About me:

Lifting PL Total: 660 lbs
I have read the sidebar and have been putting in my best efforts to internalising it over and over again.
Currently have been devouring Archwinger's, J10H's and strategos autokrator's posts, the Gorilla Mindset.

I have been a career beta turned RP Rambo and I have hurt my wife several times through my alpha antics.
I have gone too fast. But I have built my SMV through these months.
I still believe I am below my wife's SMV.

The Shark Week Situation:

Wife was cuddling me in bed after returning from office.
(Failure 1) I was relaxing with her in the evening because I thought things are great between us. BP fantasy.
I should have been busy killing shit.

I started talking dirty to her while touching her privates. She didn't resist, but told me she just wants to have a power nap cuddling me.
I got butthurt and asked her to move herself so that I can get comfortable for the power nap with her.
Shit testing ensued: "You always do this when I am not in the mood for sex. I cannot be in the mood for sex all the time. Why can't we just cuddle some times?"
Rather than going A&A I lost my temper(Failure 2) and I was loud: "What is all this bitching about? I just asked you to move your body a bit so that I can get comfortable too. Its not about us not having sex."
She is a woman and she senses when I am butthurt.
She was scared to death and without saying a word she left the house.
I calmed down for the next 10 mins or so and then left the house to search for her(Failure 3).
I searched for her around our locality for an hour and found her in a bookshop reading some novels.

I went and sat with her and told her:"I lost my temper. I lost my calm. This is clearly my fault." and went broken record.

The next 4 days after this have been toggling between her ignoring me with expressions of sadness on her face and being sweet and kind just sometimes. She asked me many times through these days:"What are you doing to fix this?".
To this I have gone broken record:"I yelled and that was my fault. I accept it."

After 4 days of all this, yesterday night on bed just before sleeping she said:
"I am done with this relationship. I cannot take it anymore. It doesn't matter what you say anymore. I can't be in a relationship that does this to me. I am just wondering how I will tell my parents about me wanting out. I am a good person and I deserve to be happy. I don't want anything from you anymore." and some shit testing:
"You are happy in yourself and even if you are single you will continue to be."
and then:
"But I cannot be happy like this. My fault is I have made myself too dependent on you for everything."

I looked at these as comfort tests.
I told her after giving her a peck:"I yelled that was my fault. I am here to keep this family happy. Come to me. Everything will be fine."

I have been playing my nice card several times a day and ignore her only when she plays her mean card.
She hasn't come to me yet and resists any advances with a sad face. Ofcourse she doesn't trust a Captain who didn't have his anger under control.
I see my failures, but I wanted to know if these were really comfort tests or not.
If these were not comfort tests and she wants out should I start preparing for divorce?
Any advice would be highly appreciated.