TL/DR: Go see your Dr. Get Help. Own it. You're still a man!

Okay guys, here it is. I have ED. Shit happens, and you need to deal with it. Don't wait. If you're not as hard as you think you should be, go get checked out by your doctor. The sooner you do, the better your chances are of reversing it, or at least dealing with it.

I know most of the issues in LTR's for guys come from lack of sex. But, as a Captain, you have to realize that your junk isn't working and OWN IT.

I went to my doctor over a year ago because it wasn't happening.... yea, it's not the most comfortable conversation to have, but you need to man up and have it.

If you have ED, you're probably feeling like less then a man, and like a failure. That's ok. It's ok to feel like that. Most guys don't realize how much our sense of self worth is tied to just being able to get it up... hell, even if you don't use it, it's still there.

So, I'm putting this out there for anyone who might get some value from it. It took about a year to find a solution for me, with different specialist appointments, and different drugs.. so the sooner you start, the better.

Remember, just because you can't go caveman on your FO, doesn't mean you can't satisfy her, and show her that you're still the Captain... just look at Michael Douglas and how he owned his cancer. (He claimed he got throat cancer from all the oral he did)

Plus, and this was news to me, and I don't think I've read anything about it here... You CAN orgasim without getting hard. Plus, there is nothing wrong with looking for some other solutions in addition to talking with your doctor. Pumps/ rings can give you some help.

I want to help all the guys out there who's LTRs/ marriages are being destroyed because they aren't getting the sex they NEED as men, and who's women aren't getting the MAN they NEED, either. Remember, just because your dick doesn't work, doesn't make you less of a man!