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We all come here with our own biases. He has covert contracts - bad communicator. He lacks assertiveness skills - bad communicator. He was sulking and giving her the cold shoulder - bad communicator. She's in therapy and has undoubtedly gotten some education on communication skills. I try to communicate my feelings and he doesn't validate my feelings A good communicator with a bit of empathy doesn't need to placate her. Fogging, negative assertion, negative inquiry, "I" statements, AA, pressure …
/r/askMRP31/08/16 12:23 AM
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Found the asktrp'er. If you were Brad Pitt and were in a relationship with her, would communication be a problem?... If Brad Pitt were a codependent Nice Guy with covert contracts and inability to be assertive, then the relationship would be just as fucked as this one. That's all communication.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 07:57 PM
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Things I specifically remember doing just last night Don't DEER. She rationalized her feelings. She feels bad, and wants to blame you for her feelings. You aren't responsible for her feelings. Watch for gaslighting. Also watch for shitty comfort tests like this one - play it like a shit test and you're an insensitive prick, play it like a comfort test and you're socially inept. This is where WISNIFG and some stoicism can save your sanity. Therapy, assertiveness, stoicism, and self esteem will he…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 05:25 PM
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This will get buried because you don't have flair, but it's the best answer in this thread. OP has desensitized himself. If he wants to fix that, then he has to get rid of the supernormal stimuli.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 05:17 PM
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I will admit that we are both poor communicators due to our upbringings Therapy is fine, but it's time to read WISNIFG. When I picked her up she was on her phone with her friend talking about logistics for upcoming trip. Tbh this kind of upset me so I was acting cold to her She was already on the phone when you picked her up. She was mid-conversation, arranging logistics. She didn't know about your covert contract that she should have dropped her friend mid-conversation to attend to your fragile…
/r/askMRP30/08/16 04:58 PM
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Or use archive.is, especially for outside links or when content might be modified or deleted.
/r/askMRP30/08/16 03:38 PM
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I should have posted that response before having a pint... I meant to say that it has to be her idea, but there are ways of helping to get her to that point.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/16 11:31 PM
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This is a decision YOU must make The decision to go to therapy is like sexual desire - it can't be negotiated. He might be able to convince her to go, but if she's not engaged in the process then it will be a waste of time. How To Win Friends and Influence People has good techniques for engaging people and showing them different perspectives. Motivational Interviewing is also good. The book I read was pretty heavy, but they teach it to cops, so there's probably a simple guide out there somewhere…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/16 10:30 PM
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40 lbs overweight with a big gut (5'11", 230 lbs), never lifted a weight in my life Unless you have a lot of muscle, you're 55lbs overweight. With normal body composition, BMI >25 is overweight. If your goal is to be overweight, then cut off your balls, because they aren't working anyway. Stop aiming for mediocrity. Until I lose the weight and put on the muscle, do I still initiate with wife and go for more than 2 starfish sessions a month With the exception of fitness and nutrition, make change…
/r/askMRP29/08/16 12:14 PM
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really shows that she cares about me as a man she wants to move out Does not compute. temporarily Well, at least she cares enough to try to help you save face. Convince her to not move out? It should probably be her idea. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, and How to Win Friends and Influence People. She wants to go on dates and stuff when she's moved out With you?
/r/askMRP29/08/16 01:15 AM
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It's okay - most of my jokes are for my own amusement, but I'm glad some people get it.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 07:52 PM
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Because it's askmrp and not marriedredpill, but the appearance of her body and face without makeup might be a relevant question for this specific post.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 02:27 PM
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Here's my read on me; I worried she'll have leverage to manipulate me to follow her agenda not mine. You have a choice to be manipulated or to follow through on your plans. You can fold or you can hold frame. "I'm going to xyz. I'll be back at lunch time. Would you like me to bring lunch, or were you planning to make something?" "But I thought we could do scrapbooking and watch reality TV together." It's a good opportunity to practice techniques from WISNIFG. You're sensing that being secretive …
/r/askMRP28/08/16 01:50 PM
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I'm not 25; I'm in my thirties My mistake - skimmed your post history quickly. What makes me seem immature to you? Egocentrism.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 11:35 AM
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I'm not quite sure what you're getting at? That's because you're 25 immature and have low empathy for other women, especially unattractive ones. It could be youthful naiveté, narcissism, or a need for validation from men. I doubt that you're mature enough to recognize the difference. So am I right in believing that a man's attraction to a woman is completely unaffected by knowing her age? Physical attraction and arousal cues don't respect the calendar, but choice of partner often does. If you're…
/r/askMRP28/08/16 11:02 AM
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What am I missing? A few things: The little high that you could get when someone guesses that you are younger than you really are. A desire to hook up with as many guys as possible using your online persona. (more relevant for the singles) Self-loathing with respect to your appearance and attractiveness. The sense that clinging to youth is a worthwhile pursuit, though seeing that you post in /r/fatlogic and /r/amiugly makes me wonder how you'll feel in a few years. Conversely, believing me to be…
/r/askMRP28/08/16 10:15 AM
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That's nice why were u mad I forget? Why r u up? Nice example of amused mastery. You don't need us - just model your behavior after your special snowflake. /u/sexyshoulderdevil flagged me down, but I have little to offer. You're too angry and clueless about how your behavior is perceived. Trying to apply red pill stuff right now is going to make you angrier and will probably make the marriage worse. Maybe you can calmly down and slow down on your own, but I think you need individual therapy.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 09:35 PM
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If something doesn't come easy to him he quits or has a bad attitude about it That's pretty common for gifted kids. Several of my gifted friends in school ended up as unemployed potheads. his biggest deficiency is that he is lazy I doubt it. My guess is that his social skills are fucked. He's home schooled, and you needed the red pill to figure out what women find attractive. It's the perfect combination of genetics and environment for a socially inept kid. Thinking back to the 15-16 year old fr…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 05:05 PM
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Stoicism Many MRP guys embrace aspects of the philosophy of stoicism. Stoicism does not prevent you from having or expressing emotions, and neither do we. Stoicism is a way of shedding the victim mentality. It is a way to stop being a whiny bitch. It is not the only way. MRP tells you that using her as an emotional tampon or as a personal crutch is a turn off. She will not respect you for it. In fact, she may be disgusted by it. If you act like a child, then she will see you as a child. Most wom…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 11:25 AM
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When he goes, any ideas on how to handle the crushing grief without giving up the Captainship? Keep owning your shit. Take care of your responsibilities. Lead, be positive, and embrace the philosophy of stoicism. Leave the past in the past. If you're capable of talking without vomiting all your thoughts and feelings or using her as an emotional crutch, then go ahead and talk it out. It won't take much talking for her to know what you're feeling. Women tend to empathize better than men, but most …
/r/askMRP25/08/16 10:03 PM
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79K plus benefits is decent with only one kid. It's an improvement. Commuting sucks, especially by car. Are you listening to audiobooks between traffic reports? I don't know what your industry is. Do you have the option of telecommuting a few days a month? Switching to a related industry? Moving yourselves somewhere closer to your work? Most importantly, have you reached the point where you can have a conversation with your girlfriend about your expectations of her?
/r/askMRP24/08/16 11:04 PM
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i'm doing what i can do under the conditions that i have What are you doing to change those conditions?
/r/askMRP24/08/16 10:34 PM
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This post is all about her. It sounds like you haven't made any progress from 6 months ago, when your situation was nicely deconstructed by /u/TheFamilyAlpha and /u/Stonepimpletilists. Your logistics suck. Your leadership sucks. Your post sucks. A leader would follow the advice from /u/Scurvemuch about setting an appointment about the long periods. 15 days isn't normal. She's following your lead on the scroll and the gaming. You fuck off to the range, she plays games. She's unwinding with screen…
/r/askMRP24/08/16 10:07 PM
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Question: How important is the stop watching porn? Answer: I suck at sex and I think porn is part of the reason Quitting porn can be difficult if you don't replace it with something productive. Every time you would have watched porn, do something to improve yourself instead. It would be a good time for your stretching and foam rolling, upper back or abdominal work, light cardio, reading, fixing something around the house, or meditating. Use the mindfulness technique of feeling the urge rise and …
/r/askMRP23/08/16 10:01 PM
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I am not that great at sex I'm tempted to leave it at that... All of this assumes that you've got your shit together, you dress well, smell good, and look good naked. It assumes that you have read and applied the sidebar prerequisites and are at dread level 4-5. It assumes that she sees your SMV at or above hers. If you haven't achieved all of these things, then you don't deserve good sex. Stamina: improve core strength with planks and heavy barbell work, do Kegels and reverse Kegels, breathe, r…
/r/askMRP23/08/16 07:17 PM
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Point him to the Married Man Sex Life Primer.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 07:04 PM
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check out other girls in front of her and the like to work on the dread You're doing it wrong. I get sex whenever I initiate, but it's always me You're married to a woman. Guys initiate most of the time. Some women have sexual desire that is almost completely responsive. She shows her desire by being responsive to you. I'd much rather she was acting like a drama queen Are you looking for a playmate to build some drama? Are you trying to reproduce your own dysfunctional tendencies? Some women are…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 07:59 PM
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BOOK of Pook Free PDF in the sidebar. ACTION dates Wall climbing, hiking, skating, horseback riding, axe throwing, etc. Not just sitting across from each other in a restaurant or going to a movie. Should I ask that I take care of the finances, in the past I have made the money and she managed it, perhaps I need to take 100 percent control of them You, as a couple, do not have your expenses under control. Fix that.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 01:52 AM
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It seems that its my responsibility to make the money and my wife to kind of hold me hostage and give her judgements and all about everything Read WISNIFG and re-read NMMNG. We used to go on date nights Action dates are better than dinner or movie dates. how can you think about sex when we have work to do and money to make Read the Book of Pook. Learn about Game. Take control of the finances so that she is less obsessed and both of you can be more responsible with money. Athol Kay is obsessed wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/16 06:17 PM
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laughing Laughing together is the best answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/16 03:40 PM
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OP emphasized the value of building people up and being a positive person instead of knocking them down to make yourself feel better. Your response was the exact opposite. It's not hard to guess which of you would have more comfort and success in a social setting. OP is breaking a bad habit - can you?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/16 11:26 AM
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Shit test is a catch-all term for things that women say that shouldn't be taken at face value. It's a mix of things like playful banter, covert communication, lack of assertiveness, and the emotional and verbal shield that women build up after years of unattractive men harassing them. My favorite was a friend in high school who loudly said to an approaching guy, "Don't even talk to me unless your dick is at least 7 inches." She liked big dicks, but she happily made exceptions for confident, funn…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/16 10:58 AM
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My shields can't repel a hamster of that magnitude! Edit: I'd suggest adding /u/weakandsensitive to your /r/friends list and following his posts.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 10:20 PM
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"Ok, you can stop having sex, but I won't, and you aren't moving out until the 12 year old is 18. And, I am not feeling it either, as in the the ass of the potted plant you have become, in the corner" That's not a reaction? You're delusional. Edit: Relevant post from Jack.
/r/askMRP19/08/16 04:55 PM
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its only a matter of time before she takes a lover More likely an emotional affair, at least at first. It depends on her temperament and how they both calibrate their behavior moving forward. Maybe he wants to get to phase 3, or maybe he wants out of the marriage and will see the power dynamics as a zero sum game until divorce. It's his MAP. Kids tend to do better with parents who are divorced but functional than they do when the parents are together and dysfunctional. Most MeRPs in this situati…
/r/askMRP19/08/16 02:07 PM
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Finish reading MMSLP - apply it with your wife. Finish reading WISNIFG - practice as you read, apply it everywhere, graduate from mostly fogging to everything else in that book. Keep going through dread levels 1-5, but focus on the books. Let your wife choose to follow the counselor's advice and see a psychiatrist. 18 months isn't just grief. She has work to do. Let her do it. You can't fix her shit. She has to own it. Be patient.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 09:17 PM
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Hey Fatty's quite a guy Putting the other guy down betrays his insecurity. He likes the guy. He should act like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 11:57 AM
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frumpy grumpy couch potato He's boring and doesn't inspire her or provide her with a more interesting alternative. Hopefully OP isn't joining her couch surfing sessions. This was one of my problems. Life was too smooth and predictable. I'm very good at anticipating and preventing problems. I develop plans with contingencies, backups, room for error. That leads to a low stress, boring life. It was putting my wife to sleep. Reality TV and Facebook gave her a fix for the variety that she craved. Sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 10:54 AM
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The bench problem is likely in the setup. Retract the fucking scapula! Keep your core tight on bench. Every day is back day. Finish with chins, pull-ups, rows, or face pulls every day. At the very least, every set of upper body push needs at least one set of upper back work.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 10:41 AM
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It's a call to action with a strong right wing slant. I agree with the sentiment, but he's preaching to the choir. It will be ignored by the people who run our schools and social programs. Boys and girls are both affected. They are becoming fat and weak. Phones, tablets, video games, porn, online shopping, fast food, and television are turning our children into entitled losers. Parents are allowing it to happen. My kids will be leaner, stronger, more confident, and more capable than their peers.…
/r/askMRP17/08/16 11:10 PM
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It's a shit study in a throwaway journal. The normative data from 1985 is outdated and presented much higher numbers for men and women than any of the more recent studies. The NHANES data was summarized on Reddit here. TL;DR Men still have higher grip strength than women. There have been several studies showing that men in their 20s are fatter and weaker than 30 years ago.
/r/askMRP17/08/16 08:53 PM
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Your wife is being passive aggressive. She's either crazy or feels she can't get though to her captain. It's both. She's trying to communicate something and lacks the assertiveness to do so effectively. OP can hand her a copy of WISNIFG, protect his most important belongings as /u/BluepillProfessor suggested, and start looking into divorce as /u/walkingthelinux suggested. Edit: Reading his post history, he's a passive aggressive cunt as well. Now she's getting revenge. Hope the kids weren't ther…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 05:23 PM
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Degeneracy gives me an unshakeable frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 04:10 PM
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Hey, I remember you! You're the blooper who wanted me dead. What brings you to our den of misogyny? Were you one of the women who sent unsolicited nudes to OP? This is what every single one of you sounds like from the outisde. I thought bloopers were against sweeping generalizations.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 03:24 PM
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I developed OI when I discovered that there are hot singles in my area. I'm very excited, but I need to raise my SMV first. For my MAP, I will use one simple trick to get a six pack, and my penis enlargement kit should arrive any day now.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 11:18 PM
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I'm not going to end it with her If the door is closed to that decision, then this sub probably isn't the place for you. /u/anythinginc just posted in another thread about the difference between support groups and self-development. You seem to be looking for a support group - empathy from like-minded guys. Check out some support groups for survivors of infidelity. If you are interested in improving yourself, understanding how you contributed to her infidelity, and developing your relationship sk…
/r/askMRP15/08/16 10:39 PM
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Could be depression, PMDD, meds, drugs, alcohol, somebody is dying, or she feels something that she doesn't feel comfortable sharing with you. Does she have any other social supports, or is she isolated? Does she have a decent doctor?
/r/askMRP15/08/16 10:13 PM
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Attention from spambots is validating and fun! I can't believe this was downvoted...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 10:09 PM
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All I intended was to share my story as a vivid example of how not to do things. I did pretty well the same thing - only posting failures or mixed results. A response from WMP helped me get my head on straight. He made a comment that suited my post, but didn't suit my situation. My internal dialog went something like this, "He doesn't know me or my wife - I do. I'm in the best position to assess the situation, not him... Oh... Now I get it."
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 05:55 PM
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Guys are making this so fucking complicated... You have a plan for monk mode. Are you looking for permission? Validation? Consensus? Acta non verba. Stop initiating for a few months. Accept her advances only when you really want sex with her, not because "It's been a while, now's my chance." Accepting sub-par sex reveals a lack of abundance mentality. This is related to /u/weakandsensitive's comment. It's a sign of poor self-respect. It's unattractive. It will only make you both more resentful. …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 05:20 PM
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I agree that she may or may not be cheating. Women want companionship and compatibility more. If OP's wife were cheating, based on the situation he describes, it would probably be an emotional affair. I agree, though, that this case doesn't sound like branch swinging. It sounds like a dysfunctional relationship. They're probably acting shitty in front of the kids, then feeling shitty, then acting shitty in a lovely death spiral. She suggested individual counseling for both of them, which is prob…
/r/askMRP15/08/16 12:09 PM
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I think we both need a break from the kids because we are not being the type of parents we should This is enough for many people to want a divorce and some individual counseling. Taking turns being single parents may be worse, unless your relationship is the reason you aren't being good parents. My guess is that your focus on sex is misplaced. The lack of sex is a symptom that the relationship is messed up in other ways. I'd suggest taking a break from initiating, working through the sidebar pre…
/r/askMRP15/08/16 11:10 AM
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She brought up divorce by text? Why wasn't she comfortable talking to you about it in person? Did she communicate like that with other people, or did you talk/listen in a way that prevented her from speaking her mind?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/16 01:22 PM
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I am still really angry after 3 months 3 months isn't very long. You're just starting to shift the blame from her and society onto yourself. Handing someone a sidebar book is one thing, but try to avoid talking about the red pill. It's the kick in the pants that many guys need, but some people can't put it into perspective.
/r/askMRP13/08/16 06:32 PM
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interview, suit & tie, with a single spec of glitter on your forehead Abundance mentality and outcome independence are harder when finances are on the line. When my daughter was a baby, I went to work several times a week with a milky mouthprint on my right shoulder. Glitter annoys me sometimes, but my daughter's eyes sparkle more than the glitter itself when she uses glitter glue and wears sparkly clothes. My wife's eyes sparkle when I brush the random glitter on her neck with my hand. "My spar…
/r/askMRP13/08/16 03:40 PM
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internet beast This is where I tip my fedora, right? Read NMMNG. You're a caricature of a Nice Guy. Your story could have been plucked from the foreword. Most of the guys here started that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 02:23 PM
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Ok dude. Ill read them but you dont know shit about me so dont talk like you do or ever will. Kid. LOL - did you ever stop to think why people assumed you were a troll?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 02:04 PM
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You didn't know shit. You knew PUA tricks to hide the fact that you're an unlovable Omega Nice Guy. Read the sidebar prerequisites, kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 01:37 PM
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sex and porn addict. I have a job where I run IT, and when I click on "all" subreddits the porn pops up and I fall down a black hole It's my job's fault. Sex addict It's the addiction's fault our sex drive issues are making me take it personal It's not my fault. I am all thrown off of my game It's not my fault! it just annoys me and makes me not want sex It's my wife's fault. It's too much work. Sex in relationships should be as simple as clicking on a porn site or scoring a quick Tinder hookup.…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 01:35 PM
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Love it - guys preach stoicism and downvote the very first negative visualization that each of them should have done.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 11:11 AM
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Why have the Ten Commandments if the Bible explains it more thoroughly in parables? Going from the specific to the general isn't the only way to convey information. Combining and reorganizing key concepts in a concise way is a challenging skill. Consider that jacktenofhearts and weakandsensitive are fans of each other's work. The sidebar says you're entitled to your feelings. That's true, so I'll let you sit back and consider why this post triggered you so badly that you felt a need to write suc…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 11:02 AM
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TL;DR Daughter out of the house for the day so her new room can be set up. Husband, pregnant wife, and mother are in the house. Expectations about division of labor were not set beforehand. Wife got angry while moving furniture, presumably because she, as a pregnant woman, thought it should be her husband's job. He took the hint. More anger about details and expectations not established beforehand. Husband did more work while others arranged dinner. Wife and mother remind him of dinner to show t…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 08:26 PM
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I've read the tumblrs and online diaries of many women Ah yes, social science's preferred method for unbiased sampling of a mentally stable population. it must appear as a bitter anger phase statement No, it comes across like a socially isolated teenager with minimal sexual experience, much like the rest of TRP. MRP is grown-ups. If you want to play victim to the gynocracy, you're in the wrong place. If you want to learn to be a man, then read the prerequisites in our sidebar. You attract exactl…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 06:47 PM
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I'm hoping that was sarcasm, kid. I glanced at your last day of Reddit activity. Are you a porn-addicted troll, or are you just retarded?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 05:23 PM
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Though absence of sex sometimes contributes to divorce, sex is a stupid reason to get married. If all she's good for is sex, then why are you wasting your time with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 04:33 PM
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Are you answering through an alt account? Dude, read NMMNG, WISNIFG, SGM, MMSLP, and come back when you're done if you have any questions.
/r/askMRP12/08/16 04:25 PM
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I wouldn't say I was unfuckable. The girls that hit on me and essentially tried to Mate Poach me prove that I was fuckable. That only proves that someone who isn't in a relationship with you would be willing to give you a shot. The honeymoon phase eventually ends.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 02:28 PM
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Make sure you read WISNIFG before having this conversation. Agreed, NMMNG might be good, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 01:42 PM
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Good post. The deadbedrooms crowd can't see the forest for the trees. That is an unattractive quality in a partner. Not only should they be focusing on the things within their control, as you've pointed out, but the focus on sex as the source of problems is usually wrong. Barring a physical problem, a dead bedroom is usually a symptom of a relationship that is dysfunctional in other ways. Taking it a step further, being upset enough about a dead bedroom to look to strangers for advice and commis…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 12:09 PM
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LOL - VFL, is that you? I'm not passing judgment on you. Newbs might not get that joke. It wasn't a defense of MRP, numb nuts, it was a warning against a faulty mindset. Even if it had not been a direct response to OP, even if I was preaching to some imaginary feminist audience, NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, How to Win Friends and Influence People - no punishment. BPP's book is on there - I'll give you that, but it's a recent addition. You've been following me around long enough to know that I pai…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 12:42 AM
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happy wife happy life I'm not sure what point you're trying to make. Man up, be the most attractive version of yourself, and find ways to lead a happy and fulfilling life. If she's compatible, then she'll happily join you. If not, then the relationship should end. MRP is almost as simple as that. People do stupid shit all the time. When my wife does something stupid, I don't reward it, but I don't need to punish her. She self-corrects. If she doesn't, then I speak to her about the issue. If you'…
/r/askMRP11/08/16 09:14 PM
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The intent is still to punish Not for me. Maybe I've been MeRPing wrong all this time. Maybe that's why my wife is so happy...
/r/askMRP11/08/16 07:48 PM
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Negative reinforcement and punishment are not the same thing, and common use differs from experimental psych. Maybe this scenario will clarify what I'm saying: Wife is in a rage buy her flowers [positive reinforcement, reward undesirable behavior] call her a bitch and hit her [punishment, undermines relationship, may increase or decrease undesirable behaviors depending on context] ignore, do something else [negative reinforcement, her bad behavior always produces an unpleasant situation, and the…
/r/askMRP11/08/16 07:04 PM
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Stop rewarding bad behavior. That's negative reinforcement, not punishment. Where did you see advice to punish your wife in the sidebar? Maybe you can use punishment in a fun way with BDSM, but punishment is generally an ineffectual technique of a poor leader. I get that NMMNG is designed for a guy. Yet I think underlying NMMNG principles might apply to both genders. Yep. NMMNG's practical advice is better than the theory. Covert contracts, codependency, and all the other pathetic shit that peop…
/r/askMRP11/08/16 04:40 PM
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I get a sick pleasure from calling out passive aggressive behavior, so I may not be the ideal person to comment, but this I was direct with her, told her that I sounded pissed off on the phone because didn't appreciate her not letting me know what her plans were since we'd planned dinner, and that it would've been easy to send me a text and give me some heads up. I also said that I found it disrespectful and she seemed taken aback. was a good response. When you're done with WISNIFG, hand her a c…
/r/askMRP11/08/16 02:51 AM
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Are you happy with monogamy? You sound like 2gunsgetsome. He's another guy who was a virgin when he got married. When your n-count is high enough that you don't care about the number, then it's much easier to be happy with monogamy. Some guys are happy with n=1, others aren't.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 10:21 PM
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OP's Bitch Tits Bob. I came in as Tyler and now I'm the Narrator.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 08:24 PM
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If this is the wrong sub The codependent Nice Guy is the prototypical MRP subscriber. Many guys here started out in relationships where their self-worth was determined by their wives' reactions to them. He stays with the abusive wife because she's sad. He stays with the cheating wife because she was drunk at the time. He stays in a dead bedroom because she can't cope without him. He stays in a sick relationship with a selfish woman because he worries that ending the relationship makes him a fail…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 08:01 PM
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This is my favorite answer, but I fear that it might be lost on such a codependent drama queen. The drama gives Captain Save A Ho purpose in life. That's one of the reasons he's jumping to nonmonogamy while still trying to fix her. I bet the conversation where he talked about wanting to fuck other women gave him a semi. He's such a drama queen that he posted here instead of askmrp. This one's beyond saving, guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 05:28 PM
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Here is a concise summary with foods that provide iodine in your diet without added salt. A slightly more detailed explanation and list of foods can be found here. iodine pills after Chernobyl My Russian colleague isn't here today, so you'll have to settle for English resources.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 04:11 PM
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As /u/Alpha_Rising said, why should you give a fuck? Flirtatious, attractive guys get attention from women. Learn from the guy. Become a flirtatious and attractive.
/r/askMRP09/08/16 09:21 PM
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True, which is why iodine is added to salt for sale and for food processing throughout most of the developed world.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 08:20 PM
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I agree with parts of that article, but much of it is the usual naturopathic industry rhetoric and strawman argument. TL;DR Subclinical hypothyroidism sometimes warrants intervention low T3 with otherwise normal thyroid profile sometimes warrant intervention hormone issues are always case by case and must include a general health assessment drawing a line in the sand about TSH levels is stupid If your diet is shitty then you'll feel shitty The t-nation guy clearly hasn't spoken to an intelligent…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 06:47 PM
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I wonder which of the 2500 peer-reviewed articles on subclinical hypothyroidism were used to assemble that straw man in t-nation.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 06:01 PM
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confidence to say all these things and confidence is sexier than anything else, so she goes with the bad boy every time You can be confident and attractive and still choose to be nice or not nice. You can be a bad boy and still be unattractive. The characteristics that most women find attractive are unrelated to the things that they find virtuous. What you can't do is walk around with a sense of entitlement, whether you're nice or a bad boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 02:54 AM
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it's so much more verbose than it needs to be It's a good thing jacktenofhearts is on hiatus. Skimming several of the sidebar books... Sounds like someone half-assing some of the most important aspects of life. Are you looking for a quick fix? Do you have ADHD? Or are you just lazy?
/r/askMRP08/08/16 09:14 PM
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My wife insists that I'm pretty close to her ideal body type, but she might be lying to herself. The PUA strategies cast a wide net. We tell guys to aim for 12% BF because that's the ideal in studies of attractiveness and mate preference, both in facial features and body shape. Some women like 12% and lean and others like 12% and big. It's better to be a bit more muscular than she prefers than a bit less. There's an eye-opening section on this in the Book of Pook, which is a free PDF in the side…
/r/askMRP08/08/16 08:57 PM
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You lift, but are you lean? You can upgrade your wardrobe any time, but if your body fat is higher than 10-15% then you have work to do in the gym and the kitchen. Have you read the recommended books for each level? NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP at level 1 MAP at level 2 The rest of the sidebar after that If your mindset is wrong, your frame is weak, or parts of your behavior aren't congruent, then stuff from the higher levels will likely make things worse. Changing your behavior quickly will set off al…
/r/askMRP08/08/16 08:05 PM
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Don't know if you are being sarcastic about women finding insecurity attractive Well, then it's a good thing I added the other stuff, because I was going to leave it as a one line response. I do not show her this at all She sees through you - AWALT. I truly act as if it doesn't bother me. But it sorta does It bothered you enough to write a field report to collect ideas from strangers on the Internet. The only way you can minimize how much of that she can see without truly letting go of those tho…
/r/askMRP07/08/16 12:29 PM
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Keep up the good work - women find this kind of insecurity very attractive. She might cheat. You might cheat. Either of you could be hit by a bus and killed. What then? A huge part of the red pill is tips and tricks to appear confident. Fake it til you make it. Maybe it's time for you to move beyond the PUA "women are children" tricks and read up on the philosophy of stoicism.
/r/askMRP07/08/16 12:11 PM
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True or not, that's pretty dark - I like it.
/r/askMRP05/08/16 04:17 PM
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On the off chance you're not a troll, check that your insurance policy is up to date. Then hang yourself in the garage I literally laughed out loud at this
/r/askMRP05/08/16 03:49 PM
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I'm really enjoying this. It's a classic Internet argument, where both sides are so similar, but can't see it because of some minor details. It's like DC vs Marvel, or dark roast versus medium roast. In this case, glossing over the existence of idiots on one side and confusion between TRP and MRP on the other. If things done work out with /u/anythinginc and his girlfriend, then the two of you should hook up.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/16 02:33 AM
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This however is clearly a technique problem Which is why included SGM in his reading list. He could also read She Comes First, and a host of other books, but that's just the superficial problem. This unicorn is willing to fuck him even though he sucks in bed. It's easy to fix that when you stop confusing endurance with skill. The bigger problem in my eyes is that his entire mindset is fucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 10:40 PM
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What the fuck is this gibberish? Are you drunk? My wife and I were arguing about why we don't have more sex. Not drunk, just retarded. You can't negotiate desire, and nobody wins an argument. Read the sidebar books, including NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, How to Win Friends and Influence People, and Rational Male year 1. Read them. Think about what you've read and all the things you had been doing wrong. Apply what you've learned. Then consider posting here again. Until then, there's /r/askmrp for…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 10:27 PM
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Another asshole fighting in front of his kid. Do you have so little situational awareness and self control that you can't pull your wife aside? Do you have such a weak frame that she won't comply with having these discussions in private? Main event two months in? Main event when your default response is to run away? And you still don't recognize that you're butthurt? "December me never got what he wanted" And you still don't recognize that you're butthurt? The main event is when she finally step…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 11:57 AM
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You're the dude with the bipolar wife, right? If the story is real, and she is bipolar, and she was high, then she might not fuck another guy, but only if she never has a high again. Bipolar people can become hypersexual when high. If the bipolar is controlled, then she might not cheat on you again. That's the best case scenario. If the story isn't real, and you're just a troll, then please explain what point you are trying to make.
/r/askMRP03/08/16 12:59 AM
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I was hoping for a list of already translated, repeatedly occurring cases of 'If she does X, then ...' Some examples in the Book of Pook, my main event post, and scattered elsewhere. Fans of Pook refer to Womanese - could be a useful search keyword.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/16 07:36 PM
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Fuck you, both of you, for doing that in front of your kid. I point out her flaws I don't know where to start... Not only do you automatically lose the argument, but you give everyone license to call your words abusive. People, including therapists, are less likely to call verbal attacks abusive if coming from a woman. There's plenty of evidence to back this up. Too many guys fall into this trap. If you're socially retarded, then STFU. If you're socially skilled, then you'll recognize that she's…
/r/askMRP01/08/16 11:22 AM
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I'm not disappointed, I'm just realizing we may not have the same expectations in this relationship There's no room for hamstering. There's no subtlety. It's an obvious pressure tactic. That's why /u/trpaxiom's attempts to say the same thing resulted in a fight. It's almost exactly what the deadbedrooms crowd recommend, which is why they fail. You're in a very different position than OP.
/r/askMRP31/07/16 07:07 PM
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"You've got sex on your mind, apparently..." "Awww, did you miss your husband?" "Meh, maybe next time." "Yep, pulled a Van Gogh and cut off my ear." Your answer can be almost anything other than negotiating desire or allowing her to use sex as a weapon.
/r/askMRP31/07/16 07:04 PM
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I didn't fully believe in sleep eating or sleep sex until I spent time training in a sleep lab. Watching the EEG tracing (brain waves) and video of a guy eating while asleep finally convinced me. My daughter can run down the stairs in her sleep without missing a step. Sleep sex can be a problem if you have roommates. "You'll have to lock your door at night so I don't come in and have sex with you in my sleep" is not a phrase that most prospective roommates want to hear.
/r/askMRP27/07/16 04:56 PM
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Three possibilities It's a non-REM parasomnia that you can ignore or take advantage of, depending on the state of your relationship. My wife and I both talk in our sleep occasionally, which is essentially the same thing. One night we awoke in the midst of having sex. She's pretending to be asleep and is being playful. You can play with her or roll over and go to sleep. It's a plot to destroy you. Which do you think is most likely? Fuck if you want to fuck. Sleep if you want to sleep.
/r/askMRP27/07/16 04:06 PM
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Middle-Aged Urban Failure LOL - that makes it even better. Reclaim the muffy label! We won't be shamed for our cell phone belt clips and New Balance sneakers any more! Beer bellied balding bastards unite! End dad-shaming!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 01:25 PM
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not deserving being fucked by a wife Not enough alpha qualities. She's denying sex because you don't turn her on. Be attractive. don't have finance nor logistic taken care of Finances are part of adulthood. It's a minimum criterion for some women to find a man desirable, but money doesn't get her wet, it's true. It's a useful beta characteristic to have a good handle on your finances, though. Handling logistics is part of owning your shit. It's unattractive to not be able to develop and execute …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 02:57 AM
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how can a guy know that limit until he's passed it? That's true. I had been with enough girls when I stopped caring about my n-count. That's a different point for everyone. One is enough for some, while others are never satisfied, always chasing that high, like the fat woman who keeps eating after she's full. I'd probably wonder about it if my n-count were one. What's it like to fuck someone else? There are definitely differences. The novelty is exciting. Ironically, this is something I'm trying…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 01:28 AM
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You remind me of whinemoreplease.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 11:18 PM
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It sounds like you're still pissed that your wife initiates like a woman instead of initiating like a man. It's a covert contract that will never be fulfilled with any woman outside the honeymoon phase or while high. You're getting that from this new chick, but she'll eventually resort to initiating by showing receptiveness most of the time, just like your wife. It sounds like you're still trying to make up for missed opportunities, now that you know how to attract women. How many women will you…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 09:59 PM
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silent treatment If she does it to you, then do whatever you want as long as it doesn't reward her shitty, passive aggressive behavior. If she does it to your kids, then nuke it. My wife did that to my daughter, who was 4 years old at the time. She had yelled at my daughter about something minor. When my daughter apologized later, with tears in her eyes, my wife didn't acknowledge her at all. She looked at her and walked away. My daughter's apologies got louder and more desperate. I walked up to…
/r/askMRP24/07/16 06:02 PM
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Whatever comes at you, you stay calm, easy-going, and positive. You're always prepared. You've seen it all before. Become a guy who doesn't get rattled. Become a guy who sees everyone's bullshit as amusing instead of aggravating. It's not the same as condescension - that's weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/16 04:29 PM
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Book of Pook is a free PDF in the sidebar.
/r/askMRP22/07/16 04:34 PM
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Congratulations on not being a fat fuck. That is the absolutely bare minimum personal investment as a man. Keep sub-15% body fat and keep setting goals. Lifting is emphasized for many reasons, one of the biggest being that the average married guy is either skinny fat or just plain fat. Physical attractiveness matters in sexual arousal. Physical fitness also improves performance in the bedroom. Lifting is obviously not enough. Think of the hot chick with 10/10 body but the personality of a soul-s…
/r/askMRP22/07/16 04:10 PM
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Kids pick up on their parents dysfunction. You are her model for relationships. Your wife doesn't have to act crazy in from of her - treating you with disrespect is enough. You both might need some individual therapy. NMMNG addresses some codependent behaviors, but I don't think it will be enough. There are countless books and online resources. Use the ones that resonate with you. If you prefer meeting others with the same problem, some people like al-anon. Good luck. Your situation sucks.
/r/askMRP22/07/16 03:41 PM
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I agree with all of that, though I doubt he'll be able to get her to a doctor.
/r/askMRP22/07/16 02:47 AM
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Every time I give in though I feel like a gigantic pussy At least you have some insight. constantly keno No. Forget Game. Forget sex. It's time for monk mode. The lack of sex is a symptom of a weak, codependent man married to an anxious, alcohol-abusing woman. On number 2 when she refused to give the passwords I should have just said that it was unacceptable and then refused to pay the bill unless I was given access Mommy, can I have permission to do things with my own money? This likely would h…
/r/askMRP21/07/16 09:52 PM
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Dude, vengefully_yours is one of the most well-known endorsed contributors in theredpill. Your username made me assume that you were a troll. At the very least, it means that you haven't been reading very much red pill content.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 09:21 PM
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Boooooooo That one was just weak. You should read more of the stuff from /u/OmLiLi and /u/WigglyCharlie. There are some very clever people over in thebluepill who could be your mentors.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 02:13 AM
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LOL - that's actually a pretty funny response. From the low effort troll, I didn't give you enough credit for having any brains.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 01:50 AM
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/u/vengefully_yours isn't blocked. Why are you copying his username?
/r/askMRP20/07/16 09:22 PM
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We can call ourselves MUFFIES muff diving for MUFFIES muffin recipes muffle her bedroom sounds with a ball gag lift to eliminate the muffin top Works for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 04:55 PM
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It's all relative. As we improve, we judge ourselves by higher standards. Even if a guy seems to have it all, there will always be another guy who is different or better in some way. To some women, I'm an alpha bucks. To others, I may be AF, BB, or invisible.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 04:51 PM
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Optimal strategy for both is probably the mythical Alpha Bucks, but most women are forced to settle for a sexy deadbeat or an unattractive provider, thus the appearance of the dual mating strategy. Our wives settled for us because they couldn't gain desire or commitment from a guy who had it all. This place is a unicorn factory.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 04:28 PM
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Andy, raised by a single mom, spent his days playing with his favorite toys, Buzz and Woody. Without a male role model, he never learned to be assertive, instead relying on poorly veiled passive aggressive tactics. He became socially isolated, maintaining very few friends through his teens and early 20s. Andy had the good fortune to meet a woman with very low standards. She found comfort in the ability to dictate the terms of their relationship. At first, it fed her narcissistic tendencies, and …
/r/askMRP20/07/16 11:08 AM
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He said he was taking a break for a few months to help a family member get a business off the ground. It seemed like he needed a break, though. I don't think he was enjoying it anymore. Even if he was planning a temporary break, he may decide that returning isn't worth the time and effort. Maybe he's waiting for me to make good on my promise to assemble The Book of jacktenofhearts as a companion to The Book of Pook.
/r/askMRP19/07/16 02:37 AM
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She was messing around with you in the house, only two weeks into the marriage. Was she hoping for a threesome? Addendum: We had a dude in askMRP this week with a bipolar wife. Barring something like that, she's not marriage material. Some people aren't cut out for monogamy. That being said, I'm absolutely certain that you're a fuckup, but you haven't provided any details about yourself. Are you lifting and reading the sidebar books? NMMNG and WISNIFG would be a good start. Use her to practice y…
/r/askMRP18/07/16 09:49 PM
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prepping for my specialty boards That is a very shitty time in life, hopefully never to be repeated. There's a nice intro to stoicism in this thread. You may need to prioritize fitness and nutrition and read a but less non-medical stuff until exams are done. If you decide to visit the stoicism subreddit, it should be with an alternate account since many of the users there don't practice what they preach, but I wouldn't bother going there. You're always better off going to the source.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 08:39 PM
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I think the question OP was trying to ask is "what are some displays of high value?" I agree. Just didn't have time or energy to put something like that together. It's also hard to think of examples when the behavior is natural. Your contributions here have all been really solid, by the way. It's easier for guys like Jack to take a break when guys like you step up.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 03:54 PM
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Start hiding money This can can get you into serious legal trouble. You're not a lawyer. Stop giving legal advice. You do not need to worry about your daughter, the state has her covered. Not true if she has higher income than her husband. I am here to spread some love after I had an argument with two of your contributors Trust funds for kids can be very useful. Other than that, your advice is shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/16 02:02 PM
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It's a shitty comfort test. Play it like a shit test, and you're an insensitive, philandering prick who will amplify her anxiety and rage. Play it like a comfort test, and you're a clueless loser who will just piss her off. STFU is what to do when you can't think of a better response. Option #1 for a shitty comfort test is playing it down the middle with stoicism. For example, "I'm disappointed in the way that you are speaking to me right now. I'm going to go floss my teeth. Take a minute, gathe…
/r/askMRP18/07/16 01:41 PM
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Providing comfort doesn't mean you can placate shitty behavior. We do that shit all day with our patients with motivational interviewing, trying to move past the social history and get on with a consult, and getting shitty admin people to STFU. Medicine attracts codependent people and reinforces the behavior. Our profession is over-represented in the red pill. Is it ok to go slow Yes. In fact, it's usually necessary, especially with a smart, anxious wife and your history of infidelity. If she's …
/r/askMRP18/07/16 01:09 PM
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For the newbs, this is dread. You should be an interesting and attractive man with a full life and plenty of options. Proof of that should come from other people. Don't talk about your options - let her figure it out. most effective forms of dread Passive dread, levels 1-5, as long as it's not part of a colossal covert contract. If you're an interesting, attractive, funny, confident man, then women will want to fuck you. One of them might be your wife.
/r/askMRP17/07/16 06:28 PM
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Don't we want our wives to be begging us to fuck them? It's not black and white. If he wants to go out, he should go out. If he wants to fuck, he should fuck. What he should not do is show that he can be easily manipulated with sex. In this case it is manipulation. She was angry that he wanted to go out, so she is using sex to get him to stay. That's a fucked up way to use your body and your partner. The best answer depends on OP's frame and her attraction to him. The text should be logistics on…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/16 12:30 AM
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This is so much logical garbage I don't know what to say. The goals of TRP are to be alpha, not to be good. Shit, really? And here I thought it was about self-improvement! I should rethink my life... You're just slicing and dicing to protect your ego and justify the time you've sunk merping LOL - please tell me more about myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 09:38 PM
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Basically what you're saying is that "alpha" and "beta" aren't useful categories and that the useful categories are instead "good" and "bad". Not sure why you felt compelled to respond if you didn't bother reading the thread. Alpha behaviors, in red pill terms, are those that increase sexual success. Those can be behaviors that are nice or not nice, good or evil, legal or illegal. Beta behaviors are those that don't get you laid, at least not directly. Those can also be useful and good or useles…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 08:14 PM
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Alpha and dark triad aren't synonymous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 05:01 PM
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Alpha is the high-risk, high reward strategy. Again, you're trying to alter the definition. There's good alpha and bad alpha. Rule zero of the red pill sub is that all content must be about the advancement of male sexual strategy. They sometimes don't follow that rule, but it's part of the dogma. Male sexual strategy as they define it is fucking the women you want to fuck. They don't want the slutty, low-income, low-class trash. Much of their content is about avoiding legal consequences such as …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 03:33 PM
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Celebrities, especially actors/singers don't count LOL Red Pill gets a number of things wrong, but this isn't one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 02:45 PM
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hypothesis on Alexander's father was that his assassination was organised either by Alexander's mother or by Alexander himself to ensure political power came to Alexander. This would support my beliefs of fathers and sons being natural enemies and a lack of father being a factor in hypermasculine sons That doesn't support your assertion. By your definition of alpha, Alexander was already alpha. Alphas die young Not part of the red pill dogma. You chose a definition of alpha to one that doesn't m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 02:37 PM
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I'd argue that Alexander the Great and Genghis Khan were alpha. Their fathers played a role in their childhood. men raised by single mothers are much more aggressive More aggressive fathers are less likely to stick around. Genetics probably play a role. Alpha in red pill terms is the guy who gets laid the most. Adolescent children of single mothers start having sex earlier and are less likely to use protection. In modern culture, they are more likely to be sexually successful as measured by numb…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/16 02:16 PM
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The arousal pattern is usually described as predominantly spontaneous versus responsive. In women, awareness of arousal can follow physical signs of arousal, but is also often responsive to social or emotional context. The old trope of a woman feeling horny after watching a scary movie is a good example. Guys can be aroused spontaneously or from simple visual triggers in a non-sexual situation. Spontaneous boners... Desire can't be negotiated with either gender. It's a separate phenomenon, and d…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/16 01:20 PM
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Well, if it isn't Captain Save A Ho! I haven't seen you around here for weeks! How's that codependency coming along? Do you have any sense of identity) aside from being a husband to a damaged woman? Are you looking to build your identity as a redpiller instead, or as an individual man? Have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy yet? What about the external locus of control? Step one is to shed the victim mentality. If you can't do that, then forget MRP ever existed, because it's not for you. Have you ev…
/r/askMRP14/07/16 11:42 AM
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+1 This shit belongs elsewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 02:55 AM
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what's the MRP consensus on porn use Fap if you want, or spend that time in a productive way. Read those books, lift weights, get finances in order, go out and socialize. If you can't fap without porn, then it's time to cut it out completely. Porn is a complete waste of time and is a shitty form of escapism. Deal with your blue balls in the shower, if you must, or behave in a more attractive manner, game your wife, make her horny, and get your rocks off that way. Your dick's not going to fall of…
/r/askMRP13/07/16 10:42 PM
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It's an opportunity to lead your first officer, if you're ready for it. You can sit down with her and show her your financial vision and how she can help you to make it happen, but only if your frame is strong enough. Are you there yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 06:12 PM
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Nice post. You sold your woman a product. You. That product may have been alpha, beta, a good mix of both. Either way, she bought it. Being the man you were before isn't good enough. She didn't just buy you - she also bought the comfort and commitment of marriage. You need to be more attractive than the man she agreed to marry to get her desire up to that level again.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 11:17 PM
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You're struggling with form on barbell rows and get back discomfort with squats. Those things may be related. Form check is #1. Bracing is important I found it easier to do BB rows after deadlift - it helped with form and was a solid warm-up. Make sure you have enough deadlift volume, too - 1x5 won't cut it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/16 09:13 PM
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Any suggestions on what to do after I've run out Stronglifts That depends on your goals. GZCL's routines on /r/gzcl, 2s-1's version of 531 LP, PPL twice per week, and a million other routines are out there. All are good, depending on your goals. I'm partial to 5/3/1 BBB (slightly less boring) with first set last and joker sets to add volume and intensity, but that suits my particular goals. Based on what you've said, I'd switch to LP with more volume, like Candito LP or 2s-1's version of 5/3/1. …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/16 07:37 PM
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This is all I got from your comment Did you seriously tune out all the advice from /u/anythinginc because of a couple of harsh words? Are you that thin-skinned? /u/anythinginc kindly pointed out that you are planning to up the Omega hobbies when you should man up. You don't get a day off from being a man. Ever heard of Steven Hawking? Boo hoo, you can't lift! Your problem isn't back surgery. Your problem is that you are a self-centered, thin-skinned bitch with a victim complex. You're not except…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 01:12 PM
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You beat me to it. I was going to write something similar in response to some of the /r/relationships bullshit in here lately. I don't remember seeing this idea spelled out in the wiki, but it belongs there.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 12:13 AM
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IMO if you need dread to get your woman to behave like an adult outside of the immediate relationship you have made a very bad choice in mate. In which case, no kids equals NEXT. Dread is a tool to get sex. This isn't about dread. A passive aggressive guy like this is going to bring out the worst in a woman. If he's hurling insults around, then his demands that she find a job are just white noise. Most women with shit husbands turn into shit women. It's a state, not a trait. If he can man up, th…
/r/askMRP05/07/16 08:42 PM
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Just kinda been rolling with it. Do that. Don't slack off with fast food and other crap.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 04:28 PM
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Life gets better when you're out of the habit of seeking validation for the shit you should be doing anyway. Keep working and having fun. Turn those shit tests into foreplay.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 12:23 AM
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finally just doing the work myself You're enabling her to avoid the work partly by just doing it yourself. trying to guilt trip her into doing something Lack of assertiveness. Not saying you're wrong Because you're a whiny, sniveling piece of shit. Is this the way you talk to her? Get fucked.
/r/askMRP04/07/16 11:57 AM
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FUCKING NEXT See my response to screechhater. He'll just end up in the same situation with the next woman.
/r/askMRP04/07/16 11:16 AM
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Get an attorney and draw up the paperwork. Lifts is too short. Next This isn't /r/relationships. If he doesn't get his shit together then the same thing will happen with the next woman, but next time with a woman who doesn't want to fuck him.
/r/askMRP04/07/16 11:13 AM
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12 levels of dread At this point it would just be another covert contract. He needs to stop being a codependent bitch and learn assertiveness first. Beyond stage 5, it's also largely a strategy to become a man worth fucking. She's already DTF.
/r/askMRP04/07/16 11:11 AM
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TL;DR Typing this out I am beginning to wonder am I the shitbeast in this relationship? Yes. After we first got married I would go to the gym, do the laundry, clean the dishes, go to the gym, and spend 12+ hours at work outside. I was very verbal about it in hopes she would see how much I was doing and pick up slack but she never did Covert contracts like this create resentment for both partners. I would get text messages like "I was going to clean the house today but I just watched 10 episodes …
/r/askMRP04/07/16 11:01 AM
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She tells me she loves me and she doesn't want to leave, but that she has to. She doesn't want to feel like a bad person. It's also her version of an easy letdown. She knows you can't handle the emotional blow, so she tries to soften it. You have been weak. Take the focus off her and whether the divorce will go through. Fix yourself. Either she'll come around or you'll find someone better, because you'll be better. Developing a sense of outcome independence about her reactions and emotional stat…
/r/askMRP02/07/16 02:06 PM
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I like Jack's description of being the mayor. Don't just lead people with their current skills and situations. Don't just build yourself up - build up the people around you. /u/TheFamilyAlpha is a great example of this. Where I work, we have mentorship assignments for the trainees. I've chosen my trainees carefully. I put more time and effort into them than my colleagues. I build them up to be excellent and to be loyal. Five of the past 6 faculty members hired in my division at the university ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/16 12:58 AM
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If you're a new guy and your wife holds you in contempt because you've been a drunk captain for ten years, then eating paint could very well cause her to decide that your shit just isn't worth it anymore We've seen enough examples of that in here. It's easy to see how Jack interpreted it as a desire to help versus padding our egos. It gets frustrating, though, to give advice to people who are too stupid to recognize the good advice amongst the bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/16 10:42 PM
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textbook red pill marriage Sounds like a tradcon immigrant story. I've seen similar situations with new dads in real life, particularly with guys born outside North America and Western Europe. As for whether it's textbook red pill, it sounds like main sub rather than MRP. The sentiment here usually doesn't support the girls are evil, men love women, women love children trope. I love my kids, including my daughter. And if women didn't love men, then they wouldn't have put up with their pathetic h…
/r/askMRP01/07/16 02:28 PM
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Sounds like he will be a shitty father to the child he doesn't want. Taken at face value, you paint the picture of a man who shouldn't be in your daughter's life. The "why" is irrelevant if his attitude toward her is real.
/r/askMRP01/07/16 07:29 AM
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u/red_rising is a saint to be married 4 years to a woman who resists P in V sex because it hurts too much He's probably part of a religious group that makes such a big deal about PIV that they refuse to try it before marriage. Try before you buy, my friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 09:34 PM
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45 degrees is better than 90 degrees for some women with dyspareunia, YMMV. Have fun with it, both of you. If you make it serious then it'll suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 07:30 PM
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she doesn't get any pleasure from the finger Do you? When she's very aroused, does she enjoy G-spot stimulation? I have been going about initiating PIV (50:50 between her suggesting it and me, usually happens 1-2 times a month Take a break from trying PIV. You say you're bigger than average. If that means girth, then do a little experiment for me: wrap a measuring tape around your index and middle finger. Next try your first three fingers. Your dick is thicker than that. Going directly from one …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 07:27 PM
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/u/Red_Rising is facing a giant can of worms. Relevant to him is the fact that women with pelvic pain disorders have less pain when they are with partners who have their shit together. A calm, confident, patient partner lowers her perception of pain and can help her go through the mental and physical exercises needed to get past the vaginismus, dyspareunia, or chronic pain disorder. Fix yourself and she will follow. The most important part of any chronic pain problem is the company it keeps - an…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 03:37 PM
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Thing is, the way sex works is the man has to be in the mood to perform. Men can have responsive desire as well. Licking her pussy and playing with her G-spot may get you in the mood. If not, then she got off and you had a little fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/16 01:15 PM
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You've got it - some of those are shitty comfort tests. If you escalate with AA/AM then she'll think you're an insensitive prick and will blow up at you. If you placate or DEER then she'll be almost as angry. Assertiveness is almost always the right answer, but it has to be done calmly from within your frame. As /u/jacktenofhearts likes to say, play it right down the middle with stoicism. If the only responses that come to mind will make things worse for you, then STFU. Read Jack's response as w…
/r/askMRP28/06/16 02:59 AM
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make up for all these lost years of pussy and pleasure That will never happen. Being fixated on the past is part of the victim mentality and will keep you stuck in the anger phase. You will never recover those missed opportunities. Missed - past tense.
/r/askMRP27/06/16 04:35 PM
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I don't like country music, but red pill always reminds me of That Don't Impress Me Much by Shania Twain. Be hot, fuck her right, and never be boring to her. My theory of the Clintons is that Hillary wouldn't blow Bill, so he got BJs elsewhere. There's no way Lewinsky was the only one. He was in a position to make much more money after the presidency and their fame would open doors for Hillary, so she made the most pragmatic decision and chose to stay married. TRP thinks Trump's a badass, but Hi…
/r/askMRP26/06/16 05:13 PM
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is yours going to do an MRP wives tour? She may secretly be RPW. Yesterday she said that she feels "tingly" when I touch her.
/r/askMRP26/06/16 03:59 PM
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you get tired of her mouth I never get tired of her mouth - must be a technique thing.
/r/askMRP26/06/16 02:20 PM
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Is there any definitive, study-backed reference for this? I've read several abstracts and a handful of articles supporting longer rest periods to maintain or increase testosterone or minimize the rise in cortisol. Some of them are in good journals. I've come across a handful of papers showing greater cortisol response with higher volume compared to higher intensity and lower volume. Most of them are in low impact journals like Sports Medicine and Physiological Reports. Training to failure is ass…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 03:43 PM
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I finally cracked 1000 pounds on the big three, with a S/B/D of 350/235/415 Congratulations!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 03:00 PM
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Testosterone levels vary from day to day and hour to hour. They should only be checked first thing in the morning, preferably fasting. /u/BetaFeelz is lifting heavy, but needs to keep in mind that how you lift and whether you're bulking or cutting has an impact. Higher volume and one minute rest periods drop testosterone and raise cortisol levels more than high intensity, lower volume work with 3-5 minute rest periods between sets. The difference is magnified when cutting. If he's intermediate a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 02:19 PM
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Premature ejaculation is mostly related to tension and pressure. Recent ejaculation Clean the pipes twice in the 24 hours before sex and you may have more endurance. This is because there's less pressure in the pipes. Mental Stop thinking about holding off the orgasm. Learn meditation, or maybe tantra. Muscular tension Reverse kegels. Lots of reverse kegels, several times per day. Guys can train themselves to cum from Kegels and other muscle movements without touching their dicks. You need to do…
/r/askMRP23/06/16 10:36 PM
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I do have a general gripe about uncited statistics That's a good policy, since 84% of statistics are just made up on the spot.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 02:05 PM
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Doctors default to what they assume is the safest course. If they don't understand something, they'll tell you to avoid it. My colleagues are all smart, but some of them have no common sense.
/r/askMRP23/06/16 03:39 AM
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Training to be EMT but can't lift? That does not compute. I was told not to lift by several doctors and a chiropractor. Today was deadlift day, and those prohibitive medical conditions have never been better. Make sure your doctors know what they're talking about. At the very least you can do bodyweight exercise. If you can't move your own body mass, then you won't be able to move anyone else's as an EMT. I presume you're getting married for citizenship reasons, for you or her. You're very young…
/r/askMRP23/06/16 03:00 AM
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I see that you enjoy a good train wreck.
/r/askMRP23/06/16 01:21 AM
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Both partners have roles to play when things go badly, but we can only control ourselves, and her behavior is more contingent on his than most people realize.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 12:52 AM
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Look at you...all citing sources and errrrything I grew up in a family full of lawyers, doctors, and teachers. I try not to say anything unless I can back it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 12:48 AM
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Many do, but just as many don't More of them don't cheat, but the numbers are higher than many people think. Most estimates put women cheating at around 25% while guys are closer to 40-50%.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 12:12 AM
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My experience is that while many women do, most of the women don't. I agree - most women have the courtesy to end the relationship before fucking the next guy. The exceptions are often when divorce would be difficult to handle due to kids or other issues, much like Cad and other guys here who fuck around.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 10:52 PM
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Many guys here are paranoid about their wives cheating. They take AWALT as a literal statement that all women will inevitably cheat. Her self-improvement, even though she's doing it to be attractive to him, will be perceived as her preparing to branch swing. I've tried to convince those insecure fucktards that their idiocy is pushing their wives to cheat, but they'd rather bathe in fear and anger. Look at the downvotes for this post, yet nobody has had the balls to disagree in the comments. Fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 10:12 PM
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Good post. Only disagreement is this: bragging, stroking your ego, complimenting yourself That should be on the STFU list. Don't talk about the hot girl who spontaneously gave you her number. Don't talk about how much you lift or how great you are at work. Don't brag. Let her hear about those things from other people. I've had publications, awards, and had my name in the media. Before the red pill, my wife didn't give a fuck about those things because she heard them from me. Earlier this year I …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 10:02 PM
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Rationalization is subconscious. If that's how I perceive it, then there's a good chance she will as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 03:30 PM
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I don't like Disney She knows this and assumes that your reluctance is from lack of desire rather than money. If you wanted to go, then you'd make a budget for it as /u/MRPCowboy suggested. You don't want to be the bad guy, so you blame money. This scenario could be plucked right out of WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 02:46 PM
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You also see weight loss if people switch to all chicken meat diet I would have preferred intellectually honest discussion rather than an attempt to AMOG with AA. Are you a vegan? It is strange you present the rare vegan athlete but gloss over the problems with veganism. LOL - I thought you had actually read my responses in this thread. If I had RES I'd tag you with "doesn't like veggies." Hitting macro targets with more weight loss at the cost of lower vitamin D, B12, selenium, and iodine. The …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 11:14 PM
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I see zero reason to recommend veganism as a tool for getting ripped For non-vegans it works for the same reason that switching to chopsticks works - people don't eat as much until they figure out how it works. I'm sure you've seen the initial weight loss when people become vegan. It's often a dramatic and unintentional side effect. Switching to vegetarian doesn't have the same impact, largely because of milk products. Personally I'd just go with an initial 30-40% calorie deficit and reduce the …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 10:17 PM
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I agree with the special snowflake comment, and she shouldn't have qualified the content with her gender, but the ideas that followed were as good as most of the posts in this thread. "you should change your entire lifestyle while I don't do squat to consider the nuances to your problem" approach. She calculated OP's BMR and gave a specific calorie range, which is more than can be said for half the responses here. Her gender is irrelevant if it advances OP's goals. Also, personally knowing a few…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 06:14 PM
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The problem, like most things in MRP, is mindset. You're invested in being the guy who puts up big numbers in the gym. You'll use that to rationalize extra calories. It's possible to maintain or increase muscle and lean body mass on up to a 40% calorie deficit with protein 1.2-2.4 g/kg. The study subjects weren't as heavy as you, so you probably don't need to go as high at 360g protein unless you reach a sustained 40% deficit. I'd suggest protein intake around 250 g/day for you. For those too la…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 03:26 PM
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Remember the "abandonment" and "toxic shame"? Well think your worst and the double it. You're not a special snowflake. Quit the victim routine. You actually did pretty well. The main event is when you establish your frame and start to fill her in on how she fits into your life. It's what happens when she has been analyzing the changes that you have made, wondering what it means and how it will affect her. It's the point where you have the strength to lay out your vision for what comes next. It's…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 02:06 PM
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When the anger settles down, you'll respond with flirting and escalation, but your response was a good start. At the end of all this, a year or two from now, you may learn that your wife truly hates giving BJ's for some reason. Maybe she'd turn down Brad Pitt or Idris Elba because it makes her jaw hurt. Assuming it's not some medical thing like a TMJ problem that needs a mouthguard at night or something else that can be fixed, you will have to decide what you want to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/16 11:12 AM
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Go slow with the changes. Read and apply the sidebar books. Do it because you want to be an attractive man who women want to fuck, not because you specifically want more BJ's from your wife. Eliminate covert contracts. You cannot negotiate genuine desire, sexual or otherwise. it might come across that i'm telling her she's not satisfying me or she's doing it wrong and it could hurt her and put her off even more Read WISNIFG. You're afraid of her reactions. Until you've learned how to handle her …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/16 10:20 AM
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She has gone as far as being convinced that I'm cheating on her You're retarded. You don't understand the concept of dread. You don't understand covert contracts. Of course it's duty sex! Do you threaten her and give her ultimatums, too? Nobody who's "pretty RP" hangs around in deadbedrooms for anything other than red knighting. I thought maybe someone has had a similar situation in MRP? Absolutely - lazy motherfuckers who tried to use a couple of RP buzzwords as a cookbook approach and couldn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 10:41 AM
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My wife loved House and used to comment on the similarities between us all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 12:26 AM
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haven't been doing weights It's probably even more important for women to do weight bearing exercise than it is for men. You're young enough that you can still build some bone density. It's also the easiest way to lose body fat, especially the big compound movements. You will not get bulky.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 04:00 PM
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What if I just "report in," and announce every month or so that I lost X number of pounds? That would make it less likely for him to worry that you might be cheating. If he thinks you're "doing it for him" then he's less likely to think that you've found someone new. That being said, doing all this solely because you want to keep him can easily lead to resentment. Do it because you want to be healthy and attractive, not because you are hoping to provoke a particular response. Give of yourself be…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 03:57 PM
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Too neat, too complete Especially the claim of having read the sidebar books. Aside from the EC's, how many of our own subscribers have actually read WISNIFG? NMMNG isn't a particularly good book, and only resonates with people who have the Nice Guy problem. If her husband is "alpha" as she says, then why would she read it? A doctor who was willing to get engaged after only 5 months also doesn't fit. I've never seen a colleague who was so desperate. I waited over six years before getting married…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 03:15 PM
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I think it's either embellished, modified, or fabricated. I wonder if she's really a woman whose husband found the red pill and she's trying to understand what it's about, like vampiresquidina did last year.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 03:00 PM
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Pussy Bot Sounds like something from MGTOW.
/r/askMRP16/06/16 01:36 AM
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A Giant Pussy I have a sudden urge to watch Predator. Sometimes I wonder if we should have a bot that tells guys to STFU, read and apply the sidebar, and come back only when they realize that they are the source of and solution to their own problems.
/r/askMRP16/06/16 01:01 AM
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I need advice beyond "don't be fat." You suck at trolling. Fuck off.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 09:01 PM
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Why do you fill the world with lies?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 07:29 PM
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That's great stuff for intelligently adding volume or for intermediate lifters. OP's not there yet. As an aside, I don't know how the powerlifting sub manages to keep the post quality so high. I think benchpolkov scares less knowledgeable subscribers so they listen instead of posting. The weekly threads are hilarious. It's like what WMP used to do before his daughter was born.
/r/askMRP15/06/16 11:39 AM
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Care to share your height, weight, and your big three lifts? Impedance isn't reliable. Don't get hung up on the numbers. Eat enough protein. Get enough sleep - more than you think you need. Include carbs if you're trying to get stronger - maximum power output goes down on low carb diet, and oxygen expenditure goes up for any given workload. It sounds counterintuitive, but it's a fact. Upload form check video to /r/weightroom under alt account or see a professional coach - universities can be goo…
/r/askMRP15/06/16 01:18 AM
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WISNIFG would be useful for both of you. Read MMSLP and the rest for yourself afterward. If she's a codependent "nice girl," then you should reflect on what shitty behaviors of yours she has been enabling. My guess is that laziness is #1.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/16 06:23 PM
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The longer he keeps her tied up, the more she squirts. But it's not pee - it's "ejaculate"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/16 04:22 PM
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I'm king now. LOL I don't sit around in Reddit reading random peoples post history Like you said, you're the king. I was willing to spend 90 seconds of toilet time on you.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/16 03:20 PM
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Just curious, why is your post/comment history blank? He deleted it all after my response. TL;DR He knows some stuff about PHP, probably lost some weight in the past year, and is a karma whore from /r/divorce who can't keep his story straight.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/16 10:34 AM
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I'm curious about the advice you were referring to here: I posted about the beginning of the divorce in mrp and trp back in October but it was so fucked up even those guys didn't believe me so I deleted it. Surprisingly, the advice from those who did believe me was what actually saved me. You've said some things elsewhere that don't sit well with me. You say that your ex wife is a borderline who has made false accusations against you and tried to keep you from getting custody. You have said that…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/16 02:50 AM
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After I get what I want and the "love" fades away, I can't behave in a way that an LTR would deserve. This is normal in men. Solipsism. Speak for yourself.
/r/askMRP10/06/16 12:56 PM
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Currently I don't want kids at all, but being old alone could be horrible. Is that a good enough reason to stay in a relationship with someone you don't care about? I had a relationship with an absolutely fantastic girl early in undergrad. She was gorgeous, brilliant (valedictorian, gifted, etc), had artistic talent, was fun and sociable, and deferred to me on absolutely everything. She was submissive to me in every respect. She even deferred to me when picking her major and her undergrad course…
/r/askMRP10/06/16 11:45 AM
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does your boss even know that you're at the max? Is he aware of the tradeoffs you will have to make with limited resources? Or are you keeping it to yourself, in a misguided notion that a man can 'handle anything'? They're aware of the issues and have been offering me all kinds of things to keep me. The principle of least interest applies. One of the bigwigs came into my office to talk to me about the promotion process. He commented, "You don't seem worried. Most people are nervous and have lots…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 01:40 PM
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you got a plan for that, or you gonna let everyone else decide for you? I'll quote myself here: Now the decision is entirely on me, where it belongs. But sitting and bitching about it I see how it would come across that way. I'd be happy with my life either way. The reason I posted is to lay out some of the decision-making process. Guys have commented on my work hours before, some saying that it's bad sexual strategy, and others saying that my job takes me through the first few stages of dread b…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 01:31 PM
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You're over-thinking it. If she suits your lifestyle, then enjoy it. If she doesn't suit your lifestyle, then end it. If she wants kids and you don't, or there's some other incompatibility that makes her unsuitable for LTR, then plate her or next her. Her age doesn't make her a bad choice. At this point I find girls in their 20s to be annoying as hell and wouldn't be able to tolerate a long-term relationship with a vast majority of them.
/r/askMRP03/06/16 12:32 AM
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I'm not looking to punish her behavior. That is not my goal. You're right, negative reinforcement is not the same thing as punishment, but your implementation comes across as an entitled prick, not a high value male for whom she will want to do those things. Right now she listens only because she's scared of divorce, not because of genuine desire. This is no different from Rollo's single biggest contribution to the manosphere - you can't negotiate genuine desire, sexual or otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 04:03 PM
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The only reason she tolerates your threats is low self-esteem. Posturing, threats, ultimatums, passive aggression - that's not alpha behavior. Your response to her not doing "her job" is for you to abandon yours? What happened to leading by example? Owning your shit? Acta non verba?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 03:59 PM
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Agreed - OP's engaging in some passive aggressive bullshit. I'm also curious about his "implied removal of commitment." I'm guessing there was some passive aggressive shit thrown in there, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 03:37 PM
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Hmm. Maybe you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 05:04 PM
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I've never had much of a sense of accomplishment from completing a task. It's more that I like doing these things and I have had a bit of an ego. Some of the stuff that I do at work pushes my validation button pretty hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 04:53 PM
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Thanks. I do some of those things already, but it hadn't occurred to me to look at the time spent dealing with each subfolder in my inbox. The bottom line is that I have too many jobs. Three more people are leaving at the end of June, and I have refused to take on any of their responsibilities. I've given up a couple of things, but I need to take it further. Perhaps I'll base the decision partly on which ones contribute most to the volume of email.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 03:57 PM
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Why does it hurt your pride to hire people to do things for you? It's not rational. Hiring people to do a big job is no problem. It's the smaller jobs that bother me. For example, there's a leaky joint in the pipes for the pool. It would have taken me an hour to fix it, but I couldn't get to the store to buy supplies because of work. My wife called the pool shop. They showed up a day late and made the leak worse. Now a one hour job for me turned into a multi-day affair and a cold swimming pool f…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 03:52 PM
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Fitness: Illnesses and work schedule led to over a month off lifting over the course of the winter. I recovered with Phrakture's Greyskull LP variation and have achieved some rep PR's. Progress is slowing down to 2.5-5lbs per week instead of per workout. When it slows down more then I have to choose between adding volume, de-load, or switching programs. Dropping back into LP made me realize that 5/3/1 didn't have enough squat or bench volume for me, although it had been great for deadlift and pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 02:32 PM
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That's true, it might give him a sense of dread that there are other men who could be interested in his wife. He might feel compelled to step up his game to keep her. Edit: mods removed the comment. The question was how would he feel if she worked out with a hot guy. The comment was at +8, betraying the level of insecurity of some of the guys in askmrp. To the guys who upvoted that comment, wanting to control her and keep her from noticing other men is fucking weak. You're a pussy and deserve to…
/r/askMRP30/05/16 02:30 AM
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16 year old girl, 147lbs, 420lbs deadlift 19 21 year old girl, 125lbs, 405lbs deadlift and 315lbs squat Then there's this chick. Women aren't as strong as men, on average. Some of them compensate by having solid technique and work ethic. OP's problem isn't a female workout partner, it's the fact that he's living in his wife's frame. I work with women who are younger and more attractive than my wife. Some of them give me gifts. A couple have shown serious interest. I don't flaunt it, but I don't …
/r/askMRP30/05/16 02:06 AM
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Epidural should be fine, but pethidine seems a bit too aggressive to me. Maybe /u/irateMD might say something more on this. From what I've heard, it can make the baby a bit groggy after birth, and the woman may not remember a whole lot of what is going on. I approach childbirth as a series of risk management decisions with contingency plans. The priorities are mom's safety, then baby's safety, then everything else. Opioid drugs like morphine or pethidine are systemically absorbed, affect mom's b…
/r/askMRP30/05/16 12:11 AM
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Agreed. It wouldn't hurt to add How to Win Friends and Influence People and Redneck001's fitness stuff in the sidebar.
/r/askMRP28/05/16 11:10 PM
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That FB post was her wallowing in self-pity. It was probably an attempt at covert communication with you. Get out of her frame and the ex's frame. As for differentiating shit tests and reasonable demands, read and apply WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP28/05/16 11:46 AM
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She would fight dirty. Right now it sounds like /u/ex_addict_bro is trying to make leaving the kids with him or with grandparents seem to her like the easy and sensible thing. He's keeping things civil, not demanding anything of her, but doing his best when he's with the kids. She might be self-centered enough to take the easy road and pass the kids to him. Even if she doesn't, the kids may decide to move in with him when they're old enough. He needs to minimize contact with her to stay healthy,…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 11:30 AM
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Symmetric strength is fun for looking at strength standards, though it obviously doesn't take differences in body shape into account.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 12:44 AM
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I can hoist my LTR in an overhead press no problem You're using a push press when you pick her up.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/16 12:36 AM
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I'm sure glad you're here to point out these major character flaws of mine! /u/fuckmrp gave a very even-handed critique of your behavior. If you take that as a comment on your character then your ego isn't going to survive his place. no more initiating from me Then no more sex for you. The burden if seduction is mostly on the guy. Women tend to have responsive desire, and they're also taught to let the guy initiate. That's just how it works for most couples. So, you still have to initiate, but y…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 09:52 PM
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She negged you and you fell for it. Maybe she read The Rules and is running dread game on you. Don't brag to her about your gains at the gym. Don't compare yourself to other guys, bigger or smaller. She knows there are bigger fish out there. She can also smell your insecurity and enjoyed fucking with you. Agree and amplify or self-deprecating humor would have worked in the moment. Now the moment has passed. Put it behind you. Watch stand-up comedy and read funny books to expand your sense of hum…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/16 07:26 PM
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MRP is a band-aid for a self-inflicted wound Is that supposed to be deep? Must you say irrelevant shit in every single thread? OP posed a theory question related to the difference between spinning plates and LTR. Try to keep up.
/r/askMRP25/05/16 11:03 PM
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Don't be needy or intimidated by women. Don't qualify yourself to them. If you treat her like she's unattainable, then she won't be attracted to you. Some guys need to go to the opposite extreme for a while to break these bad habits. It's like picturing your audience naked when giving a speech - it's a mental trick to make you act like you're confident. Many guys can relax around women without psyching themselves up and don't need any of this. Others think they are superior to women and like bei…
/r/askMRP25/05/16 09:11 PM
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You probably know this but this kills her libido More difficult to orgasm, variable effect on libido.
/r/askMRP23/05/16 04:01 PM
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That's solipsism at its finest.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 02:00 PM
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Wife's own anxiety is doing way better and she's only two months in. It sucks when you realize that you were the cause of some of her anxiety, but it feels good to find the solution.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 11:41 AM
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I haven't seen any good posts on the subject. It's a big can of worms. Depression and anxiety are major issues in any self-help forum. TRP main sub is even worse with all the teen angst. Some of the red pill advice can isolate a guy even further, which makes depression worse. It's a huge problem. I try to call it out when I see an individual with a problem, but only if I think there's a chance that something productive may come of it. Internet diagnosis is generally a bad idea. I generally refus…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 11:22 AM
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I was in good shape when I met my wife. I had maintained 9-13% for years with intervals, dumbbells, bodyweight, and occasional RDLs or machines. I didn't do much barbell work because of structural problems. I had been warned by several doctors that I should never do certain movements, like deadlifts or squats. Between my work schedule, kids, and trying to maintain the marriage, I felt like I didn't have time to work out or sleep anymore. My fitness slid. I slept 4-5 hours for my wife's 7-8. I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 07:01 AM
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Welcome back.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/16 09:08 PM
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You can say whatever you want - he's your pal. It's just fucking weird to see you qualifying the sub to a guy who has more to learn from your posts than you have from his.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/16 01:43 PM
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All this "not all MRP are like that" is weak. Why do you suck up to Adderallabuse? He's obviously a sock for an old TRP EC, maybe Cad, but why care what he thinks? He's steeped in the victim mentality and has not offered a single useful comment in any of his MRP responses. "Uhh, kids, marriage is bad, mmmkay..." That's the opinion of most of MRP and adds nothing to the discussion. He's obviously accustomed to dealing with teen TeRPers who want to share their feeelings about how hard it is to be …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/16 01:15 PM
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I got sucked in Life-changing decisions can mess with you. You left a world with clarity of purpose and were trying to find your way. It's easy to find yourself acting out of character. Now the decision is made and you only have to wait. TBP is for satire, not debate. They aren't there to have their minds changed. The intentional misunderstandings are intentional. They don't care if you're a jacked Navy feminist in a loving marriage or a misogynist rapist. Use it to blow off steam, see a differe…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/16 01:27 AM
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Good women divorce good men all the time And good men divorce good women. Shit happens. Why is there an expectation that marriage should last forever? Most religions don't even demand that...
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/16 01:16 AM
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This is a departure from your usual approach of extreme ownership. I don't get how the dad bod is supposed to be part of the "feminine imperative." Women want to be with attractive partners. The dad bod is purely the fault of those men who are too mentally weak to eat right and exercise.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/16 12:17 AM
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Abusive and sucking at conflict aren't the same. Don't feed into the conflict. Consider encouraging her to get individual therapy or learn new skills, like assertiveness.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 02:20 AM
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Yeah, I just glanced at his post history and saw /r/MensRights. That's a pretty reliable sign of an overly sensitive guy with the victim mentality. Sexyshoulderdevil was right.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 02:17 AM
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the fact I have a different opinion on something shows I have a warped reality due to depression Gaslighting sucks. At least I didn't get chased room to room this time. LOL
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 01:57 AM
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OP, I honestly hope you're not experiencing real emotional abuse. If you are, exit stage left. He's probably an overly sensitive, socially inept loser. I was just feeling extra generous to OP and don't have the patience for blooper PM's today.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 01:48 AM
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Sexyshoulderdevil gave good advice if what she's doing is teasing, fair criticism, or if you're overly sensitive. There aren't enough details in your post to sort that out. Some abusive things are obvious, like assault. Others are less obvious. There's a limit to MRP's subscription to "extreme ownership." It's a strategy for self improvement, not advice to stay with an abusive partner. I've pulled a few items from Table 1 of the study by Follingstad et al, entitled Psychologists' judgments of ps…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/16 01:27 AM
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Passive angry bullshit gets better with assertiveness. WISNIFG is long, but worthwhile. When you're done reading it, you can decide if she'd benefit from it as well. The answer is probably yes. If she's a redditor, then she could explore /r/redpillwives. To be honest, though, the best thing you can do is to get your shit together first. She'll respond to that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/16 03:51 PM
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What the hell was this shit? Poor Frenchy's message got lost in translation. It sounded like he was suggesting that your story was irrelevant bragging and didn't all hang together, particularly details like developing a six pack in two months. Another is that women following you around at a party is plausible if you're very charismatic and attractive, but a previously unattractive guy transforming himself that dramatically in such a short time would be pretty unusual. I'm going to give you the b…
/r/askMRP16/05/16 12:48 AM
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would that turn me from alpha to beta No, but many careers in that income range suck up your time and energy, which can put a strain on all aspects of the marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/16 06:09 PM
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A red knight is a red pill evangelist. Some guys get really excited when they start seeing results in the red pill, so they go and try to convert the masses. Sometimes they do it by posing as women, poorly.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/16 01:54 PM
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Textbook It seems to me that the linked post is a red knight.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/16 09:51 AM
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There are other EC's who have faded to the background or vanished recently. For guys who mostly have their shit together, entertaining themselves by helping random strangers on the Internet loses its appeal when life gets busier. Whinemoreplease's daughter is 8 months now, and I'm sure you all saw the shift in his perspective when she was born. Then again, could be a rage quit over projections that Trump is going to lose to Clinton.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/16 12:11 PM
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Another point I want to make is cheating on her might give her a disease and destroy her life. Herpes - the gift that keeps on giving.
/r/askMRP13/05/16 02:45 AM
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It's a troll post. Yeah, some idiot guy might take it seriously, and some guys really are abusive pieces of shit, but a vast majority hopefully recognize that he's just mocking OP. In the past year and a half, I have seen a grand total of two posts by Archwinger that came across as candid. As for OP, who knows what's going on there. Trying to create a functional marriage with a borderline is pointless. Too many guys in this sub are here for that reason.
/r/askMRP13/05/16 02:34 AM
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If you need a beta tester, I know more swear words. I'm sure others in this sub know a few more.
/r/askMRP13/05/16 01:56 AM
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That's fucking hilarious!
/r/askMRP13/05/16 01:49 AM
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Did you manage to make a bot that automatically downvotes everyone who swears? That's brilliant and evil. Is it related to what you said here? Is there any system to prevent someone from using the API to down vote everything in its path? edit: I mean that would allow someone to be a jerk and just doom all posts by someone at less than 5 dollars a month for a 24/7 server with multiple ips. edit: I'm not promoting any webhosting company or anything but this could get sour really fast. Are you some…
/r/askMRP13/05/16 01:45 AM
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This place is very different from askTRP. The sidebar prerequisites in /r/marriedredpill are a good start. The top posts are good. The big differences here are that we don't accept the victim mentality and we take ownership of our lives and our choices. I genuinely believed that one beta moment could potentially ruin a LTR. There's good beta and bad beta. Bad beta will fuck up a relationship. Good beta will strengthen it. The right balance of alpha and good beta behavior is different for everyon…
/r/askMRP13/05/16 01:39 AM
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I'm obviously biased, but I agree with you. I'd make more money in the USA, but I don't think could work in that system. But yeah, pretty far off-topic.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 04:55 PM
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You reduced the time spent with her and stopped giving her the amount sex she wanted. If the roles were reversed, we would tell you to next her. The shitty part isn't that she decided to get action elsewhere. The shitty part is that she didn't dump you first. Lesson learned If you stop fucking her and stop paying attention to her then she'll either be unhappy or she'll find someone else. All the rest is conflict avoidance and ego protection from both of you.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/16 03:09 PM
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I have a lingering suspicion that he/she is hoping one of us will say something stupid so they can post it on thebluepill. New account, first post, asking about BJ's on demand, which is what TBP seems to think the red pill is about.
/r/askMRP11/05/16 01:44 PM
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1) either one - enthusiasm matters 2) partner getting herself off with hand or toys during sex is fun 3) missionary sex can be fantastic when both partners are active and enthusiastic 4) adventurous depends on the individual and ideally is in the same ballpark as your partner. Dominance in red pill terms doesn't necessarily mean D/s, it just means that most women like a guy who knows what he wants in the bedroom and chooses to give and take pleasure rather than making the entire experience about…
/r/askMRP11/05/16 11:03 AM
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I'm considered an up an coming researcher in my field, and am well respected in my job You're good at your job so she should listen to you at home? Read NMMNG. I'm exhausted and stretched thin That was your choice - she didn't put a gun to your head and force you into a career or into fatherhood. Accept it or change it. Quit playing the victim and own your decisions. She knows how to push me over the edge. Why do you give her the power to do that? Read and apply WISNIFG. Your behavior, attitudes…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 02:38 PM
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Ligatures are more dangerous than hands.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 09:33 PM
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Pleading ignorance? My, you're a hungry troll. Would you like me to feed you? You've posted in thebluepill and probably found this thread from there. Your PPD flair says "non-red pill." Telling guys to put a noose around their wives' necks isn't funny. It's the sort of thing that people post when making satire of MGTOW.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 06:24 PM
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A blooper imitating MGTOW? A little too transparent, no?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 12:57 AM
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I say that windexo is a brigader brought here by yet another poster from /r/thebluepill who didn't use an np link. It's written in bold in your sidebar, bloopers. Use archived links or np.reddit.com links, not www.reddit.com. If I wanted to see adolescent behavior then I'd go to asktrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 12:54 AM
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That's pretty funny to me, especially since your post opened with the risk of death. I read the whole thing as a warning.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/16 07:40 PM
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My wife loves choking. It happens a few times a month. That being said, here's an addition to the PSA: As a doctor, my advice is never choke or strangle anyone outside of martial arts who isn't trying to kill you. And no, the risk of "divorce rape" doesn't qualify. Anything that you do in bed is ideally safe, sane, and consensual. Perhaps the lawyers in the group could shed some light on whether a written and signed BDSM arrangement would provide any protection if something goes wrong. Windpipe …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/16 12:06 PM
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Great response. Use of email means the other channels are broken. Agreed, and I think the request for counseling was for the same reason. It sounds like lines of communication weren't really addressed in "the talk." OP's half way through Way of the Superior Male, but other sidebar material covers this. He's afraid to listen to her express her feelings. There's something in between being an emotional tampon and running away scared. Pook talked about surfing the waves of her emotions and enjoying …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/16 10:42 AM
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She wants you to believe that because she's enjoying the luxury of a Kohler beta comfort height toilet purchased by her beta bucks. She has been giving you starfish effort from her pink starfish.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 07:14 PM
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You still don't get it. This is an opportunity to have fun with your wife. Having fun at the expense of your wife is anti-tingles. Teaching your kids to mock your wife is grounds for divorce. If you can't joke around with your wife, then STFU and wait until you're past the anger phase.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 05:56 PM
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bring her into your frame, hours before you get to the bedroom This is it. Always be closing. Initiation is when you wake up in the morning, not when you wait until the end of the day and say, "Let's go to bed."
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 04:01 PM
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It's conditioning - extinction of a response. I did the same thing. TBP pissed me off in the beginning. Now I think some of them are funny and enjoy fucking with them. Look at guys like gavinok compared to jacktenofhearts in their responses to thebluepill and consider who has the stronger frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:57 PM
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I was thinking about getting my son to make some funny comments You're missing a chance to have fun with your wife.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 03:22 PM
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. Leave, my man. Just fucking leave. Are we in /r/relationships here?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 02:40 PM
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Time for a re-read of MMSLP. That wasn't ED - you were both missing the I and E of DEVI and weren't enjoying yourself. This is why "just go jerk off" is shitty advice. You're not craving orgasm - you want her to desire you. For that to happen, you have to truly desire her and make her feel it. If it's mechanical then you may as well masturbate. If you're gaming her because of your MAP and not because you want her, then there will be no passion from either of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 02:38 PM
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Techniques drawn from acceptance and commitment therapy or mindfulness. Many MRP guys use their MAP as part of a colossal covert contract to get sex. Don't do that.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 01:56 PM
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Pull the fire alarm! Evacuate the house! Or light a candle.
/r/askMRP06/05/16 01:26 PM
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I personally never say it because its intent has become too transparent as of late. You do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 01:17 PM
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It works if he's a career beta. If he's alpha then she hovers already and the toilet seat won't make a difference. Here's an explanation that I made elsewhere: When she was out in the clubs riding the toilet carousel, do you think she sat on the seats? No fucking way. Read the sidebar, dude. Women hover over toilets all the time. They do it at the coffee shop, the movies, the clubs. The more guys use the toilet, the more they hover. Sure, they bitch to their friends about how disgusting the seat…
/r/askMRP06/05/16 01:15 PM
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It was a shift in perspective when his daughter was born. Same thing happened to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 12:41 PM
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I like this post, but this I'd like to think that MRP is here to help you stop being a pussy, but if I'm perfectly honest, I'm only here to sling insults at people who are gonna get butthurt and react. Is subtle. Most of the guys reading this will think you're just making a random confession of a personal fault. I read advice somewhere that you should stop arguing when your opponent becomes defensive. At that point, you've either won the argument or you've hit on a point that the person isn't ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 11:16 AM
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I feel sad for whoever downvoted this. Edit: Oh, I see. Blooper forgot to use an np link. Brigading this shitty thread is a little catty, isn't it?
/r/askMRP06/05/16 10:47 AM
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I have a running joke with my wife that she always seems to have an urgent need to poop in our bathroom right before I am about to brush my teeth before bed. She always forgets to turn on the fan because "It was urgent." She walks out of the smelly bathroom, leaving an empty toilet paper roll behind. Then she'll lie down and refuse to take my daughter to the bathroom because she's too tired. Like any shit test, the literal shit test should be met with humor. It is very important not to get butth…
/r/askMRP06/05/16 10:42 AM
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For the record, I see how many shit posts get removed from MRP and AskMRP, and I know the active mods communicate with subscribers regularly. You guys do a good job keeping this place in order.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 03:00 AM
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Heh, forgot about the last time RPS tried to argue with you, Tempest. Excuse the oversight - I just found out that a bunch of guys I know IRL are redpillers, and one of them is about to get married. I'm becoming increasingly suspicious that my wife reads manosphere stuff and is secretly an RPW type (not on Reddit), and now this. I got so wrapped up in the insanity of it all that I forgot about you and I've almost missed my workout for the night. Can't wait to see my inbox in the morning.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 01:46 AM
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And have you read his post history - he's fucking retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 01:04 AM
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one of the more purple folks here Username checks out
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 01:03 AM
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LOL - way past his reading level. In fact, didn't we expose last time he was here that he just recites the rhetoric with zero fact-checking? I must say that I enjoy watching you disassemble his arguments, but I'm not sure why you bother.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 01:01 AM
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I love the contrast of SSD's rock solid frame in contrast to RPS posting a weak comeback to a beatdown that happened weeks ago. The blue pill gets one thing right - too much if the red pill content is the blind leading the blind. Edit: Hahahaha! I get it now! RPS is trying to get mod status on MRP and take over! So he created sock puppet accounts like Adderallabuse to support his inane statements. It took him how many weeks to come up with this? All because he got dissed by RPW and destroyed in …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 12:57 AM
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Semantics Reading comprehension. My criticism of the sub seems to have triggered you. Apparently you are the sub - I must have missed that in the sidebar. Hope everything goes well with your wife and toddler. Addendum: When you're ready to put your ego aside, the Own Your Shit weekly thread would be a good place to get tips. For example, if you're capable of restoring motorcycles, then you can take that $50 and turn a profit rather than just adding an insurance bill. A friend of mine restores mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 11:00 AM
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about as well as a person can without being in it myself Did you miss that part? The point is that this sub too often stops thinking critically about posts as soon as a guy mentions deployment. People who have been there want to show sympathy, fine, but don't overlook the stupid shit guys say just because of a military background. Not a single response before mine questioned anything from your post, which was mostly victim puke about your home arrangement. You're treating your wife's PPD with vi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 02:59 AM
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I've got military friends and family - I get the stress and the culture about as well as a person can without being in it myself. I don't give free passes for past experiences. Call it an extension of Briffault's law.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 06:51 PM
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Anytime someone mentions deployment, the MRP dick-sucking begins. A literal shit ton of changes literal My "c" button is acting really dodgy lately I'll fix all I can find Relevant part starts at 1:15 toddler wont stop shrieking, baby is crying. It's is completely unnerving. Sometimes, I lose frame...no...most times I lose frame What does that mean? Do you get frustrated and take a step back? Speak in firm tones and stay consistent? Or make things worse by raising your voice and escalating the s…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 03:12 PM
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It hits at something that I have been looking to improve. Username checks out. I agree with you. I've been boring and make too many dad jokes. Now I'm much less boring and still make too many dad jokes. As somebody new to AskMRP, I get why sh0ckley wants to learn from this interaction. Agreed. I'm not sure why people are downvoting so much. It's a good illustration of some basic principles in MRP.
/r/askMRP02/05/16 06:25 PM
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The wrong answer is to obsess about what she meant and get butthurt that she was being a big meanie. My response would have been, "Well, I think courtesy is important." Let her hamster chew on whether you were talking about her or yourself. /u/MRPCowboy gave you some nice examples of AA/AM. There's no right answer, but there are a handful of wrong ones. yesterday she said she was proud of me for keeping up with it The subtext is She thinks you need to get fit You have a history of not following …
/r/askMRP02/05/16 02:46 PM
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Huh, I need to read more about all this SJW stuff. I don't think I fully "get it" to be honest. Read askTRP and thebluepill - they're basically the same personalities. In university I used to tease the kids who went from protest to protest, not understanding the things they were protesting. My favorite conversation with one of these in undergrad went like this: Me: "So, I hear you're going to the anti-globalization rally." Her: "Yeah, globalization is terrible. It needs to be stopped." Me: "What…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/16 07:49 PM
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What are some examples of her complaining about SJWs? Usually in the context of family meetings for sick patients. He/she inevitably has a victim mentality, may deploy straw man or slippery slope arguments, intentionally misunderstands things, derails the conversation with talk of social injustices when a simple decision needs to be made, inflates his/her own self-image as the most enlightened and responsible person, etc. They tend to be rude and presumptuous, have anxiety issues, and their poor…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/16 07:10 PM
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IMO, if secondary selection and your capability to immediately close on other women is not routinely demonstrated then your SO will take you for granted Different phases and situations. If she respects you, is in your frame, and is fucking you without you actively flirting in front of her, then actively flirting will either not improve anything or will make a good situation go bad. That's part of phase 3. There are no more games in phase 3 - she has accepted your narrative, your reality. You sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/16 11:47 AM
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I'm a better driver than her You're also physically stronger. Does that mean that you should carry her purse? As for a woman who is prone to motion sickness playing on her phone in the car, she either has a short memory or is dim-witted. If she respects you then she'll put it away. If she doesn't, then keep working on handling shit tests and comfort tests, keep owning your shit, and she'll eventually either start to respect you and follow your lead or you'll kick her to the curb.
/r/askMRP30/04/16 10:38 AM
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You guide your family, taking care of the big picture, while she manages those areas where she is strongest. This tidbit of mainstream advice is everywhere for a reason - it works. My wife is amazing at planning and coordinating, everything from events with thousands of people to a small dinner with family. The problem is that she gets wrapped up in her activities and loses sight of the big picture. I'm the calm one who always has the big picture in focus. We have another term in RP for this con…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/16 10:26 AM
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The stereotype of the ballbusting CEO who's a submissive kitten at home exists for a reason. The only woman I know who complains about SJWs is a colleague who fits this mold. People at work sigh and groan when she approaches, but they follow her orders. At home she acts like she's right out of /r/redpillwives. She could snap her scrawny, nerdy husband in two if she wanted, but he's confident, positive, and capable, so she listens. /u/cj_aubrey's wife may also be a control freak, or there may be …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/16 10:13 AM
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That's a nice summary. Dread is a great tool for establishing a higher SMV and shaking her up, but should you keep applying it after six months or a year just to keep her compliant? None of this should be applied to try to make her react a certain way. Passive dread (stage 5) is just being attractive. That never stops. Active dread is where things get murky. If you're a positive person who talks to everybody, then some women are going to be attracted to you. If you're trying to show that off to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/16 02:24 AM
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Some studies have shown boosts in testosterone with zinc and magnesium. They're best taken at different times of day than each other or any iron or calcium. Make sure any other chronic illnesses are under control.
/r/askMRP29/04/16 03:40 PM
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They should definitely include prolactin, too. hCG and AI matter more if they push the dose too high. If they check levels on therapy then most guys don't need anything more than just the testosterone, but you should talk to your doctor about the options.
/r/askMRP29/04/16 03:21 PM
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So that's why she bought that new strap-on...
/r/askMRP29/04/16 02:43 AM
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Are you planning to collate, categorize, and analyze the responses?
/r/askMRP29/04/16 02:25 AM
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You just dropped a deuce in askMRP, Tiny Tim. Weird fucking day. A patient started rolling a joint in my office today. Sorcerer ate the magic mushrooms. Everyone seems a little off.
/r/askMRP29/04/16 01:21 AM
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Repeat test, make sure it's fasting and done first thing in the morning, as early as possible, definitely before 10am. If it's still low, get them to supplement your free levels to the high normal range. They should be checking other stuff like prolactin, LH, and FSH with the next draw. If they don't, then find a new doctor. If they agree to treat without checking those things, then find a new doctor.
/r/askMRP29/04/16 01:03 AM
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Pressure slowly builds in the seminal vesicles. That pressure sends signals that shorten your fuse. That pressure probably also contributes to the full feeling. I think it's less likely to be from the prostate, but it's possible. But it's not from the testes or the vas.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 02:30 AM
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Pressure does build up enough that some guys get epididymal blowout. The sperm leaks, forms a granuloma, then gets resorbed by the body over months. They hurt a tiny bit when bumped. I have one - it's no big deal. The full feeling that shortens your endurance is from the seminal vesicles, not the testes. That doesn't change after vasectomy. Blue balls is unrelated. Vasectomy doesn't affect testosterone production. I'm glad I got a vasectomy. I would do it again in a heartbeat.
/r/askMRP28/04/16 01:56 AM
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So, are they slave to emotion or are they calculating Machiavellians? What exactly is that? You do you. ;-)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/16 01:36 AM
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MGTOW has become a haven for introverts without social skills. The principle was good, starting with Pook, but it has turned into something shitty. Combine it with the victim mentality of the MRA and you've got a recipe for someone who will be forever alone. "Just be yourself" is stupid advice because a guy has been himself all along and has had no success. Alpha posturing is good for experience, but if you're posturing then you will never have a satisfying relationship for anything other than s…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 03:04 PM
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I don't think I made my position clear here anyway Not really. There's just a limit to the amount of hand-holding that I'm willing to do for a post like this. Flesh it out, show that you're capable of taking advice, and you might get a more detailed response.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 11:09 AM
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There was a big discussion about this recently. Many of us are happily married. Many of us would do it again. None of us would tell a stranger on the Internet that he should get married. As for not trusting women, suspicion creates what it suspects. AWALT is not a literal statement. If you act like it is, then you will attract low quality women, and the high quality women you do find will respond to your behavior in ways that you won't like. "Oldest teenager in the house," for example, is a tact…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 10:59 AM
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Confirmation bias is everywhere. You don't see it in TRP, MGTOW, or here because you happen to agree with the content. It takes some mental discipline to constantly question everything that you believe. Questioning the dogma is actively discouraged in the TRP main sub. Most people are undisciplined in their thought processes. If you want to find guys with mental discipline in the red pill subs, whether you agree with the content or not, add guys like /u/whinemoreplease and /u/jacktenofhearts to …
/r/askMRP25/04/16 10:20 PM
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If my wife and I decided to "spend time apart," in my eyes, the marriage would be over. Having sex with other people during a separation isn't cheating, in my eyes. I know a couple of women who didn't bother getting formally divorced because they didn't want to spend money on lawyers and waste time. They amicably divided assets and moved on with their lives. They're in committed relationships with other people now. I don't consider that cheating either. In your wife's case, she may have been leg…
/r/askMRP25/04/16 06:52 PM
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I know that exchange well - it was between Jack and I.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 06:31 PM
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I cum, she comes, an angel gets his wings, and we clean up and head home. A red pill epiphany! Nice FR.
/r/askMRP25/04/16 03:25 PM
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I can see that. Here's the "shit eating grin." This is how he looked when arguing with Jack. Finally, this is what happened if his wife found his Reddit comment history.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/16 01:32 PM
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He's had a few usernames, may have other active ones. It would be a fun experiment for him to make a new account and see if his comments get the same attention that they got before. Didn't someone suggest that to Archwinger recently? Hopefully his wife didn't find his account. It wouldn't go very well if she read his post history. On this, I will say AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/16 10:37 PM
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But goddammit she just keeps cucking me over and over again. My kids look like the fucking UN!
/r/askMRP24/04/16 02:10 PM
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I'm trying - and failing - to understand how your wife could be on FB while you're banging her. Because she has no ambition. She should be live streaming it to a cam site for extra income. He needs to lead her to better financial decisions.
/r/askMRP24/04/16 01:30 PM
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I feel sorry for you. Yeah, it would be much easier if women walked around in a constant state of sexual arousal. And the mixed messages and subtext are so confusing! My wife actually gets upset and feels rejected if I stop when she says "I haven't showered." It's almost like she expects me to understand subtext. Too bad I'm just a neckbeard loser who takes everything literally.
/r/askMRP24/04/16 01:02 PM
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So, if you're coming from thebluepill, are you a white knight or a blue knight? Never mind - there's too much red pill jargon already. I agree that this OP is a troll, but this kind of question comes up often from real people because of what TRP says about LMR. Since thebluepill is probably going to brigade us in this thread, you all might want to consider these different things that are considered last minute resistance in a committed relationship: "I haven't showered." She may feel a bit embar…
/r/askMRP24/04/16 12:00 PM
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Obvious troll, and not a funny one. There's really nothing believable about this story.
/r/askMRP24/04/16 10:35 AM
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Isn't that always the way...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 10:53 PM
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Probably too busy banging college chicks for one of his epic FR's. He's still giving advice in askTRP and entertaining himself with TBP. He and GLO's posts are hilarious. I'd probably buy one of GLO's shirts if they weren't so goddamn ugly. The guys who really get it are usually the guys who don't take any of the pill subs too seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 09:39 PM
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There was more than just Whisper's post involved in the split. It remains to be seen who will get the kids in the divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 06:51 PM
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Yeah, I've been impressed with the new sub, probably because so much of it is reposting of the higher quality material.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 06:47 PM
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Sex is no longer hard to get, so you cannot extract commitment by withholding it. Not for a red pill-aware guy, that's true, but there are plenty of more conservative guys out there who will go several dates or longer without having sex. Some of them are definitely "high value men." Counting subscribers is meaningless. I'm still subscribed to pornfree and I haven't watched porn, visited their sub, or read any of their posts in over a year and a half. The active posters in RedPillWomen seem to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 06:36 PM
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Right here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 05:29 PM
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Women generally give shitty relationship advice to men. Men generally give shitty relationship advice to women. As for Whisper, RPS and company, they gave the RedPillWives mods a great opportunity to show that some women have rock solid frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 05:18 PM
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It seems that RedPillWomen is mostly dudes now. If they banned men then there would be nobody. RedPillWives doesn't automatically ban men either. That being said, I have nothing to contribute to either sub. Though I wonder sometimes if my wife is secretly in RPW somewhere. First rule, I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 04:50 PM
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I don't think he was talking about OmLaLa and company. Most of the people who frequent askTRP and find their way into askMRP are retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 04:20 PM
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There are no standards to enforce, because until now he has had no idea what he actually expects from her other than 'more.' He has a very clearly established plan with no defined purpose. I'm a goal oriented person, so this kind of aimlessness drives me nuts.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 12:31 PM
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Being lied to. 'Of course I still love you. No honey, I like your body just fine. I'm just tired. If you would just help out around the house more then I'd be happy'. Women mean well when they tell white lies such as these. They tell these lies while the love is still there. If this is as far as it has gone, and it hasn't descended into disrespect or infidelity, then the road to recovery is very easy. This is red pill on easy mode. Be grateful that you identified the problem early. Be grateful t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/16 11:47 AM
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She is insanely efficient, I earn 250k+, she is fairly successful and earns 150k+. Works hard, does cooking, breastfeeds kid etc. without a moment's rest while I come home and need a couple hours to reset. Insanely efficient, highly competent. Got it. she is too incompetent to find anyone else That's your hamster talking. She'd have a replacement in under a year. She would put her insanely efficient effort toward seducing and enthusiastically fucking someone with better game and fewer excuses. S…
/r/askMRP23/04/16 02:40 AM
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That used to happen with my pager on the wards in the middle of the night - turns out it was my stomach rumbling.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 08:14 PM
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I forgot about that one - perfect response for OP
/r/askMRP22/04/16 03:18 PM
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This sounds like an excuse. It depends on the context. Getting the kids ready for school in the morning, my daughter decided to make a card for her cousin that she will see this weekend. I told her that she would be late for school, and would have to finish the card when she got home. That's the equivalent of "sorry babe, gotta go." An excuse would be to tell her that she had to listen or Santa Claus wouldn't bring her any presents this year. If he wasn't late for class he would go get it? No co…
/r/askMRP22/04/16 03:06 PM
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That's true, but there was nothing controversial in your response to OP. Maybe somebody thought that "tell them Cad sent you" was over the top, I dunno, but all you really said was that the OP should cross post. I've also been getting weird downvotes lately, but only when one of my responses nears the top. Is it just validation whores who want only their ideas at the top? Nerd fights are lame.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 02:55 PM
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how would you feel if your wife could lift more than you? Spend some time under the barbell and ask that question in a few months. You're getting ahead of yourself. overwhelmed with all the other obligations in our life Why is he overwhelmed? Have the people around him stepped up? Have you? Would most husbands appreciate it spelled out for them Most husbands respond well to overt communication, but most husbands are irrelevant. If he's a "no nonsense guy" as you said, then he would probably resp…
/r/askMRP22/04/16 02:24 PM
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shouldn't he only be concerned about his own self-respect That should be one of his top priorities, but not the only concern. He should be somebody who is respectable. Right now he's not. He folded like a deck of cards for a soda pop. I'd treat him like a lackey - wouldn't you? Self-respect, assertiveness, and earning respect from others is a positive feedback loop. Or is he not even at that point and needs her to calm the fuck down before he can think for himself? He needs to calm the fuck down…
/r/askMRP22/04/16 02:11 PM
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Love the callback to 72
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 01:17 PM
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She doesn't respect you enough for that statement to have any impact, not yet. GF: "Can you get me a soft drink on the way please?" Answer: Can't babe, running late for class. GF:"Get me my iPad" Answer: Sorry babe, running late for class. Gotta go. You're not yet at a point where you can advocate for yourself. Keep reading and practicing skills from WISNIFG. When there's a basic level of respect, then you can try to lead/guide/show her how the relationship fits into your frame. If you're still …
/r/askMRP22/04/16 01:07 PM
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No kidding. That was a weird post to downvote.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 11:36 AM
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We see this in MRP intro posts and victim pukes when a kid is born. Her day is consumed with diapers and appointments and cooking. She's too tired to take care of the house. Agency and femininity are lost. She complains about being busy with the kids, so he takes over some of her tasks. Even if the sex starts up again, the sexiness doesn't. There's more sex now, but it's starfish and she's not wearing the lingerie. She blames it on insecurity about her body, when it's a greater sense of not feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 11:28 AM
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There was somebody in here with a similar username last year. Same person? RedPillWives can be a bit of a clique, but they have a lot to say about encouraging a guy to step up. I suggest going there. I'm biased, obviously, and think there's some very good content in MRP for a husband, particularly in the sidebar books and the top posts. Half the active posts are good, half are shit. That's a much better ratio than in TRP. It takes the magic out of it for many women if they have to communicate ov…
/r/askMRP22/04/16 12:26 AM
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That's fine, unless it makes you unhappy. If it makes you unhappy, then you're a whiny bitch with a victim complex, because life will never be perfect.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 12:09 AM
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You've been at this for a while. It sounds a bit like the "lifelong anger phase" that Archwinger and the other TRP guys talk about. Nobody will ever be good enough if you're keeping score. As for resentment, once you remove your own failings and just focus on the woman before you, only you can know if too much resentment has built up over the years. I'm lucky, I haven't had to go beyond level 5 for my wife to step up. Things just keep improving, month by month.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 10:29 PM
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fake doc LOL. I should make that my signature!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 10:09 PM
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Three big posts, all very well thought out. You have a thorough understanding of the sidebar content. I've read all of your posts, but I still don't have a sense of what you want or expect from your wife. What's the purpose of continuing to up the dread right now? What are you trying to achieve through that for yourself, your marriage, or your family? Do you know? Does she know? I get a sense that you have some kind of threshold or goal that you want to achieve in order to stay married, but I ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 09:36 PM
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That's about right.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 02:40 PM
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None of this is news to you, personally - this is more for anyone else reading: It depends on your interpretation of the data from other studies. A measurement difference of a couple of millimeters has a bigger relative impact on your body fat calculation when the thickness is small compared to when it is large, so authors have said that accuracy is better at higher body fat. Obviously you can spin the data different ways, but the bottom line is that the measurement is usually within 5-10% of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 02:39 PM
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Username checks out.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 01:38 PM
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You might be interested in this summary of 3-site skinfold thickness measurements. Performance is pretty good, but technique is still an issue. If your measurements are repeatable, though, then it's a good way to track progress, even though the absolute number might not agree with DEXA or other techniques.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 01:08 PM
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I've met a lot of people. I've seen a lot if breakups. I have seen a grand total of one somewhat healthy relationship arising from getting back together after a breakup. I say somewhat healthy because the guy is completely whipped - he is seen as intellectually inferior and is a servant to his wife, but he seems happy being like that. The issues that caused the breakup will re-emerge. She doesn't want to get back together with you - she wants to get back together with an idealized fantasy versio…
/r/askMRP20/04/16 10:51 AM
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Broscience: Someone who is putting up decent numbers in the compound lifts will usually see some abs in favorable lighting around 12%, unless they're bloated for other reasons. Real science: calipers by an experienced person are pretty accurate. Gold standard: DEXA
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 10:29 AM
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my BI scale is lying and I'm really just north of 12% You've got it. They're not that accurate. FWIW attractiveness is rated maximum at BF ~12% in studies. Below 10% is appealing to some women, but most prefer 10-15%. The ideal is to build the body that you want - this is just more calibration. The formatting was much better here than in your victim puke.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 02:34 AM
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you need to look @ your future MOL and decide if that is what you want, because that is what your LTR will be Looking at her parents relationship is good advice, especially for someone who is still attached to her parents. Most identify with the same gender parent, but some identify with the other. My wife is definitely more like her father, except when she has PMS...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 09:24 PM
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at least WISNIFG probably would be very beneficial for her not to be manipulated by her mother Great point
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 08:09 PM
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What does op want? ... to have her plan everything, but have it be what he wants to do. He wants veto power as the man-child of the house. I just got home from a vacation that was a complete surprise to my wife. I planned absolutely everything, even coordinating it with the horniest part of her menstrual cycle. The only detail omitted was one meal. Before that one meal, the classic conversation started, Her - Where are we going for dinner? Me - I was thinking a steakhouse or Mexican. Do you have…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 07:58 PM
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You have a better plan for the remainder of your time off? Have you planned activities while you're there? Read WISNIFG from the sidebar for tips on being assertive. How to Win Friends and Influence People and Motivational Interviewing would be reasonable to pick up after that. She could use those books for her job, too. If she just finished an intense rotation, she might need to chill out on a beach or have an adventure. It's your job to make that happen, in the relationship in general, and esp…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 06:18 PM
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Yeah, I'm way too generous with my time in here. Sometimes I think /u/whinemoreplease is right about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 03:21 PM
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Is this satire? It comes across as if you are trying to prove to me that you have no frame and don't understand any of the sidebar material.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 03:04 PM
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I tried to come up with a funny response, but the fact that he was that desperate is just sad. It's also a good illustration of why she wanted to cheat on him.
/r/askMRP18/04/16 12:48 PM
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You guys have been removing more shitposts lately, or have there just been more shitposts?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 11:44 AM
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This question doesn't really apply to you. You're not married and you're a pussy. You are the kind of guy who rewards your girlfriend's anger with gifts and apologies. She can't respect you if you are a pussy. Very few women would be willing to fuck a guy who is like that. Cheating won't fix it, and neither will getting a new girlfriend. You need to fix yourself, which is easier said than done for someone in the autism spectrum. I wonder if your older brother's condition contributed to your code…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 10:52 AM
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If you want the ring back now then you have to talk to her and, if she agrees to return it to you, see her one more time.
/r/askMRP18/04/16 10:30 AM
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Mostly I read girls, and act accordingly. That is PUA - not the RSD/Roosh con artist facsimile, but the real thing. Same goes for dark triad traits - TRP kids think it's something they can become. In reality, you are or you aren't. Thanks for chiming in. There was a kid trash talking in here whose comments were removed - that's how your name came up. It's hard for some of the young and inexperienced kids to tell the difference between a fake and the real thing, endorsed or not.
/r/askMRP17/04/16 03:01 AM
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I agree with Jack - you're probably going to be fine.
/r/askMRP17/04/16 01:26 AM
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validation versus calibration I agree, and that's how I see several aspects of my wife's behavior, but that may just be my hamster talking.
/r/askMRP16/04/16 11:01 PM
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That makes even more sense!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/16 04:28 PM
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/u/vengefully_yours is one tough motherfucker. If you want to analyze how anyone wanted to cheat on him, consider: Very high n-count. More women means more shitty women. Some dark triad traits (my inference). That leads to frequent and highly sexual, but short and tumultuous relationships. Master of PUA and same-day lay. Women who fuck you the day you first meet are more likely to have poor impulse control. The "me first" approach of a cocky guy can get many women wet, but a guy who's all alpha …
/r/askMRP16/04/16 02:59 PM
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Overall, not my best moment, but it was the turning point for both of us. That's similar to how my main event went down. Stating your expectations of your partner once you've established yourself as a fully functional adult is not the same thing as negotiating desire. I felt the same way at the time, that I should have treated it as a series of shit tests. I didn't need to, though, because I had already established myself as a man in her eyes. Hopefully you can eventually make the transition awa…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/16 12:25 PM
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Read through the post histories of /u/ex_addict_bro and /u/over60_stupid_loner. Seriously consider why you're considering it. Forget the hamster reasons, but consider the real reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/16 12:14 PM
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For me, the red pill interpretation would be that women who are satisfied with their marriage take special notice and think more when their husbands are happy and unaffected by adversity.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/16 12:04 PM
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TL;DR Virgin hooked up with chick who never gave BJ's, married her anyway. Sex trickled and he wasn't happy, but they had kids anyway. He went from drinking too much pop to drinking too much beer. He's an unattractive fat fuck with no game and a good job. Now he read the sidebar books, seems to understand the sidebar content, and is going to give us a wall of text MAP in an upcoming installment that desperately needs a table of contents and hyperlinks. Congratulations, I guess. I should have sto…
/r/askMRP16/04/16 02:27 AM
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She's trying to figure out the subtext of your refusal. She may think you're trying to tell her that she shouldn't be eating that stuff either. (And she's probably right - it may not be the main reason you said no, but it's on your mind. She's not stupid.) The sabotage thing happens in some cases of very insecure wives, but most of the sabotage claims are just male solipsism. Maybe she thinks that eating cake is fun, or that you think she's fat, or you don't like her cake. Who knows... Just do y…
/r/askMRP15/04/16 10:50 PM
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I can't get past that bleachy scent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/16 05:41 PM
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Oh man, some of the comments in that thread were fucking retarded. Oh noes CMV! The girl who "squirted from deepthroat" basically peed herself and told him that she came. She may well have enjoyed the experience, but there was more than a bit of hyperbole in that post. Some women feel like they've got a UTI afterward from vigorous G-spot stimulation, YMMV. Female ejaculate is just a tiny amount. The big gushes of fluid in porn (or your bedroom) are urine. As long as you're cool with that, go to …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/16 05:13 PM
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6timesdown7timesup gave a nice summary of his experience. Most guys don't need to worry about hCG and aromatase inhibitors if you're tracking levels on therapy, but I'd listen to your own doctor. Some additional notes: Bioavailable testosterone is the number that matters. I agree with brandor77 that a second test is needed, but it doesn't necessarily have to be from a different lab. It must be done in the morning (before 10am) and is supposed to be done while fasting for the most accurate result…
/r/askMRP15/04/16 03:43 AM
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pregnant chicks love sex YMMV, some women completely lose their libido when pregnant.
/r/askMRP13/04/16 06:35 PM
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Back into the old Omega habits/addictions, or just slacking off? What's the difference between now and when you wrote "A Red Pill Man is Happy?"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/16 06:17 PM
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She was anxious to begin with. You're squashing "shitty comfort tests" as if they are shit tests. The solution here is calm, stoic behavior. Address the emotion or behavior, address the underlying issue, or defer the discussion until she can calm down. Read the responses from /u/jacktenofhearts in this thread.
/r/askMRP08/04/16 09:00 PM
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WOPR was right. LOL. Almost as funny as RPS trying to debate you in this thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 08:26 PM
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That's true, and RPS mentioned that, but there are many other studies out there. LTR isn't inherently bad for men. It just ain't so.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 06:07 PM
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Look how many guys are married in the top 1%: sports stars, CEOs, national leaders, etc... Marriage doesn't get you there. Marriage doesn't make you successful. But marriage works very well for a guy who already has his shit together and knows how to keep it that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 04:14 PM
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Listen I get it, you need to rationalize why marriage is a good choice. But don't bring others down with you. If I didn't want to be married, I'd be divorced. I'm in a great financial and personal situation for divorce and childcare. I stay married because my wife has stepped up and adds value to my life in a way that "plates" never did and never could. I was never the incel loser. I also have options right now if I wanted to leave my wife. Staying married is a conscious, deliberate decision for…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 04:10 PM
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I'm not talking out of my ass. You said that they lumped divorced and single people in the studies. You hadn't read any studies and were repeating bullshit from the echo chamber. Own it. I'm just responding to the lack of actual studies you sent me. There are many. This one shows lower quality of life for married men in their 20s, which is commonly found, higher for married men in their 30s and highest in their 40s. There are many studies with similar results, including outcomes like lower incid…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 03:47 PM
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Not to mention, if we're comparing happy married couples to everybody else, everybody else includes divorcees There's the proof that you're talking out of your ass. Those studies separated divorcées from people who never married and stratified by age group. Past age 30, married men are happier, on average. They also live longer and have financial advantages over singles if they stay married. I'll add a caveat - the average low n-count TeRP should absolutely not get married. Edit: autocorrect was…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 03:15 PM
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I'm curious what your counter-argument would be to all the research that shows higher quality of life among married men. Do you think it's skewed by the unmarriageable guys at the bottom of the barrel? Single life is better than divorce, and is better than a shitty marriage, but the right marriage can enhance your life. Like /u/TheFamilyAlpha said, it's an issue of vetting and maintaining high standards for yourself and the people around you. Your entire argument is based on the notion that divo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 03:06 PM
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Do you even friend, bro? Your wife has a small group of friends and yours is even smaller. In the past, you've been a codependent guy with everyone, not just your wife. You enabled your friends' shitty behavior. You enabled your wife's friends' shitty behavior. Now you're trying to establish a boundary with the friends through your wife in a way that diminished the value of the gift you were giving, as /u/jacktenofhearts described in excruciating detail. My guess is that you left it up to your w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 11:15 AM
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I don't understand these big birthday blow outs for adults. Seems ridiculous and self indulgent to me. Man-child meets woman-child. Childishness ensues. Just as an aside, the etiquette training I got was, you invite, you pay. Brave new world I guess. As far as I know, that's still how it's done. Boundaries are important, but having her buy the first bottle was a stupid one.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 12:42 AM
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yet so much changed If you ever find yourself in Italy, visit Pompeii. The culture of how people interact was unchanged for thousands of years. It's only the increased travel and electronic communication that is changing things. Even then, many parts of love and attraction are hard-wired. Most women don't physically cheat, some do, and many guys don't vet well enough to know which is which. You're right that many guys find themselves raising other men's kids. I'm glad they're out there. Spending…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 06:38 PM
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Nothing new. Here's the Wikipedia article summarizing the older research. If you think the kid is yours, 98-99% chance it's yours. If you think the kid might not be yours, ~70% chance the kid is still yours, and 30% chance that it's Chad's.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 05:34 PM
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This bullshit again No way, man. He's a special snowflake. There's no way he's another unattractive, insecure guy whose partner is rightly looking for a more attractive, confident partner with a personality of his own. "But I'm getting laid - doesn't that make me alpha?" Answer: Women like sex, dumbass.
/r/askMRP06/04/16 01:53 PM
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You already didn't trust her, otherwise you wouldn't have installed the software You're a boring loser with too much time on your hands, otherwise you wouldn't have time to go through the logs You're a spineless, codependent bitch, otherwise you wouldn't need our say-so to make a decision here Is this an affair with a guy who gives her more alpha? Better game, better looks? Does she have a super-low n-count or an unsatisfied kink that she's trying to get past (a female version of the average MeR…
/r/askMRP06/04/16 11:04 AM
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There's always the pirate bay...
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 12:52 AM
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When I finish the twelve weeks my 1rm was 215 and I'm already a 5x5 on that now. Wow... That's some serious progress. I've got no excuses left. Thanks.
/r/askMRP05/04/16 09:07 PM
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you and /u/im-a-fucking-frenchie old guys are funny MRP's own Statler and Waldorf
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/16 05:05 PM
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juggernaut program That's the one Alan Thrall used to recommend. I haven't read about it in detail - thanks for the link! I really need to add some bench volume and eat more, but I'm going to be a lazy ass and make a bunch of excuses for a few more weeks.
/r/askMRP05/04/16 02:33 PM
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Reduce the weight by 10% and do one more set. It's for the volume needed for hypertrophy. There's more than one way to get that volume in, and it doesn't need to be exactly 10%. Example: Squat 200 x8 reps in your last set. Drop set would be one set of 180 x8.
/r/askMRP05/04/16 04:10 AM
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The extreme version is intermittent fasting. Leangains isn't the only game in town, but it's clearly laid out so you don't have to think too much. If you're a skeptic and think that leangains might be a platform to push BCAA supplements, then you could go with something as simple as eating more carbs and calories on workout days and lower calories and lower carb on rest days (+/-500kcal from TDEE). The 6 week thing is broscience mixed with a bit of theory, but people who go on a 6 month bulk oft…
/r/askMRP05/04/16 12:23 AM
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I fucking hate bulk and cut I just can't eat that much healthy food. It doesn't fit. when you cut, it's really hard to do a cut and not lose whatever muscle you gained during the bulk We finally get to meet Jack's hamster! There are people who believe that 6 weeks is the magic number for bulking and cutting. Bulking beyond 6 weeks may increase percentage fat gain in later weeks. Cutting beyond 6 weeks may increase muscle loss in later weeks. There's a rationale for that, and it fits with some of…
/r/askMRP04/04/16 11:43 PM
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5/3/1 isn't the prototypical bulking program - I think /u/Redneck001 mentioned this in your last thread. BBB and the bodybuilding variation are decent if you're looking to make slow gains, but on a faster bulk you might consider an LP program, especially given where your lifts are now. Check out symmetricstrength.com. If you're not well within the intermediate category, then have another run at an LP program like Greyskull, SS, SL, or the 5/3/1 Novice variant (calculator at the blackironbeast we…
/r/askMRP04/04/16 11:35 PM
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what the hell did I just watch? A glimpse into why the first thing I learned in med school was to STFU - my sense of humor has no place in a hospital.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 08:08 PM
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we should start r/happilymarriedmen and leave it empty My first thought was to force all the new users to post a video of themselves doing Henny Youngman or Rodney Dangerfield jokes. The mods could ban anyone who couldn't make them laugh. But your idea is much better.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 08:05 PM
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Any time someone mentions that, for some reason I always think of Rejected.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 07:52 PM
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For some reason, I hear that in the voice of Professor Frink.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 07:37 PM
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Is there a subreddit for people who have embraced their masculine nature and are cool with the reality we live in? Isn't that what your blog is for? And the MRP Approved label? And the division between marriedredpill and AskMRP? I guess it isn't working well enough... /r/happilymarriedmen is available if you want to start something.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 07:12 PM
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Absolutely. It just so happens that my own "frame" and the way I choose to live my life happens to resemble parts of the MRP/family alpha or whateverthefuckwewanttocallit approach.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 06:15 PM
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Enter positions of influence (not power, influence) Bring in as many like minded as you can under guise of standards of conduct, policies etc, proceed to create subjective rules that can enforce groupthink Isn't that common behavior in any organization? Promote like-minded friends and people who will strengthen your position? That describes a good portion of my career!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 06:11 PM
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What is the point of this? Comedy. The red pill label is arbitrary and almost completely meaningless. It's like feminism - everyone has their own definition. RPW mods always said they're the real deal red pillers, citing manosphere blog contributions and endorsement from TRP as proof even though much of what they say is against the bulk of what appears in those resources. Then they turn around and decry TRP as not being true red pill, whatever that means. It's all a bunch of completely worthless…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 06:01 PM
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It's a tough situation. I've been the kid on both ends of the beatings. It was rising through the social ranks that ended the problems. First to go were the physical altercations, then verbal taunts, then shit testing. That being said, it only takes one kid with a screw loose to cause problems, even when you're doing everything else right. It's hard to ask instead of tell when you're communicating with your kid. Helping them reason through and find their own solution seems great, on paper, but p…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 02:35 PM
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Ha, I forgot about that guy. I still don't understand what that he was talking about. It seemed like a guy just doing a bunch of random shit and using buzzwords to try to make it sound sensible.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 02:11 PM
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There's always a bigger fish. Yes, I know the origins of judo, the advantages of fighting back and all that, but the issue here is a social one. If your son has the bigger group of friends, is more popular, is a positive person who can get people on his side, and has good social skills, then the bully will either get on his side or find an easier target. What he needs isn't the right fight venue or the right martial art (though I happen to like judo), but high social standing and a group of frie…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 01:43 PM
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CYA consult- because obviously I am not allowed to do end of life care I'd make more money down there, but I don't think it would be worth it. CYA consults are rare from anyone but the ER docs, frivolous lawsuits are rare, and euthanasia doctor-assisted death is on its way. I'm in the minority of redpillers on this, but I'm grateful for a liberal government.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 01:37 PM
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always kicking around the can, doing the little things that ultimately sound related, but really don't affect anything of signifigance. you'd think in 6 months, he'd have thrown something about his journey in OYS, a few posts that get shit on and downvoted. Nope, only when he's "made it" does he even think of putting his ego on the line. Everytime I see that, I see huge glaring issues that come from working in a vacuum, which would have gone much better with an occasional ass whooping from those…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 01:31 PM
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TBI? It's probably aspiration. Get the in/exsufflator or use IPPV. I'll send you a bill for the e-consult.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 01:05 PM
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Literacy's not your strong suit, eh? Did you read the edit that I made two days ago? Or my post lower in the thread, also from two days ago? Most of the controversy is about the risk of venous thromboembolism. While 2-4x the risk of the other oral contraceptives, it's still an extremely low risk, especially for someone with no risk factors. PS. You'd have to have a screw loose to consider my wife's joke about the pill as serious medical advice, especially on April 1st... Drospirenone-containing …
/r/askMRP04/04/16 04:32 AM
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That's okay, almost all of my posts and jokes are for my own amusement anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 01:24 AM
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To be fair, the "masculine energy" angle is something that /u/TheFamilyAlpha does well. Edit: New and improved response. 30% less asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/16 11:25 PM
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Instructions unclear - now sitting with this guy
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/16 11:22 PM
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The problem is that your sausage reeks and you're a lazy piece of shit. Get in shape (lift heavy weights), read the sidebar books (NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG), read the Wiki. Go to AskMRP when you have a question about the strategies you have implemented.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/16 11:16 PM
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Pushing the topic toward sexual strategy with our wives, the ticklish areas are also erogenous zones for many women. For some women, the abdomen, back of the knee, armpit, palms, soles, and especially the neck are a source of intense sensation. Do it wrong, and it's noxious. Do it right, and she'll beg for you to fuck her brains out. A gentle touch in a vulnerable spot can make her start thinking about sex. It's part of "kino escalation." A firm hand on that same spot during sex can push her ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/16 04:57 PM
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I see it the same way as tickling. There's an evopsych theory that kids are ticklish in the areas that are most vulnerable or subject to lasting harm in a life-threatening situation: neck, armpit, abdomen, sole of the foot. Kids learn to protect themselves in a fun way. It's not about laughing in the face of death - it's about learning to avoid death and injury. It's no different than the joy of play-fighting.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/16 04:32 PM
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The trolls are out in full force today. If you're legit, then you're a moron.
/r/askMRP02/04/16 09:04 PM
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Absolutely right. Assume it didn't work until your seven semen samples have shown no sperm. Then assume it's permanent, but remember that there's still a 1/1000 risk of pregnancy per year or so.
/r/askMRP02/04/16 05:35 PM
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My wife may have been a bit serious. The best jokes always have that hint of something serious or uncomfortable behind them. My wife loved being on Yasmin - it's the best for mood and bloating. It blocks testosterone, though, so it kills libido for some women and can cause clitoral atrophy! As for my edit/rant, thebluepill is fun sometimes. It's much easier to troll them from in here than in their own sub. Half of BPP's and Cad's posts are just trolling thebluepill. When I post there I try to st…
/r/askMRP02/04/16 05:06 PM
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If she says things that cross the line, you can calmly say so afterward. WISNIFG has great strategies on setting boundaries. "It crossed a line for me when you told everyone that I have micropenis. I'm happy to joke around, but that one was a bit too far." As for the visitor, some women have platonic male friends, especially ones they grew up with. I don't know if that's the case here or not. If this kid is an experienced lifter and you have a home gym, then take advantage of the spotting and fo…
/r/askMRP02/04/16 02:47 PM
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That was the preferred technique about 5 years ago. Fascial interposition and resecting part of the vas are both optional now that they clip both ends. I went to the go-to guy for microsurgical techniques and vasectomy reversal at my university. Too many guys shop around the clinic that promises a pain-free procedure and soft couches in the waiting room. I wanted the most technically proficient surgeon. A good bet for a surgeon, in general, is the one that the academic docs go to.
/r/askMRP02/04/16 02:11 PM
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Any urologist worth his salt doesn't use cautery anymore. Titanium clips are the standard of care. I wouldn't trust some GP with outdated techniques and poor technical skill to do my vasectomy.
/r/askMRP02/04/16 01:07 PM
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Here's the latest review article. Microsurgical techniques give 96% patency and rates of pregnancy of 40% in the near-term. Robotic techniques are likely to have patency over 99%, but there haven't been large-scale studies yet. The primary determinant of successful pregnancy after vasectomy reversal is the age of the female partner. Anti-sperm antibodies are a relatively minor issue.
/r/askMRP02/04/16 11:58 AM
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Most of the controversy is about the risk of venous thromboembolism. While 2-4x the risk of the other oral contraceptives, it's still an extremely low risk, especially for someone with no risk factors. PS. You'd have to have a screw loose to consider my wife's joke about the pill as serious medical advice, especially on April 1st...
/r/askMRP02/04/16 02:46 AM
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The Catholic high school in my city was the only high school with built-in daycare. Preaching abstinence is a waste of time.
/r/askMRP01/04/16 11:03 PM
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They're as popular as ever. They're great for teens, prostitutes, and people who can't be bothered to reliably take the pill. Some women love them, YMMV. If I were a woman, I'd get an IUD. My wife has an evil plan to put our daughter on one of the pills with drospirenone (like Yaz or Yasmin) when she's a teenager. It's the best for mood and it lowers libido. ;-) Edit: OK, listen you fucking retard brigaders from thebluepill, the "winky face" emoticon is something us shitlord misogynists use afte…
/r/askMRP01/04/16 10:43 PM
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I see a lot of people mention that they monitor their wife's cycle. I know this is only possible if they are not on any hormonal birth control. There are still monthly fluctuations in libido and physical symptoms on the pill. There's less need to track cycles because it's reliably the same 4 week pattern over and over again. If it's a specific concern about the pill, take a look at this article. There may be a myth or misconception, or maybe a specific side effect that can be mitigated by switch…
/r/askMRP01/04/16 10:01 PM
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who are all these people coming out of the woodwork for this She's an RPW getting excited that you're saying not all women are shit. She thinks you're talking about her...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/16 07:41 PM
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Yeah, I couldn't figure out if she is someone who teases constantly by nature or if she is being disrespectful of OP specifically. Either he has to chill out and join the fun or find a more compatible partner.
/r/askMRP01/04/16 12:52 PM
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You said that you read the sidebar books, but you didn't apply them. Re-read WISNIFG and How to Win Friends and Influence People. Don't skim - practice applying the skills. Nobody wins an argument. Edit: By the way, having high income is useless if you can't get control of your expenses. That would be a good bullet point for your future posts in the Own Your Shit weekly thread in /r/marriedredpill.
/r/askMRP31/03/16 10:32 AM
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Wait, where's the scoreboard? My wife's comment to me last night about her mother was, "All these years she's been keeping score of every time she changed my diaper, every time I made her angry, and I can never catch up. Keeping score like that in a relationship is fucking retarded!" I couldn't agree more.
/r/askMRP31/03/16 02:55 AM
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So, first of all, there's a weekly Own Your Shit thread in /r/marriedredpill. Read the explanation at the top of the weekly thread and feel free to post your game plans there. Second, seeing that the first responders happened to be /u/jacktenofhearts, /u/sexyshoulderdevil, /u/il-est-ressuscite, and /u/[deleted], I have to recommend to everyone that they read the post and responses with a glass of single malt scotch in hand. Guys, I laughed out loud at every response...
/r/askMRP31/03/16 02:46 AM
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It's a fucking shame that this got buried by whoever downvoted sexyshoulderdevil. This is step two for OP. being a codependent bitch who inverted the power dynamics in a relationship to a narcissist... Still means you're a codependent bitch. My wife broke that dynamic with her mother yesterday - less than 12 hours ago. You're right that inverting the power dynamic isn't enough. The big question is whether OP is going to get there. The top post from cj_aubrey is a reasonable approach to inverting…
/r/askMRP30/03/16 10:13 PM
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That's why bogeyd6 was so surprised!
/r/askMRP30/03/16 07:42 PM
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Hopefully OP's starting to realize that the bedroom is dead because the relationship is dysfunctional, and not the other way around. Theater is a red flag for me personally - highly skilled actors are very hard to deal with. The most basic things that drive them - their instincts and motivations - are very hard to pin down. I don't know if it's training or an underlying characteristic that leads them to theater in the first place, but you have to be solid as a rock to weather the storm of emotio…
/r/askMRP30/03/16 07:18 PM
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shitty comfort test OP might not understand the reference to his wife's anxiety. OP, does your wife have some kind of diagnosed mental illness? She comes across as histrionic, but it can go along with anxiety, narcissism, and many other issues. The good news is that your wife is capable of overt communication. She told you exactly why she was mad: You gave a timid non-answer to the compliance test where you should have said no. She is mad that you don't value her contributions or that you think …
/r/askMRP30/03/16 05:25 PM
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Of all the domains, the introversion/extroversion one is probably the most valid. All the TRP folks want to be INTJ because they fancy themselves as DT sociopaths. I think you're right. They latch on to the idea of the Sigma male.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 02:44 AM
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MBTI has categorization that doesn't hold up to scrutiny and doesn't have safeguards against gaming the test like MMPI. Ever wonder why almost all of TRP seems to be INTP/J? People answer that test as they'd like to be and the results have little meaning other than giving you an understanding of how you see yourself or who you'd like to be.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 02:07 AM
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The same eagerness to please that gets you laid was responsible for her eagerness to please the dirty-talking cop. He was hotter than you at the time, so she was even more excited to be his dirty cunt. Now her eagerness to please is resulting in all these dramatic demonstrations of penance. She needs therapy. Lamotrigine's alright for bipolar, but there's more to it than just a mood disorder. As for the bipolar itself, she may fuck anything that moves when she's high. She wants approval and atte…
/r/askMRP30/03/16 12:06 AM
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Also, write the post you want to read. It was worth a try. ;-) I might post something in a few weeks on MBTI, MMPI, dark triad, and other personality stuff that RP talks about way too much, unless someone beats me to it.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 05:26 PM
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Some guys wouldn't be able extrapolate that to personality tests and other excuses. I was thinking it could be a TRP main sub post like this: "Personality tests like MBTI are a waste of time and only serve to rationalize your pathetic behavior. You're not INTJ. You're not a Sigma. You're just a loser. Stop being a loser." Source: was more of a loser before, less so now.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 05:09 PM
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fuck the personality label That would be a good MRP or blog post.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 04:57 PM
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I realize that lifting is important for this process not because it makes a man more attractive (SMV) but because it's tangible work that benefits only the person lifting It's also important because you can't bullshit the weights. You get out of it what you put in. The weights go up or they don't - if they don't then it's your fault.
/r/askMRP29/03/16 02:31 PM
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So much context that I didn't add There always is. Since there's been divorce talk before, it's hard for me to tell if you're getting the balance right between good alpha and good beta behaviors. Being controlling is bad alpha. It gets you laid in the clubs or with crazy chicks like some of the MRP wives, but I think that guys should seriously reconsider whether they want to stay in a relationship that necessitates that behavior. Keep being assertive without being aggressive or passive aggressiv…
/r/askMRP29/03/16 02:06 PM
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General comment You really got to stop this hard ass attitude you have. I want nothing to do with it. Maybe if you go back to your sweet attitude you'd get what you want. You tell me, have you made changes to how you interact with your wife abruptly or gradually? Are you being overly rigid and treating your wife like an employee, or are you treating her as a trusted first officer? I don't want to be married to a dictator that's so mean to his wife. Subtext. Has she hinted that she might be consi…
/r/askMRP29/03/16 01:25 PM
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Some women enjoy looking after their partners when they're sick, but many (most?) don't. Her comment about the man flu is a hint that she's part of the latter group. My wife's the same way when it comes to any sign of weakness or illness. A couple of prolonged illnesses are part of what led me here. They are the same kind of women who don't want to hear men "complain" about their problems, in general. When I talk to my wife about a challenge that I'm facing, I always hint to her that have a plan…
/r/askMRP28/03/16 10:57 AM
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Could be. Evopsych is full of conjecture. Here's an example where they completely miss the boat. They showed nicely that facial and body attractiveness are maximum at body fat 12%, and that 3/4 of women prefer masculine faces when fertile (which means 1/4 don't), but their conclusions were some bullshit about subtle differences in immunity and mate selection.
/r/askMRP27/03/16 07:08 PM
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SMV is something I am unsure about. In terms of her behavior, it's her perception of SMV that matters. Keep cutting until you're at 10-15% BF (10-12% better.) That's the magic range for most women. Attention from women will go up, and maybe one of those women will be your wife!
/r/askMRP27/03/16 06:00 PM
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Quit overanalyzing it and enjoy the BJ. Right now you've got the same mentality that people in deadbedrooms have after having "the talk." Is she just fucking me because of the talk, or because she wants to? It's a no-win scenario. Are you having frequent, enthusiastic, mutually enjoyable sexual activity? Yes? Then keep improving yourself and enjoy your happier life and emptier balls.
/r/askMRP27/03/16 05:12 PM
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Fair enough
/r/askMRP27/03/16 01:26 PM
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You were way too nice about it, IMHO. From me, that's saying something...
/r/askMRP27/03/16 01:16 PM
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But now as I try to exercise that muscle again I get rolled eyes, pity thank you or the dreaded "that's nice". You're still a validation whore. I used to be romantic as fuck I was hoping you could be a bit more vague. Let me rephrase your post: "I used to do things. Women would respond by acting happy and fucking me, which made me feel good about myself. My wife doesn't fuck me, so I stopped doing those things. She still doesn't fuck me as much as I want. I tried doing those things again, but sh…
/r/askMRP27/03/16 12:54 PM
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Testosterone suppresses your immune system. Don't be a bitch about it. She could be saying it's the man flu as a joke, because she doesn't respect you, because of one time years ago when she was sick and you weren't sympathetic enough, or who fucking cares why. Don't take stupid shit like that seriously. Agree and amplify, make a joke, or just roll over and sleep. Keep owning your shit. Be cheerful and unaffected. Read the comments here to see how many women treat a man who is sick, especially i…
/r/askMRP27/03/16 01:44 AM
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Was angry a year ago, and I do qualify doctors! Maybe I should change it to amusedMD?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 04:25 PM
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TL;DR You don't like to hear bragging or whining. OK. Pick apart the whining, downvote the bragging, and make your own posts about the "light at the end of the tunnel" instead of whining about it. You're not going to see many posts about the light at the end of the tunnel because positive interactions become commonplace when you man up. Most guys come here with fucked up relationship skills. When they get their shit sorted, if they have decent wives, then their wives behaving like adults isn't n…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/16 03:42 PM
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Outstanding post. The advice in here is usually to lift, blame yourself, or get counseling. We needed something in between - a process for working through anger for guys who aren't quite ready to think about counseling.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 12:09 PM
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If people are interested I can try to write up a more deliberate and well though out post describing the process. That would be a great idea for /r/marriedredpill!
/r/askMRP24/03/16 09:34 AM
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Maybe enough shit has happened and enough resentment has built up that some of it will linger forever. The analogy is the addict who fuck up his relationships. When he finally gets sober after a decade, does he forget all the bad shit that happened between him and the people he loves? Some recovering addicts move away from their home towns because too much shit has happened. The people he knew when he was using are a constant reminder of his failures and of the shitty things that happened betwee…
/r/askMRP23/03/16 02:59 PM
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When everything is on track, they're the same thing. I'm guessing there's going to be a field report about what she does with all the pent up energy when her neck is feeling better. Better foam roll and stretch today, or you're going to be the one with whiplash...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 11:45 AM
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I was a little pissed, then more pissed, then I thought, this was an awesome night - we had fun, she is sore and not feeling super sexy (period), and just wanted a date with her man and to relax. OI's harder when you don't get the outcome you want - TFA, owning his shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 11:26 AM
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Two of her three medical problems are defined by the company they keep - anxiety, depression, abuse, etc. She needs to sort her shit out. She could do cardio every morning, resistance training for shoulders, core, and posterior chain, get more sleep, do biofeedback, stress management, psychotherapy, meds, and a ton of other options directed by professionals. Aside from more exercise and better sleep, it isn't a DIY situation. If you want to help her, then quit being a douchebag. Lay off the acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 03:33 PM
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Didn't read the whole thing, eh? They have kids. Hopefully he can provide some stability in their lives now that he had his head on straight(er).
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 03:51 AM
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Guys who don't want to read the whole backstory, read the bullet points, then read the body text sections from the bottom up. Don't skip the post entirely - there are some unique things he's saying that apply to many of us. You were banging other women for validation. You were a successful PUA. It would have been a great FR in the red pill main sub. It was empty, addictive, and wasn't making you happy. Now you've got your head screwed on straight, and you can figure out what you really want. I'd…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 03:14 AM
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People are shitting all over you for having a covert contract, but you're the only one who knows your intentions. If you did it with the purpose of, "if I do this then she should fuck me," then it's a covert contract and you're doing MRP wrong. If you did it because you want to blur the lines between sexual intimacy and regular physical intimacy, then it is a good strategy for a healthy physical relationship. If you did it because it would be fun for you and/or useful to her to get a massage, an…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/16 04:39 PM
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That would make a good tattoo.
/r/askMRP20/03/16 03:35 PM
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She also had big boobs and made it really obvious that she was interested, but that part didn't fit my noble narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/16 12:29 AM
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Pre-selection, physical attractiveness, peacocking, and all the other superficial stuff just gets you to that first conversation. After that, personality and intelligence take over.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/16 12:15 AM
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If you see that other, attractive guys are interested in a particular woman, it makes you find her more attractive. I dated one girl because several attractive guys were either interested or had dated her. I didn't find her very physically attractive. I assumed that she must have other interesting traits, so I dated her to find out. It was as a bad decision. She turned out to be crazy. TL;DR Pre-selection can get my attention, but it doesn't make someone more attractive to me. Edit: a word
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/16 10:27 PM
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The answer is to read WISNIFG. Please don't cross-post to MRP and AskMRP.
/r/askMRP19/03/16 09:38 PM
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You are asking how to be assertive instead of verbally aggressive. WISNIFG is one of the original textbooks on assertiveness. It's in the sidebar. Read it. Apply it everywhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/16 08:14 PM
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It really is just drama! drama! drama! Relevant Thanks irateMD for talking some sense to me. I'm an asshole, but there's a method to my madness. Hopefully we're done with the freak show for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/16 12:01 PM
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Two more points for newbs: If you're not happy, the problem is you. You need to man up and find your own direction. (MGTOW humor)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/16 11:23 AM
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You're teetering toward mild nuisance at the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 08:32 PM
2

Jack is apparently the worst of all of us, using reasonable language to draw people into MRP and down the slippery slope to misogyny. I haven't been targeted as much by this particular blooper, but I have had others wish me dead. It's somewhere between mildly entertaining and a slight nuisance. We moderates are less fun for TBP, so we're barely on their radar, not that it matters anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 07:08 PM
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Today, I firmly believe it's my own responsibility to spark the spark in her eyes. It is my own responsibility to make the panties damp. I don't want to discuss it any more. I don't want to micro-manage my wife. I don't want to ever discuss attraction again. You've got it. It's just about fixing yourself. She can follow you or not. I'm going to say something now that's not for the red pill newbs, because it might affect their mindset: She will probably follow your lead. Things with your wife wil…
/r/askMRP18/03/16 11:51 AM
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Whoever downvoted that has some low standards...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/16 11:12 AM
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What I understand now from irateMD's post is: * that it is a very bad idea to discuss wife's feelings and that validating them by fogging seems so much better option than just negating them That is an excellent start. that I will never, ever negotiate attraction Perfect On the other hand, when I read those tables, his replies ("questionable responses") sound just like me and I'm actually feeling repulsed by those. The first table was a bit too much negotiating attraction, not enough fogging and …
/r/askMRP18/03/16 10:53 AM
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How did the conversation go when you talked to her about physical fitness? Does she have any medical issues contributing to or arising from obesity? If there's a cause, deal with that (obviously.) If she already has complications like diabetes or sleep apnea, then attack it from that angle.
/r/askMRP17/03/16 03:18 AM
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Wow, that got dark... Is that why you left MRP? Lost the 'M'?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 10:21 PM
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You remembered your amused mastery! See, it's like riding a bike. You'll always be one of us, nargin0.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 10:18 PM
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I just want to verify for the mods that MRPCowboy is not nargin0. I was just fucking with both of them. MRPCowboy and I shook hands and are good now, and nargin0 is back where he belongs, trolling around deadbedrooms and thebluepill. If you follow his posts, he's actually quite a misogynist - he thinks guys like jack and TFA are corrupting the female minds in thebluepill, so he's in there trying to protect them. I wonder how his dead bedroom is going...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 10:10 PM
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Always a pleasure. Have fun stalking DMSW! I'll be here, pulling impressionable men down the slippery slope to misogyny.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 09:04 PM
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You didn't like my Star Wars post? It was my best impression of /r/MGTOW. Are you one of MRPCowboy's alternate accounts? You mentioned you used to be a MeRP before you started comparing us to the KKK. I was curious to see if you'd actually show up when paged. I like you, nargin0. You're obviously an intelligent dude with a bit of a chip on your shoulder. I can respect that, even if I don't agree that Jack and I are evil.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 08:52 PM
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Are you still upset that I kicked your puppy? If you're upset about TBP, or guys like. /u/OmLaLa and I fucking around in there, then your frame still sucks when people challenge your insecurities. You seem a bit resentful of some of the EC's, especially Cad and Rollo. Who's frame are you living in? Who fucking cares what RPW, thebluepill, TRP main sub, MRP EC's, or anyone else has to say when it comes to your life? You're worried that MRP is some sort of beachhead in the fight against RP? That's…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 08:28 PM
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At a certain point maybe all you can do is punt the relationship and triage your own life. Awful to think about, but MRP is filled with men who chose not to do this and live everyday being frustrated they made sacrifices, to no avail for their marriages, that they probably shouldn't have. That hits close to home for me, and probably for most if of the guys here.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 03:46 PM
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You've gotten good advice from people who have been through it personally. My two cents: If physical issues pop up with lubrication or she's not enjoying sex as much, then she can talk to her doctor about topical estrogen and other options. If her libido and energy level tank, then she can get her testosterone levels checked - replacement for women post-menopause can be helpful. Knowing how my wife deals with physical issues, I am grateful that I have a few years before she gets to that point. G…
/r/askMRP16/03/16 02:55 PM
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She said this: “Not giving a shit.” and “Abandoning her.” Because of this sequence of events She had always said if she got pregnant she'd get an abortion, no questions asked. I asked her if this is what she wanted to do and she said, “Yes. I don't have a choice.” To which I responded, “You always have a choice.” Do you know why we tell guys to STFU? It's not because women value silence. It's because a guy who is ill-equipped to deal with subtext or an emotionally charged situation will inevitab…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 11:21 AM
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I read your entire post with this song going through my head. You figured it out - if you're not happy, the problem is you. Watcha gonna do? Read jacktenofhearts response a couple of times. Read it and think about it. It's your life now. It's not Jack's frame, my frame, TRP, MRP, video game marketers, pharmaceutical reps pushing Adderall, or anyone else's frame. All that shit is in the past. Now it's just you. Chances are that your wife will follow your lead eventually, if you don't fuck it up. …
/r/askMRP16/03/16 02:23 AM
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It's the pattern of behavior that matters. Off the top of my head: "It was just a dream, honey. We can talk about it some more when I get home from work." Then, when you get home from work, if she's still upset about the dream, then ask, "Why did that dream get you so upset? Is something bothering you?" She can turn to you for emotional support, but you don't have to fix her emotions for her. In fact, you shouldn't. Read and apply WISNIFG. Maybe re-read NMMNG after that. Stop obsessing about the…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 08:46 PM
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You were placating her with all the dream bullshit. "No, honey, I would never cheat on you." = You're anxious and it's my job to fix it and tell you what you want to hear. It's part of the same validation-seeking behavior that got you so riled up when I pointed out that your shit does indeed stink. Whiny asshole is the rudeness and sense of entitlement about her cooking and cleaning for you, the double standard about politeness, and your initial response to me. It goes with covert contracts and …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 08:13 PM
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If you want advice without putting in the work, then go to /r/askmrp for a bit of hand-holding or /r/asktrp for advice from teenaged virgins.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 07:49 PM
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It was a trick question. If he had read and applied those books then the answer to the first question would have been 'no.'
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 07:25 PM
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Whiny asshole mode confirmed. I went easy on you, kid. And if you didn't understand the advice, then you are either illiterate or have no frame. Just be glad /u/whinemoreplease and /u/stonepimpletilists weren't the first responders. Now, somebody cry so we can see him go into placating Nice Guy mode!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 07:03 PM
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Pfft, amateur. "Resume compressions. Tube's in? Thank you. One amp of epi please. Epi given? Okay, medium coffee, half milk, one sugar. Pulse check."
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 06:27 PM
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You handled the comfort test from the dream well. That wasn't a comfort test. She's an overly anxious woman and he's a placating Nice Guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 06:17 PM
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Why the fuck are you entertaining the discussion of her dreams? Next time, try this, "Wow honey, sounds like a disturbing dream. Want some coffee?" she repeated me and said please at the end Because you did that to her the day before. Lead by example. She gets pissy and goes and gets my coffee in another cup, and was in a bad mood again lol I don't know why she got you the coffee. You sure as hell didn't deserve it. Do you always alternate between placating codependent pussy and whiny asshole? H…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 06:14 PM
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I'm more ahead on the issue about not caring what she says. I don't intend to cheat, but I have been pondering a lot about sunken costs and whether the relationship is compatible with what I want going forward. I think both partners need to adopt this attitude in order to avoid complacency. Some people take "for better or for worse" to mean "forever, no matter what." That's a recipe for disaster. Romantic love is conditional, so you're damn right that marriage should be conditional too.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 02:05 PM
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It's always possible to change behaviors. It's easiest to adopt behaviors that fit your personality. Personality develops through temperament, which is largely innate, and experience. There are two therapists from my personal life who I have debated on the issue of personality development. One believes that personality is fixed by adulthood, and that only behaviors can change (like RPW), and the other believes that even people with personality disorders can change the way they think at the most …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 11:14 AM
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Glad to see you're back, and not just because you agreed with me just there. You were hilarious in that troll thread. Hope you worked out whatever was making you angry last month.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 06:28 PM
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I know it's offensive that something that saved your marriage is being mocked, but most of the people on PPD have such big egos that they can't possibly understand anyone else's perspective. The blue pill thinks we're too red. The red pill thinks we're too blue. RPW thinks all the guys on Reddit are losers, and only they have met the true alphas. PPD thinks they know better than everybody else. MRP are just working on our own marriages, our own way, finding the right mix of good alpha and good b…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 06:01 PM
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Isn't that what the PPDafterdark IRC is for? Isn't that the glory hole between red and blue?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 06:00 PM
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I call it, "The Aristocrats"
/r/askMRP14/03/16 02:51 PM
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I gave a likely troll poster the benefit of the doubt and gave useful advice. You responded with a troll post of your own and gave no useful advice. You said nothing about counseling, respect, communication, or anything else of value. How many people have you helped today? I'm guessing zero. I will waste no more time on you.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 01:26 AM
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Yes, my comment to OP is at the top.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 01:17 AM
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/r/thebluepill is over there. If you can't say something constructive, then tits or GTFO.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 01:12 AM
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I don't know - I've never been anally raped. Have you?
/r/askMRP14/03/16 01:03 AM
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The gesture is enough to force the person to have a psychiatric assessment, at least in North America. Whether her intent was sleep, suicide, drama, or manipulation doesn't matter.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 01:02 AM
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She doesn't like her face touched (she flinches if startled). She doesn't enjoy making out for long periods of time. She thinks she has put the rape behind her. Maybe she has, more than some, but not completely. Counseling would be a good idea, but you can't force her to go. anal is an ultimate symbol of love and trust That's idiotic. Her telling you about the rape would have taken far more trust than a finger or dick in the butt. Rape often involves anal penetration and sometimes objects. Some …
/r/askMRP13/03/16 09:55 PM
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In that case, I'm with jacktenofhearts and Scurvemuch that you need to treat the talk of suicide as serious and, as a much less critical issue today, consider the possibility that she might be bi or lesbian.
/r/askMRP13/03/16 08:49 PM
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the Jack-signal That's the best thing I've read all day.
/r/askMRP13/03/16 08:29 PM
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The best way to get a doctor to do something is to feed him or pay him.
/r/askMRP13/03/16 05:49 PM
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and I take cash Inspired by Whisper?
/r/askMRP13/03/16 05:35 PM
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I'm tempted to gild this response. /u/Sevastz, does she have a history of being molested, raped, or a previous history of mental illness? This woman needs professional help. Quit being codependent and follow the advice from Scurvemuch. Do you know what the rules are in your country about suicidal behavior? Is involuntary psychiatric admission something that happens where you are? In North America, what you have told us is enough for a mandatory psychiatric assessment.
/r/askMRP13/03/16 05:29 PM
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Your post feels trolly. Either a troll or a guy with a complete lack of common sense. So much drama. I wonder what he's smoking...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/16 02:07 PM
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Bad - "Harassing?" Still Weak - "If you're in danger, call the police." Better - "At work, will text when leaving." Best - Ignore Take your pick. This is not a case of local pedophile captured in photo, OP tracks him down, makes citizens arrest and saves the day. She's wasting your time with some bullshit inside joke. Ignore it.
/r/askMRP11/03/16 09:21 PM
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It's in between. For the core lifts, it works out to be three heavy sets, one of which is AMRAP, then one or two heavier singles, and 5x10 of the same lift per week. When the BBB sets go up to 70%, you end up with 8-10 heavy sets of each of the core lifts. There's also a ton of upper back work and some extra arm stuff and prowler work if you follow the book. The website doesn't explain it thoroughly. Chins, pulldowns, rows, hamstring raises, side and rear delt work, bis/tris are all in there. Ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 03:45 PM
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Structural problem with the shoulder, or just weak? In general, make sure to do lots of back and rear delt work. Every set with a pushing movement should have at least one comparably intense set with a pulling movement. Specifics will depend on whether or not you have underlying shoulder, neck, or rotator cuff problems.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 07:19 PM
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There's a beginner variant of 5/3/1 - haven't tried it, but it looks sensible. Any beginner program would be a step forward (SL 5x5, SS, etc). Don't wait to get in shape before getting in shape. Jump right into lifting - other people in the gym don't care how much you're lifting. If you've got a big anxiety problem, then get a squat rack with spotter arms or a power rack, a used set of Olympic weights, and get started.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 06:37 PM
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I was able to get more volume and maintain better form with "slightly less boring" (BBB deadlift on squat day, BBB press on bench day, etc), but YMMV. It made it easier to add joker sets on good days. I also don't have as many feelings of fear and regret when I'm in the hole! For those who haven't seen it, there's an awesome 5/3/1 calculator here.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 05:29 PM
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Are you doing "slightly less boring?" I'm a believer in training the big lifts twice per week, and it made it much easier to go up to 70% of training max. Are you doing the core lift or variants in your BBB sets? (eg. deficit deadlift, front squat, close grip bench, dumbbell press, incline press, etc)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 04:36 PM
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Disconnecting from her on an emotional level? That can mean different things to different people. It's still a marriage. She's still a human being. She's a teammate, not an opponent. Yes, she's responsible for her own feelings, but you shouldn't ignore her feelings unless you are actively planning divorce. Like others have said, slow the fuck down. Read, think, read more, think more, then act. I agree with /u/[deleted] that you should look up /u/Sepean and /u/vampiresquidina before you do someth…
/r/askMRP09/03/16 07:33 PM
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Great response. OP, you take a hiatus from initiating until you get your mindset straightened out. When you would usually have initiated or engaged in a time-wasting activity, you will do some self-improvement or take care of your responsibilities instead. When she initiates, if it's not manipulation or choreplay, and you actually want sex, then have sex. Otherwise just focus on your MAP for a few months.
/r/askMRP09/03/16 02:40 PM
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I just can't be bothered giving a fuck anymore It's hard to give a fuck when you don't know what you want. Decide what you want. Then make a coherent plan to get it. Giving a fuck comes from having interests and priorities in life. If you're not interested in anything, then get some therapy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 04:20 AM
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I had slacked on the gym because of my January wrist surgery Pussy. ;-)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 03:37 PM
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Also, I feel you regarding the in-laws. Literally verbatium in my scenario except add a heaping dose of narcissism and victim mentality to the MIL and beta bitch behavior to the FIL Similar story here. At this point I am the only person that my mother in law treats with deference and respect, and my father in law is the Nice Guy prototype. People recreate aspects of their parents' relationship in their own marriages. My wife seemed different from her family when we met, but her behavior transfor…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 02:35 PM
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Sadly, it is true. The extent of her reading has been Facebook posts, blogs, and recipes. That's why her decision to read a book was worthy of a field report! She was an 'A' student in high school, and was the top student in her (relatively easy) college program. It hadn't occurred to me that someone could achieve academic success without a love of reading. We had been together for a few years before I noticed the absence of books.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 11:40 AM
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I still think it's a bad idea for men to choose partners based solely on things like looks, personality, and domestic/mothering abilities because beauty fades and children grow up. I see what you did there. ;-) Personality is at least as important as intelligence, to me. I agree with you otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/16 04:55 AM
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Would you necessarily choose a woman who wasn't working or had only the skills, education, or intellect to get a low-paying job? If I were a guy, I doubt I would. In the extremes, maybe. As someone with a degree in English Literature, should you be ruled out as a potential partner by high-earning men? I don't think so. Beyond a certain minimum family income, which means different things to different people, more money doesn't have enough impact on daily stress for it to matter if there is an inc…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/16 04:06 AM
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I have a secret for you : you know your wife, Maybe if she had something of value to go find in that office, she would? Think about that. This paragraph could stand on its own as one of the best, most concise comments I have ever seen in the red pill subs. Even /u/whinemoreplease would be proud of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 02:52 AM
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Frankly, I'd expect men to feel the same. If you're smart and successful, you want someone similar. Otherwise you 'll get bored or tired of carrying all the weight all the time. That comes across as undervaluing the contributions made at home. Let's divide your comment into income and intelligence. Income I don't care how much money my partner makes. My wife was a SAHM for a while, and that was fine with me. If she wants to work, then there has to be adequate income from her job to offset the ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/16 02:42 AM
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I've had a six pack a few times, and the most important thing is diet. If you're doing the big lifts, your core will be strong. Throw in ab rollouts, hanging leg raises, or planks and most people will be able to develop a six pack. Users in /r/fitness suggest weighted abdominal exercises or machines that provide resistance to build abdominal muscle bulk, but I don't have the experience. Most of my fitness knowledge is cardiorespiratory and nutrition. I'm not an expert in bodybuilding.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/16 08:56 PM
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I am currently stuck at 12-14% body fat If you're trying to maximize attractiveness to women in general, studies suggest 10-15% is the magic range, with maximum facial and body attractiveness at around 12%. Your own goals and your wife's individual preferences may vary, but most guys shouldn't be too preoccupied with getting below 10%.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/16 06:04 PM
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Low carb can definitely work, partly because people can comfortably take fewer calories on it. I've combined it with calorie counting and was able to drop below 10% body fat without being hungry. The best diet is a healthy one that you can stick to. If you're hitting your targets and staying healthy, then go for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/16 05:56 PM
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There's still some doubt about the red pill. There will be value in some of the content, and other parts won't apply. Some stuff is contradictory, because it's really just a giant set of observations of common behaviors from a bunch of random guys. Does it work? Do tools work? Most tools work, but you have to use the right tool for the job. I want to believe that I am connecting and communicating with her mind, that there's a rational person in there who will make a logically sound decision. Lov…
/r/askMRP06/03/16 04:26 AM
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You're always using both energy systems. "Anaerobic threshold" is helpful for training purposes, but is otherwise a worthless concept that just confuses people. Anaerobic is fast but aerobic is more efficient. Pushing your body toward the more efficient system is the goal. The "mitochondrial bypass cocktail" (my term) of creatine, alpha lipoic acid, and CoQ10 might do something in people with normal mitochondria, but the effects are small. All of these effects are obviously miniscule compared wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 10:00 PM
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Malic acid is a catalyst in the Krebs cycle, thus less lactate production and more efficient energy production. Citrulline is metabolized partly to arginine, which is a vasodilator. Arginine supplements get mopped up by your liver before hitting the bloodstream, so citrulline is basically a better arginine supplement. Citrulline also has a role in muscle recovery post-workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 09:41 PM
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My other new fav supplement is Citrulline. Has to be citrulline malate, otherwise it impairs performance. It adds several reps to your last set (multiple studies, here's one ). It's also a precursor to creatine and helps with erection hardness. Forget about the bound/unbound bullshit - it's marketing. For those of you who don't like supplements, citrulline is from watermelon and malic acid can be found in green apples, grapes, and some other fruit.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 09:00 PM
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Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 07:36 PM
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This isn't all for you, BPP, but some general observations about the bullshit I see here and at work: Killing the hamster is key. Too many guys explain away their unwillingness to cut calories by saying they don't want to lose their gainz. It's bullshit. (TL;DR - Adequate protein and adequate resistance training maintains muscle mass with up to a 40% calorie deficit.) The other common hamster excuse is socializing. I fucking love to drink - I'm Canadian for Christ's sake, but I rarely have alcoh…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 05:31 PM
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Wing Chung is fun Haven't tried it, but there's a Wing Chun place right by my house. Was thinking of enrolling with my son - trying to decide how old he should be before trying it. Any advice?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 04:34 PM
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My question is...what the fuck am I doing? Failing to acknowledge that this is your fault. I have no fucking clue how to game my wife. I realize recently how little I touch her. You fail to make her feel desirable. Why did she marry you in the first place? Were you like this when you met? she has had the i'm-not-attracted-to-you talk with me before You're failing to engage her body and mind. Look in the mirror - are you fuckable? Do you know how to flirt? How's your body language? Are you a poor…
/r/askMRP05/03/16 11:54 AM
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Agreed about the Book of Pook. I don't know how the message got all fucked up with the current incarnation of MGTOW. I feel no high when I lift, I am tired. I am exhausted. I am calm. I agree - except deadlift days. Deadlift PR or rep #50 in 5/3/1 BBB and I'm as high as I ever was when I was a runner. It is an old style Japanese art of the katana That probably ruined Kill Bill for you...
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/16 01:47 AM
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When I found MRP, there were already two women I knew of at work who were interested, and one of them was seriously interested. I didn't encourage it or discourage it, because I liked the attention and validation at the time (ie. was thinking like a loser.) Upgraded wardrobe, positive attitude, got physical fitness back, and now women at work compliment me all the time, some of them actively flirting. I'm not gaming them or flirting with them, only being a positive influence in the environment. …
/r/askMRP04/03/16 11:25 AM
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So, becoming the next Elliott Hulse? Going to build a gym for men where you talk masculinity? Maybe a Yo Elliott workshop or some cross promotion would be good when you get started. I enjoy your posts - good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 11:41 AM
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Forget dread - this situation calls for assertiveness and clear communication. Outline your vision. If you want to apply the sidebar books, then read WISNIFG and How to Win Friends and Influence People. A gross oversimplification of the interaction would be to acknowledge her desire, outline your vision for the family, and clearly state your bottom line without getting angry. She is entitled to want another child. You are entitled to not want another child. They are both reasonable positions for…
/r/askMRP02/03/16 11:29 AM
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I've said this in a previous thread of yours: You're making progress. The fact that you come in without a big ego makes a huge difference. It's hard being an introvert, sometimes. Extroverts come at you and your knee-jerk response is sometimes to find reasons to fend them off instead of embracing the opportunity to engage with the real world. It can be exhausting, but it's worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 02:07 AM
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That's right. I've said this many times in other threads, but initiation isn't when you say, "Let's go to bed." Always be closing. You're flirting and teasing and having fun with your wife throughout the day. Don't take crap from her, but don't be an ass either. Shit tests are foreplay. It's all foreplay. Join her in the shower and just walk away when you're done. Give her a passionate kiss and then go off to do something else. Do it because it's fun, not because of a desperate need to get laid …
/r/askMRP01/03/16 12:02 AM
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OP's the dude who wouldn't stop playing on his tablet and got chased around the house by an understandably angry wife. The shoe fits.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 07:05 PM
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And when are you "there" if prevailing advice is that "you're never there." The self-improvement part never stops. In terms of sex, if you're happy, then you're there. Her libido and enthusiasm will increase with a more attractive partner - AWALT. That doesn't mean that your wife is capable of satisfying you. This specific woman may have a libido that just isn't enough, maybe she's a bit selfish, maybe there's that particular thing that you like that she will never do with anyone. Accept that. T…
/r/askMRP29/02/16 01:29 PM
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That's why I summarized it! You might have missed Sadbeary's post history. He has had issues with poor insight in social situations. Teaching those skills to an adult isn't easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 12:37 PM
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Do you even read between the lines, bro? Jack and I are telling him to be a normal, gracious, friendly human being and go for coffee with the neighbour.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 12:17 PM
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TL;DR for /u/Sadbeary and the ESL crowd who don't want to read Jack's essay: Do you even friend, bro? Awkward introvert from MRP meets awkward extrovert neighbor, awkwardness ensues.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 11:26 AM
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What are you doing here doc. Was sleep deprived. Got lost and wandered in. I try not to get involved here, but I saw someone on my /r/friends list saying something interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/16 10:26 AM
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What I am trying to say is that if there are two trans-identified people, one born male and the other born female, the one who was born male has an easier medical and surgical road to an acceptable result and is more likely to go through with the physical transition.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/16 02:33 AM
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There's no place for the bad beta traits. In LTR, I have no use for bad alpha behaviors. I'm left with with the good beta and good alpha. We need both, but the right balance between those changes from person to person, depends on which domain of your life is being examined (bedroom, kitchen, kids, work, sports, etc), and changes over time. Work on the good alpha and good beta, eliminate the bad behaviors, and do it all within your frame. For example, if your wife's actions and words are telling …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 02:28 AM
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Many don't do that last step. One of my favorite patient encounters was with a woman who was is respiratory failure and needed diuretic medicine. We told her that we needed to put in a catheter to monitor urine output. She said, "It's okay, I can just pee in a bottle," and showed us her penis. It's much easier to make a neovagina than to build a penis. It's also pretty easy to raise a man's voice with laser, but lowering a woman's voice isn't possible AFAIK. From a technical perspective, male to…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/16 02:09 AM
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You married a 26 year old virgin and have a dead bedroom. There's a shock. You can make things better than they are, but don't go into this assuming that she's going to become a pornstar for you. Make yourself better, and she'll either come along or not. As for the porn addiction, the solution is pretty simple. The kids in pornfree mostly have the wrong idea. They see it as fighting an addiction. It becomes part of their identity. "Porn is an evil beast that I have to fight. I'm going to try to …
/r/askMRP28/02/16 05:42 PM
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6-12 months ago there was more satire. Now there is more outrage porn. I've received PMs from frequent posters and prominent users from thebluepill who apologized for their fellow users and complained about the direction the sub is going. As it shifts from satire to outrage porn, it also becomes less effective in its goal to take down the red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/16 11:59 AM
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This is tricky territory because we don't really understand the details of your situation. Take this with a grain of salt. I had one prior girlfriend who liked rough play during the daytime, especially at parties. She got off on it. She wanted me to say and do outrageous things so she could feign offended, slap me, and have me pull her close so she couldn't slap me again. She liked me to respond with a smirk or another smart-ass comment. It was like a bad movie. It was fun for a while, but I bro…
/r/askMRP24/02/16 04:19 AM
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I picked my major with a coin toss. Heads would have been chemistry. The sad part is that it took me a couple of weeks to realize what his username meant.... I might have have pickled a few too many brain cells with alcohol back then.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 01:52 AM
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You, sir, have the best username on MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 09:47 PM
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It's not paint by numbers. Read all the prerequisite books in the sidebar, get your physical fitness in order with lifting and nutrition, read the Book of Pook to get your mindset on track, and take your time making changes. Don't approach it as ways to get your wife to fuck you. Approach it as becoming an amazing and attractive human being. When you are amazing and attractive, either she'll want to fuck you or somebody else will. Post your questions in askMRP. When you've read the sidebar books…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 09:33 PM
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I don't buy into the alpha/beta dichotomy I don't even buy the red/blue dichotomy. MRP happens to be a reasonable approximation to how I do things. Some people like to say alpha=awesome and beta=weak. My understanding has been alpha=gets you laid and beta=doesn't. Good beta doesn't get you laid when gaming strange girls at the bar, but it may contribute to a stable relationship where you do get laid or a good reputation that will get you laid later on. The extension of the red pill into every as…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 08:56 PM
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Show affection on your terms, because you want to. If you love her and feel like saying it, then go for it. Don't say it because you're trying to get a specific reaction. If you respect her, then treat her with respect. If she's capable of pulling her weight, then give her the freedom and support to take on her share of the responsibilities. She should be complementary to you. When you are in your area of expertise and acting as Captain, treat her as the trusted First Officer and not a lowly ple…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 08:26 PM
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We will just have to agree to disagree then. I'm perfectly okay with that. Fair enough
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 08:11 PM
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It's the stuff of good, lasting relationships, even if it doesn't make her wet.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 07:53 PM
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The "good beta" traits are unnecessary for one night stands and pickup artists. Bad beta prevents you from getting laid. Both good and bad alpha get you laid. Keep it simple. Alpha = in-frame, Beta = not in frame. Why do you feel that it's necessary to change the terminology? The entire red pill thing is an offshoot of PUA. PUA uses alpha to be the alpha male characteristics and behaviors that get you laid and beta to be the shit doesn't get you laid. Frame is part alpha behavior, but it is not …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 07:49 PM
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I've been beta Chad and alpha Chad. Guys who think they've got shit locked down because they alpha'd up may find that their wife's emotional affair becomes a physical one. AWALT? No. It's his fucking fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 06:17 PM
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I used to get it backwards during PMS and try to comfort, relieve stress, appease the vicious beast. Now I'm mostly alpha during PMS and things are much better. That's one of the reasons I laugh at the guys who make posts when they're just a couple of months in. Try ovulation to ovulation, PMS to PMS, period to period. Take it a step further and see how things go when there's a crisis, then post a field report.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 06:15 PM
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There's good alpha and bad alpha, good beta and bad beta. It has been mentioned in many threads, but doesn't get spelled out very clearly in the sidebar. You've got to read between the lines to see it. Examples: Bad beta: covert contracts, physically unattractive, entitled Nice Guy TM Bad alpha: dark triad (high n-counts, but tumultuous, short, and unsatisfying LTRs), domineering/controlling behavior Good beta: listening and acknowledging partner's needs, working as team with complementary skill…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:53 PM
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Good plan. Great clickbait title, by the way.
/r/askMRP23/02/16 05:39 PM
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As an aside, I've got the opposite scenario: After second kid, wife doesn't like receiving oral as much. Cums from it easily, but she became self-conscious about it after childbirth. "It feels great, I always cum from it, but since we had kids it doesn't make me feel sexy like I feel when we have sex. I keep thinking about what it must have looked like when the kids were born. It makes me too self-conscious." It used to be one of her favorite activities, frequently requested. Our last kid is 3 y…
/r/askMRP23/02/16 05:08 PM
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Back to basics, man. The other responses in this thread have all been good. Now is the time to change things up. Mess around somewhere else in the house, tease, hop in the shower with her, whatever. You're both in a rut. It's your job to take control and fix that. A bit of OI wouldn't hurt, too.
/r/askMRP23/02/16 04:37 PM
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It depends on your bedroom dynamic and how you communicate. If you're dominant in the bedroom then you guide her with your body and your words. If she talks about sex when you're not in the midst of it, you could go with something like, "Babe, you give fantastic oral sex. You're so sexy, the way you do it, and it helps me last so I can satisfy you." You could also do what /u/TrainingTheBrain does and just fuck more often. I hate it when people try to keep score in the bedroom. Both of you are do…
/r/askMRP23/02/16 04:06 PM
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There's also a difference between the woman who's tagging along because she wants to be with her friends and the woman who's going to party and get blackout drunk. My wife goes on GNO, she may see some more attractive guys and be a bit disappointed when she compares me to them, but that's about it. Sure, if Idris Elba showed up and wanted to fuck her, she might go with him, but at this point I am realistically the best she can do. That's my frame. Yours can be whatever you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 07:23 PM
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Especially since many heart attacks are painless. This is what happens when universities demand a certain number of publications per year from their faculty.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/16 01:12 PM
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Thanks, brother. I don't want to be put on meds that may or may not kill my sex drive or turn me into a Zombie. So you'll just tolerate symptoms that wreck your entire life? STRICT adherence to the doctrine It's not a religion. There is no Pope of the red pill. There are common issues faced by men in sexual relationships with possible solutions found here, but there is not one right way of doing things. You need to spend a long time thinking, reading, and thinking some more. One of the cornersto…
/r/askMRP21/02/16 07:49 PM
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MRP likes to think it is its own little world with its own little rules. You realize that the TRP main sub is largely sexually inexperienced kids, right? You want something a bit more sensible from the TRP main sub, maybe a Vanguard contributor? How about this? You and /u/cegh are buried in the anger phase, fuelled by a victim mentality. /u/whinemoreplease and I don't agree on everything, but I think for both of us the victim mentality is our #1 pet peeve from guys on here. It's the most reliabl…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/16 11:09 AM
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In a more general sense, if she was already not satisfied with the relationship then she is more likely to branch swing when under stress. It could be not enough good alpha or not enough good beta behavior. If you're the asshole alpha fuck-buddy and good for nothing else, then she won't stay with you when you're sick and can't fuck. If you stop adding value to her life, then she looks elsewhere. If you're a whiny bitch when you're sick, then you disgust her. If she's a kind, understanding woman,…
/r/askMRP20/02/16 07:37 PM
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Thanks for responding. Yeah, WISNIFG is pretty tedious with all the examples. It's good stuff, though, especially when dealing with manipulative people. If you've another run at it, take your time and practice the techniques along the way to keep yourself interested. Your posts here have always been insightful. Glad things are still going well!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/16 04:13 AM
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It's a good start. You were the drunk captain. You talked about it - now STFU about it for a while so you can get your shit together. Read through the sidebar books, especially the prerequisites (MMSLP and WISNIFG) and the 12 stages of dread. Stop at dread level 5 until you aren't angry and you've got your shit together. MAP and the Book of Pook can help with that. Porn is a waste of time and energy, and for some people is addictive. /r/pornfree and yourbrainonporn.com have some useful stuff. If…
/r/askMRP19/02/16 11:52 PM
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So - ber? I'm unfamiliar with that word.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/16 10:32 PM
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Paging /u/livelikealesbian. The self-improvement part is universal. Strength training is good for both genders. Shedding the victim mindset and seizing control of your life is good for anyone. Body language, confidence, assertiveness, dealing with approach anxiety are all important. Some of the PUA stuff like the AWALT heuristic won't apply, but some of us heterosexual boys haven't much use for it anyway. Ultimately there are common patterns of behavior, but they're just patterns. All of this ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/16 08:49 PM
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More kids than you have hands. That's a logistical problem. You can end up joined at the hip to your wife for practical reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/16 01:59 PM
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You're absolutely right. That's why I got my vasectomy. My wife's physical issues, her near-abusive behavior peri-partum, and my thoughts of filing divorce papers were concerns, but dammit I don't want to stand around with screaming kids waiting for half an hour for a table at Denny's! I want my Moons Over My Hammy!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/16 01:22 PM
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This is a red pill sub. You haven't said anything about your marriage, whether your relationship with your wife is a good example for the kids, is she a good partner, how does she handle pregnancy, and a hell of a lot of stuff that's way more important than fitting cars seats in your Fiat or having to wait longer for tables at restaurants. Experience advice requested. Flesh out your post with stuff that matters in making this decision. This decision is way too complex for us to answer for you. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/16 12:42 PM
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Most women aren't this shitty, but when women are shitty partners, then branch swinging during a partner's illness is one of the things that happens. Alpha widow is a different concept. It's the idea that a woman who has been with someone more attractive than you may treat you like shit because you don't measure up to her expectations.
/r/askMRP19/02/16 12:17 PM
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I've had dreams about the same woman every night for the past couple of nights. Don't read too much into it. It's what you do while you're awake that matters. Freud said, "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar."
/r/askMRP19/02/16 12:02 PM
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Have thrown knives while drunk. Not recommended. They bounce back at you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 10:03 PM
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Acknowledge the shit you haven't got sorted and outline your current plan. Everything else is optional. Some people put bold headings for "shit I'm owning" or whatever. If it helps the reader to parse the post, then go for it, but it's not necessary. If you post there regularly, then include updates on this issues you sorted out. There's no room for the victim mentality or playing helpless. That thread is for people who are making an effort to take control of their lives. Whether it's sex, work,…
/r/askMRP18/02/16 09:49 PM
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It was on the Reddit front page a while back.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 09:25 PM
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machete throwing That's a thing?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 09:17 PM
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There is a difference between having a gender neutral approach to a child and pushing a child toward a different or more neutral gender role to which they are not predisposed. When my son was two, he liked to play with his sister's Barbie dolls like his older sister. IDGAF. Within a few months, with no prompting or guidance from me, his play with those dolls changed. Instead of tea party, he'd pick up a Barbie, hand one to me, and say, "Wanna fight?" I didn't know he even knew the word - must've…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 06:25 PM
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There are many options. First is labeling the emotion or acknowledging the grain of truth behind her request. For example, "I understand that you feel that X takes priority. I think it's important, too. I have ordered Y so that I can do it right the first time. I've got this." You could add negative inquiry, but it's not easy to do that without slipping into her frame when you're starting out.
/r/askMRP18/02/16 05:12 PM
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I simply said I already told you my plan 20 minutes ago, if you had concerns you should have brought them up then, not waited until I was done to bitch about how I did it. Read WISNIFG and How to Win Friends and Influence People. Nobody wins an argument, especially when it's all "you" statements. Fogging, negative assertion, negative inquiry, self-disclosure (that means "I" statements) are what was needed. STFU is what you do when you would otherwise say the wrong thing. STFU makes it less likel…
/r/askMRP18/02/16 04:52 PM
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Don't try to increase the weight if your squat form is sketchy. Post a form check video to /r/fitness or /r/weightroom. Consider reading Starting Strength for the form cues. If you have access to a strength and conditioning coach (colleges are good) then get a real form check. Deload the press and the squat some more if you have to. At this point you may have to consider fractional plates for OHP. An extra set of collars can work. If fixing your form doesn't fix the problem, then deload some mor…
/r/askMRP18/02/16 01:51 AM
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He should be pissed that she violated a covert contract? He needs to set boundaries and teach her to do the same.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 01:28 PM
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Meh, my wife has been to more strip clubs than I have. She suggested the one I went to for my stag... and she was right.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 12:45 PM
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This needs more upvotes. The advice in this thread is shit.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 12:41 PM
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I agree that she's not cheating, but that kind of boundary violation tells me that she lacks assertiveness skills, is codependent, and may be the sort of girl who gets off on drama.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 12:40 PM
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Encourage her to set better boundaries with her boss. Great answer. /u/redpiller002, hand her a copy of WISNIFG. If she's not getting time-and-a-half for babysitting her boss after hours, then it's a boundary violation. It's not her fucking job. Has she been the type of girl who loves to save lost puppies and tortured souls? Is that your story, OP?
/r/askMRP17/02/16 12:18 PM
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Read more about codependency and WISNIFG from the MRP sidebar - it's a classic text on assertiveness. Self-esteem is all about feedback loops that can build you up or tear you down.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 06:15 PM
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Laughing at her shit tests may be the issue, then. Don't take manipulative language at face value, but don't completely ignore it either. The key is to understand the underlying message. Acknowledge any morsel of truth (fogging, negative assertion) and address the real reason she's giving you a hard time. If it's a foreplay shit test and you laugh it off, then it's a missed opportunity and you're killing your own sex life. It is possible to take IDGAF overboard.
/r/askMRP15/02/16 04:04 PM
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You might benefit from the same books. You're a sitting duck for some of the common problems we see here. TRP can make you fear marriage, but it can work if you've got your shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 02:55 PM
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Listen, /u/itaewonfreedom, you're right that convincing your dad to jump into the red pill is a pipe dream. Stonepimpletilists has given a good piece of advice about the sidebar books. NMMNG should be the first one. Second would be WISNIFG. If you can't afford to buy the books, then torrent the PDF's. I wouldn't show him MMSLP, Practical Female Psychology, or the other red pill stuff until you see him applying some of the skills from the first two books. And FFS, get him to fix his body, his war…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 12:37 PM
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keep my distance sexually for the most part You might be surprised at how often you were initiating for the wrong reasons, but when you really do want sex, then game your wife and see what happens. Use actions though, not words, at least for now.
/r/askMRP14/02/16 03:01 PM
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You've got to be kidding - a neuro guy with dystonia? That's fucked up.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 02:41 PM
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I'll look into those - thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 02:36 PM
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I know the red pill is about sexual strategy, but I don't want to hear about anyone's 4 hour erection. You fuckers are on your own.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 02:34 PM
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Take your time, read the books in the MRP sidebar and the 12 Stages of Dread linked in the wiki (stop at stage 5 for a while until you get your bearings.) Go slow with any changes, except for the things that you can't compromise to maintain your self-respect. Don't push for sex. Don't negotiate for sex. You're not attractive enough yet, but you'll get there. For now, initiate only when you want sex, and always have a backup plan in case she isn't into it. Whether that's rolling over and going to…
/r/askMRP14/02/16 11:05 AM
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It wouldn't hurt to read No More Mr Nice Guy and When I Say No I Feel Guilty from the MRP sidebar, but you've got more issues than just that.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 12:56 AM
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I laughed out loud when I read that. Nicely timed.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/16 10:56 PM
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l33t hax0rs don't mate guard on Instagram. did i over-react? Are you fucking kidding me? Story time My son, when he was 2, had an annoying habit. If someone approached his Batman toy, he would yell and scream. "No! My Batman!" We tried to tell him we didn't want his Batman toy, but he wouldn't believe it. He figured everyone was out to get his Batman toy, and he was ready to defend it with his last breath. Every time, there would be an angry foot stomp, yelling, and arms swinging. When people mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/16 10:54 PM
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It's the toughest book in the sidebar, but in many ways is the most important. Learn the techniques and practice them. Keep practicing until it is second nature. Being able to establish healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself effectively, and not let people get to you will change your life.
/r/askMRP13/02/16 09:26 PM
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The oldest teenager thing is from PUA. It works for getting some women into bed, but it works best with women who want license be irresponsible and enables shitty behavior even among good women.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/16 05:17 PM
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Grasshopper: I'm a karate savant. I want to master the crane kick! Miyagi-jackten: You don't know shit about karate. Wax the fucking car. Great post Jack, but did you need to burst our neurotypical bubbles? You're demanding a lot of introspection from us on a Saturday morning.
/r/askMRP13/02/16 01:23 PM
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The knowledge that all humans are driven by emotions and rational thought is only a post hoc reasoning process Understanding more about the inner motives of people's acting, helped me to interact with them more successfully. You've got it! There are many posters looking for a cookbook approach to life. They take all of the good and bad red pill content literally, like the "men are logical" bullshit. Nobody's driven primarily by logic - we're all a bunch of fucking animals. You're learning how to…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/16 08:13 AM
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I think I've been in the anger phase pretty much the majority of my life Usually goes with blaming others for your problems. Ditch the victim mentality. I have my doubts that anything I say will help, since people with anger issues are extremely resistant to behavior modification. Are you going to prove me wrong? I can't shut it when people say things that are so blatantly ridiculous.. and self serving.. and manipulative.. Read and apply WISNIFG. Beyond that, you need maturity and social skills …
/r/askMRP13/02/16 08:05 AM
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May your wife rest in peace.
/r/askMRP13/02/16 01:02 AM
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You're reacting to her behavior. My vote is always for gifts of activities over stuff. Do something that will enhance your lives and your relationship or don't do anything at all, but don't cancel Valentines day because she hurt your feelings. Deal with the reason that you're butthurt and move on. Men are more attractive than sulking children.
/r/askMRP12/02/16 07:04 PM
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Drunk again? I worry about you, man.
/r/askMRP12/02/16 07:01 PM
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Average is 4.5-4.8" circumference mid-shaft and 5.25-5.5" BPEL (erect length measured across the top with measuring tape/stick pressed against the pubic bone.) Circumference is much more important for condom sizing than length. If you're over around 5.5" circumference then you would do well to buy your condoms online. Edit: and if your measurements aren't an exaggeration, then you could consider visiting /r/bigdickproblems for advice on foreplay and positions for PIV sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/16 05:52 AM
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As far as unable to give non sexual affection, BS. Its not that hard, she doesn't have to self lubricate to hug you . Therefore, she doesn't want to give you that affection. OP, this is the key point. You still seem to think that sex is the problem. The problems here are much bigger than SSRI effects on libido. She doesn't find you appealing, and not just in a sexual way. Depression might be part of it, but I wouldn't count on it. Are women hitting on you regularly? If not, then you're the probl…
/r/askMRP11/02/16 08:18 PM
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Be attractive - passive dread. (Suits the word "dread" only for the neurotic spouse, since it is really just being attractive) This post from /u/jacktenofhearts might clarify passive dread for you. Don't be unattractive - OI If you're going to bitch and whine when things don't go your way, then you will be unfuckable. OI doesn't make you attractive, but it's a sign that you've got a full life, some self-esteem, and that you are no longer defining your self-worth by her reactions to you. OI is ab…
/r/askMRP11/02/16 03:54 PM
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The fact is that passive aggression and other overtly manipulative behavior causes more problems than it solves. That's why one of the prerequisite books in the sidebar, WISNIFG, is a classic text on assertiveness. Please read it before you give any more advice on this sub.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 03:38 PM
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Doesn't matter too much. What matters is whether her perception of her previous partners leads her to be a bad partner to you.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 07:42 PM
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It depends on age. To me, under 5-10 is low for a woman in her 20's. But again, the number matters much less than nature of her previous relationships and partners, and her character.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 06:06 PM
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How do you MRPers handle these? I ignore them. Text for logistics or if you have something funny to say. YMMV on the text game advice in MMSLP. I suggest reading about it elsewhere in the red pill.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 05:05 PM
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I felt the same way when I was angry with my wife, but they're all on a level playing field now. It's a different kind of love, but it's not "less than" the love for my kids. To each his own.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 04:26 PM
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It's not just the writing style. Jack's a chameleon, in that way. It's his ability to go from the tiniest detail to the big picture from a completely different perspective than most people. Both of them also wrote content that resonated with me, putting into words the things that I have felt and believed all along, and often showing me things that are completely new. If I end up leaving my current workplace for one with fewer hours, I'm going to compile the Book of jacktenofhearts as a companion…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 04:24 PM
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I still think there is a small chance that you are actually Pook.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 01:12 PM
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"you treat her better than me", ... "you love your kids more than me" Grain of truth, or is she totally off the deep end? One of my best friends is married to a terrific girl. Child of divorce, dad's messed up, brother's messed up, but she is fantastic. Unless she drinks. When I think of shit tests, when I think of unsympathetic, nasty, vicious harpies, I think of her when she's drunk. Does she have any insight into her drunken behavior the day after these events? Any chance she's going to cut i…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 10:59 AM
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Minor technical point - slap lower down on her butt. It almost takes an upward motion. If you slap too high up then it hurts. Was there ever a point in your relationship where she liked getting her ass slapped?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 04:32 AM
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All of her friends and family are going to ask her what you did for Valentine's day. They'll ask about the gift, the meal, everything. Her social network is extremely important to her. It's not a gift for her personally. It's not romance. It's making sure that she isn't embarrassed. Find your own solution to this dilemma. Here's mine: Every year, my wife and I agree that we will not get each other anything for Valentine's day. We will have activities and crafts for the kids and maybe a little pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 10:28 PM
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Shhh, don't tell OP that Elmo's Muppeteer is a big black dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 10:13 PM
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I agree. My post originally went on about my wife's understanding of football and enthusiasm for men's MMA and other sports, but I didn't want to rub it in. Maybe I'm just lucky, but she doesn't care about the player's wives or the color of the uniforms. She does expect the male athletes to have attractive bodies and likes to watch the good looking ones, but that's just biology.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 08:00 PM
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PMS was a problem in my relationship for over 14 years. In the past year it has become the most fun part of her cycle. The key was not getting sucked into the drama (holding frame). Seeing it for what it is allows you to calm down and enjoy the ride. I don't belittle her for having irrational thoughts once a month, I just don't take it too seriously. When I am her calm emotional center, she can use my strength to get her mind right.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 07:55 PM
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Deep? Are you tongue-fucking her? If she likes penetration with it, then use your fingers and massage her G-spot. Otherwise work on technique with your tongue. Keep it soft. Lots of spit, maybe even lube if she takes a while to cum. Maybe watch Nina Hartley's how to video or something (too slow an approach for my wife, but the sex subreddit loves that video, YMMV).
/r/askMRP08/02/16 06:52 PM
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I ask her if she knows who is playing. The names had been up on the screen several times, as well as the team logos. "Isn't it the....um...somebodys and the somebodys...?" NAWALT. My 5 year old daughter knew who was playing and was cheering through the whole thing. The only problem was that she was cheering for the Panthers, the little traitor.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 06:02 PM
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vaginismus it's always either starfish or tries her hardest to make me cum as quickly as possible She got over the physical part, but the mental part remains. I agree with /u/Sepean that you should read SGM again. The dirty talk could work for or against you. It's hard to predict. My wife was raised in a sex-negative environment, but she goes crazy for dirty talk. Others might clamp shut. You should also read some of /u/TrainingTheBrain's blog, particularly this post. Shame is a difficult thing …
/r/askMRP08/02/16 11:16 AM
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General Comment What makes LTR healthier than a period of plate spinning, other than risk of STI? How do you plan to vet women without dating a few? The experience helps you to develop relationship skills and helps you to better understand what you really want in a woman. The red pill is not a substitute for experience, but a set of tools that you can customize to your own personality and vision of the life that you want. Read the Book of Pook. It's free, and it's the best book in the sidebar to…
/r/askMRP07/02/16 01:33 PM
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You're the guy who was trying to rationalize dropping $100 on a slot machine, right? Have you read any of the sidebar books? NMMNG, WISNIFG, MAP are mandatory. She's not following your lead because you don't know how to set boundaries. Even worse, you haven't earned the right to set boundaries. It's fitting that /u/TrainingTheBrain has the top post in this thread because his blog has a theme, "Man up." MAC filter the PS4 off my home wifi That's passive aggressive bullshit. Read WISNIFG, practice…
/r/askMRP05/02/16 12:47 AM
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I disagree. Being assertive useful for most people most of the time. Of course you can't use some of the techniques in extreme situations, but they're rare. Assertive people get ahead - always have. If you haven't had a chance, read WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 11:04 PM
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Keep us posted when you've had a chance to read it and compare. If this book has something to add, then it might be sidebar material.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 11:02 PM
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Does it add anything not found in WISNIFG other than the journal?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 10:14 PM
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This chick is using you to make her own portfolio. Or flirting, hard to say. That's less of a problem right now than the fact that he's using her for validation. If it were just a fun pastime without a covert contract with his wife, then it would be fine. The only real downside is if the photos get used in a bad way. I'm in some stock photos - no big deal unless someone uses them to promote something I don't approve of.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 04:48 PM
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Men can't get sick. If you lean on her unnecessarily, whine, and bitch about being sick, then she'll be disgusted by you. If you take it like a man, then she'll continue to see you as a man rather than a dependent weakling. You handled it well. hands me some medicine and asks if I'm OK The answer is always yes. If she really wants to know then she'll ask again. It's like when someone says, "Hi. How are you?" The answer is, "Fine, thanks," even if someone just chopped off your arm. If they want t…
/r/askMRP04/02/16 03:51 AM
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If you get banned then there will be less fun to be had.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/16 05:55 PM
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Check hyperreal's flair. Whisper does that kind of thing all the time with bloopers who wander in, but usually only once or twice in a thread. Vamp was kinda beating it to death - comedic repetition, Family Guy style.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/16 05:41 PM
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I've said it before and I'll say it again, one of the best moves for a woman to counter the red pill strategies is to apply them herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/16 05:17 PM
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Amused mastery?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/16 05:12 PM
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Steve Buscemi Poor /u/bekazzled, nobody shares her taste in men. :-( Attractiveness is obvious at the extremes, though I personally don't get the Zac Efron one. I would have labeled him average face and muscular body. Many guys who can make a spreadsheet of "HB" scores for women just see other guys as hot, average, or ugly, with a vast majority being called average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/16 09:12 PM
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We have a similar scale when it comes to men. We should cruise for dudes together. I'll be your wingman, Professor Jigglypuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/16 08:50 PM
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First guy hot, second guy average. I don't know many guys who look like guy #1. Listen, if it's Idris Elba then yeah, he's obviously hot, but for me the male hotness scale goes something like this: 1 - disfigured 2 - unattractive, eg. average schizophrenic panhandler 5 - probably 90% of men 9/10 - <5% of men, maybe closer to top 1-2% I personally don't rate attractiveness on a scale, but this is my best approximation. For at least 90% of the guys out there, I would say "average." I don't speak f…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/16 08:09 PM
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Why are women able to notice when a woman possesses good looks? Some can. Others think that Sarah Jessica Parker is attractive...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/16 07:04 PM
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He's talking about calories, not mass. Fat 1188 kcal (~8.8 kcal/g) Protein 780 kcal (~4 kcal/g) Carbs 220 kcal (~4 kcal/g)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 05:48 PM
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Agreed. My favorite part of Reddit is when someone with a funny and slightly disturbing username says something insightful.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/16 05:18 PM
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You might be going a little to too hard, especially when she's pregnant. Hard to judge from a few lines of text. Just be aware.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 04:46 PM
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This is the best answer, and I'd like to expand on it a bit. OP has read sidebar material but isn't yet familiar with some of the basics of shit tests and comfort tests. It's dangerous to suddenly change how you interact with people, especially your wife, especially when she's pregnant. If you don't understand her reactions to the changes you are making, then it's even worse. Go slow with some of the changes, especially during her pregnancy. You can't suddenly go from apologies every second word…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 04:02 PM
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You're probably not there yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 03:50 PM
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Weird shit like that happens more easily on low carb. Your muscles and brain work best with carbs on board. Keto is usually better suited to cutting. I'm with the Count here that some stretching and/or meditation would be a good way to cool off. You used the porn and alcohol to escape. Don't escape, just notice the emotions and let them wash over you, especially when those emotions are a response to her. Your frame is getting better overall, but this was definitely a moment of weakness. You are …
/r/askMRP02/02/16 03:31 PM
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DEER, hamster, pussy, cock. Welcome to the farm!
/r/askMRP02/02/16 03:18 PM
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Orgasm control can be easily learned through having sex with a real woman. The most basic texts on sex therapy have plenty of tips if you're having trouble. Like I said, develop your own MAP. I've been interested in meditation, self-hypnosis and other feats of mental awareness since childhood. To me the value of NoFap is illustrated by the obesity epidemic. Male orgasm is nice but not necessary, while food is necessary for our survival. Most people in the western world have never been hungry, bu…
/r/askMRP02/02/16 02:53 PM
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I don't find men attractive and therefore find almost every man "average." insecurity and navel-gazing are a waste of mental effort a man only has to be above a certain threshold of attractiveness to a given woman in order to have a chance, and everything else is related to personality/charm/game what different men and women find attractive is so variable that these threads become completely meaningless
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/16 01:23 PM
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You develop your own plan for how you want to live your life, both on a grand scale and moment to moment. If you think that spending time jerking off is a good way to develop yourself into a better man, then go ahead. Self-discipline is cultivated through practice. If you are already highly disciplined and you have time to spare for jerking off, then again, go ahead. Porn is a shitty form of escapism. For many guys, fapping is too. Doing a "90 day challenge" or something of the sort will help yo…
/r/askMRP01/02/16 06:36 PM
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But in the meantime, I'll just continue doing me and working on my own shit. That's the perfect response.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 05:43 PM
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I'm just a single neckbeard troll too busy fucking my own hand. Was Trump giving another speech? Seriously though, the Friends feature and flair are fantastic ways to filter through to the good stuff. The guys who consistently post good content also respond in the kinds of threads that we should be reading. New users sometimes have good things to say, and sometimes it's shit. The easiest way to filter is to see which posts caught the attention of guys who you think have some good insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 02:30 PM
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Her pill is higher estrogen: maintains or increases libido causes nausea and headache if too much estrogen shouldn't have much impact on mood, but YMMV Rash would be unusual. She should see an allergist if it doesn't resolve off the pill. So what does this mean for /u/Ive_Had_Enuf? She might be more pleasant when she's not vomiting, but his wife being off the pill won't solve any of his other problems.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 01:50 PM
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I have to give you some credit here - many guys aren't able to put aside their egos and face the kind of harsh criticism that you've heard today.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 04:01 AM
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I'm curious, though, how you got the the the conclusion that "This is a traumatized woman" Just an impression from the combination of what he had said. Traumatized may or may not be an exaggeration, but with vaginismus it is often the case. Could be molestation, rape, PTSD, anxiety, whatever, but there is usually a psychological component and it's often something that affects life in other ways too.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 05:24 PM
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Prone masturbation is controversial. Some people link it to traumatic masturbatory syndrome, but that's more of a issue for men. More likely in this case is that the interplay between tension and relaxation is messed up. She needs to get off any booze or drugs. Some of the issue is emotional/psychological, and some is physical. If she gets her mental state in order, then she might benefit from biofeedback and pelvic floor training.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 04:53 PM
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She only masturbates 1 every two weeks or so, and it random times right before she goes to the bathroom and a very peculiar manner she has done since childhood. Care to elaborate?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 04:41 PM
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vaginitis vaginismus The vaginismus, alcohol abuse and anxiety are all linked. His codependency and cluelessness are feeding into it. He's not anywhere close to the point where inspiring lust would be helpful. This is a traumatized woman who needs individual therapy. Hopefully she trusts him enough that she'll seek treatment when he brings it up. Edit: You made a good general point. My response was to this specific situation. He can build the skills to be The Oak, which may help her issues to re…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 04:28 PM
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Before Pook, read the Wikipedia article on codependency linked in my response. Then you might consider WISNIFG. Re-read Pook later. It would also be worth scanning through posts and submissions by /u/jacktenofhearts, maybe "friending" him and following his posts. Forget about dread right now. You've got a lot of work to do before you can reach the stage where any of that could possibly make sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 02:57 PM
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TL;DR: (because you've taken a superficial approach to life so far) You are defining success and failure by her reactions and behavior. You don't do red pill stuff to fix one relationship, you do it to fix your relationship skills and optimize your sexual strategy. Find happiness for yourself, not for her. She can follow or not. I have taken some time to read the side bar, NMMNG, and MMSLP Fine start, but what you need right now is WISNIFG and this post about comfort tests. At this point you are…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 02:06 PM
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It's okay to not initiate for a while. Outcome independence on sexual rejection in LTR/marriage seems difficult at first, but isn't that hard in retrospect. Consider: Do you initiate only when you want sex, or sometimes for poor reasons? Nothing better to do? It's been a while? She usually says yes after a massage? Because you did something nice for her? Because she happens to be beside you in bed? Initiate only when you want sex. "No" means "not right now" If you have nothing else to do other t…
/r/askMRP28/01/16 02:09 PM
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Only you know what the dealbreakers are. Like anything else, you've got to earn the respect, the trust, and the sex. I'd start with this post from /u/TrainingTheBrain at the Family Alpha and after that read his post on "keeping the gag on the table." STFU isn't literal and all-encompassing. You have to communicate and listen well but you have to be honest with yourself when you do and not be a bitch about it. Help her to shed the shame around sex. That means you can't shame her, even for her sic…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 02:58 AM
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Should have linked it. Here it is. TL;DR - There is good alpha and bad alpha, good beta and bad beta. Don't accept mediocrity. Through self discipline and a clear vision, you can build a satisfying life for yourself and your family. You don't need to coerce, cheat, lie, steal, or beg. You just need to man up and people will want to join in your vision. Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. Details in the blog. My two cents to add to what's in the blog: It's not a day trip, vacation, or pastime. …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 02:38 AM
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Before I was married I had a robust and varied sex life. With her or with someone else? If it was with her, then what has changed in the interim other than the ring on her finger? Is there kino? Are you positive? Fun to be around? Do you dress well? Are you fit? Are you watching porn or doing other stuff that messes with your mind? How about her? Any barriers to good sex? If sex with her has always been vanilla, then it's a longer road and will take more communication and patience. Read /u/Train…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 01:03 AM
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Never fucking underestimate the hold that the biological clock has on women. NEVER! They become totally irrational in that state, lol... You're absolutely right. Weird stuff goes on when women are fertile. When she started finding me more attractive again, she started forgetting to take the pill, but only if we had sex mid-cycle. I had thought Athol Kay was full of shit about it, but he was right. Our bodies and minds are vehicles for the propagation of DNA molecules, nothing more. That was my p…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 05:18 PM
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Thanks. Relationships are complicated. It's amazing how much a person's behavior can change depending on the circumstances. Her father is the stereotypical Nice Guy and her mother is abusive toward him. She has always identified with her father, but at the same time uses him and doesn't respect his inability to stand up for himself. As my behavior started to seem more like her father's, her behavior naturally became a hybrid of herself and her mother. There were other driving factors as well, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/16 07:26 AM
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I was just arguing with someone over the existence of the "burden of performance." This makes me rethink my position. It's definitely a thing. The experiences of sex and relationships are very different for men and women. Men usually are either unaware of why their relationships are dysfunctional or they understand their failings and aren't comfortable talking about it. Either way, you'll never hear about it because men talking about their problems is considered petty, pathetic, and unattractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/16 11:45 PM
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All of RP points to this being the ideal model MRP yes, but not TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/16 11:06 PM
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Yeah, but not in the fun way. ;-) Here's an example: When my wife and I were first trying to conceive, she was keen to maximize our chances. That meant sex precisely every second day from a week prior to ovulation until a couple of days after. After an 80+ hour work week I was feeling unwell and awoke with a headache. My wife stepped out of the bathroom with an ovulation test strip and the announcement that we had to have sex right then. I told her that I wasn't feeling well and proposed having …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/16 10:50 PM
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Agreed. In my particular case Captain/First Officer applies to my areas of strength and interest and the reverse applies in other domains. That was the natural state of our relationship in the beginning. We provided and received input from one another without interfering or stepping on each other's toes. Behaving and appearing less attractive was enough for her to treat me poorly, and fixing myself was enough to restore her to being a good partner. I hope it lasts. The notion that one person sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/16 09:41 PM
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Not one of the downvoters, but I'm going to respond anyway. The evilness comes into play when one person tries to coerce/manipulate/force the other into this type of relationship when they don't want it. Many of the guys started reading and implementing red pill strategies because they felt forced into it by their partners, myself included. If my wife hadn't become angry, entitled, and borderline abusive then I wouldn't have found any use for the red pill, and probably would have seen it as an e…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/16 08:01 PM
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Feminist lies! I guess that makes me a feminist. Think the boys will kick me out of the treehouse? End of fucking story! indeed That's pretty funny. I quoted you in the last line, and you responded to the quote of yourself. That means you've had the last word three times in one thread... The streak ends now!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 12:22 AM
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Snark aside, are there studies that support what you're saying? Not my specialty, but I did come across a study of ~3000 female sexual assault victims that noted higher risk of anogenital injury with object insertion than penile insertion. I assume that the objects were not usually meant for penetrative sex, so the difference wouldn't be surprising. My statement mostly comes from comments that I have heard from women who have experienced a man thrusting a dildo and thrusting a penis, either vagi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 12:02 AM
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Considering all the hateful (misogynistic?) things said about women on the red pill subs, I'm gonna set the bar pretty high on that one. That's a nice example of one of the problems created by the red pill-related subs, including the blue pill. Misogyny and misandry create and reinforce one another. Psychology Today is a throwaway rag, but the first bullet point in the article is accurate. This place can make women hate men. So what exactly was misandrist about wanting a guy who is pressuring a …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/16 09:17 PM
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Any man inclined to pressure a woman for anal should let her peg him first with a life-size dildo. Even r/sex wouldn't let you get away with that kind of hyperbole. If he wants to put a dildo in her ass, then he should be willing to consider having a dildo in his so he knows what it's about, but a penis isn't the same. Whether it's PIV or anal, the tactile feedback and physical control of a penis makes things much safer and less likely to be painful, as long as the guy isn't drunk, high, or stup…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/16 03:10 PM
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Agreed Failure in leadership. If it's his plan, then it's his job to provide resources and empower the crew to execute the plan. Either the meal plan is made of recipes that she can easily handle or he provides the instruction and support to enable her to do something new. He just fucked off into the garage and felt good about getting revenge for all the times she hurt his feelings. Failure of communication. Recipes not properly laid out. No clarification provided. She was asking him for explici…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 02:45 PM
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Can confirm - was that guy for the first half of high school. I could recognize girls flirting with other guys easily, but with me girls had to take their clothes off before I'd take a hint.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 02:21 PM
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TL;DR r/relationships (victim mentality) + (crab bucket) = (no progress) r/marriedredpill (man up) - (need for external validation) = (happiness) /u/whinemoreplease's criticism is that OP is still seeking external validation to some extent. I'd say that OP's mindset is in order and it sounds like he's on the right path. Edit: spelling
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 01:13 PM
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Another nice post. Your girl does not want to hear that “you don’t know what you want to eat” or that “you don’t care” what you plan to do this weekend. This was big one for my wife. I thought it made sense to ask her what she wanted since I was up for anything. I was wrong. Decisions that don't matter to me will still fall on my plate if they affect her in any way. I happily consider her input if she feels strongly about a decision, but it is my responsibility to take the lead because it matter…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/16 02:14 AM
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You two are a couple of fucking drama queens. Get some therapy for yourself. If you don't, then she should divorce you. Encourage her to get therapy. If she doesn't, then you should divorce her. Do not fuck this woman without effective contraception. If you're incapable of introspection then make your next post in askMRP - this sub is for grown-ups.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/16 01:35 AM
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Definitely true for my wife. Maybe that's why she responds so well when I talk dirty...
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 08:27 PM
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TRP promotes a male-dominated relationship because the red pill is for optimizing male sexual strategy. It's not for some noble societal cause. It's not for the happiness of women. Many women happen to like being with a dominant man, and that's great. Many "traditional" relationships flourish, which is also great, but those benefits are not the purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/16 09:14 PM
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If it's an anxiety problem then get her treated. If she's just introverted and it's a deal breaker then state your expectations and give her opportunities to improve.
/r/askMRP20/01/16 08:01 PM
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Looks good to me!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 03:36 PM
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thatonemarriedguy /u/thatothermarriedguy's last post was about a month ago. introduction posts or acting if somehow their situation is unique Some of them definitely have that special snowflake flavor, like that guy who tried to convince us that he and his LTR were both 10/10 unicorns with nothing to learn. But I wouldn't discount every guy with an intro. Context is important when giving advice, otherwise we could just have a bot that tells guys, "STFU, lift, read the sidebar, individualize the …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 01:49 PM
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Both men and women have fantasies. Both have some that they would like to see enacted, and others that are good as fantasy alone. Rape fantasies are an excellent example. It's a common fantasy that women do not want to experience in real life. They are aroused by some of the feelings around it, but experiencing it in real life would be traumatic. Group sex with multiple men (and sometimes women) is another very common fantasy for women. Some actually want it, others like the feeling of being des…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 09:44 AM
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It is, especially when she says, "Daddy, do two more!" Who could say no to that?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 02:29 AM
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seeing my daughter come out and grab her 15 lb kettlebell to workout like Daddy Going to get the pink dumbbells for my daughter soon. She's watched me in the gym doing 5/3/1 often enough that when she asked for mini marshmallows the other day she asked for "five plus." She wants a barbell and dumbbells of her own now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 02:06 AM
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My wife and I have a few drinks and watch Die Hard 1 & 2 every Christmas. Kids shouldn't stop you from doing the important things in life.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 11:01 PM
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Posting your failures with your analysis of how things went wrong is very useful. Most of the successful guys do it mentally, but putting your own failures and plan of action on display for others to criticize forces you to get your thinking straight. I've done it with my worst failures and found it to be very useful. Success rate is impossible to say because most people are lurkers and the ones who stop posting don't provide exit interviews. There are plenty of career betas who have found fulfi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 08:11 PM
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It's inevitable that a portion of guys in a forum like this will feel the need to flex their new muscles and show off how alpha they can be. Some of the guys here have been subjected to some awful stuff by their wives. In other cases the aggressive tone seems like the only way to get through to a guy who's doing something stupid. Even some of the most level-headed guys like /u/jacktenofhearts or /u/enfier will be set off sometimes. The culture is a locker room with the boys, not a support group …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 01:59 PM
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Your approach was cautious and she probably thought it was fun, but it doesn't provide much help for the guys who actually put their dicks in crazy. I dated a crazy chick in high school who started making up stories about miscarried pregnancies and rapes by ex boyfriends. The stories were clearly fake and I was able find proof. If I had broken up with her the wrong way, I'm sure she would have made similar accusations about me. Meeting with a crazy girl is fine. Fucking one is dangerous. Plating…
/r/TheRedPill18/01/16 08:31 PM
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If I had been dumped by the women I had really wanted to marry then that might have been true. I married my wife because she was the right person for me. Our personalities clicked in a way that I had never experienced before. Her values, sense of humor, interests, and many other aspects of who she is worked in a way that made us complementary partners. The idea that I should have married the most sexually arousing girlfriend is absurd. I didn't love the prettiest ones the way I love my wife. Mar…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 12:00 PM
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Someone who can't keep up with normal banter can't hold my attention. If she's socially inept and takes everything literally, she will be too boring for a relationship of any kind. Dual mating strategy is not exclusive to women. I'm an alpha widower. I've been with some very attractive girls, but I married someone whose personality clicked with mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/16 01:22 AM
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It depends on the woman. If she's got girlfriends and family that she talks to about things like that, then you don't need to provide as much beta comfort in that respect. If not then she might find herself spending more time talking to beta orbiters if you don't listen. If you're all alpha then there's always the risk of loss of comfort, security, and fidelity. Emotional affairs happen all the time. Listening to her is part of being a husband, but there are limits. If my wife is going on and on…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 08:06 PM
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You're right about that. Today somebody took the time to apply a single downvote to everything I've posted for the past week or so.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 05:59 PM
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She couldn't handle the stress of his illness. She was probably branch swinging because she found beta comfort with the new guy. Not bringing the son was likely the same issue. It was too stressful and reflected too poorly on her, so she decided that she couldn't bring the 10 year old. It's solipsism.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 04:55 PM
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I wouldn't judge OP too harshly. He seems to understand the issues and doesn't seem to have oneitis. Your wife had an affair behind your back while you were fighting for your life. This kind of thing happens all the time. There was a guy in his 30s in our ICU recently. When he became critically ill, his wife called his mom and told her that she had met someone new while he was in hospital and she was taking the kids to go live with him. It recently became clear that he was dying. He was asked fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 04:43 AM
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You're absolutely right. Some outsiders to the Red Pill think we're claiming that women are consciously plotting to test the fitness of sexual partners, when shit tests are just communication with subtext. If the subtext is mishandled, then it lowers the tested person's social value. Sometimes there's a clearly intended message or purpose, but usually it's automatic behavior. Introduce a group of guys to one another and watch what happens. They quickly sort out who's who with shit tests. They do…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/16 01:08 PM
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Try citrulline malate some time. It replaces any arginine supplements or other "nitric oxide boosters" and the malic acid will help you grind out more reps. If you like fruit, you could also each a bunch of watermelon, apple, and green grapes before your workout and save the money on the supplements. Nobody pushes it as a supplement because it's too cheap and easy to make, but it really works.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/16 10:50 AM
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Water retention in muscle is real. The effect on strength and endurance is magnified by the placebo effect. You're welcome to review the double-blinded studies for yourself. There's more money to be made with creatine than citrulline, so the hype lives on. Edited for content
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/16 03:12 AM
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I agree completely. OP is enabling her to be a baby. He may be getting Iaid, but he is still a doormat and is being easily manipulated. He needs to state his expectations. It's the theme of the week - treating her like the oldest teenager in the house may get you laid, but it also enables her to continue acting like a teenager.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 10:22 PM
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Too many use their votes to mean agreement or disagreement. If it's high quality content, I upvote. If it's low quality, I downvote. Whether I agree or not has very little to do with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 03:01 PM
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Then they fucked the biggest douchebags in the class amiright? I was one of the douchebags, or at the very least I was more of an arrogant prick than I am now. With the crazy ones, to be honest, I didn't pay much attention to what they said. Their words and actions often didn't match. Most of the red pill strategies are obvious if you pay attention to the way people behave. "universally appreciated" traits I can't think of many. Common maybe, but not universal.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 10:19 PM
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Integrity wont get you laid. Not on its own. The impression of integrity important for some women. I happen to like the girls who think of it as a prerequisite - I stopped putting my dick in crazy back in high school.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 09:02 PM
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I'd suggest reading Pook and SGM next. You can get SGM in PDF from Pirate Bay. The author is a bit of a scammer, but the book does have some good content and it's a quick read.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 06:33 PM
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TL;DR False statement, effective technique, some problems. As stated by others, women are capable of being responsible and mature. That being said, treating women as the "most responsible teenager in the house" is an effective technique to get some women into bed. Relieve her of responsibility and she will have fewer psychological barriers to sex at that time. In an LTR setting it can create problems because it promotes irresponsibility. It promotes some "AWALT" behaviors. It's useful for one ni…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/16 05:09 PM
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Nice FR. You may have done this already, but many of the credit card companies will lower your interest rate if you call them and tell them you're having a hard time paying. You can find tips online for tactics to use during the conversation. They'd rather be guaranteed that you'll pay off your debt at 10-20% than have you declare bankruptcy at 29%.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 01:08 PM
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You're absolutely right. Supplements are for the guys who are doing everything else right already. Protein powder can be helpful for guys who have a hard time adding enough calories to gain weight or for guys who have a hard time hitting protein requirements over the course of the day on a cut. Creatine works, but the effects are miniscule. Citrulline malate can add a few reps to your last set, which is more than you get from creatine. It's mostly from the malic acid, but citrulline may have oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 02:55 AM
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I don't think that applies when the intensity is very low - novice levels, but it's all conjecture.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 06:31 PM
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Like I said, no time to dig out all the references. Here's one. Same calorie restriction between groups. Adding HIIT resulted in same fat loss but preserved lean body mass. Much of crossfit is HIIT with a barbell or pullup bar. You know I'm not a fan of crossfit, but I'm sure you've seen how fast people can shed body fat with it if they can avoid injury. What I'm suggesting is nowhere close to that - 1-2 sessions per week, work sets 60 seconds or less.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 04:27 PM
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I don't have time to dig out the references right now, but there are studies with elite athletes showing increased lean body mass with addition of HIIT, and many studies showing increased LBM and lowered body fat with HIIT in untrained or moderately trained subjects. Think about 5/3/1 BBB - the timing of the 5x10 sets is essentially HIIT, and that's one of the most popular hypertrophy programs. In fact, Wendler recommends HIIT work with a prowler in addition. As far as improving vascular functio…
/r/askMRP13/01/16 02:50 PM
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He's a novice lifter moving tiny weights. Response to HIIT depends on the person. Some people have the genes for it. 1-2 HIIT sessions per week can work well, especially when his intensity is so low on the weights. If he feels gassed and starts to struggle on the lifts, then it's time to revisit. Addendum: Plus there's the stroke issue. He needs the cardio.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 12:18 PM
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crazy number of strokes in my family history If aneurysms, stop resistance training now, take all cardio to no more than moderate intensity, and get your brain imaged ASAP. If the strokes were the regular kind (ischemic), then do the exact opposite: Change your cardio to HIIT, with varying timing week to week (30/30, 30/15, 60/60 etc...) Do cardio at the end of your workout or on days when you don't have time for weights. Do the dumbbell beginner workout from the r/fitness sidebar (easier at you…
/r/askMRP13/01/16 11:41 AM
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Check out /u/TrainingTheBrain's blog here. His posts suit your situation. One if my favorite types of girls to date was the "good girl." I developed a reputation for corrupting them, but it was pretty obvious that they were just revealing who they were and needed someone to help them free themselves from the fear and shame that had been drilled into them. Emphasize open discussion about sex and fantasy. You are the first person in her life whom she feels safe having as a confidant. Reassure her …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 03:23 PM
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MRP: Here's a bunch of stuff that may work or may not work depending on your situation. Read it all, take it slow, and customize it. You: These parts suited my situation. These other parts caused problems. The only part you got wrong was trying to apply all of it. It can't possibly work that way. I'm glad you're developing some insight. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 03:13 PM
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Do you really view all women as This should be good manipulative What are the chances that this particular woman isn't manipulative, given her history? How likely is a woman who had a father like that to avoid behaviors like passive aggression and passive flight? In fact, isn't the entire interaction in the OP passive flight? A man who chooses a woman like this for an LTR has issues of his own. He was attracted to this woman, and has probably had a steady stream of women like this in his life, m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 08:57 AM
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From my comment, emphasis added: it should be satire and free from any form of hate speech against anyone but us It's okay to be hateful to someone you don't know as long as you assume an evil back story. Using hateful terms for RPW makes no sense in their framework. Aren't you all victims of our evil ideology? Their excuse for the hate speech is, "It's a satire sub." Every once in a while someone says, "Shouldn't we be picking apart the theory instead of just belittling the people?" After a few…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 03:56 AM
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Edited my comment. You're right, pages to the blue pill mods removed. There are some reasonable people in thebluepill, but I don't know if the moderators are among them.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 03:16 AM
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Brigades of downvotes - against Reddit's rules, only mildly irritating since magic Internet points are of no real value, and could be reduced as suggested by /u/TempestTcup. Brigades of comments from thebluepill - fine if they respect the rules and tone of the sub, but they rarely do. Thebluepill is for satire. If one of us posts there then it should be satire and free from any form of hate speech against anyone but us. We should expect visitors from thebluepill to show similar respect for the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/16 04:01 PM
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The big area of controversy is what to do with the stupid guys. Someone who takes everything literally and has no social skills can blow up their life with misapplication of some of the ideas in the Red Pill. In the locker room, those guys are mocked (eg. whinemoreplease) or become an in-joke (eg. parts of GLO's posts), but we don't babysit. Maybe we should, but we don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 10:04 PM
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Do you believe that all women are capable of happily having sex daily with the right "lover"? Not all, but way more than most men and women realize. Some common patterns: Many women know they have high libido and say they have low libido to spare a partner's feelings. Others have high libido, but aren't thinking about it because they aren't with an attractive partner. There are many women out there who didn't consciously want much sex until the right guy came along. Women's sexual desire is more…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 09:02 PM
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The 'locker room lingo' is where men are going to be honest and unfiltered. Having played lots of team sports, I can tell you that you are simply wrong. Male locker room culture is quite rigid. It's full of hyperbole, one-upmanship, AMOG'ing, and restricted topics of conversation. Tone policing and moralizing are frowned upon. Men push each other and test each other constantly. If you're looking for full disclosure and pure honesty, you're looking in the wrong place. The locker room persona and …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 08:47 PM
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To an outsider it may seem that way about many of us. What I see in this situation, assuming it's not all embellishment and fantasy, is persistent feelings of resentment. Alas, men have hamsters too. I thought I was being charitable. If I start getting nothing but "you go girl" in response to my posts then what good are the responses? I'm here for self-improvement, not validation. You renewed your focus recently, and you've written sidebar material. Let's raise the bar for all of us. Edited for …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 08:18 PM
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What parts of the MRP approach in particular are you talking about, if I may ask? The list is long. Here are a few: I wasn't a "Nice Guy" and I was already assertive, but we did have some covert contracts. It doesn't take many of those to affect a relationship. Single-handedly getting rid of her covert contracts in addition to my own was very time consuming. Unfortunately my wife isn't insightful enough to recognize that kind of thing, so I had to do it myself. The forum and books were helpful. …
/r/askMRP09/01/16 07:22 PM
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Find your own style. Watch some stand up comedy. Try out some material. For some people humor is natural, and for others it has to be cultivated. You'll get there some day.
/r/askMRP09/01/16 03:29 PM
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You're a celebrity! Not as hated as ciswhitemaelstrom, but still definitely one of their favorites. They used to piss me off, but now I find it amusing. I even tried my own hand at a satire post inspired by recent rants about Star Wars. OmLaLa joined a thread a while back and took everyone to school. With the exception of GLO, people in the Red Pill subs often seem to take things way too seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 06:41 PM
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Women change the tone of the sub and dilute the information. Some people don't speak their minds with women present, even if they're just pixels on a screen. Having a psychotherapist in the family, I have been reading about psychology since I was a child. Believe me, I understand the impact and understand why it's more profound here, with a group of guys who need the red pill. But I don't believe your anger is some kind of act to drive women away. You're angry. I didn't say you shouldn't be, onl…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 04:58 PM
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To be fair, we really know nothing about his wife. /u/theultmatecad is a guy who found himself in theredpill because he felt betrayed, had a hard time being assertive and advocating for himself, and felt that he was doing all the heavy lifting in the relationship. She may be a selfish, nasty person and a terrible parent. From his perspective, the kids need his influence and need to have hers minimized, so he stays married. The kids may develop bad relationship skills through exposure to their dy…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 12:20 PM
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I agree. Would love to see more of this, but most of it is pretty nasty. The fact that a satire post has to be tagged as such is a problem for a satire sub.
/r/askMRP08/01/16 04:08 AM
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I like to laugh when someone refers to three plates as a heavy deadlift I'm sure you've seen the meme: Deadlift: Somewhere there is a girl warming up with your max.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 08:55 PM
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OmLiLi does it better. You are extremely late to the party and much less funny than most of thebluepill. A socially awkward guy made some mistakes. There are threads worth trolling, but this isn't one of them.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 07:48 PM
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There are many possible interpretations. The "I feel like I can't please you" line for a lot of guys was the comfort test in the main event. Yeah, she could have been blowing smoke up his ass, but in this context it means that she wants to work things out and is ready to compromise. The line in the sand moved a bit, and now she's ready to talk.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 05:51 PM
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I've said this many times, but there's no pope of the Red Pill. /u/jacktenofhearts said something similar yesterday. That link has a fair description of how I see the red pill. It distills down to very few simple concepts, and the rest is individual anecdotes that may be helpful or harmful. The harmful stuff gets bashed in thebluepill, and rightly so. My own approach to life fits somewhat with the philosophy of stoicism, however, so I accept that I can't change the people who are beyond help. In…
/r/askMRP07/01/16 04:47 PM
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I saw that. In fact, I responded to it. What he missed, being a bit younger and less experienced than you and I, is that people aren't simply good or bad partners. Their quality as a partner can change depending on the circumstances. I had a wonderful wife who became nasty and almost abusive because of very subtle changes in my behavior. Changing back has turned her into a good partner again. The changes she needed from me happened to fit with parts of the MRP approach.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 04:36 PM
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Their side has better rhetoric. Yeah. The Red Pill is just a bunch of guys saying a bunch of stuff from their own perspectives. It's internally inconsistent and can be very confusing. The blue pill is definitely simpler: manosphere = bad. There's some funny stuff in thebluepill. They are pretty good at calling guys out on their bullshit. I've even posted there, as have other red pill guys using alternate accounts., but much of it is emotionally manipulative and unfair. Have fun there, but don't …
/r/askMRP07/01/16 04:15 PM
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Smartass. Mentally stuck, consumed with red pill rhetoric to the point that anger at the red pill and her husband had become blended and she railed against both. She seems to be getting unstuck now. I have a lot of respect for Vamp - I hope it didn't come across otherwise. Speaking of mentally stuck, do you consider hanging around with the manipulative characters in TBP to be identifying with your former abuser? I know, I'm a smartass too.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 03:15 PM
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Off topic question though. The "I guess" | "but you do you" | "but what do I know, I'm not navy red" type ends to most of your posts, is that just IDGAF, or is there a subtext I'm not reading? He does that with the more senior guys or when the story isn't clear. It sounds like he's acknowledging that he doesn't have all the information or all the answers.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 01:36 PM
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I haven't figured out if the attitude is showing off for the newbies or if it's how you feel. If it's showing off then fine, maybe include a little motivational message at the end next time. If it's how you feel then I'm inclined to agree with /u/jacktenofhearts that it's passive aggressive and in her frame. Your participation in /r/femalehate makes me think this is the case. Usually only someone you have loved and trusted can make you that hurt and angry. WISNIFG resonated with you and helped y…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 12:47 PM
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On the off chance that you're not a troll, then listen to /u/BluepillProfessor and your lawyer.
/r/askMRP07/01/16 03:37 AM
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she doesn't respect OP his social skills or his attempts at implementing the red pill strategies FTFY. There are domains where she respects him, including his intelligence, humor, workplace accomplishments, as a father, etc. Respect is earned. We don't know if he's earned it in other areas. If he has, then she's being unreasonable. If he hasn't, then he should.
/r/askMRP06/01/16 11:30 PM
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But if you weren't happy in the marriage, it's not like going on with the status quo was an option. That's true for a vast majority here. The difference in this case is that he started implementing red pill strategies because he thought it would make the relationship more secure and that she would enjoy that change in the relationship dynamic. It wasn't because he himself was unhappy. It's not the usual MRP slave with a wallet, dead bedroom, and cheating wife. There was some disrespect that shou…
/r/askMRP06/01/16 11:23 PM
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I wish I could give this more than one upvote.
/r/askMRP06/01/16 08:38 PM
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I love her so much and right now I wish I'd never seen TRP. I know I sound like a weak piece of shit. That's not weak. It's just the way you feel. How you deal with those feelings is an illustration of how strong or weak you are. A strong man looks as the parts of himself and his self-respect that are non-negotiable and decides how his wife and children fit into a life that accounts for those non-negotiable issues.
/r/askMRP06/01/16 08:36 PM
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I don't know if you're in the minority. I agree with you completely. I also agree with /u/chief_slap_ahoe that we never really got an answer about what he wants, other than "didn't want to end up divorced like my friend." That means he was worried that she was going to divorce him before he came to the Red Pill. Maybe he was unsatisfied too, but that wasn't the primary issue. He felt that she was unhappy in the relationship, and thought that the Nice Guy issue was a central problem because a boo…
/r/askMRP06/01/16 07:21 PM
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That was disturbingly accurate - reminds me of high school, especially an old friend we referred to as "dumb Dave."
/r/askMRP06/01/16 04:11 PM
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For guys who have been taking their wives statements literally as word-for-word instructions on how to live their lives, the notion that much of her communication has contained subtext and shouldn't be taken literally is new. Some catch on fast, some catch on slowly, and some never catch on. I'll acknowledge that it's a weird term, but the concept isn't new. Example of a shit test "You bought the wrong ground beef. Do I have to do everything myself?" Clueless: No. I do lots of things around the …
/r/askMRP06/01/16 01:45 PM
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I think some Canadian guys go a bit nuts in the winter. The hamster wheel starts to spin a bit too much, over-thinking what should be normal interactions. OP's starting to sound a bit like Jack Nicholson in The Shining. Now I'll make an excuse: after a rough night at work, I'm in asshole mode today. I really didn't want to get all messy OP put up LMR. He's a princess. She needs to push through that shit. she's generally very sensitive of cold He knows this, doesn't do shit about it, and expects …
/r/askMRP06/01/16 12:28 PM
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But why? Japan and Germany already have good beer. Maybe they wanted our maple syrup and poutine?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/16 01:28 AM
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I'm Canadian. We weren't under attack.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/16 09:59 PM
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It's true, there is a strong anti-feminist message in some of the Red Pill content. MRP is ostensibly about men making themselves desirable to their wives but, as I have argued elsewhere on this sub, it's also about how to get your wife to act like a "Good Woman." Influencing one's wife to be a "good woman" is anti-feminist in some cases. In others it may be guys with abusive partners who found that the abuse stopped when they became assertive and decisive. That's not anti-feminist. They don't a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/16 09:58 PM
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WW II was ultimately about money and power Say that to a WWII vet. Edit: Maybe my comment was too heavy handed. I know many men who dedicate their lives to righting societal wrongs. You probably do too. Your blanket statement about men was false. There are guys involved in the Red Pill like Rollo who seem interested in correcting the imbalances and unfairness faced by men when trying to optimize their sexual strategy in a feminist culture. The senior contributors in TRP are trying to help other …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/16 06:23 PM
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Men don't think this way, individually or collectively. They don't care about societal wrongs. Speak for yourself. What was WWII about if not a group of men trying to undo societal wrongs? To me advocacy is not an inherently feminine or masculine trait. In fact, self-sacrifice is considered masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/16 06:07 PM
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For MRA and many MGTOW, you are correct, but that is not the Red Pill. A guy may participate in any combination of the three, but they each have their own flavor. For many of the guys who emphasize Rollo's contributions to the Red Pill then it does have an anti-feminism component. Many of the Red Pill moderates embrace the strategies without being against feminism, but they recognize that the answers to male happiness are not found in feminism. The Red Pill is an effort to redefine masculinity s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/16 05:52 PM
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Yeah, he's still a kid. I thought I knew stuff when I was in my 20's too.
/r/askMRP04/01/16 05:01 PM
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That's his shtick. He likes the attention and fancies himself "one of the most hated men on Reddit." I'm assuming he found his way here searching for mentions of his name in thebluepill.
/r/askMRP04/01/16 01:21 PM
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We're not supposed to post memes, but I can't resist. That was a good nerd fight. Not let's all head to IRC and debate which incarnation of Batman is the best.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 09:37 PM
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Your response reminds me of my friend's dream of opening the Man Gym, where Drill Sargeant-like trainers will scream at guys to grind out those last few reps. Even though MRP isn't good enough to be in the RP network and isn't taken seriously by anyone The only people who take any of the Red Pill subs seriously are in the anger phase or the blue pill. Taking any Reddit sub seriously is a sign that a person needs to spend more time off Reddit.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 03:32 PM
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Sleep more. Add 500 kcal/day of food that is rich in protein. If your weekly average weight doesn't increase after a month, then add another 500 kcal/day. To do this you have to measure your portions. You must also be reaching PR's for the core lifts during that time. If you aren't reaching weight and rep records while bulking then you're not working hard enough.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 01:59 PM
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I have a 50 year old patient with lung function of 45% who does 45 minutes of intense treadmill work every day and 3-5 days of heavy weights every week. His twin brother has the same lung condition and never leaves his apartment. The difference is not physical. It's mental.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 01:48 PM
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You would be happier with the result if you did. I mean that in more ways than one. These are the big tests of will. Dropping the last ten pounds will help you to shed some of the anger, shame, and frustration that you have felt since childhood. Staying positive and playful through the pain of that surgery and recovering your fitness afterward may be even greater challenges. Paying someone to do the surgery is easy. What you do before and after determines whether the experience will strengthen y…
/r/askMRP03/01/16 01:25 PM
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But I don't buy the idea that average-looking men can't get laid. Not as much as they'd like, maybe. But they aren't invisible in that way. Agreed, but it's more complicated than that. When my friends would meet a new bunch of girls, it was the same 2 guys every time that got girls, and the others were just ignored. You've probably witnessed the same thing. The average looking guy doesn't get any attention. Even if he does, he needs much better game (natural or learned) to have a chance. The sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/16 03:09 AM
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I have married men approach me (by your definition) fairly often. Why are they "thirsty" - go home and fuck your wife, man! Maybe you should send them to marriedredpill? not count guys they wouldn't consider having sex with. So they should count homeless dudes and old men? Most guys can't understand the perspective of unattractive women because those women are invisible to men. Those women are also less likely to be vocal in reddit than the angry humblebragging douchettes who "get hit on too muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/16 07:53 PM
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Even after all that my BMI is 29 When you lift the extra skin out of the way, how's the waist size? My guess is still too big. You may improve things cosmetically with surgery now, but things may look messed up if you lose more weight after. I've said all I'm willing to say about diet in the MRP main sub. Bottom line is that a vast majority of people need to properly count calories to get rid of the last few pounds. I've gotten to 10-12% BF without counting calories several times, but can only g…
/r/askMRP02/01/16 06:50 PM
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What is your point of view, MRP community? Read about the philosophy of stoicism. It's not the same as the modern usage of the term. A stoic seeks the satisfaction felt by living a virtuous life. A stoic can be happy in the face of things that are outside his control, like pain, illness, or death. It tells us that we shouldn't get caught up in other people's crap, things that are inevitable, or things that don't matter. Do the right thing. Live right, and find peace. Knowing how to turn your wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/15 09:50 PM
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a comment on MRP that held up Charles Manson as Alpha That's ridiculous. He's obviously a Sigma. ;-) I guess some TRP users will praise anyone with a large partner count, regardless of the body count. ThatOtherMarriedGuy Everyone was critical of that guy, especially the post where he was sending creepy texts about anal sex. AFAIK he only posts in the Own Your Shit threads now. That wasn't a case of corrupting a good guy. He is a scary dude who has been pushed in to a small corner of an already d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 01:50 AM
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I'd scrap that whole line about de-stressing. When you're in a bad mood and not into it, would that line work on you? Do you want to fuck your wife because it will help you de-stress? Or do you want to fuck her because she's attractive, good in bed, and the sex is awesome? Instigate, isolate, escalate. Each phase can be over days, hours, minutes, or sometimes seconds, but skipping to a lame line doesn't work. Even if she was thinking about sex, you've now reminded her of her stress instead of im…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 12:50 PM
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Neither book uses the term caveman. That's a Red Pill thing. You can find SGM torrents on Pirate Bay.
/r/askMRP19/12/15 01:34 AM
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Caveman is not jackhammer. The specifics depend on what you like, but you must take control in the bedroom. That means emotionally and physically. Take and give pleasure on your own terms, not Oprah's or Cosmo's. You want her in a certain position - move her. You'll enjoy it more and it will give you control of things like stamina and trying new stuff. Read MMSLP and the Sex God Method. Lifting makes it easier to fuck her right.
/r/askMRP18/12/15 11:37 PM
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I'm here on Reddit too much. It's my last vice. It was just MRP, askMRP, TRP, and fitness. I rationalized it because of strategies from MRP that saved my marriage, but I spent more time here than I should, trying to help people. Recently the habit grew to more frequent checking of the usual subs, but more disturbingly into PPD and a couple of TBP troll posts. Paperwork is piling up. A lecture at a conference is approaching quickly. Major work and family commitments are coming. My browsing and po…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 06:28 PM
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Dead on. I can help you de-stress He's negotiating desire. The best sex comes from her wanting to fuck him because she likes to fuck and is attracted to him, not for secondary gain. If it's because he begged or as a means to an end, then she won't be into it. I agree with /u/rurpe that OP has to read the sidebar books, begin stages 1-5 in the 12 stages of dread, and slow down before he does something stupid. Right now he's missing some of the basics. Right now walking away comes off as butthurt,…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 05:40 PM
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And if you're bulking, low carb is counterproductive. Carbs also needed for maximum endurance.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 05:24 PM
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the next time I need to lose weight I am still doing Atkins/Paleo again regardless of the truth It really does work better, just not for the reasons pushed by some of the cheerleaders. If I wanted to lose weight, I'd go low carb too because it's easier for me to do without feeling hungry. If I were still doing judo then I'd also use it to control water weight, but those days are way behind me.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 04:33 PM
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Agreed. There are many similarities between a post-CC woman and a guy with a high n-count. My wife specifically told me that she doesn't want to know about my past. In a related note, I'm an alpha widower as much as my wife is an alpha widow. Many of the same behaviors apply. The RP double standard is to call it oneitis for the old flame, but really it's just the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 03:22 PM
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My response was a bit tongue-in-cheek. Your tank analogy was funny. She didn't have postpartum depression - it's more of a lifelong pattern of behavior with respect to sleep, stress, and lack of interest in other people's problems, particularly men. There are some obvious reasons for that related to her parents' relationship and other issues. My role in that interaction was not surprising given a history of being a caregiver to a sick family member in childhood and maybe the association between …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 02:24 PM
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Effects of Twenty Days of the Ketogenic Diet on Metabolic and Respiratory Parameters in Healthy Subjects Check it out in Google Scholar, download the PDF, look at figures 6 & 7. Conclusions in the abstract about superiority for fat loss are overstated mired and the trend toward more weight loss with the Mediterranean diet was glossed over. People pushing specific diets have more to gain financially. As Sepean said, the fitness and diet industry much bigger than just supplements. Edit: autocorrec…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 12:00 PM
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I run an exercise lab where we actually measure things like metabolic rate. I also do some preop assessments for a bariatric program that uses a specially designed liquid diet for targeted weight loss. Does that count? Imagine if the body were just fat and muscle. If you cut out an excess few thousand calories once, there would be slightly different total weight lost if all the loss were fat compared to the weight lost if all the loss were muscle. You and theultimatecad are right that macros can…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/15 04:20 AM
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I'd add a WeVibe to that list - the horseshoe shaped one has one half that stays in her vagina (tighter for you) and the other half against her clit (fun for her.) It will get the message across with plausible deniability. OP could also have her sit with him and watch Predator. But I think one of the main problems is this: BJ's every time. That knocks your sensitivity way down. BJ before PIV is a common trick to last longer - not what you want here. Maybe she should finish you with the BJ?
/r/askMRP17/12/15 05:53 PM
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Fair enough. I'm off the soapbox.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 05:03 PM
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Guys come here and a few guys come here exclusively. I understand your point, but personally I prefer the approach taken in Redneck001's sidebar post. When guys want advice about, "here's my diet and workout breakdown, what do you think?" then they would likely get better advice in the fitness sub. I'm not making a slippery slope argument, but if guys start posting videos in here for form checks then we've gone too far.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 04:57 PM
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Some diets increase appetite and total calorie intake. Some have the opposite effect. High carb diets and high intake of sugar substitutes tend to raise total calorie intake. It is therefore easier for many people to cut with lower carb diet (many studies support that, including a meta-analysis from last month). Body composition is affected differently with adjustment of macro and micronutrients with any given calorie intake. A pound of fat loss and a pound of muscle loss are not the same becaus…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 03:30 PM
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Does that mean men should mate with women, men should give birth and take on responsibility for the babies themselves while their wives chill in a nearby room? Other than my wife having been the one who gave birth, that's a good description of what happened when our first child was born. Breastfeeding stopped very early. My wife would be in bed, I'd be in the baby's room or have the baby downstairs if there was any crying. It was days after the birth before my wife changed a single diaper. I did…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 02:48 PM
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Love that - the most solid, proven advice in the gym and in scientific journals gets downvoted. This comes up periodically in here. I used to argue. /u/Sepean and /u/Redneck001 are still trying, but some people still cling to the notion that they're special snowflakes. To be fair, I ate similar macros to OP for months (except I didn't cheat) and it is very hard to eat high calorie with such low carb and fat intake. It makes it very easy to lose weight. Protein intake of 0.82 gram/lb of lean body…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 12:25 PM
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And do you believe that every MRP member is 100% honest and of high intelligence? I don't believe anything anyone tells me. I don't even trust that what I believe is an unbiased representation of the truth. Almost anyone I meet on the Internet could be a 14-year-old boy in his mom's basement, living out a fantasy life. I think the average Redditor is probably smarter than the average person, but that doesn't change anything. I think EQ matters more than IQ in this situation (not literally, but y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 10:12 PM
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Seemed pretty clear to me... It was pretty resourceful of her to put all of that together. In your situation I'd be freaked out and a bit proud.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 09:10 PM
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(Continued) There is no pope of the Red Pill no human holds the key to absolute truth Agreed. I recognize the irony of subscribers of the Red Pill complaining about solipsism. It's just a bunch of guys saying a bunch of shit. There's good advice and bad advice for individual situations. Unfortunately there are subscribers who take it literally and see it as a set of rules, but protecting the stupid is not part of locker room culture. Instead they get the stupid beaten out of them by the outspoke…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:27 PM
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Your questioning of me is legitimate and it deserves a fair answer. Your thoughtful response is not deserved, but it is appreciated. Here's a rambling answer: Optional background so you don't have to read my post history I started noticing you about 4-5 months ago? Over a year ago I resolved to get rid of all the time wasters and distractions in my life, start working out again, and make other improvements. The primary stimulus was marital difficulty to which my wife was oblivious. She's not ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/15 05:27 PM
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It's funny to see them lump us all together as a caricature and then complain about the generalizations that are made in the Red Pill. ARPALT! Get your pitchforks! Doxx them! Brigade them! Damn the rules of Reddit, justice must be done!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 07:46 PM
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There's a brigade from thebluepill. Against Reddit's rules, but they feel justified because I am an we are evil misogynists. Edit: Now BPP and stonepimpletilists are fucking with them at the bottom of the thread. Did you ever see the episode of Dirty Jobs where Mike Rowe was at the turkey farm? Any noise or movement resulted in a wave of "gobble gobble gobble" echoing through the room. BPP has the same effect on thebluepill and he knows it. They don't hate me quite as much yet - I guess I'm not …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 05:56 PM
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I do feel like MRP is more of an issue for me than TRP, as its rules are less flexible I'd be interested in hearing more about this, more specifically how the more rigid parts make it worse than TRP. Shedding the victim mentality, taking responsibility for one's role in your own situation, eliminating covert contracts, and learning assertiveness are the rigid prerequisites. Willingness to accept marriage is the other area where it differs from TRP. That, and the common use of a purple pill appro…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 02:32 PM
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Stop trying to trick me with your evil feminist copulins! Everybody knows that all bloopers are 500lbs bearded women with purple hair who spend their days drying the endless stream of tears with hairballs coughed up by their many cats. It's science. Damn feminazis, trying to convince me there's some kind of false dichotomy between the red pill and the blue pill... It won't work. Studies have proven that the Red Pill is the truth. Just don't ask me to quote them, I'm on mobile.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 01:25 PM
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They can both whine about the perils of the Red Pill without doing any of the reading. Vamp's over in PPD asking for free lessons so she can use logic to manipulate her husband back into submission. I actually wonder if the husband who posted is just an alternate account. There's a similar style of wanting to be spoonfed without sharing their own story or doing any of the reading. If it's a real account, then those two are meant for each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 11:51 PM
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I would take Buscemi over Hemsworth. I think it is fair to say that you are in the minority on that. TRP's idea of optimal SMV is intended to cast a wide net. It won't be attractive to everyone. It only has to be attractive to enough women to get the guys laid more than they did before and they'll praise TRP as gospel. I'm very open, frank and cheerful good storyteller Girl game. That could easily be in a PUA advice column.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 09:04 PM
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I actually find that my more admirable qualities and skills definitely improve my "SMV" in the eyes of a partner or potential partners. SMV is supposed to be about things that make someone want to have sex with another person. There are many attractive, interesting qualities a person can have that make them a good partner or a valuable member of society, but don't make them any more fuckable than the next person. An example: Which millionaire actor would you rather fuck? no personality, terrible…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/15 07:33 PM
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Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 06:24 PM
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The 5 love languages People keep mentioning that book. I can't get past the title, or what sounds like no grounding in established theory in psychology. On the surface it would make more sense to me if one looked at it like the DEVI thing - develop all aspects and implement the levels that work best for your wife. Has the book enhanced your life in any way? I'd need strong endorsement before checking it out. My wife would never fuck me again if she saw a book like that in my possession. Affirmat…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 05:01 PM
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I just took it as her liking the validation of being attractive to guys other than me Validation is part of it. Even more important is getting more attention from guys than her friends do. Even better than that, the pinnacle of the girls night out experience, is to get the most attention and reject the guys in front of her friends. That's how a woman wins a girls night out - not with a bang, but with the most inflated ego. Cheaters are going to cheat, GNO or not. The ideal mindset is in Rollo's …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 01:15 AM
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Thank god I have this red pill knowledge or I don't know how I would have reacted. I just saw it for what it was, laughed to myself and went about my business. I teased her about it later, making fun of her for acting like a horny teenager. She denied it and all but I think she liked that I was able to joke about it and didn't get butthurt or offended. Newbies - the example above is true amused mastery. cholomite "just gets it," as Rollo says. Amused mastery is not patting her on the head like a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 08:27 PM
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Attitude: happy, unaffected by little stresses, handle your responsibilities with a smile Kino: morning touch her arms, guide her from room to room with your hand on the small of her back, later touch her neck, if she has a sore spot then maybe command her to lie down for a short massage (if your usual routine has been massage then sex, then this will be massage then do something else - leave her guessing) Words: least important, but always handle shit tests (they're foreplay, don't STFU in the …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 08:19 PM
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There are some people who have "coregasms," and occasional people who can orgasm just from psychological stimulation. It's the female equivalent of premature ejaculation. Makes you feel like a rock star until you realize it probably happened with her other partners and would definitely happen with Chad. My wife gets very close. If I've been escalating with her over the course of the day and she starts us off with a blowjob, she'll have an orgasm within seconds of penetration. It's all about the …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 12:04 PM
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I am calm. And for the record, I was asking to see your tits. It's the price of entry into the locker room.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 11:52 PM
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What part? When he didn't beg her to stay with him the second time she cheated? Or maybe that she just abandoned her kids so she can get some fresh cock? Maybe you're disgusted that he loves his children and prioritizes them over his serial cheating, child-abandoning wife? Read the sidebar. This is a safe space for men. Tits or GTFO.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 11:28 PM
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If she goes with the pills, stay away from drospirenone (Yaz, Yasmin, and some others.) It's the best for mood, but has sexual side effects that can linger for months after stopping. Watch those dosettes. My wife started forgetting to take the pill the morning after we have sex mid-cycle. I thought Athol Kay was full of shit about that, but I was wrong. It happens only mid-cycle. She has been catching it later in the day lately and taking it without reminders. Fortunately I'm at 3 months from th…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 10:18 PM
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Shit tests are foreplay - she was testing your sex drive, probably horny.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 10:02 PM
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Get sick and she'll test your frame, hard. Seems to be the theme of the day. she also again said she wanted another child Involving the kids was the only thing that got to me Bad combo. What are you doing about birth control?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 09:09 PM
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I'm struggling with the solution But earlier you said: My wife runs her own business, and she's brilliant at it She will handle her shit. You will handle yours. You will support her by handling your shit and facilitate her attempts to develop her own solutions. How could you possibly find the balance for her? It's her stress and her reward - only she can find the balance. You will keep things on track at home until she finds a balance. Other tips: Provide breaks and distractions that are complet…
/r/askMRP12/12/15 07:00 PM
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In the end, your ex-wife was more toxic than the paint fumes that almost killed you. Psychological injury is more severe and lasting than physical. I know it wasn't the point of your response, but four months to figure out the isocyanate thing is ridiculous. (Reasonable assumption diisocyanate was the cause - am I wrong?)
/r/TheRedPill12/12/15 06:30 PM
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The underlying principles are very well illustrated. It's so well composed that I don't care how much of it is real and how much is fiction. I'd be very interested to see how your strategies grow and evolve as you get older and move on from the party scene.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/15 06:22 PM
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That's incidental to the point of that sub The loudest voices in that sub, though. FTFY
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 03:30 PM
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It's funny, when I was writing the post I considered quoting your catchphrase - "She's not yours. It's just your turn." For some guys their turn can end pretty abruptly and unfairly, like broken hearted boy. He might have avoided it temporarily with the Red Pill tools, but probably not. Captain save a ho always ends up broken in the end. Edit: SwiftKey seemed to think "quiting" was a real word
/r/TheRedPill12/12/15 02:07 PM
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their biological imperative Western society is optimized for optimal female sexual strategy. No special learning is required other than getting out from under an individual's conservative upbringing and embracing the drive to "date up." Strong self-esteem, assertiveness, stable and functional upbringing, avoidance of abuse at all levels, not dating "losers" etc... You need look no further than the top poster in this thread, /u/vampiresquidina to see some of the problems that arise when the condi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 01:30 PM
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I would rarely complain about anything and when I would I'd say something like: "It's hard when the pain comes; especially if it's night and I wanna sleep. Except for this, my main problem is that I'm stuck in this room and really bored!" and I'd say it with a smile on my face. I made it a personal goal not to be depressed as my roommates were. I presume this showed control of emotions and desired outcome. That is the perfect response. The men who do this retain respect because they continue to …
/r/TheRedPill12/12/15 12:13 PM
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Some men crave the feeling of rescuing someone. They crave it because of their own issues. They crave it so much that they ignore red flags and pick a woman without vetting her properly. The role of rescuer is intoxicating, blinding. It is hard to know who the woman is underneath the wounded exterior. Some of the wounded birds bring it on themselves. They need more drama in their lives than other women. These are the histrionic women, the borderlines, the narcissists. These women are poison.
/r/TheRedPill12/12/15 12:11 PM
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I think it's valuable reality check for people who assume that sexual frequency is a barometer for the health of the relationship. If she sees you as committed, then it may be a reasonable indicator that she's satisfied. If she perceives you as not committed, then more sex is associated with less satisfaction. She could be fucking your brains out and still be miserable. It's also the first paper I've ever seen to refute all the literature that said women don't like being valued for sex. In commi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 09:52 PM
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Some people use sex as a barometer for how the relationship is going. It's a mistake. See vampiresquidina and her husband for proof.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 07:53 PM
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Agreed
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 07:50 PM
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Sex isn't the bench mark for health. It certainly is up there, but to say it is the one thing that rules them all is false. This study supports that statement. It's not obvious to everyone. My father in law's marriage was going to shit (more than usual, he's a Nice Guy with an abusive wife.) He couldn't understand why she seemed so unhappy even though they were having sex twice a week in their late 60s. What's most interesting is not that sex and satisfaction go together if there's strong commit…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 07:24 PM
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Deleted the unsupported statement and added the additional findings in bold.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 07:07 PM
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He will get more sex by being a dude who makes women want to fuck him. Did I say otherwise? I told newbies to wait until the anger phase is over before moving beyond dread stage 5. some weaksauce betafuck isn't going to get more sex by showing he's more 'committed' You are right, that's at the bottom of page 7. That's part of the reason I edited the original post.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 07:05 PM
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See my edit above. No study is perfect, the tools they used weren't properly described, and it's association rather than causation, but you will not find a better study of this topic. It's also one of the only studies to show that women don't mind being admired for their sexual value.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 06:54 PM
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That's why I qualified it with "even if you don't say it." It's not a script, but an encouragement to get his head on straight before she gets home. He fucked up. IMHO the most important one is asking her what she wants she is planning to do, or some variation. A good captain elicits feedback from his first officer without defensiveness. If he's still so shitty with conflict that he can't handle that, then their marriage is in trouble.
/r/askMRP11/12/15 06:26 PM
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I think this was the Main Event It's possible, but he didn't say either way if she talks like that often. I know she's not serious. this is nothing new to the relationship I'm usually the one who allows her to push my buttons to the point that I go nuclear Sounds like a regular day for him, with the main difference that he was better able to keep his composure. But if it was a botched main event, then he just lengthened his road to recovery.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 06:08 PM
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I'd have a big Jolly Roger flag on the wall, and the kids and myself in pirate garb when she gets home. When the kids are in bed, make some time to have a conversation. - You love, value, and respect her. - You appreciate that she stepped up to the plate when you were neglecting your responsibilities. - You were lazy. You can't be lazy any more. - She has earned your respect through all the work she has put into the marriage. - It is your job to earn her respect. - You don't expect her to bow to…
/r/askMRP11/12/15 05:50 PM
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I went upstairs to the man cave and got on MRP to read and maintain frame. I don't understand. Did you leave because you wouldn't have been able to maintain frame otherwise? why did you go upstairs for two hours? "Reading. Do you need help with something?" "Christmas shopping" "It's super secret." You had many, many options here. Silence was a bad idea, especially given your history. I didn't need porn or that girl because she was doing so well lately. What was that? Negotiating desire? A person…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 05:28 PM
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Well, if he's American, based on when some of these posts get written, it's when he should be sleeping. He and OmLaLa are a different breed from us mere mortals. I was like that for years, quick on my feet, only needed 4 hours sleep, probably a bit hypomanic - wish there was some switch I could flip to bring it back again. For now I'll just admire them.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 03:37 PM
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Your wife obviously understands that. Part of her message was the equivalent of, "Do you think she's prettier than me?" It's also a nice counterpoint to TRP's often simplistic view of what we find attractive in women and satisfying in our relationships.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 03:16 PM
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Well, now we know what happened to Pook. Edit: Are you going to keep this metamorphosis going and eventually vanish, off to Nirvana or wherever you gurus go? Your head is obviously screwed on right. Some day I hope you'll tell us what you get out of being here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 01:12 PM
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She asked me if I wished she was more of a drama queen so we would have really intense confrontations like that. If you were hardcore red, a statement like that would be a mini comfort test. In your case she knows you like being the stoic, strong protector. She saw your sense of satisfaction and wanted to know if it's something you want from her more often. I don't dread her that hard because I don't have to. If you wanted to spin plates, get threesomes, or push her boundaries then dread would g…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/15 12:15 PM
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No, it wasn't. It's anger and frustration, but he's nowhere close to comfort test territory.
/r/askMRP11/12/15 12:28 AM
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If you're using it for validation like that then it's super-stupid. It's also a complete waste of time. You could have spent that time reading non-fiction and expanding your mind, or socializing with real people and building your SMV.
/r/askMRP10/12/15 04:52 PM
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Shit test is a catch-all term for a woman's behavior driven by subtext that, if mishandled by you, will lower her impression of your fitness for the topic/task/sex/relationship. Mirroring means either that she is intuitive or you are transparent. It could be considered a shit test, with the subtext being, "I'm on to you and your games."
/r/askMRP10/12/15 01:35 PM
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Some people would label it "blue pill" because it sounds like something that would be promoted in equalism, but it fits just as well with the red pill and complementarity. The biggest pitfall is determining who is best equipped to make the decision. When I met my wife, I was much better at laundry, grocery shopping, and a handful of other basic adult tasks. So, I had the last word on those things until she learned enough to not be dangerous or wasteful. At that point the allocation of our respon…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 03:59 AM
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If you dig deeper then you will see that it is not so rigid. The person taking the lead is the one most equipped to do so in that domain under those circumstances. One of MRPs most prominent guys adds that whoever cares more about the issue and is best equipped to make the decision takes the lead on that issue. To be honest, I'm not even sure what it means to take the lead in a relationship. What part of the relationship? Some people put higher value on the traditional male roles and therefore b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 11:50 PM
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Dominance is only one small way to demonstrate high value, and it only works on women who are turned on by dominant behaviors. Enjoyment of submission to a worthwhile man is common among women, but not universal, some for lack of opportunity and some because it just doesn't work for them. It doesn't require submission by the woman either. An athlete dominates over other men, which can be attractive to women without his having to dominate over her. A man who raises his wife's status in her social…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 10:24 PM
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Thanks. I had to rein it in a bit. I started reading psychology books when I was a kid, so I can get carried away. The studies of leadership behavior in mixed groups is a lot more interesting and controversial. A common pattern is that the women in the group become annoyed with the men trying to establish a power structure and find the AMOG. Meanwhile the men become impatient with what they perceive as unnecessary delays, face-saving, and efforts at building consensus. Reading MRP I'm sure this …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 09:55 PM
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Having read your edit, some additional comments: what is underpinning this belief that only men can/should lead their marriages TRP is too broad and less relevant, so I'll stick to MRP/RPW here: MRP is for men's sexual strategy in marriage. A tiny part of that is than men in relationships with wives who are submissive to them seem to get laid more often. MRP doesn't believe that only men can lead a marriage. They believe that most men are happier when they take the lead in a relationship most of…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 09:17 PM
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Is this you trying to prove that the transition to childhood can be negotiated? Or just a reflection of the difficulty you have had in accepting criticism of your posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 06:50 PM
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The transition from childhood to adulthood is not a negotiation. You really can't follow a logical thread or stay on topic, can you? There's a reason you're downvoted so often by both pills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 06:44 PM
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That's simply incorrect. For example, my transition from child to adult to expert in my field has drastically changed the power dynamics with friends and family. That will last as long as I maintain my skill and expertise. There has been no negotiation. The transition has been natural, seamless, and has required no negotiation. If explicit negotiation of the power relationship is needed, then the relationship has not been a good fit for one of the individuals involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 06:33 PM
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Yes, there are many functional people in the world. Red pill has nothing to do with it. However, the red pill does have a great deal of observations and strategies with respect to power dynamics in relationships (he was her subordinate) and at work (where he has improved). It also has content on mate retention, divorce, and other issues brought to the attention of OP's husband by his friend's misadventures. Much of that content includes the observation that what we call alpha behaviors are frequ…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 06:13 PM
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his friend that got a nasty divorce after his wife slept around? That's what he says triggered all of this. With your SMV being higher than his, insecurity seems like the obvious fragility. I think you are right about the trigger, and one could describe it as insecurity, but he truly hadn't been fulfilling his responsibilities as a man at work or at home. He recognizes his laziness. His half-assed attempts at implementing red pill strategies without reading about them or understanding them were …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 05:59 PM
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It is natural to make that assumption, but that doesn't make it correct. It also depends on what you mean when you say "less than." You can have equal value as a human being without equal assignment of skill, roles, and responsibilities. Knowledge, values, skills, and power dynamics in a relationship will also shift over time. Who is the greater person, the artist or the scientist? The teacher or the firefighter? Red Pill versus Blue Pill is not about an all-encompassing superiority of men versu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 05:37 PM
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Now that you mention it, I can get on board with that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 04:41 PM
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Several of them mentioned that this stuff applies only if the guy is attractive. What women usually find attractive is described in the Red Pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 03:51 PM
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I think it is valid to look at resources like My Secret Garden and women's answers to questions like this that they give to each other on what triggers their desire, what triggers their fantasies, and what those fantasies entail. The problem is that they modify their answers to each other when they are not anonymous and modify them even more when men are present (like the OP's linked post.) Another resource for this is literature for women by women. I never fully understood things like women's a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 03:21 PM
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Here at the RP we take something like eye contact for granted but really a guy who does this regularly is the exception not the norm. One of Redneck001's posts in the MRP sidebar covers part of it. Eye contact is attractive if you are attractive. If you aren't, or if the rest of your body language is wrong, then it's creepy. I have no idea how well guys do this with women because I'm not a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 03:17 PM
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"ripped the tea bag packet open with his teeth while making eye contact with me. It was surprisingly hot" STFU, lift, lead, tear stuff open with your teeth? I don't think we can put that one in the AWALT category. Contrast with another top comment from that thread: Any kind of smirk makes me weak. That had over 2000 upvotes and is more in line with the masculine image. It's also more in line with our experience with women. If my wife is doing something embarrassing, annoying, or anything out of …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 02:42 PM
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malpractice Do pornstars carry insurance for that?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 12:40 AM
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I already know what she is thinking, because she often says it out loud, and it's never about the Sex that is happening, it's always about some other thing. That deserves a post. You can't just leave us hanging after that intro!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 12:03 AM
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I wouldn't be surprised if he did push her into acts for which she withdrew consent, but we'll never know and that's not my point. The truth doesn't matter. The fact is that the women who held him up as the feminist-approved male pornstar and rationalized why his scenes are okay are the same women who are the first to assume guilt in these situations. I like dark humor.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 04:01 PM
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Some of it is pretty funny. There's some crazy shit out there that is labelled as Red Pill, and some of the satire is from TRP guys who are using alternate accounts. I agree that most of it is not satire, but a Red Pill hate group. It's a lot like the main TRP site - too many damaged, unhappy people looking for confirmation of already fixed beliefs. It generates a lot of noise, and the legitimate calling out of our less-than-stellar content gets lost in the shuffle. They select the worst of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 03:17 PM
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Women talk about his dominance moves, but also about the total body contact instead of some kind of genital-only balancing act. It's the whole package. I think you timed this post just to fuck with TBP. It's an amusing red pill headline - Feminists' Favorite Male Pornstar Accused of Rape. They'll spin it as us idolizing his rapism. IMHO he has been the most sought after porn actor by women for years because of his performances, and the rape thing has nothing to do with it, but you could spin it …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 11:43 AM
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Luckily the pink pill has almost no effect. The only reason the FDA has taken notice is the pressure from women and men in dead bedrooms.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 01:53 AM
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That story showed a man holding frame better than most guys could manage. You are confusing disagreement with his choices with strength of frame. A man with a strong frame can still be hurt. Stoic is not unfeeling. You don't have to be dark triad to be a rock.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 01:50 AM
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In my wife's case that extends to anything in my domain that she would find stressful. She would ask me a question, and I would look at her like you look at the girl in the horror movie going toward the menacing sound. Stop! Are you crazy? Don't do it! You don't want to know! Major financial concern? STFU. Problem with the house? STFU. Our kid's sickness is starting to look like ER material? STFU. (That one's just because of my job - not recommended for most guys.) It surprised me when I started…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 01:43 AM
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She's got comfort and commitment from you that she didn't have then. In response, you have to be better at game and ideally more attractive than you were back then, and she will respond with whatever she did before, and more.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 04:18 PM
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That outburst doesn't herald a main event. the dishes, the laundry—these are usually my job because I work from a home office, but I had let them slip a bit since coming home That was the problem right there. She was excited to have you back, but you weren't back at 100%. If you need to delegate, do so in advance instead of just letting your usual responsibilities fall on her shoulders as an afterthought. She doesn't care about the details of your work. You still need to lead the household. Anot…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 01:58 PM
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So, he ups his dreadgame (totally BP) That wasn't any pill. That was just stupid. The first time vampiresquidina posted I thought her husband just misunderstood the MRP content. It turns out that he read one book, learned a couple of buzzwords without understanding the context, and figured he knew enough. He had masked his social incompetence with a Nice Guy veneer until a year ago. Now he needs to learn a whole new set of social skills, like assertiveness, planning, and anticipating other peopl…
/r/askMRP06/12/15 04:30 PM
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Verbal and emotional abuse from women toward men is very common, but usually takes the form of manipulative interactions rather than insults. A vast majority of men just put up with it. Whatever your situation was, I'm glad you got out. Some people are abusive by nature. Perhaps your wife was one of those. Some people are decent. I thought my wife was one of those. Many people are capable of both, and will respond in one way or the other depending on the circumstances. That often doesn't reveal …
/r/askMRP06/12/15 02:30 PM
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Anyone on either side who takes AWALT literally is an idiot. I recognize the irony of making that generalization, but in this case I'm sticking to it. you can take good things out of TRP, but most people don't I did. There are probably many others. It's impossible to say how many because the ones who go on to lead happy lives are less likely to post. The only reasons I'm still here are the exceptional guys like jacktenofhearts and the people who really need help like vampiresquidina and her husb…
/r/askMRP06/12/15 01:47 PM
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Most of the TRP main sub is kids in their mom's basement who have no access to women anyway. IMHO it's not worth getting bent out of shape about it, but I respect TBP's right to lump us all together as if we were a group. Free speech is important, even when people abuse it.
/r/askMRP06/12/15 01:18 PM
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Maybe the mods can change it. Thanks for trying.
/r/askMRP06/12/15 12:50 PM
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You just have to edit the submission with the link in it, and where it says (www.reddit.com/....) change it to (np.reddit.com/....)
/r/askMRP06/12/15 11:50 AM
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I just glanced at your post history and noticed that you linked to this thread with www instead of np. Could you please change that so that MRP doesn't get brigaded? Thanks.
/r/askMRP06/12/15 11:35 AM
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I agree about tantra from reading and half-hearted attempts at practice. I don't know very much about Taoism, but it comes up often enough that I may try to read about it someday.
/r/askMRP06/12/15 11:33 AM
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Smart watches and Fitbits could work, but guys would have to wear them on both wrists, and we'd never really know if they finished... Clinical trial design is tricky.
/r/askMRP06/12/15 11:24 AM
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Interesting. Mostly reviews then? Makes sense. I think the disclosures at the beginning of articles should include, "The author needs at least two publications per year for promotion and tenure."
/r/askMRP06/12/15 11:19 AM
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The only real downside of NoFap is an inverse correlation between ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer. If you're above twice per week then it's a non-issue. It's not for everyone, but I think every guy should try it at least once. Porn is a complete waste of time and can be addictive for some, but that's another story.
/r/askMRP06/12/15 11:14 AM
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Is /u/jacktenofhearts right then? Are you a lazy, selfish man-child who can't get his shit together without your wife's guidance, or are you going to get cracking and put in the effort? Don't tell me you're too busy - that's bullshit.
/r/askMRP06/12/15 03:33 AM
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Initiate when you want sex. Not because she said no earlier, or because you have an opportunity, but because you want sex right then. Always closing doesn't mean always initiating. It means that you should be gaming your wife all the time. Withdrawing attention is best reworded as having something better and more fun to do when she treats you poorly or gives a hard no. Sometimes that will be rolling over and going to sleep. Sometimes that will be leaving the house or working out. When you return…
/r/askMRP05/12/15 08:20 PM
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I take it you haven't read WISNIFG yet. As /u/its-iceman said, it's not about the red wine. It was her finding something to latch onto that she could use to make you feel guilty for her feelings about you reclaiming some power in the relationship. She sucks at dealing with conflict, so she was quite happy with her doormat. It's going to take time for her to adjust. It will take longer if you keep failing shit tests. Shit tests are normal, and she dishes them out more often than you realize. The …
/r/askMRP05/12/15 05:49 PM
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Addictions are complicated. If he has multiple addictions then it will be even worse. Arousal addiction is very common - video games, porn, social media, etc. He has to have some underlying motivation to change. This sub is for men, however. And the men in this sub have made commitments to self-improvement already. We're not the ideal group to be giving you advice on this. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/15 04:55 PM
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You know what you get when you save a damsel in distress? A distressed damsel. That is brilliant.
/r/askMRP04/12/15 08:04 PM
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As a scientist, why would such a tiny margin bother you? Outliers exist everywhere. Why are they triggering (lolz) any sort of response in you other than an eye roll? Why do they warrant even a sentence? It's a lifelong pattern of responses to me. "Love me or hate me." It's also a very different pattern from the rest of the faculty, at least in IM and in my division. As a result of those few 1's, there is one person in my division with higher evaluations than mine, and I am always looking to imp…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 05:40 PM
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Well these folks need to learn that being wrong / not liked is OK. That sounds like Red Pill wisdom to me - WISNIFG and NMMNG mashed together.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 02:19 PM
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Women have Facebook, guys have porn, Men either eliminate or minimize both.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 02:06 AM
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It depends on the relationship. In this case, you are probably right. If he were high value then she might hear more about how lucky she is and how much better he is than their ex-husbands.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 12:26 AM
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Clearly both you and OP cannot recognize... That's an unsupported inference. Insert any other vice into her storyline and the issue is still her, not the vice. Maybe she's a casual cocaine user. As long as she behaves well then it's okay. (Couldn't resist using your tactics against you.) there's no ego here Really? Then why did you say this? If you lift, for at least any appreciable amount of time, you'll know what I'm talking about.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 09:27 PM
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Lifting has all sorts of downsides. If you lift, for at least any appreciable amount of time, you'll know what I'm talking about. It sounds like you have a lot of expertise with respect to weight bearing exercise. Does that include working in rehabilitation? Or with the elderly? There is more to weight bearing exercise than barbell squats. It's the wife's inability to act normally and healthy that caused issues, not the social media itself. Nobody here has said otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 09:20 PM
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What I despise is redundancy without progress ISWYDT
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 08:52 PM
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Clearly I'm hitting a nerve. Says the guy protecting his ego about the use of social media and making inferences about OP's intent.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 08:51 PM
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No disagreement Thanks you Why stop with social media? Are you going to sit your wife down and advise against all other forms of guilty pleasure? So, do you agree or not? Slippery slope arguments are weak. It's not different than lifting. To most, it's a waste of time. That's just plain wrong. Weight bearing exercise has physiological benefits for any adult without a contraindication. And please don't launch into some nitpicking bullshit about lifting too much or body dysmorphia. Don't kid yours…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 08:44 PM
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This conversation is typical Reddit and Internet forum bullshit. It sounds like thebluepill in here. It can be fun at TBP, but I think ViciousFrilledLizard is spending a bit too much time there.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 07:24 PM
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Worthiness matches what you're saying better than deservedness.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 07:22 PM
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Gotta disagree with you here. Red Pill men work to be high value people. We expect the people around us to do the same. /u/TrainingTheBrain provided his wife with an opportunity to enhance her life. He did that through discussion, leading by example, and subtle operant conditioning. That's good leadership. The only part of his approach that could have been "controlling" was his use of logic and his request that she restrict social media to the computer. The latter wouldn't even be controlling if…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 06:42 PM
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That's a nice counterpoint to my post. The first few strategies were trying to use logic. At best that would move her slightly further in the stages of change, but then came this: When she would scroll I would leave. No words, no anything. I would leave the room, the house, whatever I wanted to do - I would go and do that. I wasn’t butt-hurt; I just didn’t find her worth my time and attention. This kind of negative reinforcement is more powerful than a debate. In this case it goes even further, …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 04:58 PM
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That was always a problem for me too. In high school and undergrad girls literally had to take their shirts off for me to get the hint that they were DTF. For a smart guy I can be pretty stupid.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 03:48 PM
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Thanks. It's been brewing in my mind for months. Unfortunately the end product was a bit rushed, typing it all out in the few minutes after an obese patient broke the equipment in my exercise lab. In hindsight I would have gotten rid of all the work stuff that got the conversation so derailed. I just don't have what it takes to manipulate people in a direct manner. Without those dark triad traits, someone skilled at understanding manipulation will see right through me. My best bet is to improve …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 02:56 PM
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suicide rate in doctors of all ages, male and female, wouldn't be twice that of the regular population Female doctors and med students attempt suicide at a far lower rate than the general population. Their success rate is higher because they know how to do it right. See, that's an example of questioning assumptions without attacking the person. Uh oh, that second part sounded like an attack. I'll show myself out.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 01:15 PM
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Medical training is stressful. I can see that you think I make it worse for the students. I deconstruct the medical literature and traditions, not the people. What else about my post came across as intimidating the learners?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 12:22 PM
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Yes, much like The Great and Wonderful Oz. Fear me! Since you've decided that I'm a dark triad guy who likes to insult people, I'll do so: Those who rate you 1/5 <1% of them so far. The rest make positive comments about kindness and support and other ooey gooey feelz, call me their favorite staff, and ask for further electives with me. Obviously it's Stockholm syndrome. put them down for making normal mistakes, cow them into never asking questions, and teach them that asking for help is a sign o…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 12:07 PM
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If your wife doesn't respect you, the last thing you should do is tell her she can't see a girlfriend on the weekend. Unless there's a serious logistical problem with childcare, etc. It makes you seem controlling & insecure - beta - unless I'm missing something. Rollo Tomassi would agree. So would I, but some guys here see it as giving her an opportunity to cheat and choose to intervene like Athol Kay suggests for the orbiter making a move. OP would come across as creepy and controlling for bloc…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 01:44 AM
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Those students of yours that gave you 1/5? They felt bullied and manipulated by your logic. Manipulated, definitely - the entire point of my post is that manipulating people with logic can be unintentional and can cause problems. Bullied - it's possible, and since reading WISNIFG I've taken steps to avoid that. I only mess with people's heads some of the time. Usually I'm nice. I use the Socratic approach... I even like to pretend I do not know or remember. As do I for one-to-one or in small gro…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 09:49 PM
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I spent months looking for some trick or technique that would get my wife off the couch and back into the real world. How could I get her engaged in marriage and parenting? As soon as I stopped trying, it just happened. Now she shuts off the TV and asks, "Wanna go to bed?" We tell guys to make their tasks seem effortless. As you internalize the Red Pill and continue your self-improvement, it becomes effortless. As /u/TrainingTheBrain says, find comfort in the discomfort. It is a relentless effor…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 07:52 PM
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I am halfway through re-reading WISNIFG right now! I never fit the mold of the Nice Guy either, but it doesn't take many covert contracts to put a monkeywrench in your sex life. Though most of NMMNG didn't apply to me, the small part that did was very helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 07:42 PM
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Embrace polyamory or next her.
/r/askMRP02/12/15 02:06 PM
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Getting over the covert contracts will be harder and more time consuming for her that it has been for you. I talked to my wife about the idea of covert contracts, eliminated all of the conscious ones from my life, and I still waited over 6 months before buying her a flower. Even then, I took absurd precautions to ensure that she would not perceive any covert contracts. Stick with your MAP, read bogeyd6's recent post as stonepimpletilists suggested, and move on as if nothing happened.
/r/askMRP01/12/15 09:43 PM
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and google fu I don't understand that part.
/r/askMRP30/11/15 08:39 PM
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That's a pretty weak troll post. Most of the girls on TBP are much funnier.
/r/askMRP30/11/15 07:41 PM
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Solid response. An orbiter is attempting entry. Or re-entry.
/r/askMRP30/11/15 07:02 PM
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That's too brief, thus the knee jerk reaction from her and white knighting from others. You seem to be saying that she might take that walk if Hugh Jackman or some other hot, talented superstar came knocking. You are probably right, but an individual person can be an exception, as whinemoreplease pointed out.
/r/askMRP30/11/15 06:59 PM
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the, "I love you," comfort test You struggle with it because it can be a comfort test, but usually it isn't. Usually it's routine, like saying "good, thanks" when someone says "how are you," or saying "hello" when you pick up the phone. It's polite conversation. If you want to forgo the usual pleasantries, then use humor. AA, DA, AM responses can all work. Sometimes it's a compliment. Respond to that however you want. Sometimes it's manipulation, preparing you for an incoming request. Sometimes …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 06:43 PM
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Everything you are describing is a normal response to seeing your wife for who she is. anxious women dont deal with shit or comfort tests. They are all, "shitty comfort tests." Hilarious and mostly true. She's wrapped up in her own anxieties. If she can't get that under control with therapy, medication, or self-help (in order of effectiveness, if she has a good therapist) then it will be hard to have a satisfying relationship. One of the things that was brought up was not willing to have a kid w…
/r/askMRP30/11/15 05:31 PM
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Good progress. Your wife is initiating more frequently. That usually means you're missing cues when she's DTF. You seem to seem to have a need for her to initiate. Is this a covert contract? You are improving yourself, so she should want to fuck you? You already know the hall pass comment is for the pussy-whipped guys on deadbedrooms. You were going out because you wanted to go out, not because your wife gave you permission.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 05:18 PM
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Absolutely right
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/15 02:46 PM
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From your previous descriptions, it sounds like you're a bit heavier on the Dominance than some of the guys here, but it's good to know that you're a beast with a soft side.
/r/askMRP28/11/15 01:29 PM
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As if one harsh word or action will have her leave Most of the guys here are not abusive (sorry TBP) so that's true for most of us. But I can think of a few phrases with grains of truth in them that would end my marriage. You probably can too.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/15 12:31 PM
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There's more than one way to skin a cat. You can go full caveman as described by /u/Sepean, which has worked very well for him and fits with his likes/dislikes in the bedroom, but in your specific case you should read through the Sex God Method and think about what you like and need in bed. SGM talks about Dominance, Emotion, Variety, Immersion. It talks about focusing on your own enjoyment, and giving your partner pleasure and orgasm on your own terms. Don't neglect her, just fuck her right. Em…
/r/askMRP28/11/15 12:04 PM
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complains that if she had asked to see something on TV I would have told her I didn't want to at that time Agree with /u/chief_slap_ahoe that it sounds like LMR. He said to "push through" - basically treat it like a shit test without the nuclear option. Agree or disagree and amplify, amused mastery, some kind of joke, and keep going. Shit tests like this are foreplay. says I didn't giver her a backrub That's where you offer her a back AND front rub. (I can't stop the Dad jokes - it's a compulsio…
/r/askMRP28/11/15 11:40 AM
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Of all the posts to get a brigader downvoting everyone, why this one? There are some weird people in TBP.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/15 12:10 AM
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If you like it and she's into it, then go for it. It doesn't make you "less alpha" to do the things you enjoy on your own terms, even if the things you enjoy are not examples of constant dominance. If she's turned off by it, then hold off for a while and slowly inch toward the activity you want as your SMV continues to rise. As you change and improve yourself, she will change in response. Her preferences in the bedroom will change too. As you introduce new things, her preferences will continue t…
/r/askMRP26/11/15 10:50 PM
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What communication do you need from her? Not what you're accustomed to, but what you actually need. Likely you need to talk to her only for logistics. If she's boring, ignore her and do something fun. Do not chase her around like a toddler starved for attention. You already have one of those in the house. Women do not respect a man who seeks validation. They do not respect a man who showers attention on them. You have become the babysitter/meal ticket. Anything more that you demand from her will…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 08:24 PM
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That's a great intro for your blog. It sets the tone that it is about masculine strategy in family life and not just sex, clearly differentiating it from standard Red Pill or PUA. The inclusivity of the way it is presented is also terrific. Betas, alphas, and sigmas all have work to do in order to reach the ideal that you describe. We'll keep beating the gammas and omegas with sticks on Reddit until they're mature enough for your blog.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 01:38 PM
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Great FR! She wants you to lead in the bedroom - she told you so! You may be tempted to keep doing what has been working so far. Remember to keep changing things up That post was easily good enough for the main MRP sub. Keep it up!
/r/askMRP25/11/15 10:41 PM
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Boasting and posing over the Internet? That's not AMOG "bro". Both of you give it a rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 02:06 PM
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/u/cholomite covered your questions nicely. Flirt with her if it's fun, but not if it's for validation of your skills or your self-worth. She could just as easily have reacted very badly. The next woman might too. No matter how high your SMV, you will be rejected some of the time. Are you flirting with your wife too?
/r/askMRP25/11/15 02:40 AM
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vasectomy WAS pretty major fucking alteration to my dick Not unless there was some horrific complication like Fournier's gangrene. I had a hematoma from mine. Boohoo. If you can do it under local anesthetic, it's not major. If a GP can do it, it's not major. C section is MAJOR fucking surgery (I've seen my wifes' guts, literally), and adding a snip snip on top of that is fucking trivial True, but also 1/10th as effective as vasectomy. That being said, my wife would have done it if she had had a …
/r/askMRP25/11/15 01:32 AM
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True, but exaggerated by confirmation bias.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 11:57 PM
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He says some very insightful stuff, but then he gets a bee in his bonnet about something like reddeadwolverine and stops contributing to the conversation in a meaningful way. We all have bad days.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 11:24 PM
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a lot of people complaining about sex It is a subreddit on sexual strategy. Why should a man change himself for the (sexual) approval of a woman? Read the sidebar. Don't post any more until you do. Defend the red pill Go to purplepilldebates What's the difference between the red pill and MGTOW? Red pill is praxeology of male sexual strategy in a feminist culture. We discussed MGTOW in response to your last post. If you want to see a hybrid, read the Book of Pook. Where's the real stoicism? I sug…
/r/askMRP24/11/15 11:08 PM
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Here It can be fun over there in small doses, but somebody always ends the fun conversations with some passive aggressive comment about rape or whatever makes them feel like superior victims.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 09:59 PM
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Good sequence. He might want to read about the dysfunctional captains along with MMSLP, before he gets bogged down with WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 09:31 PM
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Strengthen your frame. Read the books in the MRP sidebar. Keep raising the bar on your fitness routine. Build a fun and interesting life for yourself. Socialize. When you are happy with yourself, then think about adding long-term relationships, marriage, or kids. /u/Scurvemuch mentioned good resources on selecting a wife, but I don't think you are ready for that. If you haven't yet developed a strong frame then your frame will crumble when tested by the wrong woman. Consider reading about the ph…
/r/askMRP24/11/15 09:21 PM
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Your last two posts here would be better received in the MGTOW sub.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 09:13 PM
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You forgot to add the part about going to starbucks and having a revelation based on a positive transaction with an employee who is paid to be nice to you and all of the sex and awesomeness that followed It's amusing that a post about letting go of the past was met with dredging up an old post from OP. neither seems to be effective His post frequency has gone way down, and there have been fewer weak ones like this lately. It seems that he is taking the feedback and improving.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 08:52 PM
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I was in that thread. Thought I said something funny. Then you chimed in and took me and everyone there to school. You're some kind of hypomanic Macchiavellian genius. Like Robin Williams (RIP) meets the Red Pill.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 04:46 PM
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As much as it's convenient to blurt AWALT and suggest that wives have no tolerance for sickness, stress, etc., they have proven otherwise to us. In terms of divorce, true. Women will put up with a lot and stay married. Unfortunately many women cannot treat a man with respect or want to have sex with him on a consistent basis when he becomes sick and dependent, regardless of his attitude. My wife is like that. Many of the wives of my patients are like that. I see it literally every day. I'm glad …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 04:36 PM
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Excellent post. A non-denominational reply here: Those vows are just words My wife had absolutely no idea what she was saying, and had repeatedly told me that she didn't care about the content of the vows. She told me that custom vows are a meaningless gesture that is done for show. TRP would call that a red flag, but I disagree. She takes a cold and calculating approach to the truths contained in the Red Pill that has made it easy to develop a MAP. in front of her's and your parents and grandpa…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 04:06 PM
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I was going to reply with "noose", but TBP has a habit of taking things literally and I don't want my account deleted by Reddit. Speaking of Reddit administration, doxxing is against Reddit's terms of service. I have no experience with it, but reporting the offenders might work.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 03:51 PM
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the domineering woman/weak man is a trope used for comic effect It's been around for centuries - it's not a feminist invention Agreed. TRP would say that it exists because that is the natural order of things for the average man and woman, and that society believes a guy who finds himself in that situation is to be mocked rather than supported. The contribution of feminism here is that a domineering man like OP is considered unacceptable, while a relationship with a domineering woman is still con…
/r/askMRP24/11/15 11:04 AM
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men only think with their dicks and they'll drop you for a younger woman as soon as you hit 30. They're incapable of love - AMALT You have always known that guys like that exist. You learned as a teen how common those guys are, and that they are good only as fuck buddies. As an adult you learned that the potential to behave like that is hidden behind the respectable facade of many, if not most men, only to later be exposed by opportunity and circumstance. How did you know and learn those things?…
/r/askMRP24/11/15 04:05 AM
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She's the AWALT prototype in some ways, closer to unicorn in others. If I told anyone who knows her, they wouldn't believe it because it is so different from how she behaves in other domains. She is also completely different with me when I've got my shit together. This is one of the reasons guys in the TRP main sub say such horrible things followed by AWALT. It's a warning of the hidden potential. Addendum: you shouldn't have to be "alpha" to be treated decently by your wife. But we do. That's w…
/r/askMRP23/11/15 11:21 PM
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I realized that too late. Response edited above.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 10:52 PM
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One of my attendings from med school used to add, "No guarantees were given or implied."
/r/askMRP23/11/15 10:30 PM
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If it was a secret vasectomy then I'd be getting what I deserve for being a passive aggressive piece of shit. The exception would be if my wife were abusive, in which case I would feel completely justified in getting a secret vasectomy and would be ready for divorce for her trying to arrange to have me assaulted. On the off chance that OP is not a troll, then he may be a controlling prick who believes that his wife has disrespected him by seeing the doctor without informing him. He may not under…
/r/askMRP23/11/15 10:25 PM
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is this the same guy who wanted his doc to 'stitch up his wife' after the pregnancy? That was my first thought - different username. The delusional micropenis stitch guy was a troll. There are TBP subscribers who have alternate accounts that they use to troll the red pill subs. There are TRP guys who have alternate accounts to troll TBP too, but that's another story.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 09:43 PM
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Thanks for addressing the red pill side of things in a coherent way. I was too annoyed. A lawsuit "because fat" is bullshit. True but if they're in the USA and she wasn't informed about that side effect then they could win a lawsuit. It's petty and frivolous, but it has been successfully done.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 08:59 PM
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You're not a doctor. Don't fuck around with medications. This is not a medical advice forum. Go with your wife to see her psychiatrist ASAP. The side effects of abrupt withdrawal of many of these medications can be extremely unpleasant. You only have a few days before the symptoms kick in.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 07:38 PM
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I don't understand. Does that mean you were wanting us to explain to you why we gave advice? If so, my answer is above. As for whether I read OP's response, did you mean this? Honestly I didn't seek advice, although I appreciate any. Emphasis added.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 06:37 PM
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He went on to talk about bursting into tears and using words like "loneliness," and "disconnected." If somebody posts something that sounds internally inconsistent, they should expect to be challenged. Anyone on Reddit who doesn't want their views challenged should either not post, should become a mod of the subreddit in question, or should start their own sub and turn it into an echo chamber. Otherwise every word will be open to criticism and unsolicited advice. What you've done here is critici…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 05:39 PM
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Do you not want any more kids with your wife, or with anyone ever? If the latter, get the vasectomy. Your body, your potential offspring, your decision. All other consequences are minor and irrelevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 04:42 PM
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you know exactly the type of 'support' I need from you Don't negotiate desire. I'm inclined to agree with /u/WhiteTrashKiller that, with a 3 months old, you want to see progress and improvement in your sex life, but it won't immediately go back to what it was right before she got pregnant. As long as you are consistently making progress then you are doing well. Are you done after 3 kids? Birth control is all set? Does she have any lingering physical issues from childbirth or breastfeeding that m…
/r/askMRP22/11/15 06:28 PM
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The only reason I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt and not labeling it ego protection or validation-seeking is that alcohol was involved. Look at how riled up BPP got. The impression of tension, frustration, and focus on her responses was contagious. You say all is well - that's fine. It just doesn't read that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 02:31 PM
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I mean the whole thing. Her rejecting sex at that moment caused you to deviate from your usual plans. To some extent that is inevitable, but this rejection reaction was different. It was different enough that you felt a need to post. Something isn't right.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 01:05 PM
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The illusion of two people being in love is gone. Once and for all. FTFY. It was a fantasy. Find a new way to love her without the illusions. If you can't, then you'll still be stuck in a relationship where you are pretending, just in a different role from when you were a Nice Guy. The current combination of your situation and mindset is poisoning you. One or the other needs fine tuning. The superficial stuff is all in line. Shift the focus to your mindset for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 12:27 PM
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I've seen the updates. The whole thing is uncharacteristic of your other posts. Whether it's because you're hurt, angry, frustrated, exhausted, or whatever, it is not working as smoothly as you would like partly because it's a reaction to her. The basic sense of outcome independence for a series of simple interactions was lost. You're focused on your plan for eventual divorce, convincing yourself that it gives you an impenetrable defense of outcome independence. It hasn't. She denied sex for one…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 12:00 PM
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And airplanes
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 01:02 AM
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If she's initiating frequently then you're missing cues when she's DTF more often than you realize. That was a nice, simple FR - thanks for sharing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 11:52 PM
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I'll submit a separate FR is she does, though. ;) I see what you did there.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 11:47 PM
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I should get out of here now...it's the locker room. Tits or GTFO.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 11:05 PM
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I'm an asshole, but I'm not dishonest.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 10:45 PM
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Red, Blue, Purple pills. A full spectrum of Aspergers right here on Reddit!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 10:37 PM
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You mean it's contagious? The rise in prevalence of the diagnosis makes much more sense now.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 10:34 PM
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One page worth, enough to see you pontificate about how 5x5 will ruin your back.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 10:23 PM
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It was a direct response to what you have said here. I have no inclination to stalk you. You're just not that interesting. Embrace your narcissism my friend!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 09:54 PM
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So, MRP with extra narcissism? Edit: in case you've got a touch of Aspergers, I'm just fucking with you. Unlike most of MRP, I've never been a Nice Guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 09:48 PM
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With the exception of the condescension, that was a textbook MRP response from a regular on TBP. There's hope for this one!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/15 09:36 PM
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I hope you both come back in a few months with an update. You might need your flair changed at that point.
/r/askMRP21/11/15 08:59 PM
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Reality
/r/askMRP21/11/15 01:56 PM
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MGTOW can't be defined - that's the point. It can mean anything. It can be anyone who follows their own path. It could be Sir Richard Branson, Pook, or the unabomber. Your wife will "cheat" on some level if you don't provide her with the masculine strength that she needs in her life. What does this mean on the SMV side of things? Too alpha - she'll seek understanding and comfort from elsewhere. Too beta - her sexual energy will be directed toward either non-sexual or sexual pursuits separate fro…
/r/askMRP21/11/15 12:42 PM
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People here keep saying that about Rollo's blog, but I don't see it. There's cynicism about the world in general, but he's much more optimistic than most of the guys here about the behavior of a well-selected wife in a relationship informed by the red pill.
/r/askMRP21/11/15 12:27 PM
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You know the answer. People revert to their old habits and coping strategies when stressed. Stress from work weakened your frame. Relating that story to your wife was a weak move. You want understanding and support from your wife about your stress level, which is something you should never expect. You can't allow yourself any slack either. Times of stress are when its most important to stand strong and firm. If your frame were solid then you wouldn't have told the story and, if she had heard abo…
/r/askMRP21/11/15 12:11 PM
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I'm going to expand on what you said. If OP is getting high quality and high frequency sex, then ramping up the dread seems unnecessary. Keep changing things up. The area to escalate is developing new skills, knowledge, and fitness.
/r/askMRP21/11/15 11:43 AM
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As you've probably guessed, that comment was for sexyshoulderdevil. The comments in this thread were turning into a dog pile. My comments elsewhere in the thread were for OP. They need to learn how to deal with conflict in a way that is healthy for both of them. Practice makes perfect.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 02:31 PM
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His wife had commented about his reaction when she disagreed with him about minor things. That means she is fighting him on insignificant details and minor issues at least some of the time. She's definitely not blameless, and it was pointed out to her by several people here. He's not fucking up a perfect marriage. She picked him partly because she could act badly and he would say "yes dear." Now they both have to develop some new skills.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 03:11 AM
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