question I think matters most. Do you like you? I mean, do you like the person you are today? It is obvious she is not attracted to this person. But instead of shifting the blame to her and making her change (now that you have the will to fight) - take a hard look at yourself and see if you would want... what you are currently offering. After the obvious answer, start improving yourself. Take ALL responsibility, become the leader, get those emotions under control (be the oak), …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 04:48 AM
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You are angry at her. I get that. What you need to do is change your perspective. Consider this: She is just acting like a woman (AWALT) - how they are s'posed to act on a subconscious level. This means that you are to blame and you have the power to change this. YOU are the one messing up. YOU are not attracting your wife, and making her want to be with you. So take that anger you have at her and direct it at yourself - use it to power your drive and grit to make yourself better (because YOU ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 07:32 PM
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thanks for your feedback on this. BTW, she married you because she was convinced she couldn't get a Chad anymore. damn man - cut me deep!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 06:39 PM
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so if she says no to you, you stay in the house and get off. instead, say "cool" and get up and LEAVE and do something (radio silent). it will work wonders.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 08:15 PM
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BP is dead on - more action and less talk.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 07:48 PM
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a mistake a lot of people new to Redpill make is they go too hard too quick with the A&A, and they go too asshole mode. Not saying you are new - just letting you know that you might be too asshole. remember: a little beta mixed in with the alpha is needed if she is not a plate. This is your wife. I do applaud you on your text game - very nice sparring! You definitely should not give in to any conditions for sex- so good job holding frame there. But what is up with the masturbation stuff? If you …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 07:45 PM
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ok - you have 2 goals. 1) You need to get back into your frame and LEAD your wife and new family by being the alpha in charge. Right now your NOT this guy- and so she is trying to manipulate the HELL out of you. Right now you are not red pill, and because she is pregnant, you cannot go into hardcore redpill with her. So work on yourself. 2 - you need to change the narrative to be about how you like sluts, that you like that she was a slut, and that you married her because of her slutty ways- its…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 07:34 PM
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so what's our endgame? my wife at age 84 taking out her dentures to give me a gummy blowjob. seriously though - I took the pill to attract my wife to me. Now I have attracted myself to the new me, so I am excited about continuing to improve, to lead and to be awesome to the day I die.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 11:57 AM
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I am taking testosterone cypionate. A key qualifyer that raised his concern was not only my ED issues, but that my desire for it was down a lot too. This will lead to a T - test. My levels were all very low- so I was approved for the t-shots. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 07:32 PM
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a couple thoughts: Why do you think she told you about this? To run some dread on you? she wants your help to get these guys to leave her alone she is thinking about an affair and gauging how you would handle it? she is having an affair and setting up her excuses she is trying to get you to go to her gym, by getting you jealous to make you show up. From your story it sounds like a move to get you to her gym, so maybe you going there would be a sign of weakness. Your call. My bigger concern: At t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 05:14 PM
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that is my goal as well... sweet loving mother and a great homemaker... and in private for her to be my lustful lover! Going to keep working on it, keep lifting.. and continue to harden my oak frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 03:51 PM
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We used to have doors open, and I have started closing and locking them. This has caused the dogs and cats to now scratch to try to get in and out, and in this instance, my daughter was trying to let a meowing cat into our room. yes, even our pets are cockblocking us! So I told the kids this morning, that now they are older and my bed is mine again, that I will be sleeping naked like I use to. I told them that our door will likely be closed or locked so they wont walk in on me, and to expect it …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 03:42 PM
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Not sure about this. Yes, red pill can make our wives more attracted to us, and more desperate to please us... however is it strong enough to overcome her motherly instinct? And just as important, would I want it to? Would I want my wife to be a worse mother, to then be a better lover? I think I am at a good spot with the fact that she is expressing the frustration that we cannot have as much sex as we want... but I acknowledge, she could be spinning me with her excuse BS. Thank you for your blu…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 03:39 PM
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thanks. I admit there are times where she likely takes care of the kids (late night cuddling with our 10 year old daughter) as a way to avoid sex... we still have those days on occasion. But for the most part, it is just her wanting to be the best mom possible. And she misses the fact that our 13 year old boy no longer cuddles with us, so she is milking the last bit of time she will have with our daughter. But yes, she wants it more. She actually said when i brought up this frustration "Why dont…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 03:34 PM
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well I work in the daytime - home around 630ish... Good advice though. I will see if we can coordinate their sport practices to be the same time (of course the wife will want to be there watching).
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 03:31 PM
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I actually like positive FR - helps inspire the ranks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 09:42 PM
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Similar FR: I made a few moves on my wife at bedtime, and she was resisting and acting bitchy. Before Red Pill, I would maybe offer a massage and try to soften her up. This time, it was no biggie. I just rolled over and went to bed. Felt her trying to cuddle up a bit during the night, but I stayed on my side. Woke up to a nice blowjob.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 09:37 PM
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If she wants to cuddle the morning after saying NO to sex, then immediately start escalating the cuddling to having sex. If she rejects you. Then just say ok (play it cool) and go take a quick shower. If this leads to the argument that you wont spend time with her unless you are having sex. Then say the following. "My desire to make love to you, which is how I want to spend time with you, is not something to worry about." "If I stop wanting to have sex with you - that is when you should worry." …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 09:27 PM
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Some women have a low libido or no libido (asexual), and I do not think red pill will change that (unless it was all BS and they are hamstering). But for the women with the real medical problems, this could help. Here is a thread that is a perfect example of a woman wanting a libido - https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/3g4bi4/for_those_of_you_with_lownonexistent_libido_has/ My wife has very low libido (always has) - but I am going to continue using the red pill for result s- its b…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 03:40 PM
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ive been red pill for almost a year now. I went from monthly sex to one/twice a week, which is the amount I want. So I have the frequently i want now, and she initiates half the time. I am still working on quality, and to get her to be a bit more wild. My wife has always had a low libido in her life (as she tells it). If I hamster too much on it, I would say that our increase in sex is more out of obligation and duty and love for me, than out of lust. She just doesnt have it. Or I could be a foo…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 03:28 PM
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You are measuring how fit you should be, your SMV and everything around her. her frame. One thing I gained from MRP was to become the leader in my family- and for myself. I challenge you to do the same. Become a great fit guy for you - not for anyone else (or just for more sex).
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/15 03:12 PM
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Besides, the days of frozen peas on your balls are over, it's referable minor day surgery now. I had mine 2 years ago. Many bags of frozen peas were used, and I was in a lot of pain for days.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 04:50 PM
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wow, so much for being a man. The vasectomy is the logical choice unless you're just scared. this line has so much bullshit all over it. It is not manly to get snipped. It is not redpill to get snipped because your wife doesnt want anymore kids (but you are ok having more). I got snipped a few years back, when I was blue pill. I regret it to this day (and I do not want anymore kids).
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 02:33 PM
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using your metaphor - painkillers dont help an injury heal... just like porn wont help a man fix his relationship so he gets laid. It is escapism, and it is weaksauce. Imagine the man who, when turned down by his wife, goes to the computer to watch porn and masturbate.... that is not dread. Now imagine another guy who tells his wife he is no longer fapping, no more porn, and that she better be ready to fill the void. Now when she turns him down, he just gets up and leaves the house. Which guy is…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 08:22 PM
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It is true that MRP can become one big covert contract. "If I do all of this stuff, she will want me." It is hard to get past that, but I think you hit upon the key. become MRP for yourself, to be a better man. the effect it has on your wife is just gravy- not the main goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 05:37 PM
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I got a vasectomy and I would not recommend it. It lowers your SMV. It lowers your Testosterone. ( I recently got tested for Low-T and the doctor asked if I had been snipped, saying that it WAS a factor. It can even fuck with how you see yourself. Your ability to reproduce and further your seed is a huge internal motivator, whether you act on it or not. Losing this ability can make you feel less than a man. I have seen numerous times here on MRP that when her body absorbs some of her sperm, this…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 04:21 PM
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I would like to hear more of this story, if you have the time. My wife kissed a few other wives at a party a year ago, and I have been considering letting her explore this side of herself. but I will not be cuckolded, and your story is not the one I want to tell. How did it go down, and what should I be weary of?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 09:07 PM
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Let me offer a different perspective. She did not come out as gay - she came out as Bi. Yes things cant be what they once were, but there is an opportunity for you here to enter a less vanilla marriage, if you are interested... My wife the last year made out with a few women (in front of me) - I am being supportive, but cautious of this 'awakening'... it could lead to a more adventurous bedroom for the both of us (like threesomes!). Here is a thread I posted on it, to see similar responses: http…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 08:42 PM
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200MG shot every 2 weeks. They said I probably wont need estrogen blockers, as this amount is more for Low-T and not weightlifiters maxing gains.. I am just looking forward to / hoping for good side benefits to my workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 10:09 PM
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I was not advocating for you to get physical. That is never a wining solution. I will drop my own version of a bomb which is to just not fight to keep her. Understand that this is not a bomb. This is a white flag at best. This is YOU reacting to her (even by saying you are reacting less). What you need to do is ACT. Throw your own curve, and take over the conversation. "You have been unfaithful to me which is unacceptable. I want you out of my life and I will make sure everyone knows that you ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 09:04 PM
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I go primal, and express my lustful urges as a way to build anticipation. I cant stop thinking about how good you made me fell the other night. I have been thinking about you all day since we kissed goodbye this morning... I think I am going to explode! whatever you do, do not put in language for her to reject or give affirmation to, such as suggesting what you want to do that night, in which she texts back that she is not in the mood... this is because it will become a way for you to ASK via fl…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 08:57 PM
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sounds to me everytime you try to stand up to her, you soften it too much with an "i love you" and cuddle. Stop that - you are undoing your own points- and confusing her. and if she rejects you, for gods sake, dont go masturbate in the next room. what kind of dread is that? leave the house. even if it is just to go for a walk. Yes, she was being bitchy during the sex. but communication should be encouraged. Try telling her to say what she wants, not what she doesnt want... then make her beg for …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 08:52 PM
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Of course she is asking for everything- you are not standing up to her. Your divorce will be brutal. accept that, welcome it, and remove that power over you. Tell her she has broken your wedding vows and you want her out of the house. Change the locks. Kick her out. SHE wants an uncontested divorce, quick an easy. Why are you doing her favors? Why the hell would you let her call the shots on this?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 08:40 PM
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You are in her frame, which is really nice fore her, isnt it? Lets change that up. Tell her she has been unfaithful and that is not acceptable. Tell her to move out of your house. Go see a lawyer, and let her know. (in some states, she cant talk to lawyers you are already in negotiations with, which will limit her options). You need to drop the bomb to get control and lead this situation. She is upset about a trust issue (spying) - well trust is earned. You are rightfully upset about her affair …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 08:35 PM
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For me, BJs are one checkpoint I use to see how I am doing TRP -wise. there are times when she's just not feeling it and on occasions like that I would rather be pleasured in other ways, then have sex with someone who's not even into it. Instead she pulls out the "ugh, I would rather have sex!" And no matter how assertive I am she just doesn't want to do it(blow me). this seems pretty simple. She is not wanting to do anything for you, and she could just lay there for sex (which doesnt hurt her j…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 08:13 PM
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That is the main reason i would like to work squats in. I am starting testosterone cypionate injections next week (for low T) - so hoping that helps as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 07:15 PM
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I read vodka is Keto-friendly, as long as you dont mix it with sugary stuff. (go for a vodka tonic) http://ketogenicdiet.hubpages.com/hub/Drinking-Alcohol-on-the-Ketogenic-Diet
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 05:21 PM
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congrats on your success - very inspiring!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 05:18 PM
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Is there a specific type of 'power lifting' I need to do? I have been doing split sets where for instance I would do benchpress (6-8 reps) then quickly do a triped exercise (6-8), and that would be a round. I do about 3 per exercise, and then move over to two more exercises to match together. My workouts are hard and intense - with minimal cooldown - I lift for about 30 minutes, then steamroom for 30.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 05:13 PM
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thanks. I have good size legs from a lifetime of playing soccer - however I have been thinking of moving to the 5X5 program. A little intimidated due to previous back problems and working out solo.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 05:08 PM
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there is a good point here about not letting her schedule sex. If she says lets do it later, I now just say no to that- not interested. Perhaps I am wrong but I learned that here. Also you should say no to bad sex - but since she was offering a BJ, I still dont follow why you said no...
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 05:53 PM
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Since taking the red pill, I have more sex as well - in fact, there are times that I have sex when i am NOT in the mood, to keep the consistently and pattern intact. We often expect women to get in the mood when they are initially not feeling it. You should do the same - especially when a BJ is offered.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 03:18 PM
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dont circlejerk us, dude. You dont just want to know this just because we should know everything in an open society. You want to hold her to account. -and likely punish her. Here is a quote from your original post. Is it too late to address her past when she's already years into her reform from Alpha CC rider to 'good girl' playing house? Or should her past be confronted head on? If so, it would seem that the following would be appropriate - confession/full disclosure to you (confront the hard r…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 12:52 AM
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Sounds like a lot of talking - and what is the goal? IF you are a red pill man, you know that AWALT. You know she is was with you because you were a beta provider, and now you are earning her attraction by being red pill and lifting. You also know that she is susceptible to other chad thundercocks, so you better keep your game strong. AWALT Now looking back in her past (and when you were bluepill) - you now understand some of her subconscious shitty behavior. You also know this is how she, and a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 04:10 PM
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hang in there dude. If you have a woman waffling in her affection for you, you definitely dont want that sitting back home in a military town while you are off training. I think you dodged a nightmare.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 01:10 PM
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my research and feedback from friends is that the adrogal rub and the patches are not as effective. They take longer to take effect and wear off , which is good. But you have to be careful with childrenb getting near the areas it was placed. The shots I hear are more effective and cheaper. some doctors will not prescribe them, as there is a new report suggesting possible liver issues with longterm use, and any of these solutions will likely be for life. You also 'crash harder' if you miss an inj…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 09:28 PM
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I have the same issue - and my doctor confirmed I have Low -T - I starts the injections soon. This has made me unsure about just going caveman - hard to just grab her and go to town without an erection. She has also pushed back - as she is comfortable with our life. She naturally has a very low sex drive, and I think she was happy my interest in that was decreasing (until I took the red pill). I told her - "I am not done with this life, and I am not ready to slow down. So I am taking steps to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 08:39 PM
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I settled for bad sex the other night. Her stomach was bothering her she said when she came to bed. I pushed through this as LMR - but the sex was not good. She refused other positions than on her side, and we had to be quiet as the kids were nearby. So what I did was to make this a romantic love session with gentle caressing. I see this as more of a loss (accepting bad sex) than a win (pushing through LMR). I would welcome any feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 08:30 PM
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I did read the whole wall of text, which could of at least had a TL:DR to summarize it: A middle-aged lesbian groped me a bit during a hug and suggested I wax my balls. what does this mean? Who the hell cares? You are not going to sex her- there is no problem to solve here. How is this red pill again?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 04:07 PM
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what the fuck is your question? Seriously. if we are going to talk about me, I guess I can... I can talk about that subject at great length; I'm very interested in it And this sums up your post- This might be an OK story at a bar, but I do not see what the issue is, or why it is red pill related. There is no profound discovery of knowledge, or any issue of significance. So an old lesbian girl is flirting with you, that I am assuming you do not have interest in - but then again you are obsessing …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 03:29 PM
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thanks. I have never pinned her down, but she has told me that she never wants to be held against her will. I am trying to tread lightly, but I dont want our sex to be a battle of the wills...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 10:06 PM
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If you do something that benefits both of you, then she is being rewarded. "Wow, If I tell him no, then not only do I not have to have sex with him, but he also cleans the place up!"
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 06:13 PM
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I would go with A&A "Where were you for so long?" "I was with one of my many girlfriends... she told me to tell you hello!' (wink) Of course your SMV has to be high enough for this...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 06:11 PM
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Get her to open up sexually to you, maybe she feels insecure or judged. It's your wfe, solve the rubik's cube of her mind while befriending her hamster. She does have an issue here - it has come up in the past as "you just want to use my body, you dont care about me.." type comments. -perhaps I should see this as a shit test, but she has broken down about it in the past. I think there is a history of people looking at her just for sex, that she has some baggage with
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 04:31 PM
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yep, go for a walk in clothes different than your workout duds, and then make sure you take a shower when you come home. No it doesnt come up anymore. it happened once, and now the power has shifted.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 03:43 PM
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Same happened to me. Part of it I figured was that AWALT and mine was not a special snowflake. But I got tested and I do have Low-T. So get checked!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 03:40 PM
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Red Pill has lead me to become a strong Leader. I am the captain and she asks me what to do, and follows my lead. however in the bedroom, she is still fighting the equality fight - in fact when spanking her the other day, she reached back and spanked me back. A few specifics for my situation - she only orgasms via outside stimulation. I have gone caveman on her for a few months, without focusing on her orgasm, to good success. Recently I have been working her orgasm back into the mix. I am readi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 03:28 PM
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my wife loves massages. She asks for them all the time. I used to use them as a gateway into sex, but now I dont - because I dont need to do a service to get my treat. She also enjoys massages now even more because there is no expectations for sex with them. So I would encourage you separate the two. I had a recent post about the first time I up and left - it was scary for me and yes she did freak out. I had crying voicemails, the whole thing. so that is a hard step to take. But it did change or…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 02:44 PM
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Do the following: Continue not asking for sex. do not have massages and sex the same session. Have planned things to do OUTSIDE of the home, if you are turned down. Here are the details why: Your post is very blue pill- and your wife is right. Understand that asking for sex is beta. It gives her power. Now it is difficult to separate pre-sex flirting with asking, and I struggle with that. I would drop innuendos about later that night to see how she would respond, and if I would get the green lig…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 01:27 PM
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I agree. the problem is hypergamy. Alcohol just loses the inhibitions so the real desires show.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:52 PM
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I disagree with most here. The issue as you present it is not her drinking and getting drunk. it is how she then treats you. If she got drunk and went crazy loving and sexing you, then that would be fine, right? Sure there are concerns about alcoholism. But lets deal with your real issue. She does not respect you or see you as her alpha. Alcohol just takes away her inhibitions and lets you to see that clearly. Solution is to follow MRP strategies. This will take time. But you will know you made …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:31 PM
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Lead - dont control. There is another thread that shows example of being too controlling, which also offers great advice - https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3ee9pr/need_advice_on_how_to_handle_this_exchange/
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:14 PM
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unless you browbeating her/micromanaging her is a sexual fetish you both share, why are you bringing it up during seduction? Correct response would have been to go put peanut butter on your penis. Perhaps you can walk into the bedroom tonight that way, with a shit-eating grin. Other advice here is spot-on . You are being too controlling man. If there has to be a discussion, I would cut it short and say " I have thought about what you said. I am going to continue to lead myself to better health. …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 02:34 PM
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my wife had the mesh surgery and now has gone back to remove part of it. I highly recommend you DO NOT have that procedure done. Sex in some positions is now painful for her, and it kills the dominance and the moment when you have to constantly check to make sure it feels ok.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 04:50 PM
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thanks - great post and very motivating. I am 6 foot, 210. I am the 20-22% dad bod guy. I have been lifting 3-4 times a week, rotating between back/biceps and chest/triceps. I lift pretty hard doing 2 different sets in unison (6-8 back pulldown machine and then straight to 6-8 bicep curls as one set. 3 or 4 sets then onto another double group.) My motivation is hitting the steam room afterwards - I love the zen I get hanging in there after a workout - dont know if this hurts my lift or not. I ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 12:39 PM
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I can tell you it has greatly increased my quantity. My wife is also bad in bed, and I am now working on the quality. Look at it this way, MRP can get your wife to physically want you. That in itself will lead to better sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 08:41 PM
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Soon I will be taking testosterone injections for low T- how should I adjust my lifting to take advantage of this (currently lifting 4 days a week, alternating back/Bis and chest/tris. I have great legs from soccer days).
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 08:16 PM
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question for you: I want to lose weight but I dont want to sacrifice my muscles, or handicap the 4 days a week weightlifting I am doing. It is one or the other, or is there a way to lose weight and bulk up at the same time? of note - in about 10 days I will start taking testosterone injections.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 08:07 PM
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Still work to be done I agree. And yes, there is a bit of "fake it till you make it" but I think I am getting there.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 06:23 PM
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yes - definately would have been better if I just pushed through the porch shit tests and seduced like a pro. I am still a learner. Miles to go. We also started the following morning with a 30 second kiss each day. Learning how to kiss her again is interesting. also of note - I bought her flowers the next day (rewarding good behavior with comfort) - atleast I thought it was a good move. She immediately asked how much it cost, and complained she had no place to put it. atleast I kept my cool and …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 03:14 PM
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I just smiled, and went to sleep. (maybe I kissed her forehead as she was resting her head on my chest, I can't recall.) I thought no verbal response was best - should I have said something?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 03:10 PM
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Talking too much - by talking to her less about your feelings and what you think about the both of you, then you allow her 'hamster' to think about it and talk to her about it. This benefits you. Be mysterious. If you ask for sex, then you need permission and she has the power. Instead, just have sex. If she resists, then go do something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/15 02:19 AM
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open your eyes - if you have taken the pill you should see this clearly. She was in the wrong (taking too much time) You responded by being a nice beta bitch She rightfully lit into you because: because you have demonstrated that she is above you because she is overwhelmed and YOU are not leading because she does NOT want a beta blue pill bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 08:40 PM
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Oh, i forgot to add this: the event at the strip club was a good thing. She is not mad at you about it. You should do it again.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 08:35 PM
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there are 3 things I want you to do here. internalize how this makes you feel and sear it on your brain. You are seeing the reality. Your wife wants chad thundercock over you. That is a truth we should all face. AWALT. Remember this whenever you think of skipping gym day. recall it when you are not sure if you should do that extra set of weights. That's right, lift angry! Take advantage of this opportunity to ENCOURAGE your wife to get sexually alive. If it takes a movie or novel to get her dirt…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 08:34 PM
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there is very sage advice here fellahs. I couldn't say it better myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 08:12 PM
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Sounds like you are doing great. A few thoughts: dont forget to reward the good behavior with a bit of comfort In reading this, it appears you are still talking way too much. ASKING for sex is not red pill, even if the answer is yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 08:11 PM
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whinemoreplease would lose his mind, and point it out to me as an example of lengthy posts from newly unplugged... I can feel the burn already.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 08:27 PM
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I know! I would hear the line "Why would you let her flirt with you like that?" And she would appear all mad. So I obeyed and lost attraction from my wife. Now I enjoy the flirting game. I have no plans to cheat on my wife, but I welcome the confidence it gives me, and then what my wife gives me later that night.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 08:19 PM
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I would say that being with the kid, even at home, will work. She will see you playing with your children, being an entertaining guy and lots of fun, instead of being with her. Or- take the kids out with you. See a movie, get ice cream, take them on a hike. As long as some of the time you are also going out with the guys or by yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 02:40 AM
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I lost my frame badly with my sister, badly. This was in front of my wife, and I know I lost some points. I was at my parents and we were all trying to get along. My sister is very selfish and was pushing hard to talk about something right there and then that i was refusing to do so. I believe she knows she has me over the barrel because I do not want to upset the delicate family dynamics, especially with our mother being ill. However she pushes my buttons like no other - if she was my girlfrien…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/15 05:16 PM
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I am in a similar boat - I want my hunger back.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 03:41 PM
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thanks for the reply - yep i am going to go monk mode and solve this myself - I am also going to get busier - idle hands make idle minds, and as much as i like philosophizing - in some ways it is my own hamster running and I dont need that negative argument in my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 01:51 PM
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I have philosophizing a lot lately during my commutes, and realize I dont laugh much anymore, or play. I tried talking to her about it, which I now think was a bad move, as my confusion without an answer made me appear as a rudderless captain. I am going to come up with solutions to make life better and more fun for me and my family and then tell them the good news, via actions. Taking Cialis now. That has helped fix the piping, but I do not last as long now? Going to a urologist next week to le…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 01:43 PM
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Why are you linking an hour and twenty minute seminar, with no context?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 01:32 PM
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Search this forum for FR or field reports. There is a ton of info on the right side for you to read, I would suggest not posting again until all that information has been consumed, the books read, the red pill taken. Until then, read, lurk, and grow some balls.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 01:17 PM
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Remember that your job is not to explain this to her and give her the answers. You need to let her hamster do a lot of this work for you. For example, you could have just said "not with that attitude" when she harpied for help. And then gone and done something else. You don't have to explain shit. Let her see your disappointment in her by the scowl on your face and your laughter at her ridiculous attitude. Then your perspective will get that hamster running. "Why is he reacting this way, what I …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 01:11 PM
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I am glad for you improving., and that your perspective has changed. but it appears to me you do still have covert contracts. I think it is likely that, at the least, she thinks so. She saw you flirtatious 'asking' all day, and then picked up on your reaction to her blow drying her hair. Don't get me wrong- hats off to you. It is near impossible to get a woman to have sex with you before her gyno appointment. But this reeks of obligation sex. To the gym with you!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 12:49 PM
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Any issue from her (or from your own psychology) with using this device, that there is a feeling of being inadequate when you dont? Never tried one so curious.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 09:11 PM
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I have also lost some attraction to my wife, as i have taken the red pill. But keep in mind your age. get you T levels checked.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 08:41 PM
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Nicely written! I often thought of doing a "Dear Abby" column for women, where 99% of my responses would be "Are you having sex with him? Try that!"
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 04:01 PM
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I disagree. Implementing red pill into a marriage, and going through that journey, will lead to many moments of doubt. You know that. Especially for those that have newly unplugged. If you remove the option to reach out to this community when those moments occur (and there really is not a community like this elsewhere), then sure... you will make the overall posts more enjoyable for those already further down the road to red pill marriage success. So you would be improving the place for the vete…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 02:38 PM
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I agree that keeping it between the aspect of me and her is important - and I dont want to establish her doing things without me. I thought it might be ok initially just to light the fire of her curiosity, without the pressure of seeing me with someone else. But I can see how that can backfire badly.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/15 04:20 PM
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we have only hung out with these folks as a couple. She now knows that a girls weekend with these folks is not on the table.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/15 02:41 PM
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thank you for your feedback. I have found that by setting the boundaries and enforcing them, that I am seen as the authority a bit and respected as such. The other wife "Alice" actually got pretty flirtatious with me later. I don't think she is used to a man saying no to one of her ideas. I think we will limit our contact and be a bit cautious when with these folks, as we feel things out.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/15 02:37 PM
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In reading your story, it appears to me that you need to lead. YOU need to be make sure you and your wife have a path forrward through this life, that you and her have time together to connect. The big challenge is the perspective going from "we are going through this together" to a state of competition and resentment "I do more than you/ you get more breaks than I do, etc" You need to get her mind back to the idea that you are a team, and only together you can weather this. Lead!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/15 02:23 PM
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you would have divorced your wife if she drunkenly made out with a woman in front of you, something she thought was a fantasy of yours? I call BS. Sure maybe a hellacious arguement, marriage on the brink conversation, or therapy... but flat our divorce? cmon man.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 09:31 PM
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I am leaning that way. One night of too much drinking there and then a visit to their "no bathing suit" jucuzzi, and I could wake up with a marriage in tatters, along with the hangover. Some of the other wives flirt with me pretty hard, so it could even be me that messes everything up.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 09:29 PM
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thanks. I agree with everything you said. Thus far it has all been out in the open and honest. But my concern is the gaslighting you mention, so I might just shut the whole thing down.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 09:27 PM
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My wife has been honest with me, I believe. She has not done anything behind my back, and I have snooped her tech to make sure. She also has been honest about her wants in all of this, and it is just that she is curious about girls. I believe if I said this subject was dead, she would drop it and not pursue it. To me the fuckup she had was making out with the girls the first time without getting permission first. She continued with it because she saw I was ok with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 09:25 PM
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just to clarify - my wife didnt shoot down my attending. It was the other wife "Alice". My wife was pretty quiet and just drinking her wine. Later we talked and she said she never thought Vegas was a real consideration anyway as it is not in our finances at the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 09:20 PM
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never said rape dude. There is a well known point made here that you do not talk about sex. you just make your move. You just take her. of course if she protests and says no, you back off, and be OI - find something else to do. But you do not ask or negotiate for sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 09:16 PM
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Actually I am not sure what I want here, and the sidebar does not give guidance on hat to do if your wife has a lesbian fantasy.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 11:25 AM
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well I know that with these other ladies it would be a sexually charged environment. I think my wife is sexually interested in me, especially sincere have taken the red pill. She is instigating once a week, and climbed on top this morning until the kid knocked on the door. But I will continue to lift hard, and add more dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 11:23 AM
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I like your edit at tend whe you discuss what you ARE goi g to do. Right now she needs comfort and your child will feed off her emotions, so give it to her. When she is doing better, just take her. Don't ever ask for sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 05:02 AM
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Nicely written. I would add as one of the tenets something about becoming the strong leader for your family, with your wife as your copilot. That is discussed here often and is a key principle that I have adopted..
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 04:54 AM
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"Also I am not comfortable recommitting to a sexually exclusive relationship with my wife at this time. " So does tis mean you are seeing other women (or you are open to it?)
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/15 04:39 AM
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thanks man
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/15 03:58 AM
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Thanks BP - this gives me strength. the larger question I would ask you is this: I can be stoic, pass the shit tests and be the unmovable force leading us... however what has been itching at me is that this does not give her feedback that her behavior is causing me to lose interest in her. Yes, I am withdrawing attention, but she doesnt seem to put the two together. So for the sake of our relationship I have an urge to let her know that her digs make her unattractive to me. but then am I not bre…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/15 01:08 PM
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thanks. I will look into this. It was not so much my needing to be right and let them know-- I should have written my FR much better as I think that is being latched onto. My response was playful, and showing the iphone article and pics led to a fun conversation (women are actually dying their armpit hair- crazy!) These women, they group up and ball bust as they drink and claim how great women are, and how men aren't. I dont engage that nonsense, but i don't go beta and join in like some of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/15 03:05 PM
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My wife has been pushing hard against my control in the bedroom as well. When I was spanking her, she would answer each by reaching back and hitting me back. A bit later when we were at the kitchen sink and her attitude was too combative, i just said "yea, i'm done here." and went to unlock the door -- she quickly grabbed me back and was completely different.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/15 02:56 PM
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I hear what you are saying. I believe I hold frame pretty well. I don't yell or make a scene or get all emotional. I do get quiet and less responsive, and she does notice it "you're getting all distant now?". I have realized that is not the frame I want- I am outgoing fun-loving extrovert, and for me to go all monk-mode is not who I want to be, nor what attracted her to me. So i have been a bit more boastful and upbeat - but I will think about your words and how that can reveal a lack of confide…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 09:03 PM
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sigh... obviously I did not say, nor would I ever, say "I did something great!" - I was sharing with her somethings about my last 2 days, as I was out of town, and she had a response or 2 that were negative judgments of me. I was paraphrasing. sure It would be great to have her as my cheerleader. Red Pill has helped me realize that I have to find that strength from within.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 08:57 PM
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Well, I make myself busy. I have a few woodworking projects I am working on. I am at the gym lifting a lot now, and I am not offering much affection. I hold my frame - although she does notice me "getting all distant". I try to be my happy self and do things with the kids. Work more. She is being a cunt. Her shit tests are increasing and I think the main event is on the horizon. What I did was call her on it. I plan to not discuss it again- and in the future to respond with withdrawing my affect…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 08:08 PM
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honestly, I am ready to go there internally. But my goal is to make this marriage great -- shit tests initially were a great discovery: especially when I got pretty good at passing them. Now seeing them so clearly are making her become less attractive to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 07:57 PM
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This is not an "i need a compliment" situation. I am dealing with an increase of negative comments - this shit tests are increasing. Do I just continue laughing them off and passing them, or do I call her on the behavior as being disrespectful (and thus failing the shit test).
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 07:53 PM
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thank you for your lengthy reply. I will try to format my posts better in the future. I like how MRP gives it to me brutal - but perhaps I painted this scenario worse than it was. I actually charmed the other ladies and handled my wife quite well at the party. bringing out the phone was to continue to the interesting conversation (if I recall it was about women now growing armpit hair as a summer thing - the girls didnt believe me, and I found an article with a lot of pictures that we all laughe…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 07:46 PM
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I think my response at the party was something along the lines of what you suggested "Well I am always right!", or something like that. I agree it is a perspective - and I think I now have the one you suggest. I have been, for months passing these tests, but now the second part of what you say is coming true - either like me or get the fuck out of my life. As I become more outcome independent, I am more open to the idea of just ending this relationship with my wife. So I guess to try to save it,…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/15 07:26 PM
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what example would you be setting for the kids by staying? (hint: a bad one)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 08:16 PM
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I have seen friends wives do this, and it all led to divorce. In these cases, it was not so much wanting to next their husband... they were wanting to next their lives. All of them were using this "job to make money" as a way to step away from responsibilities, the little kids, the marriage, and be a teenager again. I would advise you to tell her no. that this is not acceptable.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/15 06:18 AM
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I want to do 5x5 but am worried about doing this at a gym solo - do you need someone to spot you? What do you do if you get in trouble?
/r/askTRP09/06/15 04:11 PM
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My question was to make sure we had all the details, because if all she did was go skinny dipping with a few others, (with no sexual contact with anyone) she did not technically cheat on you, and you are throwing that word around and talking divorce. I think that you are over-reacting about it. NO I would not be OK with my wife doing that, but I wouldnt divorce over it. Yes, the trickle -truth is your real issue, and I am glad that A&A is working with the rage -
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/15 02:50 PM
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Help me understand how she cheated on you. Was it the skinny dipping? Was it her getting naked in front of this dude? She did not do anything sexually with him right, but encouraged him and her friend to be sexual, and witnessed that. To me that is not grounds for divorce. I do think you have issues - her lying, her rage issues you talk about, etc. TO me this is where your true problem lies.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/15 03:20 PM
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from reading the thread the wife does not come across as overbearing. Perhaps I dont have enough insight on her behaviors and his problems with her- but her response was to ask if she did something wrong, not to tell him what to do. Am I missing something? I am curious about this idea of negging your wife. One thing that appeals to me about Married Red Pill is the idea to be the leader of the family (and her your copilot). Hard to think of examples of leaders negging their first mates to keep th…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 04:57 PM
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About 15 minutes ago she asked if she did anything wrong because I've been mean to her this morning. It's only been 1.5 hours since she woke up. I teased & negged her a bit, but that's just what I've been doing for months with other women I do not see it suggested anywhere on married red pill to neg your wife. This Pick Up tactic is all fine for your flirting, but with your wife? I dont think so. Sounds like you were being an asshole to her. He said, "Dad, mom's right here." I said, "Yeah, I see…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 02:34 PM
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why are you with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 10:06 PM
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Let me make a bullet list for you. yes you are doing this wrong. yes, you are being an asshole. you are not holding frame (screaming cursing) you are not LEADING you are not red pill you don't deserve shit. Good news is that it is a new day. Look in the mirror and focus on fixing your problems (which are bigger than hers).
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 10:02 PM
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Sounds like a good start. I would consider easing off on the affection - instead of giving more of it. You are taking charge of your world and marching forward - Now be OI and just focus on you time and doing things with the kids. If you are doing it right, she will start reaching out to be a part of the new you, and to spend time with you and initiate. As it is right now, you are still the one doing enough effort in connecting for the both of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 02:41 PM
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Abdada clearly lays out what is wrong, and I also dont understand why you are ok with it. Regardless of what she is doing with this time I want to make it clear that I do not believe this is an appropriate thing for her to do. I think you are lying to yourself here - or you are OK with a part time wife and an open relationship. Which is it? Whether she is cheating is irrelevant. She is checking OUT of the marriage and family. Document her behavior and save everything for the coming custody battl…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 02:21 PM
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dont look at what they say - look at what they do. Take this woman who wants to have sex - and an important part when reading these posts is that they want sex - not so much sex WITH their husband. How do you think she is coming on to him? She might put out a few hints - but in the stories I read, the complaints are that he is not having sex with her... And in additoin to the hints she drops, what is not mentioned is the shit tests. It is in the nature of all women to throw some shit tests befor…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/15 02:54 PM
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I completely agree here. The last thing you need to do is MORE stuff for her. You think that you need to pay her more compliments- but she does not appreciate compliments from you (as you admitted). I do not know if you are still reading this - but if you are open to one piece of advice it is this: Your attempts to continually reassure her is ruining your marriage
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 05:49 PM
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LOL I agree with Prof here - equal say on something that will effect the next 20+ years of your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/15 09:29 PM
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A miscarriage can be very traumatic. As with pregnancy, I would throw in a little more beta here. To be red pill, why not pull out and cum on her? seriously: when and whether to have kids should be a discussion that is agreed to. It is not right of either of the party to trick the other into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/15 09:28 PM
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here is one thing to consider in addition to the great advice in this thread I also have serious doubts that she's TRP LTR material-- she's very alpha and her personality grows more unpleasant each passing year. Consider that she might be Alpha because you are not. Someone has to lead the dance, and you admit you went hard beta. And there is even a moment for men after they step up, where it is a battle of who is more alpha, as the wife is reluctant to give up her control. But for many, the wife…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/15 03:10 PM
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you know covert contracts are bad - taking away the covert part doesnt mean it is ok. You want your wife to want to please you - that is the goal. Her obligation to blow you is not that - and the last thing you want to do is to introduce/reinforce the idea that sex with you means she gets something. imagine how bad that will get ....
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/15 01:31 PM
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perhaps i should of added a "/sarcasm" to answer your question - for me whenever they make comments about not looking good, or other women looking better - I take that as an invitation to make a move. I never offer words to make them feel better. "well you always seem to pay attention to what those fox news girls say!" answer - well I dont do this with them (make move). Now if she rejects you, you then walk away. - and she rejects the only reassurance you are offering. let that hamster spin on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/15 01:24 PM
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the problem here is watching fox news.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 11:41 PM
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We have sex once a week - every third week it is twice a week. to be honest, my overall desire has been decreasing so I am not wanting it much more. Mentally, I want myself to want it more - but then again i could just be chasing my own tail creating a problem where there isnt one.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 01:17 PM
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I need to start lifting again. been in a slump/funk for a few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 11:20 PM
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I have gone the no porn no fap route for about 5 months - but I have fallen off the wagon a bit recently (when wife was unable to have sex for 6 weeks due to a procedure).
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 11:20 PM
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thanks for this guidance. I am looking to start up with 5x5 - only concern is I will be lifting solo and I have an old shoulder injury.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:22 PM
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if you want anything from your wife you have to earn it. this is key. You are trying to get it via threats and ultimatums. By covert contracts. Earn it. Attract her.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 09:13 PM
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thanks for this - and I love the term flabby mcburgerhams
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 09:10 PM
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MY GP has been pretty nonplussed and unhelpful, other than the T-test. And my wife is very much a MILF- plenty of physical attraction. I will say that her last minute resistant shit tests had caused issues in the past. IE - her wanting to talk about the kids or a scheduling issue, or complaining about an a body issue she has (dont go down there, I smell!) has caused me to lose attraction and hardness. Did much better after red pill got started - by going caveman and not caring. But still havent …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 09:10 PM
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I was in a similar boat - before Red pill my wife and I were doing fine. Always room for improvement, and the new perspecitve also helps
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 08:54 PM
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congrats. yes - too much talking. but more importantly - congrats.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 08:50 PM
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One thing that helped me in the start was by going caveman during sex. Just be primal, an animal just focused on your needs.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 08:47 PM
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stay the course. The easier win is for her to have more sex with you because of ultimatums and fear. The longer harder to get win is for her to have more sex with you because she admires you and wants you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 04:08 PM
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You are doing MRP wrong. The goal is to attract your wife and for her to support you as the leader of your family. You are instead on the path to divorce. From reading your replies, you are rejecting your wife's advances, you are jumping to Dread level 10, and many other mistakes. There is no quick fix. There is however an opportunity to change YOU into a leader who is guiding the marriage to greatness - someone who holds frame and makes his wife want to sleep with him. This is only achieved by …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 03:45 PM
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What helped me the most - out the gate: stop talking about stuff - show with actions no longer talk about or ask for sex. Just make your move and take her. BE the leader of your marriage an family. just take the role and run with it. Frame - Frame - Frame. be the Oak.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 03:34 PM
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but isnt she living like you are married now? Why not wear the ring? Perhaps I am missing something. If the marriage is severely broken then yes, consider divorce... but if it is healthy, thriving - then keep your vow and honor and celebrate your union.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 04:02 AM
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well you see the challenge here was that for the last 6 weeks there was no sex that this could be a part of - because sex (and touching her down there) was completely off the table. Foreplay was rare, because she would get tense thinking I was wanting sex and concerned about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 07:38 PM
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thank you for the clarification! I do not in any way suggest any rape.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 07:37 PM
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let me 2nd this - one of the most successful moves I have made with Red Pill is that I do not ask for sex anymore. I just take her. If she puts up a fuss, I push through them. If the fuss gets really big? I then have better things to do. Never ask or negotiate for sex again.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 02:57 PM
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You are clearly seeing what is happening and analyzing it great - so good job there. I can tell you from my own journey (about 6 months in) I still desperately want to talk to my wife about sex - make ultimatums and explain to her how things are going to be. But I have learned not to (except for maybe the Main event, which is coming your way). Instead of me talking, I have learned that her hamster makes a far better argument that I ever could. So I would encourage you to continue to let your act…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 02:51 PM
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thanks - this post encourages me to keep pushing forward!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 02:41 PM
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you hit it with the being stoic part - I am avoiding discussing with her a bunch of feeling stuff that deal with my fears, insecurities and the like, and I do need to fill that void with other subjects. You know what it is - I watched with her the movie Neighbors the other night- and I really liked the bonding between Seth Rogen and the girl playing his wife. Yes I know it was a movie, and blue pill is always shown successfully in those flicks... but it did make me miss that emotional connection…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 02:40 PM
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thanks Professor - I am trying to follow the DEVI and I do try to add the Variety - it has been an interesting journey in bed with Red Pill! The greatest failing I had during my imposed 6 weeks without sex was not receiving BJs. There were some great threads about getting them on this subreddit, but I could not figure out a way to get one without asking or demanding, which for me at the moment is against the rules. I wanted to attract her significantly so she would want to do it without prodding…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 02:34 PM
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I like your A+A!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 02:29 PM
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i think in this case it was that I made dinner, on her request, and she just chastised the kids to take their plates to the sink and then in almost the same breath she asked me to take hers - ... but in trying to justify it, I do see that, even though it nipped her "regularly asking for petty things" - it was petty in how I handled it - so taking it as a loss and a lesson to move forward. good advice in your post - thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/15 02:28 PM
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welcome. what residue of damage do you see on your kids? I would expect that you are now setting a good example for your son, on what a man should be.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 08:21 PM
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Yea, I am unsure if I should be worried or excited about her "enthusiasm with demands" when it comes to sex. As for the Plate thing - I think I was needing to put my foot down because there has been too much of our relationship consumed with "going over the to-do checklist" and not enough connecting-- and connecting doesnt need to be in a sexual way, but just relating to one another. I think it was good to let her know she cant walk over me, and that I am ok with upsetting her. ...and now it has…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 08:17 PM
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thank you for this - I have been looking for a post to share with a friend to introduce him to red pill, and I think this one will be great.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 04:04 PM
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I had success last night - I was having a beer with a friend last night , who just found out his wife was cheating on him. What seemed to really draw his interest was when he would go on about how crazy it is that girls act this way, that way... and how it doesnt make any sense when they do this, that... ...and I was nonplussed, and said again and again "it makes perfect sense- All Women Are Like That.. and then I would reference the red pill forum here.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 02:44 PM
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----UPDATE: He found out yesterday (VIA HER PHONE) that she was s'posed to meet up with a guy. the guy backed out but promised a future meet-up where he would bring his truck so they could make-out. This guy is an old high school boyfriend from 20 years ago, who has a wife and 2 small kids. I took my buddy out for a beer, offered advice and some RP mentality. I also read directly from this thread much of your advice, so thank all of you for that. You hit hard but he needed to hear it. He agrees …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 02:37 PM
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I gave him this exact pitch last night - he wants to give RP a try - and I will be directing him to this subreddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 02:19 PM
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He might choose that path, but last night he agreed to get a PI just so he can get all the info and a clearer picture to make his decision. He agrees that full transparency is needed if he is to continue.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 02:18 PM
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He is going to dig into the finances this week, as he gets his affairs in order. He has found out that there is a separate account only she has access too- so his first step is to find out about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 02:16 PM
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had a beer with him last night. Actually read a lot of these posts to him, and I think it hit a nerve. He is interested in Red Pill and I am directing him to this forum.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 02:14 PM
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You were right. He found out yesterday that she is talking to another guy and trying to meet up with him.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 02:13 PM
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You hit a key point there that I didnt mention - I told him that if he was to continue with her, one of my conditions I would demand would be that she drops all of these friends that support and encourage infidelity. He read me more of their chats and these women (All late 30s and married) all think they deserve the world.... without responsibility
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 06:54 PM
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I was actually thinking of that as alternate advice as well - it might be better for him (if he isnt one to change his colors) to never let her know that he knows - as she would think even less of him if she knew he knew and that he wouldnt stand up even then...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 06:46 PM
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Would he let his best friends read his autobiography, or hide it out of shame? that is a great quote!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 06:44 PM
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I have been struggling with this - thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 03:07 PM
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so let me get this straight - she rarely has sex with you, and a few days after she gets back in town, she has one of those rare sexy times and now she is pregnant. Wake up dude - odds are you are not the father. oh and PS - periods can be faked.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 11:56 PM
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Good luck man. best advice I can give is to say you have a choice: Are you a victim, or are you responsible for the hell you are in? Only one of those choices gives you the power to change it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 04:39 PM
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good point
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 03:49 PM
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Major Part for me with MRP is fixing myself - FIRST. Set a plan - get your ducks in a row - stand up and be a man. THEN you can look over to her with expectation. and let me add... you ask where to start and the have a cryfest. what the hell man - take out your tampon and read the suggested links on the right, and do the course work.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 03:29 PM
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not to nitpick - as I love some of these - but let me make a point on one of these: You me merlot bobs burgers and blowjobs tonight? For new MRP'ers, dont ask for sexual acts in a text, like this. You can tell her what is happening, or what to be ready for-- but you are in charge. (like the other examples listed).
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 03:21 PM
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agreed. I am scripting the same ideas elsewhere in the thread. New MRP'ers should not do text game.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 03:18 PM
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agreed - but you are in the advanced MRP class. For Newbs, text game is likely to come across as pedestal building and permission seeking. I would suggest radio silence would be a far more successful tactic for the beginner.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 03:16 PM
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a key question is: Are you not attracted to her, or just not attracted to anyone? You could be having low testosterone levels. Also, don't let your own mind games keep you from happiness. If you love her and are happy with her, and having the amount of sex you want (which right now isnt much) - then what is the problem? If you want more sex, and really find yourself interested in other girls - then you have a problem. But dont ruing a good thing because you think there is some metric you have to…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 02:52 PM
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Why compliment her? That doesn't turn her on. Placing her on a pedestal just lowers your SMV. I agree that texts reinforcing your caveman sexual urges are great. Just be careful to make sure you are setting expectation for the night, and not bluepill asking for permission.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 02:44 PM
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I tend to let the hamster do the work for me, so I follow the guideline of being aloof, mysterious and distant. So maybe I would send one simple text like "Man I am so pumped right now - I could fuck the world! When I get done conquering today be ready for me to come knockin..." The key thing is I am not praising her. I am not putting her on a pedestal that other suggested texts do. I am not complimenting her. I am placing an expectation - giving an order even. i am painting myself in a very goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 02:38 PM
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Let me lay this out simply. She is threatening you, and threatening herself with violence. She is threatening a possible fetus with violence. The fact that she is doing this for manipulation and control is even worse - but even without that purpose, understand you are putting yourself into a situation where you will receive domestic violence, mental and physical abuse, and possible actions that will throw you in jail. You are NOT a hero for going into that situation to protect her in case she do…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 09:39 PM
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1 - do not ever hit a woman, shove a woman, threaten to do so or hold a knife in a threatening way. That is not Red pill, and will never do anything good. 2 - do not be alone with this woman. do not be with this woman. I know you are worried about her and the child's safety, but the threats and acts to harm herself and the child are specific to manipulate you. If you are not in the picture, then it will likely not happen. 3 - the child might not be yours, or she might not be pregnant. Send her t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 07:02 PM
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1st, your post suggests you are not red pill - so I wouldn't end the relationship until you have become the man you want to be (one that will attract her). 2nd, I would delay the wedding. Do not say it is because of a lack of sex, remember you can not negotiate attraction. Tell her "I cannot become a husband until I am first the man I want to be." I can tell you I am working on it."
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 03:51 AM
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I think so much of red pill is about perspective. I used to be so mad - for example with how unfair women are: "They deny us sex when we deserve it for all we do!". But since taking the pill, I know understand how they work, and that AWALT... so I am not angry at her anymore for being a woman. I accept it and I am eager to learn more on how I can bring her into my frame by understanding her, not by being angry. (with the earlier example, this would be my understanding that attraction is not nego…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/15 02:30 PM
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I have recently awoke to this perspective as well. (posted a few weeks back about her shit tests she threw out when she wanted sex opening my eyes). I still stress a bit on how to pass them, but see them as opportunities, and easy lay up.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/15 07:38 PM
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A week isnt that long to try something out. Sounds like you went straight to the nuclear option... and I am not sure why. Only you know your situation - but I would suggest you consider that changing your scenery will not change the world you end up creating. Unless of course she is all to blame.... Until you learn to be different so women want to respect you, I fear your might just end up repeating this.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 06:04 PM
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why argue with her? Let her hamster argue with her... it does a better job. Overall, like everyone else - I would say less talk. Be the quiet one that talks through actions and passion. If she doesnt respond or get it - then go do something else. I learned a lot by your analysis of yourself - thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 03:39 AM
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good feedback - thanks. As always, much work to do. I think there was a small win in there, when I didnt jump at the chance to shower with her, so she later had to wait for me. She also put on a negligee, which a day earlier I was suggesting in some text flirting, and she pushed back saying she doesnt wear those anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 01:49 PM
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I see what your saying. Always better to have self improvement. I just dont want a situation where she notices the cause and effect - ie: If he gets really mad, he will go fix himself, or get in better shape for me.. etc etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 06:41 PM
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Trying to think of a leader who apologized to great success... I understand your point, but I think by him pointing out his error and taking ownership of it, it would not make her see him as "the leader". It will bring all focus on the encounter, on his faults with it. BY placing it on him and saying he will be different, it removes any concern she has about his anger and problems with the night (with her behavior). and worst of all, it sets him up to now have a conversation = a talk about what …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 04:27 AM
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I suggested going out to drink with the guys as a way to not only hav a good time with friends absent her - but also because a bar gets the hamster working on the dread. I honestly dont see how by "doing something productive" increases the dread. wow, you fixed the sink and did the taxes. That is soo unfaithful.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 04:19 AM
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to back up what Dandar4600 said, I also went the no porn no fap route, and have had great success. I have not dicussed it with her in depth, beyond informing her with a little amused mastery - "Heads up - I have decided I am no longer going to watch porn or Fap, So you might want to stretch daily and be prepared because it is all coming your way now" (wink). She is happy i am not doing any of that, and it bolsters my position that me grabbing her and throwing her on the bed is perfectly natural,…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/15 07:51 PM
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I wouldn't apologize. I do not see how saying you are sorry about this will do anything to benefit you. It will not get her panties wet. ..but it will put her just a little bit further above you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/15 07:43 PM
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MY 2 CENTS: Send her a text later today saying you are going out with buds. Go out, come home late smelling of alcohol and go to bed. If she wants to talk about last night, simply say "I have nothing to talk about" and move forward with life. Dont be pissy - dont act hurt. You are doing great like nothing happened. In a day or 2 start hitting on her again, even harder. Until then, keep all attention and time withdrawn. If she says no in a couple days, say "no worries" then get up and leave the h…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/15 07:40 PM
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another point on Pilates - it builds more of a dancer body, which is my preference for a look on a woman (instead of a bodybuilder physique) -- it also gives them greater flexibility for more positions. seriously. to each their won - just letting you know (my wife does pilates)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/15 04:36 PM
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Great FR. This is one area I still need to work on a lot, and this inspires me. question: what is doxxing?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 05:38 PM
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Most important item I got from your post I feel I should be appreciated for all my effort and that she should be securing her future with me as she is starting to approach the wall That is a covert contract. You feel you DESERVE something. I understand the feeling, we all do. But women do not operate that way. Attraction is not negotiable. I am glad you like the New You - but by just going off of your post here, I do not hear of any blue pill/love you are giving her. in a LTR, you have to give a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 12:43 AM
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yea, he is one of the few guys I first reached out to about Red Pill, when i was new and reading. I asked him and others to check out this theory because I have been reading up on it and considering it, however I wanted to make sure I wasnt crazy before implementing it in my marriage. He said it sounded too good to be true, if I recall correctly. He also pissed me off a few months later when I shared with him over the phone something I read either her or on red pill - to not ask but rather comma…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 08:40 PM
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You are only powerless if you are a victim. If you have that mentality, then you have already lost. It is clear in your post that you are not powerless. You say: I still suffer from covert contracts and have difficulty identifying what I truly want and then speaking up for it. So here is a behavior you clearly see contributing to your problems, that you have the power to change. Man up .
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 09:55 PM
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Yes I see the paradox you are perceiving. To make it even grander, one could say that with Red Pill you become so self invested in the new you, and proud and confident in the new you, that when she turns you down, you actually look at her wit a bit of pity. You have made yourself into such a great attractive alpha leader and she still is saying no? And yes, that then can make you lose attraction in her. But that seems to be at the core of what you won't swallow. That at the end of all of this se…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/15 12:02 PM
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You have been giving a lot of focus and time on yourself, and I admire that. Take small steps. MRP can help a lot with #4. there are plenty of posts to inspire and inform about maintaining frame so you do not lose your cool. I would recommend that you exhale. You have a plan of action so I would stop worrying about it so much. There is a saying that the best exercise plan wont work until you start it-- so I would encourage you to tell your wife that I have a good plan going forward to improve me…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/15 01:56 AM
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Not calling you fat - honestly dont know your story, how your marriage is, or anything. Just explaining one realization some people have when they take the pill - that they could be better. We all have our faults. But you are really stuck on this "indifference". Let me try to explain how it does not mean we no longer care about our wives, or love them.... If this was a job board, and we encouraged you to focus on your career right now in your life - that would not make you indifferent to your ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/15 01:43 AM
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If you are sincere then I would be happy to help with what I have learned so far. I can tell you this - swallowing the red pill in my marriage, and following this board has not made me indifferent to my wife. I actually show her more affection (sometimes caveman style) and our marriage is enjoying a new honeymoon phase. And I treat my wife with respect. The big change is that I am respected as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/15 10:20 PM
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For MRP - for me, it was this: I came here with not a bad marriage, but I as not getting the level of affection I wanted. I learned here that I was not attracting her. I also learned that attraction is not negotiable. I can't "earn it", and so was just getting obligation sex. So then how do I attract her? Yes there are tactics of manipulation, such as push/pull , dread and the like. You can use the pick up artist stuff. But there is also the realization that many have here which is... they are n…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/15 10:06 PM
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wow - such a great line - mantra even: "This is MRP. When you end the relationship, you do out from Alpha strength, not from Beta weakness."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 03:51 PM
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I STRONGLY suggest you consider this. You are aware you messed this up being blue-pill. Instead of trying to fix it, you are going to end it? So when is it do you learn how to lead a relationship? It wont be your next one because you haven't put the tools in practice, so that will fail too. at the very least, look at it this way - your current relationship can be a test tube experiment where you can try the red pill stuff out. If it doesnt work out the way you want it, you already have outcome i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 03:40 PM
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this is so true. You now have the knowledge and the skills to get women.... but your married. affairs are more of a temptation.... or atleast a more present thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/15 02:43 PM
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similar experiences here. I now get the amount of sex that I want, so I do not think about as much. in fact, I have sex sometimes just keep up the routine -- when i am not all that interested at the moment. I also gave up Porn and fapping. I think that has a lot to do with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 11:48 PM
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I am looking to start lifting ... I have worked out off an on for years, ran, play soccer, did a triathlon - but never got into heavy lifting. Any guidance for a guy age 44? (currently doing Keto diet to lose weight and yoga for flexibility)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 10:25 PM
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I highly encourage for you to stop talking to her about all of this. Let her hamster do the work. Expect her to try to fix/restart the relationship once you improve your SMV and show the action of this change. what you do then is your call.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 07:10 PM
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UPDATE: Thanks for all the feedback. Yes I will worry less about it and realize in this case AWALT does not apply. Example from yesterday - which is a day I work from home (and with Red pill I have made it a sex day). Well the kids found out Tuesday night that there would be no school Wednesday, and I was trying to figure out how to have sexy time with the kids in the house all day. Maybe Tuesday night when they go to bed? Well, no luck there, because my wife was already asleep by 930. ....howev…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 06:14 PM
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thank you for this - I thought the same but was getting conflicting thoughts with the AWALT mantra.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 05:39 PM
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I share stories about girls at work and gym -- and when we have dinner date / drinks with friends, I get my friends wives to flirt with me pretty well. So I think I am good here...?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 05:38 PM
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working on that. Keno diet right now and working out. I think I have a pretty high SMV. I dress good, and have a high rep job. But looking back in our 15 years, when i was in better shape (even 6pack shape) I didnt notice any greater arousal then. Of course those were blue pill days...
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 05:36 PM
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great guidance, I will give some of these a try.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 05:33 PM
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I have a little bullet that we break out once every month or two, that does the trick most of the time. However even with that (whether by my hand or hers)... there are times where she says her V is just not responding, and lets have sex. ...and so we do :) But I do find it interesting that at times she can't get herself off.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 05:32 PM
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I sprinkle in a bit of Dread, dressing better, increasing my SMV. I am actively showing my lust for her more often through teasing and flirting, setting up the anticipation. 10 second Kiss. well, my wife is not a fan of kissing. especially sloppy wet kissing.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 05:30 PM
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I bring it up here (safe space) only because of the advice like what I quoted. A bit of guidance found here is how via sex to increase your woman's lust, how to rock her world to a degree that she wants you so much more. Well in reading that herre again and again, and remembering the red pill mantra AWALT - I cant help but question whether there is something I am doing wrong, and it is not her unique circumstances/medical/unknown reasons. Trust me, I am not going to talk to her about it....
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 05:27 PM
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EDIT - posting this in a new thread, per suggestion below. Thread will be titled: No success turning on my wife
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 08:46 PM
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I would not start doing coupons - as it would become obligation sex. however in this case - it sounds like she is trying to have fun - there is roleplay opportunities here - maybe she has an inward desire to roleplay being your callgirl? go with it - but go even bigger. Great opportunity to roleplay her being completely submissive, obeying your every word. ..for fun of course... ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 08:17 PM
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The first rule of fight club is you do not talk about fight club. Clearly you are talking about it, and even telling her to read one of the books. You also complain about her drama, but then you continue to engage in it. why? Let her hamster have the conversation with her. You go silent and dark, giving her a look of bewildered disapproval that she is still talking about this (like you would give a bratty child) as you leave the room. You going quiet, getting distant, and removing yourself from …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 06:56 PM
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Biggest advice I could give you - after reading what your normal behavior is .... do NOT talk to her about this. Really you need to STOP communicating so much. .... and not expect her to communicate her desires. You do understand that if a girl has to ask a guy to be dominant, and take her roughly, then her wish cannot be fulfilled.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 05:28 PM
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why? Or more importantly, what dynamic do you envision? I used to champion men and women as equal. I now believe that men and women are different, and trying to make us the same hurts both parties. Your marriage right now is not one of 50/50 leadership - you see that right? Honestly look at it, and you will likely see that she is the leader. And it doesn't sound like she respects you as a follower. Either accept that, or you become the leader. You can choose how much power/delegation you give he…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 09:37 PM
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Strategos is dead on here. By engaging her digging, you are helping her figure it out. Instead, leave that to the hamster. It will hop on the wheel and spin - mostly likely to her detriment as it takes the eventual path of self-blame. You are not required to explain you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 09:27 PM
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agreed. I included it as an observation of the 6 month mark. Might surprise some like it did me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 08:54 PM
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well said.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 09:19 PM
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I talked about it some in another reply in this thread. As the Captain, I cannot openly express my fears and doubts, as I used to when I was blue pill. Losing the ability to share all of me (no matter how unhealthy those subjects were for my relationship) is the right move, but I naturally feel more alone with some of my thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 09:19 PM
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I get your point - perhaps a better way to say it would be that some of the red pill techniques will increase her attraction for you, but not her love for you. Dread does not increase love.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 09:14 PM
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I probably should have used better language than 'cuddling'. I am referring to the natural missing of some of my old beta behavior that I don't do now. In the past I would share with her my fears of losing her, or if we were going to make it. Maybe my fears and lack of confidence in my career. Doing this was cathartic and bonding in a blue pill way. Now as Captain, I don't do this. My doubts and fears are kept to myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 09:13 PM
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I likely could of pushed and gotten my way that night - my point was that I clearly failed a test and I could see her lack of attraction to me in that moment. My light escalation after that was naturally meeting much greater than usual resistance. I deserved that additional resistance. I ended up not pushing it as I was working from home the next day and the environment would allow for even more fun times (no kids in the house). Fun times were had.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 09:02 PM
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immediately start your own papertrail documenting your perspective. See a lawyer. send emails to someone you trust about the situation. Then, have this conversation with her again and record it. In fact, until you get out of this, you should record every conversation. (live and on phone). You need to get out of this relationship and never look back.
/r/askTRP18/02/15 04:45 PM
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learning to stop apologizing was my first step and it made a huge difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 04:01 PM
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You have received a big clue there. If she says she is feeling pressured, then sex is more of an obligation than a desire, and it is a clear indication you need to increase your SMV. You never feel pressure when pushed to do something you want, right? But I would also figure in the fact that you are trying to change the status quo - from low frequency sex to a weekly or daily occurrence. ... so it is natural for there to be resistance to change --- just keep thinking how great it will be after y…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 02:00 PM
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you initiate every night because you are a man and you want it everynight.... or atleast that is the perception you are trying to establish. Hell - I hit on her on days I am not in the mood- because consistently is key. furthermore - if you are waiting to the odds are in your favor by reading subtle clues and offhanded comments, then you are being manipulated by those.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 10:41 PM
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welcome to the change. Biggest mistake I see new MRP'ers is that they take the basic concepts and the excitement of it, and try to talk the change into their wife. Don't talk to her about this. Understand this has nothing to do with her and it is all about YOU. YOU are not attractive to her, so she does not want to fuck you. This is a fixable problem and the sidebar and folks here have the answers - if you do the hard work. Good luck. get that frame under control and get outcome independent (you…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 10:36 PM
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hang in there - it is a marathon, not a sprint...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 07:36 PM
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These covert-contracts are your downfall. You seem to be thinking it is about what you deserve. Hell, you went shopping with her, you should get a treat! TRY THIS PERSPECTIVE: (1) You change yourself into the alpha leader of your family. Getting in shape, doing the work, and making the family life plan happen. = awesome stuff. (2) You make a move on her and she rejects awesome you... (3) Then SHE looks less attractive to YOU because of it. You are shocked that she isn't pleasing her man... and w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 07:34 PM
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I would suggest not talking about sex. Definitely not asking for it, even in 'feel it out' questions. Instead just make physical moves. Escalate. I do this with attitude as well - I am a man and I have a desire for my woman. That is not wrong, but instead is something to celebrate! ....to take pride in. So go at it with that attitude, and if you can't push through all the defenses, well then get up with a smile and do something away from her. (ideally go out). But do not say something in anger o…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/15 07:04 PM
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You failed the test. You gave her the safest answer. Man, she was tee-ing you up for you up to demonstrate your dominance, while she was being railed. And you played it safe so she wouldnt get mad. sigh.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 07:36 PM
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Why are you talking to her about sex so much? The arguments you are making can be made SOOO much better by her inner-hamster. IF this isnt about getting sex and instead the quality (IE- is she bitching, going starfish, etc) - then I would do the following: Wife during foreplay/sex: "Your hands are too cold.. bitch bitch bitch..." You: Yea... I am not enjoying this. I am going out. (then leave.) Nothing else needs to be said, or later explained.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 09:26 PM
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I also 2nd this. These classes helped my wife join me on our fiscal mission. She know champions it (and tightens her belt) more than I do.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/15 09:02 PM
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For me, A big moment came when I had a free weekend and realized I had no hobbies anymore. I realized I forgot how to dream, and to live. Good luck with your journey man. My main suggestion is to be wary of going from one extreme to the other.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/15 08:24 PM
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sounds like you are going from one extreme to the other. Middle ground would be that no purchases over a certain amount would be made without your approval. I personally prescribe to the dave ramsey plan and it speaks a lot to doing finances together - it gets her invested into your family financial goals, instead of just being mad at her limited allowance.. Honestly it sounds like you have a lot of other blue pill issues that you are trying to answer by going hard red pill on the money. Why are…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/15 05:47 PM
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not an expert, but one key thing I have learned is keeping frame. So if you stop pursuing your natural urges for sex, then you are reacting to her shit tests. However if you push past these tests, and mean to show that your frame is not broken, then the next day (or hours later) you would naturally continue to escalate for sex.. right? You are also confusing sex as a reward behavior for her. her reward/punishment is your commitment, spending time with her, etc. TLDR: yes, initiate. Wake her up a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 07:32 PM
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I would not say no to bad sex, but rather make a note mentally how YOU could improve it next time. As for what you do... You need variety- the V in DEVI from SGM. But beyond that, Let me differ from others to say that there is a physical medical situation where women do not get that wet, so don't think you are not arousing her. (or that it is not all you) In the same vein, there is a danger here where some people could push their sexual envelope into activities they might not be into, in hopes t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/15 09:15 PM
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good to hear man. I hope she breatsfeeds. It really helps them get back into shape.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 06:09 PM
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I want to second this. I have gone 4 months with NO FAP / NO PORN and it has helped me greatly go Red Pill. The key is you replace the FAP w/ your wife. For those pushing back, I suggest the following. When you FAP alot your drive goes down. This makes you less likely to push through her resistance tests, being willing to compromise on your needs or go without. Afterall, if she says no, you can just go to the computer room and crank one out, right? So your wife can say no, you stay in the house.…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 06:02 PM
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the bluepillprofessor referred to it in this thread as " fuck like a wild man" For me - it means have it be about fulfilling your instincts, passion/desire and primal urges. NOT about checking in to make sure she is having a good time, thinking about why she is reacting a certain way, or how am I doing, is she being pleased? etc etc. For my wife this comes across that I am so attracted to her that I cant keep my hands off of her, and then when we get in bed I lose control. ON occasion I change i…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 05:36 PM
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I think she is just starting ovulation now, but her cycle has been off, so you might be right. as mentioned in other threads, she has a very low libido. Basically the daughter walked into our room complaining. I cant remember if it was "I am bored!" or "Why does my brother get ice-cream for his sorer throat and I don't?" nonsense, but it was something like that. In the past, i would have gotten testy being cockblocked like this. I was just escalating my moves in anticipation of the kids going to…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 02:28 PM
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No, the daughter (age 9) has her own room. She came into our room (door was open) and my wife and I were chilling in the room talking (I was working some KINO and escalation, but much like as a guy would do in a public bar, so nothing scandalous). The daughter slept in her own room. My wife and I went to the bathroom area because (a) the bed is squeaky and (b) I like her bent over the sink.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/15 02:18 PM
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I am by no means a master. I am only 6 months in and honestly, I have yet to take the entire pill (I have the new perspective so I understand now why things happen, and I have fully embraced the concepts for me to take responsibility, to improve, to be the leader. I am hesitant when it comes to a lot of dread, PUA techniques and the like. so with that disclosure - here is what worked for me, out the gate: stop apologizing stop asking questions - instead give direction and be open to feedback be …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 09:05 PM
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