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rpnow/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 10:11 PM
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rpnow/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 04:14 PM
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rpnow/r/askMRP03/08/16 11:19 PM
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Basic Questionrpnow/r/askMRP19/08/15 03:25 PM
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rpnow/r/askMRP09/05/17 03:48 PM
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Basic Questionrpnow/r/askMRP08/09/15 08:25 PM
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Two Questions. Do you have coffee in the morning on off days? And can you define + as many vegetables as I want Carrots? Beets? All Veg Stir Fry? Raw? I feel like this is where I would abuse and ruin any success, by somehow eating enough veggies to screw it all up.
/r/RPChristians24/08/18 05:14 PM
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this is indeed one of my new goals
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 06:09 PM
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Still continuing back to a state of hormonal regulation. I definitely feel better with a different mix of nutrients and blood flow. It's amazing what your diet and movement habits can do for your mentality. Gainz have started again, and I'm realizing my core is probably pretty weak. As compound as my normal lifts are, I don't think they are strengthening my lower back, oliques and spine. Incorporating some difficult yoga and it's definitely helping with pain, but not sure about strength yet. Lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 10:12 PM
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6'1" 203lbs ~15%bf late 30s. 5x3 sq 310, bench 250, ohp 90 (i know), dead 300
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 09:43 PM
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Feeling a little better already with a clean diet. I'm not sure how much of it is having a goal on the horizon, and how much is the nutrition itself, but I feel much better. Something I'm starting to realize I need more of is alone time unscheduled. Going to try to incorporate that into my schedule more, and will no longer count working out as alone time. Sex has seen an uptick, mostly because I am fighting LMD more tenaciously. This has been good because part of fighting depression is the occas…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 10:43 PM
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Found out testosterone is low, which actually explained a lot about my feelz lately. It actually gives me more drive to get in front of this as a deficiency instead of just whining about how I don't feel good. Committing to a month of more leg days, seafood and less alcohol to see if I can raise it naturally again. Want to avoid TRT at all costs. Totally lost my frame the day before I found out, I wanted to stay home and sulk when our traditional date night came around. When I was being more int…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 10:29 PM
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thanks. I've been looking for a good book, I'll check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 08:12 PM
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It's a fair evaluation, I'm definitely down lately. My closest friend (he's a purple influence, we've never discussed rp directly, but both agree that status quo gender roles are wrong) says that he worries that I should be expressing happiness from within instead of masking sadness. Our friend committed suicide a few years back so I think he worries about that. I'm not suicidal, just in a existential moment I think, trying to plan out my future, and questioning the satisfaction that last years …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 12:02 AM
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Lol, no. I am less concerned with what she is thinking or saying, so it's possible she's faking... Reading her actions reveal that she only feels secure when I'm smiling. Other men I'm close to seem to keep pulling me aside and asking what I'm hiding.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 10:05 PM
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PHYSICAL Fitness: Haven't been pushing it on upper body lifts. Need to focus on perfect form, increase strength without aggravating neck. Nutrition: Dialing in my intake to include more testosterone supporting nutrients, while also reducing grains for inflammation. Medical: Dentist visit scheduled. FINANCIAL Budget: Set for new year, increasing all savings areas. House: Accomplish home projects to increase value and improve environment. MARRIAGE Compliance: Wife has been great as long as I don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 07:27 PM
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What I mean is this: what have I not learned? Clearly you haven't learned anything. I have learned just enough to be dangerous, to larp with, to sprinkle some alpha on life. I get it. Did something ever change in you, maybe once you fully digested the academic info on the sidebar? Did you hit some kind of breaking point, or rock bottom or something that forged your future direction? At first I thought I was needing validation be accomplishing goals, and it took some time to overcome that, but no…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/18 07:50 PM
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I totally agree with you. I started out with fake it to make it, and never arrived at the point where making it takes over. Larping was successful, but doesn't pay off. How do I change my innermost desires to want more than just cardboard and plastic? Go back to the sidebar? Teach me, master!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/18 07:32 PM
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Been at this for 3 years now, and haven't really participated in OYS because of faggotry, hoping to find some type of enlightenment by writing and reframing stuff, and planning to fix it. The depths of my Career Betahood are deeper than I knew, but somehow I knew all along. A couple of things that have recently been revealed to me are: I don't want this reality because I don't want to work hard. Or the other way around, I'm not sure. I came here because I was looking for a way to get more/better…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/18 06:22 PM
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I am excited for the potential of this sub. I was originally directed to MRP by someone commenting on my post in /r/christianity about my DB. There's a lot of us out there, and this will be good. I look forward to seeing what happens. I am curious how rule 1 and 2 will play out, simply because I couldn't seem to swallow the pill until a couple people on MRP destroyed me with insulting profanity. The gentlemen never got through, and it would seem that I needed it to be demeaning in order to truly…
/r/RPChristians10/07/17 09:49 PM
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Starting to agree.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 08:00 PM
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Agreed. SGM is gold, and I have some work to do in that area, but I'm focusing on my pre-SGM game currently, with wife and some strange. I'm improving my game, not my humping, and the Art Of Seduction seemed like a good route, but has turned out to be a big mess.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 08:00 PM
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This is kind of what I thought. I think this book is just convoluting my RP educations.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 07:56 PM
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Thanks, this helps.
/r/askMRP10/05/17 11:31 PM
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Good point, I think I'm also the Rescuer Victim, and I have found that she is probably the Star/Anti-Seducer or miserable shrill harpy as /u/bluepillprofessor puts it. I do find myself being seduced by her occasionally, and then immediately reestablish my frame. I'm curious thought, have you ever used the Ideal Lover to an advantage successfully? I hear about Cassanova studying her and becoming "what she wants", that sounds so much like, "enter her frame and be manipulative in a beta way".
/r/askMRP09/05/17 04:17 PM
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I know I'm late to this, but I kinda get where you are coming from. Like TFA said, "You do you". But "you doing you" doesn't get you laid by your wife. That sounds familiar. Let's start here. Really truly deep down consider whether or not the "you" that you like is truly what you like. There is a possibility that the things you like are molded by blue pill conditioning. So maybe take some time to consider what you really want, completely outside of the limits of your wife, getting laid, etc. May…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 10:54 PM
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This is pretty great. Other then maturity I was literally watching my wife in miniature form. So much truth here in both how kids pick up the worst of their parent's behavior leading us (as parents) to have to go the extra mile to train them in our good qualities, and also seeing your wife as the oldest teenager. Good stuff. It was like a reset, the anger was gone but she tried to pretend it was there "Listen to what she does..." My wife (who HATES when I smack dat ass) has the exact same reacti…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 10:26 PM
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I don't think MRP is going to work on this one. Your wife is in her father's frame. They are enmeshed. I don't see her leaving his frame even when he's dead. You will never be the captain. Wrong. AWALT. Quit drinking. Fix yourself Correct She will not follow you the most superior and/or attractive man in her life (currently dad, sadly). ftfy.
/r/askMRP18/10/16 08:14 PM
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The problem, she views him to be the better leader as he is all she has known through her life up to you. /u/ViriliterAge this is it right here. Even if FIL is a total dick, he is leading better than you. You told /u/thisisme0007 (who was right about your bullshit excuse btw) ...I don't want to pull the same emotionally abusive, guilt-tripping bullshit...My goal is to become more alpha than him, so my wife stops being so attached to him But I think that is wrong. You need to work on upping your …
/r/askMRP18/10/16 08:02 PM
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/u/thefamilyalpha has a post you should read about how it's your job to supplant her daddy. My guess is that your masculine quality isn't as high as your FIL, and so she depends on him for the alpha in her life. Go read that post.
/r/askMRP17/10/16 09:41 PM
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The answer to your question is actually in the sidebar.
/r/askMRP23/09/16 09:46 PM
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Great post. Something that really sticks with me is drawing a line that you will NEVER cross again. I draw a lot of temporary lines, like I'll diet for now and then go to town on some buffet once I am in good shape, or I'll be alpha for a while and then one day people will apologize to me and love me for my beta self. I needed this as a reminder that I need to have permanent changes that I can start today.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/16 07:54 PM
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Agree, with your first statement, and don't know why you lost a point. Admitting and being proud that you are a man and men are sexual and want to have sex is important. The bluepill has us thinking we should be ashamed of a high desire for sex kill that.
/r/askMRP22/09/16 07:06 PM
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Way to learn from your failure, and share the lesson with all of us. Very high quality. I see myself in your FR. My bluepill self still exists hoping that one day I'll get a huge apology from wife for being a bitch, or from being the way AWAL. I'm slowly trying to kill him, but everytime I give into the same bullshit I feed that bastard. Thanks.
/r/askMRP22/09/16 06:37 PM
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"Gosh you're such a jerk dad!" *bites lip
/r/askMRP01/09/16 06:10 PM
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Agree, /u/ZeeyardSA please give us a FR
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 03:28 PM
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I've been in this situation as well, also a Christian, and also a huge pussy beta. I think you might get a head start on this stuff if you can seriously digest the following things, grieve over them, and move past them as fast as possible. She will never love you the way that you want her to love you. It's just not how it works. Biblically speaking this is the result of the fall - Eve's curse is that she would always try to take her husbands role. She "loves" you by proving to herself that you c…
/r/askMRP31/08/16 02:50 PM
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o7
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 08:45 PM
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It’s my belief that the more you act outside of your intentions – with weakly defined boundaries for example – and by adopting a fake / insincere “frame”, the further you move away from true self esteem, core confidence, contentment and, of course, success with women. So, what to do about it? I believe the answer lies in cultivating the habit of being brutally honest with yourself, and adopting a humble but NOT shameful attitude to learning. This is pure gold, from http://www.authenticpua.com/bl…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 07:18 PM
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These are all great links, thanks for parsing my puke. I've been hemming and hawing since I started to swallow the pill, and never fully committed. Having no military is just another contributor to my former career beta lifestyle that I'm trying to kill. Never heard of the OODA loop, but googled it and going to incorporate it into my life. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 06:28 PM
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The teaching moment is for you and all of us reading this. You missed it. Do what A_Rex said, and then you will find your way grasshopper.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 07:05 PM
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Don't miss this /u/CasperTFG_808
/r/askMRP23/08/16 06:48 PM
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I have been feeling the same way about everything. No desire or drive to push on. Less initiating, less effort to game, less everything. This toxic lack of desire starts to bleed into other areas, like work or whatever. I hope it doesn't make it to my lifting part of life or I'll have nothing left. My point is that I think I know what you mean. I have considered checking hormone levels, but also needed to check my frame, and who's I've been in. I am done improving and having it benefit the wife …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 05:52 PM
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My Frame I think there's been a plateau and/or beta relapse that has been a part of me that last few months. I'm not a n00b here, but I'm not as advanced as I should be either. I know it's not a race, but I feel like a faggot when I think about how far behind I am. I see the general progression around here, with many steps in between, from loser that wants to get laid more to strong masculine family alpha. At some point in those beginning stages, we are told to establish a frame, defend our fram…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 05:09 PM
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I think that's his point. When guys (like myself) wonder around asking how to Frame, it just proves that their frame is weak/non-existant.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 08:38 PM
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Very timely for me. "Guys who ask how to build/rebuild their frame have never had it."
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 07:55 PM
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Man it really is, hah
/r/askMRP12/08/16 08:16 PM
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Here's just a few things, though I can't really hold your hand through this. use some formatting on your post to make it easier to read and parse (like this your question should probably be a little more specific than "How do I do the thing that this sub tells me how to do." if it's not, don't ask it brutal honesty is the only acceptable form of communication here. guys here will be as rough as needed to man you up a bit. if you are not honest or cannot shed your ego the guys here will destroy y…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 08:16 PM
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Maybe my frame is approaching yellow, or maybe I'm passing shit tests by faking the frame. All I know is I can't remember failing a shit test in a long time. If passing shit tests are foreplay than I do seem to be passing them. My frame is still weak and being reconstructed. Maybe I am not detecting some of them, or delusional? They have been much less frequent lately.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 08:02 PM
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Welcome. Your post here is referred to a victim puke. You only get one, so learn everything you can from the comments here. Reading the sidebar and the top 100 posts of all time will answer your questions. You have put the minimal effort into this post to reciprocate a comment, but I feel generous so here you go. Your wife loves sex, just not with you. Your wife is a reflection of you. You will get defensive and say that's not true, but that's your ego talking and you are full of shit. /u/anythi…
/r/askMRP11/08/16 10:21 PM
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the [deleted] flair works great.
/r/askMRP11/08/16 07:37 PM
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Totally agree with this, it's being revealed as more and more true every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 07:18 PM
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Good point. I realize more and more that Game is what seperates the jacked dudes who don't get laid from those that do. Not that I'm jacked yet, but I think game goes a long way whether you are or aren't fit. I'm still putting together the Action/Attractiveness plan, but the number one priority is to lose the rest of the body fate asap.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 07:13 PM
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Glad you haven't given up. Can you confirm that you are really in Ketosis, using strips or anything? I wonder if there's something messing you up that you need to hunt down. I got knocked out of Ketosis and finally figured out that fake crab is full of carbs, way discouraged until I cut that out. Curious what your overall intake is too, I suppose it's possible that you are eating so much while hitting macros that you will still maintain weight? But theoretically you should be adding muscle mass …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 08:24 PM
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First I'm looking forward to seeing /u/sorcererking leave an update here, and hoping he doesn't give into the fagotry of giving up on his quest for leanness. Finished Mindful Action Plan, the biggest thing it did was to get me to get my stuff on paper. A lot of oranges, just a couple of reds, so running into Athol's Phase 2 soon here. A lot more behind than I though, so the value is this track your progress on paper. Otherwise your own hamster will let you get away with a lot. BETA BUX~~~~~~~~~~…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 04:01 PM
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My thoughts exactly.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 09:45 PM
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Ha ok. Tantric sounded different to me than how Deida described it. I guess I give the spinal-heel-taint move a try. This stuff all sounds pretty gay.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 09:29 PM
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So "hold it"?
/r/askMRP04/08/16 02:50 AM
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Alpha != Jerk and Beta != Nice. Alpha is fun to be around, you flock to him because he's so fun and exciting. He just doesn't give a fuck about you. A full beta is nurturing, caring, and works hard to please. Women love them they just don't fuck them. Beta is still required, only balanced and submissive to the alpha side of the man. At no point should you be a jerk. Wife's perception of you might be that you are a jerk, but that's only her noticing that you dgaf.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 11:34 PM
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You make a decision because it good, informed, and right. NOT because she'll say it's the right choice. If she is a respectful wife you might even get her input when making a decision, but for now you are showing her that you are a strong man who can make your decisions whether or not she agrees. Search "choreplay" and find out how it doesn't work. Read the sidebar.
/r/askMRP03/08/16 11:00 PM
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SMV takes time to build. Even if you did change overnight her perception of you won't. Give it time. Gf has made me beta/more beta Nope. She didn't make you do anything. This is your failure, from the beginning. Own it and fix it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 10:54 PM
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First don't only initiate once the kids are in bed. Quickly in the bathroom, kitchen, morning, whatever, just initiate. Here's the thing, you are the prize here. It's her loss that she doesn't GET to have sex with you. She was fortunate that out of all the women in the world you offered your sexual advance in her direction. Too bad for her you can now return to being awesome. THIS IS THE MINDSET. If this isn't true you at least FAKE IT until it is true. You put her hamster to work and go be awes…
/r/askMRP29/07/16 10:18 PM
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I've always thought those looked gross, but not a bad idea to boil my own and bring 'em in.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 08:12 PM
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Wow, that's impressive. Part of my reasoning for cycling bulk/cut was to avoid that drop in testosterone, or at least the lack of motivation that comes with fat loss. Apathy is the biggest detractor from my masculinity. Did you get your T measured before the cut, and do you know what your free T is now?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 08:40 PM
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She's asking for it! Get past those LMR's to a hard no, and then come tell us about how frustrated you are, until then keep trying.
/r/askMRP27/07/16 07:56 PM
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Good to know about fight club rules, I'll respect them. I've been searching for a source, until I find one I'll have to wait for my visit to the doc.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 07:52 PM
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Even though this is cautionary, and based on your failure, it gives me great hope that the pill is true in time of doubt. I'm not even close to this level of success so I can't comment too much, but I will say this: The potential of difference between where you were as a dork in High School and now is huge. You've earned this outright and get to enjoy it worry free. I'd even daresay you've earned it more than the guys here who were always naturally alpha. Think in units of masculinity gained. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 07:29 PM
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I almost ordered some naltrexone the first time I read this. I have been attempting to disassociate the opiate reward with beer drinking for a while now naturally, like you the beers that I enjoy are all the high octane variety. For a minute I even went a month on only shitty lite beers, knowing that I catch no buzz from them, but still get the sparkly refreshment, but alas it seems that my association between the physical and mental is too strong... I will give this a try. Do you still take it,…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 07:10 PM
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This is the way a man faces obstacles I guess, just take the hardest route that meets your needs the quickest. I had misunderstood the importance of Hypertrophy, or at least the priority of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 07:01 PM
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After a slight modification, what's working for me is Reverse Pyramid, three sets, reducing 10% each set. Sets are 4r with 100% weight, 6r at 90% weight, and 8r at 80%.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 06:59 PM
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You are probably right. FUCK!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 06:54 PM
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Holy shit, 24 months? I'm doing this wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 06:54 PM
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You are right. Do you think a cut all the way down to 15% before trying to bulk is the way to go? I thought I should do 20lb cuts and 40 day bulks?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 09:22 PM
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Owning: Leading/OI: With an always fun always excited attitude I've been leading my family to enjoy things, get outdoors more, and do stuff that I like. The kids like it too, right off the bat, wife always shows LMR with these activities, but afterwards likes it. Bottom line is that I enjoy it, and really enjoy having my kids enjoy with me. There are many challenges that I meet with DGAF attitude, and people always eventually follow me into whatever, because as a neighbor wife said, "RPNow knows…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 07:25 PM
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not how we role This is genius if this pun is intentional.
/r/askMRP26/07/16 06:42 PM
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You don't want to project that you aren't interested in sex, even doing this monk mode thing. You want to feed her hamster by unashamedly communicating that you DO want sex, BUT that you aren't interested in having sex with a starfish or a bitch. She even lobbed a few slow pitches at you! "yea, it's probably cause you're cheating on me with one of your facebook friends or something" "Honey, are you implying that you like me to see if the mods will allow you to join our facebook gangbang group?" …
/r/askMRP22/07/16 10:36 PM
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I've been introduced to the Headspace app, trying to start there. Like I said, I suck at it, but I've heard great things around here about the importance of meditation. Maybe /u/cj_aubrey can put us both on to a good place to start?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 04:24 PM
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Shit I own: Finances: Since taking them over a year or so ago we have gotten completely out of debt, are building up a respectable savings and emergency account, and have more money to do more things with. My wife shit tests occasionally, a little hurt that she doesn't get to have control anymore, I do a good AM in response to this usually. With finances I've found that the "Oldest Teenager" concept is really the truest. Fitness: Keep having to deload certain lifts, but I'm getting there, and my…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 10:08 PM
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I also struggle when I'm not in the zone. Being sick is a great time to STFU until you are better. Keep at it though! was that like some special, magical mandarin?" The way I undertstand it there is a shit test window. A confident Alpha Male would smash this in the moment, truly NGAF, and successfully wet her panties. If you can't pass it in the 5 seconds after the test you fail. Remember STFU can be a passing response. The way it seemed to her is that you spend all day in your room coming up wi…
/r/askMRP06/07/16 11:45 PM
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The improvement I see hear really inspires me. It's amazing the kind of change can be brought on by not giving in to the drama. She crossed a boundary, but it doesn't seem like that was a very enforcable boundary in your previous state. I bet they mean a lot more coming from someone that chats up college girls at the beach.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 06:36 PM
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Gotcha.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 10:10 PM
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Running is good advice. I guess a better way to put it is that it came on too fast to get a good operational picture of what was happening. But yeah it is bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 10:10 PM
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I SUCK AT FRAME. Already lost a brand new frame that was brand new built around me, my life, and a new outlook on life as me. All the sudden, out of nowhere I victim puke all over my wife over a couple of rejections recently. I honestly feel like even I didn't see it coming. We were both blindsided. I could hear her pussy dry up, and tryed to stop myself but the damage was done. I told myself outloud to STFU, and just walked away confused. I swear it was like subconcious beta me blasted through …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 06:49 PM
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This is valuable for me. Short, sweet, and what I needed. /u/Flathatter45 Listen up!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 05:24 PM
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I also got the impression that the Divorce Papers were a big bluff, maybe for her, maybe for OP. After reading it I believe that wifey isn't going to give a shit about any boundaries until she has a little respect. Divorce is pretty far down the 12 levels, OP did you slowly progress each one? If you went straight to 6 you are fucking up. I agree with over60, CALM THE FUCK DOWN and SLOW THE FUCK DOWN. Say that wife isn't worth staying with, it's still ok to spend some time getting to the optimum …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 05:18 PM
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Shit I'm Owning: Really enjoying about summertime fun. PreRP I would try to slip in some fun around all of the scheduled bs that comes up. It would have to be by myself because once I try to do a family outing it ends up a nightmare. Recently I have taken command of the schedule, events, and anything else we are doing to have a good time. I am running a tight ship with all of that stuff, but at the same time I am very chill and ok when things don't go as planned, finding the fun in any situation…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 07:28 PM
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Fuck! 1.3 years? I'm moving slow af.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 06:26 PM
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How long? About 15 months. Where on the 12? Up to an incomplete 5, and a dash of 6 and 7. 8 has occurred, but I am not at that level, nor have I mastered it. How long married? 11 Years. I feel much more respected by her, not appreciated though, and I know appreciation is something that is just not the way she loves me. Kids and wife like to hang out with me more since I am more stoic, and less prone to anger. Shit tests have actually increased recently with "go do this" type of things which is n…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 06:23 PM
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Terrible idea. If dread isn't happening naturally, it's not really dread. "Women always find out." - Han Solo
/r/askMRP27/06/16 08:06 PM
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"Haven't you heard that towels give you cancer?" "Oh wow forgot the towels because I keep picturing you in a bikini later today" *stfu smirk, get in car and leave "We're an airdrying family from now on babe. Enjoy the ride" "I didn't forget the towels, they are right here," *pull quarter from behind her ear. " woops." It seems though, that this was less of a shit test, and more logistics. You forgot the towels, you can own it and go get them. If she starts yelling at you about it, that's when yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/16 06:58 PM
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Just an example, the competition is usually between then and me. Or sometimes it's like "let's see who can do the biggest _" between the three of us, or with the neighbor kid. Not worried about sibling rivalry, everything seems to be done in love and with humor. I may regret that one day though.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 04:10 AM
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Glad to hear it, I look forward to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 12:47 AM
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I think that you need to respond to shit tests individually. You can't just pull her aside and say, "From now on I won't do simple things that you can do for yourself." When it comes to DHV women's memory span is a few minutes at the most. You need to continually DHV to eventually train her brain to actually believe you are high value. She will never say, "Oh yeah, that one time he pulled me aside after lunch and told me he was a big boy now,". But she will say, "Why won't he go fetch me a towel…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 06:48 PM
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Spotting this same thing with my kids, similar ages. I've been trying to build a competitive spirit into both of them with a lot of success, "Can you kite go as high as your sister's?", or "Can you make your brother's crash?" It's a great observation that this leads to oneitis with women. Recently my wife asked if she could fulfill a fantasy of mine, and did a great job. Now her body isn't quite up to my specs [mines not either, leadership failure], and the environment wasn't quite the way I pic…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 06:33 PM
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Owning Lifting - leangains' reverse pyramid is really helping. Not really gaining hypertrophy, but strength gains are great, plus the elevated heart rate is good. Gaming Wife - Going well, I feel like I have more and more ability to make sex happen according to my desire. Frequency 90% lead by me, diversity 70% lead by me, intensity 100% lead by me. It's nice to be able to think of something deviant to do during the day, and then go home and command it successfully. Starting to Own Posting in OY…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 06:08 PM
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Will let you know how it goes.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 04:40 AM
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Thanks. Am re-reading and trying to digest /u/strategos_autokrator's stuff on building the tripod of frame. Even still it seems a little hard to grasp. I have very clear indicators on how I lose control of frame, or even how the elements of my perceived frame compares to others', but frame gains are what is hard for me. For Example (using strategos' example) I think my Emotional, Intel, and Physical legs of my frame are balanced, but alltogether the tripod is small, and the vision is low, or sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 11:14 PM
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you are the only other person I've encountered in my travels that refers to an audio file as a wave file. we are brothers
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 07:09 PM
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Username is small and simple, I really like it, and besides /u/rpsomeday and /u/fiddel_fabulous was taken. Building Frame is still a vaporous concept to me. I will try out deloading Tomassi Iron Rule #1 to work on my form.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 10:24 PM
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Seeing myself on pictures and camera looking like a pathetic fat slob. I always felt sorry for my friends who have to look away as they have sex with their dependapotomous, and looking at myself realised that I now feel bad for my wife. I wouldn't fuck me. Always been big and flabby, would like to know what it's like to be confidently once in my life (not there yet). Cheat Days. I have an amazing ability to eat enough quality and quantity to undo a months worth of work, coupled with less than a …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 09:33 PM
2

Have heard actual statistical info on coconut oils ability to lower blood sugar. You can replace things with it and curb that sweet tooth at the same time.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 08:30 PM
1

Shit I'm Owning More: Diet: Was successful at maintaining good diet even during a very social experience with free food offered, and a peer pressure to eat. Lifting: Changing up lifts, feels good after first day. Shit Tests: Getting better, becoming more OI. Gained some abundance mentality over the weekend which makes it easier to deal with tests. Shit I need to own: Even though diet is on track, need to stick with it and get lean. I'm embarassingly flabby, and still not fuckable (even though th…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 08:28 PM
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You are absolutely correct! It was a compliance test, and you failed. "Go get my shoes first" means, "yes dear but you have to work for it." - low value and comes off bratty. You had the opportunity to ace the test with something that displays your high value. When I'm in that situation I usually just give a look like 'cute wife, thinks she tells me what to do.' and say "If I happen to get to the swimsuits before you I might, but I'm busy being awesome at x right now. Looks like you'll get them …
/r/askMRP09/06/16 09:22 PM
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Yeah Computer work all day. Have tried standing, ball, etc, and all were good for me but I always find a way to slouch somehow, I just need to catch myself more often.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 09:12 PM
1

Really, I mean to really get the BF% down I think this is the only choice, sadly.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 09:09 PM
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Sex is once a month. 90% rejection rate. Does that mean you are initiating 10x per month? Initiate every day. Maybe once you get there sex every day is too much, but until then initiate daily. Initiating 30x per month at 90% will get you laid more. Are you tracking her cycle, and planning your shit test response type and ass slaps around ovulation? "are you doing something that would make me want to cheat on you?" You had to spell this out too much for it to be effective. This argument is better…
/r/askMRP09/06/16 06:08 PM
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I have been successful with this, I'm still moving down from 25%, so it is good for that, the problem is, at least based on the leangains description, that CICO still applies, so the fasting period just makes your eating window smaller, and thus easier to track. I comfortably do the 8-16 daily thing naturally, so my body has adapted destroying a pizza in a small eating window. Any pizza is a personal pizza if you try hard enough. I didn't notice any weight loss after two weeks of day-on day-off …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 05:00 PM
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God you're right, both in quality and quantity. Must Own Shit Owning.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/16 04:53 PM
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EDIT:Expanded to own shit better, because /u/bogey6 is right, I suck at this. shit pwned Waking up at 430am daily Lifting and Gaining Strength Gaming wife and fucking a lot Hobbies. Have been killing it, trying new things, learning about my strengths and weaknesses, trying to improve my craft, DHV in my neighborhood, being social and a man people want to hang out with it. shit pwning me Diet. I have plenty of fat to lose, and am not losing it. I wouldn't fuck me. leading my wife and kids to fail…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 09:01 PM
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I feel the same way.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 09:40 PM
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I guess it sort of worked, but I wanna know if this guy's marriage improving includes getting laid like tile. This is a great example of the terrible facebook christian clickbait, but what can we apply from it, and/or why is it a valuable post? I think it's important to notice why it sort of worked: I am confident that his wife badly wanted a man who owned his shit displayed by: A man who has a clean garage A man who is in touch with his family, but not ruled by it. A man who doesn't need a mate…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 09:04 PM
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Thanks for writing for guys like me, I'm glad you'll continue.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 10:45 PM
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Good Post OP, can you update with your responses to her first few attempts? AA? AM? STFU? I think it would be helpful for all of us.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 09:41 PM
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snikkt
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 07:25 PM
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It does, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 07:19 PM
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Yeah, realizing that more an more. Late in the game to find out my frame is no good, gonna take some work.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 07:03 PM
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I'm going to be trying to internalize this I also think WISNIFG and many comments on posts around here deal with seeking validation a lot. I just read one, but can't find it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 06:57 PM
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Having her along did add value in the end, but was it truly worth all the turmoil? I'm not sure. But the mistakes I'm still making are that I've built a small weak frame, that is ultimately still inside of hers. Now I have to move from the "fake it to make it" to the genuine natural make it part, the actual unplugging part...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 06:49 PM
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This is it, always improving. The more I know, the more I know I need to know.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 06:44 PM
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You nailed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 06:43 PM
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Yeah /u/scurvemuch pointed out as well that I'm still alot in her frame by trying so hard to ensure she has a good time, which I need to work on. The other part though is that I'm just discovering these things about my wife, and it really is unlearning the blue pill and starting to swallow the red. I think as it starts to dissolve I will be no longer analysing and just doing me. But it really has been like an expirement, see what works, what doesn't, so these are like an explorers findings in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 06:42 PM
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For me I really had to see proof that leading unapolagetically is what she wants. My whole life I've been taught the opposite.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 06:37 PM
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Great point. I am hoping that out there on the horizon somewhere that she will be able to forget about my past beta self, or at least it will be so hazy that her reality is being married to a family alpha, and so then things will happen a little easier and more natural? I know that I'll never stop dealing with tests and proving myself, but I get the sense that since this is all new to her, and still only makes up 5% or less of our time together that she's just waiting for me to go back to the ol…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 03:14 PM
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Yes! I am learning this more and more. The things that aggravate me are actually challenging me to become a better man. I hate it, but am at least learning from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 02:48 PM
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I've been struggling to find a balance to be honest. As a recovering Career Beta, I truly don't know what Alpha looks like; my model being Bruce Willis movies leaves me a little ignorant. Thanks though, hoping that eventually I can react naturally without having to analyse so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 02:46 PM
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Ha yes, Genesis. After finishing your book I realize more and more that man is held responsible for the fall of man, even if the woman grabbed the fruit. No way to escape it. Pisses me off too.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 02:44 PM
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Thank you. "I got this" is great, I'll start working that in more!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 02:41 PM
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Thanks. To be honest it is the hardest part. Being willing to lead, even if in a corny way, like having a family vision, and "raising" your wife and kids into adults. Sometimes I feel like I deserve a break, but I know I don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 02:39 PM
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I agree with what you already realized, her expecting you to follow through with what you initially told her is NOT a shit test. That was something a drunk captain does. You can own it without apologizing to her or DEERing as well. "I made a mistake by posting that, so I took it down." Simple as that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 08:37 PM
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Excited to see how it plays out. Great example of how your wife can be included in decisions and even provide the majority of the information needed to make a decision without compromising laser focused vision. I will be bummed if your online presence is diminished, but understand the need. If your physical space model works out I'd be the first to add a franchise in my area. Well done!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 11:23 PM
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OI = "So what? We still got that meatlovers pizza in the trunk."
/r/askMRP11/02/16 11:00 PM
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My wife also "hated" it. She would get mad, tell me how she doesn't like that type of stuff, and never liked affection in that way, and never would. She brought up serious pschological reasons why it didn't make her feel good. Backed off a bit and worked on Dread Levels 1-5 for a couple months, started again with A&A and AM, also got my ass slap technique down. Eventually she had to hide the grin everytime, and by now it's a "Stop it! Oh you!" smile and leads to sex often. I think that there was…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 08:18 PM
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One thing missing from this conversation (or I missed it) is your boundary defense. If you are planning on continuing the mission of captain save-a-ho, the boundaries need to be made clear and defended. Alcohol and crazy are clearly dominant factors in these events, but it seems like they all seem to start with little things that could be avoided with simple WISNIFG boundaries. A simple one could be: "My ex-wife/past life is no longer my identity, and there is no longer any need to draw comparis…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 07:56 PM
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You established some boundaries, so that was good. It sounds to me like she isn't attracted to you. Work on you, stop working on her. You can't be upset with the 10 years of misery she put you through, because if you are honest, you created a shitty vessel for her to fill. You are attempting to negotiate desire with her. You need ten months minimum of successful self improvement. I second the "Creating your slut" post by /u/trainingthebrain. Make yourself desireable!
/r/askMRP08/02/16 09:40 PM
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Similar thing happened to me, got a cold Friday, just a head cold, no big deal, but lost my frame completely. Started eating shit, missing shit and comfort tests, one thing lead to another and I had a bluepill relapse. Funny, while feeling sorry for myself and being a bitch I watched Trainspotting. The bluepill can be like heroin, damaging yourself, your life, and people around you, and you still keep going back to it. You can even see things get worse around you, but you blame the world becuase…
/r/askMRP02/02/16 09:21 PM
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Career Beta here, and have had much success with the Red Pill. I am pretty sure I have learned what alpha is like from the sidebar more than anywhere else, but now that I've been exposed to it I can observe and analyse it happening from natural alphas I know. I think that there is some masculinity deep down in my soul that I'm attempting to bring out, and that process has happens before I can truly finish swallowing the pill. So my MRP Approved tag will probably come long after guys who were "pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 10:49 PM
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OP I think this is it, you got in her frame. edit: clarity
/r/askMRP15/01/16 10:27 PM
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Just curious, did you happen to have all the paints and brushes Bob Ross uses, or did you just do your best with Walmart supplies?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 08:14 PM
1

Nevermind, just read the modpost
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 08:42 PM
1

re-reading the 12 Levels reminded me that the book oughta be coming out soon! /u/BluepillProfessor getting close?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 08:17 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2lpafb/the_12_step_plan_of_dread_book_excerpt_from_my/ In the wiki (link in sidebar)
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 08:14 PM
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I agree, if the 12 levels are sequential, and you start 2 before finishing 1, it ceases to be dread, it's just a tantrum.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 10:09 PM
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Got lazy over holidays. Reverted to the anger stage, but it's my fault. Started expecting her to fill a bigger vessel than I'm providing, and if I'm honest, expecting her to give great sex to a beta fuck up. Need more alpha. Testosterone levels slowly improving, but need to get aquainted with the "never gonna feel like it" mantra and just get shit done. If I don't have drive it's because I'm letting my inner bb take over; need to murder him.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 06:57 PM
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Excellent point. Christ did die for the church, or the true Israel, ecclesia, or whatever you want to call it. As a true excellent captain, He lead the family even though his bride is still hopping on the CC.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:19 PM
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Need to avoid complacency. Getting a little to comfortable with things. I made goals in the beginning, and I need to reach them.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 10:15 PM
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always a fan of your commentary
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 08:18 PM
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thanks! seemed long to me, if I weren't me and saw that wall I'd have to sit down and read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 07:58 PM
1

Yes, I was so worried about gaining a lot of fat, but after a little reasearch I am going to cycle in a little carbs and deload/diversify my lifts for a bit. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 07:56 PM
1

Thanks. Discipline is the hardest for me, but I am learning and adapting slowly.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 07:54 PM
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Thanks, that makes sense. It seems like the hardest part is the mental game gets harder now, and I need to summon drive from within more. Less carrot dangling in front of me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 07:53 PM
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Thanks, I am low carbing. Have not gotten into cycling carbs yet, will test that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 05:55 PM
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hamburger menu, new term I need to remember
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 04:56 PM
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Thanks. Yes it is definitely me and not dad anymore. My marriage is my responsibility. My monk mode was essentially not initiating, focusing on improving me and not getting sex. Thanks, good point on the daddy stuff, will work to supplant not replace. Dong - I'm bringing it back. I have an android as well, it's a new feature, Menu > Reminders > Reminder Message can be set on my app. Thanks for the advice. "My way or Highway" thing doesn't work with the Captain Analogy. Sometimes FO has a better …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 04:54 PM
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Good question. I am trying to figure out if the book I read is the $150 version or not. I think there are great blog posts that summarize the book well, and help you to get the point of the DEVI process. I would have to say that I'd be surprised if the version I read ought to be $150, but if I can't find I good substitute I think I can pony up and pay for it. There's gotta be sales at some point though, I'd assume.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 04:32 PM
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I probably get around to the 10SK about once a week. I need to up my game in that area. ATM she hates any contact. She let's me get it over with, but I'm sure there's no dopamine going through, which may be that I'm not yet Brad Pitt. I think my validation is starting to come from her, and I know I need to push through this phase. I think I just got out of anger phase, and now I'm in this spot where there is little motivation, friends have convinced me I have low t, but I'm trying to do all the …
/r/askMRP09/09/15 03:05 PM
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Any qualified help that you would recommend?
/r/askMRP08/09/15 09:21 PM
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I guess that's acting in her frame. Also I'm guessing she would let Chad come in the shower, so I need to keep upping my SMV and show alpha in front of her more. Should have initiated because that's what I wanted, I suppose. A hard no would still have been funner than nothing...
/r/askMRP21/08/15 06:31 PM
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tears, feelz, accusations of sexual abuse or rapey behavior, and ultimately more sexual withdrawl towards me.
/r/askMRP20/08/15 05:17 PM
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Should've AM'd, dangit you're right. Learning this stuff makes act out Chris Farley sometimes, "IDIOT" *hits self in head.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:36 PM
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Thanks BPP this and the other replies really do answer my question. I was actually doing the Freeze Out wrong, letting it persist until she has sex with me. This is an excellent clarification for me, thanks Prof!
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:33 PM
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Thanks, you're right I was a little butthurt. I do think jumping in the shower (what I wanted) would have resulted in tragedy. But you are right, alpha would have just taken what was his.
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:28 PM
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Thanks Count! I can't wait to jump in the shower with her, but the current state of things would make her cry or something. Great insight in being aloof based on her reaction, thanks. She was spending time thumbing her phone, and I told her to put it away and get naked. I got two LMR's but even a giggle or two of excitement, and went into the bathroom. I figured she was preparing herself maybe? She came out still dressed, and went back to her phone, and I pursued once more to hear, "not now plea…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:24 PM
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To clarify, leaving without a kiss was the seduction? That's great news if that's true! Maybe those tingles can last until I get home. So would it be safe to say that you get the hamster running with Aloof/OI/Distance, but try to close the deal with Kino? So tonight I'll do my best to Kino the shit out of her, and only go back to Distance once I get a hard no?
/r/askMRP19/08/15 05:34 PM
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http://www.ruled.me/3-ketogogenic-diets-skd-ckd-tkd/ Standard Ketogenic Diet
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/15 08:01 PM
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Totally right about mom and dad. I get that it is victim puke though. It seems like I just relapse from stoicism occasionally, when I slide out of frame the tiniest bit, everything comes out.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 05:56 PM
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Looking forward to dread and more game videos! BPP I'm having trouble finding your book that these videos reference. Is it released?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 05:01 PM
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..nobody wants to fuck you, the career beta, not even if your wife. Because the traits that make you an attractive individual have nothing to do with whatever traits you developed as a codependent. Man this is so true. My entire identity was formed around beta qualities. It's like I have transplant my skeleton, start from scratch and try to add alpha to the mix. You'll get Shit Tested and in an attempt to assert your boundaries, you'll react way too intensely. Or you'll start to pass a Shit Test…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 04:45 PM
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thanks for this
/r/askMRP12/08/15 06:47 PM
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