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She needs a hobby. Next time she does it go grab her crotcheting stuff or whatever and give her something to do with her hands. Or show her how you like to destress, sex.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 09:34 PM
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I'm not miserable, my wife is, I'm happy regardless.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 10:04 PM
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I know what your saying, I haven't even started PUA yet. No number closes or even effort and I'm getting serious IOI's. I got in an accident last night and the lady invited me out for drinks.it was hard to say no cause she was easily an HB8. Oh well. The important thing is we have a map set and we follow it. Can't have a ship sailing in circles expecting to get anywhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 06:14 PM
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I would do some serious thinking about whether that sort of abuse, which I think it is, in your opinion will allow you to leave. It's a hard question. Is the sex at least getting better? I think if it is then the attitude Will follow. Nothing is for certain but I think the attitude just lingers until they get used to their new life.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 10:35 PM
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That's my dilemma. The sex is getting better with my improvement but it's Her attitude that is bad. In my case I think that she needs some serious counseling and I'm pushing Her for that. I am still not sure if active dread will rip that. I would live feedback though. I won't cheat on her to get results. My vows are mine to own and I won't break my word as a man, a Christian Man, to make a point. I don't know what the answer is though. We are having the talk though, she is just steadfast in not …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 10:32 PM
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Perfect. Thanks. She has a lifetime membership. I think I will wait to pair it with an NRA one for now. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 12:34 AM
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I'm in a holding pattern waiting for her to realize this now. I just told her (calmly, matter of fact) this morning that her attitude is not acceptable anymore. Went to work. She never gets up in the morning with me, since I leave around 530-6. Seems like she woke up just to berate me some more. She has tried to call and text many times. Radio silence.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 11:35 PM
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Just about to start six once I finish TRM. Kino worked great. Sex is up due to my consistency. Wife has started the gym on her own and goes three days a week. I am always chatting up chicks so PUA will only amplify the IOI's I already get.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 11:31 PM
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I'd hope so. She is hitting the gym and told me last nighg(again) "you should get another(additional) wife". I told her we would have to get a bigger place. She screamed some more. She just screams and yells about this stuff. She continued it again today so I told her it was unacceptable and I would not talk to her until she got counseling. She doesn't know how close she is to changing my mind about how long my map allows for this stuff. She is definitely unstable. Edit: I should add that basica…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 11:06 PM
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I think the key to You success is that you are getting comfortable. You dont seem to be anxious or nervous. Whether your faking it or it's real, it's working! Your not sitting up at the suggestion asking what you need to do to make that happen. Your the prize seems like an internal reality for you. Good job!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 05:29 PM
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I'm good with divorce. Fuck, that feels good! I had said previously that I was completely OI. Now I'm completely unplugged. That was holding me back. I woke up this morning, after spending a few hours sitting in bed with zero anxiety over my future, refreshed and ready to tackle life(i know, cliche). As time keeps rolling on she just keeps adding things that push me away. She is doubling down on bad behaviour. That's her fault. I don't engage in arguments. She has no desire to be a stable person…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 04:12 PM
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But when women do this it's due to seeing them as a child that needs help. Bad setup for a relationship and has lead to the prevailing thought of husbands being like children. No Good for sex set up either. Both situations set men and women up to be in incompatible marriages or at least messy for a while until one of the other owns their need for work and handles it. Thereby setting up the proper two adult situation needed for a successful marriage. Edit: the other situation that comes up is whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/15 07:10 PM
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Cause Nice Guys hide who they are because they think people will reject them if they they don't hide there flaws. In essence it creates a picture of him not being a weak Man. They don't "need" a fixer upper, but because they hide their flaws, fully self aware of them, they pick someone they think they deserve or pick someone subconsciously that will not call attention to their own brokenness due to their partners obvious brokenness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/15 07:00 PM
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Read no more Mr nice guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/15 04:57 PM
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She's always had access, but now she will get proficient. Better be on my best behaviour from now on! Especially since the training course I will send her through will teach her to hit a moving target.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 03:49 PM
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Answer to number 2 No WIFE wants a cocky man. A wife wants to change their husbands to be little leashed pets they can carry around with them in their purse. A WOMAN likes a cocky man because it indicates he is not afraid of her and can handle a woman. Your WIFE does not want you to be a man that can handle women. Somehow our little special snowflakes at home forgot that they like a strong, mentally sharp man that can survive on their own because it gives them a sense of security. A wife that co…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 05:00 AM
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and she's clearly feeling the dread (she asked me if I've got a Tinder, asked if I'm seeing another woman when I say I'm out with friends etc. I'm not seeing anyone on the side, but I couldn't stifle a grin when she asked.) Ah, yes, the subtle ways our wives communicate that they think other women would gladly take us of their hands or satisfy out needs for a night. My wife asked me who I was with at the shooting range......like ten times. I said no one except the 20 women there for ladies night…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 04:26 AM
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What in the fuck do modern women in our society do to us? Only what you allow them to do. Where's your fucking sack man. It's your fault! What happened to men? Same answer as above. Add One to your local population.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 02:37 AM
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My wife and I actually tried this for the 6 preceeding months to our wedding. The difference it was both of our ideas. Problem was I was actually still 80% alpha and I would wake up with her head between my legs. First it was no vaginal pen, then we said anal was fine. Then we just had sex again. We felt like we were already married and we're just doing the certificate for state/tax reasons. Anyways. That was at a point where I still did my own shit and women would ask me right in front of her h…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 02:09 AM
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Yeah everyone has been there big guy. That's the only sympathy you will get. When a young male or female wolf senses weakness in the alpha they will attack them.it is absolutely imperative that the alpha is the strongest. There survival depends on it. And if they fail. They get replaced. They have to. Your wife is worried that the strong man she married is becoming weak. You ARE becoming weak. You are weak. She is shit testing you. Side bar. -----> start with No More Mister Nice Guy and go throu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:24 AM
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Good for you. Move back into your house. Don't even tell her. Just move back. Show up and sleep in your bed. Show her that you think you are think of You self as a prize. She wants to leave? Her choice.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 12:31 AM
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Move back into your house immediately. I can't believe you left. If she wants space she can go. I take it you are paying for it? Ignore her. She wants you to do everything. Why are you prepared to continue to do everything she wants to make her happy. You obviously are not happy. Ignore her and start lifting MORE(if you are at three days then go to five). Where are you at in the reading? She left. Fuck her. If she says you are no longer married in her eyes then act like it. You have this pussy o…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 12:13 AM
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Keystroke log Her and GPS her. Until there is anything significant to go off then operate as normal. Act on your suspicions but do it in a smart way. Without involving her. Your suspicions seem to be motivated by one night. Where are you in the reading? Lifting? You have not given us much to go off as to where you are at in this process. It's relevant because it is much more about you in here than her. Even if she is acting like a shit the advice given here is more about how you react and handle…
/r/askMRP15/11/15 11:49 PM
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Anytime I mention a girl to her, her first reaction is, "Is she pretty?" and "do you talk to her?" It's very annoying, especially since I'm not the jealous type. She gets angry that I say a girl is pretty, but she has no problems of saying some guy is hot - "Someone who is in a serious relationship doesn't go salsa dancing knowing that they'll be paired up with a random girl. I don't know any girl that would be ok with that." NUKE OPTION RESPONSE: "And you wonder why I haven't proposed yet?" han…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/15 07:32 PM
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Non-RP language motivation. Start hitting the gym with me bro. Time to improve for your future life/wife. Let's go have some fun. What are you interested in? Let's do that shit. Let's figure out why she is divorcing you later. Right now let's go have some fun and do all the stuff you have been ignoring that you wanted to do since you have been married. After a night at the bar where you guys are chatting up some chicks, give him a beer. Go sit on the curb in the middle of nowhere and tell him so…
/r/askMRP15/11/15 03:19 AM
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I would look at what each route would get you. 1) NO REPLY Optimal if you really don't want to be married anymore. Invest nothing if you want nothing. 2)SHELL GAME Either that or your taking this right down to the wire to show her absolute OI. And you are gonna pull the reigns back at the last minute if she gets on her knees and begs for you back. My buddies wife only played cordial when she realised he was gonna fight for every last penny. The only reason she was being nice is B cause she thoug…
/r/askMRP15/11/15 12:35 AM
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I keep trying to get my wife to lift. She has that type of muscle structure you see on soccer players. She can't define it as well with what you call the bunny slope of muscle definition..... Cardio. She doesn't respect me enough to follow me into weight lifting...... Yet.
/r/askMRP14/11/15 05:43 PM
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Outcome independence on anything that doesn't work for you my friend. Genuine joy for those who fit together with you. If a girl doesn't like you for who you are then she doesn't actually like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/15 04:44 PM
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Disclaimer: don't try this at home, boys. "Ommy" is a vet. I agree, practice on random women. Implement at home.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/15 05:29 AM
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It looks like she is pulling herself to be honest. A little thread of wariness is holding her back from investing the time in going submissive. She knows he wants that, blow jobs on demand, and a sweet feminine wife that dresses sexy and trades her sex card often and can handle the responsibility of first officer with a big fat smile. He obviously is ready to trade his commitment card but will not without his standards being met. Her post here is just to see that we are not all freaks that just …
/r/askMRP14/11/15 01:46 AM
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The benefits? Bp liberated females who want nothing to do with TRP males inadvertently provide a much larger amount of fish in the sea that will sustain these TRP guys, who don't want to get married, for a lifetime. Ironic....
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/15 01:32 AM
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Lets get what we can out of it.
/r/askMRP14/11/15 01:17 AM
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I'm gonna give you a little hint because at the rate your going your gonna get banned real soon and the sooner you figure this out the sooner your husband can tell us how his new redpillwife has been a great addition to his marriage and how much kinkier she has gotten since. Whinemoreplease highlighted your out of control ego. This guy tested you again. You failed both. Kill your ego Missy. Now go read your book, put on some lingerie and Fuck your husband. This is why I said you should stop post…
/r/askMRP14/11/15 12:52 AM
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There's no point in posting until then. You don't know what you don't know. Make sense?
/r/askMRP14/11/15 12:28 AM
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No, I hope bpp or wmp write a sweet IRL example post on solipsism. This chick is a goldmine. Someday we'll figure out who her husband is and we can all yell a collective NEXT!!!!!
/r/askMRP13/11/15 11:50 PM
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Stop posting until you read the book that /u/bluepillprofessor recommends. And start lifting. You responsible for your shit. Your husbands a dick, it's your fault. All your husbands bad behaviour is on you. Maybe he doesn't want to be nice to you. Maybe your a shit testing harpy who thinks that everything your husband does is his fault. Check your own attitude before you call him a dick. Maybe he just stopped putting up with your shit. If you don't want to fuck him he's a bad husband. If he does…
/r/askMRP13/11/15 11:31 PM
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Check out whinemoreplease exchange with this chick yesterday.
/r/askMRP13/11/15 11:19 PM
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I hope he posts here. All it better say is "well talk about it when I get home" Texting is for logistics. I think everyone should write something like they are talking to their wives. Might be interesting.
/r/askMRP13/11/15 10:30 PM
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Since your not my wife I'll tell you what I would tell my wife if she wasn't "a crier". I understand you have emotions and that's one of the things that makes me love you but I'm not responsible to walk around all day thinking about how you feel. I have better things to do than worry about whether your gonna be mad at me when I get home from work because I didn't text, call or shoot you a voicemail with some lovey dovey shit. I say that stuff when your hair is a mess and your sweaty after a good…
/r/askMRP13/11/15 10:14 PM
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Even your title reeks of lack of responsibility. This is simple cause and affect. Your the cause and the effect is you look like a giant twat. Maybe you are not in general but it only takes one time. A public humility lesson is in order here. You do this as a man. Not some beta that is afraid of the group. You created this situation just like every other failure in your marriage. Starting to see how you probably have fucked up like this in her mind creating your shitty marriage? You don't have t…
/r/askMRP13/11/15 08:00 PM
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Hopefully he listened to his wife and got a girlfriend when his wife denied him for sex. Wife knows best!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 05:13 PM
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I'm laughing with you.....at them.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 04:23 PM
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I'm sure she will get it all on her own without any action from you. You must be selfless young grasshopper. What's the old phrase? "when in doubt ask your wife" ha ha ha. I almost puked writing this. Edit: see how it's working though? She came to you all sweet. The bullshit is just a lingering effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 01:26 AM
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She does know. Now its not covert. Problem fixed, she came to him so obviously it's working. All he did was provide proof but is afraid of success. The dog caught the car he was chasing but doesn't know what to do with it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 12:50 AM
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This is part of the push pull dynamic. She pushes your needs away so you pull your availability to meet hers. Now that she knows it's not covert. Keep using AA now that she knows.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 12:49 AM
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69% The Office of National Statistics' (ONS) most recent number crunch reveals that in 2011, the woman was the party granted (therefore initiating) the divorce in 66% of cases that year. It used to be an even higher share: 69% in 2001, and a whopping 72% at the start of the 1990s.Oct 8, 2013 Link wouldn't copy for whatever reason. Google: percentage of women initiating divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 09:57 PM
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Many people will see the word polarised and think that means conflict. It just means opposite in this situation. The reality is that they are magnetic forces in that real masculinity attracts real femininity and encourages it. In the absence of it you find couples who are neither feminine or masculine. They are a homogeneous blasphemy of gender. Only when the opposing genders become demonized(femenazi propaganda) do you find the genders in unbalanced conflict. Conflict will happen as sure as the…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 08:26 PM
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Wives need humor. Especially SAHM's. If you aren't a humorous person that allows stress to run off your back like water off a duck then you need to watch more comedy. It's one of the many underlying themes in this process.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 06:48 PM
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I probably just need to communicate with her more. That's what our marriage therapist said. We've been seeing her for the past 4 years. I think it's working. Almost every time a new guy drills into there past we hear how the wife wants to go AGAIN. The 3rd time didn't work but the forth is like magic! Blah blah blah insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results
/r/askMRP12/11/15 12:05 AM
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DEER = Defend Explain Engage Rationalise
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 11:59 PM
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I call my wife Master Overreaction sometimes and the truth comes spilling out what is really bothering her. It's rarely about whatever they are talking about. "my friend so and so didn't call back about the play date or blah blah blah" I usually laugh and make some snide remark to the tune of "glad I could be you whipping boy, I'll get the handcuffs" The guys on here aren't nearly having enough fun with their wives outbursts. The oak barely moves in gusts of wind.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 08:55 PM
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Everyone is saying handle your responsibility which you should obviously do but my question is this. Is this her idea to make you do it or did you lovingly decide to play into old stereotypes and volunteer? The reason I ask is not to have you buck the system because you are not at a point to renegotiate if you can't handle a shit test like this. My point is simply to help you see that she is using little things like this to make you feel stupid. Don't let her blow this shit up on you. She is ham…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 08:33 PM
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I had similar sentiments from my wife when I started. "honey, I think that you should talk to someone about how your feeling" Me:"nah....how about I show you how I'm feeling.....you have way to many pieces of clothing on for this therapy session" Always a joke. She thinks your angry? Tell her to suck the aggression out of you and see the magic of such simple actions. Women seem to think that a servant out of line is their cue to womanhandle you. You are out of line in her mind but her mistake is…
/r/askMRP11/11/15 08:17 PM
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I give her time, intentionally. She inevitably will ask me why I am focused on her at that point and a simple "cause you have been very pleasant lately to be around" gets one of those girly spring in her step kisses headed my way. It sounds kind of beta to go out of my way to have those moments but they are intentional and I know the conversation is coming soon so I get the most out of it. Its a very well planned direct way to communicate how I want her to act. Moving the goal posts in a positiv…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 02:11 AM
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PM me. don't won't to dox myself. That goes for anyone with serious questions.
/r/askMRP11/11/15 01:47 AM
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What really happened in that exchange. Translation below. Her: I need you to apologize for something You:what? Her:for standing up to me. You have no right to do that. You clean my house. You:stop being a bitch (but you did not say that) Her culture doesn't give a shit about men. It's reflected in her a attitude. She thinks you are the wife and she is the husband. See it for what it is. Your her SAHD pathetic husband. You moved not just into her frame but her world. You don't understand her cult…
/r/askMRP10/11/15 05:05 AM
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Rent and sell construction equipment. Everything, cranes, excavators, loaders, bulldozers, boom lifts, forklifts(rough terrain & warehouse) scissor lifts.... If you have seen it on a construction site I rent it or sell it. It's an amazing job and my ceiling is non existent. Will make more money next year than previous three years combined. Job is awesome because most men and women are afraid of my job and so there is always a slight shortage of people. I'm a head hunter with OCD a little, which …
/r/askMRP10/11/15 04:13 AM
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Previous Trauma? Brought in extremely conservative environment?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 06:34 PM
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Next time you are heading out initiate sex before hand. If she starfishes or gives a hard no then stop it or go OI and then lay it on thick with flirting with waitresses or other women. Maybe even walk away to flirt with some banging hot hb9. Correlation is not causation but does her hamster know that.... Maybe not. Let the hamster play the matching game for a minute. i know you it screws up here sex drive but maybe the close proximity to refusing starfish or the hard no will link the two. You m…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 09:47 AM
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I did leave. Hence the phrase "I left a church recently"
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/15 09:48 PM
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Yeah I breeze through the allot vs a lot difference sometimes. You going to be OK? You sound a little trollitized.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 11:10 PM
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My takeaway. I don't have a wife worth rubies. Lame. The Bible pulls no punches.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 04:25 PM
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What's your takeaway here?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 03:07 PM
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So her jealousy and dread over you possibly moving on inspires her to suck dick. Read the side bar and start dread level 1. One level of dread for every month. Stop at five and evaluate whether you should move to active dread(level 6). Basically, is it working or should I raise the bar? Read through the idea of dread and maybe youll see the correlation between her tingles and that situation in the past. And Start lifting. A hard body is a body easy to sell. It's dread in itself. When the arms in…
/r/askMRP05/11/15 03:46 AM
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I missed a three days of lifting this week. It sucks but it's because my career is really moving to another level. They haven't been jiving to well lately. Nothing, even that fist pumping sale, beats lifting though.........I think I'm addicted.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 03:04 AM
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Some would argue that you're original statement is part of the full pill which I could not swallow in my current state. Make sense?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 10:03 PM
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Women in the church, especially younger ones, take everything in the Bible seriously except passages on submission and hoe they should act toward their husband. Men in the church typically put themselves in the backseat to ask questions and wait for women to dictate the meaning of passages like this to them. I recently stopped going to a church because the men are encouraged to take a back seat to the women. Notable example is that after allot of pressure from the women serving in the church the…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 02:37 PM
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I have been trying to work through that exact idea in my mind but didn't want to put it out there yet simply because the Bible seems to indicate other reasons for marriage. Not overtly but in its commands it says to love your wife as Christ loves the church. But I don't see allot of relationship advice in their for marriages besides "wives respect your husbands and husbands love your wives". There is allot wrapped up in that simple phrase but I don't see much to indicate allot beyond sex. Allot …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 05:10 AM
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Did I indicate otherwise?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 04:32 AM
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A Christian Man should never underestimate the power of high standards. Your wife being a reflection of you makes it very simple to implement what i consider a unique kind of dread within the church. The Bible. The Bible tells wives how to act and I don't think a man in the church should have any problem with looking at those and implying/telling his wife that he expects Her to live up to those. The Bible is a big part of Christianity obviously. The husband having the expectation that his faith …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:17 AM
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You should go through /u/bluepillprofessors beginners guide. I think you have a princess. It goes deeper than that due to her divorce but she acts like she needs to b entertained in other areas besides her need to validate herself as the better parent to her daughters.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 04:46 PM
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My only mess up is that i feel like I should not have said anything but "if you don't go I will be disappointed" last night. I don't consider this a mess up so long as you maintained frame. Be overt in your communication and don't be ashamed. Drop the hidden and covert contracts and bring them into the open WITHOUT being butthurt. That's one thing that I'm not, butthurt. I'm at the point where I am gonna be awesome, or I am gonna awesome with a enviable wife on my arm. Not awesome with a ball an…
/r/askMRP03/11/15 03:59 PM
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Second, your still operating in her frame too much. So I understand to a degree why they are hard for Her. I have been with her for ten years. Understanding what she is going through is not being in her frame. Me changing, altering or establishing my plans to accommodate Her in a way that makes me unhappy is being in her frame. I have done none of those. Stop giving a fuck what she says or thinks. Watch her actions! Constantly trying to read the emotions of a woman will surely end in a nervous b…
/r/askMRP03/11/15 03:49 PM
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If she is really fighting social anxiety, then she needs to pursue therapy for it as it is affecting her family in a negative way. She has had therapy for it. The actions she has to take are purely on her shoulders. That being said. I do understand that I am the leader and when in those situations I am paying close attention without holding her hand through the process. You want her there, get her there. I do and she knows that. Ultimately it is the finish line, where this situation is concerned…
/r/askMRP03/11/15 02:40 AM
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Did exactly as you said.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 01:31 AM
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Maybe we should tally Up how many guys get this line from their wives. My wife has said this a few times. Pre trp I said "no honey I want you" Three weeks ago she said it after a hard no and I fucked with her a bit and said "OK, thanks hun!" grabbed my phone and walked to the living room. She came out and I had brought up a few dating sites, she looked over my shoulder, fight ensued. Or at least she was mad. I was on the floor laughing.
/r/askMRP02/11/15 04:36 PM
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Oh your serious. OK Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/15 11:51 PM
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Yeah well.... That's pretty awesome. Had I not entered institutionalized schooling I would have graduated at sixteen. Oh well you adjust to the hand your dealt. You only have so much say in your education, which is part of the problem with that same institution.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/15 10:23 PM
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It's not that easy Man. I didn't know until a year into marriage. Before then you wouldn't have known. She had some baggage from family drama but other than that she was happy, attractive, fun loving, worked out, ate healthy, and all around was marriage material. Once that came out things did change. It was used as a weapon and was brought up and used as a defense for not changing certain bad behaviours and not trying different things. We both brought heavy baggage to the marriage what we hid fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/15 09:39 PM
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I'm in the same boat big guy. It's more important that you get your shit together. It's more important that your an Oak rooted in a Rock. Her mood swings will test you frame like gale force winds. Your stability Will feed hers. I have made incredibly strides in my frame and she only gets as far out of line as I do or let her. I'm sure you know she will try to manipulate you with that or make it seem like your responsible to help her. You HAVE to tell her "I will support you in your journey to he…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/15 05:15 PM
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I would practice the concepts in there. You have only been lurking for a month and you have read all those books. Good use of time but how much have you tried to apply is what I'm getting at. What makes you seem so certain that your marriage will dissolve in a year?
/r/askMRP30/10/15 02:37 PM
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Start over. If the first time has not improved anything maybe you need a second read or actually do the shit it says. If you don't care to try what you have read then your starfishing the process and robbing yourself of practicing the concepts layed out there. Your Best bet is to master the things in the books on the sidebar and if you become a high value masculine male and still decide to leave then being a master of those concepts Will prepare you for being single. This process is more about d…
/r/askMRP30/10/15 04:01 AM
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There is no technical mentor program here. It's a place to get feed back when your stuck and look for practical examples to the principals in the books. Clarification on terms or advice sought for areas your genuinely stuck on is where this comes in handy. The most valuable skills you will learn through this process, in addition to the insight of the authors from the side bar, Will be a masculine motivation to own your shit(taking responsibility for progress) and the invaluable skill of self ana…
/r/askMRP30/10/15 03:43 AM
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The Guy posted on thebluepill looking for advice on what they would recommend a man should do to improve. Not sure if he still has the post but he/she is definitely cockeyed.
/r/askMRP29/10/15 08:33 PM
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Fun, you mean have fun? Keep pointing out how much fun you have even if your wife is mad at you. It's the key to AM and other responses to pass shit tests. People who have fun during this process seem to improve quicker.
/r/askMRP28/10/15 03:33 PM
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What are the inappropriate texts or emails? What does they say, because you keep saying they are inappropriate but you not telling us what they say. If we are gonna give advice based off what they say then more details.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 03:26 PM
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Great. Don't ever stop but can't you see that if you are going through the books, lifting and passing shit tests(?) all the while got trackers on her, is it possible that you are worrying for no fucking reason? I think these guys are projecting in you allot of their own insecurities. Keep improving and when or if(unlikely if she doesn't cop to it) then you will not have spent valuable time worrying about this. Keep passing shit tests and improving. Seems like things are going well but you have t…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 12:33 AM
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The whole sidebar applies. Read it in order. This is married red pill and everything you see there will help you in one form or fashion. And start lifting. Lurk, read top posts. I know you have read and know RedPill blah blah blah, I use to be alpha blah blah blah. You need to go through it all again. /r/askmrp, /r/marriedredpill, /r/theredpill. Lurk on all those. Go through /u/bluepillprofessors profile and find his post on RedPill 101. Edit:here it is https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/co…
/r/askMRP27/10/15 11:48 PM
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You don't know that and neither does he. He is spending way to much time thinking about this instead of lifting. Ten times better for him than what he is doing. He is for sure looking for a reason to run from the work he has on front of him. He said sex is on demand but she is cheating? One of those statements is fucking bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 11:36 PM
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Anyways my point in the questions would have got you to admit that despite the snooping and suspicion you haven't got much of shot to go off and I suspect the One email that goes over the line ain't much either. You want to divorce her it sounds like because of all the disrespect of the years. You haven't got shit so STFU. All you know for certain is that your life is unsatisfied cause your unsatisfactory. Shut the fuck Up about the cheating until you know for damn sure. Hire someone to watch he…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 11:25 PM
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I used to wonder why my parents would suddenly hand us some money to walk over a mile to the store for some snacks. Why did me and my four siblings always have to go get the pizza on Saturday night? Why did we have to drive to the other side of the city? Kids I want this surprise to be awesome, here's the five stores you have to go to. Kids, get the Fuck out of the house. I don't want to see you back here for a while. No allowance if you come back before 1 hour. Here's the choices yard work or g…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 10:53 PM
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Any time to herself throughout the day?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 10:06 PM
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Kids?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 09:52 PM
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I have a question 1) would you dump Her if she did admit to cheating in the past or is currently?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 09:50 PM
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If you actually want to know then stop caring. Then she will puke it all over your lap. When she tells you then tell her "I expect you to take care of that so your not putting yourself in a compromising position again". Make her keep herself honest. It's not mate guarding and if she doesn't rectify whatever she feels guilty about then you know you had better GPS keystroke log Her for a bit. 1 She pulled you into her frame, she is fucking with your head. 2 she pulled you into her frame, she is fu…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 08:37 PM
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I'll go back and analyze for those things.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 06:24 PM
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Was sick last week so I used that as an opportunity to show that when things get hard you can still get things done. She tested my frame hard even while I was sick and I held frame through all of it. I knew that when weakness is perceived it would be like blood in the water for a shark and she did not disappoint. I focused on the house and took breaks when I needed to, when flu just had my number. Got some low energy projects done and spent some time working on financial projections. Overall the…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 05:20 PM
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You went straight into his frame, Nah, I disagree. A man who agrees with me is in my frame. You may have just been assigning your own feelings on how you might react cause I was having a good time being challenged to express how it works for me. What principles if you don't mind elaborating?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 04:34 PM
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Every one had fairly Good points about this woman but I just have one hypothetical question. If you were a man with any self self respect what would you do here?
/r/askMRP26/10/15 06:40 AM
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Good reasons, held frame, set a boundary, let FO make their own decision. Most importantly you lead her to wise decision on her part. It's a good sign when she is responding to your leadership and has a good attitude the next day. Its good she RESPECTS your decisions.... No slash that opinions. Your still headed up hill but now you have the traction/muscles to tackle the trail confidently. Good report!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/15 09:01 PM
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Long wall of Text. Scattered because I wrote this over several hours. Sorry in advance. I've read posts about guys speaking in front of their church and bringing that red pill philosophy into their congregation and how it got them tons of female attention (other than their wife - sin) Women loves leaders. They love pastors and typically they push they men to step up and lead instead of branch swing as quick. Women pay attention to strength but it's the motivation of the man that is in question i…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 11:32 PM
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Bear in mind that "her needs" are probably not what she is actually telling you. So figure it out. Covert communication. I have been thinking about this since you wrote it. There has to be something that she is not articulating because she doesn't know she has it. I have to look into this more. Thanks for the insight.
/r/askMRP23/10/15 07:40 PM
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Ha ha. Your post made me laugh. I appreciate you reaching out. All my progress has been in the midst of our practicing our faith. Maybe the prayer was a little misplaced, I admitted as much in original text, but let's keep this to MRP in light of the context of the situation. I'm not gonna /r/religion this sub. Good progress and starting to see results from the wife, better pray real quick to imaginary cloud wizard because of 'faith and family' and stuff... Good progress. Better not change Who I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 06:57 PM
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Back to basics. Lift, read, hold frame, have fun....repeat.
/r/askMRP23/10/15 05:15 PM
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Look I'm not going to judge your situation here and just speak from my own experience. I'm painting with a broad brush here so bear with me. Some of the things you mention throw up red flags and I've seen this so many times. Some other commenters here are picking up on it too I suspect. I see what your saying and thank you for putting it out there. I have seen these type of things and while my wife is not one on One or spending time on the phone with him I do see the value in watching for this t…
/r/askMRP23/10/15 05:14 PM
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Sounds like you got a good handle on things. Good job Man! I have not been as faithful to track sex through her cycle but I do it a Little more with each message I get with good health examples of value like you gave.
/r/askMRP23/10/15 04:43 PM
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You're a man, and men generally communicate overtly. By trying to interpret her covert communication, you're stepping blindly into her frame. Take what she says at face value. That's how I have drawn out her covert communications in the past. And is my blindspot in This situation as UE suggested. If she's wanting to cheat, its gonna take a mighty big hamster to justify it after telling you she didn't want your needs met. Yeah I'm not worried about cheating.... Right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 03:22 PM
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Women generally communicate covertly, but sometimes you must force them into overt communication. This clearly goes beyond shit/comfort testing. This is bad behavior and you need to rectify it. Here is my blind spot. Thanks for the depth if the analysis.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 03:18 PM
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The acts were not One after another. Almost 12 hours apart. No one mentions blowjobs during prayer.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 03:09 PM
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No one, it just feels like self loathing. She only has a few hours a week where that could happen and she has been filling that time with other things like grocery shopping and such which was a change from previously just sitting around the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 03:06 PM
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Yes she does?
/r/askMRP23/10/15 03:05 PM
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That was my first reaction and after skimming through her phone she hadn't talked to anyone about it or internet history doesn't suggest outside influence. Maybe someone from Bible study.
/r/askMRP23/10/15 03:04 PM
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What exactly does that require? You can listen to her whining for 30 minutes to fill her tank or whatever and then you give her 15 minutes of sex. What is this 3 day game your wife is playing? It's mostly this list of demands of cuddling, talking before sex. When I did that in the past surprise surprise she was 90% too tired afterwards. 15 mins if sex, ha ha don't insult me. Sorry to be 'that' guy but I don't see this sudden change of attitude that she doesn't need to get her needs met from you …
/r/askMRP23/10/15 01:58 AM
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Could it be reverse dread? If a woman tells me "you don't have to worry about taking care of my needs anymore", I immediately think her solution is to go fuck chad. I got more that she assumed I was giving up on her needs and was doing the self sacrifice deal. Kind of like when I was beta and would tell myself that my needs were not that important. A covert contract to make me feel guilty? Maybe, except I'll take care if her if she is making the effort. Something we know doesn't work in the reve…
/r/askMRP23/10/15 12:28 AM
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Where is she in her monthly? About a week away And praying? That was fucking random, even if you're devout. Sure, you showed leadership-ish. What did you pray about? Whether or not she should seek to have her needs met? No, we just prayed. Relationship with God, marriage and kids health.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 12:25 AM
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Try not answering for a week and see if she is able to figure it out before getting home. You don't want her to get to used to you being her dumping grounds. IMHO. My wife when she is super stressed puts on classical music and that helps Her. Buy her some rockmononov or Handel to listen to. Find some article about the calming soothing effects of classical music and buy Her the CD. Maybe you Buy yourself an hour a day.... Unless you like it.
/r/askMRP22/10/15 11:53 PM
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she is giving you quality sex. Very few exceptions to this. If my gf straight up told me she didn't need me to take care of her sexual needs I would be a little alarmed. Trust me, she gets taken care of. I got the wet sheets to prove it. I believe its prayer and cuddles and listening to the blah blah blah stuff. All that stuff is happening so I'm not sure what else she is talking about. If she told me she didn't need me to take care of her kitchen or cleaning needs I would celebrate. Those are t…
/r/askMRP22/10/15 11:14 PM
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Maybe she is worried you are going to leave her and she's telling you that she will survive without you to make you feel guilty about it? Her specialty is guilt trips and her pushing me away feels like a game of cat and mouse. One that she doesn't know she is playing. She'll come back looking for her needs to be satisfied it I just keep passing shit tests and comfort tests. At least that's what it thinking.
/r/askMRP22/10/15 11:06 PM
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Good insight. She has mentioned not thinking she can fulfill sexual needs. The problem really is that she is thinks I need to agree with her for her to be happy. Even though she has completely got the whole situation wrong. I may just try AA on this one. "yeah honey your right I did say that, can you write me a Craigslist ad cause you are really good with words"
/r/askMRP21/10/15 07:56 PM
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My wife does the same shit. Last night she brings up something I said during sex. Something about renting a room, tying Her to the bed and taking her how I want all night. During sex she ate it up, two days later she has hamstered it to me saying I wanted it to be another woman. I was fucking amused to say the least. Excused myself as she screamed and went and did something else after some DA and AM failed to curb crazy. Today I'll walk in the door and act like my life is Great, because it is. L…
/r/askMRP21/10/15 07:12 PM
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A man and his dog is a powerful scene. The Best times of memory i ever had was hiking an old forest service road long abandoned. I knew every inch of that trail and knew when there were fresh tracks along the path. My only goal was not to find my way to the peak, it was to find the same elk heard each time. Every time they were in a different place. Consequently I explored every inch of that mountain in Two years and saw no other soul on that mountain. I never took one picture but saw Every inch…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 01:20 AM
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Ha ha Fuck it's whinemoreplease!!! Let's move on. If you you were a man how do you see yourself initiating? However the fuck you want is the answer. Post over go Home, initiate, fail, try again. Develop the ability to self analyse and critic and most of all,dont give a fuck if she denies you. Now go home and slay some pussy, if your man enough.
/r/askMRP20/10/15 11:38 PM
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Savings, have none still. Still catching Up on the bills. I have an action plan to offload some dead weight in the budget. Not taking no for an answer when it comes to trimming the fat in the budget. I have been wasteful and lazy a shit when it came to protecting the fruits of my labor. No Good. Allot of work to do here. Not effective as I could be at the gym. I am getting good results but it's time to step up my game to get optimal results. I have been doing lots of research and now that it all…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 08:10 PM
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It took a while many many messages from you guys saying have more fun, less butt hurt more fun but it's sinking into my frame Now. I have allot more work before my frame is solid but I'm having fun getting there. New guys.... Have fun, don't be e stick it the mud twat...your wife and friends think your boring and most likely so do you.
/r/askMRP20/10/15 01:31 PM
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The only reason I told this is to say have more fun. I can feel the stress and self loathing in your post. Read lift and become even better. Get rid of the I'm not worthy mindset. Stop being a nice guy and start having fun. You know..... The actual you that can be happy with or without your harpy.
/r/askMRP20/10/15 03:07 AM
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My wife read through that book in her Bible study recently. She came home giddy that she had figured out mine. Holy shit lo and behold ours are the same. Words of affirmation. Aren't I lucky to have the same one as my wife? Anyways the short version is this: I'll skip the to the end. Her: isn't that great? Me: that's not my love language. Her: yes it is I know it. Me: nope Her: well what is it then? Me: blowjobs Her: that's not One of them, you mean sexual touch? Me: no that's one of my needs, b…
/r/askMRP19/10/15 10:05 PM
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Thats passive aggressive. BTW, there is nothing passive aggressive about setting Hard boundaries and expecting someone to honor them or get the Fuck out of your life. Especially a cheating wife. Were not talking about a someone stealing a sale at your job. We are talking about a woman who has taken vows and you are Just telling her honor those vows or Fuck off. Passive aggressive is Her messaging this Guy instead of being a woman that is worth his love. Hamstering away an excuse that this is his…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 08:53 PM
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Removing privileges is a whole lot less nasty than nuking the marriage. If its a cheating scenario the marriage is about to end anyway. Are you unwilling to take take control if necessary to save a marriage? Thats passive aggressive. All those things you talked about are Just bandaids. Living in her frame. You tell her directly that she is gonna end one thing today, marriage or relationship with alpha ex and then move onn to being you. You can't stop Her cheating and removing all those things ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 08:31 PM
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I'll make my understanding of it simple. Yes women can reject AWALT(many do and Will) but only a masculine male can reduce the number of times we CARE about it because being a masculine male is like being an acid(Alpha)that neutralizes a base compound(AWALT). In the presence of an alpha masculine male leader this reduces AWALT but human nature, as you put it, is human nature. It's the same as being forgiven, being forgiven and acknowledging God as your leader doesn't make you not sin anymore but…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 04:20 PM
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That happens. It's because he is feeling sorry for himself. Hence the Victim puke. He has some serious red flags here but you don't cut and run at the beginning of this process. Were all here because we're unsatisfied to a degree so should we all Just cut and run because we have some work to do? If that's the standard advice them shut the sub down cause the rest of this shit is worthless and /u/promo06 has figured out we should all just bail. Be committed to the work this sub encourages or GTFO.…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 03:28 PM
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1) you messaged the wrong guy 2)>There will come a time you are man enough to enforce reasonable boundaries in marriage and install consequences for wrong behaviour, like taking away phone privileges for messaging an ex. Do you think that a wife is gonna just give Up a phone? It's not for a husband to take away the phone. The husband punishes/penalizes by taking himself away. She not 12 years old, shes a grown woman. Were going for voluntary compliance not control. If you have to out and out con…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 03:10 PM
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The problem is more me. I don't trust her due to her past and her wandering eye. Also checked her phone (I'm so beta) she still texts an alpha ex when I told her it's a deal breaker. Fuck that. By the way, that is called a beta orbiter. Except he is an alpha ex. Dangerous. You have right to be concerned. Not enough to enter her frame over it. Like I said IDGAF but make note internally of her BS.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 05:12 AM
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Wrong, he is unsatisfied cause he is unsatisfactory. He will be satisfied personally as a masculine male when he own his shit and fixes it, whether that's with her or without. He needs to either find proof or shut his mouth. Either way he needs to improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 05:06 AM
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Yes, definitely emotionally, maybe physically. But it doesn't mean she did. My insecurities? If she is texting the Guy now I don't think that's an insecurity. She is emotionally cheating Now if she is risking a deal-breaker situation over this alpha ex. This is a perfect time to start IDGAF attitude and look out for yourself. I asked, pressed her. Her response ended up something like "I didn't cheat ever, but I feel like lying, and telling you I cheated, just so you can get on with whatever you …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 05:02 AM
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The problem is more me. I don't trust her due to her past and her wandering eye. Also checked her phone (I'm so beta) she still texts an alpha ex when I told her it's a deal breaker. Fuck that. Doesn't sound like a deal breaker. I'm still trying to get my shit together but even on a bad year of fight after fight after fight my wife never did this. Sounds like your marriage counselor is not that effective for her. Obviously you still need to change for the better but do YOU think she cheated? Edi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 04:19 AM
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I know we don't really do reaction gifs but I couldn't pass this one up. Think of MRP being the Guy sitting next to your girl in the gif, trying to save you. http://i.imgur.com/vcwAz0p.gifv
/r/askMRP18/10/15 02:16 AM
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I regret it right now because I am not a man that can handle all my issues with my wife.....yet. Looking back though, if I had known this stuff I probably would have not gotten married when I did. Not sure if I would have got married to the same woman. Hindsight is 20/20(damn that magical butt) but it also makes you realize that had you had this information you could have skipped all the BS and Just been happy. I'm not sure I agree with the don't get married bit but I do for sure support not get…
/r/askMRP17/10/15 11:14 PM
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Just inform him in private. Don't try to set him Up to look Good. He has to do all the work himself. Just be you. Make sure your game is tight around your wife. He needs to go through the material. Give him no more mister nice guy if he's ready. Don't put yourself out there to quickly. Its on him bro, he is responsible for himself. Just be a good example and lay it on him when he asks. He's a Guy so gibe it to him like we do here. Test his frame and then teach him about being a bitch when he fai…
/r/askMRP16/10/15 02:14 AM
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Do not pay attention to what they say. When your wife says no to sex but tilts Her head to the side to give you access to her neck do you stop? Or how about when she has Her dick in when our mouth and is muttering that she shouldn't be doing that do you still stop? If she says stop and pushes you away then what? You pay attention to the push.
/r/askMRP16/10/15 12:55 AM
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Don't underestimate how quickly women Will latch on to a strong male. Even if it's mentally. Test it. Draw back from her when you see her and if she comes and starts conversations with you then you have your proof. There have been countless examples brought here about women dissing there husbands in front of the Alpha/approaching alpha guy. Your not trying to but remember, an alpha doesn't need to flirt, an alpha hits women on a primal level with just Who they are. This is just my opinion/analys…
/r/askMRP16/10/15 12:51 AM
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Church family. Feels guilty about tingles. Can't face you or your wife. I bet they have sex after they fight. She says she doesn't like you to prevent him from changing to be like you. She's afraid of the adage of you become like your friends. She's fighting for her beta bux by hating you. Not facing your wife......tingles and guilt. Edit:your frame might cause her to try and relate to him the same way and he fails where you succeed.
/r/askMRP16/10/15 12:39 AM
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I am basically Mr. Stoic during shark week so maybe open up a bit more and at the same time just expect to jerk off? I probably am getting this part of the cycle wrong. How about dread? Nights out and some light flirting with the waitresses. Or going out with the boys.
/r/askMRP15/10/15 04:56 PM
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A RedPill man's club is his high SMV. High enough that if you wanted you could club your friends wives/gf's. But yeah, there are times when you are on a dry streak and your hitting some golf balls in the backyard and realize this ball goes where I want it when I hit it. I wonder if it would work for my wife. That's the male hamster, lol.
/r/askMRP15/10/15 04:35 PM
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Also, stop wending her graphic texts during Her period. Sorry that wasn't clear. I don't do that during her period. It's more in the mid cycle when she's not horny as a way to start tingles. One of your previous posts said you did. Yeah you jerk off if you have to until Her thought of her amazing husband not being taking care of overrides her desire to not have anything to do with sex. If she is that opposed to sex during Her period then just don't be aggressive about it. My wife won't do anythi…
/r/askMRP15/10/15 04:31 PM
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I'll let someone else rip you for this. Obvious red flags. Why? She wants me to dominate her. She likes it. So that's what I do. She just wants to make it as hard as possible for me. It's not a hard no. At all. After reading your other responses I take back that point.
/r/askMRP15/10/15 04:24 PM
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Your post history tells me you do text her. You said you send her graphic texts during Her period. By beta I mean that if she is on the extreme side of the spectrum for her reaction to her period then fucking with her with the texts just comes across as obnoxious. Mostly I was trying to test your frame. Thus the reaction of Get The Fuck Off Me. Alot of what you said can be explained through your post history. Next time Just laugh at the statements like bitch boy. "you wish to You had that much i…
/r/askMRP15/10/15 04:22 PM
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Looking through your post history it looks like your idea of agree and amplify is off. Also, stop wending her graphic texts during Her period. Yield a little beta during Her period. The full "alpha" thing is not working during Her period. If she is completely hands off during Her period then pushing sexual stuff as Hard as it sounds like you do during that period probably burns her out. It sounds like your relentless. I identify But as i wrote one time. "You take her caveman style, not take it l…
/r/askMRP15/10/15 04:00 PM
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You haven't mentioned where you are at in reading. When you post tell us where you are in reading so it can be assessed where you can be guided for some extra enforcement of ideas presented here. This is my 1 and only victim puke. It's shark week and I have not had sex/bj/anything in 6 days. My brain is not functioning correctly and I need to spill this shit to anyone who will read it. Sex addict. I lift heavy 4 days a week. I'm 6 feet and 175 lbs can bench 250 for reps with 8% bodyfat year roun…
/r/askMRP15/10/15 03:16 PM
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Without a magic woman ball that's Hard to say when the mysterious hamster will show. If you know she is gonna have a difficult time with something ask her to wait so you can do it together as a couples activity. It will Show Her that you know what you are doing(confidence in you)and you will be front and center to mitigate any mistakes she may have made. But mostly it seems like you kept a level head except letting her make you late for your plans and answering the phone when you KNEW she was ma…
/r/askMRP14/10/15 09:25 PM
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My instinct is this has not much to do with last night but more to do with her overall feelings that she has been bottling Up. I think the toilet was a practical way she was trying to show value. She didn't get that done so she reverted to sex. It seems like she wants to impress you. Reminds me of when a kid tries to do something nice for the parents like cook breakfast and end up making a bigger mess. Ask her to do something for you that you know she can do. Sounds like she is feeling low self …
/r/askMRP14/10/15 08:59 PM
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I could have written that post except the cheating part, she has said everything else though. Pretty close behind you. I have been seeing the writing on the wall but my Map is set for a specific time so until then she has until she cheats or turns Her attitude around. Have you tried AA or AM to the effect of "if your doing everything you can to keep me happy then why are you worried?" I didn't check the post history but does she have emotional issues.....besides being a woman? Edit: honey I'm no…
/r/askMRP13/10/15 08:50 PM
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I feel you there. I'd rather pest control skunks than do housework. No skunks so I do some housework. She does the same shit with the dishes. Whats with the downvote brigade here today? That SJW here yesterday still here?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 07:29 PM
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You won't convince anyone but yourself that you didn't have one hour to hit the gym. I won't try but 12-16 hour days of crisis management due to other people's negligence doesn't have me beating myself Up about missing it or leaving much mental energy. I will be in there today ripping the bi's and tri's to pieces. It will be a bittersweet reunion. This could be bigger than you think. Men have fought and died over ribeye or breast. I contribute it to her getting my past indecisiveness out of her …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 07:14 PM
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I have transitioned into becoming OI over sex denial. Wife comes in the other night expecting me to get mad over no sex. Says no when I initiate. I immediately say OK and roll over and restart my video(documentary on Milton Friedman)she asks if I want to cuddle and I smile and tell her another night perhaps. No hurt feelings around the house the rest if the night. We both live on and had a good night, just not together. Unfortunately I have been working like a dawg lately and have not been in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 05:14 PM
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And I went to church my whole life, so yes i know "how" a christian is supposed to act all the time, not when it benefits them. By the way, that's a self dooming process. Why do you think that so many men and others are exposed for adultery, pornography and drugs all the time. Because society and church tells them they have to fake it, not reach out and be a man that's admits to flaws. Keeping that stuff bottled up inside lands you on anonymous internet forums and divorce court. Thanks not inter…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 04:21 PM
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I'm working on anger, pride, and ego here. Care to join in the pursuit of becoming a man? Difference is I'm not trying to hide my flaws so I can flush them out and deal with them. I'm not into the fake it till I make it stage. Hiding things and being the "Nice Guy" Made me a hypocrite full of covert contracts and a personality defects beyond what I care to hide at this point. Yes I'm a hypocrite of man that's here working in his shit and owning it. This is not a place to hide BS and pretend that…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 04:12 PM
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I thought you were a christian.....and then you wonder why people like me question every fucking thing yall do, yall are hypocrites. Yep definitely a sinner, are you gonna guilt me with religious talk Now? Do you think Jesus would approve of the way you just talked to me? How did I see that coming. Ha ha A troll is gonna troll.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 03:50 PM
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Jumping from One problem to another definitely doesn't seem like a man full of abundance. Sounds like a man operating out of desperation. I'm encouraging him to run away from himself, it's less about that particular girl and suggesting he exercise self control when he can't control a situation.
/r/askMRP13/10/15 03:30 PM
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Yeah, but your not happy. What does you want to do? She filed. She can back the papers. That's indicates that you are responding and not doing what you want. She is in control if your operating from thinking what she is doing/done has any bearing on what you want. The choice is not simple but you need to make a decision and determine whether you want to work on this marriage or if her cheating is more than you can overlook. Make decisions based off what you want and not what she is doing. She fi…
/r/askMRP13/10/15 02:08 PM
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He is not using it as dread. He is just falling into one-ite-is cause he does not have the control from lack of work done personally. He admitted it's coming from a beta mindset. Not very High value.
/r/askMRP13/10/15 02:01 PM
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Long post short answer. Drugs are bad for you um Kay. Tell her you can't be friends. No more talking after that. I know EXACTLY what you are going through. Same remedy for me. It works. I lived it. Edit:all the BS sexual details don't matter. The girl hitting me up told me she would try to convince my wife to let me play. I shut that shit down Hard. Your thinking with your dick when you have this squishy organ caller a brain that has the tools to suppress emotion, lust and desire to achieve resu…
/r/askMRP13/10/15 04:58 AM
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If it's divorce. Acta non verba. Yes those are comfort tests. She is unsure about where she is leading Her own life towards. She realised she fucked up and she is afraid. It would be entering her frame if you give into those comfort tests IF you are dead set against trying to make it work. If your not so convinced then say it out loud that you feel conflicted. This is the problem with setting your mind so firmly on something before you have made the necessary improvements. You are afraid also. Y…
/r/askMRP13/10/15 04:54 AM
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Some people positively agree with you and some here positively disagree with you. There are all walks of life here. That's what these twats, assholes, mods, men and betas are saying. If you plan on staying here then the last thing you will want to piss off the Christian or heathen guy who is banging his wife on the regular and has the secret or the right advice to help you get into Pole Position with the missus. But Hey if you can deal with allot of those "Christian morons" Who have brought thei…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 03:04 AM
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Looking at that I don't think I want to be a ten Spends multiple hours grooming themselves a day? Almost definitely wears makeup? Styles their hair multiple times a day? That's just me but who has time for that stuff besides actors and male models?
/r/askMRP13/10/15 01:26 AM
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Ask any yourself this. Why do I run to porn when my wife rejects me? Why do people pull a cigarette out when someone makes them Angry or they get stressed out? Why do children run to mom or dad when scared? These(and many more) are all signs that people lack the emotional development or control over there own mind to confront these things. It's less about the problem and more about the lack of development in your personality. You can't overcome allot of these things until you either remove the t…
/r/askMRP10/10/15 04:16 AM
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Little boys want to be like their dad. If you are a mans man and you are awesome and interesting then don't be surprised if the people in your ship want to be like you. Maybe your daughter turns out tomboyish....oh well. Take care of you and when kids come then your wife will see what a great Man looks like and she will want her son to have a captain that is masculine. Run your ship, not others.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 12:59 AM
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If your actually passing comfort tests then she would not feel emotionally disconnected. Stop paying attention to her words.
/r/askMRP08/10/15 03:09 PM
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Do cardio that will help you with strentghtening your muscles associated with those two disciplines. I am waiting until mid October to late October to sign up for the same things until I have the a little more in line. Try athlean X training.
/r/askMRP07/10/15 02:17 PM
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. I analyzed my past behavior and I realize I caused the situation. She broke her vows Don't blame yourself for your wife's decision to cheat. If my wife cheated it would be a fucking surprise but I would hold her 100% accountable for her actions. You co-created the relationship as NMMNG will Show you but you did not make her cheat.
/r/askMRP06/10/15 04:41 AM
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Any suggestions for me, except "stop being an insecure pussy beta bitch idiot faggot pussy"? You forgot backward ass dick tucker. Divorce. She cheated, your trying to cheat. Look at what a great example YOU are being for your kids. Psssstt stop being an insecure pussy beta bitch idiot faggot pussy. Your ship is so far sunk your diving for buried treasure in your wife. Its already been plundered. Quit acting like you give a fuck. You don't, I know your looking for validation so here it is. Your w…
/r/askMRP06/10/15 04:10 AM
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I feel like i don't have enough experience meeting/picking up/chatting up and flirting with girls. This kind of undermines my "abundance mentality." I know there's other women out there, but if we broke up she'd recover much faster than i. No abundance or OI. If you broke up why would you care? Litmus test for this is just go out and be awesome. If girls give you there number then do what you want with them. Politely decline or just put it in your pocket and toss it/delete it later. How can i pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 12:51 AM
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I may have been giving you some shit but the reality is that most post/threads have one person trying to get the poster to have some fun. Lighten Up and not take himself to seriously, especially in the unplugging stage. It's not coincidence that most of the shit test answers and strategies to get on top of shit tests use humor and encourage you to not take yourself to seriously, or your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/15 03:26 PM
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Ahhhh you wrote a post for me after our Convo yesterday. You Do care. Ha ha In all seriousness though, this was a well rounded Solid post that helps hammer home the point you were trying to make to me the other day. Always enjoy the perspective you bring to the table. I'm a pretty awesome fucking guy and people tell me that often. But my problem is that I let what other people think be the basis for how I thought about myself. Cue the ego, cue the covert contracts, cue the co-dependency, cue the…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/15 02:37 PM
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If she knows everything about you, what reason would she have to pursue you or invest time in that pursuit? Sounds like you all are still dating. That's the last time I was happy with my wife and guess what..... She didn't know jack shit about me then. She had to suck and fuck it out if me. Now that she knows all about me the sex is much less frequent on the regular. But I stopped growing as an individual man and Big surprise..... She stopped pursuing me. Someone should write a post about the re…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/15 02:29 PM
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Who am I to argue with whinemoreplease? If your positive about something it must be in order. I just won't be surprised if there are lot of special/hamster occasions in the future. She may just start shopping closing sales.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 10:55 PM
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And citing this situation as justification. This is the New boundary in her head. "I guess I can go over my budget if I clean the house, give him a few extra dollars and have sex with him"
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 08:09 PM
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Your comment indicated to me that because he is learning then we should all Just say yeeaaaaah! End of story. It is good progress. But a successfull FR is about here's where we can do better and move on. He has to respect his boundaries and not wait for the hamster to give him a good enough reason to ignore his boundaries. He did a decent job but there is room for improvement. Asking for forgiveness instead of permission is not the goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 07:56 PM
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So we should not comment or think outside of the box because he ain't painted red yet? That's the exact reason we should comment. Iron sharpens iron(or destroys weak sauce).
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 07:02 PM
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I'm not criticizing, because she came to you. But isn't a jeans sale the same as a going out of business sale? We answer to no one else but ourselves on here so if her behaviour is a sign of progress then Great. It's not my job or desire to shit on progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 06:49 PM
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If she said no then doesn't that say something about the respect the wife holds for whoever is in that situations?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 06:43 PM
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The question was an attempt to reframe the question. I'm not looking down in the way he handled it. More wondering if her budget was in place because she has a tendency to blow Her budget. "better to ask for forgiveness than permission" is what comes to mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 06:42 PM
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I think Her attitude was pretty good about it but are you seeing this maybe as permission to violate the rules cause she knows you "are OK with her spending the money"? Maybe my reigns are to tight with my wife's budget but isn't this her testing your frame? What would you have done if it would not have been a great piece?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 06:10 PM
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Addition to your point. Initiate when you want and how you want. If if she thinks she can go cold and make you go away then to her that says he is afraid of her. Initiating even when she is pissy says OI. It's a silent power move.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 05:18 PM
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I concede the point.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 05:14 PM
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She got mad cause she had to get Up and do something she wanted done? And then she's angry about it? Does that make you laugh at her spoiled teenager tantrums? You: there is something so sexy about you biting the pillow as I pound away at that juicy wet pussy. Throw a pillow at her. Then Fuck her. Done, hamster didn't get out of the cage to Play. Granted she was lazy as shit and trying to get you to jump through hoops but inject some humor and set your frame for being OI. Today, do whatever the …
/r/askMRP01/10/15 05:10 PM
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Wouldn't you say this would be marked improvement for him? Stop at home for a few minutes lay this down, and if she laughs then just in a calm voice just say "OK, I have a appointment with a lawyer I'll see you later." He hasn't changed but if anything is gonna cement his need for improvement it will be his wife laughing at him for demanding she stop Her emotional affair. It may be the best motivation for him. Obviously it will only work if he starts to improve and goes cold on her after the app…
/r/askMRP01/10/15 04:51 PM
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I have one simple point and I'll be done since the advice given by the seniors is solid fucking gold. If you have not cheated and she is cheating(she is) then that makes you better already. Despite your beta state you have managed to stay faithful. She is choosing to end this by her emotional cheating. Get records of her plans to do so and get to a lawyer. She is not worth saving at thus point......but when you serve Her with papers things may turn around. Whether you choose to pursue that or sa…
/r/askMRP01/10/15 04:20 PM
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Know thyself-plato Accurately assessing where your at and determining a step forward is the most valuable skill a man has. So you have assessed where you're at, do you have your next step mapped out?
/r/askMRP30/09/15 08:13 PM
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This is why I'm not afraid to lay my failures out here. I can self diagnose a lot more than I used to obviously but when I put something in these threads I get advise and insight that motivates me. The fact is the approach you laid out sounds more fun. Results in not. Although I trust the results Will get there with some work at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 07:13 PM
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If logic worked on women then we wouldn't have this conversation. GOT IT. I'm gonna goad Her into this conversation again Just to test this. I have been such a serious whiner and complainer, arguing with her about everything like a twat that I forget that she is not logical or predictable in the male sense. Play the game with different tools if you want different results. I need more fun, less serious. That going on own my shit. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 07:04 PM
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Do what know you have to do it to be an awesome masculine male. If your SMV is lacking then improve it for your satisfaction. You are falling into responding to what is happening to her and trying to outdo someone else to keep her affection or stage off a potential Chad. That's beta. Your slipping into her frame. You started the post correctly by taking ownership of your failures and recognizing areas of improvement. Take that mentality, throw out the rest of the BS and get to work. Start readin…
/r/askMRP30/09/15 04:53 PM
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No, I have done this thought experiment simply due to a personal mantra I have "fail to prepare is preparation to fail" I could fuck one of my coworkers who has made a direct advance on me and I turned her down. My vows in my marriage are for me and regardless of whether I feel my wife is living up to hers has no bearing on my word or promises. If I don't feel like being bound by them any longer then I divorce my wife. These would all be a reaction and a form of male hamstering, in my opinion, t…
/r/askMRP30/09/15 03:37 PM
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Your wife knows your dipping out on her? Open relationship I take it? Her idea or yours? Who is she fucking? Chad buddy that doesn't go out with you? Is she still fucking you at all? More or less?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 08:37 PM
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Not bad overall but if she is begrudgingly laying in bed naked and saying have sex then give her a good selfish pounding. The sex is for you since she obviously doesn't want it. Reward good behaviour like that. She is negotiating her own desire to please you. It's a sign she is still semi concerned with meeting your needs. Plus you just gave her a pass to tell you in the future that she is not into it and you have to live with it. Further down the line you need to work on the quality. But for No…
/r/askMRP29/09/15 04:20 PM
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Your wives all seem so normal Now. Last night my wife asks me what I'm thinking and I tell her" blowing my load in your ass" initiate. Hard no. "I just want to talk" I was already half way out the door. "I think your sexy though" blah blah blah. Worked out twice yesterday so that's nice. Granted this was shark week but oh well. This morning she says I was rude last night. "tonight as you blow me I want you to spell out 'I like cum' on my dick with your tongue 100 times for that naughty bad behav…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 03:04 PM
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I've read all the sidebar material. I've read so much god-damn material I'm sick of sexual theory, Craigslist ad for a unicorn should help you. and have been for years. This isn't a case of not knowing my shit. it's a case of getting lax. It's a case of (once again, So you were master of your domain, took it for granted, and now your back with the same issue. Pattern patterns patterns. The seniors don't leave. Iron sharpens iron. Once again, Read the materials. I'm reading for the third time. Th…
/r/askMRP29/09/15 04:37 AM
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Snowflake can't get out of the car? What an entitled spoiled woman. I think you should make a rule that she can only bitch at you if she is on a jog with you. Your answer: yep you had to get out of the car. Yep it looks like you are mad and hurt. Yep I did not hear your call. (fogging) Her: you were to busy having fun with your friends. You: yeah that was probably it. Good talk!(get Up kiss her on the head and leave) When she tries to pick a fight like this just agree with the true stuff. Look i…
/r/askMRP29/09/15 03:17 AM
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Good. First off, drop the fucking patronizing tone. Your frame is leaking I'm leaving her. My dread is not false. Save your beginner advice for beginners. Again getting riled up. Are we seeing the leaky frame everyone. Lose the ego Hercules. The difference between you and dead bedrooms is nill. Oh look he said frame and stoic. SOOOOOooo RedPill.
/r/askMRP29/09/15 01:53 AM
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The sidebar.
/r/askMRP29/09/15 01:34 AM
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Experienced RP man here. Well see. I want mature male opinions that factor mature male goals into the situation. Snowflake My LTR has a low sex drive. Only with you We have a very healthy red-pill dynamic. Minus the sex of course I have always been the Captain. Not Good enough to get what you want evidently. She idolizes me. Not enough apparently. About four months ago there was a decline in sex. We never really had much sex, even from the start. From month six to month eight we had sex once a m…
/r/askMRP29/09/15 01:34 AM
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How many of the books have been you read?
/r/askMRP29/09/15 01:20 AM
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Anger can be a here and today gone tomorrow thing but it may also be a cup that continually fills Up or is draining. You may have just come across one of those instances in which wives(who know better how to dig at us than anyone else) really dig at you and twist the knife. One of those situations that overflows that cup in one action. If you have not read the Art of stoic Joy I would recommend that. If you have, read it again with the reading method of reading the same chapter Two days in a row…
/r/askMRP28/09/15 09:47 PM
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My wife only(ONLY) asks if she thinks I am mad at her. She only cares if I am mad at her.
/r/askMRP28/09/15 05:11 PM
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There are no special snowflakes. That us what I am pointing out here. To believe what she is saying without OP getting a significant turning in her behaviour with his leadership is To Buy into the the idea that she is being truthful about there only being two guys. I am not saying she is being dishonest but in light of what you highlighted, believing Her number or general honesty would be counter to that same advice. She's not Just looking up a Chad. She's looking up One of her Chad's. Patterns …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 04:57 PM
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Cool things happen, woman acts like woman, things are different than they used to be..... Sort of. What, who, when.....we care about how. Please revise and resubmit.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 06:05 PM
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Would you agree that dating is a testing ground? For a man to give up his C-card he is gonna ask himself one simple question. Is she gonna be faithful? As he is asking himself that question and determining whether he wants to marry Her she is running around behind his back propping Up a lie to convince him of the the answer she wants him to know, a lie. So he punched Her C-Card but she was keeping a different log like a dishonest CDL driver. Lying about her mileage and number of hours spent on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 05:09 PM
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I think you all are caught up in woman hamstering to be honest, here is why: I'm a fairly forgiving person but let's break down where he is at in his marriage. 1) wife treats him like shit 2)wife isn't giving him enough sex 3)caught looking up One of the Chad's she cheated on him with 4)has all of us telling him to man up or Chad is coming to get her and she is looking up One that already got her. Let's take a look at the past that firmed this. 1) they are in love 2) sleeps with Chad 1 3)sleeps …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 03:29 AM
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This guy has no real man friends. Or else he could take some shit and realize iron sharpens iron.....not wieners sharpen wieners.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 01:01 AM
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Seems to be a fairly common theme among people who have done well to think that money buys happiness..... It's why I recognized it so quickly. "I'm such a good provider, why doesn't she greet me at the door on her knees ready to undo my belt..... Poor victim me" Oh well, the dude is gone. Nothing has changed, I'm still fucking awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/15 03:39 AM
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Attempt to save the ship you were at the helm of when it started sinking. Would you attempt to fix your broken company if your bad decisions lead to its imminent death?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 06:17 AM
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I am already very physically active, have an outstanding career. Where has this shit got you? Maybe there is another piece to the puzzle.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 05:50 AM
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Hm, I do take responsibility for the failure in my post. Post or past? Your unhappiness is your fault. I'm on month 3 of a long road. My wife treats me like shit more than she is nice. Doesn't affect my mood. And here's is getting better. I am already very physically active, have an outstanding career. Yes, I do not lift, but instead do a "jail workout". I suck at flowers and romance, and Valentines - true, but it is fucking difficult when the other person does not give a crap about your happine…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 05:08 AM
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You should start reading the side bar material. This is not a divorce advice forum. You need to start lifting, read Every book on the sidebar and every top post on /r/asktrp, /r/askmrp, /r/marriedredpill, and /r/theredpill. The standard advice is that you give your wife a month for Every year you are married. This is your fault that she treats you bad. Here we take ownership of failure and give our selves time to improve. You most likely have done nothing right and need to learn how to be a man.…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 04:49 AM
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If you have to read it twice and and look up a few words then Good for you, it means your learning something. Next time you won't have to look it up. My dad reads with a dictionary next to him.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 02:25 AM
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I can tell you from personal experience that plenty of wives don't give two fucks about their husbands' dreams or passions. Or if they do, they care about them far, far less than what's in it for them. /u/ianironwood said that women care about you doing well as long as you don't do better than them. He was talking about woman to woman but as is the case with men to women they want to know they have a "catch". Often they throw out a little bait and we come running. MRP wants the wives to keep thr…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 08:33 PM
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Have you considered selling your newly built body to cougars for extra cash? Seriously, this stuff happens. Owning it and fixing it was the best move. It's somewhat ok to care I do to much, especially when making selfish/beneficial decisions for myself. I realized that the beta that is slowly dying in me was getting allot closer to Just becoming a second wife in the house. Your wife is clearly the expert in early education. However, its her lack of respect that causes this behavior. Yeah, educat…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 06:35 PM
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My wife is a tough nut to crack. I don't want to be constantly playing games, I want to create a dynamic that sticks. Then stop floundering this way and that. Pick your mood and your mood only. Hers is either gonna be an addition to your awesome attitude or you'll leave and not have to deal with it. Plus victim puke goes in /r/askmrp No offense but you sound like a yo-yo.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 03:22 AM
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And if your talking about all the obvious grammatical errors in that diatribe then yeah.....
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 12:37 AM
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I do that when I know she is gonna blow my phone Up but I also sometimes tell her I'll get her phone and then leave them all at home. Oops! I have many customers that work through the weekends so I have to be strategic about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 12:35 AM
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So like we constantly say around here, the problem lies with you man. If Every post didn't end with This I would think you all were getting soft. This is something I know for sure. But no boundaries for your wife. Not Good enough boundaries that have been enforced frequently enough. I own that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 12:17 AM
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So many errors It was funny. When she is not there Is she a SAHM? Why is physical absence her only weakness? Its ironic that she holds an iron fist over the rearing, but is less successful than you. She is a SAHM. It's because I have solid boundaries stated to the child. My daughter is three but knows exactly what I am saying and I follow through. My wife has to much patience I tell her with to fruition boundaries so no wonder my daughter always tests them. My daughter is like a raptor from the …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 11:49 PM
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First off, you're cute for using f*** instead of just saying the naughty word. I used a dictation app and I will never use it again. So many errors. 3 - Point two will indirectly help with this lack of respect. I must ask, how much do you defer to or discuss with her regarding the kids? Zero. She has a early education masters degree which doesn't mean shit to me except in the education department. Very smart woman and my child learning at a great pace but disciplinary and behavioural issues is w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 09:54 PM
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1) I'm still working on the finances. A few weeks back I messed it up a the wrong Bill in the wrong order. I have recovered but it has left us a little strapped for cash due to my mess up. No big fights over it at the house but have held myself accountable and we're back on track. 2) there's been a few times recently where I got myself carrying about how she feels about one of my decisions. Things have been - 65% satisfaction rate lately which is about 50% better than when I started so I started…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 03:08 PM
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Don't forget dishes. We wouldn't want to disappoint our BP friends lurking.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 02:37 PM
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Sexual market value is purely about what you bring to market. Improving yours can only be multiplied by a factor of itself. Part of your SMV that is missing based off this conversation is that you don't need the person your connected with(OI). It's not typically associated with SMV but I link it. It's translates to Having an abundance mentality which contributes to having options(other women) that your wife will see and try to prevent them from growing. Your SMV Will translate into becoming a na…
/r/askMRP22/09/15 03:09 AM
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Acta non verba Don't come crying when she cuts those huge balls off. We want success.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 01:37 AM
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No, I don't understand. You are your own man. You invest in what you want to and do what you want to. If you want a few core friends then that's it. If your wife Wants To be a social butterfly and you don't then that's one thing to consider as far as compatibility. I prefer Two weeks in the woods hunting with Two buddies than a weekend at a couples retreat(yawn and puke). Your a High value man cause you don't need her specifically . This is not a puzzle to put together to figure out how to make …
/r/askMRP22/09/15 01:31 AM
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Good thing I'm wrong. Seriously the only advice I can give you though is you have to figure out fast how to get an IDGAF attitude. Now that the ball and chain knows about this a IDGAF attitude Will be instant dread. She is reading up on this stuff and you showing that attitude Will let her know that Just because she knows about it doesn't give her shit in leeway. It will be worse for her since she is gonna read this to. Operate just as you would if she did not know about it. This is not about he…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 01:19 AM
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Your tone is changing. Did I read right and see that you got involved with a woman five months pregnant? Not your kid I assume?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 12:40 AM
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This will make it better Einstein. You need to go dark and re read all those books you claimed to read. Your lying through your ass. You wrote a year ago "happy wife, happy life" Still believe that shit?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 12:29 AM
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Tell her the room is for you just in case you meet someone that's actually interested in sex. Wives that don't have sex would cramp your style. Edit: just kidding, if your asking about a text response you definitely don't have the frame for this. Tell her nothing. Book the rooms and if she shit tests you(highly probable) and tell her your on vacation and won't be sharing a room with the kids. She can stay with them if she likes. End of convo. Walk away. Go to the gym.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 12:24 AM
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You fucking told her about this shit? Your a moron. A dumb fucking moron. Mods please delete this shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 12:22 AM
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Can you see the problem you have created for yourself by exposing Her to PUA material? Or have you fucked up and done the same with MRP? It seems your sinking yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 12:03 AM
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This aint my post. I just commented on the suturing trick that some docs do. Trick is right. What's your issue? Your fucking lopsided. You need to get past your sadistic angry side before you lose it all together. I suggest leaving for a week without your cell phone. You need to get a grip on yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 10:55 PM
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Your the fiance. If not your an idiot cause cause you posted from your non throwaway and a little digging yields results like knowing where your fiance works. Either way this is the dumbest thing I have ever read on here besides half the shit that dripred asshole posts. Your a victim puke nightmare. Delete this shit and go get in a fight.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 10:48 PM
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Fuck you. This does not have anything to do with flirting. A high value man doesn't flirt. He is himself and women want him. He is not out looking to score with other women. The only litmus test you need is whether your wife is fucking you or not. She is not. Your game sucks. If these other women knew you they would see your game sucks to. If you want to flirt and nuke your marriage keep up your bullshit. You are ultimate beta weak sauce. Until you can game your wife then you have no success. Fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 10:16 PM
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I can't believe I'm reading this shit. It's one thing to express a genuine concern(even if your fucking wrong) or if your backed by sound medical advice from another doctor but this shit is purely your fucking psychotic side showing. If another doctor is questioning the advice your wife is being given then have the two doctors talk. Deception like this is indicative of a personality disorder on the "not safe for public" side. I'm sexually sadistic and know women can endure a lot of vaginal pain.…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 03:44 PM
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Yeah that is for sure. I'm starting to get some steady forward motion. Last night she had a conversation with me why I shouldn't argue with her emotions. It was actually a good conversation. I played with her allot and she actually conceded the point to me that she has had the same feelings about her convictions in something untrue and then had those same emotions over actually discovering that she was false. "Feelings are not objective" Words that add actually came out of my wife's mouth last n…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 09:34 PM
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I don't see you saying anything regarding comfort tests. It seems like although you are unplugging and handling shit tests you are approaching everything as a shit test. That's the too much alpha part that BPP was referring to. If you are handling shit tests and you have missed the transition into comfort tests then she may think you just hate Her. At some point when she sees you as strong enough where your resist all of her shit tests, women seem to move more toward comfort tests. If you treat …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 09:14 PM
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I concede the point to you on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 11:18 PM
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I would create a separate account away from the one your posting from. Read the side bar, lift minimum 3 days a week. Read All the top posts from MRP,TRP, and AskMRP, and take it slow. Send more time reading and lifting and post once you get through the first three books. AskMRP is great for clarification questions on terms, ideas, or if you are looking for a post on dealing with a certain issue. Welcome! Rome wasn't built in a day.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 09:52 PM
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This has nothing to do with you and your qualities. It has everything to do with his lack of quality. The second rule of TRP is that it is always your fault. She is enjoying attention from strong men because she is not getting attention from a strong Man in her relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 07:28 PM
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Could be passive aggressive but I think it is very, very nice! It is and I know that. I know it to be one if my weaknesses. Would I be correct in assuming that a passive aggressive nature is one way that men deny their masculinity? Or is it simply an undeveloped child like behaviour of undeveloped masculinity and being butt hurt?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 07:15 PM
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And while your at it. Read everything Ian has written about. Its a nice introduction to TRP on hard mode. Ian has amazing insights that I keep going back to. Have you read the sidebar? Lifting(how often?) Mental and physical discipline are keys to being a happy, masculine male that enjoys their life. This sub is not about being a happy married/ltr man, it's about being a happy Man that is also married and going through to see if that wife/ltr can change to meet our needs or if the grass is green…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 05:36 PM
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This is where guys get one-itis real easy. They tell themselves that this one is the best plate they have and think this is as Good as it gets. Maybe this is a chick to settle down with for a while but you need to qualify Her. /u/ianironwood has a wife test that you should go through. I recommend taking a hard look at this special plate and making sure she is worth Her weight long term. http://www.theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2013/09/wife-test-red-pill-alerts.html
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 04:49 PM
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How does what you described work without having an abundance mentality? Nothing says abundance mentality like walking away and doing something else more important than staying there and coddling your unhappy wife that is berating you or being generally a bitch. Abundance mentality is a display that despite that they are a wife/ltr you have better things to do. They will naturally try to change that after to much Action of walking away. It's in those moments that you prove to her and yourself tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 04:33 PM
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No, I need to grab some stuff from the auto store. I left purely because she was being unpleasant. Look at this from a woman's perspective. He said he doesn't like the way I'm acting and would rather go to the auto parts store then hang out with me! Do anything else except have a feelz talk, get berated or try to earn sex. You have better things to do than previously mentioned, even if that's cleaning out the cats litter box or killing the bees nest on top of the house. "Maybe if I just cuddle f…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 04:18 PM
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It's less about leaving her powerless and more about showing her (acta non verba) that what she is saying/doing is unpleasant or doesn't attract you. Her actions are literally making you walk away.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 04:15 PM
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Yeah I cant say in the 6 months I have been reading posts have the vets seemed so.....direct.
/r/askMRP12/09/15 05:22 AM
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Yeah but you never remember correctly. Ha ha Hey I could be wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 12:29 AM
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It's not beta. It's having an Oak frame. If she acts good to you then don't be a shit back. If she is in a good mood then talk to her if you want. If not then don't. It's that simple. Yes, you should be mindful of that during shark week. Your wife is a reflection of you. If your being a shit to her, which it sounds like you were, then she is gonna be a shit right back.
/r/askMRP12/09/15 12:07 AM
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Look up gaslighting. Dollars to donuts your wife does this. Notice the top search is the national abuse hotline. Laugh Every time she does it to and then call her on it when she gets angry. Tell her in a mocking tone that your calling an abuse hotline. Make it fun. Her next stop..... Looking it up on the internet. Tell me I'm wrong and she doesn't do it. Edit: do you live up to your side of the vows? "To love and support from this day forward". Don't get angry....but her side is to have(sex) and…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 11:47 PM
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Just as a bit of advice. Those who have been through the system if psychiatry, especially long term, know how to manipulate better than an average woman. Their reality is based off what most people never consider to be normal. Of course they have times of absolute Lucid tranquil mindsets. But as someone who married someone with similar extremes I am telling you that their normal is not what mist people consider for more than fleeting moments as a mindset to operate from. Their highs are higher a…
/r/askMRP11/09/15 11:38 PM
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So, I've been reading all the sidebar material and trying to internalize most of it before even trying to do anything so I don't screw up. Your gonna screw up but don't operate out of the mindset of if I don't do this perfectly then I won't do it. You'll end up with a dead bedroom out of being apprehensive about failure. You have to test what you have learned. Think of it as a live fire drill if you were ever in the military. I'm in a 10 year marriage that has become a dead bedroom. We don't "la…
/r/askMRP08/09/15 06:52 PM
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1) I fucked(FUCKED) up the finances this week. Paid the wrong bills. All of them went through at the same time. Wife freaked out but I stayed calm and she eventually settled down. Big fuck up, stayed calm, wife left it alone. Looking for new routine for bills. 2) I'm still being too aggressive with my sexual advances. I essentially tried hitting Her in the head with a club and taking her to my cave yesterday. Take her came Man style, not seal the deal cave Man style. Killed Her willingness and w…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 05:30 PM
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Despite that, I feel there is some unwritten rule that when I am not at work, I must spend 100% of my time with her and keep her entertained and occupied. It doesn't feel right, yet either she makes me feel guilty or I make myself feel guilty when this unwritten rule is violated. I'm dealing with this as we speak. I ask the wife if she wants to go to the park with me and my daughter. She says no. Hamsters Her way into going and then five minutes after we get here asks if we can leave. Instead of…
/r/askMRP05/09/15 09:28 PM
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You do allot of snooping on your wife man. You better get an IDGAF attitude or you may as well cuck yourself. You seem like a stress case so I would recommend reading The Art of Stoic Joy. Settle the fuck down. You think about your wife to much. You have the pussy on the pedestal and until you take it off and realize you are the prize then she runs you. You need to unplug from her and move on to you. I'm not saying leave her but stop worrying so damn much. Seriously she is begging for you to tak…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 09:23 PM
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Nothing. It only criticises marrying single women with kids. No actual analysis of the actual dynamics of the relationship because as far as I can tell there is no depth to analyse. She stuck by him through thick and thin. Yeah totally Fuck that girl she is obviously fucked up. Your right, this post only seems anti marriage and anti single moms with kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 08:42 PM
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Have you noticed they come one after another? Especially when you do blow the shit test out of the water.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 02:31 AM
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I knew what you were saying, no worries. When you look at rural areas the introduction to trades is much higher. Whereas in suburban areas the acceptance to college is is astoundingly high versus public and private schools. The only issue I have identified in my research is that overt peer pressure is not as well handled in college I.e. drugs and alcohol. Yes if you adjust for education the results do change, but testing of the adults after schooling there own kids has proven to raise education …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 06:50 PM
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Anything that's considered a live virus vaccine I will let my children decide for themselves. Older vaccines, like whooping cough, that use a particular element of the viruses shell to teach your body to attack it are more successful. I am waiting until 7 years old to vaccinate my child at all due to how a child's brain develops in early childhood. More connections are made before seven than any other period of time in your life. The only thing more damaging in my mind than synthetic vaccines, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 02:51 PM
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The rat race is also full of beta boys and feminist CC riders that have been churned out en mass since the 70's. Go ahead, gamble with your children in the name of convenience. I'm sure your better than the rest if the country and can undo 8 hours of programming a day with a few minutes of quality time with dad. Why would you send your child to a system that puts you at odds with your own children?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 02:41 PM
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Im laughing right now. Look at all these men Who have done what all of society has done in regards to marriage, men Who are indoctrinated by the feminists who run the public school system and they are in favor of this system still? Most of us are here because feminist ideologies have destroyed what we believe in here to be Masculine male attributes. But go ahead..... Send your sons and daughters into a system that destroys individualism and teaches your daughters to ride the cock carousel and yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 02:36 PM
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A majority of neurologists and subsets of scientists that study brain development are anti vaccine or delay vaccers. Couple that with a heavy condemnation on TV watching and many other common activities that parents think are OK due to herd thinking, popular opinion and you might open your mind a bit. Edit: edited to take out my opinion and Just present where my opinion came from after a bit of research.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 02:25 PM
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Statistically homeschooled children test higher than any education form. Private school follows that followed far behind by public schools. Use the statistics and you start to see a picture that a mainstream media outlet will not paint for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 02:20 PM
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Post menopausal pre, or current? If this has not been a consistent thing until this last year or two it may be something to consider. Average starting age of menopause is 45-55. I'm sure some of the vets here can elaborate from experience but it seems that it would then qualify for MRP on expert mode. But I may be way off base.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 12:32 AM
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Sex is not so bad. Not really. Hmmm, maybe.... No, sex is always Good. Never a time it was not. And I mean never. Except the times were not having it then it really sucks. I'm not one to toot my own horn but this is something I am confident of. Edit: except the recent time I rejected the whining naggy everything is so inconvenient sex. Own my shit
/r/askMRP01/09/15 10:32 PM
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Both are natural products that reduce swelling and in the case of theracircumin increases libido. I take it for unrelated purposes but the health benefits are all over the board. Countries with high use of turmeric in food have lower instances of prostate cancer. I take theracircumin (more bioavailability) cause I don't want to smell like Indian food when I sweat.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 09:36 PM
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The dr has advised me NOT to lift because of Rhumitoid artherytis. I'm no doctor but my boss takes theracircumin for his arthritis and said its the only thing he changed besides High quality fish oil(take by spoon, refrigerated). Done it for six months with no other changes (he says) and having 10% of the negative affects as before. I believe him to be an honest person.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 07:08 PM
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In our area of the country they are known for medical advances and have men's clinics to deal with just these sort of issues. I would look them up, from what I understand it is usually covered under health insurance since it points to other issues associated with the cardiovascular system. Working out obviously helps with testosterone levels which will always help in this area but it's not always that simple. I believe /u/irateMD had some recent posts about it and would be curious to see him wei…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 06:58 PM
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Too passive aggressive. I would be lying if I said I did not identify that as a personal problem. Makes perfect sense.
/r/askMRP01/09/15 06:22 PM
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I have been getting better at cutting down the arguments in my household and deflecting her shit tests with multiple methods. I have been focusing on fogging, AM and A&A. While the tests are coming more frequently they are getting shorter in duration. I am trying to figure out if this is just a phase or if I am missing some comfort tests and that is why they keep coming at this rate. I have never been Good with comfort but I do feel much more aware. I'm leaning toward it being related to a dynam…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 05:22 PM
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It seemed like the idea behind the moratorium in the book was to keep yourself from finding validation through the success or rejection of sex. I honestly do feel like his book was a little skewed because his wife was sympathetic and seemed to have a generally OK marriage at that point. I would say if sex is good and frequent then telling your wife about this may be OK. But if your wife is rejecting all the time and doesn't fucking care like mine at thus point then just keep going and move in to…
/r/askMRP01/09/15 04:58 PM
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Your wife might call you on that, noting that every interaction you have with her is a bid for sex, but in doing so, she can't help but notice the corollary: that every interaction she has with you is a rejection. And that you don't seem to care. Enter the hamster. I had an interaction with my wife last night I was hoping to break down. Somehow I knew the rejection for sex was coming but initiated cause I wanted it. I started initiating sex. Her: do you only want to hang for sex tonight? Me:i wa…
/r/askMRP01/09/15 04:51 PM
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Did she do the same with kids?
/r/askMRP31/08/15 10:13 PM
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If you don't kill your own ego while reading then someone here will take care if it for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 08:47 PM
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Knowing now what you knew then. Wouldn't you have rather had someone warn you about it? Fuck no, I think when us New guys Just about nuke our shit we get a reality check that it's better to stay beta a little longer then not pay attention to the warnings that are given here. That why every New guy gets told to shut the fuck Up. STFU, read, lift STFU until your not a moron anymore. Think of MRP as an IV drip of Alpha mentalities used as antibiotics to kill your beta disease.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 08:33 PM
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... even if she might, potentially, end up doing that same job better (not saying that's the case, but it's possible). At what cost is the question? We all know. Who cares about better if my wife stops fucking me cause I'm not worth Her putting on the knee pads for a bit?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 08:24 PM
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The opposite of everything on the sidebar. Did you read it?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:57 PM
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I just cringe, when I have to wait the 3 weeks for a hurried post, where the same guy is asking to unfuck the situation he put himself in, where wifey is going across state lines with their kids, and signing divorce papers. Don't use me as an example. I fixed that shit. Lol
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:52 PM
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but I have noticed that she is less anxious about things going on and more likely to turn to me when she faces uncertainties. Her giving up her anxieties seems to be allowing her to enjoy life more. , but yes, she does seem happier. Her giving up her anxieties or you being an Oak, taking them from her, and Her not needing to have them? You said she does seem less anxious.... And she seems happier. Amazing what happens when Men are men and step into the role they should be in huh? Women can take …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:26 PM
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I realized this recently as well. When I started this I realized that I was loosing attraction to my wife. I did not give a shit about anything besides her shutting Up and making dinner. At that same time I realized I was not the same person. I think people that truly internalize this stuff as quick as I did cease to become the same person. They disconnect from the beta before there is something to replace it with. They go into Robot mode. What I cared about were basic survival issues. Food, sle…
/r/askMRP31/08/15 07:03 PM
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And there was no fucking way my wife would be attracted a fat, lazy first mate. Who can blame her? I certainly don't. Now that is taking ownership. Your through the anger phase it sounds. Good job. Sounds like you are on the upswing. Have you noticed that since you became happier your wife has? You know..... Happy husband, happy wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 03:44 PM
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Women can't even explain it. There have been ten posts just since its started lurking that have dealt with just this. Negative weak woman-like emotions in a man are tingles erasers. I just don't think he has done shit to improve himself. All he did was pick up the train wreck and put it back on the tracks.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/15 04:17 PM
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I triggered hard. My girlfriend of one year (we started dating after my wife and I separated) was a little confused as to why I was still so upset. Your girlfriend, can't understand why this still upsets you? So does that worry you a bit? Your wife of 19 years couldn't see either. Or just didn't care. The rest of what you say is interesting But that lingering resentment behind your words shows to evidently to the married guys here. It's the bitterness and denial behind everyone's First days here…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/15 04:19 AM
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I've given it a timeline and she is in counseling for it. With a RedPill wife, although my wife doesn't know it, so I will give it the timeline and then I am done. I'm not through sidebar reading materials yet so until then...... But I will look up that book and check it out. If nothing else it will help me avoid the same problem even if my wife doesn't come around.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/15 09:01 PM
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If she's got a personality disorder she is highly skilled at compartmentalizing. Meaning that she could be the "perfect" mother, PTA leader, all that but treat her husband like he's Satan. I've seen it first hand. I'm living it first hand. I still try to rationalize her behaviour because I'm still new but my wife is a perfect mother among many similar qualities thus fine woman had, but when it comes to me she is fucked Up in the head. I have to stop reading this thread. Thus fucking guy got ball…
/r/TheRedPill28/08/15 08:13 PM
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Your current girlfriend doesn't seem to understand how this could be traumatic to you still. Doesn't that give you any cause for alarm? She doesn't understand how a 19 year marriage, where you stayed home with your kids to give her some space while she US out cheating in you with multiple Men in a week. To me that seems like a red flag on her ability to grasp the Man you are and the experiences that shape you?
/r/TheRedPill28/08/15 08:04 PM
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I had bouts with insomnia for about a decade. I started drinking Calcium magnesium powder mixed with water. Once in the morning and once at night before bed and haven't had an issue in 2 years. It's not a one size fits all sort of sleep fix but it sure calms the nerves. I also did a big detox centered around kombucha tea right about that time.
/r/askMRP28/08/15 03:01 PM
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I need to work on OI and dread. When I caveman her and make sex natural she is into and I come like a madman deep and hard. There you go. That should tell you everything you keep to know. When you are what MRP is suggesting then you gave no complaints, when your not you write posts about what to do. I don't want to get to detailed about this but My wife and I use the pull out due to us not being sure whether we want another kid. When she came off the pill it took Her body Two years to come back …
/r/askMRP27/08/15 05:45 PM
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I feel like she is getting a lot more than I am in this relationship. Change this. I know it sounds simple but the reality is that if you don't do it before then it will only get harder. If your not going tonne happy with a partner then what's the point. Marriage is not one if those things you need to survive. A job, eating, sleeping are things you need. If you are planning on spending the rest of your life with someone then laying out what your idea of happiness is will be a great test to see i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 04:06 PM
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I think someone already suggested this but set an amount of time you will listen to it, repeat back what's she says, offer advice when solicited, and end it with something to the effect of "your a smart person, I'm sure you will be able to figure out how to deal with X" If you vary the final part you can include suggestions but typically women just want to complain and have you listen. It's a form of gossip Most likely it's not her saying I just can't seem to figure out this process or this tech…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 02:15 PM
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Rule in my household is "no complaining unless you are doing something to change it" How long was she a purely SAHM?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 12:11 AM
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How long does it take you to login? Get out of your own head. Your over thinking through something that's your fault. Our sexual dissatisfaction is our fault. Our wives don't want to have sex with us and that's our fault. You should not be angry at her for something that's your fault(i know, easier said that done) I Fuck this Up to so don't beat yourself up. Now that I reminded you of that let's move on. You think she blames you when her needs are not met and throws a tantrum? The answer is yes,…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 09:28 PM
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I'm sure you have read /u/jacktenofhearts posts before, but he has quite a few posts on Oak vs rock mentality. I would look through his post history on his musings over that. Oak might be a better thought exersize for you since it seems a more adept frame for deflecting anxiety rather than approaching it as "I'm right so bam!" Although my frame is something that I am working on and far from perfect, my post match analysis done after an encounter with the lady tells me that Oak works best when de…
/r/askMRP26/08/15 09:09 PM
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Are you in sales?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 08:39 PM
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I'm going through it now. I lurked here for a number if months and signed Up only a few ago. Everything is good until I started seeing success in implementing these principals. And then just like that I saw all her reactions, excuses and tactics in a new light. I saw the short sightedness, lack of vision, selfishness, opportunistic, hypergamy BS. Now I'm angry and starting to withdraw. She is great in bed, though the sex is infrequent. And is nothing compared to when we first met through the 3rd…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 07:16 PM
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People in sales have a tendency to be go getters that see all problems within their grasp to fix or talk their way into a customers pocket book. They are not afraid of objections and tend to push through them and often talk themselves right out the front door. The problem with all salesman and marriage is that if they are a "deal guy" and not a "relationship builder" then they are just about closing the deal(get sex) without regards to long term consequences of how they closed the deal and the b…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 05:28 PM
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My only observation has been pointed out already. You talked to much, made an emotional decision to not have sex, decided that was dumb or couldn't handle it, went against your word(your wife is keeping track), and now your wife is not buying your shit. The hardest thing for you is gonna be the best thing for you, talk much much much less. To your wife, to your co workers, in general. You buried yourself here. I not just speaking to you only, this is a reminder to myself only. Are you in sales b…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:02 PM
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Later that day I got comfort tests texts about how I was fit and had these new clothes and she was a dumpy housewife. My SMV is definitely up and the wife is feeling it. How are you responding to this? My wife knows this gym "kick" is no temporary phase now and I am getting similar comfort tests. I can't help but feel I could get more mileage off them. Recent responses: Her: are you gonna keep going to the gym? Me:yes Her: you are gonna make me look bad. Me: I like going to the gym. 2nd example:…
/r/askMRP26/08/15 02:57 AM
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Your slipping backward now. Go fight a bear to regain traction.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 07:25 PM
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Well you picked being married and became beta. Sounds like you have a natural inclination toward misery. Add being a marine and your a piece of work. All joking aside, Fuck those who would dissuade you from not improving yourself in the ways you can. Your going from prey to predator. Just never stop pushing, there is no final level to being a Masculine Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 07:19 PM
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My explanation was shit. I will clarify. His thoughts and comments lead him to believe this was about sex, because that's where his mind was going. OP convinced you this was about sex. Women ignore there's husbands advances all the time when the hamster is wheeling on a particular subject. She might not even heard his comment. She said nothing about sex. She stayed on the topic at hand which was Her desire for him to come down and mate guard. Her expression was expressing Her lack if confidence …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 06:42 PM
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As a lurking female, I disagree. This is absolutely about his bedroom performance. Hmm...twice on Sunday.... Which was two days ago suggests otherwise. The excitement being in his head suggests that she lacks the confidence in him to put these guys to rest. OP doesn't seem worried about his wife having an affair so that would make it appear that the wife wants to put this behind her or else she would not invite him down to the gym to meet a potential Man she thinks would be good for an affair. H…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 06:21 PM
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When i told her recently that the next time we see them that im speaking up, she look relieved. I forgot to respond to this. Then your in the drivers seat now. No more consulting with her about it. Tell her she will sit right next to you and by her rubbing your shoulders or holding your hand she will Show she is United with you on this. Tell her her role in this and whether you need her to say anything. I recommend not having Her say anything since it would suggest that it was still in her contr…
/r/askMRP25/08/15 05:59 PM
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It's situations like these that advance your training as a captain. If you do it in a very calm almost "try me" sort of frame then it will speak loads. Do it in the presence of your wife so they know she has your support. It can be nerve wracking but approach it like you don't give a shit about the outcome. OI. Due to geography I had to call them and make her dad put it on speaker phone so obvious speak with the whole family. Ended the conversation with "do I make myself clear?" I got a unanimou…
/r/askMRP25/08/15 05:52 PM
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Maybe I'm the only one reading this differently. I think by hard she was possibly testing your ability to confront people. In reference to you getting hard on people. If she saw you were getting upset or angry then I think it may be a response to you seeming bothered by these guys hitting in your wife and Her suspecting you might want to confront them. Hence the suggestion for you to go with her. Her reference to the excitement being in your head Just doesn't jive with the fact that you had sex …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 05:30 PM
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This is a hard one because she should be stepping Up and letting them know that she is an adult Now and the leash has been cut. I had similar boundary issues with my wife's side of the family and after giving my wife time to sort it out I had to step in. It was starting to affect my child and when I did I took all control over the situation from my wife. I told them that they were no longer in our lives until I deemed them safe and it was productive and healthy to be around them. My wife can do …
/r/askMRP25/08/15 04:58 PM
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So agree with the true stuff that she says in a "well,.....yeah" sort of tone and ignore the rest of it? Not a "no shit, Sherlock" tone but but more like a "yeah, I do think puppies do some funny things" sort of tone. And then watch the hamster trip over its own legs? Fogging has always been a fairly foggy topic for me. So I'll fog my wife this week and then attempt to clear the fog on my fogginess over fogging.
/r/askMRP24/08/15 09:15 PM
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It's in your power to be a masculine man. I'm dealing with this right now, I have the right and the ability to be a masculine male. I'm done being walked on. This is my life, no more games, covert contracts, begging for anything, or putting a woman on a pedestal. You said you enjoyed the dancing, so if she is playing some sort of game then just don't give a shit. I honestly think she understands your actions as your trying to make her jealous. That's the game she is playing. She's acting like a …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 09:05 PM
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Back to lifting again and it feels Great. I stopped due to a long vacation and other BS that needed taken care of. It doesn't matter because I need to lift. I only sleep six hours a night because that's what I need. If I don't lift I don't sleep well, especially Now that I have been going consistently for 4 days a week. Still trying to clear my head to get to five days a week. Sex is Great when we have it. I am working on being consistent in gaming my wife. It works when I control my tongue. It'…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 05:14 PM
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after the fight(about your needs for sex) ...... Light cuddle You: Hey i would like a cheeseburger, Cashier: (puts a kids meal in front of you) You: that's not what I ordered Cashier: well that's what you get. That will be all your time and unlimited access to your money. You hand it over. Your wife is treating your requests like your a child. Don't continue to ask for your needs to be met. Stop meeting her needs. Stop talking about your needs with her, she just told you she doesn't care. Act li…
/r/askMRP24/08/15 03:55 PM
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"know thyself"-plato Dread has different levels you do in order. The books should be read in a linear order. I see an order to what we are doing here. Follow that order to the best of your understanding. Ask questions like you did here to clarify. And when the time comes to bow out or away from that gracefully, you will be that guy also.
/r/askMRP24/08/15 01:52 PM
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I'll let someone else confirm, but typically I have only seen monogamous issues addressed. Or comment on why that is. Maybe because One woman is pain in the ass enough..... Maybe.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 12:33 AM
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Probably more for RedPill non monogamous.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/15 11:13 PM
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I second not fucking a SIL. I would just take it for what it is, practice. If it's a problem then just say you have shit to do and it's not a good day to come hang out. Indefinitely post pone. As far as flirting, if you wife's sister is inviting herself over and you know her intentions then your making improvements. Keep working on it between your wife and other women until its a natural extension of yourself. Then it's not flirting, your just being an awesome Masculine Man that women are attrac…
/r/askMRP23/08/15 08:58 PM
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Master and Commander is a good movie for RedPill visuals. Captain and FO dynamics are there along with leadership and vision. Could be a recommendation for noobs. When I started reading, this movie popped into my head. The Patriot is another with obvious correlations to RP also, more closely related to a fictionalized story of a man leading and protecting his family. I know fiction is not recommended for source materials but both movies are definitely Masculine Man movies. This movie is Great if…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/15 08:09 PM
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honestly my only problem is she is not nice to me. Everyone has flaws but if someone has a flaw that you can't live with the rest of your life then why would you promise to do so? A 9 is only as Good as the attitude behind it. How far along are you in the reading? Have you seen any differences in how she treats you when applying what you have learned here and from the reading materials? Edit: wording
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/15 12:19 AM
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Acknowledge it and watch her find another reason to fight with you. My wife tried to start a fight with me over me staying calm over a disagreement in the finances. WTF? AWALT. women Will fight about anything. Sounds like a attempt to get you to step into her frame.
/r/askMRP22/08/15 12:23 AM
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Reply directly to people's comments or this thread Will get confusing.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 11:53 PM
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Then stop going dancing. When she gets home just get on your knees and tell her she wins. Make sure you kiss her toes. Really? That's the way this is headed. She owns you emotionally? Your right. God help you? You fucking help you. Nothing is wrong here. She thinks your playing a game and has pulled you into her frame. She is playing a game and she is winning. She thinks you are doing thus to make her jealous and it obviously is. Anything you do is for you and how she reacts is on her. My only a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 11:18 PM
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Knowing what you know Now about the RedPill why would you rush to marry at all? Especially thus woman. I know blah blah blah you love Her but this could be an expensive experiment. Prenups get thrown out these days. who cares if you love Her. Respect yourself and be the man that can actually be happy before you get married, not hope you can get RedPill enough once you do. You need work man, if you were RedPill enough then you wouldn't be here. You owe it only to yourself. Everyone else can fuck …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 10:40 PM
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Want to not mate guard but know exactly what her intentions are? You:honey I Hope this guy has a place for you to crash because if you go with him.... Then I will call the locksmith to change the locks the moment you step out the door. I Hope you make a decision that makes you happy cause my life is getting better by the moment and I don't think a woman that steps out that door to hang out with another guy has any privileges to hang out with me, whether that be you or my next wife. Say this with…
/r/askMRP21/08/15 10:08 PM
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Your right I did not mean it. Beta supplication. Can we have sex please? Haha
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/15 06:57 PM
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I can make excuses all day but the only one that matters is I failed to control my alcohol consumption.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 10:49 PM
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I don't just like the purely physical sex... If I am understanding you correctly it sounds like you are having trouble disconnecting your emotions. If I'm right then it sounds like you need to not engage them from the start. Dirty talk and taking the loving, gentle and purely emotional aspect of your normal sex out if the equation Will help you just take her instead of make love to her. Take it out of the bedroom and Fuck her on the kitchen counter. Lol. Seriously, take it out of the comfort zon…
/r/askMRP20/08/15 06:29 PM
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Awe isn't that cute, he's butthurt. Pick yourself up dust yourself off and go read your book, everyone gets there ass chewed for low quality posts. I expect a 300 word essay by end of next week. Oh and read up on shit tests, if that's how you respond to your wife then I understand why your here. Same as me, to get your nuts put back in place after your wife put them in a sling.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 05:36 PM
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Everything that could be on the list is not there for a reason. The guys who put this together with more than enough info to get us all going and get our sacks in the right position but a self improvement regiment eventually expects someone to take over there own education and go find the continued education on there own. Example: Read these five hundred books and then you will be RedPill. Everyone that comes across this site then says Fuck that and moves on. Go read the book and post here after…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 04:47 AM
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If she doesn't drop to her knees and thank you then try again. No one in here has ever hit it out if the park everytime. Just make sure your gonna have fun even if your not sure about the old lady. Have Her write down a long list and tell her you will pick the stuff that you two can do together. Make your own. Your not telepathic correct?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 09:04 PM
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She gave it back and did not make a big hissy fit about it, so as long as you don't pursue Her to make sure Her feelz are intact then let it go. If she does bring it up then tell her the truth. "if you want to see all the nude pics my other girlfriends send me Just ask, also I have not got any updated ones from you in a few weeks so I need those by the morning."
/r/askMRP19/08/15 08:50 PM
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You will get Good answers either way. But short posts with no takeaways or general questions that aren't of nuclear importance might be better there. All I will ask is what's important to her? What's important to you? Date in the overlap. If neither of you will have fun in what you are doing then don't go on a date doing that. It may be better if you do those non overlapping activities separate until you find those New things that each other would like to try out. Either way, be interesting, be …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 08:46 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 08:21 PM
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Nothing says dread like hiding things on your phone. Dread is more about what you show her. Not what you are hiding. I mean, fine if she doesn't care that much but what's the game. A history of cheating? She Doesn't want to see your porn on your phone? Why would she be grabbing the phone like she owned it?
/r/askMRP19/08/15 08:19 PM
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I got a sms this morning saying that this is part of her morales that won't change and if I can't accept it we should not be together any more. She has offered to move out this weekend. My response deals with only this line. I would probably say something to the effect of "so it's your morals to be completely naked in front of other people?" Bro you said this is what you want and if it's not acceptable then stick to it and let her leave. If my wife told me that since its Her body she can kiss an…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:35 PM
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Sorry for the length but it been a long vacation week with plenty of opportunities to get my frame solid with a bunch of ball busting harpies around. I failed miserably in my plan to hit the gym while out of town for a week. I went a total of zero times. I thought I had the self discipline to make it work but it did not help that I drank like a fish with my brothers the whole week. I have been sober for the most part the last seven years due to substance abuse and have limited it to weddings(whi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 03:39 PM
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Isn't that why we respond to these? We Hope that our messages inspire a man to see what were have caught glimpse of in order to gain control of their life? As hard as I have been on this guy. I hope he becomes a king in his house. Whatever I'm OI.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/15 04:58 AM
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Exactly, the only time it mentions to tell you GF/wife anything about another woman is that you have a GF, so no need to have sex with you unless she feels like it. Besides mentioning directly that you need more sex and the relationship is suffering because of it, dread is more about what you show your wife than what you say to your wife. Correct me if I'm wrong but it's all centered around Acts Non Verba. Even dread level 12 is showing your wife that you can get other women by telling her that …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 04:48 PM
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Are you lifting and exercising? It's One of the best ways to increase libido. Along with taking supplements like turmeric(theracircumen) you can avoid the blue pill(viagra).
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 04:42 PM
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3-4 times a week is progress I assume. But if that has been happening since before the new job I think you should cut the "maintenance dread" out and see what happens
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 10:44 PM
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Go through them and you will see that dread is about the value you DISPLAY to her. Dread gets Her hamster running at full speed and all you are doing is improving yourself and being a better man that she wants to have sex with. Until you get to the later stages and it is much more direct. The question you have not answered yet is..... Is she having mire sex with you because of all these things you tell her?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 10:38 PM
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I may be wrong but I don't remember where in the 12 steps of dread that you tell your wife about all these girls hitting on you. I think it illicits the response your wife is giving you now. Do you like that response? The response you want, I assume since your on MRP, is that your looking for more sex, or respect blah blah blah. My feeling is that this activity won't get you there.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 10:24 PM
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You don't inject dread unless you tell her about your new girlfriend that you got because she won't fuck you. level 12 I believe. She feels dread because she realizes that this random chick is talking to her husband and laughing and doing all the same things she did when she first met you, and your enjoying it to. In her mind she can't help but go grab you a martini and come over and show that girl who she thinks owns that man. That is if you are in fact a high value man that she wants to guard.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 10:14 PM
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Never tell a woman your valuable unless your serving divorce papers. Show her your valuable. Acta non verba. Women talk, men do.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 09:39 PM
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What are you going for is what u want to know? Is she fucking you afterwards? Has your sex life increased because of this? The reason the mate guarding response is a good sign is that she recognizes consciously or subconsciously that this chick may be into you and it draws her into doing something to show she recognizes that value IE she grabs your favorite beer, comes over and says "here honey I got you your favorite beer, oh hey dear how are you? I'm X's wife." Translated to another woman that…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 09:37 PM
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Do you think that it has become a tit for tat competition with her? Sounds like it may be. That's why these guys are recommending that you don't tell her and let her make some assumptions about women's interactions with you. Then it's all on her and she doesn't respond like that. Unless you want this to escalate beyond "we both get hit on at work". Not an expert here but it seems like she is playing the same game. "I'm gonna try to make him jealous like he is doing to me."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 09:14 PM
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How does she react? What's the tone? It's hard to tell whether it's a good idea with your wife or understand how it's goes over without her reaction being included here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 08:29 PM
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My wife asked me at the beginning if I was working out to look Good for her. I told her no, but she could enjoy it if she was Good. I told it was for me. If I'm doing it for her I was afraid it would be a subliminal message for her to stay the same. Like me working out was a reward for her good behaviour. That's why all the self improvements we do is for US and us only. She may be able to enjoy the fruits but if she wrongly associates it as being for her then she can approve or disapprove. Have …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 09:29 PM
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Do you ever actually know what someone that's been cheating has been Up to? Or what it may spiral into. With the tone of the writer I suspect this could just as easily turn into a cuck situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 05:26 AM
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The only way that the FFM 3way is going to happen is if OP brings home the other woman. Anyone thinking that won't happen soon? Sounds like he has the opportunity to man up and fulfill that wet dream of his. A year down the line he could bring home a new toy for the bedroom. I'm sure she would be proud of him.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 01:07 AM
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Interesting use of that word, given the context. See, most people like to know what they're attracted to. It's part of what makes us healthy people, it's part of what helps us know what we want and need. This isn't about his wife. Thus is about him being happy and becoming who he wants to be. But that might work to have him sit down and figure what will make her attracted to him. "Hey honey, can I become X, y and z? Aha! So, luckily, he's able and allowed to identify his needs. Not her, though. …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 01:04 AM
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This comment goes 100% against RP philosophy here, Thanks for making it easy to spot those who don't get it. but in my opinion you're really delusional if you think that an immediate change in behavior - including becoming standoffish - isn't going to warrant a degree of worry and emotional distress on her part (and by the way, doing that to someone intentionally with the hope of getting them to behave differently is emotional abuse thinly veiled under the guise of self-improvement). I get that …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 11:37 PM
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she feels trapped She has a funny way of feeling trapped. Muff diving in not the action of a woman that is trapped. If you were my friend telling me this in person I would slap you like a bitch, cause you are acting that way. she did it three times Bullshit, she is fucking lying to you. Why are you believing anything she says? She is looking for a license to do whatever she wants and have you pay for her gas, condoms, dildos, nice panties, clothes, heels, money for drinks, and the Car Payment to…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 05:12 PM
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Your not confused. You think that all of the sudden she is gonna bring chicks home for you to bang? You don't make her wet, why would she bring Home another woman for you? you know what makes me not pursue that? My vows. I love my wife and respect my word enough to not Fuck up my marriage because it's contrary to what I have built and said. Your wife does not respect Her vows /you enough to honor that. Is she saying she wants to make your marriage work? Or is she just sitting you down and tellin…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 04:21 PM
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I know me too. Despite Her not being able to name a single thing that my actions had adversely affected she was still talking crazy. I started going to the gym, which my company encourages me to take off a little early to go to, which puts me home a half hour later usually. That's it. I don't know who originally coined this "people are afraid of what they don't understand" For some reason women seem more likely to feel comfortable going nuclear than sitting down and analyzing this stuff. AWALT
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 01:48 AM
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He shit tests are Her begging you to he stronger than her. They seem to manifest as anger and make you feel like she is trying to control you or manipulate you. Laugh that shit away like a 3 year trying to push you over. The difference is Her body language. You can read your wife and see if it has an underlying current of her feeling unwanted, unattractive, or just angry. Read Her body language and weigh Her words in the context of her body language to figure out how to respond. Her comfort test…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 08:09 PM
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It's your kid. Not your kid also. Thus is shock at the New you. Keep it up and pay attention to her comfort tests and ace those while deflecting her shit tests. They are based in anxiety over the new you. Assure Her in those comfort tests that you are not pursuing that route and things Will die off somewhat. My wife had a reaction pretty similar and I took this advice and focused on it and she has not mentioned it again. Although I know she is thinking about it I have deflected the hamster enoug…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 05:52 PM
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This is five months old, curious why you found it... I search specific topics from posts and read for hours on this subbreddit between chapters. Anyway...There is no end. This is what is have yet to wrap my head around. So many years of a short attention span without vision, hard to look to the clouds when you can't see beyond the trees. Maybe her state of submission isn't what you want either....I think u owe the kid a shot. The kid is pretty amazing, the wife well..... No need to digger Her a …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 03:30 PM
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I am seeing that right now. I made a move on my wife and got a hard no, she launched into this whole diatribe about how I use sex as a crutch and my self esteem is rolled Up it in to much. I honestly had to laugh cause I have read that your wife can seem so unattractive right about when the plug is about to fall out of the back of your head. "You only want me for sex, you don't care about my needs?" Me: I only want you for sex right now. Her: you don't care about my needs? Me: I care about getti…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 05:32 AM
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She doesn't do oral. Ok Do you? If not then start. And make sure your Good at it. Nothing gets me a good blow job like eating her out. And if she goes first I still gotta good blow job because she knows I'll reciprocate. Frequency is my problem. I lead with oral because #1 my wife tastes Great #2 I'm fucking awesome at it and hearing her moan to my tongue is bad ass and #3 it gets Her so amped up my dick is bouncing off the back of her throat seconds later. If she stops responding with blow jobs…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/15 05:20 AM
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Halfway through. There is definitely lots to apply here.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/15 01:52 AM
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Stop that - you are undoing your own points- and confusing her. Good point. I never thought of it that way. and if she rejects you, for gods sake, dont go masturbate in the next room. what kind of dread is that Obviously not very effective.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/15 12:37 AM
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If I were you and u have any inclination to save your marriage I would reach out to one if the mods or really smart contributors for direct help. I can recommend a few if you like.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 02:23 AM
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I understand. That's good. It allows me room to be annoyed but the ability to try and overcome it. That's what I want. Not for her to magically just have no issues that get in the way. I understand that's not only unrealistic but impossible and equipping myself for reality is how I get to what I want. Thanks man. Again you have given me a tool to move forward with.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 01:32 AM
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on level 3 &4 why?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 11:51 PM
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Yeah, as I laid there with her I had this thought. "I'm not getting sex tonight, oh well I'm over it, I'll just pass this comfort test.........fuck me!"
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 10:45 PM
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As you can guess tomorrow came and she tells me when I go to initiate that we will do it tomorrow. I push through and I get the hard no. This isn't formulated very well and I'm having trouble understanding who rejected who? She rejected me the next day. Is this "Indicator of Interest", or "I Outcome Independence" (missed the space)? Yes, OI
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 10:31 PM
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How long you been on MRP giving it a go?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 10:13 PM
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Ha ha. Despite a woman putting out whenever I want there are other things that need to be in place for me to see success. Being able to overcome shit tests, her handling Her shit for the most part without crying to me, small things like that. Granted sex is big but it's not the cure all end all for marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 07:29 PM
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Yeah, 90% of the time wives turn around If you added (and bend over and grab their ankles) That would fix 90% of my marriage
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 07:00 PM
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I'm gonna ask the alpha part of you if you have any desire to make it work? Or do you see it as irreparable? I particularly needed to see this post because this is the first time I have seen a guy, going through RP, that has the self awareness of his own value to go to this length to make himself happy. I have heard some of the seniors stories of having the signed divorce papers still in the safe but this is a reality check of the self worth that this process instills in man. Kids?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 05:20 PM
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I have not to the extent you are explaining. It sounds pretty intense to say that least. So I take it your proceeding to filing then?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 04:40 PM
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Do this in person. I'm the guy who posted the minor nuke event. She seems to want to engage in a controlled environment and that is over the phone and through text. Show her your strength in person. Hold yourself high, head Up, speak calm and direct and when this devolves into a comfort test take that new found SMV and hold her tight. Me being who I am I would confront Her on the text. She just got done asking if you trust Her and then betrays that trust. Of course she accuse you of snooping but…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 04:16 PM
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So let me get this straight. She schedules you a therapy session with a woman cause she figured with her mindset and outlook on the world that a woman would talk some sense into you. Obviously, thus backfires. Your wife still wants you cause she said to her sister in law, "thus may not work". She is trying to do a power play on you and you just let it backfire on her. Was the separation your idea or hers? Do you want to get back with her, or are you going full steam ahead in finding a lawyer? I …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 03:47 PM
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Therefore, I don't believe that you can be truly close with such an important secret between you. and with presumably many others knowing about it, it is even more appropriate that your own wife knows. Only my brother knew. What it has done unfortunately is that she watches my every move now. I'll chalk it up to the dread category. "is that girl pretty?" all the time Oh well, things are getting better so no big deal.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 07:21 PM
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Here here!!! Welcome aboard you scurvy dog!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 07:00 PM
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I'll tell you my experience with that as an example to be careful. I know my wife's history. She was open about it when we first met, mostly due to her not searching for a husband at that point. I kept my mouth shut except a few occasional details. Before she came along I was in a poly relationship with two women. It was fine but I knew I did not want that long term. I made a comment a year ago to my brother(he knew about it) that she overheard and she bugged the hell out of me until I told her.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 06:46 PM
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MRP is about being a man and giving your marriage the best chance by being a man, Not making it work. Some marriages are not salvageable. No one is encouraging this guy to cheat. In fact many in this post have called it not manly or cowardice to cheat. So I don't think your helping here, but I don't think you came to help did you? You just couldn't stand the idea that sometimes having a wife that loves you at home is not enough. I had a longer message prepared to your other post. I did not send …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 06:29 PM
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I have a serious question. Have you read any of the sidebar material? Cause your understanding of this process is as informed as I was before I started reading. I challenge you to read the sidebar and then comeback. I seriously don't care that you read, lurk or even post. But you coming in here and assuming everything you do about this process only validates what everyone else is thinking....... She didn't read any of the sidebar. If you write this off after reading that then fine, but if you ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 05:27 PM
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So you know more about it than your letting on I take it? You heard something in the past that has been stewing in your brain and now you want full disclosure? Or is this one of those "I told you now you have to tell me" sort of situations. Let us know your motivations for knowing. Are you feeling like you don't measure Up to some of her past experiences?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 04:09 PM
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Good decision on your part in my opinion. Are you here to save your marriage or practice for the next one? Cause that's what you seem conflicted about. Take it for what it's worth. This woman finds you attractive so your doing something right,but it has not translated to home. Figure out what your doing that makes this woman feel special and apply all that at home. Along with continually reading, lifting and being awesome and you'll know what needs to happen. Until she serves you with divorce pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 03:58 PM
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Am I missing something here? I thought this was about becoming an alpha, lifting, increasing your SMV and being a masculine male to the point that your wife is happy to mount Mr. Thro3738. Your negotiating for sex pure and simple. Not working on becoming an alpha that your wife is happy to mount on the regular and every other woman in the neighbourhood is wondering how Mrs. Thro3738 is faring on the end of the spear tonight as they lay next to there beta bux husbands. No one ever told me to sit …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 04:50 AM
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OK, I see that. So it's about minimizing the number of alphas that are better than you, so that when she does meet a young buck alpha looking to dethrone me she sees him as beta compared the alpha waiting to bed her at home. My brain turned a corner there.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 08:22 PM
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This is a great post that points to the downward spiral that we all are responsible for by not fighting to be a man that is strong enough to squash this. I can easily see how my relationship could go this way by continuing down the path we are on. I know this process will fix it but I have a ways to go. I don't know of any infidelity in my marriage but hopefully I get a handle on myself to prevent this. I only have myself to blame if my wife strays right?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 08:00 PM
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Edit: I have a long list of to-dos that are self imposed. My wife doesn't do honeydew lists besides things considered chores(ehich I told her I have to much other stuff to do) I have a truck that needs set up to sell. A car mirror needing replaced. Fix the deck. And I promised my dad to help him get him and the moms house ready for sale. I have to learn to stand up to the wife and get these things done and not let "family time" get in the way EVERYDAY. Life is more than about fun all the time an…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 03:44 PM
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The only mistake it seems you made is that you talked to your GF. No phone call, no problems. But since you did, it may have been better that since she could not answer the question you called for, "where's the screwdriver?". You should have just hung Up on her since she was no help. I have been trying real hard to assess when my wife goes from conversing to whining and then make my way off the phone at that point. Takeaway is this: don't talk to your GF, she sounds like she can't handle simple …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 03:32 PM
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Provide some context to your situation if you want people to answer. What us happening? How long have you been lurking? What do you know about MRP? How much of the sidebar have you read? Have divorce papers been served? Did you Just come from dead bedrooms? Post something before the seniors get here or they are gonna rip your ass for this half assed post. Something dammit. Give us something to go off of or this may be the only comment to appear here besides people ripping you apart. This is not …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/15 03:41 AM
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I do agree with this. It makes me have to do this right quickly. It will make me a stronger captain but not after much trial and error until she learns what a proper interaction between a man and wife is.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 03:09 PM
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I can't tell you how exactly right /u/jacktenofhearts is with his diagnosis of my wife. There is not a single thing that has not giving me a clearer picture as to what I need to do. I tried to comfort Her last night but she rejected it soundly, went to bed immediately afterwards. She lives to much in her head and the hamster Up there spins/is spinning her into another blow up. I won't make the same mistake by dealing with this other than in person.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 03:07 PM
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My armchair psychologist diagnosis is his wife has some sort of general anxiety disorder. It sounds like her family is fucked up. Chances are she rejects their mental models but never really learned anything close to healthy emotional regulation, because who would she learn it from? Exactly correct and has expressed this herself. My wife has no basis to judge what is healthy, only broken, the reason I wanted to slow this down was because I was hoping to be through this messy upheaval stage befor…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 03:02 PM
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I'm comfortable now. Beta reactions to nut shell it. I was hoping for a month of unplugging and learning before the first nuke hit. As of now the situation is as one could expect, she's sulking. She rejected comfort and I'm moving on. She told me she is going to counseling with or without me. I opted for without.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 04:10 AM
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I don't have a wife issue right? It's a husband issue. Everything that's wrong in my marriage is my fault. I'm the captain and whether I'm shitty or awesome it falls on me.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 03:37 AM
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I don't agree that it was beta but I will admit the conversation never should have gone that far.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 03:22 AM
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Fuck Man, I had to read this twice to grasp how True it was. I'll be looking at this again. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 01:38 AM
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Tbh. You're wife is going to have to make a choice on that herself soon. If she's a lightning rod to her parents... Can't see a new alpha you keeping that in your life long term Can you explain this, maybe it's cause I just came out of the gym and I'm a little foggy.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 01:29 AM
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You don't... at least you don't need to. You are moving at an appropriate pace. I don't see any amount of active dread, overt threats, etc.; I don't feel like I have gone RP Rambo. In fact I feel like I have been pretty reserved which is unlike me. I have read the post on the Art of Stoicism every time before this as a reminder. Trying to get through the book also. Not as easy considering summer workloads But I have been accepting less sleep in the name of progress. These are empty. She is pushi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 01:27 AM
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It's indifference. Worst crime in my book when it comes to family. It's more than that from the past but that's where it sits Now.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 12:50 AM
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Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 12:48 AM
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Yeah, that's the closest to the surface it has ever been. I don't like it, but things get pushed and I have to show her that I'm not gonna relegate myself to fifty more years of unhappiness.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 12:22 AM
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Now that I have said that I guess I don't ever need to bring it up again regardless.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 12:19 AM
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you banned your kids from seeing their grandparents? that would require a pretty good reason (like: drugs, child abuse, etc.)... and she doesn't agree with your reasoning on it? what the fuck? also, banning people from doing things is pretty fucking controlling... the term you're looking for is establishing boundaries, I think... but the grandparents thing is still blowing my mind? I pulled my family out of another state to get them away from that side of the family. It would take a really long …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 12:15 AM
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I don't fault you with the content of the conversation. Sometimes it needs to be out in the open, "I don't need you". Notice how it's perfectly acceptable for her to run away with your daughter, but she doesn't think you would leave her? This was a reaction to her waning power. So while you may think your SMV is better than your wife's, at the moment she thinks you need her more. She's trying to get you to wail and say "don't leave!!". It's probably a really shitty comfort test. She freaks out w…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 12:00 AM
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I think she did some snooping and found some browser history or something that brought her to this sub. Why would she call you ask what you've been reading? Then ask again? Then tell you,"you're so controlling" especially when you left on good terms that morning. Doesn't add up. I had the same reaction. I only post from my phone and sign out every night. So that could not be it. The funniest part is she says I'll leave you and when you say that may happen, she responds with "you'd really leave m…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 11:47 PM
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The in person you could say, as many of the experienced writers have noted something like, "Ya, I'm an asshole, but you married me. " and wink and slap her ass. I can only do that in person. Good point. You should be playing the long game. I've noticed that most newbies think they can do it in a week. That's why I am asking if there is a way to slow it down. I know if there are to many nuke events to early then it's over. I need to get mire knowledgeable before doing this shit. So I will just ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 11:08 PM
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Made my blood boil just reading. That's a pretty clear picture of how much she doesn't respect you not respectable you are. She is three and only says that stuff after spending alot of time with her mother. She is repeating what she hears. But then you continue discussing? Sounds weak to me. She dropped taking her to her parents which was the end of story. From what I can tell, the rest of it was handled pretty well. Especially if you actually talked as little as you say you did, I was pretty ta…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 11:06 PM
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Now I remember that post from two or three weeks back about the news articles being shit tests. Coincidence that she was doing was doing what the lady in the article was doing? Not now that i look back. PMS I need to track. Recommendations on tools or apps? Would you recommend simply stating I'm making changes and exit?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 10:53 PM
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I hear what your saying. This was first in my list when I got here. Stop testing the waters to see if I'm gonna get sex. I have stopped altogether except some flirting and she has been the dirty bird over text(i love her dirty little mouth), but I don't initiate anything. But as you all are saying it doesn't mean shit to talk about sex so I have gotten away from talking about it with her,especially since most of those times it has not resulted in sex. She wants to give me a clue about what may h…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 05:55 PM
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I didn't want to say it but no contact for two days after essentially she tried to rip your face off after a pillow fight? I would not be to worried about apartment shopping at this point. In fact if I were you, regardless of whether you hit Her with a pillow out of frustration, I would be seriously questioning wanting to sleep next to her after that. My instincts are telling me this isn't all thats going on though. Spill the beans.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 06:38 PM
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Just tell her the hall pass Will be redeemed on her. He got married because he wanted to marry Her and it shows strength if he does not dip out and take the hall pass. But he should definitely use it on her. Tell her she is his little Fuck slave till he owns that pussy again and in return she gets a husband not willing to compromise with his masculinity by making the relationship OK on her terms.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 05:17 PM
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Whether you stay with her or not I would definitely not use the hall pass. You still would be cheating on her whether you have Her permission or not. Don't lose site of Who you are as a man of his word because she is not a woman of integrity. If your done then just leave. I have had a few buddies that there LTR's or wives cheated on them and they just revenge fucked there girls. Revenge Fuck her, fuck her harder than she has even been fucked. Tell her your gonna fuck her whenever you want until …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 04:33 PM
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Also known as "please stay small my little beta."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 03:24 PM
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I understand. It's frustrating as hell. My wife is religious also,as am I. If your resigned to this being a divorce situation then fine. No one here will plead and beg with you to make it work. MRP is not about making a marriage work, except we believe that when a man is man a woman is freed of all the tasks, chores and responsibilities that a man should do,then a marriage will start to work. Women become alpha because they are taking the alpha spot that a man is supposed to reside in. I say res…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 03:04 AM
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Brother I am not the guy to necessarily mentor you on this but I will be happy to encourage you through this process. I'm a far cry from that guy I was. Just after high school I remember purposefully targeting women like this cause I loved the challenge. They were strong, independent, sorta bitchy, and would Gush buckets of cum on my cock cause men were afraid to pound them till they did. Your woman, when you get a handle on YOURSELF will soak your bed when you finally become the man that is not…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 11:00 PM
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Fuck all that. You need to reach out for a mentor quick. Read through ten threads and reach out for a mentor among the guys that have their shit together. You have not told me one nice thing about your wife. My recommendation is still for you to leave for a few days and spend the whole time reading and ignoring Her. No joke I would reach out to someone and beg them to mentor you. You need serious help if you think you should have done anything other than leave for a few days after your fucking w…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 10:37 PM
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Why are you mad that she is getting fit? When she comes home check Her out and tell her to go back cause what she is doing shows. Flirt with her when she gets home. Tell her she's hot and initiate sex. Start to associate her body and working out with increased arousal toward Her. Are you doing this to improve yourself and make yourself a better Man and better husband, or are you doing this to make her feel bad about herself like you did when you cheated on her? The other option is that you left …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 09:54 PM
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The beauty of it is all I did was lift, and Fuck her like a caveman. And she already has a little river running out from between her legs all over my living room and like I said in the post I estimate my game is only 1% complete. Im working to get that little river into flood stage.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 07:49 PM
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And those days you keep you ducks in a row that's what happens. I'm not gonna go into details cause I'm not a literotica writer but the night she started looking up ways to get fit there seemed to be a little waterfall between her legs cause I fucked her like a damn caveman. Im still in the "Fuck yeah this shit works stage".
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 07:29 PM
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Just walk away. She's still a human and can put those pieces together herself. Especially if you immediately walk out of the house, maintain radio silence and don't get the box she requested. Did you still go get the box?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 04:53 PM
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"I don't perform for sex, I perform during sex which is why you'll be bouncing on my dick tomorrow." Give that hamster some scenery while it runs.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 04:51 PM
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"She desperately needs a leader but does not seem to want one." Maybe you should think of it more as she desperately needs a leader but you have not convinced Her that its you yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 02:16 AM
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She hit you? My wife did that once I and said "I'll see you when I see you, bye." that was way before MRP. This might he One of those times you go straight to radio silence and let the hamster run overtime. I left for two days when she did that and did not come back until I woke up with about 60 messages of complete destroyed wife sorrow. She used the same line that my uncle used when he hit his wife. "you Just egg me on and YOU make me do this." she is blaming her emotions and lack of being abl…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 01:37 AM
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This one is definitely a earthquake and possible nuke scenario. If you don't nip it in the butt, how much harder Will you have to work in the future? If you do go such an aggressive route, what is the possible reaction from such a disrespectful wife that frankly has huge balls by any measure. Especially since this guy is most certainly not licking Her toes any more, as far as I can tell. I'm curious to see what the seniors here say.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 05:25 PM
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I think beta behaviour is the norm. So if I was still in beta prostrate position like a month ago I probably would still Cave to all the little bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 12:15 PM
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Today she gave me shit test about taking our daughter out of the house so she could have a break. (demanded) Me: I knew your ass was grumpy the minute I walked through the door. Were going to get ice cream. Her:bring me back a cup. (not a question) Me: ice cream is for Good girls, no. Best part is my daughter peaks her head out of the truck and ask her why she is being a bad girl. I laughed all the way to the store and back. She actually thought I brought Her back ice cream when I walked through…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 03:59 AM
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Hey bro, your wife kind of sounds like mine. You pray for me and I'll pray for you and we will hopefully be able to keep the choking to playful sex options as /u/bluepillprofessor recommends. It will get better bro, I lurked here forever to but once you take the plunge and start posting and reading a light goes on. You will see it soon. Try to find the joy in shit tests. Yeah I said joy. I still suck at them but I am starting to have a little fun. Smile, read, lift, read, lift.... Repeat. Just d…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 03:40 AM
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What? She invited Her friends over without telling you? I say lock the door and when they knock on it just look surprised and say "what's up?" They will explain that your wife invited them to stay with you and you politely inform that you had told her no and that you don't have room. Politely apologize for the miscommunication on your wife's part and tell them to let you know when they are settled in and you will see about getting together. Damn straight your wife will flip out and lose her shit…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/15 03:21 AM
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I am impatient person. Through years of getting what I want when I want it I developed an impatience for long term projects. Two ways that apply. I re-hurt my shoulder (always had issues with it) while at the gym yesterday. I got impatient with the workout program I started cause it felt like I was not doing enough. I thought I would take it up a notch and now I have to skip at least one day at the gym, maybe more. I need to slow down and work on my technique and understand, while the changes ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/15 03:15 PM
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I like the second giveaway point: "No man worries more about their wife falling in love with another man more than fucking another man." That's why you always see even in fiction the man catching them in bed together. This "guy" has lost his male mind altogether.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/15 04:13 AM
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I was given some Great advice recently because of my wife's adverse and frankly overly emotional responses to the rapid changes I was implementing. It was a mistake for me to go full alpha. Comparing it to lifting it would be like you going from 135 lbs bench to suddenly thinking that you can do 270 without anyone getting hurt. Sit down and map out by yourself the changes that you want to make. You do not need to discuss this with her if you are putting enough thought into and preparing for her …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 04:41 PM
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I appreciate the info. Just started 5x5 and need all the nutritional info I can get. I just noticed my gym has tons of pictures of Morpheus all over the gym. Some repeating movie lines, some telling you to ask the girl at the front desk to help you re rack weights of you can't.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/15 12:09 AM
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After quite a few times as being told STFU here I figured out why. Everything I said was toxic to my relationship, and sure I still slip. The best way to think of it is that you are fasting from your own beta responses or not exercising your beta muscles. You will walk away from fights thinking "dammit I should have said that". The more efficient I become at cutting out my beta responses and dwelling on alpha mindsets the more alpha responses come out of my mouth. Keep walking away if you don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 07:55 PM
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Been reading about the 5x5 workout. Does that in your opinion give individual muscles the chance to recover to avoid the continual break down? The reason I have thought about switching to it is to avoid working the same muscles over and over again five days a week and the 5x5 workout seems to aim to avoid that?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 07:22 PM
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I thought about this recently. I know I fought hard before slipping into the beta prostrate position 4-5 years ago. Guilting my wife for sex, bargaining for sex, all the manipulative womanly ways to get things done. I screamed, I begged and got my sex one way or another. I read about the MK ultra program recently and how they broke people through depriving them of basic needs like sleep, food, silence, and any resemblance of human interaction. Subjects would beg and plead for anything resembling…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/15 07:17 PM
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Amazingly she did not fight back when I told her this last mindaythat I'm taking over the bills as of August 1st. I let her know that I'll be making a majority of the decisions after we sit down and discuss everything. She asked me why? I told her that it's not a criticism of her abilities but a necessary for me to lead the family and she needs to step back from it. She lunged out and hugged me for a solid 5 minutes and banged me twice that night. Hasn't banged me since but that's a different is…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 07:03 PM
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I like that idea. Control it from the front end and it will never be an issue unless I open my mouth.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 06:54 PM
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Yeah, I said that more as a joke. I have since disconnected from the situation. She knows I'm not happy with her saying and not doing it so it's in her lap. I told her that she needs to make sure she has to he proper documentation with her at all yikes to make sure she can prove that she is my wife and my kids mother so if we were ever in a situation that she needed to make medical decisions she better make sure it she has it to take care of us if she is not gonna do what she says. Besides her b…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 06:53 PM
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Good advice. Thanks for re-fraiming the mind set involved. A little progress to report. I tried some light amused mastery on her with a minor shit test from this afternoon and I came home and she greeted me with a sloppy kiss and she was wearing makeup. She has only done that on special occasions and none in the recent memories that I can think of. It's not the makeup but that she went out of her way to do something she knows I really like.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/15 01:09 AM
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No I understand what you are saying. Your loud and clear. My reference was about digging in mentally until I can face my "smith" in the way you are describing.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 06:54 PM
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I have always relegated the finances to the wife because of my work schedule. Always 60+ hours a week, but I'm always home by five. I need to take that back over and be responsible for the money I make for this family. Wife is a SAHM and does not want to work so I feel like I should be managing the finances since she is not bothering(has the time) to contribute to that. I have no issues with cash flow but she is spending without the appreciation of the work involved in earning it. It also gives …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 06:31 PM
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Well I guess I better dig in and make it count. Thanks for the insight
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 05:16 PM
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I agree. i definitely lost that fight, which should not have happened, and shot any chance I had at making progress right then. STFU and move on is what I keep forgetting. Breaking the habit of fighting back is what I'm working on now. Even looking back at all the times we have fought about it is making me sick at how much of a bitch I was acting like.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 04:35 PM
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I have had that attitude about everything in my life (sales, child rearing, sports) but it only recently clicked in relation to marriage. Since I found MRP/TRP, it's the only thing that matters on reddit. Until I find other sub reddits that may add to that I will not be participating in any sort of feel good distractions found here or else where in life and until I get a handle on myself. I'm fasting BS for the rest of my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 04:02 PM
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That is true. Shit test and comforts tests alike are placed in my lap with a what are you gonna do about it attitude. The day she stops all that is the day she is convinced I'm not man enough to handle it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 03:33 PM
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I just read another post by /u/trainingthebrain and couple that with what your saying and I'm slowly getting it that it's a frame of mind that I'm in constantly and like you said "don't think about it". If I get myself straight and control my frame then it will be natural and only have to work on maintaining myself and not thinking about witty comments to pacify her.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 03:26 PM
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Great read for a new guy to keep hammering in the fact that this about you setting yourself as a rock that's unmovable. Whatever is happening the fact is that when life, wife or random strife comes my way, how I handle it determines the outcome. No ones giving me a free pass in this world to become weak and succeed and I have to train my brain to resist the lazy urges I get to become complacent. I will try this today after the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 03:21 PM
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doesn't sound like a fight to me, sounds like fun. girl having two day temper tantrum, OP winding her up like a top... It's like roadrunner painting a tunnel on the side of a cliff and watching cayote keep banging off the side Yeah, it feels like that. 6 years I have been banging my head against the wall blaming her for being such a bitch but it's obvious now that my frame is the gate to my world. She does not get to Fuck with me anymore than I allow, and it's about time I return the favor. My w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 03:10 PM
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I don't care about any of that shit. I've been thinking about a BJ from you all day! or you get the point. Thats the only conversation about it I would have. Let her hamster spin, I got my own things to do I have a feeling it will come up again. I will figure out something to say to that effect. I'll keep reading and reading and lifting. Going to a gym membership today because the home weights are insufficient for everyday. Frame frame. I'm glad I'm not afraid to reach out. I always get solid ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 03:03 PM
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My God she was pissed. Shit test after shit test were flying at me like a professional axe thrower. Her: why did you say she was cute? Me: cause she was, you asked! Her: when I'm feeling insecure your making jokes about it. I need you to validate my feelings. Me: validate your own feelings, I did not hit on myself, I did not ask if she was cute. If you want to talk about your insecurities feel free but stop blaming me for them. Her: your an asshole!!!!! She walks out of the room Me: I smile and …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 05:33 AM
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Yeah well it sounds like your wife is not a psycho. I on the other hand would like to trade about now. Obviously she can't be this way before marriage or else I would have nexted her with a plea to a judge for commitment. My wife runs shit tests on every other breath. What a bitch. I lost my cool tonight and called her ms. (insert maiden name) and as another guy predicted a tactical nuke went off in our house. The house is quiet at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/15 04:55 AM
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I think I did to. But at the same time I think entitlement is not a bad word. I'm new to posting here but lurking for a long time. The idea of entitlement is not you woman, me man, you give me sex. It's you wife wanted me husband to come off the open market to just be with you and now the things I wanted as a condition seem to not be important to you anymore and that's not fucking cool. A woman feels entitled to everything they ask for. Why can't men be entitled to a biological and psychological…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 10:21 PM
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The point is that you don't withhold things your man stopped pursuing with other women out of vindictiveness, power grabbing or a sense that well he will take what he can get since he's married to me. The idea is return a sense of self to the man so that when the wife finally sees that she can no longer manipulate her husband she drops the games and they can both be happy, and return the natural pursuit of each other back to the relationship. Like it was before when they were dating and actually…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 09:32 PM
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Your comment punch me hard enough my grandpa called and asked WTF? Man: I commit to love and care for you the rest of my life and only have sex with you the rest of my life even though I bedded 20+ before I met you. (guy walks away) Woman: I promise to make you my thoughtful, loving, caring and husband as long as you put up with it. Although you are not like that now I will use sex which is one of your biological needs that affects your whole body to mold you into the man I should have married. …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 09:22 PM
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A personal trainer at the gym gave me a routine to do that. He recommended a few days a week on the program until I had no additional soreness the next day. It's getting better but by no means am I 100% anytime soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 07:44 PM
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Many reasons. It was before I swallowed the redpill. Lurking for quite a while though before the invite. I was and am still fighting beta urges so I am hesitant to go drinking without her because of obvious psycho reactions that I am not feeling like facing at this point. I can practice my game outside of two drunk slutty girls with no regard other than there wet pussies.(I have alot of interaction with women in my job so I am very comfortable with beautiful women all the way down to feminazis w…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 06:18 PM
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There has been less fighting. So I see the results you are trying to highlight. I started it because I was so damn tired of fighting but then we started fighting less. I continued and found MRP. And now I am starting to understand how when my boat don't rock she doesn't seem to have as much delusional drunk power plays she throws my way.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 06:11 PM
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I acknowledged it was not as long, but my balls used to be huge. They are the same as everyone else's and I'm aiming for top 10%. Buy I understand. Patience dumb grasshopper. (no typo)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 06:06 PM
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Trying to avoid it but yeah your right. Don't sprint when you should be stretching. Don't use an tactical Nuke when a hand grenade will due. I know six years is a short time to go through compared to some guys but it's hard when I still remember when I woke up everyday with her head between my legs.That's her potential and if I go to fast I will only set myself back from getting back there again.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 05:44 PM
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Yeah that's the byproduct of 6 years of downhill finger pointing. That's why I posted to see if I should just laugh it off and move on. Spend the thirty minutes or so on boo hoo and feelz talks or reading NMMNG and not jumping on her crack fueled hamster wheel with her. With all the problem solving it's good to be reminded just to chill. Finish the recommended material, make the improvements you can handle at the time and trust the system.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 05:41 PM
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Yeah, I will do that. After so many years of arguing I have begun to do that. At first it was a beta response and then it was because I saw the arguments as dumb fucking power plays. I just skipped 30 minutes of arguing and went about my day. Pissed her off to no end. Now she's starting to get it as I am going to the gym and golfing on Saturday mornings that I'm taking care of me, and there is no conversations about it. I'm not talking arguing or asking permission, just doing it. I just tell her…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 05:37 PM
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It has been fun. Being inexperienced I probably should refrain from telling her my secretary told me to ditch my wife and go drink some whiskey and go out on the town with her and her friend huh?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 05:28 PM
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I laughed so hard when I saw this. It would he hard for me not to act like it was a vindictive move. But maybe I just don't care about that. Treat her indifferent since she has proven herself to be a liar. Maybe I pile it on thick and tell her my wife promised to change her name and I'm not gonna fuck her or take her out till she starts acting like my wife and fixes it. Too much to quick?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 05:27 PM
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All of these things you said in minor ways I have been doing, but I need to alpha it up even more. I'm getting in shape. I never was much out of shape but 3 years in a truck will set you back. Nursing a shoulder injury but doing what I can. She is not in shape. Still cute but I would definitely like her to hit the gym, 145 when I met her and in the gym everyday but now around 200. Would like to work on both of our fitness levels and start throwing her tiny ass she used to have around the bedroom…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 05:23 PM
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10-4. It will get done.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 04:39 PM
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I'm not to worried about her feelings, but I'm also to the point where I'm not gonna apologize for being attractive or interesting. It's why she married me. It's like she is hoping I'll say something like this: "I'm sorry that I'm interesting and attractive honey, let's go start our donut diet, balloon up to 300 pounds, and sit around watching dancing with stars till our hearts give out." Fuck that.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 04:04 PM
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I hear you loud and clear. So hold frame be amused and let the hamster spin until she realizes she better do something better than the girls around me to hold my attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 03:33 PM
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You spoke to a beautiful woman and your wife got jealous. I don't know what you did or said afterwards aside from what you shared, but you should have brushed it off like solid 10's talk you daily I did make a few comments to that effect. She said "why are you making jokes about this? Your not taking this serious." I told her these girls coming up to me is not something I can control and neither will I try. Maintain frame by maintaining the standard you've set mentally. Don't give in, but acknow…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 03:19 PM
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I hear you. Walk away from today's battle to win the war with a better strategy and better equipped.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 02:37 AM
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After that conversation and subsequent post here to get myself straight, I just went about my night, grabbed a beer and started re-reading Dale Carnagies "how to win friends and influence people" in the side room. She came in and tried the your being a little forceful and kinda being an asshole speech. I did not have anything to say back because I was done with the conversation before it started because I was waiting for it. I was not trying to ignore her or give in to her shit test. All I said …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 08:50 PM
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This direction is where my mind is moving. If I don't get myself straight I will be showing my wife that her bitching at me is fine and we are both unhappy cause there is no real man and real wife in the house. That will get transferred to my daughter and she will treat her husband in the future like a little pussy to. That's 4 unhappy lives because I have not set myself straight to at least stop it in MY circle of influence. It's about me making my wife and daughter see that see that I am respo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 07:46 PM
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If that happens, good for the future generations but if she would have said she was not going to and I accepted it then I have no basis to ask. It's about holding her to what I deemed important since before we got married.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 06:57 PM
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It was a thought. Sees herself as the alpha and thinks her name/heritage is stronger and should be carried on.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 06:55 PM
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I do care about it. I'm here to get a different perspective on it and stop doing what does not work to get my desired results. I'm not looking to manipulate her or, to be perfectly honest, care about her reasons for not changing it, unless it's something that I'm doing to make her not want to. This is about her doing what she says she is going to do. I'm expecting her to live up to her word and to see if this an issue with being a weak alpha in the past contributing to that. It's sounds like thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 06:54 PM
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She does not berate me in front of others so I don't have that battle currently even though I see how this would fall into that category. It's not that important to me to keep going about the conversation the wrong way. I'll keep reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 05:13 PM
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Not the most important, I just could not find any posts dealing directly with this. There is just something about it that says I'm not all in. Thanks for the recommendation and I will put off having this conversation with her until I finish the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 05:09 PM
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Knowledge. Thank you for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 09:03 AM
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Yep, one. Has my last name.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 07:29 AM
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Well I am done helping, but the feeling of being insulted rears it's ugly head every so often. I have done everything I can for her but she won't get off her lazy butt and go do this. Plenty of drive to go take care of many other things, but not this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 07:28 AM
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I sat next to my wife as I read this post the first time, nodding my head and laughing. She said what are you reading? I tell her it's not for women and best I can tell I got a shit storm tornado all the while skimming through this post just laughing and thinking.... Sweet.... This will work.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 05:42 AM
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I do want her to but have stopped caring in the way that makes me want to argue. Shes the nag in the relationship and I'm done feeding it. And yes she has been promising for 5 years that she will do it next week/month if I help her. We found a step by step sheet to help her and I told her that's all I can do. No dice, it never transfers to action. I probably should have added this but the last time she gave her name in front of me she proudly emphasized her last name as she stared at me. I just …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/15 05:33 AM
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